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Speaker 2: It's stay or go Okay, more opinions from us Kelsey.

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Speaker 1: This time Hi Kelsey, Hi, how's it going?

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Speaker 2: Good morning, thanks for being here, Welcome to the programs.

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Speaker 2: So this is where people hit us seven ask us

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Speaker 2: for our opinions. Are the thirteen's opinions about steps going

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Speaker 2: on in their life? You can hit us at Freendshow

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Speaker 2: radio dot com on all the different socials. This is

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Speaker 2: about your boyfriend. You guys have been together for a

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Speaker 2: year and a half and decided to move in together

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Speaker 2: and then what.

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Speaker 3: So we looked up places. We did find one that

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Speaker 3: we really liked, and so we put in that application

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Speaker 3: for it standard process and then for whatever reason, like

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Speaker 3: we got denied for it. I said that it ran

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Speaker 3: our credit and.

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Speaker 1: You have good crowd or was it a little bit

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Speaker 1: of a roll the dice there?

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Speaker 3: My credit is pretty good.

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Speaker 4: I mean, you know it is what it is.

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Speaker 2: Okay, so you expected to get this though, like you didn't.

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Speaker 2: You didn't do this, and you're like wet to see

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Speaker 2: if they find that credit card bill or whatever.

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Speaker 1: But then you expected it wouldn't be an issue, right.

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Speaker 3: I didn't think it would be that big of a deal,

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Speaker 3: Like obviously I wouldn't put the application in because we

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Speaker 3: had to pay for that, right, So I just wasn't expecting.

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Speaker 3: So they denied this. I called, I'm like, hey, what's

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Speaker 3: going on?

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Speaker 4: You know?

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Speaker 3: They said they couldn't proceed because of my boyfriend's credit,

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Speaker 3: not because of mine.

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Speaker 1: Oh and that was surprising.

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Speaker 3: Oh definitely it was. It was even more surprising because

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Speaker 3: not only was the credit like that, it was like

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Speaker 3: really bad, Like I didn't even know you could get

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Speaker 3: a credit score that.

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Speaker 4: I love.

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Speaker 3: No shade, no shade, Okay, I love him, I love

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Speaker 3: my boyfriend, but it's also just like day, like when

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Speaker 3: were you going to tell me that? It was a

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Speaker 3: lot of like details to it too, like they owe

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Speaker 3: he specifically owes that rental company thousands of dollars like

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Speaker 3: thousands of rent like over a past lease. And he

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Speaker 3: didn't tell me that. And it's like if you knew,

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Speaker 3: if you knew that before we applied, why wouldn't you

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Speaker 1: Okay?

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Speaker 2: So and then you converted him, right because you're like, hey,

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Speaker 2: what's going on with this? Like why didn't we talk

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Speaker 2: about it? And then what does he what's his response? Oh, yeah,

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Speaker 2: my bad, Like I thought, maybe I don't know, I

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Speaker 3: Basically, no, not even my bad, right, I would even

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Speaker 3: was oh my old roommate, they didn't pay it affected

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Speaker 3: my credit, blah blah blah. We were both on the lease.

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Speaker 3: And so I'm like, okay, why wouldn't you just tell

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Speaker 3: same company. So I don't know. I just really am

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Speaker 3: confused about it because I also feel like it almost

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Speaker 3: like you knew that.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, he knew he had bad credit.

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Speaker 2: He knew they were running the credit because that's pretty

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Speaker 2: standard when you go rent something and he didn't give

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Speaker 2: else's fault entirely, which then I would start to say, well,

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Speaker 2: if my credit was completely screwed, then I'm tracking that

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Speaker 1: But then he seems a little complacent.

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Speaker 2: About it, even because it's oh, yeah that Yeah.

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Speaker 1: It's a shame, isn't it. I like that it's someone

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Speaker 3: Yeah, But he's you know, I will give him this,

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Speaker 3: Like he is working, and he's working towards a lot

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Speaker 3: I don't know if that's something I want to be

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Speaker 3: involved in. Right, It's like I can help you a

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Speaker 1: Yeah, can I do that?

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Speaker 2: I've never I've never rented an apartment with someone else,

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Speaker 2: But I mean, can you You're going to run into

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Speaker 2: don't run his credit? Or I mean, is this something

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Speaker 2: he clears this up?

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Speaker 1: It is my question.

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Speaker 3: I don't even know, like we haven't even gotten there.

