1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:03,320 Speaker 1: My husband's coworkers thought that my sister was his wife 2 00:00:03,520 --> 00:00:04,680 Speaker 1: because he told them. 3 00:00:04,519 --> 00:00:08,800 Speaker 2: That sister wife. Well, this is my sister wife. 4 00:00:09,320 --> 00:00:11,399 Speaker 1: I'm really struggling right now and could use some advice 5 00:00:11,480 --> 00:00:13,960 Speaker 1: from people who aren't in my immediate circle because I 6 00:00:14,000 --> 00:00:16,319 Speaker 1: am too embarrassed to talk to anyone else about it. 7 00:00:16,360 --> 00:00:18,480 Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from leading historian ninety three 8 00:00:18,600 --> 00:00:19,160 Speaker 1: thirteen on. 9 00:00:19,079 --> 00:00:19,560 Speaker 2: The art slage. 10 00:00:19,640 --> 00:00:21,520 Speaker 1: Okay, Storytime sub reread it. So I'm thirty and I've 11 00:00:21,520 --> 00:00:24,200 Speaker 1: been married to my husband, thirty two male for five years. 12 00:00:24,239 --> 00:00:26,520 Speaker 1: We've been together for seven years, and we met back 13 00:00:26,520 --> 00:00:28,680 Speaker 1: in college. He was the first guy who made me 14 00:00:28,720 --> 00:00:30,920 Speaker 1: feel comfortable in my own skin. I've always been more 15 00:00:30,920 --> 00:00:35,640 Speaker 1: of a tomboy into sports, preferring jeans over dresses. Jeans 16 00:00:35,760 --> 00:00:38,440 Speaker 1: and my body's more on the athletic side. Growing up 17 00:00:38,479 --> 00:00:41,320 Speaker 1: that way wasn't always easy, but my husband loved me 18 00:00:41,400 --> 00:00:43,000 Speaker 1: for who I am and never made. 19 00:00:42,800 --> 00:00:45,240 Speaker 2: Me feel like I needed to change. I really thought 20 00:00:45,479 --> 00:00:47,040 Speaker 2: that I had found my perfect partner. 21 00:00:47,520 --> 00:00:50,559 Speaker 1: Well, I also have a younger sister, Rosalie twenty six, female, 22 00:00:50,600 --> 00:00:53,880 Speaker 1: and we've always been close. She's beautiful and effortlessly charming, 23 00:00:53,960 --> 00:00:56,120 Speaker 1: and the kind of person that just everybody loves our 24 00:00:56,160 --> 00:00:59,960 Speaker 1: mom has some serious narcissistic tendencies and definitely played favorite 25 00:01:00,120 --> 00:01:03,720 Speaker 1: growing up with Rosalie being the golden child. It wasn't 26 00:01:03,720 --> 00:01:06,199 Speaker 1: her fault and she never asked for the attention. In fact, 27 00:01:06,240 --> 00:01:09,040 Speaker 1: she's always been super kind and supportive, even though she's 28 00:01:09,080 --> 00:01:12,039 Speaker 1: a type who avoids confrontation and puts herself last to 29 00:01:12,080 --> 00:01:14,639 Speaker 1: make others happy. So we've never really had any issues 30 00:01:14,680 --> 00:01:17,600 Speaker 1: between all of those consparisons growing up, leaving me with 31 00:01:17,720 --> 00:01:20,200 Speaker 1: insecurities that I've never fully shaken. 32 00:01:20,319 --> 00:01:22,160 Speaker 3: You gotta you, guys, gotta hash it out. 33 00:01:22,280 --> 00:01:24,039 Speaker 1: Got to hash it out, and good on you for 34 00:01:24,400 --> 00:01:27,240 Speaker 1: she's not attacking her for it. Yeah, so good on you. 35 00:01:27,360 --> 00:01:30,639 Speaker 1: About two months ago, Rosalie's long term partner left after 36 00:01:30,680 --> 00:01:36,039 Speaker 1: finding out she was pregnanto. 37 00:01:34,120 --> 00:01:35,960 Speaker 3: Baby with oose baby. 38 00:01:36,480 --> 00:01:38,440 Speaker 2: That's a good hit it Riley. 39 00:01:38,800 --> 00:01:41,520 Speaker 1: Conspiracy theory, as he knew whatout. 40 00:01:41,200 --> 00:01:41,800 Speaker 2: Be saying. 41 00:01:43,600 --> 00:01:44,560 Speaker 3: As baby. 42 00:01:44,720 --> 00:01:48,160 Speaker 1: Oh. Well, she was devastated and we agree that she 43 00:01:48,160 --> 00:01:49,880 Speaker 1: could move in with us for a while to get 44 00:01:49,880 --> 00:01:50,560 Speaker 1: her back. 45 00:01:50,400 --> 00:01:52,560 Speaker 2: On her feet, hopefully not back on her back with 46 00:01:52,560 --> 00:01:53,000 Speaker 2: her husband. 47 00:01:53,240 --> 00:01:57,120 Speaker 1: So she's been staying with us ever since, and at 48 00:01:57,160 --> 00:02:00,440 Speaker 1: first everything seemed fine. My husband didn't seem to act differently, 49 00:02:00,480 --> 00:02:02,880 Speaker 1: so I didn't suspect that anything was wrong. And one 50 00:02:03,160 --> 00:02:06,080 Speaker 1: ish months ago I asked Rosalie to drop something off 51 00:02:06,120 --> 00:02:08,880 Speaker 1: for my husband at work because I was swamped. I 52 00:02:08,919 --> 00:02:10,600 Speaker 1: didn't think much of it and that it would just 53 00:02:10,639 --> 00:02:13,680 Speaker 1: save me some time. Well she did, and it turns 54 00:02:13,720 --> 00:02:16,680 Speaker 1: out that when she got there, everyone assumed that she 55 00:02:17,160 --> 00:02:20,680 Speaker 1: was his wife. They congratulated him on his beautiful wife 56 00:02:20,720 --> 00:02:24,400 Speaker 1: and there soon to be sun. Instead of correcting all 57 00:02:24,440 --> 00:02:27,440 Speaker 1: of them, he went along with it. What he's like, Yeah, 58 00:02:27,440 --> 00:02:29,120 Speaker 1: that's my wife, that's my kid, that's my wife and 59 00:02:29,120 --> 00:02:32,359 Speaker 1: my son. He's too much to explain unless it freaking 60 00:02:32,480 --> 00:02:33,639 Speaker 1: is his wife and his son. 61 00:02:33,760 --> 00:02:33,919 Speaker 2: Now. 62 00:02:33,960 --> 00:02:36,720 Speaker 1: He admitted that he liked how his coworkers reacted to 63 00:02:36,840 --> 00:02:38,720 Speaker 1: having a beautiful wife and baby. 64 00:02:38,960 --> 00:02:41,639 Speaker 3: Oh, you already have a beautiful. 65 00:02:41,080 --> 00:02:43,680 Speaker 2: Wife, and that made him feel. 66 00:02:43,560 --> 00:02:45,520 Speaker 3: That is why would you ever admit. 67 00:02:45,320 --> 00:02:45,880 Speaker 2: That, bro? 68 00:02:46,200 --> 00:02:50,320 Speaker 1: Freudian slipped right into jail, right into husband prison. 69 00:02:50,480 --> 00:02:54,519 Speaker 3: Freudian slipped right into those prison orange jumpsuits. 70 00:02:55,360 --> 00:02:57,280 Speaker 2: Orange is not the new black for you, my friend. 