WEBVTT - Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija 0:00:00.040 --> 0:00:02.440 If you ain't in the bad with your lady and you. 0:00:02.640 --> 0:00:04.800 It's something that's smelling like a fish fry on a 0:00:04.960 --> 0:00:09.080 Friday night, thinking it as hot, but you probably throw 0:00:09.160 --> 0:00:10.039 U p ain't y'ash. 0:00:10.080 --> 0:00:11.039 You know real quick. 0:00:11.200 --> 0:00:15.200 I hate when people say a fish fry, fish fries smell. 0:00:15.040 --> 0:00:17.040 Good, crying. It's a. 0:00:18.920 --> 0:00:24.320 Fish fry, fish fribby smelling delicious. It's the raw fish 0:00:25.160 --> 0:00:26.160 that's the problem. 0:00:26.320 --> 0:00:28.760 Fry. It's the fish when it's wrong for you to 0:00:28.840 --> 0:00:29.360 say that. 0:00:30.520 --> 0:00:35.000 Okay, but I'm just say a fish fry a fish 0:00:35.040 --> 0:00:37.839 fish it is. 0:00:38.000 --> 0:00:40.280 But that's not how you want your vagina to smell. 0:00:41.360 --> 0:00:42.120 I mean fake. 0:00:43.000 --> 0:00:46.120 But you know what I'm saying, Fries smell edible is 0:00:46.159 --> 0:00:46.800 what I'm saying. 0:01:09.360 --> 0:01:12.679 What's up, y'all? Is your girl lex p and it's 0:01:12.720 --> 0:01:13.319 your girl Drey. 0:01:13.360 --> 0:01:16.360 In the call, you are tuned in to another episode 0:01:16.640 --> 0:01:20.080 of Poor Mine, whereas drunk mind speaks sober thought. 0:01:20.400 --> 0:01:25.280 We gotta guess today, We gotta guess today. 0:01:25.959 --> 0:01:30.880 So y'all know, y'all have been asking for this guest 0:01:30.920 --> 0:01:32.240 to come on for a long time. 0:01:32.319 --> 0:01:35.520 First of all, and second of all, I don't. 0:01:35.280 --> 0:01:39.360 Even know how to give this introduction because a YouTube 0:01:39.440 --> 0:01:44.039 star turned into an R and B sensation that we 0:01:44.120 --> 0:01:47.960 have all jammed her music and me going through it esday. 0:01:48.160 --> 0:01:54.840 Lla, Hello, Hello, Hello, thank y'all for having me, Thank 0:01:54.880 --> 0:01:55.680 you for coming. 0:01:56.480 --> 0:01:59.040 Because one thing about me, like I do not care 0:01:59.080 --> 0:02:01.360 who it is. I'm a slap and people dms. Yes, 0:02:01.600 --> 0:02:04.360 I'm a DM slider, Like, I don't care if I'm 0:02:04.360 --> 0:02:05.840 like a fan of you, and I feel like will vibe. 0:02:05.840 --> 0:02:07.400 I'm like, I'm gonna sign they dms and ask because 0:02:07.400 --> 0:02:08.320 the worst you can say is no. 0:02:08.480 --> 0:02:09.519 I don't know how I missed that. 0:02:09.840 --> 0:02:11.839 Yeah, So I slid in your DMS like a long 0:02:11.919 --> 0:02:13.840 time ago, and I was like, y'all, I mean I 0:02:13.840 --> 0:02:16.960 shot my shot. Maybe she'll respond, And I swear you 0:02:17.000 --> 0:02:19.320 were up like late because you were responded at like 0:02:19.360 --> 0:02:20.120 three in the morning. 0:02:20.320 --> 0:02:23.200 Yeah. I think I was looking through all of my requests. Okay, 0:02:23.360 --> 0:02:23.840 that's probably. 0:02:24.680 --> 0:02:24.920 Yeah. 0:02:25.040 --> 0:02:26.600 I was looking at my request and then I went, 0:02:26.680 --> 0:02:27.840 you know how you can go to the little part 0:02:27.880 --> 0:02:31.200 where it says verified or something like that, and so. 0:02:31.240 --> 0:02:32.680 I saw it. I was like, oh my god, how 0:02:32.680 --> 0:02:34.400 did I miss this? Yes, but I was like, oh 0:02:34.480 --> 0:02:36.200 my god, I woke up. I was like, I screened 0:02:36.200 --> 0:02:39.840 shot it. I was like y'all. She responded with the 0:02:39.919 --> 0:02:42.040 chat and I was like, yeah, yeah, he didn't want 0:02:42.120 --> 0:02:44.120 to have you on for a while. So I didn't 0:02:44.120 --> 0:02:46.359 know people was asking me to come on here. Oh yeah. 0:02:46.440 --> 0:02:49.280 They love like when we have the girls on because 0:02:49.280 --> 0:02:50.280 it's like a girl's talking. 0:02:50.360 --> 0:02:52.320 Yeah. So, and I'm not gonna lie. 0:02:52.320 --> 0:02:54.240 We've had a lot of male gifts lately and they're 0:02:54.280 --> 0:02:55.600 like bringing the girls. 0:02:55.639 --> 0:02:58.520 We're the wimmen. Yes, but I mean, is it like 0:02:58.560 --> 0:02:59.480 harder to get girls? 0:02:59.600 --> 0:03:03.040 I was about to say that one thing. It depends. 0:03:03.120 --> 0:03:06.280 I think it depends. But honestly, what shocked me is 0:03:06.560 --> 0:03:07.640 girls don't be girls. 0:03:07.680 --> 0:03:11.400 Girls like, yeah, they don't. You know what I'm saying, 0:03:11.520 --> 0:03:13.000 come on a lot. Well, I'm not gonna say a 0:03:13.040 --> 0:03:15.360 lot of the time because some of them do. They'll 0:03:15.400 --> 0:03:17.359 respond and they'll be friendly and they'll be like, oh yeah, 0:03:17.360 --> 0:03:19.480 I will love to come on, and they do, but 0:03:19.720 --> 0:03:22.320 they don't, or they be asking for a budgie and 0:03:22.360 --> 0:03:24.160 I'd be like, people charge for interviews. 0:03:24.200 --> 0:03:25.160 I didn't even know it was a. 0:03:25.200 --> 0:03:27.680 Theme neither, because I felt like, you know, if you 0:03:27.720 --> 0:03:30.760 have something to promote, it's gonna help them, both of them. Yeah, 0:03:30.800 --> 0:03:33.680 you got something going on, but sometimes people would just 0:03:33.720 --> 0:03:36.480 straight up flat. I'll be like no, yes and be 0:03:36.600 --> 0:03:39.080 like because I feel like there's a way to say no. 0:03:41.000 --> 0:03:43.560 Yeah, I don't like that. I'm like, yeah, like just 0:03:43.600 --> 0:03:43.960 to be. 0:03:43.880 --> 0:03:46.160 Like, you know, unfortunately right now it's not the right time. 0:03:46.320 --> 0:03:48.960 You know, you know, we'll circle back. It's just a professionalism. 0:03:49.040 --> 0:03:51.240 Like we had somebody emails back and that was like, 0:03:51.320 --> 0:03:52.120 she's not interested. 0:03:52.800 --> 0:03:55.680 What they asked for a budgie first DNA see, yeah, 0:03:55.800 --> 0:03:59.520 but not interested. Oh it's like she was interested, but 0:03:59.560 --> 0:04:01.320 it was TG if we had a budge. 0:04:02.320 --> 0:04:04.160 Have you ever had a situation where like you reached 0:04:04.160 --> 0:04:05.960 out to somebody to do a song with and they 0:04:06.040 --> 0:04:09.440 hurt your feelings? 0:04:09.720 --> 0:04:12.080 Read that's why I agree. I don't believe that girls 0:04:12.240 --> 0:04:15.200 that are really girls. Girl, No, they're not, and I 0:04:15.280 --> 0:04:18.640 am and it hurts my feelings. Yeah, and it's like, dang, 0:04:18.720 --> 0:04:20.520 I should pull it back or whatever, because like. 0:04:20.680 --> 0:04:22.560 I'm just a naturally friendly person. 0:04:22.640 --> 0:04:25.480 But yeah, that has happened to me actually recently really 0:04:25.600 --> 0:04:28.880 because I've been working on my album and actually it's 0:04:28.880 --> 0:04:31.440 almost finished, and I was like, I would love to 0:04:31.480 --> 0:04:32.920 have you, Like what did I say? 0:04:32.960 --> 0:04:34.080 I think I said I would love. 0:04:34.000 --> 0:04:36.120 To have you like, but let me know, like if 0:04:36.120 --> 0:04:38.200 you're interested, if you're not, it's okay. And I would 0:04:38.200 --> 0:04:40.240 have been okay if the person would have just been 0:04:40.279 --> 0:04:44.479 like no, not interested or no Red, I said, you 0:04:44.520 --> 0:04:46.400 know what, I'm not doing this thing. 0:04:47.040 --> 0:04:49.680 And I just feel like that's so rude because like 0:04:49.760 --> 0:04:51.040 I could see that you're ready. 0:04:51.400 --> 0:04:54.080 Yeah, you could have said you could have said no, 0:04:54.200 --> 0:04:55.920 you could have it, and I would have respected it. 0:04:56.920 --> 0:04:59.360 And it's like, that's my issue because I have to 0:04:59.440 --> 0:05:04.200 choose between being personal or like just being professional. And sometimes, 0:05:04.240 --> 0:05:06.279 like especially with an interview like this, because when we're 0:05:06.279 --> 0:05:07.760 in the DM talk on my girl, I'm not gonna 0:05:07.760 --> 0:05:10.800 ask you nothing crazy. We don't look for viral moments. Yeah, 0:05:10.800 --> 0:05:12.640 you just like to have a good time with their guess. 0:05:13.000 --> 0:05:16.520 So I sometimes I'll be wishing, like when I DM 0:05:16.640 --> 0:05:18.920 people and they leave me on RED and they don't 0:05:18.920 --> 0:05:20.200 take nothing, I'm like, I should. 0:05:19.920 --> 0:05:22.000 Have just sent Shay to you, just yeah, so you 0:05:22.000 --> 0:05:22.960 don't have to deal with. 0:05:22.880 --> 0:05:26.839 The yeah, like feeling embarrassed because I'm second, Yeah, that's embarrassing. 0:05:27.040 --> 0:05:29.800 Everything hurt my feelings. I was like ooh, like oach, 0:05:30.240 --> 0:05:31.200 But I did get. 0:05:31.120 --> 0:05:33.359 It from the perspective that you were just talking about, Like, 0:05:33.440 --> 0:05:36.440 I get the apprehension that people might have weill coming 0:05:36.480 --> 0:05:39.800 on the show just because a lot of shows, I 0:05:39.839 --> 0:05:41.800 do feel like they be looking for the viral moments 0:05:41.839 --> 0:05:44.279 and they do be making the gifts feel uncomfortable and stuff. 0:05:44.320 --> 0:05:46.800 So I can understand why, especially if somebody haven't heard 0:05:46.839 --> 0:05:49.520 of the show, automatically they like, oh no, I don't 0:05:49.520 --> 0:05:51.040 really want to do the interview. 0:05:51.720 --> 0:05:53.680 I mean, but I think we've been doing this for 0:05:53.720 --> 0:05:56.200 so long, Like when we have things that go viral, 0:05:56.240 --> 0:05:59.440 it really be accidents. Yeah, Like I'll never be like, 0:05:59.480 --> 0:06:02.320 oh yeah, tell me the tea about this. 0:06:02.800 --> 0:06:04.760 Yeah. Yeah, it's never given. 0:06:04.880 --> 0:06:06.479 And then I mean the person just should be able 0:06:06.520 --> 0:06:08.000 to know how to answer the question. 0:06:07.800 --> 0:06:09.200 And be like, you know what, I don't really want 0:06:09.240 --> 0:06:10.520 to lie. 0:06:10.600 --> 0:06:13.120 Some people don't have media training though they know we 0:06:13.160 --> 0:06:14.880 don't have a few people sit on this couch to. 0:06:14.880 --> 0:06:16.840 Get but why really I think we have. 0:06:17.080 --> 0:06:20.120 I do a really good job of making people feel 0:06:20.160 --> 0:06:22.960 really comfortable because they meet us and they're like, oh, 0:06:23.000 --> 0:06:24.800 they're so sweet, they're so nice, and. 0:06:24.680 --> 0:06:25.919 Then we funny and we be joking. 0:06:25.920 --> 0:06:27.120 But I feel like a lot of time people are 0:06:27.160 --> 0:06:30.080 started loosening it, and especially when they're drinking too. 0:06:31.240 --> 0:06:33.559 Then we got hurt. She'd be making the drinks, picking 0:06:33.640 --> 0:06:36.000 up on them. They get comfortable, girl, and they be 0:06:36.040 --> 0:06:36.520 cutting up. 0:06:36.680 --> 0:06:42.360 They be texting us afterwards like can you delete these? Yeah, 0:06:41.400 --> 0:06:46.800 I'm not lying removing any girl, but they be cutting up. 0:06:46.880 --> 0:06:48.039 We haven't had well. 0:06:48.160 --> 0:06:51.640 I when I first, like started out, I did have 0:06:51.720 --> 0:06:53.960 like a media training session or two. 0:06:54.480 --> 0:06:57.840 But I don't know. I just don't. I haven't had 0:06:58.120 --> 0:06:59.760 in a while. I don't know. I just don't like 0:06:59.800 --> 0:07:02.760 the thing. Yeah really, why not? Because I want to 0:07:02.760 --> 0:07:06.440 be like unapologetically me. Yeah. 0:07:06.440 --> 0:07:09.840 And also though, like as you grow and do more 0:07:09.840 --> 0:07:13.120 and more interviews, like you'll know what to bobby with. 0:07:12.840 --> 0:07:15.560 With, Like, yeah, so, how do you feel now because 0:07:16.120 --> 0:07:18.560 being that you started off on YouTube and you know, 0:07:18.680 --> 0:07:21.600 we being that we started off on YouTube as well, 0:07:21.600 --> 0:07:24.640 were still on YouTube. Yeah, it's like but it's different 0:07:25.120 --> 0:07:27.920 because when you first start out, you just say whatever, 0:07:28.040 --> 0:07:30.800 you're doing whatever, and it's so many things that come 0:07:30.840 --> 0:07:32.600 back people will clip. 0:07:32.280 --> 0:07:34.160 Old Oh my god, say and do. 0:07:34.600 --> 0:07:36.600 So how do you feel now knowing that it's like 0:07:37.000 --> 0:07:38.920 a lot of stuff that you said that you. 0:07:38.880 --> 0:07:39.960 Were when you were younger? 0:07:40.160 --> 0:07:42.160 Oh my god, It's like I look back at a 0:07:42.200 --> 0:07:46.000 lot of things and like I cringe, but yeah, but 0:07:46.160 --> 0:07:48.600 it's like at the same time, that's what growth is about. 0:07:48.680 --> 0:07:51.800 I feel like a lot of people in this just 0:07:51.880 --> 0:07:52.640 new social. 0:07:52.400 --> 0:07:55.800 Media world, they don't appreciate growth. They don't understand it. 0:07:56.200 --> 0:07:58.400 If like you said something years ago, they're gonna look 0:07:58.400 --> 0:08:01.640 at you as that same person and yeah, they just 0:08:01.640 --> 0:08:02.800 don't understand growth. 0:08:02.840 --> 0:08:06.240 I don't. I don't know, but I agree. I mean, hey, 0:08:06.400 --> 0:08:08.360 like all you could do is really just apologize and 0:08:08.400 --> 0:08:09.000 move one. 0:08:09.160 --> 0:08:11.760 Have you ever had an instance where like you did 0:08:11.800 --> 0:08:13.800 an interview or something and you said something he was like, 0:08:13.800 --> 0:08:14.960 oh shit, I shouldn't see it. 0:08:15.000 --> 0:08:15.640 Not an interview. 0:08:15.720 --> 0:08:17.720 It was more so back in my YouTube day. I 0:08:17.760 --> 0:08:20.320 think everybody know, like you know, everybody knows. 0:08:22.200 --> 0:08:22.520 You don't know. 0:08:22.680 --> 0:08:24.880 I know, yeah, everybody know. 0:08:27.280 --> 0:08:29.040 Everybody everybody knows. 0:08:29.240 --> 0:08:31.280 But like it was one of those things where like 0:08:31.400 --> 0:08:34.280 I just was when you're doing YouTube and you so 0:08:34.880 --> 0:08:37.559 just personable. It's like you're talking to people like. 0:08:37.480 --> 0:08:38.400 They're in the room with you. 0:08:38.600 --> 0:08:42.720 Yeah, and also like just me, you were so young, yeah, 0:08:43.400 --> 0:08:44.120 like your. 0:08:44.000 --> 0:08:45.880 Twenties early twenties. 0:08:46.080 --> 0:08:48.600 Well I'm saying right now, oh yeah, oh yeah, you 0:08:48.640 --> 0:08:49.400 were really young. 0:08:49.640 --> 0:08:54.000 Yeah, I'll be thirty soon. But yeah, I was really young. 0:08:54.040 --> 0:08:57.040 And sometimes we just say things, especially on cameras, like. 0:08:57.160 --> 0:09:00.880 I don't know, and I always say crazy stuff. We 0:09:00.880 --> 0:09:04.760 we understand, but I always say this too, like being 0:09:04.800 --> 0:09:08.880 on YouTube or just being an entertainer, anybody in this industry, 0:09:08.960 --> 0:09:11.160 we are taking a risk and we're living our lives 0:09:11.160 --> 0:09:13.319 in front of the camera, and we're being vulnerable and honest. 0:09:13.720 --> 0:09:16.240 So if you can't accept like the bad parts because 0:09:16.280 --> 0:09:19.320 y'all get to grow up and become women or men 0:09:19.400 --> 0:09:20.160 behind the camera. 0:09:20.400 --> 0:09:21.800 Aren't doing it in front of MILLI we got do 0:09:21.880 --> 0:09:24.319 it in front of everybody. Yeah, in front of everybody. 0:09:24.400 --> 0:09:27.800 So the mistakes that you made, they're just not on you, yes, forever, 0:09:28.120 --> 0:09:28.720 because y'all. 0:09:28.640 --> 0:09:31.440 Be saying some cristy and people like that. 0:09:32.160 --> 0:09:33.800 We may have said whatever, a lot of people be 0:09:33.840 --> 0:09:35.679 thinking it and then it will literally drill you. 0:09:35.840 --> 0:09:37.280 Oh yeah for sure. 0:09:37.640 --> 0:09:39.559 It's like like she said, it's just the fact that 0:09:39.600 --> 0:09:41.400 we're growing up in front of people. 0:09:41.440 --> 0:09:43.719 But when people was twenty six twenty. 0:09:43.480 --> 0:09:46.880 Three, you had controversial opinions school, nobody just know you 0:09:47.000 --> 0:09:50.079 was having a conversations with your homegirl, lot with your homeboys. 0:09:50.080 --> 0:09:52.400 It wasn't on camera for people to still go back 0:09:52.480 --> 0:09:55.199 in reference like it is with us, because unfortunately, that's 0:09:55.240 --> 0:09:56.120 the thing about the Internet. 0:09:56.240 --> 0:09:57.480 Even if you delete. 0:09:57.160 --> 0:10:01.520 Stuff, yeah somebody gonna have it on they page. 0:10:01.559 --> 0:10:03.480 I always think it's so silly though, when I see 0:10:03.520 --> 0:10:07.280 people like pulling up old tweets or something, because I'll say, 0:10:08.040 --> 0:10:09.840 my Twitter, Have y'all done that before? 0:10:10.200 --> 0:10:10.600 The best? 0:10:10.640 --> 0:10:12.800 Like I just wiped my Twitter anything, because I feel 0:10:12.800 --> 0:10:15.160 like I've been having my Twitter since like twenty eleven. 0:10:15.400 --> 0:10:17.000 So when I was in college. 0:10:17.000 --> 0:10:19.760 And I used to say some crazy stuff sometimes not 0:10:19.760 --> 0:10:21.079 nothing too crazy, but you know. 0:10:21.040 --> 0:10:25.959 You're young, you me sweeting about celebrities and stuff. You did. 0:10:26.120 --> 0:10:28.840 Yes, girl, I went through my Twitter and like any 0:10:28.880 --> 0:10:31.000 celebrity name I could think of, I searched it and 0:10:31.080 --> 0:10:32.920 deleted every tweet that I ever said. 0:10:33.480 --> 0:10:35.080 The best thing that ever happened to me was my 0:10:35.120 --> 0:10:37.680 Twitter got deleted. It did like my part, and I 0:10:37.760 --> 0:10:39.240 was so upset because I had like a lot of 0:10:39.280 --> 0:10:41.680 a big following on there at the time, and I 0:10:41.760 --> 0:10:44.040 was so upset. But now, like where the show is 0:10:44.120 --> 0:10:46.360 and how it's gone, I'm like, that was the best thing. 0:10:46.320 --> 0:10:48.640 Yeah that ever happened. It was so crazy because it 0:10:48.640 --> 0:10:50.360 got deleted because I said, O. J. Simpson got a 0:10:50.360 --> 0:10:52.840 long head, and he got and then now he not 0:10:52.880 --> 0:10:56.319 even alive. No, it wasn't. I was gonna say, like 0:10:56.640 --> 0:10:57.520 it was very. 0:10:57.320 --> 0:10:59.679 Easy for us back in the day to say things 0:10:59.720 --> 0:11:03.959 about celebrities like now being known, like you know how 0:11:04.000 --> 0:11:07.520 it is, especially me, like being like known or being 0:11:07.559 --> 0:11:11.000 in the public eye. It's different, like we a lot 0:11:11.000 --> 0:11:13.640 of things that people say about celebrities like now, like 0:11:13.720 --> 0:11:14.480 they don't know what. 0:11:14.400 --> 0:11:16.360 Goes on with those people's lives or whatever. 0:11:17.160 --> 0:11:19.240 Now I'm being able to be like on the other 0:11:19.320 --> 0:11:21.839 side too, I see, and a bunch of people talk 0:11:21.840 --> 0:11:22.679 stuff about me too. 0:11:22.840 --> 0:11:24.559 So it's like, man, y'all don't even know what I'm 0:11:24.559 --> 0:11:24.920 going through. 0:11:24.920 --> 0:11:26.960 And so that was us back in the day, like 0:11:27.360 --> 0:11:29.320 talking about we don't know like how it is on 0:11:29.360 --> 0:11:30.040 the other side. 0:11:30.120 --> 0:11:34.160 So on Twitter, I go ahead, go ahead, I was 0:11:34.160 --> 0:11:35.719 gonna say. And I feel like on Twitter they just 0:11:35.840 --> 0:11:37.680 used to be so mean to you all the time. 0:11:37.760 --> 0:11:41.800 I used to because I feel like I don't. 0:11:41.640 --> 0:11:43.400 See it as much anymore though, But it was like 0:11:43.400 --> 0:11:45.480 one point in time, I'm like, why are y'all. 0:11:45.280 --> 0:11:50.359 Always missing blame queen? 0:11:51.320 --> 0:11:53.880 How did that start? I don't know, you don't know. 0:11:53.960 --> 0:11:56.080 It's just like it's just something that happened one day. 0:11:56.160 --> 0:11:56.680 I don't know. 0:11:56.800 --> 0:11:58.400 You know that we had too as well. They do 0:11:58.480 --> 0:12:01.560 that to James Charles on TikTok. They just start like 0:12:01.800 --> 0:12:06.400 random trends of like and it's low key bully. Yeah 0:12:06.480 --> 0:12:13.439 you know it is, but nope, nope, nope, I think 0:12:13.600 --> 0:12:16.680 you know. It's so crazy because in one breath, these 0:12:16.679 --> 0:12:19.520 same people want to talk about mental health and you know, 0:12:19.960 --> 0:12:22.040 looking out for people and being nice because you never 0:12:22.080 --> 0:12:24.439 know what somebody's going through, and then at the same 0:12:24.480 --> 0:12:27.720 time it'll be something so different going on. They'll be like, 0:12:27.800 --> 0:12:33.280 oh my gosh, where's Queen Naja the Pies and they 0:12:33.320 --> 0:12:34.280 want to who they be. 0:12:34.480 --> 0:12:35.880 I feel like they did it a lot to me 0:12:35.920 --> 0:12:38.160 because I would show a lot of reaction and they 0:12:38.360 --> 0:12:40.360 like yeah when I like yeah, but when I got 0:12:40.360 --> 0:12:43.000 off of Twitter, like my app deleted right now, Like 0:12:43.520 --> 0:12:45.560 to be honest with you, once you stop showing that 0:12:45.559 --> 0:12:47.000 you're bothered, Like the joke. 0:12:46.920 --> 0:12:49.360 Is it's not funny though, Yeah, it don't hit. 0:12:49.520 --> 0:12:52.040 It's not funny at all, honestly. And Twitter is just 0:12:52.080 --> 0:12:54.240 such a mean app. We talk about that all the time. Girl, 0:12:54.240 --> 0:12:56.200 we can say the sky is blue and they're gonna 0:12:56.200 --> 0:12:57.839 be like you stupid ass bird. 0:12:59.080 --> 0:13:03.439 Oh my god, I got them this bitch and say nothing. 0:13:03.480 --> 0:13:04.440 I've just seen this today. 0:13:04.520 --> 0:13:07.600 Draa tweeted, she says one thing about a fly a 0:13:07.679 --> 0:13:08.200 cheese track. 0:13:08.280 --> 0:13:09.920 Gonna have to see me, I said. 0:13:09.920 --> 0:13:12.839 Somebody was like, Draa tweets like she just got new 0:13:12.880 --> 0:13:14.360 money Brocht. 