Speaker 1: This doesn't surprise me. I should say it that way.
Speaker 1: When I read this, I'm not surprised by a story
Speaker 1: like yours in a fallen world in twenty twenty three,
Speaker 1: what's up, everybody. Welcome to the Granger Smith Podcast, Episode
Speaker 1: one hundred and eighty three. Thank you for being here.
Speaker 1: The format of this podcast, if you're new to it,
Speaker 1: is I answer your questions, and there's not a certain
Speaker 1: subject I ask for. It could be about anything. Email
Speaker 1: me Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com and I'll put
Speaker 1: it in the queue. And I've got a lot to read.
Speaker 1: I will never ever get to all of the questions,
Speaker 1: but send it in. I'll put it in the queue
Speaker 1: and we'll kind of flip through like a vending machine
Speaker 1: and see what comes up. The first question here, subject
Speaker 1: line says he doesn't want it like I do. Side
Speaker 1: note here, I don't read these ahead of time. I'm
Speaker 1: not prepared. I don't have notes. I'm going blind, completely blind.
Speaker 1: There's nothing on this table but the phone I'm using
Speaker 1: to read the emails themselves. They come straight from you.
Speaker 1: Let's get started here, says Hey Granger. My name is
Speaker 1: Kaylin Jones, Keelan Jones. Let's say it that way. K
Speaker 1: e y Li and Keelan Jones. I'm seventeen from South
Speaker 1: Carolina and my whole life, me and my dad have
Speaker 1: not had the best relationship at all. My parents got
Speaker 1: divorced when I was about eight years old, and at
Speaker 1: first they stayed friends. Then he got married and all
Speaker 1: of that changed. He changed. I ended up quitting baseball
Speaker 1: because I realized we didn't have a relationship if it
Speaker 1: wasn't through that, so I started working. But after about
Speaker 1: a month of him being remarried, about six months of
Speaker 1: him knowing her, he stood by and watched his new
Speaker 1: wife disrespect his mother. Fast forward seven years and he
Speaker 1: still hasn't said a word to them and talks about
Speaker 1: about my mom any chance he got. The last time
Speaker 1: I spoke to him, we got into it and he
Speaker 1: told me to get out of my house and you're
Speaker 1: fired from both your jobs. Then I wasn't welcomed back.
Speaker 1: I post myself riding bulls, and he recently a few months,
Speaker 1: after a few months of not even reaching out at all,
Speaker 1: text me and says that I'm starting to get good.
Speaker 1: I'm assuming at riding bulls, and he misses me. What
Speaker 1: should I do? All right, Kielan, appreciate your emailing brother
Speaker 1: and man seventeen years old. I'm so sorry that this
Speaker 1: is your world and that this is your dad and
Speaker 1: your relationship with your dad and your family. It just
Speaker 1: it feels mixed up for you. I want to tell
Speaker 1: you that you're not alone. A lot of people listening
Speaker 1: are in a similar situation, similar kind of story. This
Speaker 1: is not This doesn't surprise me. I should say it
Speaker 1: that way. When I read this, I'm not surprised by
Speaker 1: a story like yours in a fallen world in twenty
Speaker 1: twenty three. Okay. That doesn't make it better, that doesn't
Speaker 1: make it easier. It just simply allows you to know
Speaker 1: that you're not abnormal, you're not different, you're not unlucky
Speaker 1: at all. Okay, so what do you do? That's your question?
Speaker 1: What do you do? You got this dad, and he
Speaker 1: he left you. Looks like when you're eight years old,
Speaker 1: your parents got divorced, he got remarried, and it's been
Speaker 1: rocky ever since. It was a long time ago, right,
Speaker 1: that was nine years ago, and you're trying to figure
Speaker 1: out do you respond to him now because he's hurt
Speaker 1: you and he's put you in awkward situations, he's disrespected
Speaker 1: your family. Should you reach back out because he saw
Speaker 1: you bull riding and said you're getting good and you
Speaker 1: message it? Should you just ignore him? I think that's
Speaker 1: part of your question, right, Should I just ignore dad?
