1
00:00:01,000 --> 00:00:14,760
Speaker 1: M m m hm mm hmmm.

2
00:00:16,280 --> 00:00:16,800
Speaker 2: Mm hmmm.

3
00:00:19,720 --> 00:00:22,520
Speaker 1: Welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices. I'm Erica and

4
00:00:22,560 --> 00:00:26,080
Speaker 1: I'm Mila and it's Wednesday, bitches.

5
00:00:25,960 --> 00:00:27,320
Speaker 3: Happy mother fucking Wednesday.

6
00:00:28,240 --> 00:00:29,160
Speaker 2: It's hump Day.

7
00:00:29,680 --> 00:00:33,200
Speaker 1: I'm not humping by the time this comes out, hopefully

8
00:00:33,240 --> 00:00:33,720
Speaker 1: I'm humping.

9
00:00:34,159 --> 00:00:35,440
Speaker 2: Yes, we're gonna manifest humping.

10
00:00:35,600 --> 00:00:38,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, I hump today, guys speaking.

11
00:00:37,960 --> 00:00:40,000
Speaker 2: To Actually, I think I'm gonna hump tonight.

12
00:00:40,040 --> 00:00:41,640
Speaker 1: You are can I come hump?

13
00:00:42,280 --> 00:00:43,720
Speaker 2: Do you want? Do you want to watch me home?

14
00:00:43,800 --> 00:00:46,720
Speaker 1: So? Actually straight to it.

15
00:00:47,040 --> 00:00:52,120
Speaker 2: No, but also well so much for that morbid No,

16
00:00:52,240 --> 00:00:55,000
Speaker 2: I would love y'all love it. This is possibly a

17
00:00:55,040 --> 00:01:01,120
Speaker 2: pegging situation too, So y'all can like, wait you know,

18
00:01:01,200 --> 00:01:02,080
Speaker 2: I'm so serious.

19
00:01:02,520 --> 00:01:04,000
Speaker 3: I think it is. You can't come.

20
00:01:04,360 --> 00:01:06,920
Speaker 2: Oh wait, no, it's not. It's not if someone else

21
00:01:07,720 --> 00:01:17,080
Speaker 2: could come. Bitch, Wait right intro Bitch. First of all,

22
00:01:17,560 --> 00:01:20,880
Speaker 2: I'm not pegging anyone. I'm not humping anyone. I am

23
00:01:20,880 --> 00:01:24,520
Speaker 2: happily spoken for. Let me let the record show the

24
00:01:24,520 --> 00:01:27,560
Speaker 2: building like we introduced the pegging before we introduce them.

25
00:01:27,600 --> 00:01:29,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, you probably know these.

26
00:01:29,880 --> 00:01:32,400
Speaker 3: Voices, you guys, now you do talk about peggan We

27
00:01:32,480 --> 00:01:36,520
Speaker 3: have them one and all motherfucking sallion.

28
00:01:36,920 --> 00:01:40,240
Speaker 2: All right, y'all, it's Mandy actually, thank you, Mandy B.

29
00:01:40,640 --> 00:01:41,840
Speaker 2: Thank you and.

30
00:01:41,680 --> 00:01:46,280
Speaker 3: The wonderful talented Bridget Kelly. We have See the Thing

31
00:01:46,400 --> 00:01:50,280
Speaker 3: Is podcast with Finally this is.

32
00:01:50,520 --> 00:01:53,600
Speaker 2: Also you guys are like breaking our cherry. I feel

33
00:01:53,600 --> 00:01:57,840
Speaker 2: like we too have have not yet done another pod together.

34
00:01:57,480 --> 00:01:59,160
Speaker 3: With each other.

35
00:01:58,840 --> 00:02:02,040
Speaker 2: So your first So this is this is kiss mat.

36
00:02:02,040 --> 00:02:06,200
Speaker 2: We really wanted, we really wanted to do this with you. Yes, yes, yes, yes.

37
00:02:07,040 --> 00:02:10,240
Speaker 3: We've been you know, scheduling and busy bitches. It's been

38
00:02:10,280 --> 00:02:12,760
Speaker 3: hard to get figured it out, figured it out, figure

39
00:02:13,080 --> 00:02:16,160
Speaker 3: it out, but we figured it out. Yes, So happy

40
00:02:16,160 --> 00:02:18,040
Speaker 3: to have you guys, welcome to CALLI than.

41
00:02:19,840 --> 00:02:20,080
Speaker 1: I know.

42
00:02:20,120 --> 00:02:24,040
Speaker 2: I love it here and I don't why. I'm just

43
00:02:24,040 --> 00:02:24,760
Speaker 2: not a fan of l A.

44
00:02:24,840 --> 00:02:26,000
Speaker 3: You don't really come here. That's true.

45
00:02:26,360 --> 00:02:29,360
Speaker 2: She hasn't. She hasn't gotten like the two experience the way.

46
00:02:30,160 --> 00:02:32,160
Speaker 2: First off, I've been getting flown out to l A.

47
00:02:32,360 --> 00:02:32,920
Speaker 2: That's not.

48
00:02:34,480 --> 00:02:35,960
Speaker 1: You didn't do it on your own term.

49
00:02:35,800 --> 00:02:38,040
Speaker 2: But I had done that too. My one of my

50
00:02:38,080 --> 00:02:40,359
Speaker 2: best friends. Actually I have like a ton of best

51
00:02:40,360 --> 00:02:43,119
Speaker 2: friends that live out here, but not an not fun

52
00:02:43,280 --> 00:02:46,120
Speaker 2: I do. One of my one of my best friends

53
00:02:46,120 --> 00:02:48,320
Speaker 2: that we actually met when we worked together in Miami.

54
00:02:48,840 --> 00:02:50,560
Speaker 2: She also lived with me in New York and then

55
00:02:50,600 --> 00:02:54,320
Speaker 2: moved back out here, so she's actually like l a native.

56
00:02:54,760 --> 00:02:56,800
Speaker 2: I've been out here with her multiple times.

57
00:02:56,840 --> 00:02:59,800
Speaker 1: Like just not a thing, it's just for me with

58
00:02:59,880 --> 00:03:01,119
Speaker 1: the long ass explanation.

59
00:03:01,400 --> 00:03:03,640
Speaker 2: No, it's literally just not for me. I think I

60
00:03:03,680 --> 00:03:07,000
Speaker 2: think that. But also, you don't like Atlanta. Atlanta is

61
00:03:07,040 --> 00:03:09,880
Speaker 2: like my second base and my second home. That's true,

62
00:03:10,360 --> 00:03:13,160
Speaker 2: it's just what I like. Like everything here just seems

63
00:03:13,440 --> 00:03:17,120
Speaker 2: we sit in traffic every fucking where. It's slower, the

64
00:03:17,160 --> 00:03:19,560
Speaker 2: fact that it closes it like two o'clock because probably

65
00:03:19,560 --> 00:03:22,519
Speaker 2: the gangs and ships.

66
00:03:21,400 --> 00:03:23,480
Speaker 3: And ship and you are from Florida. It is not

67
00:03:23,960 --> 00:03:26,800
Speaker 3: slower than Florida, are you Seriously? I don't know people

68
00:03:26,800 --> 00:03:29,880
Speaker 3: from down south don't like LA because it's just completely different.

69
00:03:29,600 --> 00:03:31,720
Speaker 2: But it is. It might be that. It might be that. Also,

70
00:03:31,800 --> 00:03:34,320
Speaker 2: you guys talk like that and everyone eats avocado test

71
00:03:34,720 --> 00:03:39,880
Speaker 2: and I actually in La, I said, oh I got

72
00:03:39,880 --> 00:03:41,360
Speaker 2: to eat avocado toes because I'm here.

73
00:03:42,120 --> 00:03:43,680
Speaker 3: Crystals and tarot cards issues.

74
00:03:43,800 --> 00:03:47,200
Speaker 2: You know, we also just storch and it has greens

75
00:03:47,200 --> 00:03:49,080
Speaker 2: in it, so great. I know we're getting like salads

76
00:03:49,120 --> 00:03:52,560
Speaker 2: or some ship. I'm just like sandwich. I got me

77
00:03:52,640 --> 00:03:54,600
Speaker 2: fucked up. But mind you, I'm also the one like

78
00:03:54,680 --> 00:03:56,280
Speaker 2: we went out to lunch one day and I was like, oh,

79
00:03:56,280 --> 00:03:59,320
Speaker 2: but you gotta try chicken gizards And I'm like, okay,

80
00:03:59,400 --> 00:04:01,920
Speaker 2: what a southern.

81
00:04:03,920 --> 00:04:06,160
Speaker 1: Gizzards than chicken gizzards on.

82
00:04:06,640 --> 00:04:09,440
Speaker 2: A Tuesday of three, just on a regular day. It's

83
00:04:09,560 --> 00:04:12,440
Speaker 2: like a dollars tour. And I said, girl, this chicken

84
00:04:12,480 --> 00:04:14,360
Speaker 2: gives and said you got to put sauce on that thing.

85
00:04:14,480 --> 00:04:16,960
Speaker 2: And she didn't like it, but I said, I tried it.

86
00:04:17,200 --> 00:04:18,040
Speaker 2: I gave it a shot.

87
00:04:18,360 --> 00:04:19,120
Speaker 1: Well that was so kind of you.

88
00:04:19,600 --> 00:04:21,680
Speaker 2: I'm gonna try. I'm gonna try sexual. I'll try most things,

89
00:04:21,800 --> 00:04:26,799
Speaker 2: try sexual, you know. Yeah, I mean I try everything

90
00:04:26,839 --> 00:04:28,960
Speaker 2: and then normally I'll stick to it. So what is

91
00:04:29,000 --> 00:04:30,800
Speaker 2: that called a stick to it sexual?

92
00:04:30,839 --> 00:04:34,080
Speaker 1: You're a pant sexual? No, try it all sexual?

93
00:04:34,160 --> 00:04:36,839
Speaker 3: No, it's not par sexual. Is that you like people.

94
00:04:38,200 --> 00:04:38,680
Speaker 1: Sexual?

95
00:04:39,240 --> 00:04:45,440
Speaker 2: I'm a ever sexual, im sexual, all sexual, asexual, it's

96
00:04:45,480 --> 00:04:50,920
Speaker 2: all intellexual, like, yeah, it's all. There's no discrimination everything website.

97
00:04:50,960 --> 00:04:52,919
Speaker 2: I told you I have a discrimination. I'm shallow. I

98
00:04:53,040 --> 00:04:56,960
Speaker 2: like really good looking people and that I mean period.

99
00:04:57,000 --> 00:05:01,880
Speaker 3: That's relatively it's subject You like, that's what I meant? Right, Well,

100
00:05:01,880 --> 00:05:03,120
Speaker 3: you know I'm trying to even.

101
00:05:03,000 --> 00:05:07,400
Speaker 2: Subjective the same thing she is the Dictionary on legs relative,

102
00:05:07,480 --> 00:05:10,880
Speaker 2: relative and subjection or relative and relative and subjective or not.

103
00:05:11,960 --> 00:05:15,320
Speaker 3: Okay, well I meant subjective subjective. You know what I meant?

104
00:05:16,560 --> 00:05:17,480
Speaker 3: You know what the fun I'm met?

105
00:05:17,520 --> 00:05:20,000
Speaker 1: I sounded well anyway. See, the thing is is that

106
00:05:20,040 --> 00:05:23,159
Speaker 1: I'm trying to go to this uh pegging sessions, not.

107
00:05:24,920 --> 00:05:25,560
Speaker 3: Back to them.

108
00:05:27,080 --> 00:05:29,080
Speaker 1: Might be from the topic at hand.

109
00:05:29,080 --> 00:05:30,599
Speaker 3: Okay, so you're inviting us.

110
00:05:30,680 --> 00:05:32,760
Speaker 2: I would love to let.

111
00:05:32,640 --> 00:05:33,160
Speaker 1: Me know what's time?

112
00:05:33,240 --> 00:05:38,080
Speaker 3: Okay, anyway, where the friends you anyway, where the friends

113
00:05:38,120 --> 00:05:41,080
Speaker 3: you call? If you want possibly a unicorn, you want

114
00:05:41,080 --> 00:05:43,599
Speaker 3: someone to watch you, let us know the time, and

115
00:05:43,600 --> 00:05:45,640
Speaker 3: one of us will make ourselves available, because that's the

116
00:05:45,720 --> 00:05:46,239
Speaker 3: type of bitches.

117
00:05:46,560 --> 00:05:48,400
Speaker 2: What's crazy. A lot of people that listen to the

118
00:05:48,440 --> 00:05:51,880
Speaker 2: pod even I just saw a comment that someone who

119
00:05:51,880 --> 00:05:53,640
Speaker 2: listens to us, and it's like, oh my god, I

120
00:05:53,640 --> 00:05:56,159
Speaker 2: wish I had friends like these. Do you guys have

121
00:05:56,480 --> 00:05:59,560
Speaker 2: a tribe here with good mom's that choices where they're like, damn,

122
00:05:59,600 --> 00:06:01,280
Speaker 2: I wish I knew other moms that are like y'all.

123
00:06:01,360 --> 00:06:03,600
Speaker 2: I wish I just had girlfriends that are like y'all. Yeah,

124
00:06:04,080 --> 00:06:07,480
Speaker 2: tribe like the one's going.

125
00:06:07,320 --> 00:06:11,160
Speaker 1: To Costa Rica, the tribe on the tribe on Patreon,

126
00:06:11,320 --> 00:06:13,479
Speaker 1: or the tribe in our slack that eventually I'm gonna

127
00:06:13,480 --> 00:06:14,160
Speaker 1: move to Discord.

128
00:06:15,200 --> 00:06:16,480
Speaker 3: She figures it out totally.

129
00:06:16,760 --> 00:06:18,800
Speaker 2: I'm like, I'm like connext to Patreon.

130
00:06:18,920 --> 00:06:21,120
Speaker 3: I know, we just can't figure it out.

131
00:06:20,880 --> 00:06:24,240
Speaker 1: I can't find that's like the channels on Slack or some.

132
00:06:24,279 --> 00:06:28,279
Speaker 2: I'm not going to hold you technology. It's hard. I

133
00:06:28,320 --> 00:06:30,400
Speaker 2: literally was just having a conversation, say, and I said

134
00:06:31,080 --> 00:06:34,640
Speaker 2: the way that I hate voice notes and group chats,

135
00:06:34,800 --> 00:06:36,480
Speaker 2: you would think I'm a fifty five year old woman

136
00:06:36,760 --> 00:06:39,039
Speaker 2: literally even shut up. May She was like, well, we

137
00:06:39,080 --> 00:06:41,240
Speaker 2: can just get in a group chat. I've emailed her

138
00:06:41,279 --> 00:06:44,200
Speaker 2: before group chatting, don't She won't, and you will purposely

139
00:06:44,240 --> 00:06:47,120
Speaker 2: avoid the group chat, like what's your emails see exactly

140
00:06:47,160 --> 00:06:48,920
Speaker 2: what you said. But that's the thing too, Mandy has

141
00:06:48,920 --> 00:06:51,720
Speaker 2: red receipts, so a group chat you can't see if

142
00:06:51,720 --> 00:06:53,920
Speaker 2: she reads it, but you'll know because she replied to

143
00:06:53,960 --> 00:06:54,560
Speaker 2: you in an email.

144
00:06:54,640 --> 00:06:57,360
Speaker 1: Because Mandy has twenty four best friends and they're all

145
00:06:57,400 --> 00:06:59,800
Speaker 1: texting her on top of the group chat. It's too many,

146
00:07:00,520 --> 00:07:06,760
Speaker 1: five businesses with five different group chat It's way too much.

147
00:07:06,800 --> 00:07:08,520
Speaker 1: But also I think we were talking about it too,

148
00:07:08,640 --> 00:07:10,800
Speaker 1: Like the older I get, the more I'm like trying

149
00:07:10,800 --> 00:07:14,240
Speaker 1: to set these boundaries of my time and keeping my

150
00:07:14,560 --> 00:07:18,640
Speaker 1: sanity to myself and to me. In terms of text messages,

151
00:07:19,080 --> 00:07:21,840
Speaker 1: people feel as though they can access you anytime.

152
00:07:21,920 --> 00:07:25,400
Speaker 2: It's the access to me at all fucking times. And

153
00:07:25,440 --> 00:07:28,160
Speaker 2: now even y'all being on the West Coast and the

154
00:07:28,200 --> 00:07:31,679
Speaker 2: time zone differences are different, and now, nig it's midnight.

155
00:07:31,880 --> 00:07:34,560
Speaker 2: It's nine o'clock for y'all, and my phone is.

156
00:07:35,000 --> 00:07:36,760
Speaker 3: Saying, you don't appreciate our group chat with you.

157
00:07:36,840 --> 00:07:38,800
Speaker 2: No, I love our group chat. But what I'm taking like,

158
00:07:38,840 --> 00:07:43,360
Speaker 2: she's kind of stubbing right between l A and New York.

159
00:07:44,600 --> 00:07:47,080
Speaker 2: What's our group chat name? It's like two baby mamas,

160
00:07:47,320 --> 00:07:51,680
Speaker 2: two baby mamas, and right now that's our group but

161
00:07:51,800 --> 00:08:04,800
Speaker 2: now so basically all have a podcast on academy.

162
00:08:00,080 --> 00:08:01,960
Speaker 1: To baby mom is a home and it's spoken for bitch.

163
00:08:02,800 --> 00:08:07,160
Speaker 2: I'm spoken forqure Okay, I'm just baby mamas a square

164
00:08:07,560 --> 00:08:10,280
Speaker 2: in this little hole because we have a non traditional relationship,

165
00:08:10,320 --> 00:08:12,880
Speaker 2: like y'all. I met my man. So I'm I'm technically

166
00:08:12,880 --> 00:08:13,720
Speaker 2: a taken home now.

167
00:08:14,000 --> 00:08:17,280
Speaker 3: Okay, taken home two baby mamas to by mama hose one,

168
00:08:17,320 --> 00:08:20,280
Speaker 3: taken home right, spoken for?

169
00:08:20,920 --> 00:08:23,480
Speaker 2: I'm spoken for. But yeah, I just don't like the

170
00:08:23,520 --> 00:08:26,120
Speaker 2: access I get you all the time to everybody.

171
00:08:26,560 --> 00:08:29,520
Speaker 3: You know what I wanted to We just jumped right

172
00:08:29,560 --> 00:08:32,440
Speaker 3: in today. I wanted to speak on what you said.

173
00:08:32,440 --> 00:08:34,720
Speaker 3: If we have other friends, we have friends, we could

174
00:08:34,720 --> 00:08:36,079
Speaker 3: be like, oh, come on to be picked tonight.

175
00:08:36,800 --> 00:08:37,000
Speaker 2: You know.

176
00:08:37,280 --> 00:08:38,840
Speaker 3: I was just thinking about this while I was peing

177
00:08:38,880 --> 00:08:40,720
Speaker 3: in the bathroom because everybody made me pee because I

178
00:08:40,800 --> 00:08:44,720
Speaker 3: pee a lot and they and I. Last night. Okay,

179
00:08:44,760 --> 00:08:48,480
Speaker 3: So me and Eric got new tattoos the other day

180
00:08:48,640 --> 00:08:50,319
Speaker 3: because we're twelve.

181
00:08:50,520 --> 00:08:52,839
Speaker 2: That's awesome. Do you know what's crazy? Every time I

182
00:08:53,920 --> 00:08:57,120
Speaker 2: imagine tattoos, shout out to Crystal, we know what what's new?

183
00:08:57,280 --> 00:08:57,880
Speaker 1: But we have these?

184
00:08:58,920 --> 00:09:01,360
Speaker 3: This did touchdowns anyway, bad choices?

185
00:09:01,440 --> 00:09:02,520
Speaker 2: Oh wait, what's the new tattoo?

