WEBVTT - 2nd Date Update PODCAST: Cougar Country

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<v Speaker 1>Brooking jubil in the morning. Second Date Update. When we

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<v Speaker 1>do these second date updates, I'm always interested in hearing

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<v Speaker 1>the story of the date and what happened and why

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<v Speaker 1>people think they might not be getting a call back.

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<v Speaker 1>But actually, today I think I'm more interested in hearing

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<v Speaker 1>about all the other failed dates that this person has

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<v Speaker 1>been on. The list is long. You got an email

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<v Speaker 1>from Jackie. She wants to do a second date update today.

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<v Speaker 1>She's kind of back on the dating scene, I guess

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<v Speaker 1>after getting divorced and stuff like that. But she says

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<v Speaker 1>that she's been dating a little bit and she's had

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<v Speaker 1>a bunch of weird experiences. So Jackie, can we actually

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<v Speaker 1>talk about the weird experiences instead of the person that

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<v Speaker 1>you want to talk about? Oh no, I'd rather not really.

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<v Speaker 1>I hear from single people that listening to these are

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<v Speaker 1>often just depressing because they're like, this is what the

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<v Speaker 1>dating scene is? Great? Yeah, it's so depressing. I mean

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<v Speaker 1>the guys that are out there, so we are. The

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<v Speaker 1>first date I went out on, he wouldn't stop smelling

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<v Speaker 1>my hair for like the first hour of the date.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, what are you doing? You know, like

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<v Speaker 1>some personal space? He just sat there smelling your hair. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>it was freaky. It was like, you know, I know you.

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<v Speaker 1>It sounds like a normal date to me, Jackie. You

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<v Speaker 1>are just out of touch. So your email said, your

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<v Speaker 1>email said, you haven't been dating in a long time

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<v Speaker 1>because you went through divorce and all that kind of stuff.

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<v Speaker 1>How long has it been since you've been out in

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<v Speaker 1>the dating world. Oh my gosh, probably fifteen years. Wow,

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<v Speaker 1>that's a while. That's probably kind of scary getting back

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<v Speaker 1>in the game, you know, yeah, it really is. It's

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<v Speaker 1>really kind of bizarre, and I feel like, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a kid all over again. You know, that's not

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<v Speaker 1>a good thing. But the guy that you want to

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<v Speaker 1>call today, his name's John, all right, And so this

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<v Speaker 1>was a positive experience for you. Yes, finally I met

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<v Speaker 1>this guy. He was so cute and tall and beautiful

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<v Speaker 1>eyes and great smile and sense of humor. And told

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<v Speaker 1>them about my kids. You seem totally cool with that.

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<v Speaker 1>We had this wonderful night and ended with this fabulous,

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<v Speaker 1>passionate kiss, and I was like, oh my gosh, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>finally a good one. And then I never heard from him.

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<v Speaker 1>Can I ask you? Can I ask you? Where did

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<v Speaker 1>you meet him? I met him online, but I feel

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<v Speaker 1>kind of weird about even saying that. It's like, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>kind of ashamed even to admit that. But I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know where else. Hey, that's where everybody meets people. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, you have to sift through the hair sniffers

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<v Speaker 1>and the other weird people. But you've done that and

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<v Speaker 1>clearly met somebody that you liked. What did you guys do?

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<v Speaker 1>He took me dancing, and I haven't been out dancing

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<v Speaker 1>and I don't know how long. But we just had

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<v Speaker 1>a blast. Are we talking like grinding or we talking

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<v Speaker 1>like ballroom dancing? No? No, we went. We went to

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<v Speaker 1>a club and okay, they had they had, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>music of all different genres and stuff. So it wasn't like,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, you know, rap music that you can't

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<v Speaker 1>really dance too. It was like fun music and we

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<v Speaker 1>just had such a blast together. We had a really

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<v Speaker 1>good time. Okay, why do you think he's not calling

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<v Speaker 1>you back if you had such a great time? I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know. That's why I'm like, what you know, I know,