Speaker 1: He's brought so much pain to my family? Is this
Speaker 1: a point when I'm seventeen right now to Is this
Speaker 1: a point where I just gonna I'm gonna cut ties
Speaker 1: with this? Would it surprised you if I said, no,
Speaker 1: don't do that. It's hard. Being seventeen is hard enough.
Speaker 1: Having a man's problem at seventeen is harder. And that's
Speaker 1: what this is. Brother. You gotta you gotta see this
Speaker 1: for what it is. This is an adult problem and
Speaker 1: you're needing to deal with it. So how do you
Speaker 1: do it? What would a man do in this kind
Speaker 1: of situation? What would a man of integrity do in
Speaker 1: this kind of situation? Those of that have that have
Speaker 1: listened to this podcast for a long time, No, probably
Speaker 1: you're starting to get to know a little bit. You know,
Speaker 1: after one hundred and eighty three episodes, you could probably
Speaker 1: recognize similar patterns in what I say. But the right
Speaker 1: thing to do, and Keelan is forgive him I think
Speaker 1: it was last episode I said you don't have to
Speaker 1: maybe two. You don't have to trust him. There's a
Speaker 1: difference between trust and forgiveness. But you gotta forgive him.
Speaker 1: You gotta love him, even though you feel like you shouldn't,
Speaker 1: even like you feel like you can't forgive him. You
Speaker 1: just say, Dad, I miss you too, man. I appreciate
Speaker 1: you reaching out. And that's first of all, that's gonna
Speaker 1: surprise him to be like, wow, what And and you say, Dad,
Speaker 1: can we talk? And you be honest with you? And
Speaker 1: you say, Dad, I'm being honest with you here. I've
Speaker 1: been upset the last few years. I haven't appreciated how
Speaker 1: you treated the family. I haven't appreciated how you treated
Speaker 1: your mum and my mom. It's been hard on me.
Speaker 1: It's you know, I try to I try to have
Speaker 1: this teenage life and and try to go through all
Speaker 1: these trials, and it's tough without having the approval of
Speaker 1: a dad. But this is Kilan, This is that part's easy.
Speaker 1: Here's where you become a man. Here's the integrity part.
Speaker 1: But Dad, but I haven't been that. I haven't been
Speaker 1: the best either. I've said some things I regret I've
Speaker 1: done some things I probably shouldn't. I've disrespected you, Dad,
Speaker 1: in a way that I should be honoring to you.
Speaker 1: Not because you've earned it or because you've done things
Speaker 1: along my life that have earned that respect, but but
Speaker 1: because you're my dad, because you're my elder, I need
Speaker 1: to honor you. And I've failed at that, Dad, I've
Speaker 1: failed in listening and unders standing your side of the
Speaker 1: story I I I have. I've disrespected you and dishonored
Speaker 1: you in many ways, and I want to know how
Speaker 1: I could fix that with you. I want to know
Speaker 1: how I could make this better and data. I know
Speaker 1: things aren't going to be great, and I know we
Speaker 1: both got to work on some things, but I'm not
Speaker 1: I'm not worried about what you need to do for us.
Speaker 1: I need you to tell me how you want me
Speaker 1: to act towards you, now, Kiln. These are expressions of
Speaker 1: the heart, These are expressions of humility and submission. And
Speaker 1: and you're gonna come under his authority in this way.
Speaker 1: But this this doesn't mean that you're gonna be weak.
Speaker 1: It doesn't mean you're you're you're gonna have to trust
Speaker 1: everything that this man says. You don't have to trust him.
Speaker 1: You don't have to fulfill promises that he wants you
Speaker 1: to make to him. This is this is just an
Speaker 1: act of falling under uh a way to honor him
Speaker 1: as your biological father. And if he says, son, I
Speaker 1: need you to do this and this and this and this,
Speaker 1: and he just comes after you with just ridiculous things,
Speaker 1: you say, Wow, okay, that's a lot of stuff, Dad,
Speaker 1: And I want to be able to honor you in
Speaker 1: these ways, and so let's be let's be reasonable about
Speaker 1: where I could start, because I want to start small.
Speaker 1: But I want to do this right. Okay. So you
Speaker 1: notice that there's no right or wrong answer to what
Speaker 1: you say. Besides, your posture is just a posture of
Speaker 1: forgiveness and love towards your dad. This is irrelevant to
Speaker 1: how he responds to it. So he might say, I
Speaker 1: forget you kid, you're a punk, you're a punk kid,
Speaker 1: I've never liked you, blah blah blah blah blah blah.
