WEBVTT - GECKMAIL: “I MARRIED MY HORSE”

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<v Speaker 1>Hello, everybody, Welcome to gek Mail. We are doing the

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<v Speaker 1>second gek mail in one week.

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<v Speaker 2>The reason that I am doing.

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<v Speaker 1>This is because I have like a bunch of backed

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<v Speaker 1>up emails, Like I'm looking at emails from October seventeenth

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<v Speaker 1>that I have yet to read, and I'm enjoying it.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm taking a little bit of a break from chatting

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<v Speaker 1>with people on the phone. I'm taking a little bit

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<v Speaker 1>of control over this podcast situation. So I'm just going

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<v Speaker 1>to spend the next hour hanging out with myself and

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<v Speaker 1>hopefully I have fun doing that. It's fun to do

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<v Speaker 1>a little solo podcast adventure. I hope that you're having

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<v Speaker 1>fun hanging out with me, hanging out with me, let's

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<v Speaker 1>I guess, let's just start reading emails. I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>if I have any more things to rant about. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>I can talk about my life. Oh well, I mean, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I'll bring this up. I am still doing an art

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<v Speaker 1>exhibition in Bushwick, Brooklyn. I know you're probably tired of

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<v Speaker 1>me talking about it, but I'm doing an art exhibition.

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<v Speaker 1>It's called Lyle Forever presents Trash from around My Room.

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<v Speaker 1>I am taking eight pieces of trash from around my room,

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<v Speaker 1>and I am displaying them as art.

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<v Speaker 2>Why am I doing this, I don't know. I just need.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm at a point in my life where I just

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<v Speaker 1>got to try doing shit. So this is some of

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<v Speaker 1>the shit that I'm trying to do. And so if

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<v Speaker 1>you live in New York City and you want to

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<v Speaker 1>check that out, look at the link in the episode

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<v Speaker 1>description and follow that laylow link and put your phone

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<v Speaker 1>number in there so I can text you more details

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<v Speaker 1>about that event. I am in Japan. I leave tomorrow

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<v Speaker 1>to go back to the United States. People who've been

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<v Speaker 1>listening to this podcast for better or for worse, are

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<v Speaker 1>you're aware of the fact that I'm going a little

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<v Speaker 1>bit crazy. But I think that once I have I

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<v Speaker 1>have a good faith that once I return to the

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<v Speaker 1>United States and fucking you know, get back integrated with

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<v Speaker 1>normal ass life, that things will be good. I'm actually

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<v Speaker 1>feeling pretty okay this morning. Sunlight is good. I did

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<v Speaker 1>I did twenty five push ups in a row for

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<v Speaker 1>the first time in my entire life. I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>why I'm bragging about that, but I just need. These

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<v Speaker 1>are just things going on with me that I'm excited about,

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<v Speaker 1>so I'm sharing them.

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<v Speaker 2>This is this is.

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<v Speaker 1>You know what's funny is I used to listen to

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<v Speaker 1>a podcast called WTF with Mark Maron, and he opened

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<v Speaker 1>he like does interviews with comedians, but he always opens

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<v Speaker 1>it by doing what I'm doing right now, just going

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<v Speaker 1>on long rants about his own life. And every time

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<v Speaker 1>I listen to that podcast, I like he opened he

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<v Speaker 1>would go on like a fifteen minute rant solo about

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<v Speaker 1>his own life and then get into the episode, and

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<v Speaker 1>I was always like, why does this guy do this?

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<v Speaker 1>I always would skip over the ramp part to just

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<v Speaker 1>get to the interview part. And this was a show

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<v Speaker 1>I listened to like ten years ago when I was

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<v Speaker 1>in high school. And so now it's kind of funny

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<v Speaker 1>that I am now doing a podcast where I am

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<v Speaker 1>ranting about my life when I used to chastise this

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<v Speaker 1>other guy who did a podcast ranting about his life,

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<v Speaker 1>and to be fair to myself, at the time, I

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<v Speaker 1>just didn't know how fun it is to talk to

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<v Speaker 1>yourself like a crazy person.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, let's get into some emails. All right.

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<v Speaker 1>This is from my subject line I pooped my pants. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>there we go, some lighthearted fun.

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<v Speaker 2>Hey gecko.

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<v Speaker 1>For a long time, I had made fun of a

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<v Speaker 1>friend because she sharded quite a bit. I was on

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<v Speaker 1>such a high horse about how I never sharded ever

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<v Speaker 1>until one day I was watching Telly and I felt

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<v Speaker 1>a fart brewing. I admit it was stupid, giving that

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<v Speaker 1>stubborn fart and extra push I eventually came out, but

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<v Speaker 1>I quickly realized, you know what, I don't have to

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<v Speaker 1>read this yet. I'm not going to read the rest

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<v Speaker 1>of this email, but that's you know, all right, Let's

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<v Speaker 1>try to find a real one, all right. This is

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<v Speaker 1>from Roy, subject line I don't know how to be gay.

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<v Speaker 2>Hey, Lyle, you.

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<v Speaker 1>Can call me Roy. I'm twenty years old and I've

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<v Speaker 1>been with my boyfriend for three years. We're talking about

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<v Speaker 1>getting married, but I don't know how a gay wedding

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<v Speaker 1>ceremony might work. I know you can just do whatever

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<v Speaker 1>you want, but I really have no idea what we

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<v Speaker 1>can do that won't make one of us look like

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<v Speaker 1>the bride or the groom of the relationship. I also

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<v Speaker 1>don't know how to come out to my dad. My

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<v Speaker 1>boyfriend and I have lived together since we started dating,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm not worried my dad will react terribly. I

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<v Speaker 1>just know it'll be awkward to tell him, especially since

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<v Speaker 1>we've been together for years and are thinking about marriage

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<v Speaker 1>when I haven't even introduced my boyfriend and dad to

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<v Speaker 1>each other. I'd love advice on both or either of

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<v Speaker 1>those topics. Yes, I live in Alaska, born and raised. Ooh,

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<v Speaker 1>I think it'd be super cool if you came here

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<v Speaker 1>on tour. Next time you think about debt yo, kick ass. No,

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<v Speaker 1>I love, I'm maybe I do. I want to make

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<v Speaker 1>it over to Alaska at some point. I want to

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<v Speaker 1>know what the hell is going on over there.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, Okay, Roy, you sent me this email over three

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<v Speaker 1>months ago, so I don't know if you are still

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<v Speaker 1>alive or listening to this podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>But here, I mean, I we'll hear what.

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<v Speaker 1>Look, dude, what jumps out at me is that you're

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<v Speaker 1>fucking twenty years old, you know, like get a, get a.

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<v Speaker 1>That's the main thing. The gay thing and the dad

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<v Speaker 1>thing is you know. I'm sure that they're all important

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<v Speaker 1>aspects of this in your brain, but I hopefully, hopefully

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<v Speaker 1>those aspects have not become so at the forefront of

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<v Speaker 1>your brain that you're forgetting the fact that you are

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<v Speaker 1>twenty years old. And you know, here's the thing, man,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, some people get married young and it

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<v Speaker 1>works out for them and they get a dog and

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<v Speaker 1>they live happily ever after, and you know, those people

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<v Speaker 1>might be happier.

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<v Speaker 2>A lot of the don't trust.

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<v Speaker 1>My opinion on anything because people probably did that and

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<v Speaker 1>are happier than I am.

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<v Speaker 2>But I also bet a lot of people did that

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<v Speaker 2>and regret it.

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<v Speaker 1>So here's the thing, Roy, I kind of think that

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<v Speaker 1>when you're twenty years old, you know, in my humble opinion, Roy,

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<v Speaker 1>in my humble opinion, and we'll get to the you

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<v Speaker 1>know thing with your dad, But my humble opinion is, like,

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<v Speaker 1>you got so much fucking room to develop yourself as

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<v Speaker 1>a human being. Do you really want to I'm you know,

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<v Speaker 1>your boyfriend might be a cool guy, but like you've

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<v Speaker 1>been together since you were seventeen, do you really want

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<v Speaker 1>to just be like, all right, I'm done. I finished

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<v Speaker 1>developing as a human being. Let me, you know, cash

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<v Speaker 1>in my chips right.

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<v Speaker 2>Now, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>And I look, I'm not saying like, oh, you're twenty,

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<v Speaker 1>you can get ripped and get a hotter boyfriend or whatever,

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<v Speaker 1>but I am saying that, like, twenty twenty, it just

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<v Speaker 1>feels fucking young to.

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<v Speaker 2>Get married, man, Tony, just why why? Why? I am

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<v Speaker 2>curious about this. Why are you in a rush to

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<v Speaker 2>get married?

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, look, if you and your boyfriend are hanging

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<v Speaker 1>out and you're having fun and everything is supportive and

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<v Speaker 1>he makes you happy and all this stuff, then you

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<v Speaker 1>know why I guess why are you in a rush

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<v Speaker 1>to get married? Like? What is it about the marriage thing?

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<v Speaker 1>Is it just like a label? Is it like their

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<v Speaker 1>government benefits or whatever?

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<v Speaker 2>But I just feel like.

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<v Speaker 1>Twenty is a little a little young for that. And

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<v Speaker 1>let me reread this. As far as I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>what I know, you can just do whatever you want,

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<v Speaker 1>but I don't know what we can do that won't

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<v Speaker 1>make one of us look like the bride or the

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<v Speaker 1>groom of the relationship. I mean, as far as Echo

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<v Speaker 1>is like, I don't want you to design. You can

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<v Speaker 1>design your own wedding. Roy you can both wear suits,

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<v Speaker 1>and you can have a dog officiate the wedding. You

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<v Speaker 1>can design whatever you want. You can make your own

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<v Speaker 1>ceremonies and holidays and whatever it is.

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<v Speaker 2>So why don't you just be You can just.

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<v Speaker 1>Be two grooms or you or you can do uh

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<v Speaker 1>or you can both wear gray jumpsuits instead of suits

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<v Speaker 1>or address and just have the most non binary, uh,

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<v Speaker 1>non gender conforming uh wedding you can think of. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know, it's that's the thing, is I mean, you

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<v Speaker 1>already do what I was gonna say. That's why you

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<v Speaker 1>included in the emails, Like you can just do fucking

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<v Speaker 1>whatever you want. You said, Uh, I mean yeah, why

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<v Speaker 1>don't you just introduce your boyfriend? I know it'll be

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<v Speaker 1>awkward to tell him because we've been together for years

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<v Speaker 1>and are thinking about marriage. I don't know, Man, ask

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<v Speaker 1>your dad about it, like you know what I mean?

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<v Speaker 2>You said, Uh, what is it? What is it?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not worried my dad will react terribly. So if

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<v Speaker 1>you're not worried that your dad will react terribly, why

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<v Speaker 1>are you afraid of introducing your boyfriend? And if you

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<v Speaker 1>don't think he'll react terribly? I mean, you know, look,

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<v Speaker 1>if you said that you don't think your dad will

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<v Speaker 1>react terribly, then give it a shot. I suppose what's

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<v Speaker 1>going on in Alaska? I don't know if. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know if my advice right now is helpful or makes

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<v Speaker 1>any sense even, but I guess that's all I have

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<v Speaker 1>to say about these things. Okay from Ivan, No subject Gecko?

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<v Speaker 1>When are you coming to LA? And where do you

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<v Speaker 1>buy the Gecko suit? When am I coming to La?

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<v Speaker 2>I was in La?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh crap, this person sent me this on October eighteenth.

