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Speaker 1: And then later he realizes that Wiz must have tweeted

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Speaker 2: I wasn't talking about your wife, and then Kanye J.

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Speaker 1: and honestly, he dated Amber himself, so if she's so terrible,

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Speaker 1: and why are you still talking about it. I don't

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Speaker 1: you know exactly. And Amber came back with some snarky

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Speaker 3: My expectations are low, Yeah, are low too. I mean,

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Speaker 3: see did you see?

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Speaker 3: We had this monster blizzard? What was a winter storm? Jonas?

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Speaker 3: Last weekend we took a brown break from what I

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Speaker 1: Yes, it's very telling. There's a lesson in there somewhere

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Speaker 1: that is so funny. The men were like, nah, I'm do.

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Speaker 3: You know how bait what babies? Men are like, Come on,

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Speaker 2: They're like, but I'm dying.

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Speaker 3: And God, brown break? What are you gonna brown break from?

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Speaker 1: I'm breaking from the sickness. Oh, I'm bringing for winter colds.

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Speaker 1: So don't don't email the remedies. I just prefer you

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Speaker 3: The group dinner is an American institution that has been

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Speaker 2: Like what, oh for sure? What?

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Speaker 1: Especially people are gott to bring their own chairs, okay,

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Speaker 1: And it's fun what I feel like me and Superman

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Speaker 2: They'n be like what.

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Speaker 1: I remember a friend of mine actually had a wedding

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Speaker 1: Yeah, No, we have wed they definitely have well. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: We talked about that. Muni Ride also.

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Speaker 3: Well say her name.

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Speaker 2: I know.

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Speaker 1: I remember being like, yo, her mother invited the world

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Speaker 2: Get over here.

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Speaker 3: This is not a house party. This is not a party.

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Speaker 3: This is not college. It's your sisters brothers are lite sisters. No, yes,

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Speaker 1: So crazy because it was a jumping wedding. It was

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Speaker 1: They're like, I don't know some Nigerian.

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Speaker 3: Is that the hotel that you're talking about?

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Speaker 1: Yes, the Robber Tree Hotel in Newark is like the

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Speaker 1: and be like hey, soin as I'll even see my parents.

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Speaker 2: They're like, hey, what y'all doing here? You know?

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Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, Aunt, he's such and such as Jubilee.

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Speaker 2: Oh I love being Nigerian.

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Speaker 3: Well, okay, I understand it's not just Nigerians either. Like

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Speaker 3: but her problem wasn't a bunch of walk ons. Actually

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Speaker 3: they should count as an extra person. They just bring

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Speaker 3: couldn't come. Okay, that's how they cut down, but she

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Speaker 3: still had like over three hundred people plus randos showing

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Speaker 3: a kid away?

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Speaker 2: You know? Yeah, the kid thing is crazy.

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Speaker 1: We always have aunties with like seven kids that are like,

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Speaker 3: They don't want to be there half the time. Honestly,

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Speaker 3: be at this random wedding? No, they can't drink. What

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Speaker 3: are they gonna do?

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Speaker 2: Run around?

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Speaker 3: A good chance to open up the phone lines, but

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Speaker 3: we don't have any open up the email for like

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Speaker 3: wedding horror stories. That's what I want to know, like

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Speaker 3: What went wrong? Who showed up? Who caused drama? Just

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Speaker 1: And now it's time for some tips. Actually, I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: a question for Mandy as it relates to wedding rings,

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Speaker 1: and because Superman and I have really been talking about

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Speaker 1: You know, he's been wanting to make me an honest

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Speaker 3: While you're on your deathbed, this is the one He's like,

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Speaker 3: I got her attention.

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Speaker 1: He's like, you know, he's just like I just realized

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Speaker 1: how much you do for me. I'm like, are you kidding?

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Speaker 1: I'm not really dying, and no, but we've been talking

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Speaker 1: And just just a few days ago, I said, let

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Speaker 1: of know Mandy, like, you know, since you just got engaged.

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Speaker 1: We were like, what are we looking at here? So

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Speaker 3: It's whatever, the unsatisfying answer is, it's whatever your fiance

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Speaker 3: can afford. Yeah, it's what they feel comfortable spending money on.

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Speaker 3: I'll say the average ring. According to the non dot

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Speaker 3: different tramings of trappings of a wedding every year. It's

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Speaker 3: about five thousand dollars.

