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Speaker 1: We gotta put you strawberry, all right, thank you, TV

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Speaker 1: and radio star. Okay, subject, he talks a lot of

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Speaker 1: serious advice, Steve. I've read all of your books and

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Speaker 1: I follow many of your rules, especially the no sex

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Speaker 1: it and caring man, and he's such a gentleman. He's

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Speaker 1: passed our ninety day trial period and we've started having sex.

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Speaker 1: I felt like the time was right, and so did he. Well.

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Speaker 1: The first three times we had sex, it was great

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Speaker 1: Now I'm no prude, but there was nothing sexy about

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Speaker 1: he has an unhealthy foreign obsession and it affects his

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Speaker 1: and for the most part, we have good and bad

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Speaker 1: intimate moment moments. Excuse me. I have started putting my

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Speaker 1: me crazy while we are having sex. He is often

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Speaker 1: ashamed afterwards. And Stephen Shirley, have you ever heard of

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Speaker 1: such behavior? This is damaging our sex life. Please give

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Speaker 1: I have to tell you, Yeah, who hasn't heard of

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Speaker 1: That sounds like a red flag to me because any obsession,

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Speaker 1: um like that could get out of hand. Uh. You

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Speaker 1: people get counseling and therapy and stuff for that sort

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Speaker 1: of thing. He sounds like he has way too many

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Speaker 1: freaky thoughts and words and and behavior for you. He's

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Speaker 1: I mean, you have to be somewhat compatible here, and

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Speaker 1: I don't know, I don't know. I don't know. I'm trying.

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Speaker 1: I don't know about this. One is damaging your sex life,

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Speaker 1: talk to some professionals, Steve, That's all I got. Well

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Speaker 1: You're gonna rest rest yourself. What I'm gonna rest yourself?

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Speaker 1: are you might be a turn off to you during sex. No,

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Speaker 1: all of these are for radio Sherlean, Okay, thank you, Yeah, alright,

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Speaker 1: today's strawberry letter. He talks a lot of trash in

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Speaker 1: But what happened was he didn't took it too far. Ah,

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Speaker 1: you spooky looking health spooky, that's a fishy. He'd took

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Speaker 1: Come on with your role in Martin looking at Okay,

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Speaker 1: these you're right, you could say these on radio. You're right,

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Speaker 1: on only the Yeah, fix it, fix it for radio. Ah,

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Speaker 1: Come on with your look just like your mama. Huh. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I can't rest him. I can't clean If you have

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Speaker 1: turns her off? Does turn her off? Steve pinky toe health, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I can't. I can't clean him up. So let's let's

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Speaker 1: I don't think that it's sexy. You know. You think

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Speaker 1: he used that word that's really offensive. Well, he used

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Speaker 1: rest of them too, though. Oh he got a combination. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: he come bolder. Okay, So the first three times was

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Speaker 1: just just to get you know, get it going, baby,

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Speaker 1: good lord, look at hill, Thank you. I can't believe

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Speaker 1: I'm finding him, look at here. Yeah, then he got comfort. Yea,

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Speaker 1: he got called that ain't sexy? You be black? Oh?

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Speaker 1: So have you been calling some stuff though? Yeah? I

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Speaker 1: I wish I could say that. What do you mean

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Speaker 1: be here. Wait a minute, Chris, I'll take it. I

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Speaker 1: didn't think I'm gonna get here. I'm just happy to

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Speaker 1: be here. Yeah. To make sure I get back to you,

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Speaker 1: I go down to DV chain my drivers like I

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Speaker 1: quit because I can't. You can't stop, Steve, I can't

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Speaker 1: fix my jokes for this radio. Well, she just wants

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Speaker 1: to know how should she handle it. Well, she put

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Speaker 1: too many more stupid amounts, right, you don't want to

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Speaker 1: ain't just you know, sexy, He ain't doing sexy time. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: He's too out there for her. She been ugly, spooky, spooky,

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Speaker 1: shout hair, heavy man, multi bag when she said, no

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Speaker 1: you know I like you, but Stevie's ashamed. Afterwards, George

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Speaker 1: small stiff. Yeah, no woman in her right mind would

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Speaker 1: tolerate this. He talks crazy to her, That's what she said.

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Speaker 1: There's nothing sexy about the words he used. Yeah, surely

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Speaker 1: hearphones play your favorite music. You ain't gotta hear you

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Speaker 1: can you can get in and be in your own concert,

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Speaker 1: That's what I say. So then you're not present for

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Speaker 1: to the Steve Harvey Morning Show