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Speaker 1: Hello, everybody, Welcome to gek Mail. We are doing the

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Speaker 1: second gek mail in one week.

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Speaker 2: The reason that I am doing.

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Speaker 1: This is because I have like a bunch of backed

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Speaker 1: up emails, Like I'm looking at emails from October seventeenth

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Speaker 1: that I have yet to read, and I'm enjoying it.

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Speaker 1: I'm taking a little bit of a break from chatting

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Speaker 1: with people on the phone. I'm taking a little bit

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Speaker 1: of control over this podcast situation. So I'm just going

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Speaker 1: to spend the next hour hanging out with myself and

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Speaker 1: hopefully I have fun doing that. It's fun to do

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Speaker 1: a little solo podcast adventure. I hope that you're having

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Speaker 1: fun hanging out with me, hanging out with me, let's

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Speaker 1: I guess, let's just start reading emails. I don't know

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Speaker 1: if I have any more things to rant about. I mean,

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Speaker 1: I can talk about my life. Oh well, I mean, okay,

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Speaker 1: I'll bring this up. I am still doing an art

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Speaker 1: exhibition in Bushwick, Brooklyn. I know you're probably tired of

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Speaker 1: me talking about it, but I'm doing an art exhibition.

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Speaker 1: It's called Lyle Forever presents Trash from around My Room.

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Speaker 1: I am taking eight pieces of trash from around my room,

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Speaker 1: and I am displaying them as art.

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Speaker 2: Why am I doing this, I don't know. I just need.

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Speaker 1: I'm at a point in my life where I just

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Speaker 1: got to try doing shit. So this is some of

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Speaker 1: the shit that I'm trying to do. And so if

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Speaker 1: you live in New York City and you want to

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Speaker 1: check that out, look at the link in the episode

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Speaker 1: description and follow that laylow link and put your phone

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Speaker 1: number in there so I can text you more details

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Speaker 1: about that event. I am in Japan. I leave tomorrow

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Speaker 1: to go back to the United States. People who've been

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Speaker 1: listening to this podcast for better or for worse, are

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Speaker 1: you're aware of the fact that I'm going a little

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Speaker 1: bit crazy. But I think that once I have I

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Speaker 1: have a good faith that once I return to the

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Speaker 1: United States and fucking you know, get back integrated with

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Speaker 1: normal ass life, that things will be good. I'm actually

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Speaker 1: feeling pretty okay this morning. Sunlight is good. I did

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Speaker 1: I did twenty five push ups in a row for

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Speaker 1: the first time in my entire life. I don't know

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Speaker 1: why I'm bragging about that, but I just need. These

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Speaker 1: so I'm sharing them.

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Speaker 2: This is this is.

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Speaker 1: You know what's funny is I used to listen to

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Speaker 1: a podcast called WTF with Mark Maron, and he opened

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Speaker 1: he like does interviews with comedians, but he always opens

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Speaker 1: it by doing what I'm doing right now, just going

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Speaker 1: on long rants about his own life. And every time

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Speaker 1: I was always like, why does this guy do this?

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Speaker 1: I always would skip over the ramp part to just

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Speaker 1: ranting about my life when I used to chastise this

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Speaker 2: Okay, let's get into some emails. All right.

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Speaker 1: This is from my subject line I pooped my pants. Okay,

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Speaker 1: there we go, some lighthearted fun.

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Speaker 2: Hey gecko.

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Speaker 1: For a long time, I had made fun of a

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Speaker 1: friend because she sharded quite a bit. I was on

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Speaker 1: such a high horse about how I never sharded ever

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Speaker 1: until one day I was watching Telly and I felt

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Speaker 1: I quickly realized, you know what, I don't have to

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Speaker 1: of this email, but that's you know, all right, Let's

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Speaker 1: try to find a real one, all right. This is

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Speaker 1: from Roy, subject line I don't know how to be gay.

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Speaker 2: Hey, Lyle, you.

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Speaker 1: Can call me Roy. I'm twenty years old and I've

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Speaker 1: been with my boyfriend for three years. We're talking about

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Speaker 1: ceremony might work. I know you can just do whatever

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Speaker 1: those topics. Yes, I live in Alaska, born and raised. Ooh,

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Speaker 1: I think it'd be super cool if you came here

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Speaker 1: on tour. Next time you think about debt yo, kick ass. No,

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Speaker 1: I love, I'm maybe I do. I want to make

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Speaker 2: I don't know.

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Speaker 1: Well, Okay, Roy, you sent me this email over three

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Speaker 1: months ago, so I don't know if you are still

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Speaker 2: But here, I mean, I we'll hear what.

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Speaker 1: Look, dude, what jumps out at me is that you're

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Speaker 1: That's the main thing. The gay thing and the dad

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Speaker 1: thing is you know. I'm sure that they're all important

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Speaker 1: aspects of this in your brain, but I hopefully, hopefully

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Speaker 1: twenty years old. And you know, here's the thing, man,

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Speaker 1: I don't know, some people get married young and it

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Speaker 2: A lot of the don't trust.

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Speaker 1: So here's the thing, Roy, I kind of think that

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Speaker 1: when you're twenty years old, you know, in my humble opinion, Roy,

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Speaker 1: know thing with your dad, But my humble opinion is, like,

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Speaker 1: you got so much fucking room to develop yourself as

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Speaker 2: Now, you know.

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Speaker 1: And I look, I'm not saying like, oh, you're twenty,

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Speaker 2: Get married, man, Tony, just why why? Why? I am

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Speaker 1: I mean, look, if you and your boyfriend are hanging

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Speaker 1: know why I guess why are you in a rush

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Speaker 1: is like, I don't want you to design. You can

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Speaker 1: design your own wedding. Roy you can both wear suits,

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Speaker 2: So why don't you just be You can just.

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Speaker 1: don't know, it's that's the thing, is I mean, you

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Speaker 2: You said, Uh, what is it? What is it?

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Speaker 1: I'm not worried my dad will react terribly. So if

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Speaker 1: to say about these things. Okay from Ivan, No subject Gecko?

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Speaker 1: When are you coming to LA? And where do you

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Speaker 1: buy the Gecko suit? When am I coming to La?

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Speaker 2: I was in La?

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Speaker 1: Oh crap, this person sent me this on October eighteenth.

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Speaker 1: It is now March third, and I was last in

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Speaker 1: La like November fifth or something like that. So yeah,

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Speaker 1: you missed me. But where do you buy the Gecko suit?

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Speaker 1: You buy it on what the same place you buy everything?

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Speaker 1: God damn it? Right on Amazon? Just go to Amazon

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Speaker 1: search a Gecko suits. I need to get an affiliate

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Speaker 1: code for that, but I don't have one right now.

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Speaker 1: So just yeah, I don't know how much is it?

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Speaker 2: Right now?

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna check. It always fluctuates in price. Okay, do

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Speaker 1: not show me items in Japan?

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Speaker 2: Okay? Hold on?

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Speaker 1: Uh okay, okay, I'm on Amazon. Gecko costs too. All right,

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Speaker 1: let's see what the cheapest one we can find is Rasta. Okay, yeah,

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Speaker 1: the brand is called Rasta Impasta. Where are we at

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Speaker 1: with this? No featured offer is available? Oh my god,

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Speaker 1: don't tell me, dude, No, hold on, don't tell me

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Speaker 1: they start.

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Speaker 2: Don't hold on.

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Speaker 1: Do not tell me that I am live while recording

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Speaker 1: this right fucking now discovering that they don't make this

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Speaker 1: costume anymore. Oh my god, no no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no,

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Speaker 1: holy shit, no more fat your offers available. Dude, No,

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Speaker 1: this can't. This cannot be happening right now.

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Speaker 2: I always knew that this hold on.

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Speaker 1: Okay, this is insane that I am live realizing this

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Speaker 1: right now as I'm recording this podcast, I am searching

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Speaker 1: to find this gecko suit and I don't.

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Speaker 2: I don't.

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Speaker 1: I found the listing, but there's no options to buy, folks.

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Speaker 1: her horse. Wow, that's pretty cool. He's wearing a hat.

436
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Speaker 1: That's very interesting. In twenty twenty, I started taking care

437
00:24:20,000 --> 00:24:23,200
Speaker 1: of my mom full time. She has dementia. She's currently

438
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Speaker 1: on hospice, so she has a six months to one

439
00:24:25,800 --> 00:24:29,440
Speaker 1: year prognosis. When my mom passes, I plan to buy

440
00:24:29,480 --> 00:24:32,840
Speaker 1: an RV and hit the road. I plan to start

441
00:24:32,880 --> 00:24:36,800
Speaker 1: a podcast talking to people about the paranormal religion and UFOs.

442
00:24:37,280 --> 00:24:39,560
Speaker 1: I plan to travel around, set up in a public

443
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Speaker 1: space and start talking to people.

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Speaker 2: Wow.

445
00:24:41,359 --> 00:24:43,840
Speaker 1: That's hilarious. It's exactly what I was just talking about

446
00:24:44,720 --> 00:24:47,320
Speaker 1: wanting to do more of. Can you offer any advice?

447
00:24:47,840 --> 00:24:49,640
Speaker 1: My biggest concern is the amount of time that will

448
00:24:49,640 --> 00:24:51,919
Speaker 1: need to be dedicated to editing and posting the podcast.

