Speaker 1: Hello, everybody, Welcome to gek Mail. We are doing the
Speaker 1: second gek mail in one week.
Speaker 2: The reason that I am doing.
Speaker 1: This is because I have like a bunch of backed
Speaker 1: up emails, Like I'm looking at emails from October seventeenth
Speaker 1: that I have yet to read, and I'm enjoying it.
Speaker 1: I'm taking a little bit of a break from chatting
Speaker 1: with people on the phone. I'm taking a little bit
Speaker 1: of control over this podcast situation. So I'm just going
Speaker 1: to spend the next hour hanging out with myself and
Speaker 1: hopefully I have fun doing that. It's fun to do
Speaker 1: a little solo podcast adventure. I hope that you're having
Speaker 1: fun hanging out with me, hanging out with me, let's
Speaker 1: I guess, let's just start reading emails. I don't know
Speaker 1: if I have any more things to rant about. I mean,
Speaker 1: I can talk about my life. Oh well, I mean, okay,
Speaker 1: I'll bring this up. I am still doing an art
Speaker 1: exhibition in Bushwick, Brooklyn. I know you're probably tired of
Speaker 1: me talking about it, but I'm doing an art exhibition.
Speaker 1: It's called Lyle Forever presents Trash from around My Room.
Speaker 1: I am taking eight pieces of trash from around my room,
Speaker 1: and I am displaying them as art.
Speaker 2: Why am I doing this, I don't know. I just need.
Speaker 1: I'm at a point in my life where I just
Speaker 1: got to try doing shit. So this is some of
Speaker 1: the shit that I'm trying to do. And so if
Speaker 1: you live in New York City and you want to
Speaker 1: check that out, look at the link in the episode
Speaker 1: description and follow that laylow link and put your phone
Speaker 1: number in there so I can text you more details
Speaker 1: about that event. I am in Japan. I leave tomorrow
Speaker 1: to go back to the United States. People who've been
Speaker 1: listening to this podcast for better or for worse, are
Speaker 1: you're aware of the fact that I'm going a little
Speaker 1: bit crazy. But I think that once I have I
Speaker 1: have a good faith that once I return to the
Speaker 1: United States and fucking you know, get back integrated with
Speaker 1: normal ass life, that things will be good. I'm actually
Speaker 1: feeling pretty okay this morning. Sunlight is good. I did
Speaker 1: I did twenty five push ups in a row for
Speaker 1: the first time in my entire life. I don't know
Speaker 1: why I'm bragging about that, but I just need. These
Speaker 1: are just things going on with me that I'm excited about,
Speaker 1: so I'm sharing them.
Speaker 2: This is this is.
Speaker 1: You know what's funny is I used to listen to
Speaker 1: a podcast called WTF with Mark Maron, and he opened
Speaker 1: he like does interviews with comedians, but he always opens
Speaker 1: it by doing what I'm doing right now, just going
Speaker 1: on long rants about his own life. And every time
Speaker 1: I listen to that podcast, I like he opened he
Speaker 1: would go on like a fifteen minute rant solo about
Speaker 1: his own life and then get into the episode, and
Speaker 1: I was always like, why does this guy do this?
Speaker 1: I always would skip over the ramp part to just
Speaker 1: get to the interview part. And this was a show
Speaker 1: I listened to like ten years ago when I was
Speaker 1: in high school. And so now it's kind of funny
Speaker 1: that I am now doing a podcast where I am
Speaker 1: ranting about my life when I used to chastise this
Speaker 1: other guy who did a podcast ranting about his life,
Speaker 1: and to be fair to myself, at the time, I
Speaker 1: just didn't know how fun it is to talk to
Speaker 1: yourself like a crazy person.
Speaker 2: Okay, let's get into some emails. All right.
Speaker 1: This is from my subject line I pooped my pants. Okay,
Speaker 1: there we go, some lighthearted fun.
Speaker 2: Hey gecko.
Speaker 1: For a long time, I had made fun of a
Speaker 1: friend because she sharded quite a bit. I was on
Speaker 1: such a high horse about how I never sharded ever
Speaker 1: until one day I was watching Telly and I felt
Speaker 1: a fart brewing. I admit it was stupid, giving that
Speaker 1: stubborn fart and extra push I eventually came out, but
Speaker 1: I quickly realized, you know what, I don't have to
Speaker 1: read this yet. I'm not going to read the rest
Speaker 1: of this email, but that's you know, all right, Let's
Speaker 1: try to find a real one, all right. This is
Speaker 1: from Roy, subject line I don't know how to be gay.
Speaker 2: Hey, Lyle, you.
Speaker 1: Can call me Roy. I'm twenty years old and I've
Speaker 1: been with my boyfriend for three years. We're talking about
Speaker 1: getting married, but I don't know how a gay wedding
Speaker 1: ceremony might work. I know you can just do whatever
Speaker 1: you want, but I really have no idea what we
Speaker 1: can do that won't make one of us look like
Speaker 1: the bride or the groom of the relationship. I also
Speaker 1: don't know how to come out to my dad. My
Speaker 1: boyfriend and I have lived together since we started dating,
Speaker 1: and I'm not worried my dad will react terribly. I
Speaker 1: just know it'll be awkward to tell him, especially since
Speaker 1: we've been together for years and are thinking about marriage
Speaker 1: when I haven't even introduced my boyfriend and dad to
Speaker 1: each other. I'd love advice on both or either of
Speaker 1: those topics. Yes, I live in Alaska, born and raised. Ooh,
Speaker 1: I think it'd be super cool if you came here
Speaker 1: on tour. Next time you think about debt yo, kick ass. No,
Speaker 1: I love, I'm maybe I do. I want to make
Speaker 1: it over to Alaska at some point. I want to
Speaker 1: know what the hell is going on over there.
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 1: Well, Okay, Roy, you sent me this email over three
Speaker 1: months ago, so I don't know if you are still
Speaker 1: alive or listening to this podcast.
Speaker 2: But here, I mean, I we'll hear what.
Speaker 1: Look, dude, what jumps out at me is that you're
Speaker 1: fucking twenty years old, you know, like get a, get a.
Speaker 1: That's the main thing. The gay thing and the dad
Speaker 1: thing is you know. I'm sure that they're all important
Speaker 1: aspects of this in your brain, but I hopefully, hopefully
Speaker 1: those aspects have not become so at the forefront of
Speaker 1: your brain that you're forgetting the fact that you are
Speaker 1: twenty years old. And you know, here's the thing, man,
Speaker 1: I don't know, some people get married young and it
Speaker 1: works out for them and they get a dog and
Speaker 1: they live happily ever after, and you know, those people
Speaker 1: might be happier.
Speaker 2: A lot of the don't trust.
Speaker 1: My opinion on anything because people probably did that and
Speaker 1: are happier than I am.
Speaker 2: But I also bet a lot of people did that
Speaker 2: and regret it.
Speaker 1: So here's the thing, Roy, I kind of think that
Speaker 1: when you're twenty years old, you know, in my humble opinion, Roy,
Speaker 1: in my humble opinion, and we'll get to the you
Speaker 1: know thing with your dad, But my humble opinion is, like,
Speaker 1: you got so much fucking room to develop yourself as
Speaker 1: a human being. Do you really want to I'm you know,
Speaker 1: your boyfriend might be a cool guy, but like you've
Speaker 1: been together since you were seventeen, do you really want
Speaker 1: to just be like, all right, I'm done. I finished
Speaker 1: developing as a human being. Let me, you know, cash
Speaker 1: in my chips right.
Speaker 2: Now, you know.
