WEBVTT - #183 This Pain Doesn't Surprise Me 0:00:00.200 --> 0:00:01.960 This doesn't surprise me. I should say it that way. 0:00:02.120 --> 0:00:06.480 When I read this, I'm not surprised by a story 0:00:07.160 --> 0:00:20.480 like yours in a fallen world in twenty twenty three, 0:00:21.360 --> 0:00:25.360 what's up, everybody. Welcome to the Granger Smith Podcast, Episode 0:00:25.400 --> 0:00:27.680 one hundred and eighty three. Thank you for being here. 0:00:28.320 --> 0:00:30.680 The format of this podcast, if you're new to it, 0:00:30.720 --> 0:00:33.520 is I answer your questions, and there's not a certain 0:00:33.560 --> 0:00:36.479 subject I ask for. It could be about anything. Email 0:00:36.560 --> 0:00:39.919 me Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com and I'll put 0:00:39.920 --> 0:00:42.520 it in the queue. And I've got a lot to read. 0:00:43.280 --> 0:00:46.479 I will never ever get to all of the questions, 0:00:46.479 --> 0:00:48.720 but send it in. I'll put it in the queue 0:00:48.920 --> 0:00:52.159 and we'll kind of flip through like a vending machine 0:00:52.159 --> 0:00:56.120 and see what comes up. The first question here, subject 0:00:56.120 --> 0:01:01.160 line says he doesn't want it like I do. Side 0:01:01.200 --> 0:01:04.080 note here, I don't read these ahead of time. I'm 0:01:04.080 --> 0:01:07.680 not prepared. I don't have notes. I'm going blind, completely blind. 0:01:07.680 --> 0:01:10.399 There's nothing on this table but the phone I'm using 0:01:10.400 --> 0:01:13.120 to read the emails themselves. They come straight from you. 0:01:14.240 --> 0:01:16.480 Let's get started here, says Hey Granger. My name is 0:01:16.560 --> 0:01:19.520 Kaylin Jones, Keelan Jones. Let's say it that way. K 0:01:19.760 --> 0:01:22.959 e y Li and Keelan Jones. I'm seventeen from South 0:01:23.000 --> 0:01:27.000 Carolina and my whole life, me and my dad have 0:01:27.080 --> 0:01:29.399 not had the best relationship at all. My parents got 0:01:29.400 --> 0:01:31.920 divorced when I was about eight years old, and at 0:01:31.920 --> 0:01:34.360 first they stayed friends. Then he got married and all 0:01:34.400 --> 0:01:37.520 of that changed. He changed. I ended up quitting baseball 0:01:37.560 --> 0:01:40.720 because I realized we didn't have a relationship if it 0:01:40.760 --> 0:01:44.360 wasn't through that, so I started working. But after about 0:01:44.360 --> 0:01:47.120 a month of him being remarried, about six months of 0:01:47.160 --> 0:01:50.040 him knowing her, he stood by and watched his new 0:01:50.080 --> 0:01:53.520 wife disrespect his mother. Fast forward seven years and he 0:01:53.560 --> 0:01:56.080 still hasn't said a word to them and talks about 0:01:56.120 --> 0:01:59.480 about my mom any chance he got. The last time 0:01:59.480 --> 0:02:01.720 I spoke to him, we got into it and he 0:02:01.840 --> 0:02:04.000 told me to get out of my house and you're 0:02:04.040 --> 0:02:07.880 fired from both your jobs. Then I wasn't welcomed back. 0:02:09.160 --> 0:02:12.680 I post myself riding bulls, and he recently a few months, 0:02:12.800 --> 0:02:15.079 after a few months of not even reaching out at all, 0:02:15.400 --> 0:02:18.760 text me and says that I'm starting to get good. 0:02:18.880 --> 0:02:21.720 I'm assuming at riding bulls, and he misses me. What 0:02:21.800 --> 0:02:26.000 should I do? All right, Kielan, appreciate your emailing brother 0:02:26.120 --> 0:02:31.840 and man seventeen years old. I'm so sorry that this 0:02:32.960 --> 0:02:38.040 is your world and that this is your dad and 0:02:38.080 --> 0:02:42.240 your relationship with your dad and your family. It just 0:02:42.520 --> 0:02:45.600 it feels mixed up for you. I want to tell 0:02:45.639 --> 0:02:47.880 you that you're not alone. A lot of people listening 0:02:48.760 --> 0:02:52.200 are in a similar situation, similar kind of story. This 0:02:52.360 --> 0:02:55.959 is not This doesn't surprise me. I should say it 0:02:56.000 --> 0:02:59.839 that way. When I read this, I'm not surprised by 0:03:00.120 --> 0:03:03.840 a story like yours in a fallen world in twenty 0:03:03.880 --> 0:03:08.280 twenty three. Okay. That doesn't make it better, that doesn't 0:03:08.280 --> 0:03:12.560 make it easier. It just simply allows you to know 0:03:12.720 --> 0:03:18.360 that you're not abnormal, you're not different, you're not unlucky 0:03:19.480 --> 0:03:22.600 at all. Okay, so what do you do? That's your question? 