WEBVTT - Ep. 23 — He spent HOW much on that ring? 0:17:22.359 --> 0:17:25.000 The worst of his Twitter stream was when Kanye, which 0:17:25.000 --> 0:17:26.959 I thought was so disrespectful. He starts to bring up 0:17:26.960 --> 0:17:29.560 Amber Rose and he says, you're just mad or whatever, 0:17:29.640 --> 0:17:31.919 that I know you're mad because a stripper trapped you 0:17:32.320 --> 0:17:35.160 cause Amber Rose used to strip, and that every time 0:17:35.200 --> 0:17:36.679 you look at your son, you have to know that 0:17:36.720 --> 0:17:39.840 you have eighteen years with her, and that I'm your og, 0:17:40.520 --> 0:17:43.080 which is the original gangster. That's what OG means, and 0:17:43.119 --> 0:17:45.840 that you know when you look at your son, you know, y, 0:17:46.640 --> 0:17:49.520 that's your son is here because of me. Basically because 0:17:49.600 --> 0:17:53.040 Kanye used to date Amber and because he used to 0:17:53.080 --> 0:17:57.240 date Amber, she she became basically a celebrity, and saying 0:17:57.240 --> 0:17:59.200 that if she had not dated him become a celebrity, 0:17:59.200 --> 0:18:01.280 she would not have married with Khalifa and they would 0:18:01.280 --> 0:18:03.240 not have had a baby. So he goes on to say, like, 0:18:03.280 --> 0:18:05.480 you know, basically I created your baby and it was 0:18:05.560 --> 0:18:05.960 just so. 0:18:06.640 --> 0:18:07.720 Extra and disrespectful. 0:18:07.880 --> 0:18:10.200 And then later he realizes that Wiz must have tweeted 0:18:10.240 --> 0:18:13.959 him back and said, oh, so kk is my my 0:18:14.000 --> 0:18:14.560 weed brand. 0:18:14.600 --> 0:18:16.560 I wasn't talking about your wife, and then Kanye J. 0:18:16.680 --> 0:18:20.679 Westich said like, oh oops, my bad, and it was 0:18:20.720 --> 0:18:24.080 just so yeah, I don't know. I just wanted to 0:18:24.119 --> 0:18:25.600 be like, I don't want to hear about Oh, Kanye 0:18:25.720 --> 0:18:27.920 is still so sad because he lost his mom. Kanye's 0:18:27.960 --> 0:18:32.440 crazy and just disrespectful. Who talks about people's kids like that? Like, 0:18:32.720 --> 0:18:35.360 just go sit down. Your music has gotten I used 0:18:35.359 --> 0:18:38.440 to love Kanye's music, but his last album was trash 0:18:38.640 --> 0:18:42.000 and honestly, he dated Amber himself, so if she's so terrible, 0:18:42.040 --> 0:18:43.400 and why are you still talking about it. I don't 0:18:43.400 --> 0:18:45.560 talk about my ex boyfriend because I don't think about him, 0:18:45.880 --> 0:18:50.880 you know exactly. And Amber came back with some snarky 0:18:50.920 --> 0:18:53.040 remark but it was dead but it just honestly, it's 0:18:53.080 --> 0:18:55.000 just like, I don't know, I just want to be 0:18:55.000 --> 0:18:57.440 like Kanye, make you just drop your album and make 0:18:57.440 --> 0:19:00.639 your music good again. Nobody cares about your your thoughts 0:19:00.680 --> 0:19:04.040 and ramblings anymore. Like, just stay off the internet. Somebody 0:19:04.080 --> 0:19:05.000 take his Twitter away. 0:19:05.160 --> 0:19:09.200 My expectations are low, Yeah, are low too. I mean, 0:19:09.280 --> 0:19:12.439 you bring in a Kardashian, but I digress. Did you 0:19:12.520 --> 0:19:13.639 see did you see? 0:19:14.000 --> 0:19:14.080 So? 0:19:14.160 --> 0:19:16.840 We had this monster blizzard? What was a winter storm? Jonas? 0:19:16.920 --> 0:19:19.399 Last weekend we took a brown break from what I 0:19:19.400 --> 0:19:23.159 believe from snow. Did you see though? That hilarious the 0:19:23.200 --> 0:19:26.280 photo from the Senate floor on like the Tuesday after 0:19:26.320 --> 0:19:28.879 the blizzard when it was a senator and he was 0:19:28.880 --> 0:19:33.720 the Senator. Leah Murkowski from Alaska, she's a Republican, looked 0:19:33.720 --> 0:19:36.320 around the room and was like, there are only women 0:19:36.600 --> 0:19:41.119 who brave the weather to come run the government. That 0:19:41.240 --> 0:19:41.879 was so telling. 