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Speaker 2: Lorena is on the phone today for a First Date

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Speaker 2: follow up. She's getting ghosted by a dude named Ben,

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Speaker 2: so in a few minutes we'll call him and see

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Speaker 2: if he'll tell us why he's ghosting her and maybe

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Speaker 2: get her another date. But first, Serena, how long has

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Speaker 2: it been since you heard from Ben?

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Speaker 3: It's uh, it's been about three weeks.

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Speaker 4: Have you been trying to reach out to him?

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Speaker 5: Yeah? I have been.

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Speaker 2: Was the last time I tried to reach out to him?

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Speaker 2: It was this morning?

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Speaker 4: Okay?

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Speaker 2: Okay?

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Speaker 4: And still nothing?

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Speaker 3: Guys, Yeah, you know, times are desperate. What can I say?

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Speaker 3: But you know I haven't heard I haven't heard back

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Speaker 3: from him yet.

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Speaker 2: Have you been blowing him up?

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Speaker 3: I've tried not to, but honestly, like I haven't really

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Speaker 3: been able to stop thinking about him.

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Speaker 5: For the last three weeks.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Well, it must have been a really good date

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Speaker 2: if you haven't been able to stop thinking about him

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Speaker 2: and you still want to get in contact with him.

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Speaker 3: It was I mean, it was pretty like traditional, but

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Speaker 3: I really like it because it didn't feel like the apps,

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Speaker 3: you know, like it was really nice. Like our plan

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Speaker 3: was dinner and drinks and then maybe a little mini golf.

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Speaker 4: Okay, and is that what you did?

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Speaker 3: Well, we did dinner and drinks, but we didn't quite

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Speaker 3: make it to the mini golf part.

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Speaker 5: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Probably stuff we didn't want to do in public. You know,

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Speaker 3: we definitely hooked up.

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Speaker 2: Okay, So you didn't make it to the mini golf

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Speaker 2: because you guys made it to do something else.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, gotch Were you at his place or yours?

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Speaker 2: Oh?

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Speaker 5: We were at mine?

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Speaker 4: So what happened there?

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Speaker 5: I think everything was fine.

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Speaker 3: I mean I had a great time, and you know,

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Speaker 3: I don't think it was my place. I try to

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Speaker 3: keep things pretty clean. But you know, I don't know,

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Speaker 3: he was maybe bit of a germophobe.

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Speaker 5: I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I'm just worried that maybe the hookup was bad for

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Speaker 3: him or maybe I mean, maybe he has a girlfriend.

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Speaker 5: I don't know. There's my mind has been kind of

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Speaker 5: running wild.

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Speaker 1: Did it seem like that was just kind of one

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Speaker 1: of those things like leading up to you guys going out,

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Speaker 1: that it was just kind of be maybe more of

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Speaker 1: a you know, one time deal.

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Speaker 3: I didn't get that feeling, but maybe I was reading

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Speaker 3: into it.

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Speaker 2: How did you leave things? Like? Did he stay the night?

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Speaker 2: Did he leave right after high five? Fist bomb?

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Speaker 5: I mean, I don't know. It was fine.

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Speaker 3: I mean I didn't think we left things weird, like

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Speaker 5: He left the next morning, and.

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Speaker 2: He left normal. He didn't like, you know, wake up

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Speaker 2: he didn't want to talk to you.

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Speaker 5: No, don't, I don't think so.

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Speaker 4: Did he stay by? Were you still asleep?

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Speaker 3: It all seemed very I don't know how else to

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Speaker 3: describe it. It's like we clicked so well and I

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Speaker 3: didn't get any weird feelings. And when he left he

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Speaker 3: said bye. He didn't he didn't fist bump me or anything.

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Speaker 2: And you've been trying to get ahold of him a

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Speaker 2: lot for three weeks. Has he responded to anything.

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Speaker 5: No, I haven't heard from him at all.

