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Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becka Tilly and Tanya rad and iHeartRadio

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Speaker 1: and two times People's Choice Award winning.

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Speaker 2: Podcast, Hello Everybody.

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Speaker 3: Are scrubbing in. I was just matching your town. We

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Speaker 3: are scrubbing in, Hello everybody. Tonya is in Mexico.

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Speaker 2: I am in Mexico, but her voice is here. That's right.

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Speaker 3: We are actually pretaping this episode because Tanya and Robbie

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Speaker 3: are on their actual one year celebration of marriage in Mexico.

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Speaker 3: Hopey'all are having a great time over there.

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Speaker 4: I know.

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Speaker 2: It's so funny.

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Speaker 4: After our anniversary, like the first day after, I was like,

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Speaker 4: we're in our second year of marriage, Like, I hope

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Speaker 4: the excitement and like the everybody's always everybody always tells

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Speaker 4: me that we're still on the honeymoon phase, and I'm like,

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Speaker 4: I hope that never goes way.

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Speaker 3: It's the honeymoon phase is there as long as you

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Speaker 3: keep it there.

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Speaker 5: I think, so mindset you think?

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Speaker 3: Do you know what's so interesting? I used to like,

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Speaker 3: I think this during a time where maybe Haley and

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Speaker 3: I were like not communicating our best or something a

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Speaker 3: couple of years into our relationship, and I would romanticize

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Speaker 3: the honeymoon face so much like I'd be like like

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Speaker 3: nostalgic for it, and now like we're about to have

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Speaker 3: our eight year anniversary and it is crazy. I am

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Speaker 3: literally like this is my favorite stage of our relationship.

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Speaker 3: Like I don't crave that at all because I feel

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Speaker 3: like we're like I feel so safe and like healthy.

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Speaker 3: And I think in that phase it was like exciting

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Speaker 3: and like new and obviously she was the first woman

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Speaker 3: it was like, ah, scrambled thoughts, but it was exciting.

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Speaker 3: But I like also wasn't sleeping because it was like yeah, yeah, well,

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Speaker 3: just like it's like the excitement. And also she was

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Speaker 3: on tour and we were like learning how to communicate,

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Speaker 3: and I romanticize it, but we actually were going through

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Speaker 3: a lot because we were getting to know each other

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Speaker 3: and learn each other. And now I'm just like, oh,

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Speaker 3: I love right now.

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Speaker 4: I literally do the exact same thing. Like I romanticize

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Speaker 4: the beginning. I'm like, oh, We're never gonna have that

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Speaker 4: like that feeling when we were newly dating and like

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Speaker 4: finding out all these things, you know, like now we

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Speaker 4: know each other like the back of our hands, yeah,

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Speaker 4: and you're so right in the beginning, Like I'm like,

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Speaker 4: we broke up in the beginning, you know, I mean

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Speaker 4: it was rough waters the first year, and I forget

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Speaker 4: the like the navigating and like finding our footing as

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Speaker 4: a couple, because it's true you romanticize like all those

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Speaker 4: like butterflies, the giddiness and the like the heat of

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Speaker 4: it all, and like, I'm so with you. I've been

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Speaker 4: wrote like in our anniversary card, I'm like, I actually

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Speaker 4: didn't think that I would love him more than I

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Speaker 4: did on our wedding day, and I love him more today,

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Speaker 4: like because when you go through life experiences and like

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Speaker 4: you go through hard things, like seeing the way he's

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Speaker 4: shown up for me, like it just it's like you

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Speaker 4: can't compare to that.

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Speaker 3: Well. I also think speaking to your situation, Uh, you

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Speaker 3: you have these moments that are not that y'all haven't

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Speaker 3: had hard moments, but you have like everything you marry

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Speaker 3: someone and you're like, oh, it's the high moments. The

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Speaker 3: good moments are so great, and I have this person

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Speaker 3: so easy to love each other. But then you go

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Speaker 3: through something hard and that's how you really see, like

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Speaker 3: how is this partner I've chosen, Like where are they

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Speaker 3: going to be for me in this because you don't

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Speaker 3: know until you know, right, and you couldn't have known

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Speaker 3: that was going to come within the first year of

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Speaker 3: your marriage, but you got like a very quick like

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Speaker 3: who Robbie is?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, And like I had so many girls message me

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Speaker 4: saying like you're so lucky that you have someone that

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Speaker 4: like makes it a priority to come to all your

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Speaker 4: appointments with you. Like I didn't have that, and like

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Speaker 4: it was never even a question, Like I didn't even

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Speaker 4: I wasn't even asking him to come with me. It

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Speaker 4: was just like I'll be there type of thing, you know,

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Speaker 4: And like that's the type of stuff that like really matters.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, well, I'm glad we've we've all found that.

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Speaker 2: Ye yeah for us eight years, Like you're almost at

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Speaker 3: I know, we're almost a decade. It's like it's so

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Speaker 3: weird to think of the time as eight years, but

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Speaker 3: in my mind it doesn't. It's like all blurred into

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Speaker 3: like three.

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Speaker 2: Like eight, Like you're combing close to a decade.

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Speaker 3: I know. That's I think, like common law marriage, isn't

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Speaker 3: that like seven years?

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Speaker 5: I think it is.

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Speaker 3: We've already that's old news.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, we speaking of are you getting asked a lot

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Speaker 4: when you guys are getting married every day?

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Speaker 3: Oh?

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Speaker 4: Because I get asked a lot, and I'm like, it's

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Speaker 4: probably what Why what.

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Speaker 3: If I told? What? If I was like, yeah, we're

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Speaker 2: Epic for you. No, it's just like in general.

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Speaker 3: Like yeah, no, but I really do. I always tell

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Speaker 3: people like this year, specifically up until the summer, is

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Speaker 3: Haley's movie, because it's her baby and she's worked on

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Speaker 3: it for so so long that I don't even want

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Speaker 3: her to think about planning what. I'm like, you and

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Speaker 3: I you're to get we're together forever and like I

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Speaker 3: can't wait to marry you and have the wedding and

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Speaker 3: plan that. But like all your attention needs to go

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Speaker 3: on this movie because it's the year of the movie girls.

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Speaker 3: Like girls, do you have me June nineteenth being your

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Speaker 4: I do feel like like I because we just hit

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Speaker 4: my Men. It was literally all I had in my

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Speaker 4: brain for four months. Your wedding, Yeah, yeah, like the planning,

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Speaker 4: the details, Like it's so much in your head that

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Speaker 4: like I couldn't imagine having a movie coming out and

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Speaker 3: And that's what I told her. I'm like, listen, I

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Speaker 3: don't really want to. I also don't want to plan

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Speaker 3: this alone, so like, I don't. I'm not expecting you

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Speaker 3: to be no, no, no, like with my making partner decisions,

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Speaker 3: my own decisions like dress and stuff, like I'll be sourcing.

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Speaker 3: Hayley wants to go trial dresses together. I'm like, babe, no,

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Speaker 3: we can't see each other's dress.

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Speaker 6: She's like, but that's so fun and it's a tricky

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Speaker 6: one though I see the desire to do.

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Speaker 5: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: No, I know it's fun, but.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you're putting your foot down right.

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Speaker 3: Yeah no, I'm like, you're I'm torn about the first

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Speaker 3: in front of everybody. But then I love the like

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Speaker 3: reveal of seeing each other in a wedding. Well, I

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Speaker 3: don't know what we're wearing wedding attire for the first time. Oh,

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Speaker 3: I might be in a suit.

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Speaker 2: You're not going to be in a suit of white

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Speaker 3: But yeah. So that's why I tell everybody. I'm just like, listen.

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Speaker 3: If you want to know about the wedding, then you

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Speaker 3: support the movie.

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Speaker 4: But like, as the movie comes out, that means you

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Speaker 4: can start playing the summer right, yeah, which is like

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Speaker 4: tomorrow it's time is flying, flying Flying.

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Speaker 3: Speaking of TikTok comments I posted if people just scroll

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Speaker 3: and don't open comments, because personally, for me, I find

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Speaker 3: creative and there's people that just scroll, never open.

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Speaker 2: To me, I don't open.

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Speaker 5: I rushed to the.

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Speaker 3: Comments, break an ankle, run into the comments. Really, Oh

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Speaker 3: my gosh, roll.

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Speaker 4: I don't think I look at comments one iota unless

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Speaker 3: Well, if you are someone like Tanya who does it,

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Speaker 3: you have to if you think of video is funny

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Speaker 3: and it has a lot of comments. Open the comments

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Speaker 3: five to really get a good laugh. It is the

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Speaker 3: the humor that people possess and the quick wickness and wittiness.

