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Speaker 1: This is The EDS with Eddie Judge and Edwin Adoyavi.

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Speaker 1: Welcome back to the Eds. I'm Eddie Judge and I

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Speaker 1: have and I'm Edwin Ajave. Edwin's back. So excited, brother,

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Speaker 1: It's been a long time. Totally missed you. Hey, Today

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Speaker 1: we are doing something totally different, totally new to us.

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Speaker 1: We are going to welcome a brand new house husband

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Speaker 1: who is about to enter the Bravo universe with a

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Speaker 1: new franchise. But he's not new to reality TV. Did

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Speaker 1: you know that?

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Speaker 2: I just found that out. I mean, I'm so excited

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Speaker 2: for this interview because you know, Teddy would always watch

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Speaker 2: The Bachelor and The Bachelorette and The Paradise and I

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Speaker 2: could never keep up with it. And now I get

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Speaker 2: to ask all the cool questions about that.

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Speaker 1: So I'm well, let's welcome Jaredhibond, who is married to

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Speaker 1: the Real Housewives of Rhode Island cast member Ashley Local

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Speaker 1: Nettie Jared and Ashley, Oh, I can okay.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but that's a tough one. I almost feel like

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Speaker 3: it's it's cool or to fix it on air, like yeah,

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Speaker 3: because because we're introducing her to the Bravo audience, So

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Speaker 3: it's funny to be like, oh, so her name is

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Speaker 3: so Ashley, I Keneedti. But when we went to so

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Speaker 3: our on our honeymoon, we went to Italy and over

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Speaker 3: there it's Yakanetti, which is far what Yeah, because when

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Speaker 3: we checked into the hotel, they were like, first of all,

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Speaker 3: they called me mister Yacanetti, and I was like, yeah,

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Speaker 3: I'll just accept my fate. It's fine there.

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Speaker 1: Bro Oh, it's the most embarrassing thing, especially.

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Speaker 3: If you hate the guy. I know, but it's just

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Speaker 3: like I've I've I've accepted my place in this world,

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Speaker 3: and then and what I've met I I I've had

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Speaker 3: the privilege to meet Teddy a couple of times, and

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Speaker 3: she's she's she's wonderful. So yeah, it's a it's a

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Speaker 3: pleasure being here, boys. Thanks Eds for having me.

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Speaker 1: Jared and Ashley met on Bachelor in Paradise in twenty fifteen,

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Speaker 1: and they have two kids together. Also, they own a

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Speaker 1: business together, Audrey's Coffeehouse and Lounge in Rhode Island. I

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Speaker 1: can't wait to get into that. That's awesome, Jared, Welcome

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Speaker 1: to the EDS.

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Speaker 3: Thank you Eds for having me. I appreciate it. It's

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Speaker 3: a pleasure. To enter this Bravo universe.

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Speaker 1: Oh, we can't wait to get you know, give you

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Speaker 1: some tips and tricks and all that. Even though you

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Speaker 1: come from reality TV, I think Bravo Reality Housewife TV

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Speaker 1: is a little bit different than all of them, right,

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Speaker 1: Edwin a little.

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Speaker 2: Different, although I think you know that. I think one

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Speaker 2: of the great things about well, not the great thing.

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Speaker 2: I think one of the things you got to have

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Speaker 2: gotta be wooty. And it sounds like, Jared, if you

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Speaker 2: were on The Paradise or The Bachelor. Sounds like something

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Speaker 2: you need to have. So I think you'll do very,

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Speaker 2: very well.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, let's get into that. Yeah, it was interesting, like

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Speaker 3: filming for the first time with Bravo. Obviously, Ashley's much

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Speaker 3: more integrated now being a housewive, but like, yeah, you're right,

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Speaker 3: it's we understand that. You know, we're gonna get three

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Speaker 1: So firs stuff, Jared, I understand you're Rhode Island. You're

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Speaker 1: Rhode Island guy. Yeah, awesome, So you were born there

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so I was born in Warwick, Rhode Island, and

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Speaker 3: then now we live in the southern part of Rhode Island.

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Speaker 3: But I've always loved being here.

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Speaker 1: We like growing up there.

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Speaker 3: It's great, so my parents are still here. It's very small.

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Speaker 3: Everybody knows everybody. You're probably related to a majority of people,

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Speaker 3: which is difficult for dating. And it's also difficult for

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Speaker 3: I know, Sarah, who you know? You guys had a thing.

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Speaker 3: I'm like, oh yeah, oh god. But it happens continuously,

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Speaker 3: I love the seasons around here. It is very communal

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Speaker 1: That's awesome, that's fantastic.

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Speaker 2: That's awesome. Would you grow up doing like were you

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Speaker 3: Yeah? So I played football and baseball in high school.

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Speaker 3: My mom had all different types of jobs growing up,

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Speaker 3: he retired.

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Speaker 3: Wow, it's a long time, I know to be in

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Speaker 3: that one very long time to be in that profession.

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Speaker 2: one year makes such a difference for kids because me too,

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Speaker 2: I was one of the youngest and you need that confidence, right,

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Speaker 2: and just that one year difference just means the world.

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Speaker 3: But yeah, it's it's just like I I when I

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Speaker 1: Well, let me let me share my experience with that,

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Speaker 3: But you know, no, a good point because I see

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Speaker 3: because the four year old sometimes doesn't know how rough

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Speaker 3: He doesn't do it an malicious way, but like sometimes

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Speaker 1: Absolutely, Hey, so let's get into The Bachelor a whole series.

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Speaker 1: How do how are you cast for that? How did

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Speaker 3: My one of my best friends, her name is Crystal,

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Speaker 3: casting just called me. They're looking for you. I signed

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Speaker 3: So then I checked the voicemail and it was like, Hi,

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Speaker 3: this is ABC's Bachelorette the casting department. We're looking for Jared.

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Speaker 3: Your friend Crystal signed you up. We're just curious if

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Speaker 3: So I called it back and of course, yeah, I

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Speaker 3: So I was I was on the Bachelorette, I wasn't choosing. Oh,

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Speaker 3: You're secluded. You're in this bubble. They take away your phone,

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Interesting, Yeah, so science to its doing.

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Speaker 1: So how long are you in that filming? I mean,

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Speaker 3: It is beautiful. It's in Porta Vierta, Mexico.

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Speaker 1: How did it, How did it become love with Ashley?

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Speaker 3: all the time, but probably see each other once every

434
00:20:10,520 --> 00:20:11,919
Speaker 3: like you know.

435
00:20:13,440 --> 00:20:16,720
Speaker 1: So what made you realize she was the one? Well?

436
00:20:16,760 --> 00:20:20,800
Speaker 3: I think, you know, just like when Harry met Sally.

437
00:20:20,840 --> 00:20:23,960
Speaker 3: I think when you're around someone and you become so

438
00:20:24,080 --> 00:20:27,160
Speaker 3: comfortable with them and they become so ingrained in your life,

439
00:20:27,160 --> 00:20:29,280
Speaker 3: and I became so ingrained in her life, and I

440
00:20:29,280 --> 00:20:32,159
Speaker 3: think the pressure of being on Bachelor in Paradise and

441
00:20:32,200 --> 00:20:34,120
Speaker 3: as you guys know, being the pressure of being on

442
00:20:34,160 --> 00:20:37,119
Speaker 3: camera and being forced to make decisions in the moment,

443
00:20:37,160 --> 00:20:39,199
Speaker 3: because so many times in life you really are you

444
00:20:39,200 --> 00:20:42,520
Speaker 3: have the ability to walk away from a situation and think, think,

445
00:20:43,080 --> 00:20:45,720
Speaker 3: you know, process things, I think things true. That's not

446
00:20:45,760 --> 00:20:47,400
Speaker 3: the case with the reality TV. You have to make

447
00:20:47,400 --> 00:20:51,720
Speaker 3: a decision in the moment, and that's extremely difficult, and

448
00:20:51,760 --> 00:20:53,440
Speaker 3: so I think a lot of times I would shy

449
00:20:53,480 --> 00:20:56,119
Speaker 3: away from making decisions and I would always kind of

450
00:20:56,160 --> 00:20:58,480
Speaker 3: be one foot in, one foot out. And that was

451
00:20:58,520 --> 00:21:00,560
Speaker 3: kind of like the course of our real relationship, and

452
00:21:00,560 --> 00:21:03,359
Speaker 3: then what turned into our friendship where we would just

453
00:21:03,400 --> 00:21:06,960
Speaker 3: always be texting and always talking to each other, and

454
00:21:07,000 --> 00:21:09,080
Speaker 3: we'd always just kind of like come back to each other.

455
00:21:09,200 --> 00:21:11,960
Speaker 3: There was never a time where we really separated where

456
00:21:11,960 --> 00:21:14,320
Speaker 3: we thought like it's best for us to just not talk,

457
00:21:14,800 --> 00:21:17,119
Speaker 3: and that was something neither of one of us ever wanted.

458
00:21:17,160 --> 00:21:19,399
Speaker 3: And then it became this thing where both of us

459
00:21:19,400 --> 00:21:25,159
Speaker 3: were single, and there was nobody in my life that

460
00:21:25,240 --> 00:21:27,480
Speaker 3: I had was pursuing a relationship. There was nobody in

461
00:21:27,520 --> 00:21:29,639
Speaker 3: her life that she was pursuing a relationship. So it

462
00:21:29,680 --> 00:21:32,920
Speaker 3: was kind of like we were dating without any physical intimacy,

463
00:21:33,080 --> 00:21:35,040
Speaker 3: and we were still kind of going on dates with

464
00:21:35,080 --> 00:21:37,160
Speaker 3: other people, but like we were always friends. We would

465
00:21:37,160 --> 00:21:39,800
Speaker 3: never talk about other relationships. I think in my what

466
00:21:39,920 --> 00:21:42,640
Speaker 3: I know, and I'm assuming she feels the same way.

467
00:21:42,920 --> 00:21:45,399
Speaker 3: Was that if it ever came to a moment where

468
00:21:45,720 --> 00:21:48,960
Speaker 3: I was potentially going to get serious with somebody and

469
00:21:49,000 --> 00:21:51,199
Speaker 3: then same thing with her that it was going to

470
00:21:51,240 --> 00:21:52,960
Speaker 3: our friendship was going to come to a cross it

471
00:21:53,359 --> 00:21:55,359
Speaker 3: because nobody was ever going to feel comfortable in me

472
00:21:55,440 --> 00:21:57,359
Speaker 3: being a part of her life, and nobody was ever

473
00:21:57,359 --> 00:21:59,440
Speaker 3: going to feel comfortable if I was in relationship with them,

474
00:21:59,480 --> 00:22:02,520
Speaker 3: with Ashley being a part of my life as closely

475
00:22:02,600 --> 00:22:04,199
Speaker 3: as we were, And it never really came to that

476
00:22:04,240 --> 00:22:07,840
Speaker 3: point until it did. And then you know, that's when

477
00:22:09,400 --> 00:22:11,399
Speaker 3: you know I needed to do some self reflecting and

478
00:22:11,440 --> 00:22:14,560
Speaker 3: really think about what I wanted to do and and

479
00:22:14,680 --> 00:22:17,080
Speaker 3: you know what, I'm who I wanted to be with.

480
00:22:17,119 --> 00:22:20,080
Speaker 1: And you know, so did you close the deal on

481
00:22:20,119 --> 00:22:21,920
Speaker 1: the show or in proud?

482
00:22:22,480 --> 00:22:24,359
Speaker 3: So I got super lucky. We've told this story a

483
00:22:24,400 --> 00:22:28,240
Speaker 3: million times as well. But so she God's so stupid,

484
00:22:28,320 --> 00:22:31,440
Speaker 3: But that's what happened. So she went on a show

485
00:22:31,440 --> 00:22:34,040
Speaker 3: called Bachelor Went to Greens which was a spin off,

486
00:22:34,160 --> 00:22:38,600
Speaker 3: and then she I had heard that she potentially was

487
00:22:38,680 --> 00:22:40,879
Speaker 3: dating someone. It could have been serious, maybe not serious.

488
00:22:40,920 --> 00:22:43,800
Speaker 3: I don't really know, but you know, obviously she was

489
00:22:43,840 --> 00:22:47,119
Speaker 3: away filming, and so you know, through this time, I

490
00:22:47,119 --> 00:22:50,440
Speaker 3: obviously was pretty stressed and like being like, God, there's moron,

491
00:22:50,520 --> 00:22:53,440
Speaker 3: why did you just like you could have tried dating Ashley.

492
00:22:53,520 --> 00:22:55,120
Speaker 3: You guys are so good for each other, and now

493
00:22:55,600 --> 00:22:56,920
Speaker 3: she's not going to be a part of your life

494
00:22:57,040 --> 00:22:58,959
Speaker 3: at all, because clearly she's going to be with this

495
00:22:59,000 --> 00:23:01,960
Speaker 3: guy and she's not gonna want me to interject or

496
00:23:02,200 --> 00:23:05,200
Speaker 3: interfere with anything. So she left the show and then

497
00:23:05,400 --> 00:23:06,960
Speaker 3: we talked a little bit, and I knew she was

498
00:23:07,040 --> 00:23:10,199
Speaker 3: dating this guy. I didn't know how serious it was.

499
00:23:10,640 --> 00:23:14,080
Speaker 3: So luckily we had this plan trip because this is

500
00:23:14,080 --> 00:23:17,000
Speaker 3: how close Ashley and I were. So it was with Ashley,

501
00:23:17,040 --> 00:23:19,400
Speaker 3: her sister Lauren, and our friends Tanner and Jade, who

502
00:23:19,560 --> 00:23:21,639
Speaker 3: we're super close with. Obviously, we just took a vacation

503
00:23:21,720 --> 00:23:26,400
Speaker 3: with them and our agent Paul and his wife Kate,

504
00:23:26,520 --> 00:23:28,879
Speaker 3: and so we had this trip, I know, to Saint Lucia.

505
00:23:29,040 --> 00:23:31,760
Speaker 3: I planned for months and it was literally right after

506
00:23:31,800 --> 00:23:36,040
Speaker 3: New Year's and so, long story short, I flew down

507
00:23:36,040 --> 00:23:40,679
Speaker 3: there and you know, asked her about like, all right,

508
00:23:40,720 --> 00:23:43,439
Speaker 3: well you know what happened on Winter Games and she

509
00:23:43,560 --> 00:23:47,080
Speaker 3: told me, and then I knew what's going down there.