71 00:02:57,760 --> 00:03:00,280 Speaker 1: One of his coworkers asked him where his wife was 72 00:03:00,320 --> 00:03:02,800 Speaker 1: at the event, and since Rosalie had already dropped by 73 00:03:02,840 --> 00:03:05,400 Speaker 1: once before. They assumed that she was his wife and 74 00:03:05,440 --> 00:03:08,080 Speaker 1: he didn't correct them. It made him feel validated, like 75 00:03:08,120 --> 00:03:10,520 Speaker 1: he was living up to some ideal that I guess 76 00:03:10,560 --> 00:03:11,359 Speaker 1: I don't fit into. 77 00:03:11,600 --> 00:03:13,600 Speaker 3: I think you have to immediately divorce this man. 78 00:03:13,720 --> 00:03:14,040 Speaker 2: Dude. 79 00:03:14,160 --> 00:03:16,800 Speaker 1: I'm just curious to know what is like clinically wrong 80 00:03:16,840 --> 00:03:18,440 Speaker 1: with his brain, Like why would. 81 00:03:18,200 --> 00:03:20,720 Speaker 3: He say all of this? What does he get from this? 82 00:03:21,240 --> 00:03:24,680 Speaker 1: I think maybe he's always felt this way and it's 83 00:03:24,760 --> 00:03:27,520 Speaker 1: just built built, built, built, built, and then he gets 84 00:03:27,560 --> 00:03:31,560 Speaker 1: this weird, not out but weird way to like act 85 00:03:31,600 --> 00:03:34,639 Speaker 1: on these feelings by saying that his freaking sister in 86 00:03:34,720 --> 00:03:36,080 Speaker 1: law is his wife. 87 00:03:36,080 --> 00:03:40,160 Speaker 3: Yeah, and that the baby is his fantasizing about it. 88 00:03:40,280 --> 00:03:43,360 Speaker 1: Do you still feel at this point that the baby 89 00:03:43,560 --> 00:03:43,920 Speaker 1: is I. 90 00:03:43,880 --> 00:03:46,920 Speaker 3: Honestly don't think it is his baby. I think he's 91 00:03:47,000 --> 00:03:48,400 Speaker 3: just fantasizing about. 92 00:03:48,120 --> 00:03:50,840 Speaker 1: It because like the coworkers are just like, yeah, oh, 93 00:03:50,920 --> 00:03:54,040 Speaker 1: this woman's coming into the office multiple times, she's pregnant. 94 00:03:54,440 --> 00:03:58,480 Speaker 1: Never assume yeah, But I see the logic behind people 95 00:03:58,640 --> 00:04:02,280 Speaker 1: no question, why is she there? She was dropping something 96 00:04:02,320 --> 00:04:03,400 Speaker 1: off just to. 97 00:04:03,360 --> 00:04:04,520 Speaker 2: Save the answer. 98 00:04:04,680 --> 00:04:08,200 Speaker 1: That's fine, but hey, hey listen, the story's not over yet. 99 00:04:08,240 --> 00:04:08,840 Speaker 3: Story ain't over. 100 00:04:08,960 --> 00:04:09,840 Speaker 2: Story, ain't over. Yeah. 101 00:04:09,880 --> 00:04:11,600 Speaker 1: I didn't find out about any of this until a 102 00:04:11,640 --> 00:04:13,840 Speaker 1: few nights ago. We were out for dinner celebrating our 103 00:04:13,920 --> 00:04:17,000 Speaker 1: anniversary when we ran into one of his coworkers at 104 00:04:17,040 --> 00:04:20,320 Speaker 1: the restaurant on their anniversary. The guy asked my husband 105 00:04:20,560 --> 00:04:23,279 Speaker 1: where his wife was, and when my husband said something 106 00:04:23,360 --> 00:04:26,120 Speaker 1: vague about her being busy, I just fell to the 107 00:04:26,400 --> 00:04:28,560 Speaker 1: I just felt the ground had dropped out from under 108 00:04:28,560 --> 00:04:33,279 Speaker 1: me on your anniversary one of her in front of 109 00:04:33,320 --> 00:04:35,160 Speaker 1: her at dinner for their anniversary. 110 00:04:35,240 --> 00:04:38,240 Speaker 3: Crazy that he literally could have just said, oh, like, 111 00:04:38,400 --> 00:04:40,440 Speaker 3: this is my wife. Sorry. I don't know if you 112 00:04:40,440 --> 00:04:43,159 Speaker 3: guys thought like that other woman, that's my sister in law. Sorry, 113 00:04:43,160 --> 00:04:45,680 Speaker 3: if there was like a literal miscommunication. 114 00:04:45,200 --> 00:04:50,080 Speaker 1: Continues the lot double freaking down what the date was 115 00:04:50,160 --> 00:04:52,240 Speaker 1: basically ruined, and we went home as soon as we 116 00:04:52,400 --> 00:04:54,880 Speaker 1: ate totally get it. I confronted him as soon as 117 00:04:54,880 --> 00:04:57,880 Speaker 1: we got home, and that's when he finally told me everything. 118 00:04:57,920 --> 00:05:00,560 Speaker 3: He does not care about her feelings at all. The 119 00:05:00,560 --> 00:05:02,440 Speaker 3: fact that he did this in front of her and 120 00:05:02,480 --> 00:05:05,599 Speaker 3: then proceeds to tell her every like all the reasons 121 00:05:05,720 --> 00:05:06,479 Speaker 3: in detail. 122 00:05:08,000 --> 00:05:10,120 Speaker 1: This man ate worth crap. But I think we were 123 00:05:10,120 --> 00:05:12,279 Speaker 1: at the top of the roller coaster of horror and 124 00:05:12,320 --> 00:05:14,599 Speaker 1: it's about to just nose dives straight down. Oh no, 125 00:05:14,800 --> 00:05:17,120 Speaker 1: to say I'm devastated, well, that would be an understatement. 126 00:05:17,120 --> 00:05:20,240 Speaker 1: My husband and I had always agreed on being child free. 127 00:05:20,279 --> 00:05:22,640 Speaker 1: We had that discussion early on in our relationship, and 128 00:05:22,680 --> 00:05:24,839 Speaker 1: I thought we were on the same page. I don't 129 00:05:24,880 --> 00:05:27,839 Speaker 1: have a desire to be a mom myself, partly because 130 00:05:27,960 --> 00:05:30,599 Speaker 1: I have p p c o s is. 131 00:05:32,560 --> 00:05:34,520 Speaker 2: Parental child No. 132 00:05:34,240 --> 00:05:37,880 Speaker 3: No, it's like and no, it's like it's the. 133 00:05:37,640 --> 00:05:44,960 Speaker 1: Reproductive yeah thing, yes, polypsychic ovary syndrome, Yes, polypsychic ovary syndrome, polycystic, 134 00:05:45,040 --> 00:05:49,760 Speaker 1: it's always psychic. Who's who's looking at the I know, 135 00:05:50,040 --> 00:05:52,000 Speaker 1: but I was looking at reading it? 136 00:05:51,400 --> 00:05:52,480 Speaker 2: Right, who's not? 137 00:05:52,600 --> 00:05:55,920 Speaker 3: I believe you? I just am I was wrong. I 138 00:05:55,920 --> 00:05:58,040 Speaker 3: thought we had talked about maybe I'm thinking of another one. 139 00:05:58,120 --> 00:06:00,920 Speaker 1: There's ovariance cysts, yeah, for sure. 140 00:06:00,680 --> 00:06:02,960 Speaker 3: But yeah, maybe that's for them as well. 141 00:06:03,000 --> 00:06:04,400 Speaker 2: I thought we talking about polypsychic. 142 00:06:04,480 --> 00:06:05,960 Speaker 3: Dude, that says polycystic. 143 00:06:06,120 --> 00:06:06,960 Speaker 2: That's polypsychic. 144 00:06:07,080 --> 00:06:08,039 Speaker 3: It says polycystic. 145 00:06:08,160 --> 00:06:09,720 Speaker 2: Who's reading it? And who's not me? 146 00:06:10,279 --> 00:06:12,159 Speaker 3: It says polycystic. 