Speaker 1: The worst of his Twitter stream was when Kanye, which
Speaker 1: I thought was so disrespectful. He starts to bring up
Speaker 1: Amber Rose and he says, you're just mad or whatever,
Speaker 1: that I know you're mad because a stripper trapped you
Speaker 1: cause Amber Rose used to strip, and that every time
Speaker 1: you look at your son, you have to know that
Speaker 1: you have eighteen years with her, and that I'm your og,
Speaker 1: which is the original gangster. That's what OG means, and
Speaker 1: that you know when you look at your son, you know, y,
Speaker 1: that's your son is here because of me. Basically because
Speaker 1: Kanye used to date Amber and because he used to
Speaker 1: date Amber, she she became basically a celebrity, and saying
Speaker 1: that if she had not dated him become a celebrity,
Speaker 1: she would not have married with Khalifa and they would
Speaker 1: not have had a baby. So he goes on to say, like,
Speaker 1: you know, basically I created your baby and it was
Speaker 1: just so.
Speaker 2: Extra and disrespectful.
Speaker 1: And then later he realizes that Wiz must have tweeted
Speaker 1: him back and said, oh, so kk is my my
Speaker 1: weed brand.
Speaker 2: I wasn't talking about your wife, and then Kanye J.
Speaker 1: Westich said like, oh oops, my bad, and it was
Speaker 1: just so yeah, I don't know. I just wanted to
Speaker 1: be like, I don't want to hear about Oh, Kanye
Speaker 1: is still so sad because he lost his mom. Kanye's
Speaker 1: crazy and just disrespectful. Who talks about people's kids like that? Like,
Speaker 1: just go sit down. Your music has gotten I used
Speaker 1: to love Kanye's music, but his last album was trash
Speaker 1: and honestly, he dated Amber himself, so if she's so terrible,
Speaker 1: and why are you still talking about it. I don't
Speaker 1: talk about my ex boyfriend because I don't think about him,
Speaker 1: you know exactly. And Amber came back with some snarky
Speaker 1: remark but it was dead but it just honestly, it's
Speaker 1: just like, I don't know, I just want to be
Speaker 1: like Kanye, make you just drop your album and make
Speaker 1: your music good again. Nobody cares about your your thoughts
Speaker 1: and ramblings anymore. Like, just stay off the internet. Somebody
Speaker 1: take his Twitter away.
Speaker 3: My expectations are low, Yeah, are low too. I mean,
Speaker 3: you bring in a Kardashian, but I digress. Did you
Speaker 3: see did you see?
Speaker 2: So?
Speaker 3: We had this monster blizzard? What was a winter storm? Jonas?
Speaker 3: Last weekend we took a brown break from what I
Speaker 3: believe from snow. Did you see though? That hilarious the
Speaker 3: photo from the Senate floor on like the Tuesday after
Speaker 3: the blizzard when it was a senator and he was
Speaker 3: the Senator. Leah Murkowski from Alaska, she's a Republican, looked
Speaker 3: around the room and was like, there are only women
Speaker 3: who brave the weather to come run the government. That
Speaker 3: was so telling.
Speaker 1: Yes, it's very telling. There's a lesson in there somewhere
Speaker 1: that is so funny. The men were like, nah, I'm do.
Speaker 3: You know how bait what babies? Men are like, Come on,
Speaker 3: it's like the have they the man flew where like
Speaker 3: they think they have a cold.
Speaker 2: They're like, but I'm dying.
Speaker 3: I problem, the end is not right. Get me three sandwiches.
Speaker 1: I've got like I've apparently got death in my in
Speaker 1: my chest. And I'm like, I did laundry today, I
Speaker 1: did cleaned up, you know, and I'm just like I
Speaker 1: went out to see I'm like you guys eight, are
Speaker 1: you guys good? I'm like, but when Superman is sick,
Speaker 1: he's like, I cannot move forward. Tell my daughter I
Speaker 1: love her.
Speaker 3: Men are babies. But I love this quote. She says
Speaker 3: something is genuinely different and something is genuinely fabulous. I
Speaker 3: just love the idea of like all these like badass
Speaker 3: law making women, Republican democrat whatever, just like running the
Speaker 3: show on their own. And it just made me feel
Speaker 3: a warm and fuzzy, like what if it were all women?
Speaker 3: And God, brown break? What are you gonna brown break from?
Speaker 1: I'm breaking from the sickness. Oh, I'm bringing for winter colds.
Speaker 1: So all that flew, all that coughing, all that fever, headache, shaking,
Speaker 1: I'm over it. So Alyssa Oop, Supergirl brought it into
Speaker 1: our home and then spread the joy.
