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Speaker 1: Thank you, neph you subject my wet and wild older man,

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Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley. My husband is seventy six years old

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Speaker 1: and I'm sixty. I worked with his daughter years ago

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Speaker 1: and that's how we met. When we started dating, he

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Speaker 1: loved having a much younger woman on his arm, but

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Speaker 1: as he gets older, he's getting more paranoid and asked

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Speaker 1: if I would ever leave him for a man my age.

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Speaker 1: I took my wedding vow seriously and he knows I

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Speaker 1: love him, but he's on my last nerve. He's not

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Speaker 1: aging well and years of abusing alcohol have finally caught

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Speaker 1: up with him, making all of his teeth crumble when

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Speaker 1: he eats crunchy foods.

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Speaker 2: He won't get them fixed or.

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Speaker 1: Get dentures because he hates going to the doctor. He's

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Speaker 1: been wanting hair implants for years, but he knows we

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Speaker 1: can't afford that, so he wears his hair twisted and

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Speaker 1: he uses a lot of hair products every day. It

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Speaker 1: looks like an old Jerry curl and it hangs long

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Speaker 1: in the back, and he's.

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Speaker 2: Bald on the top.

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Speaker 1: I'd love for him to shave his head and go

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Speaker 1: visit a dentist. We used to have an active sex life,

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Speaker 1: but he's been leaking a little urine after he uses

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Speaker 1: a toilet, and the smell is strong enough to choke

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Speaker 1: a cat. I secretly put a mattress cover on his

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Speaker 1: side of the bed because I didn't want to embarrass

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Speaker 1: him between his stinky hair products getting on me and

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Speaker 1: the smell of urine. We haven't had sex in a while,

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Speaker 1: and I'm tired of making up excuses. It literally makes

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Speaker 1: me gag to think of having sex with him. Now

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Speaker 1: he still wants it, so something's got to change. The

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Speaker 1: final straw for me was when he urinated on himself

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Speaker 1: in Target this past Sunday. God, I didn't make a

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Speaker 1: big deal out of it. But I had to buy

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Speaker 1: him a pair of clean shorts. How can he walk

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Speaker 1: around like nothing's wrong? Would I be low down for

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Speaker 1: leaving him if he doesn't change? All right? First of all,

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Speaker 1: I feel for you, I really do, because he's.

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Speaker 2: Your husband and you love him. You mentioned that in

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Speaker 2: the letter.

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Speaker 1: But he's turning into an old, smelly, unkept, stubborn man

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Speaker 1: right before your eyes. I mean, he stopped trying. He's

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Speaker 1: become selfish. He's become lazy. That does not work in

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Speaker 1: a marriage. If he no longer cares about himself. What

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Speaker 1: about you, this much younger wife he was so proud

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Speaker 1: of back in the day. Now he's on himself, refusing

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Speaker 1: to go to the dentist and get checked out. I mean,

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Speaker 1: what is it with his teeth crumbling when he eats?

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Speaker 1: Wouldn't that spur him on to go to the doctor?

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Speaker 1: I mean, I can appreciate you not wanting to hurt

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Speaker 1: his feelings, like when he was in Target. You know

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Speaker 1: you just bought him a clean pair of underwear, but

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Speaker 1: you know you want to be gentle with him and everything.

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Speaker 2: But no, what about you in this regard?

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Speaker 1: I mean, don't you deserve a husband who takes care

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Speaker 1: of himself and who gets his regular checkups, dental and otherwise.

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Speaker 2: Yes, of course you do.

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Speaker 1: I really don't know anyone who who wants to get

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Speaker 1: old or who likes going to the dentist or doctor.

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Speaker 1: But at seventy six, he is older. He really needs

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Speaker 1: to go. You say it's paranoid, you might leave him

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Speaker 1: for a younger man. Well, I mean, you know that's

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Speaker 1: a consideration, but he should be more concerned about himself

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Speaker 1: and his health and his quality of life and living

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Speaker 1: and just you know, not getting sick and all of that.

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Speaker 1: I mean, you can't give up on him either. You

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Speaker 1: got to let him know that you do, you care

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Speaker 1: be thinking about your future options. At this rate, he's

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Speaker 1: just giving you away. He doesn't care. Cleanliness and hygiene

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Speaker 1: are deal breakers in any relationship, any marriage.

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Speaker 2: You guys got to do something. This is crazy, noess, Steve.

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Speaker 3: Well, I'm first of all, before I start, I just

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Speaker 3: want to say that my response to this letter. I'm

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Speaker 3: not here to help you. I just want to put

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Speaker 3: that out that nice and clear. What are you here

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Speaker 3: to do? I'm here to just talk about this letter.

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Speaker 3: Your husband is seventy six and you sixty. You work

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Speaker 3: with his daughter years ago, and that's how y'all met,

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Speaker 3: so you probably met him when you when he was sixty. Oh,

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Speaker 3: the time ain't been kind to him. You know, y'all

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Speaker 3: started dating, and you know he loved having a younger

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Speaker 3: getting more paranoid and asked, would you leave him for

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Speaker 3: a man my age? And then you know, you said

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Speaker 3: what you're supposed to say when you're write in. I

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Speaker 3: took my red and bile seriously, and he know I

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Speaker 3: love him, but he'll go the letter now. But he

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Speaker 3: on my last nerve? And why is he on your

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Speaker 3: last nerve? Well, let's review this because he ain't aging well.