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<v Speaker 1>It is now March third, and I was last in

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<v Speaker 1>La like November fifth or something like that. So yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you missed me. But where do you buy the Gecko suit?

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<v Speaker 1>You buy it on what the same place you buy everything?

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<v Speaker 1>God damn it? Right on Amazon? Just go to Amazon

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<v Speaker 1>search a Gecko suits. I need to get an affiliate

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<v Speaker 1>code for that, but I don't have one right now.

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<v Speaker 1>So just yeah, I don't know how much is it?

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<v Speaker 2>Right now?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna check. It always fluctuates in price. Okay, do

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<v Speaker 1>not show me items in Japan?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay? Hold on?

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<v Speaker 1>Uh okay, okay, I'm on Amazon. Gecko costs too. All right,

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<v Speaker 1>let's see what the cheapest one we can find is Rasta. Okay, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>the brand is called Rasta Impasta. Where are we at

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<v Speaker 1>with this? No featured offer is available? Oh my god,

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<v Speaker 1>don't tell me, dude, No, hold on, don't tell me

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<v Speaker 1>they start.

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<v Speaker 2>Don't hold on.

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<v Speaker 1>Do not tell me that I am live while recording

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<v Speaker 1>this right fucking now discovering that they don't make this

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<v Speaker 1>costume anymore. Oh my god, no no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no,

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<v Speaker 1>holy shit, no more fat your offers available. Dude, No,

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<v Speaker 1>this can't. This cannot be happening right now.

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<v Speaker 2>I always knew that this hold on.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, this is insane that I am live realizing this

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<v Speaker 1>right now as I'm recording this podcast, I am searching

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<v Speaker 1>to find this gecko suit and I don't.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't.

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<v Speaker 1>I found the listing, but there's no options to buy, folks.

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<v Speaker 1>Holy shit, I think they have stopped making the gecko suit.

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<v Speaker 1>I have been doing this show for folks. I have

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<v Speaker 1>been dressing up as a fucking gecko on the internet

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<v Speaker 1>for almost five years. This summer June twenty twenty five,

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<v Speaker 1>it'll be five years of dressing up as a gecko

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<v Speaker 1>and day one. I always knew this is crazy. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>discovering this right in this moment. I always knew one

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<v Speaker 1>day that this would happen. Wow, this is like symbolic

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<v Speaker 1>of some this is I'm I'm a little shocked. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>a little I'm at I'm in a little bit of

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<v Speaker 1>shock right now. I am in genuinely a little bit

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<v Speaker 1>of shock right now. Let's see, because I'm looking at

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<v Speaker 1>the page and there is no options to buy.

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<v Speaker 2>Let's see, when's the last customer review? Wow? Yep, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>they don't.

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<v Speaker 1>They're not selling it on Okay, let's see if they

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<v Speaker 1>sell it on the regular website. Okay, Rasta and Pasta Gecko.

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<v Speaker 1>Holy shit, I can't buy this on Amazon anymore. Maybe

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<v Speaker 1>it's because maybe it's because I'm in Maybe it's because

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<v Speaker 1>I'm in Japan. Right now, Folks, help me out here?

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<v Speaker 1>Do they do they still have buying options for this?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay?

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<v Speaker 1>Hold on, let me check the actual Rosta Impasta website

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<v Speaker 1>and see if they still have it. I genuinely do

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<v Speaker 1>not know. This is one of those things where like

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<v Speaker 1>you build a whole career and life off of something,

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<v Speaker 1>and then people are like, what are you gonna do

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<v Speaker 1>when they stop selling the costume and you're just like, dah,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. And then you're like, oh, I forget that. Okay, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>here we go, here we go, here we go. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>all right, I'm not fully fucked. All right, I am

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<v Speaker 1>not fully fucked. I can buy a costume from the

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<v Speaker 1>actual rasta impasta dot com website for eighty nine dollars

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<v Speaker 1>and ninety nine cents just directly from the site, it seems.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's see add to carte. Okay, view cart I was

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<v Speaker 1>almost fucked for a second.

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<v Speaker 2>Is it?

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<v Speaker 1>Is it a bad sign that I was like, I

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<v Speaker 1>was like looking, I was for I leave. Okay, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>if I really Okay, what I'm realizing by looking at

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<v Speaker 1>the internet right now is that if I really need

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<v Speaker 1>a Rasta and Pasta gecko costume, which often via the

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<v Speaker 1>life I've created, I do, I can buy one from

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<v Speaker 1>New Jersey. So that's good. But for a second, I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, maybe this is the sign. This is a

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<v Speaker 1>sign that I need to start dressing up like a

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<v Speaker 1>fucking Walrus or something like that, or just being a

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<v Speaker 1>you know, human being. Whatever it is. Okay, So my

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<v Speaker 1>new answer to back to this email? Where's my email?

0:14:47.400 --> 0:14:53.000
<v Speaker 1>I lost my email? Oh okay, what am I coming to?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm coming to LA three months ago? And you buy

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<v Speaker 1>that gecko suits not on Amazon but on the Rosta

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<v Speaker 1>and Pasta website. Okay, all right, this is from suit

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<v Speaker 1>guys from this They sent me this October seventeenth, subject line,

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<v Speaker 1>somebody wiped their ass with my exam papers. Ignore my email.

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<v Speaker 1>I made this when I was nine. What's the email

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<v Speaker 1>at gmail dot com? Okay, sorry, I shouldn't have doxed

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<v Speaker 1>your email, but all right, we can actually bleep out

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<v Speaker 1>your email.

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<v Speaker 2>But that's a cool email, hey, Lyle.

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<v Speaker 1>One time, when I was fifteen and finishing my sophomore year,

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<v Speaker 1>the school wanted to see if I had dyslexia so

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<v Speaker 1>I could have extra time, so they made my mom

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<v Speaker 1>bring in a couple of my exams from the years

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<v Speaker 1>before so they could evaluate it. Anyways, when that was

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<v Speaker 1>all done and my mom was waiting to be picked up,

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<v Speaker 1>she left the folder with my very important end of

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<v Speaker 1>year sophomore exams inside the bench just outside the school

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<v Speaker 1>council office. When she got home and realized, both of

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<v Speaker 1>us went back to go get it. When we went

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<v Speaker 1>back to the bench, the folder had been opened, and

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<v Speaker 1>I kid you not, there was human shit smeared all

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<v Speaker 1>over every single page of my exams, like actual human shit.

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<v Speaker 1>It couldn't have been a stray cat or anything, because

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<v Speaker 1>we had a cat at home and knew what that

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<v Speaker 1>smelled like, and this was distinctly human poop. We think

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<v Speaker 1>it might have been some kid who wanted to bully me,

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<v Speaker 1>or maybe some young kid who just couldn't hold it,

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<v Speaker 1>but we never found out who it was. Since they

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<v Speaker 1>didn't have cameras facing that bench, the principle was basically

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<v Speaker 1>useless and just said sorry to us.

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<v Speaker 2>What was it? What was it?

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<v Speaker 1>What's the principle supposed to do? Also, if grammatical errors

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<v Speaker 1>in this email were not proven enough, yes, I do

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<v Speaker 1>have dyslexia. Okay, well let's you know. Wow, yeah, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know. I guess what was the principle supposed to

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<v Speaker 1>do about it? Did you get an A on?

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<v Speaker 2>Uh? Did you did what?

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<v Speaker 1>I This is what I'm curious about is did they

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<v Speaker 1>like accept your exams? Like, did they take them in

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<v Speaker 1>or were they like because yeah, because if I'm like

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<v Speaker 1>a teacher or a principal or something and some kid

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<v Speaker 1>gets a diarrhea on their exams through no fault of

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<v Speaker 1>their own, I'm just like give that Give that fucking kid. Ay,

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<v Speaker 1>give them a B minus at least, don't like, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>don't leave them hanging. Okay, let's see here, all right,

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<v Speaker 1>this is from Jesus subject line the email and then

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<v Speaker 1>it just says smoke we It says smoke weak every day.

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<v Speaker 1>It says smoke weak every day, so I think they

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<v Speaker 1>meant to say weed. But they also could have meant

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<v Speaker 1>to say they are every day they are having a

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<v Speaker 1>smoke week, or that perhaps they are smoking so much

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<v Speaker 1>every day that every day feels like a smoke week.

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<v Speaker 1>The mystery will never be solved. Okay, this is.

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<v Speaker 2>From uh.

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<v Speaker 1>Jar subject line Maybe today Satan hi Gak Yours is

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<v Speaker 1>the only live act my boyfriend and I like mutually,

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<v Speaker 1>and I can't wait to take him to see you

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<v Speaker 1>next time. You're in the Seattle area. Neither of us

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<v Speaker 1>are from here, but it's all right living here. We

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<v Speaker 1>both struggle with depression, autism and ADHD, and it's super

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<v Speaker 1>quirky all the time. Every door is left open. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>gonna be on a Joe Para comedy special soon and

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<v Speaker 1>have been inspired to become a comedian myself. Life hits

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<v Speaker 1>different when you have eighteen hundred people all collectively enjoying

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<v Speaker 1>the moment. Is it better to go to open mic

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<v Speaker 1>nights or join an improv group?

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<v Speaker 2>First?

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<v Speaker 1>There's not much here and the improv group seem lane.

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<v Speaker 1>How do you not turn stand up into a therapy session?

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<v Speaker 1>Is it cathartic to do this podcast. Uh let's see here, well,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean a couple Yeah, I can answer some stuff

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<v Speaker 1>in this in this email, is it better to go

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<v Speaker 1>to open mics or join in prov group? I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>do both, see which one you have more fun doing.

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<v Speaker 1>Here's the thing, Here's what I'm gonna say to you,

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<v Speaker 1>is that the best thing about comedy if you're gonna

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<v Speaker 1>do it, and if you're gonna do it, some people

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<v Speaker 1>they go into it and they're like, I'm gonna be

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<v Speaker 1>a big famous star, and you know, some people get

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<v Speaker 1>successful with that and some people, you know, maybe you're

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<v Speaker 1>not a big famous star, but maybe you make a

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<v Speaker 1>living doing it somehow. But they don't even think about

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<v Speaker 1>those things. And nothing in this email is telling me

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<v Speaker 1>that you're even thinking about those things. Maybe I'm projecting

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<v Speaker 1>that upon you. But the best thing about the comedy

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<v Speaker 1>scene is that's a it's a it's a community.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, it's a community, so.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, and and having that kind of community can

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<v Speaker 1>have a really positive impact on your life.

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<v Speaker 2>So if I were you, I would do both.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, join the improv group, go to the open

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<v Speaker 1>mic nights and try to talk to people and the

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<v Speaker 1>more often you're showing up at the open mic nights,

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<v Speaker 1>the more often people will know you and just try

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<v Speaker 1>to try to fucking be uh, you know, be nice

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<v Speaker 1>and be cool.

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<v Speaker 2>That's the thing, right, is like, as long as you're.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, being generally easy to be around, you will

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<v Speaker 1>skyrocket to the top of any local comedy scene. Possibly

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<v Speaker 1>maybe you don't even have to be like I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>it helps if you're good on stage, but as long

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<v Speaker 1>as you're just like chill, you know, it's good. It's

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<v Speaker 1>a good way to make it's an excellent way to

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<v Speaker 1>make friends, an excellent way to see that, you know,

0:20:48.520 --> 0:20:50.280
<v Speaker 1>it's an excellent way to make friends. It's an excellent

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<v Speaker 1>way to see the city that you live in because

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<v Speaker 1>you it brings you to bars and venues that are

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<v Speaker 1>in different parts of the city that maybe you wouldn't

0:20:59.359 --> 0:21:02.199
<v Speaker 1>have travel to otherwise. So I mean, go go on

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<v Speaker 1>your journey. Go on your journey. How do you not

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<v Speaker 1>turn stand up into a therapy session? Why are you

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<v Speaker 1>so concerned with not doing that?

