1 00:00:00,200 --> 00:00:01,960 Speaker 1: This doesn't surprise me. I should say it that way. 2 00:00:02,120 --> 00:00:06,480 Speaker 1: When I read this, I'm not surprised by a story 3 00:00:07,160 --> 00:00:20,480 Speaker 1: like yours in a fallen world in twenty twenty three, 4 00:00:21,360 --> 00:00:25,360 Speaker 1: what's up, everybody. Welcome to the Granger Smith Podcast, Episode 5 00:00:25,400 --> 00:00:27,680 Speaker 1: one hundred and eighty three. Thank you for being here. 6 00:00:28,320 --> 00:00:30,680 Speaker 1: The format of this podcast, if you're new to it, 7 00:00:30,720 --> 00:00:33,520 Speaker 1: is I answer your questions, and there's not a certain 8 00:00:33,560 --> 00:00:36,479 Speaker 1: subject I ask for. It could be about anything. Email 9 00:00:36,560 --> 00:00:39,919 Speaker 1: me Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com and I'll put 10 00:00:39,920 --> 00:00:42,520 Speaker 1: it in the queue. And I've got a lot to read. 11 00:00:43,280 --> 00:00:46,479 Speaker 1: I will never ever get to all of the questions, 12 00:00:46,479 --> 00:00:48,720 Speaker 1: but send it in. I'll put it in the queue 13 00:00:48,920 --> 00:00:52,159 Speaker 1: and we'll kind of flip through like a vending machine 14 00:00:52,159 --> 00:00:56,120 Speaker 1: and see what comes up. The first question here, subject 15 00:00:56,120 --> 00:01:01,160 Speaker 1: line says he doesn't want it like I do. Side 16 00:01:01,200 --> 00:01:04,080 Speaker 1: note here, I don't read these ahead of time. I'm 17 00:01:04,080 --> 00:01:07,680 Speaker 1: not prepared. I don't have notes. I'm going blind, completely blind. 18 00:01:07,680 --> 00:01:10,399 Speaker 1: There's nothing on this table but the phone I'm using 19 00:01:10,400 --> 00:01:13,120 Speaker 1: to read the emails themselves. They come straight from you. 20 00:01:14,240 --> 00:01:16,480 Speaker 1: Let's get started here, says Hey Granger. My name is 21 00:01:16,560 --> 00:01:19,520 Speaker 1: Kaylin Jones, Keelan Jones. Let's say it that way. K 22 00:01:19,760 --> 00:01:22,959 Speaker 1: e y Li and Keelan Jones. I'm seventeen from South 23 00:01:23,000 --> 00:01:27,000 Speaker 1: Carolina and my whole life, me and my dad have 24 00:01:27,080 --> 00:01:29,399 Speaker 1: not had the best relationship at all. My parents got 25 00:01:29,400 --> 00:01:31,920 Speaker 1: divorced when I was about eight years old, and at 26 00:01:31,920 --> 00:01:34,360 Speaker 1: first they stayed friends. Then he got married and all 27 00:01:34,400 --> 00:01:37,520 Speaker 1: of that changed. He changed. I ended up quitting baseball 28 00:01:37,560 --> 00:01:40,720 Speaker 1: because I realized we didn't have a relationship if it 29 00:01:40,760 --> 00:01:44,360 Speaker 1: wasn't through that, so I started working. But after about 30 00:01:44,360 --> 00:01:47,120 Speaker 1: a month of him being remarried, about six months of 31 00:01:47,160 --> 00:01:50,040 Speaker 1: him knowing her, he stood by and watched his new 32 00:01:50,080 --> 00:01:53,520 Speaker 1: wife disrespect his mother. Fast forward seven years and he 33 00:01:53,560 --> 00:01:56,080 Speaker 1: still hasn't said a word to them and talks about 34 00:01:56,120 --> 00:01:59,480 Speaker 1: about my mom any chance he got. The last time 35 00:01:59,480 --> 00:02:01,720 Speaker 1: I spoke to him, we got into it and he 36 00:02:01,840 --> 00:02:04,000 Speaker 1: told me to get out of my house and you're 37 00:02:04,040 --> 00:02:07,880 Speaker 1: fired from both your jobs. Then I wasn't welcomed back. 38 00:02:09,160 --> 00:02:12,680 Speaker 1: I post myself riding bulls, and he recently a few months, 39 00:02:12,800 --> 00:02:15,079 Speaker 1: after a few months of not even reaching out at all, 40 00:02:15,400 --> 00:02:18,760 Speaker 1: text me and says that I'm starting to get good. 41 00:02:18,880 --> 00:02:21,720 Speaker 1: I'm assuming at riding bulls, and he misses me. What 42 00:02:21,800 --> 00:02:26,000 Speaker 1: should I do? All right, Kielan, appreciate your emailing brother 43 00:02:26,120 --> 00:02:31,840 Speaker 1: and man seventeen years old. I'm so sorry that this 44 00:02:32,960 --> 00:02:38,040 Speaker 1: is your world and that this is your dad and 45 00:02:38,080 --> 00:02:42,240 Speaker 1: your relationship with your dad and your family. It just 46 00:02:42,520 --> 00:02:45,600 Speaker 1: it feels mixed up for you. I want to tell 47 00:02:45,639 --> 00:02:47,880 Speaker 1: you that you're not alone. A lot of people listening 48 00:02:48,760 --> 00:02:52,200 Speaker 1: are in a similar situation, similar kind of story. This 49 00:02:52,360 --> 00:02:55,959 Speaker 1: is not This doesn't surprise me. I should say it 50 00:02:56,000 --> 00:02:59,839 Speaker 1: that way. When I read this, I'm not surprised by 51 00:03:00,120 --> 00:03:03,840 Speaker 1: a story like yours in a fallen world in twenty 52 00:03:03,880 --> 00:03:08,280 Speaker 1: twenty three. Okay. That doesn't make it better, that doesn't 53 00:03:08,280 --> 00:03:12,560 Speaker 1: make it easier. It just simply allows you to know 54 00:03:12,720 --> 00:03:18,360 Speaker 1: that you're not abnormal, you're not different, you're not unlucky 55 00:03:19,480 --> 00:03:22,600 Speaker 1: at all. Okay, so what do you do? That's your question? 56 00:03:22,720 --> 00:03:26,680 Speaker 1: What do you do? You got this dad, and he 57 00:03:26,680 --> 00:03:29,800 Speaker 1: he left you. Looks like when you're eight years old, 58 00:03:30,360 --> 00:03:33,200 Speaker 1: your parents got divorced, he got remarried, and it's been 59 00:03:33,280 --> 00:03:36,760 Speaker 1: rocky ever since. It was a long time ago, right, 60 00:03:36,800 --> 00:03:42,480 Speaker 1: that was nine years ago, and you're trying to figure 61 00:03:42,480 --> 00:03:46,520 Speaker 1: out do you respond to him now because he's hurt 62 00:03:46,600 --> 00:03:50,440 Speaker 1: you and he's put you in awkward situations, he's disrespected 63 00:03:50,440 --> 00:03:54,839 Speaker 1: your family. Should you reach back out because he saw 64 00:03:54,880 --> 00:03:57,680 Speaker 1: you bull riding and said you're getting good and you 65 00:03:57,720 --> 00:04:00,160 Speaker 1: message it? Should you just ignore him? I think that's 66 00:04:00,200 --> 00:04:02,360 Speaker 1: part of your question, right, Should I just ignore dad? 67 00:04:03,800 --> 00:04:06,640 Speaker 1: He's brought so much pain to my family? Is this 68 00:04:06,680 --> 00:04:08,640 Speaker 1: a point when I'm seventeen right now to Is this 69 00:04:08,680 --> 00:04:11,760 Speaker 1: a point where I just gonna I'm gonna cut ties 70 00:04:11,800 --> 00:04:17,200 Speaker 1: with this? Would it surprised you if I said, no, 71 00:04:17,400 --> 00:04:24,480 Speaker 1: don't do that. It's hard. Being seventeen is hard enough. 