1 00:00:00,920 --> 00:00:02,440 Speaker 1: Hi, this is Jolan Victoria. 2 00:00:02,759 --> 00:00:05,560 Speaker 2: Thanks so much for listening to the podcast and thanks 3 00:00:05,600 --> 00:00:07,040 Speaker 2: for supporting the ministry. 4 00:00:07,360 --> 00:00:08,160 Speaker 1: We believe you're. 5 00:00:08,000 --> 00:00:11,400 Speaker 2: Going to have an awesome twenty twenty four, healthy, productive, 6 00:00:11,560 --> 00:00:12,720 Speaker 2: and favor filled. 7 00:00:13,039 --> 00:00:15,280 Speaker 1: God bless you today and enjoy the message. 8 00:00:15,440 --> 00:00:18,600 Speaker 2: Will God bless you. It's always our joy to come 9 00:00:18,640 --> 00:00:21,360 Speaker 2: into your homes. We love you, and we know God 10 00:00:21,480 --> 00:00:24,239 Speaker 2: has great things in store for you. He rewards the 11 00:00:24,239 --> 00:00:27,160 Speaker 2: people that seek after him. If you're ever in our area, 12 00:00:27,320 --> 00:00:29,159 Speaker 2: I hope you'll stop buy and be a part of 13 00:00:29,200 --> 00:00:31,600 Speaker 2: one of our services. I promise you we'll make you 14 00:00:31,640 --> 00:00:33,960 Speaker 2: feel right at home. But thanks so much for tuning 15 00:00:34,000 --> 00:00:36,199 Speaker 2: in and thank you again for coming out. I like 16 00:00:36,240 --> 00:00:38,560 Speaker 2: to start with something funny each week, and I heard 17 00:00:38,560 --> 00:00:42,919 Speaker 2: about these three people, a Russian, an American, and a blonde. 18 00:00:43,280 --> 00:00:46,559 Speaker 2: They were talking one day. The Russian proudly said, we 19 00:00:46,560 --> 00:00:50,440 Speaker 2: were the first ones in space. The American said, well, 20 00:00:50,479 --> 00:00:51,880 Speaker 2: we were the first ones. 21 00:00:51,640 --> 00:00:52,280 Speaker 1: On the moon. 22 00:00:52,840 --> 00:00:55,120 Speaker 2: The blonde said that's nothing. We're going to be the 23 00:00:55,160 --> 00:00:59,200 Speaker 2: first ones on the sun. The Russian and American they laughed, 24 00:00:59,200 --> 00:01:01,640 Speaker 2: and what are you talking about. Can't go to the sun. 25 00:01:01,680 --> 00:01:04,160 Speaker 2: It's too hot, you'll burn up. The blonde said, We're 26 00:01:04,200 --> 00:01:07,000 Speaker 2: not that dumb. We're gonna go at night. 27 00:01:08,120 --> 00:01:10,399 Speaker 1: All right, Hold up your Bible. Say it like you 28 00:01:10,480 --> 00:01:13,760 Speaker 1: mean it. This is my Bible. I am what it says. 29 00:01:13,840 --> 00:01:14,120 Speaker 1: I am. 30 00:01:14,720 --> 00:01:17,160 Speaker 2: I have what it says I have. I can do 31 00:01:17,280 --> 00:01:19,840 Speaker 2: what it says I can do. Today I will be 32 00:01:19,920 --> 00:01:23,960 Speaker 2: taught the word of God. I boldly confessed. My mind 33 00:01:24,080 --> 00:01:27,399 Speaker 2: is alert, my heart is receptive. I will never be 34 00:01:27,480 --> 00:01:32,160 Speaker 2: the same. In Jesus' name, God bless you. I want 35 00:01:32,160 --> 00:01:35,119 Speaker 2: to talk to you today about not making mountains out 36 00:01:35,160 --> 00:01:38,520 Speaker 2: of mole hills. It's usually not the big things that 37 00:01:38,640 --> 00:01:39,800 Speaker 2: keep us from being happy. 38 00:01:39,959 --> 00:01:41,120 Speaker 1: It's the small things. 39 00:01:41,720 --> 00:01:46,280 Speaker 2: I've heard it said tornadoes and hurricanes get more news coverage, 40 00:01:46,680 --> 00:01:51,080 Speaker 2: but in reality, termites do more damage. The scripture puts 41 00:01:51,120 --> 00:01:54,680 Speaker 2: it this way, it's the little foxes that spoil the vines. 42 00:01:55,600 --> 00:01:58,360 Speaker 2: Most of the time we're not dealing with some major 43 00:01:58,440 --> 00:02:02,520 Speaker 2: crisis like losing a job, a life threatening illness, or 44 00:02:02,560 --> 00:02:04,000 Speaker 2: a relationship breaking up. 45 00:02:04,320 --> 00:02:05,600 Speaker 1: The big things are rare. 46 00:02:06,240 --> 00:02:09,840 Speaker 2: It's the little inconveniences, like not being able to find 47 00:02:09,880 --> 00:02:12,440 Speaker 2: your car keys in the morning, or being in a 48 00:02:12,520 --> 00:02:15,519 Speaker 2: hurry and getting behind a driver going forty in a 49 00:02:15,600 --> 00:02:19,680 Speaker 2: sixty mile an hour zone. It's the little interruptions, like 50 00:02:19,760 --> 00:02:22,080 Speaker 2: having to run back to the school and pick up 51 00:02:22,080 --> 00:02:25,520 Speaker 2: your child's jim bag that he forgot, or finding out 52 00:02:25,600 --> 00:02:28,400 Speaker 2: that your mother in law's coming in for a surprise. 53 00:02:28,040 --> 00:02:28,919 Speaker 1: Two week visit. 54 00:02:30,680 --> 00:02:34,320 Speaker 2: It's the little frustrations like your husband not picking up 55 00:02:34,360 --> 00:02:36,959 Speaker 2: his socks even though you've asked him to for twenty 56 00:02:37,000 --> 00:02:40,480 Speaker 2: seven years, or your wife not leaving the remote control 57 00:02:40,520 --> 00:02:42,760 Speaker 2: where you can find it, and you're convinced that she 58 00:02:42,880 --> 00:02:46,800 Speaker 2: does it on purpose. How we handle the little things 59 00:02:46,919 --> 00:02:49,919 Speaker 2: will determine what kind of life we live. I heard 60 00:02:49,919 --> 00:02:53,760 Speaker 2: these coal miners talking on a documentary about the thing 61 00:02:53,840 --> 00:02:58,320 Speaker 2: that they feared the most when they're underground miles back 62 00:02:58,360 --> 00:03:01,480 Speaker 2: in those caves, if there was an explosion or the 63 00:03:01,480 --> 00:03:04,520 Speaker 2: earth shift, just a tiny bit could easily trap them 64 00:03:04,600 --> 00:03:07,640 Speaker 2: and cut off their air supply. It's very dangerous, but 65 00:03:07,720 --> 00:03:11,440 Speaker 2: it's interesting that's not what they worried about the most. 66 00:03:11,560 --> 00:03:16,679 Speaker 2: Their greatest fear was something called black lung disease. It's 67 00:03:16,720 --> 00:03:19,880 Speaker 2: when they inhale the cold dust so long that it 68 00:03:20,000 --> 00:03:23,560 Speaker 2: coats their lungs and they can no longer breathe. One 69 00:03:23,560 --> 00:03:27,280 Speaker 2: of the miners said, it's the small stuff that kills us. 70 00:03:27,960 --> 00:03:30,760 Speaker 2: He was saying, it's not the big explosions, it's not 71 00:03:30,840 --> 00:03:34,160 Speaker 2: the caves crashing in, it's not the dangerous equipment that 72 00:03:34,160 --> 00:03:34,920 Speaker 2: we're working with. 73 00:03:35,280 --> 00:03:38,360 Speaker 1: It's simply the dust. And that's the way it is 74 00:03:38,760 --> 00:03:40,200 Speaker 1: many times in life. 75 00:03:40,440 --> 00:03:44,640 Speaker 2: It's not the major catastrophes that keep us from being happy. 