Speaker 1: You know, he could be as mean as possible, And
Speaker 1: you go, Man, it hurts to hear you say that, Dad,
Speaker 1: But I want to tell you that that still doesn't
Speaker 1: make that doesn't change that I'm your son and you're
Speaker 1: my dad, and I forgive you. It'd be very difficult
Speaker 1: for him to continue on in the path if you
Speaker 1: keep that up. It would be very difficult for him
Speaker 1: to be upset with you if you keep that up.
Speaker 1: You hear what I'm saying, Yes, sir Kieling, It's not easy, man.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry you're in this kind of situation. But fighting him,
Speaker 1: ignoring him, regretting him, wishing he wasn't your father, hating him,
Speaker 1: envying him, being jealous of it, whatever, is not the
Speaker 1: right way You could try those things. It will only
Speaker 1: end up back in my inbox again, I promise you.
Speaker 1: All right, Come on, guys, let's get a good one here,
Speaker 1: just like we're riding in the truck. How about this one?
Speaker 1: Subdecline says, please please help me. Hey, Grandrid like to
Speaker 1: stay anonymous. I'm twenty four years old. I'm a woman
Speaker 1: who's been single for three years waiting for a godly man.
Speaker 1: I feel like I could marry. I believe I found him,
Speaker 1: and we have talked about marriage. We align on everything
Speaker 1: except one thing, drinking alcohol. He doesn't drink and I
Speaker 1: do occasionally. I've asked if we can compromise and I
Speaker 1: could drink but not ever get drunk. This feels borderline
Speaker 1: toxic and controlling to me. The bottom line is alcoholism
Speaker 1: runs in my family, and he fears I might prey
Speaker 1: on him like that in the feure. Okay, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: stop right there. I'm not even gonna read the arrest
Speaker 1: of the email. Okay, alcoholism runs in your family. You're
Speaker 1: the man that you love hopes that you don't drink.
Speaker 1: Don't drink, don't drink. I'm not there's no need to
Speaker 1: read the the rest of the email. And I could
Speaker 1: talk about this for fifteen minutes. Don't drink. It's hereditary
Speaker 1: for you. The man that you love, that you want
Speaker 1: to marry, that's his hang up. Can you sacrifice that
Speaker 1: to him? Can you give him that? Can you say yeah,
Speaker 1: if you are that serious about it, and you're right
Speaker 1: it runs in my family, then yeah, you are worth it.
Speaker 1: You're worth it. Don't drink. Next question, subject line says
Speaker 1: how do I move on from him? Hey, Grande, I'm
Speaker 1: eighteen years old. I'm a young man from a small
Speaker 1: town in Colorado. I work sixty hours a week. I'm
Speaker 1: a part time student attending an online college taking a
Speaker 1: business class in entrepreneurship. Church is still somewhat new to me,
Speaker 1: along with living a spiritual life. My parents divorced for
Speaker 1: twelve years. Family is not religious at all, which could
Speaker 1: be one of the many struggles of mine. Recently, I've
Speaker 1: put all the focus on myself and pushed myself to
Speaker 1: achieve the many dreams I have in life. This has
Speaker 1: led me to losing good friends. However, my dad, a
Speaker 1: lifelong alcoholic, has quite the opposite mindset from me. My
Speaker 1: dad blacks out each night from drinking and still has
Speaker 1: not learned his lesson from the numerous DUIs in jail time.
Speaker 1: He often tries to bring me down and shut my
Speaker 1: dreams of being the owner of my own business. I
Speaker 1: struggle to keep my head up in this environment. I
Speaker 1: call home and him always disrespecting me. And then in
Speaker 1: caps are in bold letters. You then typed I want
Speaker 1: to earn his respect, but it may not be possible.
Speaker 1: How should I keep the focus on myself instead of
Speaker 1: his negativity? Okay, this letter comes from Tristan. I'm gonna
Speaker 1: recap for myself since this is new to me. You're eighteen, Colorado, Tristan,
Speaker 1: you are a very diligent worker and an online college student.
