1 00:00:19,960 --> 00:00:23,360 Speaker 1: Hello, Hello Emily, A body here coming into your feeds 2 00:00:23,440 --> 00:00:26,479 Speaker 1: with five minute Friday from Hurdle. This has been a 3 00:00:26,480 --> 00:00:31,479 Speaker 1: week filled with a lot of unexpected things, notably my 4 00:00:32,200 --> 00:00:35,080 Speaker 1: little bike crash on Monday, which I wrote about in 5 00:00:35,240 --> 00:00:41,160 Speaker 1: tay Today's installment of the weekly Hurdle newsletter. I'm sitting 6 00:00:41,200 --> 00:00:45,519 Speaker 1: here and my shoulder feels off. I'm like teetering between 7 00:00:45,640 --> 00:00:49,120 Speaker 1: getting an MRI and waiting for some more healing time. 8 00:00:50,440 --> 00:00:53,279 Speaker 1: And as much as it does feel a little bit 9 00:00:53,400 --> 00:00:55,680 Speaker 1: like I can't get a break here between the foot 10 00:00:55,760 --> 00:01:00,440 Speaker 1: and the shoulder, I have perspective and I'm great for that. 11 00:01:00,960 --> 00:01:03,640 Speaker 1: I'm also really really excited, and this is what I 12 00:01:03,720 --> 00:01:07,440 Speaker 1: want to talk about today, mostly about the Safety and 13 00:01:07,520 --> 00:01:11,240 Speaker 1: Numbers event that I'm hosting on Wednesday, November two at 14 00:01:11,280 --> 00:01:15,520 Speaker 1: MoMA PS one with different leaders in the New York 15 00:01:15,560 --> 00:01:19,440 Speaker 1: City running community to talk about how we can make 16 00:01:19,520 --> 00:01:24,920 Speaker 1: strides Tour of safer tomorrow. It's arguably the biggest, let's 17 00:01:24,920 --> 00:01:29,360 Speaker 1: call it, hurdle event I've ever thrown. You know, I've 18 00:01:29,520 --> 00:01:33,800 Speaker 1: spoken in front of large groups of people for different 19 00:01:34,120 --> 00:01:39,319 Speaker 1: hosting opportunities, but never have I conducted a discussion in 20 00:01:39,360 --> 00:01:43,160 Speaker 1: a room that fills a little more than two hundred people. 21 00:01:43,920 --> 00:01:48,240 Speaker 1: And it's interesting for me because in putting this together, 22 00:01:48,760 --> 00:01:51,400 Speaker 1: I realize that this is going to be the first 23 00:01:51,440 --> 00:01:54,560 Speaker 1: time that a lot of my peers, people that I 24 00:01:54,600 --> 00:01:59,480 Speaker 1: see regularly come together to see me do what I do. 25 00:02:00,400 --> 00:02:04,600 Speaker 1: And I'm like awkwardly smiling talking about this, but also 26 00:02:04,760 --> 00:02:09,480 Speaker 1: feeling like a little anxiousness in my chest. It's definitely unique, 27 00:02:09,919 --> 00:02:13,760 Speaker 1: it's definitely different. It's definitely intimidating, but it makes me 28 00:02:14,000 --> 00:02:20,359 Speaker 1: feel very sure and also very responsible about the nature 29 00:02:20,680 --> 00:02:25,040 Speaker 1: of this conversation. I always, always, always take what I 30 00:02:25,160 --> 00:02:28,080 Speaker 1: do seriously, but it does feel a little bit different 31 00:02:28,120 --> 00:02:31,960 Speaker 1: to think about the fact that this room of my 32 00:02:32,080 --> 00:02:35,640 Speaker 1: peers and people in my community, this conversation that we're having. 33 00:02:35,360 --> 00:02:37,840 Speaker 2: Like it's just on a different level. 34 00:02:37,880 --> 00:02:42,200 Speaker 1: It's of a different importance, and it's something that I 35 00:02:42,400 --> 00:02:46,640 Speaker 1: truly feel in my heart that I'm ready for and 36 00:02:46,680 --> 00:02:48,959 Speaker 1: like I said, I'm excited for it. So to those 37 00:02:49,000 --> 00:02:50,359 Speaker 1: of you that are in the New York area, I 38 00:02:50,480 --> 00:02:54,440 Speaker 1: highly encourage you to come. The capacity is what the 39 00:02:54,440 --> 00:02:57,040 Speaker 1: capacity is, so hopefully there are some more tickets if 40 00:02:57,040 --> 00:02:59,720 Speaker 1: you're listening to this and you want to make it, 41 00:03:00,160 --> 00:03:03,320 Speaker 1: are free and the link is in the show notes. 