76 00:03:45,080 --> 00:03:49,400 Speaker 2: It's the seemingly insignificant things that we don't handle correctly. 77 00:03:50,000 --> 00:03:53,400 Speaker 2: And some people have developed a habit of making mountains 78 00:03:53,480 --> 00:03:56,920 Speaker 2: out of mole hills. They blow everything out of proportion. 79 00:03:57,520 --> 00:04:00,960 Speaker 2: If they get stuck in traffic, it ruins their whole day. 80 00:04:01,080 --> 00:04:03,640 Speaker 2: If they can't find their car keys, you'd think the 81 00:04:03,680 --> 00:04:06,600 Speaker 2: world was coming to an end. If their child doesn't 82 00:04:06,640 --> 00:04:09,680 Speaker 2: clean up his room on time, it's World War three. 83 00:04:10,360 --> 00:04:13,600 Speaker 2: They make everything a big deal, and they've been doing 84 00:04:13,640 --> 00:04:17,239 Speaker 2: it so long it's just natural for them to overreact 85 00:04:17,560 --> 00:04:19,640 Speaker 2: and make it bigger than it is, and they end 86 00:04:19,800 --> 00:04:23,279 Speaker 2: up getting themselves upset. I was in a restaurant the 87 00:04:23,320 --> 00:04:25,839 Speaker 2: other day with my family, and at the table right 88 00:04:25,880 --> 00:04:28,480 Speaker 2: next to us was a husband and wife, and the 89 00:04:28,560 --> 00:04:33,240 Speaker 2: lady got a phone call. She said so dramatically, Oh no, 90 00:04:34,080 --> 00:04:36,600 Speaker 2: you've got to be kidding. I'm so sorry. What are 91 00:04:36,640 --> 00:04:39,520 Speaker 2: we going to do. I thought, for sure she just 92 00:04:39,600 --> 00:04:43,239 Speaker 2: heard terrible news. Maybe somebody was in an accident, maybe 93 00:04:43,279 --> 00:04:45,880 Speaker 2: she found out somebody had a life threatening illness. 94 00:04:46,240 --> 00:04:48,920 Speaker 1: Her husband was just like me, He said, what is it, honey, 95 00:04:49,000 --> 00:04:49,520 Speaker 1: what is it? 96 00:04:49,800 --> 00:04:52,479 Speaker 2: She pulled the phone back and whispered they didn't have 97 00:04:52,520 --> 00:04:58,080 Speaker 2: any chocolate chips at the grocery store. I thought, my goodness, lady, 98 00:04:58,160 --> 00:05:00,640 Speaker 2: I don't even know you, and my blood pressure shot 99 00:05:00,720 --> 00:05:06,359 Speaker 2: up twenty points, no telling what yours did, all because 100 00:05:06,360 --> 00:05:10,719 Speaker 2: they didn't have some chocolate chips. Friends, there are enough 101 00:05:10,920 --> 00:05:14,440 Speaker 2: big issues in life to deal with without making a 102 00:05:14,440 --> 00:05:17,160 Speaker 2: big deal out of things that are not a big deal. 103 00:05:17,680 --> 00:05:21,039 Speaker 1: Keep it in perspective in the big picture. If you 104 00:05:21,080 --> 00:05:23,400 Speaker 1: get stuck in traffic, it's not a big deal. 105 00:05:24,080 --> 00:05:26,560 Speaker 2: If you don't get your favorite parking spot, it's not 106 00:05:26,640 --> 00:05:30,039 Speaker 2: worth losing your peace over if the repairman doesn't show 107 00:05:30,120 --> 00:05:33,960 Speaker 2: up when he promised, let it go, This too shall pass. 108 00:05:34,480 --> 00:05:38,560 Speaker 2: I've seen marriages practically split apart because somebody doesn't. 109 00:05:38,279 --> 00:05:40,080 Speaker 1: Squeeze the toothpaste the right way. 110 00:05:40,760 --> 00:05:42,840 Speaker 2: Had a lady tell me one time that she and 111 00:05:42,880 --> 00:05:44,840 Speaker 2: her husband broke up because she. 112 00:05:44,839 --> 00:05:46,920 Speaker 1: Couldn't stand how he chewed ice. 113 00:05:48,160 --> 00:05:51,240 Speaker 2: We have to realize the more we focus on something, 114 00:05:51,400 --> 00:05:54,839 Speaker 2: the bigger it becomes. If you focus on what you 115 00:05:54,960 --> 00:05:58,160 Speaker 2: don't like about that person, you'll get to where you 116 00:05:58,200 --> 00:06:01,359 Speaker 2: don't see any of their good qualities. That will irritate 117 00:06:01,440 --> 00:06:03,839 Speaker 2: you more and more, and you will get to where 118 00:06:03,839 --> 00:06:06,440 Speaker 2: you don't even want to be around them. You'll forget 119 00:06:06,480 --> 00:06:09,840 Speaker 2: all about the reasons why you fell in love. Some 120 00:06:09,880 --> 00:06:13,240 Speaker 2: of you today, this could save a relationship if you 121 00:06:13,240 --> 00:06:15,880 Speaker 2: would just quit making a big deal out. 122 00:06:15,760 --> 00:06:17,120 Speaker 1: Of something that is not a big deal. 123 00:06:18,120 --> 00:06:21,120 Speaker 2: I used to get so up tight because Victoria wouldn't 124 00:06:21,200 --> 00:06:23,960 Speaker 2: leave for church when I wanted her to leave. We'd 125 00:06:23,960 --> 00:06:26,960 Speaker 2: take separate cars on Sunday mornings, and I wanted her 126 00:06:27,000 --> 00:06:30,120 Speaker 2: to leave at a specific time so she would not 127 00:06:30,279 --> 00:06:32,599 Speaker 2: have to hurry and get here in plenty of time 128 00:06:32,640 --> 00:06:35,320 Speaker 2: to relax before the start of the service. And so 129 00:06:35,440 --> 00:06:37,840 Speaker 2: I did my best to encourage her and let her 130 00:06:37,880 --> 00:06:39,720 Speaker 2: know what time I would like for her to leave, 131 00:06:39,760 --> 00:06:41,720 Speaker 2: and I'd make sure the keys were out and put 132 00:06:41,760 --> 00:06:44,120 Speaker 2: the stuff in the car for But it seemed like 133 00:06:44,160 --> 00:06:47,000 Speaker 2: no matter how hard I tried, she still showed up 134 00:06:47,120 --> 00:06:50,080 Speaker 2: just a few minutes before the opening prayer. I used 135 00:06:50,080 --> 00:06:52,479 Speaker 2: to have Johnny looking out the back door down the 136 00:06:52,560 --> 00:06:55,760 Speaker 2: road to see when she was coming. The whole time 137 00:06:55,839 --> 00:06:59,280 Speaker 2: I was up tight on edge, stressed out. One day 138 00:06:59,320 --> 00:07:02,560 Speaker 2: I realized I am making a big deal out of 139 00:07:02,600 --> 00:07:05,120 Speaker 2: something that is not a big deal. She has never 140 00:07:05,240 --> 00:07:07,880 Speaker 2: once missed the start of the service. If she wants 141 00:07:07,960 --> 00:07:10,440 Speaker 2: to come with just a few minutes before, there's nothing 142 00:07:10,480 --> 00:07:13,520 Speaker 2: wrong with that's not hurting anything. And a lot of times, 143 00:07:13,560 --> 00:07:17,800 Speaker 2: because we have strengths in certain areas, we expect everyone 144 00:07:17,840 --> 00:07:21,560 Speaker 2: around us to have those same strengths. We expect them 145 00:07:21,560 --> 00:07:23,840 Speaker 2: to be able to do what we can do, and 146 00:07:23,920 --> 00:07:24,400 Speaker 2: if they. 147 00:07:24,280 --> 00:07:25,920 Speaker 1: Don't, it frustrates us. 148 00:07:26,480 --> 00:07:30,320 Speaker 2: We look down on them, and even subconsciously, they can 149 00:07:30,360 --> 00:07:34,200 Speaker 2: feel a sense of disapproval. If we're not careful, we'll 150 00:07:34,200 --> 00:07:37,520 Speaker 2: go through our whole life trying to quote fix people 151 00:07:37,800 --> 00:07:40,600 Speaker 2: and make them just like us. That one little thing 152 00:07:40,640 --> 00:07:43,600 Speaker 2: will get bigger and bigger, and before long it's a 153 00:07:43,640 --> 00:07:46,880 Speaker 2: source of division that drives us apart. One of the 154 00:07:46,880 --> 00:07:49,720 Speaker 2: best things I've learned is God did not bring the 155 00:07:49,760 --> 00:07:52,880 Speaker 2: people into my life for me to make them just 156 00:07:53,080 --> 00:07:53,360 Speaker 2: like me. 157 00:07:54,200 --> 00:07:55,640 Speaker 1: God wants us to be different. 