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Speaker 3: It's just I need to make the decision first. I

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Speaker 3: think as far as like am I gonna bring him

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Speaker 1: You know?

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Speaker 3: So I think, you know, it is a liability. It's like,

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Speaker 3: do I even want to put his name on the

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Speaker 2: So it's like, yeah, which is something you're gonna have

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Speaker 2: something happens eight five five five three five. I'd love

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Speaker 2: to tell what people if they've been through this, what

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Speaker 2: they have to say, but it you know, it's I'm

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Speaker 2: glad that he's not just sitting on the couch playing

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Speaker 2: video games with bad credit and yeah, I don't know,

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Speaker 2: and it doesn't seem to be any motivation for him

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Speaker 2: to sort of have success in his life. That being said,

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Speaker 2: I do think it's us that he didn't ever bring

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Speaker 2: this up, like, like, why why didn't he going into

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Speaker 2: do have this situation. It's going to come up when

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Speaker 2: they run the credit. We may not be able to

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Speaker 2: get the places that we want. And here are the

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Speaker 2: steps that I'm taking to resolve it so that it's

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Speaker 2: the rest of our lives. He didn't do that, which

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Speaker 2: makes me then wonder why not you know, because again,

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Speaker 2: this isn't a surprise to him.

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Speaker 3: No, And if he did, if he didn't know, that's

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Speaker 3: a problem too, because how didn't you know that? Like

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Speaker 3: what why aren't you diligent enough?

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Speaker 1: You know what I mean?

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Speaker 3: So either way, this is a problem, and I'm trying

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Speaker 3: to figure out if I want to keep being involved

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Speaker 2: Well because if if it's not resolved, I don't know

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Speaker 2: how long that stuff lasts or how quickly you can

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Speaker 2: turn it around. But you know this you might have

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Speaker 2: to buy all the you might have to buy the house,

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Speaker 2: you might have to do all the renting of everything.

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Speaker 2: You might have to have the credit cards in your name.

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Speaker 2: And that's now we're talking about something. If I'm right

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Speaker 2: about that, because again I've never I've never call mingled funds.

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Speaker 2: Now we're talking about where everything is on you and

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Speaker 2: he can just walk because it's all on your name.

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Speaker 2: And I wouldn't like that feeling either of somebody out there,

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Speaker 2: you know, sort of spending and living and existing under

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Speaker 2: my credit because you hear about this happening. And I

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Speaker 2: don't know this guy, but you sometimes hear about people

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Speaker 2: screwing up other people's credit this way and now and

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Speaker 2: then you got to fix it again.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and I don't I don't know. I don't think.

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Speaker 3: I don't know if it's worth it, Honestly.

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Speaker 6: No matter what you do, make sure, sorry, make sure

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Speaker 6: you move into a place that you can afford if

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Speaker 6: you do end up moving in with him, that you

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Speaker 6: can afford on your own in case something happens, just

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Speaker 6: so you're protected. But if his credit is bad, they

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Speaker 6: will not allow him on the lease, so it would

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Speaker 6: be just you getting approved. If they'll still let you

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Speaker 6: after running his but you need to make sure that

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Speaker 6: you can handle it on your own us to protect yourself.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't want you wind it up on Keiky scored,

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Speaker 2: because that's a whole different thing. If you wind up

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Speaker 2: on both stair going, we got a real problem on

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Speaker 2: our hands. It's not good. Let me take some phone

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Speaker 2: have lived this before and figured it out. But yeah,

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Speaker 2: my husband Kelsey, have a good day, and thanks for listening,

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Speaker 2: and have the radio one up?

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Speaker 7: Should we call it?

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Speaker 3: Thank you?

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Speaker 7: Turn that radio off, Bobby right now.

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Speaker 8: Like the thing is I was different, Like I was

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Speaker 8: very transparent of like this is like the debt that I.

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Speaker 7: Have occurred, A cured whatever the word is. I've done this.

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Speaker 1: This is my debt. Is it occurred?

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Speaker 9: All right?

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Speaker 7: I told him the marriage and I cured it I marriage.

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Speaker 7: I told him after marriage and he's like, oh, I

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Speaker 7: didn't know it was this.

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Speaker 1: You incurred it, by the way, but anay, go ahead,

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Speaker 1: sorry that was that was stuck on my.

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Speaker 8: Well, Like uh yeah, so you know, living off my

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Speaker 8: husband is it's very valid at this moment of life.

