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Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya rad and I

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Speaker 1: Heart Radio and two time People's Choice Award winning podcast.

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Speaker 1: Hello everybody, we're scrubbing in. It's a Wednesdayprindesday, Wednesday, Fridnesday.

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Speaker 1: That was impressive. I just pulled that out of my

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Speaker 1: back pocket. I'm not that impressive. It was not bad.

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Speaker 1: It wasn't bad. How are you doing? I'm a little

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Speaker 1: scared of you today. So Becca text me at like,

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Speaker 1: I don't know what time to fifty, so for reference,

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Speaker 1: we're doing the podcast at three, and uh, she says, hey,

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Speaker 1: will you learn a TikTok with me? And I had

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Speaker 1: just woken up from a nap, like literally just opened

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Speaker 1: for the morning show. So I was already like not

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Speaker 1: in this headspace of like wanting to learn any sort

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Speaker 1: of TikTok, nor do I really want to learn any

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Speaker 1: sort of TikTok. So I just hit her back and

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Speaker 1: just said, no, yeah, that's it, not even like I'm tired.

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Speaker 1: That doesn't that sounds even if she was like that

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Speaker 1: sounds like the worst thing ever to me right now,

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Speaker 1: that'd be more tanny. It was like just so no,

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Speaker 1: I'm like her that I laughed out wow, like I

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Speaker 1: genuinely made me laugh because it was so unexpected. And

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Speaker 1: then I was like, I'm sorry. I should have had

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Speaker 1: a softer, softer say. I'm sorry. I go, wow, I

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Speaker 1: was not expecting that, and she goes, oh, what were

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Speaker 1: you expecting? And I was like, I don't know, like

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Speaker 1: oh what TikTok dance or what is it or anything?

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Speaker 1: And she goes, oh, so a softer response, know if

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Speaker 1: that's what I was expecting, just in oh, was not it?

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Speaker 1: So then I get here to her house and she's

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Speaker 1: just kind of I don't know, there's an unsettled in,

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Speaker 1: like you know when you have that cookie energy, like

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Speaker 1: up and you just have that weird energy. Yeah, I

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Speaker 1: have that right now. So no, no, no, but it's

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Speaker 1: not that. It's not silly tired tongue yet it's scary.

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Speaker 1: This is actually really funny. So I, uh, so I

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Speaker 1: have when you come to my apartment, I have this

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Speaker 1: like you call my phone and I can buzz you in,

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Speaker 1: so I know when when Becca has a has a

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Speaker 1: through the front door, because I leave it open for her,

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Speaker 1: and so I try to get into place because it's

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Speaker 1: a quick turnaround, like two seconds before you get to

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Speaker 1: my front door, and because I wanted to film myself

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Speaker 1: scaring her, and I missed the opportunity. I didn't get

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Speaker 1: But I still scared her. Yeah, because I opened the

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Speaker 1: door and she's sprinting across like the kitchen area. Scared

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Speaker 1: the shoot out of me. And she was like, I

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Speaker 1: was trying to scare you. I was like, but you did,

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Speaker 1: Like that's exactly what happened. But I wanted to film it.

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Speaker 1: That would be so fun. I love doing that, so

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Speaker 1: I understand in disappointment. Great to see you, I know.

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Speaker 1: And then I was like, I woke up hungry, and

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Speaker 1: so I was like, I really just need like a

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Speaker 1: little snack snack just before we start the podcast. But

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Speaker 1: I'm not much The rad pat is not a big

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Speaker 1: snake snacky house, depressing, Like if I come over here hungry,

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Speaker 1: I just I'm gonna be hungry. Covers are bleak, It's

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Speaker 1: filled with like huge bags of nuts for my almond milk.

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Speaker 1: So this is just like almond milk nuts. So they're

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Speaker 1: not even like yummy tasty nuts. They're like raw raw.

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Speaker 1: I've gotten desperate before and I'm like, there's not there's

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Speaker 1: no salt, there's nothing. It's just like a raw almond. Oh,

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Speaker 1: but it's all I have. And the I have like

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Speaker 1: But like you can't snack snaky on like a Roman lettuce.

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Speaker 1: You could have done like a turkey like roll up. No, no,

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Speaker 1: it's like ground turkey, had to cook it. I do

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Speaker 1: have cherry tomatoes. I kind of pop those in like like,

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Speaker 1: you know, it's pretty depressing. But we've always said like

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Speaker 1: still depends about that. But if you have kids, they'll

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Speaker 1: be like, can we please go to Antibacca's house. We're

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Speaker 1: hungry sugar. I have sugar. I have a I have

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Speaker 1: some sugar. Have dates, No, every kid's dream, snag some dates.

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Speaker 1: We have another prude mom? Please, mom? Please another cherry tomato?

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Speaker 1: So so sweet? What have you been doing? I've aly

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Speaker 1: haven't seen here. I know it's so um. Normally, when

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Speaker 1: I mean, I think we still celebrated it, just the

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Speaker 1: How it was the last two nights. This is so beautiful,

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Speaker 1: I was gonna say, I mean, I literally know nothing

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Speaker 1: is it? So it's the Jewish New Year and basically

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Speaker 1: they have this plate and I guess every family can

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Speaker 1: do it different. I don't really know exactly how it's

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Speaker 1: like traditionally supposed to be done. But you eat, you

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Speaker 1: go around and you say like a prayer for everything

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Speaker 1: that's on the plate, and so there's things like um

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Speaker 1: uh pomegranate's a date, apples and honey, a zucchini, um

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Speaker 1: some sort of tongue it sounds. It's actually really delicious

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Speaker 1: and um, I think and beans and so each item

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Speaker 1: something else in life, and it's like to have a

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Speaker 1: pomegranates like symbolize um, like a fruitful something like that.

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Speaker 1: But it's really really beautiful. So it's like you kind

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Speaker 1: takes a while, but it's really like fun and nice

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Speaker 1: and everybody has the same thing in front of them

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Speaker 1: and yeah, yeah, yeah it was delicious, dude, the whole thing. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: beef stew. Wow, this is fascinating. Yeah, I literally knew nothing.

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Speaker 1: This is like so interesting. It's also interesting that you're

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Speaker 1: somebody who eats that stuff very often. But you just

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Speaker 1: it's just a little piece of all of those things,

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Speaker 1: That's really cool. So you're with his family, Yeah, So

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Speaker 1: are they like do they find it interesting that you

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Speaker 1: come from a different background, Like are they very just

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Speaker 1: like everyone's teaching you everything or have you just kind

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Speaker 1: They just everybody just kind of welcomes me. They don't

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Speaker 1: I kind of just so did it like everybody else did.

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Speaker 1: And then I asked his dad questions on stuff like yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: it was really fun and like I really just think

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Speaker 1: it's a beautiful holiday. I know, I loved what you

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Speaker 1: and religions. Cool. I mean, it's really I don't think

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Speaker 1: or you don't hear about it, I know. And you

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Speaker 1: know what's really interesting is like I think just in

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Speaker 1: it's like the more that you can educate and learn, Um,

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Speaker 1: I always felt like that was so it was so

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Speaker 1: fun to me that like he's never decorated a Christmas

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Speaker 1: great with getting rid of something. No, definitely not that.

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Speaker 1: inter faith like marriages and relationships. But that's what I'm saying.

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Speaker 1: my opinion, No, I agree. I think it's really cool. Um. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: got me, But I was like, why do you bring

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Speaker 1: I've been doing. Oh my my older sister came in

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Speaker 1: so we're superum an age, very close. But she that's wild.

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Speaker 1: I never realized that. I always thought Katie was way

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Speaker 1: older because she has four children. She's worried. No, she's

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Speaker 1: only she's thirty four lives so, um, she married her

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Speaker 1: what I'm saying. Have you watched Bachelor in Paradise? You

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Speaker 1: Monday night. I know, infuriate, infuriating, infuriating, But it's like

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Speaker 1: But is there a wrong reason to go on? They

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Speaker 1: I'm like, as someone who went on the show, I

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Speaker 1: But also I thought, worst case scenario, I can't go

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Speaker 1: So for anyone like saying, oh, they're not here for

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Speaker 1: the wrong reasons, they're all they're all full of it

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Speaker 1: because they're all there for the same thing. They're What

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Speaker 1: Like she was like she wanted nothing to do with it.

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Speaker 1: Let's do this let's date and he's like, well no,

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Speaker 1: like you could see him like jittering, like trying to

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Speaker 1: moments where I'm like, holy Molly, that's an intense kiss

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Speaker 1: on camera. I'm just gonna do this as my shameless

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Speaker 1: plug to get people to watch the Love Island UK

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Speaker 1: because on Love Island UK, these people are emotionally intelligent.

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Speaker 1: They are in love. I still haven't you know, there's

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Speaker 1: so many, but we're close to the end. But I

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Speaker 1: these people have been together for years and they're just

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Speaker 1: When it shows the love stuff, I'm very bored. So

425
00:23:21,119 --> 00:23:24,320
Speaker 1: the flip side is that the drama, which actually enrages

426
00:23:24,359 --> 00:23:26,840
Speaker 1: me is actually what entertains me, which I hate that

427
00:23:26,920 --> 00:23:30,359
Speaker 1: about myself. But it's just something you're like the problem.

428
00:23:30,480 --> 00:23:34,640
Speaker 1: You're the problem. You're the problem because you're supporting it.

429
00:23:34,920 --> 00:23:38,160
Speaker 1: Can I make a prediction, Yeah, I predict that Red

430
00:23:38,160 --> 00:23:41,400
Speaker 1: Star will not want you to record yourselves making out.

