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Speaker 1: Lag Books. Welcome to Malik's Bookshelf, bringing a world together
Speaker 1: with books, culture and community. Hi, my name is Malik Mohammed,
Speaker 1: your host of Malik's Bookshelf. We got an exciting episode,
Speaker 1: can you believe them? On episode nineteen, Well, let me
Speaker 1: introduce yourself to what is going to be featured on
Speaker 1: episode nineteen. Well, everybody's talking about the Will Smith slap.
Speaker 1: I had to get in on that conversation. You know,
Speaker 1: I have my thoughts about that, so I'd like to
Speaker 1: share it. That segment is called man Cole the Will
Speaker 1: Smith Slap on Chris Rock. The other segment on this
Speaker 1: episode that I have is talking about what's going on
Speaker 1: in the community and what's going on in the community
Speaker 1: is affecting everybody today. Gas prices are too high, books
Speaker 1: or gas. And the last segment I have on this
Speaker 1: episode is an interview I did with an author, an
Speaker 1: independent author by the name of Tasha Bird, who wrote
Speaker 1: or is part of a collective four books called Blessed
Speaker 1: Not Broken, The Power of letting Go, kind of similar
Speaker 1: to a book review I did last episode on the
Speaker 1: Sublime are are not giving it? So stay tuned for
Speaker 1: that interview with Tasha Bird. What's happening in the community. Well,
Speaker 1: I tell you what's happening. High gas prices. It took
Speaker 1: a hundred and twenty dollars to fill up my car
Speaker 1: work out a beatle and it costs sevent to fill
Speaker 1: a beatle up. So the question is books or gas?
Speaker 1: Books or gas? Well, this is going to be a
Speaker 1: challenge and people have to have disposable income to buy
Speaker 1: the things that they want. Gas is a necessity, not
Speaker 1: a one. People gotta go to work. People need to
Speaker 1: have gas to go to work more. I mean a
Speaker 1: lot of people drive cars, especially in California. Everything is
Speaker 1: far books, oh yas right now, these gas prices are
Speaker 1: outrageous and it's typing into everyone's pocket and everyone's business. Now,
Speaker 1: I want people to see books as essential, and books
Speaker 1: are essential and we have to maintain. You know, everything
Speaker 1: you want to be, you're gonna have to you find
Speaker 1: in a book. Anything you want to beat, you gotta
Speaker 1: read a book. So books are essential. Now I'm not
Speaker 1: sure the recession proof but they are essential. But gas,
Speaker 1: that's really essential. Books or gas. These prices are outrageous
Speaker 1: and unacceptable, unacceptable that you know, we talked about community
Speaker 1: here on Relics bookshelf. Right now, this gas prices affecting
Speaker 1: the community right now. People are suffering at because when
Speaker 1: you can't you can't spend paying a hundred or some
Speaker 1: dollars for your car, You can't spend. I was at
Speaker 1: the gas station. I was putting gays in the beatle.
Speaker 1: Pay second five dollars. The guy he just shout it
Speaker 1: out and I just spent eighty dollars and fill this up.
Speaker 1: He wasn't happy about that. And I don't care. Um.
Speaker 1: You know, with these prices the way they are continue
Speaker 1: to go up. Um, there's no end to this that
Speaker 1: we can see far and near. Um. People are going
Speaker 1: to fill it and they're gonna have to make decisions.
Speaker 1: And they got to decide what's um they need to do.
Speaker 1: And I'll tell you what you need to do. You
Speaker 1: need to get a good book and stay at a
Speaker 1: get a good book and stay at all because you
Speaker 1: don't want to run around and spend all your gas.
Speaker 1: And they gotta go with some more and it's expensive.
Speaker 1: So if you want to save some money, guess what,
Speaker 1: go get up up, go get up up books or gas.
Speaker 1: I say get a book. I say get a book.
Speaker 1: So that's my recommendation. I think that you should get
Speaker 1: a book, stay at home, do a backyard bookie party
Speaker 1: at home. You gotta find ways to cut money. Well, hey,
Speaker 1: my suggestion, get a good read, get a good book.
Speaker 1: Come to Malik's books. We got plenty. Come to the website,
Speaker 1: we got plenty. Because guess what, you gotta find ways
Speaker 1: to save money. You gotta find ways to save money.
Speaker 1: Books can help you do that. That's right behind. A
Speaker 1: book can help you do that. So my suggestion, get
Speaker 1: a good book, get a good read, kick it at
Speaker 1: the house, kicking in the backyard, kicking amongst your pool,
Speaker 1: go to the part. Whatever you need to do, get
Speaker 1: a good book because and kick it at the house
Speaker 1: or wherever you want to be. That's my recommendation because
Speaker 1: this is all about community. And that's what I think about.
