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Speaker 1: My wife disowned my son, and I can't believe what

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Speaker 1: you freaking said, you know, disowning your son.

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Speaker 2: I'm going to say it's something controversial.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, not cool, not cool. I don't like it. I

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Speaker 1: don't like it for it. I actually think I'm going

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Speaker 1: to disown every sin I have. Really, I think that

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Speaker 1: built character actually does. Have you ever have you ever

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Speaker 1: heard of Game of Thrones? No, you haven't, I've heard

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Speaker 1: of you.

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Speaker 2: I've never seen well.

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Speaker 1: In Game of Thrones, John snow bastard son disowned, he

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Speaker 1: joins the Knight's Watch and then basically becomes like King

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Speaker 1: of the North. Very successful, very successful. So I think

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Speaker 1: if you want your all right. Other example, Jeff Bezos,

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Speaker 1: his parents rejected, abandoned, abandoned billion jobs, abandoned billionaires. So

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Speaker 1: it's it's not just a disown that's too light. We

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Speaker 1: have to completely abandoned. And yeah, see disowning is is

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Speaker 1: child's play. Yeah exactly, I want to be an adult.

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Speaker 1: We want to make a billionaire abandon Yeah. Get biblical,

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Speaker 1: it was like the thing was like during Moses times.

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Speaker 1: I think Moses got thrown in the river them. Oh

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Speaker 1: he was in a river. The Romans are spartans what

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Speaker 1: that was like in.

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Speaker 3: A gorgering them, throw them off off a cliff or

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Speaker 3: something the straw and they're one of us. By the way,

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Speaker 3: before we get off this topic, I have to say,

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Speaker 3: anyone watching right now that has never seen one episode

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Speaker 3: of Game of Thrones, please please comment. We are a

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Speaker 3: rare breed. We are a rare species. But I know

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Speaker 3: we will stand strong united.

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Speaker 1: And everyone who's a normal person has watched Game of Thrones.

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Speaker 1: Say King in the North of the comments.

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Speaker 2: Okay versus Game of Thrones. Yah, yeah, go there is coming.

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Speaker 2: Go say it to the college, all right.

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Speaker 1: I mail thirty seven, have a thirteen year old son.

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Speaker 1: I was a widower when I met my now wife.

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Speaker 1: She has a sixteen year old daughter from another relationship.

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Speaker 1: The family is often on pretty good terms. My son

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Speaker 1: is the quiet one in the house. He keeps to

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Speaker 1: himself a lot, but not to the point of being concerning.

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Speaker 1: My wife and stepdaughter, on the other hand, the complete opposite,

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Speaker 1: a bunch of chatty Cathy's. Over year, they both encourage

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Speaker 1: him to be outgoing and share activities and join gatherings

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Speaker 1: with the extended family.

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Speaker 2: Okay, it seems good.

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Speaker 1: Something they're including right, this is all good, all fair play.

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Speaker 1: My son complained about having to be forced out of

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Speaker 1: his comfort zone and having his need for space being validated, which, like,

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Speaker 1: I guess I understand, but it's it's good to push

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Speaker 1: your comfort zone, and it.

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Speaker 2: Really depends on the scenario.

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Speaker 1: So I feel i'd say, I'd say, but generally pushing

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Speaker 1: your comfort zone is like, is good for growth. I

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Speaker 1: spoke to both my wife and stepdaughter and asked them

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Speaker 1: to give him space and freedom to spend his time

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Speaker 1: however he wanted. They apologized and promised to let him

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Speaker 1: be all right, which I think, like, I think it

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Speaker 1: is important maybe to respect his boundaries, but it totally depends. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I mean, what are they pushing him to do? Like, yeah,

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Speaker 1: do lines of coke in the Yeah to.

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Speaker 2: It, Billy.

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Speaker 1: As Mother's Day was approaching, I wanted to throw my

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Speaker 1: wife a surprise Mother's Day celebration. It was no longer

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Speaker 1: surprised because my stepdaughter gave her the heads up so

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Speaker 1: she could prepare. Bro, stepdaughter, why are you ruined? What

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Speaker 1: are you doing? Baby? Yesterday I got off work earlier

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Speaker 1: than usually get the final arrangements done. We planned to

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Speaker 1: celebrate at the restaurant and invited her family there. I

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Speaker 1: had the key, and while I was entering the house

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Speaker 1: through the front door, I overheard my wife and stepdaughter

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Speaker 1: talking to my son.

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Speaker 3: Okay, this is where it's going to go down. This

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Speaker 3: is where it's going.

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Speaker 2: To go back.

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Speaker 1: I feel it too. My spidy senses are tinkling. My

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Speaker 1: wife was asking my son if he could convince me

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Speaker 1: to the restaurant to celebrate. I paused, decided to keep listening.

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Speaker 1: My son said why, and she told him that his

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Speaker 1: introverted and socially inept attitude will make her family uncomfortable and.

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Speaker 2: Will ruin the mood.

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Speaker 3: How how how is someone like just like keeping to them.

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Speaker 3: It's like Billy's being less silent so obnoxious.

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Speaker 2: Like yeah, say something.

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Speaker 1: Like I mean like I feel like like at least

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Speaker 1: it'll probably like net zero.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, there will be no effect.