431
00:23:42,119 --> 00:23:45,720
Speaker 1: I'm gonna challenge that. He won't be angry. He will

432
00:23:45,720 --> 00:23:48,080
Speaker 1: actually be very amused by the idea of it, but

433
00:23:48,119 --> 00:23:50,280
Speaker 1: he'll say, I don't really want to see that. I'm

434
00:23:50,280 --> 00:23:53,640
Speaker 1: not interested in that. I don't think it's a good idea.

435
00:23:53,800 --> 00:23:55,480
Speaker 1: I don't think he's gonna want to see it. For sure,

436
00:23:55,520 --> 00:23:57,879
Speaker 1: he's not gonna want to watch it. He might be

437
00:23:57,920 --> 00:24:00,800
Speaker 1: into it, though it might unleash something I think I

438
00:24:00,880 --> 00:24:04,960
Speaker 1: think I'm more leaning with Eastan on this one. Yeah,

439
00:24:04,960 --> 00:24:06,800
Speaker 1: he might be like, let's film the whole thing, Let's

440
00:24:06,800 --> 00:24:12,560
Speaker 1: go for it. Yeah right, yeah right. I think I'd

441
00:24:12,600 --> 00:24:14,639
Speaker 1: be so scared like that video with like you know,

442
00:24:14,640 --> 00:24:16,800
Speaker 1: with me with like the eye cloud that that stuff,

443
00:24:16,840 --> 00:24:19,520
Speaker 1: just like well, there you go. That's another reason he's

444
00:24:19,520 --> 00:24:22,760
Speaker 1: going to say no. Will you ask him for sure?

445
00:24:23,920 --> 00:24:32,440
Speaker 1: Can you ask him right now on can we live texts? Yeah?

446
00:24:32,480 --> 00:24:34,240
Speaker 1: But again, and it's not going to be what you want.

447
00:24:34,320 --> 00:24:35,720
Speaker 1: I feel like if I text him, it's going to

448
00:24:35,840 --> 00:24:38,440
Speaker 1: be like a huh, like what if it'd be worse

449
00:24:38,480 --> 00:24:40,800
Speaker 1: than the no I got with my TikTok question. If

450
00:24:40,800 --> 00:24:43,320
Speaker 1: I get to ask him in a person, yeah, I

451
00:24:43,359 --> 00:24:45,320
Speaker 1: think ask him over dinner or something that you tell

452
00:24:45,400 --> 00:24:47,720
Speaker 1: us next week, because I think it should be since here,

453
00:24:47,760 --> 00:24:49,320
Speaker 1: he's gonna think it's a bit if you do it

454
00:24:49,400 --> 00:24:54,800
Speaker 1: texted or phone. Right. I agree. He's very smart, that man.

455
00:24:55,520 --> 00:24:58,680
Speaker 1: Yeah smart. I know. I'm just like so hot. So

456
00:24:59,200 --> 00:25:02,960
Speaker 1: my sister actually was listening to the morning show UH

457
00:25:03,240 --> 00:25:06,239
Speaker 1: today and she calls that she was I am like

458
00:25:06,400 --> 00:25:10,600
Speaker 1: fired up because everyone's they're talking about how you. She

459
00:25:10,680 --> 00:25:13,000
Speaker 1: was like, I just happened to turn the volume up,

460
00:25:13,040 --> 00:25:15,680
Speaker 1: and I heard so you went out to eat with

461
00:25:15,760 --> 00:25:18,240
Speaker 1: your boyfriend and Becca and she was like, oh, I

462
00:25:18,240 --> 00:25:21,560
Speaker 1: guess I'll keep listening. And y'all we're talking about the

463
00:25:22,520 --> 00:25:25,560
Speaker 1: it's like having our arms around each other's something. He

464
00:25:25,600 --> 00:25:28,440
Speaker 1: had his arm around you. And then I was reading

465
00:25:28,480 --> 00:25:30,240
Speaker 1: all the comments. I saw it. I saw that I

466
00:25:30,280 --> 00:25:32,680
Speaker 1: was tagged in like the Instagram, and so I went

467
00:25:32,680 --> 00:25:34,960
Speaker 1: and all the comments. I was like, Oh my gosh,

468
00:25:35,480 --> 00:25:38,040
Speaker 1: people are assuming that I'm just gonna be this home record,

469
00:25:38,080 --> 00:25:40,040
Speaker 1: which you know, if you know what you know, if

470
00:25:40,040 --> 00:25:44,640
Speaker 1: you what you know, then it's all pretty laughable, right.

471
00:25:45,040 --> 00:25:48,439
Speaker 1: But I know, And that's the thing, Like, I'm like,

472
00:25:48,760 --> 00:25:52,480
Speaker 1: there's not like a like a not even a morsel

473
00:25:52,640 --> 00:25:56,359
Speaker 1: of a like a point zero zero percent of non

474
00:25:56,440 --> 00:25:59,560
Speaker 1: trust in Becca or in my significant other, so like

475
00:25:59,720 --> 00:26:02,879
Speaker 1: to it's funny, but the amount of people that have

476
00:26:03,040 --> 00:26:06,280
Speaker 1: been cheated on with like either best friends or sisters

477
00:26:06,359 --> 00:26:09,800
Speaker 1: or cousins, like it blows my mind. It's pretty sad.

478
00:26:10,119 --> 00:26:11,960
Speaker 1: I know, it makes me really sad. I'm like, why

479
00:26:11,960 --> 00:26:14,720
Speaker 1: do you have people friends in your life that I

480
00:26:14,840 --> 00:26:18,840
Speaker 1: imagine they're not friends anymore? I gather the same, But

481
00:26:18,920 --> 00:26:20,480
Speaker 1: how do you not know that. I did not pick

482
00:26:20,560 --> 00:26:22,959
Speaker 1: up on that that they have that character, you know,

483
00:26:23,000 --> 00:26:26,560
Speaker 1: I don't know, I don't know, but yeah, she was

484
00:26:26,600 --> 00:26:30,159
Speaker 1: all like, why why are people just assuming like telling

485
00:26:30,200 --> 00:26:33,080
Speaker 1: their issues of like things that have happened to them.

486
00:26:33,119 --> 00:26:35,760
Speaker 1: And I'm like, I said, welcome to my life. This

487
00:26:35,880 --> 00:26:40,480
Speaker 1: is what it's like. People have an opinion. Um, but yeah,

488
00:26:40,520 --> 00:26:41,919
Speaker 1: I thought that was funny that she was like, I

489
00:26:41,960 --> 00:26:44,439
Speaker 1: always just have my Spotify planing. It happened to like

490
00:26:44,480 --> 00:26:46,840
Speaker 1: turn it off and put all the thank you Katie

491
00:26:46,840 --> 00:26:55,639
Speaker 1: and appreciate what do you call? Honestly don't even know

492
00:26:55,680 --> 00:26:59,200
Speaker 1: what that stands for. It stands for a priority one listeners,

493
00:26:59,640 --> 00:27:01,720
Speaker 1: the one that our die hards and listen all day

494
00:27:01,760 --> 00:27:05,760
Speaker 1: every day. Value them greatly. Yeah, we love them. Um

495
00:27:06,040 --> 00:27:10,240
Speaker 1: did you see that, Addison Montgomery? Oh yeah, I want

496
00:27:10,240 --> 00:27:12,879
Speaker 1: to talk about it. Oh what did you guys ever

497
00:27:13,080 --> 00:27:20,240
Speaker 1: watch the video? Oh there's a video. Okay, So Eastan

498
00:27:20,280 --> 00:27:22,359
Speaker 1: has no idea because he doesn't watched grays Anonomy. So

499
00:27:22,440 --> 00:27:24,960
Speaker 1: we're gonna Dees is not going to partake Mark watch.

500
00:27:25,080 --> 00:27:28,680
Speaker 1: Go to Kate Kate Walsh, go to her Instagram and

501
00:27:28,720 --> 00:27:31,000
Speaker 1: just watch the video. You can put the volume up

502
00:27:31,000 --> 00:27:33,880
Speaker 1: so I'm sure. Well, why don't we take a break

503
00:27:33,920 --> 00:27:35,800
Speaker 1: and come back. Okay, okay, yeah, yeah, take a break.

504
00:27:35,840 --> 00:27:53,800
Speaker 1: Let's take a break teaser. All right, we're back. Mark

505
00:27:53,840 --> 00:27:56,359
Speaker 1: and I both watched the video Easton could care less

506
00:27:56,640 --> 00:27:59,800
Speaker 1: and then you have some thoughts on it. So I

507
00:28:00,600 --> 00:28:02,760
Speaker 1: understand we're in the TikTok generation, but I have to

508
00:28:02,760 --> 00:28:06,720
Speaker 1: watch one more person do that pump up up and

509
00:28:06,760 --> 00:28:09,800
Speaker 1: like point at like point at things. I'm going to

510
00:28:09,840 --> 00:28:14,840
Speaker 1: lose my mind. Whatever, Grandma, that's not that's not trend

511
00:28:14,960 --> 00:28:18,960
Speaker 1: that's not like yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, that's not the

512
00:28:19,000 --> 00:28:22,560
Speaker 1: same thing. I was just like, we're better than this,

513
00:28:22,760 --> 00:28:26,119
Speaker 1: Kate Waltch, like, we're better than the whole thing with

514
00:28:26,200 --> 00:28:29,680
Speaker 1: TikTok and reels is like doing the trends and so

515
00:28:30,440 --> 00:28:33,760
Speaker 1: that's how it gets traction because that's how the algorithm priority.

