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Speaker 2: Tanya always scrubbing in with Becca Tilly an iHeartRadio podcast.

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Speaker 3: Hello everybody, it is Monday and we are scrubbing in

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Speaker 3: of Tanya here, Mark here, Easton's here, gangs all here.

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Speaker 1: How's it going super? How are you? I'm good? How

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Speaker 1: was your weekend? Didn't talk much, let's get into it.

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Speaker 1: I would just like.

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Speaker 2: To say that I got a text from Becca at

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Speaker 2: like when was it one o'clock in the morning or

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Speaker 2: something whatever time I was on Saturday night and it

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Speaker 2: was like the title of Monday's Tanya goes into cardiac

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Speaker 2: arrest after she gets called out by Becca.

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Speaker 1: I have been drinking, so I do happen?

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Speaker 3: You don't remember, but let's get Let's maybe start from

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Speaker 3: the beginning of why I would have sent that text.

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Speaker 2: Okay, so very rarely.

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Speaker 3: Do I go out or like have any desire to

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Speaker 3: go out. But I was like, you know, we're trying

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Speaker 3: to get our mojo back. That's been the plan that

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Speaker 3: you were sick last week and couldn't go.

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Speaker 4: And last week on the show, you said, let's do something,

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Speaker 4: let's go out, Let's go get our mojo back.

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Speaker 5: That's what Tanya said.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so I had tickets to Betty Who, which it's

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Speaker 3: not like she's a huge artist or that anyone would

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Speaker 3: be like, oh my gosh, I mean I would, but

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Speaker 3: any yeah, you.

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Speaker 2: Were her number one.

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Speaker 1: I love Betty Joe.

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Speaker 2: There's nobody that loves Betty Who more than Becka.

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Speaker 3: I would have gone to her concert again that following

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Speaker 3: night if she had one.

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Speaker 1: But anyways, I was like, oh, do you want to go?

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Speaker 3: And like we can? You know, in my head, I

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Speaker 3: was like, you can get drinks and can go out

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Speaker 3: afterwards after the concert, like Tanya's in music. I thought,

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Speaker 3: worst case scenario, she could enjoy a concert.

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Speaker 1: So she's like, oh, I don't. Actually I want to

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Speaker 1: read the exact read it, so I oh, I could

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Speaker 1: read her right here.

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Speaker 2: Do you want to go to Betty Who tonight? Have

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Speaker 2: a bunch of tickets? So if you want to buye

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Speaker 2: Sophia and Paulina Mojo Ojo, Like Mojo.

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Speaker 5: What is your deal? You don't even know what she

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Speaker 5: means by that?

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Speaker 1: Like is she part of this?

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Speaker 2: When he said Mojo, I thought you were talking about

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Speaker 2: I thought you meant like melon Nikki. I thought they

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Speaker 2: meant their dog. I was like that, Becca's so whack.

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Speaker 1: Literally, Oh my.

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Speaker 2: Gosh, I said, h I said, Hi, where is this show?

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Speaker 2: I've been hibernating at night because of the cold. She said,

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Speaker 2: it's at the will Turn. But atul, I get it,

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Speaker 2: I'm forcing myself to go, I said, yeah, I mean,

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Speaker 2: I'm not really itching to see Betty who I mean.

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Speaker 2: I love and respect. I love and respect, but Koreatown

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Speaker 2: is aggressive on a Saturday night. I still stand by

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Speaker 2: this because I was way up. I already had plans

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Speaker 2: to be up in the valley for lunch.

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Speaker 3: Okay, anyways, so then I say, I said, ha ha ha,

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Speaker 3: I get it. I just wanted to invite you for

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Speaker 3: a rare night out.

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Speaker 5: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: So that was two forty five four right almost five?

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Speaker 1: Ha ha rare? I mean, I love is so much.

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Speaker 1: I don't know what. I don't either.

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Speaker 4: Okay, so you actually really good friends with back or

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Speaker 4: is this character you play on this podcast?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? Is this?

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Speaker 3: Like you're trying to act like you really want to

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Speaker 3: hang out all the time. Then I ask and You're like,

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Speaker 3: this is the problem because when you ask me to

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Speaker 3: hang out and I like, I'm like, oh, I would

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Speaker 3: rather just stay home.

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Speaker 1: I stay home.

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Speaker 3: I get on Instagram story and you're in the car

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Speaker 3: with Chris Harrison, you're at a belly dancer restaurant.

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Speaker 1: Like, Okay, squirm, that was squirm. That is not squirm.

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Speaker 2: Okay, first of all, you cannot call me squirm because

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Speaker 2: that like, I literally take that so offensively, because.

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Speaker 1: I am not the least squirmy on Friday.

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Speaker 2: I was the first of all Saturday, and I was

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Speaker 2: not squirmy in the slightest bit. I already had plans

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Speaker 2: was already done. Okay, Okay, I didn't want to go

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Speaker 2: not want to go to Koreatown to see Betty who

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Speaker 2: I did not want to get dressed.

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Speaker 5: It's just far from where you live, yes, right.

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Speaker 2: Yes, it's not just as far from where we live

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Speaker 2: back and I live, but it's also like five states

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Speaker 2: away from where I was gonna be at lunch. So

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Speaker 2: I was like even further away.

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Speaker 1: At nine pm.

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Speaker 3: So why does lunch have anything to do with n Okay, however,

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Speaker 2: However, I was still had just come from a workout,

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Speaker 2: so I had my lunch and then one of my

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Speaker 2: best friends lives out by Chris, so then I went

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Speaker 2: swung by there on my way home. We had dinner

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Speaker 2: just like normal, like I would have gone to dinner

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Speaker 2: with you in my workout clothes, and then I went home.

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Speaker 2: The belly dancer was a bit strange because that just

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Speaker 2: happened to be at the restaurant. There was like this

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Speaker 2: But needless to say, I was just having dinner with

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Speaker 5: So you're never going to go out with Becca?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think that.

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Speaker 3: I think that was my first and last time asking.

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Speaker 3: I got rejected, and then she went out with others.

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Speaker 4: I agree she went out with others. And also, how

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Speaker 4: many criteria we have to throw in here, Tony. You

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Speaker 4: have to have the entire day free, Yeah, go out with.

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Speaker 5: You at night.

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Speaker 1: It has to be pretty warm, at least.

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Speaker 4: Above sixty eight degrees outside. It has to be within

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Speaker 4: a ten mile radius of her home. Yeah, these are

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Speaker 1: It has to be music that apparently she has.

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Speaker 5: To approve of the artist involved.

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Speaker 1: If there's music, everything, I've gone with her. I just

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Speaker 1: am like, massive fans.

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Speaker 5: I'm at a loss.

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Speaker 1: Thank you you guys.

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Speaker 2: This really isn't as bad as you're making it sound.

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Speaker 3: Everyone seemed to be pretty upset with you that on

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Speaker 3: the photo I posted, they had some.

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Speaker 2: Words, Yeah, I was really funny, and I just saw

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Speaker 2: that yesterday. I was like, that was pretty funny move.

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Speaker 2: But none of this is squirm.

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Speaker 1: It's squirm.

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Speaker 2: It's not squirm. It's not squirm. I'm not squirm.

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Speaker 1: If you were like, you're typically not squirm.

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Speaker 2: No, no Saturday, No no, no, typically I'm not squirm.

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Speaker 1: It was called Squirm Saturday featuring Tanya.

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Speaker 5: Not happy Saturday Saturday.

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Speaker 1: No, that was but Betty, who was amazing.

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Speaker 2: But then that's like not the vibe.

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Speaker 1: But it wasn't even like that wasn't even to get

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Speaker 1: my mojo. Was just fun.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Yeah, so anyways, so do you want to go

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Speaker 1: No?

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Speaker 2: See now now what now? Are you punishing me?

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Speaker 3: I wouldn't be called punishment per se, I just might

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Speaker 3: you might not be the first choice for my mojo

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Speaker 3: getting I don't want to be rejected. If I get

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Speaker 5: That's a mojo killer in itself.

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Speaker 1: Okay, killed my mojo.

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Speaker 2: Okay, okay, Oh my gosh, I literally count with this.

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Speaker 2: I ask you to hang out all the time, and

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Speaker 2: I get and I had with it, and I do

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Speaker 2: it one time.

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Speaker 1: With the no, it was that you did everything else.

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Speaker 1: It wasn't the no. I understand someone wanting to stay

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I just didn't want to go to that.

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Speaker 3: You keep looking at me for help, I know, because

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Speaker 3: you said hibernating because of the cold, and then you're

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Speaker 3: out doing everything like you probably gain more like an

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Speaker 3: infection being by these belly dancers and all these strangers. Dude.

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Speaker 2: It's really funny though. When I was just walking to

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Speaker 2: I was like, man, it's cold outside. This would be

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Speaker 6: You were out, Oh like.

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Speaker 5: Okay, so we have to pay?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: No, okay, hang on. So Thursday, we're doing a girls' night.

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Speaker 2: Should we do it out?

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Speaker 1: We're saying and watching Grace. That's what the race is back.

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Speaker 5: It's a big deal.

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Speaker 1: That night, as if that wasn't the whole reason we

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Speaker 4: What are you like out of touch with reality?

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Speaker 2: It's been off for two weeks.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, no, so you thought we were just like, oh,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, oh, all right, all.

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Speaker 2: Right before, this is not nice. It's not nice. This

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Speaker 4: Last week we talked about Hannah. Yes, Hannah, send us

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Speaker 4: an email, a very nice email, and we really appreciate

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Speaker 4: all of your emails, some great ones this week that

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Speaker 4: I want to get it to in a few minutes.