0:13:18.160 --> 0:13:20.640 Yeah, that that is really toxic. And I'm like, I 0:13:20.720 --> 0:13:21.400 know you don't. 0:13:21.240 --> 0:13:23.840 Fly that much because to say something like that you 0:13:23.960 --> 0:13:26.559 sound crazy. You can literally buy a cheese tray in 0:13:26.640 --> 0:13:27.520 main cabin too. 0:13:28.240 --> 0:13:29.559 I was freeze. 0:13:31.760 --> 0:13:34.559 Because I was at first class, but you could buy 0:13:34.600 --> 0:13:36.560 a cheese trade Like, why would you? 0:13:36.559 --> 0:13:42.440 Girl? Everything they do Twitter is just mean. 0:13:42.679 --> 0:13:45.079 Twitter is a very very mean app out of all 0:13:45.120 --> 0:13:46.600 of them. I feel like it's the worst. 0:13:47.280 --> 0:13:49.439 Oh for a fact, it's definitely. I'm not gonna lie Twitter. 0:13:49.760 --> 0:13:51.840 At a point I had to really take a break 0:13:51.840 --> 0:13:54.800 from Twitter because and this is not now, but like 0:13:55.000 --> 0:13:59.040 Twitter one day had me in a chokehold and tears 0:13:59.080 --> 0:14:00.000 like for real, like. 0:14:00.000 --> 0:14:02.680 That stuff will really mess with you. It will. We're 0:14:02.760 --> 0:14:06.200 not really supposed to see all those people's opinions like 0:14:06.280 --> 0:14:06.680 about it. 0:14:07.080 --> 0:14:09.400 Yeah, we're not supposed to. It's not even like, that's 0:14:09.400 --> 0:14:10.280 not how it's supposed to be. 0:14:10.720 --> 0:14:13.679 That was the beauty of being an influencer. Well, I 0:14:13.720 --> 0:14:15.520 guess they didn't technically have influences. 0:14:16.040 --> 0:14:17.640 Martha Stewart, she was. 0:14:18.480 --> 0:14:21.160 The first influencer. But yeah, being a celebrity. Back in 0:14:21.200 --> 0:14:24.760 the day, people had opinions, but you couldn't see them 0:14:24.800 --> 0:14:27.600 because it was no social media. And now we're seeing 0:14:27.600 --> 0:14:30.760 people talk about us in real time. 0:14:31.600 --> 0:14:34.920 Yeah, real time. It's awful. They had a right little yeah, 0:14:35.080 --> 0:14:37.000 I mean, I. 0:14:36.960 --> 0:14:39.120 Mean, the worst thing you would get is like Joan 0:14:39.240 --> 0:14:41.360 Rivers talking about you on New Yeah, you know what 0:14:41.400 --> 0:14:43.600 I'm saying. Like, that's how you would get like people 0:14:43.640 --> 0:14:46.240 talking about you, but you never really got to hearsay 0:14:46.560 --> 0:14:50.320 of what Brenda, who lives down the street thought of you. 0:14:50.480 --> 0:14:54.040 You know what I'm saying. So it's really toxic. Brenda. 0:14:54.440 --> 0:14:56.760 I feel like the people that take the time out 0:14:56.800 --> 0:14:59.760 to write mean things like that, I feel. 0:14:59.480 --> 0:15:00.520 Like they're truly happy. 0:15:00.920 --> 0:15:04.080 I think because I think about myself, I am a 0:15:04.360 --> 0:15:06.520 like and I'm like gonna say I'm happy every day, 0:15:06.560 --> 0:15:09.920 but on the inside, like I'm just not a very 0:15:09.960 --> 0:15:10.800 miserable person. 0:15:11.040 --> 0:15:12.360 I will never go. 0:15:12.280 --> 0:15:14.760 And write even if I'm thinking something, I will never 0:15:14.800 --> 0:15:17.240 go and write something under somebody's stuff for them to see. 0:15:17.480 --> 0:15:21.400 I son't keep scrawling. I don't want to really have 0:15:21.440 --> 0:15:21.720 to write. 0:15:21.880 --> 0:15:23.320 But I feel like a lot of them do it too, 0:15:23.360 --> 0:15:25.960 for lest they want to feel validated by a bunch 0:15:25.960 --> 0:15:26.280 of people. 0:15:26.280 --> 0:15:27.680 They were at a ready to laugh it there. 0:15:29.840 --> 0:15:32.200 They want to go viral, and that's what fuels them, 0:15:32.240 --> 0:15:35.080 that's what makes them feel so important. So they have 0:15:35.200 --> 0:15:38.440 to say these mean things because, like I mean, they 0:15:38.640 --> 0:15:40.640 a lot of celebrities and known people know that we 0:15:40.760 --> 0:15:43.120 notice the negative. 0:15:42.720 --> 0:15:44.760 Stuff a little bit more. So they have to put 0:15:44.800 --> 0:15:46.480 negative things like to really stand out. 0:15:46.600 --> 0:15:49.520 Yeah, because they feel like we talked about this before. 0:15:50.000 --> 0:15:51.920 You somebody will say something negative to you and then 0:15:51.960 --> 0:15:53.560 you'll respond. They were like, oh, I didn't even think 0:15:53.560 --> 0:15:54.640 you was gonna see this what you're doing. 0:15:55.000 --> 0:15:57.960 I'm swere that happens to me so much. That happened 0:15:57.960 --> 0:15:59.720 to me. I had responded one time to a girl 0:15:59.760 --> 0:16:00.800 her m and. 0:16:00.760 --> 0:16:02.240 She was like, oh my god, let me just erase that. 0:16:02.280 --> 0:16:04.000 I'm sorry, Queenn, I love you, I just want you 0:16:04.040 --> 0:16:04.760 to make some music. 0:16:05.280 --> 0:16:08.600 But she was talking so much stuff about you call me. 0:16:08.640 --> 0:16:09.520 All types of names. 0:16:09.560 --> 0:16:14.600 I was like, that's obsessive blow key, that we're humans. 0:16:14.600 --> 0:16:16.400 I watched this documentary a long time ago. 0:16:16.440 --> 0:16:17.800 I can't think of the name of it. I'll put 0:16:17.800 --> 0:16:19.760 it in the description when I think of it. But 0:16:19.960 --> 0:16:22.800 it was talking about people who have had viral moment 0:16:23.440 --> 0:16:25.920 and celebrities and things like that. But they were saying, like, 0:16:25.920 --> 0:16:29.920 when you're a consumer of like content entertainment, you don't 0:16:30.000 --> 0:16:33.160 look at these people as people. You look at them 0:16:33.200 --> 0:16:35.680 as a theme. Just like you use your radio to 0:16:35.720 --> 0:16:39.120 sing along with music, they're using you as entertaining. We 0:16:39.160 --> 0:16:41.240 are here to make them laugh. We're not people. We 0:16:41.360 --> 0:16:44.000 are a thing to them. Yes, so they feel like, oh, 0:16:44.000 --> 0:16:45.960 I can say this, you signed up for this? Yeah, 0:16:46.080 --> 0:16:54.200 oh my god, did I sign up to be riddy? 0:16:58.040 --> 0:16:59.840 They're like, well, if you got a better life than me, 0:17:00.080 --> 0:17:02.720 then you got to take some sort of heat, you know, Like, but. 0:17:02.800 --> 0:17:06.200 No, I don't. That's just rude. But why do y'all 0:17:06.240 --> 0:17:07.480 think we're like that? Though? 0:17:07.520 --> 0:17:10.080 Because I think it is true to a certain extent. 0:17:10.800 --> 0:17:14.080 You'll respond to the like the negative thing. You gonna 0:17:14.080 --> 0:17:16.920 clap back. But then it'll be like a thousand comments 0:17:17.040 --> 0:17:19.320 like oh, you're so beautiful, You're so sweet, but then 0:17:19.359 --> 0:17:21.720 they be like your lace lifting. 0:17:21.440 --> 0:17:21.920 Oh my gosh. 0:17:24.520 --> 0:17:26.840 I have to really I have to still, like really 0:17:26.880 --> 0:17:29.080 work on it. That's a mindset. Like honestly, when I'm 0:17:29.080 --> 0:17:31.680 about to now, when I'm about to respond to someone. 0:17:31.880 --> 0:17:33.800 I'll be like, is that very superstarve me? 0:17:34.200 --> 0:17:37.840 No, it's not like is that where I'm trying to, 0:17:37.920 --> 0:17:39.679 like know, because then once you do that, it's like 0:17:39.680 --> 0:17:41.600 you're accessible, you know what I mean, And I'm trying 0:17:41.600 --> 0:17:43.640 to I don't want to be that accessible to where 0:17:43.640 --> 0:17:45.560 people's like, yep, she said she saw my comment. 0:17:45.800 --> 0:17:47.240 If you write it, I don't want you to know. 0:17:47.240 --> 0:17:49.520 If I ever saw it, you know, or they just 0:17:49.640 --> 0:17:51.880 know you're gonna respond because you do it all the time. 0:17:52.640 --> 0:17:55.560 Honestly, I've been That's something I've done for a long time. 0:17:55.560 --> 0:17:57.640 I'm not gonna lie every now and then. I'll clap back. 0:17:57.680 --> 0:18:00.120 But I always make money me too, because I like, 0:18:00.359 --> 0:18:01.919 I mean, if you're gonna get a laugh, bitch, we all, 0:18:02.320 --> 0:18:04.920 I'm gonna show up as Addie Murphy and his motherfucker. 0:18:05.320 --> 0:18:09.280 But I will say I always respond to the positive comments. 0:18:09.359 --> 0:18:11.480 Yeah that excuse me, And I'm like, I'm here to 0:18:11.560 --> 0:18:12.320 serve y'all. 0:18:12.600 --> 0:18:15.960 The people that uplift me, make me feel good, consume 0:18:16.000 --> 0:18:17.760 my content, laugh and enjoy. 0:18:18.560 --> 0:18:19.280 That's who I'm really. 0:18:19.840 --> 0:18:21.920 You gotta show appreciation for that. I've been trying to 0:18:21.960 --> 0:18:23.200 work on responding to good comments. 0:18:23.960 --> 0:18:26.080 I definitely respond to the good ones, but girl, I 0:18:26.119 --> 0:18:29.040 ain't there yet. God still working on me. I be responding, 0:18:29.040 --> 0:18:30.840 I'll be going off on people. I don't be going off. 0:18:30.920 --> 0:18:33.399 I feel like I make you, Like she said, I 0:18:33.600 --> 0:18:35.280 make funny, but I want to get to a point 0:18:35.280 --> 0:18:38.239 to where I just don't eat. I used to make 0:18:38.280 --> 0:18:41.000 it funny too, Like I used to like it would 0:18:41.040 --> 0:18:43.800 just be they were right, really long paragraphs. And if 0:18:43.800 --> 0:18:47.280 I say something just stupid and short, like that's just 0:18:47.640 --> 0:18:48.040 or I'll. 0:18:48.040 --> 0:18:50.600 I'll point out something about like I remember this girl, 0:18:50.800 --> 0:18:51.720 I shouldn't even bring. 0:18:51.600 --> 0:18:54.280 It up in her mind, don't give him no shot. 0:18:54.440 --> 0:18:57.800 But see, like even what she said yesterday with the 0:18:57.840 --> 0:19:00.760 person saying something about the cheese training, I was like, well, girl, 0:19:00.800 --> 0:19:02.320 you don't know what it's like to have new or 0:19:02.359 --> 0:19:06.679 old money. Yeah, I know that's right clat back, but 0:19:06.840 --> 0:19:09.040 like you know, so they know you're not taking it 0:19:09.080 --> 0:19:12.120 too personal. Like girl, I'm laughing at I'm not really mad. 0:19:12.119 --> 0:19:13.960 Like yeah, And I think that's what they be wanting 0:19:14.000 --> 0:19:16.600 you to feel, like they really like you really feel something, 0:19:16.640 --> 0:19:17.800 like you really really upset. 0:19:18.119 --> 0:19:19.879 You know what I don't get when men say stuff 0:19:20.000 --> 0:19:25.320 about women, you know, whats yeah, like my thing too? 0:19:25.520 --> 0:19:28.080 Is The thing that's scarier about that is like there's 0:19:28.119 --> 0:19:31.840 a man who's on the internet arguing on women under 0:19:31.920 --> 0:19:34.320 the shape room comments, talking shit, But there's somebody who 0:19:34.359 --> 0:19:36.680 is actively dating this man, laying in the bed with 0:19:36.800 --> 0:19:39.000 him every laying in the bed with him next to him, 0:19:39.080 --> 0:19:40.680 Like I'll be thinking in my head. 0:19:40.680 --> 0:19:41.639 I'm not trying to be funny. 0:19:41.640 --> 0:19:43.359 I know this sounds horrible, but when I see a 0:19:43.440 --> 0:19:46.359 man just talking about me or always in my comments, 0:19:46.400 --> 0:19:50.280 I'll be like, who is fucking yeah, like you in 0:19:50.359 --> 0:19:51.560 the trenches, baby girl. 0:19:51.960 --> 0:19:53.159 I'm not even worried about him. 0:19:53.200 --> 0:19:55.399 I'm worried about the lady who is laying next to you, 0:19:55.440 --> 0:19:56.359 if there even is one. 0:19:56.400 --> 0:19:57.919 Yeah, because why you even got time to do that? 0:19:57.960 --> 0:20:00.720 You know what I'm saying, As a man, why are 0:20:00.720 --> 0:20:03.159 you in the shape room comments talking about Oh, she 0:20:03.240 --> 0:20:07.720 looks so tacky and he's her stylists. 0:20:06.600 --> 0:20:07.800 Win in business? 0:20:08.320 --> 0:20:11.480 You know what I'm saying. Okay, so anyways, we don't 0:20:11.520 --> 0:20:12.679 move on. We're gonna play a little game. 0:20:12.760 --> 0:20:15.000 Yeah, let's play the game. But what's the game? Your 0:20:15.000 --> 0:20:17.640 eyes like Icebreak the game? But I feel like we 0:20:17.680 --> 0:20:19.680 was just chatting it up. We don't even hear the 0:20:19.720 --> 0:20:25.240 Icebreak game. Okay. 0:20:25.280 --> 0:20:29.480 So we're gonna throw in random words and phrases and 0:20:30.040 --> 0:20:32.960 we're gonna sing a quick lyric the book off the top, 0:20:33.480 --> 0:20:35.760 like a free style, you know what I'm saying. So 0:20:35.760 --> 0:20:38.600 we're gonna give everybody gonna get a word. So you 0:20:38.600 --> 0:20:43.120 want to go first, sure, okay, So I'm gonna give 0:20:43.160 --> 0:20:45.320 you a word and you have to come up with 0:20:45.359 --> 0:20:46.040 a quick bar. 0:20:46.320 --> 0:20:47.480 No, okay, I don't want to. 0:20:47.880 --> 0:20:49.560 You don't want to go first now because I can't 0:20:49.640 --> 0:20:51.199 you go first, because I can't think of one for 0:20:51.280 --> 0:20:52.160 these first words. 0:20:52.200 --> 0:20:54.800 Okay, okay, okay, I'll go first. 0:20:54.840 --> 0:20:58.560 So I'm gonna do a free style okay, and my 0:20:58.720 --> 0:21:02.000 original composition, original compas didn't know that's right? 0:21:03.600 --> 0:21:07.639 I know this right? Okay. The word is blocked. The 0:21:07.680 --> 0:21:08.720 word is blocked. 0:21:09.720 --> 0:21:13.600 That nigga blocked because he won't stop calling my phone. 0:21:13.600 --> 0:21:17.680 And this is off the top the top. Do my dance. 0:21:18.840 --> 0:21:22.160 Romance Okay, and I don't want to make no plans. 0:21:22.720 --> 0:21:27.640 Pet your hands off of me. You can what. I'm 0:21:27.640 --> 0:21:29.560 not lie you if he blocked. 0:21:30.080 --> 0:21:33.359 You know what I'm saying, because that's off top a fire. 0:21:33.680 --> 0:21:35.439 You know what I'm saying that I gotta think. You 0:21:35.440 --> 0:21:40.000 gotta think about it. I won't be doing any freestyle. Okay, okay, 0:21:40.440 --> 0:21:42.840 who want to go next? Who going next? Let's do 0:21:42.920 --> 0:21:46.160 let's give it to queens. You can sing one. 0:21:46.200 --> 0:21:48.280 Well, it's probably gonna have to be a freestyle because 0:21:48.320 --> 0:21:50.040 I can't think of no song that got this any 0:21:50.160 --> 0:21:51.800 he still live with his baby mama. 0:21:52.200 --> 0:21:55.640 Wait what I thought it was a word? Though? Give 0:21:56.160 --> 0:22:01.480 give her ms. I can think of a song off 0:22:01.480 --> 0:22:03.879 the top of my head. I went through your D 0:22:04.200 --> 0:22:06.920 and pieces. Okay, that's it. 0:22:08.600 --> 0:22:10.200 I like that too, because I did look through a 0:22:10.240 --> 0:22:15.000 nigga DM I was I got going down in the deal. 0:22:15.359 --> 0:22:18.119 No, you ain't do a song that's already made. You 0:22:18.160 --> 0:22:21.920 can't know this is supposed to be. You can say 0:22:22.119 --> 0:22:26.240 a song that's already created. I got a freestyle. We 0:22:26.280 --> 0:22:27.800 gotta make it up. Say something. 0:22:28.560 --> 0:22:32.480 You gotta be creative. D I'll give you another shot. 0:22:33.840 --> 0:22:38.320 That's right, because I love Thank you Tom. Okay, which 0:22:38.359 --> 0:22:40.600 word you're gonna do I guess you should just throw 0:22:40.640 --> 0:22:47.000 it at me. Okay, gas lighting because you're smart, not 0:22:47.359 --> 0:22:50.000 you would, Okay, Okay, okay, okay, Way, I'm gonna do it. 0:22:50.040 --> 0:22:52.560 I'm gonna do it. Okay, gas lighting. You gonna sing 0:22:52.640 --> 0:22:57.200 or you're gonna rap? Okay, I guess rap because I'm 0:22:57.200 --> 0:23:01.040 on now, Big D. Don't play with a big D. 0:23:01.119 --> 0:23:08.920 Give it to him. That glow is he this? Yes, 0:23:09.000 --> 0:23:11.560 I'm sorry, Thank you girl. 0:23:11.600 --> 0:23:15.960 It's from Fency Beauty. It's the pink high lighter. Yeah, 0:23:16.280 --> 0:23:20.080 he keeps gas lighting. In a minute, we're gonna be fighting. Yeah, 0:23:20.119 --> 0:23:23.879 he got me fucked up. I'm gonna shoot up his house, 0:23:24.840 --> 0:23:28.000 ride by his mama crib. Yeah, I'm gonna find out 0:23:28.000 --> 0:23:28.600 where you live. 0:23:33.320 --> 0:23:37.480 I ain't really gonna shoot I like flags. 0:23:40.760 --> 0:23:50.000 Let's get real, like look Queen one obviously though. 0:23:54.359 --> 0:24:00.199 Broke my heart to period. Yeah, you should have thun No. 0:24:00.280 --> 0:24:02.480 No, you're about to ask you can she come to 0:24:02.480 --> 0:24:03.040 the studio? 0:24:04.080 --> 0:24:08.000 Give it to it? Yeah, you get a real comfortable. 0:24:08.119 --> 0:24:10.600 It's never been an episode in the history of Four 0:24:10.640 --> 0:24:12.399 Minds where we've had an artist on the show and 0:24:12.520 --> 0:24:14.080 she didn't ask can she come to the studio. 0:24:14.280 --> 0:24:16.040 Oh, I'm coming to this, give you a little harm 0:24:16.440 --> 0:24:17.560 and same stage. 0:24:18.359 --> 0:24:21.680 I'm gonna give you a little vocal. It's gonna be 0:24:21.680 --> 0:24:24.560 free girl. 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We're gonna be spilling a little little tea. 0:26:32.960 --> 0:26:35.879 Oh my girl, No you didn't. 0:26:38.080 --> 0:26:40.960 God everything y'all been wanting to see, we're gonna be 0:26:40.960 --> 0:26:42.960 doing it right here on Patreon. 0:26:43.160 --> 0:26:45.000 Yes, y'all ask us for so much. 0:26:45.080 --> 0:26:48.800 Well, we've been to give it to y'all every single Monday, 0:26:48.840 --> 0:26:50.200 and it's gonna be a time. 0:26:50.560 --> 0:26:52.840 Y'all know. Poor Minds has grown into its. 0:26:52.720 --> 0:26:55.159 Own little entity when we're gonna have a lot of 0:26:55.280 --> 0:26:57.120 fun still over. 0:26:56.920 --> 0:26:58.560 Here at Poor Chronicles. 0:26:58.640 --> 0:27:02.120 So make sure y'all tune in September second, it's going down. 0:27:02.400 --> 0:27:02.720 Thanks. 0:27:10.040 --> 0:27:12.480 So for topic number one, I wanted to talk about, 0:27:12.600 --> 0:27:16.040 do you heal in public or do you feel I mean? 0:27:16.119 --> 0:27:19.960 Or do you heal in privy? Personally? I like to 0:27:20.000 --> 0:27:22.240 take my ills in privy. How y'all feel? 0:27:24.520 --> 0:27:27.440 I think it depends to be honest, I think there's 0:27:27.480 --> 0:27:30.199 certain things that I've gone through that I feel like 0:27:30.200 --> 0:27:32.479 if I talk about it publicly and I let y'all in, 0:27:33.240 --> 0:27:35.160 I think I kind of oh, not that I owe that, 0:27:35.320 --> 0:27:38.919 but if you've seen me going through something, I'm like, 0:27:39.000 --> 0:27:41.240 all open about it, I'm talking about it. I think 0:27:41.240 --> 0:27:42.960 I can at least be human and let y'all know, Hey, 0:27:43.000 --> 0:27:46.040 this is what's going on. And that's with a breakup. 0:27:46.119 --> 0:27:48.160 Like even when my mom passed away, I let y'all 0:27:48.200 --> 0:27:50.399 know what I was going through. I was very about, 0:27:50.440 --> 0:27:54.320 you know, different journeys. But I also think as women, 0:27:54.400 --> 0:27:55.840 I hate that they do this to us. 0:27:56.200 --> 0:27:58.640 Every time we said it's not to do with the man, 0:27:59.119 --> 0:28:01.920 oh hello, every time we are in our films, they're like, oh, 0:28:01.960 --> 0:28:04.240 what he did? He must have made you mad. 0:28:04.640 --> 0:28:06.919 I have other things going on in my life that 0:28:07.000 --> 0:28:09.120 stress me out that have nothing to do with the man. 0:28:09.359 --> 0:28:09.840 Yeah. 0:28:09.880 --> 0:28:12.600 So sometimes I think that is aggravating because I want 0:28:12.600 --> 0:28:14.159 to share what I'm going through, but it's like it 0:28:14.200 --> 0:28:16.399 makes me mad because I can just be like, oh 0:28:16.440 --> 0:28:18.359 my gosh, I'm so tired today with stressed But what 0:28:18.440 --> 0:28:18.719 do you do? 0:28:18.800 --> 0:28:19.040 Girl? 0:28:20.119 --> 0:28:23.800 It's not it's not always around men all the time. 0:28:24.320 --> 0:28:25.760 Issues outside of that, we have. 0:28:25.880 --> 0:28:28.919 A lot always and I will say, I feel like 0:28:28.960 --> 0:28:31.440 you're a little more vulnerable, like looking at your social 0:28:31.440 --> 0:28:33.440 media and stuff, because even when your mom passed away, 0:28:33.920 --> 0:28:38.680 you basically said it immediately. Almost remember when my dad 0:28:38.760 --> 0:28:40.720 passed away, I didn't even talk about it on the show, 0:28:40.760 --> 0:28:43.080 I think for like maybe a month or two after 0:28:43.160 --> 0:28:43.920 it happy. 0:28:44.200 --> 0:28:44.960 So I don't know. 0:28:45.080 --> 0:28:47.480 It's just I think that when you're going through stuff, 0:28:47.520 --> 0:28:50.239 people on the internet could be so mean. So I 0:28:50.280 --> 0:28:52.040 just don't even want to give them that because it's like, 0:28:52.040 --> 0:28:55.440 I'm already grieving, I'm already going through a breakup, I'm 0:28:55.480 --> 0:28:59.160 already dealing with drama. I don't want to get online, 0:28:59.160 --> 0:29:00.720 and then I'm telling y'all about it, And of course 0:29:00.760 --> 0:29:03.080 you do get the outpouring of love from some people, 0:29:03.440 --> 0:29:05.400 but then you have the people that are negative. It 0:29:05.440 --> 0:29:07.280 means they don't give a fuck about what you're going through. 0:29:07.280 --> 0:29:09.560 Are they happy that you're going through It's so I 0:29:09.600 --> 0:29:12.720 don't know. I feel like it's hard for me sometimes 0:29:12.720 --> 0:29:15.520 to decipher because I want to be vulnerable and transparent, 0:29:15.840 --> 0:29:17.560 but then people are just so me me. 0:29:18.080 --> 0:29:19.600 And then a lot of times people will come on 0:29:19.640 --> 0:29:22.760 there and pretend to hear about you, or they'll say, oh, 0:29:22.880 --> 0:29:25.320 I'm praying for you, and they're not really praying no, 0:29:25.520 --> 0:29:28.760 like for your Yeah. 0:29:27.480 --> 0:29:29.960 So how did you feel because I know, like you said, 0:29:30.000 --> 0:29:33.520 like your relationship with your ex obviously it. 0:29:33.520 --> 0:29:35.960 Was public, very very public. Yeah. 0:29:36.040 --> 0:29:39.200 Oh, going through you know, y'all split, it was just 0:29:39.240 --> 0:29:41.960 like shocking for everybody cause y'all were like relationship goals. 