Speaker 1: And I look, I'm not saying like, oh, you're twenty,
Speaker 1: you can get ripped and get a hotter boyfriend or whatever,
Speaker 1: but I am saying that, like, twenty twenty, it just
Speaker 1: feels fucking young to.
Speaker 2: Get married, man, Tony, just why why? Why? I am
Speaker 2: curious about this. Why are you in a rush to
Speaker 2: get married?
Speaker 1: I mean, look, if you and your boyfriend are hanging
Speaker 1: out and you're having fun and everything is supportive and
Speaker 1: he makes you happy and all this stuff, then you
Speaker 1: know why I guess why are you in a rush
Speaker 1: to get married? Like? What is it about the marriage thing?
Speaker 1: Is it just like a label? Is it like their
Speaker 1: government benefits or whatever?
Speaker 2: But I just feel like.
Speaker 1: Twenty is a little a little young for that. And
Speaker 1: let me reread this. As far as I don't know
Speaker 1: what I know, you can just do whatever you want,
Speaker 1: but I don't know what we can do that won't
Speaker 1: make one of us look like the bride or the
Speaker 1: groom of the relationship. I mean, as far as Echo
Speaker 1: is like, I don't want you to design. You can
Speaker 1: design your own wedding. Roy you can both wear suits,
Speaker 1: and you can have a dog officiate the wedding. You
Speaker 1: can design whatever you want. You can make your own
Speaker 1: ceremonies and holidays and whatever it is.
Speaker 2: So why don't you just be You can just.
Speaker 1: Be two grooms or you or you can do uh
Speaker 1: or you can both wear gray jumpsuits instead of suits
Speaker 1: or address and just have the most non binary, uh,
Speaker 1: non gender conforming uh wedding you can think of. I
Speaker 1: don't know, it's that's the thing, is I mean, you
Speaker 1: already do what I was gonna say. That's why you
Speaker 1: included in the emails, Like you can just do fucking
Speaker 1: whatever you want. You said, Uh, I mean yeah, why
Speaker 1: don't you just introduce your boyfriend? I know it'll be
Speaker 1: awkward to tell him because we've been together for years
Speaker 1: and are thinking about marriage. I don't know, Man, ask
Speaker 1: your dad about it, like you know what I mean?
Speaker 2: You said, Uh, what is it? What is it?
Speaker 1: I'm not worried my dad will react terribly. So if
Speaker 1: you're not worried that your dad will react terribly, why
Speaker 1: are you afraid of introducing your boyfriend? And if you
Speaker 1: don't think he'll react terribly? I mean, you know, look,
Speaker 1: if you said that you don't think your dad will
Speaker 1: react terribly, then give it a shot. I suppose what's
Speaker 1: going on in Alaska? I don't know if. I don't
Speaker 1: know if my advice right now is helpful or makes
Speaker 1: any sense even, but I guess that's all I have
Speaker 1: to say about these things. Okay from Ivan, No subject Gecko?
Speaker 1: When are you coming to LA? And where do you
Speaker 1: buy the Gecko suit? When am I coming to La?
Speaker 2: I was in La?
Speaker 1: Oh crap, this person sent me this on October eighteenth.
Speaker 1: It is now March third, and I was last in
Speaker 1: La like November fifth or something like that. So yeah,
Speaker 1: you missed me. But where do you buy the Gecko suit?
Speaker 1: You buy it on what the same place you buy everything?
Speaker 1: God damn it? Right on Amazon? Just go to Amazon
Speaker 1: search a Gecko suits. I need to get an affiliate
Speaker 1: code for that, but I don't have one right now.
Speaker 1: So just yeah, I don't know how much is it?
Speaker 2: Right now?
Speaker 1: I'm gonna check. It always fluctuates in price. Okay, do
Speaker 1: not show me items in Japan?
Speaker 2: Okay? Hold on?
Speaker 1: Uh okay, okay, I'm on Amazon. Gecko costs too. All right,
Speaker 1: let's see what the cheapest one we can find is Rasta. Okay, yeah,
Speaker 1: the brand is called Rasta Impasta. Where are we at
Speaker 1: with this? No featured offer is available? Oh my god,
Speaker 1: don't tell me, dude, No, hold on, don't tell me
Speaker 1: they start.
Speaker 2: Don't hold on.
Speaker 1: Do not tell me that I am live while recording
Speaker 1: this right fucking now discovering that they don't make this
Speaker 1: costume anymore. Oh my god, no no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no,
Speaker 1: holy shit, no more fat your offers available. Dude, No,
Speaker 1: this can't. This cannot be happening right now.
Speaker 2: I always knew that this hold on.
Speaker 1: Okay, this is insane that I am live realizing this
Speaker 1: right now as I'm recording this podcast, I am searching
Speaker 1: to find this gecko suit and I don't.
Speaker 2: I don't.
Speaker 1: I found the listing, but there's no options to buy, folks.
Speaker 1: Holy shit, I think they have stopped making the gecko suit.
Speaker 1: I have been doing this show for folks. I have
Speaker 1: been dressing up as a fucking gecko on the internet
Speaker 1: for almost five years. This summer June twenty twenty five,
Speaker 1: it'll be five years of dressing up as a gecko
Speaker 1: and day one. I always knew this is crazy. I'm
Speaker 1: discovering this right in this moment. I always knew one
Speaker 1: day that this would happen. Wow, this is like symbolic
Speaker 1: of some this is I'm I'm a little shocked. I'm
Speaker 1: a little I'm at I'm in a little bit of
Speaker 1: shock right now. I am in genuinely a little bit
Speaker 1: of shock right now. Let's see, because I'm looking at
Speaker 1: the page and there is no options to buy.
Speaker 2: Let's see, when's the last customer review? Wow? Yep, yeah,
Speaker 2: they don't.
Speaker 1: They're not selling it on Okay, let's see if they
Speaker 1: sell it on the regular website. Okay, Rasta and Pasta Gecko.
Speaker 1: Holy shit, I can't buy this on Amazon anymore. Maybe
Speaker 1: it's because maybe it's because I'm in Maybe it's because
Speaker 1: I'm in Japan. Right now, Folks, help me out here?
Speaker 1: Do they do they still have buying options for this?
Speaker 2: Okay?
Speaker 1: Hold on, let me check the actual Rosta Impasta website
Speaker 1: and see if they still have it. I genuinely do
Speaker 1: not know. This is one of those things where like
Speaker 1: you build a whole career and life off of something,
Speaker 1: and then people are like, what are you gonna do
Speaker 1: when they stop selling the costume and you're just like, dah,
Speaker 1: I don't know. And then you're like, oh, I forget that. Okay, Okay,
Speaker 1: here we go, here we go, here we go. Okay,
Speaker 1: all right, I'm not fully fucked. All right, I am
Speaker 1: not fully fucked. I can buy a costume from the
Speaker 1: actual rasta impasta dot com website for eighty nine dollars
Speaker 1: and ninety nine cents just directly from the site, it seems.
Speaker 1: Let's see add to carte. Okay, view cart I was
Speaker 1: almost fucked for a second.
Speaker 2: Is it?
Speaker 1: Is it a bad sign that I was like, I
Speaker 1: was like looking, I was for I leave. Okay, okay,
Speaker 1: if I really Okay, what I'm realizing by looking at
Speaker 1: the internet right now is that if I really need
Speaker 1: a Rasta and Pasta gecko costume, which often via the
Speaker 1: life I've created, I do, I can buy one from
Speaker 1: New Jersey. So that's good. But for a second, I
Speaker 1: was like, maybe this is the sign. This is a
Speaker 1: sign that I need to start dressing up like a
Speaker 1: fucking Walrus or something like that, or just being a
Speaker 1: you know, human being. Whatever it is. Okay, So my
Speaker 1: new answer to back to this email? Where's my email?