516
00:28:34,200 --> 00:28:37,200
Speaker 1: But I'm saying it's beneath her. Kate does not need

517
00:28:37,240 --> 00:28:40,080
Speaker 1: the algorithm, like she could have dying laughing in the video.

518
00:28:40,200 --> 00:28:43,240
Speaker 1: That's why it was funny. Basically like this was like

519
00:28:43,280 --> 00:28:45,120
Speaker 1: what am I doing? Like? Why am I doing this? Yeah?

520
00:28:45,160 --> 00:28:47,760
Speaker 1: I appreciate the look in her eyes. I could like

521
00:28:47,960 --> 00:28:56,480
Speaker 1: I saw it, but she could have just posted like

522
00:28:56,640 --> 00:28:59,160
Speaker 1: a word just saying like welcome back, and it would

523
00:28:59,200 --> 00:29:04,400
Speaker 1: have been so like cool. I can't handle Tanya not

524
00:29:04,480 --> 00:29:07,320
Speaker 1: being a part of what's happening in our generation. Yeah,

525
00:29:07,360 --> 00:29:09,680
Speaker 1: that's not good. I don't like Tanya aging out of

526
00:29:09,720 --> 00:29:13,240
Speaker 1: these It's like you do. I feel old a lot

527
00:29:13,280 --> 00:29:15,480
Speaker 1: of times on TikTok. Sure I do. I do. I

528
00:29:15,520 --> 00:29:18,640
Speaker 1: definitely do know, but it don't have fun being a

529
00:29:18,680 --> 00:29:21,360
Speaker 1: part of the youth. Yes, I do. I think there's

530
00:29:21,400 --> 00:29:23,800
Speaker 1: things that you like. It's like Derek's like Derek. Let's

531
00:29:23,800 --> 00:29:28,760
Speaker 1: say Derek Shephard, Derek Huff And it's like, I think

532
00:29:28,800 --> 00:29:30,960
Speaker 1: there's things you can do on TikTok and I still

533
00:29:31,280 --> 00:29:33,680
Speaker 1: in those modes of like where I want to partake

534
00:29:33,720 --> 00:29:35,760
Speaker 1: in and and do them. But if you will not

535
00:29:35,760 --> 00:29:38,440
Speaker 1: see me doing a I wasn't asking you to do

536
00:29:38,480 --> 00:29:42,320
Speaker 1: that today. Oh yeah, okay, I was not gonna ask

537
00:29:42,320 --> 00:29:43,920
Speaker 1: you to do that one. But we should do that

538
00:29:43,920 --> 00:29:49,000
Speaker 1: would be funny. I can't do it. It's hard. It's

539
00:29:49,040 --> 00:29:53,080
Speaker 1: hard because, like Tanya's the whole thing for a couple

540
00:29:53,080 --> 00:29:55,680
Speaker 1: of years has been these dances that she's made up

541
00:29:55,680 --> 00:29:58,120
Speaker 1: with Brad and now they're basically laid out in front

542
00:29:58,120 --> 00:30:00,600
Speaker 1: of her for her to have six cess in the

543
00:30:00,680 --> 00:30:03,480
Speaker 1: dancing world. But you don't get to make them your own.

544
00:30:03,880 --> 00:30:06,080
Speaker 1: You had to put any spin on it you want.

545
00:30:06,560 --> 00:30:08,440
Speaker 1: You had to copy other people, and I like to

546
00:30:08,440 --> 00:30:11,960
Speaker 1: be an original. You know. It's like Trins, why don't

547
00:30:11,960 --> 00:30:18,640
Speaker 1: you start your own trim then go not a es. Honestly,

548
00:30:19,000 --> 00:30:26,240
Speaker 1: some of your better works have to work anyways. All

549
00:30:26,320 --> 00:30:29,160
Speaker 1: I have to say is if Addison only comes back

550
00:30:29,200 --> 00:30:31,560
Speaker 1: for one episode like Sarah Drew did, I'm going to

551
00:30:31,640 --> 00:30:35,120
Speaker 1: be so upset because I actually I think she will.

552
00:30:35,600 --> 00:30:39,479
Speaker 1: I agree, enhance the quality of the show. Again, I agree,

553
00:30:39,680 --> 00:30:42,000
Speaker 1: I totally agree, and I actually I really think about

554
00:30:42,280 --> 00:30:45,400
Speaker 1: how she left and why she left, because she left

555
00:30:45,440 --> 00:30:47,680
Speaker 1: to go to l A to pursue her plastics and

556
00:30:47,800 --> 00:30:52,280
Speaker 1: blackmail that show, right, which I did. But now they're

557
00:30:52,280 --> 00:30:56,960
Speaker 1: really trying to blackmails into watching A Station nineteen. They're

558
00:30:57,000 --> 00:31:06,080
Speaker 1: doing another the premieres a crossover again, pretty intense. Stop

559
00:31:06,240 --> 00:31:11,600
Speaker 1: making that as I'm gonna figure it out. I'm not

560
00:31:11,680 --> 00:31:16,080
Speaker 1: gonna do it. You can't make me. Yeah, not today,

561
00:31:17,960 --> 00:31:23,480
Speaker 1: not today, not ever. Well, I'm very I'm really excited

562
00:31:23,480 --> 00:31:26,400
Speaker 1: about that, and I'm wondering what her purposes like why

563
00:31:26,400 --> 00:31:27,920
Speaker 1: she's coming back. Yeah, do you think she's coming back

564
00:31:27,920 --> 00:31:31,560
Speaker 1: because she has Oh and the preview it looks like

565
00:31:31,760 --> 00:31:35,440
Speaker 1: someone is injured on a gurney. Oh do you do

566
00:31:35,440 --> 00:31:38,600
Speaker 1: you who that is? Though? Okay, so there's like all

567
00:31:38,640 --> 00:31:41,880
Speaker 1: this scuttle. Addison Montgomery is coming back, Like no, no,

568
00:31:42,160 --> 00:31:44,560
Speaker 1: everybody's like posting me how excited they are. It's on

569
00:31:44,640 --> 00:31:48,960
Speaker 1: like every entertainment you know, social media, and then um,

570
00:31:49,040 --> 00:31:51,240
Speaker 1: somebody else is coming back, and it was like I

571
00:31:51,240 --> 00:31:53,440
Speaker 1: saw one post about it, and I was like, we'll

572
00:31:53,440 --> 00:31:56,040
Speaker 1: give you one or a guest who's coming back, We'll

573
00:31:56,080 --> 00:32:00,680
Speaker 1: give you one. Hunt. Yeah, I saw that one, good one.

574
00:32:00,720 --> 00:32:05,760
Speaker 1: But yeah, the sister sister Hunt's coming back and nobody cares.

575
00:32:06,840 --> 00:32:10,080
Speaker 1: That's what I think. I think she's on the granny either.

576
00:32:10,200 --> 00:32:14,520
Speaker 1: I have no um what's the word, like prediction or

577
00:32:14,560 --> 00:32:19,200
Speaker 1: no thought process behind that prediction, but just my prediction. Uh.

578
00:32:19,640 --> 00:32:23,080
Speaker 1: And Meredith's mom is coming back right yeah? Yeah. What

579
00:32:23,280 --> 00:32:26,520
Speaker 1: if his sister is pregnant in having like a situation

580
00:32:26,720 --> 00:32:30,560
Speaker 1: with her pregnancy and they need Addison because she's the

581
00:32:30,640 --> 00:32:35,320
Speaker 1: best pre natal o b g Yan. Yeah, I don't know.

582
00:32:36,800 --> 00:32:42,240
Speaker 1: Well Joe, oh yeah, we're gonna that's true, she's over

583
00:32:42,280 --> 00:32:45,120
Speaker 1: working her way up and actually with um um, the

584
00:32:45,160 --> 00:32:52,280
Speaker 1: other one's gone, Creb's gone, and Arizona on Arizona, So yeah,

585
00:32:52,360 --> 00:32:55,120
Speaker 1: maybe they do need Addison. Joe is simply holding on

586
00:32:55,200 --> 00:32:58,800
Speaker 1: the fort alone right now, and Mayor, I don't know,

587
00:32:58,880 --> 00:33:04,600
Speaker 1: I'm saying it, ob Pediatrics, do you even watch the show? Honestly,

588
00:33:04,640 --> 00:33:06,960
Speaker 1: it's hard to remember where we left off because I

589
00:33:07,040 --> 00:33:13,800
Speaker 1: just let let us not forget that finale. Correct, Yes,

590
00:33:16,440 --> 00:33:18,479
Speaker 1: neither of us could tell you what happened, but I

591
00:33:18,480 --> 00:33:21,400
Speaker 1: do remember we were both just like, what that could

592
00:33:21,400 --> 00:33:23,080
Speaker 1: have been the ending of the show, because I remember

593
00:33:23,120 --> 00:33:25,160
Speaker 1: they were like it could have been used as a

594
00:33:25,200 --> 00:33:27,720
Speaker 1: series finale at me because I didn't think it was

595
00:33:27,760 --> 00:33:31,040
Speaker 1: that bad. Um, yeah, that's true. I'm still mad at

596
00:33:31,080 --> 00:33:34,320
Speaker 1: you know, let you bring that up. I knew I

597
00:33:34,400 --> 00:33:36,720
Speaker 1: felt something tord to you and I kind of put

598
00:33:36,720 --> 00:33:40,040
Speaker 1: my finger on him. Wait, there was something else that

599
00:33:40,080 --> 00:33:44,080
Speaker 1: I wanted to tell you guys about about Grays. Oh

600
00:33:44,120 --> 00:33:46,600
Speaker 1: oh there was this. Uh, this is just an aside.