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Speaker 3: Like it would only be true if it was the opposite,

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Speaker 3: if he was just like always like making stupid jokes

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Speaker 3: or being annoying. It's like okay, like maybe like you know,

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Speaker 3: don't go too crazy, maybe but like being quiet.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I have a friend. Christian Christians like can be

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Speaker 1: quiet sometimes, he's always great to have around. Yes, so

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Speaker 1: what are you trying to say? It's like Christian tree?

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Speaker 1: He's like, don't be Christian. You know, I love you

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Speaker 1: a friendly tree? Is that a compliment or you decide?

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Speaker 1: You decide if you love trees, then it's a compliment,

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Speaker 1: that's right. He promised her that he'd be well behaved

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Speaker 1: and would try to tracked and socialized with everyone, but

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Speaker 1: she said that she wasn't buying it. Dude, this this

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Speaker 1: kid's literally like, hey, like, I'll really try for you,

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Speaker 1: but the freaking mother figure is like, nah, awful. You know,

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Speaker 1: it's terrible. He kept reassuring her, but she snapped and

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Speaker 1: told him that technically she's not his mom, so she

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Speaker 1: didn't get why he wanted to celebrate Mother's Day with

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Speaker 1: her so badly shut up? What, bro, you should be

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Speaker 1: trying to like connect? Yeah, this mom literally died, Like

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Speaker 1: and that's true. Yeah, the Opie's widowed is mom.

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Speaker 2: Thirteen year old kid? Of course he's like hoping to

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Speaker 1: He's searching for his mom. Oh my, I can't imagine

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Speaker 1: how terrible that would feel. Like, oh, dude, like, what

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Speaker 1: do you even say? What would you say to that?

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Speaker 1: People that got truly are okayop? Family, what do you

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Speaker 1: what do you even say?

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Speaker 2: What do you say?

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Speaker 1: Put in the comments? My stepdaughter through some I don't remember,

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Speaker 1: backhanded common and then both of them were shocked to

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Speaker 1: see me standing there. Both were staring without saying anything.

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Speaker 2: Yo.

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Speaker 1: I told my son and his stepsister to go to

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Speaker 1: their rooms and told my wife that the celebration was off. Canceled,

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Speaker 1: dum get canceled, Karen, she freaking stepped Karen. Yes, Karen,

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Speaker 1: I like, oh, like like everyone's like out of the room,

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Speaker 1: like shit's about to go down right now. Yeah. She

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Speaker 1: tried to argue, asking why repeatedly, and I told her why, Like,

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Speaker 1: what do you mean why?

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Speaker 2: Bro?

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Speaker 1: You got caught right hand dick bag?

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Speaker 2: Are you an idiot?

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Speaker 1: I told her I was done arguing and the decision

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Speaker 1: was already made. She yelled, asking what she was going

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Speaker 1: to tell her family and said that I was making

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Speaker 1: a tremendous mistake towards her, A tremendous mistake. Bro, you

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Speaker 1: made a tremendous mistake about being like like by literally

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Speaker 2: This is this is gaslighting vibes. Yeah, this is so bad.

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Speaker 2: This is so bad.

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Speaker 1: It's like she gets caught doing something terrible and she

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Speaker 1: was like, I can't believe you were doing this to me?

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Speaker 2: How dare you do this to my family?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Good self?

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Speaker 1: Yeah really, I ignored her while she kept throwing tantrum

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Speaker 1: after tantrum. Early this morning, she took my stepdaughter and

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Speaker 1: went to stay with her folks. Then a single call

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Speaker 1: or text from her. So far situation, it's full of tension.

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Speaker 1: I'm upset still, but more hurt to be honest. I mean, yes,

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Speaker 1: I did say I was going to have the celebration,

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Speaker 1: but I thought what she said to my son was

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Speaker 1: too harsh to ignore. Yes, am I the a hole

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Speaker 1: for doing this?

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Speaker 2: You are absolutely the ahole? Okay, like this is just kidding.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, John's actually a terrible person and agrees only with that.

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Speaker 1: Finally everyone understands, you guys know he does? You know

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Speaker 1: you know John's Yeah. I think like, I mean, one

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Speaker 1: the gas lighting, like you totally called it, like the

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Speaker 1: instant gas lighting when she's confronted with anything that even

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Speaker 1: represents a reprimanding and of course like OP needs to

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Speaker 1: do something like this, yea, but there should be repercussions.

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Speaker 1: There should be like a serious conversation because it's like, dude,

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Speaker 1: that kid is looking for a mother figure.

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Speaker 3: And I didn't even think about that, But as soon

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Speaker 3: as you said that, I was like, that's that. I mean,

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Speaker 3: it's already bad for it to be like I'm not

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Speaker 3: even your basically, I'm not your mom, So why do

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Speaker 3: you even care? But like the fact that he lost

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Speaker 3: his mom because she passed away, like and he's thirteen,

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Speaker 3: Like that's like prime like vulnerable age.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so, and like you can tell that he's like

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Speaker 1: trying to he's trying to. He's like he's trying to

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Speaker 1: ingratiate that mother figure by saying like, no, no, I'm

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Speaker 1: going to I'm going to try to be socialized. Like literally,

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Speaker 1: it's uncomfortable for him to be social and he's going

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Speaker 1: to try because he wants to be there for her

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Speaker 1: mother's day. He literally just wants to be there for

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Speaker 1: her mother's day. That's it.

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Speaker 2: And she's like, no, no, you're you awkward, bro. My

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Speaker 2: son for me man o p not the a hole,

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Speaker 2: that's right,