42 00:03:04,040 --> 00:03:07,800 Speaker 1: But all this to say that it's made me think 43 00:03:07,919 --> 00:03:12,640 Speaker 1: this opportunity a lot about how I make an effort 44 00:03:12,720 --> 00:03:14,680 Speaker 1: to show up for the people that I care about. 45 00:03:15,000 --> 00:03:20,160 Speaker 1: And I know that in this really beautiful moment of 46 00:03:20,240 --> 00:03:24,959 Speaker 1: support and togetherness for my community here, that I also 47 00:03:25,120 --> 00:03:28,280 Speaker 1: want to make sure that I am supporting and showing 48 00:03:28,360 --> 00:03:32,640 Speaker 1: up for others in the things that make them excited 49 00:03:32,680 --> 00:03:37,320 Speaker 1: in their pursuits. So maybe that's just the takeaway this week. 50 00:03:37,680 --> 00:03:41,560 Speaker 1: The takeaway is show up for your people and hype 51 00:03:41,640 --> 00:03:45,320 Speaker 1: up your people. I'm so flattered by, you know, like 52 00:03:45,400 --> 00:03:50,480 Speaker 1: simply the reposts of the event info all over social media. 53 00:03:50,600 --> 00:03:51,720 Speaker 2: It means a lot to me, and. 54 00:03:52,160 --> 00:03:58,600 Speaker 1: I believe that there is no better feeling than telling 55 00:03:58,640 --> 00:04:02,280 Speaker 1: someone how much you appreciate that showing someone how much 56 00:04:02,280 --> 00:04:06,520 Speaker 1: you appreciate them, And I plan to continue to do 57 00:04:06,600 --> 00:04:09,480 Speaker 1: that for others as I feel grateful for the people 58 00:04:09,560 --> 00:04:13,440 Speaker 1: that have done it for me. My prompt for you 59 00:04:13,480 --> 00:04:17,240 Speaker 1: this week, who you hype it up? Who have you 60 00:04:17,920 --> 00:04:26,760 Speaker 1: made it a priority to tell them that you're excited 61 00:04:26,800 --> 00:04:28,440 Speaker 1: for them, that you're happy for them, that you want 62 00:04:28,480 --> 00:04:31,080 Speaker 1: to support them lately? Who are you supporting in your 63 00:04:31,120 --> 00:04:33,640 Speaker 1: life and maybe this is your opportunity to think a 64 00:04:33,680 --> 00:04:37,039 Speaker 1: little bit more about how you can do that a 65 00:04:37,040 --> 00:04:37,720 Speaker 1: little bit more. 66 00:04:38,640 --> 00:04:40,560 Speaker 2: And now a listener question. 67 00:04:41,880 --> 00:04:44,320 Speaker 3: Hi, my name's Lily, and I have recovered from a 68 00:04:44,520 --> 00:04:47,000 Speaker 3: disorder of many years, and I'm just wondering if you 69 00:04:47,000 --> 00:04:51,119 Speaker 3: have any suggestions whenever it comes to not fitting yourself 70 00:04:51,160 --> 00:04:53,600 Speaker 3: into like the perfect little box. Finally to the point 71 00:04:53,600 --> 00:04:55,800 Speaker 3: where I don't think that I'm doing that anymore, but 72 00:04:55,839 --> 00:04:58,479 Speaker 3: I want to make sure that I continue not doing that, 73 00:04:59,360 --> 00:05:01,560 Speaker 3: like shoving my the perfect little box that keeps trying 74 00:05:01,600 --> 00:05:03,200 Speaker 3: to drink and drink and drink the closer you get 75 00:05:03,240 --> 00:05:07,440 Speaker 3: to the perfect box. If you're just having suggestions of 76 00:05:07,520 --> 00:05:10,240 Speaker 3: keeping a healthy mindset, I'm not obsessing over each little 77 00:05:10,240 --> 00:05:11,719 Speaker 3: thing or trying to be the most perfect one in 78 00:05:11,760 --> 00:05:12,080 Speaker 3: the room. 79 00:05:12,520 --> 00:05:15,440 Speaker 2: Hey, Lily, thanks for this question. 