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Speaker 3: Oh he looking a bit of seventy six plus five. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: he got eighty one rode all over his He ain't

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Speaker 3: doing good and he ain't even fighting good. He don't

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Speaker 3: even know what to do. See because he been he

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Speaker 3: spent years abusing alcohol and finally caught up with him

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Speaker 3: and the number one complain it makes all his teeth

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Speaker 3: to crumble when he eats crunchy food. I'm gonna stop

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Speaker 3: right here, because when I get into this subject can

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Speaker 3: tell you what's really happening I need. So let's just

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Speaker 3: leave off right here.

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Speaker 1: Uncrunchy foods all his teeth crumble when he eats crunching food.

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Speaker 3: We come back. I'll explain all this to you.

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Speaker 1: Keep it right there, Coming up, Part two of Steve's

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Speaker 1: response to today's Strawberry letter, My wet and wild older Man.

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Speaker 2: We're coming back in twenty three minutes after the hour.

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Speaker 1: Right after this, you're listening Steve Hardy Morning Show.

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Speaker 1: Come on Steve Let's recap today's Strawberry Letter, the subject

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Speaker 1: my wedding wild older man.

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Speaker 3: All right, we're back, food, we're back. And this woman

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Speaker 3: has she's sixty, she's got a husband of seventy six.

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Speaker 3: And the problem with it is he's paranoid thinking she's

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Speaker 3: gonna lead him for a man her age, which is

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Speaker 3: another sixty year old. And she honors her wedding vows,

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Speaker 3: but he'd all start on her last nerve. And why

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Speaker 3: is he getting on her last nerve? Because he ain't

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Speaker 3: aging with no He got seventy six wrote all over

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Speaker 3: his And when you've been abusing alcohol as he has,

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Speaker 3: it's seventy six plus five or six more. He had

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Speaker 3: been an eighty one eighty two right now, and he

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Speaker 3: looking now, then got so bad that alcohol and caught

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Speaker 3: up to it, making all his teeth to crumble when

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Speaker 3: he eats crunching food. Let's start right here. So you

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Speaker 3: with your man, y'all up in the morning and y'all eating,

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Speaker 3: Guess what a bawl of cap'n crunch. Guess what you

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Speaker 3: can't get no more crunching food? And it's sad on

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Speaker 3: the box, captain crunch. Why the hell did y'all buy that?

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Speaker 3: You know, good way he supposed to get oat meal,

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Speaker 3: But now y'all is in here buying cap'n crunt. He

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Speaker 3: a oat meal, man, cream of wheat, Marto meal at best,

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Speaker 3: tappy oak stuff you can mask with your tongue and swaps.

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Speaker 3: He ain't eating cap'n crunch now, he don't even know it.

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Speaker 3: But his teeth is crumbling. Na nah, he eating his

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Speaker 3: teeth with the cap'n crunch ah, because they crumbling. Why

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Speaker 3: he eats, you don't stop eating, So now you chewing teeth.

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Speaker 3: You don't even know what's going on.

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Speaker 2: That's what that meant.

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Speaker 3: His just falling apart, and every time he finished, he

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Speaker 3: got less and less of a smile. He grinting at

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Speaker 3: you now and now it ain't even jack of landing

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Speaker 3: no more he grinning at you. He just looked like

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Speaker 3: jagged headed. All his teeth is different sizes across the

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Speaker 3: front and the bottom. They don't even line up, no motives.

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Speaker 2: Because he chewed him up with the car.

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Speaker 3: Because he chewed him up with the cap'n crunch. Seal,

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Speaker 3: y'all know, good hell? Where he o oat meal and

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Speaker 3: Marto meal for me? Now?

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Speaker 1: Then?

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Speaker 3: He got that he ain't gonna get him fixed and

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Speaker 3: go get denturre because he hate going to the doctor. Okay,

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Speaker 3: most old dudes don't. He been wonting have implants for years,

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Speaker 3: but he knows we can't afford that him hand plants

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Speaker 3: his highest hels. What he done did He just started

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Speaker 3: wearing his hand and twist that. When you need haird

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Speaker 3: bit of half you got from overhead, his hair looked

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Speaker 3: top of all that, he looked like old Jared call

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Speaker 3: where he fighting this activator at it's beyond me. He

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Speaker 3: more care free were baking no more. He'd have wrote

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Speaker 3: the lusty silk people and can't get a response his cock.

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Speaker 3: That call just old just crying stove sitting up in here.

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Speaker 3: You got to speard extra time shaking sitting up in here,

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Speaker 3: some black pants could wear in them cackis because khakis

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Speaker 3: is a dead giveaway. At least get you some black pants.

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Speaker 3: So when you're leak it ain't nobody got to know it.

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Speaker 3: You coming back to the bathroom, standing at the table

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Speaker 3: now the year and is so strong it can chump

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Speaker 3: where it's just a I can't even call it urine

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Speaker 3: no more. He didn't urinate it. He's said natan he

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Speaker 3: and there just fine stuff in the tarnic. He's so

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Speaker 3: strong when you use the bathroom in the tarnic. The

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Speaker 3: water stink did Sunday he urinated on her self in Target.

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Speaker 3: We ain't got time to talk about that.

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Speaker 2: She got him some new shirts.

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Speaker 3: Been that Target that took a picture of He ain't

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Speaker 3: coming in that next week. I'll tell you that. Right now,

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