Speaker 1: You got an alcoholic dad who has just tore you
Speaker 1: down mentally, and you just want to earn his respect,
Speaker 1: and you feel like you can't move on until you
Speaker 1: get your father's respect. This is a natural psychologic thing, right.
Speaker 1: You have deep wounds from your parents being divorced. I
Speaker 1: got I'm not I'm not a therapist here. I'm just
Speaker 1: reading like a friend. Brother, reading like a friend here.
Speaker 1: Let me read the part about churching and you said
Speaker 1: church is still somewhat new to me along with living
Speaker 1: a spiritual life. I'm not into any of that stuff, Tristan.
Speaker 1: I'm not into living a spiritual life. I'm not into
Speaker 1: checking out church. That's not for me. I think if
Speaker 1: you're going to be if you're going to try to
Speaker 1: live a spiritual life or try to check out church
Speaker 1: and stuff, I think there's better things you could do
Speaker 1: on a Sunday. I think like watching the Dallas Cowboys
Speaker 1: play the Broncos on a Sunday is a better use
Speaker 1: of your time than checking out a spiritual life. That's
Speaker 1: my opinion. But if you want to know your creator,
Speaker 1: if you want to know the God of the universe,
Speaker 1: that demands that you respond to his son, whom he
Speaker 1: sent on to this earth, who suffered, died on the cross,
Speaker 1: became a substitution for your sins in a way that
Speaker 1: you could never repay, and a death that you could
Speaker 1: never owe in a sentence, a judgment that only means
Speaker 1: death for you, with no way out and no form
Speaker 1: of bail. If you want to know him as he
Speaker 1: was resurrected from this death and a substitution for your sin.
Speaker 1: And he says repent, which means turn away from your
Speaker 1: old life, shed yourself, deny yourself, all this stuff that
Speaker 1: you have written about me. Me, me, I'm trying to
Speaker 1: focus on myself, pushing myself. I want to respect myself.
Speaker 1: I want to focus And you said it again in
Speaker 1: the last I want to focus on myself. If you
Speaker 1: want to shed yourself and deny yourself and repent and
Speaker 1: turn to Christ, to your King, to the one that
Speaker 1: died for you, and believe that he died for you,
Speaker 1: if that's if that's something that sparks something deep within you,
Speaker 1: then there is no spiritual life, there is no checking
Speaker 1: out church. It's then it becomes your family, it becomes
Speaker 1: your life. You no longer live for yourself. You no
Speaker 1: longer work for yourself, You no longer need respect from
Speaker 1: yourself or from your alcoholic father, or you know, no
Speaker 1: longer need to earn any kind of big feelings and
Speaker 1: respectful emotions for yourself. You die to yourself and you
Speaker 1: turn to Christ. If that sparks your interest, that's what
Speaker 1: I'm talking about. Oh, by the way, and he says,
Speaker 1: if you don't, you will die in your sins. That's it.
Speaker 1: There isn't another way. He says, I am the way.
Speaker 1: He says. No one comes to the Father but by me,
Speaker 1: And no one comes to the Father unless you die
Speaker 1: to yourself and turn to him and follow him. That's
Speaker 1: what he says. That's what the Bible says. And the
Speaker 1: Bible's trustworthy. It's twenty twenty three. We could trust the Bible.
Speaker 1: So if you want, if you want to dabble in
Speaker 1: a spiritual life, I mean, I ain't gonna work. You'd
Speaker 1: be better off watching the Dallas Cowboys and the Denver
Speaker 1: Broncos and sitting on the couch eating popcorn. You'd have
Speaker 1: a better life doing that. But it's going to be
Speaker 1: the best life now because the next one ain't. Maybe
Speaker 1: this email caught me at the wrong time. Tristan, hear
Speaker 1: my call, brother, repent and believe in your king. He
Speaker 1: is victorious. He sits on the throne right now, and
Speaker 1: he demands that everyone turned from their sins, deny themselves,
Speaker 1: stop thinking about yourself, stop earning things for yourself, stop it,
Speaker 1: and say God, I surrender to you, my creator. You're
Speaker 1: in control your sovereign. I trust you, and you'll be saved.
