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Speaker 1: I just announced all my tour dates. It's called the

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Speaker 1: High and Mighty Tour. I'm coming to Washington, d c Norfolk, Virginia, Madison, Wisconsin, Milwaukee, Wisconsin, Detroit, Michigan, Cleveland, Columbus,

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Speaker 1: and Cincinnati, Ohio, Denver, Colorado, Portland, Maine, Providence, Rhode Island, Springfield, Massachusetts, Chicago,

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Speaker 1: of Course, Indianapolis, Indiana, Louisville, Kentucky, Albuquerque, Masa, Arizona, Kansas City, Missouri,

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Speaker 1: Saint Louis, Missouri, Minneapolis, Minnesota, Nashville, Tennessee, Charlotte, North Carolina, Durham,

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Speaker 1: port Chester, New York, Boston, Massachusetts, Portland, Oregon, and Seattle, Washington.

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Speaker 1: I will be touring from February through June, So go

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Speaker 1: get your tickets now. If you want to come see

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Speaker 1: me perform, I will be on the High and Mighty Tour.

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Speaker 2: Hi, Catherine, Hi, Chelsea.

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Speaker 3: Is it still raining and Whistler.

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Speaker 2: Well, it's raining in the valley. It snowed.

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Speaker 1: I got up at midnight because Doug woke me up

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Speaker 1: I went out took him.

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Speaker 2: It was a winter wonderland. There was snow everywhere.

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Speaker 1: I was like, oh my god, and it was so beautiful.

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Speaker 1: And then I woke up this morning and it was raining.

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Speaker 1: I've really this climate change is now. It's the situation

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Speaker 1: of like the valley and then like mid mountain. You

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Speaker 3: So have you been able to ski it all yet?

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Speaker 2: Or no, Yeah, I skied, I've skied. I've skied.

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Speaker 1: I've got When you go up top, it's fine, but

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Speaker 1: and then you're like, oh, it's snow so but you know,

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Speaker 1: I just have to stay focused.

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Speaker 3: So what are you doing in this last couple of

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Speaker 3: weeks of the year. Are you chilling? Are people visiting?

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Speaker 2: People are visiting? People? Are My niece and her boyfriend

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Speaker 1: I have another friend coming from that I met on

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Speaker 1: my cruise to Antarctica. That's the new pronunciation of Antarctica.

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Speaker 1: I was forgetting the second t or the first one.

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Speaker 1: And then yeah, I have some people coming, And then oh,

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Speaker 1: I've been watching all the movies. I have my link

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Speaker 1: for my Critics Choice because I'm hosting the Critics' Choice

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Speaker 1: Awards on January fourth, So I have to get all

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Speaker 1: of those movies in my brain to come up with

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Speaker 1: my jokes and monologue and la la la. I mean,

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Speaker 1: I have writers that are also working on it, so

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Speaker 1: hopefully they're working harder than I. Hopefully they're watching those movies.

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Speaker 4: Now.

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Speaker 5: Okay, I don't know if you're allowed to say, but

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Speaker 5: do you have any favorites so far?

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Speaker 2: Well? I watched Hamnet yesterday, which made me balla.

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Speaker 3: I really want to watch it. I'm very I.

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Speaker 2: Mean, I love that.

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Speaker 1: I love crying like a baby on my couch alone

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Hamnet was beautiful, Jay Kelly, I just started.

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Speaker 2: I have to watch that. Adam Sandler is so good

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Speaker 1: Acting acting, and I don't know, yeah, I've seen so

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Speaker 1: many that it's really Oh yeah, Train Dreams with is

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Speaker 1: really good with Joel Edgerton and what's that actually Edgerton?

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Speaker 2: Is it? Edgerton?

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Speaker 3: I think it's I think it's your brain though. Okay,

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Speaker 3: I'm going we'll look at it.

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Speaker 2: Let's let's make a bet.

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Speaker 3: Okay, all right, what should we bet? What should we bet?

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Speaker 1: If I'm right, you can't sing sing song words anymore?

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Speaker 2: You can't go okay, And if you're right, what can't

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Speaker 2: I do anymore?

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Speaker 3: Be mad at me for singing songing?

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Speaker 2: Okay, all right, that's fair. Okay, look it up.

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Speaker 3: Look it up right now, in real time, looking it up.

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Speaker 5: Okay, Edgerton or Edgerton, you're gonna be right. And now

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Speaker 5: I'm like you are going to be right. Okay, it's

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Speaker 5: coming back to the show our friend Joel Edgerton.

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Speaker 2: Oh shit, shit, fuck.

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Speaker 5: See now you have to love my sing songing. I

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Speaker 5: do try to rain it in sometimes, but you should.

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Speaker 1: You should try to rain it in. It doesn't really

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Speaker 3: I was actually afraid it was going to make your

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Speaker 4: It'd be like holding in a sneeze.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly. Save it for the bedroom you two. Okay,

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Speaker 1: saved the singing for the bedrooms, please, Okay. Today was

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Speaker 1: one of my favorite people We've had so many great

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Speaker 1: So please welcome Amanda Seifred.

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Speaker 2: Welcome.

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Speaker 1: Amanda Seifred is on the podcast today. She's on Dear Chelsea.

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Speaker 1: She's coming to us live from her farm. I think

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Speaker 1: in the Catskills. I want to say, is that right?

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Speaker 3: You know what this is?

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Speaker 4: This is zoom culture.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, well, Amanda, we've been in zoom culture since fucking

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Speaker 1: twenty twenty. You've had five years to get a head start.

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Speaker 4: No, it's because I'm used to it. Last night I

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Speaker 1: You know what is nice about zoom culture is sometime

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Speaker 4: Person that does that. And now I'm going to question

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Speaker 2: Time, right right, So we have a lot to celebrate.

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Speaker 1: Amanda was just nominated for You've been nominated for Golden

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Speaker 1: Globes before? Right for mam and Mia. You got nominated

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Speaker 1: and I think you won. Oh whoops, Okay, you were

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Speaker 1: snubbed that year. So she was nominated this year. We're

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Speaker 2: So congratulations, Amanda.

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Speaker 1: Why don't you take your flowers for a second, say

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Speaker 4: Thank you so much, double double time. It's been great.

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Speaker 4: I did not get a Golden Globe nomination from Mom

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Speaker 2: Did you get another Golden Globe nomination before?

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Speaker 4: I got a nomination and I won for the dropout

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Speaker 2: Oh wow, that's pretty tricky. Where were you on your farm?

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Speaker 4: No, I had to work.

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Speaker 6: I totally had to work. It was it was it

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Speaker 4: I was so actually, do I have a workshop of

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Speaker 4: I didn't get to accept it, which I guess, you know,

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Speaker 4: maybe that's a blessing.

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Speaker 2: Well, listen, and I'm aware of your anxiety.

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Speaker 1: You've talked a lot about your anxiety, and I think

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Speaker 4: Going to happen. X factor, man, Yeah, it's.

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Speaker 1: it was better for you to be in a workshop

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Speaker 2: They must have even respected you more after that.

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Speaker 4: So there was a lot of celebration. Actually, yeah, it

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Speaker 2: So you were nominated for Critics Choice Award this year.

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Speaker 1: Just so you know, I'm hosting the Critics Choice, so

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Speaker 4: Thank you in any way, shape or form. I would

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Speaker 1: It was I didn't understand which religion we were in.

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Speaker 1: in ten and Amanda's an incredible singer. I heard you

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Speaker 4: you've only I'm kidding, no, no, it's a joke. I'm

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Speaker 2: But look see, look at this, no exactly.

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Speaker 4: It's all happened exactly like I. I truly believe that

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Speaker 4: it was for the best, for sure, for everyone involved,

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Speaker 1: you've worked on your singing voice since lay Miss, and

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Speaker 4: They's just just's a sensibility that we have and an

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Speaker 1: To hear you talk about it because I'm curious about

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Speaker 4: The thing about Aileen is that she's a real iconic

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Speaker 1: Oh okay, because I was confused because I was like,

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Speaker 1: Like I think the experience you had watching Desmond Manley's

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Speaker 1: Yeah, for sure, you should have a shot of something, absolutely,

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Speaker 2: That's what I like about it. Sometimes when I'm I

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Speaker 1: Like you know this is this is not necessary, this

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Speaker 4: Drop, like for watching all these Academy movies.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's it's first of all, some of it's homework,

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Speaker 4: But but I should be stoned. I'm I'm I think

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Speaker 1: So we need to just find you the right concoction

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Speaker 1: point five.

437
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Speaker 4: I'm not a scientist.

438
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Speaker 5: I am.

439
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Speaker 2: I am a scientist. Soy scientist stuff, soy.

440
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Speaker 1: Astronauta soy, so askedro Glida. Let's talk about what's happening

441
00:21:51,840 --> 00:21:53,080
Speaker 1: on this farm that you live on.

442
00:21:53,200 --> 00:21:55,240
Speaker 2: I love that you live in the cat Skills on

443
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Speaker 2: a farm with your two kids and your husband.

444
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Speaker 1: Is it's so night. Tell us about your life and

445
00:22:00,200 --> 00:22:03,560
Speaker 1: my mom and your mom. Yeah, she'd right over there.

446
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Speaker 2: Hi mom, I.

447
00:22:05,200 --> 00:22:08,840
Speaker 4: Can't hear you because you put maybe put headphones. Else

448
00:22:09,000 --> 00:22:11,280
Speaker 4: is here, decrepit sixteen year old dog.

449
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Speaker 1: She's waving, Oh your poor dog.

