WEBVTT - You've Got Decisons: He's an Inmate..I'm a CO..HELP! (Ft. Deante)

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<v Speaker 1>Before we get into today's episode, we've got to celebrate

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<v Speaker 1>the Black Effect Podcast network. It's turning five, five years

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<v Speaker 1>of powerful voices, unforgettable moments, and a community that keeps growing.

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<v Speaker 1>This is the power of the platform. Now let's get

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<v Speaker 1>into it. That's a stressed over, not a finger, not

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<v Speaker 1>a tongue, not a deal though he just wanted a

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<v Speaker 1>little chili pepper in his ass.

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<v Speaker 2>But it doesn't mean that I'm necessarily gonna You are

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<v Speaker 2>definitely not someone that I'm going to be in a

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<v Speaker 2>relationship with.

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<v Speaker 1>Wait a second, usual a lot. Wait can we talk

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<v Speaker 1>about that? Can we talk about then? Is there because

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<v Speaker 1>people ask me that about pegging, Like, wait, you would

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<v Speaker 1>be with a guy that lets you do that? I'm like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>that would be nice. There's certain kinks that if a

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<v Speaker 1>man brings up makes him ineligible to be a partner

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<v Speaker 1>to be with me?

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<v Speaker 2>Why, Like, what what are some I'm not I'm not

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<v Speaker 2>being with someone that I'm fucking a mask. I'm just

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<v Speaker 2>not okay, same, I'm not I think one king for me,

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<v Speaker 2>which is probably really strange for others. But I wouldn't

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<v Speaker 2>be with someone who like I don't know what the

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<v Speaker 2>name of it is. But the ones that want to

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<v Speaker 2>be in like diapers and be on the floor. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>not I couldn't know, Okay, hard enough, I'm not that,

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<v Speaker 2>but I wouldn't be in a relationship with somebody like that.

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<v Speaker 1>And this is gonna be y'all, y'all, you know, I

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<v Speaker 1>could probably do that. I could, like, depending on the

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<v Speaker 1>drunk night, like how many shrews, how many Whatever I

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<v Speaker 1>could do I could do. I could do like I

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<v Speaker 1>could do like scat play, pissing hagan all that I

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<v Speaker 1>think for me, you know, we're not gonna get you

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<v Speaker 1>know what. You know, my line would draws draw at

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<v Speaker 1>cross dressing. I don't think I could be with because

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<v Speaker 1>I like masculinity so much with men. I don't think

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<v Speaker 1>I could be with a man who wants to put

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<v Speaker 1>on fish nets and thongs and dresses. I couldn't do that,

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<v Speaker 1>Like I think that that would actually make me unattract It's.

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<v Speaker 2>Just so funny how like people create, like where everyone's

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<v Speaker 2>boundary is.

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<v Speaker 1>You're like, he can shoot on me, but he can

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<v Speaker 1>He's like, I'm just.

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<v Speaker 2>Saying, us as humans, we we rationalize what is okay

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<v Speaker 2>to us and acceptable to us, and then the other

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<v Speaker 2>things are like hard stuff.

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<v Speaker 1>I was just saying, it's the same thing, right, it's

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<v Speaker 1>like what we're into even physically, No, like it's we're

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<v Speaker 1>willing to do sexually. It's the same concept.

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<v Speaker 2>But it's just so funny how everybody has these different

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<v Speaker 2>boundaries and it's like, oh, no.

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<v Speaker 1>I wouldn't ye turned off. I think that's when you

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<v Speaker 1>get into like what turns you on and what turns

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<v Speaker 1>you off. Yeah, like the diaper on the floor and

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<v Speaker 1>you have oh, you know, straight race, straight pussy pussy,

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<v Speaker 1>just not Lincoln. And I think that's what how I

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<v Speaker 1>feel about a man wanting to dress up as a woman,

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<v Speaker 1>like wearing a wig. None of that makes no, which

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<v Speaker 1>is crazy because I like very attractive men, like they'd

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<v Speaker 1>be pretty. I like pretty niggas. Like I said pretty.

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<v Speaker 1>I'll call him pretty because it's funny. I sent her this.

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<v Speaker 1>Nigga started liking my my Instagram yesterday. Fine, I sent

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<v Speaker 1>her her first thought, Yep, that's your type, like because

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<v Speaker 1>it's so different, but I like, I like a little

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<v Speaker 1>pretty nigga. Oh, by the way, we're out the DMS.