0:19:42.080 --> 0:19:44.680 Yes, it's very telling. There's a lesson in there somewhere 0:19:45.200 --> 0:19:49.320 that is so funny. The men were like, nah, I'm do. 0:19:49.359 --> 0:19:51.879 You know how bait what babies? Men are like, Come on, 0:19:52.119 --> 0:19:56.359 it's like the have they the man flew where like 0:19:56.560 --> 0:19:57.720 they think they have a cold. 0:19:57.760 --> 0:19:58.840 They're like, but I'm dying. 0:19:58.960 --> 0:20:04.640 I problem, the end is not right. Get me three sandwiches. 0:20:05.080 --> 0:20:07.960 I've got like I've apparently got death in my in 0:20:08.000 --> 0:20:10.320 my chest. And I'm like, I did laundry today, I 0:20:10.320 --> 0:20:13.399 did cleaned up, you know, and I'm just like I 0:20:13.440 --> 0:20:14.840 went out to see I'm like you guys eight, are 0:20:14.880 --> 0:20:17.680 you guys good? I'm like, but when Superman is sick, 0:20:17.720 --> 0:20:21.919 he's like, I cannot move forward. Tell my daughter I 0:20:21.960 --> 0:20:24.200 love her. 0:20:24.560 --> 0:20:26.480 Men are babies. But I love this quote. She says 0:20:26.480 --> 0:20:30.480 something is genuinely different and something is genuinely fabulous. I 0:20:30.520 --> 0:20:32.560 just love the idea of like all these like badass 0:20:32.600 --> 0:20:37.159 law making women, Republican democrat whatever, just like running the 0:20:37.200 --> 0:20:39.440 show on their own. And it just made me feel 0:20:39.440 --> 0:20:41.639 a warm and fuzzy, like what if it were all women? 0:20:41.800 --> 0:20:57.159 And God, brown break? What are you gonna brown break from? 0:20:57.480 --> 0:21:01.440 I'm breaking from the sickness. Oh, I'm bringing for winter colds. 0:21:01.520 --> 0:21:06.080 So all that flew, all that coughing, all that fever, headache, shaking, 0:21:06.520 --> 0:21:10.080 I'm over it. So Alyssa Oop, Supergirl brought it into 0:21:10.119 --> 0:21:12.080 our home and then spread the joy. 0:21:12.080 --> 0:21:13.280 I'm sure she got it from school. 0:21:14.000 --> 0:21:16.920 So I say, I took a brown break from the snow, 0:21:17.080 --> 0:21:20.159 and now I'm banishing these winter colds. So if you 0:21:20.359 --> 0:21:23.720 are not washing your hands between every interaction, and you're 0:21:23.760 --> 0:21:26.679 not covering your mouth and nodes and stuff, please do 0:21:27.160 --> 0:21:30.440 because it is not fun being sick when you're it's 0:21:30.440 --> 0:21:33.760 not fun being sick at all, period, but especially when 0:21:33.760 --> 0:21:36.320 you're an entrepreneur. Because I have so much to get 0:21:36.359 --> 0:21:39.320 done and I have like not the the motivation or 0:21:39.320 --> 0:21:41.800 the energy to get it done. And I'm like, but 0:21:41.920 --> 0:21:43.600 if I don't work, I don't I don't get paid 0:21:44.400 --> 0:21:47.120 so yeah, I'm taking a brown break from this dagon illness. 0:21:47.160 --> 0:21:50.760 Please send me your good your good health vibes via 0:21:50.840 --> 0:21:52.080 the internets. 0:21:52.880 --> 0:21:54.320 You know it'll help pick me up. 0:21:55.400 --> 0:21:58.080 I don't send us your home remedied ideas that she 0:21:58.520 --> 0:22:00.960 can read but then not you, because it'll be weird. 0:22:01.400 --> 0:22:03.320 Like my dad is always telling me to drink apple 0:22:03.320 --> 0:22:06.520 cider vinegar and put some witch hazel on it. 0:22:06.720 --> 0:22:09.280 Yes, it being to give me a fireball, which is 0:22:09.320 --> 0:22:11.200 like some sort of alcohol. 0:22:11.480 --> 0:22:14.600 I don't know, but I don't know if it'll hear. 0:22:14.480 --> 0:22:16.840 You without the sickness. 