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Speaker 1: I think my husband's cheating on me with his students.

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Speaker 2: Give him an f.

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Speaker 1: She'll do anything for the grade, I guess. So I

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Speaker 1: am freaking out right now. My partner is a high

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Speaker 1: school woh, oh god, so much worse. I was thinking college.

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Speaker 2: I'm like, oh, like immediately awful.

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Speaker 1: Oh my partner is a high school math teacher. Let's

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Speaker 1: hope she's at least a very old high school.

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Speaker 2: I'm hoping she's at least eighteen.

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Speaker 1: It's still hoping she was held back for like four

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Speaker 1: or five years.

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Speaker 2: She's like a twenty six year old high school senior.

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Speaker 1: Or maybe she's just been you know, maybe she's just

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Speaker 1: a real like she's been held back like thirty years.

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Speaker 1: You know, it's fingers crossed.

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Speaker 2: Maybe she's doing like an online ged exactly exactly.

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Speaker 1: He's been teaching now for a decade and generally has

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Speaker 1: been praised by students, parents, other teachers, and admin for

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Speaker 1: how he does his job. He's just really involved the students,

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Speaker 1: you know. Involved. By the way, this comes from throwaway

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Speaker 1: Teacher cheat on the Best Rhetor Updates sub reddit. So

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Speaker 1: we have been together for seven years. We got married

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Speaker 1: in twenty twenty three. I have never been worried about

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Speaker 1: him being interested in his students. First mistake, Yeah, you

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Speaker 1: would hope not. We have even talked about teacher student

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Speaker 1: relationships and he has never expressed anything other than disgust

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Speaker 1: and how it's an abuse of power even if the

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Speaker 1: student isn't adults, not to specific instances in real life,

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Speaker 1: just movie instances and general topics discussions. So they're talking

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Speaker 1: about it like liars. Yeah, it's pretty.

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Speaker 2: Pretty little liars. But I know that there's a student

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Speaker 2: teacher relationship.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, he has never been called out for being inappropriate

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Speaker 1: that I know. Maybe you'll be the first one. Never

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Speaker 1: engaged with students over the weekends last summer unless it's

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Speaker 1: school related, but even then all contact is through school

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Speaker 1: email or with parents. As Eko says, I'm sure she's

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Speaker 1: very for her age.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I's definitely telling her.

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Speaker 1: That, ikey. So he generally refers to his students as

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Speaker 1: his kids step kids. Actively It keeps a distance from

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Speaker 1: developing too close of a relationship because he is young, attractive,

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Speaker 1: and other male teachers recommended he do so. So here's

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Speaker 1: what happened. We're gonna get the juicy details. Around March,

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Speaker 1: we were at a movie theater one evening and I

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Speaker 1: noticed a gaggle of girls staring and pointing. I notified

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Speaker 1: my partner, assuming they were his students, and he told

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Speaker 1: me I was right. I wonder if he's sweating at

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Speaker 1: this point.

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Speaker 2: Students, just my students, students. Yeah, no, we're not.

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Speaker 1: We're not doing anything other th about the just long division, just.

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Speaker 2: Fractions, just fractions, sometimes calculus, no geometry.

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Speaker 1: I swear, no physical education. I swear I do not

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Speaker 1: teach bee. I would never, and especially not education. No,

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Speaker 1: I would never, and if I did, I would make

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Speaker 1: sure I was hands on. I don't want these children

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Speaker 1: not knowing. I'd an advocate.

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Speaker 2: Through the world.

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Speaker 1: No, you can't, you can't know. Just he bowls them

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Speaker 1: into the world, very hands on. So we did not

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Speaker 1: go over and say hi. We have seen his students before,

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Speaker 1: out and about, and he says hi on a case

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Speaker 1: by case basis, but typically doesn't initiate, and they did

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Speaker 1: not come to us. But I noticed the rest of

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Speaker 1: the girls playfully shoving one girl with lots of whispers,

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Speaker 1: and the girl was staring at my husband sheepishly, like

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Speaker 1: like this, sheepishly. I immediately thought she probably had a crush,

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Speaker 1: thought nothing of it after until last weekend. As he says,

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Speaker 1: is equal with the the banger comments. Right now, teacher,

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Speaker 1: can I get some extra credit? Wow?