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Speaker 4: But Hannah mentioned a g rated friends with benefit situation

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Speaker 4: and we all placed our bets on that. Tanya said

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Speaker 4: it's stand up kissing possibly some g Becka said stand

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Speaker 4: I have not been told. But the response is, oh,

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Speaker 4: she's I left it to her as surprise. Hanna didn't

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Speaker 4: about it, which I respect. Yeah, Erica, what is her definition?

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Speaker 4: Of a g rated friends with benefit.

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Speaker 7: Situation, so I wish it was a little more direct.

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Speaker 7: But her email says, I listened to the podcast and

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Speaker 7: was cracking up. I didn't realize it would be such

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Speaker 7: a hot debate. I have to say Amy is closest

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Speaker 7: with her laying down kissing, but Tanya is right too. Back,

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Speaker 7: I was right in the sense that we're both raised

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Speaker 7: as conservative Christian sorry, as conservative Christians, and he was

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Speaker 7: raised to treat girls right well Amy.

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Speaker 4: Like Amy probably wins, but yeah, it sounds like they

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Speaker 4: stand up and there's lying down and there's some touching.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, because my member I said, boop.

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Speaker 5: Touching you, congratulations coming through you.

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Speaker 3: Well, there's always you know, the whole term like hooking up.

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Speaker 3: There's always been different, like what is hooking up?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, there's actually a meme about it. But I don't

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Speaker 1: I don't you know, my mom listens to this. But

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Speaker 1: We have emails.

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Speaker 3: We are talking to a matchmaker, which I'm actually very

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Speaker 2: Well, they have a database. I think that's the key

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Speaker 1: I just had people like submitting their lives.

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Speaker 3: So it's almost like she has a like an app

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Speaker 1: To match you with someone that they know. Yeah. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: maybe go out with Becka to get her mojo back.

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Speaker 5: Good advice if she has that advice.

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Speaker 3: I think just like going out and like being in that,

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Speaker 4: Dropping Before you tell us about Quip, I have a

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Speaker 5: And it's not as fun.

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Speaker 5: Well, you want to practice it before Quip or just.

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Speaker 1: Let's do it with Quip. And so we got it. Okay. So,

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Speaker 3: Quip is an electric toothbrush and it is stylish.

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Speaker 1: It does its job.

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Speaker 2: It does do the job, and it does the job

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Speaker 3: Y yeah, yeah, So it vibrates let you know when

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Speaker 2: Somebody messaged me yesterday because I got a big box

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Well I've actually got a lot of tweets and

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Speaker 1: I'm very excited that people are taking our advice.

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Speaker 2: They're really good for washing your your braces.

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Speaker 2: The the why am I blinking on the vibration?

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Speaker 3: Well, well that's what it does for your teeth. It

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Speaker 2: I guess it's different when you're like watching it. When

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Speaker 1: Yeah? Well, once you subscribe, you I don't even know where.

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Speaker 4: To go for the time of the show. This week

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Speaker 5: He's not here.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Code Blue with Don.

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Speaker 3: But the good thing is once you subscribe, you can

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Speaker 3: So Quip starts at just twenty five dollars and if

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Speaker 3: you go to get quip dot com slash Becca right now,

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Speaker 1: Pack free with a Quip Electric toothbrush.

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Speaker 3: That's your first refill pack free at get quip dot

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Speaker 2: I think that was good.

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Speaker 1: I feel like that was great.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. I feel like we can make a song with that. Wow.

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Speaker 1: The expectations are low today, but we're here, okay.

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Speaker 3: So we have Erica Angelo. She is a love coach

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Speaker 1: Because we can get advice. We need advice.

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Speaker 2: Wherever we can get it from, and everybody needs Yeah.

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Speaker 8: I am on the phone. How are you, my dear?

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Speaker 8: Erica, Hi, Kanya, how are you? I'm so great?

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Speaker 3: You to just kind of intro I've never I've never

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Speaker 2: So, like somebody comes to you and they're like Basically,

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Speaker 8: Do you have a different story, I have a different story.

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Speaker 8: We all have a different story, and so as a coach,

448
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Speaker 8: it's my job to really get to know you and

449
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Speaker 8: hear what your story is and find out when did

450
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Speaker 8: love become unsafe? When did love become scary? And where's

451
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Speaker 8: that fear so that I can help you remove that

452
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Speaker 8: fear and show you that that fear is not as

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Speaker 8: scary as you think it is. And how do we

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Speaker 8: conquer it? How do we walk out of that? How

455
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Speaker 8: do we come out of partnership with that fear? Because

456
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Speaker 8: fear and love are enemies. So if there's fear there

457
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Speaker 8: and love has no landing pad. And so it's my

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Speaker 8: job to help you. Where's the fear? Let's get it out.

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Speaker 8: Tell me your stories that I can find out when

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Speaker 8: you and fear got in bed with one another, when

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Speaker 8: that partnership was made, because that's what's keeping you from love.

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Speaker 1: Wow, that's so interesting.

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Speaker 3: I feel like that's kind of what we've been talking

464
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Speaker 3: about on the podcast and kind of what I think

465
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Speaker 3: my struggle has been and as far as dating and

466
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Speaker 3: being open to a relationship or letting anyone in is

467
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Speaker 3: the fear. But I haven't quite been able to figure

468
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Speaker 3: out where that came from. Did I do we figure

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Speaker 3: that out?

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Speaker 2: I think we did.

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Speaker 3: I mean with Dez that like we kind of talked

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Speaker 3: about it, but I mean that was a long time ago,

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Speaker 3: and it wasn't There's just there's been certain little things

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Speaker 3: where I don't know if it's added up to a

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Speaker 3: point where I just thought, like forget it, I'm good

476
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Speaker 3: on my own, or I'm not sure what happened, but

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Speaker 3: it would be interesting to sit down with you and

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Speaker 3: actually have an in depth conversation about it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 8: Yes, for so many of us, you know, it sometimes

481
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Speaker 8: starts when we're kids. And we don't even realize that,

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Speaker 8: like somewhere Mom and Dad taught us that love wasn't safe,

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Speaker 8: Or we get older and we haven't experience with someone

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Speaker 8: where we just we encounter betrayal and that betrayal cuts

485
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Speaker 8: so deep and more times, you know, we logically understand

486
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Speaker 8: things and we say, oh, I understand why the fear

487
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Speaker 8: is here. But here's the thing when it comes to

488
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Speaker 8: the heart, we're not loving out of our logic. We're

489
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Speaker 8: loving out of our hearts. And so we have to

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Speaker 8: go to those places where our heart was betrayed and

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Speaker 8: invalidated and hurt, where we fear came in, and to

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Speaker 8: go to those places in the heart and say, wow,

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Speaker 8: I am really sorry that you had that experience. You

494
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Speaker 8: didn't deserve that you deserve to be loved. I'm so

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Speaker 8: sorry you felt betrayal. You were never ever meant to

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Speaker 8: experience that healing to the heart. And I think that's

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Speaker 8: where we get stuck in our journey is we're trying

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Speaker 8: to fix it with logic. It's like I see the

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Speaker 8: black and white of it. But at the end of

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Speaker 8: the day, I always tell people, look at your heart

501
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Speaker 8: as if it's a person, and that person your heart

502
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Speaker 8: is going. There's no freaking way I'm going to put

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Speaker 8: myself out there again if I don't get healed. But

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Speaker 8: you can logic and rationalize this all you want, But

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Speaker 8: until I get healing, and until I feel free, until

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Speaker 8: I feel safe, there's no way I'm putting myself back

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Speaker 8: in the game.

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Speaker 2: Erica, I have a question for you. Sure, do you

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Speaker 2: see that men are like a shift in men where

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Speaker 2: they're not really like standing up and asking girls out

511
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Speaker 2: like I. And this could just be my circle of people,

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Speaker 2: but I feel like guys aren't really stepping up and saying,

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Speaker 2: I'd love to take you to dinner, let's go on

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Speaker 2: a date. Like it's more just everyone's just so casual

515
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Speaker 2: about everything. Now, do you think that could be a

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Speaker 2: part of the problem.

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Speaker 8: I think those are semantics. I mean, I I think

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Speaker 8: that those are the questions that everyone's talking about right now.

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Speaker 8: But I don't think it's the underlying issue. You know,

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Speaker 8: it's I'm sorry, the semantic is it's the it's the

521
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Speaker 8: byproduct of it. It's it's the things that we think,

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Speaker 8: you know, this is what's really causing it. But it's

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Speaker 8: always an underlying issue, you know. It's like for men

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Speaker 8: right now, it's the thing that they're feeling more than

525
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Speaker 8: ever is fear. You know, with the Me Too movement,

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Speaker 8: it's a powerful movement for us women. But these guys

527
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Speaker 8: are terrified. They're like, I don't know what to say

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Speaker 8: or what to do now because I don't want to

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Speaker 8: offend someone. And you know you have you have someoneman

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Speaker 8: going I don't need you anymore. And if a man

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Speaker 8: feels like he's not needed, he's not going to step

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Speaker 8: into that ring. He's going to say, well, I'm not needed.

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Speaker 8: So there is a fear element. But even even in that,

534
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Speaker 8: like we are in a perfect opportunity for men to

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Speaker 8: even grow in themselves to step into like deeper connection,

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Speaker 8: deeper vulnerability, facing those fear points that they have in

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Speaker 8: their own hearts. But you know, guys are just as

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Speaker 8: terrified as women. And I think, you know, as women,

539
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Speaker 8: we've watched too many Disney movies and we think we're

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Speaker 8: always the one that's scared. But guys are just as terrified.

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Speaker 8: I can't tell you how many men I've worked with.

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Speaker 8: They're just scared. They're absolutely petrified. And so when we're

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Speaker 8: just like anything in life, in business, whether we're at work. Typically,

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Speaker 8: if we're afraid, what do we do? We don't act,

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Speaker 8: We just pause. And so you have a lot of

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Speaker 8: men who are just they're afraid, they don't know what

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Speaker 8: to do. They're in a perfect opportunity to rise up now,

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Speaker 8: But no one's really saying that, But yes, do you

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Speaker 8: have a lot of men who are just terrified.