147 00:06:12,080 --> 00:06:13,840 Speaker 2: Because I have polycystic. 148 00:06:13,880 --> 00:06:16,000 Speaker 1: Over his syndrome, and I know that it would be 149 00:06:16,040 --> 00:06:18,640 Speaker 1: difficult for me to conceive. But now it feels like 150 00:06:18,720 --> 00:06:21,240 Speaker 1: my husband's been using my sister to live out some 151 00:06:21,360 --> 00:06:23,679 Speaker 1: fantasy life that I could never give him. 152 00:06:23,800 --> 00:06:24,280 Speaker 2: Wow. 153 00:06:24,480 --> 00:06:26,919 Speaker 1: Rosalie had no idea about any of this. When I 154 00:06:27,000 --> 00:06:29,000 Speaker 1: told her. She was horrified. Yeah, I thought she was 155 00:06:29,000 --> 00:06:31,159 Speaker 1: still there in the office as he was like, he was, like, 156 00:06:31,480 --> 00:06:33,800 Speaker 1: she just pretty around. It seems like she could be 157 00:06:33,839 --> 00:06:36,400 Speaker 1: completely innocent here. She kept apologizing, even though none of 158 00:06:36,400 --> 00:06:38,640 Speaker 1: this is her fault. She feels awful and is even 159 00:06:38,720 --> 00:06:40,919 Speaker 1: offered to move out, But I can't ask her to 160 00:06:40,920 --> 00:06:43,320 Speaker 1: do that. She's already going through so much and I 161 00:06:43,360 --> 00:06:45,679 Speaker 1: want to be there for her, but it's so awkward. 162 00:06:45,760 --> 00:06:46,520 Speaker 2: Now I can. 163 00:06:46,400 --> 00:06:48,760 Speaker 1: See how guilty, uncomfortable she feels about being in the 164 00:06:48,800 --> 00:06:51,800 Speaker 1: middle of this mess. The situation also ripped open old 165 00:06:51,839 --> 00:06:53,760 Speaker 1: wounds I thought that I had healed. I spent most 166 00:06:53,760 --> 00:06:56,000 Speaker 1: of my twenties in therapy, working on my self esteem 167 00:06:56,240 --> 00:06:59,720 Speaker 1: and trying to overcome these insecurities, especially the ones tied 168 00:06:59,760 --> 00:07:02,440 Speaker 1: to growing up in Rosalie's shadow. Yeah, like the husband 169 00:07:02,440 --> 00:07:02,960 Speaker 1: should know this. 170 00:07:03,279 --> 00:07:06,240 Speaker 3: Yeah, he doesn't care. He literally has proven time and 171 00:07:06,240 --> 00:07:08,599 Speaker 3: time and again that he does not care about Ope's feeling. 172 00:07:08,720 --> 00:07:13,240 Speaker 1: Is his either subconscious or just his evil secret thing 173 00:07:13,480 --> 00:07:15,240 Speaker 1: to just blow up this relationship? 174 00:07:15,280 --> 00:07:15,640 Speaker 2: I think so. 175 00:07:16,120 --> 00:07:18,160 Speaker 3: I don't think he cares about the relationship. I think 176 00:07:18,160 --> 00:07:20,640 Speaker 3: he's only looking at his own image. 177 00:07:20,880 --> 00:07:22,120 Speaker 2: Yes, oh my god. 178 00:07:22,240 --> 00:07:23,920 Speaker 1: I thought I'd finally come to a place where I 179 00:07:23,960 --> 00:07:26,000 Speaker 1: could love myself for who I am. But now it 180 00:07:26,040 --> 00:07:28,640 Speaker 1: feels like all that progress has been undone. Years of 181 00:07:28,720 --> 00:07:31,680 Speaker 1: therapy feel wasted, and I'm back to square one, questioning 182 00:07:31,720 --> 00:07:34,480 Speaker 1: my worth in my place in my husband's life. Hot Take, 183 00:07:34,680 --> 00:07:36,800 Speaker 1: maybe you deserve a man who doesn't do this, and 184 00:07:36,840 --> 00:07:37,880 Speaker 1: that that man is trash? 185 00:07:38,080 --> 00:07:41,080 Speaker 3: Hot take, you do deserve that man whoa hotter take. 186 00:07:41,280 --> 00:07:44,440 Speaker 1: Hotter take, it's getting hot in here, So don't be 187 00:07:44,520 --> 00:07:45,160 Speaker 1: your husband. 188 00:07:45,520 --> 00:07:47,200 Speaker 2: Don't him? Don him? 189 00:07:49,560 --> 00:07:51,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, my husband and I aren't even sleeping in the 190 00:07:51,800 --> 00:07:54,040 Speaker 1: same bed, and we've barely spoken to each other. The 191 00:07:54,040 --> 00:07:56,480 Speaker 1: trust we once had feels shattered, and I have no 192 00:07:56,600 --> 00:07:59,880 Speaker 1: idea how to even start repairing it. I feel so betrayed. 193 00:08:00,120 --> 00:08:02,240 Speaker 1: If you can lie about something like this, what else 194 00:08:02,320 --> 00:08:04,280 Speaker 1: is you hiding? Do they think I wasn't good enough 195 00:08:04,280 --> 00:08:06,480 Speaker 1: to be introduced to his colleagues? And why has he 196 00:08:06,560 --> 00:08:08,920 Speaker 1: never talked about his work friends before. I'm starting to 197 00:08:08,920 --> 00:08:11,680 Speaker 1: wonder if he's been hiding me because he's embarrassed by 198 00:08:11,800 --> 00:08:15,520 Speaker 1: who I am. The whole thing has dragged up every 199 00:08:15,600 --> 00:08:18,760 Speaker 1: insecurity I've ever had. I've always felt like I didn't 200 00:08:18,760 --> 00:08:21,640 Speaker 1: measure up to Rosalie, even though she hasn't done anything 201 00:08:21,640 --> 00:08:23,480 Speaker 1: to make me feel that way. But now it just 202 00:08:23,520 --> 00:08:26,360 Speaker 1: feels like my husband has confirmed my worst fears that 203 00:08:26,440 --> 00:08:30,440 Speaker 1: he chose to pretend Rosalie was my wife because she fits. 204 00:08:30,120 --> 00:08:33,160 Speaker 2: Some sort of ideal image that I do not got it. 205 00:08:33,200 --> 00:08:33,920 Speaker 2: If you're going to do. 206 00:08:33,840 --> 00:08:36,199 Speaker 1: This, at least do this with like someone coming by 207 00:08:36,280 --> 00:08:39,000 Speaker 1: delivering a package, you know, Yeah, not her sister, who 208 00:08:39,040 --> 00:08:40,800 Speaker 1: she's lived in her shadow and like this. 209 00:08:41,120 --> 00:08:44,200 Speaker 3: Has insecurities about and he's like, oh, we gotta. 210 00:08:44,000 --> 00:08:44,840 Speaker 2: Choose her brother. 