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Speaker 1: Once upon a time there was a good old traditional housewife,

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Speaker 1: and she couldn't.

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Speaker 2: She cleaned and cared for her children and the man

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Speaker 2: of the house, and of course she didn't talk back.

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Speaker 3: She was both obedient and.

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Speaker 1: Soft by nature.

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Speaker 3: She was a good woman who always made good choices.

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Speaker 3: That shit, we're good mom's bad choices.

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Speaker 4: Who single mom who said fuck the patriarchy, shared all

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Speaker 4: their bad choices and.

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Speaker 3: Sound out they were so bad.

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Speaker 4: After all, we're experts, overshares and your new besties.

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Speaker 3: Sit back and enjoy the ride. I can do it.

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Speaker 4: Welcome back to good Mom's Bad Choices.

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Speaker 5: I'm Erica and I'm Mela.

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Speaker 4: Happy Humpday, bitches, Happy motherfucking hump day.

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Speaker 3: What is happening in the world, guys.

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Speaker 4: So much is happening in the world.

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Speaker 3: Were just like, let's just take a second. Let's just

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Speaker 3: take a second. Let's just take a collective deep breath. Okay,

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Speaker 3: I'm gonna hit my sound bowl.

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Speaker 2: If you're watching this on YouTube, if you're listening, I'm

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Speaker 2: gonna give you five seconds to get your shit together

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Speaker 2: or not, but no, just yeah, just get your shit

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Speaker 2: together for one second. Regulate your nervous system, take a

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Speaker 2: few deep breaths.

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Speaker 3: Let's do that two more times.

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Speaker 4: Last time, let's hold at the top, release the sounds,

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Speaker 4: because there's a lot of shit going on on the inside,

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Speaker 4: and sometimes you gotta let that shit out with sound

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Speaker 4: and breath and fuck it. Yeah, today's been quite a

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Speaker 4: week in America today, Today's been quite a week in America.

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Speaker 4: And if you've been in America the last ten ten

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Speaker 4: almost ten months, it's Giving four Giving four years, and

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Speaker 4: uh yeah, I'm sending everybody love who is living here

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Speaker 4: domestically in good old America, and I'm telling everybody who's

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Speaker 4: listening abroad, congratulations. I wish I was you. Yeah, come

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Speaker 4: get me. Actually I was about me help well.

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Speaker 3: I was talking to my friend who lives in Berlin.

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Speaker 2: I was like, you're so lucky because he left America

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Speaker 3: He moved around ten years ago. And I was like,

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Speaker 3: you're so lucky that you live in Berlin. He's like, no,

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Speaker 3: it's it's bad here, really well it's Germany.

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Speaker 5: But you know what I've heard about Germany.

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Speaker 4: I heard about I heard that post post Holocaust, that

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Speaker 4: Germany was really really really really really really good at

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Speaker 4: and like memory, like memorializing all the things negative that

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Speaker 3: But that's what I heard. I've never been in Germany.

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Speaker 3: If you're black anywhere, Okay, the Holocaust hasn't applied here.

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Speaker 5: Okay, so it doesn't apply to black people. So they

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Speaker 4: And then there's like a huge rise of neo Nazism

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Speaker 4: in Germany that's been happening for at least fifteen years.

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Speaker 3: There's just like here.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but except Nazis were created. There're going hard out there.

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Speaker 4: I you know, this is gonna sound fucked up, but

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Speaker 4: I need to. I want to know what's going on

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Speaker 4: in other places bad because I've just been so compared traumas.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I do, that's trauma bond with other countries.

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Speaker 4: I just I'm under the impression of the black people

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Speaker 5: But I was just based on the shit that's going

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Speaker 2: I was like, I mean, yeah, I mean here is

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Speaker 3: We're going dark.

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Speaker 5: I don't think we cannot sooin dark.

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Speaker 3: I was. I just got back from New York.

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Speaker 2: I was in New York for New York Fashion Week

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Speaker 2: Like I'm oo, well, no, but I'm thinking like when

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Speaker 2: like the internet, the news, just the reality of what's

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Speaker 4: Okay, Yeah, I think overall, gratitude is going to always compel.

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Speaker 4: when we're complaining about first world problems, because that happens

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Speaker 5: A long time in America.

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Speaker 4: I mean, obviously being black in America and globally has

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Speaker 3: All the time.

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Speaker 4: There was a time where you only got the fucking

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Speaker 3: That was probably really nice.

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Speaker 4: But now we're hearing about little Johnny and fucking Antarctica and.

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Speaker 5: Wherever, everybody everywhere.

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Speaker 4: We know all of the issues all the time, and

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Speaker 4: it's overwhelming. And like I've said this before, we're not

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Speaker 3: Here, we are.

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Speaker 4: Being very calculated about what we say, just in case

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I really.

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Speaker 4: Consider that because I know everybody's been on the internet.

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Speaker 4: It's no avoiding it. But like me, Kimball, who's been

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Speaker 4: I was actually on Jimmy Kimball, kim Kimble. I was

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Speaker 4: calling him Kimball for twenty years, Jimmy Kimmel. When I

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Speaker 4: you want to you? Can you comment on current events?

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Speaker 5: I wonder if I've tried.

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Speaker 3: To find that you're part of Jimmy Kimble history.

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Speaker 5: I am. That's why I'm speaking on it. I was

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Speaker 3: Kim Kimmel When when what year was this? Can we

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Speaker 4: You're like no, it's breaking and we're like okay, and

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Speaker 4: there's footage of Whitney Houston. She's an Alaska on a

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Speaker 5: Yeah, this is what they said.

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Speaker 4: And I was like, she has an icon and just

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Speaker 3: Why would they fucking disrespect Whitney like this?

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Speaker 5: Why How did I get involved?

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Speaker 4: I don't know, But the point is I was in

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Speaker 4: the twenty year span of Jimmy Kimmel. I was in it,

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Speaker 4: and please somebody find the footages.

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Speaker 3: I looked it up yesterday. I tried to find it.

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Speaker 4: I was like, I was like Jimmy Kimble batting baby

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Speaker 4: seal spray find it, but I'm gonna I'm gonna look

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Speaker 4: for it. But yeah, we're in a really scary place

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Speaker 4: where we are. It's being considered by law that if

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Speaker 3: Call it, the regime, the regime, the regiment.

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Speaker 4: The regiment am I, then you could have like legal

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Speaker 4: repercussions like them taking your passport. And you definitely can't

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Speaker 4: say the sea word.

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Speaker 3: And because people.

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Speaker 2: Would call me today like should we talk about the

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Speaker 2: sea word? I was like the sea word. She's like

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Speaker 2: semerk the c K word.

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Speaker 4: So, yeah, I mean, we're we're in weird times and

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Speaker 4: it's scary, and it's really scary. I feel like because

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Speaker 4: I'm not really a gray area bitch.

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Speaker 5: I'm not a neutral bitch.

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Speaker 3: I like I'm very black or white.

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Speaker 4: I never ever have been like somebody to censor what

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Speaker 4: Okay, that might have been ours doing that whole spiel,

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Speaker 4: We're experts at everything, experts at every mostly because we've

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Speaker 3: Well, this is a kind of a bad choice. Okay.

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Speaker 2: This is from an anonymous person in my DMS. So

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Speaker 5: Actually, how much was it?

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Speaker 3: I need to know? Can you ask? You know what?

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Speaker 4: One time Orlando set somebody some it was like twenty

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Speaker 5: Am I a bitch?

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Speaker 5: Am I the bitch? Am I the trump?

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Speaker 3: Am I the drum?

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Speaker 4: I CAF, I received the money and I use it.

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Speaker 3: He's your sugar daddy. I know him to send you

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Speaker 4: But if you're just fucking sending money, then you're the problem.

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Speaker 4: But I I don't know if I'm just older and

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Speaker 3: I'm just kidding.

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Speaker 4: waiting for someone to fumble you, and then they could

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00:20:55,680 --> 00:20:58,000
Speaker 4: be like, oh, let me hold dune, it's okay, and

442
00:20:58,119 --> 00:21:00,040
Speaker 4: she's a bitch, and then put their pussy on you.

443
00:21:00,760 --> 00:21:04,280
Speaker 2: And be friends through multiple relationships. Now Ever happened I

444
00:21:04,320 --> 00:21:06,760
Speaker 2: think that's fine. I support that. I'm not like weird

445
00:21:06,760 --> 00:21:07,080
Speaker 2: that way.

446
00:21:07,160 --> 00:21:09,600
Speaker 4: My only what I don't like is when Nigga you're like, oh,

447
00:21:09,600 --> 00:21:13,560
Speaker 4: Massus Marsus, and it's like, don't call bitch your sis

448
00:21:13,600 --> 00:21:16,760
Speaker 4: if you fucked her, it definitely don't introduce me to

449
00:21:16,800 --> 00:21:19,199
Speaker 4: her as your cis and you guys fucked, because then

450
00:21:19,200 --> 00:21:21,560
Speaker 4: that's incests and then I have to assume that you

451
00:21:21,800 --> 00:21:26,000
Speaker 4: are from like Florida or something. It's just I don't

452
00:21:26,080 --> 00:21:29,000
Speaker 4: like the I don't like the manipulation of calling somebody

453
00:21:29,000 --> 00:21:33,200
Speaker 4: a fake sis and then you have actually exchanged fluids.

454
00:21:33,280 --> 00:21:37,560
Speaker 4: I think that's deceiving, and I think that it's sneaky,

455
00:21:37,760 --> 00:21:39,280
Speaker 4: and then I have to like worry about if I

456
00:21:39,280 --> 00:21:42,040
Speaker 4: can trust you, and that's a whole other thing that

457
00:21:42,920 --> 00:21:45,280
Speaker 4: I need to be around that bitch and you for

458
00:21:45,359 --> 00:21:48,080
Speaker 4: a nice amount of time so I can, with my

459
00:21:48,160 --> 00:21:51,840
Speaker 4: witch Antenna's check the vibes and check where she's coming

460
00:21:51,880 --> 00:21:53,880
Speaker 4: from and check you and see.

461
00:21:53,680 --> 00:21:54,600
Speaker 3: How she looks at you.

462
00:21:54,640 --> 00:21:56,480
Speaker 4: Because if it's crazy and it looks like there's some

463
00:21:56,560 --> 00:21:58,720
Speaker 4: one ounce of attraction and if I turn my back,

464
00:21:58,720 --> 00:21:59,600
Speaker 4: you're gonna be crazy.

465
00:22:00,040 --> 00:22:01,160
Speaker 5: I'm gonna cut it off.

466
00:22:01,760 --> 00:22:05,600
Speaker 4: Okay, what do you think got it?

467
00:22:06,720 --> 00:22:09,000
Speaker 5: I think I know you're not talking a fucking scorpions.

468
00:22:11,720 --> 00:22:14,399
Speaker 2: I mean, I've been burned by this dynamic multiple times.

469
00:22:14,400 --> 00:22:18,920
Speaker 3: So like I have, like from the.

470
00:22:18,840 --> 00:22:20,840
Speaker 2: Bitch that was from my nigga who had the best

471
00:22:20,840 --> 00:22:22,920
Speaker 2: friend with one arm.

472
00:22:23,320 --> 00:22:26,240
Speaker 4: Too, she didn't have one arm though, you my ex.

473
00:22:26,040 --> 00:22:28,840
Speaker 2: Who was acclaimed that the person he was working with

474
00:22:29,000 --> 00:22:31,040
Speaker 2: was his was his friend and he was cheating with

475
00:22:31,040 --> 00:22:33,320
Speaker 2: her the whole time. Like, this is a this is

476
00:22:33,359 --> 00:22:36,160
Speaker 2: a very prevalent dynamic in my life. And so now

477
00:22:36,280 --> 00:22:37,320
Speaker 2: where do you land with it?

478
00:22:38,160 --> 00:22:38,399
Speaker 3: You know?

479
00:22:39,680 --> 00:22:43,399
Speaker 2: I think obviously and my antennas are up obviously more now.

480
00:22:43,480 --> 00:22:44,680
Speaker 3: But I also, like.

481
00:22:46,359 --> 00:22:51,000
Speaker 2: What I'm not in the I'm not in relationships with anyone.

482
00:22:51,119 --> 00:22:53,879
Speaker 2: To tell you that you can't be friends with someone,

483
00:22:54,040 --> 00:22:56,440
Speaker 2: you need to make that choice, because if I tell

484
00:22:56,480 --> 00:22:58,200
Speaker 2: you you can't be friends with this person, You're gonna

485
00:22:58,200 --> 00:23:00,359
Speaker 2: hate You're gonna hate me, and then you're secreting going

486
00:23:00,440 --> 00:23:02,480
Speaker 2: to be friends, And then I'm actually adding fuel to

487
00:23:02,520 --> 00:23:06,360
Speaker 2: the fire of this like forsaken friendship turned forsaken love

488
00:23:06,400 --> 00:23:08,360
Speaker 2: that wasn't even forsaken love, but I've made it now

489
00:23:08,359 --> 00:23:10,320
Speaker 2: forsaken love because now you can't even be friends with

490
00:23:10,320 --> 00:23:13,359
Speaker 2: this person, you know, So like I don't know, like probably,

491
00:23:13,400 --> 00:23:16,760
Speaker 2: like most the trauma response that maybe I most people

492
00:23:16,760 --> 00:23:18,800
Speaker 2: would have would be like fuck that, no you can't.

493
00:23:19,160 --> 00:23:22,200
Speaker 2: But for me, I'm like I already know. God is

494
00:23:22,200 --> 00:23:26,000
Speaker 2: always going to reveal the bullshit. Yeah, granted, God please

495
00:23:26,119 --> 00:23:33,359
Speaker 2: like expedite the information. But I definitely always have a

496
00:23:33,400 --> 00:23:37,520
Speaker 2: lot of questions because of that. And I think that

497
00:23:37,640 --> 00:23:40,600
Speaker 2: it's I think, if you're attracted to your man, and

498
00:23:40,640 --> 00:23:42,920
Speaker 2: if you know that other women are attracted to your man,

499
00:23:43,160 --> 00:23:47,400
Speaker 2: the likelihood of any woman, whether that's the friend or

500
00:23:47,480 --> 00:23:50,040
Speaker 2: a bitch on the street, being having any sort of

501
00:23:50,080 --> 00:23:53,760
Speaker 2: sexual attraction to your partner, even in friendship is probably

502
00:23:54,560 --> 00:23:55,960
Speaker 2: that's like a that's like you're.

503
00:23:55,760 --> 00:23:58,080
Speaker 3: Living in La la land. Of course she can.

504
00:23:58,160 --> 00:24:00,600
Speaker 2: She has eyes, you know, like she can see that

505
00:24:00,760 --> 00:24:04,000
Speaker 2: Orlando or she Cam or whoever we're with. If we're

506
00:24:04,080 --> 00:24:08,919
Speaker 2: dating someone who is generally attractive is attractive, right, And

507
00:24:08,960 --> 00:24:12,879
Speaker 2: so it's like that is just the dynamic of being human.

508
00:24:12,920 --> 00:24:15,480
Speaker 2: That's the same if like I have a really fine friend,

509
00:24:15,920 --> 00:24:20,000
Speaker 2: Doc is fine as fuck, you know, and that and

510
00:24:20,000 --> 00:24:26,720
Speaker 2: that is my friend, right and and like I saw

511
00:24:26,720 --> 00:24:28,760
Speaker 2: what we hang out in New York and like I

512
00:24:28,800 --> 00:24:30,560
Speaker 2: look at him and like, damn, he's so fine.

513
00:24:30,680 --> 00:24:33,840
Speaker 3: He really is. We're being recorded right now.

514
00:24:33,880 --> 00:24:36,960
Speaker 4: It's okay, just reminding you he's fine.

515
00:24:37,040 --> 00:24:40,600
Speaker 2: But there's no But that boundary is like there's it's

516
00:24:40,760 --> 00:24:43,119
Speaker 2: there's no respect, there's no waiting, there's no waiting for

517
00:24:43,160 --> 00:24:45,440
Speaker 2: someone to fuck up like we've I've already been through

518
00:24:45,880 --> 00:24:48,360
Speaker 2: the fuck ups with other people, and there's no like, oh,

519
00:24:48,440 --> 00:24:50,880
Speaker 2: let me call Doc and like see what's up with him?

520
00:24:50,960 --> 00:24:54,359
Speaker 2: Like that's not that's not happening because I value the

521
00:24:54,440 --> 00:24:57,520
Speaker 2: dynamic of our friendship way more than any sort of

522
00:24:57,520 --> 00:24:59,520
Speaker 2: attraction that I have for him. And I think that's

523
00:24:59,560 --> 00:25:01,520
Speaker 2: like the boundary that people have to have, and like

524
00:25:01,520 --> 00:25:03,080
Speaker 2: the respect for one another people have to have. I

525
00:25:03,080 --> 00:25:06,240
Speaker 2: think it's unrealistic for us to think that if we

526
00:25:06,560 --> 00:25:08,800
Speaker 2: I don't want to say allow, but if our partners

527
00:25:08,880 --> 00:25:11,840
Speaker 2: have friends or best friends of the opposite sex and

528
00:25:11,960 --> 00:25:14,359
Speaker 2: they are attractive, that that other person doesn't find them

529
00:25:14,400 --> 00:25:16,840
Speaker 2: attractive at all, Like that's just not reality.

530
00:25:16,920 --> 00:25:19,040
Speaker 4: The reality is attractive people live in the world, and

531
00:25:19,080 --> 00:25:21,439
Speaker 4: you can't control that if your partner comes in contact

532
00:25:21,480 --> 00:25:23,200
Speaker 4: with them, and to what level or degree they can

533
00:25:23,240 --> 00:25:25,640
Speaker 4: have a relationship with them, and I agree, like, I'm

534
00:25:25,680 --> 00:25:27,520
Speaker 4: never and I will never be the type of bitch

535
00:25:27,560 --> 00:25:30,199
Speaker 4: who like, I don't make the rules that you follow,

536
00:25:30,280 --> 00:25:33,639
Speaker 4: Like you make the rules and you hopefully respect the

537
00:25:33,680 --> 00:25:35,800
Speaker 4: relationship and me and the process. But I'm never gonna like,

538
00:25:35,800 --> 00:25:37,919
Speaker 4: you can't be friends with this person. I do have

539
00:25:37,960 --> 00:25:40,280
Speaker 4: a really toxic take on this, and I only know

540
00:25:40,359 --> 00:25:43,119
Speaker 4: that it's a little bit toxic because I was having

541
00:25:43,240 --> 00:25:46,040
Speaker 4: a conversation with Nicole the Pole. Shout out to my

542
00:25:46,119 --> 00:25:49,280
Speaker 4: friend Nicole the Pool and she this was kind of

543
00:25:49,280 --> 00:25:52,360
Speaker 4: came up and I was talking to her about something

544
00:25:52,400 --> 00:25:56,320
Speaker 4: and she was like, and I told her, because this

545
00:25:56,359 --> 00:25:59,720
Speaker 4: is my theory with women, I feel like and this

546
00:25:59,800 --> 00:26:01,320
Speaker 4: is I know that this is toxic, and I know

547
00:26:01,359 --> 00:26:03,200
Speaker 4: that this is like the programming that they give us,

548
00:26:03,480 --> 00:26:05,439
Speaker 4: and that this is also like the birth of a

549
00:26:05,440 --> 00:26:09,560
Speaker 4: lot of the jealous caddy things that come up between women.