186
00:09:02,880 --> 00:09:06,439
Speaker 3: Okay? So last night, me and Eric the school.

187
00:09:07,600 --> 00:09:09,840
Speaker 2: That's beautiful, beautiful, it is beautiful.

188
00:09:11,400 --> 00:09:13,920
Speaker 3: Eric and I got tattoos on a school night at

189
00:09:14,000 --> 00:09:14,480
Speaker 3: nine pm.

190
00:09:14,640 --> 00:09:19,560
Speaker 2: Wasn't smart. It was another The next room choices on brand.

191
00:09:19,600 --> 00:09:21,679
Speaker 1: We made our kids go to sleep before the tattoo started.

192
00:09:21,679 --> 00:09:23,160
Speaker 1: Maybe we were getting them, but we're like, go the

193
00:09:23,160 --> 00:09:23,640
Speaker 1: fuck to bed.

194
00:09:23,720 --> 00:09:24,439
Speaker 2: When he comes to you.

195
00:09:24,720 --> 00:09:25,960
Speaker 1: He came to the house, we're doing that.

196
00:09:26,200 --> 00:09:28,719
Speaker 2: It was like it was like, tattoo, let's do it.

197
00:09:29,160 --> 00:09:31,480
Speaker 3: It was like I heard you, I heard you screaming.

198
00:09:31,480 --> 00:09:32,000
Speaker 2: Did it hurt?

199
00:09:32,679 --> 00:09:35,800
Speaker 3: I was like, you're supposed to be sleep anyway. I

200
00:09:35,840 --> 00:09:37,800
Speaker 3: got the tattoo on the back of my thigh.

201
00:09:37,800 --> 00:09:41,240
Speaker 2: I wonder if I gave you yes, I said, are

202
00:09:41,240 --> 00:09:44,480
Speaker 2: you manifesting anal sex? Why is it right manifest Why

203
00:09:44,520 --> 00:09:47,080
Speaker 2: is it right in the cup? It's in the undercare,

204
00:09:47,200 --> 00:09:47,839
Speaker 2: right below the cup.

205
00:09:47,920 --> 00:09:50,800
Speaker 3: It's undercare. I wanted like a garter belt tattoo. Whatever. Anyway,

206
00:09:50,840 --> 00:09:54,160
Speaker 3: I haven't to replace it. So yesterday, speaking of tribes

207
00:09:54,200 --> 00:09:58,439
Speaker 3: and friends and like authenticity, I think that being podcasters,

208
00:09:58,800 --> 00:10:03,520
Speaker 3: I think it's made me and us probably more like

209
00:10:03,679 --> 00:10:04,720
Speaker 3: authentic in who.

210
00:10:04,600 --> 00:10:05,959
Speaker 1: We are in all aspects.

211
00:10:06,240 --> 00:10:09,199
Speaker 3: Right, Like I'm not gonna, I'm not gonna. It's harder

212
00:10:09,240 --> 00:10:11,040
Speaker 3: for me to be less of myself, you know, even

213
00:10:11,080 --> 00:10:13,760
Speaker 3: though myself is not comfortable for everybody. So last night

214
00:10:13,760 --> 00:10:16,520
Speaker 3: I was at my friend's houses who are not podcasters

215
00:10:16,520 --> 00:10:20,080
Speaker 3: and not less comfortable with the ships, not with the ships.

216
00:10:20,520 --> 00:10:22,080
Speaker 3: And I was like, oh, I got a new tattoo,

217
00:10:22,240 --> 00:10:26,520
Speaker 3: and my best friend of years I'm in impassions whatever

218
00:10:27,280 --> 00:10:28,000
Speaker 3: was there with her new.

219
00:10:27,920 --> 00:10:32,400
Speaker 2: Man overshare over transparent and we just have to hope

220
00:10:32,400 --> 00:10:33,559
Speaker 2: everyone that knows this is okay.

221
00:10:34,280 --> 00:10:36,880
Speaker 3: I help. So, So my friend's there with her new boyfriend.

222
00:10:36,960 --> 00:10:39,439
Speaker 3: He's not he's new, but we've all known him for years.

223
00:10:39,480 --> 00:10:42,080
Speaker 3: That like they rekindled this ship. So like whatever, So

224
00:10:42,760 --> 00:10:44,840
Speaker 3: the kids like my kid is there and I'm like, oh,

225
00:10:44,840 --> 00:10:47,040
Speaker 3: I didn't show you my new tattoo. So I started

226
00:10:47,080 --> 00:10:49,360
Speaker 3: to pull down my sweatpants to show them, and I'm like, oh,

227
00:10:49,400 --> 00:10:53,120
Speaker 3: I don't think I'm wearing panties. Look away, boyfriend. And

228
00:10:53,160 --> 00:10:57,440
Speaker 3: then I and I just like I showed her my tattoo.

229
00:10:57,559 --> 00:10:59,880
Speaker 3: And then so this morning before we recorded, she calls me.

230
00:11:00,040 --> 00:11:01,640
Speaker 3: She's like, do you give a minute. I'm like that

231
00:11:01,760 --> 00:11:06,240
Speaker 3: sounds serious, do I'm like, yeah, it's up. I thought

232
00:11:06,280 --> 00:11:09,240
Speaker 3: some serious ship. She's like, you know, last night when

233
00:11:09,280 --> 00:11:12,480
Speaker 3: you pull down your faces to show me your us

234
00:11:12,520 --> 00:11:15,720
Speaker 3: you're tattoo. I didn't really like that. I was like, okay,

235
00:11:15,800 --> 00:11:19,040
Speaker 3: I'm sorry. I didn't really think that. I didn't even

236
00:11:19,040 --> 00:11:21,800
Speaker 3: think about it. But then in the bathroom, I'm like, God,

237
00:11:21,920 --> 00:11:23,960
Speaker 3: I am like, I am too much. I should chill.

238
00:11:24,000 --> 00:11:26,800
Speaker 3: But I'm like, I'm so used to being amongst like

239
00:11:27,400 --> 00:11:31,600
Speaker 3: certain friends that I'm like, ahh, you know, like I

240
00:11:31,640 --> 00:11:35,439
Speaker 3: have no My boundaries are like, can you guys cuddle?

241
00:11:35,440 --> 00:11:38,880
Speaker 3: Meddle me cuddle, let's kindle. You know, I like bitches, But.

242
00:11:38,840 --> 00:11:41,160
Speaker 2: Can I ask you that? Because in terms of yeah, yes,

243
00:11:41,320 --> 00:11:43,960
Speaker 2: it's it's different for different friends, it is, but.

244
00:11:43,960 --> 00:11:45,480
Speaker 3: Also I have to be better.

245
00:11:45,559 --> 00:11:48,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, but I know I've had a friend where to me,

246
00:11:49,520 --> 00:11:53,600
Speaker 2: maybe they weren't as close so to me normally, and

247
00:11:53,640 --> 00:11:58,000
Speaker 2: I'll ask you without being shady. Of course, I had

248
00:11:58,880 --> 00:12:01,400
Speaker 2: a friend in the past where when I would spend

249
00:12:01,440 --> 00:12:04,080
Speaker 2: the night at her house, if I had guys come over,

250
00:12:04,600 --> 00:12:06,280
Speaker 2: or a guy was maybe coming to pick me up,

251
00:12:06,920 --> 00:12:09,400
Speaker 2: she would greet him in like a T shirt and panties.

252
00:12:09,800 --> 00:12:12,160
Speaker 2: That to me is not okay. And I know I've

253
00:12:12,160 --> 00:12:15,160
Speaker 2: had to apologize to her before as well, because we

254
00:12:15,200 --> 00:12:17,720
Speaker 2: do like Sunday dinners and maybe I've come over where

255
00:12:18,040 --> 00:12:21,280
Speaker 2: my shorts were too short to be respectful to her

256
00:12:21,320 --> 00:12:23,719
Speaker 2: and her relationship so I want to know for you

257
00:12:24,400 --> 00:12:27,640
Speaker 2: what those boundaries or conversations look like with your homegirls

258
00:12:27,840 --> 00:12:30,840
Speaker 2: who have partners where maybe it's not a big deal

259
00:12:30,880 --> 00:12:34,200
Speaker 2: for you, but we all know that sometimes it's not

260
00:12:34,240 --> 00:12:36,240
Speaker 2: even the friend. It's maybe what the nigga may do

261
00:12:36,360 --> 00:12:39,080
Speaker 2: or feeling as though now maybe he may think something

262
00:12:39,120 --> 00:12:41,400
Speaker 2: because you just think it's okay to show your ass

263
00:12:41,400 --> 00:12:43,520
Speaker 2: in front of him, Like, what does that conversation look

264
00:12:43,559 --> 00:12:44,960
Speaker 2: like and how did you respond and will you do

265
00:12:45,000 --> 00:12:45,360
Speaker 2: it again?

266
00:12:45,520 --> 00:12:47,760
Speaker 3: Well, there have been other conversations that weren't had with

267
00:12:47,800 --> 00:12:51,680
Speaker 3: me behind my back, and so with similar situations, because

268
00:12:51,720 --> 00:12:53,920
Speaker 3: I am who I am, and that I don't appreciate.

269
00:12:54,000 --> 00:12:56,480
Speaker 3: So I apologize and I said, I appreciate you for

270
00:12:56,559 --> 00:12:58,199
Speaker 3: calling me and not harboring on it.

271
00:12:58,240 --> 00:13:00,000
Speaker 2: Or try shit, because it was right away.

272
00:13:00,120 --> 00:13:03,160
Speaker 3: And I because in the past when that's happened, I'm like, bitch,

273
00:13:03,200 --> 00:13:06,520
Speaker 3: that was five years ago. Oh, And I'm like, and

274
00:13:06,520 --> 00:13:09,480
Speaker 3: you've obviously been talking about this, and you've obviously been

275
00:13:09,480 --> 00:13:12,160
Speaker 3: harboring on this, and if we're friends, you should be

276
00:13:12,160 --> 00:13:14,560
Speaker 3: able to just call me and tell me, but not

277
00:13:14,640 --> 00:13:16,319
Speaker 3: five years later you if.

278
00:13:16,240 --> 00:13:19,760
Speaker 2: Multiple friends have if this has happened at all, now

279
00:13:19,880 --> 00:13:22,160
Speaker 2: now with this friend and now with previous friends.

280
00:13:22,200 --> 00:13:24,960
Speaker 3: No, this is the same friend. Oh oh, it's just

281
00:13:25,120 --> 00:13:30,800
Speaker 3: I have to listen. I have too pretty. Look, I know,

282
00:13:30,520 --> 00:13:33,600
Speaker 3: I know my audience, you know, like if I would.

283
00:13:33,360 --> 00:13:35,600
Speaker 2: Have probably, but your audience is not their boyfriends.

284
00:13:35,840 --> 00:13:38,160
Speaker 3: It's not even then I fucked up. That is not

285
00:13:38,200 --> 00:13:40,760
Speaker 3: the friend. I know how, I know how you are.

286
00:13:40,840 --> 00:13:43,600
Speaker 3: We're not the same. Okay, if I get topless in

287
00:13:43,600 --> 00:13:47,160
Speaker 3: front of Mandy's boyfriend, it's not gonna she clearly there's

288
00:13:47,200 --> 00:13:51,240
Speaker 3: a party. But you know what I'm saying, like and

289
00:13:51,320 --> 00:13:54,000
Speaker 3: a lot, and it's something that I have to be

290
00:13:54,120 --> 00:13:56,320
Speaker 3: mindful of. And I know that, and I didn't really

291
00:13:56,320 --> 00:13:57,840
Speaker 3: think twice about it last night, even though I know

292
00:13:57,920 --> 00:14:00,559
Speaker 3: this particular friend and we've had common stations about that.

293
00:14:00,640 --> 00:14:02,360
Speaker 3: But what I did say was I'm sorry. I didn't

294
00:14:02,360 --> 00:14:04,720
Speaker 3: mean to do I wasn't being I wasn't being intentional,

295
00:14:05,160 --> 00:14:07,760
Speaker 3: And thank you for calling me and not calling somebody

296
00:14:07,800 --> 00:14:10,600
Speaker 3: else or not not writing, because that's what's happened in

297
00:14:10,600 --> 00:14:14,040
Speaker 3: the past, so like, but I was just like you

298
00:14:14,120 --> 00:14:16,800
Speaker 3: do me knowing the type of person that I am

299
00:14:16,840 --> 00:14:19,680
Speaker 3: and how comfortable I am in MI nudity, I have

300
00:14:19,760 --> 00:14:23,360
Speaker 3: to understand that. For me, it's like, if my friends

301
00:14:23,400 --> 00:14:25,640
Speaker 3: can't cuddle with my nigga, are you my nigga? Can

302
00:14:25,680 --> 00:14:27,840
Speaker 3: we all like be that like I want you to.

303
00:14:27,920 --> 00:14:29,680
Speaker 3: I just want it all to be like cohesive. And

304
00:14:29,760 --> 00:14:31,480
Speaker 3: also like, I don't want to date someone that I

305
00:14:31,480 --> 00:14:33,920
Speaker 3: think is going to go behind my back and be weird.

306
00:14:34,120 --> 00:14:35,680
Speaker 3: And I don't think and I don't think that is

307
00:14:35,720 --> 00:14:37,280
Speaker 3: her thing. I don't think she thinks that.

308
00:14:38,280 --> 00:14:40,640
Speaker 2: Let me say her naked as fuck. She'd be in

309
00:14:40,640 --> 00:14:42,280
Speaker 2: the bed where her nigga and she'd be like, girl,

310
00:14:42,280 --> 00:14:46,160
Speaker 2: my nigga's right. I'd be like, hey, say now you

311
00:14:46,280 --> 00:14:50,560
Speaker 2: just won't see well, I mean and and full transparency.

312
00:14:51,240 --> 00:14:54,360
Speaker 2: He's he's he's a man. So he in his group Chad,

313
00:14:55,040 --> 00:14:57,200
Speaker 2: there was a it was. It was yeah, it was

314
00:14:57,280 --> 00:15:00,200
Speaker 2: unfortunate and it was it was. It infuriated me more

315
00:15:00,200 --> 00:15:02,520
Speaker 2: so because I'm so protective of Mandy that there was

316
00:15:02,560 --> 00:15:04,800
Speaker 2: a there was a there was alator in his group

317
00:15:04,880 --> 00:15:07,120
Speaker 2: chat and her man. It made it to my man's

318
00:15:07,120 --> 00:15:11,800
Speaker 2: group chat and it was me, how did you this was?

319
00:15:11,920 --> 00:15:14,360
Speaker 2: This was actually a nude, which is super weird. I

320
00:15:14,360 --> 00:15:15,960
Speaker 2: feel like it's child porn at this point. But I

321
00:15:15,960 --> 00:15:19,600
Speaker 2: was eighteen and a friend who ended up not being

322
00:15:19,600 --> 00:15:23,240
Speaker 2: a friend anymore. I gave her a BlackBerry of mine again.

323
00:15:23,320 --> 00:15:26,600
Speaker 2: This was two thousand and nine, twenty ten. I didn't

324
00:15:26,640 --> 00:15:28,200
Speaker 2: clean the phone before giving it to her.

325
00:15:28,280 --> 00:15:29,480
Speaker 1: It was good news.

326
00:15:29,600 --> 00:15:33,160
Speaker 2: I looked cute, looks great. Yeah, they were high. They

327
00:15:33,160 --> 00:15:35,800
Speaker 2: were high. My quick weave wasn't as attractive as that

328
00:15:36,520 --> 00:15:44,080
Speaker 2: age you read quick age. But when I gave from

329
00:15:44,080 --> 00:15:48,200
Speaker 2: my phone, I didn't erase all the time, and she circulated.

330
00:15:48,280 --> 00:15:51,600
Speaker 2: She she posted it on Twitter back in like twenty ten,

331
00:15:51,640 --> 00:15:55,440
Speaker 2: twenty eleven, and so it ended up just being something

332
00:15:55,480 --> 00:15:58,680
Speaker 2: that lives online, and it ended up on Reddit, especially

333
00:15:58,680 --> 00:16:01,120
Speaker 2: when I got being on the Joe Buden Network and

334
00:16:01,160 --> 00:16:04,000
Speaker 2: it being such a male focused audience. It's like everyone

335
00:16:04,040 --> 00:16:07,000
Speaker 2: went into all of the archives of everything that Bridgitte

336
00:16:07,000 --> 00:16:09,200
Speaker 2: and I have ever done and it just landed. We

337
00:16:09,280 --> 00:16:11,600
Speaker 2: have some stand like some creepy stands on Reddit that

338
00:16:11,640 --> 00:16:14,440
Speaker 2: literally have videos that Mandy and I posted, like they

339
00:16:14,760 --> 00:16:17,720
Speaker 2: posted someone that's like that super stalks Us was like, oh,

340
00:16:17,720 --> 00:16:19,920
Speaker 2: Mandy bridget had been friends for years and posted like

341
00:16:19,960 --> 00:16:22,720
Speaker 2: her footage of my performance my show in New York

342
00:16:22,760 --> 00:16:26,200
Speaker 2: like years ago. You don't even have any in my phone.

343
00:16:26,200 --> 00:16:27,720
Speaker 2: It's not in my phone either. It's like, how did

344
00:16:27,800 --> 00:16:30,160
Speaker 2: y'all save that this was on an Instagram story like

345
00:16:30,320 --> 00:16:33,560
Speaker 2: years ago? It's weird, But no, I I do say

346
00:16:33,560 --> 00:16:36,440
Speaker 2: that I for me, it's now him hit for him

347
00:16:36,560 --> 00:16:39,000
Speaker 2: because he's older than me and older than her as well.

348
00:16:39,600 --> 00:16:41,840
Speaker 2: His relationship with Mandy is one of a big brother

349
00:16:41,880 --> 00:16:44,880
Speaker 2: where he's very protective also, so he's much for me.

350
00:16:44,960 --> 00:16:49,000
Speaker 2: It's it's less about, you know, being concerned about what

351
00:16:49,120 --> 00:16:52,560
Speaker 2: we deem appropriate and more about making sure that she

352
00:16:52,800 --> 00:16:55,080
Speaker 2: knows this is a safe that she's safe with us,

353
00:16:55,200 --> 00:16:57,240
Speaker 2: you know what I mean? Yeah, And I think like

354
00:16:57,520 --> 00:16:58,920
Speaker 2: even when you had text me and you were like, hey,

355
00:16:58,920 --> 00:17:02,960
Speaker 2: I just want to literally so mind you. I I

356
00:17:03,040 --> 00:17:06,080
Speaker 2: literally text her maybe the next morning, just because I had,

357
00:17:06,440 --> 00:17:08,600
Speaker 2: I had there were a few comments on my radar,

358
00:17:08,720 --> 00:17:10,400
Speaker 2: just like, but I knew my shirts were really short.

359
00:17:10,440 --> 00:17:12,439
Speaker 2: This was the summer in New York and she's my neighbor,

360
00:17:12,560 --> 00:17:15,639
Speaker 2: so bitch what I was wearing in the house my

361
00:17:15,680 --> 00:17:19,400
Speaker 2: house clothes, and literally just because she's my friend as well,

362
00:17:19,480 --> 00:17:21,280
Speaker 2: So I like that your friend ate hit you the

363
00:17:21,320 --> 00:17:24,399
Speaker 2: next day, But because there was a comment made about

364
00:17:24,840 --> 00:17:26,840
Speaker 2: the size of my shorts, I made sure to let

365
00:17:26,880 --> 00:17:28,679
Speaker 2: her know not in any way did I want to

366
00:17:28,680 --> 00:17:31,360
Speaker 2: disrespect your relationship. And I think that that's who you are.