Speaker 2: I'm sure she got it from school.
Speaker 1: So I say, I took a brown break from the snow,
Speaker 1: and now I'm banishing these winter colds. So if you
Speaker 1: are not washing your hands between every interaction, and you're
Speaker 1: not covering your mouth and nodes and stuff, please do
Speaker 1: because it is not fun being sick when you're it's
Speaker 1: not fun being sick at all, period, but especially when
Speaker 1: you're an entrepreneur. Because I have so much to get
Speaker 1: done and I have like not the the motivation or
Speaker 1: the energy to get it done. And I'm like, but
Speaker 1: if I don't work, I don't I don't get paid
Speaker 1: so yeah, I'm taking a brown break from this dagon illness.
Speaker 1: Please send me your good your good health vibes via
Speaker 1: the internets.
Speaker 2: You know it'll help pick me up.
Speaker 3: I don't send us your home remedied ideas that she
Speaker 3: can read but then not you, because it'll be weird.
Speaker 3: Like my dad is always telling me to drink apple
Speaker 3: cider vinegar and put some witch hazel on it.
Speaker 1: Yes, it being to give me a fireball, which is
Speaker 1: like some sort of alcohol.
Speaker 3: I don't know, but I don't know if it'll hear.
Speaker 2: You without the sickness.
Speaker 1: I was like, I literally and I was like Superman.
Speaker 1: If I take this fireball, I'm gonna just be drunk.
Speaker 1: I don't know that I'll be healthy.
Speaker 3: I love that if I take this fireball, like he's
Speaker 3: handing you an actual fireball.
Speaker 1: But no, definitely, Oh yes, please tweet me at the
Speaker 1: b a podcast or at the Budget Nista if you
Speaker 1: have some like home remedies. My symptoms are scratchy throat,
Speaker 1: tight chest, and just a lot of coughing.
Speaker 2: Oh the cofughing, ah, the coffee.
Speaker 3: I'm gonna have a really fun job editing this later.
Speaker 3: You guys, just think of me when you hear this
Speaker 3: perfectly clean podcast without the coughing, think of me and
Speaker 3: as I edited all the hacking exactly.
Speaker 1: So don't don't email the remedies. I just prefer you
Speaker 1: just tweet it that way, we don't we don't flood
Speaker 1: the emails with Mandy. So tweet us at at the
Speaker 1: BA podcast or at the Budget Lisa. I'd love to
Speaker 1: hear your remedies. Hopefully I won't be sick by the
Speaker 1: next time we get on, because I'll be feeling better.
Speaker 2: Oh should we.
Speaker 3: Mention the solo dot ob Brian thing now since you
Speaker 3: brought up Twitter? Oh yes, we'll take a little pause
Speaker 3: before my brown break. Okay, So Twitter, fam, if you
Speaker 3: were on Brown Ambition's Twitter feed at the BA podcast,
Speaker 3: you must tweet at Solodad O'Brien. She is the badass
Speaker 3: CNN producer, documentarian, filmmaker. She's looking. She asked on a
Speaker 3: question on Twitter, do you know any women with entrepreneurial
Speaker 3: podcasts that you liked or know of? Everybody listening? Obviously
Speaker 3: does it's called Brown Ambition? Please tweet at her.
Speaker 1: And her so solo Dad does spell it properly, It's
Speaker 1: sol s so l E Dad like Dad D A
Speaker 1: D and then O'Brien which is O b R I
Speaker 1: E N. And you could tweet her Sola that O'Brien
Speaker 1: just say, oh my gosh, I know a great podcast
Speaker 1: about entrepreneurship at the BA podcast. She asked the question,
Speaker 1: So definitely share us with her, and you never know
Speaker 1: she might be looking to I don't know what she's looking.
Speaker 3: Yeah, we don't know what she wants. We just want
Speaker 3: you to just want.
Speaker 2: Her to know about us. And she's so nice.
Speaker 1: I've met her like two or three times and she
Speaker 1: was super nice every single time. So yeah, just talk
Speaker 1: out me and me and Mandy Sancha and that you
Speaker 1: think that we're an amazing podcast and she should check
Speaker 1: us out.
Speaker 3: Or whatever you can fit one hundred and forty character exactly.
Speaker 2: You do.
Speaker 3: You be creative already. So for my brown break this week,
Speaker 3: this is something that I have said. I think this
Speaker 3: was my New Year's resolution last year actually, and I
Speaker 3: must say I've done a really good job. I'm taking
Speaker 3: a brown break from Group Dinners.
Speaker 2: Do tell so.