601
00:33:46,640 --> 00:33:49,760
Speaker 1: It's just a quick, brief little thing. But um Us

602
00:33:49,800 --> 00:33:52,840
Speaker 1: Weekly posted this story about Jeffrey Dean Morgan about how

603
00:33:52,880 --> 00:33:55,720
Speaker 1: he is in RELI. Hillary Burton thanks Jeffrey Dean Morgan

604
00:33:55,840 --> 00:33:58,320
Speaker 1: for his undying support, and then it was like under

605
00:33:58,320 --> 00:34:00,840
Speaker 1: a couple of goals and you would just love him.

606
00:34:01,000 --> 00:34:04,040
Speaker 1: So it just makes me feel good to know that

607
00:34:04,120 --> 00:34:07,040
Speaker 1: he's real in like real life. He's like Denny Duquette

608
00:34:07,040 --> 00:34:09,480
Speaker 1: and just like a good guy. If I could say,

609
00:34:09,520 --> 00:34:12,359
Speaker 1: really quick, we do a podcast with when Hillary Burton

610
00:34:12,400 --> 00:34:15,399
Speaker 1: called the Drama Queens on iHeart Radio, and uh, every

611
00:34:15,440 --> 00:34:17,520
Speaker 1: time we record, he's always like popping in and like

612
00:34:17,600 --> 00:34:19,760
Speaker 1: wrangling the kids around. He just seems like the coolest

613
00:34:19,840 --> 00:34:22,439
Speaker 1: dude in the world. And uh, he's like a bad

614
00:34:22,480 --> 00:34:26,040
Speaker 1: guy to me because he's on walking day. Yeah, and

615
00:34:26,080 --> 00:34:28,680
Speaker 1: I saw him like hunting like immigrants at the Border

616
00:34:28,719 --> 00:34:31,600
Speaker 1: and this other movie that was really insane. But he's

617
00:34:31,840 --> 00:34:34,520
Speaker 1: he's the coolest dude in the world. Are you friendly

618
00:34:34,560 --> 00:34:38,160
Speaker 1: with Hillary? Yes, we're on a texting basis. If I

619
00:34:38,239 --> 00:34:40,319
Speaker 1: might say, next time you see her, can you just

620
00:34:40,400 --> 00:34:42,680
Speaker 1: tell her how much I love Denny or do you

621
00:34:42,680 --> 00:34:45,359
Speaker 1: think she think it's weird? I don't think you think

622
00:34:45,400 --> 00:34:48,440
Speaker 1: that's right. I'll tell her and and send her a

623
00:34:48,480 --> 00:34:51,200
Speaker 1: comparison photo of Red Star and Denny and see if

624
00:34:54,600 --> 00:34:58,279
Speaker 1: I've already done that. Screwbert sent me a side by

625
00:34:58,360 --> 00:35:01,680
Speaker 1: side and they were like, um, I kind of see it.

626
00:35:01,800 --> 00:35:04,440
Speaker 1: He does kind of look like red Star and sent

627
00:35:04,560 --> 00:35:06,080
Speaker 1: me the photo of them side by so I said

628
00:35:06,120 --> 00:35:08,120
Speaker 1: it to you. You and Mark, Yeah, I know, I know.

629
00:35:08,239 --> 00:35:12,480
Speaker 1: It's still no hard no hard from here. Yeah, it's

630
00:35:12,480 --> 00:35:15,040
Speaker 1: gonna be hard no for me. But I do see

631
00:35:15,120 --> 00:35:18,520
Speaker 1: Luke Brian and uh that other guy, the race car

632
00:35:18,640 --> 00:35:23,040
Speaker 1: driver Daniel Rickiardo. Yeah, his name is Danny Ricardo. And

633
00:35:23,040 --> 00:35:27,960
Speaker 1: every time you say it this weird way, I know,

634
00:35:28,080 --> 00:35:31,080
Speaker 1: but thank you. Everything is bernow's how it's spelled. Like

635
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Speaker 1: what else? Okay, okay, every time I put like I have.

636
00:35:42,640 --> 00:35:44,840
Speaker 1: One time I was booking something for Tanya and I

637
00:35:44,840 --> 00:35:46,520
Speaker 1: had to use her full name, and I was so

638
00:35:46,560 --> 00:35:49,680
Speaker 1: stressed out I could not. I was like, one more time,

639
00:35:49,920 --> 00:35:53,759
Speaker 1: what is it? The j l V is a real

640
00:35:55,000 --> 00:36:03,080
Speaker 1: speed bumpus. It's like, uh yeah, the Luke Bryant. There

641
00:36:03,120 --> 00:36:06,200
Speaker 1: were Daniel Ricky Ricardo and then the hands of Van Gogh.

642
00:36:07,120 --> 00:36:10,080
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, yeah the hands out of his first gig.

643
00:36:10,280 --> 00:36:18,799
Speaker 1: Was it pain Yeah? Wait so well, I'm sure. I mean,

644
00:36:18,840 --> 00:36:22,239
Speaker 1: I feel like the people, the scrubbers that that follow me. No,

645
00:36:22,520 --> 00:36:25,440
Speaker 1: but I've been posting his hands for years, like I

646
00:36:25,520 --> 00:36:29,120
Speaker 1: just think they're so just like perfect and just beautiful honestly,

647
00:36:29,160 --> 00:36:31,040
Speaker 1: and I'm like, he's never had a manicure, so I'm like,

648
00:36:31,080 --> 00:36:32,879
Speaker 1: imagine if he had like a little like a little

649
00:36:32,920 --> 00:36:35,920
Speaker 1: shine and like some clipping around the nails, like it

650
00:36:35,920 --> 00:36:38,560
Speaker 1: would be so like they'd be ten out of ten.

651
00:36:38,600 --> 00:36:40,800
Speaker 1: And right now they're like nine point five out of ten.

652
00:36:42,040 --> 00:36:43,759
Speaker 1: And so I've been posting about him for a while.

653
00:36:43,920 --> 00:36:46,080
Speaker 1: And the most recent thing I did was it like

654
00:36:46,120 --> 00:36:49,399
Speaker 1: a couple of days ago, and every like so many

655
00:36:49,400 --> 00:36:52,360
Speaker 1: people kept responding saying like those are really good hands,

656
00:36:52,360 --> 00:36:55,880
Speaker 1: like he really does have immaculate handsome hands, and so

657
00:36:55,880 --> 00:36:57,200
Speaker 1: I was like, you know what, I've been sitting on

658
00:36:57,280 --> 00:37:00,840
Speaker 1: this gold for far too long, and I said it.

659
00:37:00,840 --> 00:37:02,839
Speaker 1: I was like, if anybody is a hand model, like,

660
00:37:02,920 --> 00:37:06,160
Speaker 1: let me know and we can figure it out. And

661
00:37:06,200 --> 00:37:08,840
Speaker 1: I had people like actually hit me up and somebody

662
00:37:08,960 --> 00:37:12,879
Speaker 1: like I got him his first gig literally the next day,

663
00:37:13,520 --> 00:37:17,480
Speaker 1: and um, but I'm like the worst agent because they were.

664
00:37:17,560 --> 00:37:19,480
Speaker 1: She was telling the story of her company and she

665
00:37:19,520 --> 00:37:22,120
Speaker 1: started with her husband and they started in the pandemic

666
00:37:22,160 --> 00:37:23,719
Speaker 1: and it started doing really well. So then I was like,

667
00:37:23,760 --> 00:37:25,520
Speaker 1: I don't want to charge you, just this is for fun,

668
00:37:25,640 --> 00:37:28,680
Speaker 1: you know, um, And she's like no, no, no, Like

669
00:37:28,800 --> 00:37:30,520
Speaker 1: she sent me a picture of her hands and she's like, no,

670
00:37:30,560 --> 00:37:32,480
Speaker 1: I can't use my hands are so awful. Like I'm

671
00:37:32,520 --> 00:37:38,920
Speaker 1: happy to pay, you know. That is really funny, so funny,

672
00:37:39,080 --> 00:37:40,960
Speaker 1: So we like did it well, Like she just wanted

673
00:37:41,000 --> 00:37:43,239
Speaker 1: like videos for Instagram of him his hands at the

674
00:37:43,280 --> 00:37:48,800
Speaker 1: charcouterie board. And then I had a couple other people

675
00:37:49,600 --> 00:37:53,920
Speaker 1: like this stuff only happens to And then had a

676
00:37:53,920 --> 00:37:56,160
Speaker 1: couple other people reach out that actually were like hand

677
00:37:56,160 --> 00:37:58,640
Speaker 1: model agents and said, I don't have any need for

678
00:37:58,680 --> 00:38:01,120
Speaker 1: a male hand model at the moment, but give me

679
00:38:01,160 --> 00:38:04,120
Speaker 1: your infone. When I do, I'll reach out. You know.

680
00:38:04,200 --> 00:38:08,320
Speaker 1: I was a hand model recently for M Haley's perfume.

681
00:38:08,520 --> 00:38:14,320
Speaker 1: You yeah, I think I remember. But now it's like

682
00:38:14,360 --> 00:38:18,520
Speaker 1: really cute because red stars like um like googling different

683
00:38:18,719 --> 00:38:21,680
Speaker 1: like techniques to like use the hand if you're doing

684
00:38:21,800 --> 00:38:24,680
Speaker 1: whatever you're holding or if you're not holding things and stuff.

