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Speaker 1: Labian Benigles. Welcome to this new episode of Cheeky's and

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Speaker 1: Chill Podcast, your favorite podcast. I know, I know, I'm

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Speaker 1: so excited. Thank you guys so much for coming back

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Speaker 1: every week to listen in and learn and grow and

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Speaker 1: all that good stuff. I don't know if it's Monday

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Speaker 1: you're having an amazing day today. I'm going to be

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Speaker 1: talking about something that I'm excited about, but wasn't that

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Speaker 1: excited about. It's about changing my name. Guys. Now you

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Speaker 1: can call me Janey Sanchez officially. Huge step for me.

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Speaker 1: You have no idea. I've come such a long way, guys.

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Speaker 1: So that's why I felt the need to talk about

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Speaker 1: this on my podcast, because this is my safe space.

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Speaker 1: This is where I talk about anything and everything. And

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Speaker 1: thank goodness, you guys listen, so thank you so much.

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Speaker 1: You guys know, I just got married. It'll be a

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Speaker 1: year July. So let me just kind of give you

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Speaker 1: guys a backstory before we get into like the nitty gritty.

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Speaker 1: I have never had a middle name. I'm the only

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Speaker 1: one of my siblings that doesn't have a middle name.

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Speaker 1: I'm just Janee Marine. You know, that's the name my

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Speaker 1: mother gave me. She wanted to name me Marie because

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Speaker 1: she was really into Tina Marie, you know, the singer.

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Speaker 1: But my dad, who was very traditional, which is weird

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Speaker 1: because I feel like a lot of Mexicans or Latins

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Speaker 1: But my dad said no for whatever reason, so my mom,

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Speaker 1: you know, respected it, and then after that she didn't care.

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Speaker 1: So all my siblings have middle names. There is Jackie Molina, Marin,

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Speaker 1: Michael Angelo Marine, well actually his real name is Trinidad,

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Speaker 1: and then there's Jenica Priscilla, and then there's Johnny Angel

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Speaker 1: and I'm just Janee. So when this came up and

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Speaker 1: I decided to get married again because when I first

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Speaker 1: met Amidio, I was like, I don't. One of our

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Speaker 1: very first conversations was like, you know what, I don't

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Speaker 1: want to have kids and I don't ever want to

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Speaker 1: get married again. I'm going through divorce right now and

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Speaker 1: I just don't. I don't want to get married again.

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Speaker 1: And he said, awesome, cool, I'm good with that. I

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Speaker 1: don't either, And that was what our relationship was like

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Speaker 1: for the first year and a half almost two, and

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Speaker 1: so as the relationship grew and you know, we fell

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Speaker 1: getting married came about. And I think for a long

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Speaker 1: time he said, I knew I wanted to marry you,

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Speaker 1: afraid or hesitant or whatever the case, or maybe even

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Speaker 1: talked about very early on when we were engaged, like

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Speaker 1: of his family members asked me, and I said, oh, yeah,

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Speaker 1: and then later on he told me, He's like, I

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Speaker 1: don't want you to just hyphen it, like I want

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Speaker 1: I thought it would be Janee Marine Sanchez because I

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Speaker 1: way back when I'll tell you guys something I don't

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Speaker 1: don't really remember exactly what year, but my mom was here,

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Speaker 1: you know what, I really want you guys to have

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Speaker 1: like I would love to be a Sanchez. And I

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Speaker 1: been fine with it. But it just happened organically, Like

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Speaker 1: getting remarried, I just I'm like, you know what, like

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Speaker 1: so after this, now that you have your Social with

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Speaker 1: had the same picture since I was like nineteen years old, guys,

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Speaker 1: the time. I appreciate it. Oh my god, Jenny Sanchez

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