Speaker 1: If you ain't in the bad with your lady and you.
Speaker 1: It's something that's smelling like a fish fry on a
Speaker 1: Friday night, thinking it as hot, but you probably throw
Speaker 1: U p ain't y'ash.
Speaker 2: You know real quick.
Speaker 3: I hate when people say a fish fry, fish fries smell.
Speaker 2: Good, crying. It's a.
Speaker 1: Fish fry, fish fribby smelling delicious. It's the raw fish
Speaker 1: that's the problem.
Speaker 2: Fry. It's the fish when it's wrong for you to
Speaker 2: say that.
Speaker 4: Okay, but I'm just say a fish fry a fish
Speaker 4: fish it is.
Speaker 2: But that's not how you want your vagina to smell.
Speaker 2: I mean fake.
Speaker 1: But you know what I'm saying, Fries smell edible is
Speaker 1: what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: What's up, y'all? Is your girl lex p and it's
Speaker 2: your girl Drey.
Speaker 1: In the call, you are tuned in to another episode
Speaker 1: of Poor Mine, whereas drunk mind speaks sober thought.
Speaker 4: We gotta guess today, We gotta guess today.
Speaker 1: So y'all know, y'all have been asking for this guest
Speaker 1: to come on for a long time.
Speaker 2: First of all, and second of all, I don't.
Speaker 1: Even know how to give this introduction because a YouTube
Speaker 1: star turned into an R and B sensation that we
Speaker 1: have all jammed her music and me going through it esday.
Speaker 5: Lla, Hello, Hello, Hello, thank y'all for having me, Thank
Speaker 5: you for coming.
Speaker 1: Because one thing about me, like I do not care
Speaker 1: who it is. I'm a slap and people dms. Yes,
Speaker 1: I'm a DM slider, Like, I don't care if I'm
Speaker 1: like a fan of you, and I feel like will vibe.
Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm gonna sign they dms and ask because
Speaker 1: the worst you can say is no.
Speaker 2: I don't know how I missed that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, So I slid in your DMS like a long
Speaker 1: time ago, and I was like, y'all, I mean I
Speaker 1: shot my shot. Maybe she'll respond, And I swear you
Speaker 1: were up like late because you were responded at like
Speaker 1: three in the morning.
Speaker 2: Yeah. I think I was looking through all of my requests. Okay,
Speaker 2: that's probably.
Speaker 6: Yeah.
Speaker 5: I was looking at my request and then I went,
Speaker 5: you know how you can go to the little part
Speaker 5: where it says verified or something like that, and so.
Speaker 2: I saw it. I was like, oh my god, how
Speaker 2: did I miss this? Yes, but I was like, oh
Speaker 2: my god, I woke up. I was like, I screened
Speaker 2: shot it. I was like y'all. She responded with the
Speaker 2: chat and I was like, yeah, yeah, he didn't want
Speaker 2: to have you on for a while. So I didn't
Speaker 2: know people was asking me to come on here. Oh yeah.
Speaker 1: They love like when we have the girls on because
Speaker 1: it's like a girl's talking.
Speaker 2: Yeah. So, and I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 1: We've had a lot of male gifts lately and they're
Speaker 1: like bringing the girls.
Speaker 2: We're the wimmen. Yes, but I mean, is it like
Speaker 2: harder to get girls?
Speaker 1: I was about to say that one thing. It depends.
Speaker 1: I think it depends. But honestly, what shocked me is
Speaker 1: girls don't be girls.
Speaker 3: Girls like, yeah, they don't. You know what I'm saying,
Speaker 3: come on a lot. Well, I'm not gonna say a
Speaker 3: lot of the time because some of them do. They'll
Speaker 3: respond and they'll be friendly and they'll be like, oh yeah,
Speaker 3: I will love to come on, and they do, but
Speaker 3: they don't, or they be asking for a budgie and
Speaker 3: I'd be like, people charge for interviews.
Speaker 2: I didn't even know it was a.
Speaker 1: Theme neither, because I felt like, you know, if you
Speaker 1: have something to promote, it's gonna help them, both of them. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you got something going on, but sometimes people would just
Speaker 1: straight up flat. I'll be like no, yes and be
Speaker 1: like because I feel like there's a way to say no.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't like that. I'm like, yeah, like just
Speaker 2: to be.
Speaker 1: Like, you know, unfortunately right now it's not the right time.
Speaker 1: You know, you know, we'll circle back. It's just a professionalism.
Speaker 1: Like we had somebody emails back and that was like,
Speaker 1: she's not interested.
Speaker 3: What they asked for a budgie first DNA see, yeah,
Speaker 3: but not interested. Oh it's like she was interested, but
Speaker 3: it was TG if we had a budge.
Speaker 1: Have you ever had a situation where like you reached
Speaker 1: out to somebody to do a song with and they
Speaker 1: hurt your feelings?
Speaker 5: Read that's why I agree. I don't believe that girls
Speaker 5: that are really girls. Girl, No, they're not, and I
Speaker 5: am and it hurts my feelings. Yeah, and it's like, dang,
Speaker 5: I should pull it back or whatever, because like.
Speaker 2: I'm just a naturally friendly person.
Speaker 5: But yeah, that has happened to me actually recently really
Speaker 5: because I've been working on my album and actually it's
Speaker 5: almost finished, and I was like, I would love to
Speaker 5: have you, Like what did I say?
Speaker 2: I think I said I would love.
Speaker 5: To have you like, but let me know, like if
Speaker 5: you're interested, if you're not, it's okay. And I would
Speaker 5: have been okay if the person would have just been
Speaker 5: like no, not interested or no Red, I said, you
Speaker 5: know what, I'm not doing this thing.
Speaker 3: And I just feel like that's so rude because like
Speaker 3: I could see that you're ready.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you could have said you could have said no,
Speaker 2: you could have it, and I would have respected it.
Speaker 1: And it's like, that's my issue because I have to
Speaker 1: choose between being personal or like just being professional. And sometimes,
Speaker 1: like especially with an interview like this, because when we're
Speaker 1: in the DM talk on my girl, I'm not gonna
Speaker 1: ask you nothing crazy. We don't look for viral moments. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you just like to have a good time with their guess.
Speaker 1: So I sometimes I'll be wishing, like when I DM
Speaker 1: people and they leave me on RED and they don't
Speaker 1: take nothing, I'm like, I should.
Speaker 2: Have just sent Shay to you, just yeah, so you
Speaker 2: don't have to deal with.
Speaker 1: The yeah, like feeling embarrassed because I'm second, Yeah, that's embarrassing.
Speaker 2: Everything hurt my feelings. I was like ooh, like oach,
Speaker 2: But I did get.
Speaker 3: It from the perspective that you were just talking about, Like,
Speaker 3: I get the apprehension that people might have weill coming
Speaker 3: on the show just because a lot of shows, I
Speaker 3: do feel like they be looking for the viral moments
Speaker 3: and they do be making the gifts feel uncomfortable and stuff.
Speaker 3: So I can understand why, especially if somebody haven't heard
Speaker 3: of the show, automatically they like, oh no, I don't
Speaker 3: really want to do the interview.
Speaker 1: I mean, but I think we've been doing this for
Speaker 1: so long, Like when we have things that go viral,
Speaker 1: it really be accidents. Yeah, Like I'll never be like,
Speaker 1: oh yeah, tell me the tea about this.
Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, it's never given.
Speaker 5: And then I mean the person just should be able
Speaker 5: to know how to answer the question.
Speaker 2: And be like, you know what, I don't really want
Speaker 2: to lie.
Speaker 1: Some people don't have media training though they know we
Speaker 1: don't have a few people sit on this couch to.
Speaker 2: Get but why really I think we have.
Speaker 3: I do a really good job of making people feel
Speaker 3: really comfortable because they meet us and they're like, oh,
Speaker 3: they're so sweet, they're so nice, and.
Speaker 2: Then we funny and we be joking.
Speaker 3: But I feel like a lot of time people are
Speaker 3: started loosening it, and especially when they're drinking too.
Speaker 2: Then we got hurt. She'd be making the drinks, picking
Speaker 2: up on them. They get comfortable, girl, and they be
Speaker 2: cutting up.
Speaker 1: They be texting us afterwards like can you delete these? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm not lying removing any girl, but they be cutting up.
Speaker 2: We haven't had well.
Speaker 5: I when I first, like started out, I did have
Speaker 5: like a media training session or two.
Speaker 2: But I don't know. I just don't. I haven't had
Speaker 2: in a while. I don't know. I just don't like
Speaker 2: the thing. Yeah really, why not? Because I want to
Speaker 2: be like unapologetically me. Yeah.
Speaker 5: And also though, like as you grow and do more
Speaker 5: and more interviews, like you'll know what to bobby with.
Speaker 1: With, Like, yeah, so, how do you feel now because
Speaker 1: being that you started off on YouTube and you know,
Speaker 1: we being that we started off on YouTube as well,
Speaker 1: were still on YouTube. Yeah, it's like but it's different
Speaker 1: because when you first start out, you just say whatever,
Speaker 1: you're doing whatever, and it's so many things that come
Speaker 1: back people will clip.
Speaker 2: Old Oh my god, say and do.
Speaker 1: So how do you feel now knowing that it's like
Speaker 1: a lot of stuff that you said that you.
Speaker 2: Were when you were younger?
Speaker 5: Oh my god, It's like I look back at a
Speaker 5: lot of things and like I cringe, but yeah, but
Speaker 5: it's like at the same time, that's what growth is about.
Speaker 5: I feel like a lot of people in this just
Speaker 5: new social.
Speaker 2: Media world, they don't appreciate growth. They don't understand it.
Speaker 5: If like you said something years ago, they're gonna look
Speaker 5: at you as that same person and yeah, they just
Speaker 5: don't understand growth.
Speaker 2: I don't. I don't know, but I agree. I mean, hey,
Speaker 2: like all you could do is really just apologize and
Speaker 2: move one.
Speaker 3: Have you ever had an instance where like you did
Speaker 3: an interview or something and you said something he was like,
Speaker 3: oh shit, I shouldn't see it.
Speaker 2: Not an interview.
Speaker 5: It was more so back in my YouTube day. I
Speaker 5: think everybody know, like you know, everybody knows.
Speaker 2: You don't know.
Speaker 1: I know, yeah, everybody know.
Speaker 2: Everybody everybody knows.
Speaker 5: But like it was one of those things where like
Speaker 5: I just was when you're doing YouTube and you so
Speaker 5: just personable. It's like you're talking to people like.
Speaker 2: They're in the room with you.
Speaker 5: Yeah, and also like just me, you were so young, yeah,
Speaker 5: like your.
Speaker 2: Twenties early twenties.
Speaker 1: Well I'm saying right now, oh yeah, oh yeah, you
Speaker 1: were really young.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I'll be thirty soon. But yeah, I was really young.
Speaker 5: And sometimes we just say things, especially on cameras, like.
Speaker 1: I don't know, and I always say crazy stuff. We
Speaker 1: we understand, but I always say this too, like being
Speaker 1: on YouTube or just being an entertainer, anybody in this industry,
Speaker 1: we are taking a risk and we're living our lives
Speaker 1: in front of the camera, and we're being vulnerable and honest.
Speaker 1: So if you can't accept like the bad parts because
Speaker 1: y'all get to grow up and become women or men
Speaker 1: behind the camera.
Speaker 2: Aren't doing it in front of MILLI we got do
Speaker 2: it in front of everybody. Yeah, in front of everybody.
Speaker 1: So the mistakes that you made, they're just not on you, yes, forever,
Speaker 1: because y'all.
Speaker 2: Be saying some cristy and people like that.
Speaker 5: We may have said whatever, a lot of people be
Speaker 5: thinking it and then it will literally drill you.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah for sure.
Speaker 3: It's like like she said, it's just the fact that
Speaker 3: we're growing up in front of people.
Speaker 2: But when people was twenty six twenty.
Speaker 3: Three, you had controversial opinions school, nobody just know you
Speaker 3: was having a conversations with your homegirl, lot with your homeboys.
Speaker 3: It wasn't on camera for people to still go back
Speaker 3: in reference like it is with us, because unfortunately, that's
Speaker 3: the thing about the Internet.
Speaker 2: Even if you delete.
Speaker 3: Stuff, yeah somebody gonna have it on they page.
Speaker 1: I always think it's so silly though, when I see
Speaker 1: people like pulling up old tweets or something, because I'll say,
Speaker 1: my Twitter, Have y'all done that before?
Speaker 2: The best?
Speaker 3: Like I just wiped my Twitter anything, because I feel
Speaker 3: like I've been having my Twitter since like twenty eleven.
Speaker 2: So when I was in college.
Speaker 3: And I used to say some crazy stuff sometimes not
Speaker 3: nothing too crazy, but you know.
Speaker 2: You're young, you me sweeting about celebrities and stuff. You did.
Speaker 3: Yes, girl, I went through my Twitter and like any
Speaker 3: celebrity name I could think of, I searched it and
Speaker 3: deleted every tweet that I ever said.
Speaker 1: The best thing that ever happened to me was my
Speaker 1: Twitter got deleted. It did like my part, and I
Speaker 1: was so upset because I had like a lot of
Speaker 1: a big following on there at the time, and I
Speaker 1: was so upset. But now, like where the show is
Speaker 1: and how it's gone, I'm like, that was the best thing.
Speaker 2: Yeah that ever happened. It was so crazy because it
Speaker 2: got deleted because I said, O. J. Simpson got a
Speaker 2: long head, and he got and then now he not
Speaker 2: even alive. No, it wasn't. I was gonna say, like
Speaker 2: it was very.
Speaker 5: Easy for us back in the day to say things
Speaker 5: about celebrities like now being known, like you know how
Speaker 5: it is, especially me, like being like known or being
Speaker 5: in the public eye. It's different, like we a lot
Speaker 5: of things that people say about celebrities like now, like
Speaker 5: they don't know what.
Speaker 2: Goes on with those people's lives or whatever.
Speaker 5: Now I'm being able to be like on the other
Speaker 5: side too, I see, and a bunch of people talk
Speaker 5: stuff about me too.
Speaker 2: So it's like, man, y'all don't even know what I'm
Speaker 2: going through.
Speaker 5: And so that was us back in the day, like
Speaker 5: talking about we don't know like how it is on
Speaker 5: the other side.
Speaker 3: So on Twitter, I go ahead, go ahead, I was
Speaker 3: gonna say. And I feel like on Twitter they just
Speaker 3: used to be so mean to you all the time.
Speaker 2: I used to because I feel like I don't.
Speaker 3: See it as much anymore though, But it was like
Speaker 3: one point in time, I'm like, why are y'all.
Speaker 5: Always missing blame queen?
Speaker 2: How did that start? I don't know, you don't know.
Speaker 2: It's just like it's just something that happened one day.
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 1: You know that we had too as well. They do
Speaker 1: that to James Charles on TikTok. They just start like
Speaker 1: random trends of like and it's low key bully. Yeah
Speaker 1: you know it is, but nope, nope, nope, I think
Speaker 1: you know. It's so crazy because in one breath, these
Speaker 1: same people want to talk about mental health and you know,
Speaker 1: looking out for people and being nice because you never
Speaker 1: know what somebody's going through, and then at the same
Speaker 1: time it'll be something so different going on. They'll be like,
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, where's Queen Naja the Pies and they
Speaker 1: want to who they be.
Speaker 5: I feel like they did it a lot to me
Speaker 5: because I would show a lot of reaction and they
Speaker 5: like yeah when I like yeah, but when I got
Speaker 5: off of Twitter, like my app deleted right now, Like
Speaker 5: to be honest with you, once you stop showing that
Speaker 5: you're bothered, Like the joke.
Speaker 2: Is it's not funny though, Yeah, it don't hit.
Speaker 3: It's not funny at all, honestly. And Twitter is just
Speaker 3: such a mean app. We talk about that all the time. Girl,
Speaker 3: we can say the sky is blue and they're gonna
Speaker 3: be like you stupid ass bird.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, I got them this bitch and say nothing.