0:03:22.720 --> 0:03:26.680 What do you do? You got this dad, and he 0:03:26.680 --> 0:03:29.800 he left you. Looks like when you're eight years old, 0:03:30.360 --> 0:03:33.200 your parents got divorced, he got remarried, and it's been 0:03:33.280 --> 0:03:36.760 rocky ever since. It was a long time ago, right, 0:03:36.800 --> 0:03:42.480 that was nine years ago, and you're trying to figure 0:03:42.480 --> 0:03:46.520 out do you respond to him now because he's hurt 0:03:46.600 --> 0:03:50.440 you and he's put you in awkward situations, he's disrespected 0:03:50.440 --> 0:03:54.839 your family. Should you reach back out because he saw 0:03:54.880 --> 0:03:57.680 you bull riding and said you're getting good and you 0:03:57.720 --> 0:04:00.160 message it? Should you just ignore him? I think that's 0:04:00.200 --> 0:04:02.360 part of your question, right, Should I just ignore dad? 0:04:03.800 --> 0:04:06.640 He's brought so much pain to my family? Is this 0:04:06.680 --> 0:04:08.640 a point when I'm seventeen right now to Is this 0:04:08.680 --> 0:04:11.760 a point where I just gonna I'm gonna cut ties 0:04:11.800 --> 0:04:17.200 with this? Would it surprised you if I said, no, 0:04:17.400 --> 0:04:24.480 don't do that. It's hard. Being seventeen is hard enough. 0:04:27.839 --> 0:04:33.839 Having a man's problem at seventeen is harder. And that's 0:04:33.839 --> 0:04:36.520 what this is. Brother. You gotta you gotta see this 0:04:36.560 --> 0:04:40.200 for what it is. This is an adult problem and 0:04:40.720 --> 0:04:43.719 you're needing to deal with it. So how do you 0:04:43.800 --> 0:04:45.840 do it? What would a man do in this kind 0:04:45.839 --> 0:04:49.960 of situation? What would a man of integrity do in 0:04:49.960 --> 0:04:55.479 this kind of situation? Those of that have that have 0:04:55.560 --> 0:04:58.600 listened to this podcast for a long time, No, probably 0:04:59.040 --> 0:05:01.240 you're starting to get to know a little bit. You know, 0:05:01.279 --> 0:05:03.400 after one hundred and eighty three episodes, you could probably 0:05:03.400 --> 0:05:08.800 recognize similar patterns in what I say. But the right 0:05:08.800 --> 0:05:13.120 thing to do, and Keelan is forgive him I think 0:05:13.160 --> 0:05:15.159 it was last episode I said you don't have to 0:05:15.400 --> 0:05:18.920 maybe two. You don't have to trust him. There's a 0:05:18.920 --> 0:05:22.839 difference between trust and forgiveness. But you gotta forgive him. 0:05:23.560 --> 0:05:27.840 You gotta love him, even though you feel like you shouldn't, 0:05:28.680 --> 0:05:31.599 even like you feel like you can't forgive him. You 0:05:31.720 --> 0:05:36.920 just say, Dad, I miss you too, man. I appreciate 0:05:36.960 --> 0:05:40.920 you reaching out. And that's first of all, that's gonna 0:05:40.960 --> 0:05:46.200 surprise him to be like, wow, what And and you say, Dad, 0:05:46.240 --> 0:05:49.400 can we talk? And you be honest with you? And 0:05:49.440 --> 0:05:52.599 you say, Dad, I'm being honest with you here. I've 0:05:52.600 --> 0:05:56.040 been upset the last few years. I haven't appreciated how 0:05:56.360 --> 0:05:59.400 you treated the family. I haven't appreciated how you treated 0:05:59.560 --> 0:06:03.600 your mum and my mom. It's been hard on me. 0:06:05.080 --> 0:06:06.960 It's you know, I try to I try to have 0:06:07.040 --> 0:06:10.200 this teenage life and and try to go through all 0:06:10.240 --> 0:06:13.919 these trials, and it's tough without having the approval of 0:06:13.960 --> 0:06:18.960 a dad. But this is Kilan, This is that part's easy. 0:06:19.000 --> 0:06:21.600 