550
00:26:09,840 --> 00:26:12,000
Speaker 4: Is that like there's not enough good men to go around.

551
00:26:12,800 --> 00:26:19,400
Speaker 4: And because I was telling Orlando or I was telling

552
00:26:19,480 --> 00:26:23,000
Speaker 4: Nicole like sometimes with women when they see when there's

553
00:26:23,119 --> 00:26:25,480
Speaker 4: been a friendship for a long period of time, and

554
00:26:25,520 --> 00:26:27,199
Speaker 4: this is my homies, this has been my boy for

555
00:26:27,240 --> 00:26:28,879
Speaker 4: so long and we love each other and we trust

556
00:26:28,880 --> 00:26:31,400
Speaker 4: each other. And then they see the man go get

557
00:26:31,400 --> 00:26:33,960
Speaker 4: into a relationship and they see him show up for

558
00:26:34,160 --> 00:26:36,440
Speaker 4: the woman that he's in a relationship with, and maybe

559
00:26:36,480 --> 00:26:39,160
Speaker 4: their relationship trajectory is not going so well or they've

560
00:26:39,200 --> 00:26:41,840
Speaker 4: been burnt and they're like, oh, well, why can't you

561
00:26:41,880 --> 00:26:43,600
Speaker 4: do this for me? Like you love me? Like why

562
00:26:43,680 --> 00:26:47,200
Speaker 4: can't you? Also, you know, like there's a comparison that happens,

563
00:26:47,320 --> 00:26:49,760
Speaker 4: or like at a certain age, if you've been friends

564
00:26:49,800 --> 00:26:51,800
Speaker 4: with like a guy for a long time and you

565
00:26:51,800 --> 00:26:54,400
Speaker 4: guys have good like energy and vibes, and maybe there's

566
00:26:54,400 --> 00:26:56,919
Speaker 4: an attraction and they start to go like love on

567
00:26:57,040 --> 00:26:59,520
Speaker 4: somebody else and you're like, well, damn, why couldn't that

568
00:26:59,600 --> 00:26:59,800
Speaker 4: been me?

569
00:26:59,880 --> 00:27:01,360
Speaker 5: Like why didn't you look at me in this way?

570
00:27:01,400 --> 00:27:03,520
Speaker 4: But now you're like I always said there, I always

571
00:27:03,560 --> 00:27:06,600
Speaker 4: feel like there is this like maybe.

572
00:27:06,440 --> 00:27:08,320
Speaker 2: Because if there was a time that has that happened

573
00:27:08,359 --> 00:27:10,159
Speaker 2: to you, maybe I've never experienced that.

574
00:27:10,240 --> 00:27:11,160
Speaker 5: Really, what do you mean?

575
00:27:11,640 --> 00:27:14,200
Speaker 2: I mean like I'm not saying it's not doesn't happen

576
00:27:14,240 --> 00:27:16,880
Speaker 2: that women don't get jealous of like their their male

577
00:27:16,960 --> 00:27:18,680
Speaker 2: bestie like loving other woman.

578
00:27:18,800 --> 00:27:20,480
Speaker 5: No, No, this is just my toxic. This is my

579
00:27:20,520 --> 00:27:21,720
Speaker 5: toxic idea.

580
00:27:21,800 --> 00:27:23,720
Speaker 2: So these are just ideas. These are not actual facts

581
00:27:23,760 --> 00:27:24,960
Speaker 2: that you've experienced and seen.

582
00:27:25,040 --> 00:27:26,480
Speaker 5: How I mean, I think with myself.

583
00:27:26,520 --> 00:27:28,239
Speaker 4: I think there's some times where I've been single and

584
00:27:28,280 --> 00:27:30,800
Speaker 4: I've like maybe dated someone and then like maybe we're

585
00:27:30,920 --> 00:27:32,520
Speaker 4: they didn't go very far, and then I see them

586
00:27:32,600 --> 00:27:35,800
Speaker 4: later like in deep relationships, and I questioned myself like, damn,

587
00:27:35,800 --> 00:27:37,600
Speaker 4: why are like why wasn't that like.

588
00:27:37,600 --> 00:27:40,040
Speaker 5: Not the trajectory of our friendship or whatever?

589
00:27:40,359 --> 00:27:42,199
Speaker 4: And I'm this is how I know I'm prochecting and

590
00:27:42,240 --> 00:27:44,560
Speaker 4: it's and it's toxic. And and Nicole said to me,

591
00:27:45,600 --> 00:27:47,480
Speaker 4: do you think that you feel this way because you've

592
00:27:47,520 --> 00:27:50,520
Speaker 4: been sneaky and you've done sneaky things?

593
00:27:50,560 --> 00:27:53,480
Speaker 5: And I was like, no, I don't.

594
00:27:54,160 --> 00:27:57,480
Speaker 4: And she's like, hmmm, I think so, maybe not in

595
00:27:57,520 --> 00:27:59,520
Speaker 4: the same exact way that you're saying, but and I

596
00:27:59,560 --> 00:28:02,199
Speaker 4: was just like, Okay, well, this is not why I

597
00:28:02,200 --> 00:28:04,040
Speaker 4: came to eat lunch with you, like, actually, shut the

598
00:28:04,040 --> 00:28:07,679
Speaker 4: fuck me, and you're not really getting the point of

599
00:28:07,720 --> 00:28:11,399
Speaker 4: our friendship. But I just I know that. And she's like,

600
00:28:11,400 --> 00:28:14,080
Speaker 4: that's not necessarily true. This is something you're telling yourself

601
00:28:14,520 --> 00:28:16,959
Speaker 4: and it's true, those are those are valid things. I

602
00:28:16,960 --> 00:28:18,960
Speaker 4: do think that that can be a thing. And I

603
00:28:18,960 --> 00:28:21,280
Speaker 4: think we have the fucked up thing of like always

604
00:28:21,320 --> 00:28:22,080
Speaker 4: thinking the worst.

605
00:28:23,400 --> 00:28:26,119
Speaker 2: Well I think that's always thinking the worst always like

606
00:28:26,200 --> 00:28:28,679
Speaker 2: women not trusting women, you know what I mean, Like

607
00:28:28,680 --> 00:28:30,919
Speaker 2: that's a thought of like you, not like not you.

608
00:28:31,040 --> 00:28:33,680
Speaker 4: But I don't trust any woman who's not my personal friend,

609
00:28:33,760 --> 00:28:36,080
Speaker 4: Like why I mean, not like any woman, but like

610
00:28:36,880 --> 00:28:40,320
Speaker 4: you're not looking out for me, You're looking out for you,

611
00:28:40,400 --> 00:28:42,280
Speaker 4: Like you know what I mean, Like it's not personal,

612
00:28:42,360 --> 00:28:44,000
Speaker 4: it's just that we're not friends, So why would you

613
00:28:44,080 --> 00:28:45,160
Speaker 4: protecting me in this?

614
00:28:45,360 --> 00:28:47,040
Speaker 2: No, but I don't I give women the benefit of

615
00:28:47,080 --> 00:28:48,800
Speaker 2: the doubta until I have a reason not to. I'm

616
00:28:48,840 --> 00:28:50,360
Speaker 2: not like looking at women like you, I don't trust

617
00:28:50,360 --> 00:28:52,080
Speaker 2: you because I don't know you, Like if that was

618
00:28:52,120 --> 00:28:54,560
Speaker 2: the case, Like that's like kind of conflicts with the

619
00:28:54,560 --> 00:28:56,200
Speaker 2: fucking the work that we do with women. It's like

620
00:28:56,240 --> 00:28:58,800
Speaker 2: we're asking women to come into spaces that they don't

621
00:28:58,840 --> 00:29:01,000
Speaker 2: know anybody and try the people that are there.

622
00:29:01,360 --> 00:29:04,440
Speaker 4: Yes, there's when there's nothing on the like there's no

623
00:29:05,000 --> 00:29:06,520
Speaker 4: uh like how do they say, like heat in the

624
00:29:06,560 --> 00:29:09,320
Speaker 4: game or whatever, Like there's like, yeah, come and be

625
00:29:09,440 --> 00:29:11,160
Speaker 4: friends like I don't not just I don't just like

626
00:29:11,200 --> 00:29:13,320
Speaker 4: not trust bitches on the street. I'm just saying, in

627
00:29:13,360 --> 00:29:16,920
Speaker 4: a dynamic where my man has a best friend that's

628
00:29:16,960 --> 00:29:22,080
Speaker 4: a female, your interest is him and your.

629
00:29:21,920 --> 00:29:25,800
Speaker 2: Happiness hopefully hopefully Yeah, so they're like for that, like that,

630
00:29:25,960 --> 00:29:28,680
Speaker 2: at the very least, I'm going to trust that as

631
00:29:28,720 --> 00:29:32,280
Speaker 2: his friend and as my like that you care about

632
00:29:32,720 --> 00:29:37,200
Speaker 2: the happiness of your friend, because that is like standard

633
00:29:37,200 --> 00:29:40,080
Speaker 2: for friendships period, That standard for me and your friendship,

634
00:29:40,240 --> 00:29:44,760
Speaker 2: that standard for Orlando and you know whoever the fuck's friends.

635
00:29:44,840 --> 00:29:47,240
Speaker 4: I agree, but we do we both know that even

636
00:29:47,240 --> 00:29:53,640
Speaker 4: in those situations like sometimes people's uh, people's happiness for

637
00:29:53,680 --> 00:29:55,920
Speaker 4: themselves comes in first.

638
00:29:56,000 --> 00:29:59,600
Speaker 2: All I'm saying is like I'm not saying, whatever happens

639
00:29:59,640 --> 00:30:03,040
Speaker 2: after that is more is telling. But that's the baseline

640
00:30:03,320 --> 00:30:07,320
Speaker 2: that I'm going into assuming assuming is that this person

641
00:30:07,400 --> 00:30:10,000
Speaker 2: you're telling me is your friend. I trust you, I've

642
00:30:10,000 --> 00:30:12,280
Speaker 2: built a rapport and trust with you. I'm going to

643
00:30:12,360 --> 00:30:15,040
Speaker 2: assume that you wouldn't bring me around a bitch, even though.

644
00:30:16,480 --> 00:30:18,040
Speaker 3: Niggas have lied, you.

645
00:30:18,000 --> 00:30:23,080
Speaker 2: Know, but I've made the conscious choice to not group

646
00:30:23,200 --> 00:30:25,080
Speaker 2: every like if that was the case, I wouldn't even

647
00:30:25,080 --> 00:30:27,160
Speaker 2: like there'd be no relationships at all happening for me,

648
00:30:27,240 --> 00:30:30,360
Speaker 2: Like I told myself after my last relationship and the

649
00:30:30,360 --> 00:30:32,720
Speaker 2: one before that, even like I'm not closing my heart

650
00:30:32,720 --> 00:30:34,840
Speaker 2: off just because this nigga fucked this shit up. You know,

651
00:30:34,880 --> 00:30:38,360
Speaker 2: Like as women, we are constantly like putting boundaries in

652
00:30:38,880 --> 00:30:40,920
Speaker 2: our love space because people have hurt us. And then

653
00:30:40,960 --> 00:30:42,840
Speaker 2: we're closed off and we meet the next person and

654
00:30:42,560 --> 00:30:45,400
Speaker 2: we're not available to receive the love because we're still

655
00:30:45,400 --> 00:30:48,080
Speaker 2: punishing ourselves and the other person and the person we're

656
00:30:48,080 --> 00:30:51,680
Speaker 2: with for what happened before. So I think, like the

657
00:30:51,720 --> 00:30:55,400
Speaker 2: hope is that you trust the person you're with, You

658
00:30:55,440 --> 00:30:58,000
Speaker 2: trust the type of relationships that they say are important

659
00:30:58,000 --> 00:31:01,000
Speaker 2: to them and are respectful to your relationship. And I'm

660
00:31:01,040 --> 00:31:04,640
Speaker 2: going to trust that until until I meet this bitch

661
00:31:04,640 --> 00:31:05,200
Speaker 2: and I look her in.

662
00:31:05,240 --> 00:31:07,240
Speaker 3: The eyes and I say, oh, that's.

663
00:31:07,120 --> 00:31:09,160
Speaker 4: Always my thing, Like let me just be around. I

664
00:31:09,200 --> 00:31:14,280
Speaker 4: have such spidy senses for any type of unlike authentic

665
00:31:15,000 --> 00:31:17,800
Speaker 4: energy that I'm I can always gauge if I think

666
00:31:17,840 --> 00:31:22,840
Speaker 4: something is is like genuine or not. But yeah, enough

667
00:31:22,880 --> 00:31:24,880
Speaker 4: of exposing my toxic traits.

668
00:31:26,680 --> 00:31:28,040
Speaker 5: Have be friends with whoever you want.

669
00:31:30,520 --> 00:31:32,360
Speaker 2: Not enough of like you know, like I exposed it,

670
00:31:32,400 --> 00:31:35,479
Speaker 2: but you said, this is a toxic trait that I have.

671
00:31:37,200 --> 00:31:42,520
Speaker 4: I also realize, like I'm super on high high alert.

672
00:31:42,200 --> 00:31:44,160
Speaker 5: Because like my mom was that way. My mom was like.

673
00:31:44,200 --> 00:31:46,520
Speaker 4: Hyper jealous because probably is my dad was a fucking cheater.

674
00:31:46,760 --> 00:31:52,920
Speaker 4: So I've inherited it through DNA. It's not really my fault. Interesting,

675
00:31:53,640 --> 00:31:55,160
Speaker 4: I've had to really work through this.

676
00:31:56,160 --> 00:31:58,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, no, I mean, yeah, it might come from a

677
00:31:58,200 --> 00:32:00,560
Speaker 2: line of my dad is a cheater also, So I

678
00:32:00,560 --> 00:32:03,080
Speaker 2: don't know how that translated in my DNA from my

679
00:32:03,120 --> 00:32:04,040
Speaker 2: mom to me.

680
00:32:04,360 --> 00:32:06,440
Speaker 4: I think it's because I lived in the household.

681
00:32:06,560 --> 00:32:07,320
Speaker 3: True, I didn't.

682
00:32:07,440 --> 00:32:10,840
Speaker 2: I observed experienced it over and over over and over

683
00:32:10,880 --> 00:32:11,680
Speaker 2: again over and.

684
00:32:11,720 --> 00:32:13,640
Speaker 4: Absorbed it and observed it.

685
00:32:13,560 --> 00:32:14,880
Speaker 5: In like who's that, Who's that?

686
00:32:15,000 --> 00:32:16,680
Speaker 4: Who' in the phone with to the point where I

687
00:32:16,760 --> 00:32:19,080
Speaker 4: told you like if my dad is with me and

688
00:32:19,120 --> 00:32:21,640
Speaker 4: he's in the car and I feel like his tone

689
00:32:21,760 --> 00:32:25,200
Speaker 4: is low, it triggers me. If I feel like he's whispering,

690
00:32:25,240 --> 00:32:27,360
Speaker 4: I'm triggered, and I'm like, this is crazy that I

691
00:32:27,400 --> 00:32:29,680
Speaker 4: even the fact that I even noticed that is insane.

692
00:32:29,760 --> 00:32:31,600
Speaker 4: But that's how I know that a lot of my

693
00:32:32,200 --> 00:32:35,320
Speaker 4: some of my jealousy and my non trustingness is like,

694
00:32:36,600 --> 00:32:39,360
Speaker 4: not me, it's my mother that I do.

695
00:32:39,400 --> 00:32:40,400
Speaker 5: I have to warn out of it.

696
00:32:40,560 --> 00:32:41,720
Speaker 3: But what about you, guys?

697
00:32:41,800 --> 00:32:43,520
Speaker 2: Leave a comment in the YouTube tell us what you

698
00:32:43,560 --> 00:32:50,000
Speaker 2: think about your boyfriend's husbands, lovers, partners having female friends

699
00:32:50,360 --> 00:32:51,040
Speaker 2: and vice versa.

700
00:32:51,240 --> 00:32:53,840
Speaker 4: Yeah, men, how do you feel about your women having

701
00:32:53,840 --> 00:32:54,560
Speaker 4: male friends?

702
00:32:54,920 --> 00:32:57,160
Speaker 3: Yeah? I'm trying to now because.

703
00:32:56,840 --> 00:32:59,280
Speaker 4: What I've heard all the time for men is no

704
00:32:59,280 --> 00:33:01,640
Speaker 4: men wants to be your friend. Have you heard that

705
00:33:01,800 --> 00:33:03,880
Speaker 4: men know want to be your friend? They don't give

706
00:33:03,880 --> 00:33:06,120
Speaker 4: a fuck about your friendship, which has always been very hurtful.

707
00:33:06,200 --> 00:33:08,280
Speaker 5: No, I know, I'm always like, but I'm really nice.

708
00:33:08,520 --> 00:33:12,440
Speaker 3: I literally had men make me. I can't even call

709
00:33:12,560 --> 00:33:13,520
Speaker 3: the men boys.

710
00:33:13,600 --> 00:33:16,560
Speaker 2: This is when I was need to smoke. I think, okay, okay,

711
00:33:17,040 --> 00:33:19,760
Speaker 2: roll the backwards stressing me. I remember when I was

712
00:33:19,880 --> 00:33:21,800
Speaker 2: dating someone when I was like nineteen. He was a

713
00:33:21,840 --> 00:33:24,120
Speaker 2: little bit older than me, and he made me call

714
00:33:24,400 --> 00:33:27,320
Speaker 2: my best guy friend at the time and break up

715
00:33:27,360 --> 00:33:27,680
Speaker 2: with him.

716
00:33:27,920 --> 00:33:29,480
Speaker 3: And I did it, and then I called him afterwards

717
00:33:29,520 --> 00:33:30,200
Speaker 3: like just kid it.

718
00:33:30,720 --> 00:33:32,880
Speaker 2: I was keep a tripping, just like I just just

719
00:33:32,920 --> 00:33:35,480
Speaker 2: don't text me, like message me on.

720
00:33:35,000 --> 00:33:37,720
Speaker 3: Instagram or whatever. My space wherever we're doing exact.

721
00:33:37,600 --> 00:33:39,320
Speaker 4: You know, you were nineteen. The fact they were like, hello,

722
00:33:39,840 --> 00:33:41,240
Speaker 4: I just want you to know the fact that a.

723
00:33:41,200 --> 00:33:43,400
Speaker 2: Guy even thought that was I literally I couldn't believe

724
00:33:43,400 --> 00:33:44,760
Speaker 2: me made me do I cried the whole time.

725
00:33:45,280 --> 00:33:46,720
Speaker 3: He made me do it in front of him and I.

726
00:33:46,640 --> 00:33:51,320
Speaker 2: Was crying, Im sorry, I can't be and he was like,

727
00:33:51,560 --> 00:33:53,120
Speaker 2: it was fucking it was abuse.

728
00:33:53,200 --> 00:33:54,680
Speaker 3: It was literally a crazy guy.

