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Speaker 2: My boyfriend ghosted me the day before our beach vacation.

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Speaker 3: At least you save money on the luggage fees though.

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Speaker 2: Right ooh, this is my first post because I need

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Speaker 2: people to tell me what to think right now. My

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Speaker 2: boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over

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Speaker 2: six months and we have both been really busy with work.

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Speaker 2: His dad has recently been six so we haven't gotten

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Speaker 2: to see each other as often these last five to

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Speaker 2: six weeks. By the way, this comes from Prestigious Depth

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Speaker 2: about a month ago, we decide to plan a vacation

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Speaker 2: during a national holiday that is going on right now.

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Speaker 2: We're both early on in our careers and don't make much,

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Speaker 2: but we decided to use a bit of savings and

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Speaker 2: fly to a nearby country to have a beach vacation, dance,

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Speaker 2: some motel, swim and the lots. We've both been so

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Speaker 2: excited for the strip. He's planned most of the general stuff,

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Speaker 2: what days and times we should fly. He booked all

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Speaker 2: forth between smilings, and he's been messaging me almost every

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Speaker 2: day this week with weather updates and things we could do.

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Speaker 2: I've been super busy with work, but cut out some

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Speaker 2: time earlier this week to make a more in depth

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Speaker 2: I booked some stuff for us to do to ensure

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Speaker 2: we would have tickets. It was all going perfectly. We

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Speaker 2: were both clearly excited and had spent a good amount

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Speaker 2: of money. I know he already spent at least one

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Speaker 2: he was the one who initially came up with a

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Speaker 4: Here's where the.

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Speaker 3: Story turns a turn for the worst.

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Speaker 2: Keep in mind, our flight is at nine to ten

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Speaker 2: this morning, the thirtieth, so we have loose plans to

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Speaker 2: meet near my street and get a taxi at seven thirty. Yesterday,

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Speaker 2: the twenty ninth, I had Wi Fi issues at my apartment,

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Speaker 2: so I didn't get a good morning message. When we

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Speaker 2: first started dating, I kind of found the He's a

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Speaker 2: bit annoying, but I've grown to love them so much,

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Speaker 2: and I know it means a lot to him that

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Speaker 2: I say good morning back, so I try my best

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Speaker 2: to respond within a few hours. So I go to

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Speaker 2: which I find a little weird, but I take the

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Speaker 2: opportunity to be the one to say good morning first,

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Speaker 2: something I very rarely get to do since he works

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Speaker 2: a nine to five and I'm remote. Then I get

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Speaker 2: to work on my latest project and don't think too

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Speaker 2: much of it. Later, I send him the latest ideas

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Speaker 4: One night, no response.

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Speaker 2: This man is always always on his phone. He responds

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Speaker 2: so fast sometimes it gives me whiplash. And it's been

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Speaker 2: I feel a little crazy for even thinking anything of it.

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Speaker 2: I accidentally leave him for hours sometimes because I'm not

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Speaker 2: for him. A few hours later, I send him a

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Speaker 2: Then five thirty rolls around and I know, oh, he

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Speaker 5: All right, we're in fully phone call territories.

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Speaker 2: Spam call if I knew that he was off work,

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Speaker 2: are they leaving tonight?

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Speaker 3: There? Tomorrow? They're leaving tomorrow morning.

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Speaker 2: Okay, they're leaving tomorrow morning. I'm not getting any messages.

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Speaker 3: I'd be like call a call call. Yeah, a dozen

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Speaker 2: An hour later, I message again because I'm worried he

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Speaker 2: and walk over to his apartment, a five minute walk

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Speaker 4: I go home and just pack and go to sleep.

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Speaker 3: See. I don't know.

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Speaker 4: If I would stop, I would be like, oh my god,

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Speaker 4: where are you?

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Okay, is everything fine? I would not stop, but ies

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Speaker 3: I don't know.

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Speaker 4: I don't know where he is.

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Speaker 2: Twenty minutes is not that long. Call parents, Yeah, I

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Speaker 2: even seen him. What are we doing this morning? Still nothing.

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Speaker 2: We plan to leave at seven thirty, so I get

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Speaker 2: We have to leave by eight at the absolute latest.

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Speaker 2: I message and call him the whole time and nothing.

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Speaker 2: At eight to one, I head to his apartment again.

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Speaker 2: I'm pounding on the door, calling him. There's nothing, no response.

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Speaker 2: Shoes are there that I can see? Is bike outside

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Speaker 2: unmoved from the day before. We have missed our flight,

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Speaker 2: so I request a refund on the site while literally

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Speaker 2: the way, I cancel my book any bookings I made,

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Speaker 2: all of which went through. I'm super sad about missing

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Speaker 2: never fought. I don't even think I've ever seen him

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Speaker 2: I saw him, the twenty fourth, his last words to

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Speaker 2: him approximately one hundred million times and try to call,

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Speaker 2: No one is going to think to call me. You're

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Speaker 2: of the thirtieth as I'm typing this. I recently got

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Speaker 2: I taped a message to his door to call me

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Speaker 3: Might know what happened. How are you not caught?

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Speaker 4: He's going to come after you.

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Speaker 3: They now know.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, he's been trying to protect you.

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Speaker 2: then didn't show where I live. You need your phone

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Speaker 2: We use wheat chat. I've cried more today than in

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Speaker 2: the past year. Please tell me other things I can try,

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Speaker 5: Please help me, man, it's gonna be an entire comments

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Speaker 4: I mean, honestly, I don't.

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Speaker 2: I thin it's like you're not doing it out of

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Speaker 2: reasonable worry about your partner's life who has disappeared, and

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Speaker 2: it's rude. Thanks for telling me I'm not overacting. This

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Speaker 2: safety and well being. You are not overreacting. Have them

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Speaker 2: do a wellness check. Little Missy one four five says,

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Speaker 2: why aren't your call thing the police?

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Speaker 3: Call them?

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Speaker 2: Opie says, okay, thanks, I really didn't know if I

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Speaker 2: was reacting, Oracle of Atlanta says, if Chinese is not

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Speaker 2: your first language, I'd also look into contacting the embassy

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Speaker 2: for your country. Got the impression you were foreign. Wait,

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Speaker 2: how did they know that she's in China?

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Speaker 3: I don't know.

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Speaker 5: Are they just assuming that might have been in like

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Speaker 3: Who knows?

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Speaker 2: They may have resources to help you get translations when

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Speaker 2: contacting the police. I really hope that he's safe and

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Speaker 2: that you're doing as okay as you can be in

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Speaker 2: this situation. You are not overreacting. In the slightest I

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Speaker 2: loved ones if something like this happened. Trust your gut.

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Speaker 2: Please don't prioritize updating reddits. Your emotions in both of

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Speaker 2: your well being should matter more. I guess thinking of

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Speaker 4: Who commented and made me feel like I wasn't overreacting

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Speaker 2: I need to know why he was arrested if this

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Speaker 5: We're gonna well know for a fact, yeah, that it's

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Speaker 4: See this post.

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Speaker 2: Has made me realize how rare it is that anything

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Speaker 2: Daba Pamo says, early in our relationship, my husband got

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Speaker 2: that can get cleared up quickly. The timing really sucks, though,

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Speaker 2: and I'm so are you missed your trip. Your boyfriend

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Speaker 2: will really need to make it up to you. Tremenda Krucha.

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Speaker 2: It'll probably be all right, honestly, but it's hard when

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Speaker 3: What is it? Sophia?

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Speaker 4: Full episodes of stories just like this?

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Speaker 3: You're kidding me? Nope, wear At.

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Speaker 2: You can go to Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or iHeartRadio.

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Speaker 4: You can listen to any podcast platform if you search up.

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Speaker 2: Okay, storytime a little bit more, Opie says, thanks, Yeah,

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Speaker 2: it's been stressful, but I'm also just glad he's okay.

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Speaker 2: I'm just typing this until I get tired enough to sleep.

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Speaker 2: At this point, there's no up day.

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Speaker 6: I did look at the comments of the story and

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Speaker 4: Oh my god, he was fraudy.

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Speaker 3: He was frogs for fraud man. He was fraud frog.

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Speaker 5: My girlfriend is upset because of a picture with my sister.

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Speaker 3: Big question needs a big answer. I recently turned twenty

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Speaker 5: Congrat My girlfriend, who's also twenty one, couldn't make it

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Speaker 5: And by the way, this comes from user f b

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Speaker 5: dilemma And if you want to submit your own stories,

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Speaker 5: and that it's a valid means of sharing your life,

439
00:18:02,400 --> 00:18:04,879
Speaker 5: but it's not the end all, be all representation of

440
00:18:04,920 --> 00:18:07,639
Speaker 5: your relationship or your life in general. My boyfriend and

441
00:18:07,680 --> 00:18:10,199
Speaker 5: I and plenty of other couples don't even list our

442
00:18:10,200 --> 00:18:11,320
Speaker 5: relationship on Facebook.

443
00:18:11,359 --> 00:18:12,320
Speaker 3: We're not hiding it.

444
00:18:12,520 --> 00:18:15,480
Speaker 5: Neither of us just finds it important to publicly state

445
00:18:15,560 --> 00:18:18,080
Speaker 5: our relationship status. We both feel that the people who

446
00:18:18,160 --> 00:18:20,480
Speaker 5: matter to us will know about it our relationship. My

447
00:18:20,680 --> 00:18:23,920
Speaker 5: relationship status does not matter to anyone else. Your girlfriend

448
00:18:23,960 --> 00:18:26,399
Speaker 5: needs to take a breather and recognize that Facebook doesn't

449
00:18:26,400 --> 00:18:28,679
Speaker 5: have to exist just so people can get a picture

450
00:18:28,720 --> 00:18:32,000
Speaker 5: perfect perspective on her life. Ohpi says, yeah, I don't

451
00:18:32,200 --> 00:18:34,159
Speaker 5: list my relationships on Facebook either.

452
00:18:34,560 --> 00:18:36,760
Speaker 3: I would probably ask her if she wants me to.

453
00:18:37,040 --> 00:18:39,240
Speaker 5: That might make her feel better, But I'm completely the

454
00:18:39,280 --> 00:18:41,720
Speaker 5: same as you. Everyone who knows me and everyone who

455
00:18:41,760 --> 00:18:44,760
Speaker 5: matters to me already knows my relationships. I don't need

456
00:18:44,800 --> 00:18:48,120
Speaker 5: to advertise it to total strangers. And there's an update.

457
00:18:48,160 --> 00:18:51,040
Speaker 5: I told my sisters about the situation, how my girlfriend

458
00:18:51,240 --> 00:18:54,280
Speaker 5: was unhappy with the new profile pick, and the reasons

459
00:18:54,320 --> 00:18:56,639
Speaker 5: why being that she thought someone would see it and

460
00:18:56,720 --> 00:18:57,560
Speaker 5: make the wrong connection.

461
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Speaker 3: They both laughed and asked, is she her jokingly? I

462
00:19:01,720 --> 00:19:05,080
Speaker 3: would respond, yeah, there's no joke there. She's just like.

463
00:19:04,960 --> 00:19:06,840
Speaker 4: If there is a picture of me like hugging Sam

464
00:19:07,040 --> 00:19:09,560
Speaker 4: and his like his future girlfriend was.

465
00:19:09,480 --> 00:19:12,679
Speaker 2: Like, hey, like no, I want you to remove that picture,

466
00:19:13,520 --> 00:19:18,080
Speaker 2: I'd be like, well, when we look identical identical? So what?

467
00:19:18,320 --> 00:19:18,560
Speaker 3: Yeah?

468
00:19:18,720 --> 00:19:20,760
Speaker 5: Yeah. I then proceeded to tell them that while I

469
00:19:20,800 --> 00:19:23,480
Speaker 5: completely disagreed with her logic and reasoning, and while I

470
00:19:23,520 --> 00:19:25,880
Speaker 5: thought she was overblowing the issue, I think I might

471
00:19:25,880 --> 00:19:27,800
Speaker 5: get rid of the profilepic to make her happy. The

472
00:19:27,840 --> 00:19:30,239
Speaker 5: younger sister, they're both older than me, but one's twenty two.

473
00:19:30,320 --> 00:19:32,119
Speaker 5: The others twenty four. The one who was in the

474
00:19:32,160 --> 00:19:34,440
Speaker 5: pick with me said she didn't really care. She said,

475
00:19:34,440 --> 00:19:36,480
Speaker 5: she's a bit disappointed that I was going to replace

476
00:19:36,520 --> 00:19:38,560
Speaker 5: it so soon, but it's my Facebook and she doesn't

477
00:19:38,600 --> 00:19:41,119
Speaker 5: care about Facebook anyway. The older sister was sort of

478
00:19:41,160 --> 00:19:42,960
Speaker 5: upset though. She told me she had really liked the

479
00:19:42,960 --> 00:19:45,520
Speaker 5: photo she had taken of her two younger siblings on

480
00:19:45,600 --> 00:19:48,119
Speaker 5: such a meaningful occasion, and she was really proud of it.

481
00:19:48,160 --> 00:19:50,520
Speaker 5: She said, we hardly had any family photos together since

482
00:19:50,520 --> 00:19:52,879
Speaker 5: we had all grown up, and all our old family

483
00:19:52,880 --> 00:19:55,400
Speaker 5: photos were of when we were kids. She said, memories

484
00:19:55,440 --> 00:19:58,359
Speaker 5: as young adults are still important and we would still

485
00:19:58,400 --> 00:20:01,240
Speaker 5: want to look back and remember that. That's why she

486
00:20:01,320 --> 00:20:04,160
Speaker 5: still thought taking photos nowadays was important.

487
00:20:04,200 --> 00:20:05,960
Speaker 3: My older sister also pointed.

488
00:20:05,680 --> 00:20:07,840
Speaker 5: Out that she was sad that I was so ashamed

489
00:20:07,840 --> 00:20:09,600
Speaker 5: of a photo she had taken of her two younger

490
00:20:09,600 --> 00:20:11,679
Speaker 5: siblings that she was immensely proud of.

491
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Speaker 3: I corrected her and pointed out that it's not me that.

492
00:20:15,200 --> 00:20:19,280
Speaker 5: Was ashamed, rather my girlfriend who didn't like the picture,

493
00:20:19,480 --> 00:20:21,720
Speaker 5: and that's why I was taking it down. My sister

494
00:20:21,880 --> 00:20:24,520
Speaker 5: said I should stop trying to hide behind my girlfriend

495
00:20:24,560 --> 00:20:26,720
Speaker 5: as an excuse, and that if I took the picture down,

496
00:20:26,760 --> 00:20:29,560
Speaker 5: it would be entirely my decision, and if I do it,

497
00:20:29,560 --> 00:20:32,000
Speaker 5: I should at least defend it using my own argument

498
00:20:32,040 --> 00:20:33,879
Speaker 5: instead of just saying she made me do it. We

499
00:20:33,960 --> 00:20:36,080
Speaker 5: then reached a compromise. I'll keep the picture up for

500
00:20:36,119 --> 00:20:38,199
Speaker 5: one week as my profile picture, then I'll change it

501
00:20:38,200 --> 00:20:40,320
Speaker 5: to something else. Well, I thought we had already all

502
00:20:40,320 --> 00:20:41,400
Speaker 5: agreed we don't care.

503
00:20:41,680 --> 00:20:44,320
Speaker 2: This is too much effort to put into a Facebook

504
00:20:44,400 --> 00:20:45,280
Speaker 2: profile pick.

505
00:20:45,400 --> 00:20:46,399
Speaker 3: Why are we caring that?

506
00:20:46,800 --> 00:20:50,560
Speaker 2: Like I guarantee you maybe two people are actually looking

507
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Speaker 2: at Yeah.

508
00:20:51,359 --> 00:20:53,920
Speaker 5: So in the meantime, my sister had taken many other

509
00:20:53,960 --> 00:20:56,040
Speaker 5: photos of our family during my birthday, and I said

510
00:20:56,080 --> 00:20:58,040
Speaker 5: I'd go with her to get some of them developed

511
00:20:58,119 --> 00:21:00,000
Speaker 5: and we can frame them and put them around the house.