Speaker 1: I lost my email? Oh okay, what am I coming to?
Speaker 1: I'm coming to LA three months ago? And you buy
Speaker 1: that gecko suits not on Amazon but on the Rosta
Speaker 1: and Pasta website. Okay, all right, this is from suit
Speaker 1: guys from this They sent me this October seventeenth, subject line,
Speaker 1: somebody wiped their ass with my exam papers. Ignore my email.
Speaker 1: I made this when I was nine. What's the email
Speaker 1: at gmail dot com? Okay, sorry, I shouldn't have doxed
Speaker 1: your email, but all right, we can actually bleep out
Speaker 1: your email.
Speaker 2: But that's a cool email, hey, Lyle.
Speaker 1: One time, when I was fifteen and finishing my sophomore year,
Speaker 1: the school wanted to see if I had dyslexia so
Speaker 1: I could have extra time, so they made my mom
Speaker 1: bring in a couple of my exams from the years
Speaker 1: before so they could evaluate it. Anyways, when that was
Speaker 1: all done and my mom was waiting to be picked up,
Speaker 1: she left the folder with my very important end of
Speaker 1: year sophomore exams inside the bench just outside the school
Speaker 1: council office. When she got home and realized, both of
Speaker 1: us went back to go get it. When we went
Speaker 1: back to the bench, the folder had been opened, and
Speaker 1: I kid you not, there was human shit smeared all
Speaker 1: over every single page of my exams, like actual human shit.
Speaker 1: It couldn't have been a stray cat or anything, because
Speaker 1: we had a cat at home and knew what that
Speaker 1: smelled like, and this was distinctly human poop. We think
Speaker 1: it might have been some kid who wanted to bully me,
Speaker 1: or maybe some young kid who just couldn't hold it,
Speaker 1: but we never found out who it was. Since they
Speaker 1: didn't have cameras facing that bench, the principle was basically
Speaker 1: useless and just said sorry to us.
Speaker 2: What was it? What was it?
Speaker 1: What's the principle supposed to do? Also, if grammatical errors
Speaker 1: in this email were not proven enough, yes, I do
Speaker 1: have dyslexia. Okay, well let's you know. Wow, yeah, I
Speaker 1: don't know. I guess what was the principle supposed to
Speaker 1: do about it? Did you get an A on?
Speaker 2: Uh? Did you did what?
Speaker 1: I This is what I'm curious about is did they
Speaker 1: like accept your exams? Like, did they take them in
Speaker 1: or were they like because yeah, because if I'm like
Speaker 1: a teacher or a principal or something and some kid
Speaker 1: gets a diarrhea on their exams through no fault of
Speaker 1: their own, I'm just like give that Give that fucking kid. Ay,
Speaker 1: give them a B minus at least, don't like, you know,
Speaker 1: don't leave them hanging. Okay, let's see here, all right,
Speaker 1: this is from Jesus subject line the email and then
Speaker 1: it just says smoke we It says smoke weak every day.
Speaker 1: It says smoke weak every day, so I think they
Speaker 1: meant to say weed. But they also could have meant
Speaker 1: to say they are every day they are having a
Speaker 1: smoke week, or that perhaps they are smoking so much
Speaker 1: every day that every day feels like a smoke week.
Speaker 1: The mystery will never be solved. Okay, this is.
Speaker 2: From uh.
Speaker 1: Jar subject line Maybe today Satan hi Gak Yours is
Speaker 1: the only live act my boyfriend and I like mutually,
Speaker 1: and I can't wait to take him to see you
Speaker 1: next time. You're in the Seattle area. Neither of us
Speaker 1: are from here, but it's all right living here. We
Speaker 1: both struggle with depression, autism and ADHD, and it's super
Speaker 1: quirky all the time. Every door is left open. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna be on a Joe Para comedy special soon and
Speaker 1: have been inspired to become a comedian myself. Life hits
Speaker 1: different when you have eighteen hundred people all collectively enjoying
Speaker 1: the moment. Is it better to go to open mic
Speaker 1: nights or join an improv group?
Speaker 2: First?
Speaker 1: There's not much here and the improv group seem lane.
Speaker 1: How do you not turn stand up into a therapy session?
Speaker 1: Is it cathartic to do this podcast. Uh let's see here, well,
Speaker 1: I mean a couple Yeah, I can answer some stuff
Speaker 1: in this in this email, is it better to go
Speaker 1: to open mics or join in prov group? I mean,
Speaker 1: do both, see which one you have more fun doing.
Speaker 1: Here's the thing, Here's what I'm gonna say to you,
Speaker 1: is that the best thing about comedy if you're gonna
Speaker 1: do it, and if you're gonna do it, some people
Speaker 1: they go into it and they're like, I'm gonna be
Speaker 1: a big famous star, and you know, some people get
Speaker 1: successful with that and some people, you know, maybe you're
Speaker 1: not a big famous star, but maybe you make a
Speaker 1: living doing it somehow. But they don't even think about
Speaker 1: those things. And nothing in this email is telling me
Speaker 1: that you're even thinking about those things. Maybe I'm projecting
Speaker 1: that upon you. But the best thing about the comedy
Speaker 1: scene is that's a it's a it's a community.
Speaker 2: You know, it's a community, so.
Speaker 1: You know, and and having that kind of community can
Speaker 1: have a really positive impact on your life.
Speaker 2: So if I were you, I would do both.
Speaker 1: I mean, join the improv group, go to the open
Speaker 1: mic nights and try to talk to people and the
Speaker 1: more often you're showing up at the open mic nights,
Speaker 1: the more often people will know you and just try
Speaker 1: to try to fucking be uh, you know, be nice
Speaker 1: and be cool.
Speaker 2: That's the thing, right, is like, as long as you're.
Speaker 1: You know, being generally easy to be around, you will
Speaker 1: skyrocket to the top of any local comedy scene. Possibly
Speaker 1: maybe you don't even have to be like I mean,
Speaker 1: it helps if you're good on stage, but as long
Speaker 1: as you're just like chill, you know, it's good. It's
Speaker 1: a good way to make it's an excellent way to
Speaker 1: make friends, an excellent way to see that, you know,
Speaker 1: it's an excellent way to make friends. It's an excellent
Speaker 1: way to see the city that you live in because
Speaker 1: you it brings you to bars and venues that are
Speaker 1: in different parts of the city that maybe you wouldn't
Speaker 1: have travel to otherwise. So I mean, go go on
Speaker 1: your journey. Go on your journey. How do you not
Speaker 1: turn stand up into a therapy session? Why are you
Speaker 1: so concerned with not doing that?
Speaker 2: You know?
Speaker 1: I mean, speak your fucking truth. It's speak your truth, man,
Speaker 1: whatever the fuck you have to say, just say it.
Speaker 1: Maybe it's not funny immediately, maybe you get something out
Speaker 1: of it. Maybe you get whatever you were you were
Speaker 1: looking for out of it, you know, And it doesn't
Speaker 1: necessarily have to be I mean, stand up. It can
Speaker 1: just be whatever you want. That's the fun part is
Speaker 1: that it's just you with a microphone talking. Uh.
Speaker 2: You said, is it cathartic to do this podcast? It is?
Speaker 2: Sometimes it is.
Speaker 1: Sometimes I'm learning about my I'm learning a lot about myself.