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<v Speaker 1>I've been out of this whole thing for a while.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know how it all works, you know, are

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<v Speaker 1>you supposed to wait three weeks before you call someone back.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. I mean I never understood Listen, I

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<v Speaker 1>never understood guys when I was a kid. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>understand them now either. Forget it? And what are you

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<v Speaker 1>looking for? Like when you're out dating, If you were

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<v Speaker 1>to go on a second date with John, are you

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<v Speaker 1>hoping that it would turn into a relationship or are

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<v Speaker 1>you just looking to have some fun? Well, I think

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<v Speaker 1>I would like a relationship again, you know. I mean

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<v Speaker 1>I wouldn't take it super fast. I think I would

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<v Speaker 1>want to take it kind of slow and kind of

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<v Speaker 1>get to know the person pretty well before I got

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<v Speaker 1>involved after having such a disaster with my first husband.

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<v Speaker 1>But yeah, I'd like to meet someone. I don't want

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<v Speaker 1>to be alone in the rest of my life. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>my kids are going to grow up and then what

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I'll be up by myself. Did he know

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<v Speaker 1>about the kids before you guys went out? Yes, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I did on my profile. It's very you know, I

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<v Speaker 1>made sure that people knew that because I know that

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<v Speaker 1>could be like a problem, and maybe it is and

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<v Speaker 1>he was just being nice about it. I don't know. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I was going to say, how did that conversation go.

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<v Speaker 1>When you talked about your kids, he seemed fine with it.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, he's never been married before, he didn't have

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<v Speaker 1>many kids of his own, but he had some nephews

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<v Speaker 1>and nieces and he see my tea really liked hanging

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<v Speaker 1>out with them and playing with them and stop. So

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<v Speaker 1>that's not bad because you bring up kids with me

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<v Speaker 1>on a date and it's like a hole through the wall,

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<v Speaker 1>like a cartoon character. I bust out of there so quickly.

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<v Speaker 1>Some guys are like that. You know, yeah, you wouldn't

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<v Speaker 1>write exactly, but you wouldn't go on a date with

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<v Speaker 1>somebody who had it on their profile to begin with.

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<v Speaker 1>It depends on what you looked like. Okay, so how

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<v Speaker 1>many times have you tried to get a hold of

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<v Speaker 1>him since you've gone out? I texted him the next

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<v Speaker 1>day to say, you know, thanks for such a great

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<v Speaker 1>night out. Let's seeing you again, And then I think

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<v Speaker 1>I called him like two or three days later, but

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<v Speaker 1>that was it. I don't want to be like a stalker,

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<v Speaker 1>and I don't know. I don't know what to do.

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<v Speaker 1>Am I supposed to call him? Is he supposed to

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<v Speaker 1>call me? I don't know. Has he said anything? Back

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<v Speaker 1>to you at all, no silence, like crickets, nothing, And

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<v Speaker 1>you can't think of one thing that was awkward. The

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<v Speaker 1>only thing I can think of is that he's like

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<v Speaker 1>a little bit younger than me, by a little you mean,

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<v Speaker 1>whoa like twelve years. He's twelve years old. Way to go, girls,

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<v Speaker 1>And I would not be saying, oh, oh, twelve years younger. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I just heard twelve years. I was like, wait a second, Jackie,

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<v Speaker 1>you're doing this wrong, all right, So yeah, that could

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<v Speaker 1>maybe possibly be a thing though, to be twelve years

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<v Speaker 1>younger than somebody. Some people might care about that. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I guess twelve years might be kind of a lot

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<v Speaker 1>for some people. But he seemed to be okay with it.

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<v Speaker 1>And I put my age out there. I was very

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<v Speaker 1>like honest on my profile. A lot of people like

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<v Speaker 1>put a lot of garbage there and lie and all that,

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<v Speaker 1>but I was really honest, and people tell me I

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<v Speaker 1>look a lot younger than my age, and you know,

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<v Speaker 1>and because all my information was out there, he knew

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<v Speaker 1>what he was getting into. It wasn't like I got

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<v Speaker 1>showed up and it was a surprise, right unless he

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<v Speaker 1>was like, I don't know, maybe giving it a try

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<v Speaker 1>for the first time and then noticed that, oh, we

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<v Speaker 1>actually don't have anything in common. Oh maybe I thought that,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, guys like the cougar thing. I don't know,

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<v Speaker 1>I like you. Well, we'll find out. We'll play a song.