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Speaker 2: Wow?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we were celebrating Canada Day. Oh classic, classic Canadians

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Speaker 1: being too nice to their students. Oh oh, We're celebrating

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Speaker 1: Canada Day at a barbecue with family and my husband

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Speaker 1: was pretty wasted. At one point, he went to the

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Speaker 1: worried he was getting sick. So I checked on him,

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Speaker 1: you know, like a good wife. Yes, when I knocked

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Speaker 1: and said it was me, he said he was okay

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Speaker 1: and would be right out, but didn't unlock the door.

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Speaker 1: He stayed in the bathroom for another ten minutes.

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Speaker 2: What's he doing in there?

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Speaker 1: You know, sometimes it takes a while, Sometimes it takes

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Speaker 2: I was just kidding, you go to the bathroom for

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Speaker 1: I do, I do, But I swear I'm not talking

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Speaker 1: to high schoolers. I'm just okay.

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Speaker 2: I need a tell all world.

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Speaker 1: That I'm not. I feel like they need to know.

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Speaker 1: He stayed in the bathroom for another ten minutes, super

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Speaker 1: unusual for him, but it could have been anything. All

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Speaker 1: right later that night, I woke up around three and

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Speaker 2: He's still in the bathrooms. Did he ever leave the bathroom?

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Speaker 1: No, no, I might have fallen in worried again, I

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Speaker 1: got up and found him on his phone in the

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Speaker 1: living room. This is also unusual. Wait wait, wait, I

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Speaker 1: see you.

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Speaker 2: I see you.

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Speaker 1: Is the high schooler with child.

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Speaker 2: Why would he be on his phone then? Or is

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Speaker 2: this just a just a nice just because A conspiracy theory?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, my conspiracy theory is like it was just a

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Speaker 1: going into like overdrive.

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Speaker 2: I hope not. I think I thought I thought it

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Speaker 2: was like unrelated and he was just watching like.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, it just it's been like I thought.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I thought that he was just like really getting

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Speaker 1: You know, it's a safe space, safe space. This is

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Speaker 1: also unusual. So when I said what he was doing,

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Speaker 1: he was definitely surprised, and he hit his phone screen.

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Speaker 2: What's he got on that phone screen?

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Speaker 1: He said he couldn't sleep and didn't want to wake

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Speaker 1: We both went back to sleep together. Okay, it's fine.

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Speaker 1: It's fine.

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Speaker 2: So far, so far, so good.

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Speaker 1: Maybe maybe it was a like like red flags were

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Speaker 1: raised and no one's doing anything bad.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, oh, pieces, I think my husband's cheating.

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Speaker 2: We don't know for sure, we don't know, we don't

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Speaker 2: totally totally fine.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. We both went back to sleep together. The next morning,

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Speaker 2: That's not not great.

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Speaker 1: I remove never not had a reason to trust him,

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Speaker 1: which is a double negative. So she's always.

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Speaker 2: Trusted, he's had a reason to trust him.

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Speaker 1: So I have never gone through his phone. Found nothing

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Speaker 2: Ah, not the snapchat app.

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Speaker 1: Which was not logged into. Also, I know girls that

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Speaker 2: I don't honestly, I kind of get that.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean I gotta get that.

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Speaker 2: I'm like, no, truly no hate to anyone in the

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Speaker 2: chat who uses Snapchat, But I feel like, for like

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Speaker 2: a lot of men there, there's just only one reason

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Speaker 2: to have stapchat.

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Speaker 1: If you're over eighteen and have a Snapchat, like, you're

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Speaker 1: up to no good, no hate, no hate, no hate.

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Speaker 1: If you're not, are you up to no good. But

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Speaker 1: are you yeah, dochat?

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Speaker 2: I do? I do have like two f I haven't

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Speaker 2: had Snapchat since like like freshman year of high school.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I haven't had Snapchat since my freshmen No. I

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Speaker 2: Like throughout high school, and then I got rid of

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Speaker 1: Its I had it like first year of college. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I was really really into snapchat stories. I was. I was,

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Speaker 1: I was dedicated. I was doing all kinds of jokes

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Speaker 2: I was just using I was using it to send streaks,

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Speaker 2: and then at a certain point I realized I was

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Speaker 2: just sending black screens just to get a streak, and

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Speaker 2: I was like, this is pointless.