Speaker 1: I've learned, I'll fucking I've learned so much about life
Speaker 1: and about myself over the past five years that I've
Speaker 1: been doing this. And uh, but I also still have
Speaker 1: a lot of essans because sometimes, you know, talking about
Speaker 1: sometimes doing this podcast is cathartic, but other times, I
Speaker 1: I it's less. So I'm I've actually been thinking about this.
Speaker 1: I might start you know what I might start doing, folks.
Speaker 1: You know what I might start doing. Uh, listeners of
Speaker 1: the Therapy Ecko podcast. You know what I might start doing, folks.
Speaker 1: I Uh, here's the thing, you know, the phone call
Speaker 1: episodes and and and doing this. Uh, I have fun
Speaker 1: and they're they're actually you know a lot of times
Speaker 1: where I'm having a good time. But I just I'm
Speaker 1: in a point in my life where I need to
Speaker 1: be out in the planet Earth. And so, you know,
Speaker 1: I used to do a lot of like being a
Speaker 1: gecko in real life stuff where I would just sit
Speaker 1: as a gecko in a park and chat with people.
Speaker 1: And I think I'm gonna try to do a lot
Speaker 1: more of that. So I might, I might, even I don't.
Speaker 1: I don't want to promise whatever the fuck, because I
Speaker 1: you know, I might. I have fucking crazy ADHD brain.
Speaker 1: But I'm thinking I'm gonna try to start doing more
Speaker 1: audio versions of that as the podcast, Right, So I'll
Speaker 1: post up in Washington Square Park with two microphones and
Speaker 1: just chat with whoever's hanging out, you know, and it
Speaker 1: can be an audio journey that takes the people listening
Speaker 1: out of their computer and into real life. And maybe
Speaker 1: that'll be cathartic, but it feels it does feel cathartic
Speaker 1: to do to do the podcast and to get to
Speaker 1: like share and explain things from my life and whatnot.
Speaker 2: Okay, let's see here, all right. This is from Janet.
Speaker 1: Subject line I married my horse. Howdy for my sixtieth birthday,
Speaker 1: twenty twenty two, I married my horse.
Speaker 2: It was a blast.
Speaker 1: I was live streaming but got kicked off the stream
Speaker 1: when we played White Wedding. It was a good day.
Speaker 1: I attached a picture of me with Valor.
Speaker 2: And my mom.
Speaker 1: In twenty twenty, I started, Okay, well let me look
Speaker 1: at this picture first. Oh, holy shit, this lady married
Speaker 1: her horse. Wow, that's pretty cool. He's wearing a hat.
Speaker 1: That's very interesting. In twenty twenty, I started taking care
Speaker 1: of my mom full time. She has dementia. She's currently
Speaker 1: on hospice, so she has a six months to one
Speaker 1: year prognosis. When my mom passes, I plan to buy
Speaker 1: an RV and hit the road. I plan to start
Speaker 1: a podcast talking to people about the paranormal religion and UFOs.
Speaker 1: I plan to travel around, set up in a public
Speaker 1: space and start talking to people.
Speaker 2: Wow.
Speaker 1: That's hilarious. It's exactly what I was just talking about
Speaker 1: wanting to do more of. Can you offer any advice?
Speaker 1: My biggest concern is the amount of time that will
Speaker 1: need to be dedicated to editing and posting the podcast.
Speaker 1: I hope to your comments. Thanks for being there. You've
Speaker 1: inspired me. Thank you, Janet. Wow, fascinating, fascinating, fascinating, fascinat
Speaker 1: anything fascinating. First of all, I think this is uh,
Speaker 1: super fucking cool to be starting doing this at sixty
Speaker 1: years old. There's gonna be a lot of people who
Speaker 1: I bet want to talk to you. So I think
Speaker 1: it's a great idea. Can I offer you any I
Speaker 1: can't offer you any advice. I just do it you honestly.
Speaker 1: I can just tell by this email you have a
Speaker 1: strong conviction in what you want to do, and so
Speaker 1: I don't have any advice for you. I mean, just
Speaker 1: do it right. The amount of time that will we need,
Speaker 1: you know, dedicated to editing and posting the podcast, Well,
Speaker 1: what else are you doing?
Speaker 2: What's going on?
Speaker 1: You know, your horse is at home taking care of
Speaker 1: the you know, doing dishes, and I don't know if
Speaker 1: you guys have a traditional kind of relationship where the
Speaker 1: horse goes out and makes all the money. But you
Speaker 1: know what, I don't know what you're doing with the
Speaker 1: rest of your time.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 1: Uh, let's see, posting the podcast is very easy. You
Speaker 1: hit one button and a post the podcast. Maybe you
Speaker 1: can get somebody to help you edit. That could be
Speaker 1: kind of cool. Maybe you could get somebody to help
Speaker 1: you edit.
Speaker 2: You know, I don't know who you got around you.
Speaker 2: I don't know who's who?
Speaker 1: Who else is uh in your life? But maybe you
Speaker 1: could get somebody else to help you edit. But also
Speaker 1: like you know, editing, editing, that's the thing that is
Speaker 1: like editing your podcast. If you just kind of like
Speaker 1: in point out point, it's not going to be that
Speaker 1: crazy time intensive, I don't think. But uh, yeah, I
Speaker 1: have no advice for you. I just think you should
Speaker 1: go and do this because it's it's super cool and
Speaker 1: I'm I'm excited to see what what kind of podcast
Speaker 1: you cook up, Jane. So if you happen to hear this,
Speaker 1: and you happen to you know, once you get it started,
Speaker 1: send me another email. I want to see what's going on.
Speaker 1: I want to see what you what you ended up doing.
Speaker 2: All right?
Speaker 1: This is from Tyler, subject line seasonal depression. He Tyler says,
Speaker 1: I always seem to think we are similar every time
Speaker 1: I hear you mention your mental health issues. This from
Speaker 1: December fourth. Oh crap, how often have I been messaging
Speaker 1: mentioning my mental health issues? Just wanted to say, keep pushing,
Speaker 1: especially with days getting shorter. Also, I feel I consume
Speaker 1: too much weed during these times and it makes it worse.
Speaker 2: Help.
Speaker 1: Yeah, there is definitely a correlation between uh, you know,
Speaker 1: the seasons and how I feel. Yeah, there's definitely a correlation. Well, thanks,
Speaker 1: thanks for the tyler. You you two man. Keep living,
Speaker 1: Keep being alive, Keep being alive. All right, all right?
Speaker 1: This is from k subject line poop waterfall. All right,
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna read that, all right. This is from Riley.
Speaker 1: Subject line entrepreneur to entrepreneur. Riley says, Howdy green gecko,
Speaker 1: man of the Internet. My name is Riley. I am
Speaker 1: twenty one years old and just started my own business
Speaker 1: as a ferrier parentheses horseshore. I've been home from shooting
Speaker 1: school for seven months and I've had plenty of work
Speaker 1: between my own clients and apprenticeships since i've been home. However,
Speaker 1: this is the first winter of my career and things
Speaker 1: are slowing down. Horses aren't growing as fast, and schedules
Speaker 1: are getting stretched. In the past few months, I have
Speaker 1: made drastic changes in my lifestyle, including diet for chronic pain,
Speaker 1: breaking bad habits. It's focusing on my fitness and mental health,
Speaker 1: doing a lot of yoga, meditation and so on. My
Speaker 1: lifestyle is taken a full one eighty. I've been freaking
Speaker 1: out a little bit about my workload and income slowing
Speaker 1: way down due to the winter. I've decided I will
Speaker 1: take this winter to work really hard on healing my body,
Speaker 1: improving my rig, putting time into friendships, my personal horse,
Speaker 1: and getting ready to go to certification. Do you have
Speaker 1: any advice on getting through the first few years of
Speaker 1: being self employed, on dealing with the highs and lows,
Speaker 1: keeping yourself sane through it all?