211 00:08:45,040 --> 00:08:47,240 Speaker 1: I honestly don't know how to move forward from this. 212 00:08:47,559 --> 00:08:49,720 Speaker 1: I love my husband, and I want to believe this 213 00:08:49,880 --> 00:08:52,040 Speaker 1: was just a huge mistake, but it feels like so 214 00:08:52,200 --> 00:08:54,360 Speaker 1: much more than that. I'm also worried about how this 215 00:08:54,400 --> 00:08:57,400 Speaker 1: is affecting Rosalie. She's been nothing but supportive, but I 216 00:08:57,400 --> 00:09:00,320 Speaker 1: can see how uncomfortable and guilty she feels being in 217 00:09:00,320 --> 00:09:00,880 Speaker 1: the middle of this. 218 00:09:01,040 --> 00:09:03,680 Speaker 3: No, incredibly, I would feel so I'd be like, I'm 219 00:09:03,720 --> 00:09:06,800 Speaker 3: sorry for like, you know, kind of ruining your marriage 220 00:09:06,800 --> 00:09:07,319 Speaker 3: even though I. 221 00:09:07,280 --> 00:09:11,320 Speaker 1: Did nothing exactly right, like like it's because you're there, 222 00:09:11,400 --> 00:09:12,360 Speaker 1: but it's completely not. 223 00:09:12,640 --> 00:09:13,319 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's not. 224 00:09:13,280 --> 00:09:15,600 Speaker 1: Your fault, but it is your fault if you don't 225 00:09:15,600 --> 00:09:18,600 Speaker 1: tap her profile to join our live every weekday at 226 00:09:18,600 --> 00:09:19,560 Speaker 1: three pm PST. 227 00:09:20,040 --> 00:09:21,880 Speaker 2: Just tap it, just tap it. 228 00:09:22,040 --> 00:09:24,760 Speaker 1: But before we finish the story, and might be a 229 00:09:24,800 --> 00:09:28,040 Speaker 1: saucy conclusion here if I do say so myself. 230 00:09:27,679 --> 00:09:30,200 Speaker 2: As of right now, what do you think we do? 231 00:09:30,360 --> 00:09:33,240 Speaker 1: I mean, this is drudged up, like it seems like 232 00:09:33,240 --> 00:09:36,240 Speaker 1: like very but on the surface it can seem like 233 00:09:36,360 --> 00:09:38,800 Speaker 1: maybe less serious, but when you really think about it 234 00:09:38,800 --> 00:09:42,360 Speaker 1: and like sinister, I mean very sinister undoing like op 235 00:09:42,760 --> 00:09:44,720 Speaker 1: right now is like if I feel like all of 236 00:09:44,720 --> 00:09:47,760 Speaker 1: my therapy has been wiped away, Yeah, for years of work. 237 00:09:47,840 --> 00:09:50,080 Speaker 3: I think divorce. I don't think this is like a 238 00:09:50,120 --> 00:09:53,160 Speaker 3: thing where someone's made a mistake. This is something he 239 00:09:53,679 --> 00:09:57,160 Speaker 3: readily admitted to her that he, you know, saw her 240 00:09:57,200 --> 00:10:00,720 Speaker 3: sister as more acceptable to talk about in front, like 241 00:10:00,760 --> 00:10:03,400 Speaker 3: he's ashamed of her. Yes, And if you don't want 242 00:10:03,480 --> 00:10:06,320 Speaker 3: your partner to ever be ashamed of you. So yeah, 243 00:10:06,320 --> 00:10:08,840 Speaker 3: I definitely think divorce is on the horizon. 244 00:10:09,040 --> 00:10:10,960 Speaker 2: Why why do they stay? Why do they stay? 245 00:10:11,000 --> 00:10:14,839 Speaker 3: Sophia and oh no, it's like ease because the unknown is. 246 00:10:14,800 --> 00:10:15,600 Speaker 2: Scary, I guess. 247 00:10:15,679 --> 00:10:18,560 Speaker 1: Yeah, just like not shaking things up or whatever. 248 00:10:18,800 --> 00:10:21,440 Speaker 3: Yeah, they want to keep it unshaken. 249 00:10:21,080 --> 00:10:25,360 Speaker 1: Dude, unshaken, not start unshaken, and not shaken in no 250 00:10:25,640 --> 00:10:28,160 Speaker 1: moment at all, just straight glass. 251 00:10:28,280 --> 00:10:32,320 Speaker 2: Absolutely no, Well, let's finish this god forsaken story. Finish 252 00:10:32,400 --> 00:10:33,320 Speaker 2: us pretty sure. 253 00:10:34,000 --> 00:10:36,280 Speaker 1: I'm really struggling here. How do I even begin to 254 00:10:36,280 --> 00:10:38,319 Speaker 1: address this with my husband without it turning into a 255 00:10:38,400 --> 00:10:41,080 Speaker 1: huge fight. I feel so low. I can't stand the 256 00:10:41,120 --> 00:10:43,640 Speaker 1: idea of our relationship ending. I love this man more 257 00:10:43,679 --> 00:10:46,160 Speaker 1: than anything. He keeps saying sorry and trying to play 258 00:10:46,160 --> 00:10:48,360 Speaker 1: in date nights. I'm honestly not in the mood for 259 00:10:48,440 --> 00:10:50,840 Speaker 1: any of it. I've cried two times, and I've binge 260 00:10:50,880 --> 00:10:53,280 Speaker 1: eight more than I have ever before. How do I 261 00:10:53,360 --> 00:10:57,000 Speaker 1: live my life not knowing I'm possibly not enough for 262 00:10:57,200 --> 00:10:57,800 Speaker 1: my husband? 263 00:10:58,080 --> 00:11:01,200 Speaker 3: The thing is that you will be enough for someone else, Yes, 264 00:11:01,600 --> 00:11:05,240 Speaker 3: And it's mostly just learning that you're enough for you one. 265 00:11:05,320 --> 00:11:07,360 Speaker 3: You don't have to be good enough for other people. Yeah, 266 00:11:08,160 --> 00:11:10,559 Speaker 3: it's got to come that love. That self love is 267 00:11:10,600 --> 00:11:13,760 Speaker 3: the first step, indeed. And this guy's trash. 268 00:11:13,880 --> 00:11:17,160 Speaker 1: He's the worst, big, stinky, smellyman, trash. 269 00:11:16,920 --> 00:11:20,960 Speaker 3: Yucky, yucky, yuck. And you need to take take him out. 270 00:11:20,800 --> 00:11:22,679 Speaker 1: Get him out of here, Put him on the curb, 271 00:11:22,840 --> 00:11:27,280 Speaker 1: put him on the garbage man, handle him, yeah, toss 272 00:11:27,320 --> 00:11:28,120 Speaker 1: him over the big. 273 00:11:28,000 --> 00:11:30,080 Speaker 3: Baby, bring them to the office. 274 00:11:30,240 --> 00:11:32,840 Speaker 1: Yeah, and take your dump truck elsewhere. Dump it on 275 00:11:32,840 --> 00:11:33,800 Speaker 1: someone who deserves it. 276 00:11:34,000 --> 00:11:34,760 Speaker 2: You up, sister. 277 00:11:35,000 --> 00:11:36,440 Speaker 3: But that is the end of that story. 278 00:11:36,520 --> 00:11:39,480 Speaker 1: It is I want closing question for you, so op 279 00:11:39,800 --> 00:11:42,280 Speaker 1: right now in her current and this seems like very 280 00:11:42,320 --> 00:11:44,680 Speaker 1: recent after all this has happened, right, so like kind 281 00:11:44,679 --> 00:11:48,520 Speaker 1: of fresh off of the you know, finding finding out 282 00:11:48,559 --> 00:11:51,240 Speaker 1: everything here, She's like, I can't stand the idea of 283 00:11:51,320 --> 00:11:51,920 Speaker 1: leaving him. 284 00:11:52,080 --> 00:11:53,559 Speaker 2: Is it maybe a move to. 285 00:11:53,760 --> 00:11:56,240 Speaker 1: Like where She's like, hey, I need space right now, 286 00:11:56,280 --> 00:11:58,360 Speaker 1: and just like give me as much space as possible 287 00:11:58,440 --> 00:12:01,400 Speaker 1: and give herself some time to kind of like because 288 00:12:01,400 --> 00:12:03,360 Speaker 1: I'm almost like if she if she goes like try 289 00:12:03,440 --> 00:12:05,800 Speaker 1: and resolve it right now, that urge inside of her, 290 00:12:05,840 --> 00:12:08,200 Speaker 1: that's like, but I love him more than anything. I 291 00:12:08,240 --> 00:12:09,920 Speaker 1: want to say, Like I feel like she might like 292 00:12:10,160 --> 00:12:13,840 Speaker 1: impulsively try to like get gear do this all gear 293 00:12:13,880 --> 00:12:16,240 Speaker 1: up to stay in the relationship, versus like giving herself 294 00:12:16,280 --> 00:12:18,880 Speaker 1: some time, not even leaving, but just like having space 295 00:12:19,080 --> 00:12:19,760 Speaker 1: away from him. 296 00:12:19,840 --> 00:12:23,080 Speaker 3: I think, I mean, just divorce proceedings in general are 297 00:12:23,200 --> 00:12:25,720 Speaker 3: very taxing, and she might not be an emotional state 298 00:12:25,760 --> 00:12:27,480 Speaker 3: to do so. So I think just saying let's we're 299 00:12:27,520 --> 00:12:30,640 Speaker 3: going to separate while I kind of sort through my feelings. 