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<v Speaker 1>He didn't ask for my number. Moving fast here, moving fast,

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<v Speaker 1>I like moving fast. I like them you want, go

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<v Speaker 1>for it. Y'all ain't gonna thinking fast. All right, let's

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<v Speaker 1>get into our vanilla ship. Vanilla ship, y'all know, is

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<v Speaker 1>our sex and the news and y'all the way. I

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<v Speaker 1>might need an eye roll count from y'all. I know

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<v Speaker 1>this is gonna pissy y'all off. So gen Z's latest obsession.

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<v Speaker 1>They are now coming out as gray sexual?

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<v Speaker 3>What is?

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<v Speaker 1>What does it mean? And how are they discovering? They're great?

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<v Speaker 1>Let's get into it. They're not gay, They're gray. A

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<v Speaker 1>surprising number of people are choosing to identify now as

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<v Speaker 1>grace sexual, with many now sharing the moment they realized

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<v Speaker 1>when they were gray. Gray sexuality exists in what many

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<v Speaker 1>describe as a gray area between alo sexual, which is

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<v Speaker 1>experiencing regular sexual attraction, and asexual experiencing none. Those who

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<v Speaker 1>identify as grace sexual may feel sexual attraction rarely, inconsistently,

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<v Speaker 1>or only under specific circumstances. There's a growing community of

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<v Speaker 1>over currently eighty three hundred members that are talking about

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<v Speaker 1>them experiencing this, and I don't the size they can

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<v Speaker 1>hear y'all. The micro oh a that one one user

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<v Speaker 1>posted and explained that they had spent much of their life,

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<v Speaker 1>assuming they were just a late bloomer, saying that crushes

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<v Speaker 1>came decades apart, rarely lasted long, and they often didn't

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<v Speaker 1>feel sexual attraction, even to their own boyfriend. Another person says,

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<v Speaker 1>grace sexual is not I just don't fancy it tonight.

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<v Speaker 1>For me, it's being completely devoid of sexual desires and

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<v Speaker 1>bouts which can last months, and then one day waking

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<v Speaker 1>up and realizing they have the instinct that it returned

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<v Speaker 1>that they want to fuck. And so it's like I

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<v Speaker 1>guess an up and down ebb and flow of having

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<v Speaker 1>even the desire to have sex and not feeling the

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<v Speaker 1>desire at all in any capacity. And see, now you

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<v Speaker 1>may think you grey sexual bitch.

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<v Speaker 2>Sometimes I want to suck all the time. Sometimes I don't.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I think.

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<v Speaker 2>They're just trying to throw names on it. They just

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<v Speaker 2>trying to classify everything.

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<v Speaker 3>You're not here.

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<v Speaker 1>You gotta hear and hear like it's just like I

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<v Speaker 1>think it's normal. I don't.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think every individual wants to fuck every day

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<v Speaker 2>all day. I think here a lot of people, but

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<v Speaker 2>I do massing hey with not having sex, that's how

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<v Speaker 2>I go to sleep. We not the judgment but to me,

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<v Speaker 2>that's some level of sex. Masturbation is still a sexual

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<v Speaker 2>desire or for me to just come in that way

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<v Speaker 2>or release in that way. Or do you think that

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<v Speaker 2>maybe you just got accustomed to it for so long

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<v Speaker 2>that it.

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<v Speaker 1>Could just be a habit, It could be a it

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<v Speaker 1>could just be a happy very much. So it's funny

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<v Speaker 1>because I brought this up knowing that you were going

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<v Speaker 1>to come on the mic because you be so I'm

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<v Speaker 1>gonna call you, I asked. Okay, she's my friend that

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<v Speaker 1>hates all all the terms of everything. She just don't

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<v Speaker 1>like language expounding sometimes because she's from Florida too, So

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<v Speaker 1>I think she just wanted to keep it like, bitch,

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<v Speaker 1>you're either gay or you're straight. There's nothing ship. Oh

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<v Speaker 1>you too?

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<v Speaker 3>What are we doing? I can't keep up and I'm

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<v Speaker 3>not I can't keep you?

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<v Speaker 4>Said you not?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay? So how do y'all like that?

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<v Speaker 3>I can't remember all this?

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<v Speaker 1>You just identify as straight? How do you identify.

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<v Speaker 2>Bitch?

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<v Speaker 3>But I'm not.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't feel like I'm bisexual just because I will

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<v Speaker 2>have sex with a woman every now. Oh you catch

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<v Speaker 2>me on a good night baby, you might come home

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<v Speaker 2>but or not.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, absolutely not okay, absolutely.

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<v Speaker 1>So question look the script, because love that you identify

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<v Speaker 1>a straight but may eat some couchie. So do you

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<v Speaker 1>would you allow a man to identify a straight but

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<v Speaker 1>sometimes it'll set some dick and would you be fine

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<v Speaker 1>with that?