Speaker 3: The group dinner is an American institution that has been
Speaker 3: around ever since probably Jesus and his disciples took that
Speaker 3: picture the last supper.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you're likely as in so this is when the
Speaker 1: group dinners usually introduced into your life. Sometime after college,
Speaker 1: dinner usually start. Would you say that's correct, I would.
Speaker 3: Say I would say after college, it's like everyone's first
Speaker 3: foray into like an adult activity. Yes, like we're not
Speaker 3: going to meet up for happy hour. Let's sit down
Speaker 3: and have a meal and be adults. Yes, before you
Speaker 3: have the adult Monday, and so they can quickly become
Speaker 3: a headache. And you all have been there. In fact,
Speaker 3: if you guys have been watching, I have a weekly
Speaker 3: web series called money Minute on Yahoo Finance. This week's
Speaker 3: money Minute the title is five people you should stop
Speaker 3: eating dinner with right now.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna fight.
Speaker 3: As I was writing it, I was getting really upset
Speaker 3: and I feel like I need to take a break.
Speaker 3: Like there's I was feeling a lot of like anger,
Speaker 3: like just like just pushed onto the rug for so long,
Speaker 3: so much rage. But you know that one friend you
Speaker 3: have who invites you to dinner, like, oh hey it's
Speaker 3: been a while, let's meet up, let's get dinner. And
Speaker 3: then you show up and there's like ten other people there. Yeah,
Speaker 3: and you get tricked into having a group dinner with AH.
Speaker 1: And then the whole bill thing happens. I remember the
Speaker 1: first time that happened. I think I was twenty two,
Speaker 1: and I I did not know.
Speaker 2: That people split bills.
Speaker 1: I was horrified because I brought my little fifteen dollars
Speaker 1: for my little you know, ten dollars chicken and planned
Speaker 1: to put in my five dollars as a tip. And
Speaker 1: when I saw that people were talking about splitting bills,
Speaker 1: people who had actual liquid alcohol in their cups talking
Speaker 1: about splitting bills, I thought, no, I only had fifteen dollars.
Speaker 1: That was horrifying to me and I had to like
Speaker 1: figure out a way. But yes, ooh my first group dinner,
Speaker 1: people were arguing, like straight out arguing. It turned a
Speaker 1: birthday party that was supposed to be nice into like
Speaker 1: a near fistfight.
Speaker 3: Nope, because that you added up and it's never enough Nope.
Speaker 3: And then somebody feels guilty. No one's owning up to it,
Speaker 3: so someone puts in an extra twenty bucks and the
Speaker 3: neighbor feel resentful. I've been that person before, and you
Speaker 3: always have the one friend you know it is, but
Speaker 3: no one wants to talk to them about it. Yes,
Speaker 3: and it's just like why, just why I will only
Speaker 3: go out I just went to my This is what
Speaker 3: brought it up for me is this past weekend, one
Speaker 3: of my best friends who I love dearly, Happy Birthday, Kiki,
Speaker 3: had a birthday done and only because it was first
Speaker 3: of all, I was a really good friend. Second of all,
Speaker 3: I knew everyone else coming. I asked for the guest list.
Speaker 3: It wasn't a party of more than ten, and like
Speaker 3: I was like, yes, I could do this. I went
Speaker 3: to a restaurant I knew would have space for us,
Speaker 3: that wouldn't have a long line, but like I had to,
Speaker 3: you know, make sure that it was within the parameters
Speaker 3: of like a group dinner. I could get through without
Speaker 3: wanting to poke myself in the eyeball with a fork.
Speaker 3: You have to know, you have to like trust the
Speaker 3: people you're going with and don't go out to dinner
Speaker 3: with a bunch of strangers. I'm done. I'm done with
Speaker 3: the random birthday dinners that are just like, oh, here come,
Speaker 3: you're my friend, and then here's all my coworkers, and
Speaker 3: like here's my random roommate and like her friends come,
Speaker 3: and then let's all get appetizers. And like it's not
Speaker 3: even effective. I mean, I guess part of it is
Speaker 3: just I don't like getting stuck paying more than what
Speaker 3: I've you know, purchased. But I feel like if it's
Speaker 3: people that I love and I care about, when we
Speaker 3: split the bill at the end of the night, like
Speaker 3: it's not gonna be this like I don't want to
Speaker 3: pay for so and so I don't even know that person.
Speaker 3: You know, we split the bill because we trust each
Speaker 3: other and it's just an understanding that like we'll split
Speaker 3: the bill and we're going to eat again together and
Speaker 3: we'll make up for it, and there's there's just less
Speaker 3: of that awkwardness, you know.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I mean and then too, like with the
Speaker 1: group dinner, if it's not with like friends who are
Speaker 1: friends with each other, it can be a bit awkward
Speaker 1: if you're like sitting next to like the wrong person
Speaker 1: like that your coworker.