300 00:12:30,760 --> 00:12:33,520 Speaker 1: I'm wondering if she's even ready for that now. People 301 00:12:33,520 --> 00:12:35,520 Speaker 1: do say all the time it's like I love them, 302 00:12:35,520 --> 00:12:36,200 Speaker 1: but I can't it. 303 00:12:36,200 --> 00:12:36,920 Speaker 3: Can't be around them. 304 00:12:36,960 --> 00:12:37,920 Speaker 2: I think that's what she should do. 305 00:12:38,000 --> 00:12:42,120 Speaker 3: I agree I can, but I need. 306 00:12:41,800 --> 00:12:45,120 Speaker 2: To get out of here. John, can you sit up? 307 00:12:45,360 --> 00:12:45,719 Speaker 2: Or yes? 308 00:12:46,160 --> 00:12:47,400 Speaker 4: Thank you? Well? 309 00:12:47,520 --> 00:12:49,680 Speaker 1: I think I think I don't know what to do 310 00:12:49,720 --> 00:12:51,760 Speaker 1: with you. This frame has been good, okay, but I 311 00:12:51,760 --> 00:12:52,480 Speaker 1: feel like it happened. 312 00:12:52,520 --> 00:12:54,080 Speaker 2: It was like it was like here, you were here 313 00:12:54,360 --> 00:12:57,360 Speaker 2: like this, and then it went like that, how far 314 00:12:57,400 --> 00:12:59,560 Speaker 2: down was it? You're pretty slounge? Okay. I was about 315 00:12:59,559 --> 00:13:01,080 Speaker 2: to just so I was like, oh, maybe he wants 316 00:13:01,120 --> 00:13:02,920 Speaker 2: to sit up. 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Also, 328 00:13:28,520 --> 00:13:30,600 Speaker 1: thanks for the twenty five dollar tip on the donation. Like, 329 00:13:30,679 --> 00:13:33,760 Speaker 1: let's let's freaking go. Hello, she's in the chat. 330 00:13:33,960 --> 00:13:35,920 Speaker 2: But if you love us, make sure to subscribe. 331 00:13:35,960 --> 00:13:40,319 Speaker 1: We love you and cinemorrow except for you, silly little. 332 00:13:40,120 --> 00:13:42,640 Speaker 3: Members, silly little members. 333 00:13:42,679 --> 00:13:43,040 Speaker 2: Hello. 334 00:13:44,440 --> 00:13:48,920 Speaker 1: So my brother's girlfriend screamed, this is a vegan discrimination. 335 00:13:48,760 --> 00:13:51,360 Speaker 2: And then it got worse. Ah. 336 00:13:51,480 --> 00:13:56,120 Speaker 5: Yes, vegans one of the most marginalized communities out there. 337 00:13:56,520 --> 00:14:00,360 Speaker 1: She's trying to serve serve a dish of hate best 338 00:14:00,360 --> 00:14:02,640 Speaker 1: served cold and leafy. 339 00:14:05,120 --> 00:14:08,120 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, you know you don't want your hate served bloody. No, 340 00:14:08,480 --> 00:14:09,800 Speaker 2: you don't. You don't get that out of here. 341 00:14:09,920 --> 00:14:13,400 Speaker 1: How give me give me some dirt, baby, Yeah, some 342 00:14:13,480 --> 00:14:14,880 Speaker 1: of them sweet vitamin ease. 343 00:14:15,720 --> 00:14:16,120 Speaker 2: Okay. 344 00:14:16,320 --> 00:14:19,840 Speaker 1: So I, twenty four female, recently got engaged and had 345 00:14:19,840 --> 00:14:22,000 Speaker 1: an engagement party dinner this past weekend. 346 00:14:22,080 --> 00:14:23,239 Speaker 2: Congrats, congrats. 347 00:14:23,800 --> 00:14:27,440 Speaker 1: I am currently still receiving backlash from this and I 348 00:14:27,520 --> 00:14:30,080 Speaker 1: want to get some opinions and see. 349 00:14:29,800 --> 00:14:32,680 Speaker 2: If I was in the wrong. We are opinionated, folks. 350 00:14:32,760 --> 00:14:34,440 Speaker 2: We can do it. That we are. We'll take on 351 00:14:34,520 --> 00:14:35,760 Speaker 2: that challenge. Oh yeah. 352 00:14:35,760 --> 00:14:39,320 Speaker 1: My fiance and I invited both of our immediate family 353 00:14:39,360 --> 00:14:42,400 Speaker 1: and close friends to this dinner about thirty people. The 354 00:14:42,440 --> 00:14:46,000 Speaker 1: dinner was held at a nice Italian restaurant in my city. 355 00:14:46,320 --> 00:14:49,400 Speaker 1: Our invites gave the guests the option to choose between 356 00:14:49,480 --> 00:14:52,840 Speaker 1: a meat option or a fish option for their main courses. 357 00:14:53,320 --> 00:14:55,960 Speaker 1: It's important to know the only people in this whole 358 00:14:56,000 --> 00:14:59,360 Speaker 1: group with food destrictions are my dad and my stepmo 359 00:15:00,120 --> 00:15:03,360 Speaker 1: their pescatarian okay, but a lot of people and our 360 00:15:03,400 --> 00:15:06,120 Speaker 1: family love seafood, so the fish option was chosen more 361 00:15:06,120 --> 00:15:09,200 Speaker 1: than the meat option. My younger brother twenty mail, contacted 362 00:15:09,240 --> 00:15:11,880 Speaker 1: me about a week ago to RSBP for the dinner, 363 00:15:12,240 --> 00:15:14,040 Speaker 1: and he asked if he could bring a plus one 364 00:15:14,480 --> 00:15:15,320 Speaker 1: his new girlfriend. 365 00:15:15,960 --> 00:15:18,520 Speaker 2: He chose the meat option. Is that? 366 00:15:18,720 --> 00:15:21,080 Speaker 5: Is that what he calls his new girlfriend. Yeah, got 367 00:15:21,120 --> 00:15:23,400 Speaker 5: his girlfriend the meat option. 368 00:15:23,560 --> 00:15:26,160 Speaker 1: Well, what kind of vegan are you? Because clearly you 369 00:15:26,320 --> 00:15:33,560 Speaker 1: chose the meat option. I love how we just went 370 00:15:33,640 --> 00:15:35,440 Speaker 1: both directions and just collided. 371 00:15:36,400 --> 00:15:37,080 Speaker 2: That's so funny. 372 00:15:37,480 --> 00:15:42,480 Speaker 5: Okay, like all right, but really quick, really quick? How 373 00:15:42,560 --> 00:15:45,200 Speaker 5: long do you date someone until you can invite them 374 00:15:45,240 --> 00:15:47,040 Speaker 5: to your brother's like wedding? 