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Speaker 3: Well, so if you were to I know you said

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Speaker 3: everyone has a different situation, and it's like very specific

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Speaker 3: when you talk to someone, what they're like, what advice

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Speaker 3: you give them.

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Speaker 1: But if you were to give three tips as far as.

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Speaker 3: Kind of being able to open up and get out

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Speaker 3: there and put yourself out there, what would it be

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Speaker 3: to people listening?

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Speaker 8: The first one I would say is commit I think

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Speaker 8: that most of us become very too wishy washed and

560
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Speaker 8: you go, ah, I kind of like love, but you know,

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Speaker 8: if it doesn't come, I'm going to be fine on

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Speaker 8: my own. No, if you're serious about this, then you

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Speaker 8: have to make a commitment. This isn't like one day

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Speaker 8: I want love, the next day I'm going to solo

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Speaker 8: in Netflix for the rest of my life. No, either

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Speaker 8: you want it or you don't. It's a choice. And

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Speaker 8: so if you want love, then first and foremost, you

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Speaker 8: have to be committed. The second thing is really really

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Speaker 8: really getting clear and vulnerable about what you really want

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Speaker 8: in a relationship. I think all too oftentimes we buy

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Speaker 8: into what we think we want, but we never go

572
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Speaker 8: and take time for ourselves. But what is it that

573
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Speaker 8: I really want? So you're being sold with the media

574
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Speaker 8: tells you that you want when everyone else says what

575
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Speaker 8: you should have, your family, your culture. But really I

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Speaker 8: would say, go off for a week, go on a hike,

577
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Speaker 8: and really get in touch with yourself and say what

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Speaker 8: is it that I truly want? Because if you're committed

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Speaker 8: and you know what you want, then you have you

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Speaker 8: have some sort of directions. And the third thing I

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Speaker 8: would say is in your pursuit that you constantly choose

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Speaker 8: love over fear. And this is what I mean. I

583
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Speaker 8: know that sounds very vague, but what I mean is

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Speaker 8: when you put yourself out there in dating, you're going

585
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Speaker 8: to feel rejection. It's going to be scary. But every

586
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Speaker 8: time that you have that commitment of am I going

587
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Speaker 8: to choose fear or am I going to choose love?

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Speaker 8: And when we're posturing ourselves to choose love, when the

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Speaker 8: rejection comes when the date doesn't go the way that

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Speaker 8: we want. Instead of just going, oh my god, it's

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Speaker 8: it's you know, it's just all terrible and I'm never

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Speaker 8: going to let myself feel that again. You just realize,

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Speaker 8: wait a minute, that's the voice of fear again, and

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Speaker 8: that's what's got me where I am. And so I'm

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Speaker 8: not going to partner with that. I've been a partner love.

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Speaker 8: I'm going to choose love and go, you know what,

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Speaker 8: that didn't work out. It hurts, I understand that. But

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Speaker 8: I'm going to choose love and I'm going to continue

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Speaker 8: to keep my heart open and I'm not going to

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Speaker 8: allow fear to shut my heart down.

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Speaker 1: Wow, you have Tony and I are taking notes.

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Speaker 2: So number one, commit to love too clear why you

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Speaker 2: want three? Love over fear? That's great.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I wish we had more time with you.

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Speaker 8: This has been amazing. I appreciate your open heart to

606
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Speaker 8: allow me just to pour it all out on you. Girls.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, thank you so much.

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Speaker 3: Thanks for the quick advice, and I'm going to actually,

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Speaker 3: like really look into using these things.

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Speaker 1: I think I needed that.

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Speaker 8: You're still welcome, well.

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Speaker 3: Thank you so much for being on the show. Everyone

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Speaker 3: that's Erica Angelo. Do you have a social media.

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Speaker 8: Yeah, you just type in my name. It's like Africa

615
00:27:49,800 --> 00:27:53,600
Speaker 8: without an F. So it's a Riica Angelo. And you

616
00:27:53,600 --> 00:27:57,800
Speaker 8: can find me on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, and then my

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Speaker 8: website is Erica Angela, Hello.

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Speaker 1: Dot com perfect. Thank you so much for.

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Speaker 8: Being with us, Thank you for having me.

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Speaker 1: All right, have a good day, me too, Bye bye.

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Speaker 1: That was good. I love over fear so true.

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Speaker 2: Choose love that should be already hashtag choose love and

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Speaker 2: hashtag hope he's not listening.

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Speaker 1: All relative speaking of love, talk about wink. Yeah, I

625
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Speaker 1: love wink.

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Speaker 3: So wink is a wine subscription, so you get wine

627
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Speaker 3: sent to your door. It's a dream. Dream seems too

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Speaker 3: good to be true. I'm really bad at picking out

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Speaker 3: wines when I go to the store. I actually was

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Speaker 3: with my sister and for her birthday. We were choosing

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Speaker 3: wines and I was like, I literally in the store

632
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Speaker 3: I thought, I wish I'd just done wink for this.

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Speaker 3: Because she was asking what I want. I was like,

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Speaker 3: I have no idea, yeah, because I'm not a.

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Speaker 5: You know what why it's called wink.

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Speaker 3: It's called wink because it it's like like dirty, like

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Speaker 3: a winger.

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Speaker 5: Oh that works. I just learned this. It's wine incorporated.

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Speaker 1: Oh no, no, yeah, it's WI n C not K.

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Speaker 2: We can use this for our girls' night.

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Speaker 1: Totally watching grays.

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Speaker 3: So basically they select there's wine experts on the Wink

643
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Speaker 3: website and they select wines to match your taste. So

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Speaker 3: they you take a Winks palette profile quiz and they

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Speaker 3: ask you questions like how do you take your coffee,

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Speaker 3: how do you feel about blueberries? And then they take

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Speaker 3: it from there and they select the bottles or the

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Speaker 3: wine for you, and it starts at just thirteen.

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Speaker 1: Dollars a bottle.

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Speaker 3: So you'll be at work having a long day and

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Speaker 3: then you'll come home to a box of delicious Wink.

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Speaker 9: One.

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Speaker 2: The best part of this for me is the no

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Speaker 2: membership fees. You can skip any month, canceling time. Like

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Speaker 2: I feel like a lot of times people don't want to, like,

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Speaker 2: oh I don't want to do it, but it's like

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Speaker 2: very easy to opt in. Opt ouf you're going away

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Speaker 2: for a while, you know, put it on pause, come.

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Speaker 1: Back because people don't like to commit.

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Speaker 2: People don't like to commit, so true bringing it.

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Speaker 3: Back full circle, but they make it easy. You can

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Speaker 3: choose when you want it. If you're trying to take

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Speaker 3: a break, don't want to drink as much. Their understanding

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Speaker 5: I think that was good.

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Speaker 1: Okay, the first one was like solid, amazing. I don't

675
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Speaker 1: know how you that. It's like Celine Dion in the building.

676
00:31:00,160 --> 00:31:02,360
Speaker 2: Because it's really like a harmony, you know, like when

677
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Speaker 2: you're in a band, there's like tenors and is that

678
00:31:06,360 --> 00:31:08,959
Speaker 2: what there's like the high and the low. I mean

679
00:31:09,000 --> 00:31:10,000
Speaker 2: you're both going high.

680
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Speaker 1: I just like that.

681
00:31:11,040 --> 00:31:13,840
Speaker 3: You always do your comparisons before you think them through,

682
00:31:14,040 --> 00:31:16,840
Speaker 3: so then like in the middle of you expressing them,

683
00:31:17,000 --> 00:31:22,400
Speaker 3: it's just a silence. Yeah, confusion all of us looking

684
00:31:22,440 --> 00:31:25,000
Speaker 3: at each other like help her, help.

685
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Speaker 4: Make a montage of awkward silence has caused by time

686
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Speaker 4: this podcast, It's.

687
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Speaker 1: Gonna take you a lot of time. Wait, so we next.

688
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Speaker 3: We have someone on the phone that I'm also very

689
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Speaker 3: interested in talking to. We have a matchmaker. Her name

690
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Speaker 3: is Alessandra Kunti am I saying that right?

691
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Speaker 4: Hi?

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Speaker 1: How are you?

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Speaker 8: Hi? I'm doing great, how are you?

694
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Speaker 1: We're so great. We're so excited to have you on.

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Speaker 3: I have never spoken to a matchmaker before, so this

696
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Speaker 3: is brand new for me.

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Speaker 8: Oh, I love it. I love it. I know, I

698
00:32:01,720 --> 00:32:04,720
Speaker 8: get that all the time. I feel like I'm really

699
00:32:04,840 --> 00:32:08,480
Speaker 8: just you know, I'm here for it. You guys.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so nice to meet you. It's actually funny Tanya

701
00:32:12,000 --> 00:32:13,160
Speaker 3: spoke with a matchmaker.

702
00:32:13,200 --> 00:32:14,040
Speaker 1: How long ago was that?

703
00:32:14,360 --> 00:32:14,960
Speaker 2: Two weeks ago?

704
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Speaker 1: Yeah? And she was saying it was it was almost

705
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Speaker 1: like being on a first date.

706
00:32:18,760 --> 00:32:19,880
Speaker 2: I felt like I was on a first day with

707
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Speaker 2: her because she was asking me all the questions about

708
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Speaker 2: like what do I like to do in my free time,

709
00:32:24,560 --> 00:32:26,800
Speaker 2: like about my job, my lifestyle, Like I felt like

710
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Speaker 2: very like a staity. Is that kind of what it's

711
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Speaker 2: like when you meet with your clients.