685
00:38:24,760 --> 00:38:29,240
Speaker 1: I was like, this is so cute. What makes attractive hands?

686
00:38:30,239 --> 00:38:34,280
Speaker 1: They're very those are mine, These are mine? Oh wow,

687
00:38:34,320 --> 00:38:37,359
Speaker 1: those are good hands. You should probably post those so

688
00:38:37,400 --> 00:38:41,239
Speaker 1: that every vay can see post on Facebook groups. Here's

689
00:38:41,280 --> 00:38:45,319
Speaker 1: some competition competition Red Star. His hands are very like

690
00:38:45,360 --> 00:38:48,320
Speaker 1: they're very um, they look like they are going to

691
00:38:48,440 --> 00:38:53,359
Speaker 1: protect you. They look very protective and strong, but also

692
00:38:53,719 --> 00:39:00,279
Speaker 1: very well kept and like no uh like cuticles. They're

693
00:39:01,040 --> 00:39:08,479
Speaker 1: just the right amount of hair. What you know. Here's

694
00:39:08,480 --> 00:39:10,160
Speaker 1: the thing I noticed about his hands. He's got the

695
00:39:10,160 --> 00:39:12,480
Speaker 1: fingers of an artistan, but the palms of a warrior.

696
00:39:15,040 --> 00:39:19,839
Speaker 1: That was poetic. It was beautiful. Yeah, poetic. Yeah wow,

697
00:39:20,520 --> 00:39:22,680
Speaker 1: Well I'm thrilled for I mean, who who knew this

698
00:39:22,760 --> 00:39:25,920
Speaker 1: new venture? Yeah? As I said. And so it's so

699
00:39:25,960 --> 00:39:28,719
Speaker 1: funny because I was like texting as like relentlessly when

700
00:39:28,760 --> 00:39:30,840
Speaker 1: all these when all these asks were coming through, I

701
00:39:30,880 --> 00:39:32,560
Speaker 1: was like firing it off with him and I was like, okay,

702
00:39:32,600 --> 00:39:33,880
Speaker 1: we need to were gonna do this. It's coming out

703
00:39:33,880 --> 00:39:36,000
Speaker 1: Saturday or done. And then I was like, um, maybe

704
00:39:36,040 --> 00:39:37,239
Speaker 1: we'll get you a manicure and that, like I think

705
00:39:37,400 --> 00:39:39,200
Speaker 1: you should do some of my unboxing. Some people can

706
00:39:39,239 --> 00:39:42,480
Speaker 1: see your hands like doing different things, Like it's just

707
00:39:42,520 --> 00:39:44,920
Speaker 1: like text text, text, text, text, text, text all for me.

708
00:39:45,400 --> 00:39:48,759
Speaker 1: And I was like, he likes how relentless I am

709
00:39:48,800 --> 00:39:50,680
Speaker 1: and like the things that I'm passionate about, but now

710
00:39:50,719 --> 00:39:53,160
Speaker 1: it's like him, so he's gonna see it in the

711
00:39:53,200 --> 00:39:56,480
Speaker 1: whole different light. I'm gonna say that passion, yeah, and

712
00:39:56,600 --> 00:40:01,800
Speaker 1: relentlessness when it's directed towards you, it is very fun,

713
00:40:02,280 --> 00:40:08,319
Speaker 1: is so fun And in the long run, it is

714
00:40:08,360 --> 00:40:12,120
Speaker 1: fun like when I you know, yeah, in the long run,

715
00:40:13,520 --> 00:40:16,200
Speaker 1: the last Yeah, we have some fun memories to look

716
00:40:16,239 --> 00:40:20,200
Speaker 1: back on because I'm like, I'll be on my doing

717
00:40:20,280 --> 00:40:22,759
Speaker 1: something like important on my phone. It'll just be like

718
00:40:22,880 --> 00:40:26,759
Speaker 1: Tony Tony, Tony, Tony d And I'm like, this all

719
00:40:26,840 --> 00:40:32,719
Speaker 1: could be in one that's especially like when it's in

720
00:40:32,760 --> 00:40:41,200
Speaker 1: your pocket and who is this person? Who is it? Yeah,

721
00:40:41,400 --> 00:40:43,960
Speaker 1: like you're you're like, surely it's a group chat because

722
00:40:44,000 --> 00:40:47,040
Speaker 1: not one person could possibly be sending all these rights

723
00:40:47,160 --> 00:40:51,320
Speaker 1: right right right, or someone's dying or is an emergency

724
00:40:51,320 --> 00:40:54,759
Speaker 1: and someone needs my But like, our cohesive outfits to

725
00:40:54,880 --> 00:40:59,880
Speaker 1: events are not just gonna come up with themselves, planning coordination.

726
00:41:00,360 --> 00:41:02,480
Speaker 1: I don't know when we have another event together, but

727
00:41:03,440 --> 00:41:07,040
Speaker 1: can't wait, can't wait. We have some emails, but we're

728
00:41:07,040 --> 00:41:24,600
Speaker 1: gonna take a break first and we'll be right back. Okay,

729
00:41:24,640 --> 00:41:30,120
Speaker 1: We're back and we have some emails. Mark take it away.

730
00:41:30,239 --> 00:41:32,879
Speaker 1: It's anonymous, and she says, I've been dating the sky

731
00:41:33,000 --> 00:41:36,000
Speaker 1: for one year and a half. Recently, I was notified

732
00:41:36,040 --> 00:41:38,040
Speaker 1: by a woman who provided me with a bunch of

733
00:41:38,080 --> 00:41:40,920
Speaker 1: information and proof that he was planning on meeting up

734
00:41:40,960 --> 00:41:43,920
Speaker 1: with her for sex. I confronted him about it, and

735
00:41:43,960 --> 00:41:46,080
Speaker 1: he confessed that he actually cheated on me back in

736
00:41:46,200 --> 00:41:49,319
Speaker 1: May when I was in Kencoon with my girlfriends. I

737
00:41:49,360 --> 00:41:52,480
Speaker 1: was completely blindsided. He cheated on me with one girl

738
00:41:52,520 --> 00:41:55,480
Speaker 1: and was recently making plans to see another one. According

739
00:41:55,520 --> 00:41:57,600
Speaker 1: to him, he never did the second one because he

740
00:41:57,640 --> 00:42:00,839
Speaker 1: has been battling with his guilty conscience. But whatever it is,

741
00:42:01,040 --> 00:42:03,800
Speaker 1: he was still searching for it. Right now, I feel

742
00:42:03,840 --> 00:42:06,440
Speaker 1: torn and I feel I'm being pulled in two different directions.

743
00:42:06,719 --> 00:42:08,680
Speaker 1: He said he was happy with our relationship and the

744
00:42:08,680 --> 00:42:11,120
Speaker 1: only thing he wasn't happy with was our intimate life.

745
00:42:11,440 --> 00:42:13,560
Speaker 1: He said he's going to work on himself, and we

746
00:42:13,600 --> 00:42:15,960
Speaker 1: agreed to take our space until I decided what I

747
00:42:15,960 --> 00:42:18,120
Speaker 1: want to do. At this moment, I feel numb and

748
00:42:18,160 --> 00:42:25,440
Speaker 1: I feel like I don't know what to do. Well Anonymous,

749
00:42:25,680 --> 00:42:29,640
Speaker 1: First of all, I'm so sorry that you are in

750
00:42:29,680 --> 00:42:33,359
Speaker 1: this position and that he did something that is so

751
00:42:33,600 --> 00:42:40,560
Speaker 1: hurtful and betrayed your trust and put you in this position. UM. Personally,

752
00:42:40,640 --> 00:42:44,239
Speaker 1: for me, this has never happened to me, So I

753
00:42:44,320 --> 00:42:47,759
Speaker 1: always like to say from the outside, I think it's

754
00:42:47,760 --> 00:42:49,839
Speaker 1: so easy to give an opinion that makes it seem

755
00:42:49,880 --> 00:42:52,920
Speaker 1: like a no brainer. But I do think when you're

756
00:42:52,960 --> 00:42:59,080
Speaker 1: in something, it's it's different. Like I'm very aware of that. Um,

757
00:42:59,120 --> 00:43:01,600
Speaker 1: I've never been cheating on but I feel like I

758
00:43:01,640 --> 00:43:04,440
Speaker 1: would just have a really hard time moving past, Like

759
00:43:04,480 --> 00:43:07,279
Speaker 1: I would just sabotage the relationship because I would not

760
00:43:07,400 --> 00:43:12,040
Speaker 1: feel secure in it anymore. But with that said, I

761
00:43:12,080 --> 00:43:16,439
Speaker 1: think if you're someone who can can forgive and move

762
00:43:16,480 --> 00:43:18,759
Speaker 1: past it and not have that insecurity, if you feel

763
00:43:18,760 --> 00:43:20,040
Speaker 1: like you can be that person and go to a

764
00:43:20,040 --> 00:43:21,640
Speaker 1: couple of therapy and work on it, if that's what

765
00:43:21,680 --> 00:43:25,760
Speaker 1: you want to do, I say, that's totally your choice.