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Speaker 8: But I do contribute. Obviously, I work, and I and

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Speaker 8: I pay bills, and I actually have my own home

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Speaker 8: that I purchased on my own.

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Speaker 7: Hell yeah, thank you so much. But I do.

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Speaker 8: Feel like a I know every dollar, I all where

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Speaker 8: it needs to go and where it's gonna come from.

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Speaker 8: I know that part and doing something about it. And

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Speaker 8: I was very transparent. And this man, this embarrassing man,

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Speaker 8: British Fogue, if you know, you know, is not being

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Speaker 8: honest and he's gonna take her down if he doesn't

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Speaker 8: change his act and clean it up.

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Speaker 1: You know, So, Kaylee says, go because you've lived through this. Hi, Kaylee, Hi,

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Speaker 1: good morning. So how did that? Good morning? How did

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Speaker 1: that go? Like? Like, why are you so intent on going?

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Speaker 10: Everything was fine for like five years, but then there

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Speaker 10: was like a back injury and then he lost that

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Speaker 10: job and then he couldn't go back and the mental

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Speaker 10: wear of it all. But I'm so I finally left

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Speaker 10: such or seven and a half years, and I am

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Speaker 10: grateful enough to be able to have moved back in

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Speaker 10: with our dog to my mom's house. But I'm still

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Speaker 10: carrying the debt because nothing was under his name. It

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Speaker 10: was all my credit card. So I'm I left with

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Speaker 10: like thirty five thousand dollars in credit card.

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Speaker 7: I am so sorry.

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Speaker 2: So you're in love with this guy and you're feeling

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Speaker 2: If he can't be an equal partner in all of this,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, all right, Kayley, thank you, have a good day,

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Speaker 2: And someone is saying it could take as much as

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Speaker 2: That someone's call calm, how you doing, Hey?

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Speaker 4: Great, how are you?

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Speaker 9: Stair go go because he is not ready and she

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Speaker 9: and if it's meant to be, you can circle.

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Speaker 3: Back to each other.

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Speaker 4: But you're going to be paying for everything.

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Speaker 9: The house will be in your name, the cars will

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Speaker 9: and not him. He has no built credit, He'll have

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Speaker 2: But yeah, I mean, do you actually end a romantic

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Speaker 1: Okay, have a good day.

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Speaker 2: And I'm going to give you some time to fix this.

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Speaker 2: And if you don't, then I'm okay, because I'm not

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Speaker 1: What about that alternative? I think that's the way to

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Speaker 8: I mean, honestly, I mean, you don't take any risks,

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Speaker 2: Why you pay, Well, that's another thing he is you

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Speaker 2: not in a bad spot.

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Speaker 3: Now.

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Speaker 2: I think if you're living for two people and you're

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Speaker 2: I feel like, maybe you get in trouble.

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Speaker 1: Jackie.

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Speaker 7: You say go too though, yes, okay, he definitely should go.

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Speaker 5: Because I relived something very very similar where it was, Oh,

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Speaker 10: To be nice.

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Speaker 5: He's like, all right, I'll help you bose to credit

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Speaker 5: things like that. Eventually things weren't getting paid. Long story short,

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Speaker 5: we've been you know, we were together for six years

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Speaker 2: Okay, oh god, Now I have to ask you, Jackie,

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Speaker 2: in all honesty, when you when I'm sorry that happened

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Speaker 2: was he showing you signs that he was complacent about it?

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Speaker 1: Because look, I mean, one.

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Speaker 2: Thing I've learned in in you know, dating and in

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Speaker 2: they're sort of and I think some of that's instilled

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Speaker 2: put it on credit, worry about.

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Speaker 1: It later, or or hey, I don't know, I don't

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Speaker 2: I'm not saying the signs were there, But would you

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Speaker 5: I don't think so, because I think the underlying thing

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Speaker 5: I messed up and that this is how I was

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Speaker 5: trying to fix it. He braided claimed it on the roommate.

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Speaker 5: That's a big red flag.

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Speaker 5: So there was a lot of lyne going on also

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Speaker 5: with my with my partner, you know, wasn't the accountability

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Speaker 5: for things was like, oh, he got an accident that

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Speaker 5: So to me, it tells me there's no growth there.

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Speaker 5: He's not going to grow, so she should just live

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Speaker 5: on her own. She could be around her life if

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Speaker 4: But he needs to deal with this himself, because.