450
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Speaker 4: I know. And I saw him yesterday. I was on

451
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Speaker 4: I was on his zoom and I saw him whip

452
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Speaker 4: by so fast from the barn to the house, and

453
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Speaker 4: I saw car backing up, and I was like, this

454
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Speaker 4: might be the woman no, it might be the woman.

455
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Speaker 4: He gets it or falls because of the ice. And

456
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Speaker 4: he's an idiot. He's sixteen, and he keeps running, tries

457
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Speaker 4: to eat everything. Anyway, The farm's great, it's it's great.

458
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Speaker 4: It's great. I'm leaving again right after I talk to you,

459
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Speaker 4: and I gotta go to the city and do some

460
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Speaker 4: concerts tonight. I don't even want to. I don't even know.

461
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Speaker 2: Are you singing?

462
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Speaker 4: Singing some some stuff from the a lead?

463
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Speaker 2: And so your mom's there to hold down the fort

464
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Speaker 2: while you.

465
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Speaker 4: Go with Tommy. And then although he's in the city

466
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Speaker 4: right now, because he also had a life, it's really tricky.

467
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Speaker 1: Yeah, where why does he get to have a life?

468
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Speaker 4: No, the no, it's great. It's it's just it was

469
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Speaker 4: six degrees when we got up today, and so all

470
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Speaker 4: the animals are walking on ice, and when they have

471
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Speaker 4: four feet, right, four legs, all of them have four legs,

472
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Speaker 4: four wheel drive. It's great. And there are a lot

473
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Speaker 4: of them in the barn, and so it's it's we

474
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Speaker 4: got a lot of heat lamps up, and I always

475
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Speaker 4: think about fires, and you know, it's it's managing a lot.

476
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Speaker 4: And I understand that I chose this life so I

477
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Speaker 4: can't whine about it. But it's tricky. I like the

478
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Speaker 4: word tricky.

479
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Speaker 2: I do too, I'm cos yeah.

480
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Speaker 1: And it's also you have to keep an eye on

481
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Speaker 1: It's not that you're complaining about it. You just have

482
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Speaker 1: a lot, a bigger set of responsibilities.

483
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Speaker 4: This morning, I drop the kids off and said goodbye

484
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Speaker 4: and cried because I should be getting my period eighty second.

485
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Speaker 2: Did they cry?

486
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Speaker 7: No?

487
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Speaker 2: Yeah, I cry.

488
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Speaker 4: And and their classrooms are next to each other. It's

489
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Speaker 4: it's a nice life. And and then I got back

490
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Speaker 4: and I decided to go with the time. I had

491
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Speaker 4: to help the person who's feeding right now and do

492
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Speaker 4: the stalls and do the take the horseshit out of

493
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Speaker 4: the stalls and put new shavings in the stalls and

494
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Speaker 4: do the buckets and stuff. And that is my least

495
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Speaker 4: favorite chore. But I did it because I wanted to

496
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Speaker 4: feel productive and like I was being helpful.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I get that feeling all that.

498
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Speaker 1: I always feel like what am I really contributing, you know,

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Speaker 1: other than my personality, because I don't make a ton

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Speaker 1: of contributions, like I can't do cook.

501
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Speaker 2: I mean I'm trying to.

502
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Speaker 1: But last night I tried to take out these sweet

503
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Speaker 1: potatoes from the oven, and the pan fell out of

504
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Speaker 1: my hands, and then all the sweet potatoes fell into

505
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Speaker 1: the crease of the oven.

506
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Speaker 2: So I had nailed it.

507
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Speaker 1: I had made a turkey burger with cheese, grilled onions,

508
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Speaker 1: and a poached egg on top. I was like, fuck

509
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Speaker 1: me right now, I'm the ruler of all kitchens.

510
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Speaker 2: And then I.

511
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Speaker 1: Went to go take out the sweet potatoes as a

512
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Speaker 1: nice little accent, and then everything went sideways.

513
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Speaker 2: So I declared victory too early.

514
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Speaker 1: So that's as like sophisticated as I've ever gotten in

515
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Speaker 1: the kitchen was last night's turkey burger.

516
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Speaker 4: I don't even know how to poach an egg.

517
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Speaker 1: Oh, oh, well great. I love being one step ahead

518
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Speaker 1: of you in the kitchen. Oh you're seventy thousand steps

519
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Speaker 1: out of me in the kitchen. I don't know anything.

520
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Speaker 2: Well, it sounds like you know how to farm a

521
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Speaker 2: little bit.

522
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Speaker 4: Yeah, but that's not in the kitchen.

523
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Speaker 1: No, but it sounds like you're making a contribution, like, yeah, yes,

524
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Speaker 1: you're right.

525
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Speaker 2: Can you clean? Like are you good at cleaning up messes?

526
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Speaker 4: Yes?

527
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Speaker 2: Okay, I can't do that either. No I can't. I

528
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Speaker 2: just guess you can. I could, I guess, but I

529
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Speaker 2: don't ever heard.

530
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Speaker 4: Of a cloroxoide.

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Speaker 2: I don't like to just I don't like any sort

532
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Speaker 2: of like stain removal. I have to get someone else involved.

533
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Speaker 4: All the Really, if you're all alone and one of

534
00:25:40,680 --> 00:25:45,159
Speaker 4: the dogs is two, right, there's one now? Yeah, snack, yeah, snack,

535
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Speaker 4: and a snack takes a giant dump on your.

536
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Speaker 1: Carpet, Snack will get put down. If he did something

537
00:25:50,520 --> 00:25:51,680
Speaker 1: like that, that would make he's.

538
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Speaker 4: Gone up because he's going to get old.

539
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Speaker 2: No, no, no, no, no, no, he's First of all,

540
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Speaker 2: he's not going to get old.

541
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Speaker 1: I will clone him before that happens. Secondly, he's two

542
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Speaker 1: and a half. So don't get ahead of yourself and

543
00:26:00,560 --> 00:26:02,240
Speaker 1: project about your sixteen year old dog.

544
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Speaker 2: Okay to my two and a half.

545
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Speaker 1: I said, Demanda, picture of snack of dog the other day,

546
00:26:08,560 --> 00:26:15,359
Speaker 1: and she goes, that's a snack. What's your dog's name again, Ben?

547
00:26:15,760 --> 00:26:18,440
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah, Finn's been around forever. Finn has these

548
00:26:18,440 --> 00:26:20,840
Speaker 1: crazy eyes too. Doesn't he have two different color eyes?

549
00:26:21,400 --> 00:26:25,200
Speaker 4: Nope, you're getting that confused with somebody else's dog. M interesting,

550
00:26:26,119 --> 00:26:28,080
Speaker 4: But I do have a horse with two different color eyes.

551
00:26:28,640 --> 00:26:32,240
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, you're such a farmer. I love it, Amanda.

552
00:26:32,359 --> 00:26:35,719
Speaker 4: Tell me why you decided to move to a farm.

553
00:26:36,000 --> 00:26:36,639
Speaker 4: You know why not?

554
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Speaker 1: But do you think that it helps I think it

555
00:26:40,240 --> 00:26:43,840
Speaker 1: probably helps you when you go away a ton, right,

556
00:26:44,520 --> 00:26:47,119
Speaker 1: like for your work and career, it's so nice to

557
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Speaker 1: be removed from all of that.

558
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Speaker 4: It's it's that you it's so basic here. It's not

559
00:26:54,840 --> 00:27:00,239
Speaker 4: it's not basic like basic meaning nature is bigger than

560
00:27:00,280 --> 00:27:05,400
Speaker 4: you here, like you in the mountains, like you're inside

561
00:27:05,680 --> 00:27:11,359
Speaker 4: of this giant world and you in some ways you've

562
00:27:11,400 --> 00:27:17,120
Speaker 4: be protected because nature is very powerful. But it's it's

563
00:27:17,160 --> 00:27:20,520
Speaker 4: not trying to fuck with you. It's not judging you.

564
00:27:21,359 --> 00:27:24,720
Speaker 4: It's not trying to take your job or belittle you

565
00:27:25,960 --> 00:27:30,439
Speaker 4: or manipulate you. It's just there. And when all the

566
00:27:30,480 --> 00:27:34,919
Speaker 4: noise is gone, there's probably a frequency, a lower frequency

567
00:27:34,960 --> 00:27:38,000
Speaker 4: that you're operating on, which is probably really healthy. And

568
00:27:38,080 --> 00:27:41,399
Speaker 4: also like you get to worry about real things. And

569
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Speaker 4: I'm not saying that like living in Hollywood or living

570
00:27:43,800 --> 00:27:46,719
Speaker 4: in New York City is bad for me. I'm just saying, like,

571
00:27:47,040 --> 00:27:49,520
Speaker 4: I mean, take it a chunk of it and really

572
00:27:49,600 --> 00:27:51,920
Speaker 4: enjoy myself, you know, getting in an uber and going

573
00:27:52,080 --> 00:27:54,920
Speaker 4: from one place in the next and then walking from

574
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Speaker 4: one block to the next and getting a Starbucks and

575
00:27:56,960 --> 00:28:00,600
Speaker 4: a day bar bagel and a pedicure, always an hour.

576
00:28:01,080 --> 00:28:05,840
Speaker 4: It's dreamy, but it's you know, it's for a good

577
00:28:05,880 --> 00:28:06,760
Speaker 4: temporary fix.

578
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Speaker 2: It can be taxing.

579
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Speaker 4: It can be taxing. Yeah, I don't need all that energy.

580
00:28:10,359 --> 00:28:11,359
Speaker 2: I'm with you. I listen.