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<v Speaker 2>You know?

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, speak your fucking truth. It's speak your truth, man,

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<v Speaker 1>whatever the fuck you have to say, just say it.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe it's not funny immediately, maybe you get something out

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<v Speaker 1>of it. Maybe you get whatever you were you were

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<v Speaker 1>looking for out of it, you know, And it doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>necessarily have to be I mean, stand up. It can

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<v Speaker 1>just be whatever you want. That's the fun part is

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<v Speaker 1>that it's just you with a microphone talking. Uh.

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<v Speaker 2>You said, is it cathartic to do this podcast? It is?

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<v Speaker 2>Sometimes it is.

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<v Speaker 1>Sometimes I'm learning about my I'm learning a lot about myself.

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<v Speaker 1>I've learned, I'll fucking I've learned so much about life

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<v Speaker 1>and about myself over the past five years that I've

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<v Speaker 1>been doing this. And uh, but I also still have

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of essans because sometimes, you know, talking about

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<v Speaker 1>sometimes doing this podcast is cathartic, but other times, I

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<v Speaker 1>I it's less. So I'm I've actually been thinking about this.

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<v Speaker 1>I might start you know what I might start doing, folks.

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<v Speaker 1>You know what I might start doing. Uh, listeners of

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<v Speaker 1>the Therapy Ecko podcast. You know what I might start doing, folks.

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<v Speaker 1>I Uh, here's the thing, you know, the phone call

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<v Speaker 1>episodes and and and doing this. Uh, I have fun

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<v Speaker 1>and they're they're actually you know a lot of times

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<v Speaker 1>where I'm having a good time. But I just I'm

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<v Speaker 1>in a point in my life where I need to

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<v Speaker 1>be out in the planet Earth. And so, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I used to do a lot of like being a

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<v Speaker 1>gecko in real life stuff where I would just sit

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<v Speaker 1>as a gecko in a park and chat with people.

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<v Speaker 1>And I think I'm gonna try to do a lot

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<v Speaker 1>more of that. So I might, I might, even I don't.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to promise whatever the fuck, because I

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I might. I have fucking crazy ADHD brain.

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<v Speaker 1>But I'm thinking I'm gonna try to start doing more

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<v Speaker 1>audio versions of that as the podcast, Right, So I'll

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<v Speaker 1>post up in Washington Square Park with two microphones and

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<v Speaker 1>just chat with whoever's hanging out, you know, and it

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<v Speaker 1>can be an audio journey that takes the people listening

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<v Speaker 1>out of their computer and into real life. And maybe

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<v Speaker 1>that'll be cathartic, but it feels it does feel cathartic

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<v Speaker 1>to do to do the podcast and to get to

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<v Speaker 1>like share and explain things from my life and whatnot.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, let's see here, all right. This is from Janet.

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<v Speaker 1>Subject line I married my horse. Howdy for my sixtieth birthday,

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<v Speaker 1>twenty twenty two, I married my horse.

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<v Speaker 2>It was a blast.

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<v Speaker 1>I was live streaming but got kicked off the stream

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<v Speaker 1>when we played White Wedding. It was a good day.

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<v Speaker 1>I attached a picture of me with Valor.

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<v Speaker 2>And my mom.

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<v Speaker 1>In twenty twenty, I started, Okay, well let me look

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<v Speaker 1>at this picture first. Oh, holy shit, this lady married

0:24:10.359 --> 0:24:15.480
<v Speaker 1>her horse. Wow, that's pretty cool. He's wearing a hat.

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<v Speaker 1>That's very interesting. In twenty twenty, I started taking care

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<v Speaker 1>of my mom full time. She has dementia. She's currently

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<v Speaker 1>on hospice, so she has a six months to one

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<v Speaker 1>year prognosis. When my mom passes, I plan to buy

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<v Speaker 1>an RV and hit the road. I plan to start

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<v Speaker 1>a podcast talking to people about the paranormal religion and UFOs.

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<v Speaker 1>I plan to travel around, set up in a public

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<v Speaker 1>space and start talking to people.

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<v Speaker 2>Wow.

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<v Speaker 1>That's hilarious. It's exactly what I was just talking about

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<v Speaker 1>wanting to do more of. Can you offer any advice?

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<v Speaker 1>My biggest concern is the amount of time that will

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<v Speaker 1>need to be dedicated to editing and posting the podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>I hope to your comments. Thanks for being there. You've

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<v Speaker 1>inspired me. Thank you, Janet. Wow, fascinating, fascinating, fascinating, fascinat

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<v Speaker 1>anything fascinating. First of all, I think this is uh,

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<v Speaker 1>super fucking cool to be starting doing this at sixty

0:25:12.640 --> 0:25:15.400
<v Speaker 1>years old. There's gonna be a lot of people who

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<v Speaker 1>I bet want to talk to you. So I think

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<v Speaker 1>it's a great idea. Can I offer you any I

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<v Speaker 1>can't offer you any advice. I just do it you honestly.

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<v Speaker 1>I can just tell by this email you have a

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<v Speaker 1>strong conviction in what you want to do, and so

0:25:31.800 --> 0:25:33.320
<v Speaker 1>I don't have any advice for you. I mean, just

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<v Speaker 1>do it right. The amount of time that will we need,

0:25:36.400 --> 0:25:42.680
<v Speaker 1>you know, dedicated to editing and posting the podcast, Well,

0:25:42.720 --> 0:25:43.600
<v Speaker 1>what else are you doing?

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<v Speaker 2>What's going on?

0:25:45.880 --> 0:25:48.359
<v Speaker 1>You know, your horse is at home taking care of

0:25:48.480 --> 0:25:51.439
<v Speaker 1>the you know, doing dishes, and I don't know if

0:25:51.440 --> 0:25:53.639
<v Speaker 1>you guys have a traditional kind of relationship where the

0:25:53.640 --> 0:25:57.040
<v Speaker 1>horse goes out and makes all the money. But you

0:25:57.040 --> 0:25:59.720
<v Speaker 1>know what, I don't know what you're doing with the

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<v Speaker 1>rest of your time.

0:26:03.560 --> 0:26:03.800
<v Speaker 2>You know.

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<v Speaker 1>Uh, let's see, posting the podcast is very easy. You

0:26:10.000 --> 0:26:13.760
<v Speaker 1>hit one button and a post the podcast. Maybe you

0:26:13.760 --> 0:26:16.680
<v Speaker 1>can get somebody to help you edit. That could be

0:26:16.760 --> 0:26:19.200
<v Speaker 1>kind of cool. Maybe you could get somebody to help

0:26:19.240 --> 0:26:19.600
<v Speaker 1>you edit.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, I don't know who you got around you.

0:26:24.480 --> 0:26:27.959
<v Speaker 2>I don't know who's who?

0:26:28.000 --> 0:26:31.440
<v Speaker 1>Who else is uh in your life? But maybe you

0:26:31.480 --> 0:26:36.280
<v Speaker 1>could get somebody else to help you edit. But also

0:26:36.359 --> 0:26:39.119
<v Speaker 1>like you know, editing, editing, that's the thing that is

0:26:39.160 --> 0:26:41.760
<v Speaker 1>like editing your podcast. If you just kind of like

0:26:42.440 --> 0:26:47.000
<v Speaker 1>in point out point, it's not going to be that

0:26:47.440 --> 0:26:51.200
<v Speaker 1>crazy time intensive, I don't think. But uh, yeah, I

0:26:51.480 --> 0:26:52.879
<v Speaker 1>have no advice for you. I just think you should

0:26:52.880 --> 0:26:54.520
<v Speaker 1>go and do this because it's it's super cool and

0:26:54.600 --> 0:26:58.320
<v Speaker 1>I'm I'm excited to see what what kind of podcast

0:26:58.600 --> 0:27:02.240
<v Speaker 1>you cook up, Jane. So if you happen to hear this,

0:27:03.520 --> 0:27:07.160
<v Speaker 1>and you happen to you know, once you get it started,

0:27:07.800 --> 0:27:10.959
<v Speaker 1>send me another email. I want to see what's going on.

0:27:11.440 --> 0:27:13.280
<v Speaker 1>I want to see what you what you ended up doing.

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<v Speaker 2>All right?

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<v Speaker 1>This is from Tyler, subject line seasonal depression. He Tyler says,

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<v Speaker 1>I always seem to think we are similar every time

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<v Speaker 1>I hear you mention your mental health issues. This from

0:27:28.000 --> 0:27:31.440
<v Speaker 1>December fourth. Oh crap, how often have I been messaging

0:27:31.480 --> 0:27:34.639
<v Speaker 1>mentioning my mental health issues? Just wanted to say, keep pushing,

0:27:34.720 --> 0:27:37.439
<v Speaker 1>especially with days getting shorter. Also, I feel I consume

0:27:37.480 --> 0:27:39.639
<v Speaker 1>too much weed during these times and it makes it worse.

0:27:39.760 --> 0:27:40.040
<v Speaker 2>Help.

0:27:41.880 --> 0:27:49.119
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, there is definitely a correlation between uh, you know,

0:27:49.200 --> 0:27:58.760
<v Speaker 1>the seasons and how I feel. Yeah, there's definitely a correlation. Well, thanks,

0:27:58.760 --> 0:28:02.879
<v Speaker 1>thanks for the tyler. You you two man. Keep living,

0:28:03.000 --> 0:28:12.320
<v Speaker 1>Keep being alive, Keep being alive. All right, all right?

0:28:12.400 --> 0:28:16.800
<v Speaker 1>This is from k subject line poop waterfall. All right,

0:28:16.840 --> 0:28:20.920
<v Speaker 1>I'm not gonna read that, all right. This is from Riley.

0:28:21.359 --> 0:28:26.560
<v Speaker 1>Subject line entrepreneur to entrepreneur. Riley says, Howdy green gecko,

0:28:26.600 --> 0:28:29.120
<v Speaker 1>man of the Internet. My name is Riley. I am

0:28:29.119 --> 0:28:31.440
<v Speaker 1>twenty one years old and just started my own business

0:28:31.920 --> 0:28:38.560
<v Speaker 1>as a ferrier parentheses horseshore. I've been home from shooting

0:28:38.720 --> 0:28:41.320
<v Speaker 1>school for seven months and I've had plenty of work

0:28:41.360 --> 0:28:45.720
<v Speaker 1>between my own clients and apprenticeships since i've been home. However,

0:28:46.000 --> 0:28:48.480
<v Speaker 1>this is the first winter of my career and things

0:28:48.520 --> 0:28:51.760
<v Speaker 1>are slowing down. Horses aren't growing as fast, and schedules

0:28:51.800 --> 0:28:54.320
<v Speaker 1>are getting stretched. In the past few months, I have

0:28:54.400 --> 0:28:58.640
<v Speaker 1>made drastic changes in my lifestyle, including diet for chronic pain,

0:28:59.080 --> 0:29:02.080
<v Speaker 1>breaking bad habits. It's focusing on my fitness and mental health,

0:29:02.160 --> 0:29:05.000
<v Speaker 1>doing a lot of yoga, meditation and so on. My

0:29:05.040 --> 0:29:08.040
<v Speaker 1>lifestyle is taken a full one eighty. I've been freaking

0:29:08.040 --> 0:29:10.200
<v Speaker 1>out a little bit about my workload and income slowing

0:29:10.240 --> 0:29:12.560
<v Speaker 1>way down due to the winter. I've decided I will

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<v Speaker 1>take this winter to work really hard on healing my body,

0:29:15.400 --> 0:29:19.000
<v Speaker 1>improving my rig, putting time into friendships, my personal horse,

0:29:19.280 --> 0:29:22.640
<v Speaker 1>and getting ready to go to certification. Do you have

0:29:22.760 --> 0:29:25.080
<v Speaker 1>any advice on getting through the first few years of

0:29:25.320 --> 0:29:28.080
<v Speaker 1>being self employed, on dealing with the highs and lows,

0:29:28.360 --> 0:29:29.760
<v Speaker 1>keeping yourself sane through it all?