367
00:17:31,440 --> 00:17:33,400
Speaker 2: We're both a lot of the same, so we're I'm

368
00:17:33,440 --> 00:17:36,000
Speaker 2: also but I also I also know I also.

369
00:17:35,800 --> 00:17:36,920
Speaker 3: Know Mandy and you know that.

370
00:17:37,600 --> 00:17:40,160
Speaker 2: But I know you, like you're not sitting here trying

371
00:17:40,160 --> 00:17:43,480
Speaker 2: to get attention from her neck, maby and very comfortable

372
00:17:43,560 --> 00:17:46,280
Speaker 2: naked leep naked man, you know what I'm saying, And

373
00:17:46,320 --> 00:17:49,400
Speaker 2: so it does. But you're sharing a hotel room, pajama here.

374
00:17:49,359 --> 00:17:49,439
Speaker 1: But.

375
00:17:51,200 --> 00:17:57,240
Speaker 2: Nobody's packing. I'd be cold travels withajamas. But what's crazy?

376
00:17:57,359 --> 00:17:59,800
Speaker 2: I packed my little Vatan slippers. You haven't.

377
00:18:00,040 --> 00:18:01,240
Speaker 3: I'm making it slippers.

378
00:18:01,359 --> 00:18:03,119
Speaker 2: Yeah, but you know, I'm also on my period and

379
00:18:03,160 --> 00:18:04,800
Speaker 2: this all white everything, and I'm not trying to have

380
00:18:04,800 --> 00:18:07,280
Speaker 2: a murder scene, So got on shorts.

381
00:18:06,720 --> 00:18:10,360
Speaker 3: Just okay here. I do feel like I've grown because

382
00:18:10,400 --> 00:18:12,119
Speaker 3: there's like maybe two years ago I've been like a

383
00:18:12,119 --> 00:18:14,960
Speaker 3: little bit irritated and be like, well, bitch, I'm it

384
00:18:15,000 --> 00:18:16,960
Speaker 3: was like my kids was on the right there, like

385
00:18:17,000 --> 00:18:19,400
Speaker 3: and I'm and you know, like these are just I'm

386
00:18:19,440 --> 00:18:21,520
Speaker 3: being like, it's an innocent action, and I assume that

387
00:18:21,560 --> 00:18:24,200
Speaker 3: you know the same, but I've realized and I'm coming

388
00:18:24,240 --> 00:18:26,320
Speaker 3: to realize, like you have to know your audience and like,

389
00:18:26,359 --> 00:18:28,480
Speaker 3: no mature friends, I'm comfortable and it's really not don't

390
00:18:28,520 --> 00:18:29,800
Speaker 3: it doesn't matter how I feel about it.

391
00:18:29,880 --> 00:18:32,560
Speaker 2: The beautiful thing about podcasting, though, is that I think

392
00:18:32,560 --> 00:18:36,080
Speaker 2: that it also forces us to stop taking things so personally,

393
00:18:37,040 --> 00:18:39,600
Speaker 2: like I don't take things like men like I'm I'm

394
00:18:39,640 --> 00:18:41,720
Speaker 2: a I'm a woman and I'm The more that I

395
00:18:41,840 --> 00:18:45,080
Speaker 2: encountered different women in different personality types, the more I

396
00:18:45,160 --> 00:18:49,040
Speaker 2: realize how many women are actually very insecure and intimidated

397
00:18:49,440 --> 00:18:51,760
Speaker 2: by women, by other women and women that are free

398
00:18:51,760 --> 00:18:55,000
Speaker 2: and liberated, and I'm the opposite. I actually seek refuge

399
00:18:55,560 --> 00:18:58,040
Speaker 2: with women and around women that are confident and comfortable

400
00:18:58,080 --> 00:19:00,480
Speaker 2: because I'm like, Okay, well you're not intimate dated by me,

401
00:19:00,480 --> 00:19:01,920
Speaker 2: and I'm not intimidated by you. So this is a

402
00:19:01,960 --> 00:19:05,520
Speaker 2: safe space, is a safe eyes for me. Mandy knows

403
00:19:05,520 --> 00:19:06,960
Speaker 2: who she is. Mandy is going to show up one

404
00:19:07,000 --> 00:19:09,640
Speaker 2: hundred and fifty percent consistently who she is every time.

405
00:19:09,720 --> 00:19:12,080
Speaker 2: That's trustworthy to me. I can count on that. I

406
00:19:12,080 --> 00:19:16,000
Speaker 2: love that. All I love about her nothing shady. It's

407
00:19:16,040 --> 00:19:19,280
Speaker 2: never shady. There's nothing who you are around never. But

408
00:19:19,320 --> 00:19:22,920
Speaker 2: that's the thing too. How much is a friendly really

409
00:19:22,960 --> 00:19:26,520
Speaker 2: your friend if there's some sense of competition. Imagine like

410
00:19:26,720 --> 00:19:29,000
Speaker 2: when you go out that homegirl who wants to know

411
00:19:29,040 --> 00:19:30,919
Speaker 2: what you wear so they can make sure they can one.

412
00:19:30,840 --> 00:19:33,080
Speaker 3: Up you and what they And that's the thing among sweat.

413
00:19:32,880 --> 00:19:36,639
Speaker 2: It's a huge thing, Like why do you or Mandy

414
00:19:36,640 --> 00:19:39,960
Speaker 2: and I just be trying not to match? Right because

415
00:19:40,040 --> 00:19:41,960
Speaker 2: we did one time and I was like, oh my god,

416
00:19:41,960 --> 00:19:45,680
Speaker 2: we're literally Danny, We're Danny DeVito. Wait wait wait, wait,

417
00:19:45,720 --> 00:19:47,760
Speaker 2: wait wait, but not only trying to match, but not

418
00:19:47,760 --> 00:19:49,680
Speaker 2: only trying to match, bitch, I have short hair. I'd

419
00:19:49,680 --> 00:19:51,240
Speaker 2: be like, I don't want to look like your boyfriend

420
00:19:51,240 --> 00:19:55,160
Speaker 2: when we go out, look like the Thuds always looks

421
00:19:55,200 --> 00:19:57,119
Speaker 2: like each other's boyfriend when we go out. It's fine,

422
00:19:57,160 --> 00:19:59,199
Speaker 2: I don't mind it, I don't care. But I just

423
00:19:59,240 --> 00:20:01,680
Speaker 2: I love the fact that we are in a place

424
00:20:01,720 --> 00:20:05,080
Speaker 2: where podcasting has allowed the freedom of us to exist

425
00:20:05,160 --> 00:20:07,760
Speaker 2: however we choose to show up, and it's always enough.

426
00:20:08,160 --> 00:20:11,080
Speaker 2: So I'm now now, I'm I'm completely detached from the

427
00:20:11,160 --> 00:20:15,199
Speaker 2: idea of anything conventional around what relationships are supposed to

428
00:20:15,200 --> 00:20:18,000
Speaker 2: look like what friend relationships. I love that my man

429
00:20:18,080 --> 00:20:20,040
Speaker 2: is friends with Mandy and loves Mandy and is protective

430
00:20:20,040 --> 00:20:22,880
Speaker 2: of Mandy and they have their own rapport. I need that,

431
00:20:22,960 --> 00:20:24,159
Speaker 2: you know what I mean? The same way you're like, well,

432
00:20:24,160 --> 00:20:26,320
Speaker 2: if my man can't cuddle with y'all, Like if my man.

433
00:20:26,280 --> 00:20:27,919
Speaker 3: If you'm out of time, you can't call my man

434
00:20:27,960 --> 00:20:29,800
Speaker 3: and say, please call him, I need him to pick

435
00:20:29,840 --> 00:20:31,359
Speaker 3: me up, and you don't go like you need to

436
00:20:31,440 --> 00:20:33,120
Speaker 3: be we need to be equal friends.

437
00:20:32,800 --> 00:20:34,680
Speaker 2: Like I don't care, like if if Mandy's at home

438
00:20:34,720 --> 00:20:36,680
Speaker 2: and it's going through some shit is like yo, I'm

439
00:20:36,680 --> 00:20:38,720
Speaker 2: not around and she want to and she need an

440
00:20:38,720 --> 00:20:41,600
Speaker 2: ear or some advice on some on some man shit. Girl,

441
00:20:41,640 --> 00:20:43,560
Speaker 2: call him take he can come over and talk to you, y'all.

442
00:20:43,640 --> 00:20:46,639
Speaker 2: Drink y'all, y'all talk you right whatever. I've given my

443
00:20:47,400 --> 00:20:50,679
Speaker 2: number too. You have my man's number. I think you

444
00:20:50,720 --> 00:20:52,880
Speaker 2: may have my man's number or maybe not my other

445
00:20:52,920 --> 00:20:56,360
Speaker 2: friend like yeah, I know your man has my man's number. Yeah,

446
00:20:56,359 --> 00:20:59,440
Speaker 2: because y'all surprise me for my birthday. So I think

447
00:20:59,480 --> 00:21:01,800
Speaker 2: that that's something again, but it has to do with

448
00:21:02,280 --> 00:21:05,680
Speaker 2: just individual again but also not personalizing, like I think

449
00:21:05,720 --> 00:21:08,800
Speaker 2: it's incredible that you you didn't see that moment as

450
00:21:08,840 --> 00:21:10,320
Speaker 2: a moment for you to be like, well, damn, bitch,

451
00:21:10,359 --> 00:21:10,960
Speaker 2: you know who I am.

452
00:21:11,000 --> 00:21:14,120
Speaker 3: But there was a time not very long ago where

453
00:21:14,160 --> 00:21:18,080
Speaker 3: I was like, I've known these are people. This is

454
00:21:18,119 --> 00:21:21,359
Speaker 3: those like I've known you for twenty years. Oh wow, Like, bitch,

455
00:21:21,359 --> 00:21:24,280
Speaker 3: I've been naked right, you know? And like, but I

456
00:21:24,320 --> 00:21:28,840
Speaker 3: have to and podcasting has helped me because I'm a

457
00:21:28,840 --> 00:21:32,399
Speaker 3: fucking cancer and I take shit personally, and but I

458
00:21:32,960 --> 00:21:36,200
Speaker 3: it's not personal, that's your preference. Cool, you can't come

459
00:21:36,200 --> 00:21:39,040
Speaker 3: to the pool party because I'm gonna be topless.

460
00:21:38,600 --> 00:21:40,200
Speaker 2: My titty is gonna be out. Is there nothing that

461
00:21:40,240 --> 00:21:44,320
Speaker 2: you've had to deal with it all Erica naked? I'm

462
00:21:44,320 --> 00:21:48,720
Speaker 2: not that because first off, y'all find me both topless,

463
00:21:48,960 --> 00:21:50,919
Speaker 2: So I know that you're as well as much of

464
00:21:50,920 --> 00:21:54,800
Speaker 2: a newist. But even just with friends or bringing friends

465
00:21:54,840 --> 00:21:57,880
Speaker 2: around your man or I'm sexually liberated. You have a

466
00:21:57,920 --> 00:22:01,159
Speaker 2: super sexually liberated best friend in cole, Like, what has

467
00:22:01,200 --> 00:22:04,240
Speaker 2: been your experience with being friends with someone who's sexually liberating,

468
00:22:04,240 --> 00:22:06,680
Speaker 2: because like Bridget just shared that, but what does that experience?

469
00:22:07,400 --> 00:22:10,080
Speaker 1: I can see both sides, like I can see I

470
00:22:10,080 --> 00:22:13,040
Speaker 1: can understand why, you know. I fully I don't care

471
00:22:13,080 --> 00:22:15,200
Speaker 1: Tamila's naked around whoever she wants to be naked around.

472
00:22:16,359 --> 00:22:18,720
Speaker 1: But I also see like other people's like because a

473
00:22:18,760 --> 00:22:20,520
Speaker 1: lot of times the argument is, well, if your man's

474
00:22:20,520 --> 00:22:23,080
Speaker 1: a creep, like, that's not my problem. But also I'm like, okay,

475
00:22:23,160 --> 00:22:24,600
Speaker 1: but men are just men too, like you know what

476
00:22:24,680 --> 00:22:26,160
Speaker 1: I mean, they can't even help it.

477
00:22:26,280 --> 00:22:28,880
Speaker 2: But also, but I also think there's a difference between

478
00:22:29,000 --> 00:22:32,640
Speaker 2: being being open and being liberated and being overtly sexual.

479
00:22:33,200 --> 00:22:35,440
Speaker 2: It's very different. The energy is very different.

480
00:22:35,160 --> 00:22:39,560
Speaker 3: If you're being a sneaky whore's And actually, I don't

481
00:22:39,560 --> 00:22:41,560
Speaker 3: even associate with bitches like that if I think by

482
00:22:41,560 --> 00:22:43,360
Speaker 3: any means, I'm gonna walk out the room if you're

483
00:22:43,400 --> 00:22:45,000
Speaker 3: nude or not nude, and you're gonna be on some

484
00:22:45,119 --> 00:22:46,680
Speaker 3: like if I don't know you, never trust you enough

485
00:22:46,680 --> 00:22:48,200
Speaker 3: that I think you may be on some weird shit,

486
00:22:48,320 --> 00:22:50,479
Speaker 3: because let's face it, bitches will be your friend and

487
00:22:50,520 --> 00:22:52,840
Speaker 3: be fully clothed and then they'll be like, that's not

488
00:22:52,880 --> 00:22:55,600
Speaker 3: your friends and we'll see it in that way. And

489
00:22:55,640 --> 00:22:57,919
Speaker 3: that's what I don't funk with. So my that is

490
00:22:57,920 --> 00:22:59,960
Speaker 3: my thing. Well, let me show up, show, show you show,

491
00:23:00,080 --> 00:23:02,600
Speaker 3: let's all be who we are and if somebody needs

492
00:23:02,600 --> 00:23:05,040
Speaker 3: to get X the funk out, is you right, because

493
00:23:05,040 --> 00:23:07,960
Speaker 3: I don't fuck with that anyway. Enough about my titties

494
00:23:10,000 --> 00:23:11,200
Speaker 3: and showing up as we are.

495
00:23:11,400 --> 00:23:14,080
Speaker 1: I commend you for, you know, having a different reaction

496
00:23:14,160 --> 00:23:15,080
Speaker 1: and being thoughtful and.

497
00:23:15,359 --> 00:23:17,159
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that's really that's very big of you.

498
00:23:17,240 --> 00:23:17,800
Speaker 2: That's very big.

499
00:23:17,920 --> 00:23:19,080
Speaker 3: I thought I was a little dry and I was like,

500
00:23:19,119 --> 00:23:21,440
Speaker 3: I'm sorry. So then I text her after and said,

501
00:23:21,480 --> 00:23:25,760
Speaker 3: I am really sorry. I wasn't thinking. Let me double down. Yeah,

502
00:23:26,160 --> 00:23:28,920
Speaker 3: let me just reiterate. So she talked shit doesn't get

503
00:23:28,920 --> 00:23:32,159
Speaker 3: talked right, like, yeah, she always be doing.

504
00:23:32,000 --> 00:23:33,080
Speaker 1: That talking here.

505
00:23:33,359 --> 00:23:34,480
Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah.

506
00:23:34,560 --> 00:23:36,639
Speaker 3: I also have a fear and probably because I'm like

507
00:23:37,400 --> 00:23:39,560
Speaker 3: people please her and I have like I did have

508
00:23:39,680 --> 00:23:42,560
Speaker 3: had taken things personally, I do have a fear of

509
00:23:42,600 --> 00:23:44,679
Speaker 3: my friends talking behind my back. I'm was like, are

510
00:23:44,720 --> 00:23:46,959
Speaker 3: you talking about me? I don't know what that is,

511
00:23:47,080 --> 00:23:50,359
Speaker 3: but I have noticed, like in my inner thoughts, I

512
00:23:50,760 --> 00:23:53,520
Speaker 3: have these like thoughts, you know that I like.

513
00:23:53,520 --> 00:23:56,480
Speaker 1: Fully acknowledge and accept that my friends talked about me. No,

514
00:23:56,680 --> 00:23:59,520
Speaker 1: I know when my friends talks, I do mean like shit,

515
00:23:59,640 --> 00:24:02,800
Speaker 1: but like people always have opinions like and say things

516
00:24:02,840 --> 00:24:05,160
Speaker 1: I think. I don't mean it in a negative way.

517
00:24:05,240 --> 00:24:06,520
Speaker 3: No, that's I talk to you.

518
00:24:06,680 --> 00:24:08,920
Speaker 2: I know that it makes me sad. It sounds sad.

519
00:24:08,960 --> 00:24:10,479
Speaker 1: I know that. I know. I know that sounds negative.

520
00:24:10,480 --> 00:24:12,679
Speaker 1: But I think that, like, it's unrealistic for me to

521
00:24:12,720 --> 00:24:14,720
Speaker 1: think that even when me and my friend have a disagreement,

522
00:24:14,760 --> 00:24:16,680
Speaker 1: that that my friend isn't going to go say something

523
00:24:16,680 --> 00:24:18,919
Speaker 1: to somebody else, you know what I mean, express themselves

524
00:24:18,960 --> 00:24:20,920
Speaker 1: in that moment and might be upset and might say

525
00:24:20,920 --> 00:24:23,480
Speaker 1: some ship that they might not really feel, but they're

526
00:24:23,480 --> 00:24:23,960
Speaker 1: going to say it.

527
00:24:24,240 --> 00:24:27,439
Speaker 3: I think I know that's not her negative. I know

528
00:24:27,480 --> 00:24:29,359
Speaker 3: I'm not gonna say nothing, not for now because she didn't.

529
00:24:29,520 --> 00:24:31,480
Speaker 3: But when she break up for him, I'm gonna tell

530
00:24:31,520 --> 00:24:32,560
Speaker 3: her this is not her name.

531
00:24:32,600 --> 00:24:34,600
Speaker 1: And I please wish friends. Hello, if you're listening high

532
00:24:34,880 --> 00:24:37,040
Speaker 1: that looking though my feet right here, look at this.

533
00:24:38,280 --> 00:24:40,560
Speaker 2: I told you all podcast.

534
00:24:41,480 --> 00:24:42,840
Speaker 1: They're dirty, is what I'm saying.

535
00:24:43,480 --> 00:24:46,359
Speaker 2: Do you know that's the thing too. It's like guys

536
00:24:46,560 --> 00:24:47,439
Speaker 2: like dirty so.

537
00:24:48,040 --> 00:24:52,240
Speaker 1: They're hippy, they're hippie fee It's not only fans intro.

538
00:24:53,800 --> 00:24:57,880
Speaker 1: I was just saying, I think that it's I think

539
00:24:57,880 --> 00:25:02,240
Speaker 1: it's human of us to feel express ourselves, and it's

540
00:25:02,240 --> 00:25:04,440
Speaker 1: not so much maybe shit talking isn't the right word,

541
00:25:04,520 --> 00:25:09,240
Speaker 1: but have opinions and expressions about interactions that we've had

542
00:25:09,520 --> 00:25:11,760
Speaker 1: or in the state of our relationship at that time.

543
00:25:12,119 --> 00:25:13,000
Speaker 1: I'm okay with that.

544
00:25:13,359 --> 00:25:15,240
Speaker 3: Actually, only I'm okay with it if you talk to

545
00:25:15,240 --> 00:25:15,800
Speaker 3: me about it to me.

546
00:25:15,880 --> 00:25:18,280
Speaker 2: I was about to say, if you will say it

547
00:25:18,320 --> 00:25:20,600
Speaker 2: to me to me though, like, and that's where I

548
00:25:20,720 --> 00:25:23,880
Speaker 2: find it odd with like I blend my friend.

549
00:25:23,920 --> 00:25:25,720
Speaker 1: I don't think that's realistic. Yeah, but I blend my

550
00:25:25,760 --> 00:25:27,400
Speaker 1: friends a lot. I don't think it's realistic for everyone

551
00:25:27,440 --> 00:25:27,840
Speaker 1: all the time.