581
00:28:11,440 --> 00:28:14,000
Speaker 1: I spend about forty five days a year max in

582
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Speaker 1: Los Angeles because I love to just be out and

583
00:28:16,480 --> 00:28:17,840
Speaker 1: about in different places.

584
00:28:17,960 --> 00:28:19,399
Speaker 2: So I can relate to what you're saying.

585
00:28:19,920 --> 00:28:22,239
Speaker 1: Let's as Catherine you said, we have a caller, right,

586
00:28:22,280 --> 00:28:24,040
Speaker 1: We're gonna take a quick break. We're gonna be back

587
00:28:24,040 --> 00:28:26,160
Speaker 1: with Amanda Seyphred, and we're gonna take a caller because

588
00:28:26,160 --> 00:28:27,040
Speaker 1: a man, I think you should be.

589
00:28:27,000 --> 00:28:27,960
Speaker 2: Giving advice to people.

590
00:28:28,359 --> 00:28:30,679
Speaker 1: That's the obvious next step, and this is an advice

591
00:28:30,720 --> 00:28:31,399
Speaker 1: call in show.

592
00:28:31,600 --> 00:28:33,680
Speaker 2: So we're gonna take a break. We'll be right back.

593
00:28:37,520 --> 00:28:40,880
Speaker 1: And we're back with Amanda Ceiphred and we're taking our

594
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Speaker 1: first caller, Amanda.

595
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Speaker 2: Okay, so lock in.

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Speaker 5: I'm really excited about this question. So Angela, I'm not

597
00:28:48,720 --> 00:28:50,360
Speaker 5: gonna read the subject line because it kind of gives

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Speaker 5: it away. It's fairy don't great, she says, Dear Chelsea,

599
00:28:53,840 --> 00:28:56,200
Speaker 5: I'm a thirty four year old child free woman in

600
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Speaker 5: what feels like a full blown real life plot twist.

601
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Speaker 5: Two years I left my job and finally chased my dream,

602
00:29:02,840 --> 00:29:06,920
Speaker 5: starting my own floral business specializing in senior assisted living centers.

603
00:29:07,520 --> 00:29:09,920
Speaker 5: Since then, I've been piecing a living together with part

604
00:29:09,920 --> 00:29:12,160
Speaker 5: time gigs until one of those just ended. And now

605
00:29:12,160 --> 00:29:15,560
Speaker 5: it's go big or go broke. But also it's terrifying

606
00:29:15,600 --> 00:29:18,160
Speaker 5: but also a little thrilling. Here's where it gets messy.

607
00:29:18,680 --> 00:29:21,480
Speaker 5: Seven months ago, at a giant flower conference, I met

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Speaker 5: a man who owns a rose business in Ecuador. We

609
00:29:24,360 --> 00:29:28,000
Speaker 5: spent six hours talking and surprisingly fell into a long

610
00:29:28,080 --> 00:29:30,040
Speaker 5: distance whirlwind romance.

611
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Speaker 2: I love it already.

612
00:29:32,440 --> 00:29:34,880
Speaker 5: I've never been known as a hopeless romantic, but he's

613
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Speaker 5: turned out to be my exception. Since then, we've seen

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Speaker 5: each other about every six weeks Ecuador, Spain, Rome, the

615
00:29:40,560 --> 00:29:43,920
Speaker 5: whole Montage. It's dreamy but draining my bank account. And

616
00:29:43,960 --> 00:29:46,239
Speaker 5: while he hopes I'll eventually join him in Ecuador, I'm

617
00:29:46,280 --> 00:29:48,760
Speaker 5: still trying to keep my business alive. Here do I

618
00:29:48,800 --> 00:29:51,280
Speaker 5: double down on my business plan or go full eat

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Speaker 5: prey love Florist Edition, Sincerely a confused Realist.

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Speaker 3: Angela.

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Speaker 2: Hi Angela.

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Speaker 1: First of all, yeh, fucking go for it. First, you

623
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Speaker 1: should the look in Amanda's eyes. She's in love. Now

624
00:30:04,000 --> 00:30:06,680
Speaker 1: look at her. She's looking at Fault and her husband

625
00:30:06,920 --> 00:30:09,360
Speaker 1: the first time they fell in love. We all have

626
00:30:09,440 --> 00:30:12,080
Speaker 1: love in our eyes. You have to go for this adventure.

627
00:30:12,440 --> 00:30:16,600
Speaker 1: That is my passionate opinion about life. Anytime there's a

628
00:30:16,640 --> 00:30:18,560
Speaker 1: time to take a jump, and you've been given some

629
00:30:18,680 --> 00:30:20,920
Speaker 1: proof that that's the right jump, you don't even need

630
00:30:20,920 --> 00:30:23,160
Speaker 1: the proof. You just need to trust your instincts and

631
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Speaker 1: go for it. What's stopping you?

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Speaker 8: Yeah, I mean, I guess, I just I've built my

633
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Speaker 8: life here. I live in Buffalo. I'm not from Buffalo,

634
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Speaker 8: and I came here eight years ago, and I've like

635
00:30:33,880 --> 00:30:37,240
Speaker 8: built my life here, and so it just feels so

636
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Speaker 8: I guess, almost wrong to let it go after I

637
00:30:42,720 --> 00:30:45,520
Speaker 8: put so much work in to it for a man.

638
00:30:45,680 --> 00:30:47,800
Speaker 8: But then again, it's like like I said, he's kind

639
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Speaker 8: of my exception.

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Speaker 4: It's so different letting it go. It's still there. I mean,

641
00:30:53,320 --> 00:30:54,200
Speaker 4: first of all, Buffalo.

642
00:30:55,080 --> 00:30:55,480
Speaker 8: Yeah, I know.

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Speaker 4: Again, I get out just very little.

644
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Speaker 8: I lovely too, but it's.

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Speaker 2: It's coming from a woman on a farm in the snow.

646
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Speaker 2: Is there anyone that can watch your business while your

647
00:31:09,080 --> 00:31:11,800
Speaker 2: you go in gallivant around with your guy from Ecuador?

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Speaker 8: I mean, not fully yet, just because it's such a

649
00:31:17,000 --> 00:31:19,960
Speaker 8: small business. I've been running it pretty much by myself.

650
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Speaker 8: But I am going for a month on the nineteenth,

651
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Speaker 8: So I'm going to stay there for a month just

652
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Speaker 8: to kind of give it a little bit of a

653
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Speaker 8: trial run then, I guess, just to see how it

654
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Speaker 8: will all work out.

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Speaker 2: I don't know.

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Speaker 1: It's just so, is there anyone in that month that

657
00:31:34,600 --> 00:31:36,720
Speaker 1: you can have, like try and run the business for

658
00:31:36,760 --> 00:31:38,960
Speaker 1: you while you're gone, just to give someone a test run?

659
00:31:39,640 --> 00:31:43,560
Speaker 8: A woman I haven't like, Yeah, obviously I haven't like

660
00:31:43,680 --> 00:31:46,360
Speaker 8: set anyone up to do that yet, So I guess

661
00:31:46,520 --> 00:31:49,720
Speaker 8: that would be something that I would I'd probably think

662
00:31:49,760 --> 00:31:53,560
Speaker 8: of that doing that before after, like if I go again.

663
00:31:53,680 --> 00:31:55,720
Speaker 1: I know, but just to but to give someone a

664
00:31:55,760 --> 00:31:58,560
Speaker 1: trial run would give you a lot more like confidence

665
00:31:58,600 --> 00:32:01,440
Speaker 1: in maintaining your business. You go and do this just

666
00:32:01,520 --> 00:32:03,720
Speaker 1: in case you need to, Like I understand, giving up

667
00:32:03,760 --> 00:32:06,560
Speaker 1: everything that you've built is more of a harder period

668
00:32:06,600 --> 00:32:10,440
Speaker 1: to swallow in search of romance. But like if you

669
00:32:10,520 --> 00:32:12,680
Speaker 1: go and you go down to Ecuador and live with

670
00:32:12,680 --> 00:32:14,320
Speaker 1: this guy, are you guys going to be working together

671
00:32:14,360 --> 00:32:14,840
Speaker 1: down there?

672
00:32:15,480 --> 00:32:15,560
Speaker 7: No?

673
00:32:15,960 --> 00:32:18,560
Speaker 8: I would have to like find probably a remote job

674
00:32:18,640 --> 00:32:21,840
Speaker 8: or a job down there where it's English speaking, because

675
00:32:22,320 --> 00:32:24,520
Speaker 8: even though dueling go's great, it's just not doing it

676
00:32:24,560 --> 00:32:25,520
Speaker 8: for me right now.

677
00:32:25,600 --> 00:32:27,360
Speaker 2: Well, you have to be on Are you on a streak?

678
00:32:27,400 --> 00:32:28,719
Speaker 2: Are you on to do a lingo streak?

679
00:32:28,880 --> 00:32:29,080
Speaker 9: Oh?

680
00:32:29,200 --> 00:32:32,360
Speaker 8: Yeah, I'm over two hundred days. Like I metam Like,

681
00:32:32,920 --> 00:32:34,000
Speaker 8: oh okay.

682
00:32:34,080 --> 00:32:38,440
Speaker 2: Much better than me. What am I talking about, Amanda?

683
00:32:38,560 --> 00:32:39,840
Speaker 2: What do you have to say about this?

684
00:32:39,960 --> 00:32:44,400
Speaker 4: Well, listen, yeah, it's no small thing. But I don't

685
00:32:44,440 --> 00:32:47,479
Speaker 4: see it as you leave in your life for good forever.