0:29:41.720 --> 0:29:42.200 At one point. 0:29:42.280 --> 0:29:44.880 Yeah, everybody was looking at y'all like, oh my gosh, 0:29:44.920 --> 0:29:45.400 I want that. 0:29:45.480 --> 0:29:48.120 I want that. So talk about like how cause you 0:29:48.160 --> 0:29:48.600 were so. 0:29:48.880 --> 0:29:51.400 Young going through that, and you were a child, like 0:29:52.120 --> 0:29:53.960 it was stuff that you were going through at that 0:29:54.080 --> 0:29:56.600 age that I'm thirty five I can imagine going through 0:29:56.640 --> 0:29:58.880 at this age. Yeah, so how did you handle that? Like, 0:29:58.920 --> 0:29:59.959 how did you get through that? 0:30:00.440 --> 0:30:03.040 How did I get through it? Because it was so public? 0:30:05.080 --> 0:30:08.960 Honestly, man, Yeah, I didn't want a lot of things 0:30:09.000 --> 0:30:12.920 to be public, but when guys don't care, they'll do 0:30:12.960 --> 0:30:15.680 things publicly to embarrass you, and you have no choice 0:30:15.720 --> 0:30:17.240 but to like face it publicly. 0:30:19.960 --> 0:30:20.960 How did I get through it? 0:30:21.280 --> 0:30:25.239 I'm the kind of person where I usually don't like 0:30:25.320 --> 0:30:26.600 get I don't have to. 0:30:26.760 --> 0:30:30.280 Well, I only have one bad breakup obviously. So if 0:30:30.320 --> 0:30:33.320 I'm I don't have to get. 0:30:33.160 --> 0:30:35.520 Through it after the breakup, because I already got through 0:30:35.520 --> 0:30:36.320 it during the breakup. 0:30:36.520 --> 0:30:38.720 I leave mentally before I actually leave. 0:30:39.440 --> 0:30:42.640 So yeah, I'm the kind of person that some people, 0:30:42.680 --> 0:30:44.959 some women will like, you know, leave and then come 0:30:45.000 --> 0:30:47.000 back and leave and go. I'm the kind of person 0:30:47.080 --> 0:30:50.800 I'm just gonna stay until I don't like because once yeah, 0:30:50.840 --> 0:30:53.000 because once I leave, Like so I didn't really have 0:30:53.080 --> 0:30:56.240 to Yeah, I don't really, I didn't really have to 0:30:56.280 --> 0:30:59.240 heal that much. Like afterwards, I was doing all my 0:30:59.280 --> 0:31:01.760 healing while I was like going through it. No, I'm 0:31:01.760 --> 0:31:04.280 not going to see her, lie. I still I feel 0:31:04.280 --> 0:31:07.520 like because after that, you know, I ended up in 0:31:07.600 --> 0:31:15.320 another relationship. It's really quick, so I'm actually still healing, 0:31:17.120 --> 0:31:19.280 not just from that relationship, but healing as a woman. 0:31:19.360 --> 0:31:21.400 We got like, like you said, everything is not about 0:31:21.440 --> 0:31:24.400 a man. There's like childhood traumas, there's like yeah, there's 0:31:24.440 --> 0:31:26.480 like so just trying to heal as a woman in 0:31:26.520 --> 0:31:29.040 general while being in a relationship. You know what I'm saying, 0:31:29.680 --> 0:31:32.560 It's like an everyday process. I don't think anyone ever 0:31:32.640 --> 0:31:33.440 completely heals. 0:31:33.760 --> 0:31:38.040 Yeah, you're constantly growing, You're constantly evolving, and especially if 0:31:38.080 --> 0:31:40.960 you're somebody who believes in going to therapy, I feel 0:31:40.960 --> 0:31:42.000 like going to therapy or. 0:31:41.920 --> 0:31:44.680 Bring up all of those hills or bold stuff that. 0:31:44.680 --> 0:31:48.880 You know was really trauma that you had, Right, it is, 0:31:48.920 --> 0:31:50.160 it's constantly a process. 0:31:50.240 --> 0:31:52.360 And then it's like when you're trying to heal, because 0:31:52.400 --> 0:31:54.600 like you said, now, it's like you're probably still healing 0:31:54.640 --> 0:31:58.440 and still learning things about yourself. How does that feel too, 0:31:58.600 --> 0:32:02.719 because I think with it's like an average person healing 0:32:03.600 --> 0:32:06.600 with a normal like person with like a normal job. 0:32:06.640 --> 0:32:09.200 I guess say, we don't necessarily have to see our 0:32:09.240 --> 0:32:10.240 exes or hear what. 0:32:10.160 --> 0:32:12.560 They think about us or they kind of poking at us. 0:32:12.680 --> 0:32:17.680 Yeah, he be kind of messing with you a little bit. Yeah, yeah, 0:32:17.720 --> 0:32:19.840 he always like saying your name or saying he wants 0:32:19.880 --> 0:32:21.760 you back, or be like, oh, come home, and you know, 0:32:21.880 --> 0:32:24.560 doing kind of funny things like that. Whether it's genuine 0:32:24.600 --> 0:32:27.560 or not, it's more so for a reaction. So how 0:32:27.680 --> 0:32:30.400 is that because you know, you're actively trying to heal 0:32:30.760 --> 0:32:33.920 have a healthy co parenting relationship, but then also having 0:32:33.920 --> 0:32:34.920 to deal with the antics. 0:32:36.040 --> 0:32:39.800 I'm not like, I don't know, I don't take him serious. 0:32:40.000 --> 0:32:42.480 Yeah, I don't take him serious at all. 0:32:43.160 --> 0:32:46.000 The only thing I worry about is my son, right, 0:32:46.160 --> 0:32:48.600 that's the only thing I will It don't really bother me, like. 0:32:48.600 --> 0:32:51.880 Honestly, like you know, he on there because he gotta 0:32:51.920 --> 0:32:54.000 do that. Yeah, yeah, you know. 0:32:54.320 --> 0:32:56.680 Yeah, it's like I don't know, it's just kind of 0:32:56.760 --> 0:32:59.640 you know how like well, I don't know if are 0:32:59.680 --> 0:33:01.280 you guys you're not parents. 0:33:01.080 --> 0:33:04.040 Yet, no, no, but like as a mom, you get 0:33:04.160 --> 0:33:04.520 used to. 0:33:04.480 --> 0:33:07.320 A baby crying and then it's just like you don't 0:33:07.360 --> 0:33:09.560 hear it. Sometimes you just blurt out that's the same thing. 0:33:10.240 --> 0:33:14.520 I'm just you know. But I'm not gonna say that 0:33:14.800 --> 0:33:17.320 I'm a I'm a very like silent sniper. 0:33:17.640 --> 0:33:18.400 Yeah. 0:33:18.440 --> 0:33:20.440 So I'm not gonna like, I'm never gonna tell my 0:33:20.520 --> 0:33:23.960 plans or anything, but I got something. 0:33:25.680 --> 0:33:26.239 I'm not gonna lie. 0:33:28.520 --> 0:33:31.240 Side note because I remember when that whole breakup, which 0:33:31.320 --> 0:33:33.560 y'all happened, because look, I being everybody busy, y'all know me. 0:33:33.640 --> 0:33:35.360 I live chronically online. 0:33:35.720 --> 0:33:38.760 But I remember seeing a picture of you and you 0:33:38.800 --> 0:33:40.840 were like on the top of the Capitol One Records 0:33:40.840 --> 0:33:44.240 building was right when you signed your DAL. It's something 0:33:44.280 --> 0:33:46.920 about a woman going through a breakup in rough times 0:33:46.920 --> 0:33:48.160 and just coming out on top. 0:33:48.320 --> 0:33:50.720 Yes, And I just remember just clapping and being so 0:33:51.080 --> 0:33:51.680 happy for you. 0:33:52.840 --> 0:33:55.160 A lot of breakups that break people and they don't 0:33:55.160 --> 0:33:57.400 get through it and they don't get on the other side. 0:33:57.560 --> 0:33:59.760 So I just remember seeing that like announcement that you 0:33:59.840 --> 0:34:02.040 made doing like a drone picture or something. It was 0:34:02.080 --> 0:34:04.040 like that you had announced and I was just like, 0:34:04.080 --> 0:34:05.720 oh my god, I'm so happy for her. 0:34:05.800 --> 0:34:10.000 And that's another thing too, I was gonna say, because 0:34:10.000 --> 0:34:12.200 the question was what do you hear do you he'll 0:34:12.280 --> 0:34:15.960 privately publicly I haven't outlet and that's my music, so 0:34:16.000 --> 0:34:19.160 you're gonna hear it in my music. But sometimes you 0:34:19.200 --> 0:34:22.360 won't because like I'll just be writing relatable stuff, but 0:34:22.560 --> 0:34:26.400 like the music for me being able to make it 0:34:26.440 --> 0:34:30.000 into something so beautiful, and then I can watch people 0:34:30.160 --> 0:34:33.440 also like hell too, while they're going through their stuff. 0:34:33.440 --> 0:34:34.600 It's like it's so beautiful. 0:34:34.719 --> 0:34:35.120 Yeah. 0:34:36.200 --> 0:34:39.960 Sometimes I'm sorry. This this piece ring is just she 0:34:40.080 --> 0:34:41.800 was over that talk about my mom and I'm. 0:34:41.680 --> 0:34:50.600 Like, girl, we don't all the tie EXI what we 0:34:50.680 --> 0:34:53.560 drink because we ain't even asked. 0:34:54.719 --> 0:34:57.040 This is in honor of our girl queen over here. 0:34:57.160 --> 0:35:00.560 This is called the good girl. All right, this we 0:35:00.600 --> 0:35:03.080 do have a mocktail for her as as mine. You 0:35:03.120 --> 0:35:05.000 can add any spirit of choice if you like. Some 0:35:05.120 --> 0:35:07.400 rum will go really really nice, or even some tequila 0:35:07.440 --> 0:35:09.839 for this. As we're approaching the summer. So this one 0:35:09.880 --> 0:35:12.680 has some passion fruit. We have some peach puree, a 0:35:12.680 --> 0:35:15.240 little bit of lime juice, and some pineapple and mango 0:35:15.400 --> 0:35:17.720 in it. And then we topped hers with a sparkling 0:35:17.760 --> 0:35:20.719 guava and we topped Drea's with a sparkling rosette. So 0:35:20.719 --> 0:35:23.399 it's giving us a nice spritzy, little kind of. 0:35:23.320 --> 0:35:25.759 Taste to it. And then what they're eating on are 0:35:25.760 --> 0:35:26.319 snacking on. 0:35:26.719 --> 0:35:29.600 I garnished it with two pineapple fronds and then some 0:35:29.719 --> 0:35:33.160 candied peach ring So just kind of nostalgic throwing delicious. 0:35:36.719 --> 0:35:42.239 Here's love, Thank you, thank you. This is delicious. 0:35:42.440 --> 0:35:44.320 Yeah. So going back to what you were saying, what 0:35:45.200 --> 0:35:49.360 you were saying between you were answering, Yeah, I was 0:35:49.360 --> 0:35:52.840 like this mic mocked because grand was bringing out my 0:35:52.840 --> 0:35:53.440 mom and I'm like. 0:35:55.040 --> 0:36:01.000 And I was finish, what's up? 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That's ready. 0:37:47.480 --> 0:37:50.520 Yeah, I'm draining a call and I'm LEXP and together 0:37:50.600 --> 0:37:54.759 we are travel queens from Charleston to the streets of Cardina. 0:37:54.880 --> 0:37:59.680 We're eating good, drinking good. 0:38:00.520 --> 0:38:04.319 And experiencing the beauty of different cultures. Do it take 0:38:04.400 --> 0:38:07.520 me to incredible destinations with a special focus on the 0:38:07.560 --> 0:38:12.720 Black experience to queens, One glow, endless possibility Travel Queens 0:38:12.960 --> 0:38:16.360 Serious premiere Wednesday, April twenty thirty eight. Answering the question 0:38:16.400 --> 0:38:18.960 about healing probably and healing privately, and you're talking about 0:38:18.960 --> 0:38:20.879 how you give it through your music with some things 0:38:20.880 --> 0:38:21.360 you keep. 0:38:21.239 --> 0:38:25.239 You yes, yes, relatable for people to heal. Yeah, your music. Yes. 0:38:25.760 --> 0:38:28.799 I've had people and this is so crazy, like I 0:38:28.800 --> 0:38:31.600 can't believe it. Sometimes people will literally write me and 0:38:31.640 --> 0:38:35.400 be like, Queen, you literally your music, your music stopped 0:38:35.440 --> 0:38:38.360 me from committing suicide, or your music really got me 0:38:38.440 --> 0:38:41.000 through so many hard things like this breakup, and I 0:38:41.080 --> 0:38:44.160 was just I'm like, how did my music, how did 0:38:44.280 --> 0:38:46.279 my story get you through that? And that's why I 0:38:46.400 --> 0:38:49.240 also like, I'm gonna take to God. God be putting 0:38:49.280 --> 0:38:50.480 us through things some well. 0:38:50.760 --> 0:38:53.680 To be a vessel, Yeah, to be a vessel. 0:38:53.840 --> 0:38:56.640 Our struggle is not always just for us, but it's 0:38:56.640 --> 0:38:59.399 for other people to like to see that you can 0:38:59.560 --> 0:39:01.040 get through too, Yeah for sure. 0:39:01.280 --> 0:39:03.520 So yeah, that just makes me ultimately happy. 0:39:03.640 --> 0:39:07.520 I don't regret anything. I have no regrets about nothing. 0:39:07.680 --> 0:39:10.000 Yeah, And you know that's why I was saying earlier 0:39:10.040 --> 0:39:13.920 like I struggle with sometimes wanting to be vulnerable and 0:39:13.960 --> 0:39:16.360 then not because people can be so mean on the Internet. 0:39:16.360 --> 0:39:18.120 But like even with us, I feel the same way. 0:39:18.160 --> 0:39:20.000 People write us all the time and they're just like, 0:39:20.400 --> 0:39:24.160 you know, Lick's mom passed away, my dad passed away. 0:39:24.160 --> 0:39:27.239 In the way that y'all kept recording poor minds every week, 0:39:27.320 --> 0:39:31.160 kept hussling, kept grinding, it just showed me nothing last forever. 0:39:31.320 --> 0:39:33.440 And y'all really motivated me to keep going on this 0:39:33.520 --> 0:39:36.560 my phone. Okay, I say, y'all really motivated me to 0:39:36.680 --> 0:39:39.239 keep going and push through. And it just let me know, 0:39:39.400 --> 0:39:41.759 like I lost my parents, who I can get through it. 0:39:42.320 --> 0:39:43.920 I'm sorry about that too, thank you. 0:39:44.239 --> 0:39:46.960 And I think that's something that I can cause a 0:39:46.960 --> 0:39:48.320 lot of times, like people look at us and be like, 0:39:48.360 --> 0:39:50.400 oh my god, how can you do it without your parents? 0:39:50.400 --> 0:39:53.440 But at the same time, like I look at like 0:39:53.520 --> 0:39:55.680 you being a mother, a young. 0:39:55.520 --> 0:40:00.320 Mother, and I'm just like, I, oh my god. Sorry. 0:40:00.400 --> 0:40:03.280 The person who was facetiming her was just crazy. I 0:40:03.320 --> 0:40:06.759 can see that. I don't think, Okay, fully nice. 0:40:06.560 --> 0:40:12.200 Okay, anyway, sorry, what was I saying, Oh, you mean 0:40:12.280 --> 0:40:13.040 a young mother? 0:40:13.239 --> 0:40:16.480 Because like I said, I don't have children. Yeah, And 0:40:17.120 --> 0:40:19.680 I'm not gonna lie if I'm being honest, like I 0:40:19.719 --> 0:40:20.560 haven't had children yet. 0:40:20.600 --> 0:40:21.360 Because I'm selfish and. 0:40:21.360 --> 0:40:24.080 I'm not ready to okay period, Yeah, I'm just not 0:40:24.200 --> 0:40:25.719 ready to be a mother. I'm not ready to give 0:40:25.800 --> 0:40:27.600 up my time in the morning. Yeah, I'm not ready 0:40:27.640 --> 0:40:30.279 to give up a lot of words, my money. I'm 0:40:30.320 --> 0:40:31.920 not ready to give up a lot of my time. 0:40:32.280 --> 0:40:35.880 I'm just I want. I'm experiencing life right now still. 0:40:36.080 --> 0:40:39.319 So when I see people you know who have you know, 0:40:39.400 --> 0:40:43.400 gotten married or having kids and you're going through all 0:40:43.440 --> 0:40:45.560 of this and you're still being a mother, I commend 0:40:45.640 --> 0:40:47.800 you for that, and I'm like, I couldn't. 0:40:47.840 --> 0:40:48.200 I couldn't. 0:40:48.400 --> 0:40:51.440 Guess what though, I'm doing it backwards because I started 0:40:51.480 --> 0:40:53.520 young having kids and now I literally have to go 0:40:53.560 --> 0:40:56.720 back to finding myself, like while still trying to navigate 0:40:56.800 --> 0:41:00.720 being the best mom I could be and like maybe 0:41:00.760 --> 0:41:02.480 becoming a wife someday, you know what I'm saying. So 0:41:02.520 --> 0:41:05.000 like still trying to really find myself and like grow 0:41:05.080 --> 0:41:08.439 and see what I like, I'm doing everything backwards. Yeah, 0:41:08.480 --> 0:41:10.640 So now I'm like, man, do I want more kids? 0:41:10.640 --> 0:41:13.160 Like you know, I'm being questioned myself. I've always said, 0:41:13.160 --> 0:41:15.640 like I really really want a girl, but honestly, like. 0:41:15.719 --> 0:41:19.080 I would, I came to terms that like, thank you. 0:41:19.400 --> 0:41:21.080 I came to terms of like I think I would 0:41:21.080 --> 0:41:23.120 be okay if I didn't have any more kids, if 0:41:23.960 --> 0:41:26.239 if my husband ever was like, you know, I want 0:41:26.280 --> 0:41:29.480 another child, then okay bye, right, you know I'll get 0:41:29.600 --> 0:41:31.480 but I want that to be like in my mid thirties. 0:41:31.600 --> 0:41:34.160 Okay, Yeah, I need a little bit of myself. 0:41:34.320 --> 0:41:37.080 Yeah, I gotta. Yeah, I got to establish myself more. 0:41:37.080 --> 0:41:39.880 I gotta put this album out. I gotta do some acting. 0:41:40.080 --> 0:41:42.840 I gotta. I got it planned. Yeah. 0:41:42.880 --> 0:41:44.920 So how do you feel too, like, cause I know 0:41:44.960 --> 0:41:48.200 you see the comments that people have about your relationship 0:41:48.239 --> 0:41:51.279 now and they're like, okay, y'all should be married by now, 0:41:51.480 --> 0:41:54.120 and people trying to put you on a timeline. Yeah, 0:41:54.239 --> 0:41:56.799 they don't realize like you said, you're not even thirty yet. Yeah, 0:41:56.880 --> 0:41:59.799 people are putting you on what they think and they're 0:42:00.080 --> 0:42:03.319 timeline is and like you said, y'all don't know these 0:42:03.360 --> 0:42:04.320 people's relationship. 0:42:05.200 --> 0:42:08.520 Y'all don't know what's going on. So how does that 0:42:08.600 --> 0:42:10.520 get to you A little bit? No, not anymore. 0:42:10.680 --> 0:42:14.080 So I will take accountability and say the reason why 0:42:14.120 --> 0:42:17.240 they even say that is because of me in the past, 0:42:17.280 --> 0:42:18.960 when I was so like and not to say, I'm 0:42:18.960 --> 0:42:20.960 not in love now, but when you're first in that relationship, 0:42:21.040 --> 0:42:23.440 you're so head over heels in the first few years. 0:42:23.719 --> 0:42:26.000 It's like I don't know. Like I put a lot 0:42:26.000 --> 0:42:27.920 of things about marriage in my songs. I talked a 0:42:27.920 --> 0:42:31.040 lot about marriage and interviews, so people just like she wants. 0:42:30.880 --> 0:42:33.479 Marriage, give it to her, you don't. But I had to. 0:42:33.360 --> 0:42:35.320 Sit back and think, like, hold on, wait a minute, 0:42:36.320 --> 0:42:38.520 I still need some time for myself, because once you 0:42:38.600 --> 0:42:41.960 become a wife, that's a whole nothing like you're that's 0:42:42.000 --> 0:42:44.920 a duty, like just like as a mom, that's a duty. 0:42:45.040 --> 0:42:47.880 I had to step back and just I just realized 0:42:47.880 --> 0:42:51.640 this maybe a couple of years ago, like I can't wait. 0:42:52.160 --> 0:42:53.280 I actually can wait. 0:42:53.440 --> 0:42:57.080 Actually, like no, seriously, because it's not like a rush thing. 0:42:57.120 --> 0:42:59.480 So I think people are taking a lot of old 0:42:59.520 --> 0:43:00.880 clips and things that I've said. 0:43:01.440 --> 0:43:02.719 I put my own foot in my mouth. 0:43:02.800 --> 0:43:05.320 I'm the reason why they do that. You know what 0:43:05.360 --> 0:43:08.359 I'm saying, But they don't know, like I said, the 0:43:08.400 --> 0:43:10.960 growth that has happened like in my in my mind 0:43:11.120 --> 0:43:14.000 and like you know, just really doing therapy and like 0:43:14.280 --> 0:43:16.319 being asked those questions like well are you ready to 0:43:16.320 --> 0:43:18.240 be a what is he ready to be a husband, 0:43:18.520 --> 0:43:21.640 That's what is he ready to be? Like, do I 0:43:21.680 --> 0:43:23.600 want to get married to somebody right now who's not 0:43:23.680 --> 0:43:25.319 ready to be a husand and I'm not saying it's not, 0:43:25.360 --> 0:43:29.160 but we are honestly still working on ourselves. 0:43:30.160 --> 0:43:31.160 Y'all need to be. 0:43:33.120 --> 0:43:37.240 Yeah, like you want to get married, but I feel 0:43:37.280 --> 0:43:40.440 like when it comes to me in you want a 0:43:40.480 --> 0:43:42.920 man to propose, when he's real, he's. 0:43:42.800 --> 0:43:47.200 Ready, you don't want it. Yeah, I don't feel like, 0:43:47.280 --> 0:43:49.680 oh she might leave me. I don't do it. 0:43:49.680 --> 0:43:51.920 It needs to be when he's ready, because that's when 0:43:51.920 --> 0:43:53.400 you're gonna get the best version of him. 0:43:54.280 --> 0:43:56.320 Yes, and I and like who wants to get married? 0:43:56.760 --> 0:43:58.480 And then it's just like dang. 0:43:58.640 --> 0:44:00.759 But people, I got the right, I got the ring, 0:44:00.840 --> 0:44:05.600 but now it's like, no, no, I'd rather I think Yeah, 0:44:05.640 --> 0:44:06.319 I think I'm okay. 0:44:06.560 --> 0:44:08.399 Yeah, like honestly, when the time is right. 0:44:08.600 --> 0:44:11.239 Yeah, And like just even talking to you, obviously this 0:44:11.280 --> 0:44:12.840 is the first time we met, but just like the 0:44:12.880 --> 0:44:14.040 way you carry yourself. 0:44:14.239 --> 0:44:15.719 I can tell I. 0:44:15.600 --> 0:44:18.759 Can read people, but you're so like I can tell 0:44:18.920 --> 0:44:21.640 like the growth and just cause like I said, I 0:44:21.719 --> 0:44:24.279 used to follow you on YouTube and seeing like take 0:44:24.440 --> 0:44:27.520 your time because them people, they don't even have what 0:44:27.560 --> 0:44:31.920 they want. Yeah, that's so the feeding and just I 0:44:31.960 --> 0:44:33.279 don't get I don't mean to get church. 