Speaker 2: I've just seen this today.
Speaker 1: Draa tweeted, she says one thing about a fly a
Speaker 1: cheese track.
Speaker 2: Gonna have to see me, I said.
Speaker 1: Somebody was like, Draa tweets like she just got new
Speaker 1: money Brocht.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that that is really toxic. And I'm like, I
Speaker 2: know you don't.
Speaker 3: Fly that much because to say something like that you
Speaker 3: sound crazy. You can literally buy a cheese tray in
Speaker 3: main cabin too.
Speaker 2: I was freeze.
Speaker 3: Because I was at first class, but you could buy
Speaker 3: a cheese trade Like, why would you?
Speaker 2: Girl? Everything they do Twitter is just mean.
Speaker 3: Twitter is a very very mean app out of all
Speaker 3: of them. I feel like it's the worst.
Speaker 2: Oh for a fact, it's definitely. I'm not gonna lie Twitter.
Speaker 5: At a point I had to really take a break
Speaker 5: from Twitter because and this is not now, but like
Speaker 5: Twitter one day had me in a chokehold and tears
Speaker 5: like for real, like.
Speaker 2: That stuff will really mess with you. It will. We're
Speaker 2: not really supposed to see all those people's opinions like
Speaker 2: about it.
Speaker 5: Yeah, we're not supposed to. It's not even like, that's
Speaker 5: not how it's supposed to be.
Speaker 3: That was the beauty of being an influencer. Well, I
Speaker 3: guess they didn't technically have influences.
Speaker 2: Martha Stewart, she was.
Speaker 3: The first influencer. But yeah, being a celebrity. Back in
Speaker 3: the day, people had opinions, but you couldn't see them
Speaker 3: because it was no social media. And now we're seeing
Speaker 3: people talk about us in real time.
Speaker 2: Yeah, real time. It's awful. They had a right little yeah,
Speaker 2: I mean, I.
Speaker 1: Mean, the worst thing you would get is like Joan
Speaker 1: Rivers talking about you on New Yeah, you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. Like, that's how you would get like people
Speaker 1: talking about you, but you never really got to hearsay
Speaker 1: of what Brenda, who lives down the street thought of you.
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying. So it's really toxic. Brenda.
Speaker 5: I feel like the people that take the time out
Speaker 5: to write mean things like that, I feel.
Speaker 2: Like they're truly happy.
Speaker 5: I think because I think about myself, I am a
Speaker 5: like and I'm like gonna say I'm happy every day,
Speaker 5: but on the inside, like I'm just not a very
Speaker 5: miserable person.
Speaker 2: I will never go.
Speaker 5: And write even if I'm thinking something, I will never
Speaker 5: go and write something under somebody's stuff for them to see.
Speaker 2: I son't keep scrawling. I don't want to really have
Speaker 2: to write.
Speaker 5: But I feel like a lot of them do it too,
Speaker 5: for lest they want to feel validated by a bunch
Speaker 5: of people.
Speaker 2: They were at a ready to laugh it there.
Speaker 5: They want to go viral, and that's what fuels them,
Speaker 5: that's what makes them feel so important. So they have
Speaker 5: to say these mean things because, like I mean, they
Speaker 5: a lot of celebrities and known people know that we
Speaker 5: notice the negative.
Speaker 2: Stuff a little bit more. So they have to put
Speaker 2: negative things like to really stand out.
Speaker 1: Yeah, because they feel like we talked about this before.
Speaker 1: You somebody will say something negative to you and then
Speaker 1: you'll respond. They were like, oh, I didn't even think
Speaker 1: you was gonna see this what you're doing.
Speaker 2: I'm swere that happens to me so much. That happened
Speaker 2: to me. I had responded one time to a girl
Speaker 2: her m and.
Speaker 5: She was like, oh my god, let me just erase that.
Speaker 5: I'm sorry, Queenn, I love you, I just want you
Speaker 5: to make some music.
Speaker 2: But she was talking so much stuff about you call me.
Speaker 2: All types of names.
Speaker 3: I was like, that's obsessive blow key, that we're humans.
Speaker 2: I watched this documentary a long time ago.
Speaker 1: I can't think of the name of it. I'll put
Speaker 1: it in the description when I think of it. But
Speaker 1: it was talking about people who have had viral moment
Speaker 1: and celebrities and things like that. But they were saying, like,
Speaker 1: when you're a consumer of like content entertainment, you don't
Speaker 1: look at these people as people. You look at them
Speaker 1: as a theme. Just like you use your radio to
Speaker 1: sing along with music, they're using you as entertaining. We
Speaker 1: are here to make them laugh. We're not people. We
Speaker 1: are a thing to them. Yes, so they feel like, oh,
Speaker 1: I can say this, you signed up for this? Yeah,
Speaker 1: oh my god, did I sign up to be riddy?
Speaker 5: They're like, well, if you got a better life than me,
Speaker 5: then you got to take some sort of heat, you know, Like, but.
Speaker 2: No, I don't. That's just rude. But why do y'all
Speaker 2: think we're like that? Though?
Speaker 3: Because I think it is true to a certain extent.
Speaker 3: You'll respond to the like the negative thing. You gonna
Speaker 3: clap back. But then it'll be like a thousand comments
Speaker 3: like oh, you're so beautiful, You're so sweet, but then
Speaker 3: they be like your lace lifting.
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh.
Speaker 5: I have to really I have to still, like really
Speaker 5: work on it. That's a mindset. Like honestly, when I'm
Speaker 5: about to now, when I'm about to respond to someone.
Speaker 2: I'll be like, is that very superstarve me?
Speaker 5: No, it's not like is that where I'm trying to,
Speaker 5: like know, because then once you do that, it's like
Speaker 5: you're accessible, you know what I mean, And I'm trying
Speaker 5: to I don't want to be that accessible to where
Speaker 5: people's like, yep, she said she saw my comment.
Speaker 2: If you write it, I don't want you to know.
Speaker 3: If I ever saw it, you know, or they just
Speaker 3: know you're gonna respond because you do it all the time.
Speaker 1: Honestly, I've been That's something I've done for a long time.
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie every now and then. I'll clap back.
Speaker 1: But I always make money me too, because I like,
Speaker 1: I mean, if you're gonna get a laugh, bitch, we all,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna show up as Addie Murphy and his motherfucker.
Speaker 1: But I will say I always respond to the positive comments.
Speaker 2: Yeah that excuse me, And I'm like, I'm here to
Speaker 2: serve y'all.
Speaker 1: The people that uplift me, make me feel good, consume
Speaker 1: my content, laugh and enjoy.
Speaker 2: That's who I'm really.
Speaker 5: You gotta show appreciation for that. I've been trying to
Speaker 5: work on responding to good comments.
Speaker 3: I definitely respond to the good ones, but girl, I
Speaker 3: ain't there yet. God still working on me. I be responding,
Speaker 3: I'll be going off on people. I don't be going off.
Speaker 3: I feel like I make you, Like she said, I
Speaker 3: make funny, but I want to get to a point
Speaker 3: to where I just don't eat. I used to make
Speaker 3: it funny too, Like I used to like it would
Speaker 3: just be they were right, really long paragraphs. And if
Speaker 3: I say something just stupid and short, like that's just
Speaker 3: or I'll.
Speaker 5: I'll point out something about like I remember this girl,
Speaker 5: I shouldn't even bring.
Speaker 2: It up in her mind, don't give him no shot.
Speaker 3: But see, like even what she said yesterday with the
Speaker 3: person saying something about the cheese training, I was like, well, girl,
Speaker 3: you don't know what it's like to have new or
Speaker 3: old money. Yeah, I know that's right clat back, but
Speaker 3: like you know, so they know you're not taking it
Speaker 3: too personal. Like girl, I'm laughing at I'm not really mad.
Speaker 1: Like yeah, And I think that's what they be wanting
Speaker 1: you to feel, like they really like you really feel something,
Speaker 1: like you really really upset.
Speaker 5: You know what I don't get when men say stuff
Speaker 5: about women, you know, whats yeah, like my thing too?
Speaker 1: Is The thing that's scarier about that is like there's
Speaker 1: a man who's on the internet arguing on women under
Speaker 1: the shape room comments, talking shit, But there's somebody who
Speaker 1: is actively dating this man, laying in the bed with
Speaker 1: him every laying in the bed with him next to him,
Speaker 1: Like I'll be thinking in my head.
Speaker 2: I'm not trying to be funny.
Speaker 1: I know this sounds horrible, but when I see a
Speaker 1: man just talking about me or always in my comments,
Speaker 1: I'll be like, who is fucking yeah, like you in
Speaker 1: the trenches, baby girl.
Speaker 2: I'm not even worried about him.
Speaker 1: I'm worried about the lady who is laying next to you,
Speaker 1: if there even is one.
Speaker 2: Yeah, because why you even got time to do that?
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, As a man, why are
Speaker 1: you in the shape room comments talking about Oh, she
Speaker 1: looks so tacky and he's her stylists.
Speaker 2: Win in business?
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. Okay, so anyways, we don't
Speaker 1: move on. We're gonna play a little game.
Speaker 2: Yeah, let's play the game. But what's the game? Your
Speaker 2: eyes like Icebreak the game? But I feel like we
Speaker 2: was just chatting it up. We don't even hear the
Speaker 2: Icebreak game. Okay.
Speaker 1: So we're gonna throw in random words and phrases and
Speaker 1: we're gonna sing a quick lyric the book off the top,
Speaker 1: like a free style, you know what I'm saying. So
Speaker 1: we're gonna give everybody gonna get a word. So you
Speaker 1: want to go first, sure, okay, So I'm gonna give
Speaker 1: you a word and you have to come up with
Speaker 1: a quick bar.
Speaker 2: No, okay, I don't want to.
Speaker 3: You don't want to go first now because I can't
Speaker 3: you go first, because I can't think of one for
Speaker 3: these first words.
Speaker 2: Okay, okay, okay, I'll go first.
Speaker 1: So I'm gonna do a free style okay, and my
Speaker 1: original composition, original compas didn't know that's right?
Speaker 2: I know this right? Okay. The word is blocked. The
Speaker 2: word is blocked.
Speaker 1: That nigga blocked because he won't stop calling my phone.
Speaker 2: And this is off the top the top. Do my dance.
Speaker 1: Romance Okay, and I don't want to make no plans.
Speaker 2: Pet your hands off of me. You can what. I'm
Speaker 2: not lie you if he blocked.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, because that's off top a fire.
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying that I gotta think. You
Speaker 2: gotta think about it. I won't be doing any freestyle. Okay, okay,
Speaker 2: who want to go next? Who going next? Let's do
Speaker 2: let's give it to queens. You can sing one.
Speaker 3: Well, it's probably gonna have to be a freestyle because
Speaker 3: I can't think of no song that got this any
Speaker 3: he still live with his baby mama.
Speaker 2: Wait what I thought it was a word? Though? Give
Speaker 2: give her ms. I can think of a song off
Speaker 2: the top of my head. I went through your D
Speaker 2: and pieces. Okay, that's it.
Speaker 1: I like that too, because I did look through a
Speaker 1: nigga DM I was I got going down in the deal.
Speaker 2: No, you ain't do a song that's already made. You
Speaker 2: can't know this is supposed to be. You can say
Speaker 2: a song that's already created. I got a freestyle. We
Speaker 2: gotta make it up. Say something.
Speaker 1: You gotta be creative. D I'll give you another shot.
Speaker 1: That's right, because I love Thank you Tom. Okay, which
Speaker 1: word you're gonna do I guess you should just throw
Speaker 1: it at me. Okay, gas lighting because you're smart, not
Speaker 1: you would, Okay, Okay, okay, okay, Way, I'm gonna do it.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna do it. Okay, gas lighting. You gonna sing
Speaker 2: or you're gonna rap? Okay, I guess rap because I'm
Speaker 2: on now, Big D. Don't play with a big D.
Speaker 2: Give it to him. That glow is he this? Yes,
Speaker 2: I'm sorry, Thank you girl.
Speaker 3: It's from Fency Beauty. It's the pink high lighter. Yeah,
Speaker 3: he keeps gas lighting. In a minute, we're gonna be fighting. Yeah,
Speaker 3: he got me fucked up. I'm gonna shoot up his house,
Speaker 3: ride by his mama crib. Yeah, I'm gonna find out
Speaker 3: where you live.
Speaker 2: I ain't really gonna shoot I like flags.
Speaker 1: Let's get real, like look Queen one obviously though.
Speaker 2: Broke my heart to period. Yeah, you should have thun No.
Speaker 3: No, you're about to ask you can she come to
Speaker 3: the studio?
Speaker 2: Give it to it? Yeah, you get a real comfortable.
Speaker 3: It's never been an episode in the history of Four
Speaker 3: Minds where we've had an artist on the show and
Speaker 3: she didn't ask can she come to the studio.
Speaker 2: Oh, I'm coming to this, give you a little harm
Speaker 2: and same stage.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna give you a little vocal. It's gonna be
Speaker 1: free girl. I'm gonna show up on time, on time.
Speaker 2: Get credited. Okay, I don't even need that. I just
Speaker 2: want to be in the video. Okay, you know what
Speaker 2: I'm saying. Just show up.
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Speaker 3: So for topic number one, I wanted to talk about,
Speaker 3: do you heal in public or do you feel I mean?
Speaker 2: Or do you heal in privy? Personally? I like to
Speaker 2: take my ills in privy. How y'all feel?
Speaker 1: I think it depends to be honest, I think there's
Speaker 1: certain things that I've gone through that I feel like
Speaker 1: if I talk about it publicly and I let y'all in,
Speaker 1: I think I kind of oh, not that I owe that,
Speaker 1: but if you've seen me going through something, I'm like,
Speaker 1: all open about it, I'm talking about it. I think
Speaker 1: I can at least be human and let y'all know, Hey,
Speaker 1: this is what's going on. And that's with a breakup.
Speaker 1: Like even when my mom passed away, I let y'all
Speaker 1: know what I was going through. I was very about,
Speaker 1: you know, different journeys. But I also think as women,
Speaker 1: I hate that they do this to us.
Speaker 2: Every time we said it's not to do with the man,
Speaker 2: oh hello, every time we are in our films, they're like, oh,
Speaker 2: what he did? He must have made you mad.
Speaker 1: I have other things going on in my life that
Speaker 1: stress me out that have nothing to do with the man.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: So sometimes I think that is aggravating because I want
Speaker 1: to share what I'm going through, but it's like it
Speaker 1: makes me mad because I can just be like, oh
Speaker 1: my gosh, I'm so tired today with stressed But what
Speaker 1: do you do?
Speaker 5: Girl?
Speaker 2: It's not it's not always around men all the time.
Speaker 2: Issues outside of that, we have.
Speaker 3: A lot always and I will say, I feel like
Speaker 3: you're a little more vulnerable, like looking at your social
Speaker 3: media and stuff, because even when your mom passed away,
Speaker 3: you basically said it immediately. Almost remember when my dad
Speaker 3: passed away, I didn't even talk about it on the show,
Speaker 3: I think for like maybe a month or two after
Speaker 3: it happy.
Speaker 2: So I don't know.
Speaker 3: It's just I think that when you're going through stuff,
Speaker 3: people on the internet could be so mean. So I
Speaker 3: just don't even want to give them that because it's like,
Speaker 3: I'm already grieving, I'm already going through a breakup, I'm
Speaker 3: already dealing with drama. I don't want to get online,
Speaker 3: and then I'm telling y'all about it, And of course
Speaker 3: you do get the outpouring of love from some people,
Speaker 3: but then you have the people that are negative. It
Speaker 3: means they don't give a fuck about what you're going through.
Speaker 3: Are they happy that you're going through It's so I
Speaker 3: don't know. I feel like it's hard for me sometimes
Speaker 3: to decipher because I want to be vulnerable and transparent,
Speaker 3: but then people are just so me me.