Speaker 1: What's happening in the community, disaffecting the community is these
Speaker 1: gas prices. Where you know, on the Leak Book Show,
Speaker 1: I love the interview a new author. In this case,
Speaker 1: they got four books though, so I'm lead in the game.
Speaker 1: I have tisher Bird with me right now at my
Speaker 1: leak books. So guess what I'm gonna take this opportunity
Speaker 1: to interview her about Blessing not Broke in the power
Speaker 1: of letting Go. And look, this is supposed to be
Speaker 1: the fourth book. This is the fourth volume, the fourth volume.
Speaker 1: I'm late in the game, so tell us about one
Speaker 1: to three and then four. Yes, so I am a
Speaker 1: new published author. Um. It was myself and five other
Speaker 1: young ladies where we opened up and shared our obstacles
Speaker 1: and triumphs and victories and heartache and pain, and we
Speaker 1: just experienced, uh, letting go and being able to share
Speaker 1: our experiences with everyone and hopefully will be a great encouragement, wonderful, wonderful.
Speaker 1: So all four books I have the same title. No, well,
Speaker 1: Blessed not Broken like we had transformation, we had you know,
Speaker 1: it's three other ones, but this one here is the
Speaker 1: power of letting go, letting go. You know. My last
Speaker 1: I guess book we view that I've done was called
Speaker 1: The Sublime Art of Not Giving an f And what
Speaker 1: that book was about was let go, realizing it Sometimes
Speaker 1: things are just what left up. So you just have
Speaker 1: to accept it and know how to process this and
Speaker 1: let it go and move forward. So is that what
Speaker 1: this book is all about. That's what all five of
Speaker 1: our six of our stories are. I shared actually three
Speaker 1: different experiences in my life that had held me back
Speaker 1: for so many years, and UM the whole process of
Speaker 1: um allowing myself to sit in it, acknowledge it, accepted,
Speaker 1: and also move on, forgive and live. That's the title
Speaker 1: of my chapter. Well, you know, I found that letting
Speaker 1: goes it could be a difficult thing. Ver I've held
Speaker 1: it since uh at a good age of like twelve,
Speaker 1: twelve fifteen, I had an experience and I had a
Speaker 1: experience in my twenties with my now husband. Well you know,
Speaker 1: I thought they say experience is the best teacher, and
Speaker 1: someone who has ever experience, I think has the richness
Speaker 1: to offer someone to make that transcend to get through
Speaker 1: so they can learn to let go. Because like I said,
Speaker 1: it's difficult. Grief is real very much so it's it
Speaker 1: is a process. But I learned to appreciate the process.
Speaker 1: I've grown from it to sit in my stuff, to
Speaker 1: be accountable and also to for the main thing I
Speaker 1: forgave myself when I learned to forgive myself, because I
Speaker 1: have a forgiving heart towards others quicker than myself, and
Speaker 1: I think a few of us go through that experience.
Speaker 1: But when I learned to forgive myself and accept, you know,
Speaker 1: gave myself some grace, I was able to let go. Well,
Speaker 1: I think that you should tell us three of the
Speaker 1: richest points and highlights of this series. Wow, three of
Speaker 1: my own chapter or just overall overall. Well, you know,
Speaker 1: we have one young lady she experienced UM cancer and
Speaker 1: UM her experience through the cancer, being UH coached, being supported,
Speaker 1: being loved through that transition, but finding it finding love
Speaker 1: for herself that was a process for her. Then we
Speaker 1: have another young lady her process of being fatherless and
Speaker 1: going through that process, and UM for myself. We had
Speaker 1: another another young lady struggling with suicidal thoughts, you know.
Speaker 1: And then myself, I had it's generational curses. Is that's
Speaker 1: my main focus because I learned that with those three
Speaker 1: main experiences that I share with you guys, if I
Speaker 1: had more structure coming up, if I had more support, guidance, encouragement,
Speaker 1: higher self esteem within myself, I wouldn't have went through
Speaker 1: that deep. We're all gonna go through some stuff, go
Speaker 1: that deep. And I promise you was a boy the
Speaker 1: grace of God. I made it out without games, without drugs,
Speaker 1: without prostitution, without homelessness, without crying, killing somebody. I made
Speaker 1: it through all of that, made it through. And I
Speaker 1: like the fact that you're willing to give God the
Speaker 1: globe of course. Yeah, you know, start there and move down.
Speaker 1: I thank God so much, exactly. But it's been a blessing.