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Speaker 3: That's nearly twenty percent.

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Speaker 2: I thought it.

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Speaker 1: I'm thinking, like, I don't know, I thought maybe rings

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Speaker 1: were like, oh, you know, they're like the average rink

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Speaker 1: people were spending ten thousand, Not that I'm going to

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Speaker 2: I know he's saving it. He's just like, okay, so

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Speaker 1: Joint savings account, and like, you know, he's actually not

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Speaker 1: far from like what I guess he's gonna need. But

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Speaker 1: So I'm like, do I have to do everything?

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Speaker 2: Okay, let me let me see how much rings cost.

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Speaker 3: Well, you know he can be creative. Well, you've lived

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Speaker 3: And I'll tell you why you might be intimidated because

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Speaker 3: it's all a bunch of Jewish diamond dealers, which is

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Speaker 3: remember I talked about how I got to get my

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Speaker 2: In there.

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Speaker 3: So affordable in Diamond District is because literally every diamond

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Speaker 3: Diamond District.

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Speaker 3: Buy diamonds wholesale. They sell them wholesale, so you're getting

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Speaker 3: or Atlanta, Georgia can mark up the price. Okay, So

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Speaker 3: that's one option. And then there's I'll tell you about

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Speaker 3: my ring. I my fiance got it online at Etsy,

439
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Speaker 3: which oh yeah, so I know it's it's very unconventional,

440
00:36:28,560 --> 00:36:32,480
Speaker 3: but more and more people are buying engagement rings on Etsy,

441
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Speaker 3: and not just Etsy, but other online jewelers like Blue Niles.

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00:36:36,640 --> 00:36:40,240
Speaker 3: One of the big ones JLM, I think is h JLM.

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00:36:40,280 --> 00:36:41,960
Speaker 3: That might be wrong, I don't know, but there's a

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Speaker 3: bunch of jewelers. This is a ring and it came

445
00:36:44,920 --> 00:36:47,719
Speaker 3: from Etsy, and I had found it myself, not the

446
00:36:47,760 --> 00:36:50,160
Speaker 3: exact one, but I found the seller when I was

447
00:36:50,160 --> 00:36:54,840
Speaker 3: doing a story for Yahoo on Etsy engagement rings, and

448
00:36:55,280 --> 00:36:58,080
Speaker 3: it was super affordable. He spent about half what an

449
00:36:58,120 --> 00:37:02,080
Speaker 3: average wedding ring. Okay, good, and that was what I

450
00:37:02,120 --> 00:37:05,200
Speaker 3: feel comfortable with him spending. And I think it's cool

451
00:37:05,200 --> 00:37:07,080
Speaker 3: that you and Superman are talking about it, because you

452
00:37:07,160 --> 00:37:11,360
Speaker 3: should look you should have the same expectations.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, because honestly I don't. I'm not like a you know,

454
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Speaker 1: you fancy had, that's just so not me. Like you know,

455
00:37:16,680 --> 00:37:19,800
Speaker 1: I'm like, I wear like simple hoop earrings. I literally

456
00:37:19,880 --> 00:37:22,759
Speaker 1: wear no jewelry outside of like hoop earrings, and like

457
00:37:23,120 --> 00:37:25,600
Speaker 1: you know, like sometimes for TV, I might throw on something,

458
00:37:25,640 --> 00:37:29,839
Speaker 1: but even then hardly. So I'm not really a big

459
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Speaker 1: not that I'm not a fan of jury, It's just

460
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Speaker 1: not my style. And so I just want to make sure,

461
00:37:35,000 --> 00:37:36,640
Speaker 1: like you know, because I know, I'm just really proud

462
00:37:36,640 --> 00:37:38,759
Speaker 1: of him because he's been saving and paying down debt.

463
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Speaker 1: And I remember, Amandy, you just gave such good advice

464
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Speaker 1: last time of how you took on a little bit

465
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Speaker 1: more of the household debt to like alleviate some room

466
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Speaker 1: for him to get rid of his debt and then

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Speaker 1: also save mm hm. And so because a friend of

468
00:37:50,120 --> 00:37:52,080
Speaker 1: mine has been struggling with that, like she's been like

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Speaker 1: with her boyfriend for a minute, and he wants to

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Speaker 1: get married, but he can't afford a ring. And I

471
00:37:58,280 --> 00:37:59,800
Speaker 1: suggested that to her and she's like, I don't know

472
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Speaker 1: how I feel about that, And I'm like, well, he's

473
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Speaker 1: not going to be able to do it at all,

474
00:38:03,440 --> 00:38:04,640
Speaker 1: like you know, don't.

