1 00:00:00,840 --> 00:00:06,080 Speaker 1: Now from Unbreakable, a mental health podcast. This is your 2 00:00:06,120 --> 00:00:11,280 Speaker 1: mental health check in. Here's Jay Glazer. Welcome into I'm 3 00:00:11,280 --> 00:00:15,080 Speaker 1: Breakable and mental health podcast with Jay Glazer, and today 4 00:00:15,120 --> 00:00:18,840 Speaker 1: I want to talk about trust, trusting your teammates. So 5 00:00:18,840 --> 00:00:20,919 Speaker 1: I'm gonna give you a little story here. My best 6 00:00:20,920 --> 00:00:24,760 Speaker 1: friend for thirty years has been Michael Strand, and it 7 00:00:24,840 --> 00:00:28,000 Speaker 1: wasn't until last year that I finally told him how 8 00:00:28,040 --> 00:00:30,960 Speaker 1: much pain I was in with my depression anxiety thirty years. 9 00:00:30,960 --> 00:00:34,360 Speaker 1: I hit it from my best friend. So we're supposed 10 00:00:34,360 --> 00:00:36,519 Speaker 1: to go out to dinner on a Friday night, and man, 11 00:00:36,800 --> 00:00:38,440 Speaker 1: the beast just got out of the box on me. 12 00:00:39,280 --> 00:00:41,559 Speaker 1: Like when I say that I woke up in the 13 00:00:41,600 --> 00:00:45,440 Speaker 1: middle of the night, woke me up, and by the way, 14 00:00:45,440 --> 00:00:47,200 Speaker 1: for me, kind of makes no sense, Like it wakes 15 00:00:47,240 --> 00:00:48,320 Speaker 1: me up in the middle of the night. It's not 16 00:00:48,360 --> 00:00:50,640 Speaker 1: like anything triggered it. I got woken up on anxiety 17 00:00:50,640 --> 00:00:53,320 Speaker 1: attack that puts me in the fetal position, and I 18 00:00:53,400 --> 00:00:55,640 Speaker 1: just feel like my entire world has come crashing down 19 00:00:55,640 --> 00:00:59,080 Speaker 1: on me and my world's ending, and everybody hates me, 20 00:00:59,280 --> 00:01:02,400 Speaker 1: like fucking hey, that's not fair. I got woken up 21 00:01:02,400 --> 00:01:05,800 Speaker 1: from that when that happens to me. It's debilitating. It's 22 00:01:05,800 --> 00:01:07,320 Speaker 1: hard for me to get out of bed on those days. 23 00:01:07,880 --> 00:01:09,280 Speaker 1: And this is one of those days. I did what 24 00:01:09,319 --> 00:01:10,880 Speaker 1: I was supposed to do. I called four friends and 25 00:01:10,920 --> 00:01:14,600 Speaker 1: told them, man, I'm struggling. I called four other friends 26 00:01:14,600 --> 00:01:19,000 Speaker 1: and just check up on them. I got myself downstairs 27 00:01:19,000 --> 00:01:22,039 Speaker 1: to work out. I think I got twelve minutes in 28 00:01:22,040 --> 00:01:24,000 Speaker 1: instead of an hour, but at least I did something. 29 00:01:24,520 --> 00:01:26,760 Speaker 1: But it just got me. It kicked my ass. So 30 00:01:26,760 --> 00:01:28,680 Speaker 1: I was supposed to go to dinner, and in the 31 00:01:28,760 --> 00:01:32,800 Speaker 1: past I would take a viking in and and some 32 00:01:32,959 --> 00:01:35,280 Speaker 1: booze and I would just go out there and mask 33 00:01:35,319 --> 00:01:37,080 Speaker 1: it and hide it. And this is the first time 34 00:01:37,080 --> 00:01:40,440 Speaker 1: in thirty years, told Stray can't go out tonight. Man, 35 00:01:40,720 --> 00:01:43,959 Speaker 1: he's got out of the box. And he said, woman 36 00:01:44,000 --> 00:01:46,560 Speaker 1: to come over. I said no. He said, you want 37 00:01:46,560 --> 00:01:49,440 Speaker 1: to talk about it? I said no. He says, Jay, 38 00:01:49,720 --> 00:01:52,200 Speaker 1: why have you never told me this before? I said, 39 00:01:52,480 --> 00:01:54,280 Speaker 1: I don't make up the rules of this man. For 40 00:01:54,400 --> 00:01:58,120 Speaker 1: whatever reason with you, I felt shame. And his reaction 41 00:01:58,120 --> 00:01:59,400 Speaker 1: was like, yeah, but I could have been there for 42 00:01:59,440 --> 00:02:02,720 Speaker 1: you for thirty years. Think about how powerful that is. 43 00:02:03,760 --> 00:02:06,560 Speaker 1: Since then, I have used him when I'm struggling. We're 44 00:02:06,560 --> 00:02:09,880 Speaker 1: on vacation recently and he was on the golf course. 45 00:02:10,200 --> 00:02:13,000 Speaker 1: I was back where we were staying, and I just 46 00:02:13,040 --> 00:02:14,840 Speaker 1: told them, dude, it's one of those days, like having 47 00:02:14,880 --> 00:02:17,000 Speaker 1: a hard time getting out of bed. And he was like, 48 00:02:17,040 --> 00:02:19,480 Speaker 1: I'll be home soon. I'm there for you. So trust 49 00:02:19,520 --> 00:02:22,560 Speaker 1: in your teammates. Everybody I have talked to about this, 50 00:02:23,080 --> 00:02:25,200 Speaker 1: it's gotten us closer together, and a lot of times, 51 00:02:25,200 --> 00:02:26,960 Speaker 1: a lot of us, I think we get fearful that 52 00:02:27,160 --> 00:02:29,200 Speaker 1: man if I talked about this too much, they're gonna 53 00:02:29,240 --> 00:02:34,760 Speaker 1: eventually go, oh Jay, enough already stopped. Hasn't happened. Every 54 00:02:34,800 --> 00:02:37,400 Speaker 1: single person that I've reached out to about this and 55 00:02:37,400 --> 00:02:40,880 Speaker 1: talked to about this, it's never enough. It's never too much, 56 00:02:41,400 --> 00:02:44,519 Speaker 1: never gets old for them. It keeps getting as closer together. 57 00:02:45,040 --> 00:02:47,919 Speaker 1: Trust your teammates, Let's keep walking this walk together.