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Speaker 1: Before we get into today's episode, we've got to celebrate

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Speaker 1: the Black Effect Podcast network. It's turning five, five years

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Speaker 1: of powerful voices, unforgettable moments, and a community that keeps growing.

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Speaker 1: This is the power of the platform. Now let's get

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Speaker 1: into it. That's a stressed over, not a finger, not

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Speaker 1: a tongue, not a deal though he just wanted a

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Speaker 1: little chili pepper in his ass.

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Speaker 2: But it doesn't mean that I'm necessarily gonna You are

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Speaker 2: definitely not someone that I'm going to be in a

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Speaker 1: Wait a second, usual a lot. Wait can we talk

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Speaker 1: about that? Can we talk about then? Is there because

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Speaker 1: people ask me that about pegging, Like, wait, you would

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Speaker 1: be with a guy that lets you do that? I'm like, yeah,

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Speaker 1: that would be nice. There's certain kinks that if a

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Speaker 1: man brings up makes him ineligible to be a partner

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Speaker 1: to be with me?

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Speaker 2: Why, Like, what what are some I'm not I'm not

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Speaker 2: being with someone that I'm fucking a mask. I'm just

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Speaker 2: not okay, same, I'm not I think one king for me,

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Speaker 2: which is probably really strange for others. But I wouldn't

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Speaker 2: name of it is. But the ones that want to

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Speaker 2: be in like diapers and be on the floor. I'm

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Speaker 2: not I couldn't know, Okay, hard enough, I'm not that,

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Speaker 2: but I wouldn't be in a relationship with somebody like that.

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Speaker 1: And this is gonna be y'all, y'all, you know, I

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Speaker 1: could probably do that. I could, like, depending on the

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Speaker 1: drunk night, like how many shrews, how many Whatever I

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Speaker 1: could do I could do. I could do like I

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Speaker 1: could do like scat play, pissing hagan all that I

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Speaker 1: think for me, you know, we're not gonna get you

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Speaker 1: know what. You know, my line would draws draw at

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Speaker 1: cross dressing. I don't think I could be with because

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Speaker 1: I like masculinity so much with men. I don't think

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Speaker 1: on fish nets and thongs and dresses. I couldn't do that,

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Speaker 1: Like I think that that would actually make me unattract It's.

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Speaker 2: Just so funny how like people create, like where everyone's

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Speaker 1: You're like, he can shoot on me, but he can

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Speaker 1: He's like, I'm just.

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Speaker 2: Saying, us as humans, we we rationalize what is okay

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Speaker 2: to us and acceptable to us, and then the other

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Speaker 2: things are like hard stuff.

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Speaker 1: I was just saying, it's the same thing, right, it's

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Speaker 1: like what we're into even physically, No, like it's we're

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Speaker 2: But it's just so funny how everybody has these different

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Speaker 1: I wouldn't ye turned off. I think that's when you

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Speaker 1: get into like what turns you on and what turns

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Speaker 1: you have oh, you know, straight race, straight pussy pussy,

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Speaker 1: just not Lincoln. And I think that's what how I

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Speaker 1: like wearing a wig. None of that makes no, which

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Speaker 1: is crazy because I like very attractive men, like they'd

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Speaker 1: be pretty. I like pretty niggas. Like I said pretty.

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Speaker 1: I'll call him pretty because it's funny. I sent her this.

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Speaker 1: Nigga started liking my my Instagram yesterday. Fine, I sent

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Speaker 1: her her first thought, Yep, that's your type, like because

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Speaker 1: He didn't ask for my number. Moving fast here, moving fast,

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Speaker 1: I like moving fast. I like them you want, go

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Speaker 1: for it. Y'all ain't gonna thinking fast. All right, let's

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Speaker 1: get into our vanilla ship. Vanilla ship, y'all know, is

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Speaker 1: our sex and the news and y'all the way. I

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Speaker 1: this is gonna pissy y'all off. So gen Z's latest obsession.

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Speaker 1: They are now coming out as gray sexual?

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Speaker 3: What is?

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Speaker 1: What does it mean? And how are they discovering? They're great?