729
00:33:54,840 --> 00:33:57,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, the one, yeah, yeah, you know which one, the

730
00:33:57,720 --> 00:34:01,240
Speaker 2: one who I opened it like a little clam Yeah,

731
00:34:01,280 --> 00:34:03,800
Speaker 2: you need to go back to you if you're just

732
00:34:03,880 --> 00:34:05,960
Speaker 2: joining us at good mom's bad choices, I really would

733
00:34:05,960 --> 00:34:07,560
Speaker 2: to encourage you to go back to the beginning, Like

734
00:34:07,600 --> 00:34:10,239
Speaker 2: there's a lot of good fucking stories there.

735
00:34:10,280 --> 00:34:11,240
Speaker 5: Called some exit.

736
00:34:11,360 --> 00:34:14,160
Speaker 2: We interviewed, We interviewed, I had my ex boyfriend come

737
00:34:14,200 --> 00:34:17,520
Speaker 2: on the show.

738
00:34:16,160 --> 00:34:16,640
Speaker 3: Spoke to you.

739
00:34:16,719 --> 00:34:21,360
Speaker 4: In years, we're just calling people up, like, hey, remember

740
00:34:21,360 --> 00:34:23,719
Speaker 4: when you dated me, Tell me some things about me.

741
00:34:24,880 --> 00:34:26,920
Speaker 3: Talk about tell me about me, tell me what.

742
00:34:26,840 --> 00:34:28,040
Speaker 4: You hate about me, so then we can hang up

743
00:34:28,040 --> 00:34:32,600
Speaker 4: and talk shit about you. Yeah on air, don't worry,

744
00:34:32,640 --> 00:34:33,319
Speaker 4: it's gonna be great.

745
00:34:33,840 --> 00:34:35,640
Speaker 3: And then they did it. Yeah, but he made me

746
00:34:35,640 --> 00:34:36,200
Speaker 3: break up with.

747
00:34:37,640 --> 00:34:39,359
Speaker 2: I made me break up with my friend and then

748
00:34:39,640 --> 00:34:42,359
Speaker 2: even my last boyfriend. He again, he didn't like any

749
00:34:42,480 --> 00:34:44,120
Speaker 2: He didn't want me to have any male friends either,

750
00:34:44,320 --> 00:34:44,880
Speaker 2: and that's.

751
00:34:44,719 --> 00:34:47,040
Speaker 3: Because he was a fucking cheating as I know.

752
00:34:47,840 --> 00:34:50,799
Speaker 2: But but I mean, obviously I didn't like break up

753
00:34:50,800 --> 00:34:53,440
Speaker 2: with my friends. But it was just like I definitely

754
00:34:54,160 --> 00:34:56,040
Speaker 2: didn't bring my male friends around him.

755
00:34:56,360 --> 00:34:57,240
Speaker 5: That's what we're smoking.

756
00:34:57,719 --> 00:35:01,000
Speaker 4: This episode is brought to you by bold Backs because

757
00:35:01,040 --> 00:35:03,040
Speaker 4: you got to make build choices and not break up

758
00:35:03,080 --> 00:35:05,799
Speaker 4: with your opposite sex besties or do like Eric.

759
00:35:06,600 --> 00:35:10,600
Speaker 3: I didn't. I fake, but I fake broke up. Wait,

760
00:35:10,800 --> 00:35:15,560
Speaker 3: we don't have a grinder, but use those fingernails.

761
00:35:16,400 --> 00:35:18,440
Speaker 4: We have, David, we have a new technique. I don't

762
00:35:18,440 --> 00:35:20,160
Speaker 4: know if anyone's tried this. I haven't brought to see

763
00:35:20,160 --> 00:35:22,200
Speaker 4: if it works. It's one pill bottle.

764
00:35:23,880 --> 00:35:25,120
Speaker 3: Okay, some weed.

765
00:35:26,520 --> 00:35:29,640
Speaker 4: And one or two dimes okay, okay, and.

766
00:35:29,600 --> 00:35:30,319
Speaker 5: Then you just shake it.

767
00:35:30,360 --> 00:35:33,439
Speaker 3: This is am oh wait, not so.

768
00:35:32,440 --> 00:35:37,919
Speaker 4: Much, okay, because that was a simar And we'll see

769
00:35:37,920 --> 00:35:40,440
Speaker 4: if it works. This is that good California weed. So

770
00:35:40,520 --> 00:35:44,399
Speaker 4: I don't know, I feel like this.

771
00:35:44,400 --> 00:35:47,960
Speaker 3: Is like I feel like spenders. Oh my god, it worked,

772
00:35:48,160 --> 00:35:48,800
Speaker 3: so gooda.

773
00:35:48,960 --> 00:35:51,480
Speaker 5: Let me see, I gotta keep going.

774
00:35:51,640 --> 00:35:53,600
Speaker 3: Oh wow, okay, I.

775
00:35:53,600 --> 00:35:58,320
Speaker 2: Got Dave, will keep going the grinder where you have

776
00:35:58,320 --> 00:35:59,319
Speaker 2: a few nickels.

777
00:35:59,560 --> 00:36:05,320
Speaker 4: Shake shake, shake, shake, shake that grinder, shake that grinder.

778
00:36:07,719 --> 00:36:11,759
Speaker 5: Okay, yeah, just doing something over it that.

779
00:36:11,840 --> 00:36:13,839
Speaker 4: I can go a little faster, but you know, maybe

780
00:36:13,840 --> 00:36:15,160
Speaker 4: you can do the rest with your fingernails.

781
00:36:15,200 --> 00:36:17,439
Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, I so you guys.

782
00:36:17,480 --> 00:36:19,800
Speaker 2: I on the last episode where we were talking about

783
00:36:19,800 --> 00:36:24,960
Speaker 2: black Goop aka Bloop Boop Boop Boop, I said I

784
00:36:25,000 --> 00:36:27,239
Speaker 2: was going toxic free right, and I am a woman

785
00:36:27,280 --> 00:36:29,680
Speaker 2: of my word. I said, that was the last time

786
00:36:29,920 --> 00:36:32,400
Speaker 2: you were gonna see me with gel nails, and a

787
00:36:32,440 --> 00:36:34,719
Speaker 2: bitch took them off. Okay, I took them off. If

788
00:36:34,719 --> 00:36:37,080
Speaker 2: you were following me on Instagram at Watch Erica going

789
00:36:37,120 --> 00:36:38,800
Speaker 2: to follow my stories, I took those bitches off. I

790
00:36:38,840 --> 00:36:40,960
Speaker 2: went to the nail shop I got. I wasn't even

791
00:36:41,000 --> 00:36:42,719
Speaker 2: gonna put nail polish on, and they were like, you're

792
00:36:42,719 --> 00:36:44,640
Speaker 2: gonna leave without a nail polish And I was like,

793
00:36:44,880 --> 00:36:46,160
Speaker 2: she's like, let me just put something on.

794
00:36:46,320 --> 00:36:47,439
Speaker 3: I was like, all right, fine.

795
00:36:47,520 --> 00:36:50,480
Speaker 4: They haven't seen real they haven't seen regular naked nails

796
00:36:50,560 --> 00:36:51,480
Speaker 4: in over a decade.

797
00:36:51,480 --> 00:36:52,319
Speaker 5: They didn't know what to do.

798
00:36:52,960 --> 00:36:55,440
Speaker 2: I could tell she was pissed coming here to take

799
00:36:55,440 --> 00:36:56,560
Speaker 2: the shit off and not do anything else.

800
00:36:57,000 --> 00:36:58,839
Speaker 3: Shut up, Jenny, just do my shit. And she charged

801
00:36:58,840 --> 00:37:01,000
Speaker 3: you fifty dollars. Still, it was a lot cheaper.

802
00:37:02,000 --> 00:37:03,319
Speaker 2: So she took them off, and then I put a

803
00:37:03,360 --> 00:37:05,440
Speaker 2: red nail polish on, and then I put my fucking

804
00:37:05,480 --> 00:37:07,480
Speaker 2: fingers next to that fan that I haven't It was

805
00:37:07,520 --> 00:37:10,200
Speaker 2: literally I felt vintage like and even I was.

806
00:37:10,200 --> 00:37:10,680
Speaker 3: Like, you have a fan.

807
00:37:10,719 --> 00:37:12,319
Speaker 2: She's like, I don't have one. I was like, you, bitch,

808
00:37:12,320 --> 00:37:12,839
Speaker 2: do you have a fan?

809
00:37:13,239 --> 00:37:13,839
Speaker 3: I went in the back.

810
00:37:13,960 --> 00:37:16,040
Speaker 4: Remember you now you can remember you had to wait

811
00:37:16,120 --> 00:37:16,880
Speaker 4: until it dried.

812
00:37:16,960 --> 00:37:17,640
Speaker 5: Do you remember that?

813
00:37:18,000 --> 00:37:20,400
Speaker 2: I don't remember, because I did it, bitch, I recently

814
00:37:20,440 --> 00:37:22,200
Speaker 2: did it. I put my fucking hands on that fan

815
00:37:22,239 --> 00:37:24,360
Speaker 2: that she brought from the back from the Vintage for

816
00:37:24,480 --> 00:37:28,400
Speaker 2: the days from the nineteen hundreds, and I had to

817
00:37:28,440 --> 00:37:30,320
Speaker 2: sit there and wait for at least fifteen minutes for

818
00:37:30,360 --> 00:37:30,839
Speaker 2: them to dry.

819
00:37:30,880 --> 00:37:33,439
Speaker 3: And then I was like, okay, what this isn't so bad.

820
00:37:33,800 --> 00:37:35,319
Speaker 3: I could do it.

821
00:37:35,400 --> 00:37:39,160
Speaker 2: Three days later they were chipping, so I went ahead

822
00:37:39,200 --> 00:37:41,120
Speaker 2: and I was like, fuck this, I'm gonna try press

823
00:37:41,120 --> 00:37:42,839
Speaker 2: on nails because I've seeing people with press on nails

824
00:37:42,840 --> 00:37:45,800
Speaker 2: and they look really cute, and I went and got

825
00:37:45,840 --> 00:37:49,680
Speaker 2: me some press on nails at Alta. And so far

826
00:37:49,960 --> 00:37:52,880
Speaker 2: they've been doing what they need to do. They've popped

827
00:37:52,880 --> 00:37:56,360
Speaker 2: off a few times, which is very annoying. But maybe

828
00:37:56,360 --> 00:37:58,839
Speaker 2: this is just like part of this new non toxic life.

829
00:37:58,960 --> 00:38:00,280
Speaker 5: I mean, but he'll Beau.

830
00:38:00,400 --> 00:38:02,279
Speaker 3: You could just glue it back on because mine broke

831
00:38:02,920 --> 00:38:05,439
Speaker 3: lose one, oh, and then you can't find it again.

832
00:38:05,440 --> 00:38:06,120
Speaker 5: They don't have doubles.

833
00:38:06,120 --> 00:38:07,560
Speaker 2: They do have doubles, but if you've gone through the

834
00:38:07,560 --> 00:38:09,840
Speaker 2: double and then it's just gone, then you're just done that.

835
00:38:09,920 --> 00:38:12,040
Speaker 2: You're just done with that set and there's no replacing it,

836
00:38:12,080 --> 00:38:13,520
Speaker 2: you know what I mean. So I have to be

837
00:38:13,600 --> 00:38:16,839
Speaker 2: very mindful of like seeing if one is popped off

838
00:38:16,840 --> 00:38:18,400
Speaker 2: and picking it up off the floor or whatever.

839
00:38:18,400 --> 00:38:20,400
Speaker 5: I'm so rough on my fucking fingers.

840
00:38:20,120 --> 00:38:22,120
Speaker 2: Well so am I, and actually that's why I'm surprised,

841
00:38:22,239 --> 00:38:24,160
Speaker 2: Like only two have come off. And I wash my

842
00:38:24,239 --> 00:38:26,319
Speaker 2: hands a lot, like when I'm cooking, like I don't

843
00:38:26,360 --> 00:38:28,120
Speaker 2: like anything on my hand, Like if I cut something,

844
00:38:28,120 --> 00:38:31,040
Speaker 2: I have to go wash them again. And I am

845
00:38:31,120 --> 00:38:33,120
Speaker 2: rough on my hands too, And they've been they've been

846
00:38:33,160 --> 00:38:36,120
Speaker 2: staying on. So shout out to the press on ill girlies.

847
00:38:36,120 --> 00:38:39,399
Speaker 2: If you're in the press On club, I.

848
00:38:39,360 --> 00:38:41,400
Speaker 3: Might be joining you. We'll see how long term I

849
00:38:41,440 --> 00:38:44,160
Speaker 3: can keep things going. We need to find the best glues.

850
00:38:45,080 --> 00:38:47,560
Speaker 2: So when then, I yesterday a girl came up to

851
00:38:47,600 --> 00:38:49,280
Speaker 2: me and she's like, are those gleam nedicks?

852
00:38:49,600 --> 00:38:51,000
Speaker 3: I have the same ones? I'm like, how the fuck

853
00:38:51,000 --> 00:38:52,560
Speaker 3: do you know? We have the same nails? Like, what

854
00:38:52,560 --> 00:38:53,880
Speaker 3: the fuck? She knew?

855
00:38:53,920 --> 00:38:55,120
Speaker 5: It's like wearing the same color.

856
00:38:55,239 --> 00:38:57,239
Speaker 3: It's crazy. And so she gave me a tip.

857
00:38:57,320 --> 00:39:00,839
Speaker 2: She said that I have to file them down, which

858
00:39:00,880 --> 00:39:03,160
Speaker 2: I already did, put alcohol on them, and then file

859
00:39:03,280 --> 00:39:04,160
Speaker 2: inside of here.

860
00:39:04,320 --> 00:39:06,440
Speaker 3: Oh so they'm both a little bit so they're both rough.

861
00:39:06,719 --> 00:39:09,600
Speaker 2: And then use the glue and it'll be fine. So

862
00:39:09,760 --> 00:39:11,360
Speaker 2: I'm gonna try that next time. But I mean, I

863
00:39:11,360 --> 00:39:12,880
Speaker 2: think at this point, like you just kind of have

864
00:39:12,960 --> 00:39:14,760
Speaker 2: to submit to the fact that these bitches are gonna

865
00:39:14,800 --> 00:39:15,479
Speaker 2: pop off off.

866
00:39:15,560 --> 00:39:16,880
Speaker 5: I mean, it's kind of like going back to like

867
00:39:16,960 --> 00:39:17,480
Speaker 5: the fifth grade.

868
00:39:17,560 --> 00:39:18,960
Speaker 3: And I also got regular nail polish.

869
00:39:19,280 --> 00:39:20,680
Speaker 4: Okay, well tell me how long that last?

870
00:39:20,840 --> 00:39:23,960
Speaker 3: This is? Look this is I mean it's been two weeks.

871
00:39:24,360 --> 00:39:25,319
Speaker 5: Oh, that's been two weeks.

872
00:39:25,400 --> 00:39:31,839
Speaker 2: Yeah, so anyway, and other news.

873
00:39:33,640 --> 00:39:35,600
Speaker 3: In other breaking news, other breaking news.

874
00:39:35,880 --> 00:39:37,720
Speaker 5: I don't know if you guys notice were news reporters.

875
00:39:37,760 --> 00:39:42,600
Speaker 2: Now, I was watching this clip speaking of Cardi because

876
00:39:42,600 --> 00:39:44,080
Speaker 2: she's controlling my life now.

877
00:39:44,840 --> 00:39:46,440
Speaker 3: And I just listened to her album, maybe listened to

878
00:39:46,440 --> 00:39:46,800
Speaker 3: her album.

879
00:39:46,800 --> 00:39:49,000
Speaker 4: Well you know, she's pregnant. I know, you know we're

880
00:39:49,000 --> 00:39:50,359
Speaker 4: all like skeptical for a while.

881
00:39:50,360 --> 00:39:52,080
Speaker 2: Well you know what, because like she you know, when

882
00:39:52,120 --> 00:39:54,200
Speaker 2: she when she did her Bodega meet up where she

883
00:39:54,239 --> 00:39:56,279
Speaker 2: was dancing on the car and shit, her stomach was showing,

884
00:39:56,320 --> 00:39:57,640
Speaker 2: but it wasn't her stomach she had. I think she

885
00:39:57,680 --> 00:39:59,319
Speaker 2: must have had a spank on and you could see

886
00:39:59,320 --> 00:40:00,759
Speaker 2: her belly button, and so I zoomed and I took

887
00:40:00,800 --> 00:40:03,040
Speaker 2: a screenshot and it looked zoomed, it looked like a

888
00:40:03,080 --> 00:40:05,719
Speaker 2: fake belly. And then she had like CDs in her

889
00:40:05,760 --> 00:40:08,040
Speaker 2: stomach and she was like passing them out like it

890
00:40:08,120 --> 00:40:08,680
Speaker 2: was on purpose.

891
00:40:08,840 --> 00:40:09,719
Speaker 3: She was confusing us.

892
00:40:09,800 --> 00:40:12,719
Speaker 2: I mean, listen, I really feel like, I really feel

893
00:40:12,719 --> 00:40:18,080
Speaker 2: like her album Rollout was pretty like a masterclass of

894
00:40:18,160 --> 00:40:21,160
Speaker 2: like going with the theme I am the drama or

895
00:40:21,160 --> 00:40:22,200
Speaker 2: am I the drama?

896
00:40:23,080 --> 00:40:25,000
Speaker 3: And shout out to Cardi.

897
00:40:25,000 --> 00:40:27,359
Speaker 2: I'm very I'm shout out to your pregnancy and all

898
00:40:27,400 --> 00:40:30,040
Speaker 2: of the blessings of having a new child when you're rich,

899
00:40:30,320 --> 00:40:32,560
Speaker 2: because it really doesn't even if it doesn't work out,

900
00:40:32,600 --> 00:40:35,200
Speaker 2: of course it'll be heartbreaking, but you're doing better.

901
00:40:35,040 --> 00:40:35,880
Speaker 3: Than most of us.

902
00:40:37,560 --> 00:40:39,960
Speaker 4: I mean, honestly, when people were like making a big

903
00:40:40,000 --> 00:40:43,360
Speaker 4: deal about her giving birth to another child, like she

904
00:40:43,360 --> 00:40:45,080
Speaker 4: could do whatever she wants. Do you think these are

905
00:40:45,120 --> 00:40:48,399
Speaker 4: niggas baby second guests and niggas when they get bitches

906
00:40:48,440 --> 00:40:51,680
Speaker 4: pregnant in the same year, Like absolutely not. And she's rich,

907
00:40:51,800 --> 00:40:53,480
Speaker 4: like she has all of the means to take care

908
00:40:53,480 --> 00:40:54,080
Speaker 4: of her own shootes.

909
00:40:54,160 --> 00:40:55,560
Speaker 3: I mean, she's rich, she's happy.

910
00:40:55,600 --> 00:40:59,200
Speaker 2: I mean, everybody's calling Stefan Diggs like an athlete offset

911
00:40:59,520 --> 00:41:02,040
Speaker 2: and he might be, but we don't know that athlete.

912
00:41:02,040 --> 00:41:03,919
Speaker 3: Off. We don't know him. We don't know that man,

913
00:41:04,000 --> 00:41:05,359
Speaker 3: and we don't know that woman either.