510
00:23:47,720 --> 00:23:47,879
Speaker 2: You know.

511
00:23:47,960 --> 00:23:49,840
Speaker 3: I talked to my mom about it. I talked to

512
00:23:49,840 --> 00:23:52,280
Speaker 3: my friends about it, and so I was gonna, you know,

513
00:23:52,359 --> 00:23:54,960
Speaker 3: for lack of a better way, confess my feelings. And

514
00:23:55,800 --> 00:23:57,160
Speaker 3: that's what I did. And I said, you know, there's

515
00:23:57,160 --> 00:23:59,600
Speaker 3: a reason why I wasn't dating anybody else. And like

516
00:23:59,680 --> 00:24:01,520
Speaker 3: I I feel like for so long you and I

517
00:24:01,600 --> 00:24:03,439
Speaker 3: have been one foot in, one foot out, and like

518
00:24:03,480 --> 00:24:06,320
Speaker 3: it's on it's on me, it's my fault. But I

519
00:24:06,359 --> 00:24:08,720
Speaker 3: want to tell you now how exactly I feel, to

520
00:24:08,800 --> 00:24:11,840
Speaker 3: make you know, to give you, you know, all the information

521
00:24:11,960 --> 00:24:13,160
Speaker 3: you need to make the decision.

522
00:24:13,480 --> 00:24:13,880
Speaker 1: Uh.

523
00:24:13,920 --> 00:24:15,679
Speaker 3: And I did it in a very romantic way. We

524
00:24:15,720 --> 00:24:18,520
Speaker 3: were at the beach and she was in this little

525
00:24:20,640 --> 00:24:23,199
Speaker 3: like lazy boy floater thing and I was like in

526
00:24:23,240 --> 00:24:25,399
Speaker 3: the water but with my arms on. I was trying

527
00:24:25,440 --> 00:24:27,600
Speaker 3: to be very much like Jack Dawson at the end

528
00:24:27,600 --> 00:24:32,760
Speaker 3: of Titanic. That's a favorite movie. And so and just

529
00:24:32,800 --> 00:24:34,960
Speaker 3: telling her how I felt and then we left and

530
00:24:34,960 --> 00:24:37,240
Speaker 3: I felt super good about it. And we're in the

531
00:24:37,240 --> 00:24:39,720
Speaker 3: airport and she, you know, was flying back to LA

532
00:24:39,800 --> 00:24:41,320
Speaker 3: and she could you know, she was looking at me

533
00:24:41,359 --> 00:24:43,239
Speaker 3: as if like, this is when you tell me, You

534
00:24:43,240 --> 00:24:44,879
Speaker 3: tell me now, and now I have to fly home

535
00:24:44,920 --> 00:24:47,359
Speaker 3: to see this other guy that I'm I'm kind of

536
00:24:47,359 --> 00:24:49,880
Speaker 3: in a relationship with after filming the show. Yeah, and

537
00:24:50,000 --> 00:24:52,000
Speaker 3: uh so then she went on her she was in

538
00:24:52,080 --> 00:24:55,119
Speaker 3: line to board. I went upstairs and I was staying,

539
00:24:55,160 --> 00:24:56,840
Speaker 3: you know, sitting there and my friend's tanner and Jade

540
00:24:57,000 --> 00:24:59,399
Speaker 3: was like. I was like, I don't know, should I

541
00:24:59,400 --> 00:25:04,720
Speaker 3: have kissed her? And then my friend Jade was like, yeah,

542
00:25:05,080 --> 00:25:05,880
Speaker 3: you should kiss her?

543
00:25:06,160 --> 00:25:08,560
Speaker 1: And I was like, well, would that have been the

544
00:25:08,600 --> 00:25:09,680
Speaker 1: first time you've kissed her?

545
00:25:10,040 --> 00:25:12,679
Speaker 3: No? No, no, but the first time in two years,

546
00:25:12,960 --> 00:25:15,000
Speaker 3: you know, I mean it's extremely a long time.

547
00:25:15,240 --> 00:25:15,640
Speaker 2: Yeah.

548
00:25:15,680 --> 00:25:19,320
Speaker 3: And so once Jade told me, I was like, okay,

549
00:25:19,640 --> 00:25:23,480
Speaker 3: I'm I feel that vindicated, Like I feel that this

550
00:25:23,600 --> 00:25:25,560
Speaker 3: is valid. I need to do this because if she

551
00:25:25,640 --> 00:25:27,480
Speaker 3: was like, I don't know, you should probably just give

552
00:25:27,480 --> 00:25:29,680
Speaker 3: her some space. But she was like, no, you should

553
00:25:29,720 --> 00:25:30,960
Speaker 3: kiss her. And I was like, Okay, that's all I

554
00:25:30,960 --> 00:25:32,879
Speaker 3: needed to hear. So I went down, I pulled her

555
00:25:32,880 --> 00:25:35,359
Speaker 3: out a line, and I you know, fed her some

556
00:25:35,520 --> 00:25:38,720
Speaker 3: cheesy line and kiss and then sent her on her way.

557
00:25:39,200 --> 00:25:40,159
Speaker 1: That's beautiful.

558
00:25:48,960 --> 00:25:54,439
Speaker 2: How did you resist not moving to LA? Especially, you know,

559
00:25:55,359 --> 00:25:58,880
Speaker 2: being born and raised in a small town like that.

560
00:25:59,720 --> 00:26:02,840
Speaker 2: You know, everyone's sort of dream as always to either

561
00:26:02,920 --> 00:26:05,000
Speaker 2: end up in New York or LA. And then obviously

562
00:26:05,040 --> 00:26:08,080
Speaker 2: now you're in show biz, how did you resist not

563
00:26:08,119 --> 00:26:11,520
Speaker 2: wanting to come to LA when you first got your shot?

564
00:26:11,840 --> 00:26:12,919
Speaker 3: Do you guys both live in LA?

565
00:26:14,960 --> 00:26:15,360
Speaker 1: Yeah?

566
00:26:15,560 --> 00:26:20,280
Speaker 3: Okay, nice? So, with all due respect, I hate Los Angeles.

567
00:26:20,440 --> 00:26:23,200
Speaker 2: I do too. My father in law is the same way,

568
00:26:23,320 --> 00:26:24,359
Speaker 2: so I get it.

569
00:26:24,359 --> 00:26:27,359
Speaker 3: It's just like, so we lived, so anytime I would

570
00:26:27,359 --> 00:26:30,240
Speaker 3: go to LA, it's just like, listen, I love film.

571
00:26:30,320 --> 00:26:35,560
Speaker 3: I love Hollywood. I love the idea of Hollywood, you know,

572
00:26:35,640 --> 00:26:40,199
Speaker 3: with movie making creativity and and just you know, the stars,

573
00:26:40,400 --> 00:26:43,000
Speaker 3: you know, red carpets. It's awesome. It's so appealing to

574
00:26:43,040 --> 00:26:44,760
Speaker 3: me because it's so much fun because I grew up

575
00:26:44,800 --> 00:26:47,159
Speaker 3: on that, like, and I grew up on movies, and

576
00:26:47,200 --> 00:26:50,159
Speaker 3: I would watch like all like I would love watching

577
00:26:50,160 --> 00:26:52,439
Speaker 3: the Oscars and all these celebrities showing up, and I

578
00:26:52,760 --> 00:26:54,520
Speaker 3: like because it was back then. It was the only

579
00:26:54,520 --> 00:26:56,600
Speaker 3: time that you would ever see, you know, a less

580
00:26:56,600 --> 00:27:00,920
Speaker 3: celebrities was either on talk shows or really the Academy Awards,

581
00:27:00,920 --> 00:27:03,879
Speaker 3: and you would see Jack Nicholson and Bruce Willis and

582
00:27:03,880 --> 00:27:07,000
Speaker 3: and you know, Keanu Is and all these anold Schwarzenegger

583
00:27:07,000 --> 00:27:10,280
Speaker 3: and SYLVESTERI st alone and just like all these guys

584
00:27:10,359 --> 00:27:14,520
Speaker 3: that I just like idolized as a kid, and and

585
00:27:14,600 --> 00:27:17,520
Speaker 3: so anyway, like Hollywood I always loved. But then of

586
00:27:17,560 --> 00:27:20,159
Speaker 3: course getting you know, being there practically, I'm like, this

587
00:27:20,280 --> 00:27:25,879
Speaker 3: place is dirty and expensive and crowded, and I feel

588
00:27:25,960 --> 00:27:29,040
Speaker 3: unsafe and not in a crime way, but just like

589
00:27:29,359 --> 00:27:32,160
Speaker 3: I always felt like, and I feel the same way

590
00:27:32,200 --> 00:27:34,480
Speaker 3: in New York because it's so crowded and so dense.

591
00:27:34,520 --> 00:27:36,480
Speaker 3: Even though LA is more spread out, it's still just

592
00:27:36,520 --> 00:27:39,399
Speaker 3: like you can never get away. Yeah, you know, I

593
00:27:39,480 --> 00:27:43,280
Speaker 3: always just felt uneasy in LA. So anyway, so I

594
00:27:43,320 --> 00:27:46,560
Speaker 3: never wanted to move there. And then actually before I

595
00:27:46,560 --> 00:27:50,119
Speaker 3: started dating Ashley, like it was, it all kind of

596
00:27:50,119 --> 00:27:54,919
Speaker 3: happened at once. But my buddy Nick, Nick viol he

597
00:27:54,920 --> 00:27:56,800
Speaker 3: he was on my season of the Bachelorette and then

598
00:27:56,840 --> 00:28:00,400
Speaker 3: he became the Bachelor, and now he's extremely successful, he's

599
00:28:00,440 --> 00:28:05,639
Speaker 3: got his own podcast. He's doing fantastic. But Nick was

600
00:28:05,720 --> 00:28:08,280
Speaker 3: the Bachelor, it not ended up not working out with

601
00:28:08,400 --> 00:28:10,760
Speaker 3: him in the girl he chose, and then he was

602
00:28:10,760 --> 00:28:12,639
Speaker 3: on Dancing with the Stars and then he had an

603
00:28:12,640 --> 00:28:15,600
Speaker 3: apartment in downtown LA that was like still had, you know,

604
00:28:15,680 --> 00:28:17,720
Speaker 3: eight months left on his lease and it was a

605
00:28:17,720 --> 00:28:20,920
Speaker 3: two bedroom, two bath, like a big place in downtown LA.

606
00:28:21,040 --> 00:28:23,040
Speaker 3: And he was like, dude, you should come out move

607
00:28:23,080 --> 00:28:25,840
Speaker 3: out here. You've never lived outside Rhode Island and just

608
00:28:25,840 --> 00:28:27,520
Speaker 3: give it a try and just move in here. And

609
00:28:27,520 --> 00:28:29,119
Speaker 3: he's like, I'll let you live here for free. I'm

610
00:28:29,119 --> 00:28:30,959
Speaker 3: pretty sure he was just lonely and looking for like

611
00:28:31,080 --> 00:28:32,880
Speaker 3: someone to hang out with. But I was like, sure,

612
00:28:32,920 --> 00:28:34,959
Speaker 3: I'll take you up on that. It's like, you know,

613
00:28:35,000 --> 00:28:39,560
Speaker 3: it was in October of twenty seventeen, and I was

614
00:28:39,600 --> 00:28:41,320
Speaker 3: always like, I go home for Christmas, so like, I

615
00:28:41,360 --> 00:28:43,040
Speaker 3: go out there for a couple of months, see if

616
00:28:43,080 --> 00:28:45,000
Speaker 3: I like it. So I went out there, didn't really

617
00:28:45,040 --> 00:28:47,720
Speaker 3: like it. But this was also the same timeframe that

618
00:28:47,720 --> 00:28:51,000
Speaker 3: everything started happening with Ashley, so I actually felt extremely lucky.

619
00:28:51,040 --> 00:28:54,000
Speaker 3: So I move in with Nick in like October November

620
00:28:54,000 --> 00:28:56,640
Speaker 3: of tales and seventeen. Everything starts happening with Ashley in

621
00:28:56,640 --> 00:29:00,840
Speaker 3: December and early January two seventeen. Tales in eighteen. Ashley

622
00:29:00,880 --> 00:29:03,280
Speaker 3: was living in Los Angeles, So clearly I stayed in

623
00:29:03,400 --> 00:29:07,360
Speaker 3: LA living with Nick because I you know, I had

624
00:29:07,360 --> 00:29:09,600
Speaker 3: to stay close by because I was just kind of

625
00:29:09,640 --> 00:29:12,320
Speaker 3: like waiting because what happened was after she left the airport,

626
00:29:12,360 --> 00:29:14,720
Speaker 3: she was like, I'm gonna, you know, pursue this with

627
00:29:14,760 --> 00:29:16,600
Speaker 3: the guy and see how it goes. And I was like,

628
00:29:16,640 --> 00:29:18,080
Speaker 3: I respect that, and I want you to know that,

629
00:29:18,200 --> 00:29:20,320
Speaker 3: like I'll wait, and I know you're not going to

630
00:29:20,360 --> 00:29:20,800
Speaker 3: get like.

631
00:29:22,360 --> 00:29:25,320
Speaker 2: So at the airport, she's still even though she kissed you,

632
00:29:25,520 --> 00:29:27,400
Speaker 2: she still says, hey, I still got to pursue my

633
00:29:27,480 --> 00:29:28,280
Speaker 2: thing with the other guy.

634
00:29:28,760 --> 00:29:31,160
Speaker 3: Of Course, I wish I respected because she wasn't going

635
00:29:31,200 --> 00:29:32,560
Speaker 3: to just drop everything for me.

636
00:29:32,840 --> 00:29:37,280
Speaker 2: Right, But I respect you for saying I said, I

637
00:29:37,520 --> 00:29:39,440
Speaker 2: respect you for like staying and saying I'm gonna wait.

638
00:29:39,480 --> 00:29:40,280
Speaker 2: That's pretty awesome.