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Speaker 8: Yeah, I mean the thing is every matchmakers different obviously,

713
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Speaker 8: Like I'm I'm a personal matchmaker, and our company matchmakers

714
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Speaker 8: in the city. We have a few different matchmakers around

715
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Speaker 8: La New York, San Francisco, in DC, so we have

716
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Speaker 8: a very personalized approach, probably like the matchmaker that you

717
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Speaker 8: spoke with. So yeah, I mean it is a lot

718
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Speaker 8: of zetting. I mean a lot of our priority members

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Speaker 8: hire us to essentially go on first dates for them

720
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Speaker 8: so they don't have to ask those bizarre, hard questions

721
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Speaker 8: that you know, you can't when you go on a

722
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Speaker 8: first date with a guy. You can't be like, okay,

723
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Speaker 8: so in how many years would you like to get married?

724
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Speaker 8: And then how many years? How many children do you

725
00:33:13,520 --> 00:33:16,360
Speaker 8: want to have? And like religion? Why where are we

726
00:33:16,440 --> 00:33:20,200
Speaker 8: on the spectrum? So that's kind of like the job

727
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Speaker 8: of a matchmaker. So it's a lot of fun and

728
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Speaker 8: it's really like amazing for a single woman, you know,

729
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Speaker 8: so you don't have to deal with it.

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Speaker 3: I know. I think in my head I'm thinking, Okay,

731
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Speaker 3: I did The Bachelor, I've done dating apps, like what's

732
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Speaker 3: the next move at this point?

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Speaker 2: Maybe it's a matchmaker, I really think.

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Speaker 8: I mean The thing is, I definitely for any woman

735
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Speaker 8: who is like, we work with a lot of lady

736
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Speaker 8: bosses who are kind of like rocking in their careers,

737
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Speaker 8: who have maybe put love on the backburner. Even though

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Speaker 8: with you back, I feel like love has been like

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Speaker 8: at the forefront of your life, even though you've you know,

740
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Speaker 8: even though you've been like totally rocking in the career,

741
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Speaker 8: I feel like everything kind of leads back to love

742
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Speaker 8: with you. So but no, it's a really awesome option

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Speaker 8: for women who you know, and I feel like a

744
00:34:13,600 --> 00:34:16,200
Speaker 8: lot of women don't even know that it is an option.

745
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Speaker 8: They're just like, oh my god, the apps or online

746
00:34:19,800 --> 00:34:23,440
Speaker 8: or oh god. But yeah, if the women are in

747
00:34:23,520 --> 00:34:28,600
Speaker 8: like kind of a financially stable place, it's definitely a

748
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Speaker 8: fabulous option. But there are also things that women can learn,

749
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Speaker 8: you know, that we can chat about that it's you

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Speaker 8: don't I mean, obviously, I think, you know, everyone should

751
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Speaker 8: work with a match maker, but you know, for the

752
00:34:39,800 --> 00:34:42,279
Speaker 8: listeners who are maybe like I'm not there yet, like

753
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Speaker 8: on my own, and even for you ladies, I mean,

754
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Speaker 8: there's so many ways that you guys can be your

755
00:34:49,280 --> 00:34:52,640
Speaker 8: own match maker and take some of the kind of

756
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Speaker 8: secret techniques that we use and apply it to your

757
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Speaker 8: own love life.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I have my back, go, I have my pen

759
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Speaker 1: and paper. You talk about it.

760
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Speaker 2: It's so true though, because it's like, you know, I

761
00:35:03,800 --> 00:35:05,520
Speaker 2: think that there is Like I was talking to my

762
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Speaker 2: dad about this and he was like, it's just so

763
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Speaker 2: sad that you guys can't just like meet people like

764
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Speaker 2: normal anymore. You have these apps in your meeting with

765
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Speaker 2: a matchmaker, and I'm like, that's the time, now, you

766
00:35:13,880 --> 00:35:14,879
Speaker 2: know what I mean. Like I was like, I think,

767
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Speaker 2: like I really genuinely think that I'm gonna meet the

768
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Speaker 2: person I'm going to be with through a setup, whether

769
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Speaker 2: it's a freshmaker or a friend or friend that knows somebody.

770
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Speaker 2: Like I think that it's like connecting through people is

771
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Speaker 2: like the way to go.

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Speaker 8: Yeah, I'm a huge believer in that as well. I

773
00:35:30,800 --> 00:35:33,000
Speaker 8: mean on a personal level, Like I set my sister

774
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Speaker 8: up with her husband and they just got married and

775
00:35:36,360 --> 00:35:37,400
Speaker 8: like obviously.

776
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Speaker 9: Hey me, like there was a pro bone on that,

777
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Speaker 9: but you know what I mean, And I feel like, yeah,

778
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Speaker 9: it is something that you know, friends with friends are.

779
00:35:49,360 --> 00:35:53,360
Speaker 8: Absolutely amazing, but you can also meet men in real

780
00:35:53,440 --> 00:35:56,680
Speaker 8: life and you can you know, I think that I

781
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Speaker 8: was kind of listening to I love your podcast. It's

782
00:36:00,239 --> 00:36:02,480
Speaker 8: so much fun. I feel like I was like, I'm

783
00:36:02,520 --> 00:36:05,680
Speaker 8: like chatting with girlfriends, Like it was so fun to

784
00:36:05,760 --> 00:36:08,560
Speaker 8: listen to. So I'm like trying to totally catch up.

785
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Speaker 8: But from what I did here, I love that Becca,

786
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Speaker 8: I love the Okay, I love that you guys like

787
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Speaker 8: brought on the therapist. Amazing, it so great, such a

788
00:36:19,200 --> 00:36:22,560
Speaker 8: great diagnosis. And then what I would say as I

789
00:36:22,640 --> 00:36:25,759
Speaker 8: was listening to that, the big thing seems to me

790
00:36:26,360 --> 00:36:31,080
Speaker 8: that women in general want to be with a man

791
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Speaker 8: that they have some kind of context, Like it's either

792
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Speaker 8: a friend that grew into a relationship or like a

793
00:36:39,000 --> 00:36:41,600
Speaker 8: friend of a friend you have. It's not just some

794
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Speaker 8: random guy that you like swiped right on bumble and like,

795
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Speaker 8: so I get that for sure. But what I would

796
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Speaker 8: say as I was listening to just your chat with

797
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Speaker 8: the therapist, what I would say to you and so, Tanya,

798
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Speaker 8: when you're going out with these men, first of all,

799
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Speaker 8: like the number one biggest thing, like, however you're meeting

800
00:37:06,480 --> 00:37:11,160
Speaker 8: the guy, I want you to like completely restructure your

801
00:37:11,200 --> 00:37:15,200
Speaker 8: brain into thinking that dating is so much fun and like,

802
00:37:15,440 --> 00:37:17,839
Speaker 8: oh my gosh, I get to like go out with

803
00:37:17,880 --> 00:37:20,879
Speaker 8: these really like attractive guys. I mean, some of them

804
00:37:20,840 --> 00:37:24,040
Speaker 8: aren't as abstractive when you meet them in person, but

805
00:37:24,400 --> 00:37:27,120
Speaker 8: when you are on the dates, like I want you

806
00:37:27,160 --> 00:37:29,319
Speaker 8: to kind of come in with a really positive attitude.

807
00:37:29,520 --> 00:37:32,960
Speaker 8: But then I know that a lot of times women's

808
00:37:33,080 --> 00:37:35,960
Speaker 8: first inclination is okay on the first date, am I

809
00:37:36,040 --> 00:37:37,960
Speaker 8: in love with this guy? Like, do I feel as

810
00:37:37,960 --> 00:37:41,719
Speaker 8: spark yes or no? No for fifteen seconds. No, I'm

811
00:37:41,719 --> 00:37:45,640
Speaker 8: not shutting off and turning everything off. True, but yeah,

812
00:37:45,719 --> 00:37:48,080
Speaker 8: it's so certain people will say, like people come into

813
00:37:48,080 --> 00:37:51,120
Speaker 8: my office and they're like, Ali, I know immediately if

814
00:37:51,239 --> 00:37:53,800
Speaker 8: I am into a guy or if I'm into a girl,

815
00:37:54,040 --> 00:37:56,360
Speaker 8: and then like I'll know it's in the first fifteen seconds.

816
00:37:56,400 --> 00:38:01,640
Speaker 8: And that is such a detrimental way of because as

817
00:38:01,840 --> 00:38:07,160
Speaker 8: you've probably experienced in the past, love grows and like

818
00:38:07,480 --> 00:38:11,120
Speaker 8: a connection with someone, like women we don't like immediately

819
00:38:11,480 --> 00:38:12,960
Speaker 8: are just like, oh my god, I'm in love with him.

820
00:38:13,000 --> 00:38:16,000
Speaker 8: Like that's not the way it works. So it's so

821
00:38:16,120 --> 00:38:19,920
Speaker 8: important too, if you're not repulsed by the guy, give

822
00:38:19,960 --> 00:38:22,600
Speaker 8: him the second date, give them the third date, and

823
00:38:22,760 --> 00:38:27,960
Speaker 8: really get to know this person. Yeah, so it becomes

824
00:38:28,000 --> 00:38:31,839
Speaker 8: more of like, Okay, he's more of a friend. You know,

825
00:38:31,920 --> 00:38:33,920
Speaker 8: you don't have to be making out with him on

826
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Speaker 8: the first date. You can take things slow, but as

827
00:38:37,280 --> 00:38:40,359
Speaker 8: you get you'll feel more comfortable. You'll get to know

828
00:38:40,440 --> 00:38:42,839
Speaker 8: this person. You can even be like, oh yeah, bring

829
00:38:42,880 --> 00:38:45,200
Speaker 8: a couple guy friends. I'm going for like a second date.