Speaker 5: And then a lot of times people will come on
Speaker 5: there and pretend to hear about you, or they'll say, oh,
Speaker 5: I'm praying for you, and they're not really praying no,
Speaker 5: like for your Yeah.
Speaker 1: So how did you feel because I know, like you said,
Speaker 1: like your relationship with your ex obviously it.
Speaker 2: Was public, very very public. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Oh, going through you know, y'all split, it was just
Speaker 1: like shocking for everybody cause y'all were like relationship goals.
Speaker 2: At one point.
Speaker 1: Yeah, everybody was looking at y'all like, oh my gosh,
Speaker 1: I want that.
Speaker 2: I want that. So talk about like how cause you
Speaker 2: were so.
Speaker 1: Young going through that, and you were a child, like
Speaker 1: it was stuff that you were going through at that
Speaker 1: age that I'm thirty five I can imagine going through
Speaker 1: at this age. Yeah, so how did you handle that? Like,
Speaker 1: how did you get through that?
Speaker 2: How did I get through it? Because it was so public?
Speaker 5: Honestly, man, Yeah, I didn't want a lot of things
Speaker 5: to be public, but when guys don't care, they'll do
Speaker 5: things publicly to embarrass you, and you have no choice
Speaker 5: but to like face it publicly.
Speaker 2: How did I get through it?
Speaker 5: I'm the kind of person where I usually don't like
Speaker 5: get I don't have to.
Speaker 2: Well, I only have one bad breakup obviously. So if
Speaker 2: I'm I don't have to get.
Speaker 5: Through it after the breakup, because I already got through
Speaker 5: it during the breakup.
Speaker 2: I leave mentally before I actually leave.
Speaker 5: So yeah, I'm the kind of person that some people,
Speaker 5: some women will like, you know, leave and then come
Speaker 5: back and leave and go. I'm the kind of person
Speaker 5: I'm just gonna stay until I don't like because once yeah,
Speaker 5: because once I leave, Like so I didn't really have
Speaker 5: to Yeah, I don't really, I didn't really have to
Speaker 5: heal that much. Like afterwards, I was doing all my
Speaker 5: healing while I was like going through it. No, I'm
Speaker 5: not going to see her, lie. I still I feel
Speaker 5: like because after that, you know, I ended up in
Speaker 5: another relationship. It's really quick, so I'm actually still healing,
Speaker 5: not just from that relationship, but healing as a woman.
Speaker 5: We got like, like you said, everything is not about
Speaker 5: a man. There's like childhood traumas, there's like yeah, there's
Speaker 5: like so just trying to heal as a woman in
Speaker 5: general while being in a relationship. You know what I'm saying,
Speaker 5: It's like an everyday process. I don't think anyone ever
Speaker 5: completely heals.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you're constantly growing, You're constantly evolving, and especially if
Speaker 3: you're somebody who believes in going to therapy, I feel
Speaker 3: like going to therapy or.
Speaker 2: Bring up all of those hills or bold stuff that.
Speaker 3: You know was really trauma that you had, Right, it is,
Speaker 3: it's constantly a process.
Speaker 1: And then it's like when you're trying to heal, because
Speaker 1: like you said, now, it's like you're probably still healing
Speaker 1: and still learning things about yourself. How does that feel too,
Speaker 1: because I think with it's like an average person healing
Speaker 1: with a normal like person with like a normal job.
Speaker 1: I guess say, we don't necessarily have to see our
Speaker 1: exes or hear what.
Speaker 2: They think about us or they kind of poking at us.
Speaker 1: Yeah, he be kind of messing with you a little bit. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: he always like saying your name or saying he wants
Speaker 1: you back, or be like, oh, come home, and you know,
Speaker 1: doing kind of funny things like that. Whether it's genuine
Speaker 1: or not, it's more so for a reaction. So how
Speaker 1: is that because you know, you're actively trying to heal
Speaker 1: have a healthy co parenting relationship, but then also having
Speaker 1: to deal with the antics.
Speaker 5: I'm not like, I don't know, I don't take him serious.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't take him serious at all.
Speaker 5: The only thing I worry about is my son, right,
Speaker 5: that's the only thing I will It don't really bother me, like.
Speaker 2: Honestly, like you know, he on there because he gotta
Speaker 2: do that. Yeah, yeah, you know.
Speaker 5: Yeah, it's like I don't know, it's just kind of
Speaker 5: you know how like well, I don't know if are
Speaker 5: you guys you're not parents.
Speaker 2: Yet, no, no, but like as a mom, you get
Speaker 2: used to.
Speaker 5: A baby crying and then it's just like you don't
Speaker 5: hear it. Sometimes you just blurt out that's the same thing.
Speaker 5: I'm just you know. But I'm not gonna say that
Speaker 5: I'm a I'm a very like silent sniper.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 5: So I'm not gonna like, I'm never gonna tell my
Speaker 5: plans or anything, but I got something.
Speaker 2: I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 1: Side note because I remember when that whole breakup, which
Speaker 1: y'all happened, because look, I being everybody busy, y'all know me.
Speaker 2: I live chronically online.
Speaker 1: But I remember seeing a picture of you and you
Speaker 1: were like on the top of the Capitol One Records
Speaker 1: building was right when you signed your DAL. It's something
Speaker 1: about a woman going through a breakup in rough times
Speaker 1: and just coming out on top.
Speaker 2: Yes, And I just remember just clapping and being so
Speaker 2: happy for you.
Speaker 1: A lot of breakups that break people and they don't
Speaker 1: get through it and they don't get on the other side.
Speaker 1: So I just remember seeing that like announcement that you
Speaker 1: made doing like a drone picture or something. It was
Speaker 1: like that you had announced and I was just like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, I'm so happy for her.
Speaker 5: And that's another thing too, I was gonna say, because
Speaker 5: the question was what do you hear do you he'll
Speaker 5: privately publicly I haven't outlet and that's my music, so
Speaker 5: you're gonna hear it in my music. But sometimes you
Speaker 5: won't because like I'll just be writing relatable stuff, but
Speaker 5: like the music for me being able to make it
Speaker 5: into something so beautiful, and then I can watch people
Speaker 5: also like hell too, while they're going through their stuff.
Speaker 2: It's like it's so beautiful.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Sometimes I'm sorry. This this piece ring is just she
Speaker 2: was over that talk about my mom and I'm.
Speaker 3: Like, girl, we don't all the tie EXI what we
Speaker 3: drink because we ain't even asked.
Speaker 5: This is in honor of our girl queen over here.
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Speaker 5: can add any spirit of choice if you like. Some
Speaker 5: rum will go really really nice, or even some tequila
Speaker 5: for this. As we're approaching the summer. So this one
Speaker 5: has some passion fruit. We have some peach puree, a
Speaker 5: little bit of lime juice, and some pineapple and mango
Speaker 5: in it. And then we topped hers with a sparkling
Speaker 5: guava and we topped Drea's with a sparkling rosette. So
Speaker 5: it's giving us a nice spritzy, little kind of.
Speaker 2: Taste to it. And then what they're eating on are
Speaker 2: snacking on.
Speaker 5: I garnished it with two pineapple fronds and then some
Speaker 5: candied peach ring So just kind of nostalgic throwing delicious.
Speaker 2: Here's love, Thank you, thank you. This is delicious.
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Speaker 1: about healing probably and healing privately, and you're talking about
Speaker 1: how you give it through your music with some things
Speaker 1: you keep.
Speaker 2: You yes, yes, relatable for people to heal. Yeah, your music. Yes.
Speaker 5: I've had people and this is so crazy, like I
Speaker 5: can't believe it. Sometimes people will literally write me and
Speaker 5: be like, Queen, you literally your music, your music stopped
Speaker 5: me from committing suicide, or your music really got me
Speaker 5: through so many hard things like this breakup, and I
Speaker 5: was just I'm like, how did my music, how did
Speaker 5: my story get you through that? And that's why I
Speaker 5: also like, I'm gonna take to God. God be putting
Speaker 5: us through things some well.
Speaker 2: To be a vessel, Yeah, to be a vessel.
Speaker 5: Our struggle is not always just for us, but it's
Speaker 5: for other people to like to see that you can
Speaker 5: get through too, Yeah for sure.
Speaker 2: So yeah, that just makes me ultimately happy.
Speaker 5: I don't regret anything. I have no regrets about nothing.
Speaker 3: Yeah, And you know that's why I was saying earlier
Speaker 3: like I struggle with sometimes wanting to be vulnerable and
Speaker 3: then not because people can be so mean on the Internet.
Speaker 3: But like even with us, I feel the same way.
Speaker 3: People write us all the time and they're just like,
Speaker 3: you know, Lick's mom passed away, my dad passed away.
Speaker 3: In the way that y'all kept recording poor minds every week,
Speaker 3: kept hussling, kept grinding, it just showed me nothing last forever.
Speaker 3: And y'all really motivated me to keep going on this
Speaker 3: my phone. Okay, I say, y'all really motivated me to
Speaker 3: keep going and push through. And it just let me know,
Speaker 3: like I lost my parents, who I can get through it.
Speaker 2: I'm sorry about that too, thank you.
Speaker 1: And I think that's something that I can cause a
Speaker 1: lot of times, like people look at us and be like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, how can you do it without your parents?
Speaker 1: But at the same time, like I look at like
Speaker 1: you being a mother, a young.
Speaker 2: Mother, and I'm just like, I, oh my god. Sorry.
Speaker 1: The person who was facetiming her was just crazy. I
Speaker 1: can see that. I don't think, Okay, fully nice.
Speaker 2: Okay, anyway, sorry, what was I saying, Oh, you mean
Speaker 2: a young mother?
Speaker 1: Because like I said, I don't have children. Yeah, And
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie if I'm being honest, like I
Speaker 1: haven't had children yet.
Speaker 2: Because I'm selfish and.
Speaker 1: I'm not ready to okay period, Yeah, I'm just not
Speaker 1: ready to be a mother. I'm not ready to give
Speaker 1: up my time in the morning. Yeah, I'm not ready
Speaker 1: to give up a lot of words, my money. I'm
Speaker 1: not ready to give up a lot of my time.
Speaker 1: I'm just I want. I'm experiencing life right now still.
Speaker 1: So when I see people you know who have you know,
Speaker 1: gotten married or having kids and you're going through all
Speaker 1: of this and you're still being a mother, I commend
Speaker 1: you for that, and I'm like, I couldn't.
Speaker 2: I couldn't.
Speaker 5: Guess what though, I'm doing it backwards because I started
Speaker 5: young having kids and now I literally have to go
Speaker 5: back to finding myself, like while still trying to navigate
Speaker 5: being the best mom I could be and like maybe
Speaker 5: becoming a wife someday, you know what I'm saying. So
Speaker 5: like still trying to really find myself and like grow
Speaker 5: and see what I like, I'm doing everything backwards. Yeah,
Speaker 5: So now I'm like, man, do I want more kids?
Speaker 5: Like you know, I'm being questioned myself. I've always said,
Speaker 5: like I really really want a girl, but honestly, like.
Speaker 2: I would, I came to terms that like, thank you.
Speaker 5: I came to terms of like I think I would
Speaker 5: be okay if I didn't have any more kids, if
Speaker 5: if my husband ever was like, you know, I want
Speaker 5: another child, then okay bye, right, you know I'll get
Speaker 5: but I want that to be like in my mid thirties.
Speaker 2: Okay, Yeah, I need a little bit of myself.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I gotta. Yeah, I got to establish myself more.
Speaker 5: I gotta put this album out. I gotta do some acting.
Speaker 2: I gotta. I got it planned. Yeah.
Speaker 1: So how do you feel too, like, cause I know
Speaker 1: you see the comments that people have about your relationship
Speaker 1: now and they're like, okay, y'all should be married by now,
Speaker 1: and people trying to put you on a timeline. Yeah,
Speaker 1: they don't realize like you said, you're not even thirty yet. Yeah,
Speaker 1: people are putting you on what they think and they're
Speaker 1: timeline is and like you said, y'all don't know these
Speaker 1: people's relationship.
Speaker 2: Y'all don't know what's going on. So how does that
Speaker 2: get to you A little bit? No, not anymore.
Speaker 5: So I will take accountability and say the reason why
Speaker 5: they even say that is because of me in the past,
Speaker 5: when I was so like and not to say, I'm
Speaker 5: not in love now, but when you're first in that relationship,
Speaker 5: you're so head over heels in the first few years.
Speaker 5: It's like I don't know. Like I put a lot
Speaker 5: of things about marriage in my songs. I talked a
Speaker 5: lot about marriage and interviews, so people just like she wants.
Speaker 2: Marriage, give it to her, you don't. But I had to.
Speaker 5: Sit back and think, like, hold on, wait a minute,
Speaker 5: I still need some time for myself, because once you
Speaker 5: become a wife, that's a whole nothing like you're that's
Speaker 5: a duty, like just like as a mom, that's a duty.
Speaker 5: I had to step back and just I just realized
Speaker 5: this maybe a couple of years ago, like I can't wait.
Speaker 2: I actually can wait.
Speaker 5: Actually, like no, seriously, because it's not like a rush thing.
Speaker 5: So I think people are taking a lot of old
Speaker 5: clips and things that I've said.
Speaker 2: I put my own foot in my mouth.
Speaker 5: I'm the reason why they do that. You know what
Speaker 5: I'm saying, But they don't know, like I said, the
Speaker 5: growth that has happened like in my in my mind
Speaker 5: and like you know, just really doing therapy and like
Speaker 5: being asked those questions like well are you ready to
Speaker 5: be a what is he ready to be a husband,
Speaker 5: That's what is he ready to be? Like, do I
Speaker 5: want to get married to somebody right now who's not
Speaker 5: ready to be a husand and I'm not saying it's not,
Speaker 5: but we are honestly still working on ourselves.
Speaker 2: Y'all need to be.
Speaker 3: Yeah, like you want to get married, but I feel
Speaker 3: like when it comes to me in you want a
Speaker 3: man to propose, when he's real, he's.
Speaker 2: Ready, you don't want it. Yeah, I don't feel like,
Speaker 2: oh she might leave me. I don't do it.
Speaker 3: It needs to be when he's ready, because that's when
Speaker 3: you're gonna get the best version of him.
Speaker 2: Yes, and I and like who wants to get married?
Speaker 2: And then it's just like dang.
Speaker 5: But people, I got the right, I got the ring,
Speaker 5: but now it's like, no, no, I'd rather I think Yeah,
Speaker 5: I think I'm okay.
Speaker 2: Yeah, like honestly, when the time is right.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And like just even talking to you, obviously this
Speaker 1: is the first time we met, but just like the
Speaker 1: way you carry yourself.
Speaker 2: I can tell I.
Speaker 1: Can read people, but you're so like I can tell
Speaker 1: like the growth and just cause like I said, I
Speaker 1: used to follow you on YouTube and seeing like take
Speaker 1: your time because them people, they don't even have what
Speaker 1: they want. Yeah, that's so the feeding and just I
Speaker 1: don't get I don't mean to get church.
Speaker 2: Y'all know I'm in my church and she don't have
Speaker 2: a shot. Yeah, I have my shot.
Speaker 1: So I'm gonna tell y'all. So Sunday when I was
Speaker 1: at church, my pastor shout out to Pastor Mo. He
Speaker 1: was talking about his marriage and he was talking about
Speaker 1: his wife, and he was talking about I know y'all
Speaker 1: hate this word, but how his wife. You know, she
Speaker 1: follows the Bible obviously, and she submits the word. But
Speaker 1: she submit to God, which you know, she submitted to
Speaker 1: her husband to trust him and to be able to,
Speaker 1: you know, take that back seat and trust him and
Speaker 1: not have the responsibility of a lot of things. And
Speaker 1: sometimes that takes a lot of not sometimes that takes
Speaker 1: a lot of it.
Speaker 2: It does.
Speaker 1: That takes a lot of trust in your partner. You
Speaker 1: have to be able to go to sleep when let
Speaker 1: somebody drive you and know they're not going to crash
Speaker 1: that carn you know what I'm saying now.
