Speaker 1: Brooking jubil in the morning. Second Date Update. When we
Speaker 1: do these second date updates, I'm always interested in hearing
Speaker 1: the story of the date and what happened and why
Speaker 1: people think they might not be getting a call back.
Speaker 1: But actually, today I think I'm more interested in hearing
Speaker 1: about all the other failed dates that this person has
Speaker 1: been on. The list is long. You got an email
Speaker 1: from Jackie. She wants to do a second date update today.
Speaker 1: She's kind of back on the dating scene, I guess
Speaker 1: after getting divorced and stuff like that. But she says
Speaker 1: that she's been dating a little bit and she's had
Speaker 1: a bunch of weird experiences. So Jackie, can we actually
Speaker 1: talk about the weird experiences instead of the person that
Speaker 1: you want to talk about? Oh no, I'd rather not really.
Speaker 1: I hear from single people that listening to these are
Speaker 1: often just depressing because they're like, this is what the
Speaker 1: dating scene is? Great? Yeah, it's so depressing. I mean
Speaker 1: the guys that are out there, so we are. The
Speaker 1: first date I went out on, he wouldn't stop smelling
Speaker 1: my hair for like the first hour of the date.
Speaker 1: I was like, what are you doing? You know, like
Speaker 1: some personal space? He just sat there smelling your hair. Yes,
Speaker 1: it was freaky. It was like, you know, I know you.
Speaker 1: It sounds like a normal date to me, Jackie. You
Speaker 1: are just out of touch. So your email said, your
Speaker 1: email said, you haven't been dating in a long time
Speaker 1: because you went through divorce and all that kind of stuff.
Speaker 1: How long has it been since you've been out in
Speaker 1: the dating world. Oh my gosh, probably fifteen years. Wow,
Speaker 1: that's a while. That's probably kind of scary getting back
Speaker 1: in the game, you know, yeah, it really is. It's
Speaker 1: really kind of bizarre, and I feel like, you know,
Speaker 1: I'm a kid all over again. You know, that's not
Speaker 1: a good thing. But the guy that you want to
Speaker 1: call today, his name's John, all right, And so this
Speaker 1: was a positive experience for you. Yes, finally I met
Speaker 1: this guy. He was so cute and tall and beautiful
Speaker 1: eyes and great smile and sense of humor. And told
Speaker 1: them about my kids. You seem totally cool with that.
Speaker 1: We had this wonderful night and ended with this fabulous,
Speaker 1: passionate kiss, and I was like, oh my gosh, you know,
Speaker 1: finally a good one. And then I never heard from him.
Speaker 1: Can I ask you? Can I ask you? Where did
Speaker 1: you meet him? I met him online, but I feel
Speaker 1: kind of weird about even saying that. It's like, I'm
Speaker 1: kind of ashamed even to admit that. But I don't
Speaker 1: know where else. Hey, that's where everybody meets people. Now,
Speaker 1: I mean, you have to sift through the hair sniffers
Speaker 1: and the other weird people. But you've done that and
Speaker 1: clearly met somebody that you liked. What did you guys do?
Speaker 1: He took me dancing, and I haven't been out dancing
Speaker 1: and I don't know how long. But we just had
Speaker 1: a blast. Are we talking like grinding or we talking
Speaker 1: like ballroom dancing? No? No, we went. We went to
Speaker 1: a club and okay, they had they had, you know,
Speaker 1: music of all different genres and stuff. So it wasn't like,
Speaker 1: I don't know, you know, rap music that you can't
Speaker 1: really dance too. It was like fun music and we
Speaker 1: just had such a blast together. We had a really
Speaker 1: good time. Okay, why do you think he's not calling
Speaker 1: you back if you had such a great time? I
Speaker 1: don't know. That's why I'm like, what you know, I know,
Speaker 1: I've been out of this whole thing for a while.
Speaker 1: I don't know how it all works, you know, are
Speaker 1: you supposed to wait three weeks before you call someone back.
Speaker 1: I don't know. I mean I never understood Listen, I
Speaker 1: never understood guys when I was a kid. I don't
Speaker 1: understand them now either. Forget it? And what are you
Speaker 1: looking for? Like when you're out dating, If you were
Speaker 1: to go on a second date with John, are you
Speaker 1: hoping that it would turn into a relationship or are
Speaker 1: you just looking to have some fun? Well, I think
Speaker 1: I would like a relationship again, you know. I mean
Speaker 1: I wouldn't take it super fast. I think I would
Speaker 1: want to take it kind of slow and kind of
Speaker 1: get to know the person pretty well before I got
Speaker 1: involved after having such a disaster with my first husband.