158 00:07:56,080 --> 00:08:00,520 Speaker 2: That's why we have different personalities, different strengths, different hobbies, 159 00:08:00,600 --> 00:08:04,000 Speaker 2: different looks, If we're going to be happy, we've got 160 00:08:04,000 --> 00:08:08,040 Speaker 2: to learn how to appreciate the differences and not let 161 00:08:08,080 --> 00:08:11,560 Speaker 2: the little things that we don't like irritate us and 162 00:08:11,640 --> 00:08:15,120 Speaker 2: cause us to become resentful toward that person. They may 163 00:08:15,160 --> 00:08:17,320 Speaker 2: do some things that get on your nerves, but always 164 00:08:17,400 --> 00:08:20,320 Speaker 2: remember there are a few things you do that get 165 00:08:20,360 --> 00:08:21,200 Speaker 2: on their nerves. 166 00:08:21,640 --> 00:08:22,880 Speaker 1: Nobody is perfect. 167 00:08:23,480 --> 00:08:26,240 Speaker 2: If we're going to be in relationship with people and 168 00:08:26,480 --> 00:08:29,840 Speaker 2: enjoy it, we've got to be willing to overlook some things. 169 00:08:30,600 --> 00:08:33,760 Speaker 2: Just because they don't have your same strengths doesn't mean 170 00:08:33,800 --> 00:08:34,720 Speaker 2: that their subpar. 171 00:08:35,080 --> 00:08:35,960 Speaker 1: They're just different. 172 00:08:36,640 --> 00:08:39,920 Speaker 2: Our assignment is not to fix people. Our assignment is 173 00:08:39,960 --> 00:08:45,040 Speaker 2: to love people. My personality type is I'm very structured, 174 00:08:45,240 --> 00:08:48,560 Speaker 2: very routine. That's one of my strengths. And on my 175 00:08:48,679 --> 00:08:52,839 Speaker 2: desk at home, I like everything perfectly in place. I 176 00:08:53,000 --> 00:08:56,240 Speaker 2: like my phone in a certain spot, not two inches 177 00:08:56,280 --> 00:08:59,400 Speaker 2: here or two inches there. There is an exact place 178 00:08:59,480 --> 00:09:02,640 Speaker 2: I want it to be. And for years my office 179 00:09:02,679 --> 00:09:05,640 Speaker 2: was right outside of our bedroom. From time to time 180 00:09:05,679 --> 00:09:08,240 Speaker 2: when I wasn't in there, Victoria would come in and 181 00:09:08,280 --> 00:09:12,000 Speaker 2: she would use the telephone, and just naturally, she would 182 00:09:12,000 --> 00:09:13,920 Speaker 2: pull it closer to the front of the desk so 183 00:09:13,960 --> 00:09:17,080 Speaker 2: she could die, and she wouldn't always put it. 184 00:09:17,000 --> 00:09:19,320 Speaker 1: Back in the exact right place. 185 00:09:20,040 --> 00:09:21,840 Speaker 2: And when I'd go in and see that it was 186 00:09:22,000 --> 00:09:23,600 Speaker 2: a little bit out of place, I'd. 187 00:09:23,400 --> 00:09:24,760 Speaker 1: Get so stressed out. 188 00:09:25,400 --> 00:09:28,319 Speaker 2: I think, why don't these people leave my things alone? 189 00:09:28,400 --> 00:09:30,640 Speaker 1: And if they use it, I wish they'd just put 190 00:09:30,679 --> 00:09:33,640 Speaker 1: it back. I got so paranoid about it. I used 191 00:09:33,679 --> 00:09:35,720 Speaker 1: to go through the house just. 192 00:09:35,600 --> 00:09:37,800 Speaker 2: To check to see if my phone was in the 193 00:09:37,840 --> 00:09:41,839 Speaker 2: exact right place, like an old mother hen and if 194 00:09:41,840 --> 00:09:44,840 Speaker 2: it wasn't, I would start harping and bringing all this 195 00:09:45,080 --> 00:09:49,240 Speaker 2: tension into the home. Not because somebody tore up the furniture, 196 00:09:49,800 --> 00:09:51,199 Speaker 2: not because somebody. 197 00:09:50,800 --> 00:09:54,080 Speaker 1: Stayed out all night, simply because somebody moved my phone 198 00:09:54,240 --> 00:09:54,920 Speaker 1: two inches. 199 00:09:55,400 --> 00:09:57,600 Speaker 2: I was making a mountain out of a mole helm 200 00:09:57,880 --> 00:09:59,720 Speaker 2: I'll never forget. One day I went in the office, 201 00:10:00,080 --> 00:10:03,320 Speaker 2: desk was out of place, and I started complaining, God, 202 00:10:03,400 --> 00:10:05,560 Speaker 2: when are you ever gonna change these people? God, when 203 00:10:05,559 --> 00:10:08,720 Speaker 2: are they ever gonna leave my stuff alone? I heard 204 00:10:08,720 --> 00:10:11,800 Speaker 2: a voice right down in here saying, Joel, I'm gonna. 205 00:10:11,640 --> 00:10:16,240 Speaker 1: Change them as soon as you get over it. I thought, now, 206 00:10:16,360 --> 00:10:17,680 Speaker 1: was that God or the devil? 207 00:10:19,880 --> 00:10:24,319 Speaker 2: But sometimes we're waiting for other people to change. All 208 00:10:24,400 --> 00:10:27,440 Speaker 2: the while God is waiting for us to change. He's 209 00:10:27,520 --> 00:10:30,199 Speaker 2: waiting for us to get over it and quit making 210 00:10:30,200 --> 00:10:32,400 Speaker 2: a big deal out of something that's not a big deal. 211 00:10:33,080 --> 00:10:35,800 Speaker 2: And some of you, like I was, you're making mountains 212 00:10:35,840 --> 00:10:40,440 Speaker 2: out of mole hills, and it's bringing unnecessary stress. That's 213 00:10:40,480 --> 00:10:44,720 Speaker 2: creating tension, division, disharmony in the home. If you would 214 00:10:44,800 --> 00:10:47,880 Speaker 2: make these simple changes and quit blowing things out of 215 00:10:47,920 --> 00:10:51,400 Speaker 2: proportion and quit losing your core over things that don't matter, 216 00:10:51,920 --> 00:10:54,720 Speaker 2: you would not only enjoy your life more, but you 217 00:10:54,880 --> 00:10:57,520 Speaker 2: see the people you're in relationship with come up to 218 00:10:57,559 --> 00:11:00,920 Speaker 2: a higher level. So I've learned people don't change by 219 00:11:01,000 --> 00:11:06,160 Speaker 2: us nagging, complaining, harping, looking down on That doesn't motivate 220 00:11:06,280 --> 00:11:09,160 Speaker 2: anyone to want to do better. That takes away all 221 00:11:09,200 --> 00:11:14,000 Speaker 2: their enthusiasm. But when you encourage people, when you're kind 222 00:11:14,080 --> 00:11:18,640 Speaker 2: and understanding, when you make allowances for weaknesses, when you 223 00:11:18,800 --> 00:11:22,560 Speaker 2: overlook little things that could irritate you, you're so in 224 00:11:22,600 --> 00:11:25,800 Speaker 2: a seed for God to change them. Every one of 225 00:11:25,840 --> 00:11:29,920 Speaker 2: you has specific strengths. There are things that you're very 226 00:11:29,960 --> 00:11:32,719 Speaker 2: good at, but do you know if you allow it, 227 00:11:32,960 --> 00:11:34,360 Speaker 2: your strengths. 