1
00:00:02,960 --> 00:00:07,080
Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

2
00:00:08,680 --> 00:00:14,600
Speaker 1: Good Morning. This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

3
00:00:15,560 --> 00:00:20,200
Speaker 1: Today's tip is to throw your own party. If you

4
00:00:20,280 --> 00:00:23,720
Speaker 1: have something good happening in your life, use it as

5
00:00:23,760 --> 00:00:28,600
Speaker 1: an occasion to bring people together to celebrate special occasions

6
00:00:28,680 --> 00:00:31,680
Speaker 1: deserve to be marked, and the best way to make

7
00:00:31,720 --> 00:00:37,680
Speaker 1: sure something happens is to do it yourself. As a child,

8
00:00:37,760 --> 00:00:40,440
Speaker 1: you may have celebrated your birthday with friends every year.

9
00:00:41,440 --> 00:00:43,640
Speaker 1: As an adult, we tend not to do that, and

10
00:00:43,880 --> 00:00:47,880
Speaker 1: perhaps that's wise. Maybe we don't always feel like celebrating

11
00:00:47,920 --> 00:00:51,600
Speaker 1: forty three trips around the sun. However, one of the

12
00:00:51,640 --> 00:00:55,240
Speaker 1: reasons that adulthood tends to feature a lot of sameness

13
00:00:55,360 --> 00:00:59,040
Speaker 1: day after day, year after year, is that we don't

14
00:00:59,200 --> 00:01:04,880
Speaker 1: mark occasion. There's perhaps a wedding, and then not much.

15
00:01:06,160 --> 00:01:09,200
Speaker 1: And that's too bad, because bringing people together to celebrate

16
00:01:09,240 --> 00:01:12,160
Speaker 1: good things is one of the most pleasurable things we

17
00:01:12,200 --> 00:01:14,959
Speaker 1: can do. And I say that as someone who is

18
00:01:15,000 --> 00:01:19,240
Speaker 1: fairly introverted. There is a world of difference between a

19
00:01:19,280 --> 00:01:22,800
Speaker 1: networking cocktail party where I don't know anyone and a

20
00:01:22,920 --> 00:01:25,319
Speaker 1: gathering at a restaurant with twenty people I do know

21
00:01:25,959 --> 00:01:29,800
Speaker 1: who are all toasting a book release. So for at

22
00:01:29,880 --> 00:01:31,760
Speaker 1: least a few of my books, I've tried to do

23
00:01:31,800 --> 00:01:35,640
Speaker 1: the latter, and it's been great. I remember those nights

24
00:01:35,840 --> 00:01:38,560
Speaker 1: years into the future, which is not something I can

25
00:01:38,600 --> 00:01:41,200
Speaker 1: say about a great many days during those forty three

26
00:01:41,200 --> 00:01:44,679
Speaker 1: trips around the sun. So think about things in your

27
00:01:44,760 --> 00:01:48,560
Speaker 1: life that might be worth celebrating. Maybe you've been promoted,

28
00:01:49,400 --> 00:01:52,960
Speaker 1: maybe you bought a house, maybe you paid off a house.

29
00:01:54,040 --> 00:01:56,920
Speaker 1: Maybe you decided to leave a job and start working

30
00:01:56,920 --> 00:02:00,080
Speaker 1: for yourself. Maybe you and your partner have been to

31
00:02:00,120 --> 00:02:03,720
Speaker 1: gather for fifteen years. Or maybe you see one of

32
00:02:03,760 --> 00:02:06,680
Speaker 1: these things or something similar coming up in your future.

33
00:02:08,040 --> 00:02:11,240
Speaker 1: If so, think about how you might throw yourself a party.

34
00:02:11,840 --> 00:02:14,640
Speaker 1: It doesn't have to be huge or an expensive ordeal.

35
00:02:15,720 --> 00:02:17,920
Speaker 1: Six to eight good friends around a table in a

36
00:02:17,960 --> 00:02:21,520
Speaker 1: restaurant can be a very manageable number. Or you could

37
00:02:21,560 --> 00:02:24,720
Speaker 1: cook something crowd pleasing and gather people at your house.

38
00:02:25,800 --> 00:02:27,960
Speaker 1: A big pot of chili and some good bread can

39
00:02:27,960 --> 00:02:31,320
Speaker 1: be celebratory. Hot dogs on a grill plus corn on

40
00:02:31,360 --> 00:02:35,280
Speaker 1: the cob feels festive and summary. Or do a breakfast

41
00:02:35,800 --> 00:02:39,040
Speaker 1: an egg dish, some fruit and muffins from a nearby

42
00:02:39,080 --> 00:02:44,040
Speaker 1: bakery is perfectly elegant and simple to pull off. You

43
00:02:44,040 --> 00:02:47,639
Speaker 1: can also make the gathering short. One of my favorite

44
00:02:47,639 --> 00:02:50,640
Speaker 1: takeaways from the covid era was the possibility of a

45
00:02:50,760 --> 00:02:55,920
Speaker 1: zoom celebration. Yes, yes, I know it's not perfect, but

46
00:02:56,000 --> 00:02:59,200
Speaker 1: the good ones featured a short tribute and toast, maybe

47
00:02:59,200 --> 00:03:02,680
Speaker 1: a few games cahoots about the person being celebrated, and

48
00:03:02,720 --> 00:03:07,080
Speaker 1: then everyone signs off. Feel free to throw yourself a

49
00:03:07,160 --> 00:03:09,600
Speaker 1: zoom toast if you think that would be easier for

50
00:03:09,639 --> 00:03:13,440
Speaker 1: your far flown friends or local ones with busy schedules.