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Speaker 6: Being able to post a photo as a comment on

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Speaker 6: TikTok elevated the game to an unimaginable level.

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Speaker 2: What photos are people posting on? Comments?

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Speaker 3: Like?

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Speaker 6: The photos are means than some screenshots from the video

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Speaker 5: Uh, it's great.

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Speaker 3: It's just beautiful.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I love it all.

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Speaker 3: It's art, really, I agree.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Like when I'm watching like the the.

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Speaker 4: This is the silly one, but the one that people

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Speaker 4: were like, does anybody else watch The Love is buying

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Speaker 4: final episode like this, and it's like fast forwarding, do.

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Speaker 2: The whole thing. I'm like, yeah, that's good. You got

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Speaker 2: so well. My algorithm knows me.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah, yeah, it feels good to be known. It's

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Speaker 3: going to be seen. I also posted, uh, this was

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Speaker 3: doing it. But every time I posted something's totally random

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Speaker 3: like what what like to everyone? Just like like what

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Speaker 3: like the water? One? I ask some people like drinking

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Speaker 3: because it's good for me. Same and a source of life.

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Speaker 3: And then people were responding and they're like, there's no

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Speaker 3: way people like drinking water, but you'd be I would

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Speaker 3: say fifty percent of the comments are like I love water.

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Speaker 5: I enjoy water a lot.

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Speaker 6: Do tastes like nothing, it tastes refreshing. I think it

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Speaker 6: makes me feel good and it tastes refreshing. Yeah, you know,

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Speaker 6: I like, I think different beverages serve different purposes, So like,

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Speaker 6: I don't think i'd ever like like I guess if

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Speaker 6: I had to choose Coca cola or water, I would

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Speaker 6: choose water.

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Speaker 5: But I do like how it tastes tastes really good.

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Speaker 7: Wow.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know. I didn't grow like I didn't

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Speaker 3: my source of hydration growing up was like gatorade.

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Speaker 2: I didn't know my dad still doesn't believe in water.

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Speaker 5: My dad doesn't believe in water.

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Speaker 3: My brother does not drink water. He played in the NFL.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, you get water and gateorade, you get water and beer,

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Speaker 4: you get water, and like, yeah, oh god.

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Speaker 6: My sisters like that, Like she when she needs to

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Speaker 4: when you attend weddings, are you going in a different

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Speaker 3: I'll tell you how I approach weddings when we come back.

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Speaker 3: So I'm going to a wedding this weekend and we're

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Speaker 4: Have always been There's so many of those, but I

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Speaker 3: I don't want to I have I'm gonna have to separate.

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Speaker 3: Am I seeing this because it's what I've always heard

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Speaker 4: Because I think I tell you one thing I did

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Speaker 2: What put the veil over right head?

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Speaker 4: I was crying and my heart like Robbie couldn't get

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Speaker 2: Pressure of like, that's what you're supposed to do. You

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Speaker 2: Yeah, because I didn't want it. I didn't want it.

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Speaker 4: And I look back and I'm like, damn, i'd have

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Speaker 3: But you wouldn't know until you like you could have

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Speaker 4: I think for you, I don't think so there's nothing

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Speaker 3: But I do think that could have been practiced or

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Speaker 4: Yeah, Like I'm like I don't know if it was

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Speaker 4: And I couldn't see, like this is this could have

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Speaker 3: Do, right, Yeah, but like no, I mean I think

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Speaker 2: But is there a dress code for this wedding? You're

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Speaker 3: Well, I think it. I don't know if I'm saying it,

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Speaker 3: I really don't. So I'm going to be going with

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Speaker 3: be observing from that lens. I think it's gonna be

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Speaker 3: I've never been to a m l M Man loving

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Speaker 3: Actually, I'm so excited. Did you know did you not

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Speaker 3: didn't know them? Then?

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Speaker 2: No? I knew them.

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Speaker 4: I I started to become friends with him as a

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I'm excited for my first one.

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Speaker 2: What an honor, A lot of decisions. Happy to be

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Speaker 3: Yeah. Well, so Ali and Carson didn't do a first

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Speaker 3: No, they didn't do any Like oh wait, did she

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Speaker 3: and so that's something I would love to do. The cake,

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Speaker 3: I'm very like, if Haley wants to do the cake,

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Speaker 3: I'm down for the cake, but it's not something that

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Speaker 4: The cake cutting, Yeah, when you get the price tag

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Speaker 3: I don't think so. Yeah. Yeah, Like, and I don't

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Speaker 4: Yeah, like that was where my head was that Like

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Speaker 3: Like, I don't think we need a cake. And then

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Speaker 3: we also were like how cool would it be if

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Speaker 2: I know, I went down that path too. I know

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Speaker 3: It's something to consider.

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Speaker 2: It's something to consider.

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Speaker 4: The only the only caveat with that is because I

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Speaker 2: No, and you can't. Yeah you's yeah, so.

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Speaker 3: That's something to think about. I don't know, you guys,

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Speaker 3: there's so many options shifting gears. I was doing a

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Speaker 4: day is caraziness.

441
00:20:35,200 --> 00:20:40,080
Speaker 3: Out of the woods. It's just incredible.

442
00:20:40,240 --> 00:20:42,000
Speaker 2: Yeah.

443
00:20:42,040 --> 00:20:43,840
Speaker 3: And is It over Now?

444
00:20:44,359 --> 00:20:44,760
Speaker 7: Yeah?

445
00:20:45,400 --> 00:20:46,240
Speaker 3: Is that that one too?

446
00:20:46,280 --> 00:20:47,920
Speaker 2: Is it over? Like that almost never saw light of

447
00:20:47,960 --> 00:20:48,360
Speaker 2: day too?

448
00:20:48,560 --> 00:20:51,800
Speaker 3: And their breakup songs? Yes, they're all breakup songs.

449
00:20:53,720 --> 00:20:54,440
Speaker 2: My favorite.

450
00:20:54,560 --> 00:20:57,199
Speaker 4: One of my favorite memories from my wedding was singing

451
00:20:57,320 --> 00:20:58,960
Speaker 4: is It Over Now at the top of my lungs

452
00:20:59,000 --> 00:21:02,840
Speaker 4: on the dancefloorts a breakup song and everybody's kind of like,

453
00:21:03,040 --> 00:21:04,080
Speaker 4: what's going on here?

454
00:21:04,160 --> 00:21:05,160
Speaker 2: But I'm like, I just have.

455
00:21:05,080 --> 00:21:07,000
Speaker 1: To get it, like it's I don't think they were

456
00:21:07,160 --> 00:21:09,080
Speaker 1: what's going on here because of the lyrics as much

457
00:21:09,119 --> 00:21:12,760
Speaker 1: as me, You and Sophia just like acting like it

458
00:21:12,880 --> 00:21:18,879
Speaker 1: was like a stage planned performat, like yeah, yeah, I

459
00:21:19,480 --> 00:21:21,560
Speaker 1: And then you know what one I've really been enjoying

460
00:21:21,600 --> 00:21:24,119
Speaker 1: that's like not ever talked about is I look in

461
00:21:24,200 --> 00:21:25,240
Speaker 1: People's Windows?

462
00:21:25,520 --> 00:21:28,280
Speaker 2: I don't think I even heard note that is there's not.

463
00:21:29,840 --> 00:21:31,440
Speaker 3: Uh tord your post department?

464
00:21:32,560 --> 00:21:34,879
Speaker 2: But she look in People's Windows? Is the name of

465
00:21:34,920 --> 00:21:35,880
Speaker 2: the song? Are you sure?

466
00:21:36,560 --> 00:21:40,920
Speaker 3: Look in People's Windows? But there's a line where she says,

467
00:21:43,440 --> 00:21:47,080
Speaker 3: does it feel alright to not know me? I'm addicted

468
00:21:47,119 --> 00:21:51,600
Speaker 3: to the if only and like the lyricism, yeah, and

469
00:21:51,760 --> 00:21:56,480
Speaker 3: again it's sad, but I'm when I'm really happy and good,

470
00:21:57,000 --> 00:22:00,240
Speaker 3: why not listen to sad music? Yeah, it's free them.

471
00:22:01,720 --> 00:22:01,919
Speaker 3: You know.