Here's where you become a man. Here's the integrity part. 0:06:22.200 --> 0:06:27.040 But Dad, but I haven't been that. I haven't been 0:06:27.040 --> 0:06:32.960 the best either. I've said some things I regret I've 0:06:32.960 --> 0:06:37.560 done some things I probably shouldn't. I've disrespected you, Dad, 0:06:37.600 --> 0:06:41.680 in a way that I should be honoring to you. 0:06:41.800 --> 0:06:45.200 Not because you've earned it or because you've done things 0:06:45.200 --> 0:06:48.839 along my life that have earned that respect, but but 0:06:48.960 --> 0:06:53.599 because you're my dad, because you're my elder, I need 0:06:53.640 --> 0:06:57.159 to honor you. And I've failed at that, Dad, I've 0:06:57.320 --> 0:07:01.359 failed in listening and unders standing your side of the 0:07:01.400 --> 0:07:05.919 story I I I have. I've disrespected you and dishonored 0:07:05.960 --> 0:07:09.880 you in many ways, and I want to know how 0:07:09.920 --> 0:07:12.320 I could fix that with you. I want to know 0:07:12.800 --> 0:07:15.040 how I could make this better and data. I know 0:07:15.120 --> 0:07:17.280 things aren't going to be great, and I know we 0:07:17.360 --> 0:07:19.960 both got to work on some things, but I'm not 0:07:20.040 --> 0:07:22.440 I'm not worried about what you need to do for us. 0:07:22.840 --> 0:07:25.160 I need you to tell me how you want me 0:07:25.240 --> 0:07:30.360 to act towards you, now, Kiln. These are expressions of 0:07:30.400 --> 0:07:36.120 the heart, These are expressions of humility and submission. And 0:07:36.120 --> 0:07:38.920 and you're gonna come under his authority in this way. 0:07:39.800 --> 0:07:43.360 But this this doesn't mean that you're gonna be weak. 0:07:44.000 --> 0:07:46.840 It doesn't mean you're you're you're gonna have to trust 0:07:46.960 --> 0:07:49.840 everything that this man says. You don't have to trust him. 0:07:50.120 --> 0:07:53.960 You don't have to fulfill promises that he wants you 0:07:54.040 --> 0:07:56.760 to make to him. This is this is just an 0:07:56.800 --> 0:08:02.200 act of falling under uh a way to honor him 0:08:02.280 --> 0:08:06.680 as your biological father. And if he says, son, I 0:08:07.200 --> 0:08:09.520 need you to do this and this and this and this, 0:08:09.560 --> 0:08:12.080 and he just comes after you with just ridiculous things, 0:08:13.520 --> 0:08:18.119 you say, Wow, okay, that's a lot of stuff, Dad, 0:08:19.160 --> 0:08:21.520 And I want to be able to honor you in 0:08:21.560 --> 0:08:24.880 these ways, and so let's be let's be reasonable about 0:08:24.880 --> 0:08:27.320 where I could start, because I want to start small. 0:08:27.360 --> 0:08:30.200 But I want to do this right. Okay. So you 0:08:30.360 --> 0:08:32.600 notice that there's no right or wrong answer to what 0:08:32.640 --> 0:08:36.360 you say. Besides, your posture is just a posture of 0:08:36.440 --> 0:08:41.480 forgiveness and love towards your dad. This is irrelevant to 0:08:41.559 --> 0:08:44.960 how he responds to it. So he might say, I 0:08:45.000 --> 0:08:48.120 forget you kid, you're a punk, you're a punk kid, 0:08:48.440 --> 0:08:50.439 I've never liked you, blah blah blah blah blah blah. 0:08:50.440 --> 0:08:54.000 You know, he could be as mean as possible, And 0:08:54.080 --> 0:08:59.199 you go, Man, it hurts to hear you say that, Dad, 0:08:59.720 --> 0:09:01.360 But I want to tell you that that still doesn't 0:09:01.400 --> 0:09:04.000 make that doesn't change that I'm your son and you're 0:09:04.000 --> 0:09:09.920 my dad, and I forgive you. It'd be very difficult 0:09:09.920 --> 0:09:11.640 for him to continue on in the path if you 0:09:11.760 --> 0:09:14.760 keep that up. It would be very difficult for him 0:09:14.800 --> 0:09:16.560 to be upset with you if you keep that up. 0:09:16.600 --> 0:09:21.600 You hear what I'm saying, Yes, sir Kieling, It's not easy, man. 0:09:21.640 --> 0:09:25.120 I'm sorry you're in this kind of situation. But fighting him, 0:09:25.440 --> 0:09:31.760 ignoring him, regretting