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Speaker 1: Also, poll for everyone. Is Snapchat like a scrupulous app?

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Speaker 1: Or does it have no scruples? Do Snapchat have no scruples?

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Speaker 1: Scruples that's a word.

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Speaker 2: No, I know scruples.

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Speaker 1: No.

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Speaker 2: I think people can use it for just like for

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Speaker 2: for fun and goof for goose. But I think a

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Speaker 2: lot of guys do use it to snap a bunch

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Speaker 1: I mean, I think probably guys and girls like there's

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Speaker 2: Is are without gender scruples.

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Speaker 1: Are without anyone on Snapchat man or woman needs to

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Speaker 1: repent now. Kat M. King Straws says, the only reason

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Speaker 1: I keep snap is because my cousin and I have

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Speaker 1: a streak of over four.

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Speaker 2: Katam king strauss how much of those are black screens?

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Speaker 2: Are you taking? Are they all like photos?

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Speaker 1: Like?

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Speaker 2: Is it just you know? I want to know?

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Speaker 1: Is every poto a real photo photo?

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Speaker 1: That's crazy. That's nine tails. Girl says, I uh say,

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Speaker 1: snapped snap the cheater app? That sounds legit. So he

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Speaker 1: used to use Snapchat, but from what I knew, hadn't

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Speaker 1: last night I saw a Snapchat notification pop up on

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Speaker 1: he was logged out last week means he is definitely

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Speaker 1: using it secretly. Wait the logo of what Snapchat? Snapchat

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Speaker 2: Right there saying there's a picture of a logo on

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Speaker 1: No, no, no, the Snapchat logo appeared on the phone,

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Speaker 1: and she's like, but I thought he wasn't using Snapchat.

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Speaker 2: You know what. Even more suspicious because a lot of

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Speaker 1: I know he's communicating with the youth. D read O

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Speaker 1: for says, I only have Facebook and Instagram. IG is

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Speaker 2: I don't use a type. I do have Facebook because

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Speaker 2: you guys make me have Facebook, but I only use

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Speaker 2: Instagram with TikTok.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I've stopped using any social media.

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Speaker 2: WHOA Well, well, well look at mister, I don't have it.

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Speaker 1: That's a lot. I watch so much YouTube. I watched

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Speaker 1: so much YouTube, but on my computer. I'm my computer.

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Speaker 1: Oh I watched a ridiculous amountin Yeah, exactly, I have class.

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Speaker 1: So knowing he was logged out last week means he

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Speaker 1: is definitely using it secretly. I pretended like I didn't notice,

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Speaker 1: and a couple of minutes later, he got up to

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Speaker 2: Ah. He pulled the classic move that I pulled in

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Speaker 1: The only content creator he was subscribed to had the

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Speaker 1: You doing trying to help her pay for college? Think

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Speaker 1: I am one hundred percent certain. Jellyba says full ride

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Speaker 1: So I was already disgusted, but I actually threw up

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Speaker 2: Oh so she is since graduated?

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Speaker 1: Since yeah, but just graduate, just graduated. He has texted

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Speaker 1: I don't even know if she was in any of

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Speaker 1: you can tell when an app was first downloaded? She

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Speaker 1: So Addie, thank you is an unscrupulous and on the

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Speaker 2: case he could definitely get fired for that and should be.

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Speaker 2: It would still get him fired if there was proof

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Speaker 1: During But if she's graduated, there's my point to find out. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: It's if you know about the school, then I think

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Speaker 2: I mean you could probably I don't know, maybe reached

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Speaker 1: you know, nothing bad is happening. Yeah to you if

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Speaker 2: I mean obviously either way divorces man on you. But

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Speaker 2: it's just a manner of like how we go about

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but we got some comments, we got an update,

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Speaker 1: so many updates, so many updates. This is this is

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Speaker 1: a long one. A thicky and Harry Spaghetti says, how

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Speaker 1: he wasn't grooming her? I mean there's I think there's

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it could have been.