472
00:22:02,160 --> 00:22:05,439
Speaker 4: It's so funny that you say that, because I feel like,

473
00:22:06,720 --> 00:22:09,800
Speaker 4: to me, This Life of a Showgirl was like such

474
00:22:09,800 --> 00:22:12,040
Speaker 4: a standout album because it's very much like she's in

475
00:22:12,080 --> 00:22:13,960
Speaker 4: love and she's happy, and that's kind of like where

476
00:22:14,000 --> 00:22:16,000
Speaker 4: I'm at in life. So I'm like really resonating with

477
00:22:16,080 --> 00:22:18,399
Speaker 4: it that I have a hard time, like listening to

478
00:22:18,440 --> 00:22:20,720
Speaker 4: All Too Well right now interesting?

479
00:22:20,920 --> 00:22:21,800
Speaker 2: Yeah?

480
00:22:21,880 --> 00:22:26,760
Speaker 3: Yeah, well All Too is a fall album. Yes, sunny

481
00:22:26,840 --> 00:22:30,600
Speaker 3: bright weather clauses for I forgot you that you existed

482
00:22:31,200 --> 00:22:36,320
Speaker 3: and yeah, it's like lover and uh yeah lover and

483
00:22:36,680 --> 00:22:40,160
Speaker 3: reputation reputations.

484
00:22:39,359 --> 00:22:43,800
Speaker 2: Giving winter No reputation is giving.

485
00:22:44,920 --> 00:22:47,280
Speaker 3: I'm in a revenge yeah yeah, yeah, I think Halloween.

486
00:22:47,920 --> 00:22:50,359
Speaker 5: It didn't it come out like in October November or something?

487
00:22:50,520 --> 00:22:52,160
Speaker 2: Yeah? I think yeah.

488
00:22:52,240 --> 00:22:55,919
Speaker 3: Oh. Also, I'm going to a themed two thousands party

489
00:22:55,920 --> 00:22:56,560
Speaker 3: on Friday.

490
00:22:57,160 --> 00:22:58,160
Speaker 2: What for what?

491
00:22:58,520 --> 00:23:02,840
Speaker 3: Well, you know, it's Taylor Bank's birthday and it's themed

492
00:23:02,960 --> 00:23:06,920
Speaker 3: two thousands themed, And I feel like I'm gonna have

493
00:23:06,960 --> 00:23:09,320
Speaker 3: to try out my outfit today because I ordered it

494
00:23:09,359 --> 00:23:10,240
Speaker 3: all very quickly.

495
00:23:10,480 --> 00:23:11,199
Speaker 2: What are you going to be?

496
00:23:11,640 --> 00:23:15,399
Speaker 3: There's this specific picture of Britney spears that I found.

497
00:23:15,280 --> 00:23:17,439
Speaker 2: And oh, that's a great one for you.

498
00:23:17,600 --> 00:23:20,280
Speaker 3: I'm kind of panicking. I got my bangs that I

499
00:23:20,440 --> 00:23:22,719
Speaker 3: clip in. Bangs I ordered are not the right shade.

500
00:23:23,400 --> 00:23:24,720
Speaker 3: But it's this picture.

501
00:23:25,320 --> 00:23:26,480
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, what was that from?

502
00:23:26,680 --> 00:23:28,679
Speaker 3: I don't know is it two thousands or is it nineties?

503
00:23:28,720 --> 00:23:30,440
Speaker 3: Because now I'm like overthinking about it.

504
00:23:30,480 --> 00:23:31,520
Speaker 5: That's early.

505
00:23:32,560 --> 00:23:35,360
Speaker 3: It's early, which could be nineties ninety nine.

506
00:23:35,400 --> 00:23:36,119
Speaker 2: I think it's okay.

507
00:23:36,680 --> 00:23:41,600
Speaker 3: But anyways, I feel like I got kneepat gardening kneepads

508
00:23:41,600 --> 00:23:45,119
Speaker 3: that are metallic pink because I thought that's what she

509
00:23:45,119 --> 00:23:49,040
Speaker 3: had on. But they're just patches, so stay tuned.

510
00:23:50,040 --> 00:23:56,280
Speaker 5: So that was I'm sorry, I'm.

511
00:23:56,160 --> 00:23:58,520
Speaker 2: To scrap in get a new outfit.

512
00:23:59,000 --> 00:24:01,600
Speaker 5: Where ran from June September ninety nine.

513
00:24:01,680 --> 00:24:06,119
Speaker 3: Well that's what we're in. It's Brittany from that time,

514
00:24:06,200 --> 00:24:08,560
Speaker 3: right before the two thousands. It's a fun Why do

515
00:24:08,720 --> 00:24:09,320
Speaker 3: k though? You know?

516
00:24:09,480 --> 00:24:11,080
Speaker 5: And we're still talking about that moment.

517
00:24:11,440 --> 00:24:14,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, well I'm bringing it back. But yeah,

518
00:24:14,520 --> 00:24:18,800
Speaker 3: I got clipping bangs and they're like orange. I was like, Haley,

519
00:24:18,800 --> 00:24:21,240
Speaker 3: how bad are they? And She's like, I mean it's

520
00:24:21,280 --> 00:24:23,280
Speaker 3: it's kind of funny if they look bad, right, And

521
00:24:23,280 --> 00:24:25,879
Speaker 3: I'm like, okay, no, that's not I'm not trying to

522
00:24:26,040 --> 00:24:27,640
Speaker 3: look before. No, I'm trying to look legit.

523
00:24:28,119 --> 00:24:31,439
Speaker 4: Speaking of bangs, I'm thinking about getting some whispy bangs.

524
00:24:31,720 --> 00:24:37,480
Speaker 3: Okay, that a bad idea, Like what I just I

525
00:24:37,520 --> 00:24:39,320
Speaker 3: love a very thin wisp.

526
00:24:39,800 --> 00:24:42,600
Speaker 2: Wow, I'm not a blunt bang, like a thin whisp.

527
00:24:42,640 --> 00:24:44,760
Speaker 3: Here's the thing. Show you a photo you hate your

528
00:24:44,800 --> 00:24:47,520
Speaker 3: hair bang in your face? Yes, but even how mine

529
00:24:47,560 --> 00:24:49,560
Speaker 3: is right now, Tanya is like I could never like,

530
00:24:49,560 --> 00:24:50,960
Speaker 3: how do you just let your hair in your hair?

531
00:24:51,080 --> 00:24:51,280
Speaker 4: Yeah?

532
00:24:51,359 --> 00:24:53,639
Speaker 3: Your hairs are never not in your face?

533
00:24:53,920 --> 00:24:57,040
Speaker 2: Yes, I understand that, Yes, that that will be.

534
00:24:58,200 --> 00:25:01,359
Speaker 3: And you like styling your hair, yes, but do you have.

535
00:25:01,240 --> 00:25:03,200
Speaker 2: To style it when you have these wispy bangs?

536
00:25:03,960 --> 00:25:07,160
Speaker 3: I don't know how? Like what do we? Yeah? Oh

537
00:25:07,200 --> 00:25:11,440
Speaker 3: my god, Donya, you would hate that? Gorgeous?

538
00:25:11,480 --> 00:25:13,080
Speaker 2: But like I hate that.

539
00:25:13,200 --> 00:25:15,280
Speaker 3: I think when they were styled and they'd look amazing,

540
00:25:15,359 --> 00:25:17,200
Speaker 3: I think they'd look amazing on you. I just think

541
00:25:17,200 --> 00:25:17,840
Speaker 3: that you would.

542
00:25:17,960 --> 00:25:20,240
Speaker 2: Why does everybody have to style everything.

543
00:25:22,400 --> 00:25:24,880
Speaker 3: In her eyes? Like you would be able to handle that,

544
00:25:24,920 --> 00:25:29,840
Speaker 3: you'd be freaking out. I go through the bank face.

545
00:25:29,680 --> 00:25:32,720
Speaker 2: Too, Okay, So you're saying it's not a goin through.

546
00:25:32,520 --> 00:25:35,880
Speaker 3: The chop face, like I'm two. I'm one bad hair

547
00:25:35,960 --> 00:25:39,760
Speaker 3: day away from a chop. But you know what someone

548
00:25:39,800 --> 00:25:43,479
Speaker 3: said that really resonated with me. I'll tell you when

549
00:25:43,520 --> 00:25:44,000
Speaker 3: we come back.

550
00:26:01,840 --> 00:26:02,359
Speaker 2: We're back.

551
00:26:05,040 --> 00:26:08,879
Speaker 3: Great job. So I was debating on if I wanted

552
00:26:08,920 --> 00:26:11,199
Speaker 3: to cut my hair into bob which last time I

553
00:26:11,280 --> 00:26:13,639
Speaker 3: tortured everyone because I hated it, and I had so

554
00:26:13,720 --> 00:26:16,600
Speaker 3: much regret. But I looked back on photos and I'm like,

555
00:26:16,640 --> 00:26:18,800
Speaker 3: but it was so cute. Why did I Why was

556
00:26:18,840 --> 00:26:20,400
Speaker 3: I so anti so chic?