72 00:04:27,839 --> 00:04:33,839 Speaker 1: Having a man's problem at seventeen is harder. And that's 73 00:04:33,839 --> 00:04:36,520 Speaker 1: what this is. Brother. You gotta you gotta see this 74 00:04:36,560 --> 00:04:40,200 Speaker 1: for what it is. This is an adult problem and 75 00:04:40,720 --> 00:04:43,719 Speaker 1: you're needing to deal with it. So how do you 76 00:04:43,800 --> 00:04:45,840 Speaker 1: do it? What would a man do in this kind 77 00:04:45,839 --> 00:04:49,960 Speaker 1: of situation? What would a man of integrity do in 78 00:04:49,960 --> 00:04:55,479 Speaker 1: this kind of situation? Those of that have that have 79 00:04:55,560 --> 00:04:58,600 Speaker 1: listened to this podcast for a long time, No, probably 80 00:04:59,040 --> 00:05:01,240 Speaker 1: you're starting to get to know a little bit. You know, 81 00:05:01,279 --> 00:05:03,400 Speaker 1: after one hundred and eighty three episodes, you could probably 82 00:05:03,400 --> 00:05:08,800 Speaker 1: recognize similar patterns in what I say. But the right 83 00:05:08,800 --> 00:05:13,120 Speaker 1: thing to do, and Keelan is forgive him I think 84 00:05:13,160 --> 00:05:15,159 Speaker 1: it was last episode I said you don't have to 85 00:05:15,400 --> 00:05:18,920 Speaker 1: maybe two. You don't have to trust him. There's a 86 00:05:18,920 --> 00:05:22,839 Speaker 1: difference between trust and forgiveness. But you gotta forgive him. 87 00:05:23,560 --> 00:05:27,840 Speaker 1: You gotta love him, even though you feel like you shouldn't, 88 00:05:28,680 --> 00:05:31,599 Speaker 1: even like you feel like you can't forgive him. You 89 00:05:31,720 --> 00:05:36,920 Speaker 1: just say, Dad, I miss you too, man. I appreciate 90 00:05:36,960 --> 00:05:40,920 Speaker 1: you reaching out. And that's first of all, that's gonna 91 00:05:40,960 --> 00:05:46,200 Speaker 1: surprise him to be like, wow, what And and you say, Dad, 92 00:05:46,240 --> 00:05:49,400 Speaker 1: can we talk? And you be honest with you? And 93 00:05:49,440 --> 00:05:52,599 Speaker 1: you say, Dad, I'm being honest with you here. I've 94 00:05:52,600 --> 00:05:56,040 Speaker 1: been upset the last few years. I haven't appreciated how 95 00:05:56,360 --> 00:05:59,400 Speaker 1: you treated the family. I haven't appreciated how you treated 96 00:05:59,560 --> 00:06:03,600 Speaker 1: your mum and my mom. It's been hard on me. 97 00:06:05,080 --> 00:06:06,960 Speaker 1: It's you know, I try to I try to have 98 00:06:07,040 --> 00:06:10,200 Speaker 1: this teenage life and and try to go through all 99 00:06:10,240 --> 00:06:13,919 Speaker 1: these trials, and it's tough without having the approval of 100 00:06:13,960 --> 00:06:18,960 Speaker 1: a dad. But this is Kilan, This is that part's easy. 101 00:06:19,000 --> 00:06:21,600 Speaker 1: Here's where you become a man. Here's the integrity part. 102 00:06:22,200 --> 00:06:27,040 Speaker 1: But Dad, but I haven't been that. I haven't been 103 00:06:27,040 --> 00:06:32,960 Speaker 1: the best either. I've said some things I regret I've 104 00:06:32,960 --> 00:06:37,560 Speaker 1: done some things I probably shouldn't. I've disrespected you, Dad, 105 00:06:37,600 --> 00:06:41,680 Speaker 1: in a way that I should be honoring to you. 106 00:06:41,800 --> 00:06:45,200 Speaker 1: Not because you've earned it or because you've done things 107 00:06:45,200 --> 00:06:48,839 Speaker 1: along my life that have earned that respect, but but 108 00:06:48,960 --> 00:06:53,599 Speaker 1: because you're my dad, because you're my elder, I need 109 00:06:53,640 --> 00:06:57,159 Speaker 1: to honor you. And I've failed at that, Dad, I've 110 00:06:57,320 --> 00:07:01,359 Speaker 1: failed in listening and unders standing your side of the 111 00:07:01,400 --> 00:07:05,919 Speaker 1: story I I I have. I've disrespected you and dishonored 112 00:07:05,960 --> 00:07:09,880 Speaker 1: you in many ways, and I want to know how 113 00:07:09,920 --> 00:07:12,320 Speaker 1: I could fix that with you. I want to know 114 00:07:12,800 --> 00:07:15,040 Speaker 1: how I could make this better and data. I know 115 00:07:15,120 --> 00:07:17,280 Speaker 1: things aren't going to be great, and I know we 116 00:07:17,360 --> 00:07:19,960 Speaker 1: both got to work on some things, but I'm not 117 00:07:20,040 --> 00:07:22,440 Speaker 1: I'm not worried about what you need to do for us. 118 00:07:22,840 --> 00:07:25,160 Speaker 1: I need you to tell me how you want me 119 00:07:25,240 --> 00:07:30,360 Speaker 1: to act towards you, now, Kiln. These are expressions of 120 00:07:30,400 --> 00:07:36,120 Speaker 1: the heart, These are expressions of humility and submission. And 121 00:07:36,120 --> 00:07:38,920 Speaker 1: and you're gonna come under his authority in this way. 122 00:07:39,800 --> 00:07:43,360 Speaker 1: But this this doesn't mean that you're gonna be weak. 123 00:07:44,000 --> 00:07:46,840 Speaker 1: It doesn't mean you're you're you're gonna have to trust 124 00:07:46,960 --> 00:07:49,840 Speaker 1: everything that this man says. You don't have to trust him. 125 00:07:50,120 --> 00:07:53,960 Speaker 1: You don't have to fulfill promises that he wants you 126 00:07:54,040 --> 00:07:56,760 Speaker 1: to make to him. This is this is just an 127 00:07:56,800 --> 00:08:02,200 Speaker 1: act of falling under uh a way to honor him 128 00:08:02,280 --> 00:08:06,680 Speaker 1: as your biological father. And if he says, son, I 129 00:08:07,200 --> 00:08:09,520 Speaker 1: need you to do this and this and this and this, 130 00:08:09,560 --> 00:08:12,080 Speaker 1: and he just comes after you with just ridiculous things, 131 00:08:13,520 --> 00:08:18,119 Speaker 1: you say, Wow, okay, that's a lot of stuff, Dad, 132 00:08:19,160 --> 00:08:21,520 Speaker 1: And I want to be able to honor you in 133 00:08:21,560 --> 00:08:24,880 Speaker 1: these ways, and so let's be let's be reasonable about 134 00:08:24,880 --> 00:08:27,320 Speaker 1: where I could start, because I want to start small. 