475
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Speaker 3: Have to be realistic.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: And then two, because I think that women feel like, well,

478
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Speaker 1: that's like me paying for my ring. It's not you

479
00:38:11,360 --> 00:38:11,839
Speaker 1: know that.

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00:38:12,080 --> 00:38:15,360
Speaker 2: You're nying more for your rents exactly exactly.

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Speaker 1: And so we've just been really like, you know, talking

482
00:38:17,440 --> 00:38:20,160
Speaker 1: about that, like Okay, well what can I do to

483
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Speaker 1: help alleviate? But I'm not honestly, I'm really proud of him.

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Speaker 1: Like I said, we have a joint account where we

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00:38:23,719 --> 00:38:26,000
Speaker 1: put in an equal amount of money, so you know,

486
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Speaker 1: I'm definitely gonna let him know, like you know this.

487
00:38:28,160 --> 00:38:29,759
Speaker 1: I know you have your own savings, but in this

488
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Speaker 1: joint account, if you need to take your half to

489
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Speaker 1: do whatever you need to do, I hit hint, I'm

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Speaker 1: fine with that, Okay. But I was like, honestly, because

491
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Speaker 1: like no one online would talk about how much they

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Speaker 1: spent on their ring, and it was so frustrating because

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Speaker 1: I was just like, no one wants to shay, I

494
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Speaker 1: just want to know.

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Speaker 3: But honestly, it's what you think you can afford, and

496
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Speaker 3: don't buy into those stupid rules like the ring should

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Speaker 3: be three months worth of pay.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that part was hard.

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Speaker 3: What's why?

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Speaker 2: Who what?

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Speaker 3: That's just like the jewelry industry's dumb rule that they

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Speaker 3: want you to say, been more in a ring. It's just retard.

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Speaker 3: Oh sorry, no, I want to say retard. It's just stupid. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: you buy what you can afford, because who wants to

505
00:39:06,640 --> 00:39:10,719
Speaker 3: start playing weddings are expensive enough? Okay, yes, you don't

506
00:39:10,719 --> 00:39:14,160
Speaker 3: want to start a wedding already, like ten grand in debt. No no, no,

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Speaker 3: no no. So but I would say for you, like

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Speaker 3: if you really want a diamond, and go on and

509
00:39:17,239 --> 00:39:20,000
Speaker 3: see what you know, how much money Superman can afford

510
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Speaker 3: can buy you, so you can adjust your expectations. All right, guys,

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Speaker 3: to wrap things up, we're gonna go right into Wins

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Speaker 3: of the week.

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Speaker 1: Well, I want to give a little win shout out

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Speaker 1: to Barbie.

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Speaker 2: Woot woot, so.

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Speaker 3: From Yankee to Barbie.

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Speaker 1: Yes, and so, I mean I had a Barbie dog

518
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Speaker 1: growing up. But so Barbie has unleashed a new range

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Speaker 1: of dolls with excuse me, let me just start again,

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Speaker 1: all right, So I want to do a win, a

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Speaker 1: little shout out to Barbie. From Maggie to Barbie. Woo woom.

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Speaker 1: I want to shout out Barbie, because Barbie has come

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Speaker 1: out with a new range of dolls with different body types,

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Speaker 1: hair outfits, skin tones.

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Speaker 2: I mean, you've got like.

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Speaker 1: Curvy girls, shorter, petite girls. You've got curly hair.

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Speaker 2: Straight hair, wavy hair, and they just look so cute.

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Speaker 1: And I'm like, look at Barbie stepping into twenty sixteen

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Speaker 1: with some sense. Mattel announced that globally, Barbie had dropped

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Speaker 1: fourteen percent in sales, and so they started to realize

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Speaker 1: that people want to play well. Little girls want to

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Speaker 1: see themselves reflected in the dolls that they play with.

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Speaker 1: And Barbie, you know, stepped up to the plate and

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Speaker 1: they are literally changing the face of the brand.

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Speaker 2: That's like what they said inside.

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Speaker 1: I know, and have you seen some of them? Like

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Speaker 1: there's actually a girl with like she's super thick and

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Speaker 1: she's got blue hair.