557
00:26:20,880 --> 00:26:22,320
Speaker 2: And you do your hair so it's.

558
00:26:22,160 --> 00:26:26,040
Speaker 3: Like I saw my hair. It's not a burden. And

559
00:26:26,080 --> 00:26:28,800
Speaker 3: so anyways, someone was like, back of your hair was

560
00:26:28,840 --> 00:26:32,320
Speaker 3: so cute. Short, But just remember you will like your

561
00:26:32,359 --> 00:26:36,680
Speaker 3: hair cut for like a week, and then you'll it'll

562
00:26:36,680 --> 00:26:39,120
Speaker 3: get old. The newness of it being cut will get old,

563
00:26:39,240 --> 00:26:41,600
Speaker 3: and you'll just be upset that you cut it. And

564
00:26:41,680 --> 00:26:45,200
Speaker 3: for some reason it really stuck with me because that's

565
00:26:45,240 --> 00:26:47,480
Speaker 3: what happens. You have the first week and you're like

566
00:26:47,560 --> 00:26:49,960
Speaker 3: doing all these new styles. Oh, it's so cute and fresh,

567
00:26:50,000 --> 00:26:54,679
Speaker 3: and then the newss dice and you're like, but now

568
00:26:54,720 --> 00:26:55,160
Speaker 3: it's short.

569
00:26:56,040 --> 00:26:58,560
Speaker 2: You know, I've never changed my hair up, Like, yes

570
00:26:58,640 --> 00:26:58,800
Speaker 2: you have.

571
00:26:59,359 --> 00:27:02,600
Speaker 3: Wow, you've like cut your hair and had it long

572
00:27:02,680 --> 00:27:03,600
Speaker 3: and got extensions.

573
00:27:03,640 --> 00:27:06,800
Speaker 2: Okay, that's like not really, I mean the length of it.

574
00:27:06,840 --> 00:27:09,479
Speaker 4: I've maybe shed two inches off here and there, but like,

575
00:27:09,520 --> 00:27:11,840
Speaker 4: for the most part, the continuity of my hair has

576
00:27:11,840 --> 00:27:14,119
Speaker 4: stayed intact for the last like fifteen years.

577
00:27:14,840 --> 00:27:16,320
Speaker 2: I would says, do.

578
00:27:16,359 --> 00:27:17,359
Speaker 5: Ye, as long as I've known.

579
00:27:17,240 --> 00:27:19,200
Speaker 2: You, Yeah, like relatively the same.

580
00:27:19,400 --> 00:27:23,119
Speaker 3: Some blonde was better than the others. Yes, yes, I

581
00:27:23,160 --> 00:27:24,120
Speaker 3: did have a change.

582
00:27:24,359 --> 00:27:28,320
Speaker 4: Yes I have a Bleachhella moment that was just bad.

583
00:27:29,640 --> 00:27:32,359
Speaker 4: But I haven't really changed my hair. And I'm like

584
00:27:32,480 --> 00:27:38,640
Speaker 4: kind of in this phase of like I'm a low

585
00:27:38,720 --> 00:27:43,320
Speaker 4: maintenance girl trapped in a high maintenance spot, you know, like, oh,

586
00:27:43,480 --> 00:27:44,320
Speaker 4: I hate doing my.

587
00:27:44,320 --> 00:27:47,640
Speaker 2: Hair, but I need to do it otherwise it looks like.

588
00:27:47,560 --> 00:27:51,000
Speaker 3: This, what are you talking about? Like getting it done?

589
00:27:51,240 --> 00:27:53,760
Speaker 2: Or I'm like, do I need a change? Like should

590
00:27:53,760 --> 00:27:54,439
Speaker 2: I change it up?

591
00:27:55,320 --> 00:28:00,600
Speaker 3: You're so here's my opinion on your hair. I feel like, okay,

592
00:28:00,800 --> 00:28:03,480
Speaker 3: so if you are you watching Love Story the JFK

593
00:28:03,640 --> 00:28:07,919
Speaker 3: Junior show yet, Okay? The actress and that Sarah Pigeon,

594
00:28:08,280 --> 00:28:12,320
Speaker 3: she is originally brunette. She's gorgeous, Like she's got one

595
00:28:12,320 --> 00:28:15,000
Speaker 3: of those she's got one of those faces and personalities

596
00:28:15,000 --> 00:28:18,119
Speaker 3: that you're like cool, magnetic, but you can't, You're just

597
00:28:18,119 --> 00:28:21,200
Speaker 3: like she's cool. She has blonde hair for the show

598
00:28:22,000 --> 00:28:25,200
Speaker 3: and it is so made for her. And I feel

599
00:28:25,240 --> 00:28:28,840
Speaker 3: like you're that way, like you're dark, You're naturally dark, right, yeah,

600
00:28:29,280 --> 00:28:34,399
Speaker 3: but you look yeah whoa so night and day and everyone.

601
00:28:34,480 --> 00:28:37,080
Speaker 3: Normally people say you look best with your natural hair

602
00:28:37,080 --> 00:28:40,880
Speaker 3: color because it's obviously it's like made to compliment your features, right,

603
00:28:41,760 --> 00:28:44,880
Speaker 3: But she's an example of blonde looks better on y.

604
00:28:45,200 --> 00:28:48,880
Speaker 3: It like brightens her face. Yeah, I feel like you

605
00:28:48,920 --> 00:28:51,600
Speaker 3: have the same thing. But I haven't known you, brunette,

606
00:28:51,640 --> 00:28:55,959
Speaker 3: but you look so good blonde. However, Kelsey Ballerini just

607
00:28:56,040 --> 00:28:59,840
Speaker 3: went like light brown, and I was thinking, I feel

608
00:28:59,840 --> 00:29:02,240
Speaker 3: like it could look so good on you because it's

609
00:29:02,240 --> 00:29:06,520
Speaker 3: not dark. It's like a like a light brown. Tony's

610
00:29:06,560 --> 00:29:10,720
Speaker 3: gonna kill me, But like, did you tell.

611
00:29:10,680 --> 00:29:13,240
Speaker 2: Tommy, like Becka told me light brown would look good

612
00:29:13,280 --> 00:29:13,600
Speaker 2: on me.

613
00:29:13,760 --> 00:29:18,520
Speaker 3: Because I think your eyes would pop. But it's so

614
00:29:18,720 --> 00:29:22,800
Speaker 3: pretty and it looks so good on her. It does.

615
00:29:22,880 --> 00:29:23,960
Speaker 2: But see, this is the problem.

616
00:29:24,040 --> 00:29:26,240
Speaker 4: And like people do like these inspo pics you like

617
00:29:26,240 --> 00:29:27,760
Speaker 4: bring them to your hair estylished and like I want

618
00:29:27,760 --> 00:29:30,840
Speaker 4: to look like this, like that photo has like teza

619
00:29:31,200 --> 00:29:31,920
Speaker 4: and it's like.

620
00:29:32,080 --> 00:29:34,200
Speaker 2: Blurry and like do you know what I mean? Like

621
00:29:34,720 --> 00:29:36,360
Speaker 2: who knows if it looks like that in real life?

622
00:29:37,720 --> 00:29:39,400
Speaker 3: Well, yeah, I don't know what it looks like in

623
00:29:39,440 --> 00:29:42,320
Speaker 3: real life. I'm just going off of off of the an.

624
00:29:42,200 --> 00:29:44,680
Speaker 2: Image that's been filtered. This is what's wrong with society.

625
00:29:44,800 --> 00:29:49,280
Speaker 3: But look, that's like high, like it's like brown with Yeah, it's.

626
00:29:49,120 --> 00:29:52,240
Speaker 2: More brown, it's more rooty. Then it's a brown.

627
00:29:52,240 --> 00:29:55,960
Speaker 3: Darker like yeah. Yeah, I'm just saying it wouldn't be

628
00:29:56,040 --> 00:29:58,160
Speaker 3: like a you don't if you're craving a change.

629
00:29:58,320 --> 00:30:01,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm craving it, like a craving a bit of

630
00:30:01,320 --> 00:30:01,840
Speaker 2: a change.

631
00:30:04,120 --> 00:30:04,640
Speaker 3: What was that?

632
00:30:04,920 --> 00:30:08,360
Speaker 5: Yeah, sound the sound of a crave, like a thirst.