Speaker 3: The roommate, the roommate's boyfriend, like those people.
Speaker 1: And you're like, great, this person is boring as hell,
Speaker 1: this is this is where I'm sitting huh, you know,
Speaker 1: or like remember we did a group dinner at fin.
Speaker 3: Con Well that was different because the tab was picked up.
Speaker 1: No but meaning that, so the group dinner is also awkward,
Speaker 1: and people who are not invited kind of come and
Speaker 1: you're like, oh, yes, because especially since the tab was
Speaker 1: picked up, I had promised like one of the sponsors
Speaker 1: of the sponsor of the dinner, she's like, oh, I'd
Speaker 1: like to meet some brown folks in finance, and she
Speaker 1: kind of gave me a number and I said okay,
Speaker 1: and I invited as many people as I could. I'm like, okay,
Speaker 1: the number is capped, because this is the number she
Speaker 1: gave me. And people were like, oh, I heard I
Speaker 1: want to come, and I was like, okay. You know,
Speaker 1: we were able to get a few more people, but
Speaker 1: then the more people started coming and coming and coming,
Speaker 1: and I felt because it wasn't like, oh, we were
Speaker 1: splitting the bill, because if it was I wouldn't care,
Speaker 1: but someone else was paying, and literally.
Speaker 2: The number like doubled.
Speaker 1: Thankfully, like the sponsor had deep pockets, so she was cool,
Speaker 1: but I felt so bad because I was like, ugh,
Speaker 1: so I hope you have an extra thousand dollars yeah,
Speaker 1: to be my wedding.
Speaker 2: Like what, oh for sure? What?
Speaker 1: Especially people are gott to bring their own chairs, okay,
Speaker 1: especially like you're.
Speaker 3: In their illuminum foil and their tower containers and don't
Speaker 3: tell me. I have friends and you know who you are.
Speaker 3: Jessica O'Neill, who never leaves without a container of food.
Speaker 1: And it's fun what I feel like me and Superman
Speaker 1: are gonna get married in secret because Nigerians they do
Speaker 1: not care.
Speaker 2: They'n be like what.
Speaker 1: I remember a friend of mine actually had a wedding
Speaker 1: like on one of those like cruise boats, and people
Speaker 1: came to the boats without invitations. No, and they were like,
Speaker 1: please let me on. They were like, no, no, ma'am,
Speaker 1: you cannot doc with us.
Speaker 2: You know what.
Speaker 3: I am in favor of having a list at a
Speaker 3: big whether it's a wedding, whether it's a bot mitzvah,
Speaker 3: whether it's like an anniversary party, like you should just
Speaker 3: give someone like a hundred bucks, be the bouncer. Here's
Speaker 3: the list. You don't have to do the awkward. You
Speaker 3: can't come in. They can complain to you later and
Speaker 3: then you can be like, oh my god, I didn't know.
Speaker 3: I thought you were on the list, you know what
Speaker 3: I mean? Like I think I might try that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, No, we have wed they definitely have well. Yeah,
Speaker 1: like on the outside. They had definitely have people because
Speaker 1: it gets to be so ignorant. I remember the first
Speaker 1: girl kind of like in my age rings that got married.
Speaker 1: At her wedding, I felt so bad. I won't even
Speaker 1: say her name because she'd just be like, well, you know,
Speaker 1: I could say, well, I won't say her name. But
Speaker 1: she actually went on to form the bridal magazine.
Speaker 2: We talked about that. Muni Ride also.
Speaker 3: Well say her name.
Speaker 2: I know.
Speaker 1: I remember being like, yo, her mother invited the world
Speaker 1: because it was her first daughter. When I said, the
Speaker 1: world came in the hallways like on their phone telling people, Yo,
Speaker 1: this wedding is jumping.
Speaker 2: Get over here.
Speaker 3: This is not a house party. This is not a party.
Speaker 3: This is not college. It's your sisters brothers are lite sisters. No, yes,
Speaker 3: what is happening?
Speaker 1: So crazy because it was a jumping wedding. It was
Speaker 1: actually really a lot of fun. But can you imagine
Speaker 1: people are telling people and I'm not gonna lie, that's
Speaker 1: just Nigerian custom. Like I can tell you how many
Speaker 1: times every other weekend I get a phone call from
Speaker 1: a friend who's like, yo, I'm at the robber tree,
Speaker 1: come get a plate. I'm like, well, Who's party is it?