51
00:03:14,919 --> 00:03:18,240
Speaker 1: But on the other hand, don't feel bad about asking

52
00:03:18,280 --> 00:03:21,000
Speaker 1: people to take an hour or two to come celebrate you.

53
00:03:22,040 --> 00:03:26,200
Speaker 1: Many people enjoy seeing other people but don't necessarily have

54
00:03:26,320 --> 00:03:30,040
Speaker 1: the bandwidth to organize much. If they don't want to come,

55
00:03:30,600 --> 00:03:33,640
Speaker 1: they will say no, but the odds are good that

56
00:03:33,720 --> 00:03:35,600
Speaker 1: they will be happy to have a reason to go

57
00:03:35,720 --> 00:03:39,840
Speaker 1: to something. Think of it this way. Would you feel

58
00:03:39,880 --> 00:03:42,800
Speaker 1: put out if a good friend asked you to come

59
00:03:42,880 --> 00:03:46,000
Speaker 1: raise a glass to celebrate her earning her master's degree.

60
00:03:46,920 --> 00:03:50,480
Speaker 1: If anything, you would probably jump in and ask to

61
00:03:50,520 --> 00:03:53,120
Speaker 1: help organize the event. Now that she has put it

62
00:03:53,160 --> 00:03:57,520
Speaker 1: out into the universe as a possibility, your friends will

63
00:03:57,520 --> 00:04:01,760
Speaker 1: feel the same way about you. I imagine many of

64
00:04:01,800 --> 00:04:04,720
Speaker 1: us see the upside of celebrating milestones, but we might

65
00:04:04,800 --> 00:04:09,040
Speaker 1: also harbor some vague hope that someone else will initiate

66
00:04:09,080 --> 00:04:13,600
Speaker 1: the planning and it could happen. But everyone is busy,

67
00:04:14,720 --> 00:04:18,839
Speaker 1: no matter how much everyone loves you. And I include

68
00:04:18,839 --> 00:04:23,279
Speaker 1: your spouse in this statement, Hinging your happiness on someone

69
00:04:23,320 --> 00:04:27,919
Speaker 1: else's actions is a risky strategy. If you would like

70
00:04:28,000 --> 00:04:33,039
Speaker 1: to celebrate something, plan it yourself. Most likely people will

71
00:04:33,080 --> 00:04:36,880
Speaker 1: assist you in various ways. But if you plan it yourself,

72
00:04:37,080 --> 00:04:40,480
Speaker 1: you know it will happen, and so you'll be able

73
00:04:40,480 --> 00:04:46,240
Speaker 1: to look forward to it. Life is worth celebrating. Life

74
00:04:46,480 --> 00:04:52,240
Speaker 1: is wonderful, and life is ultimately fleeting. So throw yourself

75
00:04:52,320 --> 00:04:54,960
Speaker 1: a party when you've got an occasion that seems to

76
00:04:55,000 --> 00:04:58,440
Speaker 1: call for it. You will probably not be looking back

77
00:04:58,480 --> 00:05:01,159
Speaker 1: on your life some day and saying, well, I wish

78
00:05:01,160 --> 00:05:03,880
Speaker 1: I hadn't gotten friends together to celebrate that new job.

79
00:05:04,880 --> 00:05:07,440
Speaker 1: I wish we hadn't brought people together to toast paying

80
00:05:07,440 --> 00:05:10,800
Speaker 1: off the mortgage. Wasn't it good? We saved our energy.

81
00:05:12,040 --> 00:05:16,640
Speaker 1: You won't be saying that, because really, what are you

82
00:05:16,720 --> 00:05:22,520
Speaker 1: saving your energy for? In the meantime, this is Laura.

83
00:05:23,560 --> 00:05:27,719
Speaker 1: Thanks for listening and here's to making the most of

84
00:05:27,760 --> 00:05:36,919
Speaker 1: our time. Hey, everybody, I'd love to hear from you.

85
00:05:36,920 --> 00:05:39,839
Speaker 1: You can send me your tips, your questions, or anything else.

86
00:05:40,560 --> 00:05:44,160
Speaker 1: Just connect with me on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram at

87
00:05:44,200 --> 00:05:49,040
Speaker 1: Before Breakfast Pod. That's b E the number four, then

88
00:05:49,120 --> 00:05:52,520
Speaker 1: breakfast p o D. You can also shoot me an

89
00:05:52,520 --> 00:05:56,760
Speaker 1: email at Before Breakfast podcast at iHeart media dot com

90
00:05:56,760 --> 00:05:59,280
Speaker 1: that Before Breakfast is spelled out with all the letters.

91
00:06:00,000 --> 00:06:01,960
Speaker 1: Thanks so much. Should I look forward to staying in touch.

92
00:06:07,800 --> 00:06:10,880
Speaker 1: Before Breakfast is a production of I heart Radio. For

93
00:06:11,000 --> 00:06:14,039
Speaker 1: more podcasts from my heart Radio, visit the i heart

94
00:06:14,120 --> 00:06:17,480
Speaker 1: Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen to your

95
00:06:17,520 --> 00:06:19,159
Speaker 1: favorite shows. Yea