633
00:30:08,640 --> 00:30:14,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, okay, I do think that would be like

634
00:30:14,600 --> 00:30:16,760
Speaker 3: something I feel like. And I don't think it would

635
00:30:16,840 --> 00:30:19,040
Speaker 3: be hard to come back from. Like what if I

636
00:30:19,160 --> 00:30:20,320
Speaker 3: was like, you should go red?

637
00:30:20,480 --> 00:30:23,600
Speaker 4: That would be so that was like my my inkling

638
00:30:23,680 --> 00:30:24,680
Speaker 4: was strawberry blonde.

639
00:30:25,520 --> 00:30:27,600
Speaker 3: It's just hard, Yeah, if you if you want to

640
00:30:27,640 --> 00:30:30,040
Speaker 3: be more low maintenance, doing red is not.

641
00:30:30,560 --> 00:30:33,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's a little bit about me right now.

642
00:30:33,360 --> 00:30:35,280
Speaker 3: I think the bangs are bad choice just because you'd

643
00:30:35,280 --> 00:30:37,200
Speaker 3: hate the hair in your face. Okay, if you wanted

644
00:30:37,200 --> 00:30:39,360
Speaker 3: to darken a little bit, I do think that would

645
00:30:39,360 --> 00:30:41,880
Speaker 3: be a nice change for you. But it wouldn't be

646
00:30:41,960 --> 00:30:44,160
Speaker 3: like you couldn't get back to your blonde if you

647
00:30:44,200 --> 00:30:44,560
Speaker 3: needed to.

648
00:30:44,840 --> 00:30:50,440
Speaker 2: Okay, noted, And I do think your hair is so cute. Short,

649
00:30:50,960 --> 00:30:52,680
Speaker 2: m something to think about.

650
00:30:54,680 --> 00:30:57,760
Speaker 3: You know, like every time people like get married or

651
00:30:57,800 --> 00:30:59,920
Speaker 3: have a big like life moment, they're like, I'm just

652
00:31:00,080 --> 00:31:01,920
Speaker 3: gonna chop my hair or new change.

653
00:31:02,040 --> 00:31:02,600
Speaker 7: Yeah.

654
00:31:02,800 --> 00:31:05,360
Speaker 4: So well it is interesting because you kind of I mean,

655
00:31:05,400 --> 00:31:07,160
Speaker 4: I think I'm past that phase now, but like you,

656
00:31:07,160 --> 00:31:08,960
Speaker 4: you come off such a high that you're like, I

657
00:31:09,040 --> 00:31:13,400
Speaker 4: just need like another hand, another adrenaline rush. But I'm

658
00:31:13,400 --> 00:31:15,600
Speaker 4: definitely far past that. I think mine's more of just

659
00:31:15,640 --> 00:31:18,640
Speaker 4: like wanting to be a little bit more low maintenance.

660
00:31:19,600 --> 00:31:23,040
Speaker 3: Speaking of adrenaline rush, I went to Atlanta a couple

661
00:31:23,080 --> 00:31:26,960
Speaker 3: of weeks ago. Oh no, oh, yeah, yeah, and I

662
00:31:27,000 --> 00:31:29,840
Speaker 3: went to do this podcast for this woman, Lisa Easton.

663
00:31:29,840 --> 00:31:31,480
Speaker 3: I don't know in the podcast it might it might

664
00:31:31,520 --> 00:31:33,840
Speaker 3: be out yet already, so go listen if it is.

665
00:31:34,680 --> 00:31:36,560
Speaker 3: But I flew in to just do her podcast, and

666
00:31:36,560 --> 00:31:37,560
Speaker 3: then I flew out the next day.

667
00:31:37,640 --> 00:31:42,000
Speaker 2: It's baller, by the way, when you're Lisa Easton is goals.

668
00:31:42,320 --> 00:31:46,200
Speaker 3: Yeah. So I flew out and then they booked me

669
00:31:46,320 --> 00:31:51,640
Speaker 3: for a six twenty pm flight And did I already

670
00:31:51,680 --> 00:31:55,160
Speaker 3: say I was in Atlanta? Atlanta? Yeah, so she where

671
00:31:55,200 --> 00:31:58,000
Speaker 3: we did the podcast was about an like a forty

672
00:31:58,040 --> 00:32:02,160
Speaker 3: minute drive from airport when I landed, because I landed

673
00:32:02,200 --> 00:32:03,560
Speaker 3: the night before and it was pretty late, so it

674
00:32:03,640 --> 00:32:06,280
Speaker 3: was pretty no traffic or anything. So the next day

675
00:32:06,320 --> 00:32:08,680
Speaker 3: my flights at six twenty. We were recording the podcast

676
00:32:08,720 --> 00:32:12,160
Speaker 3: at twelve thirty. So I was like, okay, we're gonna finish,

677
00:32:12,200 --> 00:32:15,080
Speaker 3: like I'm thinking most we do is two hours, right.

678
00:32:15,880 --> 00:32:19,600
Speaker 3: So I go on my little Delta app and see

679
00:32:19,600 --> 00:32:21,560
Speaker 3: that there's a four to fifty flight, and I go,

680
00:32:23,280 --> 00:32:24,760
Speaker 3: I don't want to be sitting around, you know me,

681
00:32:24,960 --> 00:32:28,240
Speaker 3: I have my carry on, I have clear I'm just

682
00:32:28,280 --> 00:32:31,760
Speaker 3: gonna switch it all over. No no fee to change it.

683
00:32:32,040 --> 00:32:35,240
Speaker 3: So I switched it to four fifty. I get a

684
00:32:35,320 --> 00:32:38,280
Speaker 3: text and they're like, hey, they're having some technical issues

685
00:32:38,280 --> 00:32:41,040
Speaker 3: with the studio, so like we're having to push the podcast.

686
00:32:41,160 --> 00:32:44,200
Speaker 3: I'm like, yeah, yeah, yeah, no big deal. So I go,

687
00:32:44,320 --> 00:32:45,160
Speaker 3: we do the podcast.

688
00:32:45,160 --> 00:32:46,280
Speaker 2: What time do you start doing it.

689
00:32:46,920 --> 00:32:49,560
Speaker 3: I think we started the podcast probably at one.

690
00:32:49,800 --> 00:32:51,000
Speaker 2: Okay, it's an hour behind.

691
00:32:51,240 --> 00:32:54,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, so do the pod three. Yeah. They're like, we're

692
00:32:54,480 --> 00:32:57,080
Speaker 3: gonna have some light bite, some champagne, and I'm like cool,

693
00:32:57,240 --> 00:33:01,080
Speaker 3: I'm acting chill, not even rushed. We do the podcast

694
00:33:01,080 --> 00:33:03,040
Speaker 3: and then We're like chit chatting, and I'm like, oh,

695
00:33:03,120 --> 00:33:05,920
Speaker 3: so I actually moved. They go what times your flight?

696
00:33:05,960 --> 00:33:07,440
Speaker 3: And I go, well, I had the six twenty that

697
00:33:07,520 --> 00:33:08,880
Speaker 3: y'all booked me on, but I saw there was a

698
00:33:08,880 --> 00:33:10,840
Speaker 3: four fifty, so I just switched it because I don't

699
00:33:10,880 --> 00:33:12,960
Speaker 3: like sitting around. I like to just like go and

700
00:33:12,960 --> 00:33:15,959
Speaker 3: get on the board. And she goes, oh my gosh,

701
00:33:15,960 --> 00:33:19,040
Speaker 3: like you have to go that the traffic. It's not

702
00:33:19,080 --> 00:33:20,960
Speaker 3: gonna be the traffic like when you got here, like

703
00:33:21,000 --> 00:33:23,080
Speaker 3: it could take two hours to get to the airport.

704
00:33:23,920 --> 00:33:26,960
Speaker 3: So I'm like okay. So I get in the car

705
00:33:27,040 --> 00:33:31,280
Speaker 3: with the driver and it's the My flight starts boarding

706
00:33:31,320 --> 00:33:35,320
Speaker 3: at four ten, and you know, I see the arrival

707
00:33:35,360 --> 00:33:39,600
Speaker 3: times for twenty, so I'm like, okay, we're gonna be

708
00:33:39,680 --> 00:33:42,360
Speaker 3: cutting it close. He goes, do you have clear and

709
00:33:42,400 --> 00:33:44,160
Speaker 3: I go yeah. He goes, I'm gonna drop you off

710
00:33:44,160 --> 00:33:47,520
Speaker 3: at the International security because it's right by your gate.

