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Speaker 1: We got it for you here. It is object. I

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Speaker 1: My husband and I have been together seven years and

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Speaker 1: he's always treated me as a queen and he truly

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Speaker 1: I am twenty nine, and my mom was the best

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Speaker 1: I too, was a single mom before I met the

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Speaker 1: My boyfriend, who is now my husband, stepped in and

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Speaker 1: to keep taking this treatment from my mother. We prayed

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Speaker 1: want to welcome the drama back into our lives. Do

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Speaker 1: you think it's possible that she's changed? Should I reach

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Speaker 1: I don't think your mom has changed. Why don't I

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Speaker 1: to you, not at all, and maybe she still doesn't

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Speaker 1: Make it light when you call her, Just make it light.

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Speaker 1: Tell her you'd love her, Tell her you miss her,

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Speaker 1: She never speaks to him and he's always respectful. Hold on, Steve, Oh,

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Speaker 1: Let's recap today's Strawberry Letters. Subject, I cut my mama

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Speaker 1: was raised her child. Her mother was a good mother

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Speaker 1: She don't like him. You know, she don't speak to him.

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Speaker 1: But even though she don't speak to him, he's always respectful.

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Speaker 1: stop being evil. Oh that's it, your mama evil. Your

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Speaker 1: mama just didn't start being evil. Your mama been evil.

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Speaker 1: You just found out how evil she could be because

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Speaker 1: My husband says he's still a good dude. Reach out

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Speaker 1: this conversation. Mama. I just want you to know I

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Speaker 1: I know you don't approve of my husband, and he's really,

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Speaker 1: and I'd like to be to reach your grandchildren. Well, Satan,

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Speaker 1: Can you meet and talk? Take the babies, let him

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Speaker 1: Hi mom, Mom, Well well it's mama. Mom is for whites, Mamma,

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Speaker 1: I'm still with him. He still treats me like a queen.

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Speaker 1: And guess what, mom, m um, you have two more grandkids.

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Speaker 1: You know, I already had one. I have two more babies, yes, ma'am,

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