Speaker 1: How you just stopped buying Malik books. And I just
Speaker 1: wanted to take this opportunity and talk to you about
Speaker 1: your wonderful book and do you share it with us?
Speaker 1: And I just want you to sell a million copies
Speaker 1: and if we can help you try to move something.
Speaker 1: I'm glad you're coming on board with Independent bookstore Day
Speaker 1: April thirty. Wonderful what we're gonna We're featuring at least
Speaker 1: twenty independent authors, So you're coming on board. Appreciate you.
Speaker 1: We're gonna turn up that day. It was gonna be
Speaker 1: let that day. We got Terry Crewe's headline in that day.
Speaker 1: We're gonna have twenty authors. We're gonna have free giveaways.
Speaker 1: We're gonna have music and it's gonna be fun. Festival
Speaker 1: event at westforld CO City Mall April thirtieth. Come on
Speaker 1: through and so thank you Tasha Bird. Appreciate the interview.
Speaker 1: Appreciate you taking your time out to talk. We're leaked
Speaker 1: look shelf bringing a world together with books, culture and community.
Speaker 1: Thank you. This Will Smith slapped on Chris Rock has
Speaker 1: went viral, and I mean worldwide viral. I gotta say
Speaker 1: something about it because a lot of other people had
Speaker 1: a lot to say. But it comes down to the
Speaker 1: man cold. The reality is this. You can talk about
Speaker 1: all the laws in a fault and all the laws
Speaker 1: and in place for men, has a natural man cold
Speaker 1: And one of the strongest natural emotions of a man
Speaker 1: is his duty to protect his wife. And when you
Speaker 1: feel your wife has been assaulted verbally or otherwise, something
Speaker 1: comes up in you. More wars have been fought over
Speaker 1: women in the last six thousand years. So let's not
Speaker 1: try to tiptoe das because oh, he assaulted Chris Rock.
Speaker 1: What about the verbal Saulce being a comedian and telling
Speaker 1: jokes about somebody's wife is not a justification for insulting
Speaker 1: a person verbally. That's the reality. And if a man
Speaker 1: feel that his wife has been assaulted, he has a
Speaker 1: duty to defend the honor and respect of his wife.
Speaker 1: Wife are off limits in most cases, and that's what
Speaker 1: men who want to tell jokes on somebody's wife need
Speaker 1: to understand. Whys are off limits. And if you cross
Speaker 1: that line, and it is a line, a red line
Speaker 1: in the sand, there are consequences. People say, oh, he assaulted,
Speaker 1: but he's not gonna press your Yeah, you're right, you
Speaker 1: shouldn't because if you're man enough to talk about a
Speaker 1: man's wife and then hide it under the jokes, and
Speaker 1: then you should be mad enough to take it to
Speaker 1: the alley. Sometimes you got to deal with the reality.
Speaker 1: Men are men first, and laws don't stop the fight.
Speaker 1: That a man got to be a man, and no
Speaker 1: man should allow no one to insult his wife and
Speaker 1: hide behind a joke. And then I can if it's okay, Yeah,
Speaker 1: we live in a civilized world. But let me tell
Speaker 1: you something. Their laws also that said, don't provoke a
Speaker 1: person to act aggressively on you. You can debate that
Speaker 1: and go back and forth and show different points of view,
Speaker 1: but in the end of the day. If you feel
Speaker 1: you offended somebody, if someone feels you offended their wife,
Speaker 1: then you got this man up and take the consequences. Now,
Speaker 1: I don't know if Chris watters A just was a
Speaker 1: coward and didn't respond when a man walked up to
Speaker 1: him and not, or he showed just great restraint. I
Speaker 1: don't know. I don't know what was in his mind
Speaker 1: at that moment. But most men would have retaliated, that's
Speaker 1: all I'm saying. Most men would have reacted if they
Speaker 1: got hit. Regardless whatever reason. Chris didn't respond. He responded
Speaker 1: in a way and made a joke out of it.
Speaker 1: You know, showed great restraint. He showed that he chose
Speaker 1: to use his words. Yeah two, make laughter and refuse
Speaker 1: the situation. And that's noble. That's noble. And it takes
Speaker 1: curs to do that because of some people they look
Speaker 1: at this cowardness. But I think that words matter and
Speaker 1: that we should choose the path of peace and words
Speaker 1: before we act upon in an aggressive a matter of physically.