Speaker 2: And he has to be led by God, has to
Speaker 2: be led by God.
Speaker 5: You can't you that's another thing, like a lot of
Speaker 5: people be like, you know, well submit and things like that.
Speaker 5: The leader of the house is supposed to be led
Speaker 5: by God. That's how it's God the husband and ye
Speaker 5: that's a proper So if you know. And I'm on
Speaker 5: my journey too, I'm on my path with God too,
Speaker 5: just trying to really get close, trying to unlearn a
Speaker 5: lot of religiosity. I grew up very religious, and now
Speaker 5: with me it is more so about the relationship with God.
Speaker 5: And I'm not saying like, oh, yeah, well, I could
Speaker 5: just do whatever and still no, but it's like I
Speaker 5: have to like really be cultivated and everything like with
Speaker 5: God and figure out what he wants from me. Because
Speaker 5: he even want me to be married right now.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so he knows.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And that's why I said, I think you have
Speaker 1: to figure things out on your timeline. And at the
Speaker 1: end of day, we only have one person that we
Speaker 1: have to answer to when that's.
Speaker 2: Him, So I, like I said, and that's no race.
Speaker 2: When it is the life.
Speaker 3: It's like everything is gonna happen when it's supposed to happen,
Speaker 3: when it's supposed to the way it's supposed to, not
Speaker 3: a minute earlier.
Speaker 2: Than God's plan. He's gonna happen.
Speaker 3: If you're supposed to get married, especially even to a
Speaker 3: specific person, it's gonna happen.
Speaker 2: Yeah, And you don't always know.
Speaker 1: I guess, like when I would talk about my relationships
Speaker 1: and how happy I was, and I'd be like, Ooh,
Speaker 1: I don't want to talk about the breakup, but yeah,
Speaker 1: it happens, y'all. Like nobody's life is perfect. There's no
Speaker 1: such thing as a perfect love story.
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: And one thing I can appreciate about me is I'm
Speaker 1: gonna keep it real with y'all.
Speaker 2: I don't give a damn.
Speaker 1: Y'all not feinna embarrass me because you know why I
Speaker 1: am where I want to be right now in this moment.
Speaker 2: I'm here because God allowed me to.
Speaker 1: I'm able to share my story and I'm able to
Speaker 1: express myself. I'm able to have an outlet to I
Speaker 1: always say this, lex P went through that, so you
Speaker 1: ain't got to go through that. I let y'all know
Speaker 1: my mistakes. I'm growing and I'm figuring it out with y'all.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. So I feel like if
Speaker 1: we were more, if we gave each other more grace man,
Speaker 1: That'll never happen, you know what I'm saying, Like you people,
Speaker 1: grace man, they act like they ain't be'll act like
Speaker 1: y'all ain't never been this stuff.
Speaker 2: That they be pointing people out.
Speaker 5: They go through a like you said, behind closes door,
Speaker 5: taking a man back and everything for doing a bunch
Speaker 5: of stuff. And then you'll be called dumb for doing it.
Speaker 5: Okay in public, but come on, man, they so street.
Speaker 2: It's it is.
Speaker 1: Look, I know we was preaching my baby, I'm the
Speaker 1: exit the church room. All right, Okay, So we're gonna
Speaker 1: get into the second topic. You know, were getting chatty girl.
Speaker 2: I look, this is the girl just flow flowing, you know, bowing.
Speaker 1: That's why I love the girl gets I'll just be
Speaker 1: feeling so relaxed with the men.
Speaker 2: I'd be like what you finished say, preparing myself to
Speaker 2: find you. I just seen y'all last one. But Julian,
Speaker 2: yeah beautiful y'all y'all.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Okay, so topic too.
Speaker 2: Can you be soft and still be taken seriously? Now?
Speaker 1: I can definitely relate to this topic because I always
Speaker 1: say this.
Speaker 2: I am a bitch, but.
Speaker 1: I have the nerve to be sensitive, and you know,
Speaker 1: a lot of times I'm very very soft.
Speaker 2: I have a soft heart.
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, I don't want to let this person,
Speaker 1: I don't want to do this, and I'm but I'm like,
Speaker 1: at the same time, I have to run a business.
Speaker 1: I got to be a boss. You know, you have
Speaker 1: to be a mother. You know, you have to run
Speaker 1: your business. You have to run you know, your household
Speaker 1: and things like that. So I want to know, like,
Speaker 1: do y'all feel pressure to like be hard or guarded,
Speaker 1: especially as like women navigating you know yourself in this
Speaker 1: business because we are in like the entertainment injury, but
Speaker 1: you in the music, yeah, which is a whole nother
Speaker 1: beat it is. So you know, you title yourself. You
Speaker 1: know it's a good girl. You are soft, soft weed? Yes,
Speaker 1: your friendly. So how do you carry yourself as you know,
Speaker 1: queen the business woman, but also being true to who
Speaker 1: you are as being like a soft, nice woman.
Speaker 2: A lot of.
Speaker 5: Trial and error, you know, I'm actually just now stepping
Speaker 5: into more of the boss era. And I've always been
Speaker 5: a very like humble person. So I used to think,
Speaker 5: like I don't want to say boss because I want
Speaker 5: to feel like I'm being too uppity or whatever. But
Speaker 5: I had, like it's very heartbreaking sometimes when you got
Speaker 5: to like take the lead in certain things.
Speaker 2: It's a learning journey.
Speaker 5: I'm not gonna say I'm all the way there yet. Yeah,
Speaker 5: Like I'm just I think it comes with just really
Speaker 5: saying how you feel.
Speaker 2: Without holding back. Yes, without holding back.
Speaker 5: That was my problem, like holding ba because I don't
Speaker 5: want hurt people's feelings. And like you said, in the business,
Speaker 5: you can't worry about feelings, like you can't take things personal.
Speaker 2: So I'm still actively learning, Okay, Like.
Speaker 5: You know, I can't just I can't just not do
Speaker 5: something because I feel like I'm talking in circles.
Speaker 2: Was like, I just can'tnot do something because don't want
Speaker 2: to hurt someone's feelings, you know.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, you have to learn it's not personal,
Speaker 1: it's business. I think with me, I say this, I've
Speaker 1: said this in the past. I take the Nicki Minaj
Speaker 1: approach to business.
Speaker 2: I do.
Speaker 1: I seen a documentary on Nicki Minaj, probably when I
Speaker 1: was in college.
Speaker 2: I think I can't remember.
Speaker 1: It was like a true life something she was doing
Speaker 1: and she was recording the album. I remember she was
Speaker 1: sitting in the studio and I still say this. Drag
Speaker 1: can attest this. I say this all the time. She said,
Speaker 1: when I walk into a meeting and I say I
Speaker 1: want it this way. Oh she's a bitch, she's rude,
Speaker 1: she's this, she's that. But if a man walks in,
Speaker 1: he says the same thing. Oh, oh he's assertive, he's
Speaker 1: a boss, he's then she's so she's like, I don't
Speaker 1: give a fuck what y'all say about me. Point I'm
Speaker 1: going in these meetings and I'm saying what I have
Speaker 1: to say. And for some reason, like I said, when
Speaker 1: I saw that interview, I was probably like twenty twenty two,
Speaker 1: and that stuck with me so much because I know
Speaker 1: sometimes I go in meetings and I'm probably like a
Speaker 1: little some things that I say, I know can come
Speaker 1: off a little harsh, and I have to clear it
Speaker 1: up and I'm like, no, I didn't mean it like this.
Speaker 1: This is what I'm trying to say. But I'm glad
Speaker 1: I'm letting you know to stop playing with me. Yeah,
Speaker 1: stop playing with me. It's a lot of times that
Speaker 1: people will say things to us because we're women. But
Speaker 1: if y'all walked across there and went on eighty five South,
Speaker 1: y'all wouldn't have that same you know demand here because
Speaker 1: oh it's Carlos. I'm not gonna talk to DC like that.
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna talk to Chico.
Speaker 5: You gotta have to do that as a woman sometimes,
Speaker 5: Oh absolutely, yeah, because like you said, they will, they
Speaker 5: won't want to take you as serious over.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I would rather be known as a bitch and
Speaker 1: I got my money straight then somebody's soft.
Speaker 2: Who I'm just as I can't pay my rent.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I agree for me, I think it's about
Speaker 3: that balance of being soft.
Speaker 2: But then I don't know.
Speaker 3: I always kind of feel like you gotta let people
Speaker 3: know they can't play with you. But then also on
Speaker 3: the other end of that, it's like, but the right
Speaker 3: people that are supposed to be in your life not
Speaker 3: gonna play with you. They're not gonna put you in
Speaker 3: a position to have to be guarded. I feel like,
Speaker 3: so sometimes I feel like if you have that disposition
Speaker 3: with people, it's probably because they not the right person.
Speaker 3: Because I feel like the right people that are supposed
Speaker 3: to be around you, you shouldn't feel like you always
Speaker 3: gotta let them know, like, oh, you can't play with me,
Speaker 3: I gotta show you.
Speaker 5: Yeah, so like courtesy of not. That's why I feel
Speaker 5: like team building is like so important. Likes having those
Speaker 5: genuine people around you, and like when people are genuine too,
Speaker 5: they hoag, Yeah, they won't take advantage of you. But
Speaker 5: you know, sometimes people do get comfortable and you have
Speaker 5: to like just tell them.
Speaker 3: And then I think in the position that you're in
Speaker 3: and then even the position that we're getting into, you
Speaker 3: hear so many horror stories about people before us who
Speaker 3: people did take it then, like people that they trusted
Speaker 3: accountants and manage men and people that worked with them.
Speaker 3: And so you kind of have to be assertive and
Speaker 3: let people know that they can't play with you because
Speaker 3: who want that to happen because you're being too trusting, right,
Speaker 3: and you put it past them because you can't be
Speaker 3: putting stuff fast people. That's the main thing. You never
Speaker 3: know what somebody would do, even if you think you
Speaker 3: know them.
Speaker 1: And I think sometimes like as women, especially like if
Speaker 1: we go in the meeting and we're just you know,
Speaker 1: being straightforward in this, some people are like, oh, well,
Speaker 1: she's emotional, you know.
Speaker 2: On her period.
Speaker 1: And I may be because I'll be in a meeting
Speaker 1: and I'll be like this and this and this, then
Speaker 1: I'll called you up like sh fissed me off, Like
Speaker 1: why would they taught to us like that? It's okay,
Speaker 1: like but still, but it's a meeting. I'm like, you know,
Speaker 1: but at the same time, like I said, I feel
Speaker 1: like a lot of times people just try to take
Speaker 1: advantage of especially women.
Speaker 2: This is how far they can go.
Speaker 1: Yes, they see out because they feel like, oh, well,
Speaker 1: she gonna be soft and she gonna be cool. It's
Speaker 1: so hey, I can I can say this to them.
Speaker 2: I can.
Speaker 1: So I do feel like as women, we don't get
Speaker 1: the luxury of being soft in the business.
Speaker 2: I want to question though, so.
Speaker 5: Like what is it that people be trying?
Speaker 2: Well, no, I'll.
Speaker 1: Say it like I think it's like a lot of
Speaker 1: times people will they want to low ball you on pay.
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: They want they think that they can just show up whenever,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, Like, they'll just not have
Speaker 1: respect for your time, respect for anything. And I just,
Speaker 1: like I said, I see this because it's a certain
Speaker 1: way that they will treat you know, our counterparts, that
Speaker 1: things that we have to go through that you know,
Speaker 1: they necessarily don't have to go through, right, I'm saying,
Speaker 1: Like I said, the big thing.
Speaker 2: For me just be like payments.
Speaker 1: Like, of course I don't expect to be getting paid
Speaker 1: the same amount as Carlos, But y'all ain't gonna pay
Speaker 1: me three.
Speaker 2: Dollars to show up somewhere even Yeah, you know what
Speaker 2: I'm saying.
Speaker 3: There longer hours I gotta resumeate to. Yeah, that's the
Speaker 3: thing I just won't.
Speaker 2: Yeah, Like, yeah, actually I'm good. Yeah yeah, And I
Speaker 2: think they as to be. It's so grateful.
Speaker 1: Like, no, I'm not grateful. I want to get paid,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, Like, I don't want to
Speaker 1: have to like come in these meetings and y'all just
Speaker 1: expect me to just be happy to be here because
Speaker 1: y'all feel like, oh, she's just a podcaster that's on YouTube.
Speaker 2: No, I worked really fucking hard, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: And like I said, I think they expect that for
Speaker 1: all women. You should just be grateful because women, you know,
Speaker 1: y'all don't get to y'all used to not be able
Speaker 1: to be in these spaces, especially as a black woman.
Speaker 2: You should be grateful. No, we deserve to be here.
Speaker 1: Yeah, like it's not like I should be oh my god,
Speaker 1: thank you, like, yes, thank you, But I earned my
Speaker 1: right to.
Speaker 3: Be loved, That's what I was gonna say. Especially, I
Speaker 3: think when you kind of grow up in front of people,
Speaker 3: they'll still look at you like.
Speaker 2: That version of you from five years ago.
Speaker 3: They'll try to treat you like that version, like, oh,
Speaker 3: remember back when you didn't really have that much money
Speaker 3: or you was just excited for the opportunity.
Speaker 2: Okay, well now though, let's talk about it today.
Speaker 3: Let's right, you need to pay me what I've worked
Speaker 3: hard to get to. I've worked hard to get to
Speaker 3: this point. I'm not the person that because we started
Speaker 3: our show Girl. I don't know if you know about
Speaker 3: how we started, but we started the show recording in
Speaker 3: my apartment. I remember, yes, on my floor, like with
Speaker 3: just a camera and some little bullshit mics, and we
Speaker 3: were recording in my apartment. And obviously now we have
Speaker 3: a whole studio, we have a staff, everything. But I
Speaker 3: think sometimes people will try to play with you like
Speaker 3: you still in that same position, and it's like, no,
Speaker 3: we've grown.
Speaker 2: It needs to pay me what I'm word.
Speaker 3: So I'm sure you could probably relate to that too
Speaker 3: with being on YouTube when you were younger, Definitely.
Speaker 1: Do you feel like people kind of still try to
Speaker 1: treat you like your road to success was different because
Speaker 1: you started on YouTube.
Speaker 5: Anyone, Oh, I hate to say this, anyone below me, okay,
Speaker 5: but for some reason I hate to say it like that.
Speaker 5: But the people that are just not in my shoes
Speaker 5: or like they look at me like that. But I
Speaker 5: have been acknowledged by the greats, right, yeah, I have
Speaker 5: been in Like I've had conversation with greats and people
Speaker 5: that have started from abada and made it here and
Speaker 5: they speak into me and they believe in me, you know.
Speaker 2: So honestly, I don't anyone.
Speaker 5: Yeah, anyone who says, oh, well she's just a YouTuber,
Speaker 5: No one has ever done that to me that like
Speaker 5: that hasn't been in the comments. Yeah, yeah, I hope
Speaker 5: they don't take that wrong. But no, all right, yeah, like, yeah,
Speaker 5: it's the true.
Speaker 1: I think sometimes people don't like to hear stuff because
Speaker 1: they don't necessarily maybe like the messenger.
Speaker 2: But the facts are the fact. Yeah, I mean, it's
Speaker 2: the fact you want to hear it.
Speaker 1: Maybe you just don't like me or how you feel
Speaker 1: about me, But people will they love to try to
Speaker 1: humble people.
Speaker 2: Queen is so sweet. We be over here like fuck y'all.
Speaker 5: Yeah, because I've always been that way, you know.
Speaker 1: I try to be a little more considerate a little
Speaker 1: bit sometimes sometimes.
Speaker 2: I think you were when we were younger.
Speaker 3: I think as you grow into womanhood and you get older,
Speaker 3: I think you just don't really grow into She used
Speaker 3: to care more what people would think, and I think
Speaker 3: she's maturing.
Speaker 2: She.
