WEBVTT - Let people help 

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

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<v Speaker 1>Good Morning. This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Today's tip is to let people help. When someone you

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<v Speaker 1>know offers to help with something, don't second guess it

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<v Speaker 1>or worry what they think. Welcome the assistants, and know

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<v Speaker 1>that a simple thank you will probably suffice. So I

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<v Speaker 1>wrote this episode during some found time in my schedule.

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<v Speaker 1>I had planned to bring my baby to his one

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<v Speaker 1>year old well child visit at the pediatrician. The appointment

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<v Speaker 1>was scheduled for one twenty in the afternoon. Then when

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<v Speaker 1>I talked with my husband in the morning about our schedules,

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<v Speaker 1>he mentioned that he could take him. Now. It is

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<v Speaker 1>possible that he suggested this after seeing how haggard I looked,

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<v Speaker 1>having been up with the baby from midnight to one

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<v Speaker 1>a m. And then again at am. Good times in

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<v Speaker 1>any case, I hesitated for a minute about the offer,

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<v Speaker 1>because while I had made the appointment and hence I

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<v Speaker 1>had the time open on my schedule, I could take

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<v Speaker 1>this one. Maybe there'd be one in the future I

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<v Speaker 1>couldn't take. But then I realized, well, I cover a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of kids stuff, so why not take the offer?

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<v Speaker 1>So off he went, and I used the time to

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<v Speaker 1>get a little ahead on other things, which turned out

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<v Speaker 1>to be a wise choice, since then another kid had

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<v Speaker 1>something come up during an afternoon later in the week.

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<v Speaker 1>That's just the nature of the game when there are

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<v Speaker 1>five of them. Perhaps you too have a complicated life.

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<v Speaker 1>Perhaps you too sometimes receive offers of help. These might

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<v Speaker 1>be specific, like I can take the carpeal this week,

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<v Speaker 1>or they might be more general, like let me know

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<v Speaker 1>if you need anything. Sometimes people may have various motives

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<v Speaker 1>or want to keep score and have you owe them,

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<v Speaker 1>But most people aren't that complicated. We all like to

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<v Speaker 1>feel needed. Really, everyone likes to feel needed. It is

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<v Speaker 1>embedded in the social reality of human nature. One online

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<v Speaker 1>group i'm part of absolutely lit up when we learned

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<v Speaker 1>a family needed help with groceries until the first paycheck

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<v Speaker 1>from a new job came through. Now, this family wasn't

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<v Speaker 1>going to know who dropped off groceries on the front porch.

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<v Speaker 1>This is all contactless in the era of COVID, but

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<v Speaker 1>it didn't matter. Doing something voluntarily for a specific person

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<v Speaker 1>tends to make people happy. Begrudged help is a different matter,

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<v Speaker 1>But when someone genuinely offers to help you. That is

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<v Speaker 1>not what is going on. So if the help would

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<v Speaker 1>make your life easier, say yes. Life doesn't have to

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<v Speaker 1>be all hard. Having a little bit of extra breathing

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<v Speaker 1>space in my schedule made a big difference. Maybe it

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<v Speaker 1>would for you too. In the meantime, this is Laura.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks for listening, and here's to making the most of

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