0:29:30.080 --> 0:29:36.000
<v Speaker 2>Love you, GHEK. Do I have any advice about this?

0:29:36.720 --> 0:29:42.200
<v Speaker 1>I mean, I guess, like, look is thing at the

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<v Speaker 1>end of the day.

0:29:44.320 --> 0:29:45.160
<v Speaker 2>Well, also, you're.

0:29:45.000 --> 0:29:50.560
<v Speaker 1>Fucking twenty one, so just you're doing every just saying

0:29:50.600 --> 0:29:53.240
<v Speaker 1>you know, don't you sent me this email months ago?

0:29:53.320 --> 0:29:55.160
<v Speaker 1>But just Riley, if you hear this, I mean, you're

0:29:55.160 --> 0:29:57.920
<v Speaker 1>twenty one years old and you're giving it a shot. Right,

0:29:58.240 --> 0:30:02.320
<v Speaker 1>You could just fuck up, right, you could just fuck

0:30:03.320 --> 0:30:09.800
<v Speaker 1>everything up. Just you could just destroy your fucking life

0:30:10.240 --> 0:30:13.120
<v Speaker 1>and it would be fine because you have tons of

0:30:13.120 --> 0:30:14.080
<v Speaker 1>time to rebuild it.

0:30:14.600 --> 0:30:14.800
<v Speaker 2>You know.

0:30:15.120 --> 0:30:17.720
<v Speaker 1>It's like it's like the stock market, like it could

0:30:17.760 --> 0:30:23.960
<v Speaker 1>take a fucking dive, right, but like over time it recovers.

0:30:24.280 --> 0:30:26.360
<v Speaker 1>You know, you're young, you can you can hold down

0:30:26.520 --> 0:30:31.320
<v Speaker 1>the uh fort right, so you're doing it right, you know.

0:30:31.440 --> 0:30:33.080
<v Speaker 1>I mean cause if you were telling me you're like

0:30:33.200 --> 0:30:36.720
<v Speaker 1>fifty and you have kids and they're starving because you

0:30:36.800 --> 0:30:39.120
<v Speaker 1>have to do your own business and you're fucking out,

0:30:39.160 --> 0:30:40.480
<v Speaker 1>like that's that would.

0:30:40.280 --> 0:30:41.280
<v Speaker 2>Be fucked up, right.

0:30:41.560 --> 0:30:45.640
<v Speaker 1>But just just to have have have a lot of

0:30:45.640 --> 0:30:48.040
<v Speaker 1>faith in the fact that you're doing this at the

0:30:48.160 --> 0:30:52.960
<v Speaker 1>right time and you're doing it right, that's what I

0:30:53.000 --> 0:30:53.480
<v Speaker 1>would say.

0:30:54.080 --> 0:30:55.480
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's what I would say. I hope that that

0:30:55.600 --> 0:31:01.840
<v Speaker 2>gives you some some form of, you know.

0:31:02.880 --> 0:31:07.920
<v Speaker 1>Clarity or or strength to keep going that like, you know,

0:31:07.960 --> 0:31:11.240
<v Speaker 1>you got plenty of time to fuck up your die again.

0:31:11.240 --> 0:31:12.840
<v Speaker 2>I think you're doing it right. I think you're doing

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<v Speaker 2>it right all right.

0:31:18.760 --> 0:31:25.040
<v Speaker 1>This is from Nick subject line lizard wisdom, your green holiness.

0:31:25.080 --> 0:31:26.760
<v Speaker 1>I don't know if I like that. My name is

0:31:26.880 --> 0:31:29.880
<v Speaker 1>Nick and I have been a big fan since twenty twenty.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you, Nick.

0:31:30.640 --> 0:31:32.200
<v Speaker 1>You were part of the reason I was inspired to

0:31:32.200 --> 0:31:35.160
<v Speaker 1>go to school and become a real therapist. Although I

0:31:35.200 --> 0:31:36.920
<v Speaker 1>am convinced that you are just as much of a

0:31:36.960 --> 0:31:40.720
<v Speaker 1>real therapist, just without the commitment to multiple sessions and

0:31:40.720 --> 0:31:42.600
<v Speaker 1>a button up shirt. I don't I don't know if

0:31:42.600 --> 0:31:45.920
<v Speaker 1>I like that either. I don't think I am, but

0:31:46.000 --> 0:31:48.360
<v Speaker 1>you know what, I'm sorry, I'm shitting on you. I

0:31:48.400 --> 0:31:51.840
<v Speaker 1>appreciate that the sentiment and intention of this email is

0:31:51.840 --> 0:31:55.400
<v Speaker 1>to be nice to me, so thank you Nick. Anyway,

0:31:55.400 --> 0:31:57.640
<v Speaker 1>my question for you is about my girlfriend. I've had

0:31:57.720 --> 0:32:00.880
<v Speaker 1>multiple long term relationships and was engaged two years ago.

0:32:01.240 --> 0:32:03.280
<v Speaker 1>I have been dating my current girlfriend for one year

0:32:03.320 --> 0:32:05.320
<v Speaker 1>and find that she has all of the qualities I

0:32:05.360 --> 0:32:08.440
<v Speaker 1>am looking for in a long term partner. The problem

0:32:08.480 --> 0:32:11.560
<v Speaker 1>is I constantly have dreams about my last girlfriend and

0:32:11.600 --> 0:32:17.000
<v Speaker 1>feel longing for what was lost. My last girlfriend was bipolar, unpredictable,

0:32:17.040 --> 0:32:19.200
<v Speaker 1>and riddled with flaws, and in no way do I

0:32:19.200 --> 0:32:21.800
<v Speaker 1>think our relationship could have ever worked out. But at

0:32:21.800 --> 0:32:25.960
<v Speaker 1>the same time, the feeling of love was overwhelming. The

0:32:26.040 --> 0:32:28.959
<v Speaker 1>question I have been struggling with is essentially, do you

0:32:29.040 --> 0:32:32.800
<v Speaker 1>think it's possible to grow in love with someone or

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<v Speaker 1>do you think it is pre determined?

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<v Speaker 2>Wow.

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<v Speaker 1>First of all, let me just say here. I know

0:32:40.760 --> 0:32:43.960
<v Speaker 1>that I know I'm a broken fucking record when it

0:32:43.960 --> 0:32:45.360
<v Speaker 1>comes to saying.

0:32:45.080 --> 0:32:51.440
<v Speaker 2>This, but I don't have any answer to this question.

0:32:51.520 --> 0:32:55.400
<v Speaker 1>These A lot of the questions that I come through

0:32:56.200 --> 0:32:59.080
<v Speaker 1>this podcast are not things I have any answers to.

0:32:59.160 --> 0:33:02.280
<v Speaker 1>But they are things actually that I myself think about

0:33:02.320 --> 0:33:04.320
<v Speaker 1>a lot. I think about this as it possible to

0:33:04.360 --> 0:33:06.320
<v Speaker 1>grow in love with someone or do you think it's predetermined?

0:33:06.680 --> 0:33:08.800
<v Speaker 1>And I've talked to friends about it, I've talked to

0:33:08.840 --> 0:33:11.480
<v Speaker 1>family about it, and I've, like you know, talk to

0:33:11.480 --> 0:33:13.680
<v Speaker 1>people on this podcast about it. And it's like, some

0:33:13.720 --> 0:33:16.719
<v Speaker 1>people believe that you can just decide to be in

0:33:16.760 --> 0:33:19.520
<v Speaker 1>love with someone. Some people believe it's a feeling that

0:33:19.560 --> 0:33:25.200
<v Speaker 1>you chase. Some people believe you know all sorts of

0:33:25.240 --> 0:33:30.720
<v Speaker 1>things right, And it's a little scary to think about

0:33:30.880 --> 0:33:37.280
<v Speaker 1>because nobody wants to make the wrong decision in their life, right,

0:33:40.280 --> 0:33:50.440
<v Speaker 1>and feelings are not always great at guiding us. But yeah,

0:33:50.480 --> 0:33:53.400
<v Speaker 1>I don't know if it's predetermined. I mean, I think

0:33:53.440 --> 0:33:55.320
<v Speaker 1>that there is a thing to be said about, like

0:33:55.440 --> 0:33:57.959
<v Speaker 1>the more time and energy that you I think there

0:33:58.000 --> 0:33:59.480
<v Speaker 1>is something to be said about like the more time

0:33:59.520 --> 0:34:02.800
<v Speaker 1>and energy you invest in a relationship, the more close

0:34:02.920 --> 0:34:07.800
<v Speaker 1>you will feel to a person. So in that case,

0:34:07.800 --> 0:34:14.000
<v Speaker 1>maybe it is possible to grow in love with someone.

0:34:14.080 --> 0:34:15.600
<v Speaker 2>But yeah, I don't know.

0:34:15.600 --> 0:34:18.120
<v Speaker 1>It sounds like you're pretty confident that your last relationship

0:34:18.120 --> 0:34:21.719
<v Speaker 1>could have never worked out, so I mean, that's good, right,

0:34:22.040 --> 0:34:24.680
<v Speaker 1>That's that's better than being like, ah, I fucked it up,

0:34:25.320 --> 0:34:27.680
<v Speaker 1>or I would have been beautiful if only I hadn't,

0:34:28.200 --> 0:34:30.200
<v Speaker 1>you know, been fucking.

0:34:31.640 --> 0:34:33.800
<v Speaker 2>Lazy or whatever.

0:34:34.160 --> 0:34:37.160
<v Speaker 1>You know, hopefully that helps you sleep better at night

0:34:37.800 --> 0:34:40.640
<v Speaker 1>is just knowing that it never would have worked out

0:34:40.640 --> 0:34:43.560
<v Speaker 1>in the first place. So you know, that's what I

0:34:43.600 --> 0:34:44.960
<v Speaker 1>would cling to if I were.

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<v Speaker 2>You, Nick. Let's see here, all right.

0:34:51.880 --> 0:34:55.080
<v Speaker 1>This is from Peebo, subject line I maybe having a

0:34:55.200 --> 0:34:59.600
<v Speaker 1>quarter life crisis. Hello Lyle. First of all, Happy New Year.

0:34:59.680 --> 0:35:00.960
<v Speaker 1>I hope you're doing well.

0:35:00.960 --> 0:35:01.279
<v Speaker 2>Thank you.

0:35:01.640 --> 0:35:04.040
<v Speaker 1>I am emailing to share some thoughts I've been having

0:35:04.080 --> 0:35:07.680
<v Speaker 1>about my career slash relationship and hear your inputs. I

0:35:07.680 --> 0:35:10.520
<v Speaker 1>am in a five year relationship that has been pretty good.