639
00:29:40,680 --> 00:29:43,120
Speaker 3: I owed it to her, you know, because I was

640
00:29:43,160 --> 00:29:45,920
Speaker 3: the guy who was always pushing away, pushing, pushing, pushing,

641
00:29:46,240 --> 00:29:48,040
Speaker 3: because it was like I didn't want to cross the

642
00:29:48,200 --> 00:29:49,960
Speaker 3: I didn't want to cross that boundary. I didn't what

643
00:29:50,120 --> 00:29:52,560
Speaker 3: I really didn't want, you know, as an I can

644
00:29:52,560 --> 00:29:54,960
Speaker 3: admit this as a thirty seven year old man now,

645
00:29:55,400 --> 00:29:57,360
Speaker 3: was like I didn't want to lose what we had,

646
00:29:57,920 --> 00:30:00,040
Speaker 3: and because I loved what we had, but also what

647
00:30:00,240 --> 00:30:03,960
Speaker 3: we had was as wonderful as it was also toxic,

648
00:30:04,160 --> 00:30:06,959
Speaker 3: because like I said, it wasn't like it wasn't a

649
00:30:07,000 --> 00:30:09,920
Speaker 3: friend that I could, you know, bring over to a

650
00:30:09,960 --> 00:30:11,720
Speaker 3: new girlfriend's house and be like, this is my friend,

651
00:30:11,800 --> 00:30:15,840
Speaker 3: Ashley is wonderful. They'd be like, ah, you're not hanging

652
00:30:15,840 --> 00:30:16,480
Speaker 3: out with this bitch?

653
00:30:16,680 --> 00:30:16,840
Speaker 2: You know.

654
00:30:17,760 --> 00:30:20,200
Speaker 3: I get I of course I get, you know, and.

655
00:30:20,200 --> 00:30:23,760
Speaker 1: So let me go back a little bit because I

656
00:30:23,800 --> 00:30:26,160
Speaker 1: don't know about you, Edwin, but I would have a

657
00:30:26,200 --> 00:30:29,200
Speaker 1: hard time wrapping my head around having I don't know,

658
00:30:29,320 --> 00:30:33,479
Speaker 1: seventeen different options, options after options, and how do you

659
00:30:33,640 --> 00:30:37,320
Speaker 1: choose the right girl? I mean, how much time did

660
00:30:37,360 --> 00:30:41,200
Speaker 1: you spend with each girl before you decided? Eh? Was

661
00:30:41,240 --> 00:30:43,920
Speaker 1: it instant or did it take you time to say

662
00:30:43,960 --> 00:30:46,280
Speaker 1: no to the girls that you that you met on

663
00:30:46,320 --> 00:30:46,760
Speaker 1: the show.

664
00:30:47,200 --> 00:30:49,080
Speaker 3: I think, just like everybody you know, you kind of

665
00:30:49,120 --> 00:30:51,160
Speaker 3: spend time with people you see if you can connect,

666
00:30:51,280 --> 00:30:55,239
Speaker 3: whether it be physically, emotionally, mentally, you know, as you,

667
00:30:55,280 --> 00:30:57,920
Speaker 3: guys can also attest to you. There's just certain types

668
00:30:57,960 --> 00:31:00,760
Speaker 3: of people, at least I believe there's types of people

669
00:31:00,760 --> 00:31:06,719
Speaker 3: that you just innately are are drawn to, and so

670
00:31:06,720 --> 00:31:08,720
Speaker 3: when you go on dates, there are just times where

671
00:31:08,760 --> 00:31:11,400
Speaker 3: we're like, man, I want to be around this person

672
00:31:11,480 --> 00:31:13,720
Speaker 3: more like I love being around them.

673
00:31:14,560 --> 00:31:20,200
Speaker 1: I always say we exchange energy as humans, and this

674
00:31:20,280 --> 00:31:22,640
Speaker 1: is super important, especially when it comes to robotics and

675
00:31:22,720 --> 00:31:25,840
Speaker 1: AI that's never going to happen. But when we shake hands,

676
00:31:25,840 --> 00:31:29,160
Speaker 1: when we're close to each other as humans, it doesn't

677
00:31:29,200 --> 00:31:32,280
Speaker 1: matter the sex. We exchange energies. And I can't tell

678
00:31:32,280 --> 00:31:35,240
Speaker 1: you how many well, I can tell you There's only

679
00:31:35,280 --> 00:31:37,800
Speaker 1: been three times in my entire life where I've stood

680
00:31:38,080 --> 00:31:40,120
Speaker 1: or shook a person's hand and I just got the

681
00:31:40,160 --> 00:31:43,240
Speaker 1: grossest feeling, never ever want to be around that person.

682
00:31:43,760 --> 00:31:46,520
Speaker 1: But for the most part, you're right, you just you

683
00:31:46,680 --> 00:31:49,560
Speaker 1: just get that sense from somebody, I want to hang

684
00:31:49,560 --> 00:31:51,240
Speaker 1: out with this person a little bit more, you get

685
00:31:51,240 --> 00:31:54,160
Speaker 1: to know them. Yeah, there's You're like, eh, I can

686
00:31:54,840 --> 00:31:55,640
Speaker 1: nothing there.

687
00:31:56,080 --> 00:31:58,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, And there's just like there's relationships, whether it be

688
00:31:58,640 --> 00:32:02,520
Speaker 3: friendships or you know, intimate relationships where like I've had

689
00:32:02,600 --> 00:32:07,040
Speaker 3: relationships in the past where you know, the physical part

690
00:32:07,120 --> 00:32:11,760
Speaker 3: might be great, but it's also just like there's something off,

691
00:32:12,000 --> 00:32:14,120
Speaker 3: not a bad way, not that they're a bad person.

692
00:32:14,400 --> 00:32:17,320
Speaker 3: They're wonderful, but just like, for some reason, it always

693
00:32:17,400 --> 00:32:21,080
Speaker 3: feels like we're trying to make this fit, like where

694
00:32:21,080 --> 00:32:24,720
Speaker 3: with Ashley it was just like I felt so comfortable

695
00:32:25,000 --> 00:32:27,240
Speaker 3: even in silence, you know, And I think that's a

696
00:32:27,240 --> 00:32:29,960
Speaker 3: big part of it. Early on, there'd be times where

697
00:32:30,000 --> 00:32:31,720
Speaker 3: we were just kind of like sitting or hanging out

698
00:32:31,760 --> 00:32:34,840
Speaker 3: together and it never felt awkward. And there have been

699
00:32:34,840 --> 00:32:37,560
Speaker 3: times where I've been with other people where it's been

700
00:32:37,600 --> 00:32:39,600
Speaker 3: extremely awkward and I've been trying to like keep the

701
00:32:39,640 --> 00:32:42,240
Speaker 3: conversation going, or they've been trying to keep the conversation going,

702
00:32:42,320 --> 00:32:43,400
Speaker 3: but it's just like not clicking.

703
00:32:43,920 --> 00:32:46,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, So how did you convince her? How did you

704
00:32:46,760 --> 00:32:50,040
Speaker 2: convince her to move? So now you're dating La, things

705
00:32:50,080 --> 00:32:53,320
Speaker 2: are going well, how do you convince her to go

706
00:32:53,360 --> 00:32:55,640
Speaker 2: back to Rhode Island? So she's been in LA, she's

707
00:32:55,920 --> 00:32:59,680
Speaker 2: West Hollywood. That's a whole different world than Rhode Island.

708
00:33:00,400 --> 00:33:03,000
Speaker 2: How do you? I mean, I remember when Teddy was

709
00:33:03,000 --> 00:33:06,760
Speaker 2: trying to convince me to move from West Hollywood to Encino.

710
00:33:06,880 --> 00:33:08,720
Speaker 2: I was kicking and screaming because I'm like, I don't

711
00:33:08,720 --> 00:33:10,240
Speaker 2: want to leave Hollywood. Ahs, what do you mean We're

712
00:33:10,240 --> 00:33:14,480
Speaker 2: going to Encino? Now, imagine West Hollywood of Rhode Island.

713
00:33:14,200 --> 00:33:15,760
Speaker 2: How did you convince that?

714
00:33:16,560 --> 00:33:19,000
Speaker 3: I always? Well, two things, Wan, her family's on the

715
00:33:19,040 --> 00:33:22,360
Speaker 3: East coast. She's from northern Virginia, so her family and

716
00:33:22,400 --> 00:33:24,880
Speaker 3: her sister, So her parents and her sister are both

717
00:33:25,000 --> 00:33:27,480
Speaker 3: in the DC area, which is wonderful. So that was

718
00:33:27,520 --> 00:33:30,280
Speaker 3: easy to get her to move east. And then when

719
00:33:30,280 --> 00:33:33,600
Speaker 3: we first started dating, this was back in twenty eighteen.

720
00:33:34,280 --> 00:33:37,680
Speaker 3: You know, we both agreed that because I always wanted

721
00:33:37,680 --> 00:33:39,640
Speaker 3: to move back east, and moved back to Rhode Island,

722
00:33:39,840 --> 00:33:42,040
Speaker 3: and we said five years, we'll have a five year plan.

723
00:33:43,080 --> 00:33:44,840
Speaker 3: And then in five years we moved back to Rhde

724
00:33:44,840 --> 00:33:47,560
Speaker 3: Island and she was fine with that, and we both agreed, like, listen,

725
00:33:47,720 --> 00:33:52,000
Speaker 3: things are going so extremely well that we can't leave

726
00:33:52,160 --> 00:33:54,880
Speaker 3: Los Angeles. Then of course we'll just reassess. But then

727
00:33:55,120 --> 00:33:58,800
Speaker 3: COVID changed everything, and then it was twenty twenty, so

728
00:33:58,840 --> 00:34:02,360
Speaker 3: we were you know, I was in for you know,

729
00:34:02,360 --> 00:34:03,760
Speaker 3: about two and a half years at this point. She

730
00:34:03,840 --> 00:34:05,760
Speaker 3: was there for about six years, and then it was

731
00:34:05,800 --> 00:34:10,200
Speaker 3: twenty twenty and everything was remote and everything was just

732
00:34:10,440 --> 00:34:13,359
Speaker 3: it wasn't as we just weren't getting as much work

733
00:34:13,400 --> 00:34:15,920
Speaker 3: as we were in LA because before COVID, it was

734
00:34:15,960 --> 00:34:19,080
Speaker 3: like there's so much competition, as you guys know, for

735
00:34:19,120 --> 00:34:23,239
Speaker 3: so many different entertaining jobs, entertainment jobs, that I felt

736
00:34:23,280 --> 00:34:25,720
Speaker 3: we always had an advantage by being in Los Angeles

737
00:34:25,719 --> 00:34:28,160
Speaker 3: because they were like, all right, well who's local. Yeah,

738
00:34:28,320 --> 00:34:30,120
Speaker 3: it's like we're local. We could be there tomorrow. You

739
00:34:30,120 --> 00:34:31,520
Speaker 3: don't need to pay for our flights, you don't need

740
00:34:31,520 --> 00:34:33,200
Speaker 3: to pay for a car service. I'll drive, I'll pay

741
00:34:33,239 --> 00:34:35,000
Speaker 3: for my own gas. So that really gave us a

742
00:34:35,040 --> 00:34:36,839
Speaker 3: leg up in a lot of different things. But then

743
00:34:36,880 --> 00:34:40,040
Speaker 3: COVID hit and just everything became remote and now I mean,

744
00:34:40,080 --> 00:34:43,760
Speaker 3: look at us. You know our podcast everything is done

745
00:34:43,920 --> 00:34:46,400
Speaker 3: over the phone or computer. That it just really it

746
00:34:46,400 --> 00:34:47,920
Speaker 3: didn't matter if we were in Los Angeles. So we

747
00:34:48,000 --> 00:34:50,600
Speaker 3: ended up moving in twenty twenty one to Rhode Island

748
00:34:51,680 --> 00:34:52,720
Speaker 3: and Ben Harris.

749
00:34:52,760 --> 00:34:54,680
Speaker 1: Since is that where you got married?

750
00:34:55,480 --> 00:34:58,920
Speaker 3: Yeah? So she also loves I don't know if you guys,

751
00:34:59,000 --> 00:35:02,920
Speaker 3: do you guys know the new show Love Story. Okay,

752
00:35:02,920 --> 00:35:05,920
Speaker 3: it's on FX. It's the story about jfk Jr. And Carolyn.

753
00:35:06,160 --> 00:35:07,920
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah, I was watching that with my wife.

754
00:35:07,960 --> 00:35:09,360
Speaker 1: It's a it's a beautiful story.

755
00:35:09,520 --> 00:35:12,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's a new Ryan Murphy show. So my wife

756
00:35:12,560 --> 00:35:17,799
Speaker 3: is obsessed with jfk Jr. And so he I know,

757
00:35:17,840 --> 00:35:19,480
Speaker 3: that's what I'm saying. Just she just yelled from the

758
00:35:19,520 --> 00:35:21,719
Speaker 3: other room. She's like, don't lie. I've always been He's

759
00:35:21,760 --> 00:35:27,360
Speaker 3: always been obsessed and Kennedy family and so so obviously

760
00:35:27,400 --> 00:35:30,480
Speaker 3: my point is she's obsessed with this show. But John F.

761
00:35:30,560 --> 00:35:35,720
Speaker 3: Kennedy Senior Junior got married in one of the Newport Newport,

762
00:35:35,760 --> 00:35:36,240
Speaker 3: Rhode Island.

763
00:35:36,520 --> 00:35:37,040
Speaker 2: Oh cool.

764
00:35:37,440 --> 00:35:39,400
Speaker 3: He's like, I would love to get married in Newport.

765
00:35:39,520 --> 00:35:42,520
Speaker 3: I was like, that's fantastic because that's twenty minutes from

766
00:35:42,520 --> 00:35:46,200
Speaker 3: my house. And so yeah, it was beautiful. It was great.

767
00:35:46,200 --> 00:35:48,200
Speaker 3: We got married a Rhode Island, and thank you for

768
00:35:48,239 --> 00:35:50,400
Speaker 3: the Kennedys for allowing that to happen.