him, wishing he wasn't your father, hating him, 0:09:31.840 --> 0:09:35.360 envying him, being jealous of it, whatever, is not the 0:09:35.440 --> 0:09:39.960 right way You could try those things. It will only 0:09:40.160 --> 0:09:42.800 end up back in my inbox again, I promise you. 0:09:45.720 --> 0:09:47.720 All right, Come on, guys, let's get a good one here, 0:09:48.880 --> 0:09:51.559 just like we're riding in the truck. How about this one? 0:09:53.240 --> 0:09:56.640 Subdecline says, please please help me. Hey, Grandrid like to 0:09:56.640 --> 0:09:59.240 stay anonymous. I'm twenty four years old. I'm a woman 0:09:59.280 --> 0:10:01.960 who's been single for three years waiting for a godly man. 0:10:02.240 --> 0:10:04.800 I feel like I could marry. I believe I found him, 0:10:05.520 --> 0:10:09.080 and we have talked about marriage. We align on everything 0:10:09.120 --> 0:10:13.720 except one thing, drinking alcohol. He doesn't drink and I 0:10:13.800 --> 0:10:17.640 do occasionally. I've asked if we can compromise and I 0:10:17.679 --> 0:10:20.800 could drink but not ever get drunk. This feels borderline 0:10:20.840 --> 0:10:24.360 toxic and controlling to me. The bottom line is alcoholism 0:10:24.440 --> 0:10:27.120 runs in my family, and he fears I might prey 0:10:27.160 --> 0:10:29.560 on him like that in the feure. Okay, I'm gonna 0:10:29.559 --> 0:10:31.200 stop right there. I'm not even gonna read the arrest 0:10:31.200 --> 0:10:41.880 of the email. Okay, alcoholism runs in your family. You're 0:10:42.760 --> 0:10:46.280 the man that you love hopes that you don't drink. 0:10:47.520 --> 0:10:53.959 Don't drink, don't drink. I'm not there's no need to 0:10:54.000 --> 0:10:56.559 read the the rest of the email. And I could 0:10:56.559 --> 0:11:02.360 talk about this for fifteen minutes. Don't drink. It's hereditary 0:11:02.400 --> 0:11:04.720 for you. The man that you love, that you want 0:11:04.760 --> 0:11:07.920 to marry, that's his hang up. Can you sacrifice that 0:11:07.960 --> 0:11:10.560 to him? Can you give him that? Can you say yeah, 0:11:11.400 --> 0:11:14.719 if you are that serious about it, and you're right 0:11:14.760 --> 0:11:17.719 it runs in my family, then yeah, you are worth it. 0:11:18.160 --> 0:11:29.040 You're worth it. Don't drink. Next question, subject line says 0:11:30.679 --> 0:11:33.040 how do I move on from him? Hey, Grande, I'm 0:11:33.040 --> 0:11:35.200 eighteen years old. I'm a young man from a small 0:11:35.240 --> 0:11:38.360 town in Colorado. I work sixty hours a week. I'm 0:11:38.400 --> 0:11:41.360 a part time student attending an online college taking a 0:11:41.400 --> 0:11:45.120 business class in entrepreneurship. Church is still somewhat new to me, 0:11:45.760 --> 0:11:48.880 along with living a spiritual life. My parents divorced for 0:11:48.920 --> 0:11:52.440 twelve years. Family is not religious at all, which could 0:11:52.440 --> 0:11:56.600 be one of the many struggles of mine. Recently, I've 0:11:56.600 --> 0:12:00.760 put all the focus on myself and pushed myself to 0:12:00.880 --> 0:12:04.200 achieve the many dreams I have in life. This has 0:12:04.280 --> 0:12:07.600 led me to losing good friends. However, my dad, a 0:12:07.679 --> 0:12:12.040 lifelong alcoholic, has quite the opposite mindset from me. My 0:12:12.200 --> 0:12:15.880 dad blacks out each night from drinking and still has 0:12:15.880 --> 0:12:19.160 not learned his lesson from the numerous DUIs in jail time. 0:12:19.679 --> 0:12:22.960 He often tries to bring me down and shut my 0:12:23.200 --> 0:12:27.040 dreams of being the owner of my own business. I 0:12:27.080 --> 0:12:30.400 struggle to keep my head up in this environment. I 0:12:30.480 --> 0:12:35.760 call home and him always disrespecting me. And then in 0:12:35.920 --> 0:12:41.000 caps are in bold letters. You then typed I want 0:12:41.000 --> 0:12:44.359 to earn his respect, but it may not be possible. 