228 00:11:33,960 --> 00:11:35,280 Speaker 1: Can become your weaknesses. 229 00:11:36,040 --> 00:11:39,680 Speaker 2: I was so organized and so overly structured that I 230 00:11:39,720 --> 00:11:43,120 Speaker 2: couldn't even enjoy my life because my phone was two inches. 231 00:11:42,800 --> 00:11:44,680 Speaker 1: Out of place. That's out of balance. 232 00:11:45,160 --> 00:11:47,720 Speaker 2: When I heard that voice saying that I needed to change, 233 00:11:47,840 --> 00:11:50,400 Speaker 2: I made a decision that I was going to lighten 234 00:11:50,480 --> 00:11:54,120 Speaker 2: up and quit being so nitpicky in such a stickler. 235 00:11:54,640 --> 00:11:58,000 Speaker 2: I'm happy to say today, twenty years later, I never 236 00:11:58,040 --> 00:11:59,960 Speaker 2: get upset with Victoria moving my phone. 237 00:12:00,520 --> 00:12:06,760 Speaker 1: She doesn't have a key to my office. I'm just 238 00:12:06,880 --> 00:12:07,240 Speaker 1: kidding it. 239 00:12:08,960 --> 00:12:12,480 Speaker 2: But too often we try to fit people into our 240 00:12:12,600 --> 00:12:15,800 Speaker 2: mold and make them just like us. We think if 241 00:12:15,800 --> 00:12:19,439 Speaker 2: they would just change, then I wouldn't get upset, If 242 00:12:19,440 --> 00:12:21,000 Speaker 2: they would just do it the way I want, then 243 00:12:21,000 --> 00:12:24,280 Speaker 2: they wouldn't get on my nerves. Now, give people room 244 00:12:24,400 --> 00:12:27,520 Speaker 2: to become who God created them to be. Life is 245 00:12:27,559 --> 00:12:30,920 Speaker 2: too short to spend it trying to fix everybody. And 246 00:12:31,000 --> 00:12:33,800 Speaker 2: sure we should encourage people and help them grow and 247 00:12:33,880 --> 00:12:35,960 Speaker 2: come up higher, but we have to come to the 248 00:12:36,000 --> 00:12:38,800 Speaker 2: point where we step back and say, all right, this 249 00:12:38,840 --> 00:12:41,280 Speaker 2: is who God made them to be, and I'm going 250 00:12:41,320 --> 00:12:44,240 Speaker 2: to accept them just like they are, and just because 251 00:12:44,240 --> 00:12:47,520 Speaker 2: they don't have my same strengths, just because they don't 252 00:12:47,559 --> 00:12:49,640 Speaker 2: mind that the phone is a quarter of an inch off. 253 00:12:49,760 --> 00:12:51,360 Speaker 1: I'm not going to let that frustrate me. 254 00:12:51,960 --> 00:12:55,079 Speaker 2: We have to realize the people God brings into our 255 00:12:55,160 --> 00:12:58,360 Speaker 2: lives are to compliment us and to bring a certain 256 00:12:58,480 --> 00:13:02,080 Speaker 2: flavor that makes our lives more interesting. But if we 257 00:13:02,240 --> 00:13:05,280 Speaker 2: view these differences in a negative light and we allow 258 00:13:05,360 --> 00:13:08,240 Speaker 2: them to annoy us, then our life will not be 259 00:13:08,360 --> 00:13:10,160 Speaker 2: near as fulfilled as it could be. 260 00:13:11,000 --> 00:13:13,079 Speaker 1: I know if Victoria was just like. 261 00:13:13,120 --> 00:13:16,320 Speaker 2: Me, our home would not be nearly as fun because 262 00:13:16,360 --> 00:13:18,319 Speaker 2: I'm so organized and so structured. 263 00:13:18,520 --> 00:13:21,120 Speaker 1: I can do the same thing the same way again 264 00:13:21,240 --> 00:13:21,720 Speaker 1: and again. 265 00:13:22,360 --> 00:13:26,760 Speaker 2: But Victorious is very spontaneous. She keeps our house fresh 266 00:13:26,800 --> 00:13:30,640 Speaker 2: and fun and exciting. I've learned you've got to focus 267 00:13:30,920 --> 00:13:34,120 Speaker 2: on a person's strengths and learn to make allowances for 268 00:13:34,160 --> 00:13:38,200 Speaker 2: their weaknesses and realize just because they're not like you 269 00:13:38,480 --> 00:13:39,560 Speaker 2: doesn't mean they're wrong. 270 00:13:39,760 --> 00:13:40,600 Speaker 1: They're just different. 271 00:13:41,200 --> 00:13:45,000 Speaker 2: Every person has little quirks and peculiar things that we 272 00:13:45,040 --> 00:13:47,600 Speaker 2: can get on our nerves if we let it. But 273 00:13:47,640 --> 00:13:49,480 Speaker 2: we've got to be bigger than that to where we 274 00:13:49,559 --> 00:13:52,600 Speaker 2: overlook those things and we focus on their good qualities. 275 00:13:53,520 --> 00:13:56,080 Speaker 2: As long as I've known Victoria, she's always been a 276 00:13:56,080 --> 00:13:59,600 Speaker 2: great driver. She's never had an accident, never gotten a ticket. 277 00:14:00,040 --> 00:14:02,560 Speaker 2: But one thing she does used to really bother me. 278 00:14:03,360 --> 00:14:06,600 Speaker 2: When she's driving down the freeway, instead of keeping the 279 00:14:06,679 --> 00:14:09,800 Speaker 2: car in the center of the lane, she lines up 280 00:14:09,800 --> 00:14:12,880 Speaker 2: her right tires close to the right side stripe in 281 00:14:12,920 --> 00:14:16,439 Speaker 2: the road. And of course, when I'm the passenger, that 282 00:14:16,520 --> 00:14:19,800 Speaker 2: means I'm the one closest to the other cars. When 283 00:14:19,840 --> 00:14:22,120 Speaker 2: I look out the window and see that eighteen wheeler, 284 00:14:22,160 --> 00:14:25,120 Speaker 2: and I think to myself, I have never noticed those 285 00:14:25,120 --> 00:14:29,040 Speaker 2: little pin stripes like that before. That tells me we're 286 00:14:29,040 --> 00:14:32,400 Speaker 2: too close. And for probably ten years, every time I 287 00:14:32,400 --> 00:14:36,080 Speaker 2: would ride with her, I'd go through my same speech, Victoria, 288 00:14:36,120 --> 00:14:37,760 Speaker 2: you need to keep the car in the center of 289 00:14:37,800 --> 00:14:38,200 Speaker 2: the lane. 290 00:14:38,240 --> 00:14:41,680 Speaker 1: It's dangerous over here, on and on. Victoria would always 291 00:14:41,800 --> 00:14:42,240 Speaker 1: move over. 292 00:14:42,280 --> 00:14:44,600 Speaker 2: She would do her best to please me, but five 293 00:14:44,680 --> 00:14:47,400 Speaker 2: minutes later, she'd gravitate right back to where she was. 294 00:14:47,600 --> 00:14:50,240 Speaker 2: I'd get all up tight again, Please Victoria, move the 295 00:14:50,280 --> 00:14:54,920 Speaker 2: car over. I would like to see my grandchildren. I 296 00:14:55,120 --> 00:14:58,400 Speaker 2: was focused on that one little quirk, and I used 297 00:14:58,440 --> 00:15:01,680 Speaker 2: to think that it was my sign in life to 298 00:15:01,760 --> 00:15:04,520 Speaker 2: straighten her out and to teach her to drive just 299 00:15:04,640 --> 00:15:07,040 Speaker 2: like I could drive, and so I had her on 300 00:15:07,080 --> 00:15:10,920 Speaker 2: my potter's wheel. I was making her and molding her 301 00:15:11,280 --> 00:15:12,720 Speaker 2: into who I thought she should be. 302 00:15:13,640 --> 00:15:16,400 Speaker 1: One day it dawned on me, that's not my job. 303 00:15:16,920 --> 00:15:18,760 Speaker 1: That's God's job. I'm not the potter. 