830
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Speaker 8: Oh yeah, we're going to go rollerblading, Like bring like

831
00:38:47,400 --> 00:38:48,920
Speaker 8: a guy and bring one of my girlfriend that you

832
00:38:48,960 --> 00:38:50,600
Speaker 8: guys can go on a double date. Like, yeah, it

833
00:38:50,640 --> 00:38:54,360
Speaker 8: doesn't have to be this instant relationship, like on the

834
00:38:54,400 --> 00:38:56,919
Speaker 8: first date you're like madly in love because a lot

835
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Speaker 8: of men who are amazing at first dates do not

836
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Speaker 8: have the skill set to sustain a long term relationship.

837
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Speaker 8: So a lot of times for me, it's a bit

838
00:39:07,520 --> 00:39:09,480
Speaker 8: of a red flag if a guy's like, oh my god,

839
00:39:09,560 --> 00:39:13,040
Speaker 8: he's amazing at the first date. And when Becca, when

840
00:39:13,080 --> 00:39:16,200
Speaker 8: you were with Robert, I love her like know this

841
00:39:17,360 --> 00:39:20,360
Speaker 8: because I'm like, that's probably about Robert. So when you

842
00:39:20,400 --> 00:39:24,200
Speaker 8: were with Robert, like before you guys started dating, were

843
00:39:24,239 --> 00:39:26,759
Speaker 8: you like immediately when you first met him where you're like,

844
00:39:26,840 --> 00:39:28,719
Speaker 8: oh my god, he's the one for me, or like

845
00:39:28,840 --> 00:39:31,480
Speaker 8: what was that was it? Like, Oh, he's like a

846
00:39:31,560 --> 00:39:32,720
Speaker 8: guy than cute.

847
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Speaker 3: It's so funny because when you're listening to you talk

848
00:39:35,200 --> 00:39:37,040
Speaker 3: about this, I'm thinking about like my first date with

849
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Speaker 3: Robert and it was definitely like I had so much

850
00:39:39,440 --> 00:39:41,320
Speaker 3: fun on that date and I thought, oh, I'd like

851
00:39:41,400 --> 00:39:43,880
Speaker 3: to see him again. Like I did have that feeling,

852
00:39:43,880 --> 00:39:46,560
Speaker 3: which is rare for me, but by no means was

853
00:39:46,560 --> 00:39:49,200
Speaker 3: I like, oh my gosh, I feel so comfortable and

854
00:39:49,520 --> 00:39:50,360
Speaker 3: he's the one.

855
00:39:51,200 --> 00:39:51,839
Speaker 1: Yeah, it wasn't.

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Speaker 8: Yeah see. And that's that's the difference between women and

857
00:39:57,360 --> 00:39:59,360
Speaker 8: I mean men. Men are very I mean, women are

858
00:39:59,400 --> 00:40:02,040
Speaker 8: also physical driven, but I feel like with men they're

859
00:40:02,080 --> 00:40:06,040
Speaker 8: like okay, I like yeah, but with women with everything,

860
00:40:06,120 --> 00:40:10,080
Speaker 8: like it takes us time to warm up, you know,

861
00:40:10,239 --> 00:40:13,560
Speaker 8: and it takes so I would definitely say, like my

862
00:40:14,120 --> 00:40:17,600
Speaker 8: little stamp of what the many advice that I can

863
00:40:17,640 --> 00:40:21,280
Speaker 8: give you specifically BECA is just to give it doesn't

864
00:40:21,320 --> 00:40:24,359
Speaker 8: matter how you're meeting the guy. We need to make

865
00:40:24,400 --> 00:40:28,840
Speaker 8: it feel as though you are dating a friend like

866
00:40:28,880 --> 00:40:32,160
Speaker 8: you're because that's you. Then you'll then you'll tap into

867
00:40:32,200 --> 00:40:34,920
Speaker 8: that comfort level, You'll put the walls down a little bit,

868
00:40:35,360 --> 00:40:38,520
Speaker 8: and that's when you can actually fall in love. And

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Speaker 8: for dates, I mean in general, like I was saying,

870
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Speaker 8: I mean, I want I think, I want, like to

871
00:40:44,200 --> 00:40:47,560
Speaker 8: lobotomize the women of the world because when it comes

872
00:40:47,600 --> 00:40:50,480
Speaker 8: to dating, obviously not like when it's not horrible, but

873
00:40:51,840 --> 00:40:54,960
Speaker 8: when it comes to dating, there's this like negative connotation.

874
00:40:55,040 --> 00:40:56,279
Speaker 8: It's like, oh my god, I have to go on

875
00:40:56,360 --> 00:40:57,160
Speaker 8: another day with it.

876
00:40:57,360 --> 00:40:58,919
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's me.

877
00:40:59,719 --> 00:41:02,799
Speaker 8: Right, It can feel like such a drag. But I

878
00:41:02,840 --> 00:41:06,200
Speaker 8: want you guys to know, like I see the other

879
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Speaker 8: side like I have. And I'm sure you guys have

880
00:41:08,120 --> 00:41:11,000
Speaker 8: a lot of married friends and they say, like to

881
00:41:11,160 --> 00:41:14,040
Speaker 8: all of our single girlfriends, they're all like, oh my god,

882
00:41:14,120 --> 00:41:16,760
Speaker 8: I'm living vicariously like you probably have always.

883
00:41:17,040 --> 00:41:19,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, they live. Are so jealous that I get to

884
00:41:20,719 --> 00:41:21,759
Speaker 1: while I'm like dreading it.

885
00:41:22,920 --> 00:41:25,560
Speaker 8: So know that, like the grass is totally greener. And

886
00:41:25,680 --> 00:41:27,640
Speaker 8: also though when you're with the person you love, you

887
00:41:27,760 --> 00:41:29,600
Speaker 8: won't you'll be like, oh, I'm so excited to see

888
00:41:29,600 --> 00:41:32,040
Speaker 8: the person that I'm with with the person on So

889
00:41:32,239 --> 00:41:36,439
Speaker 8: right now, I want you ladies to just act as

890
00:41:36,480 --> 00:41:40,200
Speaker 8: though you are the best flourette in your own love life,

891
00:41:40,280 --> 00:41:42,680
Speaker 8: without the cameras and without the risk grasp. And I know,

892
00:41:42,719 --> 00:41:44,920
Speaker 8: Beca you said that you didn't want to do the

893
00:41:44,920 --> 00:41:48,040
Speaker 8: best burette, but and like you've done like the other side.

894
00:41:48,239 --> 00:41:51,600
Speaker 8: But I want you ladies like you are both fabulous, gorgeous,

895
00:41:51,760 --> 00:41:56,440
Speaker 8: successful women. You like you can have the pick of

896
00:41:56,480 --> 00:41:57,200
Speaker 8: a litter, you know.

897
00:41:59,160 --> 00:42:00,480
Speaker 1: Very nice. I don't.

898
00:42:03,080 --> 00:42:05,759
Speaker 8: But I want you guys to just start approaching your

899
00:42:05,840 --> 00:42:09,680
Speaker 8: dating life as like, Okay, I'm the bechelorette a meeting

900
00:42:09,840 --> 00:42:12,439
Speaker 8: the use awesome eligible guys. And we can talk about

901
00:42:12,480 --> 00:42:14,840
Speaker 8: where to meet the great guys in a second. But

902
00:42:15,280 --> 00:42:17,640
Speaker 8: I want this to be your attitude that you're like

903
00:42:18,080 --> 00:42:21,200
Speaker 8: super excited. All the women listening like you're just super excited,

904
00:42:21,280 --> 00:42:25,640
Speaker 8: Like you get to sit down and experience new different men.

905
00:42:25,680 --> 00:42:27,799
Speaker 8: You don't have anyone, that is, you don't have to

906
00:42:27,840 --> 00:42:30,399
Speaker 8: explain yourself to anyone. And I always tell the about

907
00:42:30,440 --> 00:42:33,560
Speaker 8: threats that I work with. I would rather a first

908
00:42:33,680 --> 00:42:36,160
Speaker 8: date when you come back to me and give me

909
00:42:36,200 --> 00:42:38,880
Speaker 8: your dating your date feedback and we do day coaching.

910
00:42:39,360 --> 00:42:42,160
Speaker 8: I would much rather you be able to tell me

911
00:42:42,400 --> 00:42:45,360
Speaker 8: who his favorite spice girl was, or like what power

912
00:42:45,480 --> 00:42:49,479
Speaker 8: ranger he felt most connected to, then to be able

913
00:42:49,520 --> 00:42:52,840
Speaker 8: to tell me, okay, he went to school at Harvard's

914
00:42:52,840 --> 00:42:57,040
Speaker 8: business degree, like we want to kill the interview. Okay,

915
00:42:57,360 --> 00:43:01,040
Speaker 8: so no need to do the interview fully. You know,

916
00:43:01,560 --> 00:43:04,440
Speaker 8: when you work with a matchmaker, obviously these men, we

917
00:43:04,560 --> 00:43:07,439
Speaker 8: do an interview, a full interview, background, chex, social media,

918
00:43:07,800 --> 00:43:10,719
Speaker 8: sex defenders. There's like wevet these guys like within an

919
00:43:10,760 --> 00:43:14,799
Speaker 8: inch of their lives. But even when you're just say

920
00:43:14,840 --> 00:43:17,560
Speaker 8: you meet someone out or it's a bumble date or

921
00:43:17,680 --> 00:43:20,719
Speaker 8: it's a match date or whatever it might be, you know,

922
00:43:21,000 --> 00:43:23,959
Speaker 8: I really want you, ladies, just to just to think

923
00:43:24,000 --> 00:43:27,160
Speaker 8: of the mantra like this is fun, Like let me

924
00:43:27,200 --> 00:43:30,160
Speaker 8: think of things that I enjoy talking about and let's

925
00:43:30,239 --> 00:43:33,319
Speaker 8: just have fun. I'm not growing this guy. We're not

926
00:43:33,480 --> 00:43:37,239
Speaker 8: in an interview setting. Let's just enjoy. So that's like

927
00:43:37,440 --> 00:43:40,000
Speaker 8: I think. I always just want to tell women that

928
00:43:40,080 --> 00:43:44,040
Speaker 8: I feel like I'm monologuing. Please feel free to jump

929
00:43:44,040 --> 00:43:45,520
Speaker 8: in and ask well I.