769
00:36:00,000 --> 00:36:03,680
Speaker 1: Well, let's get into the housewife of things. Yeah. You know,

770
00:36:03,719 --> 00:36:05,960
Speaker 1: the biggest question I always asked, or we always ask

771
00:36:06,040 --> 00:36:10,520
Speaker 1: together Edwin and I is how were you cast and

772
00:36:11,080 --> 00:36:13,840
Speaker 1: how was that conversation as to whether you're going to

773
00:36:13,880 --> 00:36:16,839
Speaker 1: say yes or no? I mean, I would argue that

774
00:36:17,080 --> 00:36:20,399
Speaker 1: with your experience on reality TV, this this was kind

775
00:36:20,400 --> 00:36:21,680
Speaker 1: of a no brainer, right.

776
00:36:22,760 --> 00:36:26,319
Speaker 3: Yeah, a little bit they called we heard that they

777
00:36:26,360 --> 00:36:29,920
Speaker 3: were doing a real Housewives of Rhode Island, like rumblings

778
00:36:29,920 --> 00:36:32,279
Speaker 3: about it, because rightand's such a small state that it

779
00:36:32,320 --> 00:36:33,840
Speaker 3: was like, oh, did you hear this might be happening?

780
00:36:33,840 --> 00:36:34,920
Speaker 3: And I guess this was like a year and a

781
00:36:34,920 --> 00:36:37,880
Speaker 3: half ago maybe, And I was like, okay, that's you know,

782
00:36:38,760 --> 00:36:42,200
Speaker 3: that's cool. But I guess I never really felt that

783
00:36:42,200 --> 00:36:45,200
Speaker 3: they would ask Ashley. So then they called. I remember

784
00:36:45,200 --> 00:36:51,080
Speaker 3: when Ashley she was like, so Housewives is inquiring about

785
00:36:51,120 --> 00:36:54,400
Speaker 3: me being on the show, and I was like, okay,

786
00:36:54,400 --> 00:36:57,880
Speaker 3: that's wonderful. Obviously, I you know, I've never seen Housewives.

787
00:36:57,920 --> 00:36:59,879
Speaker 3: I don't watch reality TV. I'm very much like you, Eddie,

788
00:37:00,080 --> 00:37:03,040
Speaker 3: where I didn't watch my own Bachelor episodes. I'm like,

789
00:37:03,400 --> 00:37:05,120
Speaker 3: I don't like the sound of my own voice, you know.

790
00:37:05,680 --> 00:37:07,080
Speaker 3: So it's like I don't want to watch that shit.

791
00:37:07,400 --> 00:37:10,759
Speaker 3: But ironically, the only reality show I've ever watched before

792
00:37:10,800 --> 00:37:12,960
Speaker 3: I was on the show which Jersey Shore, and that

793
00:37:13,040 --> 00:37:16,960
Speaker 3: was Pauly D's from Rhode Island. So like, you know,

794
00:37:16,960 --> 00:37:18,440
Speaker 3: when we heard poly D was on I was like,

795
00:37:18,440 --> 00:37:19,960
Speaker 3: oh my god, that's so cool. Rhode Island are on

796
00:37:20,000 --> 00:37:22,799
Speaker 3: reality TV. Yeah, and so fast forward. So Ashley got

797
00:37:22,840 --> 00:37:25,560
Speaker 3: a phone call and was and you know, it was

798
00:37:25,560 --> 00:37:28,040
Speaker 3: the same casting process like in terms of just like

799
00:37:28,080 --> 00:37:30,560
Speaker 3: a lot of as you guys know, zoom calls with

800
00:37:30,600 --> 00:37:33,040
Speaker 3: producers talking to them what the show would look like.

801
00:37:33,080 --> 00:37:36,000
Speaker 3: They came out to Rhode Island and check out our house, kids,

802
00:37:36,000 --> 00:37:38,799
Speaker 3: see what our life is like, Audrey's the coffee shop

803
00:37:38,840 --> 00:37:41,919
Speaker 3: that we own. And so it was one of those things.

804
00:37:41,920 --> 00:37:44,320
Speaker 3: Is because we've already been a part of it where

805
00:37:44,719 --> 00:37:47,640
Speaker 3: I think at the back of our heads, even even

806
00:37:47,760 --> 00:37:49,799
Speaker 3: in the casting process before they told us that they

807
00:37:49,800 --> 00:37:52,319
Speaker 3: wanted Ashley to be a housewife, there's no way we're

808
00:37:52,360 --> 00:37:54,200
Speaker 3: going to say no to this. I mean, it's too

809
00:37:54,239 --> 00:37:55,400
Speaker 3: big of an opportunity.

810
00:37:55,440 --> 00:37:57,760
Speaker 1: I mean, are you familiar with Housewives?

811
00:37:57,960 --> 00:38:00,200
Speaker 3: Well, of course the name. I've never seen the show,

812
00:38:00,239 --> 00:38:03,239
Speaker 3: but of course who's not aware of the Housewives. It's

813
00:38:03,280 --> 00:38:04,640
Speaker 3: such a phenomenon.

814
00:38:05,000 --> 00:38:06,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, and there is.

815
00:38:06,200 --> 00:38:09,520
Speaker 3: That's why That's why I would as difficult as a

816
00:38:09,520 --> 00:38:12,760
Speaker 3: decision this might be, I can't imagine a world where

817
00:38:13,400 --> 00:38:16,520
Speaker 3: one I would ever tell Ashley no, because I was

818
00:38:16,520 --> 00:38:21,600
Speaker 3: more hesitant than her, just because it's you know, I

819
00:38:21,640 --> 00:38:25,280
Speaker 3: didn't know much about Housewives except clearly like the entire

820
00:38:25,320 --> 00:38:27,960
Speaker 3: show rightfully, So it's it's what the show is is

821
00:38:28,000 --> 00:38:31,920
Speaker 3: centered our on drama, drama, and so where Bachelor is

822
00:38:31,960 --> 00:38:33,720
Speaker 3: you know much more. Of course there's tons of drama,

823
00:38:33,760 --> 00:38:37,000
Speaker 3: but it's like this overarching story of love where it's

824
00:38:37,040 --> 00:38:39,920
Speaker 3: like you see the relationships develop, and with Housewives, at

825
00:38:39,960 --> 00:38:42,200
Speaker 3: least to what I'm aware, it's it's much more just

826
00:38:42,239 --> 00:38:46,359
Speaker 3: about like drama within the friend group and so, and then.

827
00:38:46,680 --> 00:38:50,400
Speaker 1: I would interject here and say that the Housewives is

828
00:38:51,920 --> 00:38:54,279
Speaker 1: or I am from based on what you said, Bachelor's

829
00:38:54,320 --> 00:38:57,719
Speaker 1: definitely has an arch and has a happy ending, and

830
00:38:57,800 --> 00:38:59,879
Speaker 1: Housewives there's absolutely no happy ending.

831
00:39:01,640 --> 00:39:09,840
Speaker 3: Well that sucks, sorry, but it's pure. If you guys,

832
00:39:10,000 --> 00:39:11,759
Speaker 3: if you guys got the call again, now you've been

833
00:39:11,800 --> 00:39:15,160
Speaker 3: through Housewives, you both have filmed, you're so experienced in

834
00:39:15,160 --> 00:39:21,680
Speaker 3: this show, would you individually both say yes for yeah

835
00:39:21,840 --> 00:39:24,120
Speaker 3: if they if like, with all the information that you

836
00:39:24,120 --> 00:39:26,200
Speaker 3: have now you've been through it, but now you're able

837
00:39:26,200 --> 00:39:28,920
Speaker 3: to go back in time and tell yourself the moment

838
00:39:29,000 --> 00:39:31,280
Speaker 3: you say either yes or no to the producers before

839
00:39:31,280 --> 00:39:33,719
Speaker 3: you ever step foot in this franchise? Would you still

840
00:39:33,719 --> 00:39:34,400
Speaker 3: have said? Yes?

841
00:39:34,719 --> 00:39:35,200
Speaker 2: I would?

842
00:39:35,440 --> 00:39:35,840
Speaker 3: I would.

843
00:39:35,960 --> 00:39:38,839
Speaker 1: I as much as I hate it, it's been a

844
00:39:38,920 --> 00:39:43,680
Speaker 1: phenomenal experience that I don't know how else I would

845
00:39:43,719 --> 00:39:47,680
Speaker 1: have experienced. You know, I take it day by day now.

846
00:39:47,760 --> 00:39:51,080
Speaker 1: But in the beginning, I didn't really know what it

847
00:39:51,120 --> 00:39:54,080
Speaker 1: was all about. In fact, I got confused because my

848
00:39:54,160 --> 00:39:57,680
Speaker 1: friend who introduced me to my wife, he was like,

849
00:39:58,040 --> 00:40:00,760
Speaker 1: we're looking for a house to film, and we're filming

850
00:40:00,840 --> 00:40:03,680
Speaker 1: the show The Real Housewives of Orange County. And at

851
00:40:03,719 --> 00:40:07,920
Speaker 1: the time, the Desperate Housewives was the you know, popular show.

852
00:40:08,120 --> 00:40:10,399
Speaker 3: So I'm like, well, what Terry Hatcher was walking through

853
00:40:10,400 --> 00:40:10,759
Speaker 3: that door?

854
00:40:11,000 --> 00:40:15,600
Speaker 1: Yeah? Or actually my my crush was Eva Longoria. I'm like, what,

855
00:40:15,719 --> 00:40:18,399
Speaker 1: You're gonna bring Eva Longoria to my house? And He's like, no,

856
00:40:18,440 --> 00:40:22,360
Speaker 1: a wronghousewife show. So I had no clue what it was.

857
00:40:22,440 --> 00:40:24,680
Speaker 1: And I didn't watch TV much at all that at

858
00:40:24,680 --> 00:40:27,440
Speaker 1: that time. So when I got to know it and

859
00:40:27,480 --> 00:40:30,640
Speaker 1: I got to know her, even even before even watching

860
00:40:30,680 --> 00:40:33,719
Speaker 1: the show, I was literally not interested in watching reality TV.

861
00:40:35,040 --> 00:40:38,400
Speaker 1: I got to know my wife and really it was

862
00:40:38,800 --> 00:40:41,319
Speaker 1: for her and I was truly love at first sight

863
00:40:41,440 --> 00:40:44,200
Speaker 1: and it but she was already married and kind of

864
00:40:44,280 --> 00:40:46,680
Speaker 1: on the outs with her husband, and it was about

865
00:40:46,680 --> 00:40:49,000
Speaker 1: eight months later that that, you know, we had the

866
00:40:49,040 --> 00:40:51,719
Speaker 1: opportunity to go on a date and then it hit

867
00:40:51,800 --> 00:40:55,600
Speaker 1: me like, holy shit, I gotta do this. But I

868
00:40:55,640 --> 00:40:57,839
Speaker 1: didn't know what to expect, and I went into it

869
00:40:57,880 --> 00:41:00,480
Speaker 1: eyes wide open, kind of just take it for was

870
00:41:00,520 --> 00:41:03,200
Speaker 1: it what it is. And it was a pretty cool

871
00:41:03,239 --> 00:41:07,480
Speaker 1: experience until towards the end of the season where I

872
00:41:07,920 --> 00:41:10,960
Speaker 1: figured out, Okay, this is uh and what I mean

873
00:41:11,000 --> 00:41:12,600
Speaker 1: by Towards the end of the season, towards the end

874
00:41:12,640 --> 00:41:15,520
Speaker 1: of the first year we filmed it, I came on

875
00:41:15,680 --> 00:41:18,480
Speaker 1: as the night and shining Armor. They made me look like,

876
00:41:18,719 --> 00:41:22,799
Speaker 1: you know, a badass dude, like saving her, sweeping her

877
00:41:22,320 --> 00:41:25,440
Speaker 1: from you know, under her feet, and it was a

878
00:41:25,520 --> 00:41:28,640
Speaker 1: great love story that they presented. But towards the end,

879
00:41:28,680 --> 00:41:31,000
Speaker 1: after it was cut and edited and all that, towards

880
00:41:31,000 --> 00:41:34,160
Speaker 1: the end of the show, something happened and they made

881
00:41:34,200 --> 00:41:37,160
Speaker 1: me look like an asshole, and I'm like, Okay, I

882
00:41:37,200 --> 00:41:41,520
Speaker 1: can't do this anymore. Just I had no control, absolutely

883
00:41:41,680 --> 00:41:43,759
Speaker 1: zero control on what they're going to edit and how

884
00:41:43,760 --> 00:41:46,080
Speaker 1: they're going to edit it. Because it's super easy to

885
00:41:46,120 --> 00:41:50,360
Speaker 1: take everything out of context and create trauma and something

886
00:41:50,360 --> 00:41:54,680
Speaker 1: out of nothing. So after the first year, I was

887
00:41:54,760 --> 00:41:58,200
Speaker 1: very hesitant to go back, but I realized, you know,

888
00:41:58,640 --> 00:42:01,680
Speaker 1: I'm in love with this girl, and if I want

889
00:42:01,719 --> 00:42:04,480
Speaker 1: to be with her, I have to suck it up

890
00:42:04,520 --> 00:42:06,239
Speaker 1: and be on this show that I don't want to

891
00:42:06,239 --> 00:42:08,960
Speaker 1: be on. And I had to just kind of make

892
00:42:09,040 --> 00:42:11,600
Speaker 1: flip a switch in my head and go, Okay, let's

893
00:42:11,680 --> 00:42:14,120
Speaker 1: just do it. I'm here to be in the relationship

894
00:42:14,160 --> 00:42:17,840
Speaker 1: with her, supporting her and try to stay out of

895
00:42:17,840 --> 00:42:22,440
Speaker 1: the line of fire. But you know, my concept turned

896
00:42:22,440 --> 00:42:26,560
Speaker 1: out to be no alcohol because I say stupid shit

897
00:42:26,640 --> 00:42:30,640
Speaker 1: and I do stupid stuff if I'm drunk, and I

898
00:42:30,680 --> 00:42:34,040
Speaker 1: don't want to see that on TV ever again. And

899
00:42:35,560 --> 00:42:38,000
Speaker 1: just you know, let this show be what it is.

900
00:42:38,040 --> 00:42:40,640
Speaker 1: It's a housewife show. So anytime the shit hit the

901
00:42:40,680 --> 00:42:43,719
Speaker 1: fan or the drama started happening, I just took a

902
00:42:43,760 --> 00:42:47,080
Speaker 1: few steps back behind the camera and stayed out of it.