449
00:24:52,280 --> 00:24:54,360
Speaker 1: I hope to your comments. Thanks for being there. You've

450
00:24:54,359 --> 00:25:00,000
Speaker 1: inspired me. Thank you, Janet. Wow, fascinating, fascinating, fascinating, fascinat

451
00:25:00,000 --> 00:25:05,800
Speaker 1: anything fascinating. First of all, I think this is uh,

452
00:25:06,840 --> 00:25:12,520
Speaker 1: super fucking cool to be starting doing this at sixty

453
00:25:12,640 --> 00:25:15,400
Speaker 1: years old. There's gonna be a lot of people who

454
00:25:15,400 --> 00:25:17,760
Speaker 1: I bet want to talk to you. So I think

455
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Speaker 1: it's a great idea. Can I offer you any I

456
00:25:19,760 --> 00:25:23,960
Speaker 1: can't offer you any advice. I just do it you honestly.

457
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Speaker 1: I can just tell by this email you have a

458
00:25:27,359 --> 00:25:30,840
Speaker 1: strong conviction in what you want to do, and so

459
00:25:31,800 --> 00:25:33,320
Speaker 1: I don't have any advice for you. I mean, just

460
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Speaker 1: do it right. The amount of time that will we need,

461
00:25:36,400 --> 00:25:42,680
Speaker 1: you know, dedicated to editing and posting the podcast, Well,

462
00:25:42,720 --> 00:25:43,600
Speaker 1: what else are you doing?

463
00:25:44,040 --> 00:25:44,760
Speaker 2: What's going on?

464
00:25:45,880 --> 00:25:48,359
Speaker 1: You know, your horse is at home taking care of

465
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Speaker 1: the you know, doing dishes, and I don't know if

466
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Speaker 1: you guys have a traditional kind of relationship where the

467
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Speaker 1: horse goes out and makes all the money. But you

468
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Speaker 1: know what, I don't know what you're doing with the

469
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Speaker 1: rest of your time.

470
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Speaker 2: You know.

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00:26:04,800 --> 00:26:09,919
Speaker 1: Uh, let's see, posting the podcast is very easy. You

472
00:26:10,000 --> 00:26:13,760
Speaker 1: hit one button and a post the podcast. Maybe you

473
00:26:13,760 --> 00:26:16,680
Speaker 1: can get somebody to help you edit. That could be

474
00:26:16,760 --> 00:26:19,200
Speaker 1: kind of cool. Maybe you could get somebody to help

475
00:26:19,240 --> 00:26:19,600
Speaker 1: you edit.

476
00:26:22,320 --> 00:26:23,879
Speaker 2: You know, I don't know who you got around you.

477
00:26:24,480 --> 00:26:27,959
Speaker 2: I don't know who's who?

478
00:26:28,000 --> 00:26:31,440
Speaker 1: Who else is uh in your life? But maybe you

479
00:26:31,480 --> 00:26:36,280
Speaker 1: could get somebody else to help you edit. But also

480
00:26:36,359 --> 00:26:39,119
Speaker 1: like you know, editing, editing, that's the thing that is

481
00:26:39,160 --> 00:26:41,760
Speaker 1: like editing your podcast. If you just kind of like

482
00:26:42,440 --> 00:26:47,000
Speaker 1: in point out point, it's not going to be that

483
00:26:47,440 --> 00:26:51,200
Speaker 1: crazy time intensive, I don't think. But uh, yeah, I

484
00:26:51,480 --> 00:26:52,879
Speaker 1: have no advice for you. I just think you should

485
00:26:52,880 --> 00:26:54,520
Speaker 1: go and do this because it's it's super cool and

486
00:26:54,600 --> 00:26:58,320
Speaker 1: I'm I'm excited to see what what kind of podcast

487
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Speaker 1: you cook up, Jane. So if you happen to hear this,

488
00:27:03,520 --> 00:27:07,160
Speaker 1: and you happen to you know, once you get it started,

489
00:27:07,800 --> 00:27:10,959
Speaker 1: send me another email. I want to see what's going on.

490
00:27:11,440 --> 00:27:13,280
Speaker 1: I want to see what you what you ended up doing.

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Speaker 2: All right?

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00:27:16,000 --> 00:27:23,359
Speaker 1: This is from Tyler, subject line seasonal depression. He Tyler says,

493
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Speaker 1: I always seem to think we are similar every time

494
00:27:25,320 --> 00:27:28,000
Speaker 1: I hear you mention your mental health issues. This from

495
00:27:28,000 --> 00:27:31,440
Speaker 1: December fourth. Oh crap, how often have I been messaging

496
00:27:31,480 --> 00:27:34,639
Speaker 1: mentioning my mental health issues? Just wanted to say, keep pushing,

497
00:27:34,720 --> 00:27:37,439
Speaker 1: especially with days getting shorter. Also, I feel I consume

498
00:27:37,480 --> 00:27:39,639
Speaker 1: too much weed during these times and it makes it worse.

499
00:27:39,760 --> 00:27:40,040
Speaker 2: Help.

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00:27:41,880 --> 00:27:49,119
Speaker 1: Yeah, there is definitely a correlation between uh, you know,

501
00:27:49,200 --> 00:27:58,760
Speaker 1: the seasons and how I feel. Yeah, there's definitely a correlation. Well, thanks,

502
00:27:58,760 --> 00:28:02,879
Speaker 1: thanks for the tyler. You you two man. Keep living,

503
00:28:03,000 --> 00:28:12,320
Speaker 1: Keep being alive, Keep being alive. All right, all right?

504
00:28:12,400 --> 00:28:16,800
Speaker 1: This is from k subject line poop waterfall. All right,

505
00:28:16,840 --> 00:28:20,920
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna read that, all right. This is from Riley.

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00:28:21,359 --> 00:28:26,560
Speaker 1: Subject line entrepreneur to entrepreneur. Riley says, Howdy green gecko,

507
00:28:26,600 --> 00:28:29,120
Speaker 1: man of the Internet. My name is Riley. I am

508
00:28:29,119 --> 00:28:31,440
Speaker 1: twenty one years old and just started my own business

509
00:28:31,920 --> 00:28:38,560
Speaker 1: as a ferrier parentheses horseshore. I've been home from shooting

510
00:28:38,720 --> 00:28:41,320
Speaker 1: school for seven months and I've had plenty of work

511
00:28:41,360 --> 00:28:45,720
Speaker 1: between my own clients and apprenticeships since i've been home. However,

512
00:28:46,000 --> 00:28:48,480
Speaker 1: this is the first winter of my career and things

513
00:28:48,520 --> 00:28:51,760
Speaker 1: are slowing down. Horses aren't growing as fast, and schedules

514
00:28:51,800 --> 00:28:54,320
Speaker 1: are getting stretched. In the past few months, I have

515
00:28:54,400 --> 00:28:58,640
Speaker 1: made drastic changes in my lifestyle, including diet for chronic pain,

516
00:28:59,080 --> 00:29:02,080
Speaker 1: breaking bad habits. It's focusing on my fitness and mental health,

517
00:29:02,160 --> 00:29:05,000
Speaker 1: doing a lot of yoga, meditation and so on. My

518
00:29:05,040 --> 00:29:08,040
Speaker 1: lifestyle is taken a full one eighty. I've been freaking

519
00:29:08,040 --> 00:29:10,200
Speaker 1: out a little bit about my workload and income slowing

520
00:29:10,240 --> 00:29:12,560
Speaker 1: way down due to the winter. I've decided I will

521
00:29:12,560 --> 00:29:15,120
Speaker 1: take this winter to work really hard on healing my body,

522
00:29:15,400 --> 00:29:19,000
Speaker 1: improving my rig, putting time into friendships, my personal horse,

523
00:29:19,280 --> 00:29:22,640
Speaker 1: and getting ready to go to certification. Do you have

524
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Speaker 1: any advice on getting through the first few years of

525
00:29:25,320 --> 00:29:28,080
Speaker 1: being self employed, on dealing with the highs and lows,

526
00:29:28,360 --> 00:29:29,760
Speaker 1: keeping yourself sane through it all?

527
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Speaker 2: Love you, GHEK. Do I have any advice about this?

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00:29:36,720 --> 00:29:42,200
Speaker 1: I mean, I guess, like, look is thing at the

529
00:29:42,280 --> 00:29:44,160
Speaker 1: end of the day.

530
00:29:44,320 --> 00:29:45,160
Speaker 2: Well, also, you're.

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Speaker 1: Fucking twenty one, so just you're doing every just saying

532
00:29:50,600 --> 00:29:53,240
Speaker 1: you know, don't you sent me this email months ago?

533
00:29:53,320 --> 00:29:55,160
Speaker 1: But just Riley, if you hear this, I mean, you're

534
00:29:55,160 --> 00:29:57,920
Speaker 1: twenty one years old and you're giving it a shot. Right,

535
00:29:58,240 --> 00:30:02,320
Speaker 1: You could just fuck up, right, you could just fuck

536
00:30:03,320 --> 00:30:09,800
Speaker 1: everything up. Just you could just destroy your fucking life

537
00:30:10,240 --> 00:30:13,120
Speaker 1: and it would be fine because you have tons of

538
00:30:13,120 --> 00:30:14,080
Speaker 1: time to rebuild it.

539
00:30:14,600 --> 00:30:14,800
Speaker 2: You know.

540
00:30:15,120 --> 00:30:17,720
Speaker 1: It's like it's like the stock market, like it could

541
00:30:17,760 --> 00:30:23,960
Speaker 1: take a fucking dive, right, but like over time it recovers.

542
00:30:24,280 --> 00:30:26,360
Speaker 1: You know, you're young, you can you can hold down

543
00:30:26,520 --> 00:30:31,320
Speaker 1: the uh fort right, so you're doing it right, you know.