512
00:21:00,280 --> 00:21:01,920
Speaker 5: They were both okay with that, and it seemed like

513
00:21:01,960 --> 00:21:04,280
Speaker 5: a well enough solution. Later I was talking to my

514
00:21:04,320 --> 00:21:08,199
Speaker 5: girlfriend on Skype. I articulated to her my feelings. I

515
00:21:08,280 --> 00:21:10,760
Speaker 5: told her, while I respect and understood her motives for

516
00:21:10,800 --> 00:21:13,119
Speaker 5: wanting me to change the picture, I myself wanted to

517
00:21:13,200 --> 00:21:15,400
Speaker 5: keep the picture up for another week. I didn't try

518
00:21:15,440 --> 00:21:17,520
Speaker 5: to use my sister pressuring me into doing it as

519
00:21:17,560 --> 00:21:20,479
Speaker 5: an excuse but instead I took responsibility for my decision,

520
00:21:20,560 --> 00:21:22,679
Speaker 5: although I did mention that they seemed upset at the

521
00:21:22,680 --> 00:21:24,800
Speaker 5: suggestion to take it down, and I was taking their

522
00:21:24,800 --> 00:21:27,359
Speaker 5: feelings into consideration when I made the decision. I also

523
00:21:27,480 --> 00:21:30,240
Speaker 5: told her that after about a week, I'll put up

524
00:21:30,240 --> 00:21:31,160
Speaker 5: a new picture.

525
00:21:30,840 --> 00:21:32,600
Speaker 3: Of me and her as my profile picture.

526
00:21:32,720 --> 00:21:34,200
Speaker 5: Then when she comes back from her trip, we can

527
00:21:34,200 --> 00:21:35,720
Speaker 5: take a new picture together and I'll make.

528
00:21:35,600 --> 00:21:36,920
Speaker 3: That my profile pictures.

529
00:21:37,240 --> 00:21:39,600
Speaker 5: I should point out that none of her profile pictures,

530
00:21:39,720 --> 00:21:41,919
Speaker 5: or her current one, have featured me. They've always just

531
00:21:41,960 --> 00:21:44,120
Speaker 5: been single shots of her, usually like at the beach

532
00:21:44,160 --> 00:21:46,800
Speaker 5: with sunglasses and a beguinea. That kind of picture, just her,

533
00:21:46,960 --> 00:21:49,639
Speaker 5: not me, nobody else. Anyway, she agreed to this and

534
00:21:49,680 --> 00:21:52,160
Speaker 5: said it was my decision and thanked me for appreciating

535
00:21:52,200 --> 00:21:54,840
Speaker 5: her feelings and not dismissing them. Again, it seemed like

536
00:21:54,880 --> 00:21:56,919
Speaker 5: a well enough solution that had been found.

537
00:21:57,000 --> 00:21:58,679
Speaker 3: Alas that was not the end of it.

538
00:21:58,920 --> 00:22:00,280
Speaker 4: Oh no, oh, no oh no.

539
00:22:00,440 --> 00:22:03,560
Speaker 5: The picture itself, which was now my profile picture, while

540
00:22:03,560 --> 00:22:07,240
Speaker 5: getting many likes, was also getting some nasty comments. Lots

541
00:22:07,240 --> 00:22:09,960
Speaker 5: of people, including friends who know me and my girlfriend

542
00:22:10,040 --> 00:22:13,520
Speaker 5: and my sisters were posting really rude and lude comments

543
00:22:13,600 --> 00:22:16,040
Speaker 5: or joking about the picture. I had no idea what

544
00:22:16,160 --> 00:22:18,480
Speaker 5: they were on, but even one of my cousins made

545
00:22:18,520 --> 00:22:22,200
Speaker 5: a silly comment. Some guy even posted WTF. I thought

546
00:22:22,200 --> 00:22:23,080
Speaker 5: it was ridiculous.

547
00:22:23,280 --> 00:22:25,919
Speaker 2: That is so strange to me because I kind of

548
00:22:26,000 --> 00:22:29,040
Speaker 2: understand if this were posted on like a large platform

549
00:22:29,200 --> 00:22:31,920
Speaker 2: like this was a like, you know, a big creator

550
00:22:32,000 --> 00:22:33,760
Speaker 2: or something, and they posted this, and then people in

551
00:22:33,800 --> 00:22:35,720
Speaker 2: the comments where Lord siblings were dating, and you know,

552
00:22:35,760 --> 00:22:38,600
Speaker 2: I understand if that happened, but this is like all

553
00:22:38,640 --> 00:22:42,160
Speaker 2: of his all people he knows who were commenting these

554
00:22:42,200 --> 00:22:44,680
Speaker 2: weird things like that doesn't make any sense to me.

555
00:22:44,960 --> 00:22:47,520
Speaker 5: Sometime later that same day, I was talking to my

556
00:22:47,520 --> 00:22:49,920
Speaker 5: girlfriend again. She told me she had changed her mind

557
00:22:49,920 --> 00:22:51,960
Speaker 5: and she really wanted me to change the profile picture.

558
00:22:52,040 --> 00:22:53,720
Speaker 5: She was unhappy with it. I asked her why I

559
00:22:53,800 --> 00:22:55,800
Speaker 5: was bothering her so much. She told me she wasn't

560
00:22:55,800 --> 00:22:57,919
Speaker 5: personally comfortable with it. I told her it's just my

561
00:22:57,960 --> 00:22:59,840
Speaker 5: sisters and she was like, yeah, but it's not a

562
00:22:59,880 --> 00:23:02,879
Speaker 5: sisterly kiss in the profile pick. I had no idea

563
00:23:02,920 --> 00:23:04,520
Speaker 5: what the heck she meant. It's just a kiss on

564
00:23:04,520 --> 00:23:06,760
Speaker 5: the cheek, But I said fine. I deleted the picture

565
00:23:06,760 --> 00:23:09,760
Speaker 5: from my Facebook and computer. I was actually kind of peeved,

566
00:23:09,760 --> 00:23:12,080
Speaker 5: and I deleted my entire Facebook account. I should have

567
00:23:12,119 --> 00:23:14,880
Speaker 5: done it ages ago. No Facebook, no problem. My girlfriend

568
00:23:14,920 --> 00:23:16,879
Speaker 5: asked me where my Facebook had gone. I told her

569
00:23:16,880 --> 00:23:19,159
Speaker 5: it was deleted. She said that was unnecessary and I

570
00:23:19,200 --> 00:23:21,880
Speaker 5: had overreacted. I told her I did it for myself

571
00:23:22,080 --> 00:23:25,200
Speaker 5: because I didn't even want it anymore. It was annoying

572
00:23:25,320 --> 00:23:27,679
Speaker 5: and tedious and I never liked it. She asked me

573
00:23:27,720 --> 00:23:30,000
Speaker 5: how we were supposed to communicate and stay in touch now.

574
00:23:30,080 --> 00:23:32,960
Speaker 5: I told her we were communicating every day using Skype.

575
00:23:33,040 --> 00:23:34,720
Speaker 5: We don't need Facebook to stay in touch.

576
00:23:34,880 --> 00:23:37,119
Speaker 3: But she said, what about sharing pictures?

577
00:23:37,320 --> 00:23:42,919
Speaker 2: I told her text literally text, let's send postcards to

578
00:23:43,040 --> 00:23:43,480
Speaker 2: each other.

579
00:23:43,840 --> 00:23:46,439
Speaker 4: There are so many different ways to send pictures to

580
00:23:46,640 --> 00:23:49,120
Speaker 4: your partner than Facebook.

581
00:23:49,320 --> 00:23:51,960
Speaker 5: She pointed out that takes really long, and it's much

582
00:23:52,000 --> 00:23:54,600
Speaker 5: easier to just upload pictures to Facebook where we can

583
00:23:54,680 --> 00:23:55,480
Speaker 5: both see them.

584
00:23:55,560 --> 00:23:58,640
Speaker 3: I then brought up a risky suggestion. I told her,

585
00:23:58,680 --> 00:24:00,320
Speaker 3: why don't we just use her acouet.

586
00:24:00,520 --> 00:24:02,399
Speaker 5: She can give me her password and I'll use her

587
00:24:02,440 --> 00:24:04,639
Speaker 5: account of view her pictures whenever I want, and I

588
00:24:04,680 --> 00:24:07,680
Speaker 5: can upload pictures of me and her onto her account

589
00:24:07,800 --> 00:24:10,600
Speaker 5: to my surprise, she was really receptive to that idea

590
00:24:10,640 --> 00:24:13,639
Speaker 5: and instantly accepted. She wanted to change her name to

591
00:24:13,640 --> 00:24:16,080
Speaker 5: make it a joint Facebook account for both of us.

592
00:24:16,280 --> 00:24:18,879
Speaker 5: I told her that was unnecessary. She can keep it

593
00:24:19,040 --> 00:24:21,120
Speaker 5: under her name and details, but just have it used

594
00:24:21,119 --> 00:24:21,840
Speaker 5: by both of us.

595
00:24:21,960 --> 00:24:22,600
Speaker 3: She agreed.

596
00:24:22,720 --> 00:24:24,560
Speaker 5: She also asked me not to read any of her

597
00:24:24,560 --> 00:24:27,919
Speaker 5: private messages, and I agreed. She changed her own profile

598
00:24:27,960 --> 00:24:30,040
Speaker 5: picture to a picture of both of us and said,

599
00:24:30,080 --> 00:24:31,480
Speaker 5: when she gets back, we can.

600
00:24:31,320 --> 00:24:32,800
Speaker 3: Take a new one. Now.

601
00:24:32,960 --> 00:24:34,840
Speaker 5: I know what many are you are going to say,

602
00:24:34,960 --> 00:24:37,320
Speaker 5: Oh my god, you use her Facebook account.

603
00:24:37,400 --> 00:24:39,520
Speaker 3: You are so controlling and obsessive and creepy.

604
00:24:39,760 --> 00:24:42,440
Speaker 5: Well, uh, it was something we both agreed to, and

605
00:24:42,600 --> 00:24:44,959
Speaker 5: even though I suggested it, she was receptive to it,

606
00:24:45,040 --> 00:24:47,280
Speaker 5: and it was something we both wanted, and thus it

607
00:24:47,400 --> 00:24:50,280
Speaker 5: was both our decisions, and I fully intend to keep

608
00:24:50,280 --> 00:24:52,760
Speaker 5: my word not to snoop through her private messages. I'm

609
00:24:52,800 --> 00:24:55,280
Speaker 5: actually really glad she trusts me and believes my word

610
00:24:55,280 --> 00:24:57,600
Speaker 5: on that. I logged into her Facebook account using her

611
00:24:57,600 --> 00:24:59,639
Speaker 5: pass word just to see if it works. Turns out

612
00:24:59,680 --> 00:25:03,200
Speaker 5: it does. She really did give me her true Facebook password,

613
00:25:03,320 --> 00:25:05,720
Speaker 5: I told her, and wrote on her page using her account.

614
00:25:05,920 --> 00:25:08,399
Speaker 5: I really love Ope, He's the best boyfriend in the

615
00:25:08,400 --> 00:25:08,919
Speaker 5: whole world.

616
00:25:09,359 --> 00:25:10,080
Speaker 3: Then I logged out.

617
00:25:10,160 --> 00:25:12,000
Speaker 5: I was half expecting her to delete it, but I've

618
00:25:12,000 --> 00:25:14,040
Speaker 5: logged back in three hours later and saw it had

619
00:25:14,080 --> 00:25:16,959
Speaker 5: not been deleted, but she had liked the comment instead.

620
00:25:17,080 --> 00:25:18,919
Speaker 4: I thought he was like leading, like we were building

621
00:25:19,000 --> 00:25:19,800
Speaker 4: up to a problem.

622
00:25:19,960 --> 00:25:22,600
Speaker 3: Seems like they're chill. What a funny vibe there on.

623
00:25:22,840 --> 00:25:24,840
Speaker 4: We figured it out and everything's fine.

624
00:25:24,960 --> 00:25:27,040
Speaker 5: This feels like a story that would have been written

625
00:25:27,040 --> 00:25:28,200
Speaker 5: in two thousand and eight.

626
00:25:28,280 --> 00:25:30,200
Speaker 6: I was gonna say, this sounds like this sounds like

627
00:25:30,240 --> 00:25:34,200
Speaker 6: middle school for me, right, sounds dating.

628
00:25:34,520 --> 00:25:34,840
Speaker 3: Yeah.

629
00:25:34,880 --> 00:25:37,800
Speaker 5: And by the way, you're gonna like listening to full

630
00:25:37,880 --> 00:25:41,840
Speaker 5: episodes with stories just like this. Where are they, you

631
00:25:41,920 --> 00:25:48,000
Speaker 5: may be asking, well, Sophia, They're on Spotify and iHeartRadio

632
00:25:48,240 --> 00:25:52,320
Speaker 5: and Apple podcasts wherever you listen to podcasts. You can

633
00:25:52,440 --> 00:25:56,520
Speaker 5: just search Okay story time and find the just bountiful

634
00:25:56,560 --> 00:25:59,080
Speaker 5: treasure trove that we have waiting for all of you.

635
00:25:59,119 --> 00:26:01,639
Speaker 5: It's good to know, oh, Okay, we have a little

636
00:26:01,640 --> 00:26:03,600
Speaker 5: bit more story left here.

637
00:26:03,880 --> 00:26:06,320
Speaker 3: I think, well, do you have any parting thoughts?

638
00:26:06,680 --> 00:26:10,400
Speaker 2: No? I think that this relationship will not last longer

639
00:26:10,440 --> 00:26:11,439
Speaker 2: than five months.

640
00:26:11,560 --> 00:26:13,720
Speaker 5: I think. I think it's a red flag in any

641
00:26:13,760 --> 00:26:18,520
Speaker 5: relationship to be that wrapped up in the political presentation

642
00:26:18,680 --> 00:26:19,919
Speaker 5: of your social media.

643
00:26:20,200 --> 00:26:22,239
Speaker 4: Just make sure that you know social media can be

644
00:26:22,280 --> 00:26:25,320
Speaker 4: fine in moderation, but just to be aware because you

645
00:26:25,359 --> 00:26:26,400
Speaker 4: know it could be dangerous.

646
00:26:26,600 --> 00:26:29,040
Speaker 5: As for my oldest sister, I still intend to go

647
00:26:29,119 --> 00:26:31,520
Speaker 5: with her to get those photos developed, just like she

648
00:26:31,640 --> 00:26:33,679
Speaker 5: promised I would. I sort of agree with her on

649
00:26:33,760 --> 00:26:35,920
Speaker 5: what she said, that these memories are important and we

650
00:26:35,920 --> 00:26:38,000
Speaker 5: should try to remember them. My sisters were all like,

651
00:26:38,160 --> 00:26:41,639
Speaker 5: I can't believe you deleted FERI's book. You always overreact

652
00:26:41,640 --> 00:26:42,760
Speaker 5: to everything your.

653
00:26:43,280 --> 00:26:43,840
Speaker 3: I told them.

654
00:26:43,880 --> 00:26:46,439
Speaker 5: Facebook us literally stoop out and I never really liked it.

655
00:26:46,520 --> 00:26:48,960
Speaker 5: I always found it an annoying distraction, which I never

656
00:26:49,000 --> 00:26:51,560
Speaker 5: really enjoyed in the first place, because my front page

657
00:26:51,560 --> 00:26:53,280
Speaker 5: is always flooded with crap I don't care about, and

658
00:26:53,280 --> 00:26:55,639
Speaker 5: I'm always getting invited to play crap I don't care about.

659
00:26:55,760 --> 00:26:58,280
Speaker 5: And there's some comments this whole thing seems like a

660
00:26:58,359 --> 00:27:02,040
Speaker 5: cluster f of immaturity from everyone involved. As to why

661
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Speaker 5: it's a cluster f of immaturity. All the comments below

662
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Speaker 5: are right along my line of thinking this was a

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Speaker 5: non issue and op made it into such a bigger

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Speaker 5: deal than it had to be. Every single action OP

665
00:27:12,240 --> 00:27:14,639
Speaker 5: took only escalated the problem. Then your sister made a

666
00:27:14,680 --> 00:27:17,080
Speaker 5: big FN deal about it. Then your friends and cousins

667
00:27:17,080 --> 00:27:19,879
Speaker 5: started being immature. Then you deleted your Facebook. Then your

668
00:27:19,880 --> 00:27:22,400
Speaker 5: girlfriend got all pissy because you got rid of your Facebook.

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Speaker 5: This is the exact thing people mean when they say,

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Speaker 5: don't make a mountain out of a Molehill replied to

671
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Speaker 5: that comment, hah yeah.