Speaker 1: Let's take a break be read back. Thanks for listening
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Speaker 1: All right, back to the podcast. I am recording this
Speaker 1: pre recording this at night, and I'm kind of realizing
Speaker 1: as I took that break that my answers at night,
Speaker 1: late at night are probably gonna be different than earlier
Speaker 1: in the morning. With a cup of coffee, I might
Speaker 1: be a little sweeter, a little chippier, little a little brighter,
Speaker 1: a little quicker in the morning with some coffee, and
Speaker 1: then I might be a little a little less patient
Speaker 1: on my nighttime recorded podcast. So episode one three, let
Speaker 1: it be known this is nighttime. I might cut you
Speaker 1: off in the middle of a question like I've done
Speaker 1: already once. Oh, I'm sorry. Both sides of me are true.
Speaker 1: This side is real. The morning the morning version of
Speaker 1: me is real, and the evening version is real. You're
Speaker 1: just gonna get a different part of the spectrum. Okay,
Speaker 1: next question here, subject line is Bible. Hey, Granger recently
Speaker 1: started listening to your podcast and I'm hooked. I love
Speaker 1: how you're so open about religion and how God has
Speaker 1: helped you and your family and so much in life.
Speaker 1: My question is, as someone who's never really read the Bible,
Speaker 1: maybe just skimmed through, what version would you recommend for
Speaker 1: the first time reader? Thank you. Great question comes from
Speaker 1: Nicholas and man Man, what an awesome question. And I'm
Speaker 1: happy to walk you through this because I once I
Speaker 1: would see everybody, everybody at one point was new to
Speaker 1: the Bible at some point in their life, and most
Speaker 1: likely the very beginning of everyone's journey. They were a skimmer.
Speaker 1: They just skimmed through it. You kind of look at
Speaker 1: it like a dictionary or an encyclopedia or like the
Speaker 1: Sourus or something. You just you go, well, I mean,
Speaker 1: surely it doesn't start at the beginning, and so I'll
Speaker 1: just kind of skim through. I know people like have
Speaker 1: verses written on their t shirts and coffee mugs and
Speaker 1: picture frames, and so maybe that's just what you do,
Speaker 1: is you kind of flip through and you look for
Speaker 1: a subject that you might want to be dealing with here,
Speaker 1: and you need an answer from and you just find
Speaker 1: it that way, that maybe how it starts for you,
Speaker 1: but that's not how it's going to end. The Bible
Speaker 1: is meant to be taken in context, meaning there is
Speaker 1: a storyline that starts at the beginning and goes all
Speaker 1: the way to the end. And this is a thread
Speaker 1: and the redemption story of a people and a God
Speaker 1: that redeemed his people even when they were not worthy
Speaker 1: of it. It's essentially a love story. It's the story
Speaker 1: of a God. They're created a people and the peace.
Speaker 1: People rebelled and God gave them a law and they
Speaker 1: rejected it. And he gave them people, which we call prophets,
Speaker 1: to come and tell them the law to reinforce it.
Speaker 1: And they killed the prophets. And he sent his son,
Speaker 1: the most valuable resource on the planet, to redeem this people,
Speaker 1: to gather them. He lived a perfect life, and he
Speaker 1: was killed by the people, just like they killed the prophets.
Speaker 1: They rebelled from the beginning, and we still rebel today.
Speaker 1: But in his death he resurrected, being the first one
Speaker 1: to achieve victory over death. The son of God, the
Speaker 1: son of Man, the son of David, Jesus resurrected on
Speaker 1: the third Day, and through that sacrifice redeemed the people
Speaker 1: gathered him as a hen gathers her chicks, and saved
Speaker 1: them even when they're not worthy of it. Not all
Speaker 1: of them, the ones that turn to him in repentance
Speaker 1: and belief through faith, he saves them by grace through faith.
Speaker 1: That's the story from beginning to end. And it's just
Speaker 1: woven the most beautiful literary stories, woven together for thousands
Speaker 1: of years, forty different authors, fifteen hundred years, sixty six
Speaker 1: books written by eyewitnesses, and the presence of other eyewitnesses,
Speaker 1: redeeming and fulfilling prophecies for thousands of years. It's the
Speaker 1: most widely read and the most widely sold book of
Speaker 1: all time. It is the book of all books. There
Speaker 1: is nothing ever that has ever come close to it.