766
00:43:25,840 --> 00:43:30,680
Speaker 1: I just personally. Tony always talks about like character and

767
00:43:30,719 --> 00:43:33,919
Speaker 1: how if someone makes that decision to do that, And

768
00:43:34,040 --> 00:43:38,680
Speaker 1: granted he hadn't done it again yet because of his

769
00:43:38,760 --> 00:43:42,800
Speaker 1: guilty conscience, but where was that guilty conscience the first

770
00:43:42,800 --> 00:43:45,239
Speaker 1: time he did it? I guess is my question. Yeah,

771
00:43:45,360 --> 00:43:47,120
Speaker 1: I mean for me, like people always, I feel like

772
00:43:47,239 --> 00:43:50,520
Speaker 1: people always say, can you forgive or forgive and forget

773
00:43:50,560 --> 00:43:53,439
Speaker 1: if you get cheated on? And I'm like, I think

774
00:43:53,480 --> 00:43:55,719
Speaker 1: you can. I do think that you can forgive and

775
00:43:56,000 --> 00:43:57,719
Speaker 1: and maybe not forget, but you can forgive and you

776
00:43:57,760 --> 00:44:00,759
Speaker 1: can get past it. But also to me, and I

777
00:44:00,760 --> 00:44:03,839
Speaker 1: don't think necessarily wants a cheater always a cheater. But

778
00:44:04,239 --> 00:44:09,320
Speaker 1: I just think that even cheating in a relationship, cheating

779
00:44:09,600 --> 00:44:13,200
Speaker 1: in a marriage, cheating in any shape or form, it's

780
00:44:14,120 --> 00:44:16,640
Speaker 1: it's a sign of not there's like something in their

781
00:44:16,719 --> 00:44:20,160
Speaker 1: character that's that's missing. If they can do that and

782
00:44:20,239 --> 00:44:22,719
Speaker 1: just be with you every day after cheating on you,

783
00:44:23,400 --> 00:44:26,000
Speaker 1: Like I understand if you cheat and you're like, oh

784
00:44:26,040 --> 00:44:27,839
Speaker 1: my gosh, I made a mistake, and then you come

785
00:44:27,840 --> 00:44:29,399
Speaker 1: clean the next day, or you know what I mean,

786
00:44:29,440 --> 00:44:32,840
Speaker 1: Like you yourself, I made this mistake. I don't know

787
00:44:32,880 --> 00:44:35,480
Speaker 1: what came over me, but the fact that you had

788
00:44:35,520 --> 00:44:39,000
Speaker 1: to find something because some girls sent you proof for whatever.

789
00:44:39,040 --> 00:44:40,839
Speaker 1: Then you had to confront him about it, and then

790
00:44:40,920 --> 00:44:42,799
Speaker 1: now he's saying he feels good. I don't know. To me,

791
00:44:43,840 --> 00:44:45,600
Speaker 1: I couldn't get past it, so I would just count

792
00:44:45,640 --> 00:44:48,440
Speaker 1: my blessings and walk away with my head held high.

793
00:44:48,640 --> 00:44:51,360
Speaker 1: But I'm really sorry that you're going through that. It sucks.

794
00:44:52,120 --> 00:44:55,440
Speaker 1: I am. I'm often one to defend young men on

795
00:44:55,480 --> 00:44:58,040
Speaker 1: this show because guys in their twenties, which I'm assuming

796
00:44:58,080 --> 00:44:59,400
Speaker 1: this guy is, I don't know that for sure, but

797
00:44:59,400 --> 00:45:02,640
Speaker 1: guys that to and he were very uh unformed. It

798
00:45:02,680 --> 00:45:07,080
Speaker 1: takes longer to mature. There's a real strong narcissism in

799
00:45:07,160 --> 00:45:09,359
Speaker 1: twentysomething men who think they can just do anything, get

800
00:45:09,360 --> 00:45:13,200
Speaker 1: away with anything, because the world is there's to conquer

801
00:45:13,239 --> 00:45:16,120
Speaker 1: all kinds of weird stuff. Having said all that, you

802
00:45:16,200 --> 00:45:19,280
Speaker 1: got to move on. There's no question in my mind.

803
00:45:19,680 --> 00:45:22,960
Speaker 1: He may evolve, and he may mature and have a

804
00:45:23,040 --> 00:45:26,560
Speaker 1: change of heart and may make somebody a great husband someday,

805
00:45:26,600 --> 00:45:30,839
Speaker 1: but that cannot be you after this, Sorry, it can't be.

806
00:45:31,400 --> 00:45:35,640
Speaker 1: We date people for for reasons. Sometimes it's for life,

807
00:45:35,880 --> 00:45:38,480
Speaker 1: sometimes it's for another reason. This was for another reason.

808
00:45:38,600 --> 00:45:40,880
Speaker 1: You you dated him for whatever reasons. It will be

809
00:45:40,880 --> 00:45:43,000
Speaker 1: clear to you one day, but this isn't your guy,

810
00:45:43,280 --> 00:45:46,040
Speaker 1: and you'll find your guy. You're not his woman. He'll

811
00:45:46,040 --> 00:45:49,080
Speaker 1: find his woman. I'm convinced of this. Yeah, I feel

812
00:45:49,080 --> 00:45:51,920
Speaker 1: like you having to seek out that information is a

813
00:45:51,960 --> 00:45:54,560
Speaker 1: big red flag, like he came to you and said, like,

814
00:45:54,600 --> 00:45:57,560
Speaker 1: I've made this huge mistake. Like it's just like and

815
00:45:57,600 --> 00:46:00,239
Speaker 1: he wouldn't have to say he would to have So

816
00:46:00,600 --> 00:46:05,919
Speaker 1: I'm with Mark. I think it's it's like you are

817
00:46:06,040 --> 00:46:08,560
Speaker 1: able to go on and meet someone and don't do

818
00:46:08,560 --> 00:46:10,279
Speaker 1: you know, try your best not to take this into

819
00:46:10,280 --> 00:46:13,080
Speaker 1: your next relationship, and you'll be able to find someone

820
00:46:13,120 --> 00:46:16,279
Speaker 1: who doesn't do this or not. Everyone does this for sure,

821
00:46:17,600 --> 00:46:21,560
Speaker 1: for sure not alright Number two another Anonymous, I'm assuming

822
00:46:21,600 --> 00:46:25,120
Speaker 1: a different person. In fact, I'm sure about six months

823
00:46:25,160 --> 00:46:27,480
Speaker 1: ago I started dating my best friend who was a girl.

824
00:46:27,600 --> 00:46:29,680
Speaker 1: I actually wrote it and you all talked about it

825
00:46:29,719 --> 00:46:32,839
Speaker 1: on the podcast. I believe Anonymous is female. She had

826
00:46:32,840 --> 00:46:35,440
Speaker 1: a best friend who's a female and they realized they

827
00:46:35,440 --> 00:46:37,440
Speaker 1: had feelings for her. Anyway, she says, we both came

828
00:46:37,440 --> 00:46:39,239
Speaker 1: out and we realized we had feelings for each other.

829
00:46:39,640 --> 00:46:41,839
Speaker 1: We have a small friend group, but five of us

830
00:46:41,880 --> 00:46:44,880
Speaker 1: that we thought would all be excited about a relationship,

831
00:46:44,960 --> 00:46:49,120
Speaker 1: and well it's been far from that. Everyone says they're happy,

832
00:46:49,320 --> 00:46:52,080
Speaker 1: but there are weird dynamics of others feeling left out

833
00:46:52,120 --> 00:46:55,319
Speaker 1: because of the time we spend alone together without them.

834
00:46:55,360 --> 00:46:57,480
Speaker 1: I also haven't felt like I could be myself around

835
00:46:57,520 --> 00:47:00,239
Speaker 1: my friends in that friend group. I still feel salty

836
00:47:00,280 --> 00:47:02,560
Speaker 1: about not spending as much time with everyone and find

837
00:47:02,640 --> 00:47:05,239
Speaker 1: myself just frustrated when we do hang out because of

838
00:47:05,280 --> 00:47:08,040
Speaker 1: the expectation put on our friendship, I feel I can't

839
00:47:08,160 --> 00:47:10,400
Speaker 1: meet Do you have any advice and on a handle

840
00:47:10,560 --> 00:47:13,319
Speaker 1: dating within a friend group when it changes the vibe

841
00:47:13,320 --> 00:47:16,600
Speaker 1: of the whole group. I don't think I've ever dated

842
00:47:16,680 --> 00:47:19,840
Speaker 1: within a friend group. I mean, Robert and I were friends,

843
00:47:20,040 --> 00:47:22,160
Speaker 1: but it wasn't like I don't think this is a

844
00:47:22,200 --> 00:47:25,200
Speaker 1: common situation. Yeah, yeah, I know my advice is kind

845
00:47:25,200 --> 00:47:28,359
Speaker 1: of knee jerk, just like find a new friend group. Well,

846
00:47:28,400 --> 00:47:33,280
Speaker 1: I think I think you you know, I think, especially

847
00:47:33,360 --> 00:47:35,680
Speaker 1: when it comes to coming out to people, it's like

848
00:47:36,480 --> 00:47:39,960
Speaker 1: you instantly want to feel that like love and support

849
00:47:40,000 --> 00:47:41,560
Speaker 1: from those that are closest to you, and when you

850
00:47:41,600 --> 00:47:44,520
Speaker 1: don't feel that, I think there's like a disappointment of like, oh,

851
00:47:44,560 --> 00:47:47,840
Speaker 1: these people are like my cheerleaders in life, you know,

852
00:47:47,960 --> 00:47:50,799
Speaker 1: So I think there's disappointment there, And at the same time,

853
00:47:50,840 --> 00:47:54,080
Speaker 1: I think it's fair for I do think it's fair

854
00:47:54,160 --> 00:47:56,520
Speaker 1: to say, like, hey, this is a new dynamic in

855
00:47:56,560 --> 00:47:59,239
Speaker 1: our friend group and it's kind of changed, and like,

856
00:47:59,719 --> 00:48:01,640
Speaker 1: you know, if they're if they mean a lot to you,

857
00:48:01,680 --> 00:48:03,839
Speaker 1: I think it's worth having the conversation of like, hey,

858
00:48:03,920 --> 00:48:07,680
Speaker 1: I know, we like the dynamic has shifted a little bit.

