1 00:00:00,240 --> 00:00:07,080 Speaker 1: I adored my stepfather until his passing revealed a betrayal. 2 00:00:07,600 --> 00:00:10,080 Speaker 2: Did he come back as a ghost and confess his sins? 3 00:00:11,000 --> 00:00:14,240 Speaker 1: That's it very well could be a Christmas story type 4 00:00:14,560 --> 00:00:16,720 Speaker 1: type situation, a little Scrooge. 5 00:00:16,280 --> 00:00:18,480 Speaker 2: And ghosts of Christmas past, present, of future. 6 00:00:18,480 --> 00:00:23,400 Speaker 1: Indeed, indeed, I've been saying, indeed alive. I've been saying 7 00:00:23,480 --> 00:00:26,759 Speaker 1: indeed a lot in the last couple of days. Growing up, 8 00:00:27,080 --> 00:00:30,640 Speaker 1: I female twenty eight, had a great relationship with my dad. 9 00:00:31,000 --> 00:00:34,280 Speaker 1: He was my stepfather, but our family was blended well 10 00:00:34,320 --> 00:00:37,000 Speaker 1: in that aspect where we did not use the term 11 00:00:37,120 --> 00:00:40,800 Speaker 1: step and there was no contention over that. By the way, 12 00:00:40,920 --> 00:00:44,000 Speaker 1: this comes from user polite Pumpkin on the r slash 13 00:00:44,040 --> 00:00:46,839 Speaker 1: Okay story time sub reddit. So so yeah, that name 14 00:00:46,880 --> 00:00:51,880 Speaker 1: made me smile, that plite pump gun. There were other 15 00:00:52,040 --> 00:00:54,920 Speaker 1: issues that nobody knew about at the time, though that's 16 00:00:54,960 --> 00:00:59,240 Speaker 1: not really relevant to this story. My second earliest memory 17 00:00:59,280 --> 00:01:01,320 Speaker 1: is my parents sitting me down and telling me that 18 00:01:01,400 --> 00:01:04,280 Speaker 1: I could call my father dad if I wanted. 19 00:01:03,920 --> 00:01:08,640 Speaker 2: To also vix mix. We already saw your five gifted memberships. 20 00:01:08,680 --> 00:01:11,479 Speaker 2: Don't worry, we did shout those out. We did. 21 00:01:11,240 --> 00:01:17,680 Speaker 1: We did shout out vix mix mix, our favorite. There 22 00:01:17,800 --> 00:01:21,640 Speaker 1: was a five year uh uh. So they said I 23 00:01:21,680 --> 00:01:24,600 Speaker 1: could call my father, who I'm assuming they're talking about 24 00:01:24,600 --> 00:01:28,400 Speaker 1: this step father theoretically, but their father, uh dad, if 25 00:01:28,440 --> 00:01:31,920 Speaker 1: I wanted to. From that day on, he was my dad. 26 00:01:32,040 --> 00:01:35,160 Speaker 1: We did everything together. There was a five year age 27 00:01:35,200 --> 00:01:37,560 Speaker 1: gap between my brother and I, so while he was 28 00:01:37,600 --> 00:01:40,720 Speaker 1: going through his teen years, I was still young enough 29 00:01:40,720 --> 00:01:44,280 Speaker 1: to want to do everything with my parents. My mom, 30 00:01:44,440 --> 00:01:47,720 Speaker 1: while not a bad parent, was kind of an absentee. 31 00:01:48,160 --> 00:01:51,000 Speaker 1: It wasn't that she wasn't around, but she always had 32 00:01:51,000 --> 00:01:54,000 Speaker 1: to be doing something. She never wanted to sit at home. 33 00:01:54,040 --> 00:01:56,640 Speaker 1: But my dad was more than content to let me 34 00:01:56,800 --> 00:01:58,920 Speaker 1: tag along wherever he was going. 35 00:01:59,480 --> 00:02:01,560 Speaker 2: Kind of like Elon Musk and his little kid X 36 00:02:01,880 --> 00:02:03,160 Speaker 2: just like brings him everywhere. 