375 00:15:47,160 --> 00:15:50,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, like I feel like a new like boyfriend girlfriend. 376 00:15:52,040 --> 00:15:55,720 Speaker 2: I don't know if that's maybe. I mean, I guess you, 377 00:15:55,840 --> 00:15:56,440 Speaker 2: I guess you do. 378 00:15:56,560 --> 00:15:58,720 Speaker 1: Like sometimes people are like, hey, be my date to 379 00:15:58,760 --> 00:16:01,680 Speaker 1: this wedding, So I'm like, not there, but it's is TV. 380 00:16:01,840 --> 00:16:04,880 Speaker 5: I don't know. It's kind of strange. I haven't been 381 00:16:04,920 --> 00:16:07,880 Speaker 5: to like a ton of weddings neither, so I don't know. 382 00:16:08,760 --> 00:16:10,680 Speaker 2: Everyone everyone let us go. 383 00:16:11,320 --> 00:16:14,000 Speaker 5: Like does it matter? Does it matter how many? Like 384 00:16:14,080 --> 00:16:17,520 Speaker 5: like like how many months do you have to be 385 00:16:17,640 --> 00:16:20,880 Speaker 5: dating for? Or can it be a can you bring 386 00:16:20,880 --> 00:16:21,880 Speaker 5: a tender date to a wedding? 387 00:16:23,520 --> 00:16:26,800 Speaker 2: That would be hilarious? That seems like not I feel like, 388 00:16:26,920 --> 00:16:27,200 Speaker 2: you know what. 389 00:16:27,200 --> 00:16:29,560 Speaker 1: I feel like wedding is almost more acceptable just because 390 00:16:29,560 --> 00:16:31,280 Speaker 1: it's like diffuse because so many people. But this is 391 00:16:31,320 --> 00:16:35,280 Speaker 1: like an intimate dinner engaged for the wedding with I 392 00:16:35,320 --> 00:16:35,680 Speaker 1: don't know. 393 00:16:35,800 --> 00:16:36,720 Speaker 2: Man. All right, Let's see. 394 00:16:38,080 --> 00:16:41,040 Speaker 1: Now, my brother dates around a lot, and he always 395 00:16:41,080 --> 00:16:44,360 Speaker 1: brings his new girls around, so I wasn't even aware 396 00:16:44,480 --> 00:16:49,560 Speaker 1: he was in a relationship. I mean, he gets around. 397 00:16:51,880 --> 00:16:52,400 Speaker 2: I told you. 398 00:16:52,440 --> 00:16:56,560 Speaker 5: Also, love how like n Op's uh writing, there's like 399 00:16:56,560 --> 00:17:00,360 Speaker 5: a little animosity where it's like this dude's bringing a girl. 400 00:17:00,480 --> 00:17:04,280 Speaker 2: I live, right, and I can't even keep track of all. 401 00:17:06,000 --> 00:17:10,119 Speaker 1: You need an Excel spreadsheet for all these uji mamas. 402 00:17:12,119 --> 00:17:14,199 Speaker 1: I told him, yes, I would make sure that there 403 00:17:14,240 --> 00:17:15,280 Speaker 1: was an extra seat for her. 404 00:17:17,320 --> 00:17:19,239 Speaker 2: That's super nice. Would you do that? Would you? 405 00:17:19,240 --> 00:17:22,480 Speaker 1: Would you if your sibling was like, hey, I got 406 00:17:22,480 --> 00:17:24,760 Speaker 1: someone brand new, I got a Tinder date. 407 00:17:25,680 --> 00:17:28,920 Speaker 2: I mean when I bring them to your engagement dinner. 408 00:17:28,840 --> 00:17:31,480 Speaker 5: I think I would be worried about them being like 409 00:17:32,000 --> 00:17:35,440 Speaker 5: Nutso you know, like like like I don't I don't 410 00:17:35,480 --> 00:17:39,800 Speaker 5: mind the idea of you bringing someone. That's fine, like 411 00:17:40,320 --> 00:17:43,040 Speaker 5: maybe don't have them in the family photos or whatever. Yeah, 412 00:17:43,040 --> 00:17:46,479 Speaker 5: but like I don't like the idea of like a 413 00:17:46,560 --> 00:17:48,520 Speaker 5: wild card being at the wedding, you know. 414 00:17:48,760 --> 00:17:50,639 Speaker 2: Yeah, I just I just want to be like hanging 415 00:17:50,640 --> 00:17:51,639 Speaker 2: out with the people. I know. 416 00:17:51,760 --> 00:17:53,960 Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, I know, like because this is it's 417 00:17:53,960 --> 00:17:56,159 Speaker 1: such a This isn't like a oh let's like go 418 00:17:56,240 --> 00:17:57,919 Speaker 1: out and hang out and meet people. No, this is 419 00:17:58,000 --> 00:18:01,199 Speaker 1: like these are my these my inner circle, and I 420 00:18:01,240 --> 00:18:03,080 Speaker 1: want to celebrate this thing with them. 421 00:18:03,240 --> 00:18:05,840 Speaker 2: Yeah I don't want. I don't want Jane Schmain and. 422 00:18:05,920 --> 00:18:10,640 Speaker 5: Joe Schmoe just yeah, yeah, yeah. I Actually I don't 423 00:18:10,720 --> 00:18:14,760 Speaker 5: think if it's an intimate dinner, I don't think I 424 00:18:14,800 --> 00:18:19,040 Speaker 5: would allow like new plus ones, like if you're married 425 00:18:19,160 --> 00:18:21,680 Speaker 5: or have you've been in a relationship for you know them, Yeah, 426 00:18:21,720 --> 00:18:23,879 Speaker 5: of course, like I want to be I want to 427 00:18:23,880 --> 00:18:24,560 Speaker 5: have met them. 428 00:18:25,080 --> 00:18:26,360 Speaker 2: Yeah, that's a big one. 429 00:18:26,520 --> 00:18:28,199 Speaker 5: I think that's the that's the trick, like if if 430 00:18:28,520 --> 00:18:32,280 Speaker 5: you have if you've like interacted with that person, then maybe. 431 00:18:32,080 --> 00:18:36,200 Speaker 1: Yeah, or maybe the the the next nearest buffers, Like 432 00:18:36,240 --> 00:18:39,280 Speaker 1: you've known that person for so long that you're like okay, 433 00:18:39,320 --> 00:18:43,640 Speaker 1: like that anyone they marry, it's like probably probably. 434 00:18:43,080 --> 00:18:44,680 Speaker 2: Going to be cool. 435 00:18:44,720 --> 00:18:47,119 Speaker 5: Yeah yeah, yeah, but if you know them for so 436 00:18:47,240 --> 00:18:51,040 Speaker 5: long and then you would probably know they're like other. 437 00:18:51,359 --> 00:18:55,320 Speaker 1: Yeah exactly, yes, yeah, Like no, I refuse to meet 438 00:18:55,320 --> 00:18:57,640 Speaker 1: your wife until I win a dinner. 439 00:18:58,520 --> 00:19:01,960 Speaker 2: I would say, I would say, uh, op's being. 440 00:19:02,119 --> 00:19:06,000 Speaker 5: Very accommodating by letting random stranger one hundred percent of 441 00:19:06,000 --> 00:19:09,879 Speaker 5: this thing. I hopefully everything goes smoothly. Well, it's on Reddit. 442 00:19:09,920 --> 00:19:10,959 Speaker 5: It's not gonna go smoothly. 443 00:19:11,119 --> 00:19:13,720 Speaker 1: The night of the dinner comes, Oh god, everyone is 444 00:19:13,760 --> 00:19:16,600 Speaker 1: having a great time. I meet my brother's new girlfriend. 445 00:19:16,640 --> 00:19:20,359 Speaker 1: She seemed very sweet. When it came time to eat, 446 00:19:20,600 --> 00:19:25,359 Speaker 1: she pulled one of the waiters aside and loudly asked him, is. 447 00:19:25,280 --> 00:19:27,680 Speaker 3: There any vegan options? 