686
00:32:47,600 --> 00:32:49,520
Speaker 4: It's not like you have a one way ticket and

687
00:32:49,560 --> 00:32:56,880
Speaker 4: you can't come back. It's like you life is so sure,

688
00:32:57,600 --> 00:33:01,040
Speaker 4: it's like what are we doing? I mean, if you

689
00:33:01,240 --> 00:33:03,800
Speaker 4: feel something like that, like that you have that kind

690
00:33:03,800 --> 00:33:06,959
Speaker 4: of fire in you. This for this experience. It's not

691
00:33:06,960 --> 00:33:08,800
Speaker 4: for a guy. It's for the experience of being in

692
00:33:08,840 --> 00:33:11,360
Speaker 4: love and like traveling the world. It's it's a big

693
00:33:11,400 --> 00:33:13,080
Speaker 4: it's bigger than a guy. So it's like when you

694
00:33:13,160 --> 00:33:15,880
Speaker 4: characterize it as leaving your life for a guy, that's

695
00:33:15,880 --> 00:33:18,240
Speaker 4: not really what's happening. I mean, I think you trust

696
00:33:18,280 --> 00:33:20,320
Speaker 4: yourself in some ways. You're already going for a month.

697
00:33:20,720 --> 00:33:22,960
Speaker 4: It's true that you could hire somebody to take care

698
00:33:23,000 --> 00:33:25,040
Speaker 4: of it, or you can shut it down for a

699
00:33:25,080 --> 00:33:28,200
Speaker 4: month and see and see how it goes. But I

700
00:33:28,240 --> 00:33:31,160
Speaker 4: think you take this opportunity to find someone who's willing

701
00:33:31,200 --> 00:33:34,200
Speaker 4: to maybe keep it, keep it alive for you, because

702
00:33:34,240 --> 00:33:36,920
Speaker 4: if you also have that connection back to your business

703
00:33:36,960 --> 00:33:40,560
Speaker 4: while you're there, as stressful as it could possibly be,

704
00:33:40,600 --> 00:33:43,120
Speaker 4: it would still make you feel like you can do both.

705
00:33:43,080 --> 00:33:44,360
Speaker 3: And then you have a little income.

706
00:33:44,960 --> 00:33:45,240
Speaker 4: Yeah.

707
00:33:45,240 --> 00:33:47,840
Speaker 1: And also when you say yes to life, life says

708
00:33:47,880 --> 00:33:50,320
Speaker 1: yes to you. That's just what happens. When you take

709
00:33:50,360 --> 00:33:53,720
Speaker 1: big risks, you get big rewards most of the time.

710
00:33:53,800 --> 00:33:55,840
Speaker 1: And like you've met this guy, I trust that you're

711
00:33:55,840 --> 00:33:57,920
Speaker 1: a sensible person. Just in the short time that you've

712
00:33:57,920 --> 00:34:01,320
Speaker 1: been talking, you don't seem unstable or off balance.

713
00:34:01,080 --> 00:34:02,200
Speaker 2: Or in you know.

714
00:34:02,560 --> 00:34:05,160
Speaker 1: And and I loved what Amanda just said. It's bigger

715
00:34:05,200 --> 00:34:07,320
Speaker 1: than a guy. It's about being in love and about

716
00:34:07,320 --> 00:34:10,200
Speaker 1: the experience of love. It doesn't matter who the person is.

717
00:34:10,840 --> 00:34:13,040
Speaker 1: So I think that you really do have to go

718
00:34:13,080 --> 00:34:14,480
Speaker 1: down and listen. You're gonna go down for a month

719
00:34:14,480 --> 00:34:15,800
Speaker 1: and you're gonna have your answer anyway.

720
00:34:16,880 --> 00:34:19,920
Speaker 8: Yeah, yeah, I would just plan that after I wrote

721
00:34:19,920 --> 00:34:23,439
Speaker 8: in So, yeah, I guess that will be a big tell.

722
00:34:23,680 --> 00:34:24,000
Speaker 4: Nice.

723
00:34:24,080 --> 00:34:26,279
Speaker 2: There is no better feeling than falling in love. It

724
00:34:26,440 --> 00:34:27,520
Speaker 2: is the best feeling.

725
00:34:27,960 --> 00:34:31,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, the texting, the flirting, the phone calls. If you're

726
00:34:31,640 --> 00:34:34,080
Speaker 1: into phone calls, I'm not, but all of it is

727
00:34:34,200 --> 00:34:35,520
Speaker 1: so fun.

728
00:34:35,840 --> 00:34:37,959
Speaker 8: You Yeah, I have to be into phone calls now.

729
00:34:38,160 --> 00:34:41,720
Speaker 1: So yeah, face times that's the yeah what I really

730
00:34:41,719 --> 00:34:42,040
Speaker 1: get to me?

731
00:34:42,920 --> 00:34:45,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, time I got.

732
00:34:45,640 --> 00:34:48,000
Speaker 1: I got two face times yesterday. And my new policy

733
00:34:48,040 --> 00:34:51,279
Speaker 1: is say yes, answer the call. Answer the call, because

734
00:34:51,320 --> 00:34:53,759
Speaker 1: I always just put it to voicemail. I'm like no, no, no,

735
00:34:53,920 --> 00:34:55,719
Speaker 1: and I answer both calls. And both of them were

736
00:34:55,719 --> 00:34:58,520
Speaker 1: really like great, fun, high vibe, like thirty minute phone calls.

737
00:34:58,560 --> 00:34:59,960
Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm glad I did that. I'm going to

738
00:35:00,080 --> 00:35:02,759
Speaker 1: to start, you know, doing this more often. It's a

739
00:35:02,840 --> 00:35:04,120
Speaker 1: nice way to connect to people.

740
00:35:04,920 --> 00:35:07,720
Speaker 8: Yeah, yeah, I feel better after after the fact.

741
00:35:08,640 --> 00:35:10,759
Speaker 2: Okay, well, go live your life, sister. You're fine, you

742
00:35:10,760 --> 00:35:11,279
Speaker 2: don't need us.

743
00:35:11,400 --> 00:35:13,719
Speaker 1: You're gonna have a great time and let us know

744
00:35:13,760 --> 00:35:16,360
Speaker 1: what happens after a month and report back to Catherine

745
00:35:16,400 --> 00:35:17,560
Speaker 1: so we can stay tuned.

746
00:35:17,600 --> 00:35:20,080
Speaker 8: Okay, yeah, okay, sounds good. Thanks guys.

747
00:35:20,200 --> 00:35:22,920
Speaker 4: All right, and have fun and Ecuador and write about it.

748
00:35:23,080 --> 00:35:26,759
Speaker 8: Yeah right, make sure you're journaling about it, yeah, every day,

749
00:35:27,120 --> 00:35:30,120
Speaker 8: Like I'm going to do at least like a couple sentences.

750
00:35:30,160 --> 00:35:32,160
Speaker 8: I decided while I'm there, just to kind of keep

751
00:35:32,200 --> 00:35:33,520
Speaker 8: track of where my mind's at.

752
00:35:33,600 --> 00:35:36,440
Speaker 2: So yeah, that's a good habit to get into, you know.

753
00:35:38,800 --> 00:35:43,080
Speaker 2: All right, thank you, Okay, thanks, take care. Thanks, that's exciting.

754
00:35:43,239 --> 00:35:44,440
Speaker 3: So funny, how I know.

755
00:35:44,600 --> 00:35:47,320
Speaker 5: Sometimes people are like, it's so excited and thrilled for something,

756
00:35:47,360 --> 00:35:49,400
Speaker 5: and then they hold themselves back because they're like, do

757
00:35:49,480 --> 00:35:51,680
Speaker 5: I really I don't know if it's a deserve this thing,

758
00:35:51,760 --> 00:35:53,640
Speaker 5: but it's like should I should?

759
00:35:53,680 --> 00:35:54,760
Speaker 4: I like, yes, you should.

760
00:35:55,120 --> 00:35:57,680
Speaker 1: But people are scared they're gonna because it's like listen,

761
00:35:57,920 --> 00:36:00,200
Speaker 1: as a woman, you give up your whole thing, your

762
00:36:00,239 --> 00:36:02,680
Speaker 1: business that you built for a man. Like we if

763
00:36:02,680 --> 00:36:04,440
Speaker 1: the guy lived here and was like, okay, you have

764
00:36:04,520 --> 00:36:06,640
Speaker 1: to I don't want you working, we would say no,

765
00:36:06,800 --> 00:36:09,240
Speaker 1: get run as fast as you can away from that guy.

766
00:36:09,400 --> 00:36:11,200
Speaker 1: So it is hard as a woman when you've built

767
00:36:11,200 --> 00:36:13,360
Speaker 1: something to say like, oh, I'm going to abandon it.

768
00:36:13,719 --> 00:36:14,680
Speaker 2: I understand that.

769
00:36:15,040 --> 00:36:17,279
Speaker 5: I'm glad you encourage her to, like have somebody else

770
00:36:17,360 --> 00:36:19,000
Speaker 5: run it while you're while you're gone, so.

771
00:36:19,040 --> 00:36:21,000
Speaker 3: She's got a little give it away.

772
00:36:21,560 --> 00:36:25,959
Speaker 4: Yeah. Also there's airplanes exist, Buffalo will still be there.

773
00:36:26,480 --> 00:36:30,200
Speaker 2: Buffalo to Ecuador, Yeah, I choose it sucks.

774
00:36:30,200 --> 00:36:31,600
Speaker 4: But also can he come here?

775
00:36:33,239 --> 00:36:33,600
Speaker 3: Want to?

776
00:36:34,160 --> 00:36:34,440
Speaker 2: Yeah?