80 00:05:15,839 --> 00:05:19,200 Speaker 1: I feel like it's really, really really important that before 81 00:05:19,240 --> 00:05:22,480 Speaker 1: I say anything, you know, and I know, and I'm 82 00:05:22,520 --> 00:05:25,479 Speaker 1: sure if you're listening to this, that you also know 83 00:05:26,240 --> 00:05:30,080 Speaker 1: that if you are struggling with an eating disorder, I 84 00:05:30,200 --> 00:05:34,480 Speaker 1: highly encourage you to seek help from a qualified expert, 85 00:05:34,720 --> 00:05:41,080 Speaker 1: specifically a therapist, nutritionist, even a doctor, someone who can 86 00:05:41,120 --> 00:05:43,600 Speaker 1: speak to you and your situation and help you get 87 00:05:43,600 --> 00:05:47,599 Speaker 1: the help that you need. I really commend you for 88 00:05:47,720 --> 00:05:51,760 Speaker 1: making strides in your recovery. And I also want to 89 00:05:52,400 --> 00:05:56,400 Speaker 1: say that a really great conversation I had on ED 90 00:05:56,600 --> 00:05:59,760 Speaker 1: Recovery was with Molly Seidel the first time that she 91 00:06:00,360 --> 00:06:03,039 Speaker 1: came on the show. I'm going to link that in 92 00:06:03,240 --> 00:06:06,040 Speaker 1: the show notes so you can check it out. I 93 00:06:06,120 --> 00:06:09,920 Speaker 1: hear you, and I know that perfection is certainly something 94 00:06:10,000 --> 00:06:14,640 Speaker 1: that so many of us struggle with. Myself included for me, 95 00:06:14,760 --> 00:06:20,159 Speaker 1: something that has really helped is really radically accepting that 96 00:06:20,520 --> 00:06:24,960 Speaker 1: no one is perfect, and anyone that makes you think 97 00:06:25,160 --> 00:06:27,719 Speaker 1: that they are based on whatever image they may be 98 00:06:27,800 --> 00:06:31,920 Speaker 1: portraying on social media, I can assure you that they 99 00:06:32,600 --> 00:06:37,120 Speaker 1: are not. So having some grace with yourself. 100 00:06:37,120 --> 00:06:39,640 Speaker 2: And owning and. 101 00:06:39,480 --> 00:06:43,640 Speaker 1: Appreciating all that is awesome about your personality, about who 102 00:06:43,720 --> 00:06:47,480 Speaker 1: you are, about what you are capable of, that is 103 00:06:47,520 --> 00:06:51,320 Speaker 1: a really, really awesome opportunity. I would say when it 104 00:06:51,360 --> 00:06:56,039 Speaker 1: feels like the box is shrinking around you that my 105 00:06:56,160 --> 00:06:59,240 Speaker 1: biggest piece of advice is to come back to gratitude 106 00:06:59,320 --> 00:07:03,400 Speaker 1: right because by having a gratitude practice, we can appreciate 107 00:07:03,520 --> 00:07:07,240 Speaker 1: what is instead of worrying about what isn't. Having a 108 00:07:07,279 --> 00:07:11,320 Speaker 1: gratitude practice enables you to appreciate what is instead of 109 00:07:11,360 --> 00:07:16,360 Speaker 1: worrying about what isn't. So when that little voice in 110 00:07:16,400 --> 00:07:18,120 Speaker 1: the back of your head says something like this. 111 00:07:18,120 --> 00:07:20,120 Speaker 2: Isn't good enough, You're not good enough, etcetera, etcetera, etc. 112 00:07:21,280 --> 00:07:24,520 Speaker 1: You can just come back and say, but I am strong, 113 00:07:24,880 --> 00:07:28,960 Speaker 1: and I am capable, and I insert other rat things 114 00:07:29,040 --> 00:07:33,679 Speaker 1: about you here. Start with what is, start with the facts, 115 00:07:34,240 --> 00:07:37,240 Speaker 1: and again, move forward with grace, and move forward with love. 116 00:07:38,080 --> 00:07:40,080 Speaker 1: That's it for this week. Make sure you're following along 117 00:07:40,080 --> 00:07:43,680 Speaker 1: with hurdle over on the Socials at Hurdle podcast. I 118 00:07:43,720 --> 00:07:48,000 Speaker 1: am over at Emily a Body another hurdle conquered. 119 00:07:48,480 --> 00:07:49,560 Speaker 2: Catch you guys next time.