930
00:43:45,560 --> 00:43:47,600
Speaker 3: Was gonna say, I mean I could we could sit

931
00:43:47,640 --> 00:43:49,560
Speaker 3: here and talk for hours with you.

932
00:43:49,600 --> 00:43:51,799
Speaker 2: I feel like I know, And the problem is is

933
00:43:51,840 --> 00:43:54,040
Speaker 2: in my head, I'm like this sounds great in theory,

934
00:43:54,360 --> 00:43:56,839
Speaker 2: but when you're on a really bad day, all you

935
00:43:56,880 --> 00:43:59,000
Speaker 2: want to do is be like I'm missing a full

936
00:43:59,080 --> 00:44:01,920
Speaker 2: night of like binge watching, like the good doctor or something,

937
00:44:02,320 --> 00:44:04,759
Speaker 2: you know what I mean, and like, so it's like

938
00:44:05,080 --> 00:44:05,880
Speaker 2: it's true.

939
00:44:05,760 --> 00:44:07,919
Speaker 3: It's I think it's more of the mentality going into

940
00:44:08,000 --> 00:44:08,840
Speaker 3: the date totally.

941
00:44:08,840 --> 00:44:10,120
Speaker 1: It's like being.

942
00:44:09,880 --> 00:44:13,000
Speaker 3: Able to say, like a lot of people who are

943
00:44:13,120 --> 00:44:15,120
Speaker 3: you know, would kill to be going on dates.

944
00:44:15,120 --> 00:44:16,640
Speaker 1: So it's like multiple you know.

945
00:44:17,239 --> 00:44:19,680
Speaker 3: But I I almost feel like it'd be so fun

946
00:44:19,719 --> 00:44:21,960
Speaker 3: if if when we have a date or something, we

947
00:44:22,000 --> 00:44:23,000
Speaker 3: can call.

948
00:44:23,160 --> 00:44:25,200
Speaker 1: Her and like and get a talk.

949
00:44:25,840 --> 00:44:28,200
Speaker 3: You get a pep talk on what we should what

950
00:44:28,239 --> 00:44:30,600
Speaker 3: should we do and how how should we act?

951
00:44:30,719 --> 00:44:32,640
Speaker 1: It could be part of part of the podcast.

952
00:44:33,800 --> 00:44:36,440
Speaker 8: I love it. That would be so much fun. I

953
00:44:36,440 --> 00:44:40,200
Speaker 8: mean it really is just I know it sounds so seazy,

954
00:44:40,320 --> 00:44:43,239
Speaker 8: but it's just like it's just having fun, like I

955
00:44:43,320 --> 00:44:45,879
Speaker 8: want you like and when you're on your date. Also,

956
00:44:46,000 --> 00:44:49,720
Speaker 8: like women we in the workplace, like we are lady bosses.

957
00:44:49,840 --> 00:44:51,560
Speaker 8: I know when I am at work, I am like

958
00:44:51,600 --> 00:44:54,680
Speaker 8: the ultimate lady boss. I am like, you know, traveling

959
00:44:54,880 --> 00:44:58,440
Speaker 8: just being you know, my masculine the masculine side of

960
00:44:58,480 --> 00:45:00,719
Speaker 8: me is out and about and like you know, it's

961
00:45:00,800 --> 00:45:04,920
Speaker 8: business mode. But when it comes to dating, that's a

962
00:45:05,120 --> 00:45:09,080
Speaker 8: time when you can really split that femininity switch on

963
00:45:09,600 --> 00:45:12,120
Speaker 8: and yes, I know about like gender roles and all

964
00:45:12,160 --> 00:45:14,360
Speaker 8: of that and the head of and over to paradigm

965
00:45:14,440 --> 00:45:17,040
Speaker 8: all of that, but listen, when it comes to dating,

966
00:45:17,719 --> 00:45:22,400
Speaker 8: men enjoy being masculine, and women really like to be

967
00:45:22,560 --> 00:45:26,719
Speaker 8: sending it. Like even the top CEO at like the

968
00:45:26,760 --> 00:45:30,640
Speaker 8: top Fortune five hundred company, I've probably match made her.

969
00:45:32,800 --> 00:45:34,680
Speaker 2: Well, do you mind? Do you mind if we keep

970
00:45:34,719 --> 00:45:35,160
Speaker 2: your number?

971
00:45:36,000 --> 00:45:36,200
Speaker 8: Oh?

972
00:45:36,280 --> 00:45:37,200
Speaker 9: My god, of course.

973
00:45:37,239 --> 00:45:39,680
Speaker 2: Okay, great, And you know you might be hearing from

974
00:45:39,760 --> 00:45:42,320
Speaker 2: us pre next day and my last day was November,

975
00:45:42,320 --> 00:45:44,640
Speaker 2: so it might not be. But we're going to keep

976
00:45:44,680 --> 00:45:45,040
Speaker 2: your number.

977
00:45:45,120 --> 00:45:46,400
Speaker 1: No, because we're changing our minds.

978
00:45:46,400 --> 00:45:48,920
Speaker 2: That's true. And thank you so so much. That is

979
00:45:49,680 --> 00:45:50,520
Speaker 2: such great advice.

980
00:45:51,320 --> 00:45:53,880
Speaker 8: I love it. Yeah, just bring out the femininity and

981
00:45:53,920 --> 00:45:57,200
Speaker 8: then you'll be good to go. Enjoy yourself and let it,

982
00:45:57,400 --> 00:45:58,440
Speaker 8: let it be happen.

983
00:45:58,960 --> 00:46:01,319
Speaker 3: Thank you so much much for coming on. We had

984
00:46:01,360 --> 00:46:03,160
Speaker 3: so much fun. I can't wait to talk to you again.

985
00:46:04,080 --> 00:46:06,080
Speaker 8: Absolutely, ladies, I'll talk to you.

986
00:46:06,160 --> 00:46:08,280
Speaker 1: Okay, all right, you buye?

987
00:46:08,520 --> 00:46:09,640
Speaker 8: Thank you bye.

988
00:46:10,160 --> 00:46:13,000
Speaker 1: Wow. I feel like that was some good stuff. Both

989
00:46:13,040 --> 00:46:15,760
Speaker 1: back to back calls, got notes.

990
00:46:16,160 --> 00:46:17,440
Speaker 2: We program your brain.

991
00:46:17,719 --> 00:46:21,120
Speaker 5: Actually took notes. I could see that. Yeah, just two

992
00:46:21,120 --> 00:46:22,080
Speaker 5: cards full of notes.

993
00:46:22,200 --> 00:46:24,840
Speaker 3: Yeah, I feel like that's so important. I think my

994
00:46:24,960 --> 00:46:29,120
Speaker 3: biggest problem is that I go into dates with dread

995
00:46:29,440 --> 00:46:31,759
Speaker 3: but before I even meet him, I'm like, this is.

996
00:46:31,880 --> 00:46:34,440
Speaker 2: Terrible totally because you don't want to get dressed, You

997
00:46:34,480 --> 00:46:36,480
Speaker 2: don't want to do the whole song and pony dance

998
00:46:36,520 --> 00:46:37,600
Speaker 2: for like a bad day.

999
00:46:37,880 --> 00:46:39,919
Speaker 6: Would you ever do the thing that they suggested, which

1000
00:46:39,960 --> 00:46:42,000
Speaker 6: is like go into the woods for a weekend or

1001
00:46:42,000 --> 00:46:43,880
Speaker 6: like go on a weird solo camping trip. Did you

1002
00:46:43,880 --> 00:46:44,880
Speaker 6: hear what Ashton Kutcher did?

1003
00:46:44,960 --> 00:46:45,120
Speaker 5: Oh?

1004
00:46:45,200 --> 00:46:45,719
Speaker 2: Totally?

1005
00:46:46,640 --> 00:46:48,560
Speaker 1: Ill, I know you would wait alone?

1006
00:46:48,760 --> 00:46:52,759
Speaker 6: Yeah, So Ashton to get over his divorce went like

1007
00:46:53,239 --> 00:46:54,719
Speaker 6: I think he went for like too long. I think

1008
00:46:54,760 --> 00:46:56,359
Speaker 6: he went for like a couple of weeks and only

1009
00:46:56,440 --> 00:46:59,560
Speaker 6: drink water or something weird. But would you ever like

1010
00:46:59,600 --> 00:47:01,480
Speaker 6: because I think it could get your mojo back. I

1011
00:47:01,520 --> 00:47:04,200
Speaker 6: was thinking about this all week, like a retreat, but

1012
00:47:04,320 --> 00:47:06,319
Speaker 6: like a solo like I don't care. You can go

1013
00:47:06,320 --> 00:47:09,040
Speaker 6: to a fancy hotel, you just have to go alone

1014
00:47:09,960 --> 00:47:12,920
Speaker 6: and really spend time being alone, because I think when

1015
00:47:12,920 --> 00:47:15,799
Speaker 6: you're alone you get your mojo back because you.

1016
00:47:15,760 --> 00:47:18,640
Speaker 1: Go I don't really actually like this, do you know

1017
00:47:18,680 --> 00:47:19,040
Speaker 1: what I mean?

1018
00:47:19,080 --> 00:47:20,919
Speaker 6: Like you spend time alone but you're at your house

1019
00:47:20,920 --> 00:47:22,759
Speaker 6: and you're going out with friends, and your sisters live there,

1020
00:47:22,760 --> 00:47:23,719
Speaker 6: and you're always surrounded.