0:12:44.720 --> 0:12:47.960 How should I keep the focus on myself instead of 0:12:48.040 --> 0:12:55.760 his negativity? Okay, this letter comes from Tristan. I'm gonna 0:12:55.760 --> 0:13:02.160 recap for myself since this is new to me. You're eighteen, Colorado, Tristan, 0:13:03.880 --> 0:13:08.920 you are a very diligent worker and an online college student. 0:13:10.120 --> 0:13:13.840 You got an alcoholic dad who has just tore you 0:13:13.960 --> 0:13:17.760 down mentally, and you just want to earn his respect, 0:13:18.240 --> 0:13:20.680 and you feel like you can't move on until you 0:13:20.679 --> 0:13:24.600 get your father's respect. This is a natural psychologic thing, right. 0:13:27.200 --> 0:13:30.320 You have deep wounds from your parents being divorced. I 0:13:30.320 --> 0:13:33.760 got I'm not I'm not a therapist here. I'm just 0:13:33.920 --> 0:13:36.440 reading like a friend. Brother, reading like a friend here. 0:13:42.120 --> 0:13:43.640 Let me read the part about churching and you said 0:13:43.760 --> 0:13:48.160 church is still somewhat new to me along with living 0:13:48.240 --> 0:13:53.840 a spiritual life. I'm not into any of that stuff, Tristan. 0:13:54.520 --> 0:13:58.000 I'm not into living a spiritual life. I'm not into 0:13:58.120 --> 0:14:01.760 checking out church. That's not for me. I think if 0:14:01.800 --> 0:14:04.640 you're going to be if you're going to try to 0:14:04.679 --> 0:14:07.680 live a spiritual life or try to check out church 0:14:07.720 --> 0:14:10.640 and stuff, I think there's better things you could do 0:14:10.679 --> 0:14:14.600 on a Sunday. I think like watching the Dallas Cowboys 0:14:14.600 --> 0:14:18.680 play the Broncos on a Sunday is a better use 0:14:18.720 --> 0:14:25.640 of your time than checking out a spiritual life. That's 0:14:25.680 --> 0:14:34.800 my opinion. But if you want to know your creator, 0:14:36.320 --> 0:14:40.040 if you want to know the God of the universe, 0:14:41.960 --> 0:14:48.120 that demands that you respond to his son, whom he 0:14:48.360 --> 0:14:54.600 sent on to this earth, who suffered, died on the cross, 0:14:55.200 --> 0:15:02.160 became a substitution for your sins in a way that 0:15:02.200 --> 0:15:05.200 you could never repay, and a death that you could 0:15:05.240 --> 0:15:12.240 never owe in a sentence, a judgment that only means 0:15:12.280 --> 0:15:15.240 death for you, with no way out and no form 0:15:15.280 --> 0:15:19.680 of bail. If you want to know him as he 0:15:19.800 --> 0:15:23.120 was resurrected from this death and a substitution for your sin. 0:15:24.880 --> 0:15:29.640 And he says repent, which means turn away from your 0:15:29.680 --> 0:15:33.480 old life, shed yourself, deny yourself, all this stuff that 0:15:33.520 --> 0:15:36.680 you have written about me. Me, me, I'm trying to 0:15:36.680 --> 0:15:41.800 focus on myself, pushing myself. I want to respect myself. 0:15:43.520 --> 0:15:45.000 I want to focus And you said it again in 0:15:45.040 --> 0:15:47.000 the last I want to focus on myself. If you 0:15:47.000 --> 0:15:50.600 want to shed yourself and deny yourself and repent and 0:15:50.640 --> 0:15:53.920 turn to Christ, to your King, to the one that 0:15:54.000 --> 0:15:58.160 died for you, and believe that he died for you, 0:15:59.360 --> 0:16:03.520 if that's if that's something that sparks something deep within you, 0:16:05.120 --> 0:16:07.640 then there is no spiritual life, there is no checking 0:16:07.640 --> 0:16:13.840 out church. It's then it becomes your family, it becomes 0:16:14.200 --> 0:16:16.840 your life. You no longer live for yourself. You no 0:16:16.920 --> 0:16:20.400 longer work for yourself, You no longer need respect from 0:16:20.440 --> 0:16:24.920 yourself or from your alcoholic father, or you know, no 0:16:24.960 --> 0:16:29.640 longer need to earn any kind of big feelings and 0:16:29.880 --> 0:16:36.720 respectful emotions for yourself. You die to yourself and you 0:16:36.800 --> 0:16:41.400 turn to Christ. If that sparks your interest, that's what 0:16:41.440 --> 0:16:44.760 I'm talking about. Oh, by the way, and he says, 0:16:44.760 --> 0:16:49.440 if you don't, you will die in your sins. That's it. 0:16:49.480 --> 0:16:53.480 There isn't another way. He says, I am the way. 0:16:54.640 --> 0:16:56.920 He says. No one comes to the Father but by me, 0:16:57.760 --> 0:16:59.840 And no one comes to the Father unless you die 0:16:59.840 --> 0:17:04.360 to yourself and turn to him and follow him. That's 0:17:04.359 --> 0:17:07.679 what he says. That's what the Bible says. And the 0:17:07.680 --> 0:17:11.280 Bible's trustworthy. It's twenty twenty three. We could trust the Bible. 