Speaker 1: But sometimes the red line has been drawn. And let
Speaker 1: me tell you something, when you talk about somebody's wife,
Speaker 1: even if you're joking, I might not receive it. That way,
Speaker 1: and you might not know what's going on in my
Speaker 1: life personally, so you gotta prepare for the consequences. And
Speaker 1: that's what happens. Man cold, man cold. They're dudes. And
Speaker 1: don't I think wives hours limits. I think wives are
Speaker 1: off limits. I don't think that men should talk about people.
Speaker 1: Why because I think there are red lines drawn in
Speaker 1: the sine. I mean, gotta protect this and secure his family.
Speaker 1: So we all you know, so you can look at
Speaker 1: it any way you want. You can say, oh, right,
Speaker 1: this right right wrong, this way right, this way wrong,
Speaker 1: and you can look at it all you went. At
Speaker 1: the end of the day. Um, feelings are real, and
Speaker 1: somebody feelings felt a certain weight, and when they went,
Speaker 1: they go in that direction. You can forget about laws,
Speaker 1: you can get about civility, you can forget about hey,
Speaker 1: you know, be all America the law. You know, this
Speaker 1: is a land of laws. Don't stop this country from
Speaker 1: you know, it's history. They had laws on the book,
Speaker 1: and they still did slavery, They still was violent, they
Speaker 1: still did octs against humanity. H Now, let's not forget that.
Speaker 1: We quit the point of finger. We clicked the point
Speaker 1: of finger. All kind of valid things have happened all
Speaker 1: over this world and in this country, and we try
Speaker 1: to justify rationalize it. What happened during the rods during
Speaker 1: the summer, right, someone I love well? People got hurt,
Speaker 1: people got robbed, things got burnt down. Were they justified?
Speaker 1: And you worried about Will Smith slapping somebody who defended
Speaker 1: his wife. He was defending his wife. He feels his
Speaker 1: wife was verbally assaulted, and you worried about that. They
Speaker 1: are bigger things going on, wars going on. Are you're
Speaker 1: sitting over here hind behind these laws and accolade. You
Speaker 1: could put a bear up against the wall, grizzly and
Speaker 1: then because if you know they're not gonna retaliate, let's
Speaker 1: stop being hypocritical and put the double standard down. Man cold,
Speaker 1: there's man cold and wives are off limits. There's man
Speaker 1: code and wives are off limits. Everybody else has something
Speaker 1: to say. Right, if I felt my wife's being a
Speaker 1: type or verbally, physically or mentally, spiritual or whatever, man
Speaker 1: I got a duty to defend her. You understand, I
Speaker 1: don't care if it's on TV. That's the whole that's
Speaker 1: the reality that we live in. Yeah, we got to
Speaker 1: have great restraint. We have to. You know, we don't
Speaker 1: get to where we got because of not having great restraint.
Speaker 1: Will Smith had great restrength his whole life. But then
Speaker 1: that was that moment. You know what I'm saying, Does
Speaker 1: that make him bigg I know he defended his wife,
Speaker 1: like her to leave it, like her to leave it.
Speaker 1: It's no telling jokes verb star somebody's wife. There's no past,
Speaker 1: they said, because you go to the comedy show and
Speaker 1: might sit in the front row and you get joked on. Well, hey,
Speaker 1: a lot of people got beat down on that too,
Speaker 1: so don't act like that. It's never happened. Their lines
Speaker 1: to the drone. You need to know that before you
Speaker 1: take it upon yourself to do certain things. Is consequences
Speaker 1: for actions, all right. Sometimes you meet the wrong person
Speaker 1: at the wrong time and they're going through something. You
Speaker 1: hit you you hit a nerve, Hey, there you go.
Speaker 1: Consequences the one actors, if you know that you could
Speaker 1: just say and do whatever you want without consequence, they're
Speaker 1: still consequences. And what we saw was consequences for your words,
Speaker 1: for your actions, all right, whether it's right or wrong.
Speaker 1: The reality is that at the end of the day,
Speaker 1: you gotta live with your with your actions. You got
Speaker 1: live with it. And I think Will Smith was wasn't
Speaker 1: live with his actions that you know, that's the reality.
Speaker 1: You gotta live with your actions. I'm sure that they're
Speaker 1: going on apology tour, but at the end of the day,
Speaker 1: it's man coat and beware what you say, beware how
Speaker 1: you said, and don't think because you're telling the joke
Speaker 1: that is gonna be received as such, their consequences man code.
Speaker 1: So that's my thoughts. Man Cold. Upcoming community events that
Speaker 1: will be hosted at Malik Books is the one and
Speaker 1: only the Beautiful pop Culture Garcel. You know, the actress
Speaker 1: that on The Beverly Hills Real Beverly Hills Housewives as
Speaker 1: well as the show called The Real or Guess What.