135 00:08:27,360 --> 00:08:30,200 Speaker 1: But I want to do this right. Okay. So you 136 00:08:30,360 --> 00:08:32,600 Speaker 1: notice that there's no right or wrong answer to what 137 00:08:32,640 --> 00:08:36,360 Speaker 1: you say. Besides, your posture is just a posture of 138 00:08:36,440 --> 00:08:41,480 Speaker 1: forgiveness and love towards your dad. This is irrelevant to 139 00:08:41,559 --> 00:08:44,960 Speaker 1: how he responds to it. So he might say, I 140 00:08:45,000 --> 00:08:48,120 Speaker 1: forget you kid, you're a punk, you're a punk kid, 141 00:08:48,440 --> 00:08:50,439 Speaker 1: I've never liked you, blah blah blah blah blah blah. 142 00:08:50,440 --> 00:08:54,000 Speaker 1: You know, he could be as mean as possible, And 143 00:08:54,080 --> 00:08:59,199 Speaker 1: you go, Man, it hurts to hear you say that, Dad, 144 00:08:59,720 --> 00:09:01,360 Speaker 1: But I want to tell you that that still doesn't 145 00:09:01,400 --> 00:09:04,000 Speaker 1: make that doesn't change that I'm your son and you're 146 00:09:04,000 --> 00:09:09,920 Speaker 1: my dad, and I forgive you. It'd be very difficult 147 00:09:09,920 --> 00:09:11,640 Speaker 1: for him to continue on in the path if you 148 00:09:11,760 --> 00:09:14,760 Speaker 1: keep that up. It would be very difficult for him 149 00:09:14,800 --> 00:09:16,560 Speaker 1: to be upset with you if you keep that up. 150 00:09:16,600 --> 00:09:21,600 Speaker 1: You hear what I'm saying, Yes, sir Kieling, It's not easy, man. 151 00:09:21,640 --> 00:09:25,120 Speaker 1: I'm sorry you're in this kind of situation. But fighting him, 152 00:09:25,440 --> 00:09:31,760 Speaker 1: ignoring him, regretting him, wishing he wasn't your father, hating him, 153 00:09:31,840 --> 00:09:35,360 Speaker 1: envying him, being jealous of it, whatever, is not the 154 00:09:35,440 --> 00:09:39,960 Speaker 1: right way You could try those things. It will only 155 00:09:40,160 --> 00:09:42,800 Speaker 1: end up back in my inbox again, I promise you. 156 00:09:45,720 --> 00:09:47,720 Speaker 1: All right, Come on, guys, let's get a good one here, 157 00:09:48,880 --> 00:09:51,559 Speaker 1: just like we're riding in the truck. How about this one? 158 00:09:53,240 --> 00:09:56,640 Speaker 1: Subdecline says, please please help me. Hey, Grandrid like to 159 00:09:56,640 --> 00:09:59,240 Speaker 1: stay anonymous. I'm twenty four years old. I'm a woman 160 00:09:59,280 --> 00:10:01,960 Speaker 1: who's been single for three years waiting for a godly man. 161 00:10:02,240 --> 00:10:04,800 Speaker 1: I feel like I could marry. I believe I found him, 162 00:10:05,520 --> 00:10:09,080 Speaker 1: and we have talked about marriage. We align on everything 163 00:10:09,120 --> 00:10:13,720 Speaker 1: except one thing, drinking alcohol. He doesn't drink and I 164 00:10:13,800 --> 00:10:17,640 Speaker 1: do occasionally. I've asked if we can compromise and I 165 00:10:17,679 --> 00:10:20,800 Speaker 1: could drink but not ever get drunk. This feels borderline 166 00:10:20,840 --> 00:10:24,360 Speaker 1: toxic and controlling to me. The bottom line is alcoholism 167 00:10:24,440 --> 00:10:27,120 Speaker 1: runs in my family, and he fears I might prey 168 00:10:27,160 --> 00:10:29,560 Speaker 1: on him like that in the feure. Okay, I'm gonna 169 00:10:29,559 --> 00:10:31,200 Speaker 1: stop right there. I'm not even gonna read the arrest 170 00:10:31,200 --> 00:10:41,880 Speaker 1: of the email. Okay, alcoholism runs in your family. You're 171 00:10:42,760 --> 00:10:46,280 Speaker 1: the man that you love hopes that you don't drink. 172 00:10:47,520 --> 00:10:53,959 Speaker 1: Don't drink, don't drink. I'm not there's no need to 173 00:10:54,000 --> 00:10:56,559 Speaker 1: read the the rest of the email. And I could 174 00:10:56,559 --> 00:11:02,360 Speaker 1: talk about this for fifteen minutes. Don't drink. It's hereditary 175 00:11:02,400 --> 00:11:04,720 Speaker 1: for you. The man that you love, that you want 176 00:11:04,760 --> 00:11:07,920 Speaker 1: to marry, that's his hang up. Can you sacrifice that 177 00:11:07,960 --> 00:11:10,560 Speaker 1: to him? Can you give him that? Can you say yeah, 178 00:11:11,400 --> 00:11:14,719 Speaker 1: if you are that serious about it, and you're right 179 00:11:14,760 --> 00:11:17,719 Speaker 1: it runs in my family, then yeah, you are worth it. 180 00:11:18,160 --> 00:11:29,040 Speaker 1: You're worth it. Don't drink. Next question, subject line says 181 00:11:30,679 --> 00:11:33,040 Speaker 1: how do I move on from him? Hey, Grande, I'm 182 00:11:33,040 --> 00:11:35,200 Speaker 1: eighteen years old. I'm a young man from a small 183 00:11:35,240 --> 00:11:38,360 Speaker 1: town in Colorado. I work sixty hours a week. I'm 184 00:11:38,400 --> 00:11:41,360 Speaker 1: a part time student attending an online college taking a 185 00:11:41,400 --> 00:11:45,120 Speaker 1: business class in entrepreneurship. Church is still somewhat new to me, 186 00:11:45,760 --> 00:11:48,880 Speaker 1: along with living a spiritual life. My parents divorced for 187 00:11:48,920 --> 00:11:52,440 Speaker 1: twelve years. Family is not religious at all, which could 188 00:11:52,440 --> 00:11:56,600 Speaker 1: be one of the many struggles of mine. Recently, I've 189 00:11:56,600 --> 00:12:00,760 Speaker 1: put all the focus on myself and pushed myself to 190 00:12:00,880 --> 00:12:04,200 Speaker 1: achieve the many dreams I have in life. This has 191 00:12:04,280 --> 00:12:07,600 Speaker 1: led me to losing good friends. However, my dad, a 192 00:12:07,679 --> 00:12:12,040 Speaker 1: lifelong alcoholic, has quite the opposite mindset from me. My 193 00:12:12,200 --> 00:12:15,880 Speaker 1: dad blacks out each night from drinking and still has 194 00:12:15,880 --> 00:12:19,160 Speaker 1: not learned his lesson from the numerous DUIs in jail time. 195 00:12:19,679 --> 00:12:22,960 Speaker 1: He often tries to bring me down and shut my 196 00:12:23,200 --> 00:12:27,040 Speaker 1: dreams of being the owner of my own business. I 197 00:12:27,080 --> 00:12:30,400 Speaker 1: struggle to keep my head up in this environment. I 198 00:12:30,480 --> 00:12:35,760 Speaker 1: call home and him always disrespecting me. And then in 199 00:12:35,920 --> 00:12:41,000 Speaker 1: caps are in bold letters. You then typed I want 200 00:12:41,000 --> 00:12:44,359 Speaker 1: to earn his respect, but it may not be possible. 201 00:12:44,720 --> 00:12:47,960 Speaker 1: How should I keep the focus on myself instead of 202 00:12:48,040 --> 00:12:55,760 Speaker 1: his negativity? Okay, this letter comes from Tristan. I'm gonna 203 00:12:55,760 --> 00:13:02,160 Speaker 1: recap for myself since this is new to me. You're eighteen, Colorado, Tristan, 204 00:13:03,880 --> 00:13:08,920 Speaker 1: you are a very diligent worker and an online college student. 205 00:13:10,120 --> 00:13:13,840 Speaker 1: You got an alcoholic dad who has just tore you 206 00:13:13,960 --> 00:13:17,760 Speaker 1: down mentally, and you just want to earn his respect, 207 00:13:18,240 --> 00:13:20,680 Speaker 1: and you feel like you can't move on until you 208 00:13:20,679 --> 00:13:24,600 Speaker 1: get your father's respect. This is a natural psychologic thing, right. 209 00:13:27,200 --> 00:13:30,320 Speaker 1: You have deep wounds from your parents being divorced. I 210 00:13:30,320 --> 00:13:33,760 Speaker 1: got I'm not I'm not a therapist here. I'm just 211 00:13:33,920 --> 00:13:36,440 Speaker 1: reading like a friend. Brother, reading like a friend here. 212 00:13:42,120 --> 00:13:43,640 Speaker 1: Let me read the part about churching and you said 213 00:13:43,760 --> 00:13:48,160 Speaker 1: church is still somewhat new to me along with living 214 00:13:48,240 --> 00:13:53,840 Speaker 1: a spiritual life. I'm not into any of that stuff, Tristan. 