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<v Speaker 4>No?

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<v Speaker 1>No, this artis tive care.

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<v Speaker 2>She'll come in my room with a chef on on

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<v Speaker 2>and be liked, be so excited, and I'd be like,

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<v Speaker 2>you know he's gay, right he is not. Just because

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<v Speaker 2>he might like a little ass play does not mean

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<v Speaker 2>he's gay.

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<v Speaker 1>Well what does it mean? It means he's he could

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<v Speaker 1>be bisexual some girl. No, it means like this asshole

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<v Speaker 1>stimulated the same way y'all will put it pepper in

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<v Speaker 1>an ass, now you judges? If I want to put

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<v Speaker 1>a dial though pepper and the ass is a sensation?

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<v Speaker 1>If that's not they're getting milk. No, milking is a thing.

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<v Speaker 1>They get their prostate milk. There's a sensation there when

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<v Speaker 1>anything goes into a man's ass. But they're doing it

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<v Speaker 1>for the burning. That's why they're further milking of the prostate.

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<v Speaker 1>And it has to be touched to be milked.

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<v Speaker 2>Are they getting penetrated with the ginger or do they

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<v Speaker 2>just place the ginger in, so now you're getting is

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<v Speaker 2>going in the ass, but it's it's hot things, so

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<v Speaker 2>it gives it.

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<v Speaker 3>It's like then peppermint shampoo.

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<v Speaker 1>It makes your your scalp tingles make I can make

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<v Speaker 1>the dildo hot with the with the hot and cold loo.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just saying it.

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<v Speaker 2>Could bring the face penetration makes that's a whole different

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<v Speaker 2>that's the whole different world.

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<v Speaker 1>Fine, okay, all right. Anyways, the war Dirve I want

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<v Speaker 1>to do differently because I want us to share stories

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<v Speaker 1>and I let y'all know what stories y'all got to

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<v Speaker 1>bring to the pod. But with it are her derve.

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<v Speaker 1>We give tips. So within the story time, I want

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<v Speaker 1>you to give a tip to the audience. So like

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<v Speaker 1>all start off first. So for me, I and the

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<v Speaker 1>tips are going to be around dating and whole trips.

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<v Speaker 1>That's the whole Dirk. So I'll start off with my

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<v Speaker 1>story so y'all can see how it goes. I'll make

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<v Speaker 1>it quick. My tip is if you are invited on

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<v Speaker 1>a whole trip, or if you are set to delegate

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<v Speaker 1>a whole trip, to draw everything out before you get there.

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<v Speaker 1>By that are you getting paid? Ask what the money

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<v Speaker 1>or the raid is out the gate. It's also important

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<v Speaker 1>to ask how many men are going to be there

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<v Speaker 1>and how many women are going to be there, because

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<v Speaker 1>if there's more women than men, you may get off

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<v Speaker 1>skate for you and not have to do anything on

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<v Speaker 1>the trip. Now, why say you need to know the

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<v Speaker 1>ratio is because unfortunately the men on the trip are

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<v Speaker 1>going to expect to be with women on the trip.

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<v Speaker 1>And so say you're on a trip with the main

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<v Speaker 1>boss guy who's paying for everything, not all the girls

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<v Speaker 1>are going to get to go with him, however, unless

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<v Speaker 1>And now here's You've Got Decisions.

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<v Speaker 5>If you would like to have us answer your questions.

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<v Speaker 5>If you have a terrible job, a terrible boyfriend, or

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<v Speaker 5>a terrible throatfull guess what you've got decisions.

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<v Speaker 1>Hey guys, welcome see you got decisions and you do,

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<v Speaker 1>Pul says, So even though you might make the ball

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<v Speaker 1>on what welcome back. It's another hunt day and we

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<v Speaker 1>are joined by Dionce from the Grips and Eggs podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>He here to also help us, help y'all because y'all

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<v Speaker 1>be having some motherfucking issue. We are very tiny asking

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<v Speaker 1>us about he got two baby mamas, and yeah, he's married.

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<v Speaker 3>But I just feel like you have a connection, bitch.

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<v Speaker 6>Said, he's an habitually incarcerated man like girl.

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<v Speaker 3>But I know that good.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not.

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<v Speaker 4>Freedom, but not for freedom is crazy.

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<v Speaker 1>But also here's here's the way. Whether it's your friends,

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<v Speaker 1>whether it's your mama, whether it's your sister, whether it's

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<v Speaker 1>your brother. At this point, when people send in questions

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<v Speaker 1>asking for advice, you already know the answer. You just

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<v Speaker 1>want to be told about.