37 00:02:03,280 --> 00:02:06,840 Speaker 1: I haven't followed the the Elon Musk progeny sort of. 38 00:02:06,880 --> 00:02:08,920 Speaker 2: Yeah, he ignores all of his other children, but he 39 00:02:08,919 --> 00:02:10,800 Speaker 2: brings his one kid shoulders. 40 00:02:11,000 --> 00:02:12,920 Speaker 1: It is weird, doesn't he have like a dozen like 41 00:02:13,000 --> 00:02:15,160 Speaker 1: other kids of kids? So weird? 42 00:02:15,280 --> 00:02:20,360 Speaker 2: Yeah, we did, so that one kid. 43 00:02:21,600 --> 00:02:24,800 Speaker 1: We went everywhere together. For the most part. His friends 44 00:02:24,960 --> 00:02:28,960 Speaker 1: all knew me, and I'd regularly attend dinner parties and 45 00:02:29,000 --> 00:02:31,560 Speaker 1: the like with them as I wasn't old enough to 46 00:02:31,560 --> 00:02:34,000 Speaker 1: be home alone, and even if I was, I wouldn't 47 00:02:34,000 --> 00:02:36,760 Speaker 1: want to stay home with my brother for good reason. 48 00:02:37,080 --> 00:02:37,760 Speaker 2: Oh. 49 00:02:37,800 --> 00:02:40,359 Speaker 1: All this to say that growing up I was closer 50 00:02:40,360 --> 00:02:43,280 Speaker 1: to my dad than my mom. He was my hero. 51 00:02:43,680 --> 00:02:45,520 Speaker 1: I looked up to him and I wanted to be 52 00:02:45,880 --> 00:02:48,799 Speaker 1: just like him. When I grew up, I thought that 53 00:02:48,880 --> 00:02:50,640 Speaker 1: man walked on water. 54 00:02:51,400 --> 00:02:54,280 Speaker 2: I feel like, when you're a kid, you always have 55 00:02:54,480 --> 00:02:58,359 Speaker 2: like this rosy, beautiful idea of your parent. If you 56 00:02:58,400 --> 00:03:01,560 Speaker 2: grow up like with like good you know, familial structure, 57 00:03:01,960 --> 00:03:05,320 Speaker 2: often it's like yeah, I'm oh, like my dad walks 58 00:03:05,360 --> 00:03:08,760 Speaker 2: on water. And then there's a crumpling of that image. Yeah. 59 00:03:08,760 --> 00:03:11,480 Speaker 1: There always comes a point where you realize, oh, they're 60 00:03:11,480 --> 00:03:15,320 Speaker 1: not a human, they make mistakes. What is this? 61 00:03:15,680 --> 00:03:17,840 Speaker 2: And I had a fight when I was like thirteen 62 00:03:18,320 --> 00:03:20,240 Speaker 2: and I like, this is like a direct quote, and 63 00:03:20,280 --> 00:03:23,520 Speaker 2: I said, father, I thought you were a god, but 64 00:03:23,720 --> 00:03:27,400 Speaker 2: now I know you're just a man like my dad. 65 00:03:27,440 --> 00:03:33,440 Speaker 2: A direct quote. My dad always like quotes that as due. 66 00:03:33,639 --> 00:03:38,800 Speaker 1: That's that's heavy, heavy, Yeah, dude, that was good. I'm 67 00:03:38,800 --> 00:03:41,880 Speaker 1: gonna use that on someone else at my earliest convenience. 68 00:03:43,160 --> 00:03:46,840 Speaker 1: So he and my mom had what I thought was 69 00:03:46,880 --> 00:03:50,560 Speaker 1: a fairy tale relationship. They were what I wanted in 70 00:03:50,600 --> 00:03:54,080 Speaker 1: the future with my partner. They never argued. The one 71 00:03:54,120 --> 00:03:56,480 Speaker 1: time that they did argue was such a surprise that 72 00:03:56,720 --> 00:03:59,320 Speaker 1: we were worried our parents would get divorced because it 73 00:03:59,400 --> 00:04:02,680 Speaker 1: never happened. I guess that was the first time he 74 00:04:02,760 --> 00:04:07,800 Speaker 1: showed that he could be sneaky and lie so easily. Oh, really, 75 00:04:09,320 --> 00:04:11,720 Speaker 1: does does it count as lying if you just don't 76 00:04:11,800 --> 00:04:15,120 Speaker 1: argue in front of the children. I don't know. That 77 00:04:15,240 --> 00:04:16,840 Speaker 1: sounds like what OP is implying. 