0:35:10.920 --> 0:35:13.200
<v Speaker 1>I am currently pursuing my masters, and I think I

0:35:13.200 --> 0:35:15.640
<v Speaker 1>have found something that I can consider a career in.

0:35:17.160 --> 0:35:20.200
<v Speaker 1>After I finish, I can start job hunting or apply

0:35:20.280 --> 0:35:24.760
<v Speaker 1>for a PhD. Getting a PhD is an insane commitment

0:35:24.800 --> 0:35:27.319
<v Speaker 1>of my time and may require me to move away if.

0:35:27.239 --> 0:35:28.920
<v Speaker 2>I don't get into a local school.

0:35:29.200 --> 0:35:31.319
<v Speaker 1>If I have to move, my boyfriend can't follow me

0:35:31.360 --> 0:35:33.799
<v Speaker 1>because he owns a business. My boyfriend doesn't want me

0:35:33.840 --> 0:35:35.880
<v Speaker 1>to apply for programs far away because he thinks our

0:35:35.880 --> 0:35:38.920
<v Speaker 1>relationship could end. I never moved away from home, so

0:35:38.920 --> 0:35:41.000
<v Speaker 1>I'm interested in taking the opportunity to do so.

0:35:41.160 --> 0:35:41.920
<v Speaker 2>PhD or not.

0:35:42.440 --> 0:35:44.880
<v Speaker 1>I want to move out after I finish my current degree.

0:35:45.200 --> 0:35:47.280
<v Speaker 1>My boyfriend wants to wait to buy a house together

0:35:47.560 --> 0:35:49.960
<v Speaker 1>rather than rent. There's nothing wrong with this, but he

0:35:50.000 --> 0:35:53.040
<v Speaker 1>continues to invest money, so I cannot see how we

0:35:53.080 --> 0:35:54.920
<v Speaker 1>move out in the next few years. And I don't

0:35:54.960 --> 0:35:57.600
<v Speaker 1>want to live at home in my thirties. I know

0:35:57.640 --> 0:35:59.400
<v Speaker 1>if I stayed, it would be an easier choice, but

0:35:59.440 --> 0:36:01.200
<v Speaker 1>part of me wants to try doing this alone if

0:36:01.200 --> 0:36:04.760
<v Speaker 1>you won't come with me. I have sort of breached

0:36:05.000 --> 0:36:08.160
<v Speaker 1>the subject before, but it ends in him being upset.

0:36:09.120 --> 0:36:11.080
<v Speaker 1>Sometimes I doubt I would even do well in a

0:36:11.120 --> 0:36:13.759
<v Speaker 1>PhD program, so maybe it is better to stay and

0:36:13.800 --> 0:36:16.719
<v Speaker 1>find work. Also, it is hard to imagine my life

0:36:16.760 --> 0:36:19.799
<v Speaker 1>without him. He is my best friend. I feel pretty

0:36:19.800 --> 0:36:23.080
<v Speaker 1>guilty for feeling this way. PhD applications are due in

0:36:23.120 --> 0:36:25.759
<v Speaker 1>December twenty twenty five, but I would not start the

0:36:25.760 --> 0:36:28.839
<v Speaker 1>program until fall of twenty twenty six. Sounds far away,

0:36:28.880 --> 0:36:30.880
<v Speaker 1>but I know it will come quickly. Also, I forgot

0:36:30.920 --> 0:36:33.160
<v Speaker 1>to mention, but I am twenty five. He is in

0:36:33.160 --> 0:36:43.000
<v Speaker 1>his early thirties. Best peebo. You know, it's funny when

0:36:43.000 --> 0:36:47.040
<v Speaker 1>I first started doing this podcast and this kind of

0:36:47.040 --> 0:36:54.320
<v Speaker 1>shit would come through. I'm not going to disclaim anymore

0:36:54.440 --> 0:36:56.160
<v Speaker 1>the fact that I don't know what I'm talking about,

0:36:56.200 --> 0:36:59.040
<v Speaker 1>but it comes inherent for me to be able to

0:36:59.120 --> 0:37:01.759
<v Speaker 1>do this. But I don't know what I even just

0:37:01.760 --> 0:37:03.680
<v Speaker 1>I don't. I don't think what I just said made

0:37:03.680 --> 0:37:05.440
<v Speaker 1>any sense, but I did record it and I am

0:37:05.520 --> 0:37:11.040
<v Speaker 1>putting it on the internet anyway. You know, it's funny

0:37:11.760 --> 0:37:14.080
<v Speaker 1>when I first started doing this and shit like this

0:37:14.120 --> 0:37:16.400
<v Speaker 1>would come by, I would always kind of instantly be like,

0:37:17.080 --> 0:37:22.760
<v Speaker 1>you know, always always go for the thing that gives

0:37:22.800 --> 0:37:30.560
<v Speaker 1>you personal growth over like anything else, especially goddamn especially

0:37:30.600 --> 0:37:33.879
<v Speaker 1>if you're young. I again, I'll speak from my own

0:37:33.920 --> 0:37:39.840
<v Speaker 1>lived experience, right is, like I specifically always wanted to

0:37:39.920 --> 0:37:42.760
<v Speaker 1>like leave home. I always wanted to see the world.

0:37:42.920 --> 0:37:46.520
<v Speaker 1>I felt like, you'll only live once. You should see

0:37:46.560 --> 0:37:50.760
<v Speaker 1>the world that you live in. It's it's pretty crazy

0:37:50.800 --> 0:37:53.000
<v Speaker 1>out there. You should you should, just if you just

0:37:53.320 --> 0:37:57.399
<v Speaker 1>fucking never leave the town that you grew up in

0:37:58.160 --> 0:38:04.440
<v Speaker 1>and you just stay there, you're not getting the full

0:38:05.280 --> 0:38:08.160
<v Speaker 1>experience of life right.

0:38:09.520 --> 0:38:09.800
<v Speaker 2>Now.

0:38:11.400 --> 0:38:13.279
<v Speaker 1>You know, I'm thinking because because that's what I would

0:38:13.280 --> 0:38:15.919
<v Speaker 1>have said a few years ago.

0:38:16.760 --> 0:38:19.880
<v Speaker 2>But now after myself having lived.

0:38:21.040 --> 0:38:23.879
<v Speaker 1>A life where I'm kind of running around everywhere, part

0:38:23.880 --> 0:38:26.000
<v Speaker 1>of me is like, oh, you know, there is something

0:38:26.280 --> 0:38:33.600
<v Speaker 1>about staying in the community that you already have because

0:38:33.920 --> 0:38:38.160
<v Speaker 1>it's comforting. But I still and I'm thinking about it

0:38:38.200 --> 0:38:40.040
<v Speaker 1>right You're making me think about it right now. You're

0:38:40.040 --> 0:38:42.240
<v Speaker 1>making me think about it right now, And I still

0:38:42.280 --> 0:38:44.799
<v Speaker 1>fucking think it's all gonna be easier said than done.

0:38:44.840 --> 0:38:47.800
<v Speaker 1>But I still fucking think, dude, if you've never left,

0:38:48.520 --> 0:38:53.479
<v Speaker 1>if you've never left, I think it's worth it to leave,

0:38:54.280 --> 0:38:58.320
<v Speaker 1>you know. I mean what I just said about sticking

0:38:58.360 --> 0:39:00.520
<v Speaker 1>around a place for a while and building community and

0:39:00.800 --> 0:39:03.720
<v Speaker 1>building relationships and stuff. It's like, that's that's always gonna

0:39:03.760 --> 0:39:09.520
<v Speaker 1>be an option, right And once you're in that and

0:39:09.719 --> 0:39:12.120
<v Speaker 1>you have a whatever the fuck I mean, honestly, not

0:39:12.160 --> 0:39:13.640
<v Speaker 1>even once you're in that and you have a whatever

0:39:13.640 --> 0:39:17.719
<v Speaker 1>the fuck you, there's always gonna be opportunities to explore

0:39:17.760 --> 0:39:19.359
<v Speaker 1>and grow and do shit.

0:39:22.360 --> 0:39:24.080
<v Speaker 2>I kind of have.

0:39:24.400 --> 0:39:29.080
<v Speaker 1>A bit of a thing in my gut and brain

0:39:29.200 --> 0:39:34.759
<v Speaker 1>when it comes to relationships and whatnot of like if

0:39:34.800 --> 0:39:38.440
<v Speaker 1>it's meant to be, it's meant to be, you know,

0:39:39.800 --> 0:39:41.640
<v Speaker 1>like part of me thinks.

0:39:42.000 --> 0:39:43.320
<v Speaker 2>And this kind of goes back.

0:39:43.160 --> 0:39:47.399
<v Speaker 1>To what we were talking about on the other email, of

0:39:47.520 --> 0:39:49.680
<v Speaker 1>like is how much of the shit is predetermined?

0:39:51.320 --> 0:39:53.480
<v Speaker 2>I way back and forth between whether or not we

0:39:53.560 --> 0:39:54.120
<v Speaker 2>live in a.

0:39:55.680 --> 0:39:58.959
<v Speaker 1>There's the idea that we live in like complete utter

0:39:59.200 --> 0:40:04.960
<v Speaker 1>chaos universe and there does exist such a thing as

0:40:05.040 --> 0:40:11.920
<v Speaker 1>the wrong decision and everything's fucking completely random, you know,

0:40:12.600 --> 0:40:16.600
<v Speaker 1>the whole Rick and Morty thing. Nobody belongs anywhere, nothing

0:40:16.680 --> 0:40:18.359
<v Speaker 1>is on purpose, We're all gonna die kind of shit.

0:40:19.440 --> 0:40:22.040
<v Speaker 1>And then I sort of I'm so I'm between that

0:40:22.400 --> 0:40:27.400
<v Speaker 1>and between like this kind of feeling of hopefulness that

0:40:27.520 --> 0:40:30.839
<v Speaker 1>like not so much that there's like a predetermined order

0:40:31.520 --> 0:40:38.120
<v Speaker 1>to how the world works, but that like human beings

0:40:38.400 --> 0:40:45.279
<v Speaker 1>are adaptable and like enter I really don't mean this

0:40:45.360 --> 0:40:47.160
<v Speaker 1>in a woo woo sense. I really mean this in

0:40:47.560 --> 0:40:50.880
<v Speaker 1>kind of like a like a logistical grounded thing, like

0:40:51.680 --> 0:40:56.760
<v Speaker 1>people's brains are wired in certain ways, and like institutions

0:40:57.280 --> 0:41:00.960
<v Speaker 1>and places are wired in certain ways, and there's just

0:41:01.000 --> 0:41:05.640
<v Speaker 1>this like mathematical equation that occurs when the ways in

0:41:05.719 --> 0:41:09.120
<v Speaker 1>which people and things and places and institutions are wired

0:41:09.360 --> 0:41:12.680
<v Speaker 1>connect with each other, and that mathematical equation has a

0:41:12.840 --> 0:41:15.719
<v Speaker 1>has an equal sign and it's gonna equal whatever the

0:41:15.760 --> 0:41:18.319
<v Speaker 1>fuck it's gonna equal anyway, meaning that if things were

0:41:18.400 --> 0:41:20.319
<v Speaker 1>gonna work out, then they would have, and if they

0:41:21.200 --> 0:41:23.600
<v Speaker 1>didn't work out, they never meant they never were meant

0:41:23.600 --> 0:41:23.799
<v Speaker 1>to be.