Speaker 1: But yeah, I'd like to meet someone. I don't want
Speaker 1: to be alone in the rest of my life. You know,
Speaker 1: my kids are going to grow up and then what
Speaker 1: you know, I'll be up by myself. Did he know
Speaker 1: about the kids before you guys went out? Yes, yeah,
Speaker 1: I did on my profile. It's very you know, I
Speaker 1: made sure that people knew that because I know that
Speaker 1: could be like a problem, and maybe it is and
Speaker 1: he was just being nice about it. I don't know. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I was going to say, how did that conversation go.
Speaker 1: When you talked about your kids, he seemed fine with it.
Speaker 1: I mean, he's never been married before, he didn't have
Speaker 1: many kids of his own, but he had some nephews
Speaker 1: and nieces and he see my tea really liked hanging
Speaker 1: out with them and playing with them and stop. So
Speaker 1: that's not bad because you bring up kids with me
Speaker 1: on a date and it's like a hole through the wall,
Speaker 1: like a cartoon character. I bust out of there so quickly.
Speaker 1: Some guys are like that. You know, yeah, you wouldn't
Speaker 1: write exactly, but you wouldn't go on a date with
Speaker 1: somebody who had it on their profile to begin with.
Speaker 1: It depends on what you looked like. Okay, so how
Speaker 1: many times have you tried to get a hold of
Speaker 1: him since you've gone out? I texted him the next
Speaker 1: day to say, you know, thanks for such a great
Speaker 1: night out. Let's seeing you again, And then I think
Speaker 1: I called him like two or three days later, but
Speaker 1: that was it. I don't want to be like a stalker,
Speaker 1: and I don't know. I don't know what to do.
Speaker 1: Am I supposed to call him? Is he supposed to
Speaker 1: call me? I don't know. Has he said anything? Back
Speaker 1: to you at all, no silence, like crickets, nothing, And
Speaker 1: you can't think of one thing that was awkward. The
Speaker 1: only thing I can think of is that he's like
Speaker 1: a little bit younger than me, by a little you mean,
Speaker 1: whoa like twelve years. He's twelve years old. Way to go, girls,
Speaker 1: And I would not be saying, oh, oh, twelve years younger. Okay,
Speaker 1: I just heard twelve years. I was like, wait a second, Jackie,
Speaker 1: you're doing this wrong, all right, So yeah, that could
Speaker 1: maybe possibly be a thing though, to be twelve years
Speaker 1: younger than somebody. Some people might care about that. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I guess twelve years might be kind of a lot
Speaker 1: for some people. But he seemed to be okay with it.
Speaker 1: And I put my age out there. I was very
Speaker 1: like honest on my profile. A lot of people like
Speaker 1: put a lot of garbage there and lie and all that,
Speaker 1: but I was really honest, and people tell me I
Speaker 1: look a lot younger than my age, and you know,
Speaker 1: and because all my information was out there, he knew
Speaker 1: what he was getting into. It wasn't like I got
Speaker 1: showed up and it was a surprise, right unless he
Speaker 1: was like, I don't know, maybe giving it a try
Speaker 1: for the first time and then noticed that, oh, we
Speaker 1: actually don't have anything in common. Oh maybe I thought that,
Speaker 1: you know, guys like the cougar thing. I don't know,
Speaker 1: I like you. Well, we'll find out. We'll play a song.
Speaker 1: Com back, call him and get your second date update. Okay,
Speaker 1: thank you, you're welcome. Hold on brooking jubil in the morning.
Speaker 1: Second date update if you're just tuning in for today's
Speaker 1: second date update. Jackie is on the phone and she
Speaker 1: wants to call a guy named John. Today. They met online.
Speaker 1: She's had a string of bad dates and apparently it's
Speaker 1: just jumped back into the dating world after getting a
Speaker 1: divorce and stuff. They went out, danced a little bit,
Speaker 1: and now he's not calling her back. She has no
Speaker 1: idea why, except she thinks it could have been because
Speaker 1: she has two kids and maybe that kind of scared
Speaker 1: him off. Jackie, Yeah, you know what I'm thinking, might
Speaker 1: have scared him off? Oh know what, your ability to
Speaker 1: work right? Maybe just maybe you were dropping it a
Speaker 1: little too hard on the dance floor, Jackie, what do
Speaker 1: you think? I don't know. I mean, maybe he doesn't
Speaker 1: like the way I dance. I don't know. I can
Speaker 1: hear it in your voice. You know how to get down,
Speaker 1: don't you? Yeah? Oh my god, that would that would
Speaker 1: probably we have been shocking for him saying that you
Speaker 1: are twelve years older than he is. Well, you know,
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't do all those workouts for nothing.