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Speaker 3: In the first post, I thought the girlfriend was being ridiculous.

673
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Speaker 5: But if everyone was making insane lude comments, then as

674
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Speaker 5: a girlfriend I would probably be annoyed, and as the OP,

675
00:27:36,040 --> 00:27:38,560
Speaker 5: I would be really annoyed. I get irrationally pissed when

676
00:27:38,560 --> 00:27:41,760
Speaker 5: people comment private or inappropriate remarks on my statuses and picks.

677
00:27:41,840 --> 00:27:43,359
Speaker 5: I have a ton of people from my college and

678
00:27:43,400 --> 00:27:46,520
Speaker 5: worksince graduated, so these people are mid twenties to late fifties,

679
00:27:46,560 --> 00:27:48,919
Speaker 5: and it's insane the crap people feel okay putting on

680
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Speaker 5: the internet comment who says you guys all seem like

681
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Speaker 5: twelve year olds. Sorry, Your tendency to tell your sisters

682
00:27:54,240 --> 00:27:56,720
Speaker 5: about fights with your girlfriend is awful. It will grow

683
00:27:56,720 --> 00:27:58,800
Speaker 5: to hate her because they'll only hear the bad stuff,

684
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Speaker 5: and you'll essentially have doomed your relationship.

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Speaker 3: Cut that crap out.

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Speaker 5: Your friends and cousins all sound like immature idiots. Your

687
00:28:04,480 --> 00:28:06,960
Speaker 5: deletion of your Facebook comes across like the biggest most

688
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Speaker 5: obnoxious child's tantrum you could have.

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Speaker 3: I mean maybe ten years ago.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, maybe ten years ago, but now it's just like

691
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Speaker 4: who cares? But I guess ten years this is a.

692
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Speaker 3: Full blown who actually cares?

693
00:28:17,560 --> 00:28:17,840
Speaker 5: Moment?

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Speaker 3: Like, h fine, I'll just delete it all who even

695
00:28:20,320 --> 00:28:21,800
Speaker 3: wants it? Anyway? It's stupid.

696
00:28:21,840 --> 00:28:24,720
Speaker 5: You cannot just massively overreact like that every time someone

697
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Speaker 5: mildly disagrees with you.

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Speaker 3: You still don't.

699
00:28:26,480 --> 00:28:28,720
Speaker 5: Seem to understand that your girlfriend's family is different than yours.

700
00:28:28,760 --> 00:28:31,199
Speaker 5: She's allowed to have different experiences in different opinions. That

701
00:28:31,280 --> 00:28:33,719
Speaker 5: she is not silly or wrong for seeing things differently

702
00:28:33,720 --> 00:28:36,280
Speaker 5: than you. No, she actually is silly and wrong for

703
00:28:36,400 --> 00:28:39,640
Speaker 5: being upset about his own sister kissing him on the cheek.

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Speaker 3: Sorry, that's wrong.

705
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Speaker 4: I don't agree with that comment.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I think, And you know what, I'm just gonna

707
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Speaker 5: skip that. We're at the end now, and that's the

708
00:28:46,720 --> 00:28:48,640
Speaker 5: end of that. Hey, that's the end of that. Because

709
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Speaker 5: those comments were irrelevant.

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Speaker 4: Is there a ten year update?

711
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Speaker 3: Is there an update? No other updates? Some guys ten

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Speaker 3: years later.

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Speaker 6: I finally literally just posted that stuff and that was it.

714
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Speaker 4: Well that's the.

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Speaker 3: End of that story. Or hey John ogi host here,

716
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Speaker 3: we're gonna get back to this episode. But a quick

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Speaker 3: three minute break of ads from a sponsor's keeping the

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Speaker 3: show alive.

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Speaker 2: My friends and family made rude comments about my boyfriend.

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Speaker 4: I didn't let it slide.

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Speaker 3: I know I made it. I made it stop. So

722
00:29:15,000 --> 00:29:17,320
Speaker 3: I started dating and coworker. It's fine. I cleared up.

723
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Speaker 2: I were about a month ago. For the sake of anonymity,

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Speaker 2: I'll call him Ryan. So far, he's one of the

725
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Speaker 2: most kind, humble, and compassionate people I've ever met. By

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Speaker 2: the way, this comes from, come down and if you

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Speaker 2: want to submit your own stories, go to the r

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Speaker 2: slash Okay storytime separate it. So we work in the

729
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Speaker 2: mental health field, but don't cross paths too much at work.

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Speaker 2: We struck up a conversation one night and found out

731
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Speaker 2: how much we have in common. I wasn't initially attracted

732
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Speaker 2: to him physically, but after getting to know.

733
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Speaker 4: Who he was, I found myself really drawn to him.

734
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Speaker 2: We started hanging out outside of work, which led to

735
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Speaker 2: going on a few dates, which led to a relationship.

736
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Speaker 2: My friends are usually super accepting and supportive of whatever

737
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Speaker 2: or whoever I.

738
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Speaker 3: Choose to do.

739
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Speaker 4: My mother is a different story.

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Speaker 2: She is pretty self absorbed and places a lot of

741
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Speaker 2: weight on appearances. I expected this from her, but not

742
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Speaker 2: from my friends. Last night, a family friend at a

743
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Speaker 2: housewarming party, and my mom, my brothers, and most of

744
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Speaker 2: my closest friends were tending. I figured this would be

745
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Speaker 2: the perfect opportunity to introduce Ryan to all of the

746
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Speaker 2: people who are important to me. I was really excited,

747
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Speaker 2: and so was he. Everything seemed fine at the party.

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Speaker 2: Ryan was his usual, very friendly self, and I thought

749
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Speaker 2: things went really well. The party ran later into the night,

750
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Speaker 2: but boyfriend left earlier because he had to be awake

751
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Speaker 2: early for work this morning. We were all having fun

752
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Speaker 2: and drinking a decent amount, as it was the weekend

753
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Speaker 2: and because of work or prior obligations. It's rare that

754
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Speaker 2: I'm in the same room with my best friends and family.

755
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Speaker 2: Though I also know booze isn't an excuse for what

756
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Speaker 2: happened once Ryan left the party. To preface this, Ryan

757
00:30:51,600 --> 00:30:54,280
Speaker 2: is overweight and I'm relatively thin. This does not bother

758
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Speaker 2: me at all, and I've gone for bigger eyes in

759
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Speaker 2: the past, so I don't know why this surprised anyone.

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Speaker 2: I've been called pretty my whole life, though I certainly

761
00:31:01,800 --> 00:31:04,640
Speaker 2: don't look like a supermodel. Ryan may not be conventionally

762
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Speaker 2: attractive to most people, but like I said earlier, he

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Speaker 2: became a million times more attractive to me after I

764
00:31:10,680 --> 00:31:13,320
Speaker 2: got to know him and his wonderful personnel. My brother

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Speaker 2: started it almost as soon as Ryan left, making a

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Speaker 2: joke about how Ryan most have a lot of money

767
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Speaker 2: if I'm with him.

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Speaker 3: I mean, does he not that that he needs it?

769
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Speaker 3: But it would be nice as.

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Speaker 4: If this wasn't disrespectful enough.

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Speaker 2: It was met with laughter from my mom and my

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Speaker 2: friends that sobered me up quick, and I was super uncomfortable,

773
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Speaker 2: which I'm sure was obvious. A few of my friends

774
00:31:33,000 --> 00:31:35,000
Speaker 2: joined in and make comments about how he's not in

775
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Speaker 2: my league, We're not even the same ballpark, and my

776
00:31:37,520 --> 00:31:40,040
Speaker 2: other brother basically told them all to shut up into

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Speaker 2: stopp being so shallow.

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Speaker 3: Good on that brother, Yes, you have one, good brother.

779
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Speaker 4: I was so annoyed that I ordered an uber and.

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Speaker 3: Went home, Oh brother, look in that.

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Speaker 5: To anyone who's like going through that situation, my advice

782
00:31:52,040 --> 00:31:54,200
Speaker 5: will always be when someone says some real out of

783
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Speaker 5: pocket stuff about someone, like.

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Speaker 3: Behind their back, you just go. Can you explain that?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 5: May would explained more and more until they realized they're awful.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: The worst was this morning. My mom, who was at

789
00:32:04,080 --> 00:32:06,480
Speaker 2: the party and met Ryan, called me to talk about

790
00:32:06,560 --> 00:32:08,800
Speaker 2: last night. She asked what was going on with me

791
00:32:09,040 --> 00:32:11,000
Speaker 2: and how I ended up seeing him. She implied that

792
00:32:11,080 --> 00:32:13,400
Speaker 2: I must be going through some personal issues to be

793
00:32:13,480 --> 00:32:16,400
Speaker 2: with someone like Ryan. It turned into an argument and

794
00:32:16,440 --> 00:32:19,040
Speaker 2: I basically told her to f off and hung up.

795
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Speaker 2: I'm so disgusted with their behavior. They were acting like

796
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Speaker 2: he was some huge ogre after he was confident and

797
00:32:25,520 --> 00:32:28,160
Speaker 2: gracious enough to meet so many people I care about

798
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Speaker 2: at one time, which is a big deal, and make

799
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Speaker 2: it a point to try and get to know each

800
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Speaker 2: one of them. I know it sounds like my friends

801
00:32:34,360 --> 00:32:37,160
Speaker 2: are a holes, but this is out of character. Maybe

802
00:32:37,160 --> 00:32:39,560
Speaker 2: because they were wasted, maybe they didn't realize that this

803
00:32:39,600 --> 00:32:40,360
Speaker 2: relationship is.

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Speaker 3: Real to me.

805
00:32:40,920 --> 00:32:42,680
Speaker 4: Even if they didn't, who says that?

806
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Speaker 2: Who does that to a person who brings home someone

807
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Speaker 2: even if you had just gone on like one or

808
00:32:47,840 --> 00:32:48,720
Speaker 2: two days with that guy.

809
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Speaker 3: If you're like, I'm excited.

810
00:32:50,240 --> 00:32:52,800
Speaker 2: About this guy and they're like, oh my god, he's discussing.

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Speaker 3: Hey, how I guy? Yeah, it's like, what do you do?

812
00:32:56,520 --> 00:32:59,920
Speaker 3: He is my partner? Yeah, she stop.

813
00:33:00,360 --> 00:33:03,240
Speaker 2: I have dated a lot, and I'm also pretty private

814
00:33:03,280 --> 00:33:07,480
Speaker 2: about my romantic life. But I'm so hurt they disrespected

815
00:33:07,520 --> 00:33:10,120
Speaker 2: someone I'm growing to really care about, and I have

816
00:33:10,200 --> 00:33:14,040
Speaker 2: no idea how to approach this situation. Obviously, I'm not

817
00:33:14,200 --> 00:33:16,280
Speaker 2: going to talk to Ryan about this. I think this

818
00:33:16,320 --> 00:33:18,760
Speaker 2: would bruise the ego of even the most confident person.

819
00:33:18,920 --> 00:33:22,080
Speaker 2: Now I feel uncomfortable bringing him around my close friends,

820
00:33:22,160 --> 00:33:23,719
Speaker 2: and I'm questioning.

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Speaker 4: How close a friends they really are. How can I

822
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Speaker 4: handle this graciously?

823
00:33:27,520 --> 00:33:29,840
Speaker 2: I'm horrible with confrontation, and I don't want to cut

824
00:33:29,880 --> 00:33:32,720
Speaker 2: these people out of my life, but clearly this needs

825
00:33:32,760 --> 00:33:34,880
Speaker 2: to be addressed, and I'd like it to be as

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Speaker 2: painless as possible. Thanks for reading. I'm sorry for the

827
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Speaker 2: links and the comments. Say com One says you sound

828
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Speaker 2: like a really nice, sane person. If you don't like conflict,

829
00:33:45,040 --> 00:33:47,320
Speaker 2: don't address it directly with your good friends as a group.

830
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Speaker 4: Just assume they were wasted.

831
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Speaker 2: But when you see any of them, be open about

832
00:33:50,760 --> 00:33:52,960
Speaker 2: how much you like this man and why if anyone

833
00:33:53,000 --> 00:33:54,920
Speaker 2: has the nerve to bring up his looks after that,

834
00:33:55,080 --> 00:33:58,080
Speaker 2: then let them know how disappointed you are in their attitude.

835
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Speaker 3: I actually agree with that better after the other.

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Speaker 2: The first part I was like what, But then I

837
00:34:02,240 --> 00:34:04,760
Speaker 2: see where they're going with that. Yeah, Tom and two.

838
00:34:05,080 --> 00:34:07,200
Speaker 2: So a lot of the opinions here are very serious,

839
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Speaker 2: and I think that's because you've made it very clear

840
00:34:09,200 --> 00:34:11,759
Speaker 2: how much your friends and family hurt your feelings. I

841
00:34:11,800 --> 00:34:13,600
Speaker 2: agree that you seem to have a great head on

842
00:34:13,640 --> 00:34:15,360
Speaker 2: your shoulders, so I'm not sure you would have the

843
00:34:15,400 --> 00:34:17,759
Speaker 2: best time with some of the lines people have suggested.

844
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Speaker 2: I would suggest, being honest Dexter mom, that this guy

845
00:34:20,880 --> 00:34:23,520
Speaker 2: makes you happy and you would appreciate it if she

846
00:34:23,600 --> 00:34:26,279
Speaker 2: could respect that. Tell your older brother thanks, because it

847
00:34:26,360 --> 00:34:28,680
Speaker 2: sounds like you stuck up for you. Your friends saw you

848
00:34:28,800 --> 00:34:32,080
Speaker 2: leave group text. I understand we were all pretty wasted

849
00:34:32,160 --> 00:34:33,920
Speaker 2: last night. I'd like you ought to know that I

850
00:34:33,920 --> 00:34:36,600
Speaker 2: didn't appreciate your comments. I really like Ryan, and then

851
00:34:36,640 --> 00:34:39,520
Speaker 2: let them apologize. Don't use the word shallah. There's little

852
00:34:39,560 --> 00:34:42,600
Speaker 2: point in confronting your friends aggressively. They're your friends. They

853
00:34:42,600 --> 00:34:44,719
Speaker 2: don't want to hurt your feelings. They care about you.

854
00:34:44,840 --> 00:34:48,160
Speaker 2: Be honest, tell them that wasn't okay, Let them apologize.

855
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Speaker 3: Yeah, I agree with that. That I agree dude.

856
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Speaker 5: This is not to blow up your whole life and

857
00:34:52,080 --> 00:34:55,319
Speaker 5: your whole social circle situation. Yeah, because if we're being honest, like,

858
00:34:55,360 --> 00:34:57,359
Speaker 5: there is a thing to go. I don't know if

859
00:34:57,360 --> 00:34:59,520
Speaker 5: you call it a pop culture phenomenon or a zeitgeist

860
00:34:59,560 --> 00:35:01,040
Speaker 5: or whatever you ca but it's like you see a

861
00:35:01,160 --> 00:35:04,359
Speaker 5: very conventionally attractive person with someone who is not, you're

862
00:35:04,400 --> 00:35:05,799
Speaker 5: gonna go, hey, what's going on there?

863
00:35:05,840 --> 00:35:07,480
Speaker 3: There's something going on there, right, something?

864
00:35:07,719 --> 00:35:10,040
Speaker 5: Yeah, and you know that doesn't make it like not

865
00:35:10,400 --> 00:35:12,960
Speaker 5: uh insulting or not inappropriate.

866
00:35:13,040 --> 00:35:15,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, exactly. You know, keep your thoughts to yourself.

867
00:35:15,120 --> 00:35:17,160
Speaker 4: Man, as long as there's no one no one's in danger,

868
00:35:17,239 --> 00:35:19,800
Speaker 4: no one's being you know, hurt or anything, then we're

869
00:35:20,280 --> 00:35:21,160
Speaker 4: keep your business.

870
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Speaker 5: I'm about to drop a guy from what keep that,

871
00:35:24,080 --> 00:35:26,200
Speaker 5: nich Just keep negativity out of your mouth, dude.

872
00:35:26,320 --> 00:35:27,279
Speaker 3: Yeah, you don't need it.