Speaker 5: I think that's what's gonna happen with me, even as
Speaker 5: I'm like approaching my thirties. Like I just I don't
Speaker 5: know where the switch came, but like something's changed.
Speaker 3: Oh when you hit thirty, girl, it's it's like, I
Speaker 3: don't know, it's just something that hits you for sure,
Speaker 3: and you're just like a lot of shit I used
Speaker 3: to care about.
Speaker 2: I just don't care no more. I feel myself slowly stopped, like.
Speaker 1: You will, because then you get to a point to
Speaker 1: where I'm not saying because you are a confident, beautiful woman,
Speaker 1: but you get to a point to where you realize,
Speaker 1: you know what, this is who I am. Yeah, this
Speaker 1: is who I am. I can't change this. I can't
Speaker 1: change this. This is who God made me to me,
Speaker 1: and you're either gonna accept it or you're not gonna
Speaker 1: like it. So let me focus on the people who
Speaker 1: accept it and love it.
Speaker 2: Right, You'll learn to cater.
Speaker 1: To those people and love those people, and you know,
Speaker 1: feed into those people, because that's what I started doing.
Speaker 1: I'm just like, I've become happier. It was a point
Speaker 1: where we were doing poor minds where I was just
Speaker 1: like unhappy because I felt like every.
Speaker 2: Week I'm showing up and I don't know what to
Speaker 2: do to make y'all like me.
Speaker 1: People are being mean because they're so mean, but you
Speaker 1: got to cater to them people that love you.
Speaker 3: Yeah, And I think that's why I've always had that mindset,
Speaker 3: because I've always been a little bit more of like,
Speaker 3: I don't give a fuck fuck y'all. But but the
Speaker 3: reason that I feel that way is because the people
Speaker 3: that I'm saying fuck y'all to, it's not the people
Speaker 3: who support me.
Speaker 2: I love y'all. I appreciate y'all.
Speaker 3: If you take offense to me saying that you one
Speaker 3: of the people that be hating, you're one of the
Speaker 3: people that's being rude, and it is fuck you because
Speaker 3: you're not the person that's helping me anyway. You didn't
Speaker 3: help me get to where I am. You know, you
Speaker 3: don't support us. You don't come to our shows, to
Speaker 3: our live shows and stuff.
Speaker 2: So you're not buying mar And that's okay.
Speaker 1: I be hard with those people, but I be soft
Speaker 1: with our support, yeah for sure, like they did. Like
Speaker 1: you set people DM you and stuff like people who've
Speaker 1: lost a parent or they're grieving or something.
Speaker 2: You get dms like that all the time. So I
Speaker 2: don't mind.
Speaker 1: Being vulnerable and being open. I'm talking to y'all. I'm
Speaker 1: for y'all like me.
Speaker 2: Yeah, So I.
Speaker 1: Think like you can still be soft and taken seriously
Speaker 1: because I think there's beauty and being vulnerable. Yeah, because
Speaker 1: it shows like I'm still human. Yes, I'm still going
Speaker 1: through the things.
Speaker 2: That you're going through. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: Like, just like I used to be living on the
Speaker 1: East Side, crying in that apartment, bitch, I'm in my
Speaker 1: high ride still crying.
Speaker 2: It's life. It real. Yeah, you have to you have
Speaker 2: to keep it real.
Speaker 1: But I think there's beauty in keeping it real and
Speaker 1: being soft.
Speaker 2: But there's also you know you.
Speaker 1: Like you said, you have to have that balance because
Speaker 1: you gotta be hard sometimes, especially as a woman like
Speaker 1: you know, being in this industry, because you don't want
Speaker 1: to be looked at as being like passive and oh queen,
Speaker 1: not gonna care because you're really not finna make a
Speaker 1: decision on my behalf.
Speaker 5: See I pick and choose with I'm more serious and
Speaker 5: stern about certain things, and I'm like then other things,
Speaker 5: like when it comes to my when it comes to
Speaker 5: my music, I am so like I don't play, like
Speaker 5: I really don't play. When it comes to like production credits,
Speaker 5: all of that stuff, I don't.
Speaker 2: I don't.
Speaker 5: But it's really the things that I truly care about,
Speaker 5: like yeah, or like my kids.
Speaker 1: So let me ask you this because I saw a
Speaker 1: few clips of you on d D streams d G
Speaker 1: D What did I say?
Speaker 2: Twitch d D? What's this? D d G D d
Speaker 2: G You were on his string?
Speaker 3: It's whooping your head. J That's why I've been waiting
Speaker 3: on my second one, because I know I haven't been
Speaker 3: drinking like that.
Speaker 2: I would be to absolutely, So I saw a few
Speaker 2: of the clips.
Speaker 1: I didn't get to watch the whole stream, but they
Speaker 1: were kind of saying, like, you know, old Queen, was
Speaker 1: being quiet. She was kind of bothered. She didn't like
Speaker 1: the atmosphere. What really went on is that just people assuming, No.
Speaker 2: That was people assuming taking small clips. I was I
Speaker 2: was fine. I was fine.
Speaker 5: I came there to work. The thing was like DG
Speaker 5: was like, pull up, we're gonna make a song together.
Speaker 2: And I don't usually go on like people's streams or
Speaker 2: anything like that.
Speaker 5: I'm used to coming on like podcasts whatever, but not
Speaker 5: streams where like it's a bunch of different people like
Speaker 5: pulling up. I was just there to work, and like
Speaker 5: I was just vibing out like I don't know if
Speaker 5: I look serious because I was focused on like the music,
Speaker 5: Like I wasn't there to be drinking and partying and
Speaker 5: having like you know, and that's what I was there for.
Speaker 2: So you weren't upseturday. No, I wasn't up.
Speaker 5: I wasn't upset, Like, I wasn't upset. But it was
Speaker 5: like people like read my face is wrong. They read
Speaker 5: me wrong, alive, I'm very misunderstood.
Speaker 2: I was just focused, Okay.
Speaker 5: I was just focused and I didn't have an issue
Speaker 5: with a bunch of people being in the room. I just,
Speaker 5: of course I do get a little bit more reserved
Speaker 5: because when it's people that I don't know, I'm just
Speaker 5: more reserved.
Speaker 2: But like when I know you, it's not like that.
Speaker 2: I'm actually probably gonna start my own twitch. Okay, I
Speaker 2: think that'd be a good idea. Yes, which is the
Speaker 2: way right now.
Speaker 1: But I think your personality is so good and I
Speaker 1: think people kind of like miss seeing that from you.
Speaker 1: Like I'm being on the music, but we love your personality.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I'll probably be able to do that more on
Speaker 5: my on my twitch. Going into someone else's territory is different,
Speaker 5: Like I could be in my room doing real crazy
Speaker 5: stuff alone or with my friends, like to do it there, like.
Speaker 1: It's a little you know people if you do something crazy.
Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, And I'm a little bit like different around
Speaker 5: like artists, especially when it's a bunch.
Speaker 2: Of men in the room.
Speaker 1: Yes, I'm not about to be because out here like
Speaker 1: moving my body, you know what, would have got up
Speaker 1: and hit a little twark oh queen doing yeah yeah yeah,
Speaker 1: trying to be noticed, yeah.
Speaker 2: Trying to be outside. No, so I get it.
Speaker 5: And then my man was with me too there because yeah,
Speaker 5: him and DG we're all mutual friends. Yeah, they're friends.
Speaker 5: I'm friends and then yeah, so I was actually glad
Speaker 5: because I didn't want to be in there with that many.
Speaker 1: I mean yeah, because I feel the same way. It
Speaker 1: sometimes like our management that'll they'll come with us and
Speaker 1: not be so happy that they're there, because like.
Speaker 2: It's it's nice to have men.
Speaker 1: Rust that, you know, if anybody try to get a
Speaker 1: little you have protections. Yeah, because one thing about me,
Speaker 1: I will talk some ship, but as soon as somebody
Speaker 1: fuck with me, I'll be like, I'm finna take share
Speaker 1: to run. Yeah, I'm like, hold on, let me take
Speaker 1: share to run.
Speaker 2: Ryan and Chad in the chat, the email whatever. Yeah,
Speaker 2: So I'm glad. I'm glad that you had them there too.
Speaker 1: Like like I said, I know, situations like that can
Speaker 1: get rowdy and get crazy. Because I didn't get that vibe.
Speaker 1: I'm like, I think she's just working.
Speaker 2: It was I was just working.
Speaker 5: Yeah, man, I hate that. I gotta loosen up a
Speaker 5: little bit. But I think it's like I said, it's
Speaker 5: just gross.
Speaker 2: Like I'm not people expect me to be that like
Speaker 2: turn it out. Really, I don't know. I was. I'm
Speaker 2: still goofy, but I'm not like doy I used I
Speaker 2: used to be.
Speaker 5: Super reckless, but older it comes, I can't help it.
Speaker 5: Like I just I'm just a little bit more converted.
Speaker 1: And I think that's what she was saying too, like
Speaker 1: people expect you to be the old you and I'm not.
Speaker 2: Line like I'm miss the old you, Queen. Why did
Speaker 2: you know I'm I'm grown.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but just I know the spaces and places that
Speaker 3: I can yeah, and I'm.
Speaker 5: Not like that twenty four seven. I have my moments
Speaker 5: where I'm just chilled.
Speaker 2: I feel you got to pay attention to yuas around.
Speaker 3: It's like even with having Craig in the room, him
Speaker 3: over there, he be places with us sometimes and I'll
Speaker 3: just give him a little because then we because people,
Speaker 3: you just never know what people's intentions are.
Speaker 2: So you just gotta always be on guard, you know
Speaker 2: what I mean. I think I was on guard. You
Speaker 2: have to.
Speaker 3: You just always got to give people their eye, Like Craig,
Speaker 3: you watching them.
Speaker 2: See what's going on? Right, all right?
Speaker 5: They kep saying I was clutching my purse, putting it
Speaker 5: to my side.
Speaker 2: It's the story behind that.
Speaker 5: So the reason why I had to make sure that
Speaker 5: because I lose a lot of things, I have.
Speaker 2: Lost my purse.
Speaker 5: I have left things behind and like I was just
Speaker 5: trying to be conscious, like Queen, don't leave your stuff,
Speaker 5: and I have left my purse in an airport bathroom.
Speaker 5: Oh Saint Martine like crying run around the airports. So it
Speaker 5: was just really me like, okay, just make sure you
Speaker 5: know where your stuff is.
Speaker 2: I wasn't. It wasn't think. I think abodes that is.
Speaker 2: It means so many people in and out of it.
Speaker 1: You never know if somebody would say, yes, I was
Speaker 1: grabbing my parts batch I don't know these people.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm keeping my sheet close to me.
Speaker 1: And the thing is, like I said, I think his
Speaker 1: streams are entertaining, Like I love his streams, but he
Speaker 1: do have a lot of people in and out and
Speaker 1: you don't know who they are. It'd be like a
Speaker 1: lot of you know, young girls, young women, people you
Speaker 1: and people do things for cloud. So how good would
Speaker 1: it be somebody who trying to start up a stream.
Speaker 2: They'd be like, ooh, I got I mean queen purse.
Speaker 2: They could just take it and go to the bathroom
Speaker 2: and do something with. Yeah, I don't trust people, you
Speaker 2: know what I'm saying. So you you was doing right No,
Speaker 2: you don't need a reason why you.
Speaker 3: Was clutching your You could clutch what you feel like
Speaker 3: you this is my purse.
Speaker 1: Okay, I mean that a game named herself meanly and
Speaker 1: you ain't from China. I don't know if I can
Speaker 1: trust you people, because y'all put pregnancy on me all
Speaker 1: I and all it was was I ate a can
Speaker 1: of beans and had a few shots at tequila.
Speaker 4: Bitch.
Speaker 1: I had just got back from a little happy hour
Speaker 1: at Papacitos, and y'all was like, you.
Speaker 2: Pregnant, lect pregnant. Congratulations, she's pregnant. Oh she fringant and
Speaker 2: baby I had just ate.
Speaker 1: So the only reason I'm being very Oh, he don't
Speaker 1: play about me. This nigga is swinging on the swing
Speaker 1: set right now, swinging on the Merry Go Round.
Speaker 2: Baby.
Speaker 1: Oh, he playing all day on that PS five Mario Kart. Okay,
Speaker 1: that's crazy. That's like you having a sexual assault case
Speaker 1: and R. Kelly being like, oh, yeah, bro, I support you. Hey,
Speaker 1: I'm good. I'm good, bro. I don't need none of
Speaker 1: that support. I don't want none of your prayers.
Speaker 2: Somebody sent me some on my phone and said that
Speaker 2: a hall tieder I don't know the people WHOA what
Speaker 2: an altar?
Speaker 3: Probably one day I will get married and my dad
Speaker 3: is not gonna be here to walk me down the
Speaker 3: aisle things that I just always thought that he would
Speaker 3: be here for and you know, be able to experience
Speaker 3: with me.
Speaker 2: And I just know he would be so proud.
Speaker 3: Of everything that I'm doing, the woman that I'm becoming,
Speaker 3: how far I've come, especially with my attitude child because whoa,
Speaker 3: I was something else when I was growing up.
Speaker 2: But like I said, it's just a bittersweet thing.
Speaker 3: Okay, So now it's time to get into dubby ball
Speaker 3: Dubby bow dubby about bout about bow bow?
Speaker 2: Go ahead, little droll.
Speaker 3: Okay, So for the bad topic, we're gonna talk about
Speaker 3: what's one thing that y'all wish men to understood about
Speaker 3: women's bodies.
Speaker 2: Or multiple things, not just one thing that I wish
Speaker 2: that they really understood.
Speaker 1: Is this might be a little too vulgar or but
Speaker 1: I'm gonna say this a lot men, y'all can throw
Speaker 1: a woman's pH off.
Speaker 2: Oh my god.
Speaker 1: Bro Okay, Yeah, sometimes if you ain't in bad with y'all,
Speaker 1: lady and you and something that's smelling like a fish
Speaker 1: fry on a Friday night.
Speaker 2: You thinking it as hot, but you probably throw her
Speaker 2: pH all you know real quick.
Speaker 3: I hate when people say a fish fry, fish fries smell.
Speaker 2: Good, a fish fry delicious. It's the raw fish that's
Speaker 2: the problem. It's for you to say that, Okay, but
Speaker 2: I'm gonna says a fish it is, But that's not
Speaker 2: how you want y'all vagina to smell. I mean fake.
Speaker 1: But you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: Frit smell edible is what I'm saying. Fry. They should
Speaker 2: say something this is rawthy. Yeah.
Speaker 1: So I feel like a lot of times men should know,
Speaker 1: Like if you were in a relationship with long term
Speaker 1: relationship and something is going on with your lady down.
Speaker 2: There, you could be the problem. You are not doing
Speaker 2: something down there.
Speaker 1: You might be cheating, you're not washing your balls good
Speaker 1: enough after you go to play one on one basketball
Speaker 1: at the rec center or whatever you're doing.
Speaker 2: Something is not Something is off about you.
Speaker 5: That's and honestly, just like when a guy this might
Speaker 5: be a lot too, but when a guy releases into
Speaker 5: a woman regards if you're trying to have kids or not,
Speaker 5: that alone is very acidic. Yes, grows ours off, you
Speaker 5: know what I'm saying. So because they just want to
Speaker 5: do that and it's like, well, no, you're gonna.
Speaker 2: Wake up if we not creating, don't play.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that that definitely throws a lot a lot of
Speaker 1: things off. I think another thing is stop trying to
Speaker 1: have one move sexually for all women. Just because this
Speaker 1: woman likes you to do that doesn't mean the next
Speaker 1: woman that you're with is gonna like that. I think
Speaker 1: we have to take time and learn each other's bodies more.
Speaker 1: And that's for women too. With men, y'all be trying
Speaker 1: to be one trick ponies. So this she liked that,
Speaker 1: I'm finna turn this. I'm gonna turn her out, and
Speaker 1: I'm like, what are you doing? Yeah, you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying as weak ass moves, So I think men
Speaker 1: they be like, oh, they be thinking that they have
Speaker 1: the best penis in the world, because you you the
Speaker 1: one time on Brenda down the Street that was talking
Speaker 1: ship on Twitter.