0:17:12.920 --> 0:17:14.520 So if you want, if you want to dabble in 0:17:14.600 --> 0:17:18.120 a spiritual life, I mean, I ain't gonna work. You'd 0:17:18.119 --> 0:17:20.520 be better off watching the Dallas Cowboys and the Denver 0:17:20.560 --> 0:17:25.159 Broncos and sitting on the couch eating popcorn. You'd have 0:17:25.160 --> 0:17:29.520 a better life doing that. But it's going to be 0:17:30.359 --> 0:17:36.160 the best life now because the next one ain't. Maybe 0:17:36.240 --> 0:17:40.120 this email caught me at the wrong time. Tristan, hear 0:17:40.200 --> 0:17:43.840 my call, brother, repent and believe in your king. He 0:17:43.960 --> 0:17:47.119 is victorious. He sits on the throne right now, and 0:17:47.160 --> 0:17:51.720 he demands that everyone turned from their sins, deny themselves, 0:17:51.760 --> 0:17:56.639 stop thinking about yourself, stop earning things for yourself, stop it, 0:17:57.440 --> 0:18:00.520 and say God, I surrender to you, my creator. You're 0:18:00.520 --> 0:18:05.760 in control your sovereign. I trust you, and you'll be saved. 0:18:07.920 --> 0:18:13.879 Let's take a break be read back. Thanks for listening 0:18:13.920 --> 0:18:16.640 to the podcast, y'all. If you ever want a message 0:18:16.680 --> 0:18:19.800 from me, a personal message from me on a video 0:18:20.359 --> 0:18:22.959 sent to your phone saying whatever you want me to 0:18:23.040 --> 0:18:25.760 say to whoever you want me to say it too, 0:18:26.760 --> 0:18:28.840 then you need to go to cameo dot com slash 0:18:28.840 --> 0:18:31.840 Granger Smith or download the cameo app and search for 0:18:31.880 --> 0:18:34.919 me Granger Smith, and I will make that very video 0:18:35.000 --> 0:18:37.120 for you. Do these all the time, and so every 0:18:37.119 --> 0:18:38.439 once in a while on the podcast I like to 0:18:38.440 --> 0:18:40.879 bring it up just in case someone's thinking, man, I 0:18:40.880 --> 0:18:43.960 wish Granger could send me like a happy anniversary, or 0:18:44.000 --> 0:18:47.119 my son a happy birthday, or my wife a happy 0:18:47.160 --> 0:18:50.560 Valentine's Day, whatever it might be. I am here to 0:18:50.640 --> 0:18:53.919 do that for you through cameo. It's super easy, and 0:18:53.960 --> 0:18:56.320 I've been doing this for about probably four years now. 0:18:56.400 --> 0:18:59.159 So go to cameo dot com slash Granger Smith or 0:18:59.200 --> 0:19:02.560 download the cameo app on your phone and search for 0:19:02.640 --> 0:19:06.120 me Granger Smith. Thank y'all for listening. Back to the podcast. 0:19:10.680 --> 0:19:12.760 All right, back to the podcast. I am recording this 0:19:12.920 --> 0:19:16.240 pre recording this at night, and I'm kind of realizing 0:19:16.359 --> 0:19:19.440 as I took that break that my answers at night, 0:19:20.000 --> 0:19:23.440 late at night are probably gonna be different than earlier 0:19:23.480 --> 0:19:25.560 in the morning. With a cup of coffee, I might 0:19:25.600 --> 0:19:28.720 be a little sweeter, a little chippier, little a little brighter, 0:19:28.840 --> 0:19:31.520 a little quicker in the morning with some coffee, and 0:19:31.560 --> 0:19:34.320 then I might be a little a little less patient 0:19:35.280 --> 0:19:39.120 on my nighttime recorded podcast. So episode one three, let 0:19:39.119 --> 0:19:42.040 it be known this is nighttime. I might cut you 0:19:42.080 --> 0:19:45.280 off in the middle of a question like I've done 0:19:45.320 --> 0:19:51.880 already once. Oh, I'm sorry. Both