777
00:36:34,760 --> 00:36:36,520
Speaker 1: It doesn't sound like it's a good time for anyone

778
00:36:36,520 --> 00:36:37,759
Speaker 1: from Ecuador to be coming here.

779
00:36:37,800 --> 00:36:39,719
Speaker 2: But anyway, Oh, you.

780
00:36:39,680 --> 00:36:47,239
Speaker 4: Know what, sometimes I'm living in the you know.

781
00:36:47,480 --> 00:36:50,279
Speaker 2: In that farm will do it to you. I don't

782
00:36:50,360 --> 00:36:51,279
Speaker 2: I don't blame you.

783
00:36:51,280 --> 00:36:54,719
Speaker 3: It's just idelic were well. Our next color is Lindsay.

784
00:36:55,320 --> 00:36:59,400
Speaker 5: She is thirty three, and she says, Dear Chelsea, sorry,

785
00:36:59,400 --> 00:37:02,800
Speaker 5: this is long. I I met my fiance Bryden almost

786
00:37:02,800 --> 00:37:05,120
Speaker 5: twelve years ago when we were about twenty one, working

787
00:37:05,160 --> 00:37:07,799
Speaker 5: at the same restaurant. We quickly started dating. When we

788
00:37:07,840 --> 00:37:10,200
Speaker 5: first hooked up, I knew he was a keeper. On

789
00:37:10,239 --> 00:37:14,040
Speaker 5: top of that, he's respectful, hilarious, and incredible listener, devoted

790
00:37:14,080 --> 00:37:16,120
Speaker 5: to me and lets me know about it every single day.

791
00:37:16,320 --> 00:37:18,480
Speaker 5: I genuinely feel that I found one of the good ones.

792
00:37:19,040 --> 00:37:21,760
Speaker 5: We're just now embarking on this new adventure of getting married.

793
00:37:22,360 --> 00:37:24,839
Speaker 5: The time is now officially here, and I'm freaking out.

794
00:37:25,360 --> 00:37:28,320
Speaker 5: My parents' marriage was rough. My dad, a white American,

795
00:37:28,480 --> 00:37:31,560
Speaker 5: moved to Indonesia after college to work as an accountant

796
00:37:31,600 --> 00:37:34,239
Speaker 5: for an oil company, where my mom, a native Indonesian,

797
00:37:34,280 --> 00:37:37,160
Speaker 5: was a secretary. I think they were happily married for

798
00:37:37,239 --> 00:37:39,440
Speaker 5: some time, but my dad says he had a midlife

799
00:37:39,440 --> 00:37:41,799
Speaker 5: crisis in his early forties and had an affair with

800
00:37:41,840 --> 00:37:44,600
Speaker 5: a woman nearly half his age. I don't exactly know

801
00:37:44,640 --> 00:37:47,320
Speaker 5: when this crisis started, but it's really all I remember

802
00:37:47,360 --> 00:37:50,080
Speaker 5: of their marriage. I never witnessed any affection or kindness

803
00:37:50,120 --> 00:37:52,880
Speaker 5: between my parents. In the rare times my dad was home,

804
00:37:52,920 --> 00:37:56,200
Speaker 5: we all walked on eggshells. He frequently took so called

805
00:37:56,239 --> 00:37:59,279
Speaker 5: business trips, which we eventually realized were excuses to spend

806
00:37:59,280 --> 00:38:01,799
Speaker 5: time with his mistress. When he wasn't with her, she

807
00:38:01,880 --> 00:38:04,840
Speaker 5: would turn her focus on us, harassing us with relentless

808
00:38:04,840 --> 00:38:09,120
Speaker 5: phone calls and public outbursts, causing scenes. Side note, my

809
00:38:09,160 --> 00:38:12,280
Speaker 5: mom nicknamed her the Bee since we weren't allowed to curse.

810
00:38:12,760 --> 00:38:15,360
Speaker 5: They even had a child together before my parents divorce

811
00:38:15,440 --> 00:38:17,439
Speaker 5: was finalized. And these are just some of the many

812
00:38:17,480 --> 00:38:20,720
Speaker 5: painful experiences that I can't fully capture in a single email.

813
00:38:21,160 --> 00:38:23,239
Speaker 5: When I was eight, my mom finally saved enough of

814
00:38:23,239 --> 00:38:25,280
Speaker 5: her own money to flee to the US and access

815
00:38:25,280 --> 00:38:27,760
Speaker 5: the protections and writes granted to her under the American

816
00:38:27,880 --> 00:38:30,839
Speaker 5: justice system as the spouse of a US citizen. For

817
00:38:30,880 --> 00:38:33,760
Speaker 5: whatever reason, my dad and the Bee are still together

818
00:38:33,840 --> 00:38:36,640
Speaker 5: to this day, and my dad frankly seems unhappy, if

819
00:38:36,680 --> 00:38:39,080
Speaker 5: not miserable. To put it lightly, the Bee is a

820
00:38:39,160 --> 00:38:42,680
Speaker 5: nuisance of family gatherings. She's impulsive, acts in appropriately, and

821
00:38:42,719 --> 00:38:46,480
Speaker 5: gives irrelevant commentary. She's not the most socially adept person

822
00:38:46,520 --> 00:38:49,080
Speaker 5: and could possibly suffer from mental health issues, which I

823
00:38:49,120 --> 00:38:52,080
Speaker 5: completely understand and can relate to, but there's no indication

824
00:38:52,160 --> 00:38:55,440
Speaker 5: she's sought professional help. Despite this, my siblings and I

825
00:38:55,480 --> 00:38:57,880
Speaker 5: have done our best to tolerate the discomfort of being

826
00:38:57,960 --> 00:39:00,799
Speaker 5: civil towards her for the sake of our family. Yes,

827
00:39:00,880 --> 00:39:04,439
Speaker 5: our dad is arguably a POS, but at least my brother, sister,

828
00:39:04,480 --> 00:39:05,800
Speaker 5: and I have an amazing.

829
00:39:05,440 --> 00:39:06,320
Speaker 3: Superhuman mom.

830
00:39:06,760 --> 00:39:09,200
Speaker 5: It's important for me to keep a positive relationship with

831
00:39:09,239 --> 00:39:11,960
Speaker 5: my half siblings and offer any guidance or advice if

832
00:39:12,000 --> 00:39:14,080
Speaker 5: they ever need it. But this all brings me to

833
00:39:14,120 --> 00:39:16,600
Speaker 5: my dilemma. My fiance and I do not want the

834
00:39:16,640 --> 00:39:19,320
Speaker 5: Bee at our wedding. So how do we navigate the situation?

835
00:39:19,640 --> 00:39:19,839
Speaker 4: Love?

836
00:39:19,920 --> 00:39:20,320
Speaker 3: Lindsay?

837
00:39:20,880 --> 00:39:24,719
Speaker 1: Oh okay, Hi Lindsay, how are you Hi?

838
00:39:24,800 --> 00:39:27,000
Speaker 2: This is our special guest Amanda Ceipher today.

839
00:39:27,320 --> 00:39:29,680
Speaker 9: Sorry, Hi, nice to see you.

840
00:39:30,920 --> 00:39:34,319
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, that's a really difficult, crappy situation. I'm so

841
00:39:34,400 --> 00:39:37,040
Speaker 1: happy that you're getting married though, And just know that,

842
00:39:37,160 --> 00:39:39,360
Speaker 1: like you know, our parents don't define us at all.

843
00:39:39,600 --> 00:39:42,000
Speaker 1: I couldn't be more opposite than both of my parents.

844
00:39:42,239 --> 00:39:44,520
Speaker 1: Sometimes they give you like a roadmap of what not

845
00:39:44,640 --> 00:39:47,279
Speaker 1: to do, you know, and so like your marriage will

846
00:39:47,320 --> 00:39:49,480
Speaker 1: be completely different than the ones than the one your

847
00:39:49,520 --> 00:39:53,040
Speaker 1: parents had, just from the how insightful you are because

848
00:39:53,040 --> 00:39:53,319
Speaker 1: of this.

849
00:39:53,560 --> 00:39:55,640
Speaker 2: Now your half siblings are from the Bee?

850
00:39:56,360 --> 00:39:56,680
Speaker 9: Yes?

851
00:39:56,920 --> 00:39:57,879
Speaker 2: And how many are there?

852
00:39:58,520 --> 00:40:01,720
Speaker 9: I have two half siblings and then one step brother

853
00:40:01,800 --> 00:40:04,879
Speaker 9: as well that she had from a previous relationship.

854
00:40:05,400 --> 00:40:06,440
Speaker 4: Do they love the Bee?

855
00:40:08,080 --> 00:40:09,160
Speaker 9: Yeah? I think so?

856
00:40:09,640 --> 00:40:09,759
Speaker 4: Ah.

857
00:40:10,200 --> 00:40:13,160
Speaker 1: No, no, no, that's a fair question. So they love her?

858
00:40:13,320 --> 00:40:15,600
Speaker 1: And do they know how you feel about her?

859
00:40:16,120 --> 00:40:19,000
Speaker 9: We've never spoken about it directly. I think there's always

860
00:40:19,040 --> 00:40:23,280
Speaker 9: some I can tell that they also feel uncomfortable at times,

861
00:40:23,840 --> 00:40:25,080
Speaker 9: you know, when she acts out.

862
00:40:25,200 --> 00:40:27,719
Speaker 1: Well, I think like you have to be prepared if

863
00:40:27,760 --> 00:40:30,480
Speaker 1: you disinvite her, which you totally have every right to do,

864
00:40:31,000 --> 00:40:33,719
Speaker 1: your father is probably gonna not come either. There's a

865
00:40:33,840 --> 00:40:35,440
Speaker 1: chance that that happens, right.