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<v Speaker 2>I know what I just said sounded like a woo

0:41:26.480 --> 0:41:27.319
<v Speaker 2>woo thing, but I don't.

0:41:27.360 --> 0:41:29.920
<v Speaker 1>I think it is like a logistic I think what

0:41:29.960 --> 0:41:32.520
<v Speaker 1>I just said made fucking sense, right, Because you're who

0:41:32.520 --> 0:41:34.560
<v Speaker 1>you are in a sense, and your brain works the

0:41:34.560 --> 0:41:36.400
<v Speaker 1>way it does in a sense. And your boyfriend is

0:41:36.400 --> 0:41:38.239
<v Speaker 1>who he is in a sense, and his brain works

0:41:38.280 --> 0:41:39.600
<v Speaker 1>the way it is in a sense, and he has

0:41:39.640 --> 0:41:41.160
<v Speaker 1>his own life and you have your own life, and

0:41:41.160 --> 0:41:44.520
<v Speaker 1>they kind of gel and mesh and in a perfect

0:41:44.520 --> 0:41:47.280
<v Speaker 1>beautiful world where everything always works out forever and always

0:41:47.960 --> 0:41:54.920
<v Speaker 1>things will work out. But just like empirically, sometimes the energies.

0:41:56.440 --> 0:41:57.680
<v Speaker 2>In the paths.

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<v Speaker 1>Divulge, and maybe they divulge for a moment, and people

0:42:04.160 --> 0:42:06.440
<v Speaker 1>find their way back to each other, and life is

0:42:06.520 --> 0:42:11.719
<v Speaker 1>kind of weird and and crazy like that. But that

0:42:11.800 --> 0:42:21.759
<v Speaker 1>whole rant is all to say that, you know, if

0:42:21.760 --> 0:42:25.200
<v Speaker 1>you never left your fucking hometown before, I mean, go

0:42:25.680 --> 0:42:31.120
<v Speaker 1>try it, just try it. Not everyone's built not everyone's

0:42:31.239 --> 0:42:33.279
<v Speaker 1>like built for it, not not even a in a

0:42:33.440 --> 0:42:35.560
<v Speaker 1>like being able to handle it sense, but in a

0:42:35.680 --> 0:42:38.240
<v Speaker 1>being able in a whether or not leaving your hometown

0:42:38.239 --> 0:42:39.360
<v Speaker 1>brings you happiness sense.

0:42:39.880 --> 0:42:41.799
<v Speaker 2>But if you don't know, I mean, you should give

0:42:41.800 --> 0:42:43.680
<v Speaker 2>it a try. I don't know.

0:42:43.840 --> 0:42:45.719
<v Speaker 1>I hope, my I hope, I hope. I don't have

0:42:46.200 --> 0:42:48.239
<v Speaker 1>Please don't listen to this because I don't. I don't

0:42:48.239 --> 0:42:52.560
<v Speaker 1>want to take any responsibility for any any decisions you

0:42:52.600 --> 0:42:54.399
<v Speaker 1>might make with your life.

0:42:55.400 --> 0:43:00.200
<v Speaker 2>That's the that's the that's the truth. Okay, all right,

0:43:00.239 --> 0:43:03.480
<v Speaker 2>let's keep going. All right.

0:43:03.520 --> 0:43:07.359
<v Speaker 1>This is from Okay, this is from Brian. Hey gek,

0:43:07.480 --> 0:43:09.600
<v Speaker 1>you can choose a name for me. I got chased

0:43:09.600 --> 0:43:11.719
<v Speaker 1>by a black bear back in the summer, and now

0:43:11.760 --> 0:43:15.040
<v Speaker 1>every time I walk the route where I was chased,

0:43:15.440 --> 0:43:18.480
<v Speaker 1>I relive each terrifying step I took as I ran away.

0:43:18.960 --> 0:43:22.880
<v Speaker 1>I live in constant fear while walking slash running that

0:43:23.000 --> 0:43:25.160
<v Speaker 1>a black bear will jump out of the bush.

0:43:24.920 --> 0:43:25.440
<v Speaker 2>And eat me.

0:43:26.680 --> 0:43:32.360
<v Speaker 1>That's the whole fucking email, all right. I think I

0:43:32.400 --> 0:43:35.279
<v Speaker 1>did my job by just simply reading that. I don't

0:43:35.280 --> 0:43:43.240
<v Speaker 1>know if I need any further context or things to say.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, it's from Dante, subject line a problem around Oh,

0:43:48.280 --> 0:43:49.799
<v Speaker 1>I just remembered what I wanted to say about that

0:43:49.840 --> 0:43:52.440
<v Speaker 1>last email. Well, go watch the Revenant. Actually, don't watch

0:43:52.480 --> 0:43:54.759
<v Speaker 1>the Revenant. That'll make your life. That'll make you It'll

0:43:54.760 --> 0:43:55.520
<v Speaker 1>make things worse.

0:43:55.680 --> 0:43:56.000
<v Speaker 2>Okay.

0:43:56.040 --> 0:43:59.839
<v Speaker 1>From Dante, subject line A problem around work slash relaxation.

0:44:01.680 --> 0:44:02.719
<v Speaker 2>Hey, gek, big fan.

0:44:02.880 --> 0:44:05.640
<v Speaker 1>I've gotten into a bad habit of watching productivity and

0:44:05.680 --> 0:44:08.239
<v Speaker 1>self help content, and now I am split when it

0:44:08.280 --> 0:44:11.720
<v Speaker 1>comes to how I should conduct my life. On one hand,

0:44:11.840 --> 0:44:15.279
<v Speaker 1>I enjoy working hard and building towards something over time,

0:44:15.840 --> 0:44:19.000
<v Speaker 1>but having every bit of mental focus fixated on achieving

0:44:19.040 --> 0:44:23.120
<v Speaker 1>something often makes me stressed out, and eventually I resent.

0:44:22.920 --> 0:44:24.719
<v Speaker 2>What I work towards. Ooh.

0:44:24.800 --> 0:44:27.319
<v Speaker 1>I can also relax occasionally, but I get bored very

0:44:27.360 --> 0:44:29.600
<v Speaker 1>easily if I don't have something to put my mind towards,

0:44:29.760 --> 0:44:32.040
<v Speaker 1>and I get uncomfortable on holidays because they mess up

0:44:32.080 --> 0:44:35.160
<v Speaker 1>the momentum of what I'm working on. At first, I

0:44:35.160 --> 0:44:36.879
<v Speaker 1>thought it was either because I wasn't pushing hard enough

0:44:36.960 --> 0:44:38.880
<v Speaker 1>or not fully relaxing enough, But now I think the

0:44:38.920 --> 0:44:40.600
<v Speaker 1>fact that I watch a lot of this content makes

0:44:40.600 --> 0:44:42.560
<v Speaker 1>me ultra conscious of everything I do and how I'm

0:44:42.560 --> 0:44:45.840
<v Speaker 1>spending every bit of time. That's the whole email, Dante.

0:44:45.960 --> 0:44:47.560
<v Speaker 1>I'm with you, my brother.

0:44:48.440 --> 0:44:48.920
<v Speaker 2>I am.

0:44:50.719 --> 0:44:56.840
<v Speaker 1>Highly relate to several of the aspects of this email.

0:44:57.360 --> 0:45:00.600
<v Speaker 1>I highly relate to it. I think they answer is

0:45:01.920 --> 0:45:05.960
<v Speaker 1>probably just balance, right. I think the answer is just balance,

0:45:08.760 --> 0:45:19.920
<v Speaker 1>you know, like being able to being able to, like, okay,

0:45:20.040 --> 0:45:24.440
<v Speaker 1>get some ship done during the day, right, so that

0:45:24.480 --> 0:45:28.319
<v Speaker 1>you can feel as though you got what you if

0:45:28.360 --> 0:45:30.600
<v Speaker 1>it feels like you've got some ship done that day

0:45:31.320 --> 0:45:34.240
<v Speaker 1>and then at night you can go party or relax

0:45:34.360 --> 0:45:36.400
<v Speaker 1>or do whatever the fuck it is you're gonna do.

0:45:36.600 --> 0:45:39.480
<v Speaker 1>So uh, I mean, that's that's that's the word here.

0:45:40.080 --> 0:45:46.600
<v Speaker 1>I think it would be balance because because it's it's

0:45:46.640 --> 0:45:51.439
<v Speaker 1>way easier to enjoy, uh, being on holiday or being

0:45:51.560 --> 0:45:55.200
<v Speaker 1>up in the club or whatever, if you don't have

0:45:55.320 --> 0:45:58.400
<v Speaker 1>this nagging feeling like your homework isn't done. That that

0:45:58.440 --> 0:46:01.480
<v Speaker 1>whole kind of nagging, my homework isn't done feelings has

0:46:01.680 --> 0:46:05.600
<v Speaker 1>you know, been with me forever? So I feel you, so,

0:46:06.000 --> 0:46:07.799
<v Speaker 1>you know, I guess the answer is just try to

0:46:08.080 --> 0:46:09.960
<v Speaker 1>try to have some balance and do your homework during

0:46:10.000 --> 0:46:15.720
<v Speaker 1>the day. Okay, this is from Jake. Subject line, life

0:46:15.800 --> 0:46:18.920
<v Speaker 1>is pretty sweet, to be honest. Okay, thank God. We

0:46:19.000 --> 0:46:22.240
<v Speaker 1>needed this. We absolutely needed this. We needed some hope

0:46:22.800 --> 0:46:27.239
<v Speaker 1>this episode. Please dear God. Okay, Hey, GHEK. My name

0:46:27.320 --> 0:46:29.480
<v Speaker 1>is Jake. I was at your live show in La

0:46:29.600 --> 0:46:31.680
<v Speaker 1>last November, and like I said, life is awesome.

0:46:31.760 --> 0:46:32.200
<v Speaker 2>Right now.

0:46:32.440 --> 0:46:35.840
<v Speaker 1>I work at a chain pizza place, probably getting paid

0:46:35.880 --> 0:46:37.960
<v Speaker 1>too much and getting away with too much. And I'm

0:46:37.960 --> 0:46:40.640
<v Speaker 1>picking up a second job at a family owned cheese

0:46:40.640 --> 0:46:44.960
<v Speaker 1>steak spot, which I'm excited about. I've been super consistent

0:46:45.000 --> 0:46:48.880
<v Speaker 1>with Jim and hobbies too. I'm now sixty five days

0:46:48.880 --> 0:46:51.680
<v Speaker 1>sober from weed brenth Seas. It was a very negative

0:46:51.680 --> 0:46:54.680
<v Speaker 1>force in my life. I still get a bit lonely

0:46:54.719 --> 0:46:57.440
<v Speaker 1>and sad and junk and have days off, but I

0:46:57.440 --> 0:47:01.799
<v Speaker 1>have never felt so consistently content and genuinely happy day

0:47:01.800 --> 0:47:02.320
<v Speaker 1>to day.

0:47:02.560 --> 0:47:02.960
<v Speaker 2>Wow.