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Speaker 2: That's not a good sign. Okay, we'll try to figure

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Speaker 2: it out for you. Then we'll play a song, come back,

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Speaker 2: and then call him and see if he'll tell us

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Speaker 2: why he's ghosting you, and hopefully get you another date

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Speaker 2: if you still want. Okay, Okay, all right, Well play

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Speaker 2: a song, Come Back, get your first day follow up next.

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Speaker 2: Right in the middle of our first date follow up,

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Speaker 2: if you're just joining us, Serena is on the phone

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Speaker 2: and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Vince. We're

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Speaker 2: about to call him and see if we can get

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Speaker 2: him to tell us why he's ghosting her and maybe

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Speaker 2: get her another date. But first, Serena, why don't you

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Speaker 2: catch us up on your situation.

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Speaker 3: So we had a fantastic date. Everything went well, the

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Speaker 3: chemistry was amazing. We had all the pieces, emotional and

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Speaker 3: a goal. But I haven't heard from him for about

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Speaker 3: three weeks now, and.

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Speaker 2: You have no idea why he hasn't answered anything since

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Speaker 2: he left her house that morning. No, I don't know

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Speaker 2: how many times have you tried to get ahold of him?

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Speaker 2: Just like ballpark?

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Speaker 3: I mean too many times, I guess if I had

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Speaker 3: to put a number on it, you know.

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Speaker 4: Where he lost his phone for three weeks though? To

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Speaker 4: ignore somebody that much, though, I mean, if you had

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Speaker 4: a great time, you would find a way to get.

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Speaker 2: Here, Yeah, you would. All right, Well, let's see, let's

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Speaker 2: see if we get a hotel.

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Speaker 6: So you're ready for us to call him, Yeah, let's

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Speaker 6: do it okay.

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Speaker 2: Hello, Hi man, speak to Ben. Please.

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Speaker 7: This is Ben Ben.

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Speaker 2: Hey man, how are you? My name is Jewbell. I'm

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Speaker 2: calling from a radio show. It's called The Jebel Show.

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Speaker 4: Hi Ben, I'm Nina also on the show. Hi, and

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Speaker 4: I'm Victoria.

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Speaker 7: Hi. What's up? Good?

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Speaker 2: How are you?

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Speaker 7: I'm doing great? Just hanging out awesome.

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Speaker 2: Have you ever listened to the show before?

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Speaker 7: I can't say that I really have. What is just about?

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Speaker 2: No worries? We do a segment on our show it's

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Speaker 2: called the first Date follow Up. What that is is

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Speaker 2: if where you go out on a day with someone

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Speaker 2: and you end up ghosting them, they can email us

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Speaker 2: to get you on the phone and ask why you're

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Speaker 2: being ghosted. So we got an email about you from

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Speaker 2: one of our listeners. I see, okay, you have any

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Speaker 2: idea who might be trying to get a hold of

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Speaker 2: you that you've been ghosting?

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Speaker 7: Yeah? I have an idea.

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Speaker 4: Who do you think it is?

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Speaker 7: Holly? Is it Serena?

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Speaker 2: You are one hundred percent correct? Congratulations. We don't have

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Speaker 2: anything to give you for being correct, but yes, it's Serena.

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Speaker 2: She told us about your date. She said that she

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Speaker 2: thought things went really well and great actually, and said

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Speaker 2: she liked you a lot, but she's confused because you

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Speaker 2: haven't talked to her for like three weeks and she's

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Speaker 2: wondering what the reason is.

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Speaker 4: Did you lose your phone?

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Speaker 7: No, I shouldn't lose my phone. I mean the day

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Speaker 7: was really good. You know, we just had great conversation,

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Speaker 2: Okay, it sounds like a good reason to go somebody

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Speaker 8: Well, I mean, to be honest, it was the uh hands,

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Speaker 8: she has really wet hands.

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Speaker 2: She has wet hands.

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Speaker 8: Yeah, I you know, it's just a kind of a

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Speaker 8: personal pet peeve of mine and I just like, I

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Speaker 8: don't know, a little bit of a termophobe.

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Speaker 7: I like, keep eating clean and nice.

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Speaker 2: And like how wet are the hands?

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Speaker 6: Though?