1021
00:47:24,040 --> 00:47:25,719
Speaker 1: Like, I think it would be a good experiment.

1022
00:47:26,360 --> 00:47:35,080
Speaker 3: Interesting. I feel like i'd love it. I think, wait,

1023
00:47:35,080 --> 00:47:36,640
Speaker 3: I want to do a few emails before we.

1024
00:47:36,600 --> 00:47:37,520
Speaker 2: Have to stop totally.

1025
00:47:37,560 --> 00:47:38,560
Speaker 5: You gotta do Hello Fresh.

1026
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Speaker 3: I'm happy to do Hello Fresh. HelloFresh, as we all know,

1027
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1030
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1040
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Speaker 2: Still I am double that literally for myself.

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Speaker 3: Away, I know, And anytime I cook, honestly, anytime I

1051
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Speaker 2: Yeah, and then you don't like make it again, and.

1053
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Speaker 3: Then I don't really eat leftovers. Yeah, it's not something

1054
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Speaker 3: I enjoy. So it's good to like not have to

1055
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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah, they are accountable.

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1077
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Speaker 4: Senter's a very sweet email. It starts with I know

1078
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Speaker 4: every email you get stars all like this, but I

1079
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Speaker 4: love your podcast. I'm a first year teacher and it's

1080
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Speaker 4: so refreshing to get in my car after an eight

1081
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Speaker 4: hour day with twenty three, nine and ten year olds

1082
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Speaker 4: and listen to adult conversations. You guys give me interesting

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Speaker 4: topics that bring up to my friends and fiance. It

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Speaker 4: took my friends a long time to realize that I've

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1086
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Speaker 4: oh well, Becca and Tanya said this anyway, You guys

1087
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Speaker 4: are awesome and she really wants you to come to

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Speaker 4: her wedding. Oh I saw this June first in Arkansas.

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Speaker 4: She says she has a part of her budget spreadsheet

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Speaker 4: Becca and Tanya's attendance.

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Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, we actually need to do that.

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Speaker 5: It's in northwest Arkansas, totally.

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Speaker 2: I've never been to Arkansas.

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Speaker 5: I haven't either.

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Speaker 3: Oh my goods, fun, yo, that would be so fun,

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Speaker 3: it would be.

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Speaker 1: Okay, Well, first of all, thank you so much?

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Speaker 5: Is it?

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00:50:46,920 --> 00:50:50,160
Speaker 1: Cecily cecily cecily cecily beautiful name.

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Speaker 3: I just want to say thank you so much, and

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00:50:54,040 --> 00:50:56,800
Speaker 3: we appreciate you listening and we will do our best

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Speaker 3: to be at your wedding.

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Speaker 1: That's so fun. Totally, thank you for putting us aside

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00:51:01,440 --> 00:51:02,080
Speaker 1: as a guest.

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00:51:02,560 --> 00:51:04,759
Speaker 4: Olivia hates the way I say y'all. And she's right,

1106
00:51:05,000 --> 00:51:06,759
Speaker 4: it's just not natural for me. And I'm sorry, and

1107
00:51:06,760 --> 00:51:07,319
Speaker 4: I'll do better.

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00:51:07,360 --> 00:51:09,640
Speaker 5: I'll do better. She's everything she says is exactly right.

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Speaker 2: It's a pet peeve of mine when people that aren't

1110
00:51:11,760 --> 00:51:14,600
Speaker 2: from the South say y'all. I'm like, just don't say it.

1111
00:51:14,719 --> 00:51:18,000
Speaker 4: But if I'm reading an email and it's said okay, right,

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00:51:18,560 --> 00:51:20,720
Speaker 4: I tend to accentuate it, and she's right, and I shouldn't.

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00:51:20,760 --> 00:51:21,920
Speaker 5: I should just say it like it's normal.

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00:51:21,960 --> 00:51:23,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, just y'all.

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00:51:23,040 --> 00:51:25,719
Speaker 4: How about Carrie Carrie's been living with roommates for two

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00:51:25,800 --> 00:51:28,320
Speaker 4: years now. They recently both got a dog. They barely

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00:51:28,400 --> 00:51:32,160
Speaker 4: trained them. They're not great inside dogs. Their toys are everywhere,

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00:51:32,200 --> 00:51:35,720
Speaker 4: the stuffing from the toys is everywhere. The room smells

1119
00:51:35,760 --> 00:51:37,920
Speaker 4: like dog all the time, and they start barking at

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Speaker 4: five point fifteen every morning, and running and fighting and

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00:51:40,600 --> 00:51:44,680
Speaker 4: everything else. I hate confrontations so much and just have

1122
00:51:44,760 --> 00:51:46,680
Speaker 4: shaken it off. But I have my boyfriend's house to

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Speaker 4: escape to. What should I do? Do I confront them?

1124
00:51:49,600 --> 00:51:52,120
Speaker 4: Do I always sleep with my boyfriends. I'm twenty five.

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Speaker 4: We did not know each other before moving in.

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Speaker 3: I mean, if I totally understand having a new dog,

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00:52:01,640 --> 00:52:04,640
Speaker 3: how frush, I would have never gotten a new I

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Speaker 3: would never have gotten a dog if I had roommates

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Speaker 3: who we didn't discuss it before and like agree upon

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00:52:11,040 --> 00:52:13,440
Speaker 3: it because my sisters were the ones who like really

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00:52:13,480 --> 00:52:15,480
Speaker 3: wanted dogs, so we agreed that we'd take care of it.

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Speaker 3: And Phoebe's like pretty well trained, goes outside, doesn't go

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Speaker 3: in the house anymore, and she's so tiny, she's not

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00:52:21,880 --> 00:52:25,520
Speaker 3: really and she smells good. Yeah, but I mean, I

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00:52:25,560 --> 00:52:27,680
Speaker 3: think you have a conversation and just I don't know

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00:52:27,719 --> 00:52:29,320
Speaker 3: what the solution is though.

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Speaker 2: I know I hate to say it and it's a

1138
00:52:31,920 --> 00:52:33,719
Speaker 2: little extreme, but I feel like you just need to

1139
00:52:33,719 --> 00:52:34,040
Speaker 2: move out.

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00:52:34,080 --> 00:52:35,080
Speaker 1: I was gonna say that too.

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00:52:35,280 --> 00:52:36,719
Speaker 3: I don't know, well, I don't know, like when her

1142
00:52:36,800 --> 00:52:39,239
Speaker 3: lease is up, so it's like, if.

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00:52:38,719 --> 00:52:40,920
Speaker 2: You can find someone to cover your lease and just

1144
00:52:40,960 --> 00:52:41,359
Speaker 2: get out.

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00:52:41,440 --> 00:52:42,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think you get out too.

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00:52:42,960 --> 00:52:45,040
Speaker 4: Look when I had roommates, they used to drive me.

1147
00:52:45,080 --> 00:52:46,920
Speaker 4: Now they wouldn't take out the garbage, that all the

1148
00:52:46,960 --> 00:52:49,359
Speaker 4: stuff that they do. It's terrible. But these dogs, I mean,

1149
00:52:49,360 --> 00:52:50,759
Speaker 4: these are creatures. So you don't want to say you

1150
00:52:50,800 --> 00:52:52,719
Speaker 4: have to get these back to the pound in the road.

1151
00:52:52,760 --> 00:52:55,280
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, gotta get out, got to figure out away.

1152
00:52:55,360 --> 00:53:00,000
Speaker 4: In the meantime, white noise machine, earplugs and boyfriend's house

1153
00:53:00,160 --> 00:53:00,920
Speaker 4: is up, and then.

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00:53:01,000 --> 00:53:02,520
Speaker 1: Buy gotta get out of there.

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00:53:02,800 --> 00:53:05,279
Speaker 3: And if they ask why, I just say, listen, like

1156
00:53:05,360 --> 00:53:07,160
Speaker 3: we're different places in our life.

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00:53:07,800 --> 00:53:11,600
Speaker 4: I love dogs too, but that's not cool.

1158
00:53:11,719 --> 00:53:14,760
Speaker 3: I would be upset. I totally get it. I always

1159
00:53:14,800 --> 00:53:16,839
Speaker 3: feel bad for my neighbors below me. If they hear

1160
00:53:16,880 --> 00:53:19,320
Speaker 3: Phoebe barking, I'm like when she was a baby, I'm.

1161
00:53:19,160 --> 00:53:22,800
Speaker 2: Like, sorry, yeah, I would we have to wrap.

1162
00:53:24,200 --> 00:53:27,160
Speaker 1: Can we please do the Grays Anatomy quiz? I'm fast,

1163
00:53:27,160 --> 00:53:27,719
Speaker 1: We'll do it fast.

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00:53:27,760 --> 00:53:29,759
Speaker 5: I don't think it's fast. It's not a fast thing,

1165
00:53:29,840 --> 00:53:30,600
Speaker 5: but I do have it.

1166
00:53:31,000 --> 00:53:33,160
Speaker 1: We have to do. We've just been, we've we haven't

1167
00:53:33,160 --> 00:53:33,920
Speaker 1: done it until long.

1168
00:53:34,080 --> 00:53:35,759
Speaker 5: Shout out to Jocelyn for making you a cake.

1169
00:53:36,120 --> 00:53:38,960
Speaker 1: Oh gosh, that was amazing.

1170
00:53:40,000 --> 00:53:43,319
Speaker 3: I want that cake. I know we're going to do

1171
00:53:43,400 --> 00:53:45,880
Speaker 3: a lot of emails next week. That's my promise to y'all.

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00:53:45,960 --> 00:53:47,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, we were like two emails.