0:44:33.400 --> 0:44:35.520 Y'all know I'm in my church and she don't have 0:44:35.600 --> 0:44:37.279 a shot. Yeah, I have my shot. 0:44:37.400 --> 0:44:39.360 So I'm gonna tell y'all. So Sunday when I was 0:44:39.360 --> 0:44:41.880 at church, my pastor shout out to Pastor Mo. He 0:44:42.000 --> 0:44:44.040 was talking about his marriage and he was talking about 0:44:44.040 --> 0:44:45.759 his wife, and he was talking about I know y'all 0:44:45.760 --> 0:44:48.360 hate this word, but how his wife. You know, she 0:44:48.520 --> 0:44:52.759 follows the Bible obviously, and she submits the word. But 0:44:52.840 --> 0:44:56.160 she submit to God, which you know, she submitted to 0:44:56.200 --> 0:44:58.839 her husband to trust him and to be able to, 0:44:58.920 --> 0:45:01.440 you know, take that back seat and trust him and 0:45:01.480 --> 0:45:03.880 not have the responsibility of a lot of things. And 0:45:04.080 --> 0:45:08.080 sometimes that takes a lot of not sometimes that takes 0:45:08.080 --> 0:45:08.400 a lot of it. 0:45:08.560 --> 0:45:08.919 It does. 0:45:09.280 --> 0:45:12.360 That takes a lot of trust in your partner. You 0:45:12.520 --> 0:45:15.759 have to be able to go to sleep when let 0:45:15.800 --> 0:45:18.000 somebody drive you and know they're not going to crash 0:45:18.040 --> 0:45:19.839 that carn you know what I'm saying now. 0:45:19.880 --> 0:45:21.520 And he has to be led by God, has to 0:45:21.560 --> 0:45:22.359 be led by God. 0:45:22.440 --> 0:45:24.440 You can't you that's another thing, like a lot of 0:45:24.440 --> 0:45:27.120 people be like, you know, well submit and things like that. 0:45:27.840 --> 0:45:29.719 The leader of the house is supposed to be led 0:45:29.719 --> 0:45:32.840 by God. That's how it's God the husband and ye 0:45:33.719 --> 0:45:35.799 that's a proper So if you know. And I'm on 0:45:35.840 --> 0:45:37.719 my journey too, I'm on my path with God too, 0:45:37.800 --> 0:45:40.600 just trying to really get close, trying to unlearn a 0:45:40.600 --> 0:45:45.480 lot of religiosity. I grew up very religious, and now 0:45:45.719 --> 0:45:47.960 with me it is more so about the relationship with God. 0:45:48.200 --> 0:45:50.040 And I'm not saying like, oh, yeah, well, I could 0:45:50.080 --> 0:45:53.200 just do whatever and still no, but it's like I 0:45:53.320 --> 0:45:56.360 have to like really be cultivated and everything like with 0:45:56.440 --> 0:45:58.319 God and figure out what he wants from me. Because 0:45:58.320 --> 0:45:59.680 he even want me to be married right now. 0:46:00.600 --> 0:46:01.799 Yeah, so he knows. 0:46:01.960 --> 0:46:03.200 Yeah, And that's why I said, I think you have 0:46:03.280 --> 0:46:06.560 to figure things out on your timeline. And at the 0:46:06.640 --> 0:46:07.960 end of day, we only have one person that we 0:46:08.000 --> 0:46:09.040 have to answer to when that's. 0:46:08.960 --> 0:46:12.880 Him, So I, like I said, and that's no race. 0:46:13.040 --> 0:46:14.240 When it is the life. 0:46:14.400 --> 0:46:17.880 It's like everything is gonna happen when it's supposed to happen, 0:46:18.480 --> 0:46:20.920 when it's supposed to the way it's supposed to, not 0:46:21.000 --> 0:46:21.880 a minute earlier. 0:46:21.920 --> 0:46:23.520 Than God's plan. He's gonna happen. 0:46:23.560 --> 0:46:26.080 If you're supposed to get married, especially even to a 0:46:26.080 --> 0:46:27.800 specific person, it's gonna happen. 0:46:27.920 --> 0:46:29.560 Yeah, And you don't always know. 0:46:29.840 --> 0:46:32.319 I guess, like when I would talk about my relationships 0:46:32.360 --> 0:46:33.759 and how happy I was, and I'd be like, Ooh, 0:46:33.800 --> 0:46:35.919 I don't want to talk about the breakup, but yeah, 0:46:36.080 --> 0:46:40.719 it happens, y'all. Like nobody's life is perfect. There's no 0:46:40.840 --> 0:46:42.720 such thing as a perfect love story. 0:46:43.160 --> 0:46:43.799 You know what I'm saying. 0:46:43.800 --> 0:46:45.600 And one thing I can appreciate about me is I'm 0:46:45.600 --> 0:46:46.600 gonna keep it real with y'all. 0:46:47.160 --> 0:46:48.080 I don't give a damn. 0:46:48.160 --> 0:46:50.839 Y'all not feinna embarrass me because you know why I 0:46:50.920 --> 0:46:53.359 am where I want to be right now in this moment. 0:46:53.400 --> 0:46:55.080 I'm here because God allowed me to. 0:46:55.719 --> 0:46:58.000 I'm able to share my story and I'm able to 0:46:58.800 --> 0:47:02.279 express myself. I'm able to have an outlet to I 0:47:02.360 --> 0:47:04.160 always say this, lex P went through that, so you 0:47:04.160 --> 0:47:05.960 ain't got to go through that. I let y'all know 0:47:06.000 --> 0:47:08.640 my mistakes. I'm growing and I'm figuring it out with y'all. 0:47:09.040 --> 0:47:11.480 You know what I'm saying. So I feel like if 0:47:11.520 --> 0:47:15.040 we were more, if we gave each other more grace man, 0:47:15.600 --> 0:47:17.840 That'll never happen, you know what I'm saying, Like you people, 0:47:17.920 --> 0:47:20.400 grace man, they act like they ain't be'll act like 0:47:20.440 --> 0:47:21.759 y'all ain't never been this stuff. 0:47:21.480 --> 0:47:22.919 That they be pointing people out. 0:47:22.960 --> 0:47:24.960 They go through a like you said, behind closes door, 0:47:25.400 --> 0:47:27.279 taking a man back and everything for doing a bunch 0:47:27.320 --> 0:47:29.480 of stuff. And then you'll be called dumb for doing it. 0:47:29.560 --> 0:47:34.120 Okay in public, but come on, man, they so street. 0:47:33.840 --> 0:47:36.879 It's it is. 0:47:37.680 --> 0:47:40.040 Look, I know we was preaching my baby, I'm the 0:47:40.080 --> 0:47:43.080 exit the church room. All right, Okay, So we're gonna 0:47:43.080 --> 0:47:46.239 get into the second topic. You know, were getting chatty girl. 0:47:46.239 --> 0:47:51.200 I look, this is the girl just flow flowing, you know, bowing. 0:47:51.360 --> 0:47:53.920 That's why I love the girl gets I'll just be 0:47:53.920 --> 0:47:55.319 feeling so relaxed with the men. 0:47:55.400 --> 0:47:59.840 I'd be like what you finished say, preparing myself to 0:48:00.280 --> 0:48:03.640 find you. I just seen y'all last one. But Julian, 0:48:04.120 --> 0:48:05.719 yeah beautiful y'all y'all. 0:48:06.600 --> 0:48:12.520 Yeah, Okay, so topic too. 0:48:13.320 --> 0:48:18.080 Can you be soft and still be taken seriously? Now? 0:48:18.719 --> 0:48:21.200 I can definitely relate to this topic because I always 0:48:21.200 --> 0:48:21.600 say this. 0:48:21.880 --> 0:48:22.879 I am a bitch, but. 0:48:22.840 --> 0:48:25.560 I have the nerve to be sensitive, and you know, 0:48:25.760 --> 0:48:27.800 a lot of times I'm very very soft. 0:48:27.840 --> 0:48:28.800 I have a soft heart. 0:48:28.920 --> 0:48:30.520 I'm like, oh, I don't want to let this person, 0:48:30.560 --> 0:48:32.360 I don't want to do this, and I'm but I'm like, 0:48:32.400 --> 0:48:33.840 at the same time, I have to run a business. 0:48:33.840 --> 0:48:35.160 I got to be a boss. You know, you have 0:48:35.239 --> 0:48:37.000 to be a mother. You know, you have to run 0:48:37.040 --> 0:48:39.600 your business. You have to run you know, your household 0:48:39.600 --> 0:48:42.120 and things like that. So I want to know, like, 0:48:42.320 --> 0:48:45.280 do y'all feel pressure to like be hard or guarded, 0:48:45.360 --> 0:48:49.000 especially as like women navigating you know yourself in this 0:48:49.120 --> 0:48:51.719 business because we are in like the entertainment injury, but 0:48:51.800 --> 0:48:55.200 you in the music, yeah, which is a whole nother 0:48:55.320 --> 0:48:59.200 beat it is. So you know, you title yourself. You 0:48:59.239 --> 0:49:02.719 know it's a good girl. You are soft, soft weed? Yes, 0:49:02.920 --> 0:49:06.359 your friendly. So how do you carry yourself as you know, 0:49:06.719 --> 0:49:09.440 queen the business woman, but also being true to who 0:49:09.440 --> 0:49:11.240 you are as being like a soft, nice woman. 0:49:11.480 --> 0:49:11.920 A lot of. 0:49:11.920 --> 0:49:16.840 Trial and error, you know, I'm actually just now stepping 0:49:16.880 --> 0:49:22.880 into more of the boss era. And I've always been 0:49:22.920 --> 0:49:25.640 a very like humble person. So I used to think, 0:49:25.719 --> 0:49:27.839 like I don't want to say boss because I want 0:49:27.840 --> 0:49:31.600 to feel like I'm being too uppity or whatever. But 0:49:33.800 --> 0:49:36.279 I had, like it's very heartbreaking sometimes when you got 0:49:36.280 --> 0:49:39.520 to like take the lead in certain things. 0:49:40.080 --> 0:49:41.040 It's a learning journey. 0:49:41.040 --> 0:49:44.840 I'm not gonna say I'm all the way there yet. Yeah, 0:49:45.080 --> 0:49:49.439 Like I'm just I think it comes with just really 0:49:49.520 --> 0:49:50.879 saying how you feel. 0:49:52.480 --> 0:49:55.000 Without holding back. Yes, without holding back. 0:49:55.280 --> 0:49:57.560 That was my problem, like holding ba because I don't 0:49:57.560 --> 0:49:59.680 want hurt people's feelings. And like you said, in the business, 0:50:00.200 --> 0:50:03.360 you can't worry about feelings, like you can't take things personal. 0:50:03.800 --> 0:50:06.359 So I'm still actively learning, Okay, Like. 0:50:07.920 --> 0:50:10.960 You know, I can't just I can't just not do 0:50:11.120 --> 0:50:14.000 something because I feel like I'm talking in circles. 0:50:14.200 --> 0:50:15.880 Was like, I just can'tnot do something because don't want 0:50:15.880 --> 0:50:17.000 to hurt someone's feelings, you know. 0:50:17.200 --> 0:50:20.320 Yeah, yeah, yeah, you have to learn it's not personal, 0:50:20.360 --> 0:50:23.480 it's business. I think with me, I say this, I've 0:50:23.520 --> 0:50:26.560 said this in the past. I take the Nicki Minaj 0:50:26.640 --> 0:50:27.600 approach to business. 0:50:28.239 --> 0:50:28.600 I do. 0:50:29.480 --> 0:50:32.120 I seen a documentary on Nicki Minaj, probably when I 0:50:32.239 --> 0:50:33.400 was in college. 0:50:33.440 --> 0:50:34.279 I think I can't remember. 0:50:34.360 --> 0:50:36.520 It was like a true life something she was doing 0:50:36.520 --> 0:50:38.279 and she was recording the album. I remember she was 0:50:38.280 --> 0:50:40.879 sitting in the studio and I still say this. Drag 0:50:40.880 --> 0:50:42.560 can attest this. I say this all the time. She said, 0:50:42.600 --> 0:50:45.080 when I walk into a meeting and I say I 0:50:45.080 --> 0:50:48.240 want it this way. Oh she's a bitch, she's rude, 0:50:48.320 --> 0:50:50.279 she's this, she's that. But if a man walks in, 0:50:50.680 --> 0:50:53.879 he says the same thing. Oh, oh he's assertive, he's 0:50:53.880 --> 0:50:56.239 a boss, he's then she's so she's like, I don't 0:50:56.239 --> 0:50:58.120 give a fuck what y'all say about me. Point I'm 0:50:58.160 --> 0:51:00.799 going in these meetings and I'm saying what I have 0:51:00.880 --> 0:51:03.799 to say. And for some reason, like I said, when 0:51:03.880 --> 0:51:06.440 I saw that interview, I was probably like twenty twenty two, 0:51:06.960 --> 0:51:11.520 and that stuck with me so much because I know 0:51:11.640 --> 0:51:14.759 sometimes I go in meetings and I'm probably like a 0:51:14.800 --> 0:51:17.080 little some things that I say, I know can come 0:51:17.120 --> 0:51:18.759 off a little harsh, and I have to clear it 0:51:18.840 --> 0:51:20.239 up and I'm like, no, I didn't mean it like this. 0:51:20.239 --> 0:51:22.680 This is what I'm trying to say. But I'm glad 0:51:22.800 --> 0:51:25.480 I'm letting you know to stop playing with me. Yeah, 0:51:25.600 --> 0:51:27.279 stop playing with me. It's a lot of times that 0:51:27.320 --> 0:51:29.840 people will say things to us because we're women. But 0:51:29.880 --> 0:51:31.960 if y'all walked across there and went on eighty five South, 0:51:32.040 --> 0:51:34.919 y'all wouldn't have that same you know demand here because 0:51:34.960 --> 0:51:36.920 oh it's Carlos. I'm not gonna talk to DC like that. 0:51:36.960 --> 0:51:37.960 I'm not gonna talk to Chico. 0:51:38.040 --> 0:51:40.080 You gotta have to do that as a woman sometimes, 0:51:40.080 --> 0:51:43.000 Oh absolutely, yeah, because like you said, they will, they 0:51:43.000 --> 0:51:46.040 won't want to take you as serious over. 0:51:45.920 --> 0:51:48.120 Yeah, I would rather be known as a bitch and 0:51:48.160 --> 0:51:50.800 I got my money straight then somebody's soft. 0:51:50.960 --> 0:51:53.879 Who I'm just as I can't pay my rent. 0:51:53.960 --> 0:51:57.680 Yeah, yeah, I agree for me, I think it's about 0:51:58.280 --> 0:52:01.120 that balance of being soft. 0:52:01.320 --> 0:52:02.480 But then I don't know. 0:52:02.520 --> 0:52:05.439 I always kind of feel like you gotta let people 0:52:05.480 --> 0:52:09.080 know they can't play with you. But then also on 0:52:09.120 --> 0:52:11.799 the other end of that, it's like, but the right 0:52:11.840 --> 0:52:13.880 people that are supposed to be in your life not 0:52:13.880 --> 0:52:15.400 gonna play with you. They're not gonna put you in 0:52:15.440 --> 0:52:17.719 a position to have to be guarded. I feel like, 0:52:18.000 --> 0:52:20.319 so sometimes I feel like if you have that disposition 0:52:20.440 --> 0:52:23.800 with people, it's probably because they not the right person. 0:52:23.840 --> 0:52:25.720 Because I feel like the right people that are supposed 0:52:25.719 --> 0:52:28.080 to be around you, you shouldn't feel like you always 0:52:28.120 --> 0:52:30.279 gotta let them know, like, oh, you can't play with me, 0:52:30.360 --> 0:52:31.080 I gotta show you. 0:52:31.160 --> 0:52:36.680 Yeah, so like courtesy of not. That's why I feel 0:52:36.719 --> 0:52:40.080 like team building is like so important. Likes having those 0:52:40.120 --> 0:52:43.719 genuine people around you, and like when people are genuine too, 0:52:43.840 --> 0:52:49.279 they hoag, Yeah, they won't take advantage of you. But 0:52:49.440 --> 0:52:51.799 you know, sometimes people do get comfortable and you have 0:52:51.880 --> 0:52:52.839 to like just tell them. 0:52:52.880 --> 0:52:54.960 And then I think in the position that you're in 0:52:55.360 --> 0:52:57.920 and then even the position that we're getting into, you 0:52:58.000 --> 0:53:00.919 hear so many horror stories about people before us who 0:53:00.960 --> 0:53:03.120 people did take it then, like people that they trusted 0:53:03.200 --> 0:53:06.799 accountants and manage men and people that worked with them. 0:53:07.040 --> 0:53:09.920 And so you kind of have to be assertive and 0:53:10.040 --> 0:53:12.040 let people know that they can't play with you because 0:53:12.120 --> 0:53:14.879 who want that to happen because you're being too trusting, right, 0:53:15.160 --> 0:53:16.759 and you put it past them because you can't be 0:53:16.800 --> 0:53:18.960 putting stuff fast people. That's the main thing. You never 0:53:19.000 --> 0:53:20.880 know what somebody would do, even if you think you 0:53:20.920 --> 0:53:21.319 know them. 0:53:21.920 --> 0:53:25.799 And I think sometimes like as women, especially like if 0:53:25.840 --> 0:53:27.960 we go in the meeting and we're just you know, 0:53:28.360 --> 0:53:30.360 being straightforward in this, some people are like, oh, well, 0:53:30.400 --> 0:53:32.279 she's emotional, you know. 0:53:32.719 --> 0:53:33.320 On her period. 0:53:35.120 --> 0:53:36.879 And I may be because I'll be in a meeting 0:53:36.880 --> 0:53:38.880 and I'll be like this and this and this, then 0:53:38.920 --> 0:53:41.680 I'll called you up like sh fissed me off, Like 0:53:41.680 --> 0:53:44.480 why would they taught to us like that? It's okay, 0:53:44.680 --> 0:53:47.640 like but still, but it's a meeting. I'm like, you know, 0:53:47.840 --> 0:53:50.680 but at the same time, like I said, I feel 0:53:50.719 --> 0:53:52.960 like a lot of times people just try to take 0:53:52.960 --> 0:53:54.840 advantage of especially women. 0:53:55.000 --> 0:53:56.040 This is how far they can go. 0:53:56.120 --> 0:53:58.040 Yes, they see out because they feel like, oh, well, 0:53:58.080 --> 0:53:59.759 she gonna be soft and she gonna be cool. It's 0:53:59.800 --> 0:54:01.719 so hey, I can I can say this to them. 0:54:01.760 --> 0:54:02.000 I can. 0:54:02.320 --> 0:54:05.040 So I do feel like as women, we don't get 0:54:05.120 --> 0:54:07.400 the luxury of being soft in the business. 0:54:07.680 --> 0:54:08.839 I want to question though, so. 0:54:08.800 --> 0:54:12.480 Like what is it that people be trying? 0:54:11.960 --> 0:54:13.960 Well, no, I'll. 0:54:13.800 --> 0:54:15.560 Say it like I think it's like a lot of 0:54:15.560 --> 0:54:18.480 times people will they want to low ball you on pay. 0:54:18.600 --> 0:54:19.319 You know what I'm saying. 0:54:19.440 --> 0:54:22.520 They want they think that they can just show up whenever, 0:54:23.040 --> 0:54:25.879 you know what I'm saying, Like, they'll just not have 0:54:25.960 --> 0:54:28.839 respect for your time, respect for anything. And I just, 0:54:28.880 --> 0:54:32.080 like I said, I see this because it's a certain 0:54:32.120 --> 0:54:35.080 way that they will treat you know, our counterparts, that 0:54:35.200 --> 0:54:37.279 things that we have to go through that you know, 0:54:37.320 --> 0:54:39.480 they necessarily don't have to go through, right, I'm saying, 0:54:39.640 --> 0:54:40.680 Like I said, the big thing. 0:54:40.560 --> 0:54:42.400 For me just be like payments. 0:54:42.440 --> 0:54:44.200 Like, of course I don't expect to be getting paid 0:54:44.200 --> 0:54:46.640 the same amount as Carlos, But y'all ain't gonna pay 0:54:46.680 --> 0:54:47.080 me three. 0:54:46.960 --> 0:54:49.120 Dollars to show up somewhere even Yeah, you know what 0:54:49.120 --> 0:54:49.520 I'm saying. 0:54:50.120 --> 0:54:53.520 There longer hours I gotta resumeate to. Yeah, that's the 0:54:53.560 --> 0:54:54.440 thing I just won't. 0:54:54.800 --> 0:54:58.440 Yeah, Like, yeah, actually I'm good. Yeah yeah, And I 0:54:58.440 --> 0:55:01.279 think they as to be. It's so grateful. 0:55:02.120 --> 0:55:03.879 Like, no, I'm not grateful. I want to get paid, 0:55:04.840 --> 0:55:07.279 you know what I'm saying, Like, I don't want to 0:55:07.320 --> 0:55:09.640 have to like come in these meetings and y'all just 0:55:09.719 --> 0:55:11.959 expect me to just be happy to be here because 0:55:12.040 --> 0:55:15.280 y'all feel like, oh, she's just a podcaster that's on YouTube. 0:55:15.360 --> 0:55:18.240 No, I worked really fucking hard, you know what I'm saying. 0:55:18.520 --> 0:55:20.719 And like I said, I think they expect that for 0:55:20.840 --> 0:55:23.520 all women. You should just be grateful because women, you know, 0:55:24.040 --> 0:55:26.319 y'all don't get to y'all used to not be able 0:55:26.320 --> 0:55:28.439 to be in these spaces, especially as a black woman. 0:55:28.520 --> 0:55:31.839 You should be grateful. No, we deserve to be here. 0:55:32.200 --> 0:55:34.479 Yeah, like it's not like I should be oh my god, 0:55:34.640 --> 0:55:37.480 thank you, like, yes, thank you, But I earned my 0:55:37.600 --> 0:55:38.000 right to. 0:55:37.960 --> 0:55:40.759 Be loved, That's what I was gonna say. Especially, I 0:55:40.800 --> 0:55:43.520 think when you kind of grow up in front of people, 0:55:43.960 --> 0:55:45.439 they'll still look at you like. 0:55:45.360 --> 0:55:47.520 That version of you from five years ago. 0:55:47.960 --> 0:55:50.279 They'll try to treat you like that version, like, oh, 0:55:50.320 --> 0:55:52.479 remember back when you didn't really have that much money 0:55:52.600 --> 0:55:54.440 or you was just excited for the opportunity. 0:55:54.600 --> 0:55:57.240 Okay, well now though, let's talk about it today. 0:55:58.239 --> 0:56:02.720 Let's right, you need to pay me what I've worked 0:56:02.719 --> 0:56:05.080 hard to get to. I've worked hard to get to 0:56:05.120 --> 0:56:07.200 this point. I'm not the person that because we started 0:56:07.239 --> 0:56:09.120 our show Girl. I don't know if you know about 0:56:09.719 --> 0:56:13.360 how we started, but we started the show recording in 0:56:13.440 --> 0:56:16.920 my apartment. I remember, yes, on my floor, like with 0:56:17.080 --> 0:56:20.480 just a camera and some little bullshit mics, and we 0:56:20.480 --> 0:56:23.319 were recording in my apartment. And obviously now we have 0:56:23.360 --> 0:56:26.480 a whole studio, we have a staff, everything. But I 0:56:26.520 --> 0:56:29.799 think sometimes people will try to play with you like 0:56:29.840 --> 0:56:32.120 you still in that same position, and it's like, no, 0:56:32.400 --> 0:56:33.040 we've grown. 0:56:33.400 --> 0:56:34.640 It needs to pay me what I'm word. 0:56:34.800 --> 0:56:36.440 So I'm sure you could probably relate to that too 0:56:36.480 --> 0:56:40.279 with being on YouTube when you were younger, Definitely. 0:56:39.840 --> 0:56:41.840 Do you feel like people kind of still try to 0:56:41.880 --> 0:56:45.959 treat you like your road to success was different because 0:56:45.960 --> 0:56:47.080 you started on YouTube. 0:56:49.920 --> 0:56:55.160 Anyone, Oh, I hate to say this, anyone below me, okay, 0:56:55.880 --> 0:56:59.920 but for some reason I hate to say it like that. 0:57:00.080 --> 0:57:02.560 But the people that are just not in my shoes 0:57:02.880 --> 0:57:06.640 or like they look at me like that. But I 0:57:06.640 --> 0:57:09.880 have been acknowledged by the greats, right, yeah, I have 0:57:10.000 --> 0:57:14.000 been in Like I've had conversation with greats and people 0:57:14.080 --> 0:57:17.000 that have started from abada and made it here and 0:57:17.040 --> 0:57:19.960 they speak into me and they believe in me, you know. 0:57:20.080 --> 0:57:24.120 So honestly, I don't anyone. 0:57:23.960 --> 0:57:26.120 Yeah, anyone who says, oh, well she's just a YouTuber, 0:57:26.400 --> 0:57:28.840 No one has ever done that to me that like 0:57:29.120 --> 0:57:32.640 that hasn't been in the comments. Yeah, yeah, I hope 0:57:32.640 --> 0:57:37.000 they don't take that wrong. But no, all right, yeah, like, yeah, 0:57:37.280 --> 0:57:37.760 it's the true. 0:57:37.800 --> 0:57:39.640 I think sometimes people don't like to hear stuff because 0:57:39.640 --> 0:57:41.480 they don't necessarily maybe like the messenger. 0:57:41.480 --> 0:57:43.160 But the facts are the fact. Yeah, I mean, it's 0:57:43.160 --> 0:57:44.640 the fact you want to hear it. 0:57:44.880 --> 0:57:46.400 Maybe you just don't like me or how you feel 0:57:46.440 --> 0:57:48.560 about me, But people will they love to try to 0:57:48.640 --> 0:57:49.280 humble people. 0:57:49.440 --> 0:57:52.200 Queen is so sweet. We be over here like fuck y'all. 0:57:54.720 --> 0:57:59.880 Yeah, because I've always been that way, you know. 0:58:00.200 --> 0:58:03.640 I try to be a little more considerate a little 0:58:03.640 --> 0:58:06.280 bit sometimes sometimes. 0:58:05.840 --> 0:58:07.440 I think you were when we were younger. 0:58:07.560 --> 0:58:11.080 I think as you grow into womanhood and you get older, 0:58:11.320 --> 0:58:15.320 I think you just don't really grow into She used 0:58:15.360 --> 0:58:17.439 to care more what people would think, and I think 0:58:17.680 --> 0:58:18.480 she's maturing. 