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<v Speaker 1>Com back, call him and get your second date update. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>thank you, you're welcome. Hold on brooking jubil in the morning.

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<v Speaker 1>Second date update if you're just tuning in for today's

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<v Speaker 1>second date update. Jackie is on the phone and she

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<v Speaker 1>wants to call a guy named John. Today. They met online.

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<v Speaker 1>She's had a string of bad dates and apparently it's

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<v Speaker 1>just jumped back into the dating world after getting a

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<v Speaker 1>divorce and stuff. They went out, danced a little bit,

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<v Speaker 1>and now he's not calling her back. She has no

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<v Speaker 1>idea why, except she thinks it could have been because

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<v Speaker 1>she has two kids and maybe that kind of scared

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<v Speaker 1>him off. Jackie, Yeah, you know what I'm thinking, might

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<v Speaker 1>have scared him off? Oh know what, your ability to

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<v Speaker 1>work right? Maybe just maybe you were dropping it a

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<v Speaker 1>little too hard on the dance floor, Jackie, what do

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<v Speaker 1>you think? I don't know. I mean, maybe he doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>like the way I dance. I don't know. I can

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<v Speaker 1>hear it in your voice. You know how to get down,

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<v Speaker 1>don't you? Yeah? Oh my god, that would that would

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<v Speaker 1>probably we have been shocking for him saying that you

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<v Speaker 1>are twelve years older than he is. Well, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't. I don't do all those workouts for nothing.

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<v Speaker 1>I've been doing that infanity thing for years and you're

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<v Speaker 1>trying to keep myself at good stake? Are all right? Well,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna dial his phone number now and see why

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<v Speaker 1>he's not calling you back. Okay, thank you. Here we go. Hello,

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<v Speaker 1>Hi is John? There? This is John. Hey John, how

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<v Speaker 1>are you? This is Jewil. I host a radio show

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<v Speaker 1>called Brook and Jewel in the Morning. Oh okay, I

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<v Speaker 1>think I heard of you. What's this about? Well, I

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<v Speaker 1>wanted to ask you a few questions if you have

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<v Speaker 1>a second about what about your dating life? Oh that's weird.

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<v Speaker 1>I'll explain. We do a segment on our show called

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<v Speaker 1>the second Date Update. It's where if you go out

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<v Speaker 1>on a date with somebody and then end up blowing

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<v Speaker 1>them off after the date, they email us to see

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<v Speaker 1>if we can get you on the phone and ask

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<v Speaker 1>why so you recently went on a date with one

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<v Speaker 1>of our listeners. Her name is Jackie. Oh okay, Oh

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<v Speaker 1>my gosh. So Jackie told us about your date and

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<v Speaker 1>said that she actually liked you a lot and wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to see you again. But she's wondering why you're not

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<v Speaker 1>answering her phone calls. Oh, she's she's really great. It

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<v Speaker 1>just I just don't think it's going to be right though.

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<v Speaker 1>Is there a particular reason? You know? It just sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>you're you know, you just don't match up, that's all

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<v Speaker 1>you know. Does it have anything to do with the

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<v Speaker 1>fact that she's twelve years older than you? No, No,

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<v Speaker 1>I knew that. I knew that that before we went out.

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<v Speaker 1>So and she, you know, she's a really she's really fun,

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<v Speaker 1>she's really great, and I hope she finds somebody great

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<v Speaker 1>to be with. Okay, if she's so great, then why

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<v Speaker 1>don't you want to go out with her again? Yeah? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>it's just I just I want with best for her.