Speaker 2: Love you, GHEK. Do I have any advice about this?
Speaker 1: I mean, I guess, like, look is thing at the
Speaker 1: end of the day.
Speaker 2: Well, also, you're.
Speaker 1: Fucking twenty one, so just you're doing every just saying
Speaker 1: you know, don't you sent me this email months ago?
Speaker 1: But just Riley, if you hear this, I mean, you're
Speaker 1: twenty one years old and you're giving it a shot. Right,
Speaker 1: You could just fuck up, right, you could just fuck
Speaker 1: everything up. Just you could just destroy your fucking life
Speaker 1: and it would be fine because you have tons of
Speaker 1: time to rebuild it.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 1: It's like it's like the stock market, like it could
Speaker 1: take a fucking dive, right, but like over time it recovers.
Speaker 1: You know, you're young, you can you can hold down
Speaker 1: the uh fort right, so you're doing it right, you know.
Speaker 1: I mean cause if you were telling me you're like
Speaker 1: fifty and you have kids and they're starving because you
Speaker 1: have to do your own business and you're fucking out,
Speaker 1: like that's that would.
Speaker 2: Be fucked up, right.
Speaker 1: But just just to have have have a lot of
Speaker 1: faith in the fact that you're doing this at the
Speaker 1: right time and you're doing it right, that's what I
Speaker 1: would say.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's what I would say. I hope that that
Speaker 2: gives you some some form of, you know.
Speaker 1: Clarity or or strength to keep going that like, you know,
Speaker 1: you got plenty of time to fuck up your die again.
Speaker 2: I think you're doing it right. I think you're doing
Speaker 2: it right all right.
Speaker 1: This is from Nick subject line lizard wisdom, your green holiness.
Speaker 1: I don't know if I like that. My name is
Speaker 1: Nick and I have been a big fan since twenty twenty.
Speaker 2: Thank you, Nick.
Speaker 1: You were part of the reason I was inspired to
Speaker 1: go to school and become a real therapist. Although I
Speaker 1: am convinced that you are just as much of a
Speaker 1: real therapist, just without the commitment to multiple sessions and
Speaker 1: a button up shirt. I don't I don't know if
Speaker 1: I like that either. I don't think I am, but
Speaker 1: you know what, I'm sorry, I'm shitting on you. I
Speaker 1: appreciate that the sentiment and intention of this email is
Speaker 1: to be nice to me, so thank you Nick. Anyway,
Speaker 1: my question for you is about my girlfriend. I've had
Speaker 1: multiple long term relationships and was engaged two years ago.
Speaker 1: I have been dating my current girlfriend for one year
Speaker 1: and find that she has all of the qualities I
Speaker 1: am looking for in a long term partner. The problem
Speaker 1: is I constantly have dreams about my last girlfriend and
Speaker 1: feel longing for what was lost. My last girlfriend was bipolar, unpredictable,
Speaker 1: and riddled with flaws, and in no way do I
Speaker 1: think our relationship could have ever worked out. But at
Speaker 1: the same time, the feeling of love was overwhelming. The
Speaker 1: question I have been struggling with is essentially, do you
Speaker 1: think it's possible to grow in love with someone or
Speaker 1: do you think it is pre determined?
Speaker 2: Wow.
Speaker 1: First of all, let me just say here. I know
Speaker 1: that I know I'm a broken fucking record when it
Speaker 1: comes to saying.
Speaker 2: This, but I don't have any answer to this question.
Speaker 1: These A lot of the questions that I come through
Speaker 1: this podcast are not things I have any answers to.
Speaker 1: But they are things actually that I myself think about
Speaker 1: a lot. I think about this as it possible to
Speaker 1: grow in love with someone or do you think it's predetermined?
Speaker 1: And I've talked to friends about it, I've talked to
Speaker 1: family about it, and I've, like you know, talk to
Speaker 1: people on this podcast about it. And it's like, some
Speaker 1: people believe that you can just decide to be in
Speaker 1: love with someone. Some people believe it's a feeling that
Speaker 1: you chase. Some people believe you know all sorts of
Speaker 1: things right, And it's a little scary to think about
Speaker 1: because nobody wants to make the wrong decision in their life, right,
Speaker 1: and feelings are not always great at guiding us. But yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't know if it's predetermined. I mean, I think
Speaker 1: that there is a thing to be said about, like
Speaker 1: the more time and energy that you I think there
Speaker 1: is something to be said about like the more time
Speaker 1: and energy you invest in a relationship, the more close
Speaker 1: you will feel to a person. So in that case,
Speaker 1: maybe it is possible to grow in love with someone.
Speaker 2: But yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 1: It sounds like you're pretty confident that your last relationship
Speaker 1: could have never worked out, so I mean, that's good, right,
Speaker 1: That's that's better than being like, ah, I fucked it up,
Speaker 1: or I would have been beautiful if only I hadn't,
Speaker 1: you know, been fucking.
Speaker 2: Lazy or whatever.
Speaker 1: You know, hopefully that helps you sleep better at night
Speaker 1: is just knowing that it never would have worked out
Speaker 1: in the first place. So you know, that's what I
Speaker 1: would cling to if I were.
Speaker 2: You, Nick. Let's see here, all right.
Speaker 1: This is from Peebo, subject line I maybe having a
Speaker 1: quarter life crisis. Hello Lyle. First of all, Happy New Year.
Speaker 1: I hope you're doing well.
Speaker 2: Thank you.
Speaker 1: I am emailing to share some thoughts I've been having
Speaker 1: about my career slash relationship and hear your inputs. I
Speaker 1: am in a five year relationship that has been pretty good.
Speaker 1: I am currently pursuing my masters, and I think I
Speaker 1: have found something that I can consider a career in.
Speaker 1: After I finish, I can start job hunting or apply
Speaker 1: for a PhD. Getting a PhD is an insane commitment
Speaker 1: of my time and may require me to move away if.
Speaker 2: I don't get into a local school.
Speaker 1: If I have to move, my boyfriend can't follow me
Speaker 1: because he owns a business. My boyfriend doesn't want me
Speaker 1: to apply for programs far away because he thinks our
Speaker 1: relationship could end. I never moved away from home, so
Speaker 1: I'm interested in taking the opportunity to do so.
Speaker 2: PhD or not.
Speaker 1: I want to move out after I finish my current degree.
Speaker 1: My boyfriend wants to wait to buy a house together
Speaker 1: rather than rent. There's nothing wrong with this, but he
Speaker 1: continues to invest money, so I cannot see how we
Speaker 1: move out in the next few years. And I don't
Speaker 1: want to live at home in my thirties. I know
Speaker 1: if I stayed, it would be an easier choice, but
Speaker 1: part of me wants to try doing this alone if
Speaker 1: you won't come with me. I have sort of breached
Speaker 1: the subject before, but it ends in him being upset.