552
00:25:28,000 --> 00:25:31,679
Speaker 2: But but to me, if there's this issue, don't I

553
00:25:31,720 --> 00:25:34,080
Speaker 2: am a front thief. I am a front thief. But

554
00:25:34,160 --> 00:25:37,000
Speaker 2: also if there's an issue, I would rather bring it

555
00:25:37,000 --> 00:25:40,119
Speaker 2: to me. Then of course you wouldn't bring these in

556
00:25:40,160 --> 00:25:43,320
Speaker 2: a perfect world issue like let's all talk it out,

557
00:25:43,440 --> 00:25:45,600
Speaker 2: like I mean, even if we have to get super

558
00:25:45,680 --> 00:25:47,400
Speaker 2: Dunk to do it. So where now you can bring

559
00:25:47,400 --> 00:25:50,200
Speaker 2: it up because the person's there, whatever the case may be.

560
00:25:50,200 --> 00:25:52,920
Speaker 1: But but the talking out might happen the ship talking

561
00:25:52,960 --> 00:25:55,080
Speaker 1: might happen before the talking out. I'm just saying, like,

562
00:25:55,359 --> 00:25:58,880
Speaker 1: sometimes there's like it needs to be like I think,

563
00:25:58,920 --> 00:26:01,440
Speaker 1: do you think that don't say the feminine happens? And

564
00:26:01,480 --> 00:26:03,399
Speaker 1: I don't think that that person is not my friend

565
00:26:03,560 --> 00:26:06,800
Speaker 1: because of that. That's what I'm getting at is that,

566
00:26:06,880 --> 00:26:09,920
Speaker 1: like I realize that people are imperfect, they don't make

567
00:26:09,960 --> 00:26:12,399
Speaker 1: the right choices every single time, and that they have

568
00:26:12,440 --> 00:26:14,520
Speaker 1: to get shipped off sometimes. Do you know what I mean?

569
00:26:14,640 --> 00:26:16,400
Speaker 1: Like I've had to get shut off to like, Yo,

570
00:26:16,720 --> 00:26:17,879
Speaker 1: this bitch is acting crazy?

571
00:26:17,920 --> 00:26:20,080
Speaker 3: What the what does through?

572
00:26:20,960 --> 00:26:23,280
Speaker 1: And now I'll be like, girl, what are you going through?

573
00:26:23,840 --> 00:26:24,560
Speaker 1: Like are you okay?

574
00:26:24,800 --> 00:26:27,000
Speaker 2: I think yeah, I think we're qualified. Ship talking is

575
00:26:27,040 --> 00:26:30,440
Speaker 2: having a different energy in person talk that ship than

576
00:26:30,640 --> 00:26:32,720
Speaker 2: than what you said behind you know what I'm saying.

577
00:26:32,720 --> 00:26:35,280
Speaker 2: And then i'd have been watching The Real Housewife yea,

578
00:26:35,520 --> 00:26:37,400
Speaker 2: and the way them bitches be talking about a bitch

579
00:26:37,440 --> 00:26:39,000
Speaker 2: and then when that person gets in front of me,

580
00:26:41,119 --> 00:26:45,440
Speaker 2: different being being a concerned friend. I believe that's she's

581
00:26:45,480 --> 00:26:48,400
Speaker 2: bugging out, she's tripping, she's sucking up. That's different than

582
00:26:48,400 --> 00:26:50,720
Speaker 2: being like, man, that girl is fuck her, she's trash,

583
00:26:50,760 --> 00:26:54,920
Speaker 2: she's It's never that I don't think hopefully, No, I

584
00:26:55,480 --> 00:26:57,639
Speaker 2: know I know my best friend and I know and

585
00:26:57,680 --> 00:26:59,600
Speaker 2: I know she does it because we both do it

586
00:26:59,600 --> 00:27:01,639
Speaker 2: with each about other ship and other people in our

587
00:27:01,680 --> 00:27:04,159
Speaker 2: lives where we get upset and event and we're frustrated.

588
00:27:04,600 --> 00:27:06,679
Speaker 2: I know what the tone of that conversation is. But

589
00:27:06,720 --> 00:27:08,679
Speaker 2: I also know I know her heart, so I know

590
00:27:08,720 --> 00:27:12,520
Speaker 2: that there have been conversations too where she's probably talked

591
00:27:12,520 --> 00:27:14,440
Speaker 2: to and I know she has because it's come up later,

592
00:27:15,119 --> 00:27:17,200
Speaker 2: Like you said, years, like a year or so later,

593
00:27:17,520 --> 00:27:19,680
Speaker 2: something will come up, something will surface, and I'll be like, oh,

594
00:27:19,680 --> 00:27:21,000
Speaker 2: so you did feel a way about that.

595
00:27:21,280 --> 00:27:22,840
Speaker 3: Right, and and you know what, I think we get

596
00:27:22,880 --> 00:27:26,760
Speaker 3: better with that at age, true, because like I'm like

597
00:27:26,800 --> 00:27:29,159
Speaker 3: I just said, like I've been better with it with age.

598
00:27:29,240 --> 00:27:31,360
Speaker 2: But I also think that in those moments sometimes when

599
00:27:31,359 --> 00:27:34,160
Speaker 2: shit has pissed me off and I won't say something necessarily,

600
00:27:34,640 --> 00:27:37,840
Speaker 2: it's not because I'm trying to hold it against you.

601
00:27:37,920 --> 00:27:39,840
Speaker 2: It's either a because I want to I want to

602
00:27:39,880 --> 00:27:41,800
Speaker 2: process it first and make sure that that's really how

603
00:27:41,800 --> 00:27:44,000
Speaker 2: I feel about it, because emotions come in waves.

604
00:27:44,000 --> 00:27:44,199
Speaker 3: For me.

605
00:27:44,280 --> 00:27:47,320
Speaker 2: I'm a I'm minary, so everything is on fire immediately.

606
00:27:47,320 --> 00:27:51,440
Speaker 2: It's just it's instantly keep excusing your toxic traits on you,

607
00:27:51,440 --> 00:27:53,640
Speaker 2: No it's not it's not it's not excusing, it's makes

608
00:27:53,720 --> 00:27:57,400
Speaker 2: chance to never do I say, well, do this because

609
00:27:57,440 --> 00:27:59,280
Speaker 2: I'm a Libra like No, but I can. I can

610
00:27:59,359 --> 00:28:03,480
Speaker 2: say you're a person, your experiences have shaped you. Maybe

611
00:28:03,520 --> 00:28:06,480
Speaker 2: your parents tendency, but not all of your But they

612
00:28:06,520 --> 00:28:07,640
Speaker 2: got to do with the fact that I was born

613
00:28:07,640 --> 00:28:10,160
Speaker 2: on October eleventh. Not all of not all of your

614
00:28:10,160 --> 00:28:12,920
Speaker 2: tendencies are circumstantial, though, And that's that's just the way

615
00:28:12,920 --> 00:28:14,800
Speaker 2: it is. Your body is made up of eighty percent water.

616
00:28:14,840 --> 00:28:17,520
Speaker 2: The reason that we have tides in the earth exactly,

617
00:28:17,520 --> 00:28:19,800
Speaker 2: and so that don't and so the fact that we

618
00:28:19,840 --> 00:28:22,720
Speaker 2: have tides, the fact that we have moon cycles, the

619
00:28:22,760 --> 00:28:25,720
Speaker 2: fact that our bodies have menstrual cycles, it's all in alignment.

620
00:28:25,880 --> 00:28:28,000
Speaker 1: So I yes, I disagree with you many.

621
00:28:28,359 --> 00:28:33,679
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's she don't. She don't believe in science, Crystal

622
00:28:33,720 --> 00:28:35,720
Speaker 2: and you and this bit just made me do territ cards.

623
00:28:35,840 --> 00:28:37,920
Speaker 2: Now you feel like I need to talk Rose Courts

624
00:28:37,920 --> 00:28:39,200
Speaker 2: And I mean, I.

625
00:28:39,160 --> 00:28:43,520
Speaker 3: Mean, have the mystics, yes, oh God, and this motherfucking

626
00:28:43,960 --> 00:28:46,080
Speaker 3: fake religious skeptic.

627
00:28:48,320 --> 00:28:49,880
Speaker 1: You just literally right before it was like I just

628
00:28:49,920 --> 00:28:51,120
Speaker 1: about a dream catcher in my room.

629
00:28:51,160 --> 00:28:54,040
Speaker 2: I said, well, what the dreamt that the theme of

630
00:28:54,080 --> 00:28:56,240
Speaker 2: my room is is Bohemian chic. Well, since what do

631
00:28:56,240 --> 00:28:57,120
Speaker 2: you think the bohemians do?

632
00:28:57,440 --> 00:29:00,240
Speaker 3: Wait, did you take did you take that? I'm that

633
00:29:00,320 --> 00:29:01,720
Speaker 3: island the island graduation?

634
00:29:02,480 --> 00:29:03,280
Speaker 2: First?

635
00:29:03,680 --> 00:29:04,960
Speaker 3: Did you take that on the island and graduated?

636
00:29:05,040 --> 00:29:06,840
Speaker 1: You take down that graduation photo that I kind of

637
00:29:06,840 --> 00:29:07,840
Speaker 1: put in the corner.

638
00:29:07,640 --> 00:29:09,480
Speaker 2: But now it's a nude woman. I have to send

639
00:29:09,480 --> 00:29:11,520
Speaker 2: it to you. It's now a woman being nude. I

640
00:29:11,600 --> 00:29:13,200
Speaker 2: literally just asked my men, I said, do you like

641
00:29:13,240 --> 00:29:14,600
Speaker 2: this picture better than my graduation?

642
00:29:14,760 --> 00:29:16,400
Speaker 1: I came into Mandy's room, I said, bitch, you have

643
00:29:16,440 --> 00:29:19,200
Speaker 1: this nice house apartment with this fucking big ass portrait

644
00:29:19,520 --> 00:29:20,320
Speaker 1: of myself.

645
00:29:20,520 --> 00:29:22,440
Speaker 2: I do, but you didn't say nothing about my nude

646
00:29:22,480 --> 00:29:25,080
Speaker 2: portrait that's also on my wall. You like the nude portrait,

647
00:29:25,120 --> 00:29:26,240
Speaker 2: but now my graduation we're not.

648
00:29:26,160 --> 00:29:28,160
Speaker 3: The graduation photo. It's like heard her cap and gown,

649
00:29:28,200 --> 00:29:31,000
Speaker 3: but and in the background there's black. There's first of all,

650
00:29:31,080 --> 00:29:33,880
Speaker 3: she's thirty one, and then in the background there's flowers,

651
00:29:33,960 --> 00:29:35,680
Speaker 3: like she's in Hawaii. She's like, she looks like she

652
00:29:35,720 --> 00:29:38,400
Speaker 3: graduated from the university in Tahiti.

653
00:29:38,040 --> 00:29:44,240
Speaker 2: Or so universal fuk out of here. But no, boho

654
00:29:44,440 --> 00:29:47,160
Speaker 2: chic is like the colors the palette.

655
00:29:47,200 --> 00:29:48,800
Speaker 1: It was just it was just clearly a photo from

656
00:29:48,800 --> 00:29:50,600
Speaker 1: a very long time ago that was just blowing up.

657
00:29:50,640 --> 00:29:52,560
Speaker 2: First off, it was crazy, is no bitch? I just

658
00:29:52,640 --> 00:29:54,600
Speaker 2: graduated in twenty eighteen, anyway, college.

659
00:29:54,600 --> 00:29:55,560
Speaker 1: Anyway, Read the cards.

660
00:29:55,680 --> 00:29:58,240
Speaker 3: Let's read let's do Let's read these cards. I pulled

661
00:29:58,240 --> 00:30:00,640
Speaker 3: a card, actually, bridget pulled a card. What cards that

662
00:30:01,120 --> 00:30:06,400
Speaker 3: you pulled? The upright strength and it's an aid of strength,

663
00:30:06,480 --> 00:30:07,760
Speaker 3: and it says.

664
00:30:07,480 --> 00:30:10,400
Speaker 2: Eight is my favorite number. By the way, eight is

665
00:30:10,400 --> 00:30:12,360
Speaker 2: a very symbolic significant number for me.

666
00:30:12,440 --> 00:30:16,000
Speaker 3: Interesting, my birthday is an eight. Okay, to listen to this.

667
00:30:17,440 --> 00:30:21,120
Speaker 3: The card Strength represents determination and power like the chariot. However,

668
00:30:21,160 --> 00:30:24,320
Speaker 3: while the chariot signet signifies outer strength and will, the

669
00:30:24,360 --> 00:30:26,800
Speaker 3: strength and card speaks to the inner strength and the

670
00:30:26,880 --> 00:30:30,960
Speaker 3: human spirit's ability to overcome any obstacle. Strength is about

671
00:30:31,040 --> 00:30:33,880
Speaker 3: knowing you can endure life's obstacles. You have great stamina

672
00:30:34,000 --> 00:30:37,600
Speaker 3: and persistence, balance with underlying patients and inner calm. You

673
00:30:37,680 --> 00:30:39,680
Speaker 3: are committed to what you need to do, and you

674
00:30:39,720 --> 00:30:41,960
Speaker 3: go about it in a way that shows your composure

675
00:30:42,000 --> 00:30:45,640
Speaker 3: and maturity. Wow. When the Strength cards, these very mature season.

676
00:30:45,720 --> 00:30:47,800
Speaker 3: I am this season when the strength.

677
00:30:47,560 --> 00:30:49,520
Speaker 2: Keep my composure. For the most part, when.

678
00:30:49,400 --> 00:30:52,000
Speaker 3: The strength charot card appears in a reading, you are

679
00:30:52,080 --> 00:30:55,520
Speaker 3: fueled by your inner strength, personal power, strong will, and determination.

680
00:30:55,920 --> 00:30:58,080
Speaker 3: You do not rule by trying to control others. You

681
00:30:58,200 --> 00:31:02,440
Speaker 3: quietly influence and persuade. Others may underestimate your power because

682
00:31:02,480 --> 00:31:05,880
Speaker 3: it is so invisible, but you should see that as

683
00:31:05,920 --> 00:31:10,000
Speaker 3: an advantage. You can control a situation without excessive outward force.

684
00:31:10,840 --> 00:31:14,120
Speaker 3: No one knows it's you calling the shots. It gives

685
00:31:14,120 --> 00:31:17,520
Speaker 3: you confidence to overcome any growing fears, challenges, or doubts.

686
00:31:18,160 --> 00:31:20,640
Speaker 3: And feel the fear and do it anyway.

687
00:31:20,760 --> 00:31:24,040
Speaker 2: That's one of my favorite affirmations. By the way, it's

688
00:31:24,080 --> 00:31:25,680
Speaker 2: a great book. Feel the fear and do it anyway.

689
00:31:25,840 --> 00:31:28,840
Speaker 3: Oh, feel the fear and do it anyway.

690
00:31:28,880 --> 00:31:31,880
Speaker 2: It's it's acknowledging and validating the emotion that is fear,

691
00:31:31,960 --> 00:31:35,040
Speaker 2: but it's not giving life to the paralyzation that might

692
00:31:35,080 --> 00:31:38,280
Speaker 2: come from it, or the desperation and decision making the

693
00:31:38,280 --> 00:31:39,640
Speaker 2: impulsiveness that might come from it.

694
00:31:39,680 --> 00:31:43,800
Speaker 1: Either feel the fear.

695
00:31:43,600 --> 00:31:47,680
Speaker 3: And do it anyway. It's a great one. That is

696
00:31:47,720 --> 00:31:48,280
Speaker 3: our affirmation.

697
00:31:48,960 --> 00:31:54,840
Speaker 2: What's the difference between affirmations and ZODIAX like no, because honestly,

698
00:31:55,120 --> 00:32:00,760
Speaker 2: a lot bitch, So what is this Is that because

699
00:32:00,800 --> 00:32:01,480
Speaker 2: you pulled the card?

700
00:32:01,840 --> 00:32:03,920
Speaker 3: She just yeah, we pull a card, and we usually

701
00:32:03,920 --> 00:32:05,960
Speaker 3: do both. We pull a card and we also do

702
00:32:06,040 --> 00:32:09,240
Speaker 3: an affirmation. Those are separate things. One means affirming yourself

703
00:32:09,240 --> 00:32:09,760
Speaker 3: and doing something.

704
00:32:09,800 --> 00:32:11,720
Speaker 2: So where did you just pull this out of thin air?

705
00:32:12,000 --> 00:32:14,200
Speaker 2: Is that because it's the day today? Like no, no, no,

706
00:32:15,200 --> 00:32:15,480
Speaker 2: this is.

707
00:32:15,480 --> 00:32:18,680
Speaker 3: A tarot deck and Bridget pulled this card and that

708
00:32:18,800 --> 00:32:20,840
Speaker 3: was the definition of generally, when this card comes up,

709
00:32:20,840 --> 00:32:24,200
Speaker 3: this is what it means. That's what that's the general Okay,

710
00:32:24,280 --> 00:32:25,160
Speaker 3: so generally.

711
00:32:25,440 --> 00:32:27,920
Speaker 2: Which is amazing because I literally, I literally have had

712
00:32:27,960 --> 00:32:32,640
Speaker 2: to talk myself out of my myself. What does that mean? Well,

713
00:32:32,680 --> 00:32:33,920
Speaker 2: I have to get out of my own way in

714
00:32:33,960 --> 00:32:36,080
Speaker 2: a lot of in a lot of situations and scenarios.

715
00:32:36,160 --> 00:32:37,680
Speaker 2: And one of the one of the things for me

716
00:32:37,840 --> 00:32:41,320
Speaker 2: has been exuding and exerting. I mean, we talked about

717
00:32:41,360 --> 00:32:44,640
Speaker 2: it briefly on our podcast, which was just wielding, knowing

718
00:32:44,720 --> 00:32:46,880
Speaker 2: the power that you wield and knowing how to wield it.

719
00:32:46,920 --> 00:32:49,720
Speaker 2: That was That's one of the things that whenever anybody

720
00:32:49,720 --> 00:32:51,360
Speaker 2: asks me if there's anything I wish that I would

721
00:32:51,360 --> 00:32:53,960
Speaker 2: have done differently in my career. It would have been

722
00:32:54,000 --> 00:32:56,400
Speaker 2: that your own way. Well, no, not getting out of

723
00:32:56,400 --> 00:32:59,560
Speaker 2: my own way, figuring out how to cultivate and build

724
00:32:59,560 --> 00:33:02,480
Speaker 2: my relations and wield my power because everyone has always

725
00:33:02,520 --> 00:33:05,480
Speaker 2: seen more power in me than I've seen myself. And

726
00:33:05,520 --> 00:33:07,200
Speaker 2: when I don't see it and I and I don't

727
00:33:07,280 --> 00:33:10,360
Speaker 2: recognize it immediately, I then I either changed the environment

728
00:33:10,640 --> 00:33:14,520
Speaker 2: I moved across the country, or I decide to career

729
00:33:14,520 --> 00:33:16,640
Speaker 2: pivot and shift, which doesn't necessarily mean giving up, but

730
00:33:16,680 --> 00:33:19,760
Speaker 2: I just I redirect, I detour instead, I redirect my focus.

731
00:33:19,760 --> 00:33:23,320
Speaker 2: It's just to exert my exode my energy elsewhere. Yeah,

732
00:33:23,520 --> 00:33:27,800
Speaker 2: I feel like I'm finally coming into alignment with what

733
00:33:27,800 --> 00:33:30,200
Speaker 2: what with with recognizing that I have that I have

734
00:33:30,320 --> 00:33:32,960
Speaker 2: the amount of power that everyone else sees, but also

735
00:33:33,040 --> 00:33:36,960
Speaker 2: figuring out a way to wield in a manner that

736
00:33:37,080 --> 00:33:40,240
Speaker 2: doesn't a completely scare me and paralyze me and b

737
00:33:41,160 --> 00:33:44,720
Speaker 2: doesn't you know, piss people off or intimidate others, Because

738
00:33:44,720 --> 00:33:46,400
Speaker 2: I still have some of that people pleasing in my

739
00:33:46,640 --> 00:33:48,400
Speaker 2: in my my chart as well.