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<v Speaker 1>So do you feel like you guys are looking for

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<v Speaker 1>different things in life? Uh? Yeah, you know, I think

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<v Speaker 1>I think, you know, I just want her to really

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<v Speaker 1>be happy. She deserves that. It sounds kind of like

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<v Speaker 1>you're dancing John, be honest. Is it the age thing?

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<v Speaker 1>Like you can tell us the truth. No, no, no, no,

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<v Speaker 1>she doesn't even look her age. Actually she she looks great.

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<v Speaker 1>So she's great, fun to be around, beautiful, gorgeous. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>and has kids and you don't mind kids. So everything

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<v Speaker 1>about her is perfect for you. And that's why you

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<v Speaker 1>don't want to see her again. I really like her.

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<v Speaker 1>I think she's awesome, but I think that in the end,

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<v Speaker 1>it's not gonna work out. So why, well did she

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<v Speaker 1>tell you that she's divorced too? Yeah? She did. She

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<v Speaker 1>told us all that. And did I mean, did she

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<v Speaker 1>tell you about like what her ex husband's like. No,

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<v Speaker 1>we could have gotten into that, but I was more

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<v Speaker 1>concerned with hearing about your date with her, not her

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<v Speaker 1>ex husband problem. Yeah. Well, he's just like he's just

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<v Speaker 1>he's he just really has this stuff together. He's this

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<v Speaker 1>big time in estment banker and very successful and probably

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<v Speaker 1>provided a lot for her that I just can't do.

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<v Speaker 1>Wait a minute, you realize he was also a bag

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<v Speaker 1>who she divorced right and doesn't like at all. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't really know too much of the details of why

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<v Speaker 1>they got divorced or anything. We didn't really talk that

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<v Speaker 1>much about that. I just know I'm barely getting high

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<v Speaker 1>life started. I just started working in publiculations and I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not going to be able to give her that. That

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<v Speaker 1>is so unfair to her. Dude, not only are you

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<v Speaker 1>saying that, I mean it just implies that she is

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<v Speaker 1>looking for someone with money. No, but it's not. It's

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<v Speaker 1>not even like that at all though. I'm just talking

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<v Speaker 1>about that. There's a standard of living that people are

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<v Speaker 1>used to being at and I can't fit into that

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<v Speaker 1>for her. I can't give her that. That's real, that's

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<v Speaker 1>like very real. It's not anything bad about her, in fact,

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<v Speaker 1>That's That's what I'm trying to say. Is I think

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<v Speaker 1>she's she's really great and I want her to have

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<v Speaker 1>what she should have in life, and I can't give that. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>but don't you think that maybe she has her own

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<v Speaker 1>money and her own way of life, and that actually

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<v Speaker 1>maybe she wasn't reliant on her ex husband at all.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know about that. I just I don't think

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<v Speaker 1>that we're in the same place in our lives. And

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<v Speaker 1>if you talk to her, can you just tell her

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<v Speaker 1>I had a really wonderful time with her and I

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<v Speaker 1>really want the best for her. I can do that,

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<v Speaker 1>But why don't you do it? Yourself because she's actually

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<v Speaker 1>on the phone listening to this conversation. What yeah, Jackie,

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<v Speaker 1>Hi John, Oh listen. I think you're you're you're great,

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<v Speaker 1>and I wish you didn't feel that way because none

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<v Speaker 1>of that stuff matters to me at all, really, But

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<v Speaker 1>it's going to look you're You're used to a guy

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<v Speaker 1>that's really put together and has everything kind of figured

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<v Speaker 1>out and I'm just getting started and I'm just kind

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<v Speaker 1>of figuring out where I fit in life right now

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<v Speaker 1>and know. But I like that about you. I like

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<v Speaker 1>that you're excited and looking forward to the future and

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<v Speaker 1>have all kinds of ideas and things. I mean, I've

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<v Speaker 1>already been there, done that with a guy who's a jerk.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't need to go down that road again. You

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<v Speaker 1>like it now, but in you know, two months, it's

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<v Speaker 1>gonna be boring to you, and you're gonna want more.