Speaker 2: Run out of the Street was getting that deck talking ship.
Speaker 1: But just because it worked on Brenda don't mean it's
Speaker 1: gonna work on you, right, So I think that men
Speaker 1: need to learn that every woman's body is different and
Speaker 1: take your time and ask questions. There's nothing wrong with
Speaker 1: asking questions, learning what she's like, and just taking your time,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3: That's what I was gonna say, literally, like men need
Speaker 3: to ask questions. Just because she might seem like she
Speaker 3: enjoying it and she moaning and whatever, you need to
Speaker 3: actually ask her, like are you enjoying this?
Speaker 2: Does this feel good to you?
Speaker 3: I feel like men don't ask because a lot of
Speaker 3: the time they don't care as long as they ging theirs.
Speaker 5: I don't have that problem though, See all right, it's
Speaker 5: a little different for me, Like I don't because I've
Speaker 5: been in a relationship for a lot of time, so
Speaker 5: you know each other, he know my buddy.
Speaker 2: There's nothing. Yeah, there's nothing going on like bed.
Speaker 5: Yeah. I think what I would like for men to
Speaker 5: understand in general is that, oh my god, is that
Speaker 5: sex starts outside the bedroom?
Speaker 2: Yeah, she says.
Speaker 5: It's not just like it's not just like a switch.
Speaker 5: It's like, okay, yeah, you horny, let's do it. No,
Speaker 5: like it starts with the in the morning, when you're
Speaker 5: helping me with the kids. It starts in the morning,
Speaker 5: like when you're helping me throughout the day or when
Speaker 5: you just come in and giving me little.
Speaker 2: Kisses on the cheek or whatever you like. That's where
Speaker 2: it starts.
Speaker 5: It's just don't like, oh yeah, I did this all right,
Speaker 5: come on, let's just have sex like wo like if
Speaker 5: I'm not being romance, if I'm not. And then men
Speaker 5: also don't understand like a little something could just go
Speaker 5: a very long way when you treat a woman right or.
Speaker 3: Like it really don't take much for us, just so
Speaker 3: excited about it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, And they think that they always.
Speaker 3: Have to do something extravagant, and it's like, no, it
Speaker 3: doesn't always have to be something extravagant.
Speaker 2: We like thoughtful needs. Yes, we like for you to
Speaker 2: be thoughtful.
Speaker 3: So it could be something as little as you going
Speaker 3: to publics and picking up from ten dollars row.
Speaker 2: You'd be like, you know what, yeah, Higgins, some tonight
Speaker 2: is thoughtful. It just goes a long way.
Speaker 1: So I think they need to realize that women a
Speaker 1: lot of our sexual stimulation comes from a mental clog
Speaker 1: and emotional connection.
Speaker 2: And there's don't and there's don't. It's just straight like yeah,
Speaker 2: another good point.
Speaker 1: I think men need to understand there's a lot of
Speaker 1: times when y'all be having sex with women, y'all be thinking, oh,
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna fucking go about my way, and you
Speaker 1: keep having sex with the same person over and over again,
Speaker 1: and it may be just a nut to you.
Speaker 2: Women are not wired that way. I don't care.
Speaker 1: I don't speak for all women because some women can't
Speaker 1: have sex a lot and with the same person and
Speaker 1: not developed feelings. But as a man and a woman
Speaker 1: having sex a lot, I don't care if something is
Speaker 1: gonna start happening feeling wise. So men, y'all need to
Speaker 1: understand you cannot have sex with the same woman over
Speaker 1: and over and over and over again and not expect
Speaker 1: her to have.
Speaker 2: Something or have some type of expectation.
Speaker 1: I'm telling you, if you have sex with a woman
Speaker 1: four times, you ain't never took her on a day.
Speaker 1: I bet you after that four tops gonna be like, well,
Speaker 1: why don't we do something? Yeah like this, why don't
Speaker 1: we go somewhere booty call? So if you just want
Speaker 1: a booty call, you don't need to have sex with
Speaker 1: the same woman over and over and over again. And
Speaker 1: that's just you're just trying to get happy. You need
Speaker 1: to have a little roster another mention. I'm gonna say
Speaker 1: this though, because y'all don't like to wrap that little
Speaker 1: pin up, I'm gonna get a little bit spirit chilled.
Speaker 5: I feel like men too need to realize, like the
Speaker 5: roster thing, I get it, but when you laying with
Speaker 5: these different people, you're also picking up their spirits, will so.
Speaker 2: You're not Yeah, so I wish that men would think
Speaker 2: like that sometimes, but a lot of men are not,
Speaker 2: like you know, in tune like that.
Speaker 5: But like when you land with all these different women,
Speaker 5: even uh women too, Like when you lay with these
Speaker 5: different men, you are picking up their spirits and their
Speaker 5: demons are the things, and then you wonder why, like
Speaker 5: it's something going on with you. You gotta really be
Speaker 5: careful with that because you you know, you become one
Speaker 5: like that you do.
Speaker 2: That's a very good point. It's a very good point.
Speaker 2: I got another one I forgot you read it on there.
Speaker 2: I forgot. We're gonna get a little vulgar again.
Speaker 1: Men, stop forgetting about the clique that is where the
Speaker 1: stimulation comes from.
Speaker 3: First of all, if you call it a click like
Speaker 3: you don't know, I know you don't know nothing right there,
Speaker 3: because why are you calling it a click click. Girls
Speaker 3: be calling it there too, and that's the topic for
Speaker 3: a whole nother time.
Speaker 2: I mean, because my friend calls it a click, but
Speaker 2: she does it to be funny.
Speaker 3: That's a different though. Yeah, but some people really think
Speaker 3: it's called a clique because they don't know.
Speaker 1: I don't click and bop it twisted touch it yet.
Speaker 1: I don't give a damn stop passing it up.
Speaker 2: It's right there. It's a button process. It really is
Speaker 2: a y'all touch it. That's crazy. A lot of men
Speaker 2: don't know that. That's really.
Speaker 1: Stimulation is how most women have an orgasm. Penetration. Now,
Speaker 1: you can't have an organs women. Yeah, very it's a
Speaker 1: small percent. Those are the blessed, blessed, blessed women that
Speaker 1: can have an orgasm just off of penetration. But most
Speaker 1: women have an orgasm from stimulation me.
Speaker 2: Right, or not just penetration alone.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you gotta rub on a caress so on. Like
Speaker 1: she said, it starts in the morning, the four play before.
Speaker 2: That's another thing too.
Speaker 3: A lot of men, just like you say, they have
Speaker 3: a mind of its own, so they just want to
Speaker 3: get straight to it, Like, no, we're not wired like that.
Speaker 2: You gotta rep us up. It is, it is. I
Speaker 2: hate it, and especially when you're getting your thirty sinuse.
Speaker 2: That's another thing.
Speaker 3: Girl, When you turn thirty, you just ain't gonna have
Speaker 3: time for none of this sheet no more.
Speaker 2: I'm not gonna waste my time. And I'm gonna let
Speaker 2: you know.
Speaker 3: I'm just saying you're not gonna have You're gonna be
Speaker 3: way more vocal and ready for like if a man,
Speaker 3: you're not gonna let people waste tho time. I mean,
Speaker 3: obviously you're in a relationship, but I feel like you're
Speaker 3: gonna be even more vocal about what you want and
Speaker 3: what you like when you turn thirty.
Speaker 2: So it's like, yeah, a nigga, No, you need to
Speaker 2: do this. You need to do this, and you need
Speaker 2: to do it like this, and you need to do
Speaker 2: it right now. Or we just ain't even about to
Speaker 2: I agree, I agree anything else y'all want to add,
Speaker 2: or we move on.
Speaker 1: We look, first of all, we just put y'all on
Speaker 1: game fellas, So I hope y'all took some good No,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, all.
Speaker 2: Of them, all of them.
Speaker 1: I'm like, this is your camera, my camera, this is
Speaker 1: haen camera. Three is hers in a wide shot and
Speaker 1: yours Oh nice.
Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, so if.
Speaker 1: You want to emphasize something or something, so you got
Speaker 1: to say it to three, okay, and.
Speaker 2: We just I just always be looking at these doing
Speaker 2: the wide shot. I always get my camera because I'll
Speaker 2: be like you do, I love to make a face.
Speaker 2: I never look at my camera. I always look at
Speaker 2: my camera always.
Speaker 3: Okay, Now, this is such an awkward space, like y'all
Speaker 3: over here, I'm like, why would I look right here?
Speaker 2: Well?
Speaker 1: I think I think it's sometimes when somebody is a
Speaker 1: guess and they sitting right here and that's czy, so crazy.
Speaker 2: I'll be like, dude, you do they think we on
Speaker 2: an episode of the Office. That's how you know? I
Speaker 2: watched The Office super I love the I love when
Speaker 2: they'd be doing a camera. Yeah that's what you think.
Speaker 7: I'll be like, Okay, all right, hope y'all a Shugarl
Speaker 7: xp and is Sugarl draining a call?
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Speaker 2: It's get into the bout. So you gonna love this segment.
Speaker 2: It's the Bop of the week.
Speaker 1: So it's so we're gonna give like whatever music that
Speaker 1: we've been jamming, but we are also gonna talk about
Speaker 1: your album, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: So first I want to give my bop of the week.
Speaker 2: My Bop of the week.
Speaker 1: Y'all know, it's summertime, it's springtime. It's time to get
Speaker 1: in the clubs and to be one and have fun
Speaker 1: and just you know, have that feel good music again.
Speaker 1: So my bop of the week is by afrobeats artist Rama.
Speaker 1: He has a new song called about You, and it's
Speaker 1: just a really cute song. It's just about a girl
Speaker 1: that is something about her and I just.
Speaker 2: I love love music.
Speaker 1: I think we need to bring back when men are
Speaker 1: talking about being in love and oh girl, you special, like,
Speaker 1: let's bring that back. Let's bring back the good vibes.
Speaker 1: They were talking about T. Grizzly the other day and
Speaker 1: how he be rapping about.
Speaker 2: His wife and that like to be married. Yes, that
Speaker 2: like to be when can they fine? Let me tell
Speaker 2: you something.
Speaker 1: The smartest man on this earth know the value of
Speaker 1: having one woman that's valuable.
Speaker 2: They know it.
Speaker 1: The smart, very smart, very smart man, very very I'm
Speaker 1: telling you every successful man, I promise you either has
Speaker 1: a woman running his whole team or he's married.
Speaker 5: They do say that for men, like in business being
Speaker 5: married really like elev Steve Harvey talks about that all time.
Speaker 3: And then of course you have anomalies like some men
Speaker 3: ended up being very very successful without getting married. With
Speaker 3: most successful men they have again, I tell.
Speaker 1: You the men that aren't married, I guarantee you, there's
Speaker 1: a woman behind him who runs everything, his assistant, whether
Speaker 1: it's his executive assistant whatever, I'm telling you, it's a
Speaker 1: woman very close by handling everything. I promise you every time.
Speaker 1: So even if he's not married, ask him who his
Speaker 1: right hand is?
Speaker 2: Brenda? Brenda? Can you bring up Brenda as time? Baby? Right?
Speaker 2: All right? All right? What you been jamming this week?
Speaker 1: Man?
Speaker 2: Okay?
Speaker 3: So, I can't remember if Julian brought this up on
Speaker 3: an episode to Night, because I know we was talking
Speaker 3: about leon Thommys. But I've been like having in rotation yesterday.
Speaker 2: Is that's my song? Okay?
Speaker 3: Yeah, he didn't talk about that. He was talking about remix,
Speaker 3: but I feel like he had brought up another song
Speaker 3: from the album. And I can't remember if that was
Speaker 3: the song or night.
Speaker 2: But I love that song. I don't like I like
Speaker 2: it a lot.
Speaker 3: His voice is very soothing. It is a soothing tone,
Speaker 3: and I love that song. It's like I feel like
Speaker 3: it's bringing back real.
Speaker 2: R and B Yes, telling you I always I told
Speaker 2: you R and b Ain't. It's giving them it's given
Speaker 2: nostalgic ninety. It was a little scoop. We might have
Speaker 2: a little insight. Okay, okay, so talk about way, like
Speaker 2: what's you back? What you what collaborations you could tell
Speaker 2: us you.
Speaker 5: Guys, So okay, I can't tell every collaboration because you know,
Speaker 5: I want my fans to be like surprised.
Speaker 2: But there she goes she started about to get straight.
Speaker 2: You heard it somebody somebody you know in the background.
Speaker 2: I'd be trying to whip that.
Speaker 5: But I do know that people seen a picture of
Speaker 5: me and Marita scientists together. Yeah, but what you guys
Speaker 5: can expect from this new album, I'm so excited. A
Speaker 5: lot of my stuff was like super traditional R and B.
Speaker 2: And I know a lot of people it's like bring
Speaker 2: R and B back, Da Da Da.
Speaker 5: But honestly, I feel like I've made my mark with
Speaker 5: R and B, and I really wanted to be a
Speaker 5: little bit more universal, So I got some more upbeat
Speaker 5: things on air and things that could sound like you
Speaker 5: can go overseas.
Speaker 2: Okay, like we're trying to go bigger.
Speaker 5: I'm never going to turn my back on the people
Speaker 5: who love R and B. But like I really want
Speaker 5: like it's definitely growth. You're gonna be able to hear
Speaker 5: the growth in the production and just me experimenting with
Speaker 5: different sound and tempos I've always wanted to do.
Speaker 2: I'm not a dancer. I suck, actually, but I.
Speaker 5: Want to make a dance, so I want to make
Speaker 5: like a and then it's always relatable, ess always relatable.
Speaker 2: But yeah, I think you guys are really, really really
Speaker 2: gonna like it. I think I love it. I was
Speaker 2: just bopp into it and yeah, I'm very proud.
Speaker 1: So you don't have to give us the TT But
Speaker 1: if you don't, do you have somebody that's like a
Speaker 1: legend on the album? And if you don't, is there
Speaker 1: a legend that you would like to have on the album,
Speaker 1: like a legendary singer?
Speaker 2: Okay, Okay, So this is what I'm gonna say.
Speaker 5: When I think about legend, I think of the greats.
Speaker 5: I think of the people that's been here for a while.
Speaker 5: Upcoming legends, yes, you know, because we.
Speaker 2: Still got a lot of work to do.
Speaker 5: But I've already worked with the Legend before a Babyface
Speaker 5: his last album I did on my latest EP, well
Speaker 5: two years ago. I worked with Monica the Legend. But
Speaker 5: I would say they're like, we're like upcoming, We're still
Speaker 5: because we still got a lot to.
Speaker 2: Right baby Face is alick though that That's what I'm saying,
Speaker 2: Like you were, because that was the album that he
Speaker 2: did with that was a good album. Going on Mary
Speaker 2: J Blige tour was like for her to share the stage.
Speaker 5: That's why when you said, like, do people still disrespect
Speaker 5: you and say you're just a YouTube?
Speaker 2: I don't even care because Mary J. Yeah like that,
Speaker 2: Because then you I want to say, did you get
Speaker 2: a Soul Trainer? Warry reformed at the Trainer? I think
Speaker 2: I did a No that was the other one. I
Speaker 2: did an s w B tribute. Oh no, I probably
Speaker 2: presented at the Soul Training Wars. I did perform. Yes,
Speaker 2: you perform. I know you did.
Speaker 3: I know I was just trying to I'd be so
Speaker 3: booked and I know, but I'm know I've just been
Speaker 3: I've been very low in my age.
Speaker 2: So I get it's like you don't get to just do.
Speaker 1: The Soul Train of War like that is a legendary
Speaker 1: show that our parents grew up with. Yes, like the
Speaker 1: Training Wars is not like and you gotta if you're
Speaker 1: doing a Soul Training Awards, you can't sing, you gotta sign.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know what I'm saying. So I think that
Speaker 2: whole narrative.