873
00:35:27,360 --> 00:35:29,480
Speaker 2: I didn't expect my post to get as much attention

874
00:35:29,600 --> 00:35:32,040
Speaker 2: as it did, since it's pretty tame on the relationship

875
00:35:32,080 --> 00:35:35,560
Speaker 2: scale of juiciness. I really appreciate all of the insightful

876
00:35:35,600 --> 00:35:39,000
Speaker 2: responses from you guys. It definitely helped a lot. After

877
00:35:39,080 --> 00:35:41,840
Speaker 2: reading your responses, I calmed down a lot and tried

878
00:35:41,840 --> 00:35:45,040
Speaker 2: to think rationally about the situation. I know my friends

879
00:35:45,040 --> 00:35:47,640
Speaker 2: weren't trying to hurt me, more likely that they didn't

880
00:35:47,640 --> 00:35:50,279
Speaker 2: realize how serious I was about Ryan and how much

881
00:35:50,320 --> 00:35:52,879
Speaker 2: I actually liked. A few comments suggested that I cut

882
00:35:52,880 --> 00:35:54,600
Speaker 2: them all out of my life, but that seemed really

883
00:35:54,680 --> 00:35:57,400
Speaker 2: drastic to me, despite my initial anger at the situation.

884
00:35:57,640 --> 00:36:00,759
Speaker 2: So on to the actual update. My mom called me

885
00:36:00,920 --> 00:36:04,800
Speaker 2: yesterday morning, and the conversation wasn't awful, but certainly wasn't

886
00:36:04,800 --> 00:36:07,480
Speaker 2: great either. She didn't apologize for the thing she said,

887
00:36:07,560 --> 00:36:10,160
Speaker 2: but wasn't as volatile as I expected her to be.

888
00:36:10,320 --> 00:36:13,840
Speaker 2: It was mostly like, Okay, well, I don't understand your situation,

889
00:36:13,960 --> 00:36:15,239
Speaker 2: but good luck, I guess.

890
00:36:15,440 --> 00:36:17,160
Speaker 5: And see that's where you just go and what do

891
00:36:17,200 --> 00:36:20,160
Speaker 5: you mean by that until they actually say what they're saying,

892
00:36:20,360 --> 00:36:22,560
Speaker 5: and then you go, So you just think I should

893
00:36:22,560 --> 00:36:24,560
Speaker 5: be with someone prettier, prettier in air quotes.

894
00:36:24,600 --> 00:36:27,080
Speaker 4: Yeah, I don't understand your situation, but good luck.

895
00:36:27,120 --> 00:36:28,200
Speaker 3: I guess you do.

896
00:36:28,280 --> 00:36:30,960
Speaker 5: Okay, Well, I'm with someone who likes me. Let me

897
00:36:31,000 --> 00:36:32,680
Speaker 5: break it down for you the simplest way. Me and

898
00:36:32,760 --> 00:36:34,279
Speaker 5: Ryan are dating and I like him.

899
00:36:34,440 --> 00:36:34,800
Speaker 4: Yeah.

900
00:36:34,840 --> 00:36:35,719
Speaker 3: Ooh, that's it.

901
00:36:35,719 --> 00:36:37,080
Speaker 4: It's not that hard to understand.

902
00:36:37,680 --> 00:36:40,160
Speaker 2: Ryan consensed that I was annoyed about it and asked

903
00:36:40,200 --> 00:36:41,920
Speaker 2: me what was going on. He was sitting in my

904
00:36:41,960 --> 00:36:44,160
Speaker 2: apartment and I went outside to take the call with

905
00:36:44,200 --> 00:36:47,200
Speaker 2: my mom. I'm not sure if he overheard anything or

906
00:36:47,280 --> 00:36:50,480
Speaker 2: is just extremely intuitive, but he asked me, with a

907
00:36:50,520 --> 00:36:52,560
Speaker 2: smile on his face, well, does she have a problem

908
00:36:52,560 --> 00:36:54,319
Speaker 2: with you being hot and me being fat? And I

909
00:36:54,360 --> 00:36:56,720
Speaker 2: burst out laughing you did too. I ended up admitting

910
00:36:56,719 --> 00:36:58,680
Speaker 2: to him that some jokes were made about how we

911
00:36:58,760 --> 00:37:01,800
Speaker 2: don't seem outwardly like we would be together. He seemed

912
00:37:01,800 --> 00:37:04,520
Speaker 2: totally unfazed, laughed it off and said he didn't care

913
00:37:04,600 --> 00:37:07,319
Speaker 2: what other people thought at all, as long as I

914
00:37:07,440 --> 00:37:10,440
Speaker 2: didn't care either, And just again, fat and hot not

915
00:37:10,560 --> 00:37:14,440
Speaker 2: mutually exclusive. Lou Wilson hot Man, hot Man. Lou Wilson

916
00:37:14,440 --> 00:37:17,520
Speaker 2: from Dropout Hot Man. Who he's at the big guy,

917
00:37:17,600 --> 00:37:20,400
Speaker 2: Mm hmm, he's hot. He is a gorgeous man. So

918
00:37:20,960 --> 00:37:22,520
Speaker 2: all of your friends are like, Oh, he's bad, he

919
00:37:22,560 --> 00:37:23,160
Speaker 2: can't be hot.

920
00:37:23,200 --> 00:37:23,600
Speaker 4: Shut up.

921
00:37:23,640 --> 00:37:24,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, there's I will say.

922
00:37:24,719 --> 00:37:26,960
Speaker 5: It's like, if you're not conventionally attractive, it does you

923
00:37:27,000 --> 00:37:28,840
Speaker 5: do have to have something else. Sure can't be a

924
00:37:29,040 --> 00:37:32,400
Speaker 5: good unattractive and also like really boring, like yeah, you

925
00:37:32,480 --> 00:37:33,280
Speaker 5: gotta have something.

926
00:37:33,800 --> 00:37:37,280
Speaker 4: Yeah, And obviously he seems really nice and funny.

927
00:37:37,360 --> 00:37:38,360
Speaker 3: That's her whole point is.

928
00:37:38,400 --> 00:37:40,200
Speaker 5: She was saying, She's like, I really didn't like him,

929
00:37:40,239 --> 00:37:42,680
Speaker 5: and then I got to know him and I was like, Oh, I.

930
00:37:42,719 --> 00:37:47,480
Speaker 2: Like Scotties breaking at a lot add a lot to attractiveness. Uh.

931
00:37:47,800 --> 00:37:50,120
Speaker 2: Of course I assured him that I don't and gave

932
00:37:50,200 --> 00:37:53,200
Speaker 2: him the biggest hug. Just one more reason to hold

933
00:37:53,200 --> 00:37:54,719
Speaker 2: on to this amazing man.

934
00:37:55,000 --> 00:37:55,320
Speaker 3: Hmmm.

935
00:37:55,719 --> 00:37:58,080
Speaker 2: As for my friends, I had my closest friends who

936
00:37:58,120 --> 00:38:00,319
Speaker 2: met Ryan at the party over last night to play

937
00:38:00,360 --> 00:38:02,680
Speaker 2: games and hang out. I knew I wanted to bring

938
00:38:02,760 --> 00:38:05,160
Speaker 2: up the situation to them in a light way, but

939
00:38:05,200 --> 00:38:07,640
Speaker 2: thankfully my best friend brought Ryan up first.

940
00:38:07,760 --> 00:38:10,200
Speaker 4: She said that he seemed really nice and great for me.

941
00:38:10,280 --> 00:38:12,520
Speaker 2: The rest of them chimed in with compliments about his

942
00:38:12,560 --> 00:38:16,320
Speaker 2: personality and demeanor, and I was probably beaming at this point.

943
00:38:16,440 --> 00:38:19,440
Speaker 2: By the way, you can beam too by listening to

944
00:38:19,480 --> 00:38:22,840
Speaker 2: full episodes of stories just like this. Just go to Spotify,

945
00:38:22,920 --> 00:38:26,120
Speaker 2: Apple Podcasts, or iHeartRadio and search up okus storytime.

946
00:38:26,200 --> 00:38:28,879
Speaker 4: But there is a little bit left over to the story.

947
00:38:28,920 --> 00:38:31,520
Speaker 3: Do you have any thoughts though Well, yeah, the sky

948
00:38:31,960 --> 00:38:35,960
Speaker 3: it's nice. Yeah, you guys, keep relationship up. Sorry, you

949
00:38:35,960 --> 00:38:40,839
Speaker 3: know those were just my random thoughts, surface thoughts. Wow,

950
00:38:40,880 --> 00:38:42,920
Speaker 3: I've lost all of them. I really did have thoughts,

951
00:38:42,960 --> 00:38:43,600
Speaker 3: and now.

952
00:38:43,480 --> 00:38:46,799
Speaker 2: Well my thought is that, hey, you have a good relationship,

953
00:38:46,840 --> 00:38:49,680
Speaker 2: a healthy relationship with this nice guy, and if your

954
00:38:49,920 --> 00:38:52,239
Speaker 2: friends and your family are gonna be freaking amles about it,

955
00:38:52,360 --> 00:38:55,200
Speaker 2: then go tell me, Hey, Keith, like you can date

956
00:38:55,280 --> 00:38:57,319
Speaker 2: whoever you want on dating this guy. And if you're

957
00:38:57,360 --> 00:39:00,160
Speaker 2: not gonna respect that and you don't have actual qualm,

958
00:39:00,320 --> 00:39:04,279
Speaker 2: you know, like actual bad problems going with my relationship,

959
00:39:04,360 --> 00:39:05,880
Speaker 2: then keep your hounds up.

960
00:39:05,920 --> 00:39:08,200
Speaker 5: Here's what you do, all right if this problem persists,

961
00:39:08,320 --> 00:39:10,000
Speaker 5: because it's I don't think you have to blow up

962
00:39:10,040 --> 00:39:12,279
Speaker 5: your family your friends. No, all right, I have thoughts now,

963
00:39:12,360 --> 00:39:15,160
Speaker 5: just to be clear, if they continue this after you've

964
00:39:15,360 --> 00:39:18,360
Speaker 5: politely and calmly explained that you're dating this guy and

965
00:39:18,360 --> 00:39:20,080
Speaker 5: it's not going to stop, just because they think he's

966
00:39:20,120 --> 00:39:22,120
Speaker 5: not hot. You sit them down and you watch the

967
00:39:22,160 --> 00:39:25,080
Speaker 5: movie Shrek. Mm hmm okay, and if they still have questions,

968
00:39:25,160 --> 00:39:26,799
Speaker 5: you just put it on again. Just have them watch

969
00:39:26,840 --> 00:39:28,040
Speaker 5: Shrek until they understand.

970
00:39:28,120 --> 00:39:31,799
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's literally this. That's this lesson when I.

971
00:39:31,880 --> 00:39:35,319
Speaker 2: Was the method where they like have the eyes wide open,

972
00:39:35,360 --> 00:39:37,359
Speaker 2: they have to watch Shrek over and over and over again.

973
00:39:37,400 --> 00:39:39,440
Speaker 2: You do the clockwork orders and then they come out

974
00:39:39,440 --> 00:39:41,400
Speaker 2: and they're speaking in like a Scottish accent.

975
00:39:42,560 --> 00:39:45,600
Speaker 4: An old guy, don't care please.

976
00:39:47,200 --> 00:39:49,919
Speaker 2: I had said something along the lines of I'm glad

977
00:39:49,960 --> 00:39:52,160
Speaker 2: to hear this because I was pretty uncomfortable the other

978
00:39:52,280 --> 00:39:55,360
Speaker 2: night when everyone was making jokes about his appearance. I

979
00:39:55,480 --> 00:39:58,360
Speaker 2: personally find him super attractive, and things are going, well,

980
00:39:58,560 --> 00:39:59,600
Speaker 2: I really like this guy.

981
00:39:59,680 --> 00:40:00,840
Speaker 3: I don't I want to feel weird.

982
00:40:00,920 --> 00:40:04,879
Speaker 2: Bring him around you guys, well, well said op very

983
00:40:04,920 --> 00:40:06,600
Speaker 2: well said that was a good way to put it.

984
00:40:06,680 --> 00:40:09,359
Speaker 2: And they were all extremely apologetic and said they didn't

985
00:40:09,360 --> 00:40:11,239
Speaker 2: realize how much I liked him or how hurt I

986
00:40:11,239 --> 00:40:12,280
Speaker 2: would be by their jokes.

987
00:40:12,440 --> 00:40:13,120
Speaker 4: Stupid people.

988
00:40:13,160 --> 00:40:14,800
Speaker 2: They all said that they were happy for me and

989
00:40:14,880 --> 00:40:17,240
Speaker 2: can't wait to get to know him better. Well, perfect

990
00:40:17,280 --> 00:40:19,839
Speaker 2: look at the all. It went so much better than

991
00:40:19,880 --> 00:40:22,200
Speaker 2: I hoped it would. It felt amazing to get everything

992
00:40:22,200 --> 00:40:24,000
Speaker 2: out in the open and resolved it, which I'm not.

993
00:40:23,960 --> 00:40:26,200
Speaker 4: Sure I would have done without your help. You're welcome.

994
00:40:26,360 --> 00:40:27,120
Speaker 3: Incredible.

995
00:40:28,360 --> 00:40:31,640
Speaker 5: What a perfect example of not blowing up your whole

996
00:40:31,680 --> 00:40:34,880
Speaker 5: life for one thing and instead having you mean occasion.

997
00:40:36,160 --> 00:40:40,080
Speaker 3: Whoa we communicating? We lived, folks.

998
00:40:41,400 --> 00:40:45,200
Speaker 5: I chose my family over my fiance and now I

999
00:40:45,320 --> 00:40:45,920
Speaker 5: regret it.

1000
00:40:46,280 --> 00:40:49,600
Speaker 2: Ooh yeah, sometimes you make the wrong choice.

1001
00:40:49,760 --> 00:40:53,400
Speaker 5: My family hates my soo ever since day one. They

1002
00:40:53,440 --> 00:40:55,640
Speaker 5: have not liked him and have been less than kind

1003
00:40:55,680 --> 00:40:58,719
Speaker 5: to him. Some of the worst instances include filing a

1004
00:40:58,800 --> 00:41:03,160
Speaker 5: police report say that he physically harmed me and slandered

1005
00:41:03,239 --> 00:41:06,319
Speaker 5: him on social media. My significant other had asked me

1006
00:41:06,440 --> 00:41:09,000
Speaker 5: several times to help stand up for him, However I

1007
00:41:09,080 --> 00:41:11,480
Speaker 5: never could. When it came to my family, I just

1008
00:41:11,680 --> 00:41:14,319
Speaker 5: couldn't stand up to them. By the way, this comes

1009
00:41:14,360 --> 00:41:17,239
Speaker 5: from user Stupid Choices ninety nine, and if you want

1010
00:41:17,280 --> 00:41:19,040
Speaker 5: to submit your own stories, go to the r slash

1011
00:41:19,080 --> 00:41:22,440
Speaker 5: Okay storytime subreddit. So we went on holiday not too

1012
00:41:22,480 --> 00:41:25,000
Speaker 5: long ago. While we were there, he told me that

1013
00:41:25,160 --> 00:41:27,840
Speaker 5: he was questioning if we should still get married or

1014
00:41:28,000 --> 00:41:30,520
Speaker 5: even be in a relationship. He said he can't be

1015
00:41:30,640 --> 00:41:33,400
Speaker 5: with someone who would repeatedly let their parents do this

1016
00:41:33,400 --> 00:41:35,400
Speaker 5: to us, and that if I didn't stand up for

1017
00:41:35,520 --> 00:41:37,640
Speaker 5: him the next time it happened, he would leave me.

1018
00:41:37,800 --> 00:41:40,200
Speaker 5: I was in tears at this point, but I knew

1019
00:41:40,239 --> 00:41:41,960
Speaker 5: what he meant and what he needed from me, so

1020
00:41:42,120 --> 00:41:44,799
Speaker 5: I agreed. Two weeks after we arrived, I got a

1021
00:41:44,840 --> 00:41:47,280
Speaker 5: text on my phone. The phone was in the bedroom.

1022
00:41:47,360 --> 00:41:49,840
Speaker 5: I asked my significant other to pass me the phone,

1023
00:41:49,840 --> 00:41:51,759
Speaker 5: and he went away to get it. He came back

1024
00:41:51,800 --> 00:41:53,520
Speaker 5: a couple of minutes later and said it was my

1025
00:41:53,640 --> 00:41:56,200
Speaker 5: sister and handed me the phone. I checked the text message.