866
00:40:36,080 --> 00:40:39,400
Speaker 9: Right, And I actually do have an update. Since I

867
00:40:39,440 --> 00:40:42,040
Speaker 9: initially wrote the email, we really needed to get going

868
00:40:42,080 --> 00:40:45,200
Speaker 9: on the wedding planning. And honestly, Chelsea, I knew what

869
00:40:45,239 --> 00:40:47,640
Speaker 9: you were going to say to me, probably to just

870
00:40:47,719 --> 00:40:50,279
Speaker 9: do it, to have a conversation with him, and he

871
00:40:50,600 --> 00:40:56,080
Speaker 9: actually was really receptive and agreed to not have her

872
00:40:56,080 --> 00:40:59,800
Speaker 9: come to the Balie wedding. He is also still committed

873
00:40:59,800 --> 00:41:02,040
Speaker 9: to contribute financially despite that.

874
00:41:03,080 --> 00:41:06,160
Speaker 2: So wow, it's great. Yeah, this is a great update.

875
00:41:06,239 --> 00:41:08,239
Speaker 2: Thanks for bringing one.

876
00:41:08,680 --> 00:41:11,720
Speaker 3: Now are your your half siblings? They're all gonna come as.

877
00:41:11,560 --> 00:41:16,760
Speaker 9: Well, or some can't make it just because of other obligations.

878
00:41:17,120 --> 00:41:22,080
Speaker 9: But yes that I have extended the invites to them. Yeah.

879
00:41:22,400 --> 00:41:24,880
Speaker 9: So right now, it's the holidays and I'm going to

880
00:41:24,960 --> 00:41:28,520
Speaker 9: have to face everyone in person pretty soon, including the Bee.

881
00:41:28,920 --> 00:41:32,120
Speaker 9: So it is a little bit, you know, nerve wracking.

882
00:41:32,200 --> 00:41:35,160
Speaker 2: But you know what, hold your ground. You made a boundary.

883
00:41:35,400 --> 00:41:37,720
Speaker 2: You stood up for what you want at your wedding

884
00:41:37,840 --> 00:41:40,200
Speaker 2: on your wedding day. That is the most important. The

885
00:41:40,239 --> 00:41:42,720
Speaker 2: most important person on any wedding day is the bride.

886
00:41:42,880 --> 00:41:46,080
Speaker 2: Fuck the groom. Okay, so the bride, it's your day.

887
00:41:46,360 --> 00:41:50,960
Speaker 1: You created a boundary, you're self respecting, your self preserving.

888
00:41:51,320 --> 00:41:54,120
Speaker 1: All of these things are really strong choices that you've made.

889
00:41:54,239 --> 00:41:56,040
Speaker 1: You did this all on your own, so like you're

890
00:41:56,080 --> 00:41:59,120
Speaker 1: already a g Like this is all good stuff, and

891
00:41:59,320 --> 00:42:01,560
Speaker 1: you can look at her in the eye with dignity

892
00:42:01,680 --> 00:42:05,040
Speaker 1: because at least you were upfront and honest about what

893
00:42:05,080 --> 00:42:05,520
Speaker 1: you want.

894
00:42:05,760 --> 00:42:08,160
Speaker 2: You know what I mean, and now, and just take

895
00:42:08,239 --> 00:42:10,359
Speaker 2: the hot air out of it. There's only tension if

896
00:42:10,360 --> 00:42:13,280
Speaker 2: you allow tension to be if there's two people creating tension.

897
00:42:13,400 --> 00:42:15,640
Speaker 2: If there's no tension coming from you, she has no

898
00:42:15,680 --> 00:42:17,320
Speaker 2: one to have tension with in the first place.

899
00:42:18,280 --> 00:42:21,880
Speaker 9: Totally, totally. Yeah, I hear you, and it's going to

900
00:42:21,920 --> 00:42:23,799
Speaker 9: be uncomfortable for me too, but I just have to

901
00:42:23,800 --> 00:42:24,239
Speaker 9: deal with it.

902
00:42:24,600 --> 00:42:26,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, you just have to deal with it, and that's okay.

903
00:42:26,960 --> 00:42:28,520
Speaker 1: But you know what, you don't have to deal with

904
00:42:28,680 --> 00:42:31,520
Speaker 1: her at your wedding, So that's raactly and I'm like,

905
00:42:31,640 --> 00:42:33,600
Speaker 1: I'm so so many women are going to be listening

906
00:42:33,600 --> 00:42:36,000
Speaker 1: to this and be inspired by you and taking charge

907
00:42:36,000 --> 00:42:39,120
Speaker 1: of the situation in the ways that in which you did.

908
00:42:39,040 --> 00:42:40,960
Speaker 2: And also giving hope to other people's fathers.

909
00:42:41,000 --> 00:42:42,920
Speaker 1: Like, I'm so pleased to hear that your dad was

910
00:42:42,960 --> 00:42:45,560
Speaker 1: so receptive that he's still contributing financially.

911
00:42:45,840 --> 00:42:48,719
Speaker 2: Your dad is probably miserable in his marriage. He probably is.

912
00:42:48,880 --> 00:42:53,280
Speaker 1: I mean, she sounds, you know, not ideal. So yeah,

913
00:42:53,320 --> 00:42:56,319
Speaker 1: so congrats on everything. You already crushed it. You're calling

914
00:42:56,400 --> 00:42:58,720
Speaker 1: in basically just doing a victory dance.

915
00:43:00,400 --> 00:43:03,480
Speaker 9: Definitely, No, I mean I still wanted to. I thought

916
00:43:03,480 --> 00:43:07,279
Speaker 9: it would still be a good conversation to have with you. Absolutely, yeah,

917
00:43:07,280 --> 00:43:10,400
Speaker 9: I'm super excited. Also, Chelsea, you're more than welcome to

918
00:43:10,480 --> 00:43:12,560
Speaker 9: join us when Bali.

919
00:43:12,960 --> 00:43:16,360
Speaker 2: Y Yeah, I love Bally. Next August is it in

920
00:43:16,520 --> 00:43:18,320
Speaker 2: Ubud or is it on the beach?

921
00:43:18,800 --> 00:43:23,640
Speaker 9: Actually a little bit southeast of Ubud in a city

922
00:43:23,640 --> 00:43:27,279
Speaker 9: called Mangus. It's more like old Bali, they say, just

923
00:43:27,320 --> 00:43:29,760
Speaker 9: like a little less crowded and less traffic.

924
00:43:30,040 --> 00:43:32,359
Speaker 1: Okay, well, why don't you Catherine follow up with her?

925
00:43:32,400 --> 00:43:34,520
Speaker 1: Because if I'm traveling in August, I'll totally swing By.

926
00:43:34,719 --> 00:43:37,200
Speaker 1: I love Balie. I need an excuse to go. There'd

927
00:43:37,200 --> 00:43:39,480
Speaker 1: be so event I don't know. Listen, I got invited

928
00:43:39,520 --> 00:43:40,920
Speaker 1: to a lot of weddings, but I will only go

929
00:43:41,000 --> 00:43:42,000
Speaker 1: to someone I just met.

930
00:43:43,880 --> 00:43:46,000
Speaker 9: Oh my god, that would be a dream, I know.

931
00:43:46,120 --> 00:43:48,040
Speaker 1: But don't get your hopes up. I mean, I can't commit,

932
00:43:48,120 --> 00:43:49,960
Speaker 1: but you never know. With me, I could show up.

933
00:43:50,000 --> 00:43:54,080
Speaker 9: I could just this conversation is everything, So I love it.

934
00:43:54,160 --> 00:43:57,160
Speaker 2: I love it. Thank you so much for calling in, Lindsay.

935
00:43:56,880 --> 00:43:58,719
Speaker 9: Of course, thank you so much for taking time.

936
00:43:58,880 --> 00:43:59,200
Speaker 7: Great.

937
00:43:59,440 --> 00:44:01,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, this is that's awesome. I hope I make it.

938
00:44:01,600 --> 00:44:03,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, have so much fun, Lindsey.

939
00:44:03,760 --> 00:44:05,240
Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, kay grists.

940
00:44:05,480 --> 00:44:08,319
Speaker 9: Thank you. And can I just say, Chelsea, I've been

941
00:44:08,360 --> 00:44:10,319
Speaker 9: following you for a long time. I used to watch

942
00:44:10,440 --> 00:44:15,160
Speaker 9: Chelsea Lately every single night, and you know, sometimes we

943
00:44:15,360 --> 00:44:17,279
Speaker 9: kind of live in a dark world. So I really

944
00:44:17,280 --> 00:44:20,600
Speaker 9: appreciate you for bringing laughter and joy to the world.

945
00:44:21,239 --> 00:44:21,479
Speaker 8: Yeah.

946
00:44:21,520 --> 00:44:24,000
Speaker 9: I love your comedy and what you do, so keep

947
00:44:24,040 --> 00:44:24,359
Speaker 9: at it.

948
00:44:24,400 --> 00:44:25,839
Speaker 2: Thank you, Thank you so much.

949
00:44:25,880 --> 00:44:27,880
Speaker 1: You know what, Also, Catherine hook her up with two

950
00:44:27,920 --> 00:44:30,439
Speaker 1: tickets for next year's tour. Sure, because I'm doing a tour,

951
00:44:30,520 --> 00:44:33,040
Speaker 1: the High Mighty Tour we're gonna and I'm sure I'm

952
00:44:33,040 --> 00:44:34,960
Speaker 1: coming to a city near you. If I haven't announced

953
00:44:35,000 --> 00:44:37,120
Speaker 1: it yet, I'll be announcing more dates. But we're gonna

954
00:44:37,120 --> 00:44:38,520
Speaker 1: hook you up with tickets so you can come and

955
00:44:38,560 --> 00:44:39,200
Speaker 1: say hi.