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<v Speaker 3>You want to argue. We got time. If you can

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<v Speaker 3>pull up one of yours, that'd be funny. I want

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<v Speaker 3>their inmate ship.

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<v Speaker 1>I want to well this one, this one, We're gonna

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<v Speaker 1>get right into it because it is a little long,

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<v Speaker 1>but it's t all right, so let's get into it.

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<v Speaker 1>He's an inmate. I'm a CEO. Help Hey b and

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<v Speaker 1>dey Weezy. I love the show. It's literally changed my life.

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<v Speaker 1>I've been a patron and faithful weekly listener for the

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<v Speaker 1>past two years. This is a bit long, but please help,

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<v Speaker 1>so stay with me here. I see both of y'all

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<v Speaker 1>on your phones. But okay, it's okay. It's okay only

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<v Speaker 1>because it is a little long. But I'm gonna make

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<v Speaker 1>sure I pick out the details here. So I'm a

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<v Speaker 1>COO and I work in a jail. I met this inmate,

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<v Speaker 1>and from the first time I saw him, I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>damn this nigga finest book. Bitch you in jail? Hold on,

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<v Speaker 1>is he working in jail?

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<v Speaker 3>You'd be pointing out five.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, okay, you can point out finding because but

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<v Speaker 1>you're not supposed to like feel anything. Just come all on,

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<v Speaker 1>she said, She said jail. She didn't say prison. So

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<v Speaker 1>it's given rikers, okay, her keeps out it's given local,

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<v Speaker 1>give it local. Okay.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm gonna wrap up on even better made us.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay. I know that it is one very illegal and

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<v Speaker 1>two very unethical to ever even consider getting involved with

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<v Speaker 1>an inmate ung on contact. I'm a twenty nine, black female,

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<v Speaker 1>single and he just turned forty while he was in jail.

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<v Speaker 1>Black male. He was in jail for a couple months,

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<v Speaker 1>and the whole time, I didn't break any laws or

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<v Speaker 1>seek it in the room like I really wanted to,

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<v Speaker 1>but we definitely would make eyes at each other, and

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<v Speaker 1>I would go out of my way to go to

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<v Speaker 1>the pod he was in, not the podcast the whole time.

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<v Speaker 1>The whole time, he was telling me to give him

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<v Speaker 1>my phone number and my first name, and I refused

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<v Speaker 1>because hell, I need my job. I got bills right

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<v Speaker 1>before he went to court, where he was pretty sure

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<v Speaker 1>he was going to get out. I finally slipped my

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<v Speaker 1>I finally slipped in my name and phone number and

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<v Speaker 1>lo and behold. Maybe an hour after he got released,

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<v Speaker 1>he hit me on Facebook that dawn hour, bitch. That day,

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<v Speaker 1>I got off work and called him and he told

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<v Speaker 1>me to come see him. So I took off my

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<v Speaker 1>uniform shirt and drove a to the address he sent me. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>please remember when I said before you could keep reading

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<v Speaker 1>this loo this man is fine as fuck. He gets

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<v Speaker 1>in my car with his backpack, it says, where are

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<v Speaker 1>we going? I told him I would come see him.

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<v Speaker 1>But I never said anything about taking him anywhere with me.

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<v Speaker 1>While he was in jail. I would ask him what

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<v Speaker 1>he was gonna do or where he was gonna go

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<v Speaker 1>when he got out, and he said he would be

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<v Speaker 1>going to the largest city that's about an hour from us,

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<v Speaker 1>because that's where he lived. I know that he lost

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<v Speaker 1>his apartment and his job because he was in jail,

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<v Speaker 1>But I guess I was just slow and didn't realize

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<v Speaker 1>that he probably wouldn't have a place to stay when

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<v Speaker 1>he got out. I knew not to take him to

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<v Speaker 1>my house because although he's fine, he also just got

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<v Speaker 1>out of jail, and I really didn't know him like that.

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<v Speaker 1>So I just got a room and I went there

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<v Speaker 1>with him. Oh did I mention that he was in

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<v Speaker 1>jail for domestic violence? The size of bitch and in jail,

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<v Speaker 1>bro Jaan was bad. That means like Julius was breath.

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<v Speaker 1>He ain't doing look grip. No, that was bad, but bro,

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<v Speaker 1>but he was only in there for four months. It

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<v Speaker 1>just happened. Okay, here we go, here we go, and

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<v Speaker 1>this is where yours came in. Was in jail, in prison,

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<v Speaker 1>but considering he didn't get any serious prison time, I

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<v Speaker 1>hate to say this, but it wasn't that bad quote unquote.