215 00:13:54,520 --> 00:13:58,000 Speaker 1: I'm not into living a spiritual life. I'm not into 216 00:13:58,120 --> 00:14:01,760 Speaker 1: checking out church. That's not for me. I think if 217 00:14:01,800 --> 00:14:04,640 Speaker 1: you're going to be if you're going to try to 218 00:14:04,679 --> 00:14:07,680 Speaker 1: live a spiritual life or try to check out church 219 00:14:07,720 --> 00:14:10,640 Speaker 1: and stuff, I think there's better things you could do 220 00:14:10,679 --> 00:14:14,600 Speaker 1: on a Sunday. I think like watching the Dallas Cowboys 221 00:14:14,600 --> 00:14:18,680 Speaker 1: play the Broncos on a Sunday is a better use 222 00:14:18,720 --> 00:14:25,640 Speaker 1: of your time than checking out a spiritual life. That's 223 00:14:25,680 --> 00:14:34,800 Speaker 1: my opinion. But if you want to know your creator, 224 00:14:36,320 --> 00:14:40,040 Speaker 1: if you want to know the God of the universe, 225 00:14:41,960 --> 00:14:48,120 Speaker 1: that demands that you respond to his son, whom he 226 00:14:48,360 --> 00:14:54,600 Speaker 1: sent on to this earth, who suffered, died on the cross, 227 00:14:55,200 --> 00:15:02,160 Speaker 1: became a substitution for your sins in a way that 228 00:15:02,200 --> 00:15:05,200 Speaker 1: you could never repay, and a death that you could 229 00:15:05,240 --> 00:15:12,240 Speaker 1: never owe in a sentence, a judgment that only means 230 00:15:12,280 --> 00:15:15,240 Speaker 1: death for you, with no way out and no form 231 00:15:15,280 --> 00:15:19,680 Speaker 1: of bail. If you want to know him as he 232 00:15:19,800 --> 00:15:23,120 Speaker 1: was resurrected from this death and a substitution for your sin. 233 00:15:24,880 --> 00:15:29,640 Speaker 1: And he says repent, which means turn away from your 234 00:15:29,680 --> 00:15:33,480 Speaker 1: old life, shed yourself, deny yourself, all this stuff that 235 00:15:33,520 --> 00:15:36,680 Speaker 1: you have written about me. Me, me, I'm trying to 236 00:15:36,680 --> 00:15:41,800 Speaker 1: focus on myself, pushing myself. I want to respect myself. 237 00:15:43,520 --> 00:15:45,000 Speaker 1: I want to focus And you said it again in 238 00:15:45,040 --> 00:15:47,000 Speaker 1: the last I want to focus on myself. If you 239 00:15:47,000 --> 00:15:50,600 Speaker 1: want to shed yourself and deny yourself and repent and 240 00:15:50,640 --> 00:15:53,920 Speaker 1: turn to Christ, to your King, to the one that 241 00:15:54,000 --> 00:15:58,160 Speaker 1: died for you, and believe that he died for you, 242 00:15:59,360 --> 00:16:03,520 Speaker 1: if that's if that's something that sparks something deep within you, 243 00:16:05,120 --> 00:16:07,640 Speaker 1: then there is no spiritual life, there is no checking 244 00:16:07,640 --> 00:16:13,840 Speaker 1: out church. It's then it becomes your family, it becomes 245 00:16:14,200 --> 00:16:16,840 Speaker 1: your life. You no longer live for yourself. You no 246 00:16:16,920 --> 00:16:20,400 Speaker 1: longer work for yourself, You no longer need respect from 247 00:16:20,440 --> 00:16:24,920 Speaker 1: yourself or from your alcoholic father, or you know, no 248 00:16:24,960 --> 00:16:29,640 Speaker 1: longer need to earn any kind of big feelings and 249 00:16:29,880 --> 00:16:36,720 Speaker 1: respectful emotions for yourself. You die to yourself and you 250 00:16:36,800 --> 00:16:41,400 Speaker 1: turn to Christ. If that sparks your interest, that's what 251 00:16:41,440 --> 00:16:44,760 Speaker 1: I'm talking about. Oh, by the way, and he says, 252 00:16:44,760 --> 00:16:49,440 Speaker 1: if you don't, you will die in your sins. That's it. 253 00:16:49,480 --> 00:16:53,480 Speaker 1: There isn't another way. He says, I am the way. 254 00:16:54,640 --> 00:16:56,920 Speaker 1: He says. No one comes to the Father but by me, 255 00:16:57,760 --> 00:16:59,840 Speaker 1: And no one comes to the Father unless you die 256 00:16:59,840 --> 00:17:04,360 Speaker 1: to yourself and turn to him and follow him. That's 257 00:17:04,359 --> 00:17:07,679 Speaker 1: what he says. That's what the Bible says. And the 258 00:17:07,680 --> 00:17:11,280 Speaker 1: Bible's trustworthy. It's twenty twenty three. We could trust the Bible. 259 00:17:12,920 --> 00:17:14,520 Speaker 1: So if you want, if you want to dabble in 260 00:17:14,600 --> 00:17:18,120 Speaker 1: a spiritual life, I mean, I ain't gonna work. You'd 261 00:17:18,119 --> 00:17:20,520 Speaker 1: be better off watching the Dallas Cowboys and the Denver 262 00:17:20,560 --> 00:17:25,159 Speaker 1: Broncos and sitting on the couch eating popcorn. You'd have 263 00:17:25,160 --> 00:17:29,520 Speaker 1: a better life doing that. But it's going to be 264 00:17:30,359 --> 00:17:36,160 Speaker 1: the best life now because the next one ain't. Maybe 265 00:17:36,240 --> 00:17:40,120 Speaker 1: this email caught me at the wrong time. Tristan, hear 266 00:17:40,200 --> 00:17:43,840 Speaker 1: my call, brother, repent and believe in your king. He 267 00:17:43,960 --> 00:17:47,119 Speaker 1: is victorious. He sits on the throne right now, and 268 00:17:47,160 --> 00:17:51,720 Speaker 1: he demands that everyone turned from their sins, deny themselves, 269 00:17:51,760 --> 00:17:56,639 Speaker 1: stop thinking about yourself, stop earning things for yourself, stop it, 270 00:17:57,440 --> 00:18:00,520 Speaker 1: and say God, I surrender to you, my creator. You're 271 00:18:00,520 --> 00:18:05,760 Speaker 1: in control your sovereign. I trust you, and you'll be saved. 272 00:18:07,920 --> 00:18:13,879 Speaker 1: Let's take a break be read back. Thanks for listening 273 00:18:13,920 --> 00:18:16,640 Speaker 1: to the podcast, y'all. If you ever want a message 274 00:18:16,680 --> 00:18:19,800 Speaker 1: from me, a personal message from me on a video 275 00:18:20,359 --> 00:18:22,959 Speaker 1: sent to your phone saying whatever you want me to 276 00:18:23,040 --> 00:18:25,760 Speaker 1: say to whoever you want me to say it too, 277 00:18:26,760 --> 00:18:28,840 Speaker 1: then you need to go to cameo dot com slash 278 00:18:28,840 --> 00:18:31,840 Speaker 1: Granger Smith or download the cameo app and search for 279 00:18:31,880 --> 00:18:34,919 Speaker 1: me Granger Smith, and I will make that very video 280 00:18:35,000 --> 00:18:37,120 Speaker 1: for you. 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Back to the podcast. 