448 00:19:28,119 --> 00:19:29,680 Speaker 2: Excuse me? Is it vegan? 449 00:19:31,680 --> 00:19:35,159 Speaker 1: The waiter looked confused and said, uh, we have a 450 00:19:35,160 --> 00:19:37,920 Speaker 1: fish and meat option for the main courses. I can 451 00:19:37,960 --> 00:19:40,320 Speaker 1: offer you a salad and some roasted potatoes and some 452 00:19:40,400 --> 00:19:45,600 Speaker 1: other veggies as a substitute, if you would like. Brother's 453 00:19:45,640 --> 00:19:48,159 Speaker 1: girlfriend started getting mouthy with him and said. 454 00:19:48,600 --> 00:19:51,239 Speaker 2: Well, what if I don't want to sell it? 455 00:19:51,320 --> 00:19:57,760 Speaker 1: Har you just assume because I'm vegan, I only eat salads. 456 00:19:58,040 --> 00:20:01,600 Speaker 2: What else do vegans eat? Egg plants? I don't know. 457 00:20:02,720 --> 00:20:04,280 Speaker 2: That wasn't even trying to make that a joke. 458 00:20:04,359 --> 00:20:06,760 Speaker 1: I feel like they legitimately like cook egg plants, you know, 459 00:20:07,240 --> 00:20:09,920 Speaker 1: butter scotch, butter scotch, butter squash. 460 00:20:10,280 --> 00:20:16,440 Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, probably not butter scotch. Probably not. Damn, bro, 461 00:20:16,680 --> 00:20:18,960 Speaker 2: she's really making a scene. She's not done. 462 00:20:18,960 --> 00:20:21,280 Speaker 5: She's not Also, it's like not even that, like they 463 00:20:21,320 --> 00:20:23,040 Speaker 5: can feed her another option, but. 464 00:20:23,000 --> 00:20:27,359 Speaker 4: She's like, dish, isn't inventive enough of a vegan dish 465 00:20:27,440 --> 00:20:27,720 Speaker 4: for me? 466 00:20:28,000 --> 00:20:28,200 Speaker 2: Yeah? 467 00:20:28,320 --> 00:20:31,240 Speaker 1: Literally, Like I feel like the waiter definitely was doing 468 00:20:31,240 --> 00:20:33,960 Speaker 1: the best. He's like, I will find all the substitutes 469 00:20:33,960 --> 00:20:34,240 Speaker 1: we can. 470 00:20:34,280 --> 00:20:37,439 Speaker 5: It sounded like for to give you a Yeah, I 471 00:20:37,520 --> 00:20:41,280 Speaker 5: want I want like an actual vegan meal, pio. 472 00:20:43,760 --> 00:20:47,200 Speaker 2: What if I won some pasta? What kind of fresh taurant? 473 00:20:47,400 --> 00:20:49,119 Speaker 2: Is this this? 474 00:20:49,400 --> 00:20:50,480 Speaker 3: Discrimination? 475 00:20:52,160 --> 00:20:56,240 Speaker 2: Yo? Discrimination? What do you do? You're discriminating? What do 476 00:20:56,240 --> 00:21:00,639 Speaker 2: you do? Okay? You double down as opie? Fuck? I 477 00:21:00,680 --> 00:21:04,560 Speaker 2: mean is she yelling? She's yelling? Yeah? Literally, the the 478 00:21:04,600 --> 00:21:06,000 Speaker 2: girlfriend is streaming in. 479 00:21:06,040 --> 00:21:09,760 Speaker 1: This guy's fair say saying loudly to exact quote it 480 00:21:10,440 --> 00:21:11,120 Speaker 1: like making a scene. 481 00:21:11,160 --> 00:21:11,520 Speaker 2: For sure. 482 00:21:12,040 --> 00:21:14,160 Speaker 5: I would probably say hey, if like you can't come down, 483 00:21:14,359 --> 00:21:15,520 Speaker 5: uh you're gonna have to leave. 484 00:21:15,800 --> 00:21:17,200 Speaker 2: Yeah I can just say. 485 00:21:17,000 --> 00:21:20,720 Speaker 5: That definitely walk over and be like yeah yeah, yeah, 486 00:21:20,720 --> 00:21:22,639 Speaker 5: I just like go over the like you know if 487 00:21:22,640 --> 00:21:24,840 Speaker 5: you yeah, just like just like say like, hey, this 488 00:21:25,359 --> 00:21:27,679 Speaker 5: is what's gonna happen if the behavior continues and if 489 00:21:27,680 --> 00:21:31,480 Speaker 5: it continues, ask your brother to like, hey, can you 490 00:21:31,480 --> 00:21:32,359 Speaker 5: walk her out? 491 00:21:32,480 --> 00:21:34,399 Speaker 1: I love how Sam just turned into like a cool 492 00:21:34,920 --> 00:21:38,520 Speaker 1: kindergarten dad. Just like, look, look, buddy, if this keeps 493 00:21:38,520 --> 00:21:41,879 Speaker 1: going on, if it keeps happening, you know, I know 494 00:21:41,920 --> 00:21:44,120 Speaker 1: you love your friends and your pinwheel had and your 495 00:21:44,200 --> 00:21:47,600 Speaker 1: and your Thomas the Tank Engine backpack. But look, buddy, 496 00:21:47,640 --> 00:21:49,760 Speaker 1: it's all gonna go away. You just got you just 497 00:21:49,760 --> 00:21:53,199 Speaker 1: gotta be all You're gonna lose it all, but just 498 00:21:53,240 --> 00:21:55,840 Speaker 1: be a good bye okay, or a good vegan. 499 00:21:55,960 --> 00:21:57,760 Speaker 5: I mean I feel like that's what you mean. She's 500 00:21:57,800 --> 00:22:00,000 Speaker 5: acting like a can she exactly. 501 00:22:00,440 --> 00:22:04,879 Speaker 1: So my brother started trying to calm her down, but 502 00:22:05,000 --> 00:22:09,600 Speaker 1: then she started going off on me. What she said, 503 00:22:10,480 --> 00:22:13,439 Speaker 1: why would you pick a restaurant that doesn't have a 504 00:22:13,600 --> 00:22:14,720 Speaker 1: vegan options. 505 00:22:15,240 --> 00:22:20,080 Speaker 2: Many people are vegan nowadays. It makes them feel alienated that. 506 00:22:20,160 --> 00:22:26,160 Speaker 5: You couldn't even think to a comment, Oh my god, 507 00:22:26,280 --> 00:22:29,440 Speaker 5: you're really getting in the character, bro, Like. 508 00:22:29,960 --> 00:22:31,960 Speaker 2: This is her wedding dinner. 509 00:22:32,200 --> 00:22:36,359 Speaker 5: That is like, calm down, ridiculous that on the wedding 510 00:22:36,359 --> 00:22:39,840 Speaker 5: dinner she would try to ruin it over her veganism. 511 00:22:40,200 --> 00:22:42,800 Speaker 2: And also I would just like to say, my roommate 512 00:22:42,840 --> 00:22:45,560 Speaker 2: is vegan. She she don't give a shit. 513 00:22:45,800 --> 00:22:49,560 Speaker 1: Every vegan I've ever met chill, Yeah, every single one. 514 00:22:49,600 --> 00:22:49,879 Speaker 2: Fuck. 515 00:22:49,960 --> 00:22:52,159 Speaker 5: But it's just like, you know, you get this, like 516 00:22:52,480 --> 00:22:54,639 Speaker 5: you get these vegans that pop up every once in 517 00:22:54,680 --> 00:22:56,400 Speaker 5: a while. They're fucking insane. 518 00:22:56,840 --> 00:23:00,280 Speaker 1: They're just like the the voldemorts vegan is I know, 519 00:23:00,359 --> 00:23:02,919 Speaker 1: it's like just like trying to spread, like, you know, 520 00:23:03,080 --> 00:23:05,280 Speaker 1: just like conquer vegans. 