1026
00:41:56,239 --> 00:41:59,480
Speaker 5: It was a small rant about how on X she

1027
00:41:59,560 --> 00:42:03,280
Speaker 5: saw my SOO and some girl making out at some shop,

1028
00:42:03,360 --> 00:42:06,160
Speaker 5: which is impossible as we were on holiday during the

1029
00:42:06,239 --> 00:42:09,359
Speaker 5: date she mentioned. I texted her back okay. About twenty

1030
00:42:09,440 --> 00:42:12,440
Speaker 5: or thirty minutes later, my partner asked me what she said.

1031
00:42:12,640 --> 00:42:15,040
Speaker 5: I told him, and he asked me what I said.

1032
00:42:15,200 --> 00:42:17,960
Speaker 5: I told him told me he cannot do this anymore.

1033
00:42:18,000 --> 00:42:20,359
Speaker 3: Fair, fair, not standing up for him at all.

1034
00:42:20,560 --> 00:42:22,799
Speaker 5: Yeah, I should have said no, he didn't. We were

1035
00:42:22,800 --> 00:42:25,400
Speaker 5: on holiday during that time, and ask why she's so

1036
00:42:25,480 --> 00:42:26,719
Speaker 5: determined to make us break up.

1037
00:42:26,800 --> 00:42:27,920
Speaker 3: He then broke up with me.

1038
00:42:28,080 --> 00:42:29,759
Speaker 5: I stayed at his place for a few more days

1039
00:42:29,800 --> 00:42:31,560
Speaker 5: before moving back in with my mom and sister.

1040
00:42:31,719 --> 00:42:33,640
Speaker 3: I've been here a week and a half. They treat

1041
00:42:33,680 --> 00:42:34,440
Speaker 3: me like dirt.

1042
00:42:34,520 --> 00:42:36,920
Speaker 5: They're always going on about how I can find someone

1043
00:42:36,960 --> 00:42:39,960
Speaker 5: better and listing all his bad points and just generally

1044
00:42:40,040 --> 00:42:41,760
Speaker 5: trash talking him all the time.

1045
00:42:41,880 --> 00:42:43,880
Speaker 3: I don't want to do this anymore. I know I

1046
00:42:43,920 --> 00:42:45,080
Speaker 3: should have stuck up for him.

1047
00:42:45,120 --> 00:42:47,200
Speaker 5: I know I was in the wrong and I threw

1048
00:42:47,239 --> 00:42:50,160
Speaker 5: away our eight year relationship, but I want him back

1049
00:42:50,200 --> 00:42:50,800
Speaker 5: so badly.

1050
00:42:50,920 --> 00:42:52,960
Speaker 3: Can we What are the red flags though? What are they?

1051
00:42:52,960 --> 00:42:54,520
Speaker 3: What are the green flags? What are the red flags?

1052
00:42:54,520 --> 00:42:55,880
Speaker 3: What are the information? I want to know?

1053
00:42:56,000 --> 00:42:57,959
Speaker 5: I want to know more about this guy. Yeah, because

1054
00:42:57,960 --> 00:42:59,640
Speaker 5: maybe your parents are right, Maybe this guy does suck.

1055
00:42:59,640 --> 00:43:01,280
Speaker 3: I don't know. Oh, I don't know anything about.

1056
00:43:01,080 --> 00:43:03,200
Speaker 2: Him, but I mean probably not if they're the ones

1057
00:43:03,239 --> 00:43:05,759
Speaker 2: line about him cheating, that is true.

1058
00:43:05,520 --> 00:43:06,200
Speaker 3: That's a good point.

1059
00:43:06,320 --> 00:43:10,960
Speaker 5: Sister's already immediately lying, Yeah, I want him back so badly.

1060
00:43:11,760 --> 00:43:13,960
Speaker 3: I want him to cuddle into me at night. I

1061
00:43:14,000 --> 00:43:15,680
Speaker 3: want to fall asleep on his chest.

1062
00:43:15,440 --> 00:43:21,320
Speaker 5: Which is extremely flirtatious behavior, even his swinging on his chair.

1063
00:43:21,400 --> 00:43:24,360
Speaker 5: That drove me crazy. I miss it so much. I

1064
00:43:24,400 --> 00:43:27,080
Speaker 5: want my fiance back. Does anyone have any ideas on

1065
00:43:27,160 --> 00:43:28,879
Speaker 5: what I can do to win him back and show

1066
00:43:28,960 --> 00:43:31,080
Speaker 5: him my care. He's blocked me on social media and

1067
00:43:31,239 --> 00:43:33,400
Speaker 5: my phone number, so the only way I can contact

1068
00:43:33,480 --> 00:43:34,920
Speaker 5: him is if I get on a bus and go

1069
00:43:34,960 --> 00:43:37,360
Speaker 5: to his house two hours away. Does this seem like

1070
00:43:37,400 --> 00:43:39,959
Speaker 5: a good idea, No, it does not. Thanks for the help,

1071
00:43:40,040 --> 00:43:43,040
Speaker 5: and there's an edit just to confirm this behavior from

1072
00:43:43,040 --> 00:43:45,360
Speaker 5: the family only started in the last couple of years

1073
00:43:45,360 --> 00:43:48,520
Speaker 5: after our two sons passed away. It was not eight

1074
00:43:48,640 --> 00:43:51,839
Speaker 5: years of constant badgering. While they never liked him, they

1075
00:43:51,920 --> 00:43:54,759
Speaker 5: were civil to one another for six years. Also, as

1076
00:43:54,840 --> 00:43:58,520
Speaker 5: for the accusations of physical harm, the police came to

1077
00:43:58,560 --> 00:44:00,440
Speaker 5: our house and did a check up and told them

1078
00:44:00,440 --> 00:44:02,360
Speaker 5: that it was not true. They believed us and my

1079
00:44:02,400 --> 00:44:04,640
Speaker 5: family got into a lot of trouble for this. It

1080
00:44:04,680 --> 00:44:06,520
Speaker 5: never went to the courts, but they also never got

1081
00:44:06,520 --> 00:44:11,680
Speaker 5: police involved again. Also, my partner was never in any capacity.

1082
00:44:11,800 --> 00:44:14,239
Speaker 5: It just did not happen. He wouldn't even get rough

1083
00:44:14,360 --> 00:44:17,520
Speaker 5: during the horizontal mambo as he thought he would hurt me.

1084
00:44:17,600 --> 00:44:18,720
Speaker 5: And there is an update.

1085
00:44:18,800 --> 00:44:19,200
Speaker 4: I'm sorry.

1086
00:44:19,200 --> 00:44:22,680
Speaker 2: If your family is accusing your partner of hurting you

1087
00:44:23,160 --> 00:44:27,320
Speaker 2: with no proof actively lying, it seems like they're purposely lying.

1088
00:44:27,560 --> 00:44:29,120
Speaker 3: Why would you? I just I.

1089
00:44:29,080 --> 00:44:31,200
Speaker 4: Cannot compute not defending your.

1090
00:44:31,120 --> 00:44:33,839
Speaker 3: Partner, even just like a why are you lying? Why

1091
00:44:33,880 --> 00:44:34,600
Speaker 3: are you lying?

1092
00:44:34,760 --> 00:44:35,720
Speaker 4: That's all he wanted.

1093
00:44:36,040 --> 00:44:38,319
Speaker 5: I don't think you have a route back to this

1094
00:44:38,440 --> 00:44:41,880
Speaker 5: sort of literally cutting off your entire fighting off your

1095
00:44:41,880 --> 00:44:44,359
Speaker 5: whole family, and even then it might not work, yeah,

1096
00:44:44,360 --> 00:44:46,000
Speaker 5: because it'll just be like, well, how long is that

1097
00:44:46,040 --> 00:44:46,640
Speaker 5: gonna last?

1098
00:44:46,719 --> 00:44:48,440
Speaker 4: Yeah, It's like, why didn't you do this when we

1099
00:44:48,480 --> 00:44:49,280
Speaker 4: were in a relationship.

1100
00:44:49,320 --> 00:44:51,359
Speaker 5: Why did it take me leaving you for you to

1101
00:44:51,480 --> 00:44:53,680
Speaker 5: like wake up and do this. It's gonna be every

1102
00:44:53,680 --> 00:44:55,759
Speaker 5: time we have an impass, I'm gonna have to leave

1103
00:44:55,800 --> 00:44:59,360
Speaker 5: you for you to like see my perspective. So update,

1104
00:44:59,480 --> 00:45:01,160
Speaker 5: I got on the bus to go and see him.

1105
00:45:01,160 --> 00:45:03,320
Speaker 5: I ended up not leaving a message for my family.

1106
00:45:03,400 --> 00:45:05,880
Speaker 5: As pointed out by a commenter, if I did that

1107
00:45:06,120 --> 00:45:09,240
Speaker 5: and got rejected, I would have nowhere to go. I did, however,

1108
00:45:09,320 --> 00:45:11,719
Speaker 5: have a suitcase with me. Some people said this might

1109
00:45:11,760 --> 00:45:13,440
Speaker 5: make him feel like he had to take me in

1110
00:45:13,560 --> 00:45:15,840
Speaker 5: or I would be homeless, taking this into account.

1111
00:45:16,040 --> 00:45:18,000
Speaker 3: Okay, I thought, I thought.

1112
00:45:18,160 --> 00:45:20,279
Speaker 2: Let hope he was like, so I did just so

1113
00:45:20,480 --> 00:45:23,240
Speaker 2: I did that, I want it's a guilt him taking

1114
00:45:23,360 --> 00:45:24,360
Speaker 2: this into account.

1115
00:45:24,400 --> 00:45:27,400
Speaker 5: I actually hid the suitcase outside under a bridge, just

1116
00:45:27,520 --> 00:45:29,799
Speaker 5: out the back of his house, but one hundred percent

1117
00:45:29,840 --> 00:45:32,040
Speaker 5: out of you due to the layout of the building.

1118
00:45:32,120 --> 00:45:35,200
Speaker 5: Hope he didn't run into any trickster. Riddle people down there.

1119
00:45:35,920 --> 00:45:38,160
Speaker 5: Now for the part I'm sure you are all waiting for.

1120
00:45:38,360 --> 00:45:41,400
Speaker 5: I got myself prepared, stopped crying, and went to his door.

1121
00:45:41,520 --> 00:45:45,040
Speaker 5: I rang the bell and nothing. He wasn't in. I

1122
00:45:45,040 --> 00:45:47,480
Speaker 5: waited half an hour and got nothing. However, I did

1123
00:45:47,560 --> 00:45:50,080
Speaker 5: speak to our cat through the letter box. A couple

1124
00:45:50,120 --> 00:45:51,920
Speaker 5: of our neighbors asked me what I was doing, and

1125
00:45:52,000 --> 00:45:54,320
Speaker 5: rather than admitting the truth, I said I was locked

1126
00:45:54,360 --> 00:45:56,480
Speaker 5: out of the house and was waiting on So I

1127
00:45:56,480 --> 00:45:58,560
Speaker 5: should mention it's not unusual for him to come home

1128
00:45:58,640 --> 00:46:00,280
Speaker 5: at twelve to one am from work.

1129
00:46:00,400 --> 00:46:02,080
Speaker 3: He has to commute to work, which is why he's

1130
00:46:02,239 --> 00:46:02,839
Speaker 3: it's so late.

1131
00:46:03,000 --> 00:46:05,120
Speaker 5: He is getting a promotion to a senior position at

1132
00:46:05,120 --> 00:46:07,160
Speaker 5: the company, and as such he is putting in two

1133
00:46:07,200 --> 00:46:09,680
Speaker 5: hundred percent effort. That being said, I was freezing at

1134
00:46:09,680 --> 00:46:11,640
Speaker 5: this point, so I went to his mom's house.

1135
00:46:11,719 --> 00:46:13,120
Speaker 3: Me and his mom are very close.

1136
00:46:13,280 --> 00:46:16,080
Speaker 5: We go shopping every day, spend three to four hours

1137
00:46:16,080 --> 00:46:18,120
Speaker 5: together a day. She was even there in the room

1138
00:46:18,160 --> 00:46:19,799
Speaker 5: for the birth of our twins. I got to her

1139
00:46:19,800 --> 00:46:22,839
Speaker 5: house and she ripped me a new one, basically reiterating

1140
00:46:22,880 --> 00:46:25,480
Speaker 5: almost everything that was set in the original post. By

1141
00:46:25,480 --> 00:46:28,160
Speaker 5: the end of this we were both just a mess. Also,

1142
00:46:28,280 --> 00:46:30,800
Speaker 5: it turns out he didn't block me. Instead, he smashed

1143
00:46:30,840 --> 00:46:33,120
Speaker 5: his phone, laptop, TV, and a couple of other things

1144
00:46:33,160 --> 00:46:35,680
Speaker 5: after I left, and is waiting on a new phone

1145
00:46:35,760 --> 00:46:38,800
Speaker 5: and laptop to arrive. He has never broken anything before,

1146
00:46:38,960 --> 00:46:42,280
Speaker 5: so I was really surprised by that, especially his laptop,

1147
00:46:42,320 --> 00:46:45,120
Speaker 5: which was a custom made thing that cost over three

1148
00:46:45,360 --> 00:46:48,840
Speaker 5: grand in American dollars. His mom told me what I

1149
00:46:48,920 --> 00:46:51,239
Speaker 5: could try to do to win him back. At this point,

1150
00:46:51,280 --> 00:46:53,320
Speaker 5: it's two am and his mom gives me a lift

1151
00:46:53,360 --> 00:46:55,160
Speaker 5: down to his house. The lights are on, so he's

1152
00:46:55,160 --> 00:46:58,160
Speaker 5: in and his mom wishes me well and leaves. Okay, so,

1153
00:46:58,320 --> 00:47:00,799
Speaker 5: like before we read what happens, what are you doing

1154
00:47:00,880 --> 00:47:03,600
Speaker 5: if you're ope on the stoop waiting for like what

1155
00:47:03,760 --> 00:47:04,320
Speaker 5: is your plan?

1156
00:47:04,400 --> 00:47:06,600
Speaker 3: You're like, can get out? I'm going to get him back.

1157
00:47:06,680 --> 00:47:08,880
Speaker 3: What do you do? What do you say? Well, I

1158
00:47:08,920 --> 00:47:09,279
Speaker 3: would have.

1159
00:47:09,600 --> 00:47:12,000
Speaker 2: I would have fully had the conversation with the parents

1160
00:47:12,040 --> 00:47:14,400
Speaker 2: and the family, because even if you know they say, oh,

1161
00:47:14,520 --> 00:47:16,279
Speaker 2: I never want to see you again, you need to

1162
00:47:16,360 --> 00:47:20,120
Speaker 2: do that for the rest for like just bettering the.

1163
00:47:20,080 --> 00:47:20,839
Speaker 4: Rest of your life.

1164
00:47:20,880 --> 00:47:22,440
Speaker 5: Yeah, you don't want to depend on people who want

1165
00:47:22,480 --> 00:47:24,920
Speaker 5: nothing to do with it, exactly, based on something as.

1166
00:47:24,800 --> 00:47:26,640
Speaker 3: Silly as like who you're dating.

1167
00:47:27,120 --> 00:47:29,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, no, I think especially they're not bad news. That's

1168
00:47:29,520 --> 00:47:32,399
Speaker 2: that's the other part. Yeah, exactly, No, I think you

1169
00:47:32,520 --> 00:47:34,160
Speaker 2: would have. I would have gone to the family and

1170
00:47:34,200 --> 00:47:36,440
Speaker 2: had the whole conversation so that I could then go

1171
00:47:36,560 --> 00:47:39,520
Speaker 2: to him and say, hey, I made actual change. I

1172
00:47:39,560 --> 00:47:42,680
Speaker 2: recognize that you were right. Yeah, because right now you

1173
00:47:42,719 --> 00:47:45,680
Speaker 2: got nothing. You have you have done nothing to change.

1174
00:47:45,760 --> 00:47:47,759
Speaker 2: You have not addressed any of the issues that he

1175
00:47:47,800 --> 00:47:49,319
Speaker 2: brought up, So why would he take you back.

1176
00:47:49,360 --> 00:47:49,840
Speaker 3: It's true.