Speaker 1: If people do still say that, they definitely definitely gotta
Speaker 1: let that go because like it's fine.
Speaker 5: It's I've learned that, Like it's okay to not be
Speaker 5: for everybody. I'm not gonna be for everybody, but the
Speaker 5: ones who really love me.
Speaker 2: They know that. Yeah, so that's all that matters. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I see a lot of people in the cor like
Speaker 2: I just can't get her music. I just can't. That's
Speaker 2: a lot of mind beautiful boys. Yes, I'm so happy.
Speaker 2: And beautiful spirit because that matter. Yes, I have been
Speaker 2: having a bat beautiful, beautiful spirit. Beautiful boy. Okay, what's
Speaker 2: the item of the week, Droy.
Speaker 3: Okay, So for the item of the week, I'm gonna
Speaker 3: give Queen some products from you. I have a cosmetics
Speaker 3: line called Muse Beauty. It's Muse Bete Collections dot Com. Now,
Speaker 3: my ass forgot my little pr boxes at home, girl,
Speaker 3: so I had to put it in this little.
Speaker 2: Oh I love the heart, but I'm marring you the
Speaker 2: whole collection.
Speaker 3: And then I also have some messcara and eyeliner that's
Speaker 3: coming out soon and I can ship it young Red
Speaker 3: as I would be y'all money. Yes, girl, it's lip glosses,
Speaker 3: some lip liners. We also have some jelly blushes.
Speaker 2: Oh, I love jelly blush. I'm telling you, if you
Speaker 2: have like a no makeup bruh, it does something so different. Yes,
Speaker 2: when the summer to get that.
Speaker 1: Cute sunburn luks, Oh my god, when we was in Turks, baby,
Speaker 1: I got the jelly blush in my damn.
Speaker 2: Yes, I love the jelly bushes. It's so good. It's
Speaker 2: so good. And I don't like the lip glosses. Yes,
Speaker 2: I can't wait. I'm gonna send.
Speaker 1: Y'all little a little one, little one. Okay, but real quick,
Speaker 1: do you have a title of the album yet?
Speaker 5: I do, but I can't feeling because I want to
Speaker 5: do it like in a in a very like strategic strategical.
Speaker 2: Way, like I want my fans to engage in you.
Speaker 2: But I do have an album. I'll give you a hint.
Speaker 2: This hurt. Okay, Okay, it's like I can't. Okay, And
Speaker 2: do we have a drop date or around? We don't
Speaker 2: have a date yet, but we're definitely dropping. Okay, Okay,
Speaker 2: that's good enough for I really hope to drop in
Speaker 2: the summer. I really do.
Speaker 5: I hope, But sometimes the label was like, well, we
Speaker 5: got to push this back. So it's coming though, Like
Speaker 5: it's done, My album's done. Everything gets up to the production. Yes, okay, yeah, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 5: I know.
Speaker 2: But either way, like.
Speaker 5: I'm still gonna put out singles just for that, I
Speaker 5: still will get new queen music.
Speaker 2: Can you give us? Can you tell us what the
Speaker 2: single called? I don't know yet.
Speaker 5: Actually, I gotta gotta go through the proj Yeah, we gotta,
Speaker 5: we gotta pick. We gotta pick which one is that
Speaker 5: you know want to go behind?
Speaker 2: I know they ready. Yeah, we are so ready for
Speaker 2: new music.
Speaker 5: I'm so happy that people are even still here, just
Speaker 5: like anticipating.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but you know what, I really want artists to
Speaker 1: get back to that. Sometimes I think that people be
Speaker 1: dropping too much, Like when you gotta think, well, when
Speaker 1: you dropped the album, it will be some years. Yes,
Speaker 1: I want people to digest. Yes that you gotta really
Speaker 1: take that music.
Speaker 2: In, like if you drop.
Speaker 1: I don't think that as an artist you should be
Speaker 1: dropping two three albums in a year, and that's just
Speaker 1: too much. You should drop one album, let it marinate,
Speaker 1: go on tour a little bit, let people.
Speaker 2: Rock with they gotta marinate. The gotta be memorable. That's
Speaker 2: my thing too.
Speaker 5: I want to make music that's memorable and not just
Speaker 5: some little microwaveable music like Okay, we'll get over this.
Speaker 2: I want people to just like I want to be
Speaker 2: class last album, you want that Confessions? Like you know
Speaker 2: what I'm saying. We're still talking about Confession. First of all,
Speaker 2: Laurence Hill, she had one album, one album, the time
Speaker 2: of the people.
Speaker 1: Still they somebody out in the world right now is
Speaker 1: waiting for her to get on stage. Like a lot
Speaker 1: of people don't make classic Like like a lot of
Speaker 1: people don't make They don't. They don't because the labels
Speaker 1: are looking for them.
Speaker 2: TikTok yes it yeah, And guess how people engage.
Speaker 5: Oh sorry, go ahead, And I'm just saying that's why
Speaker 5: people engage with the TikTok.
Speaker 2: It is it is. But y'all know what I love
Speaker 2: about TikTok.
Speaker 3: Though all of these old songs are going viral again,
Speaker 3: that's what I love about times. It's like young la
Speaker 3: how the song go oh my Pocka is yeah, I
Speaker 3: love my vegetables.
Speaker 2: It's like, I don't the kids even be finding these songs.
Speaker 1: But also TikTok is good because that's where I find
Speaker 1: a lot of like my undiscovered artists and low key
Speaker 1: like I have fixed my algorithm so good when I
Speaker 1: tell you, I find so many new artists all the
Speaker 1: time from TikTok.
Speaker 2: Yeah, my son finds a lot of songs, you know.
Speaker 2: And I'm like, oh, this is good.
Speaker 1: Yes, it'd be some good, some really really good songs.
Speaker 1: And so I'm like, there's always like a good and
Speaker 1: a bad side.
Speaker 2: To the internet for me, because I remember when they
Speaker 2: got rid of TikTok for a little bit. That was
Speaker 2: mad at me for what I said. What you say,
Speaker 2: I'm about to trap myself again? Okay? Was that because
Speaker 2: all I said was all I said? Was what did
Speaker 2: I say? I think.
Speaker 5: I was like, okay, well now we can have a
Speaker 5: little bit because I thought it was going to be
Speaker 5: Don't get me wrong, I love TikTok too, but I
Speaker 5: wasn't think about the people that make money off of
Speaker 5: TikTok when I said this, so keep that in mind.
Speaker 2: I was thinking about music. I was like, well, maybe
Speaker 2: it'll give people like that make real, real music, like yeah.
Speaker 5: A little chance again, because now I feel like, like
Speaker 5: you said, people just looking for the TikTok. Right, So
Speaker 5: I was thinking like, oh, well maybe like but it
Speaker 5: offended a lot of people.
Speaker 2: Like well the people on TikTok or real artistic. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I was just like, you know, they can't wait to
Speaker 2: be fake outrage. Yeah, but I love TikTok. I love girl.
Speaker 1: What they say it on top, I think like it
Speaker 1: don't it's just a bullshit Like I was asking, It's
Speaker 1: like a lot of times like her exgo viral, they'll
Speaker 1: take clips of like her and Claire.
Speaker 2: Stuff like that. I'll be back there once I got
Speaker 2: to promote something.
Speaker 1: Yeah, they just be doing stupid souff cause it'd be
Speaker 1: stuff that I'll be saying because it's stuff that we
Speaker 1: go through that sometimes don't somebody will clip something of us.
Speaker 2: They be like Dre hates leg Oh my god that yeah,
Speaker 2: like you, I'd be like, I swear they do that
Speaker 2: to me, And I'm like, she is she.
Speaker 5: Is so ready he cannot stand he hates her. But
Speaker 5: people also don't understand too, Like, bro, we're real people.
Speaker 5: So even if we do get an attitude that okay, like.
Speaker 2: But then too sometimes it's just like me and lex I,
Speaker 2: like we do.
Speaker 3: A very good job of when we're like not getting
Speaker 3: along or we have something going on. Not portraying you
Speaker 3: on the show, but like she might have said something
Speaker 3: crazy to me five minutes before we started recording, and
Speaker 3: I gotta be like, hey, welcome, support mine and I
Speaker 3: say it.
Speaker 2: Again, that relationship, but that's relationships in general. Brow men.
Speaker 3: I hate her like that's just such a strong thing
Speaker 3: off the day. That's why I'm like, m h hay girl,
Speaker 3: But it happens we're him.
Speaker 4: But I.
Speaker 1: Like, do y'all know I have like sister yea best
Speaker 1: friends that you've been friends with for ten years.
Speaker 2: No, y'all don't get on each other nerves. Let's talk
Speaker 2: about that.
Speaker 3: Because they be having friends that they've been with for
Speaker 3: ten years. They don't have long relationships yours where you've
Speaker 3: been with somebody for five years, yeah, six years, and
Speaker 3: yeah we be going through shh.
Speaker 2: I love him still, my man. Hello, you know what
Speaker 2: I'm saying. You do get on my nerves and I
Speaker 2: get on. I couldn't imagine my life without Spookie. But
Speaker 2: but no, but that's what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: I've seeing all that ship, like I said, afage TikTok
Speaker 1: scroller honey. But I like I said, Look, I'm thirty five,
Speaker 1: so TikTok is how I keep in the know of
Speaker 1: what the kids got going on. But I do see,
Speaker 1: like I said, I see all the stuff about me, Drea,
Speaker 1: you know, whatever is going on.
Speaker 2: That's how I stay in too.
Speaker 1: So like I said, TikTok has a good side, but
Speaker 1: it also has a bad side.
Speaker 2: But I giving that makes me say.
Speaker 5: They said it about everybody. They said about every friendship
Speaker 5: and every relationship. That's what made me feel better once
Speaker 5: I went when I went to share room and I'm like,
Speaker 5: it's someone that was like, oh my god, she is Wow.
Speaker 5: When I look at the comments, even that person that
Speaker 5: I think is so wild, nothing but negative stuff.
Speaker 1: About Oh yeah, that's why I said, talk about everybody,
Speaker 1: not just me.
Speaker 2: And Brenda was talking about everybody.
Speaker 3: But y'all know what, y'all got a good point because
Speaker 3: they it's like hate pages for Beyonce and Beyonce don't
Speaker 3: say she beyond.
Speaker 2: They don't give up nothing.
Speaker 3: She doesn't talk to people still be trying to find
Speaker 3: They hate it.
Speaker 2: When she was doing her natural hair line, oh my god,
Speaker 2: even she parted it down the middle. They was like,
Speaker 2: it's only on one side.
Speaker 1: Tanner Adell had posted this picture of herself being funny,
Speaker 1: and she was like, oh my gosh, y'all, look at
Speaker 1: this picture of my great great grandmother that I found,
Speaker 1: the picture of herself, and everybody was like, you are
Speaker 1: such a liar.
Speaker 2: You're just like Sissa. It was like, all right, that's
Speaker 2: what brea scene, that's what scene. I'm just repeating what
Speaker 2: you say, but I'm telling you. It was a thread
Speaker 2: of people calling her a liar, stupid. We can tell
Speaker 2: this is lashes you got. It's clearly a picture of herself,
Speaker 2: and she was like, trolling being funny. Yeah, it just
Speaker 2: it just it's two different types of people on the internet.
Speaker 5: So we got the creators that are making a bag
Speaker 5: and showing themselves, and then you got the comments that
Speaker 5: are usually negative.
Speaker 2: The only people that are not negative are the people
Speaker 2: that follow me and love me.
Speaker 5: But anyone outside of that, I don't expect for them
Speaker 5: to even know like me at all.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, And that's why I said, it's a
Speaker 1: lot of people. TikTok is different. So you got people
Speaker 1: that make money off of clipping your stuff. Oh my god,
Speaker 1: DNG actually said this. He said, there's a guy who's said,
Speaker 1: like he's paid off his house, he bought a brand
Speaker 1: new car just from hard stuff.
Speaker 2: There's an account. And I'm not mad at you. No,
Speaker 2: we loved them. They always created.
Speaker 1: And stuff from poor minds and they go back and
Speaker 1: they put a bunch of stuff together and they go
Speaker 1: viral a lot.
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying. And I'm not mad at
Speaker 2: it because it spreads the word. But check this out.
Speaker 3: So our producer she started reposting it all the time,
Speaker 3: like posting it on our page. We got kicked out
Speaker 3: of the TikTok creator fund, but it's our video. It's
Speaker 3: crazy because we were reposting the videos that they were posting.
Speaker 3: Oh wow, but it's us in the video.
Speaker 2: But they came us out. Yeah, girl, it's great. It
Speaker 2: we did.
Speaker 3: We said something and I think now we can start
Speaker 3: back getting monetized. But for like a whole month, we
Speaker 3: couldn't get monetized from that, and it was us in
Speaker 3: the video. I'm like, this is I need to get
Speaker 3: creating stuff. Yeah, I've been trying to want to get
Speaker 3: on that.
Speaker 2: It's hard for me to take a picture of my
Speaker 2: food before I eat it. Yeah, I just want to
Speaker 2: eat it. Yeah, set the camera up before you get
Speaker 2: in a car. Yeah, I'm not like a good vlogger
Speaker 2: what I'm doing.
Speaker 1: But like I can do stuff like this, like I
Speaker 1: have called love lexp and I just prop my camera
Speaker 1: up and I talk and I do all my hot
Speaker 1: topics and things like that.
Speaker 2: I can do talk show stuff content.
Speaker 1: But I just can't, like a day in the life stuck,
Speaker 1: especially if I'm in the moment I've been trying to
Speaker 1: have a good time.
Speaker 3: Ye be hard, it'd be hard, bruin the vibe sometimes
Speaker 3: having a good time and then you just.
Speaker 2: Get a real good moment but the camera turned off
Speaker 2: or something. Yeah, or it's not recording. Yes, oh my god.
Speaker 2: So yeah, I'm just like, let me just stick to
Speaker 2: what I know. Let me just sit to what I know. Okay.
Speaker 2: Do you give good advice? You think I believe I
Speaker 2: give good advice? Okay, I think you do. I can
Speaker 2: see that. Okay, So we are about to do pour
Speaker 2: your heart out.
Speaker 1: If you want your question answered on the show, makes
Speaker 1: you email us at ask Poor Minds at g If
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Speaker 2: You get to skip the line of course.
Speaker 1: Okay, so we have some questions and we are going
Speaker 1: to give our best advice.
Speaker 3: Go ahead, Drea Heylex Andrea big fan of the show.
Speaker 3: I love how y'all hold space for real stories.
Speaker 2: So here's mine.
Speaker 3: From the outside, I look like I've got it together,
Speaker 3: two small businesses, college student, creative, big dreams. But behind
Speaker 3: all of that, I've been through real life lost, heartbreak,
Speaker 3: sexual assault, two abortions, and carrying grief while being the
Speaker 3: strong friend. I've always kept together for everyone else, but
Speaker 3: lately I've been wondering who holds me. I started a
Speaker 3: nonprofit called Grief God Growth to help others navigate pain,
Speaker 3: even though I'm still healing myself. So I guess I'm
Speaker 3: asking how do you keep showing up when you're still
Speaker 3: healing from stuff no one claps for? And how do
Speaker 3: you forgive yourself for surviving when you couldn't save everyone else?
Speaker 3: Thanks for listening. I just hope my story helps someone
Speaker 3: else feel scene to kd M, I.
Speaker 2: Think we kind of touched on that this episode. Yeah,
Speaker 2: that's why this is a good question. Yeah, what was
Speaker 2: the last two What was the questions that you got to?
Speaker 2: She said, how do you keep?
Speaker 3: She said, how do you keep showing up when you're
Speaker 3: still healing from the stuff no one claps for. And
Speaker 3: how do you forgive yourself for surviving when you couldn't
Speaker 3: help I mean, when you couldn't save everyone else.
Speaker 2: Oh that is a good one, it is. That's yeah.