711
00:33:47,600 --> 00:33:49,680
Speaker 3: This guy was so legit. He dropped me off at

712
00:33:49,720 --> 00:33:52,200
Speaker 3: he knew, Yeah, he knew. He goes, I don't know

713
00:33:52,240 --> 00:33:54,360
Speaker 3: if you're gonna make it, but i'm excited to know

714
00:33:54,360 --> 00:33:55,760
Speaker 3: if you do. He goes, I'm going to drop you

715
00:33:55,760 --> 00:33:58,760
Speaker 3: off at International, You're gonna go through security there and

716
00:33:58,800 --> 00:34:02,440
Speaker 3: you're gonna just run your gate. So I do it

717
00:34:02,520 --> 00:34:05,640
Speaker 3: three minutes too late. And honestly, if I had just

718
00:34:05,680 --> 00:34:08,200
Speaker 3: been a little emboldened and asked, there was like a

719
00:34:08,200 --> 00:34:09,240
Speaker 3: little bit of line.

720
00:34:09,000 --> 00:34:11,440
Speaker 2: For clearty chat. No.

721
00:34:11,320 --> 00:34:15,960
Speaker 3: No, I could have eliminated. I could light bite, yeah,

722
00:34:16,000 --> 00:34:17,680
Speaker 3: I could have could have eliminated a.

723
00:34:17,680 --> 00:34:19,759
Speaker 2: Light bike, or one glass of champagne.

724
00:34:19,960 --> 00:34:23,880
Speaker 3: I only had one. Couldn't have that, yeah, but I

725
00:34:23,920 --> 00:34:24,560
Speaker 3: wish I had.

726
00:34:24,840 --> 00:34:25,040
Speaker 2: Well.

727
00:34:25,440 --> 00:34:29,239
Speaker 3: I have mixed feelings about this because I choose my

728
00:34:29,520 --> 00:34:33,200
Speaker 3: path of being late and tardy, So I never want

729
00:34:33,239 --> 00:34:36,640
Speaker 3: to inconvene or asked to inconvenience someone else because of

730
00:34:36,680 --> 00:34:39,160
Speaker 3: my choice. Like if I had not changed my flight

731
00:34:39,200 --> 00:34:41,080
Speaker 3: and I was just late because of traffic and it

732
00:34:41,120 --> 00:34:43,560
Speaker 3: was just timing, and then I had to ask someone

733
00:34:43,600 --> 00:34:44,920
Speaker 3: like can I please go in front of you? Like

734
00:34:44,920 --> 00:34:48,520
Speaker 3: they're boarding my flight? And I'm so sorry. That's one thing,

735
00:34:48,560 --> 00:34:52,040
Speaker 3: but knowing that it was my choice, I just can't

736
00:34:52,600 --> 00:34:54,719
Speaker 3: ask someone if I could go in front of them.

737
00:34:54,880 --> 00:34:58,880
Speaker 3: But if I had asked, I would have made it. Yeah,

738
00:34:58,920 --> 00:35:01,600
Speaker 3: So I like I'm renting, Like I'm like gasping for

739
00:35:01,640 --> 00:35:04,200
Speaker 3: air and I'm like, how how far I'm like laughing,

740
00:35:04,320 --> 00:35:06,239
Speaker 3: I'm like, how far did I miss it? He goes

741
00:35:06,760 --> 00:35:07,719
Speaker 3: three minutes and.

742
00:35:07,680 --> 00:35:10,239
Speaker 2: I was like the flight, like the plane took off.

743
00:35:10,280 --> 00:35:12,360
Speaker 3: No, the plane's still there. They want to let you

744
00:35:13,239 --> 00:35:16,879
Speaker 3: shut the gates. Yeah. Yeah, once they shut the door,

745
00:35:16,880 --> 00:35:18,440
Speaker 3: you're screwed.

746
00:35:19,560 --> 00:35:21,959
Speaker 2: So I was like, so you watched the plane fly off.

747
00:35:22,120 --> 00:35:23,680
Speaker 3: I didn't even watch it. I went and change my

748
00:35:23,719 --> 00:35:28,759
Speaker 3: flight back to the original, and uh got home fine.

749
00:35:28,800 --> 00:35:31,000
Speaker 3: It was totally great. But everyone I posted about her,

750
00:35:31,040 --> 00:35:33,239
Speaker 3: I was like, I it's why we love you. But

751
00:35:33,280 --> 00:35:34,759
Speaker 3: I don't know how you do this life.

752
00:35:35,440 --> 00:35:38,960
Speaker 4: It's so interesting because like maybe it's because your cortisol

753
00:35:39,040 --> 00:35:41,239
Speaker 4: levels are just so low that like you don't hit

754
00:35:41,280 --> 00:35:45,719
Speaker 4: you because like the thought of doing that makes me

755
00:35:45,880 --> 00:35:48,240
Speaker 4: so anxious. Like I'm just like I'm in this stage

756
00:35:48,239 --> 00:35:49,880
Speaker 4: of my life where I just want to keep things

757
00:35:49,920 --> 00:35:55,080
Speaker 4: like as least anxiety inducing as humanly possible, so for

758
00:35:55,120 --> 00:35:58,520
Speaker 4: me to like even embark on such a but I

759
00:35:58,560 --> 00:35:59,839
Speaker 4: just did not enjoy that.

760
00:36:00,239 --> 00:36:03,560
Speaker 3: So what happened was I checked the original flight to

761
00:36:03,640 --> 00:36:07,560
Speaker 3: make sure there were seats still available. So I kind

762
00:36:07,560 --> 00:36:09,640
Speaker 3: of was in a place of being like if I

763
00:36:09,800 --> 00:36:10,680
Speaker 3: missed this flight.

764
00:36:10,960 --> 00:36:13,040
Speaker 2: I'm good, I will be able to get on the

765
00:36:13,080 --> 00:36:13,719
Speaker 2: original flight.

766
00:36:13,760 --> 00:36:15,560
Speaker 4: What if you didn't, though, What if your original flight

767
00:36:15,640 --> 00:36:20,319
Speaker 4: was booked, would you have lazily gotten into your new

768
00:36:20,360 --> 00:36:23,320
Speaker 4: flight or would you've gone a little faster ask people

769
00:36:23,320 --> 00:36:24,399
Speaker 4: to cut Wait?

770
00:36:24,440 --> 00:36:25,799
Speaker 3: What if if there.

771
00:36:25,719 --> 00:36:28,279
Speaker 2: Was no seats left on your flight? You're six twenty yeah,

772
00:36:28,320 --> 00:36:28,719
Speaker 2: and you.

773
00:36:28,680 --> 00:36:30,600
Speaker 3: Had to make this four feat No, there was an

774
00:36:30,600 --> 00:36:32,680
Speaker 3: eight ten, So I probably would have said, if be

775
00:36:32,760 --> 00:36:37,319
Speaker 3: in the airport, I'll go to the Atlanta Aquarium day

776
00:36:37,520 --> 00:36:41,799
Speaker 3: good aquarium. So but here's the thing. I didn't have

777
00:36:41,880 --> 00:36:44,160
Speaker 3: anything to get home. Like Obviously I was excited to

778
00:36:44,160 --> 00:36:46,160
Speaker 3: get home and see Haley and Phoebe. But I knew

779
00:36:46,560 --> 00:36:48,560
Speaker 3: Hailey had an event that night, so I wasn't like

780
00:36:48,640 --> 00:36:51,200
Speaker 3: rushing home to see her, right. And I also was like,

781
00:36:51,239 --> 00:36:53,719
Speaker 3: I'm not trying to if I was, let's say I

782
00:36:53,760 --> 00:36:56,200
Speaker 3: was going to the podcast and I had a responsibility,

783
00:36:56,239 --> 00:36:58,600
Speaker 3: I'm not going to be irresponsible and switch my flight

784
00:36:58,760 --> 00:37:00,960
Speaker 3: like that. I mean, get where I need to go.

785
00:37:01,040 --> 00:37:03,160
Speaker 3: But when I didn't have anything, I thought, why not?

786
00:37:03,560 --> 00:37:09,359
Speaker 3: Why why not? Why not take it? Yeah, So it's

787
00:37:09,400 --> 00:37:15,120
Speaker 3: just a lesson for all of you. Try things. I

788
00:37:15,200 --> 00:37:20,120
Speaker 3: will never try that the a risk taker live a

789
00:37:20,120 --> 00:37:22,920
Speaker 3: little because what if? How cool if I but you

790
00:37:22,960 --> 00:37:25,320
Speaker 3: know what I and then I go, okay, it's okay

791
00:37:25,400 --> 00:37:28,839
Speaker 3: because now I'm gonna land at eight forty in LA

792
00:37:28,920 --> 00:37:31,160
Speaker 3: and I'm not gonna have traffic going home, whereas if

793
00:37:31,160 --> 00:37:33,640
Speaker 3: I had landed at six, I would have been stuck

794
00:37:33,680 --> 00:37:36,000
Speaker 3: in the traffic that I was sitting in the airport.

