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Speaker 1: Brooking jubil in the morning. Second Date Update. When we

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Speaker 1: do these second date updates, I'm always interested in hearing

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Speaker 1: people think they might not be getting a call back.

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Speaker 1: But actually, today I think I'm more interested in hearing

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Speaker 1: about all the other failed dates that this person has

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Speaker 1: been on. The list is long. You got an email

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Speaker 1: from Jackie. She wants to do a second date update today.

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Speaker 1: She's kind of back on the dating scene, I guess

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Speaker 1: after getting divorced and stuff like that. But she says

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Speaker 1: that she's been dating a little bit and she's had

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Speaker 1: a bunch of weird experiences. So Jackie, can we actually

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Speaker 1: talk about the weird experiences instead of the person that

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Speaker 1: you want to talk about? Oh no, I'd rather not really.

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Speaker 1: I hear from single people that listening to these are

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Speaker 1: often just depressing because they're like, this is what the

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Speaker 1: dating scene is? Great? Yeah, it's so depressing. I mean

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Speaker 1: the guys that are out there, so we are. The

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Speaker 1: first date I went out on, he wouldn't stop smelling

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Speaker 1: I was like, what are you doing? You know, like

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Speaker 1: some personal space? He just sat there smelling your hair. Yes,

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Speaker 1: it was freaky. It was like, you know, I know you.

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Speaker 1: It sounds like a normal date to me, Jackie. You

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Speaker 1: are just out of touch. So your email said, your

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Speaker 1: email said, you haven't been dating in a long time

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Speaker 1: because you went through divorce and all that kind of stuff.

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Speaker 1: How long has it been since you've been out in

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Speaker 1: the dating world. Oh my gosh, probably fifteen years. Wow,

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Speaker 1: that's a while. That's probably kind of scary getting back

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Speaker 1: a good thing. But the guy that you want to

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Speaker 1: call today, his name's John, all right, And so this

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Speaker 1: was a positive experience for you. Yes, finally I met

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Speaker 1: this guy. He was so cute and tall and beautiful

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Speaker 1: We had this wonderful night and ended with this fabulous,

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Speaker 1: Can I ask you? Can I ask you? Where did

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Speaker 1: you meet him? I met him online, but I feel

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Speaker 1: kind of weird about even saying that. It's like, I'm

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Speaker 1: kind of ashamed even to admit that. But I don't

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Speaker 1: I mean, you have to sift through the hair sniffers

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Speaker 1: and the other weird people. But you've done that and

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Speaker 1: clearly met somebody that you liked. What did you guys do?

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Speaker 1: He took me dancing, and I haven't been out dancing

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Speaker 1: and I don't know how long. But we just had

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Speaker 1: like ballroom dancing? No? No, we went. We went to

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Speaker 1: I don't know, you know, rap music that you can't

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Speaker 1: good time. Okay, why do you think he's not calling

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Speaker 1: I don't know. I mean I never understood Listen, I

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Speaker 1: you just looking to have some fun? Well, I think

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Speaker 1: It depends on what you looked like. Okay, so how

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Speaker 1: many times have you tried to get a hold of

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Speaker 1: And I would not be saying, oh, oh, twelve years younger. Okay,

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Speaker 1: Second date update if you're just tuning in for today's

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Speaker 1: wants to call a guy named John. Today. They met online.

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Speaker 1: She's had a string of bad dates and apparently it's

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Speaker 1: little too hard on the dance floor, Jackie, what do

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Speaker 1: are twelve years older than he is. Well, you know,

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Speaker 1: I've been doing that infanity thing for years and you're

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Speaker 1: Hi is John? There? This is John. Hey John, how

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Speaker 1: are you? This is Jewil. I host a radio show

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Speaker 1: called Brook and Jewel in the Morning. Oh okay, I

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Speaker 1: think I heard of you. What's this about? Well, I

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Speaker 1: the second Date Update. It's where if you go out

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Speaker 1: my gosh. So Jackie told us about your date and

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Speaker 1: fact that she's twelve years older than you? No, No,

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Speaker 1: I knew that. I knew that that before we went out.

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Speaker 1: it's just I just I want with best for her.

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Speaker 1: Like you can tell us the truth. No, no, no, no,

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Speaker 1: she doesn't even look her age. Actually she she looks great.

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Speaker 1: So she's great, fun to be around, beautiful, gorgeous. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: and has kids and you don't mind kids. So everything

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Speaker 1: tell you that she's divorced too? Yeah? She did. She

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