Speaker 1: And we now have evidence through archaeological digs over twenty
Speaker 1: five five thousand fragments of the original Bibles, pieces of
Speaker 1: these scriptures of different books. It's that's the loose story.
Speaker 1: It's it's unbelievable. But that's not none of that is
Speaker 1: what you asked. You asked, what version would you recommend
Speaker 1: the first time readers. That's a great question. It's a
Speaker 1: legitimate question. So I told you that there's these we
Speaker 1: have miles mile high, if you stacked them on top
Speaker 1: of each other, mile high manuscripts that we have dug up,
Speaker 1: we've found and we've put together, so we The Bible
Speaker 1: is primarily in Greek, Hebrew and Aramaic. So through those
Speaker 1: three languages, a lot of them were translated to Latin,
Speaker 1: and then from Latin to or like from the Hebrew
Speaker 1: to Latin, from the Greek to Latin, sometimes from the
Speaker 1: Hebrew to Greek, and and so we've usually taken that
Speaker 1: Latin and then some people have made into English. We
Speaker 1: don't do that anymore. The modern translations now go straight
Speaker 1: back to the Greek or straight back to the Hebrew.
Speaker 1: So there is no middleman. There's no maybe this translation
Speaker 1: moved into this one to this one, to this one
Speaker 1: to this one, and then it was like in this
Speaker 1: game of telephone, where eventually it just is like a
Speaker 1: muddled version of what might have happened. No, now we
Speaker 1: go straight back to all the way to the Greek.
Speaker 1: And they were doing this since the King James. But
Speaker 1: you go all the way back to the original manuscripts
Speaker 1: first century, second century, third century and they all line up,
Speaker 1: they all match, and if it didn't, then you could
Speaker 1: easily find a new manuscript and go, look that part
Speaker 1: that's different. So we need to reconcile. This part is
Speaker 1: different right here. I love this stuff. You don't need
Speaker 1: this for your faith, you don't need to believe it
Speaker 1: in this way. But I just like the history of
Speaker 1: the Bible. I just genuinely enjoy this kind of stuff.
Speaker 1: And so my point is the ESV, the CSV, n IV,
Speaker 1: the NASB, the King James. There's there was many many
Speaker 1: different versions. I say many many. There there's seven eight
Speaker 1: nine great versions. And usually on every version you could
Speaker 1: you could do a you could do a Wikipedia search
Speaker 1: on this. Honestly, you could find a version like the
Speaker 1: n i V. Start there. They take the n IV.
Speaker 1: I read the ESV, my for my morning read. I
Speaker 1: read the CSB. So find one like the n IV
Speaker 1: and wiki it right and you could see that it's
Speaker 1: written by a committee of scholars one hundred or so.
Speaker 1: And they come together and they study. They study the Greek,
Speaker 1: they study how it was originally translated from Greek to Latin.
Speaker 1: They see if that was okay, then then they see
Speaker 1: how did the Latin, go into English, and then they
Speaker 1: test what they read from the Greek, and then what
Speaker 1: they read from the Hebrew, and they go to the
Speaker 1: Geneva Bible and they look at the Old KJV, and
Speaker 1: so they're cross referencing. I mean, this stuff is accurate.
Speaker 1: You can't go wrong, and you're gonna see different words.