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Speaker 1: Let's get into it. They're not gay, They're gray. A

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Speaker 1: when they were gray. Gray sexuality exists in what many

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Speaker 1: over currently eighty three hundred members that are talking about

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Speaker 1: them experiencing this, and I don't the size they can

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Speaker 1: hear y'all. The micro oh a that one one user

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Speaker 1: posted and explained that they had spent much of their life,

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Speaker 1: assuming they were just a late bloomer, saying that crushes

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Speaker 1: feel sexual attraction, even to their own boyfriend. Another person says,

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Speaker 1: grace sexual is not I just don't fancy it tonight.

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Speaker 1: For me, it's being completely devoid of sexual desires and

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Speaker 1: bouts which can last months, and then one day waking

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Speaker 1: up and realizing they have the instinct that it returned

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Speaker 1: may think you grey sexual bitch.

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Speaker 2: Sometimes I want to suck all the time. Sometimes I don't.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think.

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Speaker 2: They're just trying to throw names on it. They just

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Speaker 3: You're not here.

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Speaker 1: You gotta hear and hear like it's just like I

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Speaker 2: I don't think every individual wants to fuck every day

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Speaker 2: all day. I think here a lot of people, but

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Speaker 2: I do massing hey with not having sex, that's how

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Speaker 2: I go to sleep. We not the judgment but to me,

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Speaker 2: that's some level of sex. Masturbation is still a sexual

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Speaker 2: desire or for me to just come in that way

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Speaker 2: or release in that way. Or do you think that

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Speaker 2: maybe you just got accustomed to it for so long

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Speaker 1: Could just be a habit, It could be a it

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Speaker 1: because I brought this up knowing that you were going

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Speaker 1: gonna call you, I asked. Okay, she's my friend that

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Speaker 1: hates all all the terms of everything. She just don't

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Speaker 1: like language expounding sometimes because she's from Florida too, So

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Speaker 1: I think she just wanted to keep it like, bitch,

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Speaker 1: you're either gay or you're straight. There's nothing ship. Oh

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Speaker 3: What are we doing? I can't keep up and I'm

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Speaker 3: not I can't keep you?

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Speaker 4: Said you not?

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Speaker 1: Okay? So how do y'all like that?

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Speaker 3: I can't remember all this?

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Speaker 1: You just identify as straight? How do you identify.

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Speaker 2: Bitch?

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Speaker 2: I don't feel like I'm bisexual just because I will

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Speaker 3: Okay, absolutely not okay, absolutely.

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Speaker 1: So question look the script, because love that you identify

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Speaker 1: a straight but may eat some couchie. So do you

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Speaker 1: No, this artis tive care.

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Speaker 2: She'll come in my room with a chef on on

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Speaker 2: you know he's gay, right he is not. Just because

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Speaker 1: Well what does it mean? It means he's he could

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Speaker 1: be bisexual some girl. No, it means like this asshole

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Speaker 1: If that's not they're getting milk. No, milking is a thing.

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Speaker 1: They get their prostate milk. There's a sensation there when

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Speaker 3: It's like then peppermint shampoo.

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Speaker 1: It makes your your scalp tingles make I can make

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Speaker 1: on what welcome back. It's another hunt day and we

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Speaker 1: are joined by Dionce from the Grips and Eggs podcast.

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Speaker 1: He here to also help us, help y'all because y'all

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Speaker 1: us about he got two baby mamas, and yeah, he's married.

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Speaker 3: But I just feel like you have a connection, bitch.

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Speaker 6: Said, he's an habitually incarcerated man like girl.

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Speaker 3: But I know that good.

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Speaker 1: I'm not.

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Speaker 4: Freedom, but not for freedom is crazy.

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Speaker 1: She stole a bitch hold on a few thousand dollars

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Speaker 1: He went outside after her, telling her to give him

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Speaker 3: Hold on?

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Speaker 1: When he first got to jail. He was taken to

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Speaker 4: Blowing there, dirty fucking I mean, she's maybe.

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Speaker 1: Even worse, she didn't want to drive an hour to

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Speaker 3: Here we go. I don't think this is really.

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Speaker 1: Now. This is how bitch just be moving.

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Speaker 1: Even though the sex was mind blowing. I told myself,

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Speaker 1: No, he's a hobosexual. He needs somewhere to live. That's

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Speaker 1: But you could give a nigga some pussy that you

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Speaker 1: That's forward about three weeks and we're still talking almost

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Speaker 3: Also, don't have anything when you get back. Needs a

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Speaker 3: Does he have that much money to steal?