291 00:19:10,680 --> 00:19:12,760 Speaker 1: All right, back to the podcast. I am recording this 292 00:19:12,920 --> 00:19:16,240 Speaker 1: pre recording this at night, and I'm kind of realizing 293 00:19:16,359 --> 00:19:19,440 Speaker 1: as I took that break that my answers at night, 294 00:19:20,000 --> 00:19:23,440 Speaker 1: late at night are probably gonna be different than earlier 295 00:19:23,480 --> 00:19:25,560 Speaker 1: in the morning. With a cup of coffee, I might 296 00:19:25,600 --> 00:19:28,720 Speaker 1: be a little sweeter, a little chippier, little a little brighter, 297 00:19:28,840 --> 00:19:31,520 Speaker 1: a little quicker in the morning with some coffee, and 298 00:19:31,560 --> 00:19:34,320 Speaker 1: then I might be a little a little less patient 299 00:19:35,280 --> 00:19:39,120 Speaker 1: on my nighttime recorded podcast. So episode one three, let 300 00:19:39,119 --> 00:19:42,040 Speaker 1: it be known this is nighttime. I might cut you 301 00:19:42,080 --> 00:19:45,280 Speaker 1: off in the middle of a question like I've done 302 00:19:45,320 --> 00:19:51,880 Speaker 1: already once. Oh, I'm sorry. Both sides of me are true. 303 00:19:51,920 --> 00:19:55,280 Speaker 1: This side is real. The morning the morning version of 304 00:19:55,320 --> 00:19:57,520 Speaker 1: me is real, and the evening version is real. You're 305 00:19:57,560 --> 00:20:00,560 Speaker 1: just gonna get a different part of the spectrum. Okay, 306 00:20:02,000 --> 00:20:08,080 Speaker 1: next question here, subject line is Bible. Hey, Granger recently 307 00:20:08,080 --> 00:20:10,560 Speaker 1: started listening to your podcast and I'm hooked. I love 308 00:20:10,600 --> 00:20:12,880 Speaker 1: how you're so open about religion and how God has 309 00:20:12,920 --> 00:20:14,920 Speaker 1: helped you and your family and so much in life. 310 00:20:15,040 --> 00:20:18,120 Speaker 1: My question is, as someone who's never really read the Bible, 311 00:20:18,560 --> 00:20:21,480 Speaker 1: maybe just skimmed through, what version would you recommend for 312 00:20:21,520 --> 00:20:25,000 Speaker 1: the first time reader? Thank you. Great question comes from 313 00:20:25,080 --> 00:20:29,360 Speaker 1: Nicholas and man Man, what an awesome question. And I'm 314 00:20:29,520 --> 00:20:34,919 Speaker 1: happy to walk you through this because I once I 315 00:20:34,920 --> 00:20:38,919 Speaker 1: would see everybody, everybody at one point was new to 316 00:20:38,960 --> 00:20:43,359 Speaker 1: the Bible at some point in their life, and most 317 00:20:43,400 --> 00:20:47,040 Speaker 1: likely the very beginning of everyone's journey. They were a skimmer. 318 00:20:47,119 --> 00:20:50,040 Speaker 1: They just skimmed through it. You kind of look at 319 00:20:50,080 --> 00:20:53,960 Speaker 1: it like a dictionary or an encyclopedia or like the 320 00:20:54,600 --> 00:20:58,320 Speaker 1: Sourus or something. You just you go, well, I mean, 321 00:20:58,359 --> 00:21:00,720 Speaker 1: surely it doesn't start at the beginning, and so I'll 322 00:21:00,760 --> 00:21:02,480 Speaker 1: just kind of skim through. I know people like have 323 00:21:02,680 --> 00:21:06,280 Speaker 1: verses written on their t shirts and coffee mugs and 324 00:21:06,680 --> 00:21:10,480 Speaker 1: picture frames, and so maybe that's just what you do, 325 00:21:10,560 --> 00:21:12,720 Speaker 1: is you kind of flip through and you look for 326 00:21:12,800 --> 00:21:16,120 Speaker 1: a subject that you might want to be dealing with here, 327 00:21:16,160 --> 00:21:18,320 Speaker 1: and you need an answer from and you just find 328 00:21:18,320 --> 00:21:22,520 Speaker 1: it that way, that maybe how it starts for you, 329 00:21:24,800 --> 00:21:27,840 Speaker 1: but that's not how it's going to end. The Bible 330 00:21:27,920 --> 00:21:35,320 Speaker 1: is meant to be taken in context, meaning there is 331 00:21:35,359 --> 00:21:38,720 Speaker 1: a storyline that starts at the beginning and goes all 332 00:21:38,760 --> 00:21:42,439 Speaker 1: the way to the end. And this is a thread 333 00:21:43,080 --> 00:21:47,400 Speaker 1: and the redemption story of a people and a God 334 00:21:47,960 --> 00:21:50,959 Speaker 1: that redeemed his people even when they were not worthy 335 00:21:51,000 --> 00:21:56,200 Speaker 1: of it. It's essentially a love story. It's the story 336 00:21:56,240 --> 00:21:59,960 Speaker 1: of a God. They're created a people and the peace. 337 00:22:00,000 --> 00:22:04,840 Speaker 1: People rebelled and God gave them a law and they 338 00:22:04,920 --> 00:22:08,520 Speaker 1: rejected it. And he gave them people, which we call prophets, 339 00:22:08,520 --> 00:22:11,560 Speaker 1: to come and tell them the law to reinforce it. 340 00:22:12,040 --> 00:22:14,920 Speaker 1: And they killed the prophets. And he sent his son, 341 00:22:17,480 --> 00:22:21,679 Speaker 1: the most valuable resource on the planet, to redeem this people, 342 00:22:22,119 --> 00:22:24,439 Speaker 1: to gather them. He lived a perfect life, and he 343 00:22:24,520 --> 00:22:27,480 Speaker 1: was killed by the people, just like they killed the prophets. 344 00:22:28,000 --> 00:22:31,600 Speaker 1: They rebelled from the beginning, and we still rebel today. 345 00:22:32,000 --> 00:22:36,040 Speaker 1: But in his death he resurrected, being the first one 346 00:22:36,680 --> 00:22:41,960 Speaker 1: to achieve victory over death. The son of God, the 347 00:22:42,080 --> 00:22:47,040 Speaker 1: son of Man, the son of David, Jesus resurrected on 348 00:22:47,080 --> 00:22:54,520 Speaker 1: the third Day, and through that sacrifice redeemed the people 349 00:22:55,400 --> 00:22:59,760 Speaker 1: gathered him as a hen gathers her chicks, and saved 350 00:22:59,800 --> 00:23:03,200 Speaker 1: them even when they're not worthy of it. Not all 351 00:23:03,240 --> 00:23:06,959 Speaker 1: of them, the ones that turn to him in repentance 352 00:23:07,240 --> 00:23:13,000 Speaker 1: and belief through faith, he saves them by grace through faith. 353 00:23:14,240 --> 00:23:16,960 Speaker 1: That's the story from beginning to end. And it's just 354 00:23:18,080 --> 00:23:27,920 Speaker 1: woven the most beautiful literary stories, woven together for thousands 355 00:23:28,000 --> 00:23:32,600 Speaker 1: of years, forty different authors, fifteen hundred years, sixty six 356 00:23:32,640 --> 00:23:37,960 Speaker 1: books written by eyewitnesses, and the presence of other eyewitnesses, 357 00:23:38,880 --> 00:23:44,879 Speaker 1: redeeming and fulfilling prophecies for thousands of years. It's the 358 00:23:44,920 --> 00:23:48,440 Speaker 1: most widely read and the most widely sold book of 359 00:23:48,480 --> 00:23:52,040 Speaker 1: all time. It is the book of all books. There 360 00:23:52,080 --> 00:23:55,040 Speaker 1: is nothing ever that has ever come close to it. 361 00:23:56,440 --> 00:23:59,800 Speaker 1: And we now have evidence through archaeological digs over twenty 362 00:23:59,840 --> 00:24:04,359 Speaker 1: five five thousand fragments of the original Bibles, pieces of 363 00:24:04,400 --> 00:24:09,920 Speaker 1: these scriptures of different books. It's that's the loose story. 