Speaker 1: Some versions are word by word, some versions are thought
Speaker 1: by thought. You could see all this probably in the
Speaker 1: Wikipedia version, and then you could read it, and no
Speaker 1: truths throughout these different translations are lost. It's the same thing,
Speaker 1: it's a different way of saying the same thing. And
Speaker 1: so what I usually recommend for this question is to
Speaker 1: several I use an app called Lagos Lgos, and my
Speaker 1: devotional reading in the morning, I'm reading a plan called
Speaker 1: the Mixshame Plan. So that gets me through four chapters
Speaker 1: every morning. It gets me through the whole Bible, excuse me,
Speaker 1: the Old Testament once, the New Testament twice, and the
Speaker 1: Psalms twice in a year. So as I'm reading that,
Speaker 1: I switch translations, and if I'm ever studying a part,
Speaker 1: especially if I'm studying apart a section of Perickapee of
Speaker 1: the Bible of the Gospel. Then else I could quickly
Speaker 1: swipe on logos back and forth to different translations. So
Speaker 1: it's like, oh, the ESV said that, come to me,
Speaker 1: all you who are weary and heavy laden. I think
Speaker 1: it's the ESV, come to me, all you who are
Speaker 1: weary and heavy ladened. And then you go to the
Speaker 1: NIV and it says, come to me all you who
Speaker 1: are weary and burdened. It's like, oh, cool, weary and
Speaker 1: heavy ladened versus weary and burdened. And then you can go,
Speaker 1: what does the KJV say? It's so interesting. So then
Speaker 1: you just swipe back and forth and you can go
Speaker 1: to these different versions and never will you find a
Speaker 1: spot ever when a main, major truth is lost in
Speaker 1: that kind of different translation. Okay, so that's how you'll
Speaker 1: build your own trust. There's there's gonna be people that go,
Speaker 1: no way, man, the KJV. This only way, King James,
Speaker 1: is the only way. Well my argument to that is,
Speaker 1: I don't speak Old English, do you? I don't, So
Speaker 1: I appreciate the KJV. I read the ees V because
Speaker 1: it's the same as the KJV, the same without the
Speaker 1: these and thousand ye's and those whatever, and if ever
Speaker 1: in doubt. You just swipe back. Do you get my point?
Speaker 1: There's not a there's not a right translation. Now, there's
Speaker 1: a lot of religions like Jeovah's Witnesses, Jesus Christ, Latter
Speaker 1: day Saints, Church of Jesus Christ. They always make me
Speaker 1: want to say the whole thing, Church of Jesus Christ,
Speaker 1: the latter to say, they're gonna say no, like the
Speaker 1: Jeovah's Witnesses are gonna say no, it's the New World
Speaker 1: translation translated by one man and the nineteenth century. The
Speaker 1: Mormons are gonna say no, only kjav is the best translation,
Speaker 1: because they say, we believe the Bible as long as
Speaker 1: it's translated correctly. But it's not all correct, and so
Speaker 1: then they're gonna think that there's a lot there's still
Speaker 1: truths that are lost in there. It's twenty twenty three.
Speaker 1: That's totally debunked. We've completely debunked that is that argument
Speaker 1: is over. It's a nineteenth century argument. We know that
Speaker 1: truths are not lost. We could trace ancient writings all
Speaker 1: the way back. We through archaeology, through through literature. We
Speaker 1: could trace that. Hey, you can't prove that the apostles
Speaker 1: are speaking truth. But you can prove that what the
Speaker 1: apostles said still is preserved today and we believe by
Speaker 1: faith that it is truth. Okay, but we could prove that, yes,
Speaker 1: what the apostle said has still been preserved. Besides, Jesus
Speaker 1: said that it would be This is a long this
Speaker 1: is a long answer. But welcome to the journey, brother,
Speaker 1: Welcome to the journey. Let's go to this next one
Speaker 1: subject line says random breakup. Hey, Grandere'd like to remain anonymous.
Speaker 1: My boyfriend of almost five months randomly broke up with
Speaker 1: me over FaceTime while we're doing long distance for a
Speaker 1: couple months over the summer. He was getting ready to
Speaker 1: come back in two weeks when he broke up with me.
Speaker 1: I don't understand why, because everything was so fine between
Speaker 1: us and then one day it wasn't. I feel like
Speaker 1: I was blindsided. I loved him so much and still do.
Speaker 1: He said he was going through some struggles and he
Speaker 1: should have told me about this stuff early on, and
Speaker 1: he needed time to become a better person, both mentally
Speaker 1: and spiritually. He was such a great example of what
Speaker 1: a true Christian guy should be like, and his family
Speaker 1: was the best. It's been two months since the breakup,
Speaker 1: and I'm still not over him. I'm scared that I
Speaker 1: won't find anyone better because I can imagine anyone better
Speaker 1: than him. We had the same morals, beliefs, and standards.
Speaker 1: He set my standard so high and it was exactly
Speaker 1: what I wanted. I don't know if I should move
Speaker 1: on or just wait things out. Okay, Anonymous, your boyfriend,
Speaker 1: let's walk through it, just from my own brain. Your
Speaker 1: boyfriend of five months randomly broke up with you over FaceTime.
