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Speaker 1: It is time for today's Strawberry Letter, and if you

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Speaker 1: need advice on relationships, on dating, on work, on sex,

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Speaker 1: Buckle up, hold on tight, we got it for you.

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Speaker 1: It is the Strawberry Letter subject. He goes on and

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Speaker 1: on and on. Dear Stephen Shirley, I am a beautiful

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Speaker 1: thirty eight year old female with a fifty four year

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Speaker 1: old man. Everything in our relationship is perfect except our

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Speaker 1: sex life. The big problem is that my man can

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Speaker 1: go for hours, and I'm not exaggerating. He doesn't take

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Speaker 1: any male enhancement products, but he's in great physical shape

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Speaker 1: for his age. I have been knowing this guy for

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Speaker 1: thirteen years. We dated a while ago, then he got married.

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Speaker 1: After his divorce, we started dating again. We talk, we laugh, travel,

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Speaker 1: and he is great with my kids. The only problem

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Speaker 1: is that he wears me completely out. It makes me

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Speaker 1: I'm not handling my business like I should. He told

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Speaker 1: me that he has always had a hard time finishing

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Speaker 1: up and I'm not doing anything wrong. He says, he

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Speaker 1: almost gets there, but then nothing happens. Don't get me wrong.

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Speaker 1: The first twenty minutes are great, but after that it

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Speaker 1: gets to be a bit too much. I encouraged him

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Speaker 1: to go see a doctor. I need him to fix

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Speaker 1: this issue as soon as possible. Can you offer any

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Speaker 1: advice in the meantime? Well, Um, my advice to you

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Speaker 1: which were you know, Look, he enjoys it with you. Um. Uh,

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Speaker 1: it's okay, It's it's not your problem. Um, he's always

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Speaker 1: had a hard time finishing up. You're not doing anything wrong.

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Speaker 1: You have to listen to that because obviously you're not.

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Speaker 1: This is just a person and that you're not sexually

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Speaker 1: compatible with uh anymore because of his issue. It takes

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Speaker 1: him a while. Uh, maybe he does need to see

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Speaker 1: a doctor. You never know, Um, you know, I mean

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Speaker 1: usually guys have to see a doctor because uh. Um,

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Speaker 1: let's see, because of E D. Okay, that's a good

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Speaker 1: way to put it, because of E D. But he

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Speaker 1: has the opposite uh situation. Some women would probably love it, uh. You,

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Speaker 1: on the other hand, this doesn't work for you. So

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Speaker 1: compative compatibility is the key. In every relationship, maybe you

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Speaker 1: both need to go and see a doctor or a

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Speaker 1: sex therapist or something like that, a legit one, so

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Speaker 1: you guys can find out, you know, find that sweet

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Speaker 1: So that's my that's my advice to you. Um, both

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Speaker 1: of you guys, see someone, see a doctor. And because

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Speaker 1: it could be something medical, you never know, it could

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Speaker 1: be something medical. Who's going next, Jay? Well, hello, here's

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Speaker 1: what he needs to do. Okay, I'm trying to put

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Speaker 1: this so you can say this on radio. Okay. You

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Speaker 1: know how when you when you we all like my

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Speaker 1: down fries, right, Okay, I'm using that metaphor. So sometimes

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Speaker 1: before you before you get home, you try some of

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Speaker 1: the fries. Before you get there. You understand what I'm saying.

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Speaker 1: You put your hand in the bag, put you're hand

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Speaker 1: most cases, sometimes you buy two bags. You eat one

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Speaker 1: Then when you get with your lady, y'all share the

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Speaker 1: enjoyment for everybody. Anybody. Does that make sense? It make

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Speaker 1: to you hear me going, you see fighting it? But

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Speaker 1: what you're trying to go Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: two of the letter for her. Now. This letter is

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Speaker 1: about this woman. She's thirty eight years old and she's

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Speaker 1: some advice. What kind of advice can you? First of

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Speaker 1: a doctor. No, no, he don't know. No, he don't

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Speaker 1: need to see No, damn about it. No he don't.