544
00:30:31,440 --> 00:30:33,080
Speaker 1: I mean cause if you were telling me you're like

545
00:30:33,200 --> 00:30:36,720
Speaker 1: fifty and you have kids and they're starving because you

546
00:30:36,800 --> 00:30:39,120
Speaker 1: have to do your own business and you're fucking out,

547
00:30:39,160 --> 00:30:40,480
Speaker 1: like that's that would.

548
00:30:40,280 --> 00:30:41,280
Speaker 2: Be fucked up, right.

549
00:30:41,560 --> 00:30:45,640
Speaker 1: But just just to have have have a lot of

550
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Speaker 1: faith in the fact that you're doing this at the

551
00:30:48,160 --> 00:30:52,960
Speaker 1: right time and you're doing it right, that's what I

552
00:30:53,000 --> 00:30:53,480
Speaker 1: would say.

553
00:30:54,080 --> 00:30:55,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's what I would say. I hope that that

554
00:30:55,600 --> 00:31:01,840
Speaker 2: gives you some some form of, you know.

555
00:31:02,880 --> 00:31:07,920
Speaker 1: Clarity or or strength to keep going that like, you know,

556
00:31:07,960 --> 00:31:11,240
Speaker 1: you got plenty of time to fuck up your die again.

557
00:31:11,240 --> 00:31:12,840
Speaker 2: I think you're doing it right. I think you're doing

558
00:31:12,840 --> 00:31:18,720
Speaker 2: it right all right.

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00:31:18,760 --> 00:31:25,040
Speaker 1: This is from Nick subject line lizard wisdom, your green holiness.

560
00:31:25,080 --> 00:31:26,760
Speaker 1: I don't know if I like that. My name is

561
00:31:26,880 --> 00:31:29,880
Speaker 1: Nick and I have been a big fan since twenty twenty.

562
00:31:29,920 --> 00:31:30,400
Speaker 2: Thank you, Nick.

563
00:31:30,640 --> 00:31:32,200
Speaker 1: You were part of the reason I was inspired to

564
00:31:32,200 --> 00:31:35,160
Speaker 1: go to school and become a real therapist. Although I

565
00:31:35,200 --> 00:31:36,920
Speaker 1: am convinced that you are just as much of a

566
00:31:36,960 --> 00:31:40,720
Speaker 1: real therapist, just without the commitment to multiple sessions and

567
00:31:40,720 --> 00:31:42,600
Speaker 1: a button up shirt. I don't I don't know if

568
00:31:42,600 --> 00:31:45,920
Speaker 1: I like that either. I don't think I am, but

569
00:31:46,000 --> 00:31:48,360
Speaker 1: you know what, I'm sorry, I'm shitting on you. I

570
00:31:48,400 --> 00:31:51,840
Speaker 1: appreciate that the sentiment and intention of this email is

571
00:31:51,840 --> 00:31:55,400
Speaker 1: to be nice to me, so thank you Nick. Anyway,

572
00:31:55,400 --> 00:31:57,640
Speaker 1: my question for you is about my girlfriend. I've had

573
00:31:57,720 --> 00:32:00,880
Speaker 1: multiple long term relationships and was engaged two years ago.

574
00:32:01,240 --> 00:32:03,280
Speaker 1: I have been dating my current girlfriend for one year

575
00:32:03,320 --> 00:32:05,320
Speaker 1: and find that she has all of the qualities I

576
00:32:05,360 --> 00:32:08,440
Speaker 1: am looking for in a long term partner. The problem

577
00:32:08,480 --> 00:32:11,560
Speaker 1: is I constantly have dreams about my last girlfriend and

578
00:32:11,600 --> 00:32:17,000
Speaker 1: feel longing for what was lost. My last girlfriend was bipolar, unpredictable,

579
00:32:17,040 --> 00:32:19,200
Speaker 1: and riddled with flaws, and in no way do I

580
00:32:19,200 --> 00:32:21,800
Speaker 1: think our relationship could have ever worked out. But at

581
00:32:21,800 --> 00:32:25,960
Speaker 1: the same time, the feeling of love was overwhelming. The

582
00:32:26,040 --> 00:32:28,959
Speaker 1: question I have been struggling with is essentially, do you

583
00:32:29,040 --> 00:32:32,800
Speaker 1: think it's possible to grow in love with someone or

584
00:32:32,840 --> 00:32:35,480
Speaker 1: do you think it is pre determined?

585
00:32:36,520 --> 00:32:36,800
Speaker 2: Wow.

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00:32:38,560 --> 00:32:40,640
Speaker 1: First of all, let me just say here. I know

587
00:32:40,760 --> 00:32:43,960
Speaker 1: that I know I'm a broken fucking record when it

588
00:32:43,960 --> 00:32:45,360
Speaker 1: comes to saying.

589
00:32:45,080 --> 00:32:51,440
Speaker 2: This, but I don't have any answer to this question.

590
00:32:51,520 --> 00:32:55,400
Speaker 1: These A lot of the questions that I come through

591
00:32:56,200 --> 00:32:59,080
Speaker 1: this podcast are not things I have any answers to.

592
00:32:59,160 --> 00:33:02,280
Speaker 1: But they are things actually that I myself think about

593
00:33:02,320 --> 00:33:04,320
Speaker 1: a lot. I think about this as it possible to

594
00:33:04,360 --> 00:33:06,320
Speaker 1: grow in love with someone or do you think it's predetermined?

595
00:33:06,680 --> 00:33:08,800
Speaker 1: And I've talked to friends about it, I've talked to

596
00:33:08,840 --> 00:33:11,480
Speaker 1: family about it, and I've, like you know, talk to

597
00:33:11,480 --> 00:33:13,680
Speaker 1: people on this podcast about it. And it's like, some

598
00:33:13,720 --> 00:33:16,719
Speaker 1: people believe that you can just decide to be in

599
00:33:16,760 --> 00:33:19,520
Speaker 1: love with someone. Some people believe it's a feeling that

600
00:33:19,560 --> 00:33:25,200
Speaker 1: you chase. Some people believe you know all sorts of

601
00:33:25,240 --> 00:33:30,720
Speaker 1: things right, And it's a little scary to think about

602
00:33:30,880 --> 00:33:37,280
Speaker 1: because nobody wants to make the wrong decision in their life, right,

603
00:33:40,280 --> 00:33:50,440
Speaker 1: and feelings are not always great at guiding us. But yeah,

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00:33:50,480 --> 00:33:53,400
Speaker 1: I don't know if it's predetermined. I mean, I think

605
00:33:53,440 --> 00:33:55,320
Speaker 1: that there is a thing to be said about, like

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00:33:55,440 --> 00:33:57,959
Speaker 1: the more time and energy that you I think there

607
00:33:58,000 --> 00:33:59,480
Speaker 1: is something to be said about like the more time

608
00:33:59,520 --> 00:34:02,800
Speaker 1: and energy you invest in a relationship, the more close

609
00:34:02,920 --> 00:34:07,800
Speaker 1: you will feel to a person. So in that case,

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Speaker 1: maybe it is possible to grow in love with someone.

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00:34:14,080 --> 00:34:15,600
Speaker 2: But yeah, I don't know.

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Speaker 1: It sounds like you're pretty confident that your last relationship

613
00:34:18,120 --> 00:34:21,719
Speaker 1: could have never worked out, so I mean, that's good, right,

614
00:34:22,040 --> 00:34:24,680
Speaker 1: That's that's better than being like, ah, I fucked it up,

615
00:34:25,320 --> 00:34:27,680
Speaker 1: or I would have been beautiful if only I hadn't,

616
00:34:28,200 --> 00:34:30,200
Speaker 1: you know, been fucking.

617
00:34:31,640 --> 00:34:33,800
Speaker 2: Lazy or whatever.

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00:34:34,160 --> 00:34:37,160
Speaker 1: You know, hopefully that helps you sleep better at night

619
00:34:37,800 --> 00:34:40,640
Speaker 1: is just knowing that it never would have worked out

620
00:34:40,640 --> 00:34:43,560
Speaker 1: in the first place. So you know, that's what I

621
00:34:43,600 --> 00:34:44,960
Speaker 1: would cling to if I were.

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Speaker 2: You, Nick. Let's see here, all right.

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Speaker 1: This is from Peebo, subject line I maybe having a

624
00:34:55,200 --> 00:34:59,600
Speaker 1: quarter life crisis. Hello Lyle. First of all, Happy New Year.

625
00:34:59,680 --> 00:35:00,960
Speaker 1: I hope you're doing well.

626
00:35:00,960 --> 00:35:01,279
Speaker 2: Thank you.

627
00:35:01,640 --> 00:35:04,040
Speaker 1: I am emailing to share some thoughts I've been having

628
00:35:04,080 --> 00:35:07,680
Speaker 1: about my career slash relationship and hear your inputs. I

629
00:35:07,680 --> 00:35:10,520
Speaker 1: am in a five year relationship that has been pretty good.

630
00:35:10,920 --> 00:35:13,200
Speaker 1: I am currently pursuing my masters, and I think I

631
00:35:13,200 --> 00:35:15,640
Speaker 1: have found something that I can consider a career in.

632
00:35:17,160 --> 00:35:20,200
Speaker 1: After I finish, I can start job hunting or apply

633
00:35:20,280 --> 00:35:24,760
Speaker 1: for a PhD. Getting a PhD is an insane commitment

634
00:35:24,800 --> 00:35:27,319
Speaker 1: of my time and may require me to move away if.

635
00:35:27,239 --> 00:35:28,920
Speaker 2: I don't get into a local school.