903
00:42:47,239 --> 00:42:50,600
Speaker 1: And it's It's worked out for me for many, many years.

904
00:42:51,760 --> 00:42:54,759
Speaker 1: You know, They've had their moments where they caught me

905
00:42:54,800 --> 00:42:57,760
Speaker 1: in the right moment. The moon's shining just right, the waters,

906
00:42:57,920 --> 00:43:00,759
Speaker 1: you know, moving just perfectly, and I'm like yeah, I'll

907
00:43:00,760 --> 00:43:03,239
Speaker 1: do an interview with you and they take it out

908
00:43:03,239 --> 00:43:04,080
Speaker 1: of context and.

909
00:43:04,040 --> 00:43:05,080
Speaker 2: They screw me in.

910
00:43:05,120 --> 00:43:09,439
Speaker 1: I'm like never doing that again. So it's been an

911
00:43:09,480 --> 00:43:15,080
Speaker 1: overall really fascinating experience that I would definitely do again.

912
00:43:15,200 --> 00:43:16,080
Speaker 1: What about you, Edwin?

913
00:43:17,120 --> 00:43:19,319
Speaker 2: Definitely, I would definitely do it again, And I mean

914
00:43:19,320 --> 00:43:21,960
Speaker 2: it was challenging, but I also think it's good for business.

915
00:43:21,960 --> 00:43:24,680
Speaker 2: I mean, I'm sure it helped your business a bit, right,

916
00:43:24,840 --> 00:43:28,200
Speaker 2: And you know, I'm curious, Jared, was your because I

917
00:43:28,280 --> 00:43:34,200
Speaker 2: liked the entrepreneurship side of everything. Obviously you were you

918
00:43:34,239 --> 00:43:38,720
Speaker 2: have your coffee shop, Audrey, was that already established? And

919
00:43:39,400 --> 00:43:42,400
Speaker 2: did that take Was that part of the decision that

920
00:43:42,640 --> 00:43:46,239
Speaker 2: now you could sort of market the coffee shop? And

921
00:43:46,400 --> 00:43:49,600
Speaker 2: so that's I guess part question number one. My second

922
00:43:49,640 --> 00:43:53,799
Speaker 2: part is how much did you being a manager at

923
00:43:53,840 --> 00:43:57,560
Speaker 2: a restaurant help you with starting the coffee shop?

924
00:43:58,600 --> 00:44:00,840
Speaker 3: Well, it helped Imnseally, I would ever have started my

925
00:44:00,920 --> 00:44:05,680
Speaker 3: own because coffee shop or bar without any type of

926
00:44:05,680 --> 00:44:07,759
Speaker 3: restaurant experience, because I at least had an idea of

927
00:44:07,760 --> 00:44:13,440
Speaker 3: what I was walking into. And no, we never factored

928
00:44:13,440 --> 00:44:16,680
Speaker 3: in Audrey's with the decision of housewives because it was,

929
00:44:18,120 --> 00:44:22,400
Speaker 3: It's well, it's a part of the show, you know,

930
00:44:22,480 --> 00:44:28,719
Speaker 3: in certain capacities. But you know, I'm very aware that,

931
00:44:28,800 --> 00:44:31,920
Speaker 3: like now that Audrey's is on TV, that it's going

932
00:44:32,000 --> 00:44:34,480
Speaker 3: to be you know, there'll be more people coming in,

933
00:44:34,480 --> 00:44:37,640
Speaker 3: which is wonderful, but.

934
00:44:38,560 --> 00:44:40,480
Speaker 1: You also don't have your lukie lose that go by

935
00:44:40,600 --> 00:44:41,240
Speaker 1: take a picture.

936
00:44:41,320 --> 00:44:41,480
Speaker 3: Yeah.

937
00:44:41,520 --> 00:44:42,600
Speaker 2: Do you spend a lot of time there?

938
00:44:44,200 --> 00:44:46,200
Speaker 3: Now? Yeah? I'm there all the time. That's why, you know,

939
00:44:46,440 --> 00:44:49,839
Speaker 3: having the experience in restaurants because my first job was

940
00:44:49,920 --> 00:44:52,920
Speaker 3: a bus boy, and then I was did curbside and

941
00:44:53,000 --> 00:44:55,560
Speaker 3: waited tables and bartended and then managed. I've worked at, like,

942
00:44:55,600 --> 00:44:57,799
Speaker 3: you know, four or five different places, so I've had

943
00:44:57,880 --> 00:44:59,799
Speaker 3: a bunch of experience working in restaurants. And I love

944
00:44:59,840 --> 00:45:02,120
Speaker 3: the restaurant industry. I love it so much. There is

945
00:45:02,160 --> 00:45:05,000
Speaker 3: an addiction to it. But I knew when open in

946
00:45:05,000 --> 00:45:07,040
Speaker 3: this place, at least for the first year, when talking

947
00:45:07,040 --> 00:45:09,160
Speaker 3: to Ashley, because it was definitely a joint decision, because

948
00:45:09,600 --> 00:45:11,279
Speaker 3: I knew I wasn't going to be home a lot

949
00:45:12,239 --> 00:45:15,399
Speaker 3: because with restaurants, you know, you have to be there.

950
00:45:15,760 --> 00:45:17,640
Speaker 3: You know, it's one of the industries where you just

951
00:45:17,680 --> 00:45:19,279
Speaker 3: have to be there. And I'm still there quite a bit.

952
00:45:19,320 --> 00:45:20,839
Speaker 3: I try to reduce it as much as I can

953
00:45:20,920 --> 00:45:23,840
Speaker 3: to ensure that, you know, I balance my time between

954
00:45:23,880 --> 00:45:25,960
Speaker 3: being a father and a husband and a business owner

955
00:45:25,960 --> 00:45:28,840
Speaker 3: and then also being an influencer this you know and

956
00:45:29,040 --> 00:45:35,560
Speaker 3: crazy entertainment world, which is wonderful for us. But yeah,

957
00:45:35,600 --> 00:45:39,319
Speaker 3: I'm there cooking, washing dishes, making drinks, do whenever I

958
00:45:39,360 --> 00:45:43,520
Speaker 3: need to do. Yeah, I love it. I love the

959
00:45:43,520 --> 00:45:45,920
Speaker 3: people that I work with. There is definitely like a family,

960
00:45:46,440 --> 00:45:48,799
Speaker 3: you know environment there, which is what I love.

961
00:45:49,880 --> 00:45:53,080
Speaker 1: You describe the restaurant.

962
00:45:53,520 --> 00:45:55,600
Speaker 3: So it's Audrey's Coffee House in a lone So Audrey

963
00:45:55,640 --> 00:45:58,520
Speaker 3: is my mother in Law's named after Ashley's mom. We

964
00:45:58,600 --> 00:46:00,640
Speaker 3: really wanted it to be a family business and that

965
00:46:00,960 --> 00:46:03,560
Speaker 3: starts with the name on down and it's a small business.

966
00:46:03,560 --> 00:46:06,360
Speaker 3: There's only one Audrey's. Like, I'm there all the time,

967
00:46:06,640 --> 00:46:08,360
Speaker 3: and it's very What we do is we try to

968
00:46:08,400 --> 00:46:12,200
Speaker 3: really give out good food, good drinks, good ambiance, and

969
00:46:12,239 --> 00:46:14,520
Speaker 3: good vibes. And that's what we do. We're not reinventing

970
00:46:14,560 --> 00:46:16,880
Speaker 3: the wheel, but our sandwiches are really good. Like we

971
00:46:16,880 --> 00:46:18,959
Speaker 3: have a great turkey pick and avocado. We have a

972
00:46:19,040 --> 00:46:21,560
Speaker 3: really good chicken salad. Sandwich and a chicken Caesar wrap,

973
00:46:21,800 --> 00:46:23,600
Speaker 3: and then we also have this scrip cheese tomato soup

974
00:46:23,600 --> 00:46:25,520
Speaker 3: which is good. But we also have these wonderful drinks

975
00:46:25,560 --> 00:46:28,359
Speaker 3: that we love and like we have this we have

976
00:46:28,400 --> 00:46:31,360
Speaker 3: a strawberry shortcake chai right now, which is extremely popular

977
00:46:31,520 --> 00:46:34,560
Speaker 3: because everybody loves strawberry cold foam. But we do these

978
00:46:34,560 --> 00:46:38,080
Speaker 3: different type of lattes and coffee drinks. And like the

979
00:46:38,080 --> 00:46:40,600
Speaker 3: coffee beans that we source out is from actually a

980
00:46:40,640 --> 00:46:43,239
Speaker 3: fellow bachelor along. His name is Ben Higgins. He was

981
00:46:43,239 --> 00:46:45,160
Speaker 3: the bachelor. He started the coffee company back in twenty

982
00:46:45,280 --> 00:46:47,560
Speaker 3: sixteen called Generous Coffee, and so we source our beans

983
00:46:47,560 --> 00:46:50,560
Speaker 3: from them, and it's a nonprofit. It's wonderful. One hundred

984
00:46:50,560 --> 00:46:54,520
Speaker 3: percent goes to charity and so, but we also are local.

985
00:46:54,520 --> 00:46:57,880
Speaker 3: We also have beans from Providence, Rhode Island, and you know,

986
00:46:57,920 --> 00:47:03,520
Speaker 3: we try to just I try to, I just grind

987
00:47:03,640 --> 00:47:05,760
Speaker 3: as much as I can. You know, it's such a world.

988
00:47:06,120 --> 00:47:09,600
Speaker 3: Seven days a week, you know, So Monday through Thursday

989
00:47:09,600 --> 00:47:11,960
Speaker 3: we're up in seven to four. Friday we're open later.

990
00:47:12,080 --> 00:47:14,319
Speaker 3: We stay up until ten o'clock. We have trivia at

991
00:47:14,320 --> 00:47:17,399
Speaker 3: eight o'clock. I host like ninety percent of the trivia there.

992
00:47:17,440 --> 00:47:19,799
Speaker 3: I love posting trivia, but it takes up so much

993
00:47:19,800 --> 00:47:22,120
Speaker 3: of my time to come up with the questions. And

994
00:47:22,520 --> 00:47:25,200
Speaker 3: it's just we do private advents, do we do catering?

995
00:47:25,280 --> 00:47:27,239
Speaker 3: And we moved back to Rhode Island. I you know,

996
00:47:27,320 --> 00:47:29,200
Speaker 3: I told Ashley I was always interested in only my

997
00:47:29,239 --> 00:47:31,640
Speaker 3: own place, just from my experience with restaurants. And then

998
00:47:31,760 --> 00:47:35,799
Speaker 3: this place I used to frequently. It used to be

999
00:47:35,840 --> 00:47:39,799
Speaker 3: a coffee shop and they ended up leaving, like Ray

1000
00:47:39,960 --> 00:47:44,279
Speaker 3: around COVID. I'm not exactly sure why, but they were

1001
00:47:44,480 --> 00:47:47,399
Speaker 3: pretty successful coffee shop. And so when I walked into

1002
00:47:47,400 --> 00:47:49,480
Speaker 3: the place when it was up for lease, like a

1003
00:47:49,520 --> 00:47:52,640
Speaker 3: lot of the structure was already there, the countertops, the floors,

1004
00:47:52,760 --> 00:47:57,160
Speaker 3: the ceilings, like even certain plugs. I could see where

1005
00:47:57,200 --> 00:47:59,520
Speaker 3: the equipment went, where they put their equipment. So I

1006
00:47:59,600 --> 00:48:01,799
Speaker 3: kind of vision it in my head of being like, Okay,

1007
00:48:01,800 --> 00:48:03,200
Speaker 3: this is where the oven's going to go, This is

1008
00:48:03,200 --> 00:48:05,560
Speaker 3: where the hots, you know, the stovetop's going to go.

1009
00:48:05,600 --> 00:48:07,040
Speaker 3: This where the three base thing is going to go,

1010
00:48:07,280 --> 00:48:09,440
Speaker 3: so on and so forth, and so I was like, man,

1011
00:48:09,480 --> 00:48:11,440
Speaker 3: it feels like there's ever an opportunity to do this.

1012
00:48:11,560 --> 00:48:13,239
Speaker 3: I was able to negotiate at least that I felt

1013
00:48:13,239 --> 00:48:15,759
Speaker 3: comfortable with in terms of the length of years. And

1014
00:48:15,760 --> 00:48:17,440
Speaker 3: it was just like one of those times where it's like,

1015
00:48:17,800 --> 00:48:19,600
Speaker 3: kind of the only reason we would say no to

1016
00:48:19,600 --> 00:48:25,080
Speaker 3: this is because I'm scared shitles failing. And so, you know,

1017
00:48:25,160 --> 00:48:28,880
Speaker 3: Ashley and I you know, budgeted out a certain amount

1018
00:48:28,880 --> 00:48:31,600
Speaker 3: that we felt comfortable like if we lost all of this,

1019
00:48:32,120 --> 00:48:35,520
Speaker 3: we're okay, and we can still invest it in the restaurant,

1020
00:48:35,600 --> 00:48:37,759
Speaker 3: and so, you know, we just made the decision together.

1021
00:48:37,800 --> 00:48:41,000
Speaker 3: And Ashley has been an ex you know, extremely supportive

1022
00:48:41,040 --> 00:48:43,040
Speaker 3: wife because it takes so much of my time and

1023
00:48:43,120 --> 00:48:48,680
Speaker 3: effort and energy to run this place. But she's right

1024
00:48:48,719 --> 00:48:52,200
Speaker 3: there with me because she's working full time, she's a housewife,

1025
00:48:52,239 --> 00:48:54,280
Speaker 3: she's helping with you, just taking care of the kids.

1026
00:48:54,320 --> 00:48:56,600
Speaker 3: Like it's like we're definitely as you guys know, it's

1027
00:48:56,600 --> 00:48:57,200
Speaker 3: a team effort.