Speaker 1: You were a long distance couple, and you're doing that
Speaker 1: over the summer. He's getting ready to come back. Okay,
Speaker 1: you're blindsided. You say you loved him so much. It's
Speaker 1: been two months. That was what I was looking for.
Speaker 1: It's been two months since the breakup, and you're still
Speaker 1: not over him. This is not hard, Anonymous. I'm sorry
Speaker 1: for your breakup, but this is not hard. Two months
Speaker 1: is not long enough, that's it. Five months is not
Speaker 1: long enough for you to be having these this crazy
Speaker 1: feeling yet. Okay, So so that's gonna make it easier.
Speaker 1: You're gonna realize soon that it was only five months.
Speaker 1: If it was five years, it would be different. I'm
Speaker 1: not downplaying your your loss. I'm not downplaying your pain.
Speaker 1: I'm just saying it's gonna help you, because that's gonna
Speaker 1: be make things a little easier. The cut is not
Speaker 1: as deep as you might think because it was only
Speaker 1: five months. But the problem with your email, the problem
Speaker 1: with your question is it's only been two months since
Speaker 1: the breakup. Two months is not long enough for you
Speaker 1: to be feeling better. It could be, but it's not.
Speaker 1: You loved him, You thought he was the one you
Speaker 1: were all in and he wasn't the guy. He dumped you.
Speaker 1: He blindsided you. He gave you some lame excuses that
Speaker 1: he needed to become a better person mentally and spiritually.
Speaker 1: It's a lie. It's a lie. It's a lie. He
Speaker 1: was sincere about it. I'm not saying he's a bad guy.
Speaker 1: I'm not saying that he was the wrong answer. He's
Speaker 1: just coming up with stuff it doesn't even make sense.
Speaker 1: He wants to be better mentally, in spiritually. And right
Speaker 1: after that, you say he was an example of a
Speaker 1: true Christian. I don't buy it. Hindsight's twenty twenty. He
Speaker 1: wasn't that he came up with a lame excuse to
Speaker 1: break up with you. I don't like that excuse. He
Speaker 1: probably found somebody, or he just realized he didn't love you.
Speaker 1: This podcast is just I'm never going to be the
Speaker 1: kind of guy on this podcast. It's gonna say, oh, sweetheart,
Speaker 1: I'm so sorry, you deserve better, or he probably loves
Speaker 1: you and you just need to be faithful and he'll
Speaker 1: come back. I'm not not me. I must say he
Speaker 1: didn't love you. He came up with the lame excuse.
Speaker 1: And it's only been two months. You'll get over him.
Speaker 1: It'll get better in the meantime. Block him on social media,
Speaker 1: block his number, block his email. I'm serious. It's not
Speaker 1: that you hate him, it's not that you're being rude.
Speaker 1: You just you got to protect your heart. Now his
Speaker 1: true colors have been shown once again. Not that he's
Speaker 1: a bad guy, but he's shown that he doesn't love you.
Speaker 1: Clearly he does not love you. He's confused, he might
Speaker 1: have found somebody else. So block him to protect yourself
Speaker 1: in case there's a rebound, in case this new girl
Speaker 1: he's with doesn't work out and he decides to come
Speaker 1: back to you. You have protected yourself because now his
Speaker 1: true colors have been revealed. If then he wants to
Speaker 1: truly find you. He will. He's going to find you
Speaker 1: in another way besides phone and Facebook. He will if
Speaker 1: it's right. But in the meantime, protect your heart. You
Speaker 1: need to let time go by. How long? I'm reading
Speaker 1: a book right now called how Long, Oh Lord? Reflections
Speaker 1: on suffering? But four months, five months, eight months, could
Speaker 1: be eight months. That means you got six more, could
Speaker 1: be next week. It's going to depend on how deep
Speaker 1: the wound is. But you will get better. You will
Speaker 1: get over him if you don't start the cycle over
Speaker 1: again by reaching out to him and having coffee, and
Speaker 1: then it starts you back at zero. Okay, it just
Speaker 1: hasn't been long enough. Let it go by. Love you guys,
Speaker 1: See you next Monday. Gee, thanks for joining me on
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