956
00:44:39,520 --> 00:44:41,480
Speaker 9: Oh my god, thank you so much. I know you're

957
00:44:41,520 --> 00:44:44,200
Speaker 9: coming to Denver and I haven't been able to make

958
00:44:44,239 --> 00:44:47,799
Speaker 9: it to one of your shows. I really wanted to

959
00:44:47,800 --> 00:44:49,960
Speaker 9: go to the Red Rocks one, but I just couldn't

960
00:44:49,960 --> 00:44:52,040
Speaker 9: make it happen. So I really appreciate that.

961
00:44:52,040 --> 00:44:54,160
Speaker 1: That's okay, we'll make it happen at the Paramount in Denver.

962
00:44:54,200 --> 00:44:57,919
Speaker 1: I'm coming there. Yes, absolutely, we're going to make it happen. Okay, fun,

963
00:44:58,120 --> 00:44:59,520
Speaker 1: I love it, I love it.

964
00:44:59,640 --> 00:45:00,719
Speaker 4: Thanks, thank you so much.

965
00:45:00,800 --> 00:45:02,480
Speaker 2: A fun Okay.

966
00:45:02,560 --> 00:45:02,880
Speaker 7: Bye.

967
00:45:03,520 --> 00:45:05,360
Speaker 4: Oh you're fucking Santa Claus.

968
00:45:05,719 --> 00:45:07,719
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I feel like Santa Claus. It's the

969
00:45:07,760 --> 00:45:09,000
Speaker 1: Christmas season, you guys.

970
00:45:09,600 --> 00:45:12,040
Speaker 4: Isn't it nice though, to know that you're gonna be

971
00:45:12,400 --> 00:45:14,640
Speaker 4: like in different cities, like if you know specifically where

972
00:45:14,680 --> 00:45:16,920
Speaker 4: you're gonna be, and like you can offer that to

973
00:45:17,040 --> 00:45:20,759
Speaker 4: people and it's just like and you're giving access with

974
00:45:20,800 --> 00:45:24,120
Speaker 4: this with this show, people can call it's just you

975
00:45:24,200 --> 00:45:28,120
Speaker 4: also two for two, like some pretty badass women just

976
00:45:28,160 --> 00:45:30,759
Speaker 4: called in like uhhh, I'm here for it.

977
00:45:31,239 --> 00:45:32,520
Speaker 2: I love it. I love it.

978
00:45:32,640 --> 00:45:34,200
Speaker 1: All Right, we're gonna take a break and we're gonna

979
00:45:34,200 --> 00:45:35,560
Speaker 1: come back and wrap.

980
00:45:35,440 --> 00:45:39,400
Speaker 2: Up with Amanda. And we're back with Amanda Ceiphred.

981
00:45:43,160 --> 00:45:45,880
Speaker 1: One of my favorite people I really ever since I

982
00:45:46,000 --> 00:45:48,560
Speaker 1: first interviewed it Amanda, it was probably on Chelsea lately

983
00:45:48,719 --> 00:45:50,120
Speaker 1: it was I've loved her.

984
00:45:50,400 --> 00:45:52,319
Speaker 2: She is so fucking funny.

985
00:45:52,480 --> 00:45:57,280
Speaker 1: She's weird, and she says things that are inappropriate.

986
00:45:57,400 --> 00:45:58,319
Speaker 3: I love that.

987
00:45:59,160 --> 00:46:02,560
Speaker 1: And you're not like an actor actor, even though you're

988
00:46:02,600 --> 00:46:06,279
Speaker 1: a great actor, you're you don't take yourself seriously. And

989
00:46:06,320 --> 00:46:09,000
Speaker 1: I think that is really the ingredient that makes people

990
00:46:09,000 --> 00:46:12,360
Speaker 1: the most likable is when they don't take themselves so seriously.

991
00:46:13,000 --> 00:46:15,279
Speaker 4: Thanks. And it was like like I reached out to

992
00:46:15,320 --> 00:46:18,439
Speaker 4: you after the shit a shit storm, recent shit storm,

993
00:46:18,440 --> 00:46:21,719
Speaker 4: which I'm not used to, used to operating in a

994
00:46:21,760 --> 00:46:24,879
Speaker 4: ship storm, but it happened, and like I reached out

995
00:46:24,880 --> 00:46:25,000
Speaker 4: to you.

996
00:46:25,239 --> 00:46:25,919
Speaker 3: I don't know why.

997
00:46:26,840 --> 00:46:29,319
Speaker 4: I felt like you were were similar that we don't

998
00:46:29,360 --> 00:46:31,760
Speaker 4: take ourselves very seriously, and you are actually a comedian

999
00:46:31,800 --> 00:46:34,359
Speaker 4: and but you actually know your you know your shit,

1000
00:46:34,480 --> 00:46:36,520
Speaker 4: and it was like it made me feel so much better.

1001
00:46:37,440 --> 00:46:40,720
Speaker 4: Thanks for for like at least like you're like, you're fine.

1002
00:46:41,200 --> 00:46:43,000
Speaker 4: I don't know why, you know what I mean, it's

1003
00:46:43,040 --> 00:46:45,080
Speaker 4: something that you had posted. I don't know.

1004
00:46:45,560 --> 00:46:46,800
Speaker 2: No, no, no, I understand.

1005
00:46:47,200 --> 00:46:49,080
Speaker 1: But before we close, I just want to ask you,

1006
00:46:49,120 --> 00:46:53,120
Speaker 1: how did you meet your husband on stage? I mean,

1007
00:46:53,160 --> 00:46:56,759
Speaker 1: I I did a stage play the last time, the

1008
00:46:56,760 --> 00:46:58,240
Speaker 1: first and last time I will ever.

1009
00:46:58,120 --> 00:47:01,560
Speaker 4: Do that to myself and my psyche.

1010
00:47:02,400 --> 00:47:03,120
Speaker 2: Did you know, right?

1011
00:47:03,360 --> 00:47:03,640
Speaker 4: Did you?

1012
00:47:03,920 --> 00:47:06,400
Speaker 2: What was it like when you, like, when you guys

1013
00:47:06,440 --> 00:47:06,839
Speaker 2: locked in?

1014
00:47:07,840 --> 00:47:09,279
Speaker 4: I mean, I guess it was like a kind of

1015
00:47:09,280 --> 00:47:13,319
Speaker 4: a long you know, when that happens, like we were

1016
00:47:13,320 --> 00:47:16,000
Speaker 4: both involved with other people, but like, and I also

1017
00:47:16,040 --> 00:47:19,719
Speaker 4: didn't know, like I I just assumed he thought I

1018
00:47:19,760 --> 00:47:22,520
Speaker 4: was a loser, because that's kind of how I, you know,

1019
00:47:23,120 --> 00:47:28,040
Speaker 4: viewed myself when it came to men. I worked on it.

1020
00:47:28,239 --> 00:47:31,040
Speaker 4: I no longer feel that way, but thank god. But

1021
00:47:31,280 --> 00:47:33,680
Speaker 4: I was, you know, like thirty or twenty nine, and

1022
00:47:33,760 --> 00:47:36,759
Speaker 4: I was in a like a dead end relationship, and

1023
00:47:37,600 --> 00:47:39,440
Speaker 4: I think that part of me had opened at that

1024
00:47:39,480 --> 00:47:43,000
Speaker 4: point because I was so done with feeling like shit.

1025
00:47:43,600 --> 00:47:44,840
Speaker 2: Because of relationships.

1026
00:47:44,880 --> 00:47:47,400
Speaker 4: You mean, I was in relationship where I was completely

1027
00:47:47,520 --> 00:47:50,799
Speaker 4: just like not seen. But I was also like, ooh,

1028
00:47:51,160 --> 00:47:53,440
Speaker 4: I want to settle down. You know. I had the

1029
00:47:53,520 --> 00:47:56,640
Speaker 4: dream of the kids, you know, very early on, but

1030
00:47:57,080 --> 00:47:58,919
Speaker 4: so I part of me was kind of opened up.