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<v Speaker 1>While he was in jail. I read over all his

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<v Speaker 1>police reports and looked at the evidence, and you have

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<v Speaker 1>to say that it seems like all of no, this

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<v Speaker 1>is the but you know what's crazy. This is what

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<v Speaker 1>women do when they're with niggas. They know bullshit.

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<v Speaker 3>I need She ain't saying one. We need it?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, So here, let's go into the police reports, because

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<v Speaker 1>this is the good ship. I read over the police

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<v Speaker 1>reports and looked at the evidence, and I do have

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<v Speaker 1>to say that it seemed like his ex got mad

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<v Speaker 1>because he said he didn't want to be with her anymore,

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<v Speaker 1>and she set him up.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh you sound like.

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<v Speaker 1>She stole a bitch hold on a few thousand dollars

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<v Speaker 1>from him, and when he confronted her about it, she

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<v Speaker 1>said she wasn't giving it back and it started pushing

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<v Speaker 1>past him. So he pushed her back, and when he

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<v Speaker 1>did that, she ran to the car and called the cops.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm not giving.

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<v Speaker 1>He went outside after her, telling her to give him

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<v Speaker 1>his money back, and then she ran him over with

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<v Speaker 1>her car. Were we just talking about bitches running us

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<v Speaker 1>over with car?

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<v Speaker 3>Hold on?

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<v Speaker 1>When he first got to jail. He was taken to

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<v Speaker 1>the hospital because of his interest injuries. He was all

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<v Speaker 1>banged up and scraped up all over the place. She

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<v Speaker 1>didn't have any visible marks on her, but still he

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<v Speaker 1>got sent to jail. So the situation is a little question.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know if I believe this all the way.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, here we go with her asking the questions. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>so back to it. We spent the night together. I

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<v Speaker 1>was fresh off of a twelve hour shift, so sweaty

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<v Speaker 1>and gross, but he didn't care. He pulled me close

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<v Speaker 1>to him and then on top of him. And when

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<v Speaker 1>I tell you, he had the best sex and the

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<v Speaker 1>best experience of my life. I still have flashbacks. Imagine,

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<v Speaker 1>fresh out of jail, haven't had none of a couple months, dick, mind.

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<v Speaker 4>Blowing there, dirty fucking I mean, she's maybe.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe they took a shower the hotel the next day,

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<v Speaker 1>she said no. The next day, I had to go

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<v Speaker 1>to work at five am, so I left. He sent

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<v Speaker 1>a message saying saying after I got off or he

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<v Speaker 1>needed me to take him to another city. I was

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<v Speaker 1>questioning myself a little bit, like what the hell did

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<v Speaker 1>I get myself into? And I honestly didn't want to

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<v Speaker 1>be in a car with him for an hour to

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<v Speaker 1>another city. I know nothing about this man, but you

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<v Speaker 1>don't sh this is out women think stop it not

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<v Speaker 1>even you bet she fucked right.

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<v Speaker 3>Hold on.

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<v Speaker 1>Even worse, she didn't want to drive an hour to

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<v Speaker 1>another city with him, she says, but I sent him

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<v Speaker 1>money to take an uber.

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<v Speaker 3>Here we go. I don't think this is really.

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<v Speaker 1>Now. This is how bitch just be moving.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't want to turn people turch out.

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<v Speaker 1>Even though the sex was mind blowing. I told myself,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm tripping. I need to stop. So I didn't reach

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<v Speaker 1>back out to him, but he didn't stop reaching out

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<v Speaker 1>to me. Finally, I answered my phone after about three days,

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<v Speaker 1>he got it go three hours. Hold On, no, this

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<v Speaker 1>is really happendent. Hold on, he said, hold on, hold on.

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<v Speaker 5>Like this.

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<v Speaker 1>No, he's a hobosexual. He needs somewhere to live. That's

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<v Speaker 1>why he's hit her. She in her mind is like,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know this nigga. I don't trust so I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not gonna be in a car in for an hour.

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<v Speaker 1>But you could give a nigga some pussy that you

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<v Speaker 1>don't know, But to be in a car with the

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<v Speaker 1>for an hours a little longer. Okay, hold on dangerous car,

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<v Speaker 1>nigga see me when I said he, I mean maybe.

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<v Speaker 1>Finally I answered my phone after about three days, and

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<v Speaker 1>he said that he made it to the other city

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<v Speaker 1>and he got into a program that helps people that

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<v Speaker 1>are transitioning out of jail. He said he had friends

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<v Speaker 1>and family that were willing to help him, but he's

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<v Speaker 1>a man and he needs to stand on his own

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<v Speaker 1>feet and didn't want to take anything from anybody, which

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<v Speaker 1>is why he chose to go to the program instead

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<v Speaker 1>of staying with someone. So he has a place to stay.