636
00:35:29,200 --> 00:35:31,319
Speaker 1: If I have to move, my boyfriend can't follow me

637
00:35:31,360 --> 00:35:33,799
Speaker 1: because he owns a business. My boyfriend doesn't want me

638
00:35:33,840 --> 00:35:35,880
Speaker 1: to apply for programs far away because he thinks our

639
00:35:35,880 --> 00:35:38,920
Speaker 1: relationship could end. I never moved away from home, so

640
00:35:38,920 --> 00:35:41,000
Speaker 1: I'm interested in taking the opportunity to do so.

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00:35:41,160 --> 00:35:41,920
Speaker 2: PhD or not.

642
00:35:42,440 --> 00:35:44,880
Speaker 1: I want to move out after I finish my current degree.

643
00:35:45,200 --> 00:35:47,280
Speaker 1: My boyfriend wants to wait to buy a house together

644
00:35:47,560 --> 00:35:49,960
Speaker 1: rather than rent. There's nothing wrong with this, but he

645
00:35:50,000 --> 00:35:53,040
Speaker 1: continues to invest money, so I cannot see how we

646
00:35:53,080 --> 00:35:54,920
Speaker 1: move out in the next few years. And I don't

647
00:35:54,960 --> 00:35:57,600
Speaker 1: want to live at home in my thirties. I know

648
00:35:57,640 --> 00:35:59,400
Speaker 1: if I stayed, it would be an easier choice, but

649
00:35:59,440 --> 00:36:01,200
Speaker 1: part of me wants to try doing this alone if

650
00:36:01,200 --> 00:36:04,760
Speaker 1: you won't come with me. I have sort of breached

651
00:36:05,000 --> 00:36:08,160
Speaker 1: the subject before, but it ends in him being upset.

652
00:36:09,120 --> 00:36:11,080
Speaker 1: Sometimes I doubt I would even do well in a

653
00:36:11,120 --> 00:36:13,759
Speaker 1: PhD program, so maybe it is better to stay and

654
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Speaker 1: find work. Also, it is hard to imagine my life

655
00:36:16,760 --> 00:36:19,799
Speaker 1: without him. He is my best friend. I feel pretty

656
00:36:19,800 --> 00:36:23,080
Speaker 1: guilty for feeling this way. PhD applications are due in

657
00:36:23,120 --> 00:36:25,759
Speaker 1: December twenty twenty five, but I would not start the

658
00:36:25,760 --> 00:36:28,839
Speaker 1: program until fall of twenty twenty six. Sounds far away,

659
00:36:28,880 --> 00:36:30,880
Speaker 1: but I know it will come quickly. Also, I forgot

660
00:36:30,920 --> 00:36:33,160
Speaker 1: to mention, but I am twenty five. He is in

661
00:36:33,160 --> 00:36:43,000
Speaker 1: his early thirties. Best peebo. You know, it's funny when

662
00:36:43,000 --> 00:36:47,040
Speaker 1: I first started doing this podcast and this kind of

663
00:36:47,040 --> 00:36:54,320
Speaker 1: shit would come through. I'm not going to disclaim anymore

664
00:36:54,440 --> 00:36:56,160
Speaker 1: the fact that I don't know what I'm talking about,

665
00:36:56,200 --> 00:36:59,040
Speaker 1: but it comes inherent for me to be able to

666
00:36:59,120 --> 00:37:01,759
Speaker 1: do this. But I don't know what I even just

667
00:37:01,760 --> 00:37:03,680
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't think what I just said made

668
00:37:03,680 --> 00:37:05,440
Speaker 1: any sense, but I did record it and I am

669
00:37:05,520 --> 00:37:11,040
Speaker 1: putting it on the internet anyway. You know, it's funny

670
00:37:11,760 --> 00:37:14,080
Speaker 1: when I first started doing this and shit like this

671
00:37:14,120 --> 00:37:16,400
Speaker 1: would come by, I would always kind of instantly be like,

672
00:37:17,080 --> 00:37:22,760
Speaker 1: you know, always always go for the thing that gives

673
00:37:22,800 --> 00:37:30,560
Speaker 1: you personal growth over like anything else, especially goddamn especially

674
00:37:30,600 --> 00:37:33,879
Speaker 1: if you're young. I again, I'll speak from my own

675
00:37:33,920 --> 00:37:39,840
Speaker 1: lived experience, right is, like I specifically always wanted to

676
00:37:39,920 --> 00:37:42,760
Speaker 1: like leave home. I always wanted to see the world.

677
00:37:42,920 --> 00:37:46,520
Speaker 1: I felt like, you'll only live once. You should see

678
00:37:46,560 --> 00:37:50,760
Speaker 1: the world that you live in. It's it's pretty crazy

679
00:37:50,800 --> 00:37:53,000
Speaker 1: out there. You should you should, just if you just

680
00:37:53,320 --> 00:37:57,399
Speaker 1: fucking never leave the town that you grew up in

681
00:37:58,160 --> 00:38:04,440
Speaker 1: and you just stay there, you're not getting the full

682
00:38:05,280 --> 00:38:08,160
Speaker 1: experience of life right.

683
00:38:09,520 --> 00:38:09,800
Speaker 2: Now.

684
00:38:11,400 --> 00:38:13,279
Speaker 1: You know, I'm thinking because because that's what I would

685
00:38:13,280 --> 00:38:15,919
Speaker 1: have said a few years ago.

686
00:38:16,760 --> 00:38:19,880
Speaker 2: But now after myself having lived.

687
00:38:21,040 --> 00:38:23,879
Speaker 1: A life where I'm kind of running around everywhere, part

688
00:38:23,880 --> 00:38:26,000
Speaker 1: of me is like, oh, you know, there is something

689
00:38:26,280 --> 00:38:33,600
Speaker 1: about staying in the community that you already have because

690
00:38:33,920 --> 00:38:38,160
Speaker 1: it's comforting. But I still and I'm thinking about it

691
00:38:38,200 --> 00:38:40,040
Speaker 1: right You're making me think about it right now. You're

692
00:38:40,040 --> 00:38:42,240
Speaker 1: making me think about it right now, And I still

693
00:38:42,280 --> 00:38:44,799
Speaker 1: fucking think it's all gonna be easier said than done.

694
00:38:44,840 --> 00:38:47,800
Speaker 1: But I still fucking think, dude, if you've never left,

695
00:38:48,520 --> 00:38:53,479
Speaker 1: if you've never left, I think it's worth it to leave,

696
00:38:54,280 --> 00:38:58,320
Speaker 1: you know. I mean what I just said about sticking

697
00:38:58,360 --> 00:39:00,520
Speaker 1: around a place for a while and building community and

698
00:39:00,800 --> 00:39:03,720
Speaker 1: building relationships and stuff. It's like, that's that's always gonna

699
00:39:03,760 --> 00:39:09,520
Speaker 1: be an option, right And once you're in that and

700
00:39:09,719 --> 00:39:12,120
Speaker 1: you have a whatever the fuck I mean, honestly, not

701
00:39:12,160 --> 00:39:13,640
Speaker 1: even once you're in that and you have a whatever

702
00:39:13,640 --> 00:39:17,719
Speaker 1: the fuck you, there's always gonna be opportunities to explore

703
00:39:17,760 --> 00:39:19,359
Speaker 1: and grow and do shit.

704
00:39:22,360 --> 00:39:24,080
Speaker 2: I kind of have.

705
00:39:24,400 --> 00:39:29,080
Speaker 1: A bit of a thing in my gut and brain

706
00:39:29,200 --> 00:39:34,759
Speaker 1: when it comes to relationships and whatnot of like if

707
00:39:34,800 --> 00:39:38,440
Speaker 1: it's meant to be, it's meant to be, you know,

708
00:39:39,800 --> 00:39:41,640
Speaker 1: like part of me thinks.

709
00:39:42,000 --> 00:39:43,320
Speaker 2: And this kind of goes back.

710
00:39:43,160 --> 00:39:47,399
Speaker 1: To what we were talking about on the other email, of

711
00:39:47,520 --> 00:39:49,680
Speaker 1: like is how much of the shit is predetermined?

712
00:39:51,320 --> 00:39:53,480
Speaker 2: I way back and forth between whether or not we

713
00:39:53,560 --> 00:39:54,120
Speaker 2: live in a.

714
00:39:55,680 --> 00:39:58,959
Speaker 1: There's the idea that we live in like complete utter

715
00:39:59,200 --> 00:40:04,960
Speaker 1: chaos universe and there does exist such a thing as

716
00:40:05,040 --> 00:40:11,920
Speaker 1: the wrong decision and everything's fucking completely random, you know,

717
00:40:12,600 --> 00:40:16,600
Speaker 1: the whole Rick and Morty thing. Nobody belongs anywhere, nothing

718
00:40:16,680 --> 00:40:18,359
Speaker 1: is on purpose, We're all gonna die kind of shit.