0:58:18.520 --> 0:58:18.600 She. 0:58:18.840 --> 0:58:21.000 I think that's what's gonna happen with me, even as 0:58:21.000 --> 0:58:23.400 I'm like approaching my thirties. Like I just I don't 0:58:23.400 --> 0:58:26.640 know where the switch came, but like something's changed. 0:58:26.760 --> 0:58:29.480 Oh when you hit thirty, girl, it's it's like, I 0:58:29.520 --> 0:58:31.680 don't know, it's just something that hits you for sure, 0:58:31.680 --> 0:58:33.680 and you're just like a lot of shit I used 0:58:33.680 --> 0:58:34.760 to care about. 0:58:34.840 --> 0:58:38.720 I just don't care no more. I feel myself slowly stopped, like. 0:58:38.840 --> 0:58:40.960 You will, because then you get to a point to 0:58:41.000 --> 0:58:43.520 where I'm not saying because you are a confident, beautiful woman, 0:58:43.600 --> 0:58:45.400 but you get to a point to where you realize, 0:58:45.400 --> 0:58:48.560 you know what, this is who I am. Yeah, this 0:58:48.600 --> 0:58:50.919 is who I am. I can't change this. I can't 0:58:50.960 --> 0:58:52.760 change this. This is who God made me to me, 0:58:53.320 --> 0:58:55.959 and you're either gonna accept it or you're not gonna 0:58:56.040 --> 0:58:58.200 like it. So let me focus on the people who 0:58:58.240 --> 0:58:59.400 accept it and love it. 0:58:59.720 --> 0:59:01.560 Right, You'll learn to cater. 0:59:01.440 --> 0:59:04.160 To those people and love those people, and you know, 0:59:04.480 --> 0:59:07.560 feed into those people, because that's what I started doing. 0:59:07.640 --> 0:59:10.240 I'm just like, I've become happier. It was a point 0:59:10.400 --> 0:59:12.120 where we were doing poor minds where I was just 0:59:12.120 --> 0:59:14.520 like unhappy because I felt like every. 0:59:14.320 --> 0:59:15.680 Week I'm showing up and I don't know what to 0:59:15.680 --> 0:59:16.720 do to make y'all like me. 0:59:16.800 --> 0:59:19.800 People are being mean because they're so mean, but you 0:59:19.840 --> 0:59:21.760 got to cater to them people that love you. 0:59:22.280 --> 0:59:25.520 Yeah, And I think that's why I've always had that mindset, 0:59:25.520 --> 0:59:27.320 because I've always been a little bit more of like, 0:59:27.400 --> 0:59:31.120 I don't give a fuck fuck y'all. But but the 0:59:31.200 --> 0:59:33.800 reason that I feel that way is because the people 0:59:33.840 --> 0:59:35.760 that I'm saying fuck y'all to, it's not the people 0:59:35.760 --> 0:59:36.480 who support me. 0:59:36.960 --> 0:59:38.880 I love y'all. I appreciate y'all. 0:59:38.920 --> 0:59:40.920 If you take offense to me saying that you one 0:59:41.000 --> 0:59:42.520 of the people that be hating, you're one of the 0:59:42.520 --> 0:59:44.880 people that's being rude, and it is fuck you because 0:59:44.880 --> 0:59:47.040 you're not the person that's helping me anyway. You didn't 0:59:47.040 --> 0:59:48.600 help me get to where I am. You know, you 0:59:48.640 --> 0:59:51.240 don't support us. You don't come to our shows, to 0:59:51.320 --> 0:59:52.880 our live shows and stuff. 0:59:52.600 --> 0:59:54.320 So you're not buying mar And that's okay. 0:59:54.360 --> 0:59:56.800 I be hard with those people, but I be soft 0:59:56.920 --> 0:59:59.840 with our support, yeah for sure, like they did. Like 0:59:59.880 --> 1:00:01.960 you set people DM you and stuff like people who've 1:00:01.960 --> 1:00:03.840 lost a parent or they're grieving or something. 1:00:04.280 --> 1:00:06.320 You get dms like that all the time. So I 1:00:06.320 --> 1:00:07.080 don't mind. 1:00:06.840 --> 1:00:10.600 Being vulnerable and being open. I'm talking to y'all. I'm 1:00:10.680 --> 1:00:12.160 for y'all like me. 1:00:12.440 --> 1:00:13.120 Yeah, So I. 1:00:13.080 --> 1:00:15.600 Think like you can still be soft and taken seriously 1:00:15.640 --> 1:00:18.200 because I think there's beauty and being vulnerable. Yeah, because 1:00:18.240 --> 1:00:21.640 it shows like I'm still human. Yes, I'm still going 1:00:21.680 --> 1:00:22.640 through the things. 1:00:22.320 --> 1:00:24.520 That you're going through. You know what I'm saying. 1:00:24.680 --> 1:00:27.040 Like, just like I used to be living on the 1:00:27.080 --> 1:00:29.560 East Side, crying in that apartment, bitch, I'm in my 1:00:29.640 --> 1:00:30.800 high ride still crying. 1:00:31.480 --> 1:00:35.000 It's life. It real. Yeah, you have to you have 1:00:35.040 --> 1:00:35.560 to keep it real. 1:00:35.600 --> 1:00:37.720 But I think there's beauty in keeping it real and 1:00:37.760 --> 1:00:38.400 being soft. 1:00:38.560 --> 1:00:40.919 But there's also you know you. 1:00:40.880 --> 1:00:42.439 Like you said, you have to have that balance because 1:00:42.480 --> 1:00:46.000 you gotta be hard sometimes, especially as a woman like 1:00:46.280 --> 1:00:49.240 you know, being in this industry, because you don't want 1:00:49.280 --> 1:00:52.600 to be looked at as being like passive and oh queen, 1:00:52.640 --> 1:00:55.040 not gonna care because you're really not finna make a 1:00:55.080 --> 1:00:56.160 decision on my behalf. 1:00:56.800 --> 1:01:00.160 See I pick and choose with I'm more serious and 1:01:00.240 --> 1:01:03.000 stern about certain things, and I'm like then other things, 1:01:03.040 --> 1:01:04.600 like when it comes to my when it comes to 1:01:04.640 --> 1:01:07.600 my music, I am so like I don't play, like 1:01:07.680 --> 1:01:11.280 I really don't play. When it comes to like production credits, 1:01:11.400 --> 1:01:12.560 all of that stuff, I don't. 1:01:12.840 --> 1:01:13.240 I don't. 1:01:13.640 --> 1:01:16.160 But it's really the things that I truly care about, 1:01:16.160 --> 1:01:17.919 like yeah, or like my kids. 1:01:18.040 --> 1:01:19.520 So let me ask you this because I saw a 1:01:19.520 --> 1:01:23.480 few clips of you on d D streams d G 1:01:23.960 --> 1:01:28.680 D What did I say? 1:01:28.720 --> 1:01:31.840 Twitch d D? What's this? D d G D d 1:01:31.960 --> 1:01:33.360 G You were on his string? 1:01:34.080 --> 1:01:39.640 It's whooping your head. J That's why I've been waiting 1:01:39.640 --> 1:01:41.320 on my second one, because I know I haven't been 1:01:41.400 --> 1:01:42.000 drinking like that. 1:01:42.040 --> 1:01:46.120 I would be to absolutely, So I saw a few 1:01:46.120 --> 1:01:46.520 of the clips. 1:01:46.520 --> 1:01:48.640 I didn't get to watch the whole stream, but they 1:01:48.640 --> 1:01:50.400 were kind of saying, like, you know, old Queen, was 1:01:50.440 --> 1:01:53.280 being quiet. She was kind of bothered. She didn't like 1:01:53.320 --> 1:01:57.120 the atmosphere. What really went on is that just people assuming, No. 1:01:57.200 --> 1:02:01.200 That was people assuming taking small clips. I was I 1:02:01.360 --> 1:02:02.760 was fine. I was fine. 1:02:02.920 --> 1:02:06.280 I came there to work. The thing was like DG 1:02:06.440 --> 1:02:08.200 was like, pull up, we're gonna make a song together. 1:02:09.040 --> 1:02:12.240 And I don't usually go on like people's streams or 1:02:12.280 --> 1:02:12.960 anything like that. 1:02:13.040 --> 1:02:15.280 I'm used to coming on like podcasts whatever, but not 1:02:15.320 --> 1:02:17.720 streams where like it's a bunch of different people like 1:02:18.080 --> 1:02:21.560 pulling up. I was just there to work, and like 1:02:21.680 --> 1:02:25.360 I was just vibing out like I don't know if 1:02:25.400 --> 1:02:28.480 I look serious because I was focused on like the music, 1:02:28.760 --> 1:02:30.880 Like I wasn't there to be drinking and partying and 1:02:30.960 --> 1:02:34.040 having like you know, and that's what I was there for. 1:02:35.080 --> 1:02:37.680 So you weren't upseturday. No, I wasn't up. 1:02:37.880 --> 1:02:40.400 I wasn't upset, Like, I wasn't upset. But it was 1:02:40.400 --> 1:02:44.320 like people like read my face is wrong. They read 1:02:44.360 --> 1:02:46.080 me wrong, alive, I'm very misunderstood. 1:02:46.560 --> 1:02:47.960 I was just focused, Okay. 1:02:48.720 --> 1:02:50.640 I was just focused and I didn't have an issue 1:02:50.640 --> 1:02:52.880 with a bunch of people being in the room. I just, 1:02:52.960 --> 1:02:55.320 of course I do get a little bit more reserved 1:02:55.320 --> 1:02:57.600 because when it's people that I don't know, I'm just 1:02:57.640 --> 1:02:58.280 more reserved. 1:02:58.320 --> 1:03:00.920 But like when I know you, it's not like that. 1:03:01.040 --> 1:03:03.360 I'm actually probably gonna start my own twitch. Okay, I 1:03:03.360 --> 1:03:05.480 think that'd be a good idea. Yes, which is the 1:03:05.520 --> 1:03:06.280 way right now. 1:03:06.640 --> 1:03:09.880 But I think your personality is so good and I 1:03:09.920 --> 1:03:12.360 think people kind of like miss seeing that from you. 1:03:12.440 --> 1:03:15.920 Like I'm being on the music, but we love your personality. 1:03:16.000 --> 1:03:18.040 Yeah, I'll probably be able to do that more on 1:03:18.080 --> 1:03:21.560 my on my twitch. Going into someone else's territory is different, 1:03:22.040 --> 1:03:23.960 Like I could be in my room doing real crazy 1:03:23.960 --> 1:03:28.040 stuff alone or with my friends, like to do it there, like. 1:03:28.000 --> 1:03:31.880 It's a little you know people if you do something crazy. 1:03:32.040 --> 1:03:37.360 Yeah, yeah, And I'm a little bit like different around 1:03:37.400 --> 1:03:39.520 like artists, especially when it's a bunch. 1:03:39.400 --> 1:03:40.040 Of men in the room. 1:03:40.280 --> 1:03:42.520 Yes, I'm not about to be because out here like 1:03:42.680 --> 1:03:45.640 moving my body, you know what, would have got up 1:03:45.640 --> 1:03:50.240 and hit a little twark oh queen doing yeah yeah yeah, 1:03:50.680 --> 1:03:52.160 trying to be noticed, yeah. 1:03:52.280 --> 1:03:55.200 Trying to be outside. No, so I get it. 1:03:55.240 --> 1:03:57.680 And then my man was with me too there because yeah, 1:03:57.760 --> 1:04:01.680 him and DG we're all mutual friends. Yeah, they're friends. 1:04:01.760 --> 1:04:05.640 I'm friends and then yeah, so I was actually glad 1:04:05.640 --> 1:04:07.760 because I didn't want to be in there with that many. 1:04:08.040 --> 1:04:09.960 I mean yeah, because I feel the same way. It 1:04:10.200 --> 1:04:12.960 sometimes like our management that'll they'll come with us and 1:04:12.960 --> 1:04:15.440 not be so happy that they're there, because like. 1:04:15.480 --> 1:04:17.040 It's it's nice to have men. 1:04:17.000 --> 1:04:21.400 Rust that, you know, if anybody try to get a 1:04:21.440 --> 1:04:24.360 little you have protections. Yeah, because one thing about me, 1:04:25.000 --> 1:04:26.680 I will talk some ship, but as soon as somebody 1:04:26.760 --> 1:04:28.080 fuck with me, I'll be like, I'm finna take share 1:04:28.160 --> 1:04:30.320 to run. Yeah, I'm like, hold on, let me take 1:04:30.360 --> 1:04:30.880 share to run. 1:04:32.000 --> 1:04:36.400 Ryan and Chad in the chat, the email whatever. Yeah, 1:04:36.480 --> 1:04:38.480 So I'm glad. I'm glad that you had them there too. 1:04:38.640 --> 1:04:40.600 Like like I said, I know, situations like that can 1:04:40.600 --> 1:04:42.680 get rowdy and get crazy. Because I didn't get that vibe. 1:04:42.680 --> 1:04:43.760 I'm like, I think she's just working. 1:04:43.760 --> 1:04:44.880 It was I was just working. 1:04:45.080 --> 1:04:47.320 Yeah, man, I hate that. I gotta loosen up a 1:04:47.320 --> 1:04:49.840 little bit. But I think it's like I said, it's 1:04:49.880 --> 1:04:50.440 just gross. 1:04:50.520 --> 1:04:52.560 Like I'm not people expect me to be that like 1:04:53.920 --> 1:04:56.480 turn it out. Really, I don't know. I was. I'm 1:04:56.520 --> 1:04:58.440 still goofy, but I'm not like doy I used I 1:04:58.520 --> 1:04:58.920 used to be. 1:04:58.880 --> 1:05:03.320 Super reckless, but older it comes, I can't help it. 1:05:03.480 --> 1:05:05.280 Like I just I'm just a little bit more converted. 1:05:05.480 --> 1:05:07.120 And I think that's what she was saying too, like 1:05:07.360 --> 1:05:10.200 people expect you to be the old you and I'm not. 1:05:10.960 --> 1:05:13.240 Line like I'm miss the old you, Queen. Why did 1:05:13.280 --> 1:05:14.680 you know I'm I'm grown. 1:05:15.120 --> 1:05:18.000 Yeah, but just I know the spaces and places that 1:05:18.080 --> 1:05:19.280 I can yeah, and I'm. 1:05:19.120 --> 1:05:21.800 Not like that twenty four seven. I have my moments 1:05:21.800 --> 1:05:22.960 where I'm just chilled. 1:05:24.080 --> 1:05:25.840 I feel you got to pay attention to yuas around. 1:05:25.880 --> 1:05:28.080 It's like even with having Craig in the room, him 1:05:28.120 --> 1:05:31.240 over there, he be places with us sometimes and I'll 1:05:31.280 --> 1:05:33.600 just give him a little because then we because people, 1:05:33.640 --> 1:05:36.080 you just never know what people's intentions are. 1:05:36.240 --> 1:05:38.600 So you just gotta always be on guard, you know 1:05:38.640 --> 1:05:41.200 what I mean. I think I was on guard. You 1:05:41.240 --> 1:05:41.520 have to. 1:05:41.560 --> 1:05:43.720 You just always got to give people their eye, Like Craig, 1:05:43.800 --> 1:05:44.760 you watching them. 1:05:44.960 --> 1:05:46.680 See what's going on? Right, all right? 1:05:46.880 --> 1:05:48.680 They kep saying I was clutching my purse, putting it 1:05:48.720 --> 1:05:49.520 to my side. 1:05:52.040 --> 1:05:53.040 It's the story behind that. 1:05:53.160 --> 1:05:54.880 So the reason why I had to make sure that 1:05:55.280 --> 1:05:57.600 because I lose a lot of things, I have. 1:05:57.600 --> 1:05:58.360 Lost my purse. 1:05:58.440 --> 1:06:00.880 I have left things behind and like I was just 1:06:00.920 --> 1:06:03.200 trying to be conscious, like Queen, don't leave your stuff, 1:06:03.200 --> 1:06:06.280 and I have left my purse in an airport bathroom. 1:06:06.440 --> 1:06:11.840 Oh Saint Martine like crying run around the airports. So it 1:06:11.880 --> 1:06:13.520 was just really me like, okay, just make sure you 1:06:13.600 --> 1:06:14.400 know where your stuff is. 1:06:14.480 --> 1:06:20.320 I wasn't. It wasn't think. I think abodes that is. 1:06:20.920 --> 1:06:22.360 It means so many people in and out of it. 1:06:22.600 --> 1:06:24.360 You never know if somebody would say, yes, I was 1:06:24.400 --> 1:06:26.680 grabbing my parts batch I don't know these people. 1:06:26.760 --> 1:06:29.160 Yeah, I'm keeping my sheet close to me. 1:06:29.680 --> 1:06:32.160 And the thing is, like I said, I think his 1:06:32.240 --> 1:06:35.560 streams are entertaining, Like I love his streams, but he 1:06:35.640 --> 1:06:37.360 do have a lot of people in and out and 1:06:37.400 --> 1:06:39.120 you don't know who they are. It'd be like a 1:06:39.160 --> 1:06:42.480 lot of you know, young girls, young women, people you 1:06:42.600 --> 1:06:45.240 and people do things for cloud. So how good would 1:06:45.240 --> 1:06:47.000 it be somebody who trying to start up a stream. 1:06:47.040 --> 1:06:49.040 They'd be like, ooh, I got I mean queen purse. 1:06:49.360 --> 1:06:50.960 They could just take it and go to the bathroom 1:06:50.960 --> 1:06:53.760 and do something with. Yeah, I don't trust people, you 1:06:53.800 --> 1:06:55.960 know what I'm saying. So you you was doing right No, 1:06:56.080 --> 1:06:57.480 you don't need a reason why you. 1:06:57.440 --> 1:07:01.120 Was clutching your You could clutch what you feel like 1:07:01.200 --> 1:07:03.920 you this is my purse. 1:07:08.840 --> 1:07:13.840 Okay, I mean that a game named herself meanly and 1:07:13.920 --> 1:07:16.440 you ain't from China. I don't know if I can 1:07:16.480 --> 1:07:19.919 trust you people, because y'all put pregnancy on me all 1:07:19.960 --> 1:07:22.000 I and all it was was I ate a can 1:07:22.000 --> 1:07:23.600 of beans and had a few shots at tequila. 1:07:23.640 --> 1:07:23.880 Bitch. 1:07:24.280 --> 1:07:26.320 I had just got back from a little happy hour 1:07:26.360 --> 1:07:28.360 at Papacitos, and y'all was like, you. 1:07:28.600 --> 1:07:32.520 Pregnant, lect pregnant. Congratulations, she's pregnant. Oh she fringant and 1:07:32.560 --> 1:07:33.640 baby I had just ate. 1:07:34.280 --> 1:07:36.560 So the only reason I'm being very Oh, he don't 1:07:36.600 --> 1:07:38.760 play about me. This nigga is swinging on the swing 1:07:38.800 --> 1:07:42.440 set right now, swinging on the Merry Go Round. 1:07:42.520 --> 1:07:42.920 Baby. 1:07:43.320 --> 1:07:48.160 Oh, he playing all day on that PS five Mario Kart. Okay, 1:07:48.360 --> 1:07:52.960 that's crazy. That's like you having a sexual assault case 1:07:53.000 --> 1:07:55.800 and R. Kelly being like, oh, yeah, bro, I support you. Hey, 1:07:55.800 --> 1:07:58.480 I'm good. I'm good, bro. I don't need none of 1:07:58.480 --> 1:08:00.000 that support. I don't want none of your prayers. 1:08:00.160 --> 1:08:02.360 Somebody sent me some on my phone and said that 1:08:03.280 --> 1:08:08.760 a hall tieder I don't know the people WHOA what 1:08:08.920 --> 1:08:09.480 an altar? 1:08:10.240 --> 1:08:13.960 Probably one day I will get married and my dad 1:08:14.080 --> 1:08:15.640 is not gonna be here to walk me down the 1:08:15.720 --> 1:08:18.880 aisle things that I just always thought that he would 1:08:18.880 --> 1:08:21.760 be here for and you know, be able to experience 1:08:21.880 --> 1:08:22.160 with me. 1:08:22.960 --> 1:08:24.880 And I just know he would be so proud. 1:08:25.280 --> 1:08:29.240 Of everything that I'm doing, the woman that I'm becoming, 1:08:29.560 --> 1:08:34.720 how far I've come, especially with my attitude child because whoa, 1:08:34.960 --> 1:08:36.720 I was something else when I was growing up. 1:08:37.280 --> 1:08:40.519 But like I said, it's just a bittersweet thing. 1:08:41.280 --> 1:08:45.800 Okay, So now it's time to get into dubby ball 1:08:46.360 --> 1:08:50.760 Dubby bow dubby about bout about bow bow? 1:08:51.080 --> 1:08:52.080 Go ahead, little droll. 1:08:52.439 --> 1:08:55.160 Okay, So for the bad topic, we're gonna talk about 1:08:56.240 --> 1:09:00.360 what's one thing that y'all wish men to understood about 1:09:00.400 --> 1:09:01.640 women's bodies. 1:09:04.320 --> 1:09:10.000 Or multiple things, not just one thing that I wish 1:09:10.080 --> 1:09:11.480 that they really understood. 1:09:12.520 --> 1:09:16.840 Is this might be a little too vulgar or but 1:09:16.960 --> 1:09:20.439 I'm gonna say this a lot men, y'all can throw 1:09:20.520 --> 1:09:21.680 a woman's pH off. 1:09:21.840 --> 1:09:22.639 Oh my god. 1:09:22.880 --> 1:09:26.280 Bro Okay, Yeah, sometimes if you ain't in bad with y'all, 1:09:26.400 --> 1:09:29.240 lady and you and something that's smelling like a fish 1:09:29.320 --> 1:09:30.920 fry on a Friday night. 1:09:31.760 --> 1:09:34.240 You thinking it as hot, but you probably throw her 1:09:34.320 --> 1:09:36.000 pH all you know real quick. 1:09:36.200 --> 1:09:40.200 I hate when people say a fish fry, fish fries smell. 1:09:40.040 --> 1:09:50.360 Good, a fish fry delicious. It's the raw fish that's 1:09:50.439 --> 1:09:56.080 the problem. It's for you to say that, Okay, but 1:09:56.120 --> 1:10:03.439 I'm gonna says a fish it is, But that's not 1:10:03.560 --> 1:10:07.120 how you want y'all vagina to smell. I mean fake. 1:10:08.000 --> 1:10:09.559 But you know what I'm saying. 1:10:09.760 --> 1:10:13.400 Frit smell edible is what I'm saying. Fry. They should 1:10:13.400 --> 1:10:16.760 say something this is rawthy. Yeah. 1:10:16.880 --> 1:10:18.760 So I feel like a lot of times men should know, 1:10:18.920 --> 1:10:22.120 Like if you were in a relationship with long term 1:10:22.200 --> 1:10:25.479 relationship and something is going on with your lady down. 1:10:25.320 --> 1:10:27.639 There, you could be the problem. You are not doing 1:10:27.760 --> 1:10:28.679 something down there. 1:10:29.120 --> 1:10:33.160 You might be cheating, you're not washing your balls good 1:10:33.280 --> 1:10:36.480 enough after you go to play one on one basketball 1:10:37.160 --> 1:10:39.800 at the rec center or whatever you're doing. 1:10:40.439 --> 1:10:42.200 Something is not Something is off about you. 1:10:42.320 --> 1:10:46.760 That's and honestly, just like when a guy this might 1:10:46.800 --> 1:10:48.599 be a lot too, but when a guy releases into 1:10:48.640 --> 1:10:50.519 a woman regards if you're trying to have kids or not, 1:10:51.120 --> 1:10:54.280 that alone is very acidic. Yes, grows ours off, you 1:10:54.320 --> 1:10:56.160 know what I'm saying. So because they just want to 1:10:56.200 --> 1:10:58.200 do that and it's like, well, no, you're gonna. 1:10:58.040 --> 1:11:01.400 Wake up if we not creating, don't play. 1:11:02.200 --> 1:11:06.800 Yeah, that that definitely throws a lot a lot of 1:11:06.840 --> 1:11:10.320 things off. I think another thing is stop trying to 1:11:10.400 --> 1:11:14.360 have one move sexually for all women. Just because this 1:11:14.520 --> 1:11:16.439 woman likes you to do that doesn't mean the next 1:11:16.479 --> 1:11:18.639 woman that you're with is gonna like that. I think 1:11:18.800 --> 1:11:22.160 we have to take time and learn each other's bodies more. 1:11:23.040 --> 1:11:25.760 And that's for women too. With men, y'all be trying 1:11:25.800 --> 1:11:27.519 to be one trick ponies. So this she liked that, 1:11:27.600 --> 1:11:29.640 I'm finna turn this. I'm gonna turn her out, and 1:11:29.680 --> 1:11:35.479 I'm like, what are you doing? Yeah, you know what 1:11:35.560 --> 1:11:39.200 I'm saying as weak ass moves, So I think men 1:11:39.320 --> 1:11:40.880 they be like, oh, they be thinking that they have 1:11:41.000 --> 1:11:44.200 the best penis in the world, because you you the 1:11:44.360 --> 1:11:46.800 one time on Brenda down the Street that was talking 1:11:46.840 --> 1:11:47.800 ship on Twitter. 1:11:56.000 --> 1:11:59.080 Run out of the Street was getting that deck talking ship. 1:11:59.560 --> 1:12:01.680 But just because it worked on Brenda don't mean it's 1:12:01.720 --> 1:12:04.439 gonna work on you, right, So I think that men 1:12:04.560 --> 1:12:07.560 need to learn that every woman's body is different and 1:12:07.720 --> 1:12:10.160 take your time and ask questions. There's nothing wrong with 1:12:10.280 --> 1:12:13.759 asking questions, learning what she's like, and just taking your time, 1:12:13.920 --> 1:12:14.639 you know what I'm saying. 