304 00:15:19,160 --> 00:15:21,480 Speaker 2: It was like a light turned on and I heard 305 00:15:21,480 --> 00:15:23,880 Speaker 2: God saying, Joel, you can get in the car the 306 00:15:23,920 --> 00:15:26,680 Speaker 2: next eighty years and try to change her, but she's 307 00:15:26,720 --> 00:15:29,560 Speaker 2: not going to change. You can either lighten up and 308 00:15:29,680 --> 00:15:31,960 Speaker 2: let her be who I made her to be, or 309 00:15:32,000 --> 00:15:35,040 Speaker 2: you can spend all your time frustrated and upset trying 310 00:15:35,040 --> 00:15:37,880 Speaker 2: to change her. That day, I made a decision to 311 00:15:38,000 --> 00:15:40,960 Speaker 2: just leave it alone. I quit making a big deal 312 00:15:41,280 --> 00:15:42,080 Speaker 2: out of something that. 313 00:15:42,080 --> 00:15:42,880 Speaker 1: Was not a big deal. 314 00:15:43,480 --> 00:15:47,600 Speaker 2: After all, She's never had an accident and I've had two. 315 00:15:47,800 --> 00:15:50,840 Speaker 2: She's never had a ticket and I've had a few. 316 00:15:51,880 --> 00:15:54,840 Speaker 2: But thank God, now I've been delivered. When I ride 317 00:15:54,840 --> 00:15:56,760 Speaker 2: with her, I don't even think twice. I just get 318 00:15:56,760 --> 00:16:02,080 Speaker 2: my helmet on and off we go. But you've heard 319 00:16:02,080 --> 00:16:05,600 Speaker 2: that saying I wanted to ride home today, y'all. Somebody 320 00:16:06,080 --> 00:16:10,880 Speaker 2: you've heard that saying, don't sweat the small stuff. Most 321 00:16:10,960 --> 00:16:14,160 Speaker 2: of the things that upset us and cause us to 322 00:16:14,240 --> 00:16:17,800 Speaker 2: live all out of sink is the small stuff? Well, 323 00:16:17,840 --> 00:16:20,480 Speaker 2: I went to church Sunday, but somebody was sitting in 324 00:16:20,480 --> 00:16:21,480 Speaker 2: my favorite seat. 325 00:16:21,880 --> 00:16:23,960 Speaker 1: I've been in that seat for twenty years. That's not right. 326 00:16:24,040 --> 00:16:27,600 Speaker 2: I paid for that seat. No, you're sweating the small stuff. 327 00:16:27,920 --> 00:16:31,560 Speaker 2: There are sixteen thousand seats. Find another one. Life is 328 00:16:31,600 --> 00:16:34,400 Speaker 2: too short to get all worked up over something that 329 00:16:34,440 --> 00:16:38,280 Speaker 2: doesn't really matter. Well, Joel, I'm stressed out today because 330 00:16:38,640 --> 00:16:41,800 Speaker 2: somebody's talking about me at the office. Well, let me 331 00:16:41,840 --> 00:16:44,880 Speaker 2: tell you a secret. Somebody is always talking about you. 332 00:16:44,880 --> 00:16:45,800 Speaker 2: You just don't know it. 333 00:16:46,280 --> 00:16:48,560 Speaker 1: Let it go and be happy anyway. 334 00:16:49,320 --> 00:16:53,080 Speaker 2: I had a mother that I was talking to last week, 335 00:16:53,160 --> 00:16:56,520 Speaker 2: and she was very stressed out because her child was 336 00:16:56,560 --> 00:16:59,560 Speaker 2: still using a pacifier. According to her, it was like 337 00:16:59,640 --> 00:17:01,800 Speaker 2: six months later than he should be using it. 338 00:17:01,840 --> 00:17:02,800 Speaker 1: She's really been out. 339 00:17:02,720 --> 00:17:05,600 Speaker 2: Of shape, and I reminded her that I have never 340 00:17:05,680 --> 00:17:08,320 Speaker 2: seen a twenty year old using a pacifier. 341 00:17:09,040 --> 00:17:10,119 Speaker 1: This too, shall pass. 342 00:17:10,240 --> 00:17:13,000 Speaker 2: Keep it in perspective, don't make a mountain out of 343 00:17:13,040 --> 00:17:16,960 Speaker 2: a molehill. And it's good to approach each day in faith, 344 00:17:17,119 --> 00:17:21,920 Speaker 2: expecting God's favor, yet at the same time realizing everything 345 00:17:22,200 --> 00:17:24,000 Speaker 2: may not go our way. 346 00:17:24,200 --> 00:17:26,679 Speaker 1: Everybody may not treat me right today. 347 00:17:27,400 --> 00:17:29,679 Speaker 2: All my plans may not work out the way I 348 00:17:29,720 --> 00:17:33,640 Speaker 2: have them scheduled, but I've already decided I am not 349 00:17:33,680 --> 00:17:36,000 Speaker 2: going to get upset and lose my joy. 350 00:17:36,840 --> 00:17:38,440 Speaker 1: Friends, life is full. 351 00:17:38,160 --> 00:17:42,680 Speaker 2: Of interruptions, inconveniences, things that can cost stress, and if 352 00:17:42,680 --> 00:17:44,879 Speaker 2: we're going to live happy, we've got to draw the 353 00:17:44,920 --> 00:17:47,680 Speaker 2: line in the sand and say, I am not going 354 00:17:47,720 --> 00:17:50,360 Speaker 2: to make a big deal today out of anything that's 355 00:17:50,400 --> 00:17:53,200 Speaker 2: not a big deal. That means I'm not going to 356 00:17:53,240 --> 00:17:56,479 Speaker 2: get upset if somebody is parked in my signs spot, 357 00:17:57,359 --> 00:17:59,879 Speaker 2: not gonna live sour. If my children don't like the 358 00:18:00,040 --> 00:18:02,320 Speaker 2: dinner that I cook them, I'm not going to lose 359 00:18:02,359 --> 00:18:04,919 Speaker 2: my peace. If I go to the hardware store and 360 00:18:04,960 --> 00:18:08,000 Speaker 2: they're out of the part that I need. I realize 361 00:18:08,040 --> 00:18:11,639 Speaker 2: that's a minor inconvenience in this too shall pass. 362 00:18:12,160 --> 00:18:12,280 Speaker 3: Now. 363 00:18:12,320 --> 00:18:15,560 Speaker 2: I've learned that when I'm upset, when I'm stressed out, 364 00:18:16,160 --> 00:18:19,359 Speaker 2: I'm out of sink with God. I'm out of tune 365 00:18:19,400 --> 00:18:23,480 Speaker 2: with God. It's not his fault. It's not my circumstances fault. 366 00:18:23,480 --> 00:18:24,880 Speaker 2: It's not my spouse's fault. 367 00:18:25,080 --> 00:18:28,720 Speaker 1: It's my own fault. I've let myself get out of balance. 