0:22:16.960 --> 0:22:19.919 I was like, I literally and I was like Superman. 0:22:20.000 --> 0:22:22.080 If I take this fireball, I'm gonna just be drunk. 0:22:22.119 --> 0:22:23.240 I don't know that I'll be healthy. 0:22:23.400 --> 0:22:25.600 I love that if I take this fireball, like he's 0:22:25.640 --> 0:22:27.200 handing you an actual fireball. 0:22:29.359 --> 0:22:31.520 But no, definitely, Oh yes, please tweet me at the 0:22:31.560 --> 0:22:34.199 b a podcast or at the Budget Nista if you 0:22:34.240 --> 0:22:38.240 have some like home remedies. My symptoms are scratchy throat, 0:22:39.359 --> 0:22:41.200 tight chest, and just a lot of coughing. 0:22:41.320 --> 0:22:43.400 Oh the cofughing, ah, the coffee. 0:22:43.480 --> 0:22:45.600 I'm gonna have a really fun job editing this later. 0:22:45.640 --> 0:22:47.720 You guys, just think of me when you hear this 0:22:47.800 --> 0:22:51.000 perfectly clean podcast without the coughing, think of me and 0:22:51.080 --> 0:22:53.359 as I edited all the hacking exactly. 0:22:53.680 --> 0:22:56.600 So don't don't email the remedies. I just prefer you 0:22:56.640 --> 0:22:58.240 just tweet it that way, we don't we don't flood 0:22:58.240 --> 0:23:00.879 the emails with Mandy. So tweet us at at the 0:23:00.920 --> 0:23:03.320 BA podcast or at the Budget Lisa. I'd love to 0:23:03.359 --> 0:23:06.200 hear your remedies. Hopefully I won't be sick by the 0:23:06.240 --> 0:23:08.439 next time we get on, because I'll be feeling better. 0:23:09.000 --> 0:23:09.760 Oh should we. 0:23:09.720 --> 0:23:11.840 Mention the solo dot ob Brian thing now since you 0:23:11.840 --> 0:23:14.080 brought up Twitter? Oh yes, we'll take a little pause 0:23:14.119 --> 0:23:17.720 before my brown break. Okay, So Twitter, fam, if you 0:23:17.760 --> 0:23:21.320 were on Brown Ambition's Twitter feed at the BA podcast, 0:23:21.400 --> 0:23:25.119 you must tweet at Solodad O'Brien. She is the badass 0:23:25.160 --> 0:23:31.040 CNN producer, documentarian, filmmaker. She's looking. She asked on a 0:23:31.200 --> 0:23:34.760 question on Twitter, do you know any women with entrepreneurial 0:23:34.800 --> 0:23:39.240 podcasts that you liked or know of? Everybody listening? Obviously 0:23:39.320 --> 0:23:41.960 does it's called Brown Ambition? Please tweet at her. 0:23:42.320 --> 0:23:44.760 And her so solo Dad does spell it properly, It's 0:23:44.880 --> 0:23:48.040 sol s so l E Dad like Dad D A 0:23:48.480 --> 0:23:51.960 D and then O'Brien which is O b R I 0:23:52.119 --> 0:23:55.359 E N. And you could tweet her Sola that O'Brien 0:23:55.440 --> 0:23:58.240 just say, oh my gosh, I know a great podcast 0:23:58.280 --> 0:24:02.879 about entrepreneurship at the BA podcast. She asked the question, 0:24:03.000 --> 0:24:05.679 So definitely share us with her, and you never know 0:24:05.840 --> 0:24:07.720 she might be looking to I don't know what she's looking. 0:24:07.840 --> 0:24:09.640 Yeah, we don't know what she wants. We just want 0:24:09.640 --> 0:24:10.240 you to just want. 0:24:10.160 --> 0:24:12.000 Her to know about us. And she's so nice. 0:24:12.320 --> 0:24:14.359 I've met her like two or three times and she 0:24:14.600 --> 0:24:18.800 was super nice every single time. So yeah, just talk 0:24:18.960 --> 0:24:21.119 out me and me and Mandy Sancha and that you 0:24:21.119 --> 0:24:23.080 think that we're an amazing podcast and she should check 0:24:23.160 --> 0:24:23.640 us out. 0:24:23.800 --> 0:24:27.080 Or whatever you can fit one hundred and forty character exactly. 