Speaker 1: They're like, I don't know some Nigerian.
Speaker 3: Is that the hotel that you're talking about?
Speaker 1: Yes, the Robber Tree Hotel in Newark is like the
Speaker 1: most Nigerian venue in a New Jersey. Like literally there
Speaker 1: has been something. There's a Nigerian event there literally every weekend.
Speaker 1: I could probably just get dress and go and know
Speaker 1: half the people there. And I've done that before, Like
Speaker 1: if I've been hungry and my friend of mine text
Speaker 1: me and says, cause I live within walking distance, I'll
Speaker 1: put on the dress, walk over and get a plate
Speaker 1: and be like hey, soin as I'll even see my parents.
Speaker 2: They're like, hey, what y'all doing here? You know?
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, Aunt, he's such and such as Jubilee.
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, okay, can I get a plate? And
Speaker 1: then I walk home.
Speaker 2: Oh I love being Nigerian.
Speaker 3: Well, okay, I understand it's not just Nigerians either. Like
Speaker 3: my friend who had my really good friend, She's Indian
Speaker 3: and her fiancees Puerto Rican Dominican. Their wedding was insane,
Speaker 3: but her problem wasn't a bunch of walk ons. Actually
Speaker 3: part of it was like a lot of people bringing
Speaker 3: their kids and randomly who have mouths to feet, like
Speaker 3: they should count as an extra person. They just bring
Speaker 3: their kids or but you know, she had a strict
Speaker 3: rule where if you weren't living with your partner, they
Speaker 3: couldn't come. Okay, that's how they cut down, but she
Speaker 3: still had like over three hundred people plus randos showing
Speaker 3: up with their children. And how are you gonna turn
Speaker 3: a kid away?
Speaker 2: You know? Yeah, the kid thing is crazy.
Speaker 1: We always have aunties with like seven kids that are like,
Speaker 1: I'm bringing my children. You're like, so you can't bring
Speaker 1: all of them? This is a no kid party. I
Speaker 1: can I ten my kids? Await You're like, oh my god.
Speaker 3: They don't want to be there half the time. Honestly,
Speaker 3: how many six year olds twelve year olds want to
Speaker 3: be at this random wedding? No, they can't drink. What
Speaker 3: are they gonna do?
Speaker 2: Run around?
Speaker 3: A good chance to open up the phone lines, but
Speaker 3: we don't have any open up the email for like
Speaker 3: wedding horror stories. That's what I want to know, like
Speaker 3: what what what would you do differently with your wedding?
Speaker 3: What went wrong? Who showed up? Who caused drama? Just
Speaker 3: let me know how the horror stories so I can
Speaker 3: feel a little bit better about what might happen at
Speaker 3: my own wedding.
Speaker 1: And now it's time for some tips. Actually, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: selfishly kind of take over tips today because I have
Speaker 1: a question for Mandy as it relates to wedding rings,
Speaker 1: and because Superman and I have really been talking about
Speaker 1: it seriously, especially since i've been like on my deathbed.
Speaker 1: You know, he's been wanting to make me an honest
Speaker 1: woman and like, wait.
Speaker 3: While you're on your deathbed, this is the one He's like,
Speaker 3: I got her attention.
Speaker 1: He's like, you know, he's just like I just realized
Speaker 1: how much you do for me. I'm like, are you kidding?
Speaker 1: I'm not really dying, and no, but we've been talking
Speaker 1: about marriage for a while now, so I just like
Speaker 1: lately but it's been like at a few were pitch
Speaker 1: like he's actually been talking to thee like my sister's
Speaker 1: about it and stuff, and you know, talking about talking
Speaker 1: to my dad and just even talking about a ring
Speaker 1: because I had I had mentioned a few months back,
Speaker 1: are you saving for a ring? And he looked at
Speaker 1: me like wait what, And so since then we've been
Speaker 1: just talking about like you know what that cost is.
Speaker 1: And just just a few days ago, I said, let
Speaker 1: me do some research to see what a rings go for,
Speaker 1: and I literally could find no research on like what
Speaker 1: the average ring costs. And I just wanted to kind
Speaker 1: of know Mandy, like, you know, since you just got engaged.
Speaker 1: We were like, what are we looking at here? So
Speaker 1: many questions.
Speaker 3: It's whatever, the unsatisfying answer is, it's whatever your fiance
Speaker 3: can afford. Yeah, it's what they feel comfortable spending money on.
Speaker 3: I'll say the average ring. According to the non dot
Speaker 3: com they update their average wedding costs and all the
Speaker 3: different tramings of trappings of a wedding every year. It's
Speaker 3: about five thousand dollars.