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Speaker 1: I mean, to have two thousand dollars to steal? Maybe

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Speaker 5: Now he got some.

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Speaker 1: I agree that he told.

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Speaker 4: Him like I got to figure out so he can

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Speaker 1: Like, well, let's see. He texts me as soon as

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Speaker 1: we talk for hours. Not only is this man physically attractive,

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Speaker 1: He talks to me so nice. He does never bring

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Speaker 1: We still talk and tech still talking text every day.

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Speaker 1: And he tells me that me being open to talk

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Speaker 1: Niggas do be lying, but he's also showing that he's

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Speaker 3: Here we go.

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Speaker 1: He's also very clear and direct about what he wants

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Speaker 1: with me and with us once he gets quote unquote

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Speaker 1: back up. Here's her question. My question is, no, you

440
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Speaker 1: do you think it's worth pursuing something with him already?

441
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Speaker 1: Mary go Marry?

442
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Speaker 3: Do you think.

443
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Speaker 1: It's only been to come? That was a question. Do

444
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Speaker 1: you think it's worth pursuing something with him? Or am

445
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Speaker 1: I making a very dumb decision?

446
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Speaker 4: You're already pursuing it? So what are your worth?

447
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Speaker 1: Real quick? You know what, Craby?

448
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Speaker 5: Not?

449
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Speaker 1: Here is my thing? Real question? Take it off of

450
00:23:03,080 --> 00:23:05,880
Speaker 1: this bitch. Now he starts eating your ass. Bitch, here's

451
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Speaker 1: my thing?

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Speaker 4: Like, how are we getting over to the domestic violence?

453
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Speaker 1: Domestic violence? But here's my thing?

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Speaker 4: That's some ship like you just can't over look.

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Speaker 1: You didn't really Okay? First off, she read the case.

456
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Speaker 1: She made this questionable. She thinks it's questionable.

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Speaker 3: What out a reasonable doubt?

458
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Speaker 1: She said, there's a reasonable asked for her, She said,

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Speaker 1: there is a reasonable doubt that he committed this domestic

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Speaker 1: but she is reasonable doubt.

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Speaker 4: Hold on, Hold on, Hold, hold, the funk. You don't

462
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Speaker 4: go to a program after you get out the county.

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Speaker 4: If you didn't, he's convened. That's prison.

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Speaker 1: She lied up, She said, yeah, do you know how,

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Speaker 1: I don't know.

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Speaker 3: Let me look at her.

467
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Speaker 4: Many president, I'm not trying to break.

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Speaker 2: You.

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Speaker 5: Don't.

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Speaker 4: You don't. You don't get into a proud unless you

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Speaker 4: get convicted.

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Speaker 1: Convicted. Oh, he's convicted, he's completed.

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Speaker 4: He in a halfway house. That is, you don't get

474
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Speaker 4: into a program unless you've been convicted. So this is

475
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Speaker 4: this My fucer is lying.

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Speaker 2: She lock up.

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Speaker 3: This bitch is a dodo bird.

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Speaker 1: And then let me ask you a random question. I mean,

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Speaker 1: it's only because based on what you said, what you said,

480
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Speaker 1: she said that, because he's in this halfway house or program,

481
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Speaker 1: they haven't been able to fuck. He's also clearly an

482
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Speaker 1: hour away. All they do is text every day.

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Speaker 5: Get right?

484
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Speaker 1: Are you really that deep in? If you just texting

485
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Speaker 1: a nigga every day, that don't mean you altogether that

486
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Speaker 1: he's the one for you, or that you need to

487
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Speaker 1: be married.

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Speaker 3: I got a headache a.

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Speaker 6: Little bit, and I tell you time, and he need

490
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Speaker 6: that address for his so he gonna bump right back

491
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Speaker 6: into the city and he gonna and it's a good

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Speaker 6: look like yeah, my my my partner is a correational officer.

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Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 1: Are you allowed to but that's are you allowed to

495
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Speaker 1: date them when you get out? Isn't couldn't she lose

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Speaker 1: her job?

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Speaker 3: You think she gives a ship?

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Speaker 4: She don't care not about this is not a smart person.

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Speaker 3: I'm gonna be honest.

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Speaker 1: You don't do that.

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Speaker 3: That's she said. Let me here's what, Here's what I

502
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Speaker 3: would tell you. I think she's ugly.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, you can't get no dick on the street.