914
00:41:05,520 --> 00:41:07,960
Speaker 5: I always think about it. He's like, I want you

915
00:41:08,000 --> 00:41:08,640
Speaker 5: to have my baby.

916
00:41:08,680 --> 00:41:11,520
Speaker 4: Come on, baby, like come on, just take like okay, just.

917
00:41:11,520 --> 00:41:11,920
Speaker 3: Not in me.

918
00:41:13,840 --> 00:41:17,239
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's like every I was thinking, like, good thing,

919
00:41:17,280 --> 00:41:19,640
Speaker 4: I'm not rich. I'd have like fifty fifty eleven keys

920
00:41:19,680 --> 00:41:21,760
Speaker 4: because I'm like, okay.

921
00:41:21,440 --> 00:41:24,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's the difference, bitches is that Cardibe has a

922
00:41:24,040 --> 00:41:26,319
Speaker 2: lot of money and you don't, so chill out, we're

923
00:41:26,360 --> 00:41:27,720
Speaker 2: a condom or take birth control.

924
00:41:29,160 --> 00:41:33,200
Speaker 3: But anyway, she was talking about I'm lighting up the backwood. Well,

925
00:41:33,200 --> 00:41:34,560
Speaker 3: while you l like that, let's just watch this.

926
00:41:34,520 --> 00:41:37,279
Speaker 2: Clip because it was this clip that she did when

927
00:41:37,280 --> 00:41:39,480
Speaker 2: she revealed her pregnancy on the Gail King interview.

928
00:41:40,440 --> 00:41:41,520
Speaker 3: Here's this new Oprah.

929
00:41:41,640 --> 00:41:41,880
Speaker 2: I know.

930
00:41:42,480 --> 00:41:46,040
Speaker 3: Well, yeah, Oprah, Yes, she's facilitated that if.

931
00:41:45,960 --> 00:41:49,560
Speaker 4: You become Oprah, you better make me Gael bitch. If

932
00:41:49,600 --> 00:41:51,040
Speaker 4: you ever become the Opra.

933
00:41:51,000 --> 00:41:55,560
Speaker 3: I promised me too, Okay, Piggy promise. Okay, put me on.

934
00:41:55,600 --> 00:41:59,000
Speaker 3: Like if you get into space, bit.

935
00:41:59,080 --> 00:42:01,239
Speaker 2: Listen, if you have friends that are on and they're

936
00:42:01,280 --> 00:42:02,960
Speaker 2: not putting you on, like Oprah put Gayla on, that's

937
00:42:02,960 --> 00:42:03,960
Speaker 2: not your friend, fuck her.

938
00:42:06,600 --> 00:42:06,920
Speaker 3: Okay.

939
00:42:07,000 --> 00:42:09,279
Speaker 2: So this was the clip that stuck out to me.

940
00:42:09,440 --> 00:42:11,279
Speaker 2: And there was a lot of moments that she talked about.

941
00:42:11,280 --> 00:42:13,319
Speaker 2: She talked about her pregnancy, she talked about just you

942
00:42:13,320 --> 00:42:16,799
Speaker 2: know how you know, co parenting with offset is not

943
00:42:17,120 --> 00:42:19,040
Speaker 2: is not going great, and of course, like she wants

944
00:42:19,040 --> 00:42:20,680
Speaker 2: it to go great, but it's just not possible at

945
00:42:20,680 --> 00:42:25,560
Speaker 2: this moment. Also, he came out. He went out last night,

946
00:42:25,560 --> 00:42:28,279
Speaker 2: and he's been like posting this other bitch because it's

947
00:42:28,320 --> 00:42:31,440
Speaker 2: so sad, like men are so predictable. He's so predictable

948
00:42:31,440 --> 00:42:33,239
Speaker 2: and women are not only the petty one he looks.

949
00:42:33,320 --> 00:42:35,120
Speaker 3: He looks dumb as hell. He looks very like a

950
00:42:35,120 --> 00:42:36,799
Speaker 3: bitch and a mirror or something. It was that.

951
00:42:36,920 --> 00:42:39,080
Speaker 2: And then he went outside with her or someone I

952
00:42:39,080 --> 00:42:41,239
Speaker 2: don't know, like last night to the club, and I was.

953
00:42:41,200 --> 00:42:43,279
Speaker 3: Like, she's not Cardi though she looks like Cardi.

954
00:42:44,120 --> 00:42:48,399
Speaker 2: No, she looked fine, but she's you know, she's being

955
00:42:48,480 --> 00:42:50,480
Speaker 2: used as a prop unfortunately.

956
00:42:51,440 --> 00:42:52,040
Speaker 3: Anyway.

957
00:42:52,320 --> 00:42:55,680
Speaker 2: In the clip, Carti's talking about just her work ethic

958
00:42:55,920 --> 00:42:57,839
Speaker 2: and her having all these kids because she announced her

959
00:42:57,840 --> 00:43:01,200
Speaker 2: tour and she's been on tour like right after birth,

960
00:43:01,640 --> 00:43:06,040
Speaker 2: and she's kind of like worked consistently through all of

961
00:43:06,080 --> 00:43:06,879
Speaker 2: her pregnancies.

962
00:43:07,000 --> 00:43:08,640
Speaker 5: I literally don't even know the difference.

963
00:43:08,880 --> 00:43:10,920
Speaker 3: She's like work more productive pregnant.

964
00:43:11,160 --> 00:43:12,879
Speaker 2: I really feel like she was one of the first

965
00:43:12,880 --> 00:43:15,400
Speaker 2: women I really saw be on like a grand stage,

966
00:43:15,440 --> 00:43:18,080
Speaker 2: pregnant as fuck, rapping and not giving a fuck. Like

967
00:43:18,160 --> 00:43:21,520
Speaker 2: I really do think that Cardi B has pushed the

968
00:43:21,520 --> 00:43:23,800
Speaker 2: needle for women and pregnancy and working.

969
00:43:24,760 --> 00:43:25,960
Speaker 3: You don't think so, No, I do.

970
00:43:26,120 --> 00:43:27,279
Speaker 5: I think she's done a great job.

971
00:43:27,320 --> 00:43:28,920
Speaker 3: I really like I was miss well now.

972
00:43:28,800 --> 00:43:31,120
Speaker 2: Rihanna, like Rihanna obviously Rihanna too, but like for a

973
00:43:31,120 --> 00:43:34,200
Speaker 2: long time, Like pregnancy and being an artist, because we've

974
00:43:34,239 --> 00:43:36,239
Speaker 2: had Melanie Fiona on and talk about this as well,

975
00:43:36,280 --> 00:43:38,200
Speaker 2: Like those two things did not go hand in hand.

976
00:43:38,239 --> 00:43:40,640
Speaker 5: Like she's bold in her choices. Yeah, fuck out of here.

977
00:43:40,680 --> 00:43:43,160
Speaker 5: I'm pregnant. Yeah, I'm my third kid. Yeah I'm not

978
00:43:43,200 --> 00:43:44,360
Speaker 5: having a new baby daddy.

979
00:43:44,360 --> 00:43:44,960
Speaker 3: Fuck all y'all.

980
00:43:44,960 --> 00:43:45,880
Speaker 5: And I'm still gonna do it.

981
00:43:45,920 --> 00:43:48,520
Speaker 4: And I think everybody everywhere, no matter what you say,

982
00:43:48,640 --> 00:43:50,680
Speaker 4: have to say about her or anyone else, you can't.

983
00:43:50,719 --> 00:43:54,120
Speaker 4: You can only hate on authentistic, real shits for only

984
00:43:54,160 --> 00:43:57,480
Speaker 4: so long. You can't shame someone who isn't ashamed. And

985
00:43:57,560 --> 00:43:59,239
Speaker 4: I was actually watching I was high last night. I

986
00:43:59,280 --> 00:44:00,960
Speaker 4: just just had a fun I was so high. I

987
00:44:01,000 --> 00:44:03,200
Speaker 4: was talking to Orlando. I was watching something online and

988
00:44:03,200 --> 00:44:05,959
Speaker 4: they're like, these fucking new school female rappers, They're gonna

989
00:44:05,960 --> 00:44:09,560
Speaker 4: look so stupid when they're like when there's like a tribute,

990
00:44:09,840 --> 00:44:12,560
Speaker 4: a tribute to them and they're like sixty talking about

991
00:44:12,600 --> 00:44:15,520
Speaker 4: wet this wet ass pussy this wop and I was like,

992
00:44:15,960 --> 00:44:17,480
Speaker 4: I don't really think so, not really. I think it's

993
00:44:17,480 --> 00:44:19,120
Speaker 4: gonna it's gonna age well. And then I was thinking

994
00:44:19,120 --> 00:44:21,879
Speaker 4: about men having to like be old and sing rap

995
00:44:21,920 --> 00:44:23,200
Speaker 4: songs like I'm.

996
00:44:23,120 --> 00:44:26,200
Speaker 3: Drunker than a motherfucker right now, Like I was so Orlando.

997
00:44:26,239 --> 00:44:28,040
Speaker 4: Can you imagine someone like pushing him out a little

998
00:44:28,200 --> 00:44:30,399
Speaker 4: little John Allen in a wheelchair and he's talking about

999
00:44:30,400 --> 00:44:32,880
Speaker 4: I'm drunking than a motherfucker right now. I'm like, no

1000
00:44:32,920 --> 00:44:35,399
Speaker 4: one talked about that, But you're talking about Cardi having

1001
00:44:35,400 --> 00:44:38,680
Speaker 4: to sing wal I'll these fifty five singing it with.

1002
00:44:38,680 --> 00:44:41,920
Speaker 3: Her, Sure I will, sure will anyway continue that, I

1003
00:44:41,960 --> 00:44:42,520
Speaker 3: thought of the.

1004
00:44:42,440 --> 00:44:45,440
Speaker 7: Week, Well, they all wake up early in the morning.

1005
00:44:45,440 --> 00:44:47,600
Speaker 7: I go to sleep late at night. Put morning this album.

1006
00:44:48,400 --> 00:44:51,040
Speaker 7: My grandma from my father's side, she had ten kids

1007
00:44:51,560 --> 00:44:54,000
Speaker 7: in a wooden house, and after she gave birth to

1008
00:44:54,040 --> 00:44:57,120
Speaker 7: a kid's she'll go back in a farm, make cheese,

1009
00:44:57,560 --> 00:45:00,799
Speaker 7: sell mangles. And my grandmother for my mom, she had

1010
00:45:00,880 --> 00:45:04,719
Speaker 7: thirteen kids, but all of them one by one, two America,

1011
00:45:05,640 --> 00:45:10,640
Speaker 7: cooking food, cleaning people's houses. So can you imagine can

1012
00:45:10,680 --> 00:45:14,759
Speaker 7: you imagine me telling one of my grandma's Oh.

1013
00:45:14,840 --> 00:45:15,880
Speaker 3: I'm just so tired.

1014
00:45:15,920 --> 00:45:18,919
Speaker 7: That's why I cannot go get some millions.

1015
00:45:18,360 --> 00:45:20,440
Speaker 3: And race my four kids and my three.

1016
00:45:20,320 --> 00:45:23,600
Speaker 7: Kids, I don't look at me like girl, you can't be serious,

1017
00:45:23,880 --> 00:45:26,640
Speaker 7: or my mom. So it's like like there shouldn't be

1018
00:45:26,719 --> 00:45:28,080
Speaker 7: no excuse for me neither.

1019
00:45:28,600 --> 00:45:29,279
Speaker 3: There shouldn't be.

1020
00:45:29,600 --> 00:45:32,160
Speaker 7: So that's why I don't even like I'm so tired

1021
00:45:32,440 --> 00:45:33,560
Speaker 7: sympathy for myself.

1022
00:45:33,600 --> 00:45:36,880
Speaker 3: It is like you seem to CARDI, you seem to

1023
00:45:36,920 --> 00:45:39,919
Speaker 3: figure it out. I have to if they figured it out.

1024
00:45:40,000 --> 00:45:41,120
Speaker 3: You seem to figure it out.

1025
00:45:41,760 --> 00:45:43,560
Speaker 7: If they figured it out, I had to figure it

1026
00:45:43,600 --> 00:45:46,720
Speaker 7: out all the resources. I didn't know that, So imagine

1027
00:45:47,080 --> 00:45:49,000
Speaker 7: what's my excuse?

1028
00:45:48,560 --> 00:45:48,960
Speaker 3: Excuse?

1029
00:45:49,520 --> 00:45:50,520
Speaker 5: You know, she's right.

1030
00:45:50,760 --> 00:45:53,320
Speaker 4: I just realized, like my grandmother cleaned white people's houses

1031
00:45:53,360 --> 00:45:55,160
Speaker 4: for a living for years and years and years, and

1032
00:45:55,200 --> 00:45:57,960
Speaker 4: my mom would always tell me that my grandmother cleaned

1033
00:45:57,960 --> 00:46:00,920
Speaker 4: white people's houses, and so yeah, what are your excuses?

1034
00:46:00,960 --> 00:46:01,879
Speaker 3: And just think about our.

1035
00:46:01,760 --> 00:46:05,160
Speaker 4: Ancestors who were working tirelessly for free.

1036
00:46:05,560 --> 00:46:08,480
Speaker 3: Why yeah, like there's no excuses.

1037
00:46:08,000 --> 00:46:10,600
Speaker 2: And this is like and she's following her dreams, do

1038
00:46:10,640 --> 00:46:12,319
Speaker 2: you know what I mean? Like it's just not like

1039
00:46:12,560 --> 00:46:15,240
Speaker 2: because I want to be very clear, like I'm not encouraged.

1040
00:46:15,239 --> 00:46:17,080
Speaker 2: I'm not saying that like when black women need to

1041
00:46:17,120 --> 00:46:19,000
Speaker 2: work harder at the shit that they don't that is

1042
00:46:19,080 --> 00:46:22,959
Speaker 2: just like they're forced to do. I'm talking about having

1043
00:46:23,080 --> 00:46:26,279
Speaker 2: enough energy, having enough motivation to follow your dreams with

1044
00:46:26,360 --> 00:46:29,840
Speaker 2: the same tenacity that your grandparents used to just survive,

1045
00:46:30,400 --> 00:46:33,560
Speaker 2: you know. And it's like it's like a lot of

1046
00:46:33,600 --> 00:46:36,799
Speaker 2: times we get into a splace of a place of.

1047
00:46:38,520 --> 00:46:40,279
Speaker 3: Complacency in ways.

1048
00:46:40,040 --> 00:46:42,480
Speaker 2: Because we are because there is this aspect of yes,

1049
00:46:42,560 --> 00:46:44,400
Speaker 2: there's a lot of people that are trying to survive

1050
00:46:44,719 --> 00:46:46,480
Speaker 2: and they're also trying to follow their dreams, So like

1051
00:46:46,520 --> 00:46:47,600
Speaker 2: how do you do both.

1052
00:46:47,600 --> 00:46:49,560
Speaker 5: And also rest? Because we've done a lot of work.

1053
00:46:49,800 --> 00:46:53,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, and like I believe in the rest absolutely, Like

1054
00:46:53,280 --> 00:46:56,359
Speaker 2: I feel like both of us have been advocates for rest.

1055
00:46:56,400 --> 00:46:59,000
Speaker 2: I mean that's literally what are another part of our

1056
00:46:59,040 --> 00:47:02,280
Speaker 2: business is about. But I also feel like you can't

1057
00:47:02,280 --> 00:47:04,759
Speaker 2: only rest. So like, if you're chasing your dreams, like

1058
00:47:05,080 --> 00:47:08,320
Speaker 2: they're not gonna come with you resting all the time,

1059
00:47:08,480 --> 00:47:10,239
Speaker 2: you got to get up and get it, you know.

1060
00:47:10,320 --> 00:47:12,879
Speaker 2: And this woman is obviously getting she's you know, she's

1061
00:47:12,960 --> 00:47:15,440
Speaker 2: chasing her dreams, she's chasing her career, she's chasing this

1062
00:47:15,560 --> 00:47:16,880
Speaker 2: dollar and she's and it's working.

1063
00:47:17,120 --> 00:47:19,880
Speaker 5: She's literally but she's had millions. She's not chasing pennies

1064
00:47:19,880 --> 00:47:20,239
Speaker 5: over here.

1065
00:47:20,320 --> 00:47:24,200
Speaker 2: She had nine songs in the top ten on Apple Music. Yes, wow, Wow,

1066
00:47:24,200 --> 00:47:25,279
Speaker 2: she's already platinum.

1067
00:47:25,520 --> 00:47:26,439
Speaker 5: I haven't listened to the album.

1068
00:47:26,520 --> 00:47:28,160
Speaker 3: You love her. I do love her.

1069
00:47:28,360 --> 00:47:30,600
Speaker 5: Shout out to Carti do whatever you want with your pussy.

1070
00:47:30,680 --> 00:47:32,880
Speaker 2: Come on the posh, please come on pop trying to

1071
00:47:32,880 --> 00:47:35,320
Speaker 2: get you on the podcast for years years.

1072
00:47:35,480 --> 00:47:36,319
Speaker 5: This is where I beg.

1073
00:47:36,680 --> 00:47:37,840
Speaker 3: Does anybody know Cardi B?

1074
00:47:38,120 --> 00:47:40,400
Speaker 2: Call us if you know Cardi B, or your homegirl

1075
00:47:40,480 --> 00:47:44,640
Speaker 2: in the Bronx, whatever, tell her, tell her goods.

1076
00:47:44,280 --> 00:47:46,520
Speaker 3: Bad choices. Is waiting for her to sit right here,

1077
00:47:46,920 --> 00:47:47,560
Speaker 3: right in the middle.

1078
00:47:47,680 --> 00:47:51,440
Speaker 4: We're gonna pull up a third microphone.

1079
00:47:51,560 --> 00:47:53,840
Speaker 2: She's right, But that just inspired me. When I listened

1080
00:47:53,840 --> 00:47:56,040
Speaker 2: to that, I was like, God, damn, it's true.

1081
00:47:56,239 --> 00:47:56,760
Speaker 3: It's true.

1082
00:47:56,800 --> 00:47:58,920
Speaker 2: Like with the resources that she has, or with the

1083
00:47:58,920 --> 00:48:01,000
Speaker 2: resources that we have, even if you're not Cardi B,

1084
00:48:01,360 --> 00:48:04,200
Speaker 2: we have more resources than our fucking grandparents had. No

1085
00:48:04,239 --> 00:48:06,799
Speaker 2: matter where you're adding your struggle, it's not that what

1086
00:48:06,840 --> 00:48:08,120
Speaker 2: it was for them, you know.

1087
00:48:08,280 --> 00:48:10,479
Speaker 5: It's also how much you value your talent too.