Speaker 1: I've been doing that infanity thing for years and you're
Speaker 1: trying to keep myself at good stake? Are all right? Well,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna dial his phone number now and see why
Speaker 1: he's not calling you back. Okay, thank you. Here we go. Hello,
Speaker 1: Hi is John? There? This is John. Hey John, how
Speaker 1: are you? This is Jewil. I host a radio show
Speaker 1: called Brook and Jewel in the Morning. Oh okay, I
Speaker 1: think I heard of you. What's this about? Well, I
Speaker 1: wanted to ask you a few questions if you have
Speaker 1: a second about what about your dating life? Oh that's weird.
Speaker 1: I'll explain. We do a segment on our show called
Speaker 1: the second Date Update. It's where if you go out
Speaker 1: on a date with somebody and then end up blowing
Speaker 1: them off after the date, they email us to see
Speaker 1: if we can get you on the phone and ask
Speaker 1: why so you recently went on a date with one
Speaker 1: of our listeners. Her name is Jackie. Oh okay, Oh
Speaker 1: my gosh. So Jackie told us about your date and
Speaker 1: said that she actually liked you a lot and wanted
Speaker 1: to see you again. But she's wondering why you're not
Speaker 1: answering her phone calls. Oh, she's she's really great. It
Speaker 1: just I just don't think it's going to be right though.
Speaker 1: Is there a particular reason? You know? It just sometimes
Speaker 1: you're you know, you just don't match up, that's all
Speaker 1: you know. Does it have anything to do with the
Speaker 1: fact that she's twelve years older than you? No, No,
Speaker 1: I knew that. I knew that that before we went out.
Speaker 1: So and she, you know, she's a really she's really fun,
Speaker 1: she's really great, and I hope she finds somebody great
Speaker 1: to be with. Okay, if she's so great, then why
Speaker 1: don't you want to go out with her again? Yeah? Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's just I just I want with best for her.
Speaker 1: So do you feel like you guys are looking for
Speaker 1: different things in life? Uh? Yeah, you know, I think
Speaker 1: I think, you know, I just want her to really
Speaker 1: be happy. She deserves that. It sounds kind of like
Speaker 1: you're dancing John, be honest. Is it the age thing?
Speaker 1: Like you can tell us the truth. No, no, no, no,
Speaker 1: she doesn't even look her age. Actually she she looks great.
Speaker 1: So she's great, fun to be around, beautiful, gorgeous. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and has kids and you don't mind kids. So everything
Speaker 1: about her is perfect for you. And that's why you
Speaker 1: don't want to see her again. I really like her.
Speaker 1: I think she's awesome, but I think that in the end,
Speaker 1: it's not gonna work out. So why, well did she
Speaker 1: tell you that she's divorced too? Yeah? She did. She
Speaker 1: told us all that. And did I mean, did she
Speaker 1: tell you about like what her ex husband's like. No,
Speaker 1: we could have gotten into that, but I was more
Speaker 1: concerned with hearing about your date with her, not her
Speaker 1: ex husband problem. Yeah. Well, he's just like he's just
Speaker 1: he's he just really has this stuff together. He's this
Speaker 1: big time in estment banker and very successful and probably
Speaker 1: provided a lot for her that I just can't do.
Speaker 1: Wait a minute, you realize he was also a bag
Speaker 1: who she divorced right and doesn't like at all. I
Speaker 1: don't really know too much of the details of why
Speaker 1: they got divorced or anything. We didn't really talk that
Speaker 1: much about that. I just know I'm barely getting high
Speaker 1: life started. I just started working in publiculations and I'm
Speaker 1: not going to be able to give her that. That
Speaker 1: is so unfair to her. Dude, not only are you
Speaker 1: saying that, I mean it just implies that she is
Speaker 1: looking for someone with money. No, but it's not. It's
Speaker 1: not even like that at all though. I'm just talking
Speaker 1: about that. There's a standard of living that people are
Speaker 1: used to being at and I can't fit into that
Speaker 1: for her. I can't give her that. That's real, that's
Speaker 1: like very real. It's not anything bad about her, in fact,
Speaker 1: That's That's what I'm trying to say. Is I think
Speaker 1: she's she's really great and I want her to have
Speaker 1: what she should have in life, and I can't give that. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but don't you think that maybe she has her own
Speaker 1: money and her own way of life, and that actually
Speaker 1: maybe she wasn't reliant on her ex husband at all.