1028
00:48:57,640 --> 00:49:00,719
Speaker 1: It is. It definitely is. And it reminds me of

1029
00:49:00,760 --> 00:49:05,000
Speaker 1: when my wife and I launched their fitness company and

1030
00:49:05,560 --> 00:49:08,040
Speaker 1: it was both of us together, but there was a

1031
00:49:08,080 --> 00:49:10,719
Speaker 1: period of time where we were not seeing eye to

1032
00:49:10,760 --> 00:49:13,280
Speaker 1: eye on the business, you know vision.

1033
00:49:14,000 --> 00:49:15,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, so it took.

1034
00:49:15,120 --> 00:49:17,560
Speaker 3: Oh, when that happens, you guys will see that on Housewives,

1035
00:49:17,640 --> 00:49:19,000
Speaker 3: you know what I mean. Ashley and I have very

1036
00:49:19,040 --> 00:49:21,880
Speaker 3: real conversations about what should or should not happen with

1037
00:49:21,920 --> 00:49:24,800
Speaker 3: the future of Audrey's but that's okay. And you guys,

1038
00:49:24,840 --> 00:49:27,160
Speaker 3: you know I was Eddie when you were talking about

1039
00:49:27,200 --> 00:49:29,920
Speaker 3: how you know everything is out of your control. I

1040
00:49:29,920 --> 00:49:33,400
Speaker 3: think that's how I try to go into it. Like Ashley,

1041
00:49:33,480 --> 00:49:35,520
Speaker 3: which makes more sense. She's much more in tune of

1042
00:49:35,560 --> 00:49:38,480
Speaker 3: what people are saying or how things might get perceived,

1043
00:49:38,680 --> 00:49:41,799
Speaker 3: or kind of like overanalyzing things, and I try to

1044
00:49:41,840 --> 00:49:44,640
Speaker 3: just ignore everything. Like, I don't know if I'll watch

1045
00:49:44,680 --> 00:49:46,279
Speaker 3: the show, not in a malicious way. I hope the

1046
00:49:46,320 --> 00:49:50,080
Speaker 3: show is extremely successful. Like these producers as much as

1047
00:49:50,120 --> 00:49:52,719
Speaker 3: like we know that sometimes they're not in our for

1048
00:49:52,920 --> 00:49:55,439
Speaker 3: best interests. They're lovely people. They're trying to do a job.

1049
00:49:56,000 --> 00:49:58,440
Speaker 3: I don't think they're trying to ruin any people anybody's life.

1050
00:49:58,520 --> 00:50:01,279
Speaker 3: They're just trying to make a compelling, a interesting television show,

1051
00:50:01,680 --> 00:50:04,080
Speaker 3: and they want it to be successful for them because

1052
00:50:04,120 --> 00:50:06,440
Speaker 3: I see how hard they work. Yeah, but like, I

1053
00:50:06,480 --> 00:50:07,439
Speaker 3: don't know if I'll watch it.

1054
00:50:07,920 --> 00:50:11,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, I know they do a fascinating job creating this

1055
00:50:11,480 --> 00:50:14,600
Speaker 1: this this show for people and people. It's gone for

1056
00:50:14,640 --> 00:50:16,480
Speaker 1: twenty years now. It's crazy.

1057
00:50:16,480 --> 00:50:20,359
Speaker 3: It's incredible. It's a like Ashley's a like a housewife.

1058
00:50:20,719 --> 00:50:25,480
Speaker 3: That's crazy. You know, there're so you so few people

1059
00:50:25,560 --> 00:50:28,640
Speaker 3: like even us as house husbands. Is that what we're

1060
00:50:28,719 --> 00:50:29,720
Speaker 3: called a house husband?

1061
00:50:29,880 --> 00:50:31,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's a new title.

1062
00:50:31,640 --> 00:50:34,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm fine with that. I do a great job

1063
00:50:34,600 --> 00:50:38,200
Speaker 3: walking in the background of scenes, you know, but even

1064
00:50:38,239 --> 00:50:41,479
Speaker 3: like as a house husband, there's so many few people, yeah,

1065
00:50:41,600 --> 00:50:43,640
Speaker 3: that have had the opportunity to do this. It is

1066
00:50:43,880 --> 00:50:47,279
Speaker 3: pretty incredible when I step back and look at it

1067
00:50:47,280 --> 00:50:50,120
Speaker 3: from ten thousand feet up in the air. Damn, that's it.

1068
00:50:50,440 --> 00:50:53,759
Speaker 1: It's phenomenon. And that's why I look at it that way, Like,

1069
00:50:53,840 --> 00:50:57,799
Speaker 1: I don't regret being in it, you know. I do

1070
00:50:57,880 --> 00:51:00,160
Speaker 1: regret the times where I learned the hard way, like

1071
00:51:00,280 --> 00:51:03,400
Speaker 1: drinking too much and getting too involved and looking like

1072
00:51:03,400 --> 00:51:06,600
Speaker 1: an idiot, or for that matter, witnessing some of the

1073
00:51:06,640 --> 00:51:09,759
Speaker 1: other guys on the show going up against the housewives.

1074
00:51:09,800 --> 00:51:12,480
Speaker 1: I'm like, dude, you're gonna lose this battle, even if

1075
00:51:12,520 --> 00:51:16,200
Speaker 1: you think you want it all the time. I know

1076
00:51:16,400 --> 00:51:18,560
Speaker 1: Edwin agrees with that, oh for sure.

1077
00:51:19,239 --> 00:51:22,200
Speaker 2: By the way, are you are you nervous? With anything

1078
00:51:22,200 --> 00:51:25,080
Speaker 2: that might come out this season, anything got you nervous?

1079
00:51:25,080 --> 00:51:27,200
Speaker 2: Are they going to put this on? Hopefully they edit

1080
00:51:27,280 --> 00:51:27,800
Speaker 2: that out.

1081
00:51:29,920 --> 00:51:33,319
Speaker 3: No, because I'm more in the camp of what Eddie

1082
00:51:33,400 --> 00:51:35,960
Speaker 3: was saying, where I tried to just focus on the

1083
00:51:36,000 --> 00:51:38,440
Speaker 3: things that I have control of things that that's what honestly,

1084
00:51:38,440 --> 00:51:40,880
Speaker 3: you know who I learned that from Tom Brady. Yeah,

1085
00:51:41,680 --> 00:51:44,879
Speaker 3: I remember listening to Tom Brady's postgame press conference or

1086
00:51:44,920 --> 00:51:48,040
Speaker 3: any you know, press conference that he gave, and it

1087
00:51:48,160 --> 00:51:50,640
Speaker 3: was always like like, he there's so many things that

1088
00:51:50,640 --> 00:51:52,520
Speaker 3: I just can't control because they would ask him about

1089
00:51:52,760 --> 00:51:55,279
Speaker 3: you know, Peyton Manning or what about this or what

1090
00:51:55,320 --> 00:51:58,799
Speaker 3: about that or all these you know, things that could

1091
00:51:58,840 --> 00:52:00,600
Speaker 3: potentially happen. He's like, listen, all I could do is

1092
00:52:00,600 --> 00:52:03,440
Speaker 3: control what I'm doing right now, which is I'm getting

1093
00:52:03,440 --> 00:52:05,799
Speaker 3: ready and I'm practicing. So anyway, my point is I

1094
00:52:05,880 --> 00:52:09,320
Speaker 3: try not to just like, you know, there's going to

1095
00:52:09,360 --> 00:52:12,359
Speaker 3: be someone out there who probably thinks that I am

1096
00:52:12,600 --> 00:52:15,120
Speaker 3: the worst person alive, and there's probably going to be

1097
00:52:15,160 --> 00:52:17,200
Speaker 3: someone out there who thinks that I'm the nicest guy alive.

1098
00:52:17,239 --> 00:52:19,440
Speaker 3: And it's exactly, It's just the way people think, and

1099
00:52:19,480 --> 00:52:22,600
Speaker 3: there's nothing wrong. People are very You know, I signed

1100
00:52:22,680 --> 00:52:24,520
Speaker 3: up for this show knowing exactly what it was going

1101
00:52:24,600 --> 00:52:27,440
Speaker 3: to be, which is I there were going to be

1102
00:52:27,480 --> 00:52:30,160
Speaker 3: so many people that make fun of me. And that's

1103
00:52:30,200 --> 00:52:33,200
Speaker 3: okay because even any when you were talking about your

1104
00:52:33,280 --> 00:52:35,759
Speaker 3: you know, the faults that you may or may not

1105
00:52:35,840 --> 00:52:37,680
Speaker 3: have and you had to regret and it it's like,

1106
00:52:37,719 --> 00:52:40,440
Speaker 3: there's so many people watching this show. I would hope

1107
00:52:40,480 --> 00:52:44,000
Speaker 3: that also are like, dude, like I like, I mess

1108
00:52:44,080 --> 00:52:45,920
Speaker 3: up every day of my life. You know, that's what

1109
00:52:45,960 --> 00:52:48,040
Speaker 3: we do. We mess up. That's what human beings are.

1110
00:52:48,080 --> 00:52:49,160
Speaker 3: We're just messing up on TV.

1111
00:52:56,920 --> 00:52:59,600
Speaker 1: The biggest lesson I learned is for being on TV

1112
00:52:59,840 --> 00:53:04,200
Speaker 1: is you're never going to make everybody happy. And there's

1113
00:53:04,239 --> 00:53:06,759
Speaker 1: always going to be a certain amount of people that

1114
00:53:06,840 --> 00:53:09,120
Speaker 1: really appreciate you, and then there's gonna be a certain

1115
00:53:09,160 --> 00:53:12,040
Speaker 1: amount of people that you know, your eyes aren't brown enough.

1116
00:53:12,040 --> 00:53:14,319
Speaker 1: I your hair's too long, it's too short, your skin

1117
00:53:14,400 --> 00:53:16,200
Speaker 1: is too dark, it's too light. There's just going to

1118
00:53:16,239 --> 00:53:20,080
Speaker 1: be so much to be picked at that at the

1119
00:53:20,160 --> 00:53:22,200
Speaker 1: end of the day, if you're not confident in your

1120
00:53:22,239 --> 00:53:24,640
Speaker 1: own skin and who you are as a man or

1121
00:53:24,680 --> 00:53:28,960
Speaker 1: as a person, then you're gonna have issues but outside

1122
00:53:28,960 --> 00:53:33,640
Speaker 1: of that, I've always felt I know who I am.

1123
00:53:33,960 --> 00:53:37,160
Speaker 1: You know, especially a lot of this reminds me of

1124
00:53:37,239 --> 00:53:40,040
Speaker 1: high school, all the shit that happens in high school, right, Yeah,

1125
00:53:40,040 --> 00:53:43,480
Speaker 1: of course, And even in that era of my life,

1126
00:53:43,600 --> 00:53:45,560
Speaker 1: I was like, Hey, this is who I am. Take

1127
00:53:45,600 --> 00:53:48,320
Speaker 1: it or leave it, you know. And when social media

1128
00:53:48,400 --> 00:53:51,879
Speaker 1: came to our lives, same shit. You know, people were

1129
00:53:51,920 --> 00:53:55,520
Speaker 1: saying some gnarly things, and it balanced out with you know,

1130
00:53:55,560 --> 00:53:59,319
Speaker 1: people giving you compliments or saying, you know, I appreciate you,

1131
00:53:59,400 --> 00:54:03,200
Speaker 1: I love how you handle the situation. You know, you

1132
00:54:03,200 --> 00:54:08,000
Speaker 1: also have your share of oh you're so hot, So

1133
00:54:08,080 --> 00:54:10,880
Speaker 1: you know, it helps you really realize that I am

1134
00:54:10,880 --> 00:54:13,319
Speaker 1: who I am and I'm not going to change that

1135
00:54:13,440 --> 00:54:16,600
Speaker 1: for anybody, because if I do, I'll never be happy.

1136
00:54:16,920 --> 00:54:21,120
Speaker 1: So yeah, it's it's It's definitely something where you have

1137
00:54:21,200 --> 00:54:23,640
Speaker 1: to be real confident in who you are before you

1138
00:54:23,719 --> 00:54:26,759
Speaker 1: go on on television and pick them part.

1139
00:54:27,200 --> 00:54:29,719
Speaker 3: My only concern, I guess it's not a concern so much.

1140
00:54:29,800 --> 00:54:31,960
Speaker 3: Is more is like, the thing that matters to me

1141
00:54:32,040 --> 00:54:35,719
Speaker 3: most is what my my sons think about me. Yeah,

1142
00:54:36,000 --> 00:54:38,759
Speaker 3: I feel like I pretty like my parents have a

1143
00:54:38,800 --> 00:54:40,400
Speaker 3: pretty good idea of who I am. You know, I

1144
00:54:40,400 --> 00:54:42,120
Speaker 3: feel like Ashley has a pretty good idea of who

1145
00:54:42,120 --> 00:54:44,160
Speaker 3: I am, my friends and so, like I feel like

1146
00:54:44,320 --> 00:54:47,319
Speaker 3: even when if like I did something or said something

1147
00:54:47,320 --> 00:54:49,600
Speaker 3: I regretted on the show, like, I feel like they

1148
00:54:49,640 --> 00:54:52,080
Speaker 3: would be like, I understand where you're coming from, you know,

1149
00:54:52,120 --> 00:54:53,719
Speaker 3: even though I don't agree with it, Like, because I

1150
00:54:53,760 --> 00:54:57,319
Speaker 3: care about what I don't care about what strangers think

1151
00:54:57,360 --> 00:54:59,600
Speaker 3: of me. I care very much what like the people

1152
00:54:59,600 --> 00:55:01,680
Speaker 3: that I care about think about it, right, But the

1153
00:55:01,680 --> 00:55:05,399
Speaker 3: most important thing is just like, you know, what their

1154
00:55:05,440 --> 00:55:06,839
Speaker 3: sons think of their father and so.

1155
00:55:07,360 --> 00:55:11,800
Speaker 1: And that's a really valid point because my first scene,

1156
00:55:11,800 --> 00:55:14,320
Speaker 1: and I know we've talked about this multiple times, that

1157
00:55:14,480 --> 00:55:17,560
Speaker 1: when when I f filmed for the first time, I

1158
00:55:17,640 --> 00:55:20,200
Speaker 1: actually got naked in the bathtub and it was called

1159
00:55:20,239 --> 00:55:24,160
Speaker 1: the bathtub scene. And after everybody left and we're sitting

1160
00:55:24,160 --> 00:55:26,759
Speaker 1: in bed, you know, thinking about what just happened. Your

1161
00:55:26,800 --> 00:55:29,640
Speaker 1: head's spinning going, what the did we just do? Right?