0:24:27.440 --> 0:24:27.760 You do. 0:24:27.800 --> 0:24:31.600 You be creative already. So for my brown break this week, 0:24:31.680 --> 0:24:34.199 this is something that I have said. I think this 0:24:34.359 --> 0:24:36.720 was my New Year's resolution last year actually, and I 0:24:36.800 --> 0:24:39.200 must say I've done a really good job. I'm taking 0:24:39.200 --> 0:24:40.800 a brown break from Group Dinners. 0:24:42.000 --> 0:24:43.560 Do tell so. 0:24:43.600 --> 0:24:47.880 The group dinner is an American institution that has been 0:24:47.920 --> 0:24:51.199 around ever since probably Jesus and his disciples took that 0:24:51.280 --> 0:24:52.600 picture the last supper. 0:24:52.960 --> 0:24:55.000 Yeah, you're likely as in so this is when the 0:24:55.000 --> 0:24:58.320 group dinners usually introduced into your life. Sometime after college, 0:24:59.119 --> 0:25:01.720 dinner usually start. Would you say that's correct, I would. 0:25:01.560 --> 0:25:04.560 Say I would say after college, it's like everyone's first 0:25:04.600 --> 0:25:07.399 foray into like an adult activity. Yes, like we're not 0:25:07.400 --> 0:25:09.120 going to meet up for happy hour. Let's sit down 0:25:09.119 --> 0:25:13.240 and have a meal and be adults. Yes, before you 0:25:13.320 --> 0:25:18.000 have the adult Monday, and so they can quickly become 0:25:18.000 --> 0:25:20.160 a headache. And you all have been there. In fact, 0:25:20.240 --> 0:25:21.960 if you guys have been watching, I have a weekly 0:25:21.960 --> 0:25:24.840 web series called money Minute on Yahoo Finance. This week's 0:25:24.880 --> 0:25:27.560 money Minute the title is five people you should stop 0:25:27.600 --> 0:25:29.920 eating dinner with right now. 0:25:30.000 --> 0:25:31.080 I'm gonna fight. 0:25:32.080 --> 0:25:34.240 As I was writing it, I was getting really upset 0:25:34.280 --> 0:25:35.639 and I feel like I need to take a break. 0:25:35.880 --> 0:25:38.040 Like there's I was feeling a lot of like anger, 0:25:38.440 --> 0:25:42.160 like just like just pushed onto the rug for so long, 0:25:42.200 --> 0:25:44.480 so much rage. But you know that one friend you 0:25:44.560 --> 0:25:46.720 have who invites you to dinner, like, oh hey it's 0:25:46.720 --> 0:25:48.760 been a while, let's meet up, let's get dinner. And 0:25:48.800 --> 0:25:51.240 then you show up and there's like ten other people there. Yeah, 0:25:51.240 --> 0:25:54.040 and you get tricked into having a group dinner with AH. 0:25:53.920 --> 0:25:56.600 And then the whole bill thing happens. I remember the 0:25:56.600 --> 0:25:58.400 first time that happened. I think I was twenty two, 0:25:59.119 --> 0:26:01.240 and I I did not know. 0:26:01.280 --> 0:26:02.680 That people split bills. 0:26:02.720 --> 0:26:06.760 I was horrified because I brought my little fifteen dollars 0:26:06.760 --> 0:26:09.640 for my little you know, ten dollars chicken and planned 0:26:09.680 --> 0:26:12.240 to put in my five dollars as a tip. And 0:26:12.320 --> 0:26:14.600 when I saw that people were talking about splitting bills, 0:26:14.600 --> 0:26:19.480 people who had actual liquid alcohol in their cups talking 0:26:19.520 --> 0:26:23.560 about splitting bills, I thought, no, I only had fifteen dollars. 0:26:24.000 --> 0:26:25.760 That was horrifying to me and I had to like 0:26:25.760 --> 0:26:28.720 figure out a way. But yes, ooh my first group dinner, 0:26:28.840 --> 0:26:31.199 people were arguing, like straight out arguing. It turned a 0:26:31.200 --> 0:26:32.960 birthday party that was supposed to be nice into like 0:26:33.480 --> 0:26:34.480 a near fistfight. 