364 00:24:09,960 --> 00:24:12,800 Speaker 1: It's it's unbelievable. But that's not none of that is 365 00:24:12,800 --> 00:24:17,240 Speaker 1: what you asked. You asked, what version would you recommend 366 00:24:17,240 --> 00:24:19,600 Speaker 1: the first time readers. That's a great question. It's a 367 00:24:19,720 --> 00:24:23,879 Speaker 1: legitimate question. So I told you that there's these we 368 00:24:24,000 --> 00:24:27,959 Speaker 1: have miles mile high, if you stacked them on top 369 00:24:28,000 --> 00:24:33,840 Speaker 1: of each other, mile high manuscripts that we have dug up, 370 00:24:34,000 --> 00:24:38,080 Speaker 1: we've found and we've put together, so we The Bible 371 00:24:38,160 --> 00:24:43,120 Speaker 1: is primarily in Greek, Hebrew and Aramaic. So through those 372 00:24:43,160 --> 00:24:45,639 Speaker 1: three languages, a lot of them were translated to Latin, 373 00:24:45,760 --> 00:24:48,520 Speaker 1: and then from Latin to or like from the Hebrew 374 00:24:48,560 --> 00:24:50,840 Speaker 1: to Latin, from the Greek to Latin, sometimes from the 375 00:24:50,840 --> 00:24:55,720 Speaker 1: Hebrew to Greek, and and so we've usually taken that 376 00:24:55,800 --> 00:24:58,480 Speaker 1: Latin and then some people have made into English. We 377 00:24:58,520 --> 00:25:03,159 Speaker 1: don't do that anymore. The modern translations now go straight 378 00:25:03,160 --> 00:25:05,640 Speaker 1: back to the Greek or straight back to the Hebrew. 379 00:25:06,359 --> 00:25:10,159 Speaker 1: So there is no middleman. There's no maybe this translation 380 00:25:10,320 --> 00:25:11,960 Speaker 1: moved into this one to this one, to this one 381 00:25:12,000 --> 00:25:13,439 Speaker 1: to this one, and then it was like in this 382 00:25:13,480 --> 00:25:15,920 Speaker 1: game of telephone, where eventually it just is like a 383 00:25:16,000 --> 00:25:19,080 Speaker 1: muddled version of what might have happened. No, now we 384 00:25:19,119 --> 00:25:21,800 Speaker 1: go straight back to all the way to the Greek. 385 00:25:21,800 --> 00:25:24,000 Speaker 1: And they were doing this since the King James. But 386 00:25:24,160 --> 00:25:26,920 Speaker 1: you go all the way back to the original manuscripts 387 00:25:28,359 --> 00:25:32,000 Speaker 1: first century, second century, third century and they all line up, 388 00:25:32,040 --> 00:25:34,360 Speaker 1: they all match, and if it didn't, then you could 389 00:25:34,400 --> 00:25:36,679 Speaker 1: easily find a new manuscript and go, look that part 390 00:25:36,760 --> 00:25:39,800 Speaker 1: that's different. So we need to reconcile. This part is 391 00:25:39,800 --> 00:25:43,920 Speaker 1: different right here. I love this stuff. You don't need 392 00:25:43,960 --> 00:25:46,600 Speaker 1: this for your faith, you don't need to believe it 393 00:25:46,680 --> 00:25:49,399 Speaker 1: in this way. But I just like the history of 394 00:25:49,400 --> 00:25:52,679 Speaker 1: the Bible. I just genuinely enjoy this kind of stuff. 395 00:25:53,160 --> 00:25:59,760 Speaker 1: And so my point is the ESV, the CSV, n IV, 396 00:26:00,560 --> 00:26:06,240 Speaker 1: the NASB, the King James. There's there was many many 397 00:26:06,280 --> 00:26:11,240 Speaker 1: different versions. I say many many. There there's seven eight 398 00:26:11,320 --> 00:26:18,160 Speaker 1: nine great versions. And usually on every version you could 399 00:26:18,280 --> 00:26:20,639 Speaker 1: you could do a you could do a Wikipedia search 400 00:26:20,680 --> 00:26:23,600 Speaker 1: on this. Honestly, you could find a version like the 401 00:26:23,720 --> 00:26:26,560 Speaker 1: n i V. Start there. They take the n IV. 402 00:26:26,640 --> 00:26:29,840 Speaker 1: I read the ESV, my for my morning read. I 403 00:26:29,880 --> 00:26:33,240 Speaker 1: read the CSB. So find one like the n IV 404 00:26:33,440 --> 00:26:36,600 Speaker 1: and wiki it right and you could see that it's 405 00:26:36,600 --> 00:26:40,720 Speaker 1: written by a committee of scholars one hundred or so. 406 00:26:41,280 --> 00:26:44,280 Speaker 1: And they come together and they study. They study the Greek, 407 00:26:44,640 --> 00:26:50,679 Speaker 1: they study how it was originally translated from Greek to Latin. 408 00:26:50,760 --> 00:26:52,720 Speaker 1: They see if that was okay, then then they see 409 00:26:52,960 --> 00:26:55,080 Speaker 1: how did the Latin, go into English, and then they 410 00:26:55,080 --> 00:26:57,840 Speaker 1: test what they read from the Greek, and then what 411 00:26:57,880 --> 00:27:00,439 Speaker 1: they read from the Hebrew, and they go to the 412 00:27:00,480 --> 00:27:03,760 Speaker 1: Geneva Bible and they look at the Old KJV, and 413 00:27:03,880 --> 00:27:07,800 Speaker 1: so they're cross referencing. I mean, this stuff is accurate. 414 00:27:08,800 --> 00:27:12,280 Speaker 1: You can't go wrong, and you're gonna see different words. 415 00:27:12,359 --> 00:27:15,760 Speaker 1: Some versions are word by word, some versions are thought 416 00:27:15,880 --> 00:27:17,800 Speaker 1: by thought. You could see all this probably in the 417 00:27:17,800 --> 00:27:22,119 Speaker 1: Wikipedia version, and then you could read it, and no 418 00:27:22,440 --> 00:27:26,680 Speaker 1: truths throughout these different translations are lost. It's the same thing, 419 00:27:27,760 --> 00:27:31,119 Speaker 1: it's a different way of saying the same thing. And 420 00:27:31,200 --> 00:27:35,920 Speaker 1: so what I usually recommend for this question is to 421 00:27:36,119 --> 00:27:44,879 Speaker 1: several I use an app called Lagos Lgos, and my 422 00:27:45,000 --> 00:27:47,840 Speaker 1: devotional reading in the morning, I'm reading a plan called 423 00:27:47,840 --> 00:27:51,800 Speaker 1: the Mixshame Plan. So that gets me through four chapters 424 00:27:52,000 --> 00:27:55,960 Speaker 1: every morning. It gets me through the whole Bible, excuse me, 425 00:27:56,000 --> 00:27:58,600 Speaker 1: the Old Testament once, the New Testament twice, and the 426 00:27:58,600 --> 00:28:01,400 Speaker 1: Psalms twice in a year. So as I'm reading that, 427 00:28:01,520 --> 00:28:05,280 Speaker 1: I switch translations, and if I'm ever studying a part, 428 00:28:05,520 --> 00:28:09,439 Speaker 1: especially if I'm studying apart a section of Perickapee of 429 00:28:09,480 --> 00:28:13,800 Speaker 1: the Bible of the Gospel. Then else I could quickly 430 00:28:14,160 --> 00:28:17,000 Speaker 1: swipe on logos back and forth to different translations. So 431 00:28:17,040 --> 00:28:21,280 Speaker 1: it's like, oh, the ESV said that, come to me, 432 00:28:21,800 --> 00:28:26,520 Speaker 1: all you who are weary and heavy laden. I think 433 00:28:26,520 --> 00:28:28,760 Speaker 1: it's the ESV, come to me, all you who are 434 00:28:28,760 --> 00:28:31,800 Speaker 1: weary and heavy ladened. And then you go to the 435 00:28:31,840 --> 00:28:34,360 Speaker 1: NIV and it says, come to me all you who 436 00:28:34,359 --> 00:28:39,720 Speaker 1: are weary and burdened. It's like, oh, cool, weary and 437 00:28:39,760 --> 00:28:46,600 Speaker 1: heavy ladened versus weary and burdened. And then you can go, 438 00:28:46,640 --> 00:28:49,640 Speaker 1: what does the KJV say? It's so interesting. So then 439 00:28:49,680 --> 00:28:51,000 Speaker 1: you just swipe back and forth and you can go 440 00:28:51,000 --> 00:28:53,160 Speaker 1: to these different versions and never will you find a 441 00:28:53,240 --> 00:28:57,880 Speaker 1: spot ever when a main, major truth is lost in 442 00:28:58,000 --> 00:29:01,560 Speaker 1: that kind of different translation. Okay, so that's how you'll 443 00:29:01,600 --> 00:29:05,160 Speaker 1: build your own trust. There's there's gonna be people that go, 444 00:29:05,240 --> 00:29:07,800 Speaker 1: no way, man, the KJV. This only way, King James, 445 00:29:07,920 --> 00:29:10,760 Speaker 1: is the only way. Well my argument to that is, 446 00:29:11,680 --> 00:29:15,440 Speaker 1: I don't speak Old English, do you? I don't, So 447 00:29:15,520 --> 00:29:18,800 Speaker 1: I appreciate the KJV. I read the ees V because 448 00:29:18,800 --> 00:29:22,360 Speaker 1: it's the same as the KJV, the same without the 449 00:29:22,960 --> 00:29:30,920 Speaker 1: these and thousand ye's and those whatever, and if ever 450 00:29:30,960 --> 00:29:33,920 Speaker 1: in doubt. You just swipe back. Do you get my point? 451 00:29:34,720 --> 00:29:37,840 Speaker 1: There's not a there's not a right translation. Now, there's 452 00:29:37,840 --> 00:29:43,320 Speaker 1: a lot of religions like Jeovah's Witnesses, Jesus Christ, Latter 453 00:29:43,400 --> 00:29:46,440 Speaker 1: day Saints, Church of Jesus Christ. They always make me 454 00:29:46,480 --> 00:29:48,200 Speaker 1: want to say the whole thing, Church of Jesus Christ, 455 00:29:48,240 --> 00:29:52,680 Speaker 1: the latter to say, they're gonna say no, like the 456 00:29:53,120 --> 00:29:55,840 Speaker 1: Jeovah's Witnesses are gonna say no, it's the New World 457 00:29:55,880 --> 00:30:03,200 Speaker 1: translation translated by one man and the nineteenth century. The 458 00:30:03,240 --> 00:30:07,880 Speaker 1: Mormons are gonna say no, only kjav is the best translation, 459 00:30:07,960 --> 00:30:09,800 Speaker 1: because they say, we believe the Bible as long as 460 00:30:09,800 --> 00:30:13,440 Speaker 1: it's translated correctly. But it's not all correct, and so 461 00:30:13,480 --> 00:30:15,280 Speaker 1: then they're gonna think that there's a lot there's still 462 00:30:15,320 --> 00:30:17,600 Speaker 1: truths that are lost in there. It's twenty twenty three. 463 00:30:18,040 --> 00:30:22,720 Speaker 1: That's totally debunked. We've completely debunked that is that argument 464 00:30:22,800 --> 00:30:25,880 Speaker 1: is over. It's a nineteenth century argument. We know that 465 00:30:25,960 --> 00:30:29,320 Speaker 1: truths are not lost. We could trace ancient writings all 466 00:30:29,360 --> 00:30:33,000 Speaker 1: the way back. We through archaeology, through through literature. We 467 00:30:33,000 --> 00:30:38,520 Speaker 1: could trace that. Hey, you can't prove that the apostles 468 00:30:38,520 --> 00:30:42,040 Speaker 1: are speaking truth. But you can prove that what the 469 00:30:42,040 --> 00:30:46,360 Speaker 1: apostles said still is preserved today and we believe by 470 00:30:46,480 --> 00:30:51,160 Speaker 1: faith that it is truth. Okay, but we could prove that, yes, 471 00:30:51,280 --> 00:30:54,760 Speaker 1: what the apostle said has still been preserved. Besides, Jesus 472 00:30:54,760 --> 00:30:57,280 Speaker 1: said that it would be This is a long this 473 00:30:57,360 --> 00:31:01,280 Speaker 1: is a long answer. But welcome to the journey, brother, 474 00:31:01,440 --> 00:31:06,600 Speaker 1: Welcome to the journey. Let's go to this next one 475 00:31:06,760 --> 00:31:11,320 Speaker 1: subject line says random breakup. Hey, Grandere'd like to remain anonymous. 476 00:31:11,360 --> 00:31:14,360 Speaker 1: My boyfriend of almost five months randomly broke up with 477 00:31:14,400 --> 00:31:17,200 Speaker 1: me over FaceTime while we're doing long distance for a 478 00:31:17,240 --> 00:31:19,960 Speaker 1: couple months over the summer. He was getting ready to 479 00:31:20,000 --> 00:31:21,840 Speaker 1: come back in two weeks when he broke up with me. 480 00:31:22,440 --> 00:31:26,520 Speaker 1: I don't understand why, because everything was so fine between 481 00:31:26,600 --> 00:31:29,680 Speaker 1: us and then one day it wasn't. I feel like 482 00:31:29,720 --> 00:31:33,760 Speaker 1: I was blindsided. I loved him so much and still do. 483 00:31:34,080 --> 00:31:37,960 Speaker 1: He said he was going through some struggles and he 484 00:31:38,000 --> 00:31:41,840 Speaker 1: should have told me about this stuff early on, and 485 00:31:41,880 --> 00:31:44,960 Speaker 1: he needed time to become a better person, both mentally 486 00:31:45,000 --> 00:31:48,280 Speaker 1: and spiritually. He was such a great example of what 487 00:31:48,360 --> 00:31:51,760 Speaker 1: a true Christian guy should be like, and his family 488 00:31:51,840 --> 00:31:55,360 Speaker 1: was the best. It's been two months since the breakup, 489 00:31:55,400 --> 00:31:58,200 Speaker 1: and I'm still not over him. I'm scared that I 490 00:31:58,200 --> 00:32:01,120 Speaker 1: won't find anyone better because I can imagine anyone better 491 00:32:01,160 --> 00:32:06,000 Speaker 1: than him. We had the same morals, beliefs, and standards. 492 00:32:06,440 --> 00:32:08,600 Speaker 1: He set my standard so high and it was exactly 493 00:32:08,640 --> 00:32:12,120 Speaker 1: what I wanted. I don't know if I should move 494 00:32:12,160 --> 00:32:18,320 Speaker 1: on or just wait things out. Okay, Anonymous, your boyfriend, 495 00:32:18,680 --> 00:32:20,520 Speaker 1: let's walk through it, just from my own brain. Your 496 00:32:20,560 --> 00:32:25,520 Speaker 1: boyfriend of five months randomly broke up with you over FaceTime. 