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Speaker 2: Like where you would go to one?

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Speaker 7: I mean it was it was pretty moist.

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Speaker 8: I mean I remember one time she h came and

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Speaker 8: like caressed my face, and I swear to god, I

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Speaker 7: My eyes closed. Nothing against her, you know.

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Speaker 8: I guess that that's sometimes like a thing and a condition,

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Speaker 8: but I don't know, it's just not really for me.

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Speaker 8: I figured it would just be easier to say away from.

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Speaker 4: That It's like, what if it was just nerves.

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Speaker 1: It's the first time she spend time with you, so

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Speaker 1: she got nervous and maybe a little anxiety and got

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Speaker 1: sweaty palms.

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Speaker 4: That's supposed to be cute. That's a compliment. She was

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Speaker 4: so into you made her palm sweaty.

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Speaker 7: That's true.

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Speaker 8: But I don't know, it's just I guess I didn't

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Speaker 7: After that, I just couldn't get the hands out of

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Speaker 1: And you can treat that, though, But you can treat that.

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Speaker 1: You can get botox in your hands to make it stop. Well,

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Speaker 1: if you really like somebody, there's ways to get around

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Speaker 7: Well, I'm not sure we can do. I mean some

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Speaker 7: people maybe, but I don't know if we can't. She can't. Okay,

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Speaker 8: Supernatural, how much moisture was coming out of it. I

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Speaker 8: hands with people. Yes, I'm a bit of a German folk,

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Speaker 8: but I mean this was like on a whole other level, and.

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Speaker 2: You just can't. You can't overlook the sweaty palms.

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Speaker 8: Honestly, No, I mean I'm a bit of a particular guy,

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Speaker 8: and we all have our things, you know, so.

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Speaker 2: So you're not might be a sweaty palm person, you

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Speaker 2: know what I mean. It's like, hey, I'm I'm I

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Speaker 2: like but I like sweaty palms. It's not you.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, exactly.

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Speaker 2: You know, thank you for telling us. Appreciate it, and

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Speaker 2: I will let you know now though, that Serena is

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Speaker 5: Oh my gosh, Oh my god. I I'm so sorry.

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Speaker 4: I know.

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Speaker 3: I know that my hands get super sweaty, but only

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Speaker 5: I promise they're not like that all the time. I promise.

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Speaker 3: I was just I was so excited and really nervous.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, I'm sorry.

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Speaker 8: I I kind of feel bad now just not even

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Speaker 2: Well, that's an awkward conversation to have, Like I feel

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Speaker 2: like that would be a weird thing to ask somebody

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Speaker 7: You know.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I have to say, like, I totally get it,

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Speaker 3: and I mean I really like you and I thought

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Speaker 3: we had a lot of fun. I mean, you could

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Speaker 3: you could tell how much I like you. You could

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Speaker 3: feel it when I.

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Speaker 1: Touched you, how much I love It's actually really sweet.

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Speaker 8: You know, I guess I never I never was able

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Speaker 8: to take that as a compliment, but you know, to

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Speaker 8: how your horizons brought and you know, I never really

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Speaker 8: thought that, uh, sweaty Palms could be refined for me.

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Speaker 8: But you know, I really had an amazing time on

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Speaker 8: our date too.

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Speaker 7: And you know I really thought about great connection.

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Speaker 2: Look at that, Serena. You're helping change his whole outlook

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Speaker 2: on sweaty Palms. When would you like to go out

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Speaker 2: with Serena again? We'll pay for it.

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Speaker 7: Yeah I would, I would, honestly.

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Speaker 1: Another lesson here. Three weeks does not mean it's over.

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Speaker 1: You just keep calling until you get ahold of Thatson.

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Speaker 2: Congratulations, Serena.

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Speaker 3: We'll figure something out for the sweaty Palms. Maybe, I

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Speaker 3: don't know.

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Speaker 5: Maybe next time we'll just look up in the shower.

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Speaker 7: I know what. That sounds really great? All right?

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Speaker 2: Congratulations.

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Speaker 5: Jubile's first date follow up