0:47:03.719 --> 0:47:06.400
<v Speaker 1>It's still a bit of a foreign feeling, to be honest,

0:47:06.680 --> 0:47:08.600
<v Speaker 1>I don't really know where this momentum came from, but

0:47:08.600 --> 0:47:10.320
<v Speaker 1>I'm trying to make the most of it before I

0:47:10.440 --> 0:47:13.160
<v Speaker 1>end up on another trough. To be honest, I don't

0:47:13.200 --> 0:47:15.200
<v Speaker 1>have much else to say, I just don't have anyone

0:47:15.239 --> 0:47:18.560
<v Speaker 1>to really talk about this with. One vice I still

0:47:18.560 --> 0:47:20.560
<v Speaker 1>have is doom scrolling. And one of my New Year's

0:47:20.600 --> 0:47:23.920
<v Speaker 1>resolutions was to consume better media like movies or video

0:47:23.960 --> 0:47:28.279
<v Speaker 1>games with more intention yeah yeah, rather than scrolling and

0:47:28.320 --> 0:47:30.400
<v Speaker 1>gaining nothing from it. So that's the fucking thing, right

0:47:30.480 --> 0:47:31.920
<v Speaker 1>is You'll be like, oh, I don't have time to

0:47:32.080 --> 0:47:34.040
<v Speaker 1>watch a movie, and then you'll scroll on your phone

0:47:34.080 --> 0:47:36.000
<v Speaker 1>for like two hours and it's like you didn't even

0:47:36.360 --> 0:47:37.160
<v Speaker 1>consume anything.

0:47:37.239 --> 0:47:40.320
<v Speaker 2>You just went crazy. Maybe a silly.

0:47:40.080 --> 0:47:42.600
<v Speaker 1>Resolution compared to most, but I'm a pretty big believer

0:47:42.719 --> 0:47:45.359
<v Speaker 1>in that what we consume molds us in a lot

0:47:45.360 --> 0:47:48.040
<v Speaker 1>of ways. So I'll end this by asking what are

0:47:48.040 --> 0:47:50.960
<v Speaker 1>some recommendations of games or media that has moved you

0:47:51.120 --> 0:47:53.279
<v Speaker 1>or stuck with you through the years, or even just

0:47:53.280 --> 0:47:58.439
<v Speaker 1>a recent obsession. I never had the chance to try

0:47:58.480 --> 0:48:00.000
<v Speaker 1>and call in, so I wanted to try to send

0:48:00.040 --> 0:48:02.279
<v Speaker 1>an email. And I know it's a broken record, but

0:48:02.280 --> 0:48:03.840
<v Speaker 1>you help pass the time so much and give me

0:48:03.880 --> 0:48:07.040
<v Speaker 1>interesting perspectives on things along with your callers. Love the show,

0:48:07.080 --> 0:48:10.000
<v Speaker 1>hope things are going good, get blessed. Thank you, Jake.

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<v Speaker 1>I would say, well, okay, my number one video game

0:48:14.840 --> 0:48:20.640
<v Speaker 1>recommendation is red de Redemption two. Read Redemption two is

0:48:20.640 --> 0:48:22.560
<v Speaker 1>the greatest video game ever made.

0:48:22.800 --> 0:48:23.520
<v Speaker 2>I'm a big fan.

0:48:23.560 --> 0:48:25.759
<v Speaker 1>I'm trying to think of any other Well, I don't

0:48:25.760 --> 0:48:27.360
<v Speaker 1>know what you have. I don't know if you're a

0:48:27.400 --> 0:48:34.040
<v Speaker 1>PC guy, PlayStation guy, switch person. I was just playing

0:48:34.080 --> 0:48:40.000
<v Speaker 1>Little Nightmares on the Switch before I came to Japan.

0:48:41.920 --> 0:48:47.000
<v Speaker 1>There's a lot of great Zelda games. BioShock is very good.

0:48:49.960 --> 0:48:52.040
<v Speaker 1>What else, man, what else?

0:48:53.400 --> 0:48:55.640
<v Speaker 2>That's my main one. Read Redemption two. Jake.

0:48:56.360 --> 0:48:58.600
<v Speaker 1>If you think life is pretty sweet, now just wait

0:48:58.719 --> 0:49:04.120
<v Speaker 1>until you're playing red Redemption to But uh, anyway, in overall,

0:49:04.160 --> 0:49:06.680
<v Speaker 1>thank you for sharing this, Jake. This is cool. I like.

0:49:08.760 --> 0:49:10.799
<v Speaker 2>Hearing a little bit of hope, right.

0:49:11.080 --> 0:49:14.279
<v Speaker 1>That's all that fucking goddamn matters at the end of

0:49:14.320 --> 0:49:17.320
<v Speaker 1>the day, is just being able to like when somebody

0:49:17.360 --> 0:49:22.080
<v Speaker 1>asks you how you're doing, being able to be like, yeah,

0:49:22.120 --> 0:49:27.840
<v Speaker 1>I'm doing good. I'm not going completely insane. I feel stable,

0:49:28.320 --> 0:49:33.680
<v Speaker 1>I feel happy. So that's the best thing, Jake. So

0:49:33.960 --> 0:49:37.520
<v Speaker 1>I'm proud of you, man, I'm happy for you. All right,

0:49:38.760 --> 0:49:42.880
<v Speaker 1>all right. This is from Brett subject line Stepdad at nineteen.

0:49:44.520 --> 0:49:47.000
<v Speaker 1>I'm twenty two now. But when I was nineteen. I

0:49:47.040 --> 0:49:49.000
<v Speaker 1>met a girl on Tinder and went to her house

0:49:49.040 --> 0:49:52.080
<v Speaker 1>one night and just kind of never left and started

0:49:52.120 --> 0:49:58.080
<v Speaker 1>living with her whoa. She had two toddlers, two and three.

0:49:58.560 --> 0:50:01.680
<v Speaker 1>She was also still marry, but they separated only a

0:50:01.680 --> 0:50:04.520
<v Speaker 1>week or two before we got together. I paid all

0:50:04.520 --> 0:50:06.680
<v Speaker 1>the bills and cleaned the house as much as I could,

0:50:07.040 --> 0:50:09.120
<v Speaker 1>but lo all got to be too much after about

0:50:09.120 --> 0:50:11.799
<v Speaker 1>a year and we broke up. Worst part is our

0:50:11.880 --> 0:50:14.279
<v Speaker 1>husband moved into the same apartments as us a few

0:50:14.280 --> 0:50:17.719
<v Speaker 1>months after we got together, and their relationship was just

0:50:17.760 --> 0:50:21.520
<v Speaker 1>more toxic. One of the worst years of my life.

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<v Speaker 1>Ten out of ten. Wouldn't recommend. I think that you

0:50:24.920 --> 0:50:28.680
<v Speaker 1>meant to put zero out of ten. Wouldn't recommend. Ps

0:50:28.719 --> 0:50:30.480
<v Speaker 1>please put this on the podcast if you read it.

0:50:30.520 --> 0:50:32.680
<v Speaker 1>I work crazy hours and won't be able to watch

0:50:32.760 --> 0:50:36.960
<v Speaker 1>the stream. God damn, that is a crazy story.

0:50:37.360 --> 0:50:37.880
<v Speaker 2>My friend.

0:50:40.080 --> 0:50:44.160
<v Speaker 1>You just winter house and you never left. Wow, a

0:50:44.239 --> 0:50:46.919
<v Speaker 1>forever tender date. If this wasn't one of the worst

0:50:47.280 --> 0:50:49.160
<v Speaker 1>years of your life, I would I would think that

0:50:49.160 --> 0:50:52.600
<v Speaker 1>that was kind of romantic actually, but no, it's probably not.

0:50:53.600 --> 0:50:53.839
<v Speaker 2>Okay.

0:50:53.840 --> 0:50:57.360
<v Speaker 1>I'm glad you're out of there. At least Brett keep

0:50:57.520 --> 0:51:00.560
<v Speaker 1>keep keep keep doing your best, keep your best.

0:51:01.160 --> 0:51:10.839
<v Speaker 2>Holy shit? All right, all right?

0:51:10.920 --> 0:51:15.960
<v Speaker 1>This next email subject line solo travel advice. Hey Geck,

0:51:16.040 --> 0:51:18.760
<v Speaker 1>my name is Colin and I'm twenty three years young.

0:51:19.160 --> 0:51:21.480
<v Speaker 1>I got my first big boy job this year, and

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<v Speaker 1>with that comes PTO. I want to do a lot

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<v Speaker 1>more traveling. The only place I've ever been outside the

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<v Speaker 1>US is Canada. Exotic, right, I firmly believe traveling is

0:51:31.719 --> 0:51:35.880
<v Speaker 1>a salient component of experiencing this thing we call life. However,

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<v Speaker 1>I have no clue where to start. Do you have

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<v Speaker 1>any advice on solo traveling, such as types of activities

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<v Speaker 1>to do, how to find places to stay, communications and

0:51:43.280 --> 0:51:46.560
<v Speaker 1>countries that don't particularly speak English, etc. I know you've

0:51:46.560 --> 0:51:48.640
<v Speaker 1>spent a lot of time in Japan recently, and that's

0:51:48.640 --> 0:51:51.279
<v Speaker 1>my number one location, but I'm so bad at Japanese.

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<v Speaker 1>I love your show, been listening for ages. Keep up

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<v Speaker 1>the great work.

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<v Speaker 2>PS.

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<v Speaker 1>What do you think of the name Colin? I think

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<v Speaker 1>it's very unique. The name Colin is not unique at all.

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<v Speaker 2>Sorry.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know why I had to be brutally honest

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<v Speaker 1>with you about that, but yeah, I know a lot

0:52:06.280 --> 0:52:09.680
<v Speaker 1>of Collins, not personally, but anyway, anyway, Okay, let's okay,

0:52:09.719 --> 0:52:13.120
<v Speaker 1>let's talk about what the actual email is about. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean I can talk a little bit about solo travel.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe maybe we can end this episode by talking about

0:52:18.640 --> 0:52:23.680
<v Speaker 1>some solo travel shit. I will say this, if that's

0:52:23.760 --> 0:52:28.040
<v Speaker 1>your number one location, go there first, right, go there first.

0:52:28.160 --> 0:52:32.000
<v Speaker 1>If you're asking me, like, where is the best place? Well, okay,

0:52:32.040 --> 0:52:36.000
<v Speaker 1>it depends, So let's let's talk about this. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>really know which kind of solo traveler you are personally.

0:52:39.440 --> 0:52:42.479
<v Speaker 1>There's there's like two kinds of solo travelers, right. There's

0:52:42.520 --> 0:52:45.640
<v Speaker 1>like solo travelers who when they say solo travel, they

0:52:45.719 --> 0:52:48.799
<v Speaker 1>mean it right. They just want to like go to

0:52:48.880 --> 0:52:52.239
<v Speaker 1>a foreign country and do shit alone and like eat

0:52:52.320 --> 0:52:59.680
<v Speaker 1>alone and go see attractions alone and just fully honestly

0:52:59.719 --> 0:53:02.080
<v Speaker 1>have a trip alone. And then there's people who solo

0:53:02.160 --> 0:53:06.160
<v Speaker 1>travel specifically to meet other people. And those are the

0:53:06.160 --> 0:53:09.320
<v Speaker 1>people who stay in hostels and go on the big

0:53:09.480 --> 0:53:13.680
<v Speaker 1>group guided tours and go to the meetups and try

0:53:13.680 --> 0:53:15.920
<v Speaker 1>to meet people and like the whole point of traveling

0:53:15.960 --> 0:53:21.160
<v Speaker 1>alone is to like get into adventures and meet new people.

0:53:21.239 --> 0:53:25.440
<v Speaker 1>And you know, purse, everyone's different personally. The ladder is

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<v Speaker 1>the kind of solo traveling that I like to do,

0:53:28.440 --> 0:53:35.160
<v Speaker 1>especially when I was in younger and you know, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean that's the kind of solo traveling that I

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<v Speaker 1>like to do that I think is rewarding and fun.