Speaker 1: I think like survivor's guilt is real, and I think
Speaker 1: a lot of times you have to understand forgiving yourself
Speaker 1: is the biggest is the one of the hardest things.
Speaker 1: I'm personally going through that honestly right now, if I'm
Speaker 1: being vulnerable and honest, and I think you just have
Speaker 1: to give yourself grace and you have to give yourself time.
Speaker 1: I think a lot of times we get mad at
Speaker 1: ourselves for not getting over something so quick. If you
Speaker 1: go through something and it's like a month later and
Speaker 1: you're still crying, you're like, why am I still upset?
Speaker 2: And you're getting mad at yourself. It takes time to heal.
Speaker 2: You know, you have to be easy with yourself.
Speaker 1: The world is already hard on us individually as people,
Speaker 1: as women. So the best thing that you can do
Speaker 1: for yourself is just go easy on yourself and give
Speaker 1: yourself time to heal. Give yourself time healing is a journey.
Speaker 1: And I'm not talking about six, seven, eight months.
Speaker 2: It takes years to heal.
Speaker 1: And you have to be willing to have your good
Speaker 1: days but also be willing to have your bad days.
Speaker 2: It's okay to cry, it's okay to be angry.
Speaker 1: I think sometimes when we're sad and we're angry, we
Speaker 1: feel like we're not supposed to be feeling these things.
Speaker 1: You're not supposed to be happy every day. That's not normal.
Speaker 1: Being sad is normal, Being mad as normal, Being happy
Speaker 1: is normal. So I think going through the emotions of
Speaker 1: actual healing is rough. It's hard, but you have to
Speaker 1: acknowledge that and you have to be okay with not
Speaker 1: being okay. And I think that's the hardest thing. People
Speaker 1: are not okay with not being okay.
Speaker 2: Give yourself the grace, Yeah, give yourself grace, man, Like, you.
Speaker 1: Really have to give yourself grace and like I said,
Speaker 1: just time to heal. And you have to understand not
Speaker 1: everybody's gonna clap for you for doing things that people like, Oh,
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna applaud a fish for swimming.
Speaker 2: You got a clap for yourself? Hello, you do you know, ma'am,
Speaker 2: ma'am what do you think, queen?
Speaker 5: She said, how do you how do you keep showing
Speaker 5: up for yourself? Okay, I think a lot of people
Speaker 5: feel like showing up means every day you go full force.
Speaker 2: M yep. As long as you just try every day,
Speaker 2: try to do your best showing up.
Speaker 5: Don't look the same every day, right, you know what
Speaker 5: I'm saying. And you also got to understand a lot
Speaker 5: of people. I would just use myself as an example.
Speaker 5: I have ADHD really bad. So if I don't get
Speaker 5: like everything done, I used to get nothing done. But
Speaker 5: I had to learn, like even if I just if
Speaker 5: I if I don't clean this whole kitchen as an example,
Speaker 5: if I could just sweep this floor, or if I
Speaker 5: could just like just get all the trash, put the
Speaker 5: put the trash in trash can put the dishes in
Speaker 5: this thinking I'm still showing up.
Speaker 2: I still did it. I'm still accomplished.
Speaker 5: Yeah, you still accomplish. And and to the fact that
Speaker 5: no one clapped for like she said, you have to
Speaker 5: do it for yourself. A lot of people forget to
Speaker 5: confide in God and ask him and cast all your
Speaker 5: cares upon him. You gotta cast all your cares upon God,
Speaker 5: because we cannot do it alone. And you have to
Speaker 5: really really ask for desertment on when do I When
Speaker 5: do I rest?
Speaker 2: Because we need to rest. A lot of people overwork
Speaker 2: themselves just trying to like show up, show up, show up.
Speaker 5: Some days you gotta rest, so get like you said,
Speaker 5: give yourself, like she said, give yourself grace and know
Speaker 5: that even a small win is still a win.
Speaker 2: And what was the second question? It was, how do
Speaker 2: you forgive yourself for surviving when you couldn't save everyone else?
Speaker 2: That one was deep.
Speaker 5: I'm gonna tell you, like my therapists would tell me,
Speaker 5: it's it's everything's not your responsibility.
Speaker 2: And that's a tough call, especially when you want to
Speaker 2: bring everybody with you.
Speaker 5: Yeah, every and everyone's everyone's like success. Well, your success
Speaker 5: is not everyone else's success. Like people will say, well,
Speaker 5: I ain't make it like you, because you know you
Speaker 5: you made it up here. But like success can be
Speaker 5: just right here for them, you know what I mean.
Speaker 5: It doesn't mean that like you didn't bring them with
Speaker 5: you and so like you left them out in the
Speaker 5: dirt or whatever. I just really, like you said, survival's
Speaker 5: guilt is really real, and I I had to like
Speaker 5: I'm still working through that too, But yeah, it's not
Speaker 5: your response. Everyone's not your responsibility. We all like have
Speaker 5: we are responsible for our own lives, and.
Speaker 2: You know you can't.
Speaker 5: Like everyone makes their own decisions and either rewards or
Speaker 5: consequences come from that, and you can't.
Speaker 2: You can't blame yourself for that. That's too much, that's
Speaker 2: too much to put on your.
Speaker 3: You never gonna be happy if you yourself for what
Speaker 3: other people are doing with their life. Like, you can't
Speaker 3: save people. I feel like if people are willing to
Speaker 3: do the work, or you know they are having a
Speaker 3: heart and you can help them, you should, But you
Speaker 3: shouldn't go at your way to make it your responsibility
Speaker 3: to try to save people around you, because you can't
Speaker 3: want more for people than what.
Speaker 2: They want for the hell.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and some people don't really want that much. It's
Speaker 3: a harsh reality.
Speaker 2: But it's like you want to lie. You want to lie.
Speaker 2: That's why you grinding for it, That's why you striving
Speaker 2: for it.
Speaker 3: This person around you, you might want them to want
Speaker 3: more because you love them and you care about them
Speaker 3: and you want them to be there with you, but
Speaker 3: they might not want them even be meant for them.
Speaker 5: Being an entrepreneur is not meant for everybody. We still
Speaker 5: need the people that were working there. That's not everybody's story,
Speaker 5: you know. And just because it doesn't mean that they're
Speaker 5: like any less special exactly.
Speaker 2: Know, like everybody is just not for everyone.
Speaker 1: People need about doing something little. Sometimes it's all you
Speaker 1: need to do to show up. Because I was talking
Speaker 1: to my friend about that because we both kind of
Speaker 1: deal with depression and stuff, and she's kind of going
Speaker 1: through it right now, and I was like, man, be
Speaker 1: proud of yourself because you're looking at it like, oh, yeah,
Speaker 1: I got out the house today, but I just went
Speaker 1: to my friend's house.
Speaker 2: But I was still sad.
Speaker 3: I said, but you got out of the house, like
Speaker 3: when you were depressed, you could have just stayed there.
Speaker 2: In fucking bed.
Speaker 1: Because I'm telling y'all, I am a very like I'm
Speaker 1: very clean, clean person, Like I am very kind of
Speaker 1: like OCD when it comes to my place. And but
Speaker 1: when I like, I got really like depressed, like around
Speaker 1: like December and January, and I just let my apartment.
Speaker 1: I was like, oh my god, I can't believe I
Speaker 1: have so much shit everywhere. And I just could not
Speaker 1: get out of the bed. I just could not do it.
Speaker 1: And then I remember I just spent a whole week
Speaker 1: and I was just taking it room by room and
Speaker 1: I just organized everything and I would just get up
Speaker 1: and I was like, one day I did my closet.
Speaker 1: Then the next day it took me like a whole week,
Speaker 1: and I'm my apartment ain't big.
Speaker 2: But I was like, you know what, I did it.
Speaker 1: You did it, though, and I feel so much better,
Speaker 1: and I was like clapping for myself. I was like, bitch,
Speaker 1: I cleaned my closet today.
Speaker 2: Amen, you did that, bitch. I don't care if it's
Speaker 2: like something small or big. Clap for you. That's all
Speaker 2: you did it, yep, because only you know what it
Speaker 2: took for you to be able to do there. Oh
Speaker 2: you got to give yourself that pet on the baby.
Speaker 2: Do you know what I'm saying?
Speaker 1: Like, even when Drag was doing seventy five hard, I'll
Speaker 1: use this for an example because I'm like, ooh, damn,
Speaker 1: I need to get my ass up and go to
Speaker 1: the gym. And it's like even though like I was
Speaker 1: still going to the gym, but I would like get
Speaker 1: on the treadmill and I'm like walking for twenty minutes.
Speaker 2: I'm like, bitch, you got up, Bitch, you got up.
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: I'm like okay, and now I'm like back and I'm
Speaker 1: like lifting waists and like, cause even with that, you
Speaker 1: don't know what's motivating people or what's you know, getting
Speaker 1: them through to, like, you know what, let me get
Speaker 1: up and move my body and do something. Because I'll
Speaker 1: say this about working out too and or going to
Speaker 1: church or anything. It's like your journey is your journey
Speaker 1: because I never post when I go to the gym.
Speaker 1: And I posted myself in the gym like a day
Speaker 1: or two ago.
Speaker 2: I don't know why what made me.
Speaker 1: Do it, but I was like it was like four
Speaker 1: or five people whoever reacted to my store and was like, oh,
Speaker 1: I see you finally back in the gym.
Speaker 2: Now I see you fine, and it's just so. But
Speaker 2: then why I don't post, because why would you say that?
Speaker 1: But it doesn't matter, bitch, I'd have lost thirty pounds
Speaker 1: since January.
Speaker 2: I don't need to document everything.
Speaker 1: Oh I got you girls, But I just feel like
Speaker 1: that's why it's so hard to be open about. Like
Speaker 1: even with me going to church, I was on cocktails
Speaker 1: talking about how I'm going to church now, and peoples
Speaker 1: in the comments like.
Speaker 2: Oh, you go to church. But it's like, that's why
Speaker 2: you sprazy. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: But I don't need I don't talk about it because
Speaker 1: I don't need those applause from y'all because I've been
Speaker 1: clapping for myself and I've been getting through my battles
Speaker 1: that y'all don't even know about behind closed doors, and
Speaker 1: I'm doing it. So I think to answer her question,
Speaker 1: like you said, do you want one hundred percent have
Speaker 1: to clap for yourself even for the small thing?
Speaker 2: For sure, Yes, ma'am. I was trying to lift to it.
Speaker 2: It was like, you're doing it wrong, You're I had
Speaker 2: our girl, you come show me. Then to the gym,
Speaker 2: and then.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, And I think, like, like
Speaker 1: I said, well, working out it's a hard journey. Like
Speaker 1: I was going to the gym so consistently, then I
Speaker 1: kind of fell off. Then I started just doing cardio
Speaker 1: because I wanted to lose weight. Now I lost the
Speaker 1: weight and it's like, okay, I'm back lifting out. Everybody's
Speaker 1: story is different. Everybody. Let people do what they do yeah,
Speaker 1: And and then when I go to your page, it
Speaker 1: seems like you ain't never been.
Speaker 3: Hello, right, But I always say I feel like when
Speaker 3: it comes to the gym, and like even with church,
Speaker 3: anything in life that you have to push yourself to do,
Speaker 3: it's more so about the discipline, like, because you're not
Speaker 3: gonna always have the motivation, right, So you have to
Speaker 3: always ask yourself, Okay, how important is this relationship that
Speaker 3: I'm trying to be with God? How important easy to
Speaker 3: me that I get closer to him and draw closer
Speaker 3: to him? So even when I don't feel like getting
Speaker 3: up on Sunday, I still need to go to church
Speaker 3: even when I how important easy to me to stay
Speaker 3: in shape because I know where I came from. So okay,
Speaker 3: I need to go to the gym even though I
Speaker 3: don't want to. That's how I go because every day I.
Speaker 2: Don't do it when you don't want to, that's the
Speaker 2: best time. Girl. It was days while I was doing
Speaker 2: seventy five hart.
Speaker 3: And I'm usually a morning person when it comes to
Speaker 3: working out morning or afternoon, but it was times while
Speaker 3: I was doing seventy five hard where I live really
Speaker 3: was just all day, like I don't want to go,
Speaker 3: so I ended up having to go at like nine pm.
Speaker 2: Just to get it done.
Speaker 3: But I went because it's like a discipline thing, you know,
Speaker 3: So I think you have to look at it like that.
Speaker 3: And sometimes I don't know if that will help anybody,
Speaker 3: but it helps me because I'm not always motivated.
Speaker 1: And look, I'm the same way with church. Sometimes I'll
Speaker 1: be having to go to that five o'clock service all day,
Speaker 1: you know, but I'll go.
Speaker 5: Yeah, you know, and that's what God see and that's what,
Speaker 5: like you said, only it's only him that judging.
Speaker 2: Right, Okay, Queen, No, that's great. This wasn't so much
Speaker 2: so obviously.
Speaker 1: I mean, the girls know who you are, but let
Speaker 1: them know where they can find you, all the good
Speaker 1: stuff you got coming up, where they can catch you
Speaker 1: and all that good y'all.
Speaker 5: Gotta just find me on all platforms at Queen Nija.
Speaker 5: Yes that's my real name, q n A I j
Speaker 5: A on everything. Oh yeah, go on my snapchat too,
Speaker 5: because I'll be showing my real self.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, well, thank you.
Speaker 3: This fun I did, I had a lot of Okay,
Speaker 3: I'm ready eat, Okay, me too.
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Speaker 1: one Twitter, one TikTok.
Speaker 2: It is p oh, you are underscore in my nds?
Speaker 3: All right, and we got hell a fake Facebook page
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Speaker 3: is our Facebook page actually have the least amount of
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Speaker 9: you do what you to show me up now, it's
Speaker 9: a feeling that I don't want to stand.
Speaker 2: Because my heart starts. We thought of loving you on
Speaker 2: my mind. I can't figure out just what the problem
Speaker 2: here is you Okay, I get so weakend I can
Speaker 2: hardly speak.
Speaker 5: I lose a untro and something takes all of me
Speaker 5: and that day, Yeah, it's so amazing.
Speaker 2: It's not a face. I want you to say with
Speaker 2: me a second. I swallow my pride. Your love is
Speaker 2: so sweet it knocks me right off of my fet
Speaker 2: Explain why you're love. It makes me hold on, No, queen,
Speaker 2: you better singing nowts.
Speaker 9: Time after time after time my ride to fight, but
Speaker 9: your love and strong it.
Speaker 2: Keeps so on hold and no.
Speaker 1: Christies is down your around cross free.
Speaker 2: My couttingdition. I don't want to me Hello.
Speaker 8: Oh my heart starts eating it tremble time with all
Speaker 8: of you on my mind, I can't figure out just
Speaker 8: what to do when the problem here iss you.
Speaker 2: I guess so we get it. I can hardly speak.
Speaker 2: I lose at you and so and say so of
Speaker 2: me in a day, and it's so amazing.
Speaker 4: It's not a face. I want you to stay with
Speaker 4: me by my side. I sawallow my pride. Love it
Speaker 4: knocks me right off of my feet.
Speaker 2: Can it sway away? Love? It makes me? We give
Speaker 2: it to a queen. Don't hold back, give it to.
Speaker 10: I try hard to science. Yeah, no way, cannot didn't
Speaker 10: die yet. Your love so sweet it knocks me up
Speaker 10: my feet.
Speaker 2: I again so weekend aneas I can hardly.
Speaker 4: Speak, I lose control, can't say so for me in
Speaker 4: a day, and it's so amazing.
Speaker 2: It's not a face. I want you to say, what
Speaker 2: do you mean? On my side? I saw hollow my pride.
Speaker 2: Your love is so sweet it knocks me right off
Speaker 2: for my feet because I wasn't gonna eat it. You
Speaker 2: was looking at me like do it the shine? I'm
Speaker 2: not gonna lie. This is like the best carry on.
Speaker 1: There. You did have you did had a real singer,
Speaker 1: but now you got a real all right, we'll sing.
Speaker 2: Out next week. Knot