Speaker 1: I don't know about that. I just I don't think
Speaker 1: that we're in the same place in our lives. And
Speaker 1: if you talk to her, can you just tell her
Speaker 1: I had a really wonderful time with her and I
Speaker 1: really want the best for her. I can do that,
Speaker 1: But why don't you do it? Yourself because she's actually
Speaker 1: on the phone listening to this conversation. What yeah, Jackie,
Speaker 1: Hi John, Oh listen. I think you're you're you're great,
Speaker 1: and I wish you didn't feel that way because none
Speaker 1: of that stuff matters to me at all, really, But
Speaker 1: it's going to look you're You're used to a guy
Speaker 1: that's really put together and has everything kind of figured
Speaker 1: out and I'm just getting started and I'm just kind
Speaker 1: of figuring out where I fit in life right now
Speaker 1: and know. But I like that about you. I like
Speaker 1: that you're excited and looking forward to the future and
Speaker 1: have all kinds of ideas and things. I mean, I've
Speaker 1: already been there, done that with a guy who's a jerk.
Speaker 1: I don't need to go down that road again. You
Speaker 1: like it now, but in you know, two months, it's
Speaker 1: gonna be boring to you, and you're gonna want more.
Speaker 1: You're gonna want to go out and go on crazy
Speaker 1: vacations that costs a lot of money that I can't
Speaker 1: give you. Oh my god, you are so jumping to conclusions.
Speaker 1: What are you saying. I mean, that's where that's where
Speaker 1: it's headed, Like, that's where that's why we went out
Speaker 1: I mean, that's where it's going to go eventually, and
Speaker 1: I can't do it. Well, really, none of that matters.
Speaker 1: I just wanted somebody that I could really click with,
Speaker 1: and I thought we had a great time together. You
Speaker 1: like me now. But the thing is is you're driving
Speaker 1: up to meet me in a Mercedes and I'm driving
Speaker 1: up to meet you in like a nineteen ninety nine Toyota.
Speaker 1: It doesn't matter. From the sounds of it, You're the
Speaker 1: only one that's concerned about it. She's not concerned about it. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but long term it's not going to work out. You know.
Speaker 1: Nobody said anything about long term. We could just hang
Speaker 1: out and hook up, you know. Yeah, did you mean
Speaker 1: hook up in the way that I think you meant
Speaker 1: hook up? Jackie? I don't know. I just wanted to
Speaker 1: have some fun and I want to be that serious
Speaker 1: as you should. You are making up for some lost time,
Speaker 1: that's right, that's right. You know. I never said I
Speaker 1: wanted to get married right now. I don't want anything
Speaker 1: serious right away. I didn't want to go and have
Speaker 1: some fun. Yeah, and John, you look like you can
Speaker 1: be a lot of fun, Okay, different from what I thought. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it sounds to me, John, like Jackie is not interested
Speaker 1: in a long term thing with you at all. She
Speaker 1: wants to cheer you up and spit you out, which
Speaker 1: would be cool to do. All right, Well, in that case,
Speaker 1: would you guys like to go out on a second date? John?
Speaker 1: We will pay for it? Oh man, you know what,
Speaker 1: as long as there's no long term expectations been Hell, yeah,
Speaker 1: I'd love to go out again. Does that sound okay
Speaker 1: with you? Jackie? Oh? I think I made my point.
Speaker 1: That sounds more than okay to me. All right, Well,
Speaker 1: congratulations you too. It's a successful second date update. We'll
Speaker 1: send you out again. Oh that sounds wonderful. I can't
Speaker 1: wait to see you John. And just Jebel said, you know,
Speaker 1: there maybe some chewing and there maybe some sitting out.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, okay, broken Jewel in the morning text in
Speaker 1: at seven eighty five to nine two says I'll date
Speaker 1: Jackie two. I know there's a lot of a lot
Speaker 1: of young cougar hunters out there. Right now texting in,
Speaker 1: you're talking about today's second date update. And if you
Speaker 1: missed it, this girl, Jackie went out with a guy
Speaker 1: named John who was a lot younger than her, and
Speaker 1: she was afraid that the fact that she's divorced with
Speaker 1: two kids could have scared him away. But when we
Speaker 1: called John, he said he was worried about being able
Speaker 1: to provide for her and her kids and doesn't think
Speaker 1: that he would be able to support them in the
Speaker 1: long run. He's really thinking down the road. Yeah, and
Speaker 1: the whole thing. She said that his financial status didn't
Speaker 1: bother her and that long term commitment didn't matter because
Speaker 1: she's just looking for fun right now from a younger dude.
Speaker 1: He's like, Oh, that's so cute that you think that
Speaker 1: I want that. So John agreed to more hookups as
Speaker 1: long as she doesn't expect anything more serious. Yeah. In
Speaker 1: the end, a very successful second date update. Remember, if
Speaker 1: you want to do a second date update, all you
Speaker 1: have to do is email the show and we will
Speaker 1: call the person who didn't call you back.