1173
00:53:48,280 --> 00:53:51,160
Speaker 4: All right, here's the Gray's Anatomy quiz. You ready, winner,

1174
00:53:52,360 --> 00:53:54,160
Speaker 4: We'll text something on the other person's phone.

1175
00:53:54,200 --> 00:53:55,880
Speaker 5: But the last time we're doing it, you can blow it.

1176
00:53:55,920 --> 00:53:56,959
Speaker 5: This time we're not doing it again.

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00:53:57,200 --> 00:54:01,720
Speaker 2: I oh, actually I do. I have some listeners. Actually

1178
00:54:01,760 --> 00:54:04,360
Speaker 2: gave me some idea of somebody to text from your phone.

1179
00:54:04,600 --> 00:54:07,520
Speaker 1: Same Really, Yeah, okay, let's do this.

1180
00:54:07,640 --> 00:54:09,120
Speaker 2: I never thought I don't even know who this person

1181
00:54:09,120 --> 00:54:10,160
Speaker 2: is actually Google one.

1182
00:54:10,160 --> 00:54:13,200
Speaker 4: But yeah, here's how we decide who goes first. Kevin McKidd,

1183
00:54:13,200 --> 00:54:15,719
Speaker 4: the actor who plays Owen Hunt, has appeared in how

1184
00:54:15,800 --> 00:54:18,799
Speaker 4: many episodes of Grey's Anatomy. Whoever's closer without going over

1185
00:54:18,920 --> 00:54:21,960
Speaker 4: is going to choose to go first or not that way.

1186
00:54:22,000 --> 00:54:24,000
Speaker 4: I can't be accused of rigging it for either one

1187
00:54:24,000 --> 00:54:26,160
Speaker 4: of you. How many appearances has Owen Hunt made on

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00:54:26,200 --> 00:54:27,439
Speaker 4: Gray's Anatomy over the years.

1189
00:54:28,160 --> 00:54:29,200
Speaker 2: Okay, I have my guess.

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00:54:29,480 --> 00:54:35,120
Speaker 5: Go ahead, I'm going to guess four hundred, four hundred Becca.

1191
00:54:37,080 --> 00:54:43,520
Speaker 3: I'm gonna guess, uh, two hundred twenty five.

1192
00:54:43,760 --> 00:54:48,879
Speaker 5: Becca wins that one. I think they just had episodes again.

1193
00:54:48,960 --> 00:54:52,839
Speaker 5: Tanya could not join us today. I'm so sorry.

1194
00:54:52,920 --> 00:54:57,080
Speaker 4: All right, rapid fire, ready, gotta go fast us today.

1195
00:54:57,200 --> 00:54:59,080
Speaker 4: I give you the doctor's first name. You gave me

1196
00:54:59,120 --> 00:55:01,279
Speaker 4: their last name. These already easier and get harder. Here

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00:55:01,320 --> 00:55:06,520
Speaker 4: we go, you on first, Becca, okay, Becca, Cally Torres,

1198
00:55:07,719 --> 00:55:09,160
Speaker 4: Tanya Addison.

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00:55:10,680 --> 00:55:25,000
Speaker 10: Montgomery, Becca, Ericahn, Tanya, Teddy Mellencamp, Teddy Altman, Becca Leah.

1200
00:55:25,200 --> 00:55:26,800
Speaker 5: These are hard now, these are the hardest ones.

1201
00:55:27,080 --> 00:55:33,680
Speaker 4: Murphy, Tanya Shane west Ross.

1202
00:55:33,200 --> 00:55:39,920
Speaker 5: Wow, Beca smoked on that one. Round two. Remember I

1203
00:55:40,000 --> 00:55:40,800
Speaker 5: named the doctor.

1204
00:55:40,880 --> 00:55:49,880
Speaker 4: You give me their specialty, Becca, doctor doctor Amelia Shepherd Noro, Becca,

1205
00:55:50,200 --> 00:55:57,799
Speaker 4: I'm sorry, Tanya, Doctor Cally Torres Bones, Okay, Ortho, there

1206
00:55:57,840 --> 00:55:58,120
Speaker 4: you go.

1207
00:55:58,880 --> 00:56:00,600
Speaker 5: Doctor Nathan Riggs, Beca.

1208
00:56:02,320 --> 00:56:04,919
Speaker 1: Trauma no heart.

1209
00:56:06,200 --> 00:56:13,359
Speaker 4: Cardio Cardio's correct. Doctor Maggie Pierce, Tanya she does heart. Yeah,

1210
00:56:14,280 --> 00:56:17,520
Speaker 4: all right, beca Doctor April Kepner, she is trauma. Here

1211
00:56:17,640 --> 00:56:19,959
Speaker 4: is Tala and Tanya. Doctor Preston Burke.

1212
00:56:20,800 --> 00:56:22,280
Speaker 2: Uh, he was also cardio.

1213
00:56:22,640 --> 00:56:24,640
Speaker 5: Okay, that was good. I think you guys swept that

1214
00:56:24,719 --> 00:56:26,319
Speaker 5: particular round. Very good.

1215
00:56:26,680 --> 00:56:29,520
Speaker 4: Round three, final round. Becka has a two point lead.

1216
00:56:29,800 --> 00:56:31,600
Speaker 4: I'll name the character. You tell me if they are

1217
00:56:31,640 --> 00:56:36,280
Speaker 4: alive or dead on the show. Currently all right, Becca,

1218
00:56:36,480 --> 00:56:42,080
Speaker 4: Doctor Nicole Herman played by Gina Davis, alive, alive but blind.

1219
00:56:41,840 --> 00:56:43,239
Speaker 1: Yeah but blind? Who is that?

1220
00:56:43,880 --> 00:56:44,040
Speaker 3: Oh?

1221
00:56:44,920 --> 00:56:46,120
Speaker 2: Tanya could not join us to.

1222
00:56:46,280 --> 00:56:49,359
Speaker 4: Doctor Heather Brooks, in turn, played by Tina Majorino.

1223
00:56:50,440 --> 00:56:51,919
Speaker 2: Heather Brooks died.

1224
00:56:52,920 --> 00:56:57,120
Speaker 5: She died of electrocution. Very good. Back to Becca Haley May.

1225
00:56:57,360 --> 00:56:59,240
Speaker 5: She was a patient played by Demi Levado.

1226
00:57:00,360 --> 00:57:01,000
Speaker 1: She's alive.

1227
00:57:01,520 --> 00:57:04,920
Speaker 4: She was carried by doctor Krrev Tanya Kyle Dias a

1228
00:57:04,960 --> 00:57:06,680
Speaker 4: patient played by Wilmer Vall Durama.

1229
00:57:07,520 --> 00:57:08,960
Speaker 2: Oh, he died and it was so.

1230
00:57:09,280 --> 00:57:10,919
Speaker 5: Sad he did die. Time of death.

1231
00:57:10,960 --> 00:57:16,200
Speaker 4: Fifteen twenty three. Becca Mary Portman, played by Mandy Moore died.

1232
00:57:17,200 --> 00:57:20,120
Speaker 4: Never looked up her anesthesia and finally she died.

1233
00:57:20,400 --> 00:57:21,960
Speaker 1: She's Rebecca Pearson now and this.

1234
00:57:24,000 --> 00:57:26,720
Speaker 4: Tanya. Last one Nick Hanscombe. He was played by Seth

1235
00:57:26,760 --> 00:57:32,280
Speaker 4: Green died very good, but Tanya had trouble with the

1236
00:57:32,360 --> 00:57:34,600
Speaker 4: last names. Becca is our winner.

1237
00:57:37,560 --> 00:57:39,120
Speaker 2: I would just like to say I was working on

1238
00:57:39,240 --> 00:57:43,200
Speaker 2: half mass today. Why is that really impressed that I

1239
00:57:43,280 --> 00:57:46,280
Speaker 2: even managed to like do as well as I did.

1240
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Speaker 2: I don't know.

1241
00:57:48,160 --> 00:57:51,080
Speaker 1: That's you know, you win some you lousa today you lost?

1242
00:57:52,160 --> 00:57:54,520
Speaker 1: So next week, next week we'll text.

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Speaker 3: Dang it.

1244
00:57:55,080 --> 00:57:56,960
Speaker 2: I'm so I had a really good one.

1245
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Speaker 3: I just want to say thank you to our guest Alice,

1246
00:58:00,120 --> 00:58:03,040
Speaker 3: Andra and Erica. Thank you for giving us advice. Thank

1247
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Speaker 3: you to our sponsors.

1248
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Speaker 2: Quip, HelloFresh and Wink.

1249
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Speaker 3: We appreciate y'all so much. Thank you for all the emails.

1250
00:58:10,880 --> 00:58:12,919
Speaker 3: We will do more of those next week.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and let's leave them with one thought, the thought

1252
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Speaker 2: of the thought of the hashtag of the week.

1253
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Speaker 1: Choose love. Oh, choose love.

1254
00:58:20,720 --> 00:58:23,479
Speaker 3: That should be whether you're listening to this podcast, whether

1255
00:58:23,560 --> 00:58:24,680
Speaker 3: you don't just listen.

1256
00:58:25,480 --> 00:58:29,880
Speaker 1: I mean, choose love pretty pretty basic, but we're gonna.

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Speaker 2: Pick it right underneath hashtag. I hope he's not listening.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Thank y'all so much for listening. Thank you for

1259
00:58:34,560 --> 00:58:37,080
Speaker 3: the emails, Thank you for just being amazing.

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Speaker 5: Rubbing in at iHeartMedia dot com.

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00:58:39,520 --> 00:58:41,960
Speaker 1: That's the email. A lot of people ask for it.

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Speaker 1: You heard it here first. Scrubbing in at iHeartMedia dot com.

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Speaker 1: Time of Death. No no, I wanted to treat you.

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Speaker 1: Oh oh six, oh so sad.

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Speaker 2: I hate it's over.