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<v Speaker 1>You're gonna want to go out and go on crazy

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<v Speaker 1>vacations that costs a lot of money that I can't

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<v Speaker 1>give you. Oh my god, you are so jumping to conclusions.

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<v Speaker 1>What are you saying. I mean, that's where that's where

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<v Speaker 1>it's headed, Like, that's where that's why we went out

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, that's where it's going to go eventually, and

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<v Speaker 1>I can't do it. Well, really, none of that matters.

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<v Speaker 1>I just wanted somebody that I could really click with,

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<v Speaker 1>and I thought we had a great time together. You

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<v Speaker 1>like me now. But the thing is is you're driving

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<v Speaker 1>up to meet me in a Mercedes and I'm driving

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<v Speaker 1>up to meet you in like a nineteen ninety nine Toyota.

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<v Speaker 1>It doesn't matter. From the sounds of it, You're the

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<v Speaker 1>only one that's concerned about it. She's not concerned about it. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>but long term it's not going to work out. You know.

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<v Speaker 1>Nobody said anything about long term. We could just hang

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<v Speaker 1>out and hook up, you know. Yeah, did you mean

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<v Speaker 1>hook up in the way that I think you meant

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<v Speaker 1>hook up? Jackie? I don't know. I just wanted to

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<v Speaker 1>have some fun and I want to be that serious

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<v Speaker 1>as you should. You are making up for some lost time,

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<v Speaker 1>that's right, that's right. You know. I never said I

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<v Speaker 1>wanted to get married right now. I don't want anything

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<v Speaker 1>serious right away. I didn't want to go and have

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<v Speaker 1>some fun. Yeah, and John, you look like you can

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<v Speaker 1>be a lot of fun, Okay, different from what I thought. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>it sounds to me, John, like Jackie is not interested

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<v Speaker 1>in a long term thing with you at all. She

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<v Speaker 1>wants to cheer you up and spit you out, which

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<v Speaker 1>would be cool to do. All right, Well, in that case,

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<v Speaker 1>would you guys like to go out on a second date? John?

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<v Speaker 1>We will pay for it? Oh man, you know what,

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<v Speaker 1>as long as there's no long term expectations been Hell, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I'd love to go out again. Does that sound okay

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<v Speaker 1>with you? Jackie? Oh? I think I made my point.

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<v Speaker 1>That sounds more than okay to me. All right, Well,

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<v Speaker 1>congratulations you too. It's a successful second date update. We'll

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<v Speaker 1>send you out again. Oh that sounds wonderful. I can't

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<v Speaker 1>wait to see you John. And just Jebel said, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>there maybe some chewing and there maybe some sitting out.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, okay, broken Jewel in the morning text in

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<v Speaker 1>at seven eighty five to nine two says I'll date

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<v Speaker 1>Jackie two. I know there's a lot of a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of young cougar hunters out there. Right now texting in,

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<v Speaker 1>you're talking about today's second date update. And if you

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<v Speaker 1>missed it, this girl, Jackie went out with a guy

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<v Speaker 1>named John who was a lot younger than her, and

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<v Speaker 1>she was afraid that the fact that she's divorced with

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<v Speaker 1>two kids could have scared him away. But when we

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<v Speaker 1>called John, he said he was worried about being able

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<v Speaker 1>to provide for her and her kids and doesn't think

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<v Speaker 1>that he would be able to support them in the

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<v Speaker 1>long run. He's really thinking down the road. Yeah, and

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<v Speaker 1>the whole thing. She said that his financial status didn't

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<v Speaker 1>bother her and that long term commitment didn't matter because

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<v Speaker 1>she's just looking for fun right now from a younger dude.

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<v Speaker 1>He's like, Oh, that's so cute that you think that

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<v Speaker 1>I want that. So John agreed to more hookups as

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<v Speaker 1>long as she doesn't expect anything more serious. Yeah. In

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<v Speaker 1>the end, a very successful second date update. Remember, if

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<v Speaker 1>you want to do a second date update, all you

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<v Speaker 1>have to do is email the show and we will

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<v Speaker 1>call the person who didn't call you back.