1031
00:47:58,960 --> 00:48:00,719
Speaker 4: And when I'm when I met him, I was just

1032
00:48:00,760 --> 00:48:02,600
Speaker 4: like I really liked his voice, and I like the

1033
00:48:02,600 --> 00:48:05,319
Speaker 4: fact that he like salt and pepper hair. He's only

1034
00:48:05,320 --> 00:48:07,240
Speaker 4: like nine years older than me, but for some reason,

1035
00:48:07,239 --> 00:48:09,239
Speaker 4: and he was like a he's a feeder guy, so

1036
00:48:09,320 --> 00:48:12,319
Speaker 4: he his feet were so solidly on the ground when

1037
00:48:12,320 --> 00:48:14,279
Speaker 4: it came to that kind of work, and I was

1038
00:48:14,280 --> 00:48:16,359
Speaker 4: so scared. I was like floating, and I felt like

1039
00:48:16,400 --> 00:48:20,440
Speaker 4: he kind of in some way figuratively pulled me down

1040
00:48:21,440 --> 00:48:23,799
Speaker 4: and helped me through and supported me and had this

1041
00:48:23,840 --> 00:48:27,560
Speaker 4: like unconditional support of me in that new realm that

1042
00:48:27,640 --> 00:48:29,880
Speaker 4: I was in, and I had this amazing director, Lee Silverman,

1043
00:48:29,960 --> 00:48:34,400
Speaker 4: and I just felt really safe and seen and it

1044
00:48:34,440 --> 00:48:37,120
Speaker 4: was a new, wild, new experience that scared me. And

1045
00:48:37,160 --> 00:48:38,960
Speaker 4: I think when you're really scared and you have someone

1046
00:48:38,960 --> 00:48:42,280
Speaker 4: who's like here, take my hand, you kind of can't

1047
00:48:42,280 --> 00:48:45,080
Speaker 4: help but fall in love with something about them, whether

1048
00:48:45,120 --> 00:48:47,640
Speaker 4: they're a man from a woman, you feel safe. And

1049
00:48:47,719 --> 00:48:51,000
Speaker 4: I felt safe with him and then the show was over,

1050
00:48:51,280 --> 00:48:56,440
Speaker 4: he went back to La. My relationship ended, thank god, mercifully,

1051
00:48:56,600 --> 00:49:00,719
Speaker 4: like immediately even before the show ended. And then we

1052
00:49:00,800 --> 00:49:03,399
Speaker 4: talked a little bit. But then come January that next year,

1053
00:49:03,560 --> 00:49:07,319
Speaker 4: he was out of his relationship, and uh, it was

1054
00:49:07,360 --> 00:49:09,560
Speaker 4: so scary though. It was so scary to commit to

1055
00:49:09,600 --> 00:49:12,200
Speaker 4: somebody because I was like, I'd been kind of burned

1056
00:49:12,200 --> 00:49:15,040
Speaker 4: in my last relationship, so committing with him as a

1057
00:49:15,080 --> 00:49:17,960
Speaker 4: person who was free, like a real because when I

1058
00:49:18,040 --> 00:49:20,200
Speaker 4: was with him in the show, he wasn't a real

1059
00:49:20,800 --> 00:49:23,160
Speaker 4: He wasn't an opportunity he was there was no opportunity there.

1060
00:49:23,239 --> 00:49:26,000
Speaker 4: He was with somebody. I just was like, oh, I

1061
00:49:26,000 --> 00:49:28,800
Speaker 4: know how this feels. This is where I want. It

1062
00:49:28,880 --> 00:49:31,560
Speaker 4: doesn't have to be him, but I know how this feels.

1063
00:49:31,600 --> 00:49:33,680
Speaker 4: And then of course it was so messy that summer,

1064
00:49:33,719 --> 00:49:38,879
Speaker 4: just like dealing with like the the like ongoing just

1065
00:49:39,000 --> 00:49:42,600
Speaker 4: like ongoing trauma of a breakup and then talking and

1066
00:49:42,640 --> 00:49:44,839
Speaker 4: then and then like keeping the break. It was just

1067
00:49:44,880 --> 00:49:49,680
Speaker 4: like uck. And then I crucheted myself into oblivion here

1068
00:49:49,719 --> 00:49:51,399
Speaker 4: on the farm because I had already bought the farm

1069
00:49:51,400 --> 00:49:52,920
Speaker 4: and I was all alone watching Felicity.

1070
00:49:53,080 --> 00:49:58,120
Speaker 10: I watched Felicity she's another fan of mine. Car four days,

1071
00:49:58,320 --> 00:50:01,880
Speaker 10: I watched the entire four scene with four Seasons, and

1072
00:50:01,960 --> 00:50:07,160
Speaker 10: I was crocheting fucking Christmas stockings. And I had my friend,

1073
00:50:07,200 --> 00:50:09,520
Speaker 10: my best friend, Peter, who I'm sure you know from

1074
00:50:09,520 --> 00:50:13,480
Speaker 10: Netflix now he's at Amazon, came to see me and was.

1075
00:50:13,480 --> 00:50:18,320
Speaker 4: Like, are you okay out of here? I'm like, I'm

1076
00:50:18,320 --> 00:50:21,880
Speaker 4: fired of just getting ready for the Christmas season. And

1077
00:50:21,960 --> 00:50:26,960
Speaker 4: he was October, so I was, I was great. I

1078
00:50:27,040 --> 00:50:30,759
Speaker 4: was single. I wasn't great, so like that was. And

1079
00:50:31,000 --> 00:50:33,160
Speaker 4: then going through all that and being alone and being

1080
00:50:33,200 --> 00:50:35,759
Speaker 4: like out here in the woods with nobody for an

1081
00:50:35,760 --> 00:50:39,520
Speaker 4: extended period of time. I went back to LA for

1082
00:50:39,640 --> 00:50:41,640
Speaker 4: Christmas because my sister was out there and we all

1083
00:50:41,640 --> 00:50:43,799
Speaker 4: went to LA for Christmas, and then like started like

1084
00:50:43,880 --> 00:50:47,960
Speaker 4: meditating and cause I was just so lost, really like

1085
00:50:48,239 --> 00:50:53,359
Speaker 4: horrible breakup, extended breakup. And then in January I was like,

1086
00:50:53,480 --> 00:50:55,600
Speaker 4: I was like meditating with Alan Market like it was

1087
00:50:56,400 --> 00:51:02,160
Speaker 4: in January. Oh dear, we met up his place in

1088
00:51:02,320 --> 00:51:03,560
Speaker 4: La Dear, so.

1089
00:51:03,600 --> 00:51:07,360
Speaker 2: Many deer you need to take or something? Did you

1090
00:51:07,360 --> 00:51:08,399
Speaker 2: take your vance today?

1091
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Speaker 4: My god, I forgot to take let's oh my god.

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00:51:12,920 --> 00:51:18,000
Speaker 7: He just reminded me, Okay, you can take it last night.

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Speaker 2: Okay, take it, go take it right now.

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00:51:21,360 --> 00:51:23,319
Speaker 4: You saved my day.

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00:51:23,480 --> 00:51:26,000
Speaker 2: You don't understand, but anyway, it was great.

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00:51:26,080 --> 00:51:30,160
Speaker 4: That's how I met him. Long story short, that I

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Speaker 4: met him.

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Speaker 1: What was the moment where you guys decided to be together?

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Speaker 1: Did you call him or did he call you?

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Speaker 7: I berated him because I saw him like a like

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00:51:41,719 --> 00:51:46,640
Speaker 7: like another person's Instagram and I was like, oh, so

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Speaker 7: you're gonna like like now you're free.

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00:51:48,520 --> 00:51:50,440
Speaker 4: Like I was an asshole to him and then we

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00:51:50,880 --> 00:51:53,800
Speaker 4: you know, reconnected. But I was an asshole to him

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00:51:54,600 --> 00:51:57,480
Speaker 4: and he understood that. That meant I cared about him, yes,

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00:51:58,600 --> 00:52:01,680
Speaker 4: And I was like, oh you to go live in

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00:52:01,880 --> 00:52:07,040
Speaker 4: fucking sty for claw can't do the accent. I was like,

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00:52:07,080 --> 00:52:09,759
Speaker 4: good luck and he was like, Oh, she really likes

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Speaker 4: me and she's jealous.

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Speaker 2: That's how.

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00:52:11,760 --> 00:52:15,880
Speaker 1: That's how damaged women show affection is by berating a

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00:52:15,920 --> 00:52:18,720
Speaker 1: man when we're that's how you know we've been bruised.

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00:52:18,800 --> 00:52:21,600
Speaker 4: But you know what also about damaged women, We can

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00:52:21,640 --> 00:52:25,319
Speaker 4: fucking fix ourselves and then we can be whole again.

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Speaker 3: We don't know, we can hold it down.

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00:52:27,480 --> 00:52:30,359
Speaker 1: Once we fix ourselves, we can hold it down. Yeah,

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00:52:30,600 --> 00:52:32,919
Speaker 1: but it's nice that he held you down on the theater.

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00:52:33,320 --> 00:52:36,200
Speaker 1: In the theater during the play, he held you down,

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00:52:36,280 --> 00:52:38,120
Speaker 1: and then you held it down for yourself.

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Speaker 2: So there we go.

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Speaker 7: Now.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and then like cut two a your litter, he

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00:52:41,200 --> 00:52:43,880
Speaker 4: held me to and I got pregnant.

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Speaker 2: Okay.

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Speaker 1: On that note, we want you to go take your

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00:52:49,719 --> 00:52:52,319
Speaker 1: lexapro go take it right now, get off this lock,

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00:52:52,440 --> 00:52:52,960
Speaker 1: go take it.

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Speaker 4: This never happens. I fell asleep with my son last

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Speaker 4: night and I forgot to take my meds.

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Speaker 2: Your son is a great rapper. By the way, I

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00:52:59,160 --> 00:52:59,880
Speaker 2: loved that video.

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00:53:00,280 --> 00:53:04,319
Speaker 1: I love you, Amanda. Did you want to say something?

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00:53:05,040 --> 00:53:09,799
Speaker 4: I love you too. There's always something more to say,

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00:53:09,840 --> 00:53:12,120
Speaker 4: is there. I'm gonna go take my medicine now.

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Speaker 2: Okay, bye, honey, you have a great time.

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Speaker 4: Love you guys.

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Speaker 1: I just announced all my tour dates. That's called the

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Speaker 1: High and Mighty Tour. I will be touring from February

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Speaker 1: through June, so go get your tickets now. If you

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00:53:24,680 --> 00:53:27,320
Speaker 1: want good seats and you want to come see me perform,

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Speaker 1: I will be on the High and Mighty Tour.

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Speaker 3: Do you want advice from Chelsea?

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Speaker 5: Right into Dear Chelsea podcast at gmail dot com. Find

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Speaker 3: Dear Chelsea is

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Speaker 5: Edited and engineered by Brad Dickert executive producer Catherine Law

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