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Speaker 3: Yeap, I like her. There's the Kirby Barbie. There's the

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Speaker 3: and it's not just a black Barbie, but she's like

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Speaker 3: dark skinned.

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Speaker 2: Yes, like Charco Lots. I was like, yes, come do

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Speaker 2: with this melanin.

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Speaker 3: And there's curvy, there's petite Barbie. I was super excited

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Speaker 3: to tell my friend Terra that she had a petite

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Speaker 3: Barbie because she's super little.

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Speaker 2: People are people do exactly.

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Speaker 1: And that's the thing I liked about it that they

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00:41:10,800 --> 00:41:12,720
Speaker 1: could have easily just been like, oh, we'll go with Curby,

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Speaker 1: because I feel like the curvy girls have made huge

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Speaker 1: strides and like getting you know, more and more representation

552
00:41:18,560 --> 00:41:21,280
Speaker 1: of themselves in the media. But then we forget that sometimes,

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Speaker 1: Like I hate when they say real women have curves.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, honestly, like, like, let's you say you're really

555
00:41:26,640 --> 00:41:29,240
Speaker 1: petite and you're like, you know, flat chested, no real behind,

556
00:41:29,760 --> 00:41:31,920
Speaker 1: or does that not make you a real woman? Like

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00:41:32,040 --> 00:41:35,200
Speaker 1: I just don't like when movements have to alienate one

558
00:41:35,280 --> 00:41:37,840
Speaker 1: type in order to make themselves feel better. It's like, now,

559
00:41:38,400 --> 00:41:41,680
Speaker 1: like women look like whatever it is they look like that,

560
00:41:41,719 --> 00:41:44,120
Speaker 1: we could celebrate it all. You could be really petite

561
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Speaker 1: and have an a cup and you can have a

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Speaker 1: triple G and be sick and beautiful, and you can

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Speaker 1: be you know, short and chunky and it doesn't make

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Speaker 1: you less of a woman. And to see yourself reflected

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Speaker 1: in just different ways, it's just so great. And I

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Speaker 1: just want to say kudos to Barbie and their clothes

567
00:41:59,120 --> 00:41:59,960
Speaker 1: are really cute.

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00:42:00,360 --> 00:42:05,399
Speaker 3: Kudos to Barbie for finally getting together exactly again. Why

569
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Speaker 3: it took so long, nobody.

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00:42:06,680 --> 00:42:08,360
Speaker 1: Knows, I know, but you know, we gonna let you

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00:42:08,360 --> 00:42:11,160
Speaker 1: slide on that barb. We're gonna let you slide my Barbie.

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Speaker 3: Growing up, I was all about Teresa. Teresa was the

573
00:42:14,080 --> 00:42:17,200
Speaker 3: brown Barbie. I didn't know she didn't like have any ethnicity.

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Speaker 3: But then I was reading more about her when my

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00:42:18,680 --> 00:42:21,520
Speaker 3: coworker sent me a link that said that Teresa was

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00:42:21,600 --> 00:42:24,560
Speaker 3: meant to be. Oh, she could be Italian or a Latina,

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00:42:24,680 --> 00:42:29,320
Speaker 3: And I'm like, h because those are so the same. Funny,

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00:42:29,520 --> 00:42:32,000
Speaker 3: She's like, she's like as mortgage board. She just whatever,

579
00:42:32,239 --> 00:42:34,520
Speaker 3: just whatever you want to project your identity onto her,

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Speaker 3: which is what I did. I said she was a

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Speaker 3: mixed girl.

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Speaker 2: Why all white? Isn't that terrible?

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Speaker 1: I had all white barbies with blonde hair, and I

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00:42:42,640 --> 00:42:44,640
Speaker 1: didn't think it, but it was crazy because my barbies

585
00:42:44,640 --> 00:42:46,920
Speaker 1: were white. But my doll babies, like the actual you know,

586
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Speaker 1: like the babies that like are the size of like

587
00:42:49,239 --> 00:42:51,080
Speaker 1: almost like a real baby, those were all brown.

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00:42:51,480 --> 00:42:52,840
Speaker 2: Oh okay, I had a lot going on.

589
00:42:53,640 --> 00:42:55,480
Speaker 3: My two favorite dolls. I don't know who even bought

590
00:42:55,520 --> 00:42:57,400
Speaker 3: me these but I had a Native American doll and

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00:42:57,440 --> 00:42:58,480
Speaker 3: I had a Kenya doll.