368 00:18:29,560 --> 00:18:32,560 Speaker 2: Just like you have to retune a piano on a 369 00:18:32,600 --> 00:18:35,719 Speaker 2: regular basis for it to sound its best, you have 370 00:18:35,800 --> 00:18:38,639 Speaker 2: to retune your life. You've got to come back to 371 00:18:38,680 --> 00:18:42,359 Speaker 2: that place of peace and find out what's stealing your joy. 372 00:18:43,040 --> 00:18:43,960 Speaker 1: Take inventory. 373 00:18:44,320 --> 00:18:46,600 Speaker 2: Are you making big deals out of things that are 374 00:18:46,640 --> 00:18:49,320 Speaker 2: not a big deal. Are you getting stressed over the 375 00:18:49,400 --> 00:18:53,359 Speaker 2: traffic of delay and inconvenience? Are you trying to change 376 00:18:53,400 --> 00:18:57,720 Speaker 2: everybody allowing their weaknesses to frustrate you? Are you blowing 377 00:18:57,800 --> 00:19:01,480 Speaker 2: situations out of proportion. If we're going to stay in 378 00:19:01,560 --> 00:19:05,000 Speaker 2: tune and be our best each day, we have to 379 00:19:05,040 --> 00:19:08,440 Speaker 2: make adjustments on a daily basis. In other words, at 380 00:19:08,480 --> 00:19:11,960 Speaker 2: the grocery store, somebody is rude to you, No big deal. 381 00:19:12,240 --> 00:19:14,359 Speaker 2: I'm not going to get upset. They're having a bad day. 382 00:19:14,600 --> 00:19:17,080 Speaker 2: I'm going to stay in tune. You get out to 383 00:19:17,119 --> 00:19:19,359 Speaker 2: your car and realize that you left your lights on. 384 00:19:19,520 --> 00:19:22,600 Speaker 2: Now it won't start. Don't overreact, don't blow it out 385 00:19:22,600 --> 00:19:23,080 Speaker 2: of proportion. 386 00:19:23,520 --> 00:19:24,359 Speaker 1: Stay in tune. 387 00:19:24,600 --> 00:19:26,960 Speaker 2: God is still on the throne. Somebody's going to be 388 00:19:26,960 --> 00:19:29,280 Speaker 2: there to help you. You're on the freeway in a 389 00:19:29,359 --> 00:19:30,399 Speaker 2: hurry to get to the airport. 390 00:19:30,480 --> 00:19:31,080 Speaker 1: You got to catch a. 391 00:19:31,119 --> 00:19:34,760 Speaker 2: Flight, and you get behind the slowest driver in North America. 392 00:19:35,480 --> 00:19:38,520 Speaker 2: When you change lanes, that lane slows down, looks like 393 00:19:38,560 --> 00:19:39,280 Speaker 2: it's following you. 394 00:19:39,880 --> 00:19:40,520 Speaker 1: Just relax. 395 00:19:40,920 --> 00:19:43,880 Speaker 2: It's not worth getting your blood pressure up over Keep 396 00:19:43,920 --> 00:19:46,919 Speaker 2: it in perspective. Even if you were to miss that flight, 397 00:19:47,440 --> 00:19:50,560 Speaker 2: If you believe that God is directing your steps, then 398 00:19:50,600 --> 00:19:53,560 Speaker 2: you know that where you are is where you're supposed 399 00:19:53,560 --> 00:19:53,720 Speaker 2: to be. 400 00:19:54,560 --> 00:19:57,000 Speaker 1: That delay could be keeping you from an accident. 401 00:19:57,560 --> 00:20:00,639 Speaker 2: That misflight may cause you to meet someone that God's 402 00:20:00,640 --> 00:20:02,600 Speaker 2: been wanting you to meet, a divine connection. 403 00:20:03,000 --> 00:20:07,040 Speaker 1: Stay in tune, don't sweat the small stop. Here's the key. 404 00:20:07,480 --> 00:20:10,159 Speaker 2: When you have a problem, it's good to categorize it. 405 00:20:10,720 --> 00:20:14,520 Speaker 2: Ask yourself, is this a five minute problem, a five 406 00:20:14,640 --> 00:20:18,200 Speaker 2: hour problem, or a five year problem. A five minute 407 00:20:18,200 --> 00:20:21,200 Speaker 2: problem would be things like not finding the car, keys, 408 00:20:21,640 --> 00:20:25,000 Speaker 2: burning the toast, getting caught by a train. A five 409 00:20:25,080 --> 00:20:28,600 Speaker 2: hour problem would be missing the flight, having to work, 410 00:20:28,720 --> 00:20:33,040 Speaker 2: laid the car won't start. If you'll categorize your problems, 411 00:20:33,280 --> 00:20:36,679 Speaker 2: I think you'll be amazed at how much stress and 412 00:20:36,800 --> 00:20:40,320 Speaker 2: frustration and worry we give into over a little five 413 00:20:40,400 --> 00:20:43,880 Speaker 2: minute and five hour problems. By the end of the day, 414 00:20:43,920 --> 00:20:46,359 Speaker 2: they're going to be gone by the time you go 415 00:20:46,400 --> 00:20:48,719 Speaker 2: to bed that night, it's going to all be cleared up. 416 00:20:49,320 --> 00:20:53,120 Speaker 2: It's really not worth getting upset over. I heard somebody say, 417 00:20:53,680 --> 00:20:57,800 Speaker 2: if you can't flee it, don't fight it, just flow 418 00:20:57,840 --> 00:21:01,280 Speaker 2: with it. In other words, if you can can't change it, 419 00:21:01,440 --> 00:21:04,280 Speaker 2: just relax, stay in peace, and go with the flow. 420 00:21:04,920 --> 00:21:07,200 Speaker 2: If you get stuck in traffic, you can't change it, 421 00:21:07,320 --> 00:21:10,359 Speaker 2: just flow with it. If you burn the toast, you 422 00:21:10,400 --> 00:21:12,680 Speaker 2: can't unburn it. It's over and done. Put in a 423 00:21:12,720 --> 00:21:15,200 Speaker 2: new piece and move on. If you have to work 424 00:21:15,280 --> 00:21:18,680 Speaker 2: late and you don't want to, being upset is only 425 00:21:18,720 --> 00:21:21,280 Speaker 2: gonna make it seem like it takes longer, just gonna 426 00:21:21,280 --> 00:21:22,160 Speaker 2: make you miserable. 427 00:21:22,600 --> 00:21:24,400 Speaker 1: That's a five hour problem. 428 00:21:24,880 --> 00:21:27,600 Speaker 2: Make it decision. You're gonna stay in peace and be 429 00:21:27,760 --> 00:21:30,360 Speaker 2: your best knowing, But by the time you go to bed, 430 00:21:30,520 --> 00:21:32,200 Speaker 2: it's gonna all be over and done. 431 00:21:32,920 --> 00:21:33,960 Speaker 1: I think it's interesting. 432 00:21:34,200 --> 00:21:38,800 Speaker 2: The Apostle Paul never prayed for every challenge to go away. 433 00:21:38,960 --> 00:21:42,200 Speaker 2: He prayed that God would give him the strength to go. 434 00:21:42,119 --> 00:21:44,119 Speaker 1: Through them with a good attitude. 435 00:21:45,160 --> 00:21:48,560 Speaker 2: Our level of maturity can be seen by how much 436 00:21:48,640 --> 00:21:51,879 Speaker 2: it takes to get us upset. You've heard the saying 437 00:21:52,160 --> 00:21:56,000 Speaker 2: a small pot boils the quickest. That means if we 438 00:21:56,040 --> 00:22:00,560 Speaker 2: don't have much character, will always be stressed out making. 439 00:22:00,320 --> 00:22:01,679 Speaker 1: Mountains out of mole hills. 