740
00:33:52,080 --> 00:33:54,280
Speaker 1: So this year I've made a pact to myself that

741
00:33:54,360 --> 00:33:58,120
Speaker 1: I am completely done with aluminum based deodorance, and that's

742
00:33:58,160 --> 00:34:01,040
Speaker 1: why I'm so excited that I found Native is Bomb.

743
00:34:01,080 --> 00:34:02,840
Speaker 1: I've been using it for a few months and it

744
00:34:02,880 --> 00:34:05,600
Speaker 1: has really changed the game as far as deodorance and

745
00:34:05,680 --> 00:34:07,600
Speaker 1: natural deodorance, because sometimes you know when you try natural

746
00:34:07,600 --> 00:34:10,279
Speaker 1: deodorance and they be working for like five seconds and

747
00:34:10,280 --> 00:34:11,719
Speaker 1: then suddenly you stank again.

748
00:34:12,040 --> 00:34:14,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, I hate that, and I really try to avoid

749
00:34:14,520 --> 00:34:17,960
Speaker 3: all aluminum products for deodorance. So I've been also on

750
00:34:18,000 --> 00:34:21,400
Speaker 3: a journey of figuring it out and Native is the Bomb, and.

751
00:34:21,400 --> 00:34:24,759
Speaker 1: Their coconut and vanilla scented deodorant is amazing.

752
00:34:24,840 --> 00:34:26,719
Speaker 3: It makes you feel like you're on vacation. Just take

753
00:34:26,719 --> 00:34:28,640
Speaker 3: a whiff of your armpit and it's like you're on

754
00:34:28,680 --> 00:34:29,080
Speaker 3: the beach.

755
00:34:29,280 --> 00:34:31,240
Speaker 1: You know. They create products that are made with simple

756
00:34:31,360 --> 00:34:33,480
Speaker 1: ingredients like shade butter and coconut oil, so you can

757
00:34:33,520 --> 00:34:36,520
Speaker 1: smell great all day long. And guess what, it's time

758
00:34:36,600 --> 00:34:39,600
Speaker 1: to up your personal hydrogen routine with Native. Go to

759
00:34:39,719 --> 00:34:43,320
Speaker 1: Native doo dot com slash GNBC or use promo code

760
00:34:43,440 --> 00:34:47,200
Speaker 1: GMBC at checkout and get twenty percent off your first order.

761
00:34:47,400 --> 00:34:53,000
Speaker 3: That's Native deeo dot com slash GMBC or use promo

762
00:34:53,040 --> 00:34:56,879
Speaker 3: code GMBC at checkout for twenty percent off.

763
00:34:56,960 --> 00:35:01,200
Speaker 2: Y'all, have you ever.

764
00:35:01,000 --> 00:35:03,760
Speaker 3: Been in the market for like a fellow kinky person

765
00:35:03,960 --> 00:35:06,640
Speaker 3: or third person for your threesome, or maybe even a

766
00:35:06,680 --> 00:35:08,439
Speaker 3: couple and you don't know where to look?

767
00:35:08,640 --> 00:35:12,319
Speaker 1: Absolutely, it's really hard. Sometimes it's intimidating. You want to

768
00:35:12,360 --> 00:35:15,080
Speaker 1: try new things, you don't know where to start. Well,

769
00:35:15,080 --> 00:35:18,680
Speaker 1: that's why the Field app exists. It's an inclusive app

770
00:35:18,719 --> 00:35:22,000
Speaker 1: to all, no matter gender orientation. It's the largest dating

771
00:35:22,040 --> 00:35:25,320
Speaker 1: community of progressive humans across the globe who want to

772
00:35:25,360 --> 00:35:27,480
Speaker 1: connect with open minded people like themselves.

773
00:35:27,560 --> 00:35:31,760
Speaker 3: You can choose from categories like BDSM, kink, roleplay, threesomes.

774
00:35:31,840 --> 00:35:35,400
Speaker 3: It's just a world of kinky things and lifestyles for

775
00:35:35,440 --> 00:35:38,680
Speaker 3: you to find. And right now we have great news.

776
00:35:39,120 --> 00:35:42,720
Speaker 3: You can download the Field app for free and support

777
00:35:42,760 --> 00:35:45,719
Speaker 3: our show by going to f e e l d

778
00:35:46,080 --> 00:35:48,280
Speaker 3: dot co slash Good Moms.

779
00:35:48,360 --> 00:35:51,800
Speaker 1: That's f E e l D dot Co slash Good Moms,

780
00:35:52,239 --> 00:35:54,400
Speaker 1: or just click the link in our episode description to

781
00:35:54,440 --> 00:35:57,360
Speaker 1: get the Field app for free today.

782
00:36:00,160 --> 00:36:02,560
Speaker 3: You know that traditionally this card is represented by a

783
00:36:02,600 --> 00:36:06,360
Speaker 3: woman who is standing over a lion, and it represents

784
00:36:06,360 --> 00:36:11,520
Speaker 3: her teaming that lion and that fear and like, you know,

785
00:36:11,640 --> 00:36:15,640
Speaker 3: really holding that power, which brings us to which the

786
00:36:15,680 --> 00:36:20,120
Speaker 3: original topic for today was, I know we've gone a

787
00:36:20,160 --> 00:36:22,839
Speaker 3: lot of places, which we usually do because bitches be chatting.

788
00:36:23,800 --> 00:36:26,560
Speaker 2: Thank you for being circle because maybe and I don't.

789
00:36:26,600 --> 00:36:31,840
Speaker 2: We're like, look butterflies. And then about sushi.

790
00:36:31,400 --> 00:36:35,440
Speaker 3: And then we really wanted to talk about today was

791
00:36:35,800 --> 00:36:38,600
Speaker 3: I think we all Erica and I for sure battle

792
00:36:38,680 --> 00:36:43,359
Speaker 3: with the being alpha women and also being able to

793
00:36:43,400 --> 00:36:46,120
Speaker 3: balance it and tap into our divine feminine you know,

794
00:36:46,239 --> 00:36:49,160
Speaker 3: like I think being alpha women and showing up in

795
00:36:49,160 --> 00:36:52,479
Speaker 3: a certain way, taking up space, having power, talking shit

796
00:36:53,120 --> 00:36:57,799
Speaker 3: transparently for thousands of people to hear is not a traditional,

797
00:36:58,320 --> 00:37:00,720
Speaker 3: you know, traditional path for all women.

798
00:37:00,840 --> 00:37:01,239
Speaker 2: No, it's not.

799
00:37:01,520 --> 00:37:04,440
Speaker 3: And sometimes when it comes to dating and men, I

800
00:37:04,440 --> 00:37:09,760
Speaker 3: think it's extremely intimidating, and it's it's also difficult to balance,

801
00:37:09,840 --> 00:37:11,879
Speaker 3: like na, nigga, shut the fuck up. I'm not doing

802
00:37:11,960 --> 00:37:14,239
Speaker 3: I'm not doing that. Like I'm not get the fuck

803
00:37:14,320 --> 00:37:16,200
Speaker 3: up and do it. I worked all day and then

804
00:37:16,280 --> 00:37:17,840
Speaker 3: like a lot of men, like I need you to

805
00:37:17,880 --> 00:37:20,040
Speaker 3: be softer. I want you not to say no, listen

806
00:37:20,080 --> 00:37:23,200
Speaker 3: to my opinion, make me feel powerful, praise me, you know,

807
00:37:23,239 --> 00:37:28,200
Speaker 3: the shit niggas be talking about, you know, and it's

808
00:37:28,239 --> 00:37:30,760
Speaker 3: like should I be softer? Like should I be myndru?

809
00:37:30,840 --> 00:37:33,719
Speaker 2: I mean, there's a there's a if we talk about

810
00:37:33,760 --> 00:37:36,680
Speaker 2: debating and conversations with your partners, that's a common thing

811
00:37:36,719 --> 00:37:39,120
Speaker 2: with me and my partner, like we have a seventeen

812
00:37:39,520 --> 00:37:43,360
Speaker 2: year age gap. So but and also Muslim. So in

813
00:37:43,480 --> 00:37:46,839
Speaker 2: terms of the gender roles and the idea of what

814
00:37:46,880 --> 00:37:49,880
Speaker 2: patriarchy looks like for him is completely different from me

815
00:37:49,960 --> 00:37:52,919
Speaker 2: being a millennial and me being that modern day woman

816
00:37:53,000 --> 00:37:57,520
Speaker 2: where you don't have to be everything. As far as

817
00:37:57,800 --> 00:37:59,840
Speaker 2: the protector, I mean, I still want you to protect me,

818
00:37:59,880 --> 00:38:02,160
Speaker 2: but the provider not you. I have my own shit.

819
00:38:02,400 --> 00:38:03,880
Speaker 2: There's a lot of things that I don't have to

820
00:38:04,360 --> 00:38:07,200
Speaker 2: count on him for. And so in terms of even

821
00:38:07,239 --> 00:38:11,480
Speaker 2: the way we respond of things, I believe shit is

822
00:38:11,480 --> 00:38:13,520
Speaker 2: fifty to fifty. And that's a conversation all the time

823
00:38:13,600 --> 00:38:15,640
Speaker 2: that he says, like, Yo, why do you think everything

824
00:38:15,680 --> 00:38:17,879
Speaker 2: is fifty to fifty? It's not, And I'm like, why

825
00:38:17,880 --> 00:38:20,239
Speaker 2: the fuck is it not? Check if you gonna raise

826
00:38:20,280 --> 00:38:22,360
Speaker 2: your voice to me, my motherfuck, I'm gonna raise my

827
00:38:22,440 --> 00:38:25,880
Speaker 2: voice at you if you come in or maybe sometimes

828
00:38:25,880 --> 00:38:27,640
Speaker 2: I'll pick up the tab at dinner, or you can't

829
00:38:27,680 --> 00:38:31,000
Speaker 2: like the way. I think millennial women are specifically ones

830
00:38:31,040 --> 00:38:33,800
Speaker 2: who are entrepreneurs and have their own money. We don't,

831
00:38:34,480 --> 00:38:38,440
Speaker 2: I guess, submit to those roles all the way. But

832
00:38:38,560 --> 00:38:40,520
Speaker 2: also I think a lot of men are intimidated by that,

833
00:38:41,000 --> 00:38:44,120
Speaker 2: and so he views me checking him or holding him

834
00:38:44,120 --> 00:38:47,960
Speaker 2: as accountable as me having masculine traits instead of me

835
00:38:48,160 --> 00:38:51,160
Speaker 2: just being your partner and holding your accountable for either

836
00:38:51,239 --> 00:38:54,040
Speaker 2: your actions how you make me feel. And it's just

837
00:38:54,080 --> 00:38:56,320
Speaker 2: like I think a lot of men assume women should

838
00:38:56,360 --> 00:38:59,880
Speaker 2: just sit there and be pretty, or sit there and cook,

839
00:39:00,239 --> 00:39:03,200
Speaker 2: sit there and fuck, sit there and just be my woman,

840
00:39:03,280 --> 00:39:05,400
Speaker 2: be my arm candy. And so when we show up

841
00:39:05,520 --> 00:39:08,480
Speaker 2: is stronger than what that looks like. It becomes like

842
00:39:08,680 --> 00:39:11,920
Speaker 2: a masculine feminine thing instead of.

843
00:39:12,000 --> 00:39:13,040
Speaker 1: Just feels and balanced.

844
00:39:13,480 --> 00:39:16,479
Speaker 2: Yeah, but also not my nigga. You raise your voice

845
00:39:16,480 --> 00:39:20,000
Speaker 2: and me fuck out of here. You thought I wasn't

846
00:39:20,040 --> 00:39:23,080
Speaker 2: gonna raise my voice at you, right, Oh, it's not

847
00:39:23,120 --> 00:39:25,600
Speaker 2: a surprise. It's not surprise. I was who I was

848
00:39:25,640 --> 00:39:28,359
Speaker 2: when I got here. You knew the time. But it's

849
00:39:28,400 --> 00:39:31,239
Speaker 2: also just different because still as women were looking to

850
00:39:31,440 --> 00:39:34,920
Speaker 2: be wives, we're looking to be girlfriends, and unfortunately, what

851
00:39:34,960 --> 00:39:38,359
Speaker 2: that looks like to men is us submitting more than

852
00:39:38,400 --> 00:39:40,400
Speaker 2: I think what we're willing to do. Like we can

853
00:39:40,440 --> 00:39:42,879
Speaker 2: come at our friends and be like now we check

854
00:39:42,920 --> 00:39:45,239
Speaker 2: our friends and raise our voice at our friends lah.

855
00:39:45,719 --> 00:39:48,279
Speaker 2: And for whatever reason, when we're in these relationships with men,

856
00:39:48,880 --> 00:39:52,319
Speaker 2: we become different. We become different. It's almost like we

857
00:39:52,400 --> 00:39:54,920
Speaker 2: show up with a mask when we're in a relationship

858
00:39:55,000 --> 00:39:57,120
Speaker 2: or with a man, and who we show up to

859
00:39:57,160 --> 00:39:59,719
Speaker 2: the world. And I think that that's something that as

860
00:39:59,760 --> 00:40:03,719
Speaker 2: women we should we should probably check why why am

861
00:40:03,760 --> 00:40:06,279
Speaker 2: I different with my friends? Why am I different in

862
00:40:06,320 --> 00:40:08,759
Speaker 2: the workplace? Why am I different with my family than

863
00:40:08,800 --> 00:40:10,960
Speaker 2: who I am with a man? And I think that

864
00:40:10,960 --> 00:40:14,280
Speaker 2: that's just almost those ingrained ideas of who we're supposed

865
00:40:14,280 --> 00:40:17,640
Speaker 2: to be as wise and girlfriends and partners to men.

866
00:40:18,000 --> 00:40:21,760
Speaker 2: Who we show up to with men, for whatever reason,

867
00:40:22,000 --> 00:40:24,000
Speaker 2: is completely different than who we show up in every

868
00:40:24,000 --> 00:40:26,240
Speaker 2: other aspect of our lives. I also have to figure

869
00:40:26,239 --> 00:40:28,279
Speaker 2: that out. I also think that there's something that we

870
00:40:28,400 --> 00:40:32,279
Speaker 2: have to acknowledge that our definition as women of accountability

871
00:40:32,320 --> 00:40:36,000
Speaker 2: looks different than a man's definition of accountability. Right, And

872
00:40:36,040 --> 00:40:38,960
Speaker 2: I had that conversation with my partner about the fact

873
00:40:39,000 --> 00:40:41,480
Speaker 2: that he was raised by a single woman, and so

874
00:40:41,520 --> 00:40:46,600
Speaker 2: accountability for him was punishment. So he he processed being

875
00:40:46,640 --> 00:40:50,280
Speaker 2: accountable for being punished for being wrong, for doing something wrong,

876
00:40:50,880 --> 00:40:53,800
Speaker 2: and doing something wrong means that you are you doing

877
00:40:53,840 --> 00:40:56,640
Speaker 2: wrong means that you are wrong. And we know men

878
00:40:56,760 --> 00:40:59,239
Speaker 2: like to be men don't want to be wrong. So

879
00:40:59,440 --> 00:41:05,400
Speaker 2: it's got us to do with separating men conveniently separate

880
00:41:05,920 --> 00:41:10,120
Speaker 2: their behavior from the character they conveniently separate it. And

881
00:41:10,160 --> 00:41:12,280
Speaker 2: that's something that I think a lot of men, especially

882
00:41:12,320 --> 00:41:15,279
Speaker 2: black men who are raised in single family households, deal

883
00:41:15,360 --> 00:41:19,359
Speaker 2: with consistently because with a mother, that's what you deal with, right,

884
00:41:19,440 --> 00:41:24,040
Speaker 2: you deal with a mother with mothers of sons. Sometimes

885
00:41:24,120 --> 00:41:26,360
Speaker 2: not always, it's one of the other. It's either you

886
00:41:26,400 --> 00:41:28,560
Speaker 2: completely spoil them and they're the king of your life,

887
00:41:29,280 --> 00:41:31,480
Speaker 2: or you challenge him and you pressure him and you

888
00:41:31,480 --> 00:41:33,640
Speaker 2: put the partner expectations on him for the man that's

889
00:41:33,640 --> 00:41:37,920
Speaker 2: not present. And so with my partner in particular, it

890
00:41:38,000 --> 00:41:39,960
Speaker 2: was a little bit of both. And I think for

891
00:41:40,120 --> 00:41:44,200
Speaker 2: him processing being accountable, what holding him accountable looks like

892
00:41:44,280 --> 00:41:47,600
Speaker 2: means I'm yelling at him, I'm demeaning him. I'm belittling him,

893
00:41:47,600 --> 00:41:52,600
Speaker 2: I'm emasculating him, versus being able to concretely and practically

894
00:41:52,600 --> 00:41:56,239
Speaker 2: in the moments, separate the separate the man from the action,

895
00:41:56,400 --> 00:41:59,400
Speaker 2: Separate the man from the behavior. Me calling you to task.

896
00:41:59,520 --> 00:42:02,200
Speaker 2: Isn't me saying that you're not man enough to correct this.

897
00:42:02,760 --> 00:42:05,759
Speaker 2: It's not saying that you are that you're not good

898
00:42:05,880 --> 00:42:09,000
Speaker 2: enough in this moment. It's not It's not a character judgment.

899
00:42:09,280 --> 00:42:11,360
Speaker 2: It's not it's not a it's not a life judgment.

900
00:42:11,400 --> 00:42:15,080
Speaker 2: It's really a moment of separating the behavior, which has

901
00:42:15,120 --> 00:42:17,920
Speaker 2: been very challenging for my partner and I because I

902
00:42:17,960 --> 00:42:21,600
Speaker 2: am I am. I'm incredibly articulate, and I'm very expressive,

903
00:42:21,600 --> 00:42:27,239
Speaker 2: and I'm very straightform. So regularly my mother always says

904
00:42:27,280 --> 00:42:29,160
Speaker 2: to me, I should have been a lawyer, right, because

905
00:42:29,320 --> 00:42:32,120
Speaker 2: I am not a person that likes to mince words.

906
00:42:32,200 --> 00:42:34,080
Speaker 2: I don't like to change the base of the argument.

907
00:42:34,360 --> 00:42:37,920
Speaker 2: I'm a very confrontational person. I am but not but

908
00:42:38,080 --> 00:42:41,040
Speaker 2: not combative. I'm not interested in I'm not interested in debate.

909
00:42:41,120 --> 00:42:44,160
Speaker 2: I'm interested in resolution. So if I'm confrontational, it's because

910
00:42:45,080 --> 00:42:46,560
Speaker 2: I'm trying to get to the but also get to

911
00:42:46,640 --> 00:42:49,319
Speaker 2: the root of the issue, because sometimes we'll miss we'll

912
00:42:49,440 --> 00:42:52,840
Speaker 2: misinterpret each other over something that's not really the issue.