859
00:48:08,440 --> 00:48:10,560
Speaker 1: We still love you all so much and want things

860
00:48:10,600 --> 00:48:12,440
Speaker 1: to be the same and have friends. Obviously we're going

861
00:48:12,520 --> 00:48:15,080
Speaker 1: to spend time alone together without everybody because we're in

862
00:48:15,080 --> 00:48:19,160
Speaker 1: a relationship, but also we value this friend group and

863
00:48:19,239 --> 00:48:21,520
Speaker 1: our friendship, and I think it's worth having a conversation

864
00:48:22,239 --> 00:48:25,560
Speaker 1: if you're kind of like maybe we've outgrown each other

865
00:48:25,680 --> 00:48:28,040
Speaker 1: and it's like time to move on. That's okay, Like

866
00:48:28,080 --> 00:48:29,840
Speaker 1: not everyone is meant to be in your life forever,

867
00:48:29,920 --> 00:48:31,920
Speaker 1: and that's it's not. Yeah, it's like not even that

868
00:48:32,000 --> 00:48:34,520
Speaker 1: I feel like you can. UM, Like, for me, I

869
00:48:34,600 --> 00:48:36,920
Speaker 1: had my story sisters, my best friends when I was

870
00:48:36,960 --> 00:48:40,040
Speaker 1: in college, and then we all graduated and they fairly

871
00:48:40,120 --> 00:48:42,640
Speaker 1: quickly all got married and started having kids, and it

872
00:48:42,719 --> 00:48:44,359
Speaker 1: was just not the same phase of life that I

873
00:48:44,400 --> 00:48:46,359
Speaker 1: was in, you know, and I'm still to this day.

874
00:48:46,480 --> 00:48:48,879
Speaker 1: We still text and we still keep in touch, and

875
00:48:49,480 --> 00:48:52,879
Speaker 1: um are in each other's lives, but we're not as

876
00:48:52,880 --> 00:48:54,439
Speaker 1: close as we were when we were in college, because

877
00:48:54,440 --> 00:48:56,680
Speaker 1: we just all are in different phases of life. And

878
00:48:56,719 --> 00:48:59,799
Speaker 1: I think that's it's okay. You know, so maybe this

879
00:49:00,120 --> 00:49:01,880
Speaker 1: you guys are in a relationship and you're in a

880
00:49:01,880 --> 00:49:04,719
Speaker 1: different phase of life than the other friends of yours

881
00:49:04,760 --> 00:49:06,239
Speaker 1: in this group, and that's okay. You can still be

882
00:49:06,280 --> 00:49:07,799
Speaker 1: friends with them, just don't. You don't need to like

883
00:49:08,840 --> 00:49:10,840
Speaker 1: hang out all the time. Just happens. I think it

884
00:49:10,840 --> 00:49:13,319
Speaker 1: just happens, yea. And things just change when people get

885
00:49:13,320 --> 00:49:15,839
Speaker 1: into relationship. Like I was thinking about this the other

886
00:49:15,920 --> 00:49:20,279
Speaker 1: day when um, well when I got into relationship, it

887
00:49:20,360 --> 00:49:23,720
Speaker 1: was like I wanted to spend time with like whenever

888
00:49:23,800 --> 00:49:25,920
Speaker 1: there was a chance. And then I was thinking about

889
00:49:25,920 --> 00:49:28,360
Speaker 1: how Ali and I like when she got into a

890
00:49:28,440 --> 00:49:31,400
Speaker 1: relationship with someone who she's like obsessed with, it's like

891
00:49:31,520 --> 00:49:33,640
Speaker 1: so exciting to see. But like our our friends, like

892
00:49:33,680 --> 00:49:35,120
Speaker 1: we don't see each other as much as we did,

893
00:49:35,120 --> 00:49:37,880
Speaker 1: but we still talk all the time. It's like we

894
00:49:38,280 --> 00:49:40,840
Speaker 1: see each other every single day. Well yeah, because we

895
00:49:40,880 --> 00:49:44,080
Speaker 1: lived we shared a door still though, that's like a lot,

896
00:49:44,200 --> 00:49:46,440
Speaker 1: Like we saw each other every single day. It was

897
00:49:46,520 --> 00:49:49,840
Speaker 1: a lot, Tanya, No, I'm just kidding. No, it's true,

898
00:49:49,880 --> 00:49:54,319
Speaker 1: and I mean, stages change the dynamic of friendship. But

899
00:49:54,360 --> 00:49:57,359
Speaker 1: it doesn't mean that you mean less to each other,

900
00:49:57,560 --> 00:50:00,359
Speaker 1: that you don't care. It just means like we're entering

901
00:50:00,400 --> 00:50:03,960
Speaker 1: a new phase of life and it's different, and that's

902
00:50:04,000 --> 00:50:06,200
Speaker 1: just how it is. But you know, I I do

903
00:50:06,400 --> 00:50:09,160
Speaker 1: know the disappointed. I think like when you share something

904
00:50:09,200 --> 00:50:12,640
Speaker 1: really exciting with people that you expect a certain reaction

905
00:50:12,719 --> 00:50:14,560
Speaker 1: from and it doesn't go how you want it to.

906
00:50:14,680 --> 00:50:18,040
Speaker 1: I know that can be disappointing. So maybe have that

907
00:50:18,080 --> 00:50:21,759
Speaker 1: conversation and let them know that you still very much

908
00:50:21,800 --> 00:50:24,080
Speaker 1: care about the friend group and you're very excited about

909
00:50:24,120 --> 00:50:26,560
Speaker 1: your relationship. How cool that you get to be in

910
00:50:26,600 --> 00:50:30,360
Speaker 1: a relationship with your best friend. Yeah, yeah, it's great.

911
00:50:30,400 --> 00:50:32,480
Speaker 1: And I'm trying to put myself in this situation. So

912
00:50:32,480 --> 00:50:34,879
Speaker 1: when I first came to l a h one days

913
00:50:34,880 --> 00:50:39,200
Speaker 1: and it was me, Kurt, j D, Chris, and Jeff

914
00:50:39,520 --> 00:50:43,400
Speaker 1: hung out a lot. Well, if Kurt and Jeff started

915
00:50:43,400 --> 00:50:45,719
Speaker 1: sleeping together, I do think that would have been a

916
00:50:45,719 --> 00:50:47,919
Speaker 1: weird thing for the five of us. I don't think

917
00:50:48,080 --> 00:50:52,800
Speaker 1: it certainly would not be the same anymore. So I think, yeah,

918
00:50:52,840 --> 00:50:55,880
Speaker 1: I think if you and her are in love and

919
00:50:56,080 --> 00:50:58,239
Speaker 1: having a great time and it's going great. I think

920
00:50:58,239 --> 00:51:00,520
Speaker 1: commit to her. The other three they'll find in their path.

921
00:51:00,600 --> 00:51:03,359
Speaker 1: It's okay. I think it's I think I understand that

922
00:51:03,440 --> 00:51:07,680
Speaker 1: kind of certainly altering the fringe that the group dynamic forever.

923
00:51:07,960 --> 00:51:10,520
Speaker 1: I think that's just inevitable, and that's okay that these

924
00:51:10,560 --> 00:51:13,720
Speaker 1: things happen. Just these five people weren't going to be

925
00:51:13,719 --> 00:51:17,280
Speaker 1: besties at thirty, at forty, at fifty, at sixty. It's okay.

926
00:51:17,320 --> 00:51:20,799
Speaker 1: Something was going to mess it up alone the way anyway. Yeah,

927
00:51:21,040 --> 00:51:26,359
Speaker 1: I agree, same, agreed. Do you miss hang out every

928
00:51:26,440 --> 00:51:33,160
Speaker 1: day so much? I do? I would like, I you

929
00:51:33,200 --> 00:51:37,040
Speaker 1: know what I miss, Like I miss that the convenience

930
00:51:37,040 --> 00:51:39,080
Speaker 1: of just being in the same building where it's come

931
00:51:39,080 --> 00:51:40,879
Speaker 1: over and just like walk out the door and come over,

932
00:51:40,880 --> 00:51:43,279
Speaker 1: because like having to get in the car drive even

933
00:51:43,320 --> 00:51:47,000
Speaker 1: though it's a short distance, it's still a thing. Whereas

934
00:51:47,040 --> 00:51:49,040
Speaker 1: when we lived in the same building, it was like, hey,

935
00:51:49,080 --> 00:51:51,279
Speaker 1: what are you doing? I just hang out right, and

936
00:51:51,320 --> 00:51:52,600
Speaker 1: I was always in my robe, like the fact that

937
00:51:52,719 --> 00:51:55,600
Speaker 1: to close it was like hard, no, yeah, no, it

938
00:51:55,719 --> 00:51:58,120
Speaker 1: was fun. I didn't miss up. I just fun time.