1:12:15.240 --> 1:12:17.760 That's what I was gonna say, literally, like men need 1:12:17.920 --> 1:12:21.160 to ask questions. Just because she might seem like she 1:12:21.439 --> 1:12:23.960 enjoying it and she moaning and whatever, you need to 1:12:24.000 --> 1:12:26.360 actually ask her, like are you enjoying this? 1:12:26.560 --> 1:12:27.560 Does this feel good to you? 1:12:27.680 --> 1:12:29.760 I feel like men don't ask because a lot of 1:12:29.800 --> 1:12:31.759 the time they don't care as long as they ging theirs. 1:12:33.160 --> 1:12:35.360 I don't have that problem though, See all right, it's 1:12:35.400 --> 1:12:39.040 a little different for me, Like I don't because I've 1:12:39.040 --> 1:12:40.439 been in a relationship for a lot of time, so 1:12:40.720 --> 1:12:42.960 you know each other, he know my buddy. 1:12:44.400 --> 1:12:46.559 There's nothing. Yeah, there's nothing going on like bed. 1:12:47.120 --> 1:12:51.160 Yeah. I think what I would like for men to 1:12:51.280 --> 1:12:54.960 understand in general is that, oh my god, is that 1:12:55.160 --> 1:12:57.000 sex starts outside the bedroom? 1:12:57.400 --> 1:12:58.920 Yeah, she says. 1:12:58.920 --> 1:13:01.240 It's not just like it's not just like a switch. 1:13:01.280 --> 1:13:03.320 It's like, okay, yeah, you horny, let's do it. No, 1:13:03.720 --> 1:13:06.160 like it starts with the in the morning, when you're 1:13:06.200 --> 1:13:11.599 helping me with the kids. It starts in the morning, 1:13:11.960 --> 1:13:15.120 like when you're helping me throughout the day or when 1:13:15.160 --> 1:13:17.000 you just come in and giving me little. 1:13:16.760 --> 1:13:18.920 Kisses on the cheek or whatever you like. That's where 1:13:18.960 --> 1:13:19.400 it starts. 1:13:19.439 --> 1:13:21.160 It's just don't like, oh yeah, I did this all right, 1:13:21.160 --> 1:13:24.639 come on, let's just have sex like wo like if 1:13:24.640 --> 1:13:27.320 I'm not being romance, if I'm not. And then men 1:13:27.439 --> 1:13:30.080 also don't understand like a little something could just go 1:13:30.160 --> 1:13:32.760 a very long way when you treat a woman right or. 1:13:33.120 --> 1:13:36.320 Like it really don't take much for us, just so 1:13:36.479 --> 1:13:37.080 excited about it. 1:13:37.240 --> 1:13:40.320 Yeah, And they think that they always. 1:13:40.040 --> 1:13:42.400 Have to do something extravagant, and it's like, no, it 1:13:42.479 --> 1:13:44.480 doesn't always have to be something extravagant. 1:13:44.560 --> 1:13:46.800 We like thoughtful needs. Yes, we like for you to 1:13:46.880 --> 1:13:47.439 be thoughtful. 1:13:47.520 --> 1:13:49.160 So it could be something as little as you going 1:13:49.200 --> 1:13:51.160 to publics and picking up from ten dollars row. 1:13:53.600 --> 1:13:55.200 You'd be like, you know what, yeah, Higgins, some tonight 1:13:59.080 --> 1:14:01.120 is thoughtful. It just goes a long way. 1:14:01.400 --> 1:14:04.240 So I think they need to realize that women a 1:14:04.320 --> 1:14:08.799 lot of our sexual stimulation comes from a mental clog 1:14:09.560 --> 1:14:11.320 and emotional connection. 1:14:11.200 --> 1:14:16.120 And there's don't and there's don't. It's just straight like yeah, 1:14:16.800 --> 1:14:17.719 another good point. 1:14:17.760 --> 1:14:19.360 I think men need to understand there's a lot of 1:14:19.400 --> 1:14:22.200 times when y'all be having sex with women, y'all be thinking, oh, 1:14:22.200 --> 1:14:24.800 I'm just gonna fucking go about my way, and you 1:14:24.960 --> 1:14:27.160 keep having sex with the same person over and over again, 1:14:27.200 --> 1:14:28.640 and it may be just a nut to you. 1:14:29.080 --> 1:14:31.920 Women are not wired that way. I don't care. 1:14:32.200 --> 1:14:34.280 I don't speak for all women because some women can't 1:14:34.320 --> 1:14:36.280 have sex a lot and with the same person and 1:14:36.400 --> 1:14:40.120 not developed feelings. But as a man and a woman 1:14:40.240 --> 1:14:42.760 having sex a lot, I don't care if something is 1:14:42.800 --> 1:14:45.400 gonna start happening feeling wise. So men, y'all need to 1:14:45.479 --> 1:14:48.920 understand you cannot have sex with the same woman over 1:14:49.000 --> 1:14:51.040 and over and over and over again and not expect 1:14:51.160 --> 1:14:51.479 her to have. 1:14:52.439 --> 1:14:54.760 Something or have some type of expectation. 1:14:55.439 --> 1:14:57.120 I'm telling you, if you have sex with a woman 1:14:57.320 --> 1:14:59.240 four times, you ain't never took her on a day. 1:14:59.280 --> 1:15:00.960 I bet you after that four tops gonna be like, well, 1:15:01.000 --> 1:15:03.280 why don't we do something? Yeah like this, why don't 1:15:03.320 --> 1:15:06.160 we go somewhere booty call? So if you just want 1:15:06.200 --> 1:15:08.240 a booty call, you don't need to have sex with 1:15:08.360 --> 1:15:10.080 the same woman over and over and over again. And 1:15:10.160 --> 1:15:13.000 that's just you're just trying to get happy. You need 1:15:13.080 --> 1:15:15.479 to have a little roster another mention. I'm gonna say 1:15:15.520 --> 1:15:17.439 this though, because y'all don't like to wrap that little 1:15:17.479 --> 1:15:19.599 pin up, I'm gonna get a little bit spirit chilled. 1:15:20.040 --> 1:15:22.640 I feel like men too need to realize, like the 1:15:22.800 --> 1:15:25.160 roster thing, I get it, but when you laying with 1:15:25.240 --> 1:15:28.360 these different people, you're also picking up their spirits, will so. 1:15:28.800 --> 1:15:31.720 You're not Yeah, so I wish that men would think 1:15:31.800 --> 1:15:33.560 like that sometimes, but a lot of men are not, 1:15:33.760 --> 1:15:35.720 like you know, in tune like that. 1:15:36.240 --> 1:15:38.000 But like when you land with all these different women, 1:15:38.160 --> 1:15:41.320 even uh women too, Like when you lay with these 1:15:41.360 --> 1:15:45.760 different men, you are picking up their spirits and their 1:15:45.800 --> 1:15:47.680 demons are the things, and then you wonder why, like 1:15:47.760 --> 1:15:50.680 it's something going on with you. You gotta really be 1:15:50.800 --> 1:15:54.080 careful with that because you you know, you become one 1:15:54.200 --> 1:15:54.840 like that you do. 1:15:55.240 --> 1:15:57.679 That's a very good point. It's a very good point. 1:15:59.080 --> 1:16:01.519 I got another one I forgot you read it on there. 1:16:02.280 --> 1:16:05.840 I forgot. We're gonna get a little vulgar again. 1:16:06.520 --> 1:16:09.680 Men, stop forgetting about the clique that is where the 1:16:09.720 --> 1:16:10.840 stimulation comes from. 1:16:11.120 --> 1:16:14.080 First of all, if you call it a click like 1:16:14.640 --> 1:16:17.000 you don't know, I know you don't know nothing right there, 1:16:17.160 --> 1:16:19.679 because why are you calling it a click click. Girls 1:16:19.800 --> 1:16:21.560 be calling it there too, and that's the topic for 1:16:21.640 --> 1:16:22.639 a whole nother time. 1:16:22.760 --> 1:16:24.920 I mean, because my friend calls it a click, but 1:16:24.960 --> 1:16:26.000 she does it to be funny. 1:16:26.280 --> 1:16:28.760 That's a different though. Yeah, but some people really think 1:16:28.760 --> 1:16:30.120 it's called a clique because they don't know. 1:16:30.200 --> 1:16:33.519 I don't click and bop it twisted touch it yet. 1:16:35.800 --> 1:16:37.880 I don't give a damn stop passing it up. 1:16:39.040 --> 1:16:42.160 It's right there. It's a button process. It really is 1:16:42.240 --> 1:16:45.800 a y'all touch it. That's crazy. A lot of men 1:16:45.880 --> 1:16:47.280 don't know that. That's really. 1:16:49.600 --> 1:16:55.439 Stimulation is how most women have an orgasm. Penetration. Now, 1:16:55.520 --> 1:16:58.160 you can't have an organs women. Yeah, very it's a 1:16:58.360 --> 1:17:01.840 small percent. Those are the blessed, blessed, blessed women that 1:17:01.960 --> 1:17:05.519 can have an orgasm just off of penetration. But most 1:17:05.640 --> 1:17:09.200 women have an orgasm from stimulation me. 1:17:09.360 --> 1:17:11.519 Right, or not just penetration alone. 1:17:11.920 --> 1:17:19.320 Yeah, you gotta rub on a caress so on. Like 1:17:19.560 --> 1:17:22.360 she said, it starts in the morning, the four play before. 1:17:22.560 --> 1:17:23.519 That's another thing too. 1:17:23.760 --> 1:17:25.320 A lot of men, just like you say, they have 1:17:25.400 --> 1:17:26.840 a mind of its own, so they just want to 1:17:26.880 --> 1:17:29.960 get straight to it, Like, no, we're not wired like that. 1:17:30.120 --> 1:17:34.120 You gotta rep us up. It is, it is. I 1:17:34.200 --> 1:17:35.960 hate it, and especially when you're getting your thirty sinuse. 1:17:35.960 --> 1:17:36.519 That's another thing. 1:17:36.600 --> 1:17:38.960 Girl, When you turn thirty, you just ain't gonna have 1:17:39.080 --> 1:17:40.720 time for none of this sheet no more. 1:17:41.760 --> 1:17:43.800 I'm not gonna waste my time. And I'm gonna let 1:17:43.840 --> 1:17:44.040 you know. 1:17:44.360 --> 1:17:46.200 I'm just saying you're not gonna have You're gonna be 1:17:46.400 --> 1:17:49.280 way more vocal and ready for like if a man, 1:17:49.360 --> 1:17:50.960 you're not gonna let people waste tho time. I mean, 1:17:51.000 --> 1:17:53.080 obviously you're in a relationship, but I feel like you're 1:17:53.160 --> 1:17:55.519 gonna be even more vocal about what you want and 1:17:55.600 --> 1:17:57.000 what you like when you turn thirty. 1:17:57.040 --> 1:17:58.920 So it's like, yeah, a nigga, No, you need to 1:17:59.000 --> 1:18:00.760 do this. You need to do this, and you need 1:18:00.840 --> 1:18:02.160 to do it like this, and you need to do 1:18:02.240 --> 1:18:03.720 it right now. Or we just ain't even about to 1:18:04.880 --> 1:18:07.960 I agree, I agree anything else y'all want to add, 1:18:08.840 --> 1:18:09.400 or we move on. 1:18:10.000 --> 1:18:12.200 We look, first of all, we just put y'all on 1:18:12.360 --> 1:18:15.120 game fellas, So I hope y'all took some good No, 1:18:16.200 --> 1:18:19.920 you know what I'm saying, all. 1:18:18.920 --> 1:18:19.800 Of them, all of them. 1:18:19.840 --> 1:18:26.160 I'm like, this is your camera, my camera, this is 1:18:26.920 --> 1:18:31.000 haen camera. Three is hers in a wide shot and 1:18:31.800 --> 1:18:32.880 yours Oh nice. 1:18:33.000 --> 1:18:34.040 Okay, yeah, so if. 1:18:33.960 --> 1:18:36.160 You want to emphasize something or something, so you got 1:18:36.280 --> 1:18:37.640 to say it to three, okay, and. 1:18:37.720 --> 1:18:39.760 We just I just always be looking at these doing 1:18:39.840 --> 1:18:41.920 the wide shot. I always get my camera because I'll 1:18:41.920 --> 1:18:45.000 be like you do, I love to make a face. 1:18:45.320 --> 1:18:47.640 I never look at my camera. I always look at 1:18:47.680 --> 1:18:49.519 my camera always. 1:18:49.600 --> 1:18:53.120 Okay, Now, this is such an awkward space, like y'all 1:18:53.200 --> 1:18:55.559 over here, I'm like, why would I look right here? 1:18:55.880 --> 1:18:56.000 Well? 1:18:56.080 --> 1:18:58.240 I think I think it's sometimes when somebody is a 1:18:58.320 --> 1:19:01.200 guess and they sitting right here and that's czy, so crazy. 1:19:01.280 --> 1:19:06.080 I'll be like, dude, you do they think we on 1:19:06.160 --> 1:19:08.400 an episode of the Office. That's how you know? I 1:19:08.479 --> 1:19:10.599 watched The Office super I love the I love when 1:19:10.640 --> 1:19:14.639 they'd be doing a camera. Yeah that's what you think. 1:19:16.120 --> 1:20:53.120 I'll be like, Okay, all right, hope y'all a Shugarl 1:20:53.280 --> 1:20:55.519 xp and is Sugarl draining a call? 1:20:55.920 --> 1:20:58.439 Y'all know we have a segment on Poor Minds called 1:20:58.560 --> 1:21:00.519 Item of the Week. 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Get your product, get your 1:21:35.720 --> 1:21:38.800 business sponsored, and yeah, make you some money. 1:21:39.840 --> 1:21:42.080 We love to moret a small business man and a 1:21:42.160 --> 1:21:44.759 black business said that, but I mean. 1:21:45.360 --> 1:21:49.559 Any scrimmaad any businesses welcome. 1:21:50.520 --> 1:21:59.240 It's get into the bout. So you gonna love this segment. 1:21:59.600 --> 1:22:01.000 It's the Bop of the week. 1:22:01.479 --> 1:22:04.880 So it's so we're gonna give like whatever music that 1:22:05.000 --> 1:22:07.840 we've been jamming, but we are also gonna talk about 1:22:07.960 --> 1:22:10.360 your album, you know what I'm saying. 1:22:11.200 --> 1:22:13.000 So first I want to give my bop of the week. 1:22:13.080 --> 1:22:13.760 My Bop of the week. 1:22:13.880 --> 1:22:16.679 Y'all know, it's summertime, it's springtime. It's time to get 1:22:17.240 --> 1:22:20.080 in the clubs and to be one and have fun 1:22:20.200 --> 1:22:22.479 and just you know, have that feel good music again. 1:22:22.560 --> 1:22:25.759 So my bop of the week is by afrobeats artist Rama. 1:22:25.880 --> 1:22:28.360 He has a new song called about You, and it's 1:22:28.439 --> 1:22:30.479 just a really cute song. It's just about a girl 1:22:30.600 --> 1:22:33.200 that is something about her and I just. 1:22:33.360 --> 1:22:34.360 I love love music. 1:22:34.439 --> 1:22:36.320 I think we need to bring back when men are 1:22:36.439 --> 1:22:40.120 talking about being in love and oh girl, you special, like, 1:22:40.240 --> 1:22:43.839 let's bring that back. Let's bring back the good vibes. 1:22:44.000 --> 1:22:45.920 They were talking about T. Grizzly the other day and 1:22:45.960 --> 1:22:47.120 how he be rapping about. 1:22:46.880 --> 1:22:52.360 His wife and that like to be married. Yes, that 1:22:52.680 --> 1:22:55.120 like to be when can they fine? Let me tell 1:22:55.120 --> 1:22:55.559 you something. 1:22:55.880 --> 1:22:58.200 The smartest man on this earth know the value of 1:22:58.280 --> 1:22:59.799 having one woman that's valuable. 1:23:00.160 --> 1:23:01.640 They know it. 1:23:01.960 --> 1:23:05.360 The smart, very smart, very smart man, very very I'm 1:23:05.400 --> 1:23:09.479 telling you every successful man, I promise you either has 1:23:09.520 --> 1:23:12.280 a woman running his whole team or he's married. 1:23:13.720 --> 1:23:17.439 They do say that for men, like in business being 1:23:17.520 --> 1:23:22.040 married really like elev Steve Harvey talks about that all time. 1:23:22.400 --> 1:23:24.840 And then of course you have anomalies like some men 1:23:25.439 --> 1:23:28.040 ended up being very very successful without getting married. With 1:23:28.160 --> 1:23:31.240 most successful men they have again, I tell. 1:23:31.080 --> 1:23:33.599 You the men that aren't married, I guarantee you, there's 1:23:33.680 --> 1:23:39.439 a woman behind him who runs everything, his assistant, whether 1:23:39.520 --> 1:23:43.000 it's his executive assistant whatever, I'm telling you, it's a 1:23:43.160 --> 1:23:47.599 woman very close by handling everything. I promise you every time. 1:23:48.000 --> 1:23:50.120 So even if he's not married, ask him who his 1:23:50.240 --> 1:23:50.880 right hand is? 1:23:51.840 --> 1:24:05.519 Brenda? Brenda? Can you bring up Brenda as time? Baby? Right? 1:24:06.760 --> 1:24:08.880 All right? All right? What you been jamming this week? 1:24:08.960 --> 1:24:09.120 Man? 1:24:09.280 --> 1:24:09.519 Okay? 1:24:09.560 --> 1:24:11.720 So, I can't remember if Julian brought this up on 1:24:11.800 --> 1:24:13.559 an episode to Night, because I know we was talking 1:24:13.560 --> 1:24:18.120 about leon Thommys. But I've been like having in rotation yesterday. 1:24:18.200 --> 1:24:19.320 Is that's my song? Okay? 1:24:19.560 --> 1:24:22.040 Yeah, he didn't talk about that. He was talking about remix, 1:24:22.160 --> 1:24:24.320 but I feel like he had brought up another song 1:24:24.439 --> 1:24:26.560 from the album. And I can't remember if that was 1:24:26.640 --> 1:24:27.400 the song or night. 1:24:27.800 --> 1:24:31.760 But I love that song. I don't like I like 1:24:31.840 --> 1:24:32.240 it a lot. 1:24:32.680 --> 1:24:36.400 His voice is very soothing. It is a soothing tone, 1:24:36.520 --> 1:24:38.400 and I love that song. It's like I feel like 1:24:38.479 --> 1:24:39.959 it's bringing back real. 1:24:39.960 --> 1:24:43.439 R and B Yes, telling you I always I told 1:24:43.479 --> 1:24:46.280 you R and b Ain't. It's giving them it's given 1:24:46.360 --> 1:24:51.479 nostalgic ninety. It was a little scoop. We might have 1:24:51.600 --> 1:24:56.840 a little insight. Okay, okay, so talk about way, like 1:24:56.960 --> 1:25:00.280 what's you back? What you what collaborations you could tell 1:25:00.360 --> 1:25:00.559 us you. 1:25:00.640 --> 1:25:04.920 Guys, So okay, I can't tell every collaboration because you know, 1:25:05.080 --> 1:25:07.240 I want my fans to be like surprised. 1:25:07.920 --> 1:25:10.840 But there she goes she started about to get straight. 1:25:11.479 --> 1:25:13.719 You heard it somebody somebody you know in the background. 1:25:13.720 --> 1:25:14.840 I'd be trying to whip that. 1:25:16.160 --> 1:25:19.479 But I do know that people seen a picture of 1:25:19.520 --> 1:25:24.400 me and Marita scientists together. Yeah, but what you guys 1:25:24.479 --> 1:25:27.840 can expect from this new album, I'm so excited. A 1:25:27.920 --> 1:25:30.840 lot of my stuff was like super traditional R and B. 1:25:31.320 --> 1:25:32.720 And I know a lot of people it's like bring 1:25:32.880 --> 1:25:33.720 R and B back, Da Da Da. 1:25:34.360 --> 1:25:36.240 But honestly, I feel like I've made my mark with 1:25:36.400 --> 1:25:37.760 R and B, and I really wanted to be a 1:25:37.800 --> 1:25:41.040 little bit more universal, So I got some more upbeat 1:25:41.080 --> 1:25:44.280 things on air and things that could sound like you 1:25:44.320 --> 1:25:45.040 can go overseas. 1:25:45.360 --> 1:25:47.120 Okay, like we're trying to go bigger. 1:25:48.280 --> 1:25:49.960 I'm never going to turn my back on the people 1:25:49.960 --> 1:25:52.559 who love R and B. But like I really want 1:25:52.840 --> 1:25:54.479 like it's definitely growth. You're gonna be able to hear 1:25:54.479 --> 1:25:58.280 the growth in the production and just me experimenting with 1:25:58.360 --> 1:26:03.040 different sound and tempos I've always wanted to do. 1:26:03.360 --> 1:26:05.240 I'm not a dancer. I suck, actually, but I. 1:26:05.240 --> 1:26:09.280 Want to make a dance, so I want to make 1:26:09.360 --> 1:26:13.559 like a and then it's always relatable, ess always relatable. 1:26:13.640 --> 1:26:16.559 But yeah, I think you guys are really, really really 1:26:16.640 --> 1:26:19.439 gonna like it. I think I love it. I was 1:26:19.520 --> 1:26:23.160 just bopp into it and yeah, I'm very proud. 1:26:23.400 --> 1:26:26.479 So you don't have to give us the TT But 1:26:27.840 --> 1:26:30.720 if you don't, do you have somebody that's like a 1:26:30.840 --> 1:26:33.320 legend on the album? And if you don't, is there 1:26:33.360 --> 1:26:35.439 a legend that you would like to have on the album, 1:26:36.800 --> 1:26:38.000 like a legendary singer? 1:26:38.640 --> 1:26:40.439 Okay, Okay, So this is what I'm gonna say. 1:26:40.640 --> 1:26:43.880 When I think about legend, I think of the greats. 1:26:44.000 --> 1:26:46.000 I think of the people that's been here for a while. 1:26:47.320 --> 1:26:49.840 Upcoming legends, yes, you know, because we. 1:26:49.920 --> 1:26:51.400 Still got a lot of work to do. 1:26:51.800 --> 1:26:54.320 But I've already worked with the Legend before a Babyface 1:26:54.640 --> 1:26:58.320 his last album I did on my latest EP, well 1:26:58.479 --> 1:27:02.880 two years ago. I worked with Monica the Legend. But 1:27:02.960 --> 1:27:06.519 I would say they're like, we're like upcoming, We're still 1:27:06.520 --> 1:27:07.760 because we still got a lot to. 1:27:08.320 --> 1:27:13.240 Right baby Face is alick though that That's what I'm saying, 1:27:13.400 --> 1:27:14.880 Like you were, because that was the album that he 1:27:14.960 --> 1:27:19.519 did with that was a good album. Going on Mary 1:27:19.600 --> 1:27:22.360 J Blige tour was like for her to share the stage. 1:27:22.479 --> 1:27:25.800 That's why when you said, like, do people still disrespect 1:27:25.840 --> 1:27:26.960 you and say you're just a YouTube? 1:27:27.200 --> 1:27:31.240 I don't even care because Mary J. Yeah like that, 1:27:31.840 --> 1:27:34.680 Because then you I want to say, did you get 1:27:34.720 --> 1:27:39.360 a Soul Trainer? Warry reformed at the Trainer? I think 1:27:39.360 --> 1:27:41.200 I did a No that was the other one. I 1:27:41.280 --> 1:27:44.639 did an s w B tribute. Oh no, I probably 1:27:44.760 --> 1:27:47.120 presented at the Soul Training Wars. I did perform. Yes, 1:27:47.240 --> 1:27:48.800 you perform. I know you did. 1:27:49.080 --> 1:27:51.040 I know I was just trying to I'd be so 1:27:51.200 --> 1:27:54.920 booked and I know, but I'm know I've just been 1:27:55.040 --> 1:27:56.639 I've been very low in my age. 1:27:56.720 --> 1:28:00.439 So I get it's like you don't get to just do. 1:28:00.600 --> 1:28:04.440 The Soul Train of War like that is a legendary 1:28:04.560 --> 1:28:06.920 show that our parents grew up with. Yes, like the 1:28:07.280 --> 1:28:09.840 Training Wars is not like and you gotta if you're 1:28:09.840 --> 1:28:12.439 doing a Soul Training Awards, you can't sing, you gotta sign. 1:28:12.720 --> 1:28:15.720 Yeah, you know what I'm saying. So I think that 1:28:15.880 --> 1:28:16.679 whole narrative. 1:28:16.720 --> 1:28:19.559 If people do still say that, they definitely definitely gotta 1:28:19.640 --> 1:28:21.080 let that go because like it's fine. 1:28:21.200 --> 1:28:24.000 It's I've learned that, Like it's okay to not be 1:28:24.120 --> 1:28:25.800 for everybody. I'm not gonna be for everybody, but the 1:28:25.880 --> 1:28:27.000 ones who really love me. 1:28:27.360 --> 1:28:31.800 They know that. Yeah, so that's all that matters. Yeah, 1:28:32.040 --> 1:28:33.360 I see a lot of people in the cor like 1:28:33.400 --> 1:28:36.240 I just can't get her music. I just can't. That's 1:28:36.280 --> 1:28:41.719 a lot of mind beautiful boys. Yes, I'm so happy. 