795
00:37:36,080 --> 00:37:38,960
Speaker 4: You know what I think about often actually, which is

796
00:37:39,000 --> 00:37:42,800
Speaker 4: like so crazy. When we flew back from Jared and

797
00:37:42,880 --> 00:37:48,480
Speaker 4: Ashley's wedding, we literally got to the airport in just

798
00:37:48,719 --> 00:37:52,000
Speaker 4: enough time to walk onto our gate and walk onto

799
00:37:52,000 --> 00:37:55,040
Speaker 4: the plane like I've never done that, where like I like,

800
00:37:55,160 --> 00:37:57,840
Speaker 4: I'm just like walking, like no stopping for the bathroom

801
00:37:57,880 --> 00:38:00,560
Speaker 4: like Pete in a hydro flask, Like we're just straight

802
00:38:00,960 --> 00:38:03,000
Speaker 4: going and like walking onto a flight.

803
00:38:03,400 --> 00:38:05,200
Speaker 2: That was so stressful.

804
00:38:06,239 --> 00:38:09,839
Speaker 6: Oh, I missed one flight in my life, and I

805
00:38:09,880 --> 00:38:12,760
Speaker 6: was recording at a prison in northern California with Governor

806
00:38:12,800 --> 00:38:16,200
Speaker 6: Gavin Newsom, and it went long and we were getting

807
00:38:16,239 --> 00:38:17,719
Speaker 6: to the airport and it was like we're going to

808
00:38:17,760 --> 00:38:21,520
Speaker 6: get there, I think ten minutes before it left or something.

809
00:38:22,000 --> 00:38:24,640
Speaker 6: And I had to checkle my equipment and Daniel Romo

810
00:38:24,680 --> 00:38:26,520
Speaker 6: who works with us. She was with me and she

811
00:38:26,680 --> 00:38:29,440
Speaker 6: just made a sprint for the gate and I checked

812
00:38:29,440 --> 00:38:32,520
Speaker 6: my gear and I started sprinting too, and they were

813
00:38:32,560 --> 00:38:34,200
Speaker 6: closing the door and I was like, hold it there,

814
00:38:34,239 --> 00:38:36,440
Speaker 6: and they like, once they start closing it, I think

815
00:38:36,480 --> 00:38:39,160
Speaker 6: they can't stop it. And she told them that we

816
00:38:39,160 --> 00:38:41,239
Speaker 6: were married. She's like, my husband's out there, and they

817
00:38:41,239 --> 00:38:41,960
Speaker 6: wouldn't let me on.

818
00:38:42,200 --> 00:38:42,319
Speaker 7: No.

819
00:38:42,440 --> 00:38:44,480
Speaker 5: I flamed my face and I had to take a

820
00:38:44,560 --> 00:38:45,239
Speaker 5: later flight home.

821
00:38:46,000 --> 00:38:47,799
Speaker 6: The funny thing is my equipment made it onto that flight,

822
00:38:47,880 --> 00:38:50,280
Speaker 6: so it did make the plane, which is crazy.

823
00:38:50,800 --> 00:38:52,200
Speaker 5: But I hated it. I hated.

824
00:38:53,040 --> 00:38:55,960
Speaker 4: Yeah, I've only missed one fight in my life as well.

825
00:38:56,120 --> 00:38:57,920
Speaker 4: But I didn't even make it to the airport, Like

826
00:38:58,000 --> 00:39:00,440
Speaker 4: I was so hungover that it was like one of

827
00:39:00,480 --> 00:39:02,480
Speaker 4: the iHeart Ready music festivals. My flight was at like

828
00:39:02,640 --> 00:39:05,239
Speaker 4: six am, Like I'm always like get me out first

829
00:39:05,280 --> 00:39:07,359
Speaker 4: thing Sunday morning, so I take like the earliest flight

830
00:39:07,400 --> 00:39:10,400
Speaker 4: out and I didn't even wake up until like eleven am.

831
00:39:10,560 --> 00:39:13,480
Speaker 4: So I like far missed it and I had to

832
00:39:13,840 --> 00:39:17,960
Speaker 4: drive back to LA with Amy Sugar because all the

833
00:39:17,960 --> 00:39:18,800
Speaker 4: flights were booked.

834
00:39:21,239 --> 00:39:23,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, I've never missed another flight.

835
00:39:24,960 --> 00:39:28,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, well it's life is life.

836
00:39:27,680 --> 00:39:33,080
Speaker 4: In life is life in and pressure and pressure and

837
00:39:33,239 --> 00:39:33,880
Speaker 4: to night.

838
00:39:35,880 --> 00:39:41,919
Speaker 2: Right, Yeah, yeah, that part the part.

839
00:39:42,280 --> 00:39:47,279
Speaker 3: So it's just about like living and stuff and like

840
00:39:47,360 --> 00:39:48,760
Speaker 3: what's the worst that can happen?

841
00:39:48,880 --> 00:39:50,719
Speaker 2: You know, I just could never be married to you,

842
00:39:50,800 --> 00:39:51,640
Speaker 2: is what I realized.

843
00:39:51,800 --> 00:39:54,680
Speaker 3: And that's that works, yeah for us.

844
00:39:54,920 --> 00:39:58,040
Speaker 4: But like I give props to Haley because if Robbie

845
00:39:58,040 --> 00:40:01,480
Speaker 4: were like you, it would be a really bad situation

846
00:40:01,560 --> 00:40:02,400
Speaker 4: for our relationship.

847
00:40:02,520 --> 00:40:05,959
Speaker 3: But I'm like, like, even with the Bahamas thing, when

848
00:40:06,080 --> 00:40:11,000
Speaker 3: when they had our flight fight or ride scheduled super

849
00:40:11,000 --> 00:40:13,080
Speaker 3: early and you wanted to go and then I didn't

850
00:40:13,080 --> 00:40:14,920
Speaker 3: want to go that early. We met in the middle.

851
00:40:15,320 --> 00:40:17,680
Speaker 3: Like I do believe in compromise. If I'm flying with someone,

852
00:40:17,760 --> 00:40:20,320
Speaker 3: I only really do that stuff if I'm like by myself.

853
00:40:20,520 --> 00:40:22,920
Speaker 3: And the Boston thing after Jared and Ashley's wedding, we

854
00:40:23,000 --> 00:40:26,719
Speaker 3: did not realize that was not even me being irresponsible.

855
00:40:26,760 --> 00:40:28,719
Speaker 3: We were so tired you had to pee in your

856
00:40:28,800 --> 00:40:30,680
Speaker 3: hydroflask like we were sitting in traffic.

857
00:40:30,719 --> 00:40:32,719
Speaker 2: It was very stressful. It was very stressful.

858
00:40:32,840 --> 00:40:35,880
Speaker 6: So I'm sorry if you consider it, how is it

859
00:40:35,920 --> 00:40:37,960
Speaker 6: does Haley want to get to the airport early what's

860
00:40:37,960 --> 00:40:39,080
Speaker 6: her attitude.

861
00:40:39,280 --> 00:40:40,840
Speaker 3: She's a little bit on the same page as me,

862
00:40:41,080 --> 00:40:43,319
Speaker 3: but she might run a little more stressed, Like I'm

863
00:40:43,320 --> 00:40:45,240
Speaker 3: a little more relaxed and she's a little more stressed

864
00:40:45,280 --> 00:40:47,439
Speaker 3: about it, but we kind of run in the same

865
00:40:47,640 --> 00:40:47,840
Speaker 3: I do.

866
00:40:47,960 --> 00:40:50,640
Speaker 6: I remember going to Tanya's wedding last year because you

867
00:40:50,680 --> 00:40:53,480
Speaker 6: were already there and we were in the airport and

868
00:40:53,560 --> 00:40:55,440
Speaker 6: Haley was on our flight going out and we hung

869
00:40:55,440 --> 00:40:57,759
Speaker 6: out with her and she was there same time as me,

870
00:40:57,800 --> 00:40:59,480
Speaker 6: which is pretty damn early love that.

871
00:40:59,760 --> 00:41:02,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I think probably when she's by herself, she's

872
00:41:02,560 --> 00:41:04,399
Speaker 3: a little more responsible. I held her back.