Speaker 2: Okay, that's not too bad, is it?
Speaker 3: Though it's a lot of money, like it is a
Speaker 3: lot of It sounds like a lot of money to me,
Speaker 3: especially considering the average wedding is about thirty thousand dollars,
Speaker 3: So that is what one sixth of your wedding budget.
Speaker 3: That's nearly twenty percent.
Speaker 2: I thought it.
Speaker 1: I'm thinking, like, I don't know, I thought maybe rings
Speaker 1: were like, oh, you know, they're like the average rink
Speaker 1: people were spending ten thousand, Not that I'm going to
Speaker 1: have Superman obviously look to spend five thousand to me,
Speaker 1: if the average ring is five thousand, then if he
Speaker 1: has twenty five hundred, three thousand dollars, you know, he's
Speaker 1: good to go.
Speaker 2: I know he's saving it. He's just like, okay, so
Speaker 2: you know, because we have a.
Speaker 1: Joint savings account, and like, you know, he's actually not
Speaker 1: far from like what I guess he's gonna need. But
Speaker 1: he's like, I don't know anything about any of this,
Speaker 1: So I'm like, do I have to do everything?
Speaker 2: Okay, let me let me see how much rings cost.
Speaker 3: Well, you know he can be creative. Well, you've lived
Speaker 3: near New York. If you want a diamond, if that's
Speaker 3: what your heart's set on, then the Diamond District of
Speaker 3: New York City, that is where you save the money.
Speaker 3: And I'll tell you why you might be intimidated because
Speaker 3: it's all a bunch of Jewish diamond dealers, which is
Speaker 3: remember I talked about how I got to get my
Speaker 3: ring resize there and someone quoted me like one hundred
Speaker 3: bucks and I went there and it was twenty and
Speaker 3: half the time.
Speaker 2: In there.
Speaker 3: So affordable in Diamond District is because literally every diamond
Speaker 3: that could shipped to America has to go through the
Speaker 3: Diamond District.
Speaker 2: It's where they.
Speaker 3: Buy diamonds wholesale. They sell them wholesale, so you're getting
Speaker 3: them before a jeweler in you know, Kansas City, Kansas
Speaker 3: or Atlanta, Georgia can mark up the price. Okay, So
Speaker 3: that's one option. And then there's I'll tell you about
Speaker 3: my ring. I my fiance got it online at Etsy,
Speaker 3: which oh yeah, so I know it's it's very unconventional,
Speaker 3: but more and more people are buying engagement rings on Etsy,
Speaker 3: and not just Etsy, but other online jewelers like Blue Niles.
Speaker 3: One of the big ones JLM, I think is h JLM.
Speaker 3: That might be wrong, I don't know, but there's a
Speaker 3: bunch of jewelers. This is a ring and it came
Speaker 3: from Etsy, and I had found it myself, not the
Speaker 3: exact one, but I found the seller when I was
Speaker 3: doing a story for Yahoo on Etsy engagement rings, and
Speaker 3: it was super affordable. He spent about half what an
Speaker 3: average wedding ring. Okay, good, and that was what I
Speaker 3: feel comfortable with him spending. And I think it's cool
Speaker 3: that you and Superman are talking about it, because you
Speaker 3: should look you should have the same expectations.
Speaker 1: Yeah, because honestly I don't. I'm not like a you know,
Speaker 1: you fancy had, that's just so not me. Like you know,
Speaker 1: I'm like, I wear like simple hoop earrings. I literally
Speaker 1: wear no jewelry outside of like hoop earrings, and like
Speaker 1: you know, like sometimes for TV, I might throw on something,
Speaker 1: but even then hardly. So I'm not really a big
Speaker 1: not that I'm not a fan of jury, It's just
Speaker 1: not my style. And so I just want to make sure,
Speaker 1: like you know, because I know, I'm just really proud
Speaker 1: of him because he's been saving and paying down debt.
Speaker 1: And I remember, Amandy, you just gave such good advice
Speaker 1: last time of how you took on a little bit
Speaker 1: more of the household debt to like alleviate some room
Speaker 1: for him to get rid of his debt and then
Speaker 1: also save mm hm. And so because a friend of
Speaker 1: mine has been struggling with that, like she's been like
Speaker 1: with her boyfriend for a minute, and he wants to
Speaker 1: get married, but he can't afford a ring. And I
Speaker 1: suggested that to her and she's like, I don't know
Speaker 1: how I feel about that, And I'm like, well, he's
Speaker 1: not going to be able to do it at all,
Speaker 1: like you know, don't.