Speaker 1: She's gonna be doing a book signy at Malik Books
Speaker 1: April eleven at six thirty pm her new book called
Speaker 1: Love Me As I Am signy hosts of that Malik
Speaker 1: Books in the Westfield Cover City Mall and on April
Speaker 1: thirty and planning a big event around independent booksellers. They
Speaker 1: were gonna have twenty authors and our headliner is Terry Crows.
Speaker 1: He's gonna be headline independent books store day, so you
Speaker 1: want to come. Mom's Fun for the families all ages.
Speaker 1: April thirty from twelve to seven is the event. Now
Speaker 1: it's a free of rent, but you got a register
Speaker 1: for the Terry Crews book signing his book Tough My
Speaker 1: Journey to True Power. Tough My Journey Through True Power
Speaker 1: by Terry crew Book signing April thirty, Independent book store Day.
Speaker 1: Bus rs repeat. Go to Malik books dot com under
Speaker 1: events and register for the Terry Crews book signing at
Speaker 1: Malik Books on April thirty, Independent book store Day. My
Speaker 1: book review for this episode is a book by someone
Speaker 1: that we had the pleasure of meeting on social media
Speaker 1: and through emails and d m s we begin a
Speaker 1: relationship that culminated into this book being the number one
Speaker 1: best selling book at Malak Books for two thousand and
Speaker 1: twenty one, and it continues to sell really brisk in.
Speaker 1: I can't thank this author enough for selecting a small
Speaker 1: independent bookstore as Malik Books and willing into existence and
Speaker 1: in putting into the universe the manifestation of supporting the
Speaker 1: local and buying from small independent bookstores, particularly during the pandemic.
Speaker 1: The book that I'm going to be doing my book
Speaker 1: review about is called how to Do the Work Recognizing
Speaker 1: Your Patterns, Healed from your Past and Create Yourself by
Speaker 1: Dr Nicole Lapere. She's known all over social media, particularly Instagram,
Speaker 1: where she had millions of followers. She goes by the
Speaker 1: name the Horlistic Psychologists. Dr Nicole has hit a core
Speaker 1: subject matter which involves trauma dealing with mental health. There's
Speaker 1: mental health is plaguing communities all across this country and
Speaker 1: Dr Nicole has devoted. She's a psychologist who graduated from
Speaker 1: Publie Cornell University and so with all of her studying
Speaker 1: and researching and consulting and therapy um with her clients,
Speaker 1: she created this self healing movement. The self healing movement
Speaker 1: is all about you healing yourself from your path, addressing
Speaker 1: the trauma or mental health issues that's holding you back,
Speaker 1: helping you to recognize those patterns, heal from your past
Speaker 1: and create a new self. That's what this book is about,
Speaker 1: how to do the work, and this movement has exploded.
Speaker 1: This book has been one of the best sellers on
Speaker 1: New York Times and I know for a fact is
Speaker 1: the number one best seller at Malique Books. In one
Speaker 1: it continues to sell well. Even in How to Do
Speaker 1: the Work, hit all run because it's a core subject matter.
Speaker 1: There's some issue. A lot of people have mental health issues.
Speaker 1: I know in the communities that I live in, I
Speaker 1: see it all the time, and all through this nation
Speaker 1: you find a lot of people needing a vice advice
Speaker 1: to help turn their life around. Well, this book How
Speaker 1: to Do the Work is an excellent choice to try
Speaker 1: to recognize, you know, issues that are plaguing you and
Speaker 1: how to heal from them and how to create a
Speaker 1: new self. Some of the content you can find in
Speaker 1: How to Do the Work is subject matters like you
Speaker 1: are the best healer, the conscious self, becoming aware, a
Speaker 1: new theory of trauma, mind body healing practices, emotional maturity, independence,
Speaker 1: and of course boundaries setting those boundaries. Oftentimes, when we
Speaker 1: don't set boundaries, then we let people walk in and
Speaker 1: out of our space that cause conflict. And so how
Speaker 1: to set these boundaries in order to create a more
Speaker 1: peaceful and meaningful relationship with self and others. So the
Speaker 1: contents in this book is just a good read, and
Speaker 1: it's an excellent book, and it's a book to address
Speaker 1: a very timely subject. And if you're looking for advice well,
Speaker 1: How to Do the Work is an excellent book that
Speaker 1: gives you an overwhelming amount of advice to help change
Speaker 1: and transform your life. So pick up a copy of
Speaker 1: How to Do the Work. Recognizing your Patterns, Healing from
Speaker 1: your past, and Creating Yourself by Dr Laco. The peris
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