504
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Speaker 1: You can't get I don't bad bitches that hell niggas

505
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Speaker 1: down wall in jail. So I'm not in jail now.

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Speaker 1: She holding them down.

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Speaker 4: Not the badness that you know that made the nigga wow,

508
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Speaker 4: he was looking before he was she did.

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Speaker 3: Like to my ugly case. This is genuinely I believe she's.

510
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Speaker 4: Ugly.

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Speaker 1: They are now number one you for confidence again, don't

512
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Speaker 1: do that. Begin not saying that. Don't let me tell

513
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Speaker 1: you something when the nigga could get you like this,

514
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Speaker 1: because when you sister, let me tell your subjec you

515
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Speaker 1: know I love and what happened. What do they get

516
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Speaker 1: every time they in Nigeria? Only bitches that don't get

517
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Speaker 1: nobody else. I don't believe there is a woman in

518
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Speaker 1: the world that could be just fucking dupe if they

519
00:26:11,040 --> 00:26:17,280
Speaker 1: were attractive, not attractive, confident, insecure, little self esteem. Bitch,

520
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Speaker 1: he got your ass because you ain't about to tell

521
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Speaker 1: me that an address not you already know what she

522
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Speaker 1: looked like. She looks her hair is crunching.

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Speaker 3: That's what I see.

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Speaker 1: What is wait? What is crunchy hair?

525
00:26:30,920 --> 00:26:31,160
Speaker 3: Dry?

526
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Speaker 4: This what I'm saying what I'm seeing.

527
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Speaker 6: You gotta slip, slip, bad tail, no edges, you did slip.

528
00:26:41,640 --> 00:26:46,080
Speaker 6: Babes body just got gravity.

529
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Speaker 1: Why are you doing this?

530
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Speaker 4: Even if she could be big child, but it's gravity,

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Speaker 4: you know what I'm saying. Yeah, yeah, First of all.

532
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Speaker 1: I don't think she's real, real, this is this is

533
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Speaker 1: a very real story. It's not I think first off,

534
00:27:03,520 --> 00:27:06,280
Speaker 1: she just had more words than normal. Sounds very rich.

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Speaker 6: Just the thing about it, it's too much explanation and

536
00:27:08,880 --> 00:27:11,480
Speaker 6: it's and it's too much in line because you're telling

537
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Speaker 6: me the nigga ain't the nigga ain't guilty, but the

538
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Speaker 6: court of law found him.

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Speaker 1: No no, no, and said court law found him guilty.

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Speaker 1: But let's be very clear in terms of how black

541
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Speaker 1: people are tried in the court of law and what

542
00:27:22,359 --> 00:27:24,880
Speaker 1: justice really looks like. She's saying she read the case,

543
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Speaker 1: she doesn't feel like she's guilty.

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Speaker 4: Time out is getting access to prisoner files and just.

545
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Speaker 3: Like that too.

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Speaker 1: I mean, honestly though it do be online. No, but

547
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Speaker 1: if he went the trial, that all is online for

548
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Speaker 1: you to read. It's public record.

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00:27:42,880 --> 00:27:44,360
Speaker 4: You're doing so much it's public.

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Speaker 1: Read the public records. Ladies. If you are dating a

551
00:27:49,320 --> 00:27:52,080
Speaker 1: nigga who was locked up jail prison, what the court

552
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Speaker 1: with the trial read the whole transcription for her own person.

553
00:27:57,960 --> 00:28:02,399
Speaker 1: He's a legal jargon when it's bigger than out. You know,

554
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Speaker 1: I want to say, I wanted to know what kind

555
00:28:04,119 --> 00:28:07,440
Speaker 1: of hotel it was to because I could picture be

556
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Speaker 1: on the window.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's what.

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00:28:10,440 --> 00:28:14,320
Speaker 1: Y'all really think. She was at DELOQUENCEA Peter was making

559
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Speaker 1: some money when I do overtime?

560
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Speaker 3: Why are you looking at me?

561
00:28:19,080 --> 00:28:22,200
Speaker 1: Make money? Man?

562
00:28:23,440 --> 00:28:25,640
Speaker 4: And now you gotta take care of this, see.

563
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Speaker 1: As make money. That bitch probably got at discount and.

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Speaker 4: Red Roof, Like she really went Red Roof? What was

565
00:28:31,600 --> 00:28:32,160
Speaker 4: on the outside.