1177
00:47:49,880 --> 00:47:51,640
Speaker 5: I get to the door, I knock, and it's the

1178
00:47:51,760 --> 00:47:53,680
Speaker 5: longest twenty seconds of my life.

1179
00:47:53,840 --> 00:47:55,759
Speaker 3: However, he comes to the door and he opens it.

1180
00:47:55,800 --> 00:47:56,319
Speaker 3: He looks at me.

1181
00:47:56,520 --> 00:47:57,359
Speaker 4: I look at him.

1182
00:47:57,520 --> 00:48:00,640
Speaker 5: I look at him. He looks really bad, like really

1183
00:48:00,719 --> 00:48:03,080
Speaker 5: really bad. I don't know how long passed, but it

1184
00:48:03,120 --> 00:48:05,040
Speaker 5: felt like forever. We just stared at each other. I'm

1185
00:48:05,040 --> 00:48:07,120
Speaker 5: trying so hard not to cry, and I say hi,

1186
00:48:07,320 --> 00:48:09,759
Speaker 5: and he doesn't say anything. Instead, he comes forward and

1187
00:48:09,800 --> 00:48:13,600
Speaker 5: hugs me. Oof burst into tears at this point and

1188
00:48:13,640 --> 00:48:16,560
Speaker 5: became a total mess. He bursts into tears and is

1189
00:48:16,600 --> 00:48:17,600
Speaker 5: also a total mess.

1190
00:48:17,640 --> 00:48:19,880
Speaker 4: Ooof Yeah, this is an eight year relationship.

1191
00:48:19,920 --> 00:48:22,560
Speaker 5: This is good though, Yeah good yeah, good start. So

1192
00:48:22,640 --> 00:48:24,680
Speaker 5: it turns out all you needed to say was high

1193
00:48:24,760 --> 00:48:28,240
Speaker 5: easy wow. Side note. I have never seen him cry before,

1194
00:48:28,280 --> 00:48:31,319
Speaker 5: not even when our twins passed. He always has this

1195
00:48:31,440 --> 00:48:34,040
Speaker 5: generic look on his face and rarely shows emotion, so

1196
00:48:34,080 --> 00:48:35,399
Speaker 5: this was a big thing.

1197
00:48:35,560 --> 00:48:36,960
Speaker 3: He starts to say he is sorry.

1198
00:48:37,080 --> 00:48:39,239
Speaker 5: I start to say he has nothing to be sorry for,

1199
00:48:39,360 --> 00:48:40,960
Speaker 5: and that it's all my fault and how I should

1200
00:48:40,960 --> 00:48:42,680
Speaker 5: have put my foot down with my family. We end

1201
00:48:42,760 --> 00:48:45,200
Speaker 5: up getting into the house. I am honestly surprised the

1202
00:48:45,239 --> 00:48:47,200
Speaker 5: cat didn't run away. She's an indoor cat and the

1203
00:48:47,200 --> 00:48:49,680
Speaker 5: door was open for ages. We get into the house.

1204
00:48:49,760 --> 00:48:52,040
Speaker 5: We get into the living room and I notice a

1205
00:48:52,120 --> 00:48:55,880
Speaker 5: few Bruski cans laying about. I'm sad, but at the

1206
00:48:55,920 --> 00:48:59,440
Speaker 5: same time, now I am livid. See you may be unaware,

1207
00:48:59,560 --> 00:49:02,719
Speaker 5: but he has a bad medical condition and booze is

1208
00:49:02,760 --> 00:49:05,799
Speaker 5: extremely dangerous for him to consume. At the minimum, it

1209
00:49:05,880 --> 00:49:07,960
Speaker 5: could put him in a crap ton of pain. But

1210
00:49:08,120 --> 00:49:09,960
Speaker 5: the first time he had booze he spent a month

1211
00:49:10,000 --> 00:49:14,200
Speaker 5: in the ICU. Oh my god, that's how bad it is. Also,

1212
00:49:14,239 --> 00:49:15,800
Speaker 5: it's how we found out about the condition.

1213
00:49:15,920 --> 00:49:18,520
Speaker 2: Pure wasn't out when they lost like kids, of course. Yeah,

1214
00:49:18,600 --> 00:49:20,520
Speaker 2: and then they have the family being awful.

1215
00:49:21,440 --> 00:49:22,400
Speaker 3: Yes, that's tough.

1216
00:49:23,840 --> 00:49:27,400
Speaker 4: In all these compounding issues of him dealing with like

1217
00:49:27,520 --> 00:49:31,880
Speaker 4: substance drinking and the losing the kids, and then the

1218
00:49:31,920 --> 00:49:35,839
Speaker 4: family is a you know, and then it's.

1219
00:49:34,960 --> 00:49:36,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's a lot.

1220
00:49:36,960 --> 00:49:39,400
Speaker 5: I shouted at him a little bit. He says he

1221
00:49:39,520 --> 00:49:41,279
Speaker 5: knows he was stupid to do it, but he just

1222
00:49:41,360 --> 00:49:43,719
Speaker 5: didn't know what else to do. We move on from

1223
00:49:43,719 --> 00:49:46,440
Speaker 5: that pretty quickly. He's in pain, so I get him

1224
00:49:46,520 --> 00:49:48,839
Speaker 5: his morphine tablets to get rid of the pain. Oh

1225
00:49:48,840 --> 00:49:51,640
Speaker 5: my god, well, what dang, he's on morphine tablets.

1226
00:49:51,880 --> 00:49:55,280
Speaker 4: That's so yeah, dangerous.

1227
00:49:55,880 --> 00:49:58,400
Speaker 5: Moving on from that, we spend a few hours talking.

1228
00:49:58,480 --> 00:50:00,920
Speaker 5: The end result of that is me telling him I'm sorry,

1229
00:50:01,000 --> 00:50:03,680
Speaker 5: sorry for not appreciating him, not showing I cared enough

1230
00:50:03,680 --> 00:50:06,080
Speaker 5: and taking advantage of his kindness. A lot of people

1231
00:50:06,080 --> 00:50:08,719
Speaker 5: said I should work on myself before asking him out again,

1232
00:50:08,800 --> 00:50:10,880
Speaker 5: so I didn't ask him out. Instead, I explained to

1233
00:50:10,920 --> 00:50:13,680
Speaker 5: him that I plan on working on myself and distancing

1234
00:50:13,680 --> 00:50:16,360
Speaker 5: myself from my family and becoming a better person so

1235
00:50:16,400 --> 00:50:18,359
Speaker 5: that in the future, and then he asked me if

1236
00:50:18,400 --> 00:50:20,560
Speaker 5: I wanted to give it another go. Burst into tears

1237
00:50:20,560 --> 00:50:23,719
Speaker 5: again and said really. I was so surprised, going from

1238
00:50:23,719 --> 00:50:25,840
Speaker 5: what I wrote in the original post. I assumed he

1239
00:50:25,880 --> 00:50:28,600
Speaker 5: would never do this, but he said yes, he was,

1240
00:50:28,760 --> 00:50:30,800
Speaker 5: so I said I would want to try again.

1241
00:50:30,880 --> 00:50:32,320
Speaker 3: We went to bed, but didn't sleep.

1242
00:50:32,440 --> 00:50:34,480
Speaker 5: Instead, I played with his hair and then played with

1243
00:50:34,520 --> 00:50:36,520
Speaker 5: his back, and he loves it when I played with

1244
00:50:36,560 --> 00:50:38,680
Speaker 5: his back, and we talked all night. I've still not

1245
00:50:38,840 --> 00:50:40,839
Speaker 5: been to sleep yet, but once I post this, I'm

1246
00:50:40,880 --> 00:50:42,320
Speaker 5: going to bed, so I will reply.

1247
00:50:42,160 --> 00:50:43,680
Speaker 3: To comments tomorrow. In the morning.

1248
00:50:43,719 --> 00:50:45,440
Speaker 5: We spoke some more. We have spoken more in the

1249
00:50:45,480 --> 00:50:47,600
Speaker 5: last twenty hours or so than in the last year.

1250
00:50:47,800 --> 00:50:48,640
Speaker 3: I am sure of this.

1251
00:50:48,880 --> 00:50:51,759
Speaker 5: We came up with a plan of action to deal

1252
00:50:51,800 --> 00:50:54,840
Speaker 5: with my family that involves blocking them on social media,

1253
00:50:54,880 --> 00:50:57,400
Speaker 5: blocking them on my phone, good taking out a restraining

1254
00:50:57,480 --> 00:51:01,120
Speaker 5: order if they pester us again and going no contact.

1255
00:51:00,719 --> 00:51:04,280
Speaker 2: I honestly think, yeah, you've had like years of them

1256
00:51:04,440 --> 00:51:08,040
Speaker 2: trying to break you guys up, like using not just

1257
00:51:08,280 --> 00:51:12,160
Speaker 2: you know, being like being hypercritical, literally trying to accuse

1258
00:51:12,280 --> 00:51:14,280
Speaker 2: him of crimes.

1259
00:51:14,200 --> 00:51:17,120
Speaker 5: Right, crimes, not just like I don't like that man

1260
00:51:17,760 --> 00:51:20,040
Speaker 5: kids play. Yeah, all right, they're trying to get this

1261
00:51:20,120 --> 00:51:21,000
Speaker 5: man arrested.

1262
00:51:21,200 --> 00:51:21,520
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1263
00:51:21,560 --> 00:51:23,879
Speaker 5: So, all of that being said, my s O wanted

1264
00:51:23,920 --> 00:51:26,080
Speaker 5: to give them one more shot to work things out.

1265
00:51:26,239 --> 00:51:28,239
Speaker 5: I said he really didn't have to, and he would

1266
00:51:28,239 --> 00:51:30,360
Speaker 5: be justified to tell me to go no contact. And

1267
00:51:30,400 --> 00:51:32,680
Speaker 5: he said no, he loves his family and all he

1268
00:51:32,760 --> 00:51:35,200
Speaker 5: wants is for his family to get along with him

1269
00:51:35,280 --> 00:51:37,720
Speaker 5: and how he wants them there at our future wedding.

1270
00:51:37,760 --> 00:51:40,760
Speaker 5: His dream is the whole family life, house, car, married,

1271
00:51:40,800 --> 00:51:45,239
Speaker 5: three kids, et cetera white picket fence. So tomorrow we're

1272
00:51:45,280 --> 00:51:47,359
Speaker 5: going to my mom's house to talk with them. If

1273
00:51:47,360 --> 00:51:50,480
Speaker 5: they don't take this chance, I will be going no contact.

1274
00:51:50,560 --> 00:51:53,319
Speaker 5: If they do take this chance, it will be light

1275
00:51:53,520 --> 00:51:56,239
Speaker 5: contact with them until I can get myself and my

1276
00:51:56,360 --> 00:52:00,120
Speaker 5: relationship into a position that I'm comfortable introducing them in,

1277
00:52:00,320 --> 00:52:02,680
Speaker 5: and it'll be on my time frame. We will also

1278
00:52:02,719 --> 00:52:04,799
Speaker 5: be doing couples counseling to help us get over this.

1279
00:52:05,040 --> 00:52:07,719
Speaker 5: Very smart. Yeah that being said, his family is over

1280
00:52:07,760 --> 00:52:10,640
Speaker 5: the moon. We are back together. At about tea time today,

1281
00:52:10,800 --> 00:52:13,640
Speaker 5: I remembered I had all my belongings outside and thankfully

1282
00:52:13,680 --> 00:52:16,200
Speaker 5: they are still there, so we got them back into

1283
00:52:16,239 --> 00:52:18,480
Speaker 5: the house. Thank god the troll that lived under the

1284
00:52:18,480 --> 00:52:19,600
Speaker 5: bridge didn't take your stuff.

1285
00:52:19,640 --> 00:52:22,920
Speaker 3: And by the way, you can get.

1286
00:52:22,960 --> 00:52:26,240
Speaker 5: Full episodes of stories like this back in your life

1287
00:52:26,320 --> 00:52:31,719
Speaker 5: by going to your podcast platform of choice Spotify, Apple Podcasts, iHeartRadio,

1288
00:52:31,760 --> 00:52:32,879
Speaker 5: wherever you listen and search.

1289
00:52:32,920 --> 00:52:34,799
Speaker 3: Okay, storytime and there is a little bit more story

1290
00:52:34,840 --> 00:52:37,560
Speaker 3: left here. Let's just go ahead and dig in. I

1291
00:52:37,680 --> 00:52:40,879
Speaker 3: like exactly where we're at. Stand up for your partners people. Yes,

1292
00:52:41,640 --> 00:52:44,000
Speaker 3: if people are disparaging your partner for.

1293
00:52:44,120 --> 00:52:46,920
Speaker 4: Years longfully and you know that they're lying.

1294
00:52:46,800 --> 00:52:47,840
Speaker 3: Call them out.

1295
00:52:48,200 --> 00:52:50,360
Speaker 5: I do not know what's in store for us tomorrow

1296
00:52:50,440 --> 00:52:52,600
Speaker 5: with my family, However, knowing that my so so will

1297
00:52:52,600 --> 00:52:54,600
Speaker 5: be there by my side during it has given me

1298
00:52:54,680 --> 00:52:57,360
Speaker 5: a massive courage boost. If my family wants me in

1299
00:52:57,400 --> 00:53:00,440
Speaker 5: their lives and their future grandchildren, they will also be

1300
00:53:00,520 --> 00:53:03,160
Speaker 5: saying sorry to my s O a genuine one. If

1301
00:53:03,200 --> 00:53:05,799
Speaker 5: it's not genuine, then that's it. It's over, as well

1302
00:53:05,840 --> 00:53:08,680
Speaker 5: as saying why they don't like him, So we finally

1303
00:53:08,760 --> 00:53:10,880
Speaker 5: know we will be tackling this as a couple, not

1304
00:53:11,000 --> 00:53:13,160
Speaker 5: just me on my own. I am always going to

1305
00:53:13,160 --> 00:53:15,120
Speaker 5: try my best from here on out to show him

1306
00:53:15,160 --> 00:53:17,719
Speaker 5: how much I appreciate him and how much I love him.

1307
00:53:17,800 --> 00:53:21,200
Speaker 3: The I know, and that is the end of that story. Yeah, okay, Wow,

1308
00:53:21,320 --> 00:53:22,680
Speaker 3: what a perfect little Yeah.

1309
00:53:22,760 --> 00:53:25,360
Speaker 2: I mean, we got we got some you know, we're

1310
00:53:25,480 --> 00:53:29,000
Speaker 2: making moves in terms of your relationship. Indeed, you might

1311
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Speaker 2: gonna care about you in a good way, you know,

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Speaker 4: My boyfriend broke up with me because I'm not wealthy enough.

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00:53:54,360 --> 00:53:57,760
Speaker 3: Brokey, I'm god, it's terrible.

1323
00:53:58,080 --> 00:54:00,560
Speaker 2: I've been with my boyfriend for two years and we're

1324
00:54:00,600 --> 00:54:02,839
Speaker 2: now in the same grad program. I mean, if you're

1325
00:54:02,840 --> 00:54:05,040
Speaker 2: in a grad school, of course you're broke. I'm going

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00:54:05,120 --> 00:54:07,520
Speaker 2: to make this short because it feels like I'm passing

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00:54:07,560 --> 00:54:09,440
Speaker 2: away and I have an appointment with my therapist that

1328
00:54:09,480 --> 00:54:11,239
Speaker 2: I need to prepare for. By the way, this comes

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Speaker 2: spit your own stories, go to the r slash Okay,

1331
00:54:15,040 --> 00:54:18,799
Speaker 2: storytime separate it. So, yesterday, my boyfriend broke up with

1332
00:54:18,840 --> 00:54:20,879
Speaker 2: me because his parents didn't think that I was good

1333
00:54:21,000 --> 00:54:22,120
Speaker 2: enough for him because I'm.

1334
00:54:21,920 --> 00:54:24,560
Speaker 4: Not rich like they are and I'm not white. Yikes.

1335
00:54:24,760 --> 00:54:27,000
Speaker 2: Wow, wow, they really just said all that, and that

1336
00:54:27,200 --> 00:54:29,200
Speaker 2: he said that to you and then he did it.

1337
00:54:29,360 --> 00:54:31,560
Speaker 5: Wow, We've got a pretty cut and dry case of

1338
00:54:31,760 --> 00:54:33,000
Speaker 5: where to go from here, right.