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<v Speaker 1>He has a job that he would be starting that

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<v Speaker 1>following Monday. He told me that he was really feeling me.

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<v Speaker 1>He knew that he was in a fucked up position

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<v Speaker 1>right then, but give him some time and he would

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<v Speaker 1>shake back. He thanked me for getting the room and

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<v Speaker 1>get in the uber, and he said he would not

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<v Speaker 1>ask me for anything else but time to get himself together.

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<v Speaker 1>That's forward about three weeks and we're still talking almost

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<v Speaker 1>every day.

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<v Speaker 3>Also, don't have anything when you get back. Needs a

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<v Speaker 3>lot of money. Four months if someone can steal thousands

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<v Speaker 3>four months.

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<v Speaker 1>For a lot of somebody who lost their apartment who

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<v Speaker 1>may not be able to now get a place because

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<v Speaker 1>they ain't got no pay stuff. I don't think he's

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<v Speaker 1>a nigga with that much motion.

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<v Speaker 3>Does he have that much money to steal?

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, to have two thousand dollars to steal? Maybe

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<v Speaker 1>he maybe it was income tax time, bitch, Maybe he

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<v Speaker 1>had some kids to claim, Like there's one niggas come

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<v Speaker 1>up off of a couple thousand dollars, Like he's a

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<v Speaker 1>terrible four months it's possible. Well let's see, who ain't

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<v Speaker 1>got nowhere to go after four months? Unless a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of people don't. I mean, I mean maybe bitches.

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<v Speaker 4>Maybe I st talking about like he fine, he got

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<v Speaker 4>great sis.

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<v Speaker 5>Now he got some.

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<v Speaker 1>I agree that he told.

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<v Speaker 4>Him like I got to figure out so he can

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<v Speaker 4>go knock off off.

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<v Speaker 1>Like, well, let's see. He texts me as soon as

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<v Speaker 1>he wakes up in the morning, and then face times

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<v Speaker 1>me every evening as soon as he gets off and

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<v Speaker 1>we talk for hours. Not only is this man physically attractive,

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<v Speaker 1>he is also mentally stimulate. The more we talk about

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<v Speaker 1>his life and what he had accomplished before the situation happened,

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<v Speaker 1>I think I'm falling for him. He is such a sweetheart.

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<v Speaker 1>He talks to me so nice. He does never bring

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<v Speaker 1>up anything unless I do, and he keeps telling me

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<v Speaker 1>that I don't have to put my life on hold,

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<v Speaker 1>but I give him a chance, he would add so

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<v Speaker 1>much happiness and enjoy it to my life. He's still

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<v Speaker 1>in the program, working and he has a solid six

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<v Speaker 1>month plan to save some money by car and move

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<v Speaker 1>out back into his own place. The program is very strict,

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<v Speaker 1>so they have specific visitation hours in a big visitation room,

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<v Speaker 1>so sex is completely out of the question. But I

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<v Speaker 1>still drove out last week and to see him. As

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<v Speaker 1>soon as I sat down, he put my feet in

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<v Speaker 1>the slap and started rubbing them and him we're right

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<v Speaker 1>at the end. We sat and talked and laughed like

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<v Speaker 1>crazy for three hours. We talked about our lives, how

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<v Speaker 1>we raised our how we were raised, our past, and

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<v Speaker 1>where we want to go in the future. It's absolutely amazing.

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<v Speaker 1>We still talk and tech still talking text every day.

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<v Speaker 1>And he tells me that me being open to talk

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<v Speaker 1>to him while he's down is what's making him uh,

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<v Speaker 1>is what's going to make him give me the world

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<v Speaker 1>once he gets back on his feet. He just needs time.

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<v Speaker 1>Niggas do be lying, but he's also showing that he's

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<v Speaker 1>striving to get better, honest speak, do better.

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<v Speaker 3>Here we go.

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<v Speaker 1>He's also very clear and direct about what he wants

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<v Speaker 1>with me and with us once he gets quote unquote

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<v Speaker 1>back up. Here's her question. My question is, no, you

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<v Speaker 1>do you think it's worth pursuing something with him already?

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<v Speaker 1>Mary go Marry?

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<v Speaker 3>Do you think.

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<v Speaker 1>It's only been to come? That was a question. Do

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<v Speaker 1>you think it's worth pursuing something with him? Or am

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<v Speaker 1>I making a very dumb decision?

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<v Speaker 4>You're already pursuing it? So what are your worth?

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<v Speaker 1>Real quick? You know what, Craby?

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<v Speaker 5>Not?