566
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Speaker 1: Yeah, the doors on the hallway.

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Speaker 4: I'm gonna tell you that when you outside, I gonna lie.

568
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Speaker 3: I ain't gonna lie.

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Speaker 4: Balcony by the way.

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Speaker 1: By the way, lady, that's what you want to know,

571
00:28:47,640 --> 00:28:49,360
Speaker 1: the level of what your pussy is on or the

572
00:28:49,400 --> 00:28:50,960
Speaker 1: type of nigga about the fun. If you go to

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Speaker 1: a hotel and the doors on the outside, baby, you

574
00:28:54,760 --> 00:28:57,440
Speaker 1: either dating a broken as bom Man's nigga or your

575
00:28:57,480 --> 00:28:59,440
Speaker 1: pussy ain't up the party. Get you in the door.

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00:29:00,320 --> 00:29:03,480
Speaker 4: Loves motel, Love, I thought the loves.

577
00:29:03,680 --> 00:29:04,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, you.

578
00:29:06,200 --> 00:29:07,160
Speaker 4: About the flowers?

579
00:29:08,760 --> 00:29:09,640
Speaker 3: You like you?

580
00:29:10,800 --> 00:29:16,959
Speaker 1: Okay, you bought the flowers after knowing you about us.

581
00:29:17,760 --> 00:29:21,600
Speaker 1: I'm not playing with you. Love is real loving that

582
00:29:22,680 --> 00:29:28,680
Speaker 1: so you got a game bang Yeah, for y'all will

583
00:29:28,720 --> 00:29:29,200
Speaker 1: have more.

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Speaker 3: Context on that. We don't call it grits and legs.

585
00:29:35,000 --> 00:29:36,680
Speaker 4: No, it's not thirty down thirty final.

586
00:29:39,120 --> 00:29:47,200
Speaker 1: Well, if you want to stay with Theliant, oh my god,

587
00:29:48,800 --> 00:29:53,680
Speaker 1: I'm not doing that, baby, I blame that. Yaga yaga

588
00:29:54,160 --> 00:29:55,640
Speaker 1: all young suck my dick from the back. I'm not

589
00:29:55,680 --> 00:29:58,720
Speaker 1: Silian and I'm not a white woman, you know. And

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00:29:58,840 --> 00:30:01,280
Speaker 1: you'll want to say you're letters into us so that

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00:30:01,400 --> 00:30:06,000
Speaker 1: we could give you our unofficial, unsolicited terrible advice, because

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00:30:06,000 --> 00:30:09,280
Speaker 1: what do we know. Please email us decisions pot at

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Speaker 1: gmail dot.

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00:30:09,960 --> 00:30:11,760
Speaker 3: Com next time, don't send us a Reddit thread.

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00:30:11,800 --> 00:30:14,080
Speaker 1: Please know that her story.

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00:30:14,360 --> 00:30:15,080
Speaker 4: There's no way.

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Speaker 1: I like bitches. They give a little backstory. She the

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00:30:22,840 --> 00:30:24,880
Speaker 1: other thing I want to call when you provide that

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00:30:25,040 --> 00:30:27,320
Speaker 1: much context, that's how you know. But you're trying to

600
00:30:27,400 --> 00:30:29,320
Speaker 1: talk yourself out of know when you're doing something wrong.

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00:30:29,840 --> 00:30:30,520
Speaker 1: That's what that is.

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Speaker 4: She said, my is and then she ain't even good

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Speaker 4: and type and she.

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00:30:36,240 --> 00:30:38,520
Speaker 1: Now she's not good at typings are smart. They gotta

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Speaker 1: have degrees. You ain't gonna be.

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Speaker 5: Down.

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Speaker 3: That's one of police and America.

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Speaker 1: Now, all right, anyways, shout out to the seos listening.

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Speaker 3: An extra bag and curious and make sure you go our.

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Speaker 1: Book No holds bardware if you get it. This is

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Speaker 1: another episode. If you want to see the full video

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Speaker 1: of this because it's chaotic, you can watch these niggas

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Speaker 1: Thank you guys for tuning in.

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Speaker 4: See y'all.

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Speaker 1: Next week, Puszlaers holds my thanks for listening and celebrating

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Speaker 1: five years of the Black Effect podcast Network with us.

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Speaker 1: Keep following, sharing, and streaming because the next five years

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