440 00:22:02,280 --> 00:22:05,120 Speaker 2: If we lose our cool because our child for God 441 00:22:05,160 --> 00:22:09,119 Speaker 2: is homework, and we're aggravated because somebody didn't do something 442 00:22:09,119 --> 00:22:11,920 Speaker 2: at work we wanted them to, and we're upset because 443 00:22:11,960 --> 00:22:14,119 Speaker 2: the cars making a little funny sound that we're not 444 00:22:14,200 --> 00:22:17,479 Speaker 2: passing the test. We've got to grow and mature to 445 00:22:17,520 --> 00:22:20,119 Speaker 2: the point to where we can say what the apostle 446 00:22:20,119 --> 00:22:22,680 Speaker 2: Paul said and acts twenty four. 447 00:22:23,200 --> 00:22:24,879 Speaker 1: None of these things move me. 448 00:22:25,760 --> 00:22:32,040 Speaker 2: What's amazing is Paul knew in his future there were challenges, obstacles, heartache. 449 00:22:32,280 --> 00:22:35,520 Speaker 2: He knew he was even headed for prison. Yet he said, 450 00:22:35,600 --> 00:22:39,040 Speaker 2: in effect, it's no big deal. I'm not worried about it. 451 00:22:39,280 --> 00:22:41,959 Speaker 2: I know God is still in control. I have a 452 00:22:42,000 --> 00:22:45,040 Speaker 2: destiny to fulfill. I can't flee it, so I'm not 453 00:22:45,080 --> 00:22:47,600 Speaker 2: gonna fight it. I'm just gonna flow with it. I 454 00:22:47,640 --> 00:22:51,159 Speaker 2: love the fact that Paul treated big things even as 455 00:22:51,200 --> 00:22:55,439 Speaker 2: small things. When you view your challenges from God's perspective, 456 00:22:55,760 --> 00:22:58,719 Speaker 2: you can reduce them down to size, and even a 457 00:22:58,760 --> 00:23:02,480 Speaker 2: big problem, we'll see it as a little deal. If 458 00:23:02,480 --> 00:23:04,679 Speaker 2: We're not going to make mountains out of mole hills. 459 00:23:05,040 --> 00:23:07,480 Speaker 2: We've got to learn to lighten up and see the 460 00:23:07,560 --> 00:23:10,640 Speaker 2: humor in life. Was in a hotel the other day 461 00:23:10,640 --> 00:23:13,040 Speaker 2: and I got up early in the morning and I 462 00:23:13,080 --> 00:23:17,080 Speaker 2: called room service to order Victoria some coffee. Nobody answered, 463 00:23:17,520 --> 00:23:19,320 Speaker 2: we had to catch a flight real soon, and so 464 00:23:19,400 --> 00:23:21,600 Speaker 2: I put on some jim shorts and a T shirt 465 00:23:21,600 --> 00:23:23,920 Speaker 2: and I ran downstairs to see if I could get 466 00:23:23,920 --> 00:23:26,000 Speaker 2: her some coffee. In a lot of times, the hotel 467 00:23:26,000 --> 00:23:28,639 Speaker 2: will have free coffee. When I got off the elevator, 468 00:23:28,680 --> 00:23:31,639 Speaker 2: over to the left by some ballrooms, I saw several 469 00:23:31,680 --> 00:23:34,560 Speaker 2: tables and they had big containers of coffee, and so 470 00:23:34,600 --> 00:23:36,600 Speaker 2: I went and got Victoria cup and put in it 471 00:23:36,680 --> 00:23:39,719 Speaker 2: what she likes. As I was walking back to the elevator, 472 00:23:40,240 --> 00:23:44,960 Speaker 2: I heard this lady's voice say, very sternly, excuse me. 473 00:23:44,880 --> 00:23:46,920 Speaker 1: Sir, that will be three dollars. 474 00:23:47,680 --> 00:23:49,919 Speaker 2: I turned around kind of laughed and said, oh, I'm sorry, 475 00:23:50,160 --> 00:23:52,919 Speaker 2: I thought it was free. Can I put this charge 476 00:23:52,920 --> 00:23:55,800 Speaker 2: on my hotel room? She was still kind of aggravated. 477 00:23:55,840 --> 00:23:59,080 Speaker 2: She said, no, sir, you may not. We're not associated 478 00:23:59,200 --> 00:24:02,880 Speaker 2: with the hotel. It'll be three dollars in cash. Well, 479 00:24:02,880 --> 00:24:04,560 Speaker 2: I didn't have any cash, and I said, well, let 480 00:24:04,600 --> 00:24:06,080 Speaker 2: me run up to my room real quick and I'll 481 00:24:06,080 --> 00:24:08,879 Speaker 2: bring it right back down. She looked at me and said, 482 00:24:09,200 --> 00:24:10,879 Speaker 2: how do I know you're gonna come back? 483 00:24:12,800 --> 00:24:15,000 Speaker 1: I said, look at this face. Would I lie to you? 484 00:24:15,080 --> 00:24:17,000 Speaker 1: I am so innocent. I promise i'll come back. 485 00:24:17,160 --> 00:24:19,639 Speaker 2: She said, no, sir, you need to leave something, and 486 00:24:19,680 --> 00:24:21,760 Speaker 2: so I said, well, I'll leave the coffee. She said, no, 487 00:24:21,840 --> 00:24:24,480 Speaker 2: you've already bought that. I can't reuse that. You need 488 00:24:24,480 --> 00:24:27,080 Speaker 2: to leave something else. I only had a T shirt, 489 00:24:27,359 --> 00:24:30,359 Speaker 2: jim shorts, and tennis shoes. I wasn't gonna leave my 490 00:24:30,400 --> 00:24:32,520 Speaker 2: tennis shoes. I wasn't gonna leave my T shirt, and 491 00:24:32,560 --> 00:24:36,360 Speaker 2: I sure wasn't gona leave my jim shorts. She finally said, 492 00:24:36,400 --> 00:24:38,440 Speaker 2: all right, well, let me go check with my manager 493 00:24:38,480 --> 00:24:40,439 Speaker 2: and see what we need to do. As soon as 494 00:24:40,480 --> 00:24:42,320 Speaker 2: she got out of my sight, I ran to my 495 00:24:42,400 --> 00:24:46,040 Speaker 2: hotel room as fast as I could. I came back down. 496 00:24:46,440 --> 00:24:49,040 Speaker 2: When I got there, she said, I was just about 497 00:24:49,040 --> 00:24:52,600 Speaker 2: to come looking for you. I thought, dear lord lady, 498 00:24:52,600 --> 00:24:54,440 Speaker 2: what are you doing selling coffee? You need to be 499 00:24:54,520 --> 00:24:59,399 Speaker 2: working for the FBI. I paid her my three dollars, 500 00:24:59,480 --> 00:25:01,960 Speaker 2: and just as I was about to leave, she said, hey, 501 00:25:02,080 --> 00:25:06,280 Speaker 2: wait a minute, aren't you that minister. I said, no, ma'am, 502 00:25:06,320 --> 00:25:10,720 Speaker 2: I'm a dentist. I wasn't about to tell her who 503 00:25:10,720 --> 00:25:18,840 Speaker 2: I was. I repented later. What am I saying? Instead 504 00:25:18,840 --> 00:25:22,760 Speaker 2: of getting bent out of shape? I forgot what I'm saying, yo, 505 00:25:24,720 --> 00:25:27,560 Speaker 2: Instead of getting bent out of shape, see the humor 506 00:25:27,600 --> 00:25:31,240 Speaker 2: in life. Don't blow things out of proportion. Don't overreact. 507 00:25:31,440 --> 00:25:35,040 Speaker 2: That was a five minute problem that wasn't worth getting 508 00:25:35,080 --> 00:25:38,119 Speaker 2: stressed out over. Friend's life is too short to go 509 00:25:38,160 --> 00:25:40,760 Speaker 2: around making mountains out of mole hills. 510 00:25:41,160 --> 00:25:44,199 Speaker 1: So somebody didn't treat you right, Big deal. Let it go. 511 00:25:44,400 --> 00:25:45,240 Speaker 1: Stay in tune. 512 00:25:45,800 --> 00:25:49,160 Speaker 2: So your plans didn't work out, you got delayed, Big deal. 513 00:25:49,240 --> 00:25:52,840 Speaker 2: God's directing your steps. Just flow with it. Maybe you've 514 00:25:52,880 --> 00:25:55,520 Speaker 2: got a tough week ahead of you. But instead of 515 00:25:55,560 --> 00:25:58,800 Speaker 2: making it bigger by dreading it, do like the apostle Paul, 516 00:25:59,119 --> 00:26:02,240 Speaker 2: see it from God's perspective. Reduce it down to size. 517 00:26:02,359 --> 00:26:05,159 Speaker 2: God is still on the throne some of you today. 