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<v Speaker 1>Here is my thing? Real question? Take it off of

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<v Speaker 1>this bitch. Now he starts eating your ass. Bitch, here's

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<v Speaker 1>my thing?

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<v Speaker 4>Like, how are we getting over to the domestic violence?

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<v Speaker 1>Domestic violence? But here's my thing?

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<v Speaker 4>That's some ship like you just can't over look.

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<v Speaker 1>You didn't really Okay? First off, she read the case.

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<v Speaker 1>She made this questionable. She thinks it's questionable.

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<v Speaker 3>What out a reasonable doubt?

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<v Speaker 1>She said, there's a reasonable asked for her, She said,

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<v Speaker 1>there is a reasonable doubt that he committed this domestic

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<v Speaker 1>but she is reasonable doubt.

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<v Speaker 4>Hold on, Hold on, Hold, hold, the funk. You don't

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<v Speaker 4>go to a program after you get out the county.

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<v Speaker 4>If you didn't, he's convened. That's prison.

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<v Speaker 1>She lied up, She said, yeah, do you know how,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 3>Let me look at her.

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<v Speaker 4>Many president, I'm not trying to break.

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<v Speaker 2>You.

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<v Speaker 5>Don't.

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<v Speaker 4>You don't. You don't get into a proud unless you

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<v Speaker 4>get convicted.

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<v Speaker 1>Convicted. Oh, he's convicted, he's completed.

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<v Speaker 4>He in a halfway house. That is, you don't get

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<v Speaker 4>into a program unless you've been convicted. So this is

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<v Speaker 4>this My fucer is lying.

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<v Speaker 2>She lock up.

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<v Speaker 3>This bitch is a dodo bird.

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<v Speaker 1>And then let me ask you a random question. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>it's only because based on what you said, what you said,

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<v Speaker 1>she said that, because he's in this halfway house or program,

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<v Speaker 1>they haven't been able to fuck. He's also clearly an

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<v Speaker 1>hour away. All they do is text every day.

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<v Speaker 5>Get right?

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<v Speaker 1>Are you really that deep in? If you just texting

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<v Speaker 1>a nigga every day, that don't mean you altogether that

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<v Speaker 1>he's the one for you, or that you need to

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<v Speaker 1>be married.

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<v Speaker 3>I got a headache a.

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<v Speaker 6>Little bit, and I tell you time, and he need

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<v Speaker 6>that address for his so he gonna bump right back

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<v Speaker 6>into the city and he gonna and it's a good

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<v Speaker 6>look like yeah, my my my partner is a correational officer.

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<v Speaker 4>You know what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 1>Are you allowed to but that's are you allowed to

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<v Speaker 1>date them when you get out? Isn't couldn't she lose

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<v Speaker 1>her job?

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<v Speaker 3>You think she gives a ship?

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<v Speaker 4>She don't care not about this is not a smart person.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm gonna be honest.

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<v Speaker 1>You don't do that.

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<v Speaker 3>That's she said. Let me here's what, Here's what I

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<v Speaker 3>would tell you. I think she's ugly.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, you can't get no dick on the street.

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<v Speaker 1>You can't get I don't bad bitches that hell niggas

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<v Speaker 1>down wall in jail. So I'm not in jail now.

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<v Speaker 1>She holding them down.

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<v Speaker 4>Not the badness that you know that made the nigga wow,

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<v Speaker 4>he was looking before he was she did.

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<v Speaker 3>Like to my ugly case. This is genuinely I believe she's.

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<v Speaker 4>Ugly.

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<v Speaker 1>They are now number one you for confidence again, don't

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<v Speaker 1>do that. Begin not saying that. Don't let me tell

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<v Speaker 1>you something when the nigga could get you like this,

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<v Speaker 1>because when you sister, let me tell your subjec you

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<v Speaker 1>know I love and what happened. What do they get

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<v Speaker 1>every time they in Nigeria? Only bitches that don't get

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<v Speaker 1>nobody else. I don't believe there is a woman in

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<v Speaker 1>the world that could be just fucking dupe if they

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<v Speaker 1>were attractive, not attractive, confident, insecure, little self esteem. Bitch,

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<v Speaker 1>he got your ass because you ain't about to tell

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<v Speaker 1>me that an address not you already know what she

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<v Speaker 1>looked like. She looks her hair is crunching.

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<v Speaker 3>That's what I see.

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<v Speaker 1>What is wait? What is crunchy hair?

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<v Speaker 3>Dry?

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<v Speaker 4>This what I'm saying what I'm seeing.

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<v Speaker 6>You gotta slip, slip, bad tail, no edges, you did slip.

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<v Speaker 6>Babes body just got gravity.