719
00:40:19,440 --> 00:40:22,040
Speaker 1: And then I sort of I'm so I'm between that

720
00:40:22,400 --> 00:40:27,400
Speaker 1: and between like this kind of feeling of hopefulness that

721
00:40:27,520 --> 00:40:30,839
Speaker 1: like not so much that there's like a predetermined order

722
00:40:31,520 --> 00:40:38,120
Speaker 1: to how the world works, but that like human beings

723
00:40:38,400 --> 00:40:45,279
Speaker 1: are adaptable and like enter I really don't mean this

724
00:40:45,360 --> 00:40:47,160
Speaker 1: in a woo woo sense. I really mean this in

725
00:40:47,560 --> 00:40:50,880
Speaker 1: kind of like a like a logistical grounded thing, like

726
00:40:51,680 --> 00:40:56,760
Speaker 1: people's brains are wired in certain ways, and like institutions

727
00:40:57,280 --> 00:41:00,960
Speaker 1: and places are wired in certain ways, and there's just

728
00:41:01,000 --> 00:41:05,640
Speaker 1: this like mathematical equation that occurs when the ways in

729
00:41:05,719 --> 00:41:09,120
Speaker 1: which people and things and places and institutions are wired

730
00:41:09,360 --> 00:41:12,680
Speaker 1: connect with each other, and that mathematical equation has a

731
00:41:12,840 --> 00:41:15,719
Speaker 1: has an equal sign and it's gonna equal whatever the

732
00:41:15,760 --> 00:41:18,319
Speaker 1: fuck it's gonna equal anyway, meaning that if things were

733
00:41:18,400 --> 00:41:20,319
Speaker 1: gonna work out, then they would have, and if they

734
00:41:21,200 --> 00:41:23,600
Speaker 1: didn't work out, they never meant they never were meant

735
00:41:23,600 --> 00:41:23,799
Speaker 1: to be.

736
00:41:24,680 --> 00:41:26,480
Speaker 2: I know what I just said sounded like a woo

737
00:41:26,480 --> 00:41:27,319
Speaker 2: woo thing, but I don't.

738
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Speaker 1: I think it is like a logistic I think what

739
00:41:29,960 --> 00:41:32,520
Speaker 1: I just said made fucking sense, right, Because you're who

740
00:41:32,520 --> 00:41:34,560
Speaker 1: you are in a sense, and your brain works the

741
00:41:34,560 --> 00:41:36,400
Speaker 1: way it does in a sense. And your boyfriend is

742
00:41:36,400 --> 00:41:38,239
Speaker 1: who he is in a sense, and his brain works

743
00:41:38,280 --> 00:41:39,600
Speaker 1: the way it is in a sense, and he has

744
00:41:39,640 --> 00:41:41,160
Speaker 1: his own life and you have your own life, and

745
00:41:41,160 --> 00:41:44,520
Speaker 1: they kind of gel and mesh and in a perfect

746
00:41:44,520 --> 00:41:47,280
Speaker 1: beautiful world where everything always works out forever and always

747
00:41:47,960 --> 00:41:54,920
Speaker 1: things will work out. But just like empirically, sometimes the energies.

748
00:41:56,440 --> 00:41:57,680
Speaker 2: In the paths.

749
00:41:59,200 --> 00:42:04,120
Speaker 1: Divulge, and maybe they divulge for a moment, and people

750
00:42:04,160 --> 00:42:06,440
Speaker 1: find their way back to each other, and life is

751
00:42:06,520 --> 00:42:11,719
Speaker 1: kind of weird and and crazy like that. But that

752
00:42:11,800 --> 00:42:21,759
Speaker 1: whole rant is all to say that, you know, if

753
00:42:21,760 --> 00:42:25,200
Speaker 1: you never left your fucking hometown before, I mean, go

754
00:42:25,680 --> 00:42:31,120
Speaker 1: try it, just try it. Not everyone's built not everyone's

755
00:42:31,239 --> 00:42:33,279
Speaker 1: like built for it, not not even a in a

756
00:42:33,440 --> 00:42:35,560
Speaker 1: like being able to handle it sense, but in a

757
00:42:35,680 --> 00:42:38,240
Speaker 1: being able in a whether or not leaving your hometown

758
00:42:38,239 --> 00:42:39,360
Speaker 1: brings you happiness sense.

759
00:42:39,880 --> 00:42:41,799
Speaker 2: But if you don't know, I mean, you should give

760
00:42:41,800 --> 00:42:43,680
Speaker 2: it a try. I don't know.

761
00:42:43,840 --> 00:42:45,719
Speaker 1: I hope, my I hope, I hope. I don't have

762
00:42:46,200 --> 00:42:48,239
Speaker 1: Please don't listen to this because I don't. I don't

763
00:42:48,239 --> 00:42:52,560
Speaker 1: want to take any responsibility for any any decisions you

764
00:42:52,600 --> 00:42:54,399
Speaker 1: might make with your life.

765
00:42:55,400 --> 00:43:00,200
Speaker 2: That's the that's the that's the truth. Okay, all right,

766
00:43:00,239 --> 00:43:03,480
Speaker 2: let's keep going. All right.

767
00:43:03,520 --> 00:43:07,359
Speaker 1: This is from Okay, this is from Brian. Hey gek,

768
00:43:07,480 --> 00:43:09,600
Speaker 1: you can choose a name for me. I got chased

769
00:43:09,600 --> 00:43:11,719
Speaker 1: by a black bear back in the summer, and now

770
00:43:11,760 --> 00:43:15,040
Speaker 1: every time I walk the route where I was chased,

771
00:43:15,440 --> 00:43:18,480
Speaker 1: I relive each terrifying step I took as I ran away.

772
00:43:18,960 --> 00:43:22,880
Speaker 1: I live in constant fear while walking slash running that

773
00:43:23,000 --> 00:43:25,160
Speaker 1: a black bear will jump out of the bush.

774
00:43:24,920 --> 00:43:25,440
Speaker 2: And eat me.

775
00:43:26,680 --> 00:43:32,360
Speaker 1: That's the whole fucking email, all right. I think I

776
00:43:32,400 --> 00:43:35,279
Speaker 1: did my job by just simply reading that. I don't

777
00:43:35,280 --> 00:43:43,240
Speaker 1: know if I need any further context or things to say.

778
00:43:44,000 --> 00:43:48,239
Speaker 1: All right, it's from Dante, subject line a problem around Oh,

779
00:43:48,280 --> 00:43:49,799
Speaker 1: I just remembered what I wanted to say about that

780
00:43:49,840 --> 00:43:52,440
Speaker 1: last email. Well, go watch the Revenant. Actually, don't watch

781
00:43:52,480 --> 00:43:54,759
Speaker 1: the Revenant. That'll make your life. That'll make you It'll

782
00:43:54,760 --> 00:43:55,520
Speaker 1: make things worse.

783
00:43:55,680 --> 00:43:56,000
Speaker 2: Okay.

784
00:43:56,040 --> 00:43:59,839
Speaker 1: From Dante, subject line A problem around work slash relaxation.

785
00:44:01,680 --> 00:44:02,719
Speaker 2: Hey, gek, big fan.

786
00:44:02,880 --> 00:44:05,640
Speaker 1: I've gotten into a bad habit of watching productivity and

787
00:44:05,680 --> 00:44:08,239
Speaker 1: self help content, and now I am split when it

788
00:44:08,280 --> 00:44:11,720
Speaker 1: comes to how I should conduct my life. On one hand,

789
00:44:11,840 --> 00:44:15,279
Speaker 1: I enjoy working hard and building towards something over time,

790
00:44:15,840 --> 00:44:19,000
Speaker 1: but having every bit of mental focus fixated on achieving

791
00:44:19,040 --> 00:44:23,120
Speaker 1: something often makes me stressed out, and eventually I resent.

792
00:44:22,920 --> 00:44:24,719
Speaker 2: What I work towards. Ooh.

793
00:44:24,800 --> 00:44:27,319
Speaker 1: I can also relax occasionally, but I get bored very

794
00:44:27,360 --> 00:44:29,600
Speaker 1: easily if I don't have something to put my mind towards,

795
00:44:29,760 --> 00:44:32,040
Speaker 1: and I get uncomfortable on holidays because they mess up

796
00:44:32,080 --> 00:44:35,160
Speaker 1: the momentum of what I'm working on. At first, I

797
00:44:35,160 --> 00:44:36,879
Speaker 1: thought it was either because I wasn't pushing hard enough

798
00:44:36,960 --> 00:44:38,880
Speaker 1: or not fully relaxing enough, But now I think the

799
00:44:38,920 --> 00:44:40,600
Speaker 1: fact that I watch a lot of this content makes

800
00:44:40,600 --> 00:44:42,560
Speaker 1: me ultra conscious of everything I do and how I'm

801
00:44:42,560 --> 00:44:45,840
Speaker 1: spending every bit of time. That's the whole email, Dante.

802
00:44:45,960 --> 00:44:47,560
Speaker 1: I'm with you, my brother.

803
00:44:48,440 --> 00:44:48,920
Speaker 2: I am.

804
00:44:50,719 --> 00:44:56,840
Speaker 1: Highly relate to several of the aspects of this email.

805
00:44:57,360 --> 00:45:00,600
Speaker 1: I highly relate to it. I think they answer is

806
00:45:01,920 --> 00:45:05,960
Speaker 1: probably just balance, right. I think the answer is just balance,

807
00:45:08,760 --> 00:45:19,920
Speaker 1: you know, like being able to being able to, like, okay,

808
00:45:20,040 --> 00:45:24,440
Speaker 1: get some ship done during the day, right, so that

809
00:45:24,480 --> 00:45:28,319
Speaker 1: you can feel as though you got what you if

810
00:45:28,360 --> 00:45:30,600
Speaker 1: it feels like you've got some ship done that day

811
00:45:31,320 --> 00:45:34,240
Speaker 1: and then at night you can go party or relax

812
00:45:34,360 --> 00:45:36,400
Speaker 1: or do whatever the fuck it is you're gonna do.

813
00:45:36,600 --> 00:45:39,480
Speaker 1: So uh, I mean, that's that's that's the word here.