Speaker 3: Have to be realistic.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: And then two, because I think that women feel like, well,
Speaker 1: that's like me paying for my ring. It's not you
Speaker 1: know that.
Speaker 2: You're nying more for your rents exactly exactly.
Speaker 1: And so we've just been really like, you know, talking
Speaker 1: about that, like Okay, well what can I do to
Speaker 1: help alleviate? But I'm not honestly, I'm really proud of him.
Speaker 1: Like I said, we have a joint account where we
Speaker 1: put in an equal amount of money, so you know,
Speaker 1: I'm definitely gonna let him know, like you know this.
Speaker 1: I know you have your own savings, but in this
Speaker 1: joint account, if you need to take your half to
Speaker 1: do whatever you need to do, I hit hint, I'm
Speaker 1: fine with that, Okay. But I was like, honestly, because
Speaker 1: like no one online would talk about how much they
Speaker 1: spent on their ring, and it was so frustrating because
Speaker 1: I was just like, no one wants to shay, I
Speaker 1: just want to know.
Speaker 3: But honestly, it's what you think you can afford, and
Speaker 3: don't buy into those stupid rules like the ring should
Speaker 3: be three months worth of pay.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that part was hard.
Speaker 3: What's why?
Speaker 2: Who what?
Speaker 3: That's just like the jewelry industry's dumb rule that they
Speaker 3: want you to say, been more in a ring. It's just retard.
Speaker 3: Oh sorry, no, I want to say retard. It's just stupid. Yeah,
Speaker 3: you buy what you can afford, because who wants to
Speaker 3: start playing weddings are expensive enough? Okay, yes, you don't
Speaker 3: want to start a wedding already, like ten grand in debt. No no, no,
Speaker 3: no no. So but I would say for you, like
Speaker 3: if you really want a diamond, and go on and
Speaker 3: see what you know, how much money Superman can afford
Speaker 3: can buy you, so you can adjust your expectations. All right, guys,
Speaker 3: to wrap things up, we're gonna go right into Wins
Speaker 3: of the week.
Speaker 1: Well, I want to give a little win shout out
Speaker 1: to Barbie.
Speaker 2: Woot woot, so.
Speaker 3: From Yankee to Barbie.
Speaker 1: Yes, and so, I mean I had a Barbie dog
Speaker 1: growing up. But so Barbie has unleashed a new range
Speaker 1: of dolls with excuse me, let me just start again,
Speaker 1: all right, So I want to do a win, a
Speaker 1: little shout out to Barbie. From Maggie to Barbie. Woo woom.
Speaker 1: I want to shout out Barbie, because Barbie has come
Speaker 1: out with a new range of dolls with different body types,
Speaker 1: hair outfits, skin tones.
Speaker 2: I mean, you've got like.
Speaker 1: Curvy girls, shorter, petite girls. You've got curly hair.
Speaker 2: Straight hair, wavy hair, and they just look so cute.
Speaker 1: And I'm like, look at Barbie stepping into twenty sixteen
Speaker 1: with some sense. Mattel announced that globally, Barbie had dropped
Speaker 1: fourteen percent in sales, and so they started to realize
Speaker 1: that people want to play well. Little girls want to
Speaker 1: see themselves reflected in the dolls that they play with.
Speaker 1: And Barbie, you know, stepped up to the plate and
Speaker 1: they are literally changing the face of the brand.
Speaker 2: That's like what they said inside.
Speaker 1: I know, and have you seen some of them? Like
Speaker 1: there's actually a girl with like she's super thick and
Speaker 1: she's got blue hair.
Speaker 3: Yeap, I like her. There's the Kirby Barbie. There's the
Speaker 3: and it's not just a black Barbie, but she's like
Speaker 3: dark skinned.
Speaker 2: Yes, like Charco Lots. I was like, yes, come do
Speaker 2: with this melanin.
Speaker 3: And there's curvy, there's petite Barbie. I was super excited
Speaker 3: to tell my friend Terra that she had a petite
Speaker 3: Barbie because she's super little.
Speaker 2: People are people do exactly.
Speaker 1: And that's the thing I liked about it that they
Speaker 1: could have easily just been like, oh, we'll go with Curby,
Speaker 1: because I feel like the curvy girls have made huge
Speaker 1: strides and like getting you know, more and more representation
Speaker 1: of themselves in the media. But then we forget that sometimes,
Speaker 1: Like I hate when they say real women have curves.