497 00:32:26,680 --> 00:32:30,320 Speaker 1: You were a long distance couple, and you're doing that 498 00:32:30,680 --> 00:32:34,440 Speaker 1: over the summer. He's getting ready to come back. Okay, 499 00:32:35,200 --> 00:32:39,400 Speaker 1: you're blindsided. You say you loved him so much. It's 500 00:32:39,440 --> 00:32:41,040 Speaker 1: been two months. That was what I was looking for. 501 00:32:41,120 --> 00:32:44,440 Speaker 1: It's been two months since the breakup, and you're still 502 00:32:44,480 --> 00:32:48,280 Speaker 1: not over him. This is not hard, Anonymous. I'm sorry 503 00:32:48,360 --> 00:32:52,080 Speaker 1: for your breakup, but this is not hard. Two months 504 00:32:52,160 --> 00:32:58,360 Speaker 1: is not long enough, that's it. Five months is not 505 00:32:58,520 --> 00:33:01,600 Speaker 1: long enough for you to be having these this crazy 506 00:33:01,600 --> 00:33:04,520 Speaker 1: feeling yet. Okay, So so that's gonna make it easier. 507 00:33:04,680 --> 00:33:08,040 Speaker 1: You're gonna realize soon that it was only five months. 508 00:33:08,080 --> 00:33:10,520 Speaker 1: If it was five years, it would be different. I'm 509 00:33:10,560 --> 00:33:13,520 Speaker 1: not downplaying your your loss. I'm not downplaying your pain. 510 00:33:13,600 --> 00:33:16,600 Speaker 1: I'm just saying it's gonna help you, because that's gonna 511 00:33:16,600 --> 00:33:18,960 Speaker 1: be make things a little easier. The cut is not 512 00:33:19,120 --> 00:33:20,960 Speaker 1: as deep as you might think because it was only 513 00:33:21,000 --> 00:33:24,120 Speaker 1: five months. But the problem with your email, the problem 514 00:33:24,160 --> 00:33:27,080 Speaker 1: with your question is it's only been two months since 515 00:33:27,120 --> 00:33:29,960 Speaker 1: the breakup. Two months is not long enough for you 516 00:33:30,040 --> 00:33:32,680 Speaker 1: to be feeling better. It could be, but it's not. 517 00:33:34,480 --> 00:33:36,800 Speaker 1: You loved him, You thought he was the one you 518 00:33:36,880 --> 00:33:40,040 Speaker 1: were all in and he wasn't the guy. He dumped you. 519 00:33:40,040 --> 00:33:43,840 Speaker 1: He blindsided you. He gave you some lame excuses that 520 00:33:43,880 --> 00:33:46,680 Speaker 1: he needed to become a better person mentally and spiritually. 521 00:33:46,720 --> 00:33:48,760 Speaker 1: It's a lie. It's a lie. It's a lie. He 522 00:33:48,880 --> 00:33:51,880 Speaker 1: was sincere about it. I'm not saying he's a bad guy. 523 00:33:52,360 --> 00:33:54,800 Speaker 1: I'm not saying that he was the wrong answer. He's 524 00:33:54,920 --> 00:33:57,640 Speaker 1: just coming up with stuff it doesn't even make sense. 525 00:33:58,280 --> 00:34:01,120 Speaker 1: He wants to be better mentally, in spiritually. And right 526 00:34:01,160 --> 00:34:03,440 Speaker 1: after that, you say he was an example of a 527 00:34:03,440 --> 00:34:09,080 Speaker 1: true Christian. I don't buy it. Hindsight's twenty twenty. He 528 00:34:09,160 --> 00:34:12,160 Speaker 1: wasn't that he came up with a lame excuse to 529 00:34:12,160 --> 00:34:15,799 Speaker 1: break up with you. I don't like that excuse. He 530 00:34:15,840 --> 00:34:19,759 Speaker 1: probably found somebody, or he just realized he didn't love you. 531 00:34:22,040 --> 00:34:25,920 Speaker 1: This podcast is just I'm never going to be the 532 00:34:26,000 --> 00:34:28,600 Speaker 1: kind of guy on this podcast. It's gonna say, oh, sweetheart, 533 00:34:29,160 --> 00:34:33,839 Speaker 1: I'm so sorry, you deserve better, or he probably loves 534 00:34:33,880 --> 00:34:35,960 Speaker 1: you and you just need to be faithful and he'll 535 00:34:35,960 --> 00:34:40,080 Speaker 1: come back. I'm not not me. I must say he 536 00:34:40,080 --> 00:34:42,760 Speaker 1: didn't love you. He came up with the lame excuse. 537 00:34:43,680 --> 00:34:45,640 Speaker 1: And it's only been two months. You'll get over him. 538 00:34:46,880 --> 00:34:52,880 Speaker 1: It'll get better in the meantime. Block him on social media, 539 00:34:53,360 --> 00:34:57,080 Speaker 1: block his number, block his email. I'm serious. It's not 540 00:34:57,120 --> 00:34:59,240 Speaker 1: that you hate him, it's not that you're being rude. 541 00:34:59,480 --> 00:35:02,680 Speaker 1: You just you got to protect your heart. Now his 542 00:35:02,760 --> 00:35:05,080 Speaker 1: true colors have been shown once again. Not that he's 543 00:35:05,120 --> 00:35:08,360 Speaker 1: a bad guy, but he's shown that he doesn't love you. 544 00:35:08,480 --> 00:35:12,960 Speaker 1: Clearly he does not love you. He's confused, he might 545 00:35:13,040 --> 00:35:16,600 Speaker 1: have found somebody else. So block him to protect yourself 546 00:35:16,640 --> 00:35:19,040 Speaker 1: in case there's a rebound, in case this new girl 547 00:35:19,080 --> 00:35:22,080 Speaker 1: he's with doesn't work out and he decides to come 548 00:35:22,120 --> 00:35:25,920 Speaker 1: back to you. You have protected yourself because now his 549 00:35:26,040 --> 00:35:30,000 Speaker 1: true colors have been revealed. If then he wants to 550 00:35:30,040 --> 00:35:33,120 Speaker 1: truly find you. He will. He's going to find you 551 00:35:33,160 --> 00:35:37,680 Speaker 1: in another way besides phone and Facebook. He will if 552 00:35:37,719 --> 00:35:40,880 Speaker 1: it's right. But in the meantime, protect your heart. You 553 00:35:41,480 --> 00:35:46,959 Speaker 1: need to let time go by. How long? I'm reading 554 00:35:46,960 --> 00:35:51,239 Speaker 1: a book right now called how Long, Oh Lord? Reflections 555 00:35:51,239 --> 00:35:56,439 Speaker 1: on suffering? But four months, five months, eight months, could 556 00:35:56,480 --> 00:36:01,600 Speaker 1: be eight months. That means you got six more, could 557 00:36:01,640 --> 00:36:04,279 Speaker 1: be next week. It's going to depend on how deep 558 00:36:04,320 --> 00:36:07,000 Speaker 1: the wound is. But you will get better. You will 559 00:36:07,000 --> 00:36:09,879 Speaker 1: get over him if you don't start the cycle over 560 00:36:09,920 --> 00:36:12,719 Speaker 1: again by reaching out to him and having coffee, and 561 00:36:12,719 --> 00:36:15,480 Speaker 1: then it starts you back at zero. Okay, it just 562 00:36:15,520 --> 00:36:18,800 Speaker 1: hasn't been long enough. Let it go by. Love you guys, 563 00:36:19,040 --> 00:36:21,480 Speaker 1: See you next Monday. Gee, thanks for joining me on 564 00:36:21,480 --> 00:36:24,759 Speaker 1: the Grangersmith Podcast. I appreciate all of you guys. You 565 00:36:24,760 --> 00:36:27,640 Speaker 1: could help me out by rating this podcast on iTunes. 566 00:36:27,920 --> 00:36:30,960 Speaker 1: If you're on YouTube, subscribe to this channel, hit that 567 00:36:31,000 --> 00:36:34,439 Speaker 1: little like button and notification spell so that you never 568 00:36:34,560 --> 00:36:37,920 Speaker 1: miss anytime I upload a video. 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