814
00:45:40,080 --> 00:45:46,600
Speaker 1: I think it would be balance because because it's it's

815
00:45:46,640 --> 00:45:51,439
Speaker 1: way easier to enjoy, uh, being on holiday or being

816
00:45:51,560 --> 00:45:55,200
Speaker 1: up in the club or whatever, if you don't have

817
00:45:55,320 --> 00:45:58,400
Speaker 1: this nagging feeling like your homework isn't done. That that

818
00:45:58,440 --> 00:46:01,480
Speaker 1: whole kind of nagging, my homework isn't done feelings has

819
00:46:01,680 --> 00:46:05,600
Speaker 1: you know, been with me forever? So I feel you, so,

820
00:46:06,000 --> 00:46:07,799
Speaker 1: you know, I guess the answer is just try to

821
00:46:08,080 --> 00:46:09,960
Speaker 1: try to have some balance and do your homework during

822
00:46:10,000 --> 00:46:15,720
Speaker 1: the day. Okay, this is from Jake. Subject line, life

823
00:46:15,800 --> 00:46:18,920
Speaker 1: is pretty sweet, to be honest. Okay, thank God. We

824
00:46:19,000 --> 00:46:22,240
Speaker 1: needed this. We absolutely needed this. We needed some hope

825
00:46:22,800 --> 00:46:27,239
Speaker 1: this episode. Please dear God. Okay, Hey, GHEK. My name

826
00:46:27,320 --> 00:46:29,480
Speaker 1: is Jake. I was at your live show in La

827
00:46:29,600 --> 00:46:31,680
Speaker 1: last November, and like I said, life is awesome.

828
00:46:31,760 --> 00:46:32,200
Speaker 2: Right now.

829
00:46:32,440 --> 00:46:35,840
Speaker 1: I work at a chain pizza place, probably getting paid

830
00:46:35,880 --> 00:46:37,960
Speaker 1: too much and getting away with too much. And I'm

831
00:46:37,960 --> 00:46:40,640
Speaker 1: picking up a second job at a family owned cheese

832
00:46:40,640 --> 00:46:44,960
Speaker 1: steak spot, which I'm excited about. I've been super consistent

833
00:46:45,000 --> 00:46:48,880
Speaker 1: with Jim and hobbies too. I'm now sixty five days

834
00:46:48,880 --> 00:46:51,680
Speaker 1: sober from weed brenth Seas. It was a very negative

835
00:46:51,680 --> 00:46:54,680
Speaker 1: force in my life. I still get a bit lonely

836
00:46:54,719 --> 00:46:57,440
Speaker 1: and sad and junk and have days off, but I

837
00:46:57,440 --> 00:47:01,799
Speaker 1: have never felt so consistently content and genuinely happy day

838
00:47:01,800 --> 00:47:02,320
Speaker 1: to day.

839
00:47:02,560 --> 00:47:02,960
Speaker 2: Wow.

840
00:47:03,719 --> 00:47:06,400
Speaker 1: It's still a bit of a foreign feeling, to be honest,

841
00:47:06,680 --> 00:47:08,600
Speaker 1: I don't really know where this momentum came from, but

842
00:47:08,600 --> 00:47:10,320
Speaker 1: I'm trying to make the most of it before I

843
00:47:10,440 --> 00:47:13,160
Speaker 1: end up on another trough. To be honest, I don't

844
00:47:13,200 --> 00:47:15,200
Speaker 1: have much else to say, I just don't have anyone

845
00:47:15,239 --> 00:47:18,560
Speaker 1: to really talk about this with. One vice I still

846
00:47:18,560 --> 00:47:20,560
Speaker 1: have is doom scrolling. And one of my New Year's

847
00:47:20,600 --> 00:47:23,920
Speaker 1: resolutions was to consume better media like movies or video

848
00:47:23,960 --> 00:47:28,279
Speaker 1: games with more intention yeah yeah, rather than scrolling and

849
00:47:28,320 --> 00:47:30,400
Speaker 1: gaining nothing from it. So that's the fucking thing, right

850
00:47:30,480 --> 00:47:31,920
Speaker 1: is You'll be like, oh, I don't have time to

851
00:47:32,080 --> 00:47:34,040
Speaker 1: watch a movie, and then you'll scroll on your phone

852
00:47:34,080 --> 00:47:36,000
Speaker 1: for like two hours and it's like you didn't even

853
00:47:36,360 --> 00:47:37,160
Speaker 1: consume anything.

854
00:47:37,239 --> 00:47:40,320
Speaker 2: You just went crazy. Maybe a silly.

855
00:47:40,080 --> 00:47:42,600
Speaker 1: Resolution compared to most, but I'm a pretty big believer

856
00:47:42,719 --> 00:47:45,359
Speaker 1: in that what we consume molds us in a lot

857
00:47:45,360 --> 00:47:48,040
Speaker 1: of ways. So I'll end this by asking what are

858
00:47:48,040 --> 00:47:50,960
Speaker 1: some recommendations of games or media that has moved you

859
00:47:51,120 --> 00:47:53,279
Speaker 1: or stuck with you through the years, or even just

860
00:47:53,280 --> 00:47:58,439
Speaker 1: a recent obsession. I never had the chance to try

861
00:47:58,480 --> 00:48:00,000
Speaker 1: and call in, so I wanted to try to send

862
00:48:00,040 --> 00:48:02,279
Speaker 1: an email. And I know it's a broken record, but

863
00:48:02,280 --> 00:48:03,840
Speaker 1: you help pass the time so much and give me

864
00:48:03,880 --> 00:48:07,040
Speaker 1: interesting perspectives on things along with your callers. Love the show,

865
00:48:07,080 --> 00:48:10,000
Speaker 1: hope things are going good, get blessed. Thank you, Jake.

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00:48:11,560 --> 00:48:14,799
Speaker 1: I would say, well, okay, my number one video game

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00:48:14,840 --> 00:48:20,640
Speaker 1: recommendation is red de Redemption two. Read Redemption two is

868
00:48:20,640 --> 00:48:22,560
Speaker 1: the greatest video game ever made.

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00:48:22,800 --> 00:48:23,520
Speaker 2: I'm a big fan.

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00:48:23,560 --> 00:48:25,759
Speaker 1: I'm trying to think of any other Well, I don't

871
00:48:25,760 --> 00:48:27,360
Speaker 1: know what you have. I don't know if you're a

872
00:48:27,400 --> 00:48:34,040
Speaker 1: PC guy, PlayStation guy, switch person. I was just playing

873
00:48:34,080 --> 00:48:40,000
Speaker 1: Little Nightmares on the Switch before I came to Japan.

874
00:48:41,920 --> 00:48:47,000
Speaker 1: There's a lot of great Zelda games. BioShock is very good.

875
00:48:49,960 --> 00:48:52,040
Speaker 1: What else, man, what else?

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00:48:53,400 --> 00:48:55,640
Speaker 2: That's my main one. Read Redemption two. Jake.

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00:48:56,360 --> 00:48:58,600
Speaker 1: If you think life is pretty sweet, now just wait

878
00:48:58,719 --> 00:49:04,120
Speaker 1: until you're playing red Redemption to But uh, anyway, in overall,

879
00:49:04,160 --> 00:49:06,680
Speaker 1: thank you for sharing this, Jake. This is cool. I like.

880
00:49:08,760 --> 00:49:10,799
Speaker 2: Hearing a little bit of hope, right.

881
00:49:11,080 --> 00:49:14,279
Speaker 1: That's all that fucking goddamn matters at the end of

882
00:49:14,320 --> 00:49:17,320
Speaker 1: the day, is just being able to like when somebody

883
00:49:17,360 --> 00:49:22,080
Speaker 1: asks you how you're doing, being able to be like, yeah,

884
00:49:22,120 --> 00:49:27,840
Speaker 1: I'm doing good. I'm not going completely insane. I feel stable,

885
00:49:28,320 --> 00:49:33,680
Speaker 1: I feel happy. So that's the best thing, Jake. So

886
00:49:33,960 --> 00:49:37,520
Speaker 1: I'm proud of you, man, I'm happy for you. All right,

887
00:49:38,760 --> 00:49:42,880
Speaker 1: all right. This is from Brett subject line Stepdad at nineteen.

888
00:49:44,520 --> 00:49:47,000
Speaker 1: I'm twenty two now. But when I was nineteen. I

889
00:49:47,040 --> 00:49:49,000
Speaker 1: met a girl on Tinder and went to her house

890
00:49:49,040 --> 00:49:52,080
Speaker 1: one night and just kind of never left and started

891
00:49:52,120 --> 00:49:58,080
Speaker 1: living with her whoa. She had two toddlers, two and three.

892
00:49:58,560 --> 00:50:01,680
Speaker 1: She was also still marry, but they separated only a

893
00:50:01,680 --> 00:50:04,520
Speaker 1: week or two before we got together. I paid all

894
00:50:04,520 --> 00:50:06,680
Speaker 1: the bills and cleaned the house as much as I could,

895
00:50:07,040 --> 00:50:09,120
Speaker 1: but lo all got to be too much after about

896
00:50:09,120 --> 00:50:11,799
Speaker 1: a year and we broke up. Worst part is our

897
00:50:11,880 --> 00:50:14,279
Speaker 1: husband moved into the same apartments as us a few

898
00:50:14,280 --> 00:50:17,719
Speaker 1: months after we got together, and their relationship was just

899
00:50:17,760 --> 00:50:21,520
Speaker 1: more toxic. One of the worst years of my life.

900
00:50:22,280 --> 00:50:24,719
Speaker 1: Ten out of ten. Wouldn't recommend. I think that you

901
00:50:24,920 --> 00:50:28,680
Speaker 1: meant to put zero out of ten. Wouldn't recommend. Ps

902
00:50:28,719 --> 00:50:30,480
Speaker 1: please put this on the podcast if you read it.