0:26:34.760 --> 0:26:37.440 Nope, because that you added up and it's never enough Nope. 0:26:37.600 --> 0:26:40.320 And then somebody feels guilty. No one's owning up to it, 0:26:40.359 --> 0:26:42.240 so someone puts in an extra twenty bucks and the 0:26:42.359 --> 0:26:45.159 neighbor feel resentful. I've been that person before, and you 0:26:45.240 --> 0:26:47.159 always have the one friend you know it is, but 0:26:47.200 --> 0:26:48.880 no one wants to talk to them about it. Yes, 0:26:49.359 --> 0:26:51.680 and it's just like why, just why I will only 0:26:51.720 --> 0:26:53.280 go out I just went to my This is what 0:26:53.320 --> 0:26:56.000 brought it up for me is this past weekend, one 0:26:56.000 --> 0:26:58.920 of my best friends who I love dearly, Happy Birthday, Kiki, 0:26:59.280 --> 0:27:01.760 had a birthday done and only because it was first 0:27:01.800 --> 0:27:03.440 of all, I was a really good friend. Second of all, 0:27:03.480 --> 0:27:06.160 I knew everyone else coming. I asked for the guest list. 0:27:06.560 --> 0:27:08.159 It wasn't a party of more than ten, and like 0:27:08.200 --> 0:27:09.800 I was like, yes, I could do this. I went 0:27:09.840 --> 0:27:11.920 to a restaurant I knew would have space for us, 0:27:12.040 --> 0:27:14.280 that wouldn't have a long line, but like I had to, 0:27:14.440 --> 0:27:16.480 you know, make sure that it was within the parameters 0:27:16.520 --> 0:27:18.760 of like a group dinner. I could get through without 0:27:18.800 --> 0:27:21.000 wanting to poke myself in the eyeball with a fork. 0:27:22.240 --> 0:27:23.639 You have to know, you have to like trust the 0:27:23.640 --> 0:27:25.560 people you're going with and don't go out to dinner 0:27:25.560 --> 0:27:27.879 with a bunch of strangers. I'm done. I'm done with 0:27:27.920 --> 0:27:30.720 the random birthday dinners that are just like, oh, here come, 0:27:30.800 --> 0:27:32.679 you're my friend, and then here's all my coworkers, and 0:27:32.760 --> 0:27:35.240 like here's my random roommate and like her friends come, 0:27:35.359 --> 0:27:37.919 and then let's all get appetizers. And like it's not 0:27:37.960 --> 0:27:40.000 even effective. I mean, I guess part of it is 0:27:40.040 --> 0:27:41.760 just I don't like getting stuck paying more than what 0:27:41.840 --> 0:27:45.760 I've you know, purchased. But I feel like if it's 0:27:45.840 --> 0:27:48.400 people that I love and I care about, when we 0:27:48.440 --> 0:27:50.000 split the bill at the end of the night, like 0:27:50.080 --> 0:27:52.320 it's not gonna be this like I don't want to 0:27:52.359 --> 0:27:54.439 pay for so and so I don't even know that person. 0:27:54.480 --> 0:27:57.560 You know, we split the bill because we trust each 0:27:57.600 --> 0:28:00.919 other and it's just an understanding that like we'll split 0:28:00.960 --> 0:28:03.240 the bill and we're going to eat again together and 0:28:03.280 --> 0:28:05.600 we'll make up for it, and there's there's just less 0:28:05.600 --> 0:28:06.720 of that awkwardness, you know. 0:28:07.280 --> 0:28:10.320 Yeah, yeah, I mean and then too, like with the 0:28:10.359 --> 0:28:13.000 group dinner, if it's not with like friends who are 0:28:13.040 --> 0:28:14.840 friends with each other, it can be a bit awkward 0:28:14.840 --> 0:28:16.760 if you're like sitting next to like the wrong person 0:28:17.560 --> 0:28:18.960 like that your coworker. 0:28:18.600 --> 0:28:21.440 The roommate, the roommate's boyfriend, like those people. 0:28:21.240 --> 0:28:23.280 And you're like, great, this person is boring as hell, 0:28:23.560 --> 0:28:25.639 this is this is where I'm sitting huh, you know, 0:28:26.240 --> 0:28:29.160 or like remember we did a group dinner at fin. 0:28:29.040 --> 0:28:32.480 Con Well that was different because the tab was picked up. 0:28:32.840 --> 0:28:35.639 No but meaning that, so the group dinner is also awkward, 0:28:35.640 --> 0:28:37.480 and people who are not invited kind of come and 0:28:37.520 --> 0:28:42.360 you're like, oh, yes, because especially since the tab was 0:28:42.400 --> 0:28:45.320 picked up, I had promised like one of the sponsors 0:28:45.720 --> 