1088
00:48:10,840 --> 00:48:15,120
Speaker 4: I think when you understand and I this is important too,

1089
00:48:15,120 --> 00:48:17,120
Speaker 4: I think when you understand like your value as a

1090
00:48:17,200 --> 00:48:20,719
Speaker 4: human being as just does you your unique design as Eric,

1091
00:48:20,800 --> 00:48:23,520
Speaker 4: your Dickerson, like you only only you have a certain

1092
00:48:23,520 --> 00:48:26,200
Speaker 4: thing that you're supposed to bring to fruition into into

1093
00:48:26,239 --> 00:48:28,960
Speaker 4: birth in this world, because that's what the divine gave you,

1094
00:48:28,960 --> 00:48:32,160
Speaker 4: you know. And like, sometimes we are so conditioned to

1095
00:48:32,239 --> 00:48:35,880
Speaker 4: play down and downplay our talents and what our true

1096
00:48:36,120 --> 00:48:39,200
Speaker 4: you know, our true essence is and that is our gift,

1097
00:48:39,280 --> 00:48:41,680
Speaker 4: that is our job, and sometimes we forget that and

1098
00:48:41,719 --> 00:48:44,719
Speaker 4: so we don't go after our dreams, you know, courageously,

1099
00:48:44,719 --> 00:48:47,520
Speaker 4: because we're like, oh, does my little book matter? Does

1100
00:48:47,560 --> 00:48:50,760
Speaker 4: my little voice matter? And it's like, no, bitch, it does.

1101
00:48:50,920 --> 00:48:53,279
Speaker 4: But you have to know that first, even to like

1102
00:48:53,960 --> 00:48:56,000
Speaker 4: to fight for it. Sorry I didn't even pass this

1103
00:48:56,000 --> 00:48:59,680
Speaker 4: one time. To fight for it and to put it

1104
00:48:59,719 --> 00:49:04,359
Speaker 4: out in the world without fear of criticism, because it's

1105
00:49:04,600 --> 00:49:06,680
Speaker 4: people are gonna hate, people are going to criticize you.

1106
00:49:06,840 --> 00:49:08,840
Speaker 4: That's the pout of it. But yeah, just knowing that

1107
00:49:08,880 --> 00:49:12,280
Speaker 4: what you have is important and worth going after.

1108
00:49:13,640 --> 00:49:16,000
Speaker 2: True, and it can feel exhausting and it can feel

1109
00:49:16,880 --> 00:49:21,960
Speaker 2: it could feel like impossible at times, but ain't nothing impossible.

1110
00:49:22,160 --> 00:49:24,000
Speaker 2: Like if people before us could do it, you can

1111
00:49:24,000 --> 00:49:27,319
Speaker 2: do it and like and use the tools that you have,

1112
00:49:27,520 --> 00:49:31,560
Speaker 2: or you our ancestors didn't even have the luxury.

1113
00:49:31,160 --> 00:49:33,080
Speaker 3: Of having tools, do you know what I mean?

1114
00:49:33,280 --> 00:49:37,960
Speaker 2: Like they didn't even have access to certain practices. They

1115
00:49:37,960 --> 00:49:40,719
Speaker 2: didn't even have the time because they were dealing with

1116
00:49:40,880 --> 00:49:44,320
Speaker 2: such traumatic experiences, trying to just get through the trauma

1117
00:49:44,320 --> 00:49:48,360
Speaker 2: of what happened yesterday, you know. And granted those things

1118
00:49:48,400 --> 00:49:53,160
Speaker 2: exist in some capacity in everyone's life, but even having

1119
00:49:53,160 --> 00:49:56,080
Speaker 2: these spaces where you can listen to this conversation or

1120
00:49:56,120 --> 00:49:59,440
Speaker 2: you can have a podcast where you can share your experience,

1121
00:49:59,520 --> 00:50:02,759
Speaker 2: those things did not those are that wasn't even a possibility,

1122
00:50:03,160 --> 00:50:06,160
Speaker 2: you know. So there's an act of releasing and saying

1123
00:50:06,200 --> 00:50:11,560
Speaker 2: the thing that they didn't even have. So use the capacity,

1124
00:50:11,680 --> 00:50:13,400
Speaker 2: use the freedom that you have in your mind and

1125
00:50:13,440 --> 00:50:16,239
Speaker 2: your body and your spirit to motivate yourself to follow.

1126
00:50:15,960 --> 00:50:17,080
Speaker 3: Your dreams because you can.

1127
00:50:17,320 --> 00:50:19,960
Speaker 2: And like literally, that's literally when they say you're the

1128
00:50:20,000 --> 00:50:22,240
Speaker 2: product of your you're your ancestor's wildest dreams.

1129
00:50:22,239 --> 00:50:26,600
Speaker 3: Truly, we are so fucking act like it. I can

1130
00:50:26,600 --> 00:50:28,400
Speaker 3: me act like it. It's true.

1131
00:50:31,360 --> 00:50:32,880
Speaker 5: Which brings us to our next topic.

1132
00:50:34,360 --> 00:50:38,120
Speaker 4: What was it didn't Sweety have an interview this week

1133
00:50:38,280 --> 00:50:39,000
Speaker 4: or last week?

1134
00:50:39,040 --> 00:50:41,840
Speaker 2: I don't know where we are, and uh, pretty privileged.

1135
00:50:41,880 --> 00:50:46,040
Speaker 2: She's pretty punishment to pretty punishment. She made a mention

1136
00:50:46,280 --> 00:50:51,760
Speaker 2: of pretty punishment, like was it to say like about

1137
00:50:51,760 --> 00:50:53,719
Speaker 2: where her rap career is. She was just saying how

1138
00:50:53,760 --> 00:50:56,800
Speaker 2: she's been passed up and looked looked over for opportunities

1139
00:50:58,480 --> 00:51:00,839
Speaker 2: because of how she looks at times, that people have

1140
00:51:00,960 --> 00:51:04,799
Speaker 2: blocked her from walking into different rooms, and and that

1141
00:51:05,040 --> 00:51:07,040
Speaker 2: it's just something that you know, it's not a popular

1142
00:51:07,320 --> 00:51:09,040
Speaker 2: thing to say, but that this is.

1143
00:51:10,360 --> 00:51:12,560
Speaker 3: This is her pretty it's pretty pretty privileged because she.

1144
00:51:12,520 --> 00:51:15,400
Speaker 2: Was talking about probably that woman that you showed me,

1145
00:51:15,440 --> 00:51:17,680
Speaker 2: and you should just play that clip first so that

1146
00:51:17,719 --> 00:51:20,480
Speaker 2: we understand what pretty privilege is or her version of

1147
00:51:20,480 --> 00:51:21,440
Speaker 2: what pretty privilege is.

1148
00:51:21,480 --> 00:51:22,360
Speaker 3: This woman on TikTok.

1149
00:51:22,400 --> 00:51:24,520
Speaker 4: I was scrolling the internet and I saw on threads

1150
00:51:24,560 --> 00:51:30,280
Speaker 4: this woman talking about pretty privileged and she's fifty and

1151
00:51:31,200 --> 00:51:33,359
Speaker 4: people really came for her and they were like, it's

1152
00:51:33,360 --> 00:51:36,520
Speaker 4: not pretty privilege, it's uh colorism, colorism.

1153
00:51:36,800 --> 00:51:37,600
Speaker 3: Well, anyway, this is.

1154
00:51:37,560 --> 00:51:38,759
Speaker 5: A pretty privilege is real?

1155
00:51:39,600 --> 00:51:41,080
Speaker 3: It is? I said the ship it's real.

1156
00:51:41,400 --> 00:51:45,359
Speaker 6: I have seen people gravitate towards me and then all

1157
00:51:45,400 --> 00:51:48,040
Speaker 6: of a sudden like compliment me on my eyes, my skin, color,

1158
00:51:48,160 --> 00:51:49,720
Speaker 6: my hair, whatever.

1159
00:51:50,080 --> 00:51:50,919
Speaker 3: Right, So it's real.

1160
00:51:51,520 --> 00:51:55,240
Speaker 6: People do actually, you know, I guess treat me differently

1161
00:51:55,320 --> 00:52:00,160
Speaker 6: because of it. Now, because of it, the differ for

1162
00:52:00,239 --> 00:52:04,719
Speaker 6: treatment is not always good. Okay, sometimes the treatment is

1163
00:52:04,800 --> 00:52:08,120
Speaker 6: negative and it's bad. So because of the color of

1164
00:52:08,120 --> 00:52:10,560
Speaker 6: my skin, because of the color of my eyes, because

1165
00:52:10,600 --> 00:52:12,120
Speaker 6: of my hair texture, I.

1166
00:52:12,040 --> 00:52:16,719
Speaker 3: Get hated on. So one of needs you people who hate.

1167
00:52:16,440 --> 00:52:19,680
Speaker 6: On people who are pretty, to at least take into

1168
00:52:19,680 --> 00:52:23,400
Speaker 6: consideration that we getting it out here, like we already

1169
00:52:23,400 --> 00:52:23,799
Speaker 6: getting it.

1170
00:52:23,840 --> 00:52:24,759
Speaker 8: We don't need it.

1171
00:52:25,840 --> 00:52:28,280
Speaker 4: She goes on to say she was out with some friends,

1172
00:52:28,320 --> 00:52:30,680
Speaker 4: she got a lot of male attention. They haven't called

1173
00:52:30,719 --> 00:52:33,040
Speaker 4: her back for a better context.

1174
00:52:33,960 --> 00:52:36,680
Speaker 2: Where she lost me and this dialogue was when she

1175
00:52:36,840 --> 00:52:39,160
Speaker 2: talked about her parents. And it's not her fault that

1176
00:52:39,200 --> 00:52:43,160
Speaker 2: she's mixed up like she was associating her pretty privileged

1177
00:52:43,200 --> 00:52:45,520
Speaker 2: to she actually made it about color and made it

1178
00:52:45,520 --> 00:52:48,320
Speaker 2: about the color of skin. And Sweety's interview wasn't about color,

1179
00:52:48,320 --> 00:52:50,640
Speaker 2: It wasn't about her. It was because she's a light

1180
00:52:50,680 --> 00:52:52,920
Speaker 2: skinned woman talking about being pretty that's very triggering for

1181
00:52:52,920 --> 00:52:53,440
Speaker 2: people to hear.

1182
00:52:53,600 --> 00:52:54,319
Speaker 3: People don't like that.

1183
00:52:55,400 --> 00:52:58,160
Speaker 4: And this woman, for context, is fair skin, she has

1184
00:52:58,280 --> 00:53:00,680
Speaker 4: light eyes, so I'm saying, like she said, she's I'm

1185
00:53:00,719 --> 00:53:02,640
Speaker 4: just saying for the people listening, I mean, yeah, not

1186
00:53:02,840 --> 00:53:05,480
Speaker 4: who can't see her, but you know, like she's curly hair,

1187
00:53:05,520 --> 00:53:09,080
Speaker 4: but she's older. So a lot of the comments were like, yeah,

1188
00:53:09,080 --> 00:53:11,160
Speaker 4: it was interesting, and me and Eric got into the

1189
00:53:11,160 --> 00:53:14,840
Speaker 4: conversation about like a about it being about colorism, about

1190
00:53:15,360 --> 00:53:19,520
Speaker 4: attributing beauty to attributing beauty to being mixed, and also

1191
00:53:20,520 --> 00:53:25,200
Speaker 4: how people once you pass a certain age, they don't

1192
00:53:25,560 --> 00:53:27,719
Speaker 4: see you as pretty anymore, and they were just saying, like,

1193
00:53:28,520 --> 00:53:29,040
Speaker 4: I think that.

1194
00:53:28,920 --> 00:53:31,560
Speaker 2: They're having two different conversations because I think that there

1195
00:53:31,600 --> 00:53:34,640
Speaker 2: is pretty privilege. I think there's pretty privilege with black,

1196
00:53:34,800 --> 00:53:37,520
Speaker 2: dark skinned black women. I think I think there's pretty

1197
00:53:37,520 --> 00:53:39,600
Speaker 2: privileged with light skinned black women. I think there's pretty

1198
00:53:39,600 --> 00:53:44,520
Speaker 2: privilege with pretty pretty people period. And so like a

1199
00:53:44,640 --> 00:53:47,719
Speaker 2: dark skinned black woman who is pretty can also experience

1200
00:53:47,760 --> 00:53:50,920
Speaker 2: pretty privilege. She can walk into a room, maybe it's

1201
00:53:50,920 --> 00:53:52,680
Speaker 2: not even white people, maybe it's a bunch of black guys,

1202
00:53:52,680 --> 00:53:55,880
Speaker 2: and maybe she's prettier than the other dark skinned black

1203
00:53:55,920 --> 00:53:59,239
Speaker 2: person because maybe she's not as traditionally as beautiful as her.

1204
00:53:59,440 --> 00:54:01,560
Speaker 2: So it can exist in a lot of different spaces.

1205
00:54:01,600 --> 00:54:04,600
Speaker 2: I think that what people take issue with is a

1206
00:54:04,680 --> 00:54:07,319
Speaker 2: light skinned black woman she said the wrong thing. But

1207
00:54:07,400 --> 00:54:10,160
Speaker 2: a light skinned black woman talking about her pretty privilege

1208
00:54:10,280 --> 00:54:15,279
Speaker 2: automatically triggers a lot of people to then say, Oh,

1209
00:54:15,280 --> 00:54:17,000
Speaker 2: it's because you're light skin that you got this and this, and.

1210
00:54:16,920 --> 00:54:18,280
Speaker 5: That's what they're saying about Swedetia.

1211
00:54:18,360 --> 00:54:22,160
Speaker 2: Yes, and granted that is also true. I don't think

1212
00:54:22,160 --> 00:54:24,719
Speaker 2: that like me, as a light skinned black woman, I

1213
00:54:24,800 --> 00:54:28,000
Speaker 2: understand my privilege. It is true, I have experienced it.

1214
00:54:28,080 --> 00:54:32,919
Speaker 2: I understand how dark skinn black women have proportionately experienced

1215
00:54:33,160 --> 00:54:38,520
Speaker 2: a lot more just like trauma around what they look like,

1216
00:54:38,600 --> 00:54:41,080
Speaker 2: what is deemed beautiful, their skin, all of it, you know,

1217
00:54:41,440 --> 00:54:44,560
Speaker 2: and it's not even yes racism, but like black people

1218
00:54:44,560 --> 00:54:45,920
Speaker 2: do it to black people, do you know, like dark

1219
00:54:45,920 --> 00:54:49,000
Speaker 2: skin black women have also experiences with them there which

1220
00:54:49,200 --> 00:54:51,120
Speaker 2: I'm I just don't think a black man is going

1221
00:54:51,200 --> 00:54:52,319
Speaker 2: to be racist against a black woman.

1222
00:54:53,640 --> 00:54:58,400
Speaker 4: The colorism is a like a branch of racism. It

1223
00:54:58,520 --> 00:55:02,600
Speaker 4: exists because racism so anything cool because part of the

1224
00:55:02,600 --> 00:55:05,120
Speaker 4: closer proximity to white or European features.

1225
00:55:05,200 --> 00:55:05,439
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1226
00:55:05,520 --> 00:55:09,279
Speaker 2: Colonialism it exists in every space and every culture and

1227
00:55:09,320 --> 00:55:12,399
Speaker 2: every ethnicity. Yes, And so black men, black women, we've

1228
00:55:12,440 --> 00:55:14,319
Speaker 2: all been touched by it in some capacity. How we

1229
00:55:14,400 --> 00:55:17,600
Speaker 2: view ourselves, how we prefer our partners, all those things.

1230
00:55:17,920 --> 00:55:21,120
Speaker 3: I think that like with Sweety, which she.

1231
00:55:21,120 --> 00:55:23,440
Speaker 2: Was saying in her interview, she was saying how she

1232
00:55:23,480 --> 00:55:26,120
Speaker 2: felt like she had been blocked from certain situations because

1233
00:55:26,160 --> 00:55:31,120
Speaker 2: she's pretty, and she probably has because people be hating

1234
00:55:31,440 --> 00:55:35,440
Speaker 2: bitch is behating, niggas that don't get don't get the policy,

1235
00:55:35,520 --> 00:55:38,200
Speaker 2: behting because she's a pretty bitch and they want to

1236
00:55:38,239 --> 00:55:40,520
Speaker 2: fuck her and she didn't and now it's fuck you.

1237
00:55:41,160 --> 00:55:43,400
Speaker 2: And now there's or there's another woman that maybe has

1238
00:55:43,440 --> 00:55:46,520
Speaker 2: an opportunity that they can give her. But they're experiencing

1239
00:55:46,600 --> 00:55:50,719
Speaker 2: their own like stuff going on where they don't.

1240
00:55:50,480 --> 00:55:51,280
Speaker 3: Think that they're whatever.

1241
00:55:51,280 --> 00:55:55,000
Speaker 2: They're like comparing and jealous like that exists, like jealousy exists,

1242
00:55:55,520 --> 00:56:01,959
Speaker 2: it does, and I think I think that unfortunately, the colorism, yes,

1243
00:56:02,320 --> 00:56:10,560
Speaker 2: has just diseased our community where unfortunately, like even like

1244
00:56:10,600 --> 00:56:14,120
Speaker 2: me as a black woman, like I do, I have

1245
00:56:14,200 --> 00:56:16,680
Speaker 2: to be careful what I say is I understand what

1246
00:56:16,719 --> 00:56:17,440
Speaker 2: I have to be careful.

1247
00:56:17,440 --> 00:56:18,840
Speaker 5: What do you mean by be careful?

1248
00:56:18,880 --> 00:56:19,399
Speaker 3: What you say?

1249
00:56:19,440 --> 00:56:21,320
Speaker 5: Like for instance, like what do you mean.

1250
00:56:21,320 --> 00:56:23,680
Speaker 2: Like if I was sweedy and I was on a

1251
00:56:23,760 --> 00:56:26,759
Speaker 2: radio station talking about my pretty privilege. I have to

1252
00:56:26,840 --> 00:56:28,759
Speaker 2: know there is going to be black women that come

1253
00:56:28,800 --> 00:56:31,440
Speaker 2: for me and assume that I'm talking about my light

1254
00:56:31,480 --> 00:56:34,319
Speaker 2: skinnedness because that's triggering for them. So when I say

1255
00:56:34,320 --> 00:56:36,200
Speaker 2: I have to be careful, that's what I mean because

1256
00:56:36,360 --> 00:56:38,360
Speaker 2: as a light skinned black woman, I understand my privilege

1257
00:56:38,360 --> 00:56:39,000
Speaker 2: when I'm still black.

1258
00:56:39,040 --> 00:56:40,479
Speaker 3: Every day I walk around, I'm a black woman.

1259
00:56:40,480 --> 00:56:41,920
Speaker 2: I don't think it makes you any less black, I think,

1260
00:56:41,920 --> 00:56:43,480
Speaker 2: and I understand what you're I'm not saying it makes

1261
00:56:43,480 --> 00:56:44,200
Speaker 2: many less black.

1262
00:56:44,360 --> 00:56:49,360
Speaker 4: I think I think that there's yeah, I like this woman.

1263
00:56:49,680 --> 00:56:54,360
Speaker 4: I think that sometimes, unfortunately, because of colorism, because of racism,

1264
00:56:54,360 --> 00:56:56,320
Speaker 4: because of white supremacy.

1265
00:56:56,040 --> 00:56:58,440
Speaker 3: Even black people obviously.