903
00:50:30,520 --> 00:50:32,680
Speaker 1: I work crazy hours and won't be able to watch

904
00:50:32,760 --> 00:50:36,960
Speaker 1: the stream. God damn, that is a crazy story.

905
00:50:37,360 --> 00:50:37,880
Speaker 2: My friend.

906
00:50:40,080 --> 00:50:44,160
Speaker 1: You just winter house and you never left. Wow, a

907
00:50:44,239 --> 00:50:46,919
Speaker 1: forever tender date. If this wasn't one of the worst

908
00:50:47,280 --> 00:50:49,160
Speaker 1: years of your life, I would I would think that

909
00:50:49,160 --> 00:50:52,600
Speaker 1: that was kind of romantic actually, but no, it's probably not.

910
00:50:53,600 --> 00:50:53,839
Speaker 2: Okay.

911
00:50:53,840 --> 00:50:57,360
Speaker 1: I'm glad you're out of there. At least Brett keep

912
00:50:57,520 --> 00:51:00,560
Speaker 1: keep keep keep doing your best, keep your best.

913
00:51:01,160 --> 00:51:10,839
Speaker 2: Holy shit? All right, all right?

914
00:51:10,920 --> 00:51:15,960
Speaker 1: This next email subject line solo travel advice. Hey Geck,

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00:51:16,040 --> 00:51:18,760
Speaker 1: my name is Colin and I'm twenty three years young.

916
00:51:19,160 --> 00:51:21,480
Speaker 1: I got my first big boy job this year, and

917
00:51:21,520 --> 00:51:24,399
Speaker 1: with that comes PTO. I want to do a lot

918
00:51:24,440 --> 00:51:27,120
Speaker 1: more traveling. The only place I've ever been outside the

919
00:51:27,200 --> 00:51:31,680
Speaker 1: US is Canada. Exotic, right, I firmly believe traveling is

920
00:51:31,719 --> 00:51:35,880
Speaker 1: a salient component of experiencing this thing we call life. However,

921
00:51:35,880 --> 00:51:37,640
Speaker 1: I have no clue where to start. Do you have

922
00:51:37,680 --> 00:51:40,320
Speaker 1: any advice on solo traveling, such as types of activities

923
00:51:40,320 --> 00:51:43,239
Speaker 1: to do, how to find places to stay, communications and

924
00:51:43,280 --> 00:51:46,560
Speaker 1: countries that don't particularly speak English, etc. I know you've

925
00:51:46,560 --> 00:51:48,640
Speaker 1: spent a lot of time in Japan recently, and that's

926
00:51:48,640 --> 00:51:51,279
Speaker 1: my number one location, but I'm so bad at Japanese.

927
00:51:51,400 --> 00:51:53,600
Speaker 1: I love your show, been listening for ages. Keep up

928
00:51:53,600 --> 00:51:54,160
Speaker 1: the great work.

929
00:51:54,520 --> 00:51:54,840
Speaker 2: PS.

930
00:51:54,920 --> 00:51:56,839
Speaker 1: What do you think of the name Colin? I think

931
00:51:56,840 --> 00:52:00,240
Speaker 1: it's very unique. The name Colin is not unique at all.

932
00:52:01,520 --> 00:52:01,719
Speaker 2: Sorry.

933
00:52:01,760 --> 00:52:03,399
Speaker 1: I don't know why I had to be brutally honest

934
00:52:03,440 --> 00:52:06,279
Speaker 1: with you about that, but yeah, I know a lot

935
00:52:06,280 --> 00:52:09,680
Speaker 1: of Collins, not personally, but anyway, anyway, Okay, let's okay,

936
00:52:09,719 --> 00:52:13,120
Speaker 1: let's talk about what the actual email is about. Yeah,

937
00:52:13,160 --> 00:52:15,080
Speaker 1: I mean I can talk a little bit about solo travel.

938
00:52:15,120 --> 00:52:18,640
Speaker 1: Maybe maybe we can end this episode by talking about

939
00:52:18,640 --> 00:52:23,680
Speaker 1: some solo travel shit. I will say this, if that's

940
00:52:23,760 --> 00:52:28,040
Speaker 1: your number one location, go there first, right, go there first.

941
00:52:28,160 --> 00:52:32,000
Speaker 1: If you're asking me, like, where is the best place? Well, okay,

942
00:52:32,040 --> 00:52:36,000
Speaker 1: it depends, So let's let's talk about this. I don't

943
00:52:36,000 --> 00:52:38,680
Speaker 1: really know which kind of solo traveler you are personally.

944
00:52:39,440 --> 00:52:42,479
Speaker 1: There's there's like two kinds of solo travelers, right. There's

945
00:52:42,520 --> 00:52:45,640
Speaker 1: like solo travelers who when they say solo travel, they

946
00:52:45,719 --> 00:52:48,799
Speaker 1: mean it right. They just want to like go to

947
00:52:48,880 --> 00:52:52,239
Speaker 1: a foreign country and do shit alone and like eat

948
00:52:52,320 --> 00:52:59,680
Speaker 1: alone and go see attractions alone and just fully honestly

949
00:52:59,719 --> 00:53:02,080
Speaker 1: have a trip alone. And then there's people who solo

950
00:53:02,160 --> 00:53:06,160
Speaker 1: travel specifically to meet other people. And those are the

951
00:53:06,160 --> 00:53:09,320
Speaker 1: people who stay in hostels and go on the big

952
00:53:09,480 --> 00:53:13,680
Speaker 1: group guided tours and go to the meetups and try

953
00:53:13,680 --> 00:53:15,920
Speaker 1: to meet people and like the whole point of traveling

954
00:53:15,960 --> 00:53:21,160
Speaker 1: alone is to like get into adventures and meet new people.

955
00:53:21,239 --> 00:53:25,440
Speaker 1: And you know, purse, everyone's different personally. The ladder is

956
00:53:25,480 --> 00:53:28,200
Speaker 1: the kind of solo traveling that I like to do,

957
00:53:28,440 --> 00:53:35,160
Speaker 1: especially when I was in younger and you know, yeah,

958
00:53:35,200 --> 00:53:37,600
Speaker 1: I mean that's the kind of solo traveling that I

959
00:53:37,680 --> 00:53:41,120
Speaker 1: like to do that I think is rewarding and fun.

960
00:53:41,680 --> 00:53:46,640
Speaker 1: I will say Japan, and some people might not agree

961
00:53:46,680 --> 00:53:49,640
Speaker 1: with this, Japan is probably not the best place for

962
00:53:49,880 --> 00:53:52,279
Speaker 1: that kind of solo traveling. The best place for that

963
00:53:52,360 --> 00:53:55,719
Speaker 1: kind of solo traveling might be like Europe or you know,

964
00:53:55,719 --> 00:54:00,440
Speaker 1: you can go to Paris or Italy or Amsterdam is

965
00:54:00,480 --> 00:54:03,240
Speaker 1: fucking great for that shit. I had a great solo

966
00:54:03,400 --> 00:54:08,919
Speaker 1: travel experience in Amsterdam. But again, if your number one

967
00:54:08,960 --> 00:54:13,320
Speaker 1: location is Japan, then you can still go there and

968
00:54:13,400 --> 00:54:16,760
Speaker 1: you can still meet people and do things. So let's see,

969
00:54:17,200 --> 00:54:19,239
Speaker 1: you asked me a bunch of specific questions. You were like,

970
00:54:21,239 --> 00:54:23,000
Speaker 1: how to find places to stay? If I were you,

971
00:54:23,200 --> 00:54:27,120
Speaker 1: I'm gonna give a shout out to hostileworld dot com.

972
00:54:27,160 --> 00:54:31,719
Speaker 1: Hostileworld dot com. Uh, and you can find these hostels

973
00:54:31,800 --> 00:54:34,239
Speaker 1: right where it's like you have one bed in a

974
00:54:34,320 --> 00:54:39,280
Speaker 1: room full of a bunch of beds, and oftentimes the accommodations.

975
00:54:38,520 --> 00:54:40,360
Speaker 2: Are pretty fucking cheap.

976
00:54:41,040 --> 00:54:44,040
Speaker 1: They're pretty fucking cheap, and the best part is that

977
00:54:44,280 --> 00:54:46,920
Speaker 1: you will be in a room with a bunch of

978
00:54:47,000 --> 00:54:50,000
Speaker 1: other people and there might be a common area, and

979
00:54:50,640 --> 00:54:54,800
Speaker 1: a lot of these hostels, especially the more like party hostile,

980
00:54:54,920 --> 00:55:03,920
Speaker 1: solo travelly advertised hostels, they they are kind of like

981
00:55:04,360 --> 00:55:07,000
Speaker 1: geared towards people who are traveling alone and trying to

982
00:55:07,000 --> 00:55:08,520
Speaker 1: meet people. So a lot of times they'll put on

983
00:55:08,640 --> 00:55:12,440
Speaker 1: dinners or they'll put on events. And so if I

984
00:55:12,480 --> 00:55:16,160
Speaker 1: were you, I would go on hostile world dot com

985
00:55:16,719 --> 00:55:20,680
Speaker 1: and search for like Tokyo and see if you can

986
00:55:20,719 --> 00:55:24,400
Speaker 1: find the kinds of hostiles that put on events.

987
00:55:25,600 --> 00:55:26,200
Speaker 2: I don't think.

988
00:55:26,120 --> 00:55:29,120
Speaker 1: Japan is very like known for that kind of hostile.