1162
00:55:30,360 --> 00:55:34,719
Speaker 1: Sure enough, it becomes an iconic moment and our next

1163
00:55:34,719 --> 00:55:36,719
Speaker 1: dought is what are our kids going to do? And

1164
00:55:37,280 --> 00:55:40,399
Speaker 1: unfortunately it was during her divorce, so her ex try

1165
00:55:40,480 --> 00:55:43,640
Speaker 1: to leverage that to make us look like assholes and

1166
00:55:44,200 --> 00:55:47,640
Speaker 1: it did hurt the kids, you know, to a certain extent,

1167
00:55:47,719 --> 00:55:51,160
Speaker 1: but not because they found out, but because her dad was,

1168
00:55:51,280 --> 00:55:53,560
Speaker 1: you know, pushing this on them, like this is terrible.

1169
00:55:53,640 --> 00:55:57,759
Speaker 1: They're terrible people. This is what they do. So I

1170
00:55:57,920 --> 00:56:01,160
Speaker 1: think though, the other experience we had with the kids

1171
00:56:01,719 --> 00:56:05,400
Speaker 1: being on TV, you know, they kind of felt like

1172
00:56:05,760 --> 00:56:08,520
Speaker 1: they had a hide, you know, because everywhere they went

1173
00:56:08,680 --> 00:56:11,000
Speaker 1: they're like, oh, your mom's a housewife, you know. And

1174
00:56:11,080 --> 00:56:13,839
Speaker 1: even today when they tell the stories, yeah, we went

1175
00:56:13,880 --> 00:56:16,520
Speaker 1: to this restaurant and you know, or my son he

1176
00:56:16,640 --> 00:56:19,000
Speaker 1: was working at Starbucks and it took about two months

1177
00:56:19,040 --> 00:56:24,800
Speaker 1: before somebody says, hey, aren't you Tarma's son and he's like, no, no,

1178
00:56:25,920 --> 00:56:30,719
Speaker 1: does that mean So now that they're older, though, my

1179
00:56:30,840 --> 00:56:34,080
Speaker 1: daughter especially is taking it, you know, by the horns,

1180
00:56:34,120 --> 00:56:38,000
Speaker 1: and she loves it. She's artistic and loves to be creative,

1181
00:56:38,040 --> 00:56:39,919
Speaker 1: and she wants to be on the show. And she's

1182
00:56:39,960 --> 00:56:43,239
Speaker 1: super smart and really gusts her head on on you know,

1183
00:56:43,400 --> 00:56:46,160
Speaker 1: her good on her on her shoulders. That really helps

1184
00:56:46,200 --> 00:56:50,440
Speaker 1: her think through this stuff. But it's it's going to

1185
00:56:50,520 --> 00:56:54,080
Speaker 1: be hard. I think the best advice I can give

1186
00:56:54,120 --> 00:56:56,680
Speaker 1: you is just to talk to the kids and and

1187
00:56:56,760 --> 00:56:58,880
Speaker 1: share with them what's going on, so they get the

1188
00:56:58,920 --> 00:57:01,200
Speaker 1: concept and they don't hear from a third party or

1189
00:57:01,200 --> 00:57:04,760
Speaker 1: their friends. You know, friend kids are ruthless, man. They're

1190
00:57:04,760 --> 00:57:08,200
Speaker 1: gonna get picked on by boys and girls alike, and

1191
00:57:08,239 --> 00:57:11,120
Speaker 1: they're gonna be told, you know, your mom's dadada, your

1192
00:57:11,200 --> 00:57:14,040
Speaker 1: dad's da dada. But I think as long as you

1193
00:57:14,120 --> 00:57:16,400
Speaker 1: talk to them about it and just put it out

1194
00:57:16,440 --> 00:57:19,680
Speaker 1: on the table, it's kind of like you diffuse it, right,

1195
00:57:19,840 --> 00:57:21,840
Speaker 1: you kind of just like there's nothing to be a

1196
00:57:21,880 --> 00:57:23,560
Speaker 1: shame that there's nothing to worry about.

1197
00:57:23,720 --> 00:57:26,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's definitely my biggest concern, and I guess like

1198
00:57:26,600 --> 00:57:30,640
Speaker 3: my biggest responsibility. I feel like I feel my biggest

1199
00:57:30,680 --> 00:57:34,840
Speaker 3: responsibility is ensuring that my kids are protected, which is

1200
00:57:34,960 --> 00:57:38,600
Speaker 3: my biggest responsibility I feel in everyday life anyway. Yeah,

1201
00:57:38,760 --> 00:57:41,520
Speaker 3: but you know, specific with the show, because like you said,

1202
00:57:41,520 --> 00:57:43,919
Speaker 3: so many things are outside of our control. So that's

1203
00:57:43,920 --> 00:57:45,840
Speaker 3: what I'm nervous about, is just like, I just care

1204
00:57:45,880 --> 00:57:50,440
Speaker 3: about their safety, how they feel, how they look at me. Now,

1205
00:57:50,480 --> 00:57:53,280
Speaker 3: my oldest is four, so he's not gonna have any idea,

1206
00:57:53,400 --> 00:57:56,280
Speaker 3: but like you know, obviously in a few years, you know,

1207
00:57:56,280 --> 00:57:58,320
Speaker 3: when he's at school, if we're still on the show,

1208
00:57:58,320 --> 00:58:01,720
Speaker 3: even if we're still not on the show, which hopefully

1209
00:58:01,720 --> 00:58:02,959
Speaker 3: we are. But you know, who knows what the future

1210
00:58:03,000 --> 00:58:06,000
Speaker 3: will have, like what you know, kids will say.

1211
00:58:06,160 --> 00:58:10,320
Speaker 2: So, by the way, they did you make any enemies

1212
00:58:10,680 --> 00:58:11,240
Speaker 2: season one?

1213
00:58:12,000 --> 00:58:12,120
Speaker 1: Oh?

1214
00:58:12,160 --> 00:58:15,800
Speaker 3: Well you finally not me. I mean, I honestly I

1215
00:58:15,840 --> 00:58:19,080
Speaker 3: remember so the I'm not to say where or when

1216
00:58:19,120 --> 00:58:21,640
Speaker 3: we met everybody first, but the first time I met

1217
00:58:21,680 --> 00:58:25,120
Speaker 3: all the women, uh and all the guys, I was like,

1218
00:58:26,680 --> 00:58:29,640
Speaker 3: I like everybody, like everybody, because especially with the Rhode

1219
00:58:29,640 --> 00:58:31,480
Speaker 3: Island roots, because I met a lot of like the

1220
00:58:31,560 --> 00:58:33,560
Speaker 3: husbands and I'm like, oh, I'm from Warwick and they're like,

1221
00:58:33,560 --> 00:58:34,680
Speaker 3: you know so, and so I'm like, yeah, I know

1222
00:58:34,720 --> 00:58:35,840
Speaker 3: that guy, and like do you know this guy? And

1223
00:58:35,960 --> 00:58:37,560
Speaker 3: like yeah, I went to high school with them. I'm like, ah,

1224
00:58:37,600 --> 00:58:39,760
Speaker 3: so there's always like, oh, we should go golfing next week. Yeah,

1225
00:58:39,800 --> 00:58:42,280
Speaker 3: let's do it, you know. So there's already like a rapport. Yeah,

1226
00:58:42,280 --> 00:58:46,160
Speaker 3: and all the women were so sweet and but of course,

1227
00:58:46,280 --> 00:58:48,680
Speaker 3: like when the women are together, you know, and there

1228
00:58:48,680 --> 00:58:51,280
Speaker 3: are certain times where like the women don't like each

1229
00:58:51,280 --> 00:58:54,720
Speaker 3: other and it's crazy how they don't. It's crazy like

1230
00:58:55,200 --> 00:58:57,400
Speaker 3: how like certain you know, I guess that's why they

1231
00:58:57,400 --> 00:58:59,320
Speaker 3: cast the shows so well, because there's certain personalities where

1232
00:58:59,360 --> 00:59:03,400
Speaker 3: it's just like they don't mesh and uh, it's it's

1233
00:59:03,440 --> 00:59:05,080
Speaker 3: because I'm like, but you guys are both wonderful in

1234
00:59:05,120 --> 00:59:07,240
Speaker 3: your own individual way. It's like, of course, like you know,

1235
00:59:07,320 --> 00:59:10,600
Speaker 3: there there are things, but uh, my guys just let

1236
00:59:10,640 --> 00:59:12,160
Speaker 3: it go. And it's like, well, why why am I

1237
00:59:12,200 --> 00:59:13,480
Speaker 3: saying this? Of course you're not gonna let it go.

1238
00:59:13,520 --> 00:59:15,320
Speaker 3: I'm on a housewife show, Like what the hell am

1239
00:59:15,320 --> 00:59:17,479
Speaker 3: I talking about it? But no, I didn't. I didn't

1240
00:59:17,480 --> 00:59:21,840
Speaker 3: make any enemies. Knock on wood. I I really enjoyed. Uh,

1241
00:59:22,040 --> 00:59:24,960
Speaker 3: Like we've Ashley has become really close with one housewife.

1242
00:59:26,120 --> 00:59:28,280
Speaker 3: She's over all the time, she plays with kids, and

1243
00:59:28,360 --> 00:59:30,400
Speaker 3: I'm friends with her husband, who's super sweet and he's

1244
00:59:30,440 --> 00:59:32,040
Speaker 3: down to earth, who went to dinner for her birthday

1245
00:59:32,120 --> 00:59:34,440
Speaker 3: last week. So it is cool just being like, damn,

1246
00:59:34,440 --> 00:59:36,960
Speaker 3: I can't believe, like this is the thing, Like here

1247
00:59:37,000 --> 00:59:37,280
Speaker 3: we go.

1248
00:59:37,400 --> 00:59:40,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, the last question for you on my end again,

1249
00:59:41,720 --> 00:59:44,480
Speaker 2: more impressive, Tom Brady, Tom.

1250
00:59:44,280 --> 00:59:49,320
Speaker 3: Cruise, It's it's Cruse. It's Cruz. Did that guy is

1251
00:59:49,480 --> 00:59:53,040
Speaker 3: the man dude? When we were met him? So it

1252
00:59:53,120 --> 00:59:56,040
Speaker 3: was so I love Brady so much, but Tom Cruise

1253
00:59:56,080 --> 00:59:59,400
Speaker 3: is just doing it for so long at such a

1254
00:59:59,640 --> 01:00:03,760
Speaker 3: high level. And like I had the privilege of meeting

1255
01:00:03,760 --> 01:00:06,880
Speaker 3: Tom Cruise, and dude, that guy's eye contact. It's just

1256
01:00:07,040 --> 01:00:09,320
Speaker 3: he doesn't break. And that's what you hear about him

1257
01:00:09,320 --> 01:00:11,720
Speaker 3: all the time. Like he just makes everybody feel like

1258
01:00:11,760 --> 01:00:13,880
Speaker 3: they are the only person in the room and he

1259
01:00:14,040 --> 01:00:16,320
Speaker 3: is the biggest celebrity of all time. And to have

1260
01:00:16,400 --> 01:00:18,880
Speaker 3: that guy do that and just be like no, like

1261
01:00:18,960 --> 01:00:21,200
Speaker 3: we're talking, I want to talk to you, and he

1262
01:00:21,200 --> 01:00:23,440
Speaker 3: does it with everybody. Actually, the first time we met him,

1263
01:00:23,640 --> 01:00:26,400
Speaker 3: he's funny. We were talking to the producer or like,

1264
01:00:26,440 --> 01:00:28,800
Speaker 3: because it was like they were doing an interview for

1265
01:00:28,880 --> 01:00:30,640
Speaker 3: Mission Impossible, and we got to sit and watch that

1266
01:00:30,680 --> 01:00:32,720
Speaker 3: and they were gonna be able to meet him afterwards,

1267
01:00:32,880 --> 01:00:38,120
Speaker 3: and so they were like, listen. He usually is like

1268
01:00:38,160 --> 01:00:40,680
Speaker 3: two hours late, and not a malicious way, but because

1269
01:00:41,280 --> 01:00:43,919
Speaker 3: he will talk to everybody and he will make sure

1270
01:00:43,920 --> 01:00:45,920
Speaker 3: that everybody, like he'll go to a cameraman and be like, hey,

1271
01:00:45,920 --> 01:00:49,080
Speaker 3: I'm Tom and it's like who is this guy? Like

1272
01:00:49,120 --> 01:00:51,880
Speaker 3: this guy's awesome, you know, and he'll talk to everybody.