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Speaker 1: There's nothing wrong with him. There's nothing wrong with him.

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Speaker 1: He is doing a great job at his I'm not

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Speaker 1: gonna say profession, but the man is doing an outstanding

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Speaker 1: and he's good at it. So here's what I'm gonna say.

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Speaker 1: He's so good at he good at what he does.

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Speaker 1: I a man after my own heart. You know what,

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Speaker 1: I don't know if I'm good as he is, But

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Speaker 1: I will say this, you cannot handle the job that

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Speaker 1: already said that. So guess what. Bring some more people

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Speaker 1: ask then, what I want you to do for your man? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you know, you know you look more people. How many

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Speaker 1: don't know, I don't need too much. I don't know

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Speaker 1: if you know what, you know what, I'm gonna call Rockemo,

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Speaker 1: Rocketmo Concrete, Rocketmo Concrete. They're gonna come over here, you

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Speaker 1: know what. We're gonna also call Mason Concrete and let

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Speaker 1: good at the job. No all rock Amo and you know,

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Speaker 1: him kung Fu movie and it'd be just one master

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Speaker 1: and then they breaking like, nah, it's stupid. They got

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Speaker 1: to get some help in him, right right, especially when

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Speaker 1: especially when brute lee brute everybody behind around swinging on

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Speaker 1: don't work? But why can't I jump in? Okay? So

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Speaker 1: now her problem is she she loves what happens, the intimacy,

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Speaker 1: and she's enjoying it, but then you know, the job

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Speaker 1: So she feels like he needs to go to a doctor.

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Speaker 1: You see what I'm saying. That's in the letter as well.

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Speaker 1: Get a doctor to help a man who can go long,

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Speaker 1: go shout, don't know, man don't know, don't know, man

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Speaker 1: that go long, want to go shout. Okay, I'll let

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Speaker 1: you how that sound that don't let me tell you something.

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Speaker 1: I didn't wear long and shot. I chew long every

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Speaker 1: I didn't want to go shot. How that sounds going

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Speaker 1: to the doctor telling you you know, you know, you

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Speaker 1: know your past? Way both more fun than Okay, we

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Speaker 1: going on. A minute, guys, wait a minute. So now, Jay,

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Speaker 1: what were we? Sound like time and maybe you're nothing

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Speaker 1: let's go, let's go, let's go. Let's man. I'm the man,

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Speaker 1: gotta I gotta man. I got a serious issue, man,

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Speaker 1: it's it's really bringing my relationship down. I need to

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Speaker 1: for you to just be talking to me and get

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Speaker 1: but I need you to get me through this because this,

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Speaker 1: issue in my relationship. I'm here to him. He listen, doc,

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Speaker 1: I'm going to low like I really really like to

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Speaker 1: You're doing an out you our in. No, I'm a

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Speaker 1: want to have died. But but yeah, yeah, see me.

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Speaker 1: I'm a bunch of three minutes myself. But go right

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Speaker 1: a here and talk so much information? Doctor, do you

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Speaker 1: your three minutes? I'm about maybe fourteen and fifteen minute

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Speaker 1: killing hers. She don't like this. She wanted me to

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Speaker 1: hear him get there. And I'm just trying to what

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Speaker 1: you're taking? Are you taking anything? No? Not this this

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Speaker 1: this is all me, doctor, This is all you ain't

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Speaker 1: taking nothing. I ain't taking nothing, doctor. Let me get

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Speaker 1: another doctor in here because he needs to see this.

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Speaker 1: Dr Jenkins. Yeah, you need to see this man. This

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Speaker 1: is unbelievable. What Dr Jenkins? Is that anything? You can

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Speaker 1: help me get there faster because I'm half and half.

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Speaker 1: No bake, no, no, no, it's consistent. It's I'm consistent.

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Speaker 1: You can't. I speak for the nurse. Yes, I'm the

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Speaker 1: nurse and I'm here on behalf of his woman in

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Speaker 1: the letter, she's exhausted. Okay, all right, email, let's instagram.

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Speaker 1: That's your thoughts on today, start Barry letter. We gotta go.

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