913
00:42:53,320 --> 00:42:55,200
Speaker 2: And it happened to me recently, and I had an

914
00:42:55,239 --> 00:42:59,160
Speaker 2: emotional breakdown and break through around something that really fucked

915
00:42:59,200 --> 00:43:01,560
Speaker 2: with me, that was really triggering, And it had less

916
00:43:01,600 --> 00:43:03,759
Speaker 2: to do with the actual circumstance of what was going

917
00:43:03,840 --> 00:43:08,640
Speaker 2: on and more to do with an underlying trauma from childhood,

918
00:43:08,760 --> 00:43:12,840
Speaker 2: around abandonment, around a lack of acknowledgment and and and

919
00:43:13,120 --> 00:43:16,680
Speaker 2: and validity in my feelings, in my existence. And it

920
00:43:16,800 --> 00:43:19,400
Speaker 2: took it took us, took me being triggered in us

921
00:43:19,560 --> 00:43:22,400
Speaker 2: arguing for me to get to that place. And oftentimes

922
00:43:22,440 --> 00:43:24,239
Speaker 2: I think women are more willing to go through that

923
00:43:24,400 --> 00:43:27,440
Speaker 2: process than men, which is why it's so quick. It's

924
00:43:27,560 --> 00:43:29,600
Speaker 2: so easy for men to be like, man, got here.

925
00:43:29,640 --> 00:43:31,960
Speaker 2: That's not what I'm not wrong, I'm not because it's

926
00:43:32,000 --> 00:43:34,799
Speaker 2: the immediate response is ego, because that's that's their sign

927
00:43:34,840 --> 00:43:36,000
Speaker 2: of defense too.

928
00:43:36,120 --> 00:43:38,160
Speaker 1: Well, that's my thing is that I think a lot

929
00:43:38,239 --> 00:43:40,080
Speaker 1: of like there's so there's a lot of a lot

930
00:43:40,160 --> 00:43:43,799
Speaker 1: of men identify as alpha men right like and more

931
00:43:43,880 --> 00:43:44,920
Speaker 1: popular to be alpha.

932
00:43:45,040 --> 00:43:48,560
Speaker 2: I feel like as a man, it's more popular to

933
00:43:48,640 --> 00:43:49,520
Speaker 2: think you're alpha.

934
00:43:51,160 --> 00:43:57,200
Speaker 1: And and but I I would also agree that there's

935
00:43:57,239 --> 00:44:01,120
Speaker 1: a lot of not alpha females that are alpha female facing,

936
00:44:01,760 --> 00:44:03,040
Speaker 1: like you know what I mean, there's a lot of

937
00:44:03,080 --> 00:44:05,160
Speaker 1: women out here that would say I'm an alpha FEMA

938
00:44:05,280 --> 00:44:06,800
Speaker 1: when really they're like, they're not.

939
00:44:07,320 --> 00:44:15,080
Speaker 2: No, I'm definitely out. I'm definitely one hundred percent alpha

940
00:44:15,120 --> 00:44:20,480
Speaker 2: facing because in my relationship, I've learned in this relationship

941
00:44:20,719 --> 00:44:23,960
Speaker 2: with this particular person and his personality type, I have

942
00:44:24,080 --> 00:44:27,480
Speaker 2: to constantly create space for him to show up differently.

943
00:44:28,280 --> 00:44:30,520
Speaker 2: I can't set the stage and I think I think

944
00:44:30,600 --> 00:44:33,040
Speaker 2: routinely in relationships, I've set the stage for him to

945
00:44:33,160 --> 00:44:36,520
Speaker 2: reaffirm my past bullshit. I mean, but not only not

946
00:44:36,600 --> 00:44:41,280
Speaker 2: only relationships. You're very alpha, and I've been so surprised

947
00:44:41,320 --> 00:44:43,319
Speaker 2: when you're alpha a lot of times you just want

948
00:44:43,360 --> 00:44:45,880
Speaker 2: to take lead on on all things you believe your

949
00:44:45,920 --> 00:44:47,680
Speaker 2: way is right, and even in terms of us doing

950
00:44:47,760 --> 00:44:50,960
Speaker 2: business over the last year and change, you've been willing

951
00:44:51,520 --> 00:44:54,680
Speaker 2: a little bit with me because you trust me to

952
00:44:54,760 --> 00:44:57,560
Speaker 2: take a backseat, in which a lot of women, as

953
00:44:57,560 --> 00:45:00,120
Speaker 2: alpha women, even if they don't know shit, they want

954
00:45:00,160 --> 00:45:03,080
Speaker 2: to combat you. Because I'm alpha, I want to take

955
00:45:03,160 --> 00:45:04,759
Speaker 2: lead and so we're just gonna who.

956
00:45:06,280 --> 00:45:08,080
Speaker 3: I don't think that's a true alpha trade. I don't.

957
00:45:08,080 --> 00:45:10,160
Speaker 3: I don't think I think being I think being a

958
00:45:10,239 --> 00:45:13,000
Speaker 3: true alpha is knowing when you can you can trust

959
00:45:13,080 --> 00:45:15,800
Speaker 3: someone else to take how to collaborate, you can collaborate, Like,

960
00:45:15,880 --> 00:45:18,680
Speaker 3: I trust you enough. I am alpha woman, as are you.

961
00:45:18,800 --> 00:45:20,840
Speaker 3: I think me and Erica both a pretty strong personality,

962
00:45:22,160 --> 00:45:24,759
Speaker 3: and we're also very close and we and we of

963
00:45:24,800 --> 00:45:27,960
Speaker 3: course we have conflicts. However, we trust each.

964
00:45:27,840 --> 00:45:31,759
Speaker 1: Other and trust so it's like, cool, you're good at that,

965
00:45:31,920 --> 00:45:33,440
Speaker 1: you can do that, Like I'm gonna let you take that.

966
00:45:33,480 --> 00:45:34,320
Speaker 1: I'm gonna let you take that.

967
00:45:34,480 --> 00:45:37,040
Speaker 3: Cool? Are you sure? Cool? We trust each other? No,

968
00:45:37,120 --> 00:45:39,440
Speaker 3: And I think it takes a real alpha to be

969
00:45:39,560 --> 00:45:42,680
Speaker 3: able to when you're a fucking boss, you have to

970
00:45:42,760 --> 00:45:44,560
Speaker 3: give away some of the power you have to You

971
00:45:44,640 --> 00:45:45,480
Speaker 3: can't do everything.

972
00:45:45,800 --> 00:45:47,719
Speaker 2: You have to know when man is in here right now,

973
00:45:47,840 --> 00:45:49,680
Speaker 2: ask her how long did it take me to even

974
00:45:49,760 --> 00:45:52,000
Speaker 2: really trust you to do some shit? I'd be like,

975
00:45:53,440 --> 00:45:56,359
Speaker 2: did you do this? Like I'm reading and I'm reading

976
00:45:56,360 --> 00:45:58,400
Speaker 2: the correspondence and I'm like I could just see me

977
00:45:58,600 --> 00:46:01,719
Speaker 2: probably cringe, Like great, it takes me a while. What

978
00:46:01,800 --> 00:46:05,960
Speaker 2: I'm doing just let me ships and it is super falsy,

979
00:46:06,120 --> 00:46:09,520
Speaker 2: But I also it took me a while to relinquish power.

980
00:46:10,000 --> 00:46:12,680
Speaker 2: It took me a while to realize that building a

981
00:46:12,800 --> 00:46:15,080
Speaker 2: team was needed. Like I was that one in school

982
00:46:15,120 --> 00:46:17,480
Speaker 2: where if there was a group project, can you just

983
00:46:17,480 --> 00:46:18,320
Speaker 2: tell me how to spell.

984
00:46:18,120 --> 00:46:18,560
Speaker 3: Your name.

985
00:46:22,640 --> 00:46:23,160
Speaker 2: Everybody?

986
00:46:23,320 --> 00:46:26,000
Speaker 1: Is that really alpha? Or is that because maybe you

987
00:46:26,120 --> 00:46:30,920
Speaker 1: felt you had to you had to be in controlled

988
00:46:30,920 --> 00:46:31,880
Speaker 1: like I don't necessarily, but.

989
00:46:32,000 --> 00:46:36,400
Speaker 2: Also not if I get an A or if I fail,

990
00:46:36,920 --> 00:46:38,560
Speaker 2: I want to know I failed because of me. I

991
00:46:38,600 --> 00:46:41,040
Speaker 2: don't want to fail because of someone else. Like so

992
00:46:41,719 --> 00:46:45,040
Speaker 2: in terms of giving someone the power as far as

993
00:46:45,800 --> 00:46:50,759
Speaker 2: determining my destiny or my grade or my outcome. Even

994
00:46:50,800 --> 00:46:54,160
Speaker 2: in terms of podcasting, oh no, let me sit here

995
00:46:54,200 --> 00:46:57,040
Speaker 2: and have the final stay on everything, which even in

996
00:46:57,160 --> 00:46:59,320
Speaker 2: terms of and it may have been just the conflict

997
00:46:59,400 --> 00:47:02,799
Speaker 2: of joining someone who didn't allow me the power I needed.

998
00:47:03,040 --> 00:47:05,400
Speaker 2: That's probably why we're independent now with our pot. There

999
00:47:05,440 --> 00:47:08,080
Speaker 2: were a lot of decisions where I was like me

1000
00:47:08,120 --> 00:47:10,520
Speaker 2: and Bridget don't get to make any decisions. This doesn't

1001
00:47:10,560 --> 00:47:12,440
Speaker 2: sit well with me because this is my baby, this

1002
00:47:12,600 --> 00:47:15,840
Speaker 2: is my show, this is our show. In terms of

1003
00:47:16,200 --> 00:47:17,920
Speaker 2: in a lot of decision making. I don't think we

1004
00:47:18,120 --> 00:47:22,120
Speaker 2: had that. And so if I don't feel like someone's

1005
00:47:22,120 --> 00:47:23,759
Speaker 2: making the right decision, and now I feel like we're

1006
00:47:23,760 --> 00:47:26,080
Speaker 2: failing because we have no say no, we have to

1007
00:47:26,120 --> 00:47:28,799
Speaker 2: find a way to step up or be collaborativele.

1008
00:47:28,239 --> 00:47:30,640
Speaker 1: You want to fail because it's on you, notiod.

1009
00:47:30,760 --> 00:47:33,160
Speaker 2: You need that control, which which I think still carries

1010
00:47:33,200 --> 00:47:36,880
Speaker 2: over into romantic relationships. I think that's that too. It works,

1011
00:47:37,000 --> 00:47:39,879
Speaker 2: and it's very advantageous for Mandy to be as free

1012
00:47:39,960 --> 00:47:43,120
Speaker 2: and liberated and open with her with her relationship with

1013
00:47:43,200 --> 00:47:46,160
Speaker 2: her partner as she is, because if not, then she's

1014
00:47:46,200 --> 00:47:50,000
Speaker 2: gonna feel stifled, and then he'll feel stifled. So it's

1015
00:47:50,080 --> 00:47:52,759
Speaker 2: it's very It's very interesting to me that even the

1016
00:47:52,800 --> 00:47:55,120
Speaker 2: alpha word gets thrown around because I say I'm alpha

1017
00:47:55,120 --> 00:47:59,720
Speaker 2: facing because I'm very submissive in my relationship. I adhere

1018
00:47:59,760 --> 00:48:02,680
Speaker 2: to my role in my the to the the conventional

1019
00:48:02,760 --> 00:48:05,000
Speaker 2: female role in my relationship. I make my man's plate.

1020
00:48:05,080 --> 00:48:07,320
Speaker 2: If we're laying down and he's like, Pepe, could you

1021
00:48:07,360 --> 00:48:08,759
Speaker 2: get me some juice, I'll get up and go get

1022
00:48:08,840 --> 00:48:09,359
Speaker 2: him some juice.

1023
00:48:09,400 --> 00:48:14,520
Speaker 3: Same but sometimes a bit is tired, listen and you know,

1024
00:48:14,640 --> 00:48:16,560
Speaker 3: and you need to understand that. Like, I'm a human too,

1025
00:48:16,600 --> 00:48:18,120
Speaker 3: and I'm for the ninety percent of the time I'm

1026
00:48:18,120 --> 00:48:20,279
Speaker 3: gonna be I'm gonna submit, like I like to cook,

1027
00:48:20,320 --> 00:48:22,239
Speaker 3: I like to rub a foot. I'm gonna do all

1028
00:48:22,239 --> 00:48:24,440
Speaker 3: that very loving and very very nurturing.

1029
00:48:24,480 --> 00:48:25,200
Speaker 2: Like I can do that.

1030
00:48:25,400 --> 00:48:27,040
Speaker 3: However, I need you to be able to read the

1031
00:48:27,120 --> 00:48:30,480
Speaker 3: room and also know, like, Okay, today's this bitch, I

1032
00:48:30,560 --> 00:48:32,640
Speaker 3: need to clean up, I need to do things. Yeah,

1033
00:48:33,000 --> 00:48:33,800
Speaker 3: let me do something for you.

1034
00:48:34,160 --> 00:48:35,640
Speaker 2: I'll come home from the gym and the stage and

1035
00:48:35,719 --> 00:48:37,880
Speaker 2: Apollo is burning honey, and I feel good about it.

1036
00:48:37,960 --> 00:48:40,640
Speaker 2: I'm like great, I'm happy. I'm happy doing a pot

1037
00:48:40,719 --> 00:48:41,360
Speaker 2: with three witches.

1038
00:48:41,440 --> 00:48:43,799
Speaker 3: And this is so weird to me, Like you get

1039
00:48:43,840 --> 00:48:45,440
Speaker 3: with the times. Okay, I get your crystals.

1040
00:48:45,520 --> 00:48:47,280
Speaker 2: I didn't know we were back in Salem.

1041
00:48:49,160 --> 00:48:52,600
Speaker 1: Got her witchy shoes on. He brought the shoes, fucking

1042
00:48:52,680 --> 00:48:55,960
Speaker 1: witch shoes. You're fully invested in her bohemia.

1043
00:48:56,040 --> 00:48:58,360
Speaker 2: Gets this tapestry dress that you have on. This is

1044
00:48:58,520 --> 00:49:02,200
Speaker 2: very bohemian. It is bohemian. Is is unconventional. Well, these

1045
00:49:02,200 --> 00:49:03,160
Speaker 2: are the colors of my room.

1046
00:49:03,320 --> 00:49:06,520
Speaker 1: I've just been really reflecting on, like this idea of

1047
00:49:06,600 --> 00:49:08,400
Speaker 1: the soft woman, right, like we had this, We had

1048
00:49:08,440 --> 00:49:11,319
Speaker 1: a guest on shout out to Daphne Wayne's and.

1049
00:49:14,360 --> 00:49:17,240
Speaker 2: And oh everybody you even noticed this is new niggas

1050
00:49:18,200 --> 00:49:20,040
Speaker 2: on the podcast. Right, We're not we're not, We're not

1051
00:49:20,120 --> 00:49:20,880
Speaker 2: putting all the persons.

1052
00:49:27,200 --> 00:49:31,440
Speaker 1: And she is a big proponent of women being softer

1053
00:49:31,719 --> 00:49:34,560
Speaker 1: of them, like of them, you know, I don't I don't,

1054
00:49:34,640 --> 00:49:38,040
Speaker 1: for lack of a better word, being like subservient to

1055
00:49:38,120 --> 00:49:42,719
Speaker 1: their men. Like she is a career mother and wife.

1056
00:49:42,800 --> 00:49:44,720
Speaker 1: That is what she wanted to be forever.

1057
00:49:44,880 --> 00:49:45,320
Speaker 2: That is it.

1058
00:49:45,760 --> 00:49:47,879
Speaker 1: And that's not it because that's a whole last job.

1059
00:49:48,000 --> 00:49:48,399
Speaker 2: That's a lot.

1060
00:49:48,480 --> 00:49:50,360
Speaker 1: But for some women that are like because in this

1061
00:49:50,640 --> 00:49:52,920
Speaker 1: modern day society, the modern woman is supposed to have

1062
00:49:53,320 --> 00:49:56,360
Speaker 1: starting businesses, entrepreneur. She's gonna do this, She's gonna like

1063
00:49:56,880 --> 00:49:58,480
Speaker 1: get to have the baby and get straight to work,

1064
00:49:58,560 --> 00:50:00,640
Speaker 1: like Beyonce said, like you know what I'm saying, Like,

1065
00:50:00,760 --> 00:50:03,560
Speaker 1: and then there's women that like I really just wanted

1066
00:50:03,600 --> 00:50:06,720
Speaker 1: to have babies and raise them and and like nurture

1067
00:50:06,760 --> 00:50:08,840
Speaker 1: my man and take care of him, and like, I

1068
00:50:08,880 --> 00:50:09,600
Speaker 1: don't I want.

1069
00:50:09,480 --> 00:50:10,520
Speaker 2: To talk softer like this.

1070
00:50:11,640 --> 00:50:12,440
Speaker 1: My best.

1071
00:50:15,560 --> 00:50:16,200
Speaker 3: Is that she wants to.

1072
00:50:16,360 --> 00:50:20,680
Speaker 1: She does, and she thinks that women are loud and well, I'm.

1073
00:50:20,520 --> 00:50:22,360
Speaker 3: Just saying, like, listen to that episode.

1074
00:50:23,080 --> 00:50:25,719
Speaker 1: Yes, she said I think that women are supposed to

1075
00:50:25,760 --> 00:50:28,360
Speaker 1: be have soft bodies and wear sun dresses, and like

1076
00:50:28,440 --> 00:50:31,800
Speaker 1: she did talk and talk gently and delicately and like

1077
00:50:32,320 --> 00:50:34,880
Speaker 1: she is, you know, advocates for the return of the

1078
00:50:34,960 --> 00:50:37,920
Speaker 1: soft woman. And so many people did not fuck with

1079
00:50:37,960 --> 00:50:41,640
Speaker 1: that episode, like they were like, I don't know.

1080
00:50:43,000 --> 00:50:47,200
Speaker 2: I the only thing I don't agree with that is

1081
00:50:47,400 --> 00:50:49,759
Speaker 2: is doing that for the sake of appeasing a man.

1082
00:50:50,160 --> 00:50:52,440
Speaker 2: That's what what I don't I don't pose. I don't

1083
00:50:52,480 --> 00:50:55,640
Speaker 2: oppose the softer side of women because I grew up

1084
00:50:55,680 --> 00:50:57,480
Speaker 2: in New York City, which is a hard place to

1085
00:50:57,520 --> 00:50:59,520
Speaker 2: grow up. It's a hard place to live, and you

1086
00:50:59,680 --> 00:51:02,320
Speaker 2: have no choice but to be rough around the edges

1087
00:51:02,400 --> 00:51:05,719
Speaker 2: in order to survive. It's a survival instinct. So for me,

1088
00:51:05,960 --> 00:51:10,000
Speaker 2: being being tough or being hard is really is a

1089
00:51:10,080 --> 00:51:12,840
Speaker 2: survival mechanism. It's has it's a it's a defense mechanism.

1090
00:51:13,000 --> 00:51:15,960
Speaker 2: It's how you figure out how to get by, which

1091
00:51:16,040 --> 00:51:19,279
Speaker 2: isn't wrong. But also to find a softer side for

1092
00:51:19,440 --> 00:51:21,360
Speaker 2: me would really be the The purpose would be to

1093
00:51:21,800 --> 00:51:24,720
Speaker 2: create balance, not to make a man feel better. About

1094
00:51:24,800 --> 00:51:25,440
Speaker 2: our partnership.

1095
00:51:25,480 --> 00:51:27,600
Speaker 3: You hit that ship on the motherfucking nose because I

1096
00:51:27,680 --> 00:51:28,279
Speaker 3: hate a bitch.

1097
00:51:29,920 --> 00:51:36,360
Speaker 2: Okay, soil.

1098
00:51:36,600 --> 00:51:39,120
Speaker 3: At a certain way out and then as soon as

1099
00:51:39,160 --> 00:51:42,239
Speaker 3: a nigga come around, this bitch is like, oh no,

1100
00:51:43,080 --> 00:51:43,320
Speaker 3: not me.

1101
00:51:44,080 --> 00:51:44,640
Speaker 2: I didn't do that.