939
00:51:58,160 --> 00:51:59,520
Speaker 1: That was right when I moved to l A two,

940
00:51:59,560 --> 00:52:02,000
Speaker 1: so it's like, all, there's a lot happening. Was fun,

941
00:52:02,080 --> 00:52:04,800
Speaker 1: and Becca would like curl my hair before dates and

942
00:52:04,880 --> 00:52:07,800
Speaker 1: like even kind of recently, and it was not just

943
00:52:08,640 --> 00:52:11,080
Speaker 1: that time. No, actually, the last time you curled my

944
00:52:11,120 --> 00:52:12,600
Speaker 1: hair for a date was when I thought Red Star

945
00:52:12,760 --> 00:52:15,560
Speaker 1: was dumping me. Like when the night he asked me

946
00:52:15,640 --> 00:52:18,239
Speaker 1: to be his girlfriend, I thought he was going to

947
00:52:18,400 --> 00:52:22,360
Speaker 1: be like I'm out, um, because we've been dating for

948
00:52:22,480 --> 00:52:25,239
Speaker 1: like two or three months maybe, but I curled that

949
00:52:25,400 --> 00:52:29,480
Speaker 1: hair so and um, he was not ready to be

950
00:52:29,680 --> 00:52:31,640
Speaker 1: like a committed relationship, and I wanted to be in

951
00:52:31,680 --> 00:52:33,680
Speaker 1: a committed relationship. I wanted to be a boyfriend girlfriend

952
00:52:33,840 --> 00:52:35,759
Speaker 1: even though he wasn't dating anybody else. I just like

953
00:52:36,000 --> 00:52:37,879
Speaker 1: I was like, I don't want to do this weird

954
00:52:37,920 --> 00:52:41,200
Speaker 1: in between anymore. And I just didn't think he was ready,

955
00:52:41,320 --> 00:52:43,919
Speaker 1: Like I just I was prepared. I was like, Okay,

956
00:52:43,960 --> 00:52:46,280
Speaker 1: we're going to dinner tonight, so I'm gonna look my hottest,

957
00:52:46,320 --> 00:52:48,320
Speaker 1: like I had Becca curled my hair. I think I

958
00:52:48,400 --> 00:52:50,759
Speaker 1: had to do my makeup too. I were like the

959
00:52:50,960 --> 00:52:55,040
Speaker 1: sluttiest shirt that I owned, tightest pants, and I just

960
00:52:55,160 --> 00:52:57,440
Speaker 1: looked so good. And I was just like, if I'm

961
00:52:57,480 --> 00:53:00,279
Speaker 1: going down. I'm going down looking really good. Yeah, but

962
00:53:00,320 --> 00:53:02,360
Speaker 1: you didn't go down, know the opposite. He hands me

963
00:53:02,440 --> 00:53:04,719
Speaker 1: this beautiful letter and asked me to be his girlfriend.

964
00:53:04,760 --> 00:53:08,040
Speaker 1: I was like, he was like he saw you, and

965
00:53:08,120 --> 00:53:09,480
Speaker 1: he's like, I have to get the bathroom real quick,

966
00:53:09,520 --> 00:53:16,560
Speaker 1: and had prepared to end it. Look at that it

967
00:53:16,680 --> 00:53:20,520
Speaker 1: was the hair. I just realized, Okay, Tanya, you are

968
00:53:20,600 --> 00:53:24,279
Speaker 1: t R. Those are your initials and minor RT because

969
00:53:24,320 --> 00:53:37,719
Speaker 1: I'm Rebecca. That is so cute. Isn't that special? Yes? Wait,

970
00:53:37,800 --> 00:53:40,319
Speaker 1: I love that. I'm imagine if a butterfly flew by

971
00:53:40,440 --> 00:53:44,040
Speaker 1: right now. Oh my gosh um. I actually so, I

972
00:53:44,160 --> 00:53:46,040
Speaker 1: got this little ring that has an R on it

973
00:53:46,800 --> 00:53:50,880
Speaker 1: and I've had posted on my Instagram and Becca responded,

974
00:53:51,040 --> 00:53:54,799
Speaker 1: she said, are for Rebecca, And I was like, oh,

975
00:53:55,120 --> 00:53:58,480
Speaker 1: nothing makes me happier than when Becca gets jealous because

976
00:53:58,480 --> 00:54:01,560
Speaker 1: it doesn't happen often. It was or just I was

977
00:54:01,640 --> 00:54:04,800
Speaker 1: just confirming that it stood for Rebecca right exactly, and

978
00:54:04,880 --> 00:54:08,600
Speaker 1: that's what it's diod for. Yeah, it just never happened.

979
00:54:08,640 --> 00:54:11,719
Speaker 1: So I really needed to just soak that in. Yeah,

980
00:54:11,920 --> 00:54:15,000
Speaker 1: soak it in. Yeah, I get jealous. I'm a scorpio,

981
00:54:15,120 --> 00:54:19,000
Speaker 1: so I get jealous. I just rarely show jealousy, right. Well,

982
00:54:19,000 --> 00:54:20,920
Speaker 1: then I told that to Red Star and he was like,

983
00:54:21,480 --> 00:54:23,040
Speaker 1: is the R for rad? And I was like, oh

984
00:54:23,160 --> 00:54:27,680
Speaker 1: my god, I don't even like that is like that's

985
00:54:27,719 --> 00:54:31,480
Speaker 1: where he's at the guy I know. Like. I was like, um,

986
00:54:31,880 --> 00:54:33,800
Speaker 1: it's for your name, and he was like really like

987
00:54:33,880 --> 00:54:36,080
Speaker 1: he was like touched. And I was like, wow, it's

988
00:54:36,120 --> 00:54:42,000
Speaker 1: a little weird though, isn't it. Well, no, because is

989
00:54:42,040 --> 00:54:47,320
Speaker 1: it weird? No? I actually had I had an initial

990
00:54:47,719 --> 00:54:52,239
Speaker 1: for earring that you got for yourself. I don't wear anymore. Um.

991
00:54:52,320 --> 00:54:55,440
Speaker 1: I was walking to my to get my coffee and

992
00:54:55,520 --> 00:54:57,640
Speaker 1: there was this woman outside of her like jewelry store,

993
00:54:57,680 --> 00:54:58,920
Speaker 1: and she was just like you know, like they set

994
00:54:59,000 --> 00:55:02,080
Speaker 1: up their shop outside and um, she had a bunch

995
00:55:02,120 --> 00:55:04,640
Speaker 1: of like zodiac symbols, and so I just stopped and looked.

996
00:55:04,680 --> 00:55:06,200
Speaker 1: I found this ring. I was just like, cute. It's

997
00:55:06,239 --> 00:55:08,399
Speaker 1: like it's like not like an expensive ring or anything

998
00:55:08,400 --> 00:55:09,640
Speaker 1: like that, but it's cute. So I just bought it.

999
00:55:09,880 --> 00:55:12,520
Speaker 1: She didn't have a tea. I was gonna give him one.

1000
00:55:13,320 --> 00:55:19,520
Speaker 1: Oh you're like, wear this, I got you something. Put

1001
00:55:19,600 --> 00:55:21,719
Speaker 1: it on. He would wear it for a little bit.

1002
00:55:21,760 --> 00:55:26,960
Speaker 1: Put it on your gorgeous hands. Yeah, why do you

1003
00:55:27,080 --> 00:55:31,400
Speaker 1: do that? I don't know. I'm not well. Well. On

1004
00:55:31,560 --> 00:55:35,719
Speaker 1: that note, it's time for us to go make a

1005
00:55:35,760 --> 00:55:39,920
Speaker 1: TikTok oh exciting but not the same one as Kate Walsh,

1006
00:55:40,040 --> 00:55:45,240
Speaker 1: a different one, I kind of. I can't. Actually it's simpler.

1007
00:55:45,320 --> 00:55:47,360
Speaker 1: I think it's something funny to like put in the

1008
00:55:47,480 --> 00:55:51,560
Speaker 1: caption for like what the questions are though, but that

1009
00:55:51,560 --> 00:55:53,480
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be dealing with this, so maybe we don't.

1010
00:55:54,120 --> 00:55:57,080
Speaker 1: We're not gonna do that one. Um. I hope you

1011
00:55:57,120 --> 00:56:00,320
Speaker 1: all have a great week. He was well, I was

1012
00:56:00,360 --> 00:56:04,920
Speaker 1: talking to the listeners, but in Eastern Mark. But um,

1013
00:56:05,320 --> 00:56:08,440
Speaker 1: and we will be back on I think Monday, so

1014
00:56:08,800 --> 00:56:11,680
Speaker 1: it'll be a quick turnaround for a new episode. But

1015
00:56:11,800 --> 00:56:13,640
Speaker 1: we have a lot, We have a lot of life

1016
00:56:13,680 --> 00:56:18,279
Speaker 1: to live between now and then. Life is so abundantly full.

1017
00:56:18,600 --> 00:56:21,919
Speaker 1: It really is, if you think about it, No, it is. Yeah,

1018
00:56:22,880 --> 00:56:24,520
Speaker 1: it's a lot. There's a lot of days, a lot

1019
00:56:24,560 --> 00:56:26,760
Speaker 1: of things, a lot of hours, a lot of hours.

1020
00:56:26,920 --> 00:56:28,920
Speaker 1: I have a lot of plans. I know you always do.

1021
00:56:30,120 --> 00:56:32,080
Speaker 1: I'll probably have another day in bed all day if

1022
00:56:32,120 --> 00:56:35,799
Speaker 1: I can squeeze one in two in one week. Um.

1023
00:56:36,040 --> 00:56:38,799
Speaker 1: I love you all. Have a great week, and we'll

1024
00:56:38,880 --> 00:56:40,560
Speaker 1: get you next time. Bye.