sides of me are true. 0:19:51.920 --> 0:19:55.280 This side is real. The morning the morning version of 0:19:55.320 --> 0:19:57.520 me is real, and the evening version is real. You're 0:19:57.560 --> 0:20:00.560 just gonna get a different part of the spectrum. Okay, 0:20:02.000 --> 0:20:08.080 next question here, subject line is Bible. Hey, Granger recently 0:20:08.080 --> 0:20:10.560 started listening to your podcast and I'm hooked. I love 0:20:10.600 --> 0:20:12.880 how you're so open about religion and how God has 0:20:12.920 --> 0:20:14.920 helped you and your family and so much in life. 0:20:15.040 --> 0:20:18.120 My question is, as someone who's never really read the Bible, 0:20:18.560 --> 0:20:21.480 maybe just skimmed through, what version would you recommend for 0:20:21.520 --> 0:20:25.000 the first time reader? Thank you. Great question comes from 0:20:25.080 --> 0:20:29.360 Nicholas and man Man, what an awesome question. And I'm 0:20:29.520 --> 0:20:34.919 happy to walk you through this because I once I 0:20:34.920 --> 0:20:38.919 would see everybody, everybody at one point was new to 0:20:38.960 --> 0:20:43.359 the Bible at some point in their life, and most 0:20:43.400 --> 0:20:47.040 likely the very beginning of everyone's journey. They were a skimmer. 0:20:47.119 --> 0:20:50.040 They just skimmed through it. You kind of look at 0:20:50.080 --> 0:20:53.960 it like a dictionary or an encyclopedia or like the 0:20:54.600 --> 0:20:58.320 Sourus or something. You just you go, well, I mean, 0:20:58.359 --> 0:21:00.720 surely it doesn't start at the beginning, and so I'll 0:21:00.760 --> 0:21:02.480 just kind of skim through. I know people like have 0:21:02.680 --> 0:21:06.280 verses written on their t shirts and coffee mugs and 0:21:06.680 --> 0:21:10.480 picture frames, and so maybe that's just what you do, 0:21:10.560 --> 0:21:12.720 is you kind of flip through and you look for 0:21:12.800 --> 0:21:16.120 a subject that you might want to be dealing with here, 0:21:16.160 --> 0:21:18.320 and you need an answer from and you just find 0:21:18.320 --> 0:21:22.520 it that way, that maybe how it starts for you, 0:21:24.800 --> 0:21:27.840 but that's not how it's going to end. The Bible 0:21:27.920 --> 0:21:35.320 is meant to be taken in context, meaning there is 0:21:35.359 --> 0:21:38.720 a storyline that starts at the beginning and goes all 0:21:38.760 --> 0:21:42.439 the way to the end. And this is a thread 0:21:43.080 --> 0:21:47.400 and the redemption story of a people and a God 0:21:47.960 --> 0:21:50.959 that redeemed his people even when they were not worthy 0:21:51.000 --> 0:21:56.200 of it. It's essentially a love story. It's the story 0:21:56.240 --> 0:21:59.960 of a God. They're created a people and the peace. 0:22:00.000 --> 0:22:04.840 People rebelled and God gave them a law and they 0:22:04.920 --> 0:22:08.520 rejected it. And he gave them people, which we call prophets, 0:22:08.520 --> 0:22:11.560 to come and tell them the law to reinforce it. 0:22:12.040 --> 0:22:14.920 And they killed the prophets. And he sent his son, 0:22:17.480 --> 0:22:21.679 the most valuable resource on the planet, to redeem this people, 0:22:22.119 --> 0:22:24.439 to gather them. He lived a perfect life, and he 0:22:24.520 --> 0:22:27.480 was killed by the people, just like they killed the prophets. 0:22:28.000 --> 0:22:31.600 They rebelled from the beginning, and we still rebel today. 0:22:32.000 --> 0:22:36.040 But in his death he resurrected, being the first one 0:22:36.680 --> 0:22:41.960 to achieve victory over death. The son of God, the 0:22:42.080 --> 0:22:47.040 son of Man, the son of David, Jesus resurrected on 0:22:47.080 --> 0:22:54.520 the third Day, and through that sacrifice redeemed the people 0:22:55.400 --> 0:22:59.760 gathered him as a hen gathers her chicks, and saved 0:22:59.800 --> 0:23:03.200 them even when they're not worthy of it. Not all 0:23:03.240 --> 0:23:06.959 of them, the ones that turn to him in repentance 0:23:07.240 --> 0:23:13.000 and belief through faith, he saves them by grace through faith. 