1102
00:51:44,800 --> 00:51:46,640
Speaker 3: No, I didn't go out last night, Like, oh no,

1103
00:51:46,719 --> 00:51:49,520
Speaker 3: I didn't do that. Bitches you were he was on

1104
00:51:49,600 --> 00:51:50,000
Speaker 3: the fable.

1105
00:51:50,880 --> 00:51:52,279
Speaker 2: Yes, I don't fuck with that.

1106
00:51:52,560 --> 00:51:53,920
Speaker 3: I don't that. I don't know.

1107
00:51:54,520 --> 00:51:57,680
Speaker 2: I think we talked about it in our Patreon episode though.

1108
00:51:57,840 --> 00:52:01,960
Speaker 2: It's the wearing of a mask for women when they

1109
00:52:02,040 --> 00:52:03,800
Speaker 2: want to be chosen by a man, or receive a

1110
00:52:03,840 --> 00:52:07,080
Speaker 2: certain title, or get the attention of the opposite sex.

1111
00:52:07,440 --> 00:52:08,759
Speaker 2: You put on a mask to where you're not even

1112
00:52:08,800 --> 00:52:12,960
Speaker 2: showing up as yourself anymore. And I think that as women, unfortunately,

1113
00:52:13,480 --> 00:52:17,719
Speaker 2: especially sexually liberated ones and ones in which where our

1114
00:52:17,800 --> 00:52:22,600
Speaker 2: promiscuous lifestyles may deem us less worthy to society, it's

1115
00:52:22,760 --> 00:52:24,640
Speaker 2: like we have to put on this mask to feel

1116
00:52:24,640 --> 00:52:26,480
Speaker 2: as though this is how to show up to be chosen,

1117
00:52:26,760 --> 00:52:28,000
Speaker 2: This is how I have to show up for a

1118
00:52:28,040 --> 00:52:30,960
Speaker 2: man to accept me as a girlfriend or a wife

1119
00:52:31,320 --> 00:52:34,960
Speaker 2: or a mother. And it makes us lose ourselves, which

1120
00:52:35,000 --> 00:52:38,280
Speaker 2: is where the idea of how we even look at happiness.

1121
00:52:38,560 --> 00:52:41,319
Speaker 2: Once we get into a relationship, we're not happy. Where

1122
00:52:41,360 --> 00:52:43,800
Speaker 2: mothers were wise, we're all these things, but we realize

1123
00:52:43,840 --> 00:52:47,239
Speaker 2: we're not happy, and it's because the way your whole

1124
00:52:47,360 --> 00:52:50,560
Speaker 2: self that you enjoy just muted ourselves.

1125
00:52:50,600 --> 00:52:52,800
Speaker 1: And now we're judging bitches who we used to be,

1126
00:52:57,960 --> 00:53:00,200
Speaker 1: and we're like, oh my gosh, such a hug. Were

1127
00:53:00,239 --> 00:53:06,360
Speaker 1: sucking dick next to her two months ago, Like, no,

1128
00:53:06,600 --> 00:53:07,480
Speaker 1: it could be too much.

1129
00:53:07,920 --> 00:53:09,839
Speaker 2: It could have been too much. The way the way

1130
00:53:09,920 --> 00:53:13,719
Speaker 2: these COVID relationships right, the way the way we the

1131
00:53:13,760 --> 00:53:16,560
Speaker 2: way we switched up real fast, COVID got everybody.

1132
00:53:16,280 --> 00:53:19,440
Speaker 3: In a relationship. I do I do feel that that.

1133
00:53:19,960 --> 00:53:21,799
Speaker 3: I wait, what was I gonna say?

1134
00:53:21,800 --> 00:53:25,080
Speaker 2: I got high but you smoked your blunt?

1135
00:53:25,239 --> 00:53:27,920
Speaker 3: No wait, this is important, This is important. This is

1136
00:53:27,960 --> 00:53:31,400
Speaker 3: an important thing. Oh this was gonna say. Yes, if

1137
00:53:31,480 --> 00:53:34,000
Speaker 3: you are in a relationship with someone that you feel,

1138
00:53:34,160 --> 00:53:38,040
Speaker 3: thank you, that you feel safe to be all of

1139
00:53:38,160 --> 00:53:40,120
Speaker 3: the things that you are. If I can show up

1140
00:53:40,360 --> 00:53:44,440
Speaker 3: one hundred percent authentically myself, if it's sexual, if it's loud,

1141
00:53:44,520 --> 00:53:47,080
Speaker 3: because bitches be loud, I'm allowed, bitch, I talk a lot.

1142
00:53:47,160 --> 00:53:49,240
Speaker 3: I can't help it. I like to take out my titties.

1143
00:53:49,280 --> 00:53:51,640
Speaker 3: I can't help it. It's just in my nature. I

1144
00:53:51,719 --> 00:53:54,160
Speaker 3: don't know they do. I don't want to have to

1145
00:53:54,680 --> 00:53:56,960
Speaker 3: mute myself to be in a relationship. But if I

1146
00:53:57,719 --> 00:54:00,479
Speaker 3: find a man that's really an alpha man that's really

1147
00:54:00,600 --> 00:54:04,080
Speaker 3: secure and really fucked with me as I am, I'm

1148
00:54:04,360 --> 00:54:06,480
Speaker 3: not only am I going to submit, I'm going to

1149
00:54:06,680 --> 00:54:08,520
Speaker 3: do all of the things because I know that in

1150
00:54:08,640 --> 00:54:11,800
Speaker 3: my truest, my truest form, you love and accept me,

1151
00:54:12,360 --> 00:54:14,640
Speaker 3: and I'm going to submit to you because I trust.

1152
00:54:14,680 --> 00:54:15,239
Speaker 3: What does that admit?

1153
00:54:15,320 --> 00:54:15,879
Speaker 1: I hate this word.

1154
00:54:15,920 --> 00:54:22,760
Speaker 3: I literally waiting the language.

1155
00:54:22,800 --> 00:54:24,239
Speaker 1: I was like that.

1156
00:54:27,040 --> 00:54:28,560
Speaker 2: Because I hate it to because I think there's a

1157
00:54:28,920 --> 00:54:29,799
Speaker 2: really slavy right.

1158
00:54:29,920 --> 00:54:30,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's very slave, but.

1159
00:54:31,400 --> 00:54:34,239
Speaker 1: I know I get the intention. I just don't like

1160
00:54:34,280 --> 00:54:35,960
Speaker 1: the word. I wish there has to be another word.

1161
00:54:36,000 --> 00:54:36,640
Speaker 1: What's another word?

1162
00:54:36,760 --> 00:54:36,800
Speaker 3: Like?

1163
00:54:36,880 --> 00:54:41,000
Speaker 1: I don't know, nurture, soften, like I.

1164
00:54:41,120 --> 00:54:44,920
Speaker 2: Heard for submissive for a woman. Let me give that

1165
00:54:45,080 --> 00:54:45,520
Speaker 2: some thought.

1166
00:54:47,040 --> 00:54:47,480
Speaker 1: Soften.

1167
00:54:47,680 --> 00:54:50,640
Speaker 2: I feel like I think I think we equate submiss

1168
00:54:50,760 --> 00:54:52,560
Speaker 2: submission with minimization.

1169
00:54:53,320 --> 00:54:57,279
Speaker 1: I guess that's what it feels weak like that, and

1170
00:54:57,400 --> 00:54:58,440
Speaker 1: that's and that's my issue.

1171
00:54:58,480 --> 00:55:00,839
Speaker 2: With not my issue with the but that's but that's

1172
00:55:01,000 --> 00:55:03,120
Speaker 2: ingrained in us. That's ingrained in us. I don't think.

1173
00:55:03,160 --> 00:55:05,920
Speaker 2: I don't think that the the it's the word. Probably

1174
00:55:06,000 --> 00:55:07,879
Speaker 2: this triggering. You know how white people hate the word white.

1175
00:55:08,040 --> 00:55:10,360
Speaker 2: They hate white privilege. It's like, I'm not privileged. I

1176
00:55:10,560 --> 00:55:14,480
Speaker 2: was poor, and it's like it's the word, right, it's

1177
00:55:14,520 --> 00:55:16,920
Speaker 2: the word. I've had this conversation with my white family members,

1178
00:55:16,960 --> 00:55:20,560
Speaker 2: like let me just let's bring you down situation and rudimentary. Well, no,

1179
00:55:20,760 --> 00:55:22,919
Speaker 2: privilege and privilege. It's not even just about privilege, poor,

1180
00:55:23,000 --> 00:55:24,840
Speaker 2: we can. It's the word that bothers you. It's not

1181
00:55:24,920 --> 00:55:28,200
Speaker 2: the concept. It's the word that bothers people too. I

1182
00:55:28,239 --> 00:55:30,279
Speaker 2: think both, it's both but but but a lot of

1183
00:55:30,320 --> 00:55:32,200
Speaker 2: white people don't feel that they have privilege. A lot

1184
00:55:32,239 --> 00:55:34,680
Speaker 2: of white people still feel like they had really hard

1185
00:55:35,280 --> 00:55:38,080
Speaker 2: and they've grown up poor. They have not managed to

1186
00:55:38,200 --> 00:55:40,680
Speaker 2: pull themselves up by their bootstraps, as Americans love to

1187
00:55:40,760 --> 00:55:45,080
Speaker 2: fucking say, but don't actually do don't have straps, so

1188
00:55:45,640 --> 00:55:47,279
Speaker 2: you don't have to pull yourself you do, you have,

1189
00:55:47,960 --> 00:55:49,719
Speaker 2: your legs are short, you don't have much to pull up.

1190
00:55:50,280 --> 00:55:53,200
Speaker 2: It's not you don't got to work right. These are

1191
00:55:53,280 --> 00:55:56,520
Speaker 2: like pussy boots because they really go almost close to

1192
00:55:56,640 --> 00:55:58,920
Speaker 2: our whole. I think it's I think it's the word right.

1193
00:55:59,040 --> 00:56:01,400
Speaker 2: And so the word that the word that I reintroduced

1194
00:56:01,400 --> 00:56:03,319
Speaker 2: to my family was advantage. Let's just call it an

1195
00:56:03,320 --> 00:56:06,120
Speaker 2: advantage advantage. Let's just call it a home court advantage.

1196
00:56:06,280 --> 00:56:08,040
Speaker 2: That's all it is. Being born white gives you a

1197
00:56:08,080 --> 00:56:10,800
Speaker 2: home court advantage. It just means the chances are that

1198
00:56:10,800 --> 00:56:14,080
Speaker 2: there's no odds stacked against you, is only because of

1199
00:56:14,120 --> 00:56:15,879
Speaker 2: your race. Yeah, but this isn't even a home which

1200
00:56:15,920 --> 00:56:19,319
Speaker 2: is wild. They came here and didn't well neither neither

1201
00:56:19,480 --> 00:56:21,560
Speaker 2: neither were Neither is the home court. The players don't

1202
00:56:21,560 --> 00:56:23,840
Speaker 2: own that court. Maybe it's like.

1203
00:56:23,920 --> 00:56:26,600
Speaker 1: Tapping into another side of your femininity because I think

1204
00:56:26,640 --> 00:56:28,640
Speaker 1: there's so many facets. I mean, that's a long way

1205
00:56:28,680 --> 00:56:31,040
Speaker 1: to say it, but there's just so many facets of femininity.

1206
00:56:31,120 --> 00:56:33,680
Speaker 1: Some of it is like like says like, you know,

1207
00:56:33,880 --> 00:56:35,600
Speaker 1: like putting toothpaste on your niggas.

1208
00:56:36,320 --> 00:56:40,040
Speaker 2: I would not, No, But I don't think some women literally.

1209
00:56:39,760 --> 00:56:42,160
Speaker 1: Get joy from being able to nurture their man like that.

1210
00:56:42,200 --> 00:56:43,480
Speaker 1: I don't judge a woman that does that.

1211
00:56:43,640 --> 00:56:49,799
Speaker 2: I like ia on the toothbrush, but you can get

1212
00:56:51,600 --> 00:56:54,400
Speaker 2: maybe the word maybe when I when I think about submission,

1213
00:56:54,640 --> 00:56:57,200
Speaker 2: even as somebody that can that is alpha facing world.

1214
00:56:57,239 --> 00:56:58,880
Speaker 2: I mean, I'm an alpha in my own space, in

1215
00:56:58,960 --> 00:57:02,200
Speaker 2: my own right. But I do think most people change

1216
00:57:02,320 --> 00:57:06,520
Speaker 2: in relationships because you are combining, you are combining identities.

1217
00:57:06,719 --> 00:57:09,840
Speaker 2: Ultimately you should have your own your combining powers, so

1218
00:57:10,560 --> 00:57:13,879
Speaker 2: you should change a little bit. Certain certain certain mannerisms,

1219
00:57:13,960 --> 00:57:17,960
Speaker 2: certain relationships change. Hopefully they're hopefully hopefully it's a positive

1220
00:57:18,000 --> 00:57:20,080
Speaker 2: influence in a way that's making you want to grow,

1221
00:57:20,200 --> 00:57:23,400
Speaker 2: which is uncomfortable. It's making you be okay and accepting

1222
00:57:23,440 --> 00:57:25,720
Speaker 2: that you're going to make mistakes along the way. You're

1223
00:57:25,720 --> 00:57:27,640
Speaker 2: not you're not gonna make You're not gonna do everything

1224
00:57:27,720 --> 00:57:30,480
Speaker 2: right for yourself or for them. Maybe maybe the better

1225
00:57:30,520 --> 00:57:33,680
Speaker 2: word would be equalized. Equalized, but you want to equalize.

1226
00:57:33,840 --> 00:57:36,560
Speaker 2: They don't like that ship. Men don't think we equal,

1227
00:57:36,720 --> 00:57:39,280
Speaker 2: So that equalizing ship well, because I don't want to know,

1228
00:57:39,520 --> 00:57:42,160
Speaker 2: because if we're gonna be really honest, most women don't

1229
00:57:42,160 --> 00:57:46,040
Speaker 2: want to be equal. We don't want to hold you.

1230
00:57:46,440 --> 00:57:48,640
Speaker 2: We don't want to be means you're gonna be. We

1231
00:57:48,760 --> 00:57:51,440
Speaker 2: don't want to be equal that's bullshit. It's a force

1232
00:57:51,560 --> 00:57:53,160
Speaker 2: we don't we don't, and.

1233
00:57:53,120 --> 00:57:55,000
Speaker 3: It's a fluctuate. It needs a fluctuate.

1234
00:57:55,040 --> 00:57:59,920
Speaker 2: But I think equalizing equal, but I don't want.

1235
00:58:00,080 --> 00:58:02,360
Speaker 1: But maybe that's what I'm gonna put it on my

1236
00:58:02,440 --> 00:58:05,280
Speaker 1: dating profile, like I need a fluctuation, a fluctuating love

1237
00:58:05,600 --> 00:58:08,120
Speaker 1: like love story here, like I need to have more power,

1238
00:58:08,320 --> 00:58:10,080
Speaker 1: You need to have more power. We can come together

1239
00:58:10,120 --> 00:58:12,320
Speaker 1: and bea but it also looks but it also looks

1240
00:58:12,360 --> 00:58:15,520
Speaker 1: different for everyone. You have to customize that. You can't

1241
00:58:15,600 --> 00:58:16,520
Speaker 1: just say that you want.

1242
00:58:16,680 --> 00:58:19,320
Speaker 2: Well, women just want equal we want equal pay, we

1243
00:58:19,400 --> 00:58:22,720
Speaker 2: want equal respect, we want equal treatment. We don't want

1244
00:58:22,760 --> 00:58:26,120
Speaker 2: equal expectation. Because I'm women are different than men. You

1245
00:58:26,240 --> 00:58:28,480
Speaker 2: cannot expect me to carry all of these things in

1246
00:58:28,560 --> 00:58:32,280
Speaker 2: this room because physically, I don't biologically have the anatomy

1247
00:58:32,400 --> 00:58:34,560
Speaker 2: to do it with ease the way a man does.

1248
00:58:34,960 --> 00:58:37,240
Speaker 2: So in terms of equality, we have to be really

1249
00:58:37,400 --> 00:58:40,400
Speaker 2: specific with our words about what that looks like. That's

1250
00:58:40,400 --> 00:58:43,200
Speaker 2: why I say, also, but also you like five eight,

1251
00:58:43,280 --> 00:58:45,400
Speaker 2: if five one, y'all might be able to do the

1252
00:58:45,440 --> 00:58:53,960
Speaker 2: same ship. No, you still can't. You know, you're a

1253
00:58:54,000 --> 00:58:58,800
Speaker 2: little person, So maybe a little person, many little person four.

1254
00:58:59,320 --> 00:59:01,880
Speaker 2: Don't do this. I'm nine, I'm five to one in

1255
00:59:01,960 --> 00:59:06,120
Speaker 2: a quarter too. If you're a little person, does that? When? How?

1256
00:59:06,320 --> 00:59:07,960
Speaker 3: How even.

1257
00:59:09,160 --> 00:59:15,600
Speaker 2: Short bitches know this? But we had, we thought we

1258
00:59:15,760 --> 00:59:18,280
Speaker 2: might be on the spectrum of driving. In Florida, you

1259
00:59:18,280 --> 00:59:20,439
Speaker 2: could get a handicapped sticker and the bitch was trying

1260
00:59:20,480 --> 00:59:22,640
Speaker 2: to get that, and a bitch, could you get one

1261
00:59:23,000 --> 00:59:27,000
Speaker 2: clothes because five one in the quarter like flunched down

1262
00:59:27,040 --> 00:59:29,680
Speaker 2: four eleven? Would that would have been you get a sticker?

1263
00:59:29,960 --> 00:59:31,320
Speaker 2: Would be convenient for that handicap.

1264
00:59:32,600 --> 00:59:34,440
Speaker 3: Wait, let me say one thing about this. I think

1265
00:59:34,480 --> 00:59:38,160
Speaker 3: we also have to think about where our alpha comes from.

1266
00:59:38,240 --> 00:59:40,400
Speaker 3: I think a lot of women have to have had

1267
00:59:40,520 --> 00:59:44,520
Speaker 3: to step into their alpha power because the lack of

1268
00:59:44,920 --> 00:59:45,520
Speaker 3: male energy.

1269
00:59:45,520 --> 00:59:47,040
Speaker 2: I was about to say. A lot of us were

1270
00:59:47,600 --> 00:59:51,720
Speaker 2: raised by single parent households. So my mom worked two,

1271
00:59:52,480 --> 00:59:54,800
Speaker 2: sometimes three jobs to take care of us. We only

1272
00:59:54,880 --> 00:59:57,439
Speaker 2: answer to my mom. My dad came in and bought

1273
00:59:57,560 --> 01:00:00,720
Speaker 2: the name brand ship and sometimes made shots. But it

1274
01:00:00,880 --> 01:00:04,640
Speaker 2: was like my mom was really and so my idea

1275
01:00:04,920 --> 01:00:08,920
Speaker 2: of being a woman came from working hard, providing for

1276
01:00:08,920 --> 01:00:12,400
Speaker 2: a household, and unfortunately she also stemmed the image of

1277
01:00:12,480 --> 01:00:14,600
Speaker 2: what I don't want to be because when she had

1278
01:00:15,120 --> 01:00:19,080
Speaker 2: boyfriends that came in, you're working multiple jobs, you're coming

1279
01:00:19,160 --> 01:00:22,240
Speaker 2: home to cook, you're paying his bills sometimes. And I

1280
01:00:22,280 --> 01:00:25,320
Speaker 2: still never saw a man in terms of everyone that

1281
01:00:25,800 --> 01:00:28,320
Speaker 2: my mom dated and came in, they never showed up

1282
01:00:28,320 --> 01:00:30,560
Speaker 2: as a provider or showed up to even take any

1283
01:00:30,600 --> 01:00:33,240
Speaker 2: weight off of her. It looked like and so I've

1284
01:00:33,280 --> 01:00:35,520
Speaker 2: only seen her work so hard, and then the nigga

1285
01:00:35,520 --> 01:00:36,960
Speaker 2: still cheated, and then we had to roll around with

1286
01:00:37,000 --> 01:00:39,000
Speaker 2: pots and pants ready to beat that nigga ass because

1287
01:00:39,000 --> 01:00:40,880
Speaker 2: he was taking my MoMA car to go see another sta.