1:28:41.840 --> 1:28:45.920 And beautiful spirit because that matter. Yes, I have been 1:28:46.040 --> 1:28:50.639 having a bat beautiful, beautiful spirit. Beautiful boy. Okay, what's 1:28:50.680 --> 1:28:51.679 the item of the week, Droy. 1:28:52.160 --> 1:28:55.240 Okay, So for the item of the week, I'm gonna 1:28:55.240 --> 1:28:59.840 give Queen some products from you. I have a cosmetics 1:29:00.040 --> 1:29:04.240 line called Muse Beauty. It's Muse Bete Collections dot Com. Now, 1:29:04.800 --> 1:29:08.400 my ass forgot my little pr boxes at home, girl, 1:29:08.479 --> 1:29:09.959 so I had to put it in this little. 1:29:09.840 --> 1:29:11.800 Oh I love the heart, but I'm marring you the 1:29:11.920 --> 1:29:12.639 whole collection. 1:29:13.360 --> 1:29:16.920 And then I also have some messcara and eyeliner that's 1:29:16.960 --> 1:29:20.320 coming out soon and I can ship it young Red 1:29:20.360 --> 1:29:24.519 as I would be y'all money. Yes, girl, it's lip glosses, 1:29:24.600 --> 1:29:27.280 some lip liners. We also have some jelly blushes. 1:29:27.760 --> 1:29:32.800 Oh, I love jelly blush. I'm telling you, if you 1:29:32.880 --> 1:29:35.880 have like a no makeup bruh, it does something so different. Yes, 1:29:36.600 --> 1:29:39.080 when the summer to get that. 1:29:39.160 --> 1:29:42.559 Cute sunburn luks, Oh my god, when we was in Turks, baby, 1:29:42.840 --> 1:29:44.519 I got the jelly blush in my damn. 1:29:44.800 --> 1:29:47.639 Yes, I love the jelly bushes. It's so good. It's 1:29:47.880 --> 1:29:50.559 so good. And I don't like the lip glosses. Yes, 1:29:50.760 --> 1:29:52.360 I can't wait. I'm gonna send. 1:29:52.240 --> 1:29:56.479 Y'all little a little one, little one. Okay, but real quick, 1:29:56.760 --> 1:29:58.800 do you have a title of the album yet? 1:29:59.400 --> 1:30:03.800 I do, but I can't feeling because I want to 1:30:03.880 --> 1:30:08.000 do it like in a in a very like strategic strategical. 1:30:07.400 --> 1:30:10.120 Way, like I want my fans to engage in you. 1:30:10.680 --> 1:30:13.240 But I do have an album. I'll give you a hint. 1:30:13.960 --> 1:30:18.120 This hurt. Okay, Okay, it's like I can't. Okay, And 1:30:18.280 --> 1:30:21.760 do we have a drop date or around? We don't 1:30:21.840 --> 1:30:27.760 have a date yet, but we're definitely dropping. Okay, Okay, 1:30:27.880 --> 1:30:30.160 that's good enough for I really hope to drop in 1:30:30.200 --> 1:30:31.040 the summer. I really do. 1:30:31.760 --> 1:30:33.880 I hope, But sometimes the label was like, well, we 1:30:33.920 --> 1:30:37.560 got to push this back. So it's coming though, Like 1:30:37.680 --> 1:30:44.599 it's done, My album's done. Everything gets up to the production. Yes, okay, yeah, yeah, yeah, 1:30:44.600 --> 1:30:44.720 I know. 1:30:45.200 --> 1:30:46.080 But either way, like. 1:30:46.360 --> 1:30:48.840 I'm still gonna put out singles just for that, I 1:30:48.920 --> 1:30:50.280 still will get new queen music. 1:30:50.520 --> 1:30:51.880 Can you give us? Can you tell us what the 1:30:51.920 --> 1:30:54.439 single called? I don't know yet. 1:30:54.479 --> 1:30:57.280 Actually, I gotta gotta go through the proj Yeah, we gotta, 1:30:57.320 --> 1:30:59.160 we gotta pick. We gotta pick which one is that 1:30:59.360 --> 1:31:00.800 you know want to go behind? 1:31:01.160 --> 1:31:04.760 I know they ready. Yeah, we are so ready for 1:31:04.880 --> 1:31:05.400 new music. 1:31:05.840 --> 1:31:08.200 I'm so happy that people are even still here, just 1:31:08.960 --> 1:31:09.960 like anticipating. 1:31:10.080 --> 1:31:12.800 Yeah, but you know what, I really want artists to 1:31:12.960 --> 1:31:15.960 get back to that. Sometimes I think that people be 1:31:16.040 --> 1:31:19.240 dropping too much, Like when you gotta think, well, when 1:31:19.280 --> 1:31:22.240 you dropped the album, it will be some years. Yes, 1:31:22.280 --> 1:31:24.599 I want people to digest. Yes that you gotta really 1:31:24.680 --> 1:31:25.639 take that music. 1:31:25.520 --> 1:31:26.479 In, like if you drop. 1:31:26.560 --> 1:31:28.280 I don't think that as an artist you should be 1:31:28.360 --> 1:31:31.080 dropping two three albums in a year, and that's just 1:31:31.200 --> 1:31:34.480 too much. You should drop one album, let it marinate, 1:31:34.760 --> 1:31:37.160 go on tour a little bit, let people. 1:31:37.040 --> 1:31:40.680 Rock with they gotta marinate. The gotta be memorable. That's 1:31:40.720 --> 1:31:41.200 my thing too. 1:31:41.240 --> 1:31:43.720 I want to make music that's memorable and not just 1:31:43.840 --> 1:31:46.840 some little microwaveable music like Okay, we'll get over this. 1:31:47.160 --> 1:31:48.800 I want people to just like I want to be 1:31:48.840 --> 1:31:52.880 class last album, you want that Confessions? Like you know 1:31:52.920 --> 1:31:55.800 what I'm saying. We're still talking about Confession. First of all, 1:31:55.880 --> 1:31:59.720 Laurence Hill, she had one album, one album, the time 1:31:59.760 --> 1:32:00.599 of the people. 1:32:00.680 --> 1:32:02.920 Still they somebody out in the world right now is 1:32:02.920 --> 1:32:05.080 waiting for her to get on stage. Like a lot 1:32:05.120 --> 1:32:07.360 of people don't make classic Like like a lot of 1:32:07.360 --> 1:32:10.679 people don't make They don't. They don't because the labels 1:32:10.720 --> 1:32:11.240 are looking for them. 1:32:11.280 --> 1:32:16.679 TikTok yes it yeah, And guess how people engage. 1:32:16.680 --> 1:32:18.920 Oh sorry, go ahead, And I'm just saying that's why 1:32:18.960 --> 1:32:20.160 people engage with the TikTok. 1:32:20.479 --> 1:32:22.439 It is it is. But y'all know what I love 1:32:22.520 --> 1:32:23.280 about TikTok. 1:32:23.360 --> 1:32:27.479 Though all of these old songs are going viral again, 1:32:27.720 --> 1:32:30.000 that's what I love about times. It's like young la 1:32:31.320 --> 1:32:35.320 how the song go oh my Pocka is yeah, I 1:32:35.400 --> 1:32:36.280 love my vegetables. 1:32:36.600 --> 1:32:39.519 It's like, I don't the kids even be finding these songs. 1:32:39.600 --> 1:32:42.000 But also TikTok is good because that's where I find 1:32:42.080 --> 1:32:45.840 a lot of like my undiscovered artists and low key 1:32:46.040 --> 1:32:48.640 like I have fixed my algorithm so good when I 1:32:48.720 --> 1:32:51.240 tell you, I find so many new artists all the 1:32:51.360 --> 1:32:52.360 time from TikTok. 1:32:52.520 --> 1:32:54.280 Yeah, my son finds a lot of songs, you know. 1:32:54.800 --> 1:32:56.240 And I'm like, oh, this is good. 1:32:56.520 --> 1:32:59.519 Yes, it'd be some good, some really really good songs. 1:32:59.520 --> 1:33:02.120 And so I'm like, there's always like a good and 1:33:02.200 --> 1:33:03.120 a bad side. 1:33:02.960 --> 1:33:04.840 To the internet for me, because I remember when they 1:33:05.120 --> 1:33:07.160 got rid of TikTok for a little bit. That was 1:33:07.280 --> 1:33:09.400 mad at me for what I said. What you say, 1:33:09.880 --> 1:33:13.960 I'm about to trap myself again? Okay? Was that because 1:33:14.040 --> 1:33:16.880 all I said was all I said? Was what did 1:33:16.880 --> 1:33:17.639 I say? I think. 1:33:17.680 --> 1:33:19.840 I was like, okay, well now we can have a 1:33:19.880 --> 1:33:21.280 little bit because I thought it was going to be 1:33:21.560 --> 1:33:24.080 Don't get me wrong, I love TikTok too, but I 1:33:24.240 --> 1:33:26.040 wasn't think about the people that make money off of 1:33:26.080 --> 1:33:28.040 TikTok when I said this, so keep that in mind. 1:33:28.040 --> 1:33:30.160 I was thinking about music. I was like, well, maybe 1:33:30.200 --> 1:33:34.040 it'll give people like that make real, real music, like yeah. 1:33:34.320 --> 1:33:36.560 A little chance again, because now I feel like, like 1:33:36.680 --> 1:33:39.040 you said, people just looking for the TikTok. Right, So 1:33:39.160 --> 1:33:41.840 I was thinking like, oh, well maybe like but it 1:33:41.920 --> 1:33:43.320 offended a lot of people. 1:33:43.240 --> 1:33:46.200 Like well the people on TikTok or real artistic. Yeah, 1:33:46.560 --> 1:33:49.920 I was just like, you know, they can't wait to 1:33:50.000 --> 1:33:58.360 be fake outrage. Yeah, but I love TikTok. I love girl. 1:33:59.520 --> 1:34:02.560 What they say it on top, I think like it 1:34:03.240 --> 1:34:06.400 don't it's just a bullshit Like I was asking, It's 1:34:06.439 --> 1:34:08.800 like a lot of times like her exgo viral, they'll 1:34:08.840 --> 1:34:11.160 take clips of like her and Claire. 1:34:12.400 --> 1:34:14.519 Stuff like that. I'll be back there once I got 1:34:14.560 --> 1:34:15.120 to promote something. 1:34:15.240 --> 1:34:17.479 Yeah, they just be doing stupid souff cause it'd be 1:34:17.479 --> 1:34:20.120 stuff that I'll be saying because it's stuff that we 1:34:20.280 --> 1:34:22.720 go through that sometimes don't somebody will clip something of us. 1:34:22.760 --> 1:34:28.200 They be like Dre hates leg Oh my god that yeah, 1:34:28.600 --> 1:34:30.880 like you, I'd be like, I swear they do that 1:34:31.000 --> 1:34:33.240 to me, And I'm like, she is she. 1:34:33.360 --> 1:34:36.439 Is so ready he cannot stand he hates her. But 1:34:36.560 --> 1:34:39.200 people also don't understand too, Like, bro, we're real people. 1:34:39.280 --> 1:34:41.760 So even if we do get an attitude that okay, like. 1:34:42.200 --> 1:34:45.320 But then too sometimes it's just like me and lex I, 1:34:45.600 --> 1:34:45.920 like we do. 1:34:46.000 --> 1:34:48.320 A very good job of when we're like not getting 1:34:48.360 --> 1:34:51.120 along or we have something going on. Not portraying you 1:34:51.240 --> 1:34:53.320 on the show, but like she might have said something 1:34:53.400 --> 1:34:55.640 crazy to me five minutes before we started recording, and 1:34:55.720 --> 1:34:59.120 I gotta be like, hey, welcome, support mine and I 1:34:59.240 --> 1:34:59.519 say it. 1:34:59.520 --> 1:35:03.160 Again, that relationship, but that's relationships in general. Brow men. 1:35:03.240 --> 1:35:05.960 I hate her like that's just such a strong thing 1:35:06.960 --> 1:35:09.080 off the day. That's why I'm like, m h hay girl, 1:35:09.680 --> 1:35:11.960 But it happens we're him. 1:35:12.240 --> 1:35:13.160 But I. 1:35:14.920 --> 1:35:17.760 Like, do y'all know I have like sister yea best 1:35:17.800 --> 1:35:19.519 friends that you've been friends with for ten years. 1:35:19.600 --> 1:35:22.040 No, y'all don't get on each other nerves. Let's talk 1:35:22.080 --> 1:35:22.400 about that. 1:35:22.479 --> 1:35:24.680 Because they be having friends that they've been with for 1:35:24.840 --> 1:35:27.840 ten years. They don't have long relationships yours where you've 1:35:27.840 --> 1:35:30.680 been with somebody for five years, yeah, six years, and 1:35:31.000 --> 1:35:32.320 yeah we be going through shh. 1:35:32.400 --> 1:35:34.720 I love him still, my man. Hello, you know what 1:35:34.720 --> 1:35:36.200 I'm saying. You do get on my nerves and I 1:35:36.240 --> 1:35:42.840 get on. I couldn't imagine my life without Spookie. But 1:35:43.120 --> 1:35:44.280 but no, but that's what I'm saying. 1:35:44.280 --> 1:35:46.920 I've seeing all that ship, like I said, afage TikTok 1:35:47.000 --> 1:35:50.559 scroller honey. But I like I said, Look, I'm thirty five, 1:35:50.680 --> 1:35:52.439 so TikTok is how I keep in the know of 1:35:52.520 --> 1:35:55.240 what the kids got going on. But I do see, 1:35:55.479 --> 1:35:58.040 like I said, I see all the stuff about me, Drea, 1:35:58.680 --> 1:35:59.920 you know, whatever is going on. 1:36:00.320 --> 1:36:01.320 That's how I stay in too. 1:36:01.400 --> 1:36:03.720 So like I said, TikTok has a good side, but 1:36:03.880 --> 1:36:05.080 it also has a bad side. 1:36:05.120 --> 1:36:08.240 But I giving that makes me say. 1:36:08.320 --> 1:36:11.799 They said it about everybody. They said about every friendship 1:36:11.880 --> 1:36:14.800 and every relationship. That's what made me feel better once 1:36:14.920 --> 1:36:16.840 I went when I went to share room and I'm like, 1:36:16.960 --> 1:36:18.880 it's someone that was like, oh my god, she is Wow. 1:36:19.280 --> 1:36:21.360 When I look at the comments, even that person that 1:36:21.560 --> 1:36:24.799 I think is so wild, nothing but negative stuff. 1:36:24.560 --> 1:36:27.799 About Oh yeah, that's why I said, talk about everybody, 1:36:27.920 --> 1:36:28.439 not just me. 1:36:28.560 --> 1:36:30.280 And Brenda was talking about everybody. 1:36:34.120 --> 1:36:36.080 But y'all know what, y'all got a good point because 1:36:36.080 --> 1:36:39.479 they it's like hate pages for Beyonce and Beyonce don't 1:36:39.520 --> 1:36:40.760 say she beyond. 1:36:40.800 --> 1:36:41.920 They don't give up nothing. 1:36:42.520 --> 1:36:44.880 She doesn't talk to people still be trying to find 1:36:44.920 --> 1:36:45.360 They hate it. 1:36:45.439 --> 1:36:48.240 When she was doing her natural hair line, oh my god, 1:36:52.120 --> 1:36:54.080 even she parted it down the middle. They was like, 1:36:54.520 --> 1:36:56.040 it's only on one side. 1:36:56.320 --> 1:36:59.519 Tanner Adell had posted this picture of herself being funny, 1:36:59.520 --> 1:37:01.400 and she was like, oh my gosh, y'all, look at 1:37:01.439 --> 1:37:03.679 this picture of my great great grandmother that I found, 1:37:04.000 --> 1:37:06.680 the picture of herself, and everybody was like, you are 1:37:06.800 --> 1:37:07.439 such a liar. 1:37:07.520 --> 1:37:12.400 You're just like Sissa. It was like, all right, that's 1:37:12.439 --> 1:37:14.720 what brea scene, that's what scene. I'm just repeating what 1:37:14.840 --> 1:37:17.679 you say, but I'm telling you. It was a thread 1:37:17.760 --> 1:37:21.040 of people calling her a liar, stupid. We can tell 1:37:21.240 --> 1:37:24.280 this is lashes you got. It's clearly a picture of herself, 1:37:24.320 --> 1:37:27.280 and she was like, trolling being funny. Yeah, it just 1:37:27.520 --> 1:37:29.559 it just it's two different types of people on the internet. 1:37:29.680 --> 1:37:32.000 So we got the creators that are making a bag 1:37:32.520 --> 1:37:36.040 and showing themselves, and then you got the comments that 1:37:36.120 --> 1:37:37.120 are usually negative. 1:37:37.560 --> 1:37:39.960 The only people that are not negative are the people 1:37:40.000 --> 1:37:41.080 that follow me and love me. 1:37:41.280 --> 1:37:43.599 But anyone outside of that, I don't expect for them 1:37:43.640 --> 1:37:45.479 to even know like me at all. 1:37:45.720 --> 1:37:47.560 Yeah, you know, And that's why I said, it's a 1:37:47.640 --> 1:37:50.840 lot of people. TikTok is different. So you got people 1:37:50.880 --> 1:37:54.200 that make money off of clipping your stuff. Oh my god, 1:37:57.040 --> 1:38:00.439 DNG actually said this. He said, there's a guy who's said, 1:38:00.520 --> 1:38:02.920 like he's paid off his house, he bought a brand 1:38:02.960 --> 1:38:05.280 new car just from hard stuff. 1:38:05.880 --> 1:38:08.160 There's an account. And I'm not mad at you. No, 1:38:08.320 --> 1:38:11.120 we loved them. They always created. 1:38:11.680 --> 1:38:14.240 And stuff from poor minds and they go back and 1:38:14.320 --> 1:38:16.560 they put a bunch of stuff together and they go 1:38:16.800 --> 1:38:17.880 viral a lot. 1:38:18.120 --> 1:38:19.400 You know what I'm saying. And I'm not mad at 1:38:19.400 --> 1:38:21.679 it because it spreads the word. But check this out. 1:38:22.200 --> 1:38:25.920 So our producer she started reposting it all the time, 1:38:26.000 --> 1:38:28.400 like posting it on our page. We got kicked out 1:38:28.400 --> 1:38:32.680 of the TikTok creator fund, but it's our video. It's 1:38:32.840 --> 1:38:35.759 crazy because we were reposting the videos that they were posting. 1:38:35.800 --> 1:38:41.559 Oh wow, but it's us in the video. 1:38:41.720 --> 1:38:45.120 But they came us out. Yeah, girl, it's great. It 1:38:45.280 --> 1:38:45.639 we did. 1:38:45.800 --> 1:38:48.280 We said something and I think now we can start 1:38:48.320 --> 1:38:50.360 back getting monetized. But for like a whole month, we 1:38:50.400 --> 1:38:53.040 couldn't get monetized from that, and it was us in 1:38:53.120 --> 1:38:54.559 the video. I'm like, this is I need to get 1:38:55.400 --> 1:38:58.320 creating stuff. Yeah, I've been trying to want to get 1:38:58.360 --> 1:38:58.479 on that. 1:38:58.640 --> 1:39:01.439 It's hard for me to take a picture of my 1:39:01.520 --> 1:39:04.560 food before I eat it. Yeah, I just want to 1:39:04.600 --> 1:39:07.240 eat it. Yeah, set the camera up before you get 1:39:07.320 --> 1:39:10.919 in a car. Yeah, I'm not like a good vlogger 1:39:11.120 --> 1:39:11.800 what I'm doing. 1:39:11.880 --> 1:39:13.600 But like I can do stuff like this, like I 1:39:13.680 --> 1:39:16.200 have called love lexp and I just prop my camera 1:39:16.320 --> 1:39:17.920 up and I talk and I do all my hot 1:39:18.000 --> 1:39:18.920 topics and things like that. 1:39:19.360 --> 1:39:21.040 I can do talk show stuff content. 1:39:21.600 --> 1:39:25.280 But I just can't, like a day in the life stuck, 1:39:26.240 --> 1:39:27.840 especially if I'm in the moment I've been trying to 1:39:27.880 --> 1:39:28.479 have a good time. 1:39:28.840 --> 1:39:32.320 Ye be hard, it'd be hard, bruin the vibe sometimes 1:39:32.920 --> 1:39:34.360 having a good time and then you just. 1:39:35.320 --> 1:39:37.479 Get a real good moment but the camera turned off 1:39:37.560 --> 1:39:43.200 or something. Yeah, or it's not recording. Yes, oh my god. 1:39:43.840 --> 1:39:45.560 So yeah, I'm just like, let me just stick to 1:39:45.640 --> 1:39:47.439 what I know. Let me just sit to what I know. Okay. 1:39:47.640 --> 1:39:49.960 Do you give good advice? You think I believe I 1:39:50.080 --> 1:39:51.880 give good advice? Okay, I think you do. I can 1:39:51.960 --> 1:39:54.800 see that. Okay, So we are about to do pour 1:39:54.920 --> 1:39:55.599 your heart out. 1:39:55.640 --> 1:39:57.400 If you want your question answered on the show, makes 1:39:57.439 --> 1:40:00.760 you email us at ask Poor Minds at g If 1:40:00.800 --> 1:40:02.760 you're a Patreon member, make sure you put that in 1:40:02.840 --> 1:40:03.240 the headline. 1:40:03.280 --> 1:40:05.080 You get to skip the line of course. 1:40:05.240 --> 1:40:08.080 Okay, so we have some questions and we are going 1:40:08.160 --> 1:40:09.639 to give our best advice. 1:40:09.760 --> 1:40:13.400 Go ahead, Drea Heylex Andrea big fan of the show. 1:40:13.560 --> 1:40:15.839 I love how y'all hold space for real stories. 1:40:16.040 --> 1:40:16.920 So here's mine. 1:40:17.320 --> 1:40:19.559 From the outside, I look like I've got it together, 1:40:20.040 --> 1:40:24.559 two small businesses, college student, creative, big dreams. But behind 1:40:24.640 --> 1:40:27.680 all of that, I've been through real life lost, heartbreak, 1:40:27.840 --> 1:40:31.880 sexual assault, two abortions, and carrying grief while being the 1:40:31.960 --> 1:40:35.720 strong friend. I've always kept together for everyone else, but 1:40:35.880 --> 1:40:39.200 lately I've been wondering who holds me. I started a 1:40:39.320 --> 1:40:43.320 nonprofit called Grief God Growth to help others navigate pain, 1:40:43.640 --> 1:40:46.760 even though I'm still healing myself. So I guess I'm 1:40:46.840 --> 1:40:50.120 asking how do you keep showing up when you're still 1:40:50.160 --> 1:40:53.320 healing from stuff no one claps for? And how do 1:40:53.400 --> 1:40:56.599 you forgive yourself for surviving when you couldn't save everyone else? 1:40:57.040 --> 1:40:59.439 Thanks for listening. I just hope my story helps someone 1:40:59.520 --> 1:41:03.040 else feel scene to kd M, I. 1:41:03.080 --> 1:41:05.240 Think we kind of touched on that this episode. Yeah, 1:41:05.240 --> 1:41:07.320 that's why this is a good question. Yeah, what was 1:41:07.400 --> 1:41:09.600 the last two What was the questions that you got to? 1:41:09.880 --> 1:41:10.920 She said, how do you keep? 1:41:11.160 --> 1:41:12.960 She said, how do you keep showing up when you're 1:41:12.960 --> 1:41:15.400 still healing from the stuff no one claps for. And 1:41:15.479 --> 1:41:18.000 how do you forgive yourself for surviving when you couldn't 1:41:18.040 --> 1:41:19.920 help I mean, when you couldn't save everyone else. 1:41:20.040 --> 1:41:24.439 Oh that is a good one, it is. That's yeah. 1:41:24.800 --> 1:41:28.320 I think like survivor's guilt is real, and I think 1:41:28.400 --> 1:41:32.600 a lot of times you have to understand forgiving yourself 1:41:32.840 --> 1:41:35.320 is the biggest is the one of the hardest things. 1:41:35.720 --> 1:41:38.559 I'm personally going through that honestly right now, if I'm 1:41:38.600 --> 1:41:41.560 being vulnerable and honest, and I think you just have 1:41:41.640 --> 1:41:44.200 to give yourself grace and you have to give yourself time. 1:41:44.280 --> 1:41:45.760 I think a lot of times we get mad at 1:41:45.800 --> 1:41:48.760 ourselves for not getting over something so quick. If you 1:41:48.840 --> 1:41:50.680 go through something and it's like a month later and 1:41:50.720 --> 1:41:52.679 you're still crying, you're like, why am I still upset? 1:41:52.760 --> 1:41:55.719 And you're getting mad at yourself. It takes time to heal. 1:41:56.360 --> 1:41:58.400 You know, you have to be easy with yourself. 1:41:58.479 --> 1:42:02.200 The world is already hard on us individually as people, 1:42:02.600 --> 1:42:05.519 as women. So the best thing that you can do 1:42:05.640 --> 1:42:08.519 for yourself is just go easy on yourself and give 1:42:08.600 --> 1:42:12.439 yourself time to heal. Give yourself time healing is a journey. 1:42:12.680 --> 1:42:15.040 And I'm not talking about six, seven, eight months. 1:42:15.080 --> 1:42:16.920 It takes years to heal. 1:42:17.000 --> 1:42:19.479 And you have to be willing to have your good 1:42:19.600 --> 1:42:22.000 days but also be willing to have your bad days. 1:42:22.400 --> 1:42:24.880 It's okay to cry, it's okay to be angry. 