521 00:23:05,680 --> 00:23:06,159 Speaker 2: Listen to me. 522 00:23:10,680 --> 00:23:20,000 Speaker 4: The boy who leaves comes to eat, the man who 523 00:23:20,040 --> 00:23:22,800 Speaker 4: eats meat comes to eat more. 524 00:23:27,000 --> 00:23:35,000 Speaker 2: Fucking avocado? What what's it like at cada? Is the actual? So? 525 00:23:35,119 --> 00:23:38,000 Speaker 2: But what would be like? Avato? Cadabra? But like, how 526 00:23:38,000 --> 00:23:44,800 Speaker 2: would you have avocado? What? What a like a cadabra? Avocado? Avocado? 527 00:23:46,400 --> 00:23:50,720 Speaker 2: All right? Almost there? Kale? How do you like another one? 528 00:23:51,560 --> 00:23:54,600 Speaker 2: Oh my god? Avocado? Kale? 529 00:23:55,359 --> 00:23:58,200 Speaker 1: Uh? Is there any fruit or vegetable that starts the 530 00:23:58,280 --> 00:24:02,320 Speaker 1: d avocado killed darkly? 531 00:24:05,280 --> 00:24:11,200 Speaker 2: Avocado killed darkly, dark leap, dark. 532 00:24:11,480 --> 00:24:22,679 Speaker 1: Leaf, darkly. That's another That's enough. That's enough wizardry for me. 533 00:24:23,320 --> 00:24:27,600 Speaker 1: Oh my god. I explained to her that the only 534 00:24:27,640 --> 00:24:31,280 Speaker 1: people that have food restrictions here are pescatarians. So that's 535 00:24:31,320 --> 00:24:34,000 Speaker 1: why I considered that when I chose the restaurant, I 536 00:24:34,040 --> 00:24:36,120 Speaker 1: didn't even know she was coming until a week ago. 537 00:24:36,320 --> 00:24:40,600 Speaker 1: The reservation was booked months ago, and be like. 538 00:24:42,359 --> 00:24:43,560 Speaker 2: Again a lot. 539 00:24:43,960 --> 00:24:46,639 Speaker 1: She started saying, it's embarrassing on my part that I 540 00:24:46,640 --> 00:24:51,520 Speaker 1: couldn't accommodate all of my guests and called me small minded, yo, 541 00:24:52,400 --> 00:24:54,440 Speaker 1: coming from the smallest. 542 00:24:53,960 --> 00:24:57,399 Speaker 2: Brain in the room. Are you kidding me? Bro, smaller 543 00:24:57,440 --> 00:24:57,920 Speaker 2: than a chick? 544 00:24:58,000 --> 00:25:02,960 Speaker 5: Pam, excuse me because you don't have vegan options, you 545 00:25:03,040 --> 00:25:08,240 Speaker 5: actually are are hate crime crime hate crime? 546 00:25:08,320 --> 00:25:08,399 Speaker 4: Me? 547 00:25:09,040 --> 00:25:14,639 Speaker 1: Wow, that is that is tragic. I told her, sorry, 548 00:25:14,680 --> 00:25:17,159 Speaker 1: I didn't think to accommodate you. I'll consider that in 549 00:25:17,160 --> 00:25:20,480 Speaker 1: the future. Hopefully you'll be around long enough for me 550 00:25:20,720 --> 00:25:22,160 Speaker 1: to be able to do so. 551 00:25:25,200 --> 00:25:30,879 Speaker 2: Mike, Oh that's right, damn. Honestly, OPI was way too nice, 552 00:25:31,600 --> 00:25:36,080 Speaker 2: super nice, massively accommodating. I don't know. I would have 553 00:25:36,119 --> 00:25:40,359 Speaker 2: probably like gone gone even harder, like why are you 554 00:25:40,480 --> 00:25:44,040 Speaker 2: ruining my my wedding dinner. I would have been like why. 555 00:25:43,960 --> 00:25:53,480 Speaker 5: Like, uh, I'm sorry, I apologize I didn't accommodate you. 556 00:25:53,480 --> 00:25:57,320 Speaker 5: Your next accommodation is going to be outside right now? 557 00:25:58,160 --> 00:26:00,679 Speaker 5: Or like you just like hit the road, or I 558 00:26:00,680 --> 00:26:03,880 Speaker 5: would at that moment, I would have kicked her out. Yeah, 559 00:26:04,040 --> 00:26:07,920 Speaker 5: like bouncers, come get her. 560 00:26:07,720 --> 00:26:14,480 Speaker 1: One order of D's nuts, coming right up, good gravy lady. 561 00:26:13,680 --> 00:26:19,080 Speaker 1: She ended up leaving, and my brother walked out with 562 00:26:19,119 --> 00:26:22,199 Speaker 1: her as well, and has been messaging me saying that 563 00:26:22,240 --> 00:26:25,040 Speaker 1: I should apologize to her because I embarrassed her in 564 00:26:25,080 --> 00:26:25,800 Speaker 1: front of everyone. 565 00:26:26,240 --> 00:26:28,880 Speaker 2: She embarrassed. No't pay in front of everyone? Did her 566 00:26:28,920 --> 00:26:30,800 Speaker 2: own embarrassing? Oh my god? 567 00:26:31,160 --> 00:26:35,240 Speaker 1: I told her. I told him, she embarrassed herself. My 568 00:26:35,280 --> 00:26:37,800 Speaker 1: mom's also been on my case to apologize, to be 569 00:26:37,840 --> 00:26:40,560 Speaker 1: the bigger person and keep the peace. So am I 570 00:26:40,640 --> 00:26:43,160 Speaker 1: the a hole for making her feel alienated? 571 00:26:43,560 --> 00:26:48,120 Speaker 2: Y'all? Please please let me know what do you think 572 00:26:48,200 --> 00:26:49,440 Speaker 2: if Opie is the a hole? 573 00:26:49,760 --> 00:26:52,000 Speaker 1: And honestly, what you would do in this situation or 574 00:26:52,000 --> 00:26:55,280 Speaker 1: if you've been in a similar one, Sam take us home? 575 00:26:55,359 --> 00:26:56,159 Speaker 2: What is the verdict? 576 00:26:56,480 --> 00:27:00,280 Speaker 5: I mean, man gave her every chance, right, He's like like, 577 00:27:00,320 --> 00:27:02,400 Speaker 5: first the waiter gave her every chance of like, hey, 578 00:27:02,400 --> 00:27:03,440 Speaker 5: do you want a solid or something? 579 00:27:03,440 --> 00:27:04,760 Speaker 2: We got tomato? 580 00:27:04,840 --> 00:27:08,040 Speaker 5: Yeah, domato tomato, and then like the the like op 581 00:27:08,359 --> 00:27:11,639 Speaker 5: was super nice and even in his slap back, he 582 00:27:11,840 --> 00:27:14,400 Speaker 5: was like super nice, like didn't like Curson raise his voice. 583 00:27:14,440 --> 00:27:16,720 Speaker 5: It was just like just kind of had that little zinger. 584 00:27:17,119 --> 00:27:22,040 Speaker 5: OPI not the a hole done. 585 00:27:22,359 --> 00:27:24,840 Speaker 1: Friends stole our work on a group project, so I 586 00:27:24,920 --> 00:27:26,840 Speaker 1: made her work with someone she hates. 587 00:27:27,240 --> 00:27:30,480 Speaker 2: Am I the ahole? Okayop? This is OKAYOP. 588 00:27:30,640 --> 00:27:32,480 Speaker 5: I'm Samuel Donner and I'm John Fry and we tell 589 00:27:32,520 --> 00:27:34,040 Speaker 5: the funniest stories on the Internet. 590 00:27:34,040 --> 00:27:37,400 Speaker 2: Oh yes we do. And Sam, have you ever been 591 00:27:37,520 --> 00:37:05,520 Speaker 2: in a group project before? That went to ryot assass