518 00:26:05,359 --> 00:26:07,680 Speaker 2: You'd see your life go to a new level if 519 00:26:07,680 --> 00:26:09,760 Speaker 2: you just quit making a big deal out of things 520 00:26:09,800 --> 00:26:12,600 Speaker 2: that are not a big deal. Remember it's not our 521 00:26:12,680 --> 00:26:16,040 Speaker 2: job to make everybody around us just like us. Give 522 00:26:16,080 --> 00:26:18,720 Speaker 2: them the freedom to become who God's created them to be. 523 00:26:19,320 --> 00:26:21,840 Speaker 2: The next time you have a challenge, ask yourself, is 524 00:26:21,880 --> 00:26:25,160 Speaker 2: this a five minute, a five hour, even a five 525 00:26:25,240 --> 00:26:28,359 Speaker 2: month that's not worth living stressed out over? Get up 526 00:26:28,400 --> 00:26:30,960 Speaker 2: in the morning and say to yourself, I will not 527 00:26:31,240 --> 00:26:33,720 Speaker 2: make a big deal out of anything that's not a 528 00:26:33,720 --> 00:26:37,080 Speaker 2: big deal today. If you do that, you're passing the test. 529 00:26:37,560 --> 00:26:40,120 Speaker 2: No matter what comes your way, you'll be able to say, 530 00:26:40,160 --> 00:26:42,720 Speaker 2: with the Apostle Paul, none of these things move me. 531 00:26:43,440 --> 00:26:46,160 Speaker 2: You'll not only be happier and more fulfilled, but your 532 00:26:46,160 --> 00:26:48,800 Speaker 2: relationships will come up to a higher level. And I 533 00:26:48,880 --> 00:26:52,119 Speaker 2: believe and declare you will become everything God's created you 534 00:26:52,160 --> 00:26:54,639 Speaker 2: to be, and you will have everything God intended for 535 00:26:54,680 --> 00:26:55,040 Speaker 2: you to have. 536 00:26:55,119 --> 00:26:56,760 Speaker 1: Amen till you receive it today. 537 00:26:58,720 --> 00:27:01,520 Speaker 2: We never like to close our podcast without giving you 538 00:27:01,600 --> 00:27:04,360 Speaker 2: an opportunity to make Jesus the lord of your life. 539 00:27:04,600 --> 00:27:08,240 Speaker 2: Would you pray with me, just say, Lord, Jesus, I 540 00:27:08,359 --> 00:27:09,480 Speaker 2: repent of my sins. 541 00:27:10,440 --> 00:27:13,920 Speaker 1: Come into my heart. I make you my Lord and savior. 542 00:27:14,880 --> 00:27:17,399 Speaker 2: Friends, if you prayed that simple prayer, we believe you 543 00:27:17,440 --> 00:27:20,280 Speaker 2: got born again, get in a good Bible based church. 544 00:27:20,680 --> 00:27:23,480 Speaker 1: Keep God first place. He'll take your places that you've 545 00:27:23,480 --> 00:27:24,119 Speaker 1: never dreamed of. 546 00:27:25,480 --> 00:27:28,359 Speaker 3: Sometimes the stresses of life can feel like you're just 547 00:27:28,400 --> 00:27:32,760 Speaker 3: getting by. God wants to bless us, but how do 548 00:27:32,800 --> 00:27:36,040 Speaker 3: you move from barely enough to just enough to more 549 00:27:36,119 --> 00:27:36,640 Speaker 3: than enough. 550 00:27:38,320 --> 00:27:40,960 Speaker 2: We all face difficulties and people that are hard to 551 00:27:41,000 --> 00:27:44,280 Speaker 2: deal with. You can't eliminate all the stress, but if 552 00:27:44,280 --> 00:27:46,639 Speaker 2: you'll handle it the right way, you don't have to 553 00:27:46,680 --> 00:27:50,400 Speaker 2: live stressed out. Much of our frustration is we're trying 554 00:27:50,400 --> 00:27:53,440 Speaker 2: to control things that we can't control. Let any things 555 00:27:53,440 --> 00:27:56,040 Speaker 2: stress us that don't have to. And I'd love to 556 00:27:56,080 --> 00:27:58,639 Speaker 2: send you by new book fifty five Ways to be 557 00:27:58,760 --> 00:28:02,320 Speaker 2: Blessed and not Stress. I'll show you practical things you 558 00:28:02,359 --> 00:28:05,560 Speaker 2: can do to live more peaceful and enjoy each day. 559 00:28:06,040 --> 00:28:09,520 Speaker 3: You can move from stressed to blessed and fully realize 560 00:28:09,560 --> 00:28:13,320 Speaker 3: God's goodness, favor, and blessings. As our way of saying 561 00:28:13,440 --> 00:28:16,320 Speaker 3: thank you for your gift of any amount to the ministry, 562 00:28:16,320 --> 00:28:19,080 Speaker 3: this month, Juel and Victoria would like to send you 563 00:28:19,200 --> 00:28:23,600 Speaker 3: this powerful life transforming resource, fifty five Ways to be 564 00:28:23,640 --> 00:28:27,679 Speaker 3: Blessed and not Stressed. With this book, you'll not just 565 00:28:27,720 --> 00:28:32,320 Speaker 3: see one pathway forward, but fifty five powerful life changing 566 00:28:32,359 --> 00:28:35,240 Speaker 3: ways to kill the stress and give life to a 567 00:28:35,320 --> 00:28:39,320 Speaker 3: life of blessing. These fifty five promises will open God's 568 00:28:39,320 --> 00:28:43,080 Speaker 3: floodgates and release double the impact of his divine direction, 569 00:28:43,400 --> 00:28:45,000 Speaker 3: opportunity and blessing. 570 00:28:45,160 --> 00:28:45,760 Speaker 1: Every day. 571 00:28:46,280 --> 00:28:50,720 Speaker 3: Now expect, declare, and receive a blessed not stressed, over 572 00:28:50,760 --> 00:28:53,480 Speaker 3: the top outpouring in your life. 573 00:28:53,520 --> 00:28:57,160 Speaker 2: How much time are you spending worried, upset and frustrated. 574 00:28:57,440 --> 00:29:00,520 Speaker 2: Life is too short to live stressed. You'll make some 575 00:29:00,600 --> 00:29:05,000 Speaker 2: simple adjustments. You can live blessed and not stressed. Victory 576 00:29:05,040 --> 00:29:06,920 Speaker 2: and I want you to know we're praying for you 577 00:29:07,280 --> 00:29:10,520 Speaker 2: that you'll experience peace and joy and see your dreams 578 00:29:10,560 --> 00:29:13,560 Speaker 2: come to pass. Thank you so much for your prayers 579 00:29:13,640 --> 00:29:18,080 Speaker 2: and support. Your generosity is impacting lives all over the world. 580 00:29:18,720 --> 00:29:22,920 Speaker 2: Remember you can watch the services online Sunday mornings, download 581 00:29:22,960 --> 00:29:28,000 Speaker 2: our daily podcast, listen on SERRIOUSXM YouTube social media. But 582 00:29:28,120 --> 00:29:30,600 Speaker 2: until we meet again, may the Lord bless. 583 00:29:30,320 --> 00:29:31,360 Speaker 1: You and keep you. 584 00:29:32,080 --> 00:29:35,000 Speaker 3: Be sure to request your copy of fifty five ways 585 00:29:35,040 --> 00:29:39,000 Speaker 3: to be blessed and not stressed today. 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