Speaker 1: I'm like, honestly, like, like, let's you say you're really
Speaker 1: petite and you're like, you know, flat chested, no real behind,
Speaker 1: or does that not make you a real woman? Like
Speaker 1: I just don't like when movements have to alienate one
Speaker 1: type in order to make themselves feel better. It's like, now,
Speaker 1: like women look like whatever it is they look like that,
Speaker 1: we could celebrate it all. You could be really petite
Speaker 1: and have an a cup and you can have a
Speaker 1: triple G and be sick and beautiful, and you can
Speaker 1: be you know, short and chunky and it doesn't make
Speaker 1: you less of a woman. And to see yourself reflected
Speaker 1: in just different ways, it's just so great. And I
Speaker 1: just want to say kudos to Barbie and their clothes
Speaker 1: are really cute.
Speaker 3: Kudos to Barbie for finally getting together exactly again. Why
Speaker 3: it took so long, nobody.
Speaker 1: Knows, I know, but you know, we gonna let you
Speaker 1: slide on that barb. We're gonna let you slide my Barbie.
Speaker 3: Growing up, I was all about Teresa. Teresa was the
Speaker 3: brown Barbie. I didn't know she didn't like have any ethnicity.
Speaker 3: But then I was reading more about her when my
Speaker 3: coworker sent me a link that said that Teresa was
Speaker 3: meant to be. Oh, she could be Italian or a Latina,
Speaker 3: And I'm like, h because those are so the same. Funny,
Speaker 3: She's like, she's like as mortgage board. She just whatever,
Speaker 3: just whatever you want to project your identity onto her,
Speaker 3: which is what I did. I said she was a
Speaker 3: mixed girl.
Speaker 2: Why all white? Isn't that terrible?
Speaker 1: I had all white barbies with blonde hair, and I
Speaker 1: didn't think it, but it was crazy because my barbies
Speaker 1: were white. But my doll babies, like the actual you know,
Speaker 1: like the babies that like are the size of like
Speaker 1: almost like a real baby, those were all brown.
Speaker 2: Oh okay, I had a lot going on.
Speaker 3: My two favorite dolls. I don't know who even bought
Speaker 3: me these but I had a Native American doll and
Speaker 3: I had a Kenya doll.
Speaker 2: And they were like, yeah, yes, I remember the Kenyan doll.
Speaker 3: Really do you?
Speaker 2: Yeah, I had that doll.
Speaker 3: It was a very diverse I just you know, all
Speaker 3: my beanie babies were different colors. I had all kinds
Speaker 3: of different GigaPets. I was a very progressive child.
Speaker 2: Dude.
Speaker 3: The Keny doll's a thing.
Speaker 2: Why, I know. Yeah, that's what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: If you had when I remember that, Cause first of all,
Speaker 1: I mean I lived in the house with it was
Speaker 1: five girls at one time, so we had like every
Speaker 1: kind of range of dolls, toys, and so we were
Speaker 1: I was really fortunate in that, like my uncles used
Speaker 1: to get us traditionally boys toys. I guess she could say,
Speaker 1: like we had like you know, remote control cars and
Speaker 1: helicopters and this and that, and then we also had
Speaker 1: our dolls.
Speaker 2: So we just played with everything.
Speaker 1: We played a lot of board games, so we just
Speaker 1: had every toy that ever came out. Somebody would have
Speaker 1: gotten it as a gift or one of our friends
Speaker 1: because we didn't have a whole lot of money growing up,
Speaker 1: but one of our friends would have gotten it, and
Speaker 1: so they would bring it to the house and we
Speaker 1: would all just enjoy.
Speaker 2: Honestly, my childhood was literally the best.
Speaker 3: That sounds like fun. I'm kind of member a child. Then,
Speaker 3: now what do you do?
Speaker 2: Now?
Speaker 3: How many babies do I sets?
Speaker 1: Remember those days? You just used to actually like sit
Speaker 1: down and like play checkers. We used to play this
Speaker 1: card game war. We kept ourselves so busy and engaged.
Speaker 1: And now it's like, if I don't take my phone
Speaker 1: to the bathroom, I die. I'm like, no, I freaked
Speaker 1: out my phone.
Speaker 3: I'm being a bathroom texter.
Speaker 2: What I like? I watch movies as I do the dishes.
Speaker 1: I have to put like the phone on top of
Speaker 1: the window cell just so I could do the dishes.
Speaker 2: I'm like, what is happening to my brain?
Speaker 3: Whatever gets the job done. On that note, Tiffany's got
Speaker 3: to go take some ecanasia vitamins and drink some tea
Speaker 3: and chillax.
Speaker 2: Yah. So, tweetus at the BA podcast on Twitter.
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Speaker 3: Brown Ambition Podcasts at gmail dot com. Maybe I'll leave
Speaker 3: that one in, you know,