Speaker 1: Sometimes I doubt I would even do well in a
Speaker 1: PhD program, so maybe it is better to stay and
Speaker 1: find work. Also, it is hard to imagine my life
Speaker 1: without him. He is my best friend. I feel pretty
Speaker 1: guilty for feeling this way. PhD applications are due in
Speaker 1: December twenty twenty five, but I would not start the
Speaker 1: program until fall of twenty twenty six. Sounds far away,
Speaker 1: but I know it will come quickly. Also, I forgot
Speaker 1: to mention, but I am twenty five. He is in
Speaker 1: his early thirties. Best peebo. You know, it's funny when
Speaker 1: I first started doing this podcast and this kind of
Speaker 1: shit would come through. I'm not going to disclaim anymore
Speaker 1: the fact that I don't know what I'm talking about,
Speaker 1: but it comes inherent for me to be able to
Speaker 1: do this. But I don't know what I even just
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't think what I just said made
Speaker 1: any sense, but I did record it and I am
Speaker 1: putting it on the internet anyway. You know, it's funny
Speaker 1: when I first started doing this and shit like this
Speaker 1: would come by, I would always kind of instantly be like,
Speaker 1: you know, always always go for the thing that gives
Speaker 1: you personal growth over like anything else, especially goddamn especially
Speaker 1: if you're young. I again, I'll speak from my own
Speaker 1: lived experience, right is, like I specifically always wanted to
Speaker 1: like leave home. I always wanted to see the world.
Speaker 1: I felt like, you'll only live once. You should see
Speaker 1: the world that you live in. It's it's pretty crazy
Speaker 1: out there. You should you should, just if you just
Speaker 1: fucking never leave the town that you grew up in
Speaker 1: and you just stay there, you're not getting the full
Speaker 1: experience of life right.
Speaker 2: Now.
Speaker 1: You know, I'm thinking because because that's what I would
Speaker 1: have said a few years ago.
Speaker 2: But now after myself having lived.
Speaker 1: A life where I'm kind of running around everywhere, part
Speaker 1: of me is like, oh, you know, there is something
Speaker 1: about staying in the community that you already have because
Speaker 1: it's comforting. But I still and I'm thinking about it
Speaker 1: right You're making me think about it right now. You're
Speaker 1: making me think about it right now, And I still
Speaker 1: fucking think it's all gonna be easier said than done.
Speaker 1: But I still fucking think, dude, if you've never left,
Speaker 1: if you've never left, I think it's worth it to leave,
Speaker 1: you know. I mean what I just said about sticking
Speaker 1: around a place for a while and building community and
Speaker 1: building relationships and stuff. It's like, that's that's always gonna
Speaker 1: be an option, right And once you're in that and
Speaker 1: you have a whatever the fuck I mean, honestly, not
Speaker 1: even once you're in that and you have a whatever
Speaker 1: the fuck you, there's always gonna be opportunities to explore
Speaker 1: and grow and do shit.
Speaker 2: I kind of have.
Speaker 1: A bit of a thing in my gut and brain
Speaker 1: when it comes to relationships and whatnot of like if
Speaker 1: it's meant to be, it's meant to be, you know,
Speaker 1: like part of me thinks.
Speaker 2: And this kind of goes back.
Speaker 1: To what we were talking about on the other email, of
Speaker 1: like is how much of the shit is predetermined?
Speaker 2: I way back and forth between whether or not we
Speaker 2: live in a.
Speaker 1: There's the idea that we live in like complete utter
Speaker 1: chaos universe and there does exist such a thing as
Speaker 1: the wrong decision and everything's fucking completely random, you know,
Speaker 1: the whole Rick and Morty thing. Nobody belongs anywhere, nothing
Speaker 1: is on purpose, We're all gonna die kind of shit.
Speaker 1: And then I sort of I'm so I'm between that
Speaker 1: and between like this kind of feeling of hopefulness that
Speaker 1: like not so much that there's like a predetermined order
Speaker 1: to how the world works, but that like human beings
Speaker 1: are adaptable and like enter I really don't mean this
Speaker 1: in a woo woo sense. I really mean this in
Speaker 1: kind of like a like a logistical grounded thing, like
Speaker 1: people's brains are wired in certain ways, and like institutions
Speaker 1: and places are wired in certain ways, and there's just
Speaker 1: this like mathematical equation that occurs when the ways in
Speaker 1: which people and things and places and institutions are wired
Speaker 1: connect with each other, and that mathematical equation has a
Speaker 1: has an equal sign and it's gonna equal whatever the
Speaker 1: fuck it's gonna equal anyway, meaning that if things were
Speaker 1: gonna work out, then they would have, and if they
Speaker 1: didn't work out, they never meant they never were meant
Speaker 1: to be.
Speaker 2: I know what I just said sounded like a woo
Speaker 2: woo thing, but I don't.
Speaker 1: I think it is like a logistic I think what
Speaker 1: I just said made fucking sense, right, Because you're who
Speaker 1: you are in a sense, and your brain works the
Speaker 1: way it does in a sense. And your boyfriend is
Speaker 1: who he is in a sense, and his brain works
Speaker 1: the way it is in a sense, and he has
Speaker 1: his own life and you have your own life, and
Speaker 1: they kind of gel and mesh and in a perfect
Speaker 1: beautiful world where everything always works out forever and always
Speaker 1: things will work out. But just like empirically, sometimes the energies.
Speaker 2: In the paths.
Speaker 1: Divulge, and maybe they divulge for a moment, and people
Speaker 1: find their way back to each other, and life is
Speaker 1: kind of weird and and crazy like that. But that
Speaker 1: whole rant is all to say that, you know, if
Speaker 1: you never left your fucking hometown before, I mean, go
Speaker 1: try it, just try it. Not everyone's built not everyone's
Speaker 1: like built for it, not not even a in a
Speaker 1: like being able to handle it sense, but in a
Speaker 1: being able in a whether or not leaving your hometown
Speaker 1: brings you happiness sense.
Speaker 2: But if you don't know, I mean, you should give
Speaker 2: it a try. I don't know.
Speaker 1: I hope, my I hope, I hope. I don't have
Speaker 1: Please don't listen to this because I don't. I don't
Speaker 1: want to take any responsibility for any any decisions you
Speaker 1: might make with your life.
Speaker 2: That's the that's the that's the truth. Okay, all right,
Speaker 2: let's keep going. All right.
Speaker 1: This is from Okay, this is from Brian. Hey gek,
Speaker 1: you can choose a name for me. I got chased
Speaker 1: by a black bear back in the summer, and now
Speaker 1: every time I walk the route where I was chased,
Speaker 1: I relive each terrifying step I took as I ran away.
Speaker 1: I live in constant fear while walking slash running that
Speaker 1: a black bear will jump out of the bush.
Speaker 2: And eat me.
Speaker 1: That's the whole fucking email, all right. I think I
Speaker 1: did my job by just simply reading that. I don't
Speaker 1: know if I need any further context or things to say.
Speaker 1: All right, it's from Dante, subject line a problem around Oh,
Speaker 1: I just remembered what I wanted to say about that
Speaker 1: last email. Well, go watch the Revenant. Actually, don't watch
Speaker 1: the Revenant. That'll make your life. That'll make you It'll
Speaker 1: make things worse.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: From Dante, subject line A problem around work slash relaxation.
Speaker 2: Hey, gek, big fan.
Speaker 1: I've gotten into a bad habit of watching productivity and
Speaker 1: self help content, and now I am split when it
Speaker 1: comes to how I should conduct my life. On one hand,
Speaker 1: I enjoy working hard and building towards something over time,
Speaker 1: but having every bit of mental focus fixated on achieving
Speaker 1: something often makes me stressed out, and eventually I resent.
Speaker 2: What I work towards. Ooh.