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Speaker 1: It could be a bunch of your name regardless. Extremely icky, Yeah,

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Speaker 2: Way, it implies that he was attracted to her while

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Speaker 2: she was at school and then he went the extra

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Speaker 1: Is discussed make sings to the five bucks. I had

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Speaker 1: She was eighteen, and her parents knew we.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it was it was a different time. It was

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Speaker 1: a different time. We do no a situation similar. There

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Speaker 1: was no only fans involved. Yeah, it's a different time time,

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Speaker 1: all right. But we got some comments, so dang, it's

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Speaker 1: I pressed the wrong button.

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Speaker 2: No. Lovely fontsays maybe the students saw the husband out.

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Speaker 2: That is a possibility, but either way, either way, very

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Speaker 2: gross that he couldn't set that boundary.

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Speaker 1: because he's married, Like that's one, and also it's like

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Speaker 2: a male teacher. Yeah, it's like you just put up

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Speaker 1: I mean, And it's also like like speed run to

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Speaker 1: so blue Cat one zero one one says this will

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Speaker 1: her parents will find out, but eventually it will come out.

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Speaker 1: Best to protect yourself and get your own legal advice

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Speaker 1: as well as counseling. Your husband is not who you

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Speaker 1: so take the time you need to figure that out. However,

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Speaker 1: secrets like this don't stay hidden for very long. In

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Speaker 1: Mel two two one one four four says a teacher

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Speaker 1: watching a student on only on of is bad enough

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Speaker 1: I agree, whether they have a physical relationship or not,

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Speaker 1: done with the relationship, and even budget twenty seventy it says, hmm, okay,

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Speaker 1: see a lawyer. Do not talk about this with your

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Speaker 1: husband for now. Do not talk to her, Please, don't

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Speaker 1: do that. That is not a good idea at all.

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Speaker 1: Are you considering divorce or are you mainly concerned about

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Speaker 1: ramifications to his job. I think you should talk to

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Speaker 1: This is up to you, and I will not judge

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Speaker 1: you if you don't, but please consider telling the school.

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry, but you know your husband is a risk

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Speaker 1: it until they leave, like that's also not an okay

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Speaker 1: act right Op response. School here finishing end of June,

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Speaker 1: Divorce for sure, unless I'm mistaken, But I am also praying.

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Speaker 1: I am trying to find a way that this could

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Speaker 1: kind of lawyer do I get? I've never had one before,

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Speaker 1: just a divorce lawyer. Will they tell this to the

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Speaker 1: I think that would fall under like client attorney privilege.

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Speaker 1: I think, yeah, yeah, Sale Blue says you have the

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Speaker 1: I'd ask when did he first subscribe to herf account?

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Speaker 1: Just casually. When he denies, I would ask if it

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Speaker 1: is a reminder to all people that usually when someone

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Speaker 1: is so against something, there is a reason. The reason

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Speaker 1: is often because they are attempting to cover up what

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Speaker 1: they really think, et cetera, or because they believe if

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Speaker 1: they show they are vehemently against it, people will think

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Speaker 1: that's true. Just like people who cheat often would be

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Speaker 1: the first to discuss how horrible cheating is Opie says, yes,

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Speaker 1: I know her name. Is there a chance that he

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Speaker 1: is not engaging and just subscribed? There is a chance, like.

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Speaker 2: But I don't think it. I mean, we also know

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Speaker 2: that he's been snapping.

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Speaker 1: Her, so I mean a lot of OnlyFans models have

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Speaker 1: like snapchat. Yeah, but the idea as a like tier.

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Speaker 1: So I know this because I have like, not friends,

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Speaker 1: but people that I went to middle and high school

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Speaker 1: with in the valley that are like of managers and

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Speaker 1: what they do managers, yeah, managers, and so they're like

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Speaker 1: the they're kind of like the growdiest kinds of people.

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Speaker 1: But what they do is the they're like of models

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Speaker 1: will send them images and they will text the guys

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Speaker 1: on their behalf. So like the snapchat and stuff that

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Speaker 1: they're getting are not from them, it's from these guys.

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Speaker 1: So it's not necessary.

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Speaker 2: Well, I but I think it's still he's engaging either way.