1:42:25.240 --> 1:42:27.800 I think sometimes when we're sad and we're angry, we 1:42:27.920 --> 1:42:29.840 feel like we're not supposed to be feeling these things. 1:42:29.880 --> 1:42:32.880 You're not supposed to be happy every day. That's not normal. 1:42:33.640 --> 1:42:36.559 Being sad is normal, Being mad as normal, Being happy 1:42:36.680 --> 1:42:39.200 is normal. So I think going through the emotions of 1:42:39.400 --> 1:42:43.760 actual healing is rough. It's hard, but you have to 1:42:43.880 --> 1:42:46.240 acknowledge that and you have to be okay with not 1:42:46.479 --> 1:42:49.360 being okay. And I think that's the hardest thing. People 1:42:49.360 --> 1:42:51.639 are not okay with not being okay. 1:42:51.800 --> 1:42:54.840 Give yourself the grace, Yeah, give yourself grace, man, Like, you. 1:42:54.960 --> 1:42:57.040 Really have to give yourself grace and like I said, 1:42:57.240 --> 1:43:00.519 just time to heal. And you have to understand not 1:43:00.640 --> 1:43:03.800 everybody's gonna clap for you for doing things that people like, Oh, 1:43:03.880 --> 1:43:05.799 I'm not gonna applaud a fish for swimming. 1:43:06.400 --> 1:43:10.160 You got a clap for yourself? Hello, you do you know, ma'am, 1:43:10.920 --> 1:43:12.120 ma'am what do you think, queen? 1:43:12.920 --> 1:43:15.360 She said, how do you how do you keep showing 1:43:15.439 --> 1:43:19.080 up for yourself? Okay, I think a lot of people 1:43:19.200 --> 1:43:23.880 feel like showing up means every day you go full force. 1:43:24.000 --> 1:43:27.960 M yep. As long as you just try every day, 1:43:28.360 --> 1:43:31.800 try to do your best showing up. 1:43:31.840 --> 1:43:33.640 Don't look the same every day, right, you know what 1:43:33.680 --> 1:43:36.160 I'm saying. And you also got to understand a lot 1:43:36.200 --> 1:43:38.439 of people. I would just use myself as an example. 1:43:40.200 --> 1:43:43.400 I have ADHD really bad. So if I don't get 1:43:43.560 --> 1:43:48.240 like everything done, I used to get nothing done. But 1:43:48.360 --> 1:43:50.760 I had to learn, like even if I just if 1:43:50.800 --> 1:43:53.160 I if I don't clean this whole kitchen as an example, 1:43:53.280 --> 1:43:55.519 if I could just sweep this floor, or if I 1:43:55.520 --> 1:43:57.439 could just like just get all the trash, put the 1:43:57.640 --> 1:43:59.800 put the trash in trash can put the dishes in 1:43:59.840 --> 1:44:01.160 this thinking I'm still showing up. 1:44:01.520 --> 1:44:03.400 I still did it. I'm still accomplished. 1:44:03.479 --> 1:44:06.479 Yeah, you still accomplish. And and to the fact that 1:44:06.600 --> 1:44:08.400 no one clapped for like she said, you have to 1:44:08.479 --> 1:44:12.040 do it for yourself. A lot of people forget to 1:44:13.040 --> 1:44:16.360 confide in God and ask him and cast all your 1:44:16.400 --> 1:44:19.800 cares upon him. You gotta cast all your cares upon God, 1:44:19.840 --> 1:44:22.880 because we cannot do it alone. And you have to 1:44:23.000 --> 1:44:26.519 really really ask for desertment on when do I When 1:44:26.600 --> 1:44:27.200 do I rest? 1:44:27.320 --> 1:44:29.320 Because we need to rest. A lot of people overwork 1:44:29.360 --> 1:44:31.760 themselves just trying to like show up, show up, show up. 1:44:31.800 --> 1:44:34.360 Some days you gotta rest, so get like you said, 1:44:34.760 --> 1:44:37.680 give yourself, like she said, give yourself grace and know 1:44:37.960 --> 1:44:40.400 that even a small win is still a win. 1:44:41.640 --> 1:44:43.720 And what was the second question? It was, how do 1:44:43.800 --> 1:44:46.920 you forgive yourself for surviving when you couldn't save everyone else? 1:44:47.040 --> 1:44:47.679 That one was deep. 1:44:47.720 --> 1:44:50.640 I'm gonna tell you, like my therapists would tell me, 1:44:52.200 --> 1:44:54.800 it's it's everything's not your responsibility. 1:44:55.680 --> 1:44:57.800 And that's a tough call, especially when you want to 1:44:57.840 --> 1:44:58.840 bring everybody with you. 1:44:59.120 --> 1:45:05.599 Yeah, every and everyone's everyone's like success. Well, your success 1:45:05.760 --> 1:45:09.680 is not everyone else's success. Like people will say, well, 1:45:09.840 --> 1:45:12.200 I ain't make it like you, because you know you 1:45:12.400 --> 1:45:14.800 you made it up here. But like success can be 1:45:15.000 --> 1:45:16.720 just right here for them, you know what I mean. 1:45:16.800 --> 1:45:19.280 It doesn't mean that like you didn't bring them with 1:45:19.400 --> 1:45:20.720 you and so like you left them out in the 1:45:20.720 --> 1:45:23.360 dirt or whatever. I just really, like you said, survival's 1:45:23.360 --> 1:45:26.040 guilt is really real, and I I had to like 1:45:26.880 --> 1:45:29.600 I'm still working through that too, But yeah, it's not 1:45:29.720 --> 1:45:33.320 your response. Everyone's not your responsibility. We all like have 1:45:34.200 --> 1:45:36.600 we are responsible for our own lives, and. 1:45:36.680 --> 1:45:37.439 You know you can't. 1:45:37.600 --> 1:45:42.400 Like everyone makes their own decisions and either rewards or 1:45:42.400 --> 1:45:44.360 consequences come from that, and you can't. 1:45:44.400 --> 1:45:46.840 You can't blame yourself for that. That's too much, that's 1:45:46.880 --> 1:45:47.840 too much to put on your. 1:45:47.800 --> 1:45:50.080 You never gonna be happy if you yourself for what 1:45:50.240 --> 1:45:52.880 other people are doing with their life. Like, you can't 1:45:52.960 --> 1:45:55.479 save people. I feel like if people are willing to 1:45:55.560 --> 1:45:59.560 do the work, or you know they are having a 1:45:59.640 --> 1:46:02.320 heart and you can help them, you should, But you 1:46:02.360 --> 1:46:05.240 shouldn't go at your way to make it your responsibility 1:46:05.360 --> 1:46:07.639 to try to save people around you, because you can't 1:46:07.680 --> 1:46:09.400 want more for people than what. 1:46:09.479 --> 1:46:10.800 They want for the hell. 1:46:11.360 --> 1:46:14.040 Yeah, and some people don't really want that much. It's 1:46:14.080 --> 1:46:14.920 a harsh reality. 1:46:15.320 --> 1:46:18.040 But it's like you want to lie. You want to lie. 1:46:18.200 --> 1:46:20.320 That's why you grinding for it, That's why you striving 1:46:20.400 --> 1:46:20.640 for it. 1:46:21.040 --> 1:46:23.519 This person around you, you might want them to want 1:46:23.640 --> 1:46:25.720 more because you love them and you care about them 1:46:25.760 --> 1:46:27.680 and you want them to be there with you, but 1:46:28.200 --> 1:46:31.479 they might not want them even be meant for them. 1:46:31.840 --> 1:46:34.880 Being an entrepreneur is not meant for everybody. We still 1:46:35.000 --> 1:46:39.040 need the people that were working there. That's not everybody's story, 1:46:39.280 --> 1:46:42.599 you know. And just because it doesn't mean that they're 1:46:42.680 --> 1:46:44.240 like any less special exactly. 1:46:44.360 --> 1:46:46.200 Know, like everybody is just not for everyone. 1:46:47.280 --> 1:46:51.240 People need about doing something little. Sometimes it's all you 1:46:51.320 --> 1:46:52.760 need to do to show up. Because I was talking 1:46:52.800 --> 1:46:55.360 to my friend about that because we both kind of 1:46:55.439 --> 1:46:57.360 deal with depression and stuff, and she's kind of going 1:46:57.400 --> 1:46:59.600 through it right now, and I was like, man, be 1:47:00.160 --> 1:47:03.720 proud of yourself because you're looking at it like, oh, yeah, 1:47:03.760 --> 1:47:05.280 I got out the house today, but I just went 1:47:05.360 --> 1:47:06.200 to my friend's house. 1:47:06.240 --> 1:47:07.000 But I was still sad. 1:47:07.040 --> 1:47:09.439 I said, but you got out of the house, like 1:47:09.680 --> 1:47:11.800 when you were depressed, you could have just stayed there. 1:47:12.800 --> 1:47:13.479 In fucking bed. 1:47:13.520 --> 1:47:15.960 Because I'm telling y'all, I am a very like I'm 1:47:16.120 --> 1:47:19.680 very clean, clean person, Like I am very kind of 1:47:19.760 --> 1:47:22.560 like OCD when it comes to my place. And but 1:47:22.640 --> 1:47:25.200 when I like, I got really like depressed, like around 1:47:25.280 --> 1:47:28.320 like December and January, and I just let my apartment. 1:47:28.320 --> 1:47:29.600 I was like, oh my god, I can't believe I 1:47:29.680 --> 1:47:32.320 have so much shit everywhere. And I just could not 1:47:32.400 --> 1:47:34.040 get out of the bed. I just could not do it. 1:47:34.479 --> 1:47:36.479 And then I remember I just spent a whole week 1:47:36.520 --> 1:47:38.760 and I was just taking it room by room and 1:47:38.840 --> 1:47:40.840 I just organized everything and I would just get up 1:47:40.840 --> 1:47:42.759 and I was like, one day I did my closet. 1:47:42.840 --> 1:47:45.080 Then the next day it took me like a whole week, 1:47:45.320 --> 1:47:46.720 and I'm my apartment ain't big. 1:47:47.200 --> 1:47:48.640 But I was like, you know what, I did it. 1:47:48.760 --> 1:47:50.880 You did it, though, and I feel so much better, 1:47:50.920 --> 1:47:52.720 and I was like clapping for myself. I was like, bitch, 1:47:52.760 --> 1:47:53.960 I cleaned my closet today. 1:47:54.280 --> 1:47:57.960 Amen, you did that, bitch. I don't care if it's 1:47:58.040 --> 1:48:00.920 like something small or big. Clap for you. That's all 1:48:01.000 --> 1:48:03.479 you did it, yep, because only you know what it 1:48:03.640 --> 1:48:05.800 took for you to be able to do there. Oh 1:48:05.880 --> 1:48:07.559 you got to give yourself that pet on the baby. 1:48:07.560 --> 1:48:08.240 Do you know what I'm saying? 1:48:08.560 --> 1:48:11.320 Like, even when Drag was doing seventy five hard, I'll 1:48:11.400 --> 1:48:13.080 use this for an example because I'm like, ooh, damn, 1:48:13.360 --> 1:48:14.720 I need to get my ass up and go to 1:48:14.840 --> 1:48:17.160 the gym. And it's like even though like I was 1:48:17.200 --> 1:48:18.519 still going to the gym, but I would like get 1:48:18.560 --> 1:48:20.559 on the treadmill and I'm like walking for twenty minutes. 1:48:20.640 --> 1:48:23.120 I'm like, bitch, you got up, Bitch, you got up. 1:48:23.320 --> 1:48:24.000 You know what I'm saying. 1:48:24.000 --> 1:48:25.840 I'm like okay, and now I'm like back and I'm 1:48:25.880 --> 1:48:27.920 like lifting waists and like, cause even with that, you 1:48:28.000 --> 1:48:30.840 don't know what's motivating people or what's you know, getting 1:48:30.880 --> 1:48:32.479 them through to, like, you know what, let me get 1:48:32.520 --> 1:48:34.639 up and move my body and do something. Because I'll 1:48:34.640 --> 1:48:37.200 say this about working out too and or going to 1:48:37.320 --> 1:48:40.120 church or anything. It's like your journey is your journey 1:48:40.160 --> 1:48:42.320 because I never post when I go to the gym. 1:48:43.080 --> 1:48:45.240 And I posted myself in the gym like a day 1:48:45.320 --> 1:48:45.760 or two ago. 1:48:45.880 --> 1:48:47.080 I don't know why what made me. 1:48:47.120 --> 1:48:49.479 Do it, but I was like it was like four 1:48:49.600 --> 1:48:51.800 or five people whoever reacted to my store and was like, oh, 1:48:52.240 --> 1:48:53.840 I see you finally back in the gym. 1:48:53.920 --> 1:48:55.920 Now I see you fine, and it's just so. But 1:48:56.000 --> 1:48:58.439 then why I don't post, because why would you say that? 1:48:58.640 --> 1:49:01.280 But it doesn't matter, bitch, I'd have lost thirty pounds 1:49:01.280 --> 1:49:02.040 since January. 1:49:02.840 --> 1:49:04.720 I don't need to document everything. 1:49:04.880 --> 1:49:07.439 Oh I got you girls, But I just feel like 1:49:08.360 --> 1:49:10.360 that's why it's so hard to be open about. Like 1:49:10.439 --> 1:49:12.519 even with me going to church, I was on cocktails 1:49:12.560 --> 1:49:14.479 talking about how I'm going to church now, and peoples 1:49:14.479 --> 1:49:15.080 in the comments like. 1:49:15.160 --> 1:49:18.040 Oh, you go to church. But it's like, that's why 1:49:18.160 --> 1:49:19.719 you sprazy. You know what I'm saying. 1:49:19.800 --> 1:49:22.160 But I don't need I don't talk about it because 1:49:22.160 --> 1:49:24.439 I don't need those applause from y'all because I've been 1:49:24.479 --> 1:49:27.599 clapping for myself and I've been getting through my battles 1:49:27.640 --> 1:49:29.600 that y'all don't even know about behind closed doors, and 1:49:29.680 --> 1:49:32.479 I'm doing it. So I think to answer her question, 1:49:33.200 --> 1:49:34.680 like you said, do you want one hundred percent have 1:49:34.760 --> 1:49:36.559 to clap for yourself even for the small thing? 1:49:36.760 --> 1:49:40.120 For sure, Yes, ma'am. I was trying to lift to it. 1:49:40.240 --> 1:49:43.160 It was like, you're doing it wrong, You're I had 1:49:43.520 --> 1:49:47.080 our girl, you come show me. Then to the gym, 1:49:47.160 --> 1:49:47.439 and then. 1:49:47.360 --> 1:49:49.519 You know what I'm saying, And I think, like, like 1:49:49.560 --> 1:49:51.560 I said, well, working out it's a hard journey. Like 1:49:51.880 --> 1:49:54.160 I was going to the gym so consistently, then I 1:49:54.240 --> 1:49:56.559 kind of fell off. Then I started just doing cardio 1:49:56.600 --> 1:49:58.280 because I wanted to lose weight. Now I lost the 1:49:58.280 --> 1:50:00.760 weight and it's like, okay, I'm back lifting out. Everybody's 1:50:00.760 --> 1:50:03.720 story is different. Everybody. Let people do what they do yeah, 1:50:03.880 --> 1:50:05.560 And and then when I go to your page, it 1:50:05.680 --> 1:50:07.120 seems like you ain't never been. 1:50:07.520 --> 1:50:11.240 Hello, right, But I always say I feel like when 1:50:11.280 --> 1:50:13.320 it comes to the gym, and like even with church, 1:50:13.479 --> 1:50:16.720 anything in life that you have to push yourself to do, 1:50:17.160 --> 1:50:20.960 it's more so about the discipline, like, because you're not 1:50:21.040 --> 1:50:23.640 gonna always have the motivation, right, So you have to 1:50:23.720 --> 1:50:26.920 always ask yourself, Okay, how important is this relationship that 1:50:27.000 --> 1:50:29.760 I'm trying to be with God? How important easy to 1:50:29.800 --> 1:50:31.960 me that I get closer to him and draw closer 1:50:32.000 --> 1:50:34.559 to him? So even when I don't feel like getting 1:50:34.640 --> 1:50:36.719 up on Sunday, I still need to go to church 1:50:36.840 --> 1:50:39.679 even when I how important easy to me to stay 1:50:39.760 --> 1:50:43.080 in shape because I know where I came from. So okay, 1:50:43.560 --> 1:50:45.120 I need to go to the gym even though I 1:50:45.160 --> 1:50:47.680 don't want to. That's how I go because every day I. 1:50:47.720 --> 1:50:49.120 Don't do it when you don't want to, that's the 1:50:49.160 --> 1:50:51.559 best time. Girl. It was days while I was doing 1:50:51.600 --> 1:50:52.320 seventy five hart. 1:50:52.400 --> 1:50:54.880 And I'm usually a morning person when it comes to 1:50:54.960 --> 1:50:58.519 working out morning or afternoon, but it was times while 1:50:58.560 --> 1:51:00.200 I was doing seventy five hard where I live really 1:51:00.360 --> 1:51:02.040 was just all day, like I don't want to go, 1:51:02.439 --> 1:51:04.639 so I ended up having to go at like nine pm. 1:51:04.600 --> 1:51:05.320 Just to get it done. 1:51:05.720 --> 1:51:08.600 But I went because it's like a discipline thing, you know, 1:51:08.920 --> 1:51:10.760 So I think you have to look at it like that. 1:51:10.840 --> 1:51:12.679 And sometimes I don't know if that will help anybody, 1:51:12.800 --> 1:51:15.640 but it helps me because I'm not always motivated. 1:51:16.720 --> 1:51:19.160 And look, I'm the same way with church. Sometimes I'll 1:51:19.160 --> 1:51:22.880 be having to go to that five o'clock service all day, 1:51:23.439 --> 1:51:24.439 you know, but I'll go. 1:51:24.840 --> 1:51:27.000 Yeah, you know, and that's what God see and that's what, 1:51:27.320 --> 1:51:30.040 like you said, only it's only him that judging. 1:51:29.960 --> 1:51:33.800 Right, Okay, Queen, No, that's great. This wasn't so much 1:51:35.640 --> 1:51:36.280 so obviously. 1:51:36.400 --> 1:51:38.280 I mean, the girls know who you are, but let 1:51:38.360 --> 1:51:39.760 them know where they can find you, all the good 1:51:39.800 --> 1:51:41.479 stuff you got coming up, where they can catch you 1:51:41.560 --> 1:51:42.400 and all that good y'all. 1:51:42.439 --> 1:51:45.679 Gotta just find me on all platforms at Queen Nija. 1:51:45.840 --> 1:51:49.560 Yes that's my real name, q n A I j 1:51:49.760 --> 1:51:52.160 A on everything. Oh yeah, go on my snapchat too, 1:51:52.160 --> 1:51:53.479 because I'll be showing my real self. 1:51:53.640 --> 1:51:57.040 Oh yeah, well, thank you. 1:51:57.160 --> 1:52:00.599 This fun I did, I had a lot of Okay, 1:52:00.800 --> 1:52:02.840 I'm ready eat, Okay, me too. 1:52:03.280 --> 1:52:04.280 All right, what's the y'all. 1:52:04.320 --> 1:52:09.520 Next, y'all, y'all, make sure y'all share the content like subscribe, 1:52:09.760 --> 1:52:11.600 follow all that good stuff. And let me say this 1:52:11.680 --> 1:52:15.799 before we close out, y'all. There is one Twitter account 1:52:15.880 --> 1:52:18.160 that is connected to poor Minds. It's p oh, you 1:52:18.400 --> 1:52:22.920 are underscore in my nds. Y'all are tagging the wrong 1:52:23.040 --> 1:52:26.040 poor Minds page. If you see at poor minds with 1:52:26.160 --> 1:52:28.479 no underscore, that is at fake page, do not follow 1:52:28.520 --> 1:52:32.479 that page. Okay, they block me Andrea and the poor 1:52:32.520 --> 1:52:35.880 Minds page on both so we only have one Instagram, 1:52:36.880 --> 1:52:39.280 one Twitter, one TikTok. 1:52:39.640 --> 1:52:42.439 It is p oh, you are underscore in my nds? 1:52:42.560 --> 1:52:45.679 All right, and we got hell a fake Facebook page 1:52:45.960 --> 1:52:49.040 on the Facebook page it's our face. The crazy thing 1:52:49.160 --> 1:52:51.880 is our Facebook page actually have the least amount of 1:52:51.920 --> 1:52:52.600 filow So. 1:52:52.640 --> 1:52:55.439 If you're on Facebook, one that's ours got the least 1:52:55.479 --> 1:52:57.559 amount of file, but one that's not us. 1:52:57.640 --> 1:52:58.640 Got like two hundred and. 1:52:58.640 --> 1:53:01.360 Fifty follow make if you actually look at the content 1:53:01.400 --> 1:53:05.160 because the caption is like whoever it is, don't speak English, because. 1:53:04.880 --> 1:53:08.040 Their captures are like bumba claude? Should men? Should men 1:53:08.120 --> 1:53:11.160 pay bill? Should men pay bill? Yes? 1:53:11.280 --> 1:53:11.320 No? 1:53:12.600 --> 1:53:18.920 Check answer below block block like that's literally with the caption, 1:53:19.280 --> 1:53:22.679 I'm like, what that DC is Bumba claude, Wamba claude. 1:53:25.120 --> 1:53:30.720 You are the Brenda Queens and we bringing y'all the 1:53:30.960 --> 1:53:35.240 hits week made popular by s w V. 1:53:36.320 --> 1:53:43.920 Already, Ladies, here we go first. I don't know what daddy, 1:53:44.520 --> 1:53:52.760 don't man act in such a grade it way? 1:53:54.479 --> 1:53:58.760 Yeah, heity queen, whatever it is that you do when 1:53:58.840 --> 1:54:04.200 you do what you to show me up now, it's 1:54:04.280 --> 1:54:08.080 a feeling that I don't want to stand. 1:54:10.720 --> 1:54:16.960 Because my heart starts. We thought of loving you on 1:54:17.160 --> 1:54:23.400 my mind. I can't figure out just what the problem 1:54:23.520 --> 1:54:31.840 here is you Okay, I get so weakend I can 1:54:32.040 --> 1:54:33.080 hardly speak. 1:54:33.520 --> 1:54:37.600 I lose a untro and something takes all of me 1:54:38.080 --> 1:54:40.920 and that day, Yeah, it's so amazing. 1:54:41.400 --> 1:54:44.920 It's not a face. I want you to say with 1:54:45.120 --> 1:54:49.440 me a second. I swallow my pride. Your love is 1:54:49.520 --> 1:54:52.920 so sweet it knocks me right off of my fet 1:54:57.160 --> 1:55:01.120 Explain why you're love. It makes me hold on, No, queen, 1:55:01.480 --> 1:55:03.440 you better singing nowts. 1:55:04.160 --> 1:55:11.400 Time after time after time my ride to fight, but 1:55:11.640 --> 1:55:12.960 your love and strong it. 1:55:13.360 --> 1:55:15.400 Keeps so on hold and no. 1:55:18.840 --> 1:55:23.360 Christies is down your around cross free. 1:55:26.920 --> 1:55:30.640 My couttingdition. I don't want to me Hello. 1:55:34.240 --> 1:55:38.760 Oh my heart starts eating it tremble time with all 1:55:38.840 --> 1:55:42.920 of you on my mind, I can't figure out just 1:55:43.240 --> 1:55:47.120 what to do when the problem here iss you. 1:55:51.520 --> 1:55:55.839 I guess so we get it. I can hardly speak. 1:55:56.200 --> 1:56:00.080 I lose at you and so and say so of 1:56:00.360 --> 1:56:03.600 me in a day, and it's so amazing. 1:56:04.040 --> 1:56:07.600 It's not a face. I want you to stay with 1:56:07.800 --> 1:56:12.120 me by my side. I sawallow my pride. Love it 1:56:13.440 --> 1:56:15.640 knocks me right off of my feet. 1:56:19.400 --> 1:56:23.440 Can it sway away? Love? It makes me? We give 1:56:23.480 --> 1:56:26.120 it to a queen. Don't hold back, give it to. 1:56:28.080 --> 1:56:33.440 I try hard to science. Yeah, no way, cannot didn't 1:56:33.520 --> 1:56:39.920 die yet. Your love so sweet it knocks me up 1:56:40.120 --> 1:56:40.760 my feet. 1:56:42.960 --> 1:56:48.280 I again so weekend aneas I can hardly. 1:56:48.080 --> 1:56:53.480 Speak, I lose control, can't say so for me in 1:56:53.680 --> 1:56:56.240 a day, and it's so amazing. 1:56:56.520 --> 1:57:00.240 It's not a face. I want you to say, what 1:57:00.280 --> 1:57:03.600 do you mean? On my side? I saw hollow my pride. 1:57:03.760 --> 1:57:07.240 Your love is so sweet it knocks me right off 1:57:07.400 --> 1:57:14.560 for my feet because I wasn't gonna eat it. You 1:57:14.640 --> 1:57:17.920 was looking at me like do it the shine? I'm 1:57:17.960 --> 1:57:20.120 not gonna lie. This is like the best carry on. 1:57:22.000 --> 1:57:25.800 There. You did have you did had a real singer, 1:57:25.880 --> 1:57:30.480 but now you got a real all right, we'll sing. 1:57:30.400 --> 1:58:04.520 Out next week. Knot