1273
01:00:51,880 --> 01:00:53,440
Speaker 3: Like I remember when he walked into the room they

1274
01:00:53,440 --> 01:00:55,080
Speaker 3: were doing the interview, and it was like this big

1275
01:00:55,160 --> 01:00:57,280
Speaker 3: room and then we were sitting in the corner and

1276
01:00:57,320 --> 01:00:59,760
Speaker 3: there was like ten of us that had the on

1277
01:01:00,280 --> 01:01:02,800
Speaker 3: of being here. And then he walked into the room

1278
01:01:03,000 --> 01:01:05,760
Speaker 3: and dude, it was just like you could feel the

1279
01:01:05,800 --> 01:01:09,200
Speaker 3: air change and like, yeah, everybody in the room just

1280
01:01:09,240 --> 01:01:10,800
Speaker 3: kind of like everyone in the room's kind of like,

1281
01:01:11,040 --> 01:01:13,520
Speaker 3: you know, sat up. I was like, holy shit. And

1282
01:01:13,800 --> 01:01:16,320
Speaker 3: he came over to us and he was like, hey,

1283
01:01:16,360 --> 01:01:18,280
Speaker 3: I just want to apologize. They were running late. Just

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Speaker 3: some things happened that couldn't be avoided. But I really

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01:01:20,320 --> 01:01:23,320
Speaker 3: apologized for being late, and all of us were like, Tom,

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01:01:23,360 --> 01:01:28,360
Speaker 3: it is no problem. But like just having that guy

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Speaker 3: say that was like wow, Like I need to be

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Speaker 3: a better human being.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, And I imagine you want to spend some quality

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Speaker 1: time with them, you know, just hearing them talk about

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Speaker 1: life experiences advice.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but everybody does. So like the just the idea

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Speaker 3: that I had two minutes to talk to him is

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Speaker 3: more than what ninety nine percent of the world will

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01:01:50,600 --> 01:01:52,880
Speaker 3: will have. And I was like, I'm so grateful to

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Speaker 3: have those minutes and to talk about Dawson, my son,

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01:01:56,560 --> 01:01:59,200
Speaker 3: because he at the time, he was obsessed with Top

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01:01:59,200 --> 01:02:01,600
Speaker 3: Gun Maverick because it was called the he was two

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01:02:01,640 --> 01:02:03,920
Speaker 3: and a half. It was the plane movie, so like

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01:02:03,960 --> 01:02:08,040
Speaker 3: the beginning with you know, danger Zone, and he would

1301
01:02:08,080 --> 01:02:09,840
Speaker 3: just we would just watch it and he would love

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Speaker 3: it and he would love the planes. So I'm like, bro,

1303
01:02:11,880 --> 01:02:13,800
Speaker 3: like it's so crazy, because I would watch your movies

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01:02:13,840 --> 01:02:15,800
Speaker 3: with my dad, like I grew up with a few

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01:02:15,800 --> 01:02:18,640
Speaker 3: good men in the First Mission, Impossible and Cocktail and

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01:02:18,720 --> 01:02:21,120
Speaker 3: Top Gun, and now here I am years later and

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Speaker 3: I'm watching your movies with my son, like the new

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Speaker 3: Top movie.

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01:02:25,360 --> 01:02:29,800
Speaker 1: And are your boys into uh Superman and and those characters?

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Speaker 3: Dude obsessed. I feel like I've been printed by two

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01:02:34,520 --> 01:02:36,800
Speaker 3: sons with the things that I love. And what's cool

1312
01:02:36,840 --> 01:02:38,880
Speaker 3: is they loved the Christopher Ree version because I show

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01:02:38,920 --> 01:02:40,760
Speaker 3: them that one. And I love the new one with

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01:02:40,840 --> 01:02:43,560
Speaker 3: David Kornsweat and Henry cavill one is a little bit dark,

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01:02:43,600 --> 01:02:45,640
Speaker 3: so they haven't seen that one yet, but they love

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01:02:45,720 --> 01:02:47,960
Speaker 3: the new one, the new James Gunn one with David Cornswell.

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Speaker 3: But they also loved the old ones. Christopher is the

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Speaker 3: one that I grew up on. I was like, dude,

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Speaker 3: that's awesome that you love that. Do you have any movies?

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Speaker 1: Do you have any advice for Jared for you know.

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01:03:02,800 --> 01:03:03,320
Speaker 3: I'll take any.

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01:03:03,720 --> 01:03:06,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, just mine is easy. Just stay away from the

1323
01:03:06,040 --> 01:03:09,080
Speaker 2: drama with the ladies. You can't beat the ladies in

1324
01:03:09,160 --> 01:03:11,880
Speaker 2: any situation. You're always going to lose against the ladies.

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Speaker 3: So yeah, for a rocky analogy, they're like the ivan drago.

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01:03:16,560 --> 01:03:20,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly. It's never going to go well when you

1327
01:03:20,360 --> 01:03:22,400
Speaker 2: try to get into an argument with one of the ladies.

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Speaker 3: So that's good.

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01:03:25,280 --> 01:03:28,080
Speaker 1: How I have this question that I need to ask you,

1330
01:03:28,120 --> 01:03:30,920
Speaker 1: how is Ashley? If you know, how is Ashley feeling

1331
01:03:30,960 --> 01:03:32,960
Speaker 1: about the first season of Housewives?

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01:03:33,320 --> 01:03:37,240
Speaker 3: She feels good. It's just like she stayed out a

1333
01:03:37,280 --> 01:03:41,840
Speaker 3: lot of the drama, probably because she's, you know, we're

1334
01:03:41,840 --> 01:03:43,840
Speaker 3: just a little bit more familiar with reality TV, so

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Speaker 3: I think we have a a better navigation, but also

1336
01:03:50,640 --> 01:03:53,160
Speaker 3: like confidence to kind of like set maybe a little

1337
01:03:53,160 --> 01:03:56,439
Speaker 3: bit more boundaries or borders than you know, some people

1338
01:03:56,480 --> 01:03:58,240
Speaker 3: who are just going in for the first time. And

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01:03:58,320 --> 01:04:00,960
Speaker 3: so actually feels pretty good about it, you know, I

1340
01:04:00,960 --> 01:04:06,080
Speaker 3: mean she's she's honestly, she's it like it's obviously we're

1341
01:04:06,120 --> 01:04:08,120
Speaker 3: just entering it. You guys know much better than I.

1342
01:04:08,160 --> 01:04:10,120
Speaker 3: But it is crazy because they do have a group

1343
01:04:10,240 --> 01:04:13,240
Speaker 3: chat together and they all text, and there's like drama,

1344
01:04:13,280 --> 01:04:15,920
Speaker 3: there's so much drama that happens off camera. You know,

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01:04:16,240 --> 01:04:18,840
Speaker 3: it's like, wow, I can't believe how much drama there

1346
01:04:18,960 --> 01:04:22,160
Speaker 3: actually is because so much happens off camera. Like even

1347
01:04:22,200 --> 01:04:24,840
Speaker 3: after this the show has it's been you know, months

1348
01:04:24,880 --> 01:04:26,920
Speaker 3: since we filmed, and like there's still like so much

1349
01:04:26,960 --> 01:04:28,680
Speaker 3: that goes on in that group chat or the dynamic

1350
01:04:28,680 --> 01:04:31,880
Speaker 3: between the girls, and it's like damn, you know, it's crazy.

1351
01:04:31,960 --> 01:04:36,280
Speaker 1: But when The Housewife first started for us, there wasn't

1352
01:04:36,320 --> 01:04:39,800
Speaker 1: social media or much of social media, and there were

1353
01:04:39,920 --> 01:04:43,360
Speaker 1: a lot of rules about no talking, no no collaborating

1354
01:04:43,560 --> 01:04:46,880
Speaker 1: outside of Housewife filming. Then we're not allowed to talk.

1355
01:04:47,880 --> 01:04:50,880
Speaker 1: Today is a little bit looser, you know, you can

1356
01:04:50,920 --> 01:04:55,080
Speaker 1: have conversations and they sort of encourage you to have

1357
01:04:55,120 --> 01:04:57,640
Speaker 1: a friendship or develop a friendship outside of the show,

1358
01:04:57,720 --> 01:05:00,280
Speaker 1: because at the end of the day, doing the this

1359
01:05:00,400 --> 01:05:04,360
Speaker 1: long's it's hard to say that any of these people

1360
01:05:04,400 --> 01:05:07,400
Speaker 1: are your friends because they can backstab you or you know,

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01:05:07,480 --> 01:05:10,720
Speaker 1: expose you, or create lies about anything just to be

1362
01:05:10,840 --> 01:05:14,959
Speaker 1: on TV. You know, it's it's gotten dirty in many,

1363
01:05:15,000 --> 01:05:18,800
Speaker 1: many seasons, but I think it's turning around and I

1364
01:05:18,800 --> 01:05:21,520
Speaker 1: think it's going to become a better environment. But there

1365
01:05:21,560 --> 01:05:24,760
Speaker 1: was a period of time they were like, I want nothing.

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Speaker 2: To do with these people, because it was.

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Speaker 1: Just, yeah, they're just going to turn on you. And

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Speaker 1: that's why I was going to say, you know, I

1369
01:05:31,560 --> 01:05:33,360
Speaker 1: don't know if it's going to happen to you, But

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Speaker 1: even if you stay out of the line of fire,

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01:05:36,160 --> 01:05:39,800
Speaker 1: if there's nothing that the girls can do coming after

1372
01:05:39,920 --> 01:05:42,920
Speaker 1: Ashley for whatever reason, if they run out of that,

1373
01:05:43,560 --> 01:05:46,600
Speaker 1: you're their next target and they'll try to find something,

1374
01:05:46,760 --> 01:05:49,360
Speaker 1: you know, to say about you, like your hair's not

1375
01:05:49,480 --> 01:05:52,440
Speaker 1: long enough for some stupid shit. For me, they made up,

1376
01:05:52,480 --> 01:05:55,240
Speaker 1: you know, some stupid lie that I was gay, and

1377
01:05:55,320 --> 01:05:59,000
Speaker 1: they created this whole scene, and you know, it just

1378
01:05:59,040 --> 01:06:01,400
Speaker 1: couldn't get to Tamor anymore, so they came after me.

1379
01:06:02,280 --> 01:06:05,640
Speaker 1: So don't be surprised it might happen. But that's one

1380
01:06:05,680 --> 01:06:08,200
Speaker 1: of the things I did not like, because you know,

1381
01:06:08,240 --> 01:06:11,320
Speaker 1: I don't deserve this. Yeah, I didn't do anything to

1382
01:06:11,360 --> 01:06:13,560
Speaker 1: these women, but they you know, they can't get to

1383
01:06:13,600 --> 01:06:14,320
Speaker 1: my life, so they.

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Speaker 3: Come after me. Yeah, it's just you know, I'm going

1385
01:06:17,560 --> 01:06:19,000
Speaker 3: to try to just take it day by day, like

1386
01:06:19,040 --> 01:06:21,680
Speaker 3: you guys are saying, and just you know, not have

1387
01:06:21,760 --> 01:06:24,720
Speaker 3: it impact my life because it's really so much out

1388
01:06:24,760 --> 01:06:26,600
Speaker 3: of my control what other people say about me or

1389
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Speaker 3: what other people do. Like, I'm just doing the best

1390
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Speaker 3: I can, so is Ashley. And you know, we're trying

1391
01:06:31,920 --> 01:06:33,440
Speaker 3: to be the best parents we can. We're trying to

1392
01:06:33,480 --> 01:06:36,680
Speaker 3: be the best partners, try to be the best family

1393
01:06:36,720 --> 01:06:40,200
Speaker 3: member and just like enjoy life and also like work

1394
01:06:40,280 --> 01:06:42,640
Speaker 3: hard and try to be kind to people. And that's

1395
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Speaker 3: all I can do. And you know, I'm going to

1396
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Speaker 3: continue doing it and hopefully, hopefully it works out.

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Speaker 1: But well, it sounds like you have the perfect partner.

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01:06:50,600 --> 01:06:53,000
Speaker 1: You know, you both have experience in it, you both

1399
01:06:53,360 --> 01:06:55,919
Speaker 1: became friends, you both trust each other, and you both

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01:06:55,960 --> 01:06:59,439
Speaker 1: are in it together. So I think I have pretty

1401
01:06:59,440 --> 01:07:01,240
Speaker 1: good high hopes for you. I think he's all going

1402
01:07:01,280 --> 01:07:01,680
Speaker 1: to be great.

1403
01:07:02,560 --> 01:07:04,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, you guys are gonna do great. Season premiere is

1404
01:07:04,960 --> 01:07:06,760
Speaker 2: what April second? And are you having.

1405
01:07:06,560 --> 01:07:11,440
Speaker 3: A April second second? Oh, I can't have a watch bar.

1406
01:07:11,560 --> 01:07:12,880
Speaker 3: I don't know. I was thinking about having a watch

1407
01:07:12,880 --> 01:07:15,000
Speaker 3: party at Audrey's. But at the same time, like I can't.

1408
01:07:15,600 --> 01:07:17,760
Speaker 3: I can't watch myself, so like it's like one of

1409
01:07:17,760 --> 01:07:19,640
Speaker 3: those things that like I want to just crawl into

1410
01:07:19,760 --> 01:07:22,800
Speaker 3: a corner. So I don't know how I'm gonna like

1411
01:07:22,840 --> 01:07:25,360
Speaker 3: invite people. Audreys like, yeah, come watch. I'm not going

1412
01:07:25,400 --> 01:07:26,680
Speaker 3: to be there, but you guys could come.

1413
01:07:27,600 --> 01:07:30,360
Speaker 1: I would encourage you because I think the same way Jared.

1414
01:07:30,400 --> 01:07:32,640
Speaker 1: I wouldn't want any of that around, but I would

1415
01:07:32,720 --> 01:07:37,640
Speaker 1: encourage you to do that because it'll start creating a

1416
01:07:37,680 --> 01:07:41,760
Speaker 1: community around you and your your client teles will understand,

1417
01:07:42,040 --> 01:07:44,040
Speaker 1: you know, not what they see on TV, not what

1418
01:07:44,080 --> 01:07:47,160
Speaker 1: they hear on social media, but the real person. It

1419
01:07:47,200 --> 01:07:49,960
Speaker 1: gives you an opportunity to create that solid foundation in

1420
01:07:50,000 --> 01:07:54,000
Speaker 1: your community and a time to celebrate. You know this,

1421
01:07:54,000 --> 01:07:56,320
Speaker 1: This is a good excuse to celebrate. You guys did great.

1422
01:07:56,480 --> 01:07:58,920
Speaker 1: You know you finished the show. Watch party at the

1423
01:07:58,920 --> 01:07:59,960
Speaker 1: coffee show.

1424
01:08:00,160 --> 01:08:02,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, I appreciate it. Boys. Thank you so much for

1425
01:08:02,480 --> 01:08:04,120
Speaker 3: having me on. I really appreciate it. Was very nice

1426
01:08:04,120 --> 01:08:04,680
Speaker 3: meeting you both.

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01:08:05,000 --> 01:08:07,520
Speaker 1: It's been a pleasure. Thank you so much for coming

1428
01:08:07,560 --> 01:08:09,320
Speaker 1: on and this is this is great.

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01:08:10,240 --> 01:08:12,240
Speaker 3: I appreciate it. Guys. You guys are the best. Thank

1430
01:08:12,280 --> 01:08:13,640
Speaker 3: you for welcoming into the house.

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01:08:13,800 --> 01:08:19,120
Speaker 1: Husband family were welcome until next time, buddy, all right,

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Speaker 1: I have a wonderful great Yeah, thanks guys, you too.