0:28:47.920 of the sponsor of the dinner, she's like, oh, I'd 0:28:48.000 --> 0:28:50.360 like to meet some brown folks in finance, and she 0:28:50.480 --> 0:28:52.160 kind of gave me a number and I said okay, 0:28:52.200 --> 0:28:54.400 and I invited as many people as I could. I'm like, okay, 0:28:54.400 --> 0:28:56.240 the number is capped, because this is the number she 0:28:56.280 --> 0:28:58.640 gave me. And people were like, oh, I heard I 0:28:58.680 --> 0:29:01.560 want to come, and I was like, okay. You know, 0:29:01.640 --> 0:29:03.000 we were able to get a few more people, but 0:29:03.040 --> 0:29:05.560 then the more people started coming and coming and coming, 0:29:05.560 --> 0:29:08.120 and I felt because it wasn't like, oh, we were 0:29:08.160 --> 0:29:10.040 splitting the bill, because if it was I wouldn't care, 0:29:10.280 --> 0:29:12.880 but someone else was paying, and literally. 0:29:12.480 --> 0:29:13.720 The number like doubled. 0:29:13.960 --> 0:29:17.080 Thankfully, like the sponsor had deep pockets, so she was cool, 0:29:17.160 --> 0:29:21.040 but I felt so bad because I was like, ugh, 0:29:21.760 --> 0:29:26.120 so I hope you have an extra thousand dollars yeah, 0:29:26.280 --> 0:29:27.480 to be my wedding. 0:29:27.920 --> 0:29:30.280 Like what, oh for sure? What? 0:29:30.880 --> 0:29:33.560 Especially people are gott to bring their own chairs, okay, 0:29:33.640 --> 0:29:35.080 especially like you're. 0:29:34.960 --> 0:29:38.040 In their illuminum foil and their tower containers and don't 0:29:38.080 --> 0:29:40.080 tell me. I have friends and you know who you are. 0:29:40.520 --> 0:29:44.080 Jessica O'Neill, who never leaves without a container of food. 0:29:44.120 --> 0:29:47.200 And it's fun what I feel like me and Superman 0:29:47.240 --> 0:29:49.760 are gonna get married in secret because Nigerians they do 0:29:49.920 --> 0:29:50.320 not care. 0:29:50.360 --> 0:29:51.120 They'n be like what. 0:29:51.720 --> 0:29:54.080 I remember a friend of mine actually had a wedding 0:29:54.160 --> 0:29:57.080 like on one of those like cruise boats, and people 0:29:57.240 --> 0:30:01.000 came to the boats without invitations. No, and they were like, 0:30:01.040 --> 0:30:03.680 please let me on. They were like, no, no, ma'am, 0:30:05.320 --> 0:30:07.760 you cannot doc with us. 0:30:07.880 --> 0:30:08.320 You know what. 0:30:08.440 --> 0:30:10.720 I am in favor of having a list at a 0:30:10.760 --> 0:30:13.440 big whether it's a wedding, whether it's a bot mitzvah, 0:30:13.440 --> 0:30:16.400 whether it's like an anniversary party, like you should just 0:30:16.560 --> 0:30:19.400 give someone like a hundred bucks, be the bouncer. Here's 0:30:19.440 --> 0:30:21.680 the list. You don't have to do the awkward. You 0:30:21.720 --> 0:30:24.120 can't come in. They can complain to you later and 0:30:24.120 --> 0:30:26.000 then you can be like, oh my god, I didn't know. 0:30:26.040 --> 0:30:27.320 I thought you were on the list, you know what 0:30:27.360 --> 0:30:28.840 I mean? Like I think I might try that. 0:30:29.440 --> 0:30:33.280 Yeah, No, we have wed they definitely have well. Yeah, 0:30:33.280 --> 0:30:35.280 like on the outside. They had definitely have people because 0:30:35.280 --> 0:30:38.440 it gets to be so ignorant. I remember the first 0:30:38.440 --> 0:30:40.479 girl kind of like in my age rings that got married. 0:30:40.840 --> 0:30:42.680 At her wedding, I felt so bad. I won't even 0:30:42.720 --> 0:30:44.720 say her name because she'd just be like, well, you know, 0:30:44.760 --> 0:30:46.000 I could say, well, I won't say her name. But 0:30:46.040 --> 0:30:47.880 she actually went on to form the bridal magazine. 