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<v Speaker 1>I will say Japan, and some people might not agree

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<v Speaker 1>with this, Japan is probably not the best place for

0:53:49.880 --> 0:53:52.279
<v Speaker 1>that kind of solo traveling. The best place for that

0:53:52.360 --> 0:53:55.719
<v Speaker 1>kind of solo traveling might be like Europe or you know,

0:53:55.719 --> 0:54:00.440
<v Speaker 1>you can go to Paris or Italy or Amsterdam is

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<v Speaker 1>fucking great for that shit. I had a great solo

0:54:03.400 --> 0:54:08.919
<v Speaker 1>travel experience in Amsterdam. But again, if your number one

0:54:08.960 --> 0:54:13.320
<v Speaker 1>location is Japan, then you can still go there and

0:54:13.400 --> 0:54:16.760
<v Speaker 1>you can still meet people and do things. So let's see,

0:54:17.200 --> 0:54:19.239
<v Speaker 1>you asked me a bunch of specific questions. You were like,

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<v Speaker 1>how to find places to stay? If I were you,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna give a shout out to hostileworld dot com.

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<v Speaker 1>Hostileworld dot com. Uh, and you can find these hostels

0:54:31.800 --> 0:54:34.239
<v Speaker 1>right where it's like you have one bed in a

0:54:34.320 --> 0:54:39.280
<v Speaker 1>room full of a bunch of beds, and oftentimes the accommodations.

0:54:38.520 --> 0:54:40.360
<v Speaker 2>Are pretty fucking cheap.

0:54:41.040 --> 0:54:44.040
<v Speaker 1>They're pretty fucking cheap, and the best part is that

0:54:44.280 --> 0:54:46.920
<v Speaker 1>you will be in a room with a bunch of

0:54:47.000 --> 0:54:50.000
<v Speaker 1>other people and there might be a common area, and

0:54:50.640 --> 0:54:54.800
<v Speaker 1>a lot of these hostels, especially the more like party hostile,

0:54:54.920 --> 0:55:03.920
<v Speaker 1>solo travelly advertised hostels, they they are kind of like

0:55:04.360 --> 0:55:07.000
<v Speaker 1>geared towards people who are traveling alone and trying to

0:55:07.000 --> 0:55:08.520
<v Speaker 1>meet people. So a lot of times they'll put on

0:55:08.640 --> 0:55:12.440
<v Speaker 1>dinners or they'll put on events. And so if I

0:55:12.480 --> 0:55:16.160
<v Speaker 1>were you, I would go on hostile world dot com

0:55:16.719 --> 0:55:20.680
<v Speaker 1>and search for like Tokyo and see if you can

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<v Speaker 1>find the kinds of hostiles that put on events.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think.

0:55:26.120 --> 0:55:29.120
<v Speaker 1>Japan is very like known for that kind of hostile.

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<v Speaker 1>I've stayed at hostels in Japan before and they weren't

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<v Speaker 1>as socially oriented as some hostels that I've stayed in

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<v Speaker 1>in like Thailand or Europe. But if Japan it's just

0:55:44.440 --> 0:55:46.560
<v Speaker 1>like the place you want to fucking go, you should

0:55:46.600 --> 0:55:49.960
<v Speaker 1>just go because the cool I think for you, the

0:55:50.000 --> 0:55:52.120
<v Speaker 1>thing is gonna be like you're gonna show up and

0:55:52.160 --> 0:55:54.040
<v Speaker 1>you've never left the country before, You're gonna show up

0:55:54.040 --> 0:55:56.359
<v Speaker 1>and you're just gonna be like, oh, I gotta walk around.

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<v Speaker 1>So when it comes to like types of activities to do,

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<v Speaker 1>if I were you, I would just like like book

0:56:01.280 --> 0:56:05.640
<v Speaker 1>your fucking flight, book your fucking hostile.

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<v Speaker 2>And uh uh I don't.

0:56:08.120 --> 0:56:11.080
<v Speaker 1>You don't have to go scour the internet or scour

0:56:11.160 --> 0:56:13.919
<v Speaker 1>TikTok for like the best things to do. I would

0:56:13.960 --> 0:56:17.480
<v Speaker 1>just like pick neighborhoods and start walking around them, you know,

0:56:17.640 --> 0:56:22.759
<v Speaker 1>for Japan, for Tokyo, I mean Akihabara or Osaksa or

0:56:22.800 --> 0:56:25.680
<v Speaker 1>shibuyash and Juku. You just fucking show up and just

0:56:25.840 --> 0:56:26.480
<v Speaker 1>walk around.

0:56:26.560 --> 0:56:26.840
<v Speaker 2>Dude.

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<v Speaker 1>Uh If you can meet some folks in your hostel

0:56:30.320 --> 0:56:32.560
<v Speaker 1>who want to walk around with you and eat with you,

0:56:32.640 --> 0:56:35.720
<v Speaker 1>that that would make the trip a lot more fun,

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<v Speaker 1>I think. But part and then you wrote about communication

0:56:40.840 --> 0:56:43.200
<v Speaker 1>and countries that don't particularly speak English.

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<v Speaker 2>Part of that. That's part of the fun, right, that's

0:56:46.000 --> 0:56:46.560
<v Speaker 2>part of the fun.

0:56:46.719 --> 0:56:49.399
<v Speaker 1>So Japan is less of a country I think, where

0:56:49.440 --> 0:56:51.760
<v Speaker 1>you can get away with not speaking English. Europe everyone

0:56:51.800 --> 0:56:55.640
<v Speaker 1>fucking speaks English. But Japan is a place where, like

0:56:55.719 --> 0:56:58.520
<v Speaker 1>you have to you should know, like you just go

0:56:58.600 --> 0:57:01.239
<v Speaker 1>if you're gonna come here, like go to YouTube and

0:57:01.360 --> 0:57:06.680
<v Speaker 1>just search like like a ten basic phrases thing, right,

0:57:06.840 --> 0:57:09.440
<v Speaker 1>learn how to say like thank you, excuse me? Can

0:57:09.480 --> 0:57:12.239
<v Speaker 1>I have this right, and when you show up, you're

0:57:12.239 --> 0:57:15.520
<v Speaker 1>gonna feel sick. There is no it's really if you've

0:57:15.520 --> 0:57:18.040
<v Speaker 1>never experienced before, like just showing up alone in a

0:57:18.080 --> 0:57:23.080
<v Speaker 1>foreign country and speaking like one phrase of Japanese and

0:57:23.120 --> 0:57:26.480
<v Speaker 1>getting a sandwich, it's a feeling like no other. It's

0:57:26.480 --> 0:57:30.920
<v Speaker 1>a feeling like no other. So, honestly, Colin again, I

0:57:30.920 --> 0:57:33.960
<v Speaker 1>don't really, you don't really. Yeah, my advice to you

0:57:34.000 --> 0:57:37.320
<v Speaker 1>would be, you know, hostile world, go and find a

0:57:37.360 --> 0:57:41.640
<v Speaker 1>place where you can stay in kind of a collective

0:57:41.680 --> 0:57:44.920
<v Speaker 1>living situation to increase the chances that you'll meet new

0:57:44.960 --> 0:57:53.400
<v Speaker 1>people and have a more adventurous experience. Right, So yeah,

0:57:53.440 --> 0:57:56.040
<v Speaker 1>that would be my number one thing. But honestly, the

0:57:56.240 --> 0:57:59.480
<v Speaker 1>number one nist number one thing is to just fucking go.

0:58:00.120 --> 0:58:03.360
<v Speaker 1>And you're doing it already, so that's I mean, that's

0:58:03.400 --> 0:58:07.040
<v Speaker 1>the biggest thing, is to just fucking go. All right, folks,

0:58:07.080 --> 0:58:10.520
<v Speaker 1>that was gek mail. Thanks for being here, thanks for

0:58:10.600 --> 0:58:13.440
<v Speaker 1>listening to me do this. I'll be back to taking

0:58:13.480 --> 0:58:15.520
<v Speaker 1>calls in a bit.

0:58:15.600 --> 0:58:16.720
<v Speaker 2>I just needed a bit of.

0:58:16.720 --> 0:58:21.280
<v Speaker 1>A break from taking phone calls for now, especially while

0:58:21.280 --> 0:58:25.400
<v Speaker 1>I'm still out of the country. But I'm coming back

0:58:26.040 --> 0:58:30.640
<v Speaker 1>tomorrow and I'm excited to be back in the in

0:58:30.720 --> 0:58:36.040
<v Speaker 1>the good old United States of America. Say what you

0:58:36.120 --> 0:58:40.640
<v Speaker 1>will about the good old United States of America. But

0:58:42.560 --> 0:58:45.040
<v Speaker 1>you know, you might go to a Foreay and this

0:58:45.120 --> 0:58:47.960
<v Speaker 1>maybe this is more things to say to Colin, but

0:58:48.000 --> 0:58:52.440
<v Speaker 1>it's like you might go to fucking Japan and be

0:58:52.640 --> 0:58:56.120
<v Speaker 1>like everything is more affordable and they have trains and

0:58:56.160 --> 0:59:01.240
<v Speaker 1>it's so everything's fucking beautiful and amazing and crazy, and

0:59:01.280 --> 0:59:01.800
<v Speaker 1>that's fine.

0:59:01.840 --> 0:59:03.920
<v Speaker 2>But you know, at the end of the day.

0:59:03.800 --> 0:59:06.640
<v Speaker 1>The place to go is wherever the fuck your friends

0:59:06.680 --> 0:59:11.680
<v Speaker 1>and family are. So do that, well, not you, Colin.

0:59:11.800 --> 0:59:13.400
<v Speaker 1>You go on an adventure.

0:59:15.040 --> 0:59:16.720
<v Speaker 2>Anyway. I don't really know what I'm talking about anymore.

0:59:16.720 --> 0:59:19.640
<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna end the show and.

0:59:21.000 --> 0:59:25.360
<v Speaker 1>Go go sit in silence.

0:59:26.280 --> 0:59:27.400
<v Speaker 2>Thank you very much for listening.

0:59:27.440 --> 0:59:30.440
<v Speaker 1>Please go to my If you live in New York City,

0:59:30.480 --> 0:59:32.800
<v Speaker 1>please please please. If you live in New York City,

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0:59:40.760 --> 0:59:47.080
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0:59:47.160 --> 0:59:48.200
<v Speaker 1>love for you to show up.

0:59:48.240 --> 0:59:50.720
<v Speaker 2>I am. It's called Lyle Forever Presents.

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<v Speaker 1>Trash from around my room, and it'll be really fucking stupid,

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<v Speaker 1>so come through.

0:59:56.800 --> 0:59:58.640
<v Speaker 2>Have a fun time. All right.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you very much for listen to this podcast. Good luck,

1:00:03.320 --> 1:00:08.320
<v Speaker 1>get bless see you all in another life goes on

1:00:08.440 --> 1:00:11.800
<v Speaker 1>the line taking your phone calls every night. There Be

1:00:12.000 --> 1:00:13.280
<v Speaker 1>Can goes doing his hide.

1:00:13.440 --> 1:00:14.120
<v Speaker 2>He's teaching you

1:00:14.120 --> 1:00:16.400
<v Speaker 1>A loud in the mid of your life, but he's

1:00:16.440 --> 1:00:18.920
<v Speaker 1>not really an expert.