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00:42:59,280 --> 00:43:02,440
Speaker 2: And they were like, yeah, yes, I remember the Kenyan doll.

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Speaker 3: Really do you?

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00:43:03,640 --> 00:43:04,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, I had that doll.

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Speaker 3: It was a very diverse I just you know, all

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00:43:07,960 --> 00:43:11,120
Speaker 3: my beanie babies were different colors. I had all kinds

597
00:43:11,120 --> 00:43:13,920
Speaker 3: of different GigaPets. I was a very progressive child.

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Speaker 2: Dude.

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00:43:16,600 --> 00:43:17,560
Speaker 3: The Keny doll's a thing.

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Speaker 2: Why, I know. Yeah, that's what I'm saying.

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Speaker 1: If you had when I remember that, Cause first of all,

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Speaker 1: I mean I lived in the house with it was

603
00:43:22,640 --> 00:43:25,600
Speaker 1: five girls at one time, so we had like every

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00:43:25,680 --> 00:43:29,680
Speaker 1: kind of range of dolls, toys, and so we were

605
00:43:29,920 --> 00:43:31,799
Speaker 1: I was really fortunate in that, like my uncles used

606
00:43:31,840 --> 00:43:34,480
Speaker 1: to get us traditionally boys toys. I guess she could say,

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00:43:34,520 --> 00:43:36,840
Speaker 1: like we had like you know, remote control cars and

608
00:43:36,960 --> 00:43:38,920
Speaker 1: helicopters and this and that, and then we also had

609
00:43:38,920 --> 00:43:39,480
Speaker 1: our dolls.

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00:43:40,920 --> 00:43:41,960
Speaker 2: So we just played with everything.

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Speaker 1: We played a lot of board games, so we just

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Speaker 1: had every toy that ever came out. Somebody would have

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00:43:46,920 --> 00:43:48,800
Speaker 1: gotten it as a gift or one of our friends

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Speaker 1: because we didn't have a whole lot of money growing up,

615
00:43:50,719 --> 00:43:52,680
Speaker 1: but one of our friends would have gotten it, and

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00:43:52,719 --> 00:43:53,880
Speaker 1: so they would bring it to the house and we

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Speaker 1: would all just enjoy.

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Speaker 2: Honestly, my childhood was literally the best.

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Speaker 3: That sounds like fun. I'm kind of member a child. Then,

620
00:43:59,800 --> 00:44:00,920
Speaker 3: now what do you do?

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Speaker 2: Now?

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00:44:02,520 --> 00:44:04,240
Speaker 3: How many babies do I sets?

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Speaker 1: Remember those days? You just used to actually like sit

624
00:44:07,440 --> 00:44:09,520
Speaker 1: down and like play checkers. We used to play this

625
00:44:09,640 --> 00:44:13,440
Speaker 1: card game war. We kept ourselves so busy and engaged.

626
00:44:14,000 --> 00:44:15,759
Speaker 1: And now it's like, if I don't take my phone

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00:44:15,760 --> 00:44:18,600
Speaker 1: to the bathroom, I die. I'm like, no, I freaked

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00:44:18,600 --> 00:44:19,400
Speaker 1: out my phone.

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Speaker 3: I'm being a bathroom texter.

630
00:44:22,320 --> 00:44:24,600
Speaker 2: What I like? I watch movies as I do the dishes.

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Speaker 1: I have to put like the phone on top of

632
00:44:26,120 --> 00:44:28,080
Speaker 1: the window cell just so I could do the dishes.

633
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Speaker 2: I'm like, what is happening to my brain?

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00:44:29,920 --> 00:44:35,560
Speaker 3: Whatever gets the job done. On that note, Tiffany's got

635
00:44:35,560 --> 00:44:39,120
Speaker 3: to go take some ecanasia vitamins and drink some tea

636
00:44:39,440 --> 00:44:40,240
Speaker 3: and chillax.

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00:44:40,680 --> 00:44:43,480
Speaker 2: Yah. So, tweetus at the BA podcast on Twitter.

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Speaker 1: We're on Facebook at Brown Ambition, and you can email

639
00:44:47,280 --> 00:44:47,840
Speaker 1: us at.

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00:44:48,040 --> 00:44:57,239
Speaker 3: Brown Ambition Podcasts at gmail dot com. Maybe I'll leave

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Speaker 3: that one in, you know,