0:30:47.880 --> 0:30:50.720 We talked about that. Muni Ride also. 0:30:50.880 --> 0:30:51.640 Well say her name. 0:30:51.880 --> 0:30:52.200 I know. 0:30:53.760 --> 0:30:57.320 I remember being like, yo, her mother invited the world 0:30:57.320 --> 0:30:59.200 because it was her first daughter. When I said, the 0:30:59.200 --> 0:31:03.640 world came in the hallways like on their phone telling people, Yo, 0:31:04.280 --> 0:31:05.440 this wedding is jumping. 0:31:05.600 --> 0:31:06.400 Get over here. 0:31:06.240 --> 0:31:09.280 This is not a house party. This is not a party. 0:31:09.320 --> 0:31:12.480 This is not college. It's your sisters brothers are lite sisters. No, yes, 0:31:12.840 --> 0:31:13.560 what is happening? 0:31:13.680 --> 0:31:15.720 So crazy because it was a jumping wedding. It was 0:31:15.720 --> 0:31:17.880 actually really a lot of fun. But can you imagine 0:31:17.920 --> 0:31:19.880 people are telling people and I'm not gonna lie, that's 0:31:19.920 --> 0:31:21.840 just Nigerian custom. Like I can tell you how many 0:31:21.840 --> 0:31:23.760 times every other weekend I get a phone call from 0:31:23.800 --> 0:31:26.120 a friend who's like, yo, I'm at the robber tree, 0:31:26.280 --> 0:31:28.080 come get a plate. I'm like, well, Who's party is it? 0:31:28.080 --> 0:31:29.280 They're like, I don't know some Nigerian. 0:31:29.360 --> 0:31:30.680 Is that the hotel that you're talking about? 0:31:30.840 --> 0:31:32.920 Yes, the Robber Tree Hotel in Newark is like the 0:31:33.040 --> 0:31:37.320 most Nigerian venue in a New Jersey. Like literally there 0:31:37.320 --> 0:31:39.920 has been something. There's a Nigerian event there literally every weekend. 0:31:39.960 --> 0:31:41.680 I could probably just get dress and go and know 0:31:42.160 --> 0:31:43.800 half the people there. And I've done that before, Like 0:31:43.800 --> 0:31:45.800 if I've been hungry and my friend of mine text 0:31:45.880 --> 0:31:47.920 me and says, cause I live within walking distance, I'll 0:31:47.920 --> 0:31:49.600 put on the dress, walk over and get a plate 0:31:49.840 --> 0:31:51.800 and be like hey, soin as I'll even see my parents. 0:31:51.600 --> 0:31:53.880 They're like, hey, what y'all doing here? You know? 0:31:54.080 --> 0:31:56.360 I'm like, oh, Aunt, he's such and such as Jubilee. 0:31:56.360 --> 0:31:59.160 I'm like, oh, okay, can I get a plate? And 0:31:59.200 --> 0:32:00.000 then I walk home. 0:32:00.720 --> 0:32:01.920 Oh I love being Nigerian. 0:32:03.240 --> 0:32:07.400 Well, okay, I understand it's not just Nigerians either. Like 0:32:07.720 --> 0:32:10.440 my friend who had my really good friend, She's Indian 0:32:10.480 --> 0:32:14.720 and her fiancees Puerto Rican Dominican. Their wedding was insane, 0:32:15.720 --> 0:32:18.000 but her problem wasn't a bunch of walk ons. Actually 0:32:18.120 --> 0:32:19.640 part of it was like a lot of people bringing 0:32:19.680 --> 0:32:23.000 their kids and randomly who have mouths to feet, like 0:32:23.000 --> 0:32:24.680 they should count as an extra person. They just bring 0:32:24.680 --> 0:32:27.000 their kids or but you know, she had a strict 0:32:27.040 --> 0:32:29.200 rule where if you weren't living with your partner, they 0:32:29.200 --> 0:32:31.400 couldn't come. Okay, that's how they cut down, but she 0:32:31.440 --> 0:32:34.240 still had like over three hundred people plus randos showing 0:32:34.320 --> 0:32:35.640 up with their children. And how are you gonna turn 0:32:35.640 --> 0:32:36.120 a kid away? 0:32:36.160 --> 0:32:37.800 You know? Yeah, the kid thing is crazy. 