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<v Speaker 1>Why are you doing this?

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<v Speaker 4>Even if she could be big child, but it's gravity,

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<v Speaker 4>you know what I'm saying. Yeah, yeah, First of all.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think she's real, real, this is this is

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<v Speaker 1>a very real story. It's not I think first off,

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<v Speaker 1>she just had more words than normal. Sounds very rich.

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<v Speaker 6>Just the thing about it, it's too much explanation and

0:27:08.880 --> 0:27:11.480
<v Speaker 6>it's and it's too much in line because you're telling

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<v Speaker 6>me the nigga ain't the nigga ain't guilty, but the

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<v Speaker 6>court of law found him.

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<v Speaker 1>No no, no, and said court law found him guilty.

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<v Speaker 1>But let's be very clear in terms of how black

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<v Speaker 1>people are tried in the court of law and what

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<v Speaker 1>justice really looks like. She's saying she read the case,

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<v Speaker 1>she doesn't feel like she's guilty.

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<v Speaker 4>Time out is getting access to prisoner files and just.

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<v Speaker 3>Like that too.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, honestly though it do be online. No, but

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<v Speaker 1>if he went the trial, that all is online for

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<v Speaker 1>you to read. It's public record.

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<v Speaker 4>You're doing so much it's public.

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<v Speaker 1>Read the public records. Ladies. If you are dating a

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<v Speaker 1>nigga who was locked up jail prison, what the court

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<v Speaker 1>with the trial read the whole transcription for her own person.

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<v Speaker 1>He's a legal jargon when it's bigger than out. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>I want to say, I wanted to know what kind

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<v Speaker 1>of hotel it was to because I could picture be

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<v Speaker 1>on the window.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, that's what.

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<v Speaker 1>Y'all really think. She was at DELOQUENCEA Peter was making

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<v Speaker 1>some money when I do overtime?

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<v Speaker 3>Why are you looking at me?

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<v Speaker 1>Make money? Man?

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<v Speaker 4>And now you gotta take care of this, see.

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<v Speaker 1>As make money. That bitch probably got at discount and.

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<v Speaker 4>Red Roof, Like she really went Red Roof? What was

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<v Speaker 4>on the outside.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, the doors on the hallway.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm gonna tell you that when you outside, I gonna lie.

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<v Speaker 3>I ain't gonna lie.

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<v Speaker 4>Balcony by the way.

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<v Speaker 1>By the way, lady, that's what you want to know,

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<v Speaker 1>the level of what your pussy is on or the

0:28:49.400 --> 0:28:50.960
<v Speaker 1>type of nigga about the fun. If you go to

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<v Speaker 1>a hotel and the doors on the outside, baby, you

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<v Speaker 1>either dating a broken as bom Man's nigga or your

0:28:57.480 --> 0:28:59.440
<v Speaker 1>pussy ain't up the party. Get you in the door.

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<v Speaker 4>Loves motel, Love, I thought the loves.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you.

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<v Speaker 4>About the flowers?

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<v Speaker 3>You like you?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, you bought the flowers after knowing you about us.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not playing with you. Love is real loving that

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<v Speaker 1>so you got a game bang Yeah, for y'all will

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<v Speaker 1>have more.

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<v Speaker 3>Context on that. We don't call it grits and legs.

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<v Speaker 4>No, it's not thirty down thirty final.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, if you want to stay with Theliant, oh my god,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not doing that, baby, I blame that. Yaga yaga

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<v Speaker 1>all young suck my dick from the back. I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>Silian and I'm not a white woman, you know. And

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<v Speaker 1>you'll want to say you're letters into us so that

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<v Speaker 1>we could give you our unofficial, unsolicited terrible advice, because

0:30:06.000 --> 0:30:09.280
<v Speaker 1>what do we know. Please email us decisions pot at

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<v Speaker 1>gmail dot.

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<v Speaker 3>Com next time, don't send us a Reddit thread.

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<v Speaker 1>Please know that her story.

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<v Speaker 4>There's no way.

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<v Speaker 1>I like bitches. They give a little backstory. She the

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<v Speaker 1>other thing I want to call when you provide that

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<v Speaker 1>much context, that's how you know. But you're trying to

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<v Speaker 1>talk yourself out of know when you're doing something wrong.

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<v Speaker 1>That's what that is.

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<v Speaker 4>She said, my is and then she ain't even good

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<v Speaker 4>and type and she.

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<v Speaker 1>Now she's not good at typings are smart. They gotta

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<v Speaker 1>have degrees. You ain't gonna be.

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<v Speaker 5>Down.

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<v Speaker 3>That's one of police and America.

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