873
00:41:05,760 --> 00:41:06,560
Speaker 2: What do you think about?

874
00:41:06,960 --> 00:41:09,640
Speaker 3: It's something to think about, and thank you for bringing

875
00:41:09,680 --> 00:41:15,160
Speaker 3: that to my attention. I'll be more considerate moving forward.

876
00:41:16,239 --> 00:41:19,400
Speaker 3: We have a we have one like kind of miniature

877
00:41:19,440 --> 00:41:24,200
Speaker 3: dear Bonia question, because it's something we should talk talk

878
00:41:24,239 --> 00:41:26,680
Speaker 3: about and help her out with, and we'll do it

879
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Speaker 3: when we come back. We're back, We're back. Okay. So

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Speaker 3: this is from a tired and touched out scrubber. It

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Speaker 3: seems that this scrubber has a different love language than

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Speaker 3: their partner that you want to read these.

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Speaker 6: I'd love to thank you for the invitation Hello with

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Speaker 6: six o's to my favorite people. I'm a stay at

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Speaker 6: home mom to a two year old in five month

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Speaker 6: old twins. I feel incredibly blessed and truly love being

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Speaker 6: in this role, but caring for a toddler while also nursing, holding,

888
00:42:12,400 --> 00:42:15,040
Speaker 6: and caring for two infants all day is exhausting.

889
00:42:15,480 --> 00:42:16,440
Speaker 5: By the end of the day, I.

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Speaker 6: Am completely spent. I also grew up in a non

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Speaker 6: touchy feely home. There's lots of love, but not much

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Speaker 6: physical affection, so physical touch has not been a big

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Speaker 6: need for me. My husband, on the other hand, thrives

894
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Speaker 6: on it. It is his number one love language and

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Speaker 6: I've worked hard to meet him there. He is honestly

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Speaker 6: an angel. After working all day, he jumps right in

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00:42:34,280 --> 00:42:37,960
Speaker 6: with helping with the kids, cooking, cleaning, baths, bedtime, house projects,

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Speaker 6: and even make sure I get breaks to see friends

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Speaker 6: or get out of the house. My love language is

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Speaker 6: acts of service, and he shows up for me constantly.

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Speaker 6: The issue is he wants to cuddle all night long,

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Speaker 6: and I literally cannot sleep while being touched. In fact,

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Speaker 6: I'm literally writing this in the middle of the night

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Speaker 6: while he's cuddling me because I cannot sleep.

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Speaker 5: Oh Wow.

906
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Speaker 6: I'm happy to cuddle before bed, and I try to

907
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Speaker 6: fill his cup in the day with hugs, holding hands,

908
00:43:02,320 --> 00:43:04,520
Speaker 6: sitting close with the kids, all of that. But when

909
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Speaker 6: it's time to actually sleep, I just can't do it.

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Speaker 6: I brought it up before, and it makes him really sad.

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Speaker 6: This is truly the one thing he asks for while

912
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Speaker 6: meeting so maybe my needs every day. But I'm also

913
00:43:13,520 --> 00:43:15,600
Speaker 6: running on themes between the babies waking up and not

914
00:43:15,640 --> 00:43:17,359
Speaker 6: being able to sleep when I get back into bed.

915
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Speaker 6: How can I meet his need for physical touch without

916
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Speaker 6: hurting him while also getting the rest I need to

917
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Speaker 6: show up as the mom I want to be ps

918
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Speaker 6: in this season, it's really hard to take all my

919
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Speaker 6: kids out to do things because I simply don't have

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Speaker 6: enough hands. So we take a lot of drives and

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Speaker 6: I listen to the pod gets me through many difficult days.

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Speaker 6: And I appreciate you for.

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Speaker 5: More than you know. Thank you for what you do.

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Speaker 4: Wow, I mean I am her husband in this situation,

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Speaker 4: So all right.

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Speaker 3: I love like I love cuddling, and Haley and I

927
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Speaker 3: are both like physical touches one of our top love languages,

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Speaker 3: so that works for us. But I do feel like

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Speaker 3: when we go to bed, it's like we cuddle and

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Speaker 3: then like when we are both like going to sleep,

931
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Speaker 3: we like just naturally separate and I could not do

932
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Speaker 3: if like I like because I like to have my

933
00:44:01,200 --> 00:44:03,799
Speaker 3: legs I turn and toss and like I just want

934
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Speaker 3: to have like the freedom and space to do it.

935
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Speaker 3: So I feel like it's well, how would you handle

936
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Speaker 3: it for Robbie said, hey, I.

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Speaker 2: Think we lived through this. Oh oh so yeah, this

938
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Speaker 2: is no, no, no, I'll be this. Yeah.

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Speaker 4: I like I would like to cuddle all night long,

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Speaker 4: Like I would just love to like be on top

941
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Speaker 4: of each other the whole night.

942
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Speaker 2: He is at hard.

943
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Speaker 4: He doesn't he doesn't sleep so great, so it's like

944
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Speaker 4: important for him. He needs like his space to sleep,

945
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Speaker 4: and I too. When he told me that, I'm like,

946
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Speaker 4: you know, I did my like pouty thing, and then

947
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Speaker 4: I was like, you know what, Obviously sleep is important.

948
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Speaker 4: So we have a compromise. And it's not really compromise

949
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Speaker 4: because he wants to do it too. But we cuddle

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Speaker 4: when we like watch TV or whatever in bed. Then

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Speaker 4: when its time of sleep, we like separate. We're on

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Speaker 4: our different sides of the bed. And then on the

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Speaker 4: weekends when we wake up, we cuddle when we wake

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Speaker 4: up before getting out of bed, so we still have

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Speaker 4: like morning cuddles.

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Speaker 3: Oh. I don't know if they have this option because

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Speaker 3: they have small kids and babies, but I do like that.

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Speaker 4: Like we obviously can't do it during the week because

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Speaker 4: we're getting up at different times, but whenever we can,

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Speaker 4: we cut on bed. But when we sleep time is

961
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Speaker 4: sleep time. He's just gonna have to get over it.

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Speaker 3: Like I understand because.

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Speaker 2: I was like poudy about it too, but like he'll

964
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Speaker 2: get over it.

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Speaker 3: I also think it's like the way you communicate it,

966
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Speaker 3: which is like, hey, I'm I'm already not getting a

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Speaker 3: lot of sleep and taking care of the kids. I'm

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Speaker 3: very touched. I have multiple hands on me wanting me

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Speaker 3: at all times, and when I sleep, that's like my

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Speaker 3: only time where I'm not having to think about that.

971
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Speaker 3: So and maybe ask him, like what is the compromise,

972
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Speaker 3: because like, I want to be able to you fill

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Speaker 3: my cup so much.

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Speaker 2: I really lead with that.

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Speaker 4: Praise him for he shows up for you, and you

976
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Speaker 4: want to show up the way that way back.

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Speaker 3: But this is just really IMPORTANTEP, and it's important for

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Speaker 3: you to have sleep, so you have the energy and

979
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Speaker 3: capacity to give to him and the kids. But I

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Speaker 3: would just say, what, what is a way that I

981
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Speaker 3: can still have my space when I so I'm able

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Speaker 3: to sleep, but also that you feel love didn't seen

983
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Speaker 3: and have your love language fulfilled because you do that

984
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Speaker 3: for me and he if he's like it's cuddling all

985
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Speaker 3: night or.

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Speaker 2: Else, no, he's not going to this guy sounds I know.

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Speaker 3: I'm just saying. I think you just need to like

988
00:46:13,280 --> 00:46:15,279
Speaker 3: lean into how wonderful he is to you and fills

989
00:46:15,280 --> 00:46:17,160
Speaker 3: your cup, but you also need to be able to sleep,

990
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Speaker 3: and you can't sleep if you're being touched.

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Speaker 2: He's one of the good ones.

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Speaker 3: You have this issue on the same page.

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Speaker 6: I mean, uh yeah, like not to this extent, but

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Speaker 6: you know, I mean so I can tell him she

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Speaker 6: doesn't want to be touched and I respect it, and.

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Speaker 5: That's you know, I move on.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah, he's just gotta he's just gotta. No,

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Speaker 3: it's not personal for sure. Yeah yeah yeah. Just remember

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Speaker 3: you guys. If you ever want some just advice, excellent advice,

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Speaker 3: excellent advice, just dm this on Instagram at scrubbing in

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Speaker 3: pod or email us at scrubbing in at iHeartMedia dot

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Speaker 3: com Tanya. I hope you're having the best time in

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Speaker 3: Mexico so much.

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Speaker 2: Hope you enjoying your weekend as well.

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