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Speaker 2: It doesn't necessarily mean he's engaging straight with her.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, but like I guess that's all I'm saying.

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Speaker 1: It's still like a h I think, a divorce worthy thing.

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Speaker 1: But in terms of like there is a chance that

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Speaker 1: he's not directly talking with her, but it's still but

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Speaker 1: he doesn't know that, And the whole point is to

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Speaker 1: deceive the end user from knowing that. Harriet Spaghetti says

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Speaker 1: they are digital pim. Well, somebody says online. Is there

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Speaker 1: a chance that he is not engaging and just subscribed? No? Well,

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Speaker 1: I think they will.

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Speaker 2: Do so again the snapchat. I think that that proves

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Speaker 2: that he's engaging again. May not be directly with her,

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Speaker 2: but he believes that it's with her. If he has

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Speaker 2: a snapshot and it's only with a girl.

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Speaker 1: I don't know all the intricacies, but it could be like, oh,

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Speaker 1: you get like it's like a newsletter, so you get

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Speaker 1: my private you get my get like my my private

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Speaker 1: stories on Snapchat.

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Speaker 2: I don't know about that.

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Speaker 1: I don't know if anyone knows anything about of in

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Speaker 1: the chat, please educate us. But is there a chance

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Speaker 1: that he's not engaging and just subscribed? A chance that

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Speaker 1: he has her snapchat but isn't talking? Is there a

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Speaker 1: chance I'm wrong? Should I check when it was downloaded

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Speaker 1: before I ask? If he downloaded after the school year

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Speaker 1: ended and has not been engaging? Is this the same

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Speaker 1: thing as it feels worse? And also another point of

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Speaker 1: proof that maybe he is talking with her directly. Is

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Speaker 1: they knew that he was subscribed at the very least.

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Speaker 2: Or yeah, because they saw at the the movie theater

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Speaker 2: they were all like.

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Speaker 1: Ghost Blue Lady says OPI is selfish and disgusting. Op

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Speaker 1: It's hard. Yeah, but she has no empathy. If I

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Speaker 1: was a mother of a girl attending and I found

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Speaker 1: his wife knew and did nothing, I'm throwing hands.

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Speaker 2: Well, I think that I wouldn't necessarily put it on

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Speaker 2: her quite yet because she just found this out and

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Speaker 2: is kind of probably in shock.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, she's processing, you know.

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Speaker 2: I think if she does nothing going forward, that would

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Speaker 2: be pretty messed up. But like right now, I'll give

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Speaker 2: her the benefit of the doubt.

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Speaker 1: She's still in the phase of acquiring information. Yeah, but

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Speaker 1: black Cat's sneak attack, says Honey, you know the answer.

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Speaker 1: You just want to believe in who you thought he

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Speaker 1: was so bad badly? Why do you think the girl

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Speaker 1: was so blushy she knew he was a subscriber, Opie response,

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Speaker 1: I know, but then I also think that I don't

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Speaker 1: know without proof is what I have proof? We share

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Speaker 1: a mortgage, a cat, we have shared investments, we just

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Speaker 1: passed our one year anniversary. Thought I knew him, and

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Speaker 1: now I don't even know if I can go home.

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Speaker 1: I don't know where to go. We've never so much

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Speaker 1: as even had a fight where one of us sleeps

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Speaker 1: out of friends. If I go to my family or friends,

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Speaker 1: they will press me and then I can't take anything back.

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Speaker 1: And there's an updates one day later.

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Speaker 2: Mama, No, I think that seems like we'll be starting

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Speaker 2: to do this investigation. Yeah, but I think that he

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Speaker 2: has to be. He has to be engaging with her,

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Speaker 2: with this girl.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: And also to O's like question of oh, is this

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Speaker 2: worse than Corn? Yeah, because it involves.

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Speaker 1: It's a more intimate relationship than one.

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Speaker 2: It involves a person that he knows and maybe directly taught.