0:23:14.240 --> 0:23:16.960 That's the story from beginning to end. And it's just 0:23:18.080 --> 0:23:27.920 woven the most beautiful literary stories, woven together for thousands 0:23:28.000 --> 0:23:32.600 of years, forty different authors, fifteen hundred years, sixty six 0:23:32.640 --> 0:23:37.960 books written by eyewitnesses, and the presence of other eyewitnesses, 0:23:38.880 --> 0:23:44.879 redeeming and fulfilling prophecies for thousands of years. It's the 0:23:44.920 --> 0:23:48.440 most widely read and the most widely sold book of 0:23:48.480 --> 0:23:52.040 all time. It is the book of all books. There 0:23:52.080 --> 0:23:55.040 is nothing ever that has ever come close to it. 0:23:56.440 --> 0:23:59.800 And we now have evidence through archaeological digs over twenty 0:23:59.840 --> 0:24:04.359 five five thousand fragments of the original Bibles, pieces of 0:24:04.400 --> 0:24:09.920 these scriptures of different books. It's that's the loose story. 0:24:09.960 --> 0:24:12.800 It's it's unbelievable. But that's not none of that is 0:24:12.800 --> 0:24:17.240 what you asked. You asked, what version would you recommend 0:24:17.240 --> 0:24:19.600 the first time readers. That's a great question. It's a 0:24:19.720 --> 0:24:23.879 legitimate question. So I told you that there's these we 0:24:24.000 --> 0:24:27.959 have miles mile high, if you stacked them on top 0:24:28.000 --> 0:24:33.840 of each other, mile high manuscripts that we have dug up, 0:24:34.000 --> 0:24:38.080 we've found and we've put together, so we The Bible 0:24:38.160 --> 0:24:43.120 is primarily in Greek, Hebrew and Aramaic. So through those 0:24:43.160 --> 0:24:45.639 three languages, a lot of them were translated to Latin, 0:24:45.760 --> 0:24:48.520 and then from Latin to or like from the Hebrew 0:24:48.560 --> 0:24:50.840 to Latin, from the Greek to Latin, sometimes from the 0:24:50.840 --> 0:24:55.720 Hebrew to Greek, and and so we've usually taken that 0:24:55.800 --> 0:24:58.480 Latin and then some people have made into English. We 0:24:58.520 --> 0:25:03.159 don't do that anymore. The modern translations now go straight 0:25:03.160 --> 0:25:05.640 back to the Greek or straight back to the Hebrew. 0:25:06.359 --> 0:25:10.159 So there is no middleman. There's no maybe this translation 0:25:10.320 --> 0:25:11.960 moved into this one to this one, to this one 0:25:12.000 --> 0:25:13.439 to this one, and then it was like in this 0:25:13.480 --> 0:25:15.920 game of telephone, where eventually it just is like a 0:25:16.000 --> 0:25:19.080 muddled version of what might have happened. No, now we 0:25:19.119 --> 0:25:21.800 go straight back to all the way to the Greek. 0:25:21.800 --> 0:25:24.000 And they were doing this since the King James. But 0:25:24.160 --> 0:25:26.920 you go all the way back to the original manuscripts 0:25:28.359 --> 0:25:32.000 first century, second century, third century and they all line up, 0:25:32.040 --> 0:25:34.360 they all match, and if it didn't, then you could 0:25:34.400 --> 0:25:36.679 easily find a new manuscript and go, look that part 0:25:36.760 --> 0:25:39.800 that's different. So we need to reconcile. This part is 0:25:39.800 --> 0:25:43.920 different right here. I love this stuff. You don't need 0:25:43.960 --> 0:25:46.600 this for your faith, you don't need to believe it 0:25:46.680 --> 0:25:49.399 in this way. But I just like the history of 0:25:49.400 --> 0:25:52.679 the Bible. I just genuinely enjoy this kind of stuff. 0:25:53.160 --> 0:25:59.760 And so my point is the ESV, the CSV, n IV, 0:26:00.560 --> 0:26:06.240 the NASB, the King James. There's there was many many 0:26:06.280 --> 0:26:11.240 different versions. I say many many. There there's seven eight 0:26:11.320 --> 0:26:18.160 nine great versions. And usually on every version you could 0:26:18.280 --> 0:26:20.639 you could do a you could do a Wikipedia search 0:26:20.680 --> 0:26:23.600 on this. Honestly, you could find a version like the 0:26:23.720 --> 0:26:26.560