1339
00:54:33,320 --> 00:54:35,520
Speaker 2: His parents told me that I'm a great person, but

1340
00:54:35,520 --> 00:54:38,120
Speaker 2: what I lack in monetary wealth and in terms.

1341
00:54:37,960 --> 00:54:41,759
Speaker 4: Of my skin color, holy oh, myke is not enough

1342
00:54:41,760 --> 00:54:42,080
Speaker 4: for me.

1343
00:54:42,080 --> 00:54:44,400
Speaker 3: To marry their son. Oh my god.

1344
00:54:44,719 --> 00:54:47,160
Speaker 5: Wow, these people just said, you're a great person, but

1345
00:54:47,200 --> 00:54:48,480
Speaker 5: you're the wrong color.

1346
00:54:48,680 --> 00:54:54,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, but you but it's nothing personal. We're what so sorry.

1347
00:54:54,560 --> 00:54:57,880
Speaker 2: Holy My boyfriend was in the background weeping while his

1348
00:54:57,960 --> 00:54:58,680
Speaker 2: parents said this.

1349
00:54:58,960 --> 00:54:59,120
Speaker 3: Oh.

1350
00:54:59,560 --> 00:55:02,440
Speaker 2: Atwo pm yesterday, my boyfriend and I were watching Netflix

1351
00:55:02,440 --> 00:55:03,960
Speaker 2: and he was telling me how much he loved me

1352
00:55:04,080 --> 00:55:05,680
Speaker 2: and that I've changed him for the better.

1353
00:55:05,880 --> 00:55:07,640
Speaker 4: He went on to say that he couldn't wait to

1354
00:55:07,760 --> 00:55:08,400
Speaker 4: marry me.

1355
00:55:08,680 --> 00:55:11,480
Speaker 3: Wait, I'm sorry. After all that was said, y'all still

1356
00:55:11,680 --> 00:55:12,439
Speaker 3: were hanging out?

1357
00:55:12,440 --> 00:55:15,440
Speaker 2: No no, no, no, no, yesterday, yes, okay, okay before

1358
00:55:15,640 --> 00:55:18,400
Speaker 2: thank god, I just had to make I was confused, girl,

1359
00:55:18,520 --> 00:55:21,279
Speaker 2: you do not want to marry this man. His family's

1360
00:55:21,040 --> 00:55:23,279
Speaker 2: rest and he does not stand up for you.

1361
00:55:23,560 --> 00:55:24,920
Speaker 4: So bye.

1362
00:55:25,239 --> 00:55:26,680
Speaker 3: He's crying about it in the corner.

1363
00:55:26,840 --> 00:55:27,879
Speaker 4: Yeah, you should be.

1364
00:55:28,000 --> 00:55:30,520
Speaker 3: In front of them, about like one inch away from

1365
00:55:30,560 --> 00:55:31,800
Speaker 3: their face. Tell me he stopped.

1366
00:55:32,080 --> 00:55:34,600
Speaker 2: At two fifteen is his mom calls and he asks

1367
00:55:34,640 --> 00:55:36,720
Speaker 2: her what time we're supposed to come over for dinner.

1368
00:55:36,760 --> 00:55:38,680
Speaker 2: I can hear what she says because our room was

1369
00:55:38,760 --> 00:55:41,239
Speaker 2: quiet and she talks as if she's yelling. I hear

1370
00:55:41,239 --> 00:55:43,239
Speaker 2: her say that it is a family dinner and because

1371
00:55:43,280 --> 00:55:46,239
Speaker 2: I'll never be part of their family, I'm not invited,

1372
00:55:46,440 --> 00:55:49,279
Speaker 2: and she was tired of pretending like she'd be my

1373
00:55:49,360 --> 00:55:52,000
Speaker 2: mother in law someday. A few hours later, his parents

1374
00:55:52,000 --> 00:55:54,160
Speaker 2: told me what I wrote above. I've always been the

1375
00:55:54,200 --> 00:55:56,040
Speaker 2: best girlfriend that I could be and the best person

1376
00:55:56,080 --> 00:55:57,840
Speaker 2: that I could be. When his mom had surgery and

1377
00:55:57,840 --> 00:56:00,640
Speaker 2: everyone was too busy to stop by except for my boyfriend,

1378
00:56:00,719 --> 00:56:03,399
Speaker 2: I was with her for over twelve hours. I never

1379
00:56:03,640 --> 00:56:06,520
Speaker 2: thought that my relationship would end because my family isn't

1380
00:56:06,560 --> 00:56:09,120
Speaker 2: wealthy and I'm not white. I begged my boyfriend to

1381
00:56:09,120 --> 00:56:11,600
Speaker 2: stay with me, and I am very embarrassed of that now,

1382
00:56:11,640 --> 00:56:13,840
Speaker 2: but I just wanted to know that I did everything

1383
00:56:13,840 --> 00:56:16,120
Speaker 2: that I could to save my relationship. He told me

1384
00:56:16,120 --> 00:56:18,720
Speaker 2: that although he loved me, his parents wouldn't allow us.

1385
00:56:18,600 --> 00:56:19,280
Speaker 3: To be together.

1386
00:56:19,440 --> 00:56:21,320
Speaker 4: Oh your parents, your parents said.

1387
00:56:21,120 --> 00:56:23,040
Speaker 3: You couldn't be with her. I'm sorry, my Oh you

1388
00:56:23,040 --> 00:56:26,279
Speaker 3: went a little baby. My mommy and daddy said be

1389
00:56:26,320 --> 00:56:26,600
Speaker 3: with you.

1390
00:56:27,239 --> 00:56:31,080
Speaker 2: I just feel so betrayed, and I'm starting to hate

1391
00:56:31,080 --> 00:56:33,719
Speaker 2: everything about me. My skin color was the reason I

1392
00:56:33,760 --> 00:56:35,920
Speaker 2: was deemed not worthy of love.

1393
00:56:36,239 --> 00:56:39,239
Speaker 3: No, you should start hating everything about that guy. Yeah,

1394
00:56:39,280 --> 00:56:40,560
Speaker 3: that guy sucks and he's better.

1395
00:56:40,640 --> 00:56:43,839
Speaker 2: Yet nothing this person anymore. Yeah, like, just don't even

1396
00:56:43,880 --> 00:56:47,279
Speaker 2: think about hate energy. Don't even spend a second thinking

1397
00:56:47,280 --> 00:56:47,919
Speaker 2: about this guy.

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00:56:48,080 --> 00:56:48,360
Speaker 6: Uh.

1399
00:56:48,400 --> 00:56:51,319
Speaker 2: Whenever I imagine my ex with someone else loving someone else,

1400
00:56:51,360 --> 00:56:52,080
Speaker 2: it hurts a lot.

1401
00:56:52,200 --> 00:56:54,680
Speaker 3: I don't feel like I'll ever get over him. You will, girl,

1402
00:56:55,040 --> 00:56:55,480
Speaker 3: You will.

1403
00:56:55,880 --> 00:56:56,880
Speaker 4: Don't worry.

1404
00:56:56,960 --> 00:56:58,799
Speaker 2: He called me and told me that he never loved

1405
00:56:58,800 --> 00:57:01,080
Speaker 2: me and that I would be a fool to think otherwise.

1406
00:57:01,400 --> 00:57:03,400
Speaker 4: Why would he be so mean because he sucks.

1407
00:57:03,560 --> 00:57:05,680
Speaker 2: I loved him a lot and it seems like he

1408
00:57:05,800 --> 00:57:08,319
Speaker 2: felt the same, So why would he tell me that

1409
00:57:08,360 --> 00:57:10,200
Speaker 2: he never did. It's like he's trying to make me

1410
00:57:10,280 --> 00:57:12,320
Speaker 2: hurt as much as possible. And there is an update,

1411
00:57:12,360 --> 00:57:16,240
Speaker 2: but we already know. Oh yeah, this man sucks. Come on, dude,

1412
00:57:16,280 --> 00:57:18,200
Speaker 2: obviously you are going to hurt for a little bit

1413
00:57:18,240 --> 00:57:22,200
Speaker 2: because you're losing this two year relationship to people. Right,

1414
00:57:22,680 --> 00:57:25,720
Speaker 2: but you did nothing wrong, nothing at all, literally, nothing wrong.

1415
00:57:25,920 --> 00:57:26,360
Speaker 4: Update.

1416
00:57:26,560 --> 00:57:28,800
Speaker 2: I need to say that the mom is a controlling,

1417
00:57:28,880 --> 00:57:31,920
Speaker 2: manipulative person and she is largely disliked by her family.

1418
00:57:32,040 --> 00:57:34,680
Speaker 2: I wonder why she makes herself out to be a

1419
00:57:34,720 --> 00:57:37,320
Speaker 2: martyr and when one of her children does something that

1420
00:57:37,360 --> 00:57:40,200
Speaker 2: she doesn't like, she goes into a long trod about

1421
00:57:40,280 --> 00:57:43,920
Speaker 2: how they're and breaking a hot Another important fact is

1422
00:57:43,960 --> 00:57:46,360
Speaker 2: that my ex is treated like a saint by his mom.

1423
00:57:46,400 --> 00:57:48,480
Speaker 2: The other siblings are only kind of liked, and the

1424
00:57:48,480 --> 00:57:50,600
Speaker 2: brother that is closest in age to him is merely

1425
00:57:50,640 --> 00:57:53,160
Speaker 2: tolerated by the mom. She sees him as a failure

1426
00:57:53,200 --> 00:57:55,200
Speaker 2: because he didn't go to an ivy, although he still

1427
00:57:55,240 --> 00:57:57,560
Speaker 2: went to a reputable college and he took a year

1428
00:57:57,600 --> 00:57:59,840
Speaker 2: off before starting grad school because he wanted to get

1429
00:57:59,880 --> 00:58:02,360
Speaker 2: his depression under control. This guy's parents suck.

1430
00:58:02,600 --> 00:58:05,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, there's really no other way to put it.

1431
00:58:05,280 --> 00:58:07,800
Speaker 2: His mother even ruined his engagement, which is something that

1432
00:58:07,840 --> 00:58:11,000
Speaker 2: I mentioned somewhere in the comments on the original post. Anyway,

1433
00:58:11,160 --> 00:58:13,400
Speaker 2: the brother calls me and says that he wants to

1434
00:58:13,440 --> 00:58:15,240
Speaker 2: meet up with me for lunch. I think it's a

1435
00:58:15,280 --> 00:58:17,919
Speaker 2: little weird because I've only really spent time with him

1436
00:58:18,000 --> 00:58:20,280
Speaker 2: on double dates with my ex, and who would call

1437
00:58:20,360 --> 00:58:23,400
Speaker 2: their brother's ex girlfriend to meet for lunch. I say

1438
00:58:23,400 --> 00:58:24,840
Speaker 2: that I'll meet anyway because my.

1439
00:58:24,840 --> 00:58:27,320
Speaker 4: Interest is piqued. I arrive at the restaurant and my

1440
00:58:27,400 --> 00:58:28,320
Speaker 4: ex is there.

1441
00:58:28,640 --> 00:58:31,960
Speaker 2: Okay, this was some stupid setup, and I try to

1442
00:58:32,040 --> 00:58:34,160
Speaker 2: leave before they noticed, but I have the worst luck

1443
00:58:34,200 --> 00:58:35,440
Speaker 2: in the world, and the brother.

1444
00:58:35,280 --> 00:58:36,280
Speaker 3: Cheerfully calls me over.

1445
00:58:36,400 --> 00:58:38,280
Speaker 4: Well, my ex just kind of sulks.

1446
00:58:38,520 --> 00:58:40,360
Speaker 2: I don't really want to go into depth, but the

1447
00:58:40,360 --> 00:58:42,720
Speaker 2: brother basically told me how his mother was a witch,

1448
00:58:42,760 --> 00:58:44,800
Speaker 2: and his dad only agreed with her that day because

1449
00:58:44,840 --> 00:58:47,200
Speaker 2: there was no pren up in place. I don't care.

1450
00:58:47,600 --> 00:58:48,840
Speaker 4: I'm sorry.

1451
00:58:48,440 --> 00:58:52,720
Speaker 2: Their excuse for him is the odd I wanted the money.

1452
00:58:52,840 --> 00:58:53,800
Speaker 3: I don't freaking care.

1453
00:58:54,600 --> 00:58:55,040
Speaker 4: Boohoo.

1454
00:58:55,560 --> 00:58:57,800
Speaker 2: Oh, you've always been rich and now you're not gonna

1455
00:58:57,800 --> 00:59:00,360
Speaker 2: have all of the money that the freaking wife can

1456
00:59:00,440 --> 00:59:02,280
Speaker 2: give you unless you agree to her.

1457
00:59:02,760 --> 00:59:03,640
Speaker 4: I don't freaking care.

1458
00:59:03,800 --> 00:59:05,520
Speaker 3: Boohoo, it's just cowardly.

1459
00:59:05,680 --> 00:59:08,480
Speaker 2: I only have listened because he seemed kind of wasted.

1460
00:59:08,560 --> 00:59:11,040
Speaker 2: My ex started to talk and cry and tell me

1461
00:59:11,080 --> 00:59:12,720
Speaker 2: that he loved me, but he didn't know how to

1462
00:59:12,720 --> 00:59:14,600
Speaker 2: disagree with his mom when she spoke to him on

1463
00:59:14,640 --> 00:59:16,160
Speaker 2: the phone. I told him that he should have been

1464
00:59:16,160 --> 00:59:18,720
Speaker 2: man enough to defend me, and he countered by saying, yeah,

1465
00:59:18,720 --> 00:59:19,640
Speaker 2: and I hate her for that.

1466
00:59:19,840 --> 00:59:21,000
Speaker 3: Okay, did did you?

1467
00:59:21,200 --> 00:59:21,720
Speaker 5: Did you?

1468
00:59:21,880 --> 00:59:25,080
Speaker 3: Did you do anything to Nope? To express that.

1469
00:59:25,160 --> 00:59:27,880
Speaker 2: I realized how absurd everything was when the waiter came

1470
00:59:27,920 --> 00:59:29,880
Speaker 2: over and looked at us weird because my ex was

1471
00:59:29,920 --> 00:59:31,840
Speaker 2: begging me to take him back. I was saying that

1472
00:59:31,880 --> 00:59:34,680
Speaker 2: he wasn't mature or masculine enough to be in a relationship,

1473
00:59:34,720 --> 00:59:37,320
Speaker 2: and the brother was saying, oh, I hate that seaword witch.

1474
00:59:37,360 --> 00:59:38,520
Speaker 3: She ruins everything.

1475
00:59:38,720 --> 00:59:42,960
Speaker 2: Oh my god, you don't even they don't even take responsibility.

1476
00:59:43,080 --> 00:59:45,120
Speaker 5: I still can't even do a little baby boy cannot

1477
00:59:45,520 --> 00:59:48,280
Speaker 5: literally can't even be like I should have done something different.

1478
00:59:48,360 --> 00:59:50,800
Speaker 3: It's like no, no, no, my mommy, my mommy, make it,

1479
00:59:50,920 --> 00:59:51,760
Speaker 3: my mommy did it.

1480
00:59:51,840 --> 00:59:53,680
Speaker 2: I told my ex that we were done for good

1481
00:59:53,880 --> 00:59:56,760
Speaker 2: and never to call me again or have his brother

1482
00:59:56,800 --> 00:59:58,840
Speaker 2: call me again. I felt really bad for his brother,

1483
00:59:58,920 --> 01:00:00,520
Speaker 2: and I told him that things would I'll get better

1484
01:00:00,560 --> 01:00:03,440
Speaker 2: and he would find an amazing girl someday. Since then,

1485
01:00:03,560 --> 01:00:07,680
Speaker 2: my exes emailed me constantly, alternating between asking me to

1486
01:00:07,720 --> 01:00:09,520
Speaker 2: marry him, telling me that I used him for his

1487
01:00:09,640 --> 01:00:12,600
Speaker 2: money and I'm a miserable person. It hurts that he

1488
01:00:12,640 --> 01:00:15,040
Speaker 2: would say that, but I don't really feel like investing

1489
01:00:15,080 --> 01:00:17,000
Speaker 2: any more emotions into him.

1490
01:00:17,120 --> 01:00:17,560
Speaker 3: Perfect.