1266
00:56:58,000 --> 00:57:02,719
Speaker 4: By design are informed and are internalizing that racism, and

1267
00:57:02,719 --> 00:57:05,200
Speaker 4: so in our communities, of course it breeds like oh

1268
00:57:05,239 --> 00:57:06,600
Speaker 4: I want to have a mix this or this is

1269
00:57:06,600 --> 00:57:09,080
Speaker 4: more beautiful or hashtag mixed kids or whatever.

1270
00:57:08,880 --> 00:57:09,760
Speaker 5: The fuck that means.

1271
00:57:10,640 --> 00:57:14,799
Speaker 4: And I think that sometimes mixed people. So you you've

1272
00:57:14,840 --> 00:57:17,440
Speaker 4: also we all take the We all take the bait,

1273
00:57:17,480 --> 00:57:19,120
Speaker 4: you know what I mean, And so that sometimes people

1274
00:57:19,160 --> 00:57:21,440
Speaker 4: assume that oh I'm mixed, or I have light eyes,

1275
00:57:21,680 --> 00:57:23,400
Speaker 4: or I have light skin, or I have this kind

1276
00:57:23,440 --> 00:57:26,400
Speaker 4: of hair, then I'm automatically beautiful. And I think that's

1277
00:57:26,400 --> 00:57:30,040
Speaker 4: not always true, like just you know, and I think

1278
00:57:30,160 --> 00:57:33,320
Speaker 4: it goes both ways, like because of this poison in

1279
00:57:33,400 --> 00:57:36,080
Speaker 4: the well and we all take it. It affects how

1280
00:57:36,160 --> 00:57:38,600
Speaker 4: we how we interact in love space and just how

1281
00:57:38,640 --> 00:57:40,280
Speaker 4: we love each other and how we show up and

1282
00:57:40,320 --> 00:57:44,560
Speaker 4: the are cautious, like our cautiousness against like sir, because

1283
00:57:44,560 --> 00:57:48,920
Speaker 4: if I said something about pretty privilege, that probably wouldn't

1284
00:57:48,960 --> 00:57:49,360
Speaker 4: be like.

1285
00:57:49,280 --> 00:57:50,720
Speaker 5: People could be like, oh, well she's not pretty.

1286
00:57:50,800 --> 00:57:53,520
Speaker 2: Oh no, I guarantee if you said something of pretty vilege,

1287
00:57:53,640 --> 00:57:55,800
Speaker 2: but women are still gonna come for you. People don't

1288
00:57:55,880 --> 00:57:57,800
Speaker 2: like women even saying they're pretty, do you know what

1289
00:57:57,880 --> 00:57:59,880
Speaker 2: I mean? Yeah, there would be a whole other drama.

1290
00:58:00,200 --> 00:58:02,439
Speaker 2: It probably wouldn't be about your skin color. It would

1291
00:58:02,440 --> 00:58:03,320
Speaker 2: be about some other shit.

1292
00:58:03,440 --> 00:58:05,560
Speaker 4: But yeah, why why is that triggering for women to

1293
00:58:05,600 --> 00:58:06,640
Speaker 4: be like, I know I'm beautiful.

1294
00:58:06,720 --> 00:58:08,360
Speaker 2: That's because I'm just saying That's why this is too

1295
00:58:08,480 --> 00:58:10,520
Speaker 2: This is like multiple conversations so layered.

1296
00:58:11,760 --> 00:58:14,880
Speaker 4: And then also with this woman, she's she looks pretty.

1297
00:58:15,040 --> 00:58:17,440
Speaker 4: She looks older than fifty to me, and so there

1298
00:58:17,520 --> 00:58:19,560
Speaker 4: was even that factor. She's like, you guys are saying

1299
00:58:19,600 --> 00:58:22,240
Speaker 4: I'm not pretty because I'm older or whatever, and how

1300
00:58:22,320 --> 00:58:24,800
Speaker 4: we like agism.

1301
00:58:23,920 --> 00:58:25,160
Speaker 5: Too, and it's just like.

1302
00:58:26,640 --> 00:58:31,600
Speaker 4: And how we do women generally do have to tiptoe

1303
00:58:31,640 --> 00:58:33,440
Speaker 4: around saying I know I'm beautiful.

1304
00:58:33,880 --> 00:58:35,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, if you say you're pretty, like who told you

1305
00:58:35,800 --> 00:58:39,360
Speaker 2: you're pretty? It says who who defined you? Like?

1306
00:58:40,560 --> 00:58:41,920
Speaker 3: And did we pull the community? You know?

1307
00:58:41,960 --> 00:58:44,040
Speaker 4: What she says in this clip, which I think is

1308
00:58:44,040 --> 00:58:47,600
Speaker 4: also triggering in ways, I'm she's I think she says

1309
00:58:47,600 --> 00:58:50,200
Speaker 4: traditionally pretty or like main I forgot what the word

1310
00:58:50,280 --> 00:58:52,320
Speaker 4: she used. I think it's in the next clip about

1311
00:58:52,320 --> 00:58:53,640
Speaker 4: like mainstream I don't know.

1312
00:58:53,720 --> 00:58:57,680
Speaker 2: Or probably white colonialism. She has light eyes, she's light skinned,

1313
00:58:57,680 --> 00:59:00,480
Speaker 2: she has loose curls. There's a level of white that

1314
00:59:00,520 --> 00:59:03,760
Speaker 2: you see prevalent in her in her face period, you know,

1315
00:59:03,840 --> 00:59:06,760
Speaker 2: And I think, like, I don't know this woman. I

1316
00:59:06,840 --> 00:59:09,000
Speaker 2: have not I just want to be clear. I never

1317
00:59:09,080 --> 00:59:10,960
Speaker 2: looked at her really at her Instagram. I don't know

1318
00:59:11,000 --> 00:59:13,280
Speaker 2: what she'd be talking about But if I'm taking this

1319
00:59:13,360 --> 00:59:16,720
Speaker 2: at face value, like and she's telling the story about

1320
00:59:16,960 --> 00:59:19,640
Speaker 2: her going out into the world and men paying more

1321
00:59:19,640 --> 00:59:22,480
Speaker 2: attention to her versus someone else, she may not be

1322
00:59:22,560 --> 00:59:26,560
Speaker 2: lying that actually happens. That is actually colorism happening in

1323
00:59:26,600 --> 00:59:29,680
Speaker 2: real time. She's sharing her experience as a lights and

1324
00:59:29,760 --> 00:59:32,200
Speaker 2: black woman that is experiencing colorism now, and now these

1325
00:59:32,240 --> 00:59:35,320
Speaker 2: women are like, fuck her, because that actually does happen.

1326
00:59:35,520 --> 00:59:37,800
Speaker 2: Because and because there is a disease within us, and

1327
00:59:37,840 --> 00:59:39,680
Speaker 2: it's like we can't so it's like we can't talk

1328
00:59:39,720 --> 00:59:40,800
Speaker 2: about it because then we.

1329
00:59:40,720 --> 00:59:43,120
Speaker 3: Look like we're our privilege is showing.

1330
00:59:43,320 --> 00:59:47,280
Speaker 2: But then like it's like things are existing, and it's

1331
00:59:47,280 --> 00:59:54,960
Speaker 2: like I think sometimes because mixed people in our who

1332
00:59:54,960 --> 00:59:58,000
Speaker 2: are black, in the black community, like because there is

1333
00:59:58,040 --> 01:00:01,080
Speaker 2: this there's whiteness that exists in us, really and truly

1334
01:00:01,560 --> 01:00:04,400
Speaker 2: there is like I don't know how the other, the

1335
01:00:04,440 --> 01:00:08,200
Speaker 2: other ring of us ever gets healed, do you know

1336
01:00:08,240 --> 01:00:08,640
Speaker 2: what I mean?

1337
01:00:08,720 --> 01:00:09,600
Speaker 3: Like I don't know.

1338
01:00:09,920 --> 01:00:11,480
Speaker 2: People are like, how do we in color zone. I

1339
01:00:11,480 --> 01:00:15,200
Speaker 2: don't think that we can. I like I think that

1340
01:00:15,560 --> 01:00:19,880
Speaker 2: I don't because you see it at every place on

1341
01:00:19,960 --> 01:00:25,240
Speaker 2: the planet, Like it is so intrinsically in our DNA

1342
01:00:25,360 --> 01:00:29,480
Speaker 2: at this point that it's I don't know if it's possible. Honestly,

1343
01:00:30,640 --> 01:00:32,840
Speaker 2: you have to you have to find your spaces. I

1344
01:00:32,840 --> 01:00:35,520
Speaker 2: think it's just it's just like just like black like

1345
01:00:35,600 --> 01:00:37,680
Speaker 2: dark skinned black people will will there ever be a

1346
01:00:37,720 --> 01:00:39,920
Speaker 2: space in all of the world where you're gonna like

1347
01:00:39,960 --> 01:00:45,360
Speaker 2: where there will be no judgment or assumption racism? Probably not,

1348
01:00:45,920 --> 01:00:48,360
Speaker 2: you know, like I just don't. That sounds negative, but

1349
01:00:48,440 --> 01:00:51,200
Speaker 2: like truly like do you think that.

1350
01:00:51,600 --> 01:00:55,040
Speaker 4: I mean, I mean, is it going to be eradicated

1351
01:00:55,080 --> 01:00:55,880
Speaker 4: in our lifetime?

1352
01:00:56,360 --> 01:00:57,800
Speaker 3: Absolutely don't in any lifetime.

1353
01:00:58,560 --> 01:01:01,560
Speaker 4: Probably not, because it's it's it's physical, it's visual. We

1354
01:01:01,640 --> 01:01:05,960
Speaker 4: have created a world where oh like visually this blue eyes.

1355
01:01:05,800 --> 01:01:06,800
Speaker 5: Or anything closest to this.

1356
01:01:06,880 --> 01:01:09,120
Speaker 4: And this exists not only in the black community, in

1357
01:01:09,160 --> 01:01:12,560
Speaker 4: the Asian community, like in Filipinos. The darker you are

1358
01:01:12,680 --> 01:01:14,360
Speaker 4: is the less attractive you are. They want to be

1359
01:01:14,440 --> 01:01:17,240
Speaker 4: lights and they hide themselves from the skin. There's like

1360
01:01:17,320 --> 01:01:19,760
Speaker 4: skin lightening. I think the sad part is I think

1361
01:01:19,800 --> 01:01:22,240
Speaker 4: for my people, like as a black person, I want

1362
01:01:22,280 --> 01:01:27,120
Speaker 4: to say that I know, like with with rationale and

1363
01:01:27,200 --> 01:01:29,800
Speaker 4: like when you understand how deep it is that maybe

1364
01:01:29,840 --> 01:01:32,880
Speaker 4: people can wake up through it. It's just ignorance, and

1365
01:01:32,920 --> 01:01:35,240
Speaker 4: I just think it saddened me because.

1366
01:01:34,960 --> 01:01:36,000
Speaker 3: It's it's self hate.

1367
01:01:37,200 --> 01:01:38,080
Speaker 5: It's self hate.

1368
01:01:38,120 --> 01:01:41,400
Speaker 4: It's saying that, you know, like being being the darker,

1369
01:01:41,600 --> 01:01:45,040
Speaker 4: the kinkier, like the wider, like what the attributes that

1370
01:01:45,040 --> 01:01:48,600
Speaker 4: are naturally our own are unattractive. But then you see

1371
01:01:48,760 --> 01:01:53,400
Speaker 4: also in mainstream everyone's dying to be brown. Everybody's trying

1372
01:01:53,400 --> 01:01:56,240
Speaker 4: to get a baby here and an ass and big lips.

1373
01:01:56,520 --> 01:02:00,320
Speaker 4: It's also like mocking us and making us hate ourselves

1374
01:02:00,360 --> 01:02:05,600
Speaker 4: while also stealing everything that is us and repackaging, repackaging

1375
01:02:05,600 --> 01:02:09,000
Speaker 4: it and remarketing it as some new shit, while hating

1376
01:02:09,040 --> 01:02:11,720
Speaker 4: the actual birth and creation of it, which is black women,

1377
01:02:12,120 --> 01:02:15,000
Speaker 4: which it makes sense in the the world that we

1378
01:02:15,040 --> 01:02:18,120
Speaker 4: live in is because we're the first people. It's science.

1379
01:02:18,880 --> 01:02:23,160
Speaker 4: Everybody came from us black women. So when you look

1380
01:02:23,160 --> 01:02:27,160
Speaker 4: at it scientifically, of course they're gonna demean and belittle

1381
01:02:27,240 --> 01:02:30,080
Speaker 4: and brainwash us first and foremost, because that's how you

1382
01:02:30,120 --> 01:02:33,240
Speaker 4: poison an entire nation and confuse them to not know

1383
01:02:33,320 --> 01:02:36,280
Speaker 4: themselves and to think everything that is them is unattractive,

1384
01:02:37,000 --> 01:02:41,280
Speaker 4: and pit them against these or each other. When someone

1385
01:02:41,360 --> 01:02:45,880
Speaker 4: is looking more closer to this other standard which is

1386
01:02:45,920 --> 01:02:48,720
Speaker 4: the essentially not even the dilution.

1387
01:02:48,880 --> 01:02:49,800
Speaker 5: But yeah, like.

1388
01:02:50,880 --> 01:02:54,280
Speaker 4: It's an interesting it's very complex. And that's why when

1389
01:02:54,280 --> 01:02:57,040
Speaker 4: we see clips like that guy recently a couple weeks ago,

1390
01:02:57,080 --> 01:02:59,320
Speaker 4: the freckled guy in England, like going off saying how

1391
01:02:59,360 --> 01:03:01,560
Speaker 4: much he doesn't black women and black women in the

1392
01:03:01,560 --> 01:03:03,640
Speaker 4: wigs and black women, and he got so angry and

1393
01:03:03,680 --> 01:03:05,320
Speaker 4: it came out later that like he didn't love his

1394
01:03:05,360 --> 01:03:09,000
Speaker 4: mom or his mom wasn't you know whatever, This internalized

1395
01:03:09,520 --> 01:03:11,600
Speaker 4: hate that we spew at each other, and it's like

1396
01:03:11,840 --> 01:03:15,439
Speaker 4: it's obviously by design. We so deeply need each other

1397
01:03:15,560 --> 01:03:18,240
Speaker 4: in times like this, We so deeply need to come together,

1398
01:03:18,520 --> 01:03:22,840
Speaker 4: We so deeply need understanding and compassion and just basic love,

1399
01:03:23,360 --> 01:03:28,280
Speaker 4: and we're too busy fighting about if someone's wearing a

1400
01:03:28,280 --> 01:03:30,520
Speaker 4: wig or who you don't date or whatever. We're so

1401
01:03:30,600 --> 01:03:34,280
Speaker 4: busy not even recognizing that the poison is coming from

1402
01:03:34,280 --> 01:03:37,520
Speaker 4: outside of us and poisoning our our.

1403
01:03:39,000 --> 01:03:39,840
Speaker 5: Unity, you know.

1404
01:03:40,000 --> 01:03:41,520
Speaker 4: And it's just like this is one of those things

1405
01:03:41,560 --> 01:03:43,959
Speaker 4: that really saddens me, and I hope and I pray

1406
01:03:44,080 --> 01:03:47,960
Speaker 4: that we could connect to each other and speak to

1407
01:03:48,000 --> 01:03:49,400
Speaker 4: each other in a way that makes sense so that

1408
01:03:49,440 --> 01:03:50,840
Speaker 4: we could get past all the bullshit.

1409
01:03:51,000 --> 01:03:54,720
Speaker 3: Yeah, I agree, I agree. So what do you think

1410
01:03:54,720 --> 01:03:58,080
Speaker 3: about the clip with Sweetie? I saw it on TikTok.

1411
01:03:58,120 --> 01:03:59,920
Speaker 8: They were like, they talk about pretty privileged, but they

1412
01:04:00,160 --> 01:04:03,640
Speaker 8: talk about pretty punishment. There's been so many times I've

1413
01:04:03,680 --> 01:04:06,880
Speaker 8: just been counted out, and I know that it's behind animosity.

1414
01:04:07,320 --> 01:04:09,480
Speaker 8: I know it's because of a hidden agenda, but it

1415
01:04:09,520 --> 01:04:12,120
Speaker 8: makes me work harder. But this has happened like my

1416
01:04:12,160 --> 01:04:12,880
Speaker 8: whole life.

1417
01:04:13,080 --> 01:04:15,400
Speaker 3: So it's like what I deal with.

1418
01:04:15,280 --> 01:04:19,720
Speaker 8: In the industry is just you know, different face, same case.

1419
01:04:20,200 --> 01:04:22,080
Speaker 3: How did it make you feel when you saw it first?

1420
01:04:22,320 --> 01:04:25,080
Speaker 2: Like with the perspective of me saying that, I don't

1421
01:04:25,080 --> 01:04:28,680
Speaker 2: think she was talking about her colorism, but as the

1422
01:04:28,760 --> 01:04:31,880
Speaker 2: deliverer of the message, it's hard to not. I know

1423
01:04:32,000 --> 01:04:34,600
Speaker 2: that part of the experience is that too. It probably

1424
01:04:34,680 --> 01:04:36,360
Speaker 2: is probably talking about both.

1425
01:04:36,440 --> 01:04:40,720
Speaker 4: Definitely, she's been hated on absolutely by all the above

1426
01:04:40,720 --> 01:04:41,320
Speaker 4: that you said.

1427
01:04:41,960 --> 01:04:43,240
Speaker 3: Definitely she has.

1428
01:04:43,960 --> 01:04:46,720
Speaker 4: Honestly, what I thought is like I thought pretty privilege

1429
01:04:47,200 --> 01:04:50,200
Speaker 4: actually helped when you're an artist of mainstream of it.

1430
01:04:50,280 --> 01:04:53,520
Speaker 2: Well, that's well usually that's another thing. Isn't privilege supposed

1431
01:04:53,560 --> 01:04:54,480
Speaker 2: to be for the benefit?

1432
01:04:54,560 --> 01:04:56,200
Speaker 4: Well, I see how it can work in both. It

1433
01:04:56,240 --> 01:05:00,080
Speaker 4: can work in both ways. People like, yeah, but this.

1434
01:05:00,160 --> 01:05:02,720
Speaker 2: Woman was talking about pretty privilege as if it was

1435
01:05:03,280 --> 01:05:05,560
Speaker 2: like she never she didn't even reference pretty punishment. Maybe

1436
01:05:05,560 --> 01:05:07,240
Speaker 2: this is a new term, because you know, the Internet

1437
01:05:07,480 --> 01:05:12,120
Speaker 2: loves new terms. The opposite of privilege is punishment essentially.

1438
01:05:13,600 --> 01:05:16,520
Speaker 4: And I think people also in the comments like, well,

1439
01:05:16,640 --> 01:05:22,480
Speaker 4: like it's also hard to like, is Sweety like a

1440
01:05:22,520 --> 01:05:23,280
Speaker 4: little kim Like?

1441
01:05:23,360 --> 01:05:24,240
Speaker 3: Is she a lyricist?

1442
01:05:24,360 --> 01:05:25,360
Speaker 5: Is she NICKI Minaj?

1443
01:05:25,440 --> 01:05:28,920
Speaker 4: It's like there's also going to be that that argument,

1444
01:05:28,960 --> 01:05:30,600
Speaker 4: you know what I mean. So, I think when you

1445
01:05:30,600 --> 01:05:33,600
Speaker 4: say things publicly, you have to really considerable.