Speaker 1: I can also relax occasionally, but I get bored very
Speaker 1: easily if I don't have something to put my mind towards,
Speaker 1: and I get uncomfortable on holidays because they mess up
Speaker 1: the momentum of what I'm working on. At first, I
Speaker 1: thought it was either because I wasn't pushing hard enough
Speaker 1: or not fully relaxing enough, But now I think the
Speaker 1: fact that I watch a lot of this content makes
Speaker 1: me ultra conscious of everything I do and how I'm
Speaker 1: spending every bit of time. That's the whole email, Dante.
Speaker 1: I'm with you, my brother.
Speaker 2: I am.
Speaker 1: Highly relate to several of the aspects of this email.
Speaker 1: I highly relate to it. I think they answer is
Speaker 1: probably just balance, right. I think the answer is just balance,
Speaker 1: you know, like being able to being able to, like, okay,
Speaker 1: get some ship done during the day, right, so that
Speaker 1: you can feel as though you got what you if
Speaker 1: it feels like you've got some ship done that day
Speaker 1: and then at night you can go party or relax
Speaker 1: or do whatever the fuck it is you're gonna do.
Speaker 1: So uh, I mean, that's that's that's the word here.
Speaker 1: I think it would be balance because because it's it's
Speaker 1: way easier to enjoy, uh, being on holiday or being
Speaker 1: up in the club or whatever, if you don't have
Speaker 1: this nagging feeling like your homework isn't done. That that
Speaker 1: whole kind of nagging, my homework isn't done feelings has
Speaker 1: you know, been with me forever? So I feel you, so,
Speaker 1: you know, I guess the answer is just try to
Speaker 1: try to have some balance and do your homework during
Speaker 1: the day. Okay, this is from Jake. Subject line, life
Speaker 1: is pretty sweet, to be honest. Okay, thank God. We
Speaker 1: needed this. We absolutely needed this. We needed some hope
Speaker 1: this episode. Please dear God. Okay, Hey, GHEK. My name
Speaker 1: is Jake. I was at your live show in La
Speaker 1: last November, and like I said, life is awesome.
Speaker 2: Right now.
Speaker 1: I work at a chain pizza place, probably getting paid
Speaker 1: too much and getting away with too much. And I'm
Speaker 1: picking up a second job at a family owned cheese
Speaker 1: steak spot, which I'm excited about. I've been super consistent
Speaker 1: with Jim and hobbies too. I'm now sixty five days
Speaker 1: sober from weed brenth Seas. It was a very negative
Speaker 1: force in my life. I still get a bit lonely
Speaker 1: and sad and junk and have days off, but I
Speaker 1: have never felt so consistently content and genuinely happy day
Speaker 1: to day.
Speaker 2: Wow.
Speaker 1: It's still a bit of a foreign feeling, to be honest,
Speaker 1: I don't really know where this momentum came from, but
Speaker 1: I'm trying to make the most of it before I
Speaker 1: end up on another trough. To be honest, I don't
Speaker 1: have much else to say, I just don't have anyone
Speaker 1: to really talk about this with. One vice I still
Speaker 1: have is doom scrolling. And one of my New Year's
Speaker 1: resolutions was to consume better media like movies or video
Speaker 1: games with more intention yeah yeah, rather than scrolling and
Speaker 1: gaining nothing from it. So that's the fucking thing, right
Speaker 1: is You'll be like, oh, I don't have time to
Speaker 1: watch a movie, and then you'll scroll on your phone
Speaker 1: for like two hours and it's like you didn't even
Speaker 1: consume anything.
Speaker 2: You just went crazy. Maybe a silly.
Speaker 1: Resolution compared to most, but I'm a pretty big believer
Speaker 1: in that what we consume molds us in a lot
Speaker 1: of ways. So I'll end this by asking what are
Speaker 1: some recommendations of games or media that has moved you
Speaker 1: or stuck with you through the years, or even just
Speaker 1: a recent obsession. I never had the chance to try
Speaker 1: and call in, so I wanted to try to send
Speaker 1: an email. And I know it's a broken record, but
Speaker 1: you help pass the time so much and give me
Speaker 1: interesting perspectives on things along with your callers. Love the show,
Speaker 1: hope things are going good, get blessed. Thank you, Jake.
Speaker 1: I would say, well, okay, my number one video game
Speaker 1: recommendation is red de Redemption two. Read Redemption two is
Speaker 1: the greatest video game ever made.
Speaker 2: I'm a big fan.
Speaker 1: I'm trying to think of any other Well, I don't
Speaker 1: know what you have. I don't know if you're a
Speaker 1: PC guy, PlayStation guy, switch person. I was just playing
Speaker 1: Little Nightmares on the Switch before I came to Japan.
Speaker 1: There's a lot of great Zelda games. BioShock is very good.
Speaker 1: What else, man, what else?
Speaker 2: That's my main one. Read Redemption two. Jake.
Speaker 1: If you think life is pretty sweet, now just wait
Speaker 1: until you're playing red Redemption to But uh, anyway, in overall,
Speaker 1: thank you for sharing this, Jake. This is cool. I like.
Speaker 2: Hearing a little bit of hope, right.
Speaker 1: That's all that fucking goddamn matters at the end of
Speaker 1: the day, is just being able to like when somebody
Speaker 1: asks you how you're doing, being able to be like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm doing good. I'm not going completely insane. I feel stable,
Speaker 1: I feel happy. So that's the best thing, Jake. So
Speaker 1: I'm proud of you, man, I'm happy for you. All right,
Speaker 1: all right. This is from Brett subject line Stepdad at nineteen.
Speaker 1: I'm twenty two now. But when I was nineteen. I
Speaker 1: met a girl on Tinder and went to her house
Speaker 1: one night and just kind of never left and started
Speaker 1: living with her whoa. She had two toddlers, two and three.
Speaker 1: She was also still marry, but they separated only a
Speaker 1: week or two before we got together. I paid all
Speaker 1: the bills and cleaned the house as much as I could,
Speaker 1: but lo all got to be too much after about
Speaker 1: a year and we broke up. Worst part is our
Speaker 1: husband moved into the same apartments as us a few
Speaker 1: months after we got together, and their relationship was just
Speaker 1: more toxic. One of the worst years of my life.
Speaker 1: Ten out of ten. Wouldn't recommend. I think that you
Speaker 1: meant to put zero out of ten. Wouldn't recommend. Ps
Speaker 1: please put this on the podcast if you read it.
Speaker 1: I work crazy hours and won't be able to watch
Speaker 1: the stream. God damn, that is a crazy story.
Speaker 2: My friend.
Speaker 1: You just winter house and you never left. Wow, a
Speaker 1: forever tender date. If this wasn't one of the worst
Speaker 1: years of your life, I would I would think that
Speaker 1: that was kind of romantic actually, but no, it's probably not.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: I'm glad you're out of there. At least Brett keep
Speaker 1: keep keep keep doing your best, keep your best.
Speaker 2: Holy shit? All right, all right?
Speaker 1: This next email subject line solo travel advice. Hey Geck,
Speaker 1: my name is Colin and I'm twenty three years young.
Speaker 1: I got my first big boy job this year, and
Speaker 1: with that comes PTO. I want to do a lot
Speaker 1: more traveling. The only place I've ever been outside the
Speaker 1: US is Canada. Exotic, right, I firmly believe traveling is
Speaker 1: a salient component of experiencing this thing we call life. However,
Speaker 1: I have no clue where to start. Do you have
Speaker 1: any advice on solo traveling, such as types of activities
Speaker 1: to do, how to find places to stay, communications and
Speaker 1: countries that don't particularly speak English, etc. I know you've
Speaker 1: spent a lot of time in Japan recently, and that's
Speaker 1: my number one location, but I'm so bad at Japanese.