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Speaker 1: And also she knows, and she knows. It's not a

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Speaker 1: one way relationship. He knows, she knows, Yeah, and they

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Speaker 1: have history. It's like it's an assembination. It would like

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Speaker 1: it's like it's like one degree worse. For all of

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Speaker 1: that is true. It's like if he was watching a

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Speaker 1: former student, like just like Corn, that's already bad, but

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Speaker 1: now it's like, no, he subscribed to her, of that's

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Speaker 1: even worse, and also she knows and like he's talking

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Speaker 1: to her through Snapchat or at least she's he's on

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Speaker 1: a tier of subscription where she's sending there's there's so

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Speaker 1: many layers where it's that really messed up that I

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Speaker 1: I yeah, I'm not sure. I'm not sure it's good.

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Speaker 1: But death Ray says, no, Sam, they had math, not

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Speaker 1: history and says sorry. Ghost Blue Lady says there's enough

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Speaker 1: information to inform the school and have him investigated. Do

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Speaker 1: we feel a question? I think do we feel like

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Speaker 1: there's enough information to inform the school?

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Speaker 2: I think op, he could go to the school and say, hey,

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Speaker 2: I did my you know, husband teach this girl?

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Speaker 1: You know?

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Speaker 2: I think that you could ask that question. Yeah, but yeah, no,

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Speaker 2: I don't think and then maybe let the lawyer do

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Speaker 2: the rest of it.

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Speaker 1: Ezekiel says, Sophia is one hundred percent right, con is

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Speaker 1: usually anonymous. This is just one step below seeing her

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Speaker 1: at the strip club and having her cell number. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: that is like, I think that's a very like great analogy.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think.

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Speaker 1: So we have an update one day later, do it.

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Speaker 2: Let's dive in.

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Speaker 1: I'm not super excited diving.

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Speaker 2: I'm not but I want him to want to know.

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Speaker 1: I want him to be fired, all right, So my

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00:28:27,960 --> 00:28:30,919
Speaker 1: post blew up and there were many updates comments, so

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Speaker 1: I wanted to update. I read every single comment, but

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Speaker 1: there was too much to apply to. So let's clarify

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Speaker 1: a few things. No, I didn't have pictures or screenshots

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Speaker 1: of the snapchats or of I was so upset I

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Speaker 1: didn't even think about it until afterwards. Gotta have receipts,

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Speaker 1: you know, receipts, and I thought there would be another

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Speaker 1: chance to get them. I realized I fed up for

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Speaker 1: some of my early comments. My brain was still reeling.

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Speaker 1: I am a one hundred percent leaving my husband. To

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Speaker 1: make it clear, it took me some time to come

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Speaker 1: to terms with what was actually happening and the fact

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Speaker 1: that I was in denial, but Reddit helped me get there,

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Speaker 1: so thanks. The comments were about fifty to fifty split

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Speaker 1: between talking to a lawyer or my husband first. The

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Speaker 1: reality is that I didn't think I had anywhere else

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Speaker 1: to go at the time, and I was so emotional

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Speaker 1: last night and felt like I needed to know. I

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Speaker 1: wanted to confront him and rip off the band date.

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Speaker 1: He called me while I was still at work, and

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Speaker 1: I ended up telling him we need to talk. He

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Speaker 1: seemed thrown off by this and canceled plans to stay

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Speaker 1: in I didn't get home for almost three hours after that,

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Speaker 1: crying and deciding what the f to do. Ultimately, I

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Speaker 1: went home. If you're ever in the same position, don't

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Speaker 1: do what I did. I wanted to follow the advice

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Speaker 1: of many comments by basically saying I know about her,

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Speaker 1: but I really wanted to get pictures of the evidence first,

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Speaker 1: so I planned on playing it cool, saying never mind,

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Speaker 1: all is okay until he went to sleep, and then

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Speaker 1: sneaking back on his phone. I shouldn't have said anything

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Speaker 1: on the phone, but my emotion got the better of me.

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Speaker 1: But when I walked in the house, I immediately felt

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Speaker 1: like he knew what I knew. He said, what's up?

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Speaker 1: Super standoffishly just seemed off, and whatever I said on

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Speaker 1: the phone must have tipped him off. Either that or

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Speaker 1: he was able to tell that I was on his

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Speaker 1: phone in the morning somehow pretending to be asleep. I'm

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Speaker 1: not sure. So I couldn't control myself and got super

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Speaker 1: emotional and confronted him on the spot. I asked