0:32:37.840 --> 0:32:39.640 We always have aunties with like seven kids that are like, 0:32:39.640 --> 0:32:42.320 I'm bringing my children. You're like, so you can't bring 0:32:42.400 --> 0:32:44.320 all of them? This is a no kid party. I 0:32:44.360 --> 0:32:46.440 can I ten my kids? Await You're like, oh my god. 0:32:48.040 --> 0:32:50.520 They don't want to be there half the time. Honestly, 0:32:50.920 --> 0:32:52.680 how many six year olds twelve year olds want to 0:32:52.720 --> 0:32:55.280 be at this random wedding? No, they can't drink. What 0:32:55.320 --> 0:32:55.960 are they gonna do? 0:32:56.760 --> 0:32:57.920 Run around? 0:32:58.080 --> 0:33:01.840 A good chance to open up the phone lines, but 0:33:02.000 --> 0:33:04.200 we don't have any open up the email for like 0:33:04.320 --> 0:33:07.120 wedding horror stories. That's what I want to know, like 0:33:07.160 --> 0:33:09.120 what what what would you do differently with your wedding? 0:33:09.200 --> 0:33:12.560 What went wrong? Who showed up? Who caused drama? Just 0:33:12.760 --> 0:33:14.239 let me know how the horror stories so I can 0:33:14.280 --> 0:33:16.320 feel a little bit better about what might happen at 0:33:16.320 --> 0:33:16.920 my own wedding. 0:33:23.120 --> 0:33:27.120 And now it's time for some tips. Actually, I'm gonna 0:33:27.120 --> 0:33:30.080 selfishly kind of take over tips today because I have 0:33:30.160 --> 0:33:33.680 a question for Mandy as it relates to wedding rings, 0:33:33.840 --> 0:33:36.120 and because Superman and I have really been talking about 0:33:36.120 --> 0:33:39.360 it seriously, especially since i've been like on my deathbed. 0:33:39.600 --> 0:33:41.320 You know, he's been wanting to make me an honest 0:33:41.320 --> 0:33:43.800 woman and like, wait. 0:33:43.640 --> 0:33:45.640 While you're on your deathbed, this is the one He's like, 0:33:45.680 --> 0:33:46.479 I got her attention. 0:33:48.720 --> 0:33:51.040 He's like, you know, he's just like I just realized 0:33:51.040 --> 0:33:52.600 how much you do for me. I'm like, are you kidding? 0:33:52.600 --> 0:33:55.920 I'm not really dying, and no, but we've been talking 0:33:55.960 --> 0:33:58.680 about marriage for a while now, so I just like 0:33:58.760 --> 0:34:00.360 lately but it's been like at a few were pitch 0:34:00.440 --> 0:34:02.080 like he's actually been talking to thee like my sister's 0:34:02.120 --> 0:34:04.880 about it and stuff, and you know, talking about talking 0:34:04.880 --> 0:34:07.680 to my dad and just even talking about a ring 0:34:07.680 --> 0:34:09.719 because I had I had mentioned a few months back, 0:34:09.840 --> 0:34:11.400 are you saving for a ring? And he looked at 0:34:11.440 --> 0:34:15.239 me like wait what, And so since then we've been 0:34:15.320 --> 0:34:17.800 just talking about like you know what that cost is. 0:34:17.840 --> 0:34:19.359 And just just a few days ago, I said, let 0:34:19.360 --> 0:34:21.520 me do some research to see what a rings go for, 0:34:21.600 --> 0:34:25.080 and I literally could find no research on like what 0:34:25.960 --> 0:34:29.799 the average ring costs. And I just wanted to kind 0:34:29.800 --> 0:34:31.800 of know Mandy, like, you know, since you just got engaged. 0:34:31.800 --> 0:34:34.200 We were like, what are we looking at here? So 0:34:34.200 --> 0:34:35.040 many questions. 0:34:35.160 --> 0:34:39.000 It's whatever, the unsatisfying answer is, it's whatever your fiance 0:34:39.120 --> 0:34:42.000 can afford. Yeah, it's what they feel comfortable spending money on. 0:34:42.120 --> 0:34:44.759 I'll say the average ring. According to the non dot 0:34:44.840 --> 0:34:46.759 com they update their average wedding costs and all the 0:34:46.800 --> 0:34:50.040 different tramings of trappings of a wedding every year. It's 0:34:50.080 --> 0:34:51.400 about five thousand dollars. 0:34:51.880 --> 0:34:53.799 Okay, that's not too bad, is it? 0:34:53.840 --> 0:34:55.719 Though it's a lot of money, like it is a 0:34:55.719 --> 0:34:57.440 lot of It sounds like a lot of money to me, 0:34:57.640 --> 0:35:00.600