1288
01:00:41,720 --> 01:00:44,440
Speaker 1: So maybe my question is to you, if that was

1289
01:00:44,520 --> 01:00:46,360
Speaker 1: not your experience, do you think that you'd been out for.

1290
01:00:46,440 --> 01:00:48,720
Speaker 2: That's why I was dating rich niggas, because I said,

1291
01:00:49,120 --> 01:00:51,680
Speaker 2: you know what, I'd rather cry in a rose than

1292
01:00:51,720 --> 01:00:53,840
Speaker 2: a Honda. That was a real thing for me, Like,

1293
01:00:54,480 --> 01:00:55,840
Speaker 2: if a man is going to show up as a

1294
01:00:55,880 --> 01:00:58,040
Speaker 2: man and you're still gonna hurt me, I'd rather you

1295
01:00:58,160 --> 01:00:58,560
Speaker 2: show up.

1296
01:00:59,080 --> 01:01:02,240
Speaker 1: And maybe I got to that's the name of the episode, right,

1297
01:01:05,920 --> 01:01:06,560
Speaker 1: Royce and a Honda.

1298
01:01:06,680 --> 01:01:09,240
Speaker 2: But also if I don't want to cry at all,

1299
01:01:09,280 --> 01:01:10,600
Speaker 2: I don't want to cry it all, which is no,

1300
01:01:10,920 --> 01:01:12,640
Speaker 2: I don't want to cry it all should be the topic.

1301
01:01:12,920 --> 01:01:15,160
Speaker 2: I should be the of this episode. And that's a

1302
01:01:15,200 --> 01:01:16,920
Speaker 2: good Mariah Carey song. I don't want to cry. I

1303
01:01:16,960 --> 01:01:18,919
Speaker 2: don't want to cry it all. But however, in terms

1304
01:01:18,960 --> 01:01:21,880
Speaker 2: of how I viewed men, if I was going to cry,

1305
01:01:22,560 --> 01:01:25,439
Speaker 2: I would rather my exertion to the relationship be less.

1306
01:01:26,320 --> 01:01:30,400
Speaker 2: And so maybe you provided, Maybe you showed up as

1307
01:01:30,440 --> 01:01:32,960
Speaker 2: a stepdad. Maybe you showed up in a way that

1308
01:01:33,320 --> 01:01:35,280
Speaker 2: I felt protected, but in the way that my mom

1309
01:01:35,360 --> 01:01:37,320
Speaker 2: showed up. She showed up as everything as the man

1310
01:01:37,400 --> 01:01:39,600
Speaker 2: and the woman's the relationship. And then I felt like

1311
01:01:39,760 --> 01:01:42,000
Speaker 2: the men she dated showed up almost as another child

1312
01:01:42,440 --> 01:01:44,720
Speaker 2: instead of showing up as a partner. And so when

1313
01:01:44,760 --> 01:01:46,720
Speaker 2: I got into dating, I said, ain't no way. I'm

1314
01:01:46,760 --> 01:01:49,120
Speaker 2: gonna sit here and pay for bills, be a mother,

1315
01:01:49,520 --> 01:01:53,240
Speaker 2: be a provider, cook, clean, clean his drawers, and he

1316
01:01:53,320 --> 01:01:55,320
Speaker 2: still go out and cheat on me, or he still

1317
01:01:55,400 --> 01:01:58,520
Speaker 2: go out and disrespect me when I show up and

1318
01:01:58,560 --> 01:02:01,160
Speaker 2: give him my all. And so I was like, bet,

1319
01:02:01,640 --> 01:02:05,600
Speaker 2: I'd rather a man provide for me monetarily, or maybe

1320
01:02:05,640 --> 01:02:07,360
Speaker 2: I got a purse, or maybe he paid a bill

1321
01:02:07,600 --> 01:02:09,800
Speaker 2: to where those things would be. I would be able

1322
01:02:09,800 --> 01:02:10,640
Speaker 2: to make an excuse for it.

1323
01:02:10,680 --> 01:02:12,080
Speaker 1: It was the opposite. You were trying to flip. You

1324
01:02:12,120 --> 01:02:13,240
Speaker 1: flip the script I'm gonna make.

1325
01:02:13,280 --> 01:02:16,479
Speaker 2: I'm gonna make a mid thirties comment about this different

1326
01:02:16,520 --> 01:02:18,960
Speaker 2: now which I'm rich. No, I'm gonna I'm gonna make

1327
01:02:18,960 --> 01:02:22,800
Speaker 2: a mid thirties comment about that. Young women have lowered

1328
01:02:22,920 --> 01:02:25,800
Speaker 2: the fucking bar. And that's why, and a lot of

1329
01:02:25,880 --> 01:02:28,920
Speaker 2: women have a similar mentality that's one with ball players,

1330
01:02:32,400 --> 01:02:35,440
Speaker 2: because there's there's women, there's young women that that make

1331
01:02:35,720 --> 01:02:38,480
Speaker 2: that scam that don't have any expectations. They will do

1332
01:02:38,600 --> 01:02:40,520
Speaker 2: whatever they need to do with these men for these

1333
01:02:40,600 --> 01:02:43,280
Speaker 2: men just to get bills paid. That's the only expectation,

1334
01:02:43,400 --> 01:02:45,680
Speaker 2: that's the only level of provision. And there's a lot

1335
01:02:45,720 --> 01:02:47,560
Speaker 2: of broken men out here thinking that that's okay, and

1336
01:02:47,600 --> 01:02:49,600
Speaker 2: that that's enough to show up with other women who

1337
01:02:49,720 --> 01:02:52,760
Speaker 2: require more, and they don't because they don't have to.

1338
01:02:53,280 --> 01:02:53,800
Speaker 3: They don't have to.

1339
01:02:53,960 --> 01:02:56,040
Speaker 2: A man can immediately decide, which is also why, in

1340
01:02:56,160 --> 01:02:58,160
Speaker 2: my mind, why so many women end up single and

1341
01:02:58,840 --> 01:03:02,080
Speaker 2: upset is because a man doesn't have to meet those

1342
01:03:02,160 --> 01:03:04,360
Speaker 2: those standards and expectations. Because if he's not gonna if

1343
01:03:04,360 --> 01:03:05,760
Speaker 2: he's not gonna get the if he's not gonna do

1344
01:03:05,800 --> 01:03:07,200
Speaker 2: the bare minimum and get what he needs from you.

1345
01:03:07,280 --> 01:03:09,360
Speaker 2: He's gonna find he's gonna find somebody else to do

1346
01:03:09,400 --> 01:03:12,880
Speaker 2: it and accept that bullshit and do whatever. So I mean, listen,

1347
01:03:12,960 --> 01:03:15,240
Speaker 2: I don't I don't envy anyone that's in that, that's

1348
01:03:15,280 --> 01:03:17,360
Speaker 2: in their early twenties trying to figure it out and

1349
01:03:17,400 --> 01:03:20,160
Speaker 2: navigate the dating space now, because there's a lot of

1350
01:03:20,240 --> 01:03:23,160
Speaker 2: a lot of cute girls and and stupid rich bitches

1351
01:03:23,280 --> 01:03:25,760
Speaker 2: that are rich off men paying for all this other shit.

1352
01:03:25,880 --> 01:03:28,120
Speaker 3: Riach and depressed bitch because riches don't make you happy.

1353
01:03:28,280 --> 01:03:30,160
Speaker 3: A nigga who you don't like and a bunch of

1354
01:03:30,240 --> 01:03:31,600
Speaker 3: bags is not gonna make you happy.

1355
01:03:31,680 --> 01:03:33,560
Speaker 2: You'd be actually, when you're early twenties, it does. A

1356
01:03:33,600 --> 01:03:35,280
Speaker 2: lot of a lot of these. A lot of these

1357
01:03:35,320 --> 01:03:38,840
Speaker 2: girls are happy. I'm not gonna go a lot of these.

1358
01:03:38,920 --> 01:03:40,520
Speaker 2: A lot of these young twenties bitches is happy.

1359
01:03:41,160 --> 01:03:43,080
Speaker 3: But there are some older bitches who have the same mentality.

1360
01:03:43,320 --> 01:03:45,439
Speaker 2: Well because they just because they don't want anything else,

1361
01:03:45,600 --> 01:03:48,560
Speaker 2: but also because they've never seen the value in anything else.

1362
01:03:48,960 --> 01:03:52,120
Speaker 2: B they don't believe it exists or see they don't

1363
01:03:52,120 --> 01:03:54,520
Speaker 2: believe that they themselves will be able to bring the

1364
01:03:54,680 --> 01:03:56,800
Speaker 2: equal amount to the table to be able to maintain

1365
01:03:56,840 --> 01:03:59,320
Speaker 2: that level of a relationship. And I think that's something

1366
01:03:59,400 --> 01:04:02,160
Speaker 2: that's important for us as women that are now in

1367
01:04:02,280 --> 01:04:05,320
Speaker 2: our thirties to be like, hey, by the way, you

1368
01:04:05,440 --> 01:04:07,720
Speaker 2: can still be a dope ass woman and find a

1369
01:04:07,800 --> 01:04:10,240
Speaker 2: man that's going to meet you where you're at, because

1370
01:04:10,240 --> 01:04:13,080
Speaker 2: they're out there, they exist. And I feel bad because

1371
01:04:13,960 --> 01:04:15,600
Speaker 2: I think I think a lot of women have been

1372
01:04:15,640 --> 01:04:17,680
Speaker 2: hurt and scorned by a lot of broken men who

1373
01:04:17,760 --> 01:04:20,640
Speaker 2: were also raised by broken women, and the cycle has

1374
01:04:20,760 --> 01:04:23,480
Speaker 2: just continued and there haven't been enough of us. Well,

1375
01:04:23,480 --> 01:04:25,160
Speaker 2: there just hasn't been enough of us to break that

1376
01:04:25,360 --> 01:04:28,200
Speaker 2: cycle of like, look, there's nothing wrong with you as

1377
01:04:28,240 --> 01:04:30,920
Speaker 2: a woman. If you don't want to quote unquote submit

1378
01:04:31,000 --> 01:04:33,640
Speaker 2: to a man, there's nothing wrong with you. You can

1379
01:04:33,680 --> 01:04:35,400
Speaker 2: find a man that can meet you where you're where

1380
01:04:35,440 --> 01:04:38,960
Speaker 2: you're at and grow with you and encourage that softer side.

1381
01:04:39,200 --> 01:04:41,840
Speaker 2: I think for a lot of women, the alpha personality

1382
01:04:42,440 --> 01:04:44,840
Speaker 2: was a defense mechanism, but for some of us it's not.

1383
01:04:45,040 --> 01:04:46,600
Speaker 2: For some of us, it's just like nah, just as

1384
01:04:47,280 --> 01:04:49,200
Speaker 2: that's just who the fuck I am. And there's still

1385
01:04:49,240 --> 01:04:51,400
Speaker 2: gonna be men that are gonna see that and be like, oh, yeah,

1386
01:04:51,440 --> 01:04:53,360
Speaker 2: this is dope. I like this because again, like I

1387
01:04:53,400 --> 01:04:55,880
Speaker 2: said earlier in the episode, I love I love how

1388
01:04:55,920 --> 01:04:58,360
Speaker 2: strong and confident Mandy is. There's nothing that intimidates me

1389
01:04:58,400 --> 01:05:01,960
Speaker 2: about Mandy whatsoever. And her liberation and her conviction and

1390
01:05:02,000 --> 01:05:04,720
Speaker 2: who she is gives me creates the space for me

1391
01:05:04,800 --> 01:05:07,280
Speaker 2: to have freedom. She doesn't take up space. That's the

1392
01:05:07,400 --> 01:05:09,240
Speaker 2: other thing for women. We have to stop acting like

1393
01:05:09,320 --> 01:05:11,640
Speaker 2: women who are confident and are big in a room

1394
01:05:12,000 --> 01:05:16,880
Speaker 2: are taking up space. But they're taking up more space.

1395
01:05:17,360 --> 01:05:19,280
Speaker 2: There's no limit.

1396
01:05:19,360 --> 01:05:20,560
Speaker 3: They're expanding the space.

1397
01:05:21,160 --> 01:05:23,160
Speaker 2: But think about it. If you put something y'all know

1398
01:05:23,200 --> 01:05:24,760
Speaker 2: when I walk in a room, y'all gonta know who

1399
01:05:24,760 --> 01:05:27,600
Speaker 2: I am? Of course you know you take up Listen,

1400
01:05:28,000 --> 01:05:32,120
Speaker 2: you put a confident and convicted woman in a box,

1401
01:05:32,200 --> 01:05:35,160
Speaker 2: she's gonna break the box. She's gonna get more box.

1402
01:05:35,240 --> 01:05:39,800
Speaker 2: So you're creating space for you're creating more space for

1403
01:05:39,920 --> 01:05:40,400
Speaker 2: more women.

1404
01:05:41,440 --> 01:05:45,800
Speaker 3: That that's a public PSA announcement. If you are indifferent,

1405
01:05:45,960 --> 01:05:48,320
Speaker 3: if you're unsure, if you're thinking that you need to

1406
01:05:48,400 --> 01:05:50,480
Speaker 3: shrink in any way, shape or form for a nigga,

1407
01:05:50,720 --> 01:05:54,800
Speaker 3: a relationship, a baby, a or a friend that ain't

1408
01:05:54,800 --> 01:05:56,479
Speaker 3: your friend, that an't your nigga, that ain't your space.

1409
01:05:56,560 --> 01:05:57,880
Speaker 3: You needs to be who you are and that is

1410
01:05:57,960 --> 01:06:01,560
Speaker 3: the only way to manage us and cultivate more power

1411
01:06:01,680 --> 01:06:04,600
Speaker 3: and better relationships and peace. So you ain't crying in

1412
01:06:04,720 --> 01:06:06,920
Speaker 3: a Honda or a motherfucking Lamborghini.

1413
01:06:07,000 --> 01:06:10,680
Speaker 2: Don't cry at all. Don't cry it all. And if

1414
01:06:10,760 --> 01:06:12,720
Speaker 2: and if you around people that make you cry, friends

1415
01:06:12,760 --> 01:06:15,240
Speaker 2: are otherwise that really ain't your space. Ship.

1416
01:06:15,600 --> 01:06:18,600
Speaker 1: Man, I love you, I.

1417
01:06:21,920 --> 01:06:23,280
Speaker 3: Thank you to my alpha bitches.

1418
01:06:23,360 --> 01:06:23,800
Speaker 1: I love you.

1419
01:06:24,200 --> 01:06:26,320
Speaker 2: Oh my god, we love you. I know Many and

1420
01:06:26,360 --> 01:06:28,200
Speaker 2: I are the two, the two deep voice ass bitches

1421
01:06:28,240 --> 01:06:30,280
Speaker 2: that be around all the out and everybody just be like, well,

1422
01:06:30,320 --> 01:06:32,800
Speaker 2: we can't tell that all apart on the and I'm like, damn,

1423
01:06:32,840 --> 01:06:34,360
Speaker 2: it's hard even with a mask on. Mandy and I

1424
01:06:34,400 --> 01:06:36,040
Speaker 2: walked through the airport, people like, oh my god, I

1425
01:06:36,120 --> 01:06:40,800
Speaker 2: know you, I know the given hugs for like you

1426
01:06:41,200 --> 01:06:44,880
Speaker 2: three people. I said, yep, my friend is fame yea

1427
01:06:44,960 --> 01:06:47,720
Speaker 2: many famous. Thank you guys, not only for having us,

1428
01:06:47,840 --> 01:06:49,880
Speaker 2: but we make a joke on our pod that we're

1429
01:06:49,880 --> 01:06:53,200
Speaker 2: the aunties because we both lived a life in our twenties.

1430
01:06:54,840 --> 01:06:57,120
Speaker 2: I was like home. She was a whole rock Nation artist,

1431
01:06:58,040 --> 01:06:59,520
Speaker 2: you could just call me a rock star because rock

1432
01:06:59,560 --> 01:07:01,520
Speaker 2: Nation didn't do anything that part.

1433
01:07:02,240 --> 01:07:04,680
Speaker 1: Well, she was a rock star, I know, no longer.

1434
01:07:04,840 --> 01:07:08,400
Speaker 2: But being but being in our thirties, were able to

1435
01:07:08,560 --> 01:07:11,600
Speaker 2: look at how we navigated the space of friendship and

1436
01:07:11,720 --> 01:07:14,760
Speaker 2: relationships in our twenties compared to now. So we make

1437
01:07:14,840 --> 01:07:17,360
Speaker 2: fun and call ourselves aunties and we talk about music

1438
01:07:17,400 --> 01:07:19,800
Speaker 2: pop cultures. So, if you haven't yet tuned in to

1439
01:07:20,000 --> 01:07:23,360
Speaker 2: See the Thing Is, our episodes dropped every Tuesday wherever

1440
01:07:23,440 --> 01:07:26,360
Speaker 2: you listen to your favorite podcast, and we're also on Patreon,

1441
01:07:27,400 --> 01:07:31,320
Speaker 2: Patreon dot com, backslash, See the Thing this pot Yeah you.

1442
01:07:32,360 --> 01:07:35,000
Speaker 1: So much, lady, Thanks for sharing face with us, and

1443
01:07:35,120 --> 01:07:36,960
Speaker 1: y'all know where to find us Good Mom's Bad Choices

1444
01:07:37,000 --> 01:07:39,800
Speaker 1: on all podcast platforms. Make sure you check out Patreon.

1445
01:07:39,880 --> 01:07:42,360
Speaker 1: I actually did a little video audio. We have these,

1446
01:07:42,400 --> 01:07:44,880
Speaker 1: like many episodes we're doing on Patreon lately, and so

1447
01:07:45,120 --> 01:07:47,720
Speaker 1: I discussed my opinions about the soft woman. So go

1448
01:07:47,880 --> 01:07:50,480
Speaker 1: check that out when you can subscribe to Patreon.

1449
01:07:52,240 --> 01:07:56,760
Speaker 2: I hope you guys are my thighs are soft. We're soft.

1450
01:07:56,840 --> 01:08:00,920
Speaker 2: We are soft women, no matter total season right now.

1451
01:08:01,160 --> 01:08:03,880
Speaker 1: So mine femininity is soft and its core. I think

1452
01:08:03,960 --> 01:08:06,280
Speaker 1: that there's so many facets of it, but I think

1453
01:08:06,360 --> 01:08:09,280
Speaker 1: that like it's meant to be soft and like jiggly.

1454
01:08:09,120 --> 01:08:09,400
Speaker 2: And like.

1455
01:08:11,680 --> 01:08:12,960
Speaker 3: Meant to be strong and fierce.

1456
01:08:13,320 --> 01:08:16,559
Speaker 1: Absolutely absolutely, I think that it goes that goes without saying,

1457
01:08:16,880 --> 01:08:17,080
Speaker 1: you know.

1458
01:08:17,080 --> 01:08:21,400
Speaker 3: What I mean, so and sexual anyway, I love you,

1459
01:08:21,720 --> 01:08:22,840
Speaker 3: Love you bye guys.

1460
01:08:24,360 --> 01:08:34,200
Speaker 2: Mm hmmmmmm

1461
01:08:36,600 --> 01:08:37,160
Speaker 1: Mm hmmm