1446
01:05:33,640 --> 01:05:35,959
Speaker 2: I mean, so, let's be honest. Everyone has always said

1447
01:05:36,040 --> 01:05:38,600
Speaker 2: Sweety is like not that great of an artist.

1448
01:05:38,720 --> 01:05:40,720
Speaker 4: I wasn't going to say it. I wasn't going to

1449
01:05:40,760 --> 01:05:43,120
Speaker 4: be the one to say it. But I'm also like,

1450
01:05:43,200 --> 01:05:46,080
Speaker 4: I'm not I didn't deep dive into her albums either.

1451
01:05:46,760 --> 01:05:47,480
Speaker 5: She's a cancer.

1452
01:05:47,520 --> 01:05:50,160
Speaker 2: For the record, I just want to say, I love you,

1453
01:05:50,560 --> 01:05:53,600
Speaker 2: I like her, I like her music, like I'm doing

1454
01:05:53,720 --> 01:05:59,320
Speaker 2: rich Ship is pretty pussy way I'm a way to sign.

1455
01:06:01,400 --> 01:06:05,000
Speaker 4: She's out California. I get it.

1456
01:06:05,040 --> 01:06:08,080
Speaker 3: Is she the best artist in like that I've ever heard?

1457
01:06:08,080 --> 01:06:08,360
Speaker 3: The best?

1458
01:06:08,720 --> 01:06:10,640
Speaker 2: No is she got a battle rap?

1459
01:06:10,920 --> 01:06:13,120
Speaker 3: Is she creative? And is she creative?

1460
01:06:13,200 --> 01:06:15,560
Speaker 2: And she's been around and sustained a career and as

1461
01:06:15,600 --> 01:06:18,080
Speaker 2: a business woman and is making moves in this industry.

1462
01:06:18,240 --> 01:06:20,240
Speaker 3: She just became like the creative director for music for

1463
01:06:20,280 --> 01:06:20,720
Speaker 3: the NFL.

1464
01:06:21,080 --> 01:06:23,240
Speaker 2: Like whether or not you want to hate on Sweetie

1465
01:06:23,360 --> 01:06:25,520
Speaker 2: so Weedy or the fuck you say her name, she's

1466
01:06:25,560 --> 01:06:27,000
Speaker 2: doing shit, you know what I mean? And so I

1467
01:06:27,040 --> 01:06:29,000
Speaker 2: think it's like such a it's so easy for people

1468
01:06:29,040 --> 01:06:31,080
Speaker 2: to just hate on people's art no matter what. She's

1469
01:06:31,120 --> 01:06:33,480
Speaker 2: a fucking artist. She's showing up in her art and creating.

1470
01:06:33,840 --> 01:06:35,280
Speaker 2: That's better than half you niggas.

1471
01:06:35,320 --> 01:06:37,439
Speaker 3: Half niggas didn't even start your fucking art career.

1472
01:06:37,440 --> 01:06:39,040
Speaker 2: You say you want to be a rapper, you say

1473
01:06:39,080 --> 01:06:41,840
Speaker 2: you want to be a fucking artist, a painter, and

1474
01:06:41,880 --> 01:06:45,160
Speaker 2: you're not even selling your shit. Like, at least this

1475
01:06:45,200 --> 01:06:48,160
Speaker 2: person or people who who people always talk shit about

1476
01:06:48,160 --> 01:06:50,120
Speaker 2: their art. At least they're showing up. At least they're

1477
01:06:50,120 --> 01:06:52,040
Speaker 2: doing at least there's art to do. At least they're

1478
01:06:52,040 --> 01:06:53,520
Speaker 2: getting it off, you know what I mean.

1479
01:06:53,720 --> 01:06:54,640
Speaker 5: Okay, I have a question.

1480
01:06:54,800 --> 01:06:57,920
Speaker 4: Yes, as a pretty woman, do you think you have

1481
01:06:58,200 --> 01:07:02,680
Speaker 4: experienced or pretty punishment or more pretty.

1482
01:07:02,400 --> 01:07:05,520
Speaker 2: Privilege, pretty privilege, I would have to say the same

1483
01:07:05,640 --> 01:07:08,120
Speaker 2: for sure, Like I mean, I honestly, I'm trying to

1484
01:07:08,120 --> 01:07:09,600
Speaker 2: think one I've experienced pretty punishment.

1485
01:07:09,600 --> 01:07:10,280
Speaker 3: I'm sure I have.

1486
01:07:11,520 --> 01:07:14,560
Speaker 2: I'm sure I have, But I'm more aware of the

1487
01:07:14,880 --> 01:07:15,920
Speaker 2: of the privilege of it all.

1488
01:07:15,960 --> 01:07:19,160
Speaker 4: And I think in any like in any privilege, there's

1489
01:07:19,200 --> 01:07:21,080
Speaker 4: gonna be someone that's gonna hate on you. And I

1490
01:07:21,120 --> 01:07:23,560
Speaker 4: think also like when you show up in this world,

1491
01:07:24,080 --> 01:07:26,760
Speaker 4: you have to also be realistic in ways in which

1492
01:07:26,800 --> 01:07:29,240
Speaker 4: you show up, in how you make certain people comfortable,

1493
01:07:29,280 --> 01:07:32,760
Speaker 4: and like even as a woman, even without pretty privilege,

1494
01:07:32,760 --> 01:07:34,600
Speaker 4: you know how to utilize your womanness to get what

1495
01:07:34,640 --> 01:07:37,200
Speaker 4: you want when you're you know what I mean, Like

1496
01:07:37,440 --> 01:07:39,120
Speaker 4: I know when I show up in a certain room,

1497
01:07:39,160 --> 01:07:41,520
Speaker 4: and I could check my environment and see how I

1498
01:07:41,560 --> 01:07:44,200
Speaker 4: show up that's going to make you feel comfortable, So

1499
01:07:44,240 --> 01:07:47,160
Speaker 4: I can get what I want in a room full

1500
01:07:47,200 --> 01:07:49,720
Speaker 4: of women, if you're in a woman for older black women,

1501
01:07:49,760 --> 01:07:51,560
Speaker 4: if you're from a young white woman or like you

1502
01:07:51,880 --> 01:07:57,040
Speaker 4: or a bunch of old boys, like white guys from

1503
01:07:57,040 --> 01:08:01,040
Speaker 4: the office, like as the only you know how you

1504
01:08:01,200 --> 01:08:03,760
Speaker 4: conduct yourself in that environment. That is a part of

1505
01:08:03,800 --> 01:08:06,880
Speaker 4: being a human, you camouflage the environment. And I think

1506
01:08:06,880 --> 01:08:09,080
Speaker 4: maybe because I've worked in hospitality for so long, in

1507
01:08:09,160 --> 01:08:13,000
Speaker 4: bars and like with different types of groups, I notice

1508
01:08:13,080 --> 01:08:15,919
Speaker 4: like the way people relate differently, and I know even

1509
01:08:15,960 --> 01:08:19,719
Speaker 4: like there's body type privilege, Like I know, I'm petite,

1510
01:08:19,720 --> 01:08:21,200
Speaker 4: I'm skinny, I kid, you know what I mean. Like

1511
01:08:21,200 --> 01:08:27,160
Speaker 4: there's how I talk how everybody has privilege and punishment

1512
01:08:27,479 --> 01:08:30,240
Speaker 4: in ways, and you utilize what.

1513
01:08:30,200 --> 01:08:30,720
Speaker 5: Works for you.

1514
01:08:31,320 --> 01:08:35,200
Speaker 4: Personality privilege, personality privilege, funny privilege.

1515
01:08:35,479 --> 01:08:37,920
Speaker 5: You know, I have extrovert.

1516
01:08:37,520 --> 01:08:42,320
Speaker 3: Privilege, privilege and privilege. Everything we privilege to our existence

1517
01:08:42,400 --> 01:08:43,040
Speaker 3: is a privilege.

1518
01:08:43,080 --> 01:08:44,599
Speaker 5: It is, it is, it is.

1519
01:08:45,520 --> 01:08:52,000
Speaker 4: And lean into a good personality, lean into that, I agree,

1520
01:08:52,840 --> 01:08:53,720
Speaker 4: and love yourself.

1521
01:08:54,320 --> 01:08:59,040
Speaker 3: Love yourself, y'all. We are obviously very high. I think

1522
01:08:59,040 --> 01:09:02,639
Speaker 3: it's hoary time a horry someone. Actually I got the email?

1523
01:09:02,720 --> 01:09:03,880
Speaker 5: Oh you did, Yeah, you found it.

1524
01:09:03,920 --> 01:09:04,519
Speaker 3: We're getting them.

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01:09:04,560 --> 01:09:08,040
Speaker 4: We are, yeah, I'm not gonna lie. We we didn't

1526
01:09:08,040 --> 01:09:09,600
Speaker 4: know where those emails are going for a minute, but

1527
01:09:09,680 --> 01:09:10,479
Speaker 4: now we found it.

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01:09:10,760 --> 01:09:13,160
Speaker 2: So make sure you click the link in this episode,

1529
01:09:13,640 --> 01:09:15,679
Speaker 2: or go to our website, Good momspad Choices dot com

1530
01:09:15,680 --> 01:09:19,080
Speaker 2: and click on contact us and submit your hories, or

1531
01:09:19,200 --> 01:09:22,720
Speaker 2: just join our discord because that's where I got one

1532
01:09:22,760 --> 01:09:25,160
Speaker 2: in discord from somebody, and then I got one from

1533
01:09:25,200 --> 01:09:27,200
Speaker 2: our email. But just WoT our discord because then we

1534
01:09:27,200 --> 01:09:29,519
Speaker 2: can we can really deep dive into your hory in

1535
01:09:29,560 --> 01:09:31,479
Speaker 2: real time. Me and you, you know, we could talk

1536
01:09:31,520 --> 01:09:34,200
Speaker 2: about it because I usually have follow up questions and

1537
01:09:34,240 --> 01:09:35,960
Speaker 2: I can't follow up because this is an email, you

1538
01:09:35,960 --> 01:09:38,559
Speaker 2: know what I mean. So if you're not on if

1539
01:09:38,560 --> 01:09:40,599
Speaker 2: you're not on discord, join our Patreon and.

1540
01:09:40,840 --> 01:09:42,960
Speaker 4: Also leave your numbers so maybe we can call you live.

1541
01:09:43,040 --> 01:09:43,719
Speaker 3: That would be great.

1542
01:09:43,880 --> 01:09:46,360
Speaker 2: And because me and Mila have are known to do that,

1543
01:09:46,400 --> 01:09:49,080
Speaker 2: we have definitely sent many, many, many many a voice

1544
01:09:49,120 --> 01:09:50,080
Speaker 2: note to some bitches.

1545
01:09:50,600 --> 01:09:54,120
Speaker 4: Many even yeah, face calls, face calls facetimes.

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01:09:54,960 --> 01:10:02,240
Speaker 2: Okay, so this is an anonymous hohorry. One time I

1547
01:10:02,320 --> 01:10:05,120
Speaker 2: was minding my business and not one, but four guys

1548
01:10:05,200 --> 01:10:07,080
Speaker 2: asked me out on a date. So I went on

1549
01:10:07,120 --> 01:10:09,479
Speaker 2: these dates, and you know, mama needs some loving, So

1550
01:10:09,560 --> 01:10:12,240
Speaker 2: I asked the four guys for some dick. Tell me

1551
01:10:12,240 --> 01:10:15,120
Speaker 2: why all of them came too soon? And they were

1552
01:10:15,160 --> 01:10:17,960
Speaker 2: just pumping, not even taking the time. Man, they were

1553
01:10:18,000 --> 01:10:20,439
Speaker 2: so whack. I ended up giving having a masturbate to

1554
01:10:20,479 --> 01:10:23,200
Speaker 2: this porn just to get my nut off. But that

1555
01:10:23,320 --> 01:10:26,160
Speaker 2: being said, I'm glad I've settled down with my new man,

1556
01:10:26,200 --> 01:10:28,680
Speaker 2: and I'm glad to say I blocked all four of

1557
01:10:28,680 --> 01:10:33,400
Speaker 2: them dickless men. Wait, maybe I wouldn't clarify. She went

1558
01:10:33,439 --> 01:10:35,240
Speaker 2: on a date with four guys in the same day.

1559
01:10:35,120 --> 01:10:37,519
Speaker 2: I fucked all four of them. Oh, and all of

1560
01:10:37,560 --> 01:10:40,320
Speaker 2: them came too soon, so she was very left unsatisfied

1561
01:10:40,360 --> 01:10:41,240
Speaker 2: by four different men.

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01:10:41,360 --> 01:10:42,679
Speaker 5: That sounds like field research.

1563
01:10:42,720 --> 01:10:45,439
Speaker 2: Maybe it wasn't the same day, but they I'm gonna

1564
01:10:45,439 --> 01:10:47,479
Speaker 2: imagine I'm gonna up the anti and just say the

1565
01:10:47,479 --> 01:10:47,960
Speaker 2: same day.

1566
01:10:48,040 --> 01:10:52,280
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, that would be a breakfast, lunch, snack snacking.

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01:10:57,040 --> 01:10:58,600
Speaker 5: Damn too soon.

1568
01:10:58,439 --> 01:11:01,479
Speaker 3: All of them. I was trying to tell you something, girl.

1569
01:11:01,320 --> 01:11:02,320
Speaker 5: But there's like an issue.

1570
01:11:02,360 --> 01:11:04,559
Speaker 4: I think this is like an epidemic of men who

1571
01:11:04,560 --> 01:11:07,680
Speaker 4: don't know how to fuck. They're scared, they don't know

1572
01:11:07,720 --> 01:11:09,200
Speaker 4: how to connect, they don't know how to like.

1573
01:11:09,400 --> 01:11:12,120
Speaker 2: It might be their diet they diet. Well, yeah, there's

1574
01:11:12,120 --> 01:11:14,200
Speaker 2: that too. There's like a numbness in their body that

1575
01:11:14,200 --> 01:11:16,400
Speaker 2: they're not connected with. They have no self control, or

1576
01:11:16,560 --> 01:11:18,200
Speaker 2: they just don't give a fuck. Because I think a

1577
01:11:18,200 --> 01:11:20,080
Speaker 2: lot of people are just selfish masturbating.

1578
01:11:20,120 --> 01:11:22,479
Speaker 3: They're like, oh, it feels so good. Whatever, fucking I'm nutting.

1579
01:11:22,479 --> 01:11:24,840
Speaker 4: You're like wait, what hello, but you know you don't

1580
01:11:24,840 --> 01:11:26,719
Speaker 4: want to savor you don't want it to like last

1581
01:11:26,720 --> 01:11:28,920
Speaker 4: a little longer because like you don't have to like

1582
01:11:29,000 --> 01:11:30,719
Speaker 4: kiss and like get my pussy.

1583
01:11:30,760 --> 01:11:33,439
Speaker 2: What I mean, it's not even that he might have

1584
01:11:33,479 --> 01:11:35,760
Speaker 2: did all that, but he just came too soon, you

1585
01:11:35,760 --> 01:11:37,599
Speaker 2: know what I mean. Like, I'm bribe dating a guy

1586
01:11:37,640 --> 01:11:41,280
Speaker 2: who like every time, like he wouldn't even consider me.

1587
01:11:41,400 --> 01:11:43,920
Speaker 3: It was just like all right, here I go. I'm like,

1588
01:11:44,040 --> 01:11:45,040
Speaker 3: wait he.

1589
01:11:45,200 --> 01:11:47,439
Speaker 2: Checked in at all with me, Like this is now

1590
01:11:47,479 --> 01:11:49,280
Speaker 2: the sixth time like in a row. At first, I

1591
01:11:49,320 --> 01:11:51,360
Speaker 2: was like, maybe it was just that time, you know bitches, Yeah,

1592
01:11:51,360 --> 01:11:53,800
Speaker 2: maybe it was just that time that time. Wait, maybe

1593
01:11:53,800 --> 01:11:56,479
Speaker 2: we came together that time. And then I'm like, wait,

1594
01:11:56,520 --> 01:11:57,679
Speaker 2: you really just don't give a fuck.

1595
01:11:57,880 --> 01:12:00,000
Speaker 5: You actually really annoy it's annoying.

1596
01:12:00,120 --> 01:12:02,599
Speaker 2: I think that's a lot of people, unfortunately. If you're

1597
01:12:02,600 --> 01:12:04,320
Speaker 2: listening and triggered, I'm sorry, Well.

1598
01:12:04,280 --> 01:12:07,240
Speaker 4: We need to we need to have like a so

1599
01:12:07,280 --> 01:12:10,519
Speaker 4: we need to do something about this, something about this.

1600
01:12:10,560 --> 01:12:13,880
Speaker 5: We need to teach the men this is an issue.

1601
01:12:13,920 --> 01:12:15,440
Speaker 3: I'm going to solve this to you, guys.

1602
01:12:15,360 --> 01:12:17,559
Speaker 2: Called me La, She's she'll teach your men and her

1603
01:12:17,560 --> 01:12:18,320
Speaker 2: tanker practices.

1604
01:12:18,320 --> 01:12:20,160
Speaker 3: I'm listening to some audio and.

1605
01:12:21,960 --> 01:12:24,639
Speaker 2: Stop, stop get to the edge.

1606
01:12:25,840 --> 01:12:26,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think I'll do it.

1607
01:12:26,680 --> 01:12:29,240
Speaker 4: Pull your actually, just pull your balls down, your dick up,

1608
01:12:29,439 --> 01:12:31,320
Speaker 4: just play this when you start having sex.

1609
01:12:31,120 --> 01:12:32,520
Speaker 3: Put your thumbing your buttole.

1610
01:12:34,040 --> 01:12:37,280
Speaker 5: Now raise her titty around the nipple.

1611
01:12:39,000 --> 01:12:41,280
Speaker 2: I was more so talking about them stopping coming when

1612
01:12:41,280 --> 01:12:42,599
Speaker 2: they're about to not yeah.

1613
01:12:42,439 --> 01:12:43,280
Speaker 5: But like take your time.

1614
01:12:43,320 --> 01:12:44,680
Speaker 4: We're gonna get you all the way there, so you

1615
01:12:44,680 --> 01:12:47,040
Speaker 4: don't just jump in and and then.

1616
01:12:47,760 --> 01:12:49,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, there's nothing worse than that, especially if you're getting

1617
01:12:49,840 --> 01:12:51,799
Speaker 2: some good dick, you're like, what the fuck?

1618
01:12:52,080 --> 01:12:54,439
Speaker 3: And then the guys like that's.

1619
01:12:54,320 --> 01:12:58,880
Speaker 2: My least when I am for the men listening, don't

1620
01:12:59,080 --> 01:13:03,080
Speaker 2: even fuck me or anyone for that matter.

1621
01:13:03,200 --> 01:13:06,519
Speaker 3: And yeah, if you don't have enough.

1622
01:13:06,360 --> 01:13:09,880
Speaker 2: Ammunition just in case afterwards, like just in case I

1623
01:13:09,880 --> 01:13:12,320
Speaker 2: didn't get mine off, Like I need you to have

1624
01:13:12,360 --> 01:13:13,080
Speaker 2: that in reserve.