1491
01:00:17,800 --> 01:00:20,520
Speaker 2: I mentioned in the comments that I met a cute guy,

1492
01:00:20,560 --> 01:00:22,680
Speaker 2: and I think that we would become something great. I

1493
01:00:22,720 --> 01:00:24,840
Speaker 2: know that this seems fast, but I already knew him,

1494
01:00:24,840 --> 01:00:26,840
Speaker 2: and we're not serious right now. We're just seeing what

1495
01:00:26,920 --> 01:00:28,560
Speaker 2: could be. He tells me that he thinks that he

1496
01:00:28,600 --> 01:00:30,760
Speaker 2: could fall in love with me someday, and he invited

1497
01:00:30,800 --> 01:00:33,720
Speaker 2: me to his dad's birthday celebration. Depending on how long

1498
01:00:33,760 --> 01:00:36,000
Speaker 2: it's been going on, that's a little bit. That's a

1499
01:00:36,040 --> 01:00:37,560
Speaker 2: little bit fast for him to say that. I mean,

1500
01:00:37,560 --> 01:00:38,920
Speaker 2: I don't know how long it's been going on, but

1501
01:00:39,200 --> 01:00:40,720
Speaker 2: just just keep an eye out with that. I really

1502
01:00:40,800 --> 01:00:42,840
Speaker 2: really didn't want to meet anyone's parents for a very

1503
01:00:42,880 --> 01:00:45,160
Speaker 2: long time. But they were great, and they really liked me.

1504
01:00:45,240 --> 01:00:46,960
Speaker 2: They didn't care about the fact that I'm black, We're

1505
01:00:46,960 --> 01:00:50,840
Speaker 2: not wealthy, yeah, because hopefully they're not. Yes, So they

1506
01:00:50,840 --> 01:00:51,200
Speaker 2: were great.

1507
01:00:51,240 --> 01:00:54,760
Speaker 5: They weren't some classiest It's crazy.

1508
01:00:54,400 --> 01:00:56,960
Speaker 2: Wow, they only care about the fact that their son

1509
01:00:57,120 --> 01:00:58,920
Speaker 2: likes me. And this is going to seem really weird,

1510
01:00:59,000 --> 01:01:01,240
Speaker 2: but I saw his mom being coupons and it made

1511
01:01:01,280 --> 01:01:04,000
Speaker 2: me so happy. My ex didn't even know what coupons were.

1512
01:01:04,080 --> 01:01:06,560
Speaker 2: And then CBS, he once asked what the is a

1513
01:01:06,560 --> 01:01:09,160
Speaker 2: scrap at the end of my receipt. I was so embarrassed.

1514
01:01:09,160 --> 01:01:11,960
Speaker 2: And it was his first and last time at CBS. Anyway,

1515
01:01:12,040 --> 01:01:14,920
Speaker 2: thanks guys, I'm over my exes family drama and I

1516
01:01:15,000 --> 01:01:17,440
Speaker 2: met a working class guy who was incredibly nice.

1517
01:01:18,160 --> 01:01:20,440
Speaker 4: And there is an update. Do you have any thoughts

1518
01:01:21,880 --> 01:01:22,560
Speaker 4: two years?

1519
01:01:22,680 --> 01:01:24,640
Speaker 3: Two years, youre with that family, and like they just

1520
01:01:24,680 --> 01:01:26,600
Speaker 3: started doing this I nowhere, Yeah, the whole time.

1521
01:01:26,640 --> 01:01:30,000
Speaker 2: But that that's why I'm shocked, because you know, usually

1522
01:01:30,160 --> 01:01:34,680
Speaker 2: people who are so outwardly and obviously and confident about

1523
01:01:34,720 --> 01:01:36,080
Speaker 2: the racism, wouldn't.

1524
01:01:36,280 --> 01:01:38,600
Speaker 3: I just don't. I don't understand they like hid that.

1525
01:01:38,920 --> 01:01:41,960
Speaker 2: For two years, right, Like how maybe it was because

1526
01:01:42,040 --> 01:01:46,360
Speaker 2: like once it got like serious to the point they're like, oh, sorry, sorry, girl,

1527
01:01:46,640 --> 01:01:47,680
Speaker 2: you can't you can't be here.

1528
01:01:47,800 --> 01:01:49,240
Speaker 3: Ooh did I hear the word marriage?

1529
01:01:50,000 --> 01:01:54,520
Speaker 2: Yeah? Sorry, you're the wrong color for that makes yeah, terrible, terrible,

1530
01:01:54,640 --> 01:01:55,200
Speaker 2: evil people.

1531
01:01:55,560 --> 01:01:57,520
Speaker 3: I don't even know what to say about what just happened.

1532
01:01:57,840 --> 01:02:00,440
Speaker 2: My ex called me from his house phone, so I

1533
01:02:00,520 --> 01:02:02,920
Speaker 2: only answered because I didn't recognize his house number. He

1534
01:02:03,000 --> 01:02:05,680
Speaker 2: told me something about making mistake and that his life

1535
01:02:05,800 --> 01:02:08,720
Speaker 2: was ruined. I really couldn't understand him, so I asked

1536
01:02:08,800 --> 01:02:10,600
Speaker 2: him if his brother was there, so that I can

1537
01:02:10,680 --> 01:02:13,000
Speaker 2: sort of have a translator. He told me that his

1538
01:02:13,120 --> 01:02:16,160
Speaker 2: brother wasn't there, but his dad was. I really didn't

1539
01:02:16,200 --> 01:02:18,640
Speaker 2: want to speak to his dad at all, but the

1540
01:02:18,720 --> 01:02:21,439
Speaker 2: situation seemed urgent, and I could hear his dad saying

1541
01:02:21,480 --> 01:02:23,160
Speaker 2: love you speak to her. His dad told me that

1542
01:02:23,240 --> 01:02:24,919
Speaker 2: the mom tried to set him up with a girl

1543
01:02:25,000 --> 01:02:26,720
Speaker 2: and it didn't go for well. The girl went on

1544
01:02:26,800 --> 01:02:28,720
Speaker 2: a date with my ex and slept with him. Why

1545
01:02:28,760 --> 01:02:30,960
Speaker 2: are they telling you this? They then had dinner with

1546
01:02:31,040 --> 01:02:34,160
Speaker 2: the family and the mom crap talked me for hours. Dude,

1547
01:02:34,720 --> 01:02:37,920
Speaker 2: trick morning for attack, my ex became fed up and

1548
01:02:38,000 --> 01:02:40,480
Speaker 2: attacked her. I was mortified. He had never shown any

1549
01:02:40,560 --> 01:02:43,800
Speaker 2: kind of tendencies where we were together, and he idolized

1550
01:02:43,800 --> 01:02:45,760
Speaker 2: his mom. She's a woman who can do no wrong

1551
01:02:45,800 --> 01:02:47,880
Speaker 2: in his eyes. I started to cry because I thought

1552
01:02:47,920 --> 01:02:50,360
Speaker 2: that he had basically thrown away his bright future. Our

1553
01:02:50,480 --> 01:02:53,400
Speaker 2: university doesn't tolerate anything of that nature, and I thought

1554
01:02:53,440 --> 01:02:55,760
Speaker 2: that he would be punted out. I wondered why he

1555
01:02:55,840 --> 01:02:58,040
Speaker 2: would do something like this. His dad told me not

1556
01:02:58,120 --> 01:03:00,080
Speaker 2: to worry about it because the mom wasn't going to

1557
01:03:00,120 --> 01:03:02,640
Speaker 2: press charges and the girl wasn't going to tell anyone

1558
01:03:02,760 --> 01:03:04,640
Speaker 2: because they were arranging a marriage for her.

1559
01:03:04,680 --> 01:03:08,720
Speaker 5: In my ex this, yay, Hey, don't worry about it.

1560
01:03:08,760 --> 01:03:10,760
Speaker 5: We're just gonna do the most evil thing you could

1561
01:03:10,800 --> 01:03:11,640
Speaker 5: do in this situation.

1562
01:03:12,040 --> 01:03:16,120
Speaker 2: Get so far away from this man, Get so far away,

1563
01:03:16,320 --> 01:03:19,920
Speaker 2: block him everywhere. This man is a psycho. Get so

1564
01:03:20,240 --> 01:03:24,280
Speaker 2: far away from this family. Yeah, never see them ever again.

1565
01:03:24,600 --> 01:03:27,240
Speaker 2: Get a restraining order, get away from them.

1566
01:03:27,480 --> 01:03:27,680
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1567
01:03:27,800 --> 01:03:29,920
Speaker 2: They were on one date and it hurts because I

1568
01:03:29,960 --> 01:03:31,360
Speaker 2: still love him, but I know that I have to

1569
01:03:31,440 --> 01:03:33,480
Speaker 2: move on. There's more, but I'm just I can't even

1570
01:03:33,520 --> 01:03:35,200
Speaker 2: describe my emotional state right now.

1571
01:03:35,360 --> 01:03:37,720
Speaker 4: I am in shock. He attacked his mom and he's

1572
01:03:37,760 --> 01:03:38,440
Speaker 4: getting married.

1573
01:03:38,600 --> 01:03:39,360
Speaker 3: His dad also.

1574
01:03:39,240 --> 01:03:41,320
Speaker 2: Apologized to me and said that yes, I was good

1575
01:03:41,320 --> 01:03:44,240
Speaker 2: to his son, but sometimes love isn't enough. He said

1576
01:03:44,280 --> 01:03:46,040
Speaker 2: that it's not up to him, and it's not up

1577
01:03:46,080 --> 01:03:48,440
Speaker 2: to my ex either, meaning who my ex can date.

1578
01:03:48,680 --> 01:03:50,400
Speaker 2: You told me that one day my ex will have

1579
01:03:50,440 --> 01:03:52,680
Speaker 2: a son who wants to date a girl who isn't white,

1580
01:03:52,840 --> 01:03:55,080
Speaker 2: and my ex will break them up because he wasn't

1581
01:03:55,080 --> 01:03:56,840
Speaker 2: allowed to do it, and it wouldn't be fair for

1582
01:03:56,960 --> 01:03:59,000
Speaker 2: his son to do what he couldn't do. It seemed

1583
01:03:59,040 --> 01:04:00,560
Speaker 2: like he was trying to say that he loved someone

1584
01:04:00,600 --> 01:04:02,520
Speaker 2: who wasn't white, but he wasn't allowed to continue.

1585
01:04:02,680 --> 01:04:05,160
Speaker 3: This is literally like the joke he made earlier about

1586
01:04:05,160 --> 01:04:06,040
Speaker 3: the invisil lines.

1587
01:04:06,480 --> 01:04:09,320
Speaker 5: Yeah, where it's like, well, I had terrible braces that

1588
01:04:09,440 --> 01:04:11,480
Speaker 5: cut up my mouth and hurt, so I'm not gonna

1589
01:04:11,520 --> 01:04:13,400
Speaker 5: let my kid have the ones that don't do that.

1590
01:04:13,920 --> 01:04:15,960
Speaker 3: I'm gonna make them have the ones that I had.

1591
01:04:16,240 --> 01:04:16,360
Speaker 5: Uh.

1592
01:04:16,520 --> 01:04:18,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, Like I said, there's more, but that's all that

1593
01:04:18,680 --> 01:04:19,479
Speaker 3: I feel like saying.

1594
01:04:19,640 --> 01:04:20,760
Speaker 4: I'm kind of numb right now.

1595
01:04:20,960 --> 01:04:22,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, but you know what, We'll.

1596
01:04:22,400 --> 01:04:24,880
Speaker 2: Bring you back to life listening to full episodes of

1597
01:04:24,920 --> 01:04:27,760
Speaker 2: stories just like this. Just go to Spotify, Apple Podcasts,

1598
01:04:27,840 --> 01:04:30,160
Speaker 2: or iHeartRadio and search up okay, storytime.

1599
01:04:30,880 --> 01:04:33,000
Speaker 4: Yeah, like literally never talk to these people ever again.

1600
01:04:33,040 --> 01:04:35,800
Speaker 3: They're crazy. Yeah, one hundred percent, like like like run

1601
01:04:35,880 --> 01:04:37,480
Speaker 3: in the opposite direction. I don't know.

1602
01:04:37,720 --> 01:04:41,560
Speaker 5: Yeah, move would police report as like a concerned synonymous citizens?

1603
01:04:41,640 --> 01:04:46,000
Speaker 4: I mean they told you, they told you something illegal? Yeah, edit, Okay,

1604
01:04:46,240 --> 01:04:46,959
Speaker 4: I'm not a troll.

1605
01:04:47,080 --> 01:04:49,840
Speaker 2: His family's always done crazy things, and I'm shocked that

1606
01:04:49,920 --> 01:04:51,720
Speaker 2: it went this far. It's pretty funny that one of

1607
01:04:51,760 --> 01:04:53,640
Speaker 2: the people calling me a troll was the same guy

1608
01:04:53,680 --> 01:04:56,360
Speaker 2: who chastised me for not taking my ex back. Yeah.

1609
01:04:56,440 --> 01:04:57,400
Speaker 4: I could have lied to.

1610
01:04:57,440 --> 01:04:59,760
Speaker 2: Make the story seem more believable, but I wanted to

1611
01:04:59,800 --> 01:05:02,200
Speaker 2: be honest to get great feedback even if the truth

1612
01:05:02,320 --> 01:05:04,720
Speaker 2: seems unbelievable. You don't have to believe me, but don't

1613
01:05:04,720 --> 01:05:06,600
Speaker 2: insult me either. If you can find me a book

1614
01:05:06,640 --> 01:05:09,040
Speaker 2: on how much deviation from the norm is allowed in.

1615
01:05:09,080 --> 01:05:10,480
Speaker 4: Reality, I'd like to read it.

1616
01:05:10,760 --> 01:05:12,640
Speaker 3: And that is the end of that story.

1617
01:05:13,000 --> 01:05:18,960
Speaker 4: Wow wowie wow esh yikes yausers stay stays so far

1618
01:05:19,040 --> 01:05:19,800
Speaker 4: away from that family.

1619
01:05:20,320 --> 01:05:22,360
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean so far away from that family.

1620
01:05:22,240 --> 01:05:25,440
Speaker 5: Dude, Like, uh, it's not everyone, but it's like I

1621
01:05:25,600 --> 01:05:30,280
Speaker 5: feel like there's a special kind of like absurd craziness

1622
01:05:30,440 --> 01:05:33,160
Speaker 5: for people in like that very top tax bracket.

1623
01:05:33,240 --> 01:05:35,360
Speaker 4: Well you're talking about the arm and hammer and stuff, right.

1624
01:05:35,400 --> 01:05:38,320
Speaker 5: Yeah, it's just the principle that like, once you've gained

1625
01:05:38,360 --> 01:05:39,600
Speaker 5: a certain whatever.

1626
01:05:39,560 --> 01:05:41,960
Speaker 2: You want to do whatever datus and no one's going

1627
01:05:42,000 --> 01:05:43,880
Speaker 2: to do anything because you can just get money on it.

1628
01:05:44,000 --> 01:05:45,480
Speaker 3: And you're just like what else, what do I need

1629
01:05:45,520 --> 01:05:46,320
Speaker 3: to fulfill myself?

1630
01:05:46,360 --> 01:05:49,280
Speaker 5: And you're like, ooh, strife, yes, and maybe I can

1631
01:05:49,360 --> 01:05:51,640
Speaker 5: control we'll create perfect babies.

1632
01:05:51,680 --> 01:05:52,360
Speaker 3: That's that's what it is.

1633
01:05:52,440 --> 01:05:53,919
Speaker 5: We have all the money, we have all the land,

1634
01:05:54,080 --> 01:05:56,600
Speaker 5: we have a family. Everything's great. But now I want

1635
01:05:56,640 --> 01:05:59,760
Speaker 5: to hone in on trying to like build what is that?

1636
01:06:00,280 --> 01:06:00,600
Speaker 5: What is that?

1637
01:06:00,760 --> 01:06:01,960
Speaker 3: Wh eugenics?

1638
01:06:02,000 --> 01:06:04,840
Speaker 2: I was about to say, I was like egenics, yep,

1639
01:06:05,000 --> 01:06:07,680
Speaker 2: that's yes, yep, But that is the end of that

1640
01:06:08,040 --> 01:06:10,880
Speaker 2: story and the end of this episode. So if you

1641
01:06:11,040 --> 01:06:12,680
Speaker 2: love us, make sure you subscribe.

1642
01:06:12,920 --> 01:06:14,960
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