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Speaker 5: When he learns how to deal with it, he's going

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Speaker 1: Yeah, thank you, Jackie, You have a good day.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I guess. I guess they could live separately, still

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Speaker 2: it's going to take seven years to straighten it out.

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Speaker 2: I mean, I think she could definitely say I need

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Speaker 2: how you're working away at this. You're going to have

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Speaker 2: if he really loves her, then he's going to understand

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Speaker 2: but it won't put her in a bad situation if

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Speaker 1: WHOA I tell her how you doing?

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Speaker 5: How you doing?

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Speaker 1: What's going on? Hey man? You're the loan stay here?

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Speaker 4: Come on man?

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Speaker 1: Uh oh, I'm coming on now. Why am I coming on?

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Speaker 5: Now?

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Speaker 2: Though?

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Speaker 1: I need you to tell me why I should say?

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Speaker 1: Why should I stay in this thing?

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Speaker 4: I think? I think in that situation when I first

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Speaker 4: didn't even have a license. We couldn't even get a

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Speaker 4: Now everything is in my name. I take care of everything.

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Speaker 4: I got the good credit school, and now I'm trying

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Speaker 11: Her get back up.

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Speaker 2: Interesting, but you were clear with her about that, Like Nigel,

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Speaker 2: you told her all of this up front, like Yo,

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Speaker 2: I got I'm in a bad.

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Speaker 11: Situation, shut together vaguely, and over the years, I built

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Speaker 11: now it's nothing that.

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Speaker 1: We can't get you know, right, that's right.

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Speaker 2: See, But you seem to have shown the signs I'm

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Speaker 2: talking about, like you took accountability, You were transparent, you

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Speaker 2: going to turn it around. You did, and now you're

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Speaker 2: doesn't seem like that's what one hundred percent true in

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Speaker 4: Keep in mind, free I went from making twenty seven

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Speaker 1: My man.

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Speaker 2: So when you're rolling like that, I mean, okay, yeah,

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Speaker 4: Money changes everything. I don't know how, I don't know why,

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Speaker 2: I mean, no money more problems, but it certainly makes

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Speaker 1: I don't know. At least you're not hungry with the problems.

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Speaker 4: I actually have less problems because I actually matured. I

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Speaker 4: don't even flirt anymore or anything like that, any stuff

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Speaker 4: that she have to worry about.

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Speaker 2: Nigel's got money now, so he ain't even stepping out, right, Nigel,

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Speaker 2: it's very wrong.

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Speaker 4: I do have a dime though, you know, beautiful.

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Speaker 1: It usually goes the other way.

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Speaker 2: Usually people clean up their life and all of a

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Speaker 2: sudden they think, I not get you anything. So look

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Speaker 2: he stopped with the Shenanigans. To Nigel, this right here,

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Speaker 2: Nigel's a success story. Right here is Nigel good for you?

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Speaker 2: He's got credit straight and he's not chatting anymore. Nigel,

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Speaker 2: good for you. I know, honestly, all jokes aside, good

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Speaker 2: for you. Stop you stop stepping out, all right, man,

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Speaker 2: have a good day. He's a good man, Nigel. Nigel

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Speaker 2: is the other way around, right, Like people attach themselves.

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Speaker 2: I hate to say this, but people and I'm not

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Speaker 2: people in bad situations attach themselves to people who can

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Speaker 2: They forgot about who helped him do it, and they're like, boy,

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Speaker 2: I am in a good spot now.

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Speaker 7: You made me punch my mic.

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Speaker 1: That's true.

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Speaker 7: You're making good points today. You are on fire today.

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Speaker 1: Right the bar. You know.

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Speaker 2: It's the funny thing is I'm on fire most days.

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Speaker 2: It's just you're just now realizing it today.

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Speaker 7: It is Taylor.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I.

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Speaker 2: Mean I have a pretty good batting average, but today

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Speaker 2: I'm a hundred.

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Speaker 1: Compliments, I'm a hundred.

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Speaker 8: this like I am too Actually, I'm gonna go home,

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Speaker 8: and I'm gonna go home and.

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Speaker 2: Play my own brilliance and just be proud of myself

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Speaker 2: for once. I'm going to go home, and yeah, I'm

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Speaker 2: not gonna step out anymore either. I've been stepping out

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Speaker 2: of myself on my non relationship forever