Speaker 1: I love your show, been listening for ages. Keep up
Speaker 1: the great work.
Speaker 2: PS.
Speaker 1: What do you think of the name Colin? I think
Speaker 1: it's very unique. The name Colin is not unique at all.
Speaker 2: Sorry.
Speaker 1: I don't know why I had to be brutally honest
Speaker 1: with you about that, but yeah, I know a lot
Speaker 1: of Collins, not personally, but anyway, anyway, Okay, let's okay,
Speaker 1: let's talk about what the actual email is about. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean I can talk a little bit about solo travel.
Speaker 1: Maybe maybe we can end this episode by talking about
Speaker 1: some solo travel shit. I will say this, if that's
Speaker 1: your number one location, go there first, right, go there first.
Speaker 1: If you're asking me, like, where is the best place? Well, okay,
Speaker 1: it depends, So let's let's talk about this. I don't
Speaker 1: really know which kind of solo traveler you are personally.
Speaker 1: There's there's like two kinds of solo travelers, right. There's
Speaker 1: like solo travelers who when they say solo travel, they
Speaker 1: mean it right. They just want to like go to
Speaker 1: a foreign country and do shit alone and like eat
Speaker 1: alone and go see attractions alone and just fully honestly
Speaker 1: have a trip alone. And then there's people who solo
Speaker 1: travel specifically to meet other people. And those are the
Speaker 1: people who stay in hostels and go on the big
Speaker 1: group guided tours and go to the meetups and try
Speaker 1: to meet people and like the whole point of traveling
Speaker 1: alone is to like get into adventures and meet new people.
Speaker 1: And you know, purse, everyone's different personally. The ladder is
Speaker 1: the kind of solo traveling that I like to do,
Speaker 1: especially when I was in younger and you know, yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean that's the kind of solo traveling that I
Speaker 1: like to do that I think is rewarding and fun.
Speaker 1: I will say Japan, and some people might not agree
Speaker 1: with this, Japan is probably not the best place for
Speaker 1: that kind of solo traveling. The best place for that
Speaker 1: kind of solo traveling might be like Europe or you know,
Speaker 1: you can go to Paris or Italy or Amsterdam is
Speaker 1: fucking great for that shit. I had a great solo
Speaker 1: travel experience in Amsterdam. But again, if your number one
Speaker 1: location is Japan, then you can still go there and
Speaker 1: you can still meet people and do things. So let's see,
Speaker 1: you asked me a bunch of specific questions. You were like,
Speaker 1: how to find places to stay? If I were you,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna give a shout out to hostileworld dot com.
Speaker 1: Hostileworld dot com. Uh, and you can find these hostels
Speaker 1: right where it's like you have one bed in a
Speaker 1: room full of a bunch of beds, and oftentimes the accommodations.
Speaker 2: Are pretty fucking cheap.
Speaker 1: They're pretty fucking cheap, and the best part is that
Speaker 1: you will be in a room with a bunch of
Speaker 1: other people and there might be a common area, and
Speaker 1: a lot of these hostels, especially the more like party hostile,
Speaker 1: solo travelly advertised hostels, they they are kind of like
Speaker 1: geared towards people who are traveling alone and trying to
Speaker 1: meet people. So a lot of times they'll put on
Speaker 1: dinners or they'll put on events. And so if I
Speaker 1: were you, I would go on hostile world dot com
Speaker 1: and search for like Tokyo and see if you can
Speaker 1: find the kinds of hostiles that put on events.
Speaker 2: I don't think.
Speaker 1: Japan is very like known for that kind of hostile.
Speaker 1: I've stayed at hostels in Japan before and they weren't
Speaker 1: as socially oriented as some hostels that I've stayed in
Speaker 1: in like Thailand or Europe. But if Japan it's just
Speaker 1: like the place you want to fucking go, you should
Speaker 1: just go because the cool I think for you, the
Speaker 1: thing is gonna be like you're gonna show up and
Speaker 1: you've never left the country before, You're gonna show up
Speaker 1: and you're just gonna be like, oh, I gotta walk around.
Speaker 1: So when it comes to like types of activities to do,
Speaker 1: if I were you, I would just like like book
Speaker 1: your fucking flight, book your fucking hostile.
Speaker 2: And uh uh I don't.
Speaker 1: You don't have to go scour the internet or scour
Speaker 1: TikTok for like the best things to do. I would
Speaker 1: just like pick neighborhoods and start walking around them, you know,
Speaker 1: for Japan, for Tokyo, I mean Akihabara or Osaksa or
Speaker 1: shibuyash and Juku. You just fucking show up and just
Speaker 1: walk around.
Speaker 2: Dude.
Speaker 1: Uh If you can meet some folks in your hostel
Speaker 1: who want to walk around with you and eat with you,
Speaker 1: that that would make the trip a lot more fun,
Speaker 1: I think. But part and then you wrote about communication
Speaker 1: and countries that don't particularly speak English.
Speaker 2: Part of that. That's part of the fun, right, that's
Speaker 2: part of the fun.
Speaker 1: So Japan is less of a country I think, where
Speaker 1: you can get away with not speaking English. Europe everyone
Speaker 1: fucking speaks English. But Japan is a place where, like
Speaker 1: you have to you should know, like you just go
Speaker 1: if you're gonna come here, like go to YouTube and
Speaker 1: just search like like a ten basic phrases thing, right,
Speaker 1: learn how to say like thank you, excuse me? Can
Speaker 1: I have this right, and when you show up, you're
Speaker 1: gonna feel sick. There is no it's really if you've
Speaker 1: never experienced before, like just showing up alone in a
Speaker 1: foreign country and speaking like one phrase of Japanese and
Speaker 1: getting a sandwich, it's a feeling like no other. It's
Speaker 1: a feeling like no other. So, honestly, Colin again, I
Speaker 1: don't really, you don't really. Yeah, my advice to you
Speaker 1: would be, you know, hostile world, go and find a
Speaker 1: place where you can stay in kind of a collective
Speaker 1: living situation to increase the chances that you'll meet new
Speaker 1: people and have a more adventurous experience. Right, So yeah,
Speaker 1: that would be my number one thing. But honestly, the
Speaker 1: number one nist number one thing is to just fucking go.
Speaker 1: And you're doing it already, so that's I mean, that's
Speaker 1: the biggest thing, is to just fucking go. All right, folks,
Speaker 1: that was gek mail. Thanks for being here, thanks for
Speaker 1: listening to me do this. I'll be back to taking
Speaker 1: calls in a bit.
Speaker 2: I just needed a bit of.
Speaker 1: A break from taking phone calls for now, especially while
Speaker 1: I'm still out of the country. But I'm coming back
Speaker 1: tomorrow and I'm excited to be back in the in
Speaker 1: the good old United States of America. Say what you
Speaker 1: will about the good old United States of America. But
Speaker 1: you know, you might go to a Foreay and this
Speaker 1: maybe this is more things to say to Colin, but
Speaker 1: it's like you might go to fucking Japan and be
Speaker 1: like everything is more affordable and they have trains and
Speaker 1: it's so everything's fucking beautiful and amazing and crazy, and
Speaker 1: that's fine.
Speaker 2: But you know, at the end of the day.
Speaker 1: The place to go is wherever the fuck your friends
Speaker 1: and family are. So do that, well, not you, Colin.
Speaker 1: You go on an adventure.
Speaker 2: Anyway. I don't really know what I'm talking about anymore.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna end the show and.
Speaker 1: Go go sit in silence.
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