989
00:55:29,640 --> 00:55:32,240
Speaker 1: I've stayed at hostels in Japan before and they weren't

990
00:55:32,480 --> 00:55:38,279
Speaker 1: as socially oriented as some hostels that I've stayed in

991
00:55:38,480 --> 00:55:44,400
Speaker 1: in like Thailand or Europe. But if Japan it's just

992
00:55:44,440 --> 00:55:46,560
Speaker 1: like the place you want to fucking go, you should

993
00:55:46,600 --> 00:55:49,960
Speaker 1: just go because the cool I think for you, the

994
00:55:50,000 --> 00:55:52,120
Speaker 1: thing is gonna be like you're gonna show up and

995
00:55:52,160 --> 00:55:54,040
Speaker 1: you've never left the country before, You're gonna show up

996
00:55:54,040 --> 00:55:56,359
Speaker 1: and you're just gonna be like, oh, I gotta walk around.

997
00:55:56,480 --> 00:55:58,719
Speaker 1: So when it comes to like types of activities to do,

998
00:55:58,880 --> 00:56:01,239
Speaker 1: if I were you, I would just like like book

999
00:56:01,280 --> 00:56:05,640
Speaker 1: your fucking flight, book your fucking hostile.

1000
00:56:05,680 --> 00:56:08,080
Speaker 2: And uh uh I don't.

1001
00:56:08,120 --> 00:56:11,080
Speaker 1: You don't have to go scour the internet or scour

1002
00:56:11,160 --> 00:56:13,919
Speaker 1: TikTok for like the best things to do. I would

1003
00:56:13,960 --> 00:56:17,480
Speaker 1: just like pick neighborhoods and start walking around them, you know,

1004
00:56:17,640 --> 00:56:22,759
Speaker 1: for Japan, for Tokyo, I mean Akihabara or Osaksa or

1005
00:56:22,800 --> 00:56:25,680
Speaker 1: shibuyash and Juku. You just fucking show up and just

1006
00:56:25,840 --> 00:56:26,480
Speaker 1: walk around.

1007
00:56:26,560 --> 00:56:26,840
Speaker 2: Dude.

1008
00:56:27,800 --> 00:56:30,280
Speaker 1: Uh If you can meet some folks in your hostel

1009
00:56:30,320 --> 00:56:32,560
Speaker 1: who want to walk around with you and eat with you,

1010
00:56:32,640 --> 00:56:35,720
Speaker 1: that that would make the trip a lot more fun,

1011
00:56:35,760 --> 00:56:40,759
Speaker 1: I think. But part and then you wrote about communication

1012
00:56:40,840 --> 00:56:43,200
Speaker 1: and countries that don't particularly speak English.

1013
00:56:43,640 --> 00:56:46,000
Speaker 2: Part of that. That's part of the fun, right, that's

1014
00:56:46,000 --> 00:56:46,560
Speaker 2: part of the fun.

1015
00:56:46,719 --> 00:56:49,399
Speaker 1: So Japan is less of a country I think, where

1016
00:56:49,440 --> 00:56:51,760
Speaker 1: you can get away with not speaking English. Europe everyone

1017
00:56:51,800 --> 00:56:55,640
Speaker 1: fucking speaks English. But Japan is a place where, like

1018
00:56:55,719 --> 00:56:58,520
Speaker 1: you have to you should know, like you just go

1019
00:56:58,600 --> 00:57:01,239
Speaker 1: if you're gonna come here, like go to YouTube and

1020
00:57:01,360 --> 00:57:06,680
Speaker 1: just search like like a ten basic phrases thing, right,

1021
00:57:06,840 --> 00:57:09,440
Speaker 1: learn how to say like thank you, excuse me? Can

1022
00:57:09,480 --> 00:57:12,239
Speaker 1: I have this right, and when you show up, you're

1023
00:57:12,239 --> 00:57:15,520
Speaker 1: gonna feel sick. There is no it's really if you've

1024
00:57:15,520 --> 00:57:18,040
Speaker 1: never experienced before, like just showing up alone in a

1025
00:57:18,080 --> 00:57:23,080
Speaker 1: foreign country and speaking like one phrase of Japanese and

1026
00:57:23,120 --> 00:57:26,480
Speaker 1: getting a sandwich, it's a feeling like no other. It's

1027
00:57:26,480 --> 00:57:30,920
Speaker 1: a feeling like no other. So, honestly, Colin again, I

1028
00:57:30,920 --> 00:57:33,960
Speaker 1: don't really, you don't really. Yeah, my advice to you

1029
00:57:34,000 --> 00:57:37,320
Speaker 1: would be, you know, hostile world, go and find a

1030
00:57:37,360 --> 00:57:41,640
Speaker 1: place where you can stay in kind of a collective

1031
00:57:41,680 --> 00:57:44,920
Speaker 1: living situation to increase the chances that you'll meet new

1032
00:57:44,960 --> 00:57:53,400
Speaker 1: people and have a more adventurous experience. Right, So yeah,

1033
00:57:53,440 --> 00:57:56,040
Speaker 1: that would be my number one thing. But honestly, the

1034
00:57:56,240 --> 00:57:59,480
Speaker 1: number one nist number one thing is to just fucking go.

1035
00:58:00,120 --> 00:58:03,360
Speaker 1: And you're doing it already, so that's I mean, that's

1036
00:58:03,400 --> 00:58:07,040
Speaker 1: the biggest thing, is to just fucking go. All right, folks,

1037
00:58:07,080 --> 00:58:10,520
Speaker 1: that was gek mail. Thanks for being here, thanks for

1038
00:58:10,600 --> 00:58:13,440
Speaker 1: listening to me do this. I'll be back to taking

1039
00:58:13,480 --> 00:58:15,520
Speaker 1: calls in a bit.

1040
00:58:15,600 --> 00:58:16,720
Speaker 2: I just needed a bit of.

1041
00:58:16,720 --> 00:58:21,280
Speaker 1: A break from taking phone calls for now, especially while

1042
00:58:21,280 --> 00:58:25,400
Speaker 1: I'm still out of the country. But I'm coming back

1043
00:58:26,040 --> 00:58:30,640
Speaker 1: tomorrow and I'm excited to be back in the in

1044
00:58:30,720 --> 00:58:36,040
Speaker 1: the good old United States of America. Say what you

1045
00:58:36,120 --> 00:58:40,640
Speaker 1: will about the good old United States of America. But

1046
00:58:42,560 --> 00:58:45,040
Speaker 1: you know, you might go to a Foreay and this

1047
00:58:45,120 --> 00:58:47,960
Speaker 1: maybe this is more things to say to Colin, but

1048
00:58:48,000 --> 00:58:52,440
Speaker 1: it's like you might go to fucking Japan and be

1049
00:58:52,640 --> 00:58:56,120
Speaker 1: like everything is more affordable and they have trains and

1050
00:58:56,160 --> 00:59:01,240
Speaker 1: it's so everything's fucking beautiful and amazing and crazy, and

1051
00:59:01,280 --> 00:59:01,800
Speaker 1: that's fine.

1052
00:59:01,840 --> 00:59:03,920
Speaker 2: But you know, at the end of the day.

1053
00:59:03,800 --> 00:59:06,640
Speaker 1: The place to go is wherever the fuck your friends

1054
00:59:06,680 --> 00:59:11,680
Speaker 1: and family are. So do that, well, not you, Colin.

1055
00:59:11,800 --> 00:59:13,400
Speaker 1: You go on an adventure.

1056
00:59:15,040 --> 00:59:16,720
Speaker 2: Anyway. I don't really know what I'm talking about anymore.

1057
00:59:16,720 --> 00:59:19,640
Speaker 2: I'm gonna end the show and.

1058
00:59:21,000 --> 00:59:25,360
Speaker 1: Go go sit in silence.

1059
00:59:26,280 --> 00:59:27,400
Speaker 2: Thank you very much for listening.

1060
00:59:27,440 --> 00:59:30,440
Speaker 1: Please go to my If you live in New York City,

1061
00:59:30,480 --> 00:59:32,800
Speaker 1: please please please. If you live in New York City,

1062
00:59:32,920 --> 00:59:37,680
Speaker 1: go to the episode description and sign up for a

1063
00:59:37,760 --> 00:59:40,720
Speaker 1: text alert for my art gallery. I'm doing an art

1064
00:59:40,760 --> 00:59:47,080
Speaker 1: exhibition in Bushwick, Brooklyn on March fourteenth, and I would

1065
00:59:47,160 --> 00:59:48,200
Speaker 1: love for you to show up.

1066
00:59:48,240 --> 00:59:50,720
Speaker 2: I am. It's called Lyle Forever Presents.

1067
00:59:50,440 --> 00:59:55,160
Speaker 1: Trash from around my room, and it'll be really fucking stupid,

1068
00:59:55,480 --> 00:59:56,320
Speaker 1: so come through.

1069
00:59:56,800 --> 00:59:58,640
Speaker 2: Have a fun time. All right.

1070
00:59:59,040 --> 01:00:02,439
Speaker 1: Thank you very much for listen to this podcast. Good luck,

1071
01:00:03,320 --> 01:00:08,320
Speaker 1: get bless see you all in another life goes on

1072
01:00:08,440 --> 01:00:11,800
Speaker 1: the line taking your phone calls every night. There Be

1073
01:00:12,000 --> 01:00:13,280
Speaker 1: Can goes doing his hide.

1074
01:00:13,440 --> 01:00:14,120
Speaker 2: He's teaching you

1075
01:00:14,120 --> 01:00:16,400
Speaker 1: A loud in the mid of your life, but he's

1076
01:00:16,440 --> 01:00:18,920
Speaker 1: not really an expert.