1625
01:13:13,439 --> 01:13:15,439
Speaker 3: Okay, I need you to have that in reserve, because

1626
01:13:15,479 --> 01:13:17,280
Speaker 3: that's we have it in reserve.

1627
01:13:17,320 --> 01:13:19,320
Speaker 4: And if you generally don't need yeah, you have to

1628
01:13:19,400 --> 01:13:20,840
Speaker 4: check in with your diet. You have to check in

1629
01:13:20,880 --> 01:13:23,439
Speaker 4: with your exercise routine to check in with like.

1630
01:13:23,400 --> 01:13:25,200
Speaker 2: Are you And if you don't have any reserve, at

1631
01:13:25,280 --> 01:13:27,400
Speaker 2: least have these fingers in reserve. At least have this

1632
01:13:27,479 --> 01:13:29,920
Speaker 2: mouth in reserve. The mouth always has to be you

1633
01:13:30,000 --> 01:13:32,080
Speaker 2: got to have something for me. The mouth is the

1634
01:13:32,160 --> 01:13:33,000
Speaker 2: national reserve.

1635
01:13:33,200 --> 01:13:36,920
Speaker 3: This is a reciprocal relationship. Okay, love you. I like that.

1636
01:13:36,960 --> 01:13:40,920
Speaker 4: The mouth, the tongue is a national reserve. It's always

1637
01:13:41,000 --> 01:13:42,200
Speaker 4: there for sitting.

1638
01:13:42,400 --> 01:13:45,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's just there waiting waiting to be used. I

1639
01:13:45,160 --> 01:13:47,080
Speaker 2: mean it's actually like the strongest muscle in our body.

1640
01:13:47,160 --> 01:13:49,559
Speaker 4: So and you should be like working with it and

1641
01:13:49,680 --> 01:13:51,760
Speaker 4: also like just happy to give it, offer it.

1642
01:13:52,040 --> 01:13:53,200
Speaker 5: Oh no, you did it.

1643
01:13:54,520 --> 01:13:57,000
Speaker 3: The tongue in the ass too, strongest muscles in our body.

1644
01:13:57,040 --> 01:14:01,880
Speaker 3: Not by accident. Okay, that's the glutes. I don't about

1645
01:14:01,880 --> 01:14:02,360
Speaker 3: the asshole.

1646
01:14:02,479 --> 01:14:04,960
Speaker 2: You just meant like, the ass is a very strong muscle,

1647
01:14:05,080 --> 01:14:08,080
Speaker 2: and so is the tongue, so to go together.

1648
01:14:09,320 --> 01:14:11,400
Speaker 4: I mean, women can really just nut off like just

1649
01:14:11,479 --> 01:14:12,760
Speaker 4: humping on your butt.

1650
01:14:13,320 --> 01:14:16,840
Speaker 2: I can't, but you can't. Let's just not categorize all

1651
01:14:16,880 --> 01:14:20,720
Speaker 2: women as humpers. Okay, just because you can hump a

1652
01:14:20,760 --> 01:14:23,280
Speaker 2: pillow and come, are you calling me a humper?

1653
01:14:23,520 --> 01:14:26,759
Speaker 3: You've called yourself sumper, a little rabbit?

1654
01:14:27,680 --> 01:14:28,320
Speaker 5: Are you asleep?

1655
01:14:28,880 --> 01:14:29,479
Speaker 3: Just turn over?

1656
01:14:34,040 --> 01:14:34,759
Speaker 5: Oh my god?

1657
01:14:35,360 --> 01:14:38,680
Speaker 3: All right, it's tarot time, y'all. Do you want me

1658
01:14:38,720 --> 01:14:39,080
Speaker 3: to play for.

1659
01:14:51,439 --> 01:14:58,040
Speaker 2: Six of cups? Shout out to Mahogany Taro. We only

1660
01:14:58,120 --> 01:15:00,400
Speaker 2: have black owned tarot cards here, y'all. Make sure you

1661
01:15:00,479 --> 01:15:03,800
Speaker 2: check out mahogany Taro. The fifth of cups? What does

1662
01:15:03,800 --> 01:15:04,320
Speaker 2: it represent?

1663
01:15:04,400 --> 01:15:07,240
Speaker 3: Sixth? Or the fifth? Sorry? The sixth? Sorry, I can't count?

1664
01:15:07,320 --> 01:15:10,240
Speaker 5: Okay, backwards hitting the backword is hitting hitting?

1665
01:15:10,479 --> 01:15:13,200
Speaker 3: Let me hit that backward again? Because tarot feels like

1666
01:15:13,240 --> 01:15:15,519
Speaker 3: the perfect time. Just take this.

1667
01:15:16,280 --> 01:15:25,400
Speaker 4: The sixth cups is revisiting the past, childhood memories, innocence joy.

1668
01:15:25,439 --> 01:15:28,519
Speaker 4: The sixth a cup as a card that takes you

1669
01:15:28,560 --> 01:15:31,080
Speaker 4: back to the happy memories from your past, whether as

1670
01:15:31,080 --> 01:15:33,760
Speaker 4: a child, teenager, or young adult. You may simply be

1671
01:15:33,840 --> 01:15:36,320
Speaker 4: revisiting those memories in your mind, or you may travel

1672
01:15:36,360 --> 01:15:39,920
Speaker 4: back to your childhood home to reconnect with your childhood friends.

1673
01:15:40,160 --> 01:15:42,120
Speaker 4: You could go to a high school reunion and reconnect

1674
01:15:42,120 --> 01:15:44,760
Speaker 4: with an old buddy. A teenage sweetheart or past lover

1675
01:15:44,840 --> 01:15:47,880
Speaker 4: may turn up again. These connections bring you a sense

1676
01:15:47,920 --> 01:15:51,040
Speaker 4: of joy and happiness as you reminisce over all the

1677
01:15:51,040 --> 01:15:52,360
Speaker 4: fun times you had together.

1678
01:15:52,760 --> 01:15:53,760
Speaker 5: Take this occasion to.

1679
01:15:53,720 --> 01:15:56,000
Speaker 4: Explore whether you still have a lot in common and

1680
01:15:56,040 --> 01:15:58,840
Speaker 4: if you wish to continue the relationship now. The six

1681
01:15:58,880 --> 01:16:01,320
Speaker 4: of Cups often shows an increased level of harmony and

1682
01:16:01,320 --> 01:16:04,519
Speaker 4: cooperation in your relationships. You're ready to give and receive

1683
01:16:04,600 --> 01:16:07,880
Speaker 4: without expectation. You're also willing to give each other the

1684
01:16:07,920 --> 01:16:10,960
Speaker 4: benefit of the doubt. Having moved on from the challenging

1685
01:16:11,360 --> 01:16:13,800
Speaker 4: emotions of the Five of Cups, it's time to turn

1686
01:16:13,840 --> 01:16:16,160
Speaker 4: over a new leaf and start afresh from a more

1687
01:16:16,320 --> 01:16:17,200
Speaker 4: positive place.

1688
01:16:17,760 --> 01:16:18,120
Speaker 3: Hmmm.

1689
01:16:18,640 --> 01:16:21,559
Speaker 4: Get in touch with the inner child and experience fun, freedom,

1690
01:16:21,680 --> 01:16:24,040
Speaker 4: innocence that comes with being a young child again.

1691
01:16:24,439 --> 01:16:27,160
Speaker 3: Yes, I need that. I need to hear that. I said.

1692
01:16:27,160 --> 01:16:28,880
Speaker 4: You might want to sit down with the coloring book,

1693
01:16:29,120 --> 01:16:32,040
Speaker 4: dance like no one is watching, play your favorite childhood games,

1694
01:16:32,120 --> 01:16:36,840
Speaker 4: or spend time around happy children, happy children, not unhappy ones,

1695
01:16:36,880 --> 01:16:37,759
Speaker 4: not unhappy ones.

1696
01:16:38,920 --> 01:16:40,240
Speaker 2: Oh my god, I didn't tell you. When I was

1697
01:16:40,280 --> 01:16:42,960
Speaker 2: in New York, our friend had a baby and I

1698
01:16:43,000 --> 01:16:44,080
Speaker 2: saw the baby on.

1699
01:16:44,280 --> 01:16:47,599
Speaker 3: Like five hours after its birth. Who cool?

1700
01:16:47,680 --> 01:16:49,439
Speaker 5: Oh she just gave birth?

1701
01:16:49,520 --> 01:16:52,280
Speaker 3: Yes, and went to the hospital that day. Oh my, oh.

1702
01:16:52,240 --> 01:16:54,639
Speaker 5: My god, I forgot about those times.

1703
01:16:55,439 --> 01:16:58,120
Speaker 2: I haven't been around a newborn human in a long time,

1704
01:16:58,200 --> 01:17:00,240
Speaker 2: and it was crazy what it did for my soul.

1705
01:17:00,560 --> 01:17:02,880
Speaker 3: Like it was it was so oh.

1706
01:17:02,720 --> 01:17:04,639
Speaker 4: My god, there should be like because they just came

1707
01:17:04,680 --> 01:17:05,240
Speaker 4: from sources.

1708
01:17:05,479 --> 01:17:08,439
Speaker 2: Yeah, like we didn't have like a newborn baby experience. Yeah,

1709
01:17:08,520 --> 01:17:11,160
Speaker 2: like they want to bring your newborn babies, they have

1710
01:17:11,240 --> 01:17:13,920
Speaker 2: to be with between ten and fourteen hours.

1711
01:17:14,120 --> 01:17:15,960
Speaker 4: You just put their heads together and you like meditate

1712
01:17:16,000 --> 01:17:16,519
Speaker 4: world peace.

1713
01:17:16,560 --> 01:17:18,120
Speaker 3: Oh my god, you might be onto something.

1714
01:17:18,560 --> 01:17:20,360
Speaker 2: When I went, I had told her I was gonna

1715
01:17:20,360 --> 01:17:21,439
Speaker 2: be in New York and I knew that she was

1716
01:17:21,439 --> 01:17:22,559
Speaker 2: gonna give birth around that time.

1717
01:17:22,760 --> 01:17:24,280
Speaker 3: And she was like, I'm gonna be with aught. I

1718
01:17:24,280 --> 01:17:24,920
Speaker 3: don't know, like.

1719
01:17:24,840 --> 01:17:26,920
Speaker 2: She was just managing my expectations. And I was like,

1720
01:17:26,960 --> 01:17:30,200
Speaker 2: it's cool, girl whatever. Come see anyway, she texted me,

1721
01:17:30,240 --> 01:17:33,040
Speaker 2: I happened to be like near the hospital, and.

1722
01:17:33,080 --> 01:17:35,800
Speaker 3: She was like, I just had a baby five hours ago. Come.

1723
01:17:35,840 --> 01:17:38,559
Speaker 2: I was like coming, And I went and I just

1724
01:17:38,600 --> 01:17:41,320
Speaker 2: walked in and I just like, they're just I almost

1725
01:17:41,360 --> 01:17:43,080
Speaker 2: was scared to touch him. I was like, oh my god,

1726
01:17:43,160 --> 01:17:45,760
Speaker 2: can I like it just came from you, like I

1727
01:17:45,760 --> 01:17:48,280
Speaker 2: don't want to. I want to like respect, you know,

1728
01:17:48,320 --> 01:17:50,799
Speaker 2: people like, yeah, the bubble that's being created, and obviously

1729
01:17:50,840 --> 01:17:53,040
Speaker 2: like i was invited into that bubble and I'm so grateful.

1730
01:17:53,800 --> 01:17:57,760
Speaker 3: But it was just like he's so sacred, That's what

1731
01:17:57,800 --> 01:18:00,919
Speaker 3: it was. It was like so sake grade, the sacred

1732
01:18:01,080 --> 01:18:01,920
Speaker 3: energy that.

1733
01:18:02,040 --> 01:18:06,880
Speaker 2: Like untainteded and just so new, and I'm just I'm

1734
01:18:06,920 --> 01:18:07,600
Speaker 2: so happy for her.

1735
01:18:07,720 --> 01:18:09,479
Speaker 3: Nicle. Shout out to Nicole. She's been a guest on

1736
01:18:09,479 --> 01:18:09,880
Speaker 3: our show.

1737
01:18:11,000 --> 01:18:14,479
Speaker 2: She wrote a book called Generational Silence, and she came

1738
01:18:14,520 --> 01:18:16,679
Speaker 2: I think she came on last year. And she's an amazing,

1739
01:18:16,760 --> 01:18:19,519
Speaker 2: amazing woman. This year was that this year Jesus Christ,

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Speaker 2: this year four years that was that was not that much.

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01:18:24,120 --> 01:18:28,800
Speaker 2: She was pregnant to my brain. Yeah, So shout out

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Speaker 2: to Nicole and Kelsey, congratulations on your baby.

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Speaker 3: I love you guys.

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Speaker 2: And I was just like, so I was just so

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01:18:36,680 --> 01:18:41,639
Speaker 2: grateful to be in the presence of new life. And yeah,

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Speaker 2: it made me feel It made me also feel like Okay, yeah,

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01:18:44,680 --> 01:18:45,360
Speaker 2: like I can do that.

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01:18:45,640 --> 01:18:48,400
Speaker 3: I could do that. I want that.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I do like this.

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01:18:51,080 --> 01:18:53,400
Speaker 4: Yeah because you're like in it, you're at the hospital.

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01:18:53,640 --> 01:18:55,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, because I you know, I've I've gone back and

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01:18:55,960 --> 01:18:57,920
Speaker 2: forth over the years. I mean more recently I've felt

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01:18:57,960 --> 01:19:01,080
Speaker 2: more like yes, but it's being actually in the presence

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01:19:01,120 --> 01:19:03,479
Speaker 2: of the newness is was like, oh my god, it

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01:19:03,560 --> 01:19:09,439
Speaker 2: was a boy and he's a boy, and yeah, so anyway,

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01:19:09,680 --> 01:19:11,800
Speaker 2: this this card speaks to me. It reminded me too

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01:19:11,840 --> 01:19:14,040
Speaker 2: of just like getting in touch with my and appreciating

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01:19:14,200 --> 01:19:17,160
Speaker 2: also my daughter at this age and just like everything

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01:19:17,240 --> 01:19:20,880
Speaker 2: is moving so quickly and tapping into we have this opportunity.

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01:19:20,920 --> 01:19:22,800
Speaker 2: We talk about a lot about like tapping into your

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01:19:22,840 --> 01:19:25,439
Speaker 2: inner child, and as parents we have children in our house,

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01:19:25,520 --> 01:19:28,000
Speaker 2: like we literally have the example there, and often we

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01:19:28,040 --> 01:19:29,880
Speaker 2: reject it, like I don't want to play with barbies.

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01:19:29,880 --> 01:19:32,000
Speaker 2: I don't want to do this, and it's actually it

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01:19:32,040 --> 01:19:34,920
Speaker 2: could be an opportunity for you to actually exercise the

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01:19:34,960 --> 01:19:38,760
Speaker 2: thing that present you're running away from. And like, of

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01:19:38,840 --> 01:19:40,720
Speaker 2: course we're grown, like we don't want to play with

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Speaker 2: barbies anymore, but at some point you did.

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01:19:42,680 --> 01:19:43,920
Speaker 3: You know, at some point some of.

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Speaker 2: These stupid as activities that you don't really enjoy it,

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01:19:45,720 --> 01:19:48,519
Speaker 2: you did enjoy so like that connection still exists, and

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Speaker 2: sometimes it's really about getting back getting on the fucking floor,

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01:19:51,320 --> 01:19:53,400
Speaker 2: get on the floor and just be.

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Speaker 5: Riding the bike going to the cart.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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01:19:56,640 --> 01:19:58,120
Speaker 5: Yeah, bike riding is fun.

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Speaker 3: So yeah, that's it.

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01:20:01,080 --> 01:20:02,120
Speaker 5: And also we need it.

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01:20:02,160 --> 01:20:03,519
Speaker 4: We need to get the fuck off the phone to

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01:20:03,560 --> 01:20:08,080
Speaker 4: delete social but first and subscribe to this show.

1781
01:20:09,400 --> 01:20:10,280
Speaker 3: And follow us.

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01:20:11,360 --> 01:20:13,759
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01:20:14,600 --> 01:20:16,120
Speaker 3: I know, we've been talking about it for weeks.

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Speaker 2: It's just that we are trying to make it as

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Speaker 2: perfect as possible for you guys, and make sure that

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Speaker 2: you know we're taking our time, so be be aware, be.

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Speaker 3: Aware, I'm high.

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01:20:27,840 --> 01:20:30,000
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Speaker 2: follow the Good Vibe Retreat. And yeah, support fellow podcasters.

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Speaker 2: Download this show, download all your favorite podcasters show. This

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01:20:41,840 --> 01:20:45,160
Speaker 2: is a weird time. We need to preserve these moments

1793
01:20:45,200 --> 01:20:51,719
Speaker 2: of connectedness and speaking our truth and being honest and sharing.

1794
01:20:52,280 --> 01:20:56,439
Speaker 2: And so just subscribe and subscribe to Patreon because maybe

1795
01:20:56,479 --> 01:20:59,720
Speaker 2: one day, well that's all we will be. You'll have

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01:20:59,760 --> 01:21:01,120
Speaker 2: to come over there, so you might as well just

1797
01:21:01,120 --> 01:21:03,200
Speaker 2: get used to paying that five dollars a month for

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01:21:03,240 --> 01:21:04,760
Speaker 2: all the extra shit you get over there.

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Speaker 3: Anyway, love you Bane.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm living so good, can't you tell I went

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01:21:12,360 --> 01:21:14,639
Speaker 1: through a drought. That's until I find out, well, maym

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01:21:14,760 --> 01:21:16,920
Speaker 1: have been known? Earth that used to be broken tail

1803
01:21:17,040 --> 01:21:19,519
Speaker 1: now got the blues in to like Beyonce just saw

1804
01:21:19,840 --> 01:21:23,120
Speaker 1: throat shot and popping his car wearing our voices. Patriarchy

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01:21:23,240 --> 01:21:25,639
Speaker 1: kept it in the box to exploit it. Women put

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01:21:25,640 --> 01:21:27,880
Speaker 1: the pee in power, so it's pointing that they want

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01:21:27,920 --> 01:21:28,639
Speaker 1: me to be good.

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01:21:28,680 --> 01:21:31,800
Speaker 3: So I made bad choices. Bad mom, not a bad mom,

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01:21:31,920 --> 01:21:32,800
Speaker 3: but a bad mom.

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01:21:32,920 --> 01:21:35,200
Speaker 5: Itter's in on put cannabis in their bath.

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Speaker 1: Bon walked in Bosts cap and I blew his cat

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01:21:37,840 --> 01:21:40,679
Speaker 1: ball tip dog. Now I'm immune to the cat called

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01:21:40,760 --> 01:21:43,559
Speaker 1: Herbie and no waisted straight to it like a dollar sign. Mother,

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Speaker 1: rent the number when to it is like a water

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01:21:45,640 --> 01:21:48,479
Speaker 1: sign where you're renting winter essential will when the summer time.

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01:21:48,680 --> 01:21:50,439
Speaker 1: I do it all ain't know when that needs a

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Speaker 1: running by