78 00:04:16,920 --> 00:04:18,159 Speaker 3: I don't know about that one. 79 00:04:18,560 --> 00:04:21,680 Speaker 1: I think was that not what OP just implied? Repeat 80 00:04:21,720 --> 00:04:24,600 Speaker 1: that sentence because we were worried they would get divorced 81 00:04:24,600 --> 00:04:27,279 Speaker 1: because they never argued. I guess that was the first 82 00:04:27,279 --> 00:04:30,760 Speaker 1: time he showed that he could be sneaky and lie. So, oh, 83 00:04:30,880 --> 00:04:31,440 Speaker 1: you don't want. 84 00:04:31,360 --> 00:04:34,640 Speaker 2: To bring your kids into your divorce conversation. 85 00:04:34,839 --> 00:04:37,359 Speaker 1: It's like the round kids, I'm about to yell at 86 00:04:37,400 --> 00:04:40,240 Speaker 1: your mom. You two sides. 87 00:04:41,880 --> 00:04:52,280 Speaker 3: This sounds all familiar. I thought that was I thought 88 00:04:52,320 --> 00:04:53,560 Speaker 3: that was supposed to be part of it. 89 00:04:56,720 --> 00:05:00,839 Speaker 1: I love you, ke go give him a hug, Sam, 90 00:05:01,200 --> 00:05:02,320 Speaker 1: Oh this is nice? 91 00:05:02,440 --> 00:05:05,280 Speaker 3: Uh yeah, Oh, he gives warm hugs. 92 00:05:07,000 --> 00:05:11,280 Speaker 1: Warm hugs. Yeah, just like olof, it's the second time 93 00:05:11,320 --> 00:05:12,559 Speaker 1: you've dropped warm hugs. 94 00:05:12,680 --> 00:05:14,160 Speaker 3: What's wrong with warm hugs? 95 00:05:14,240 --> 00:05:17,520 Speaker 1: I don't know, warm hug. I can't tell you a 96 00:05:17,560 --> 00:05:24,719 Speaker 1: single thing. So good picking up from sneaky lying accusations. Uh, 97 00:05:24,800 --> 00:05:29,960 Speaker 1: though chronologically the reason I can't forgive my stepfather actually 98 00:05:30,040 --> 00:05:33,640 Speaker 1: happened before this, Oh, back in time. This is just 99 00:05:33,720 --> 00:05:37,479 Speaker 1: how things played out from my perspective. Anyway, he sent 100 00:05:37,560 --> 00:05:40,160 Speaker 1: us to visit my grandparents across the country for the 101 00:05:40,360 --> 00:05:43,839 Speaker 1: entire summer. He'd originally planned to come with us, but 102 00:05:43,920 --> 00:05:47,320 Speaker 1: then couldn't get off work. At least that's what he claimed. 103 00:05:47,760 --> 00:05:51,000 Speaker 1: When we got back. Things seemed fine until we went 104 00:05:51,000 --> 00:05:53,919 Speaker 1: to a family gathering and someone made a comment about 105 00:05:53,920 --> 00:05:58,600 Speaker 1: my dad's cancer treatment cancer. We had no idea about 106 00:06:00,000 --> 00:06:00,440 Speaker 1: when you. 107 00:06:00,440 --> 00:06:05,000 Speaker 2: Tell your children about your cancer because so far like 108 00:06:05,040 --> 00:06:09,039 Speaker 2: these lies. Yeah, feel more out of a desire to 109 00:06:09,120 --> 00:06:12,760 Speaker 2: protect rather than a desire to like ob the scate 110 00:06:13,000 --> 00:06:15,520 Speaker 2: and like punish or like malicious intent. 111 00:06:15,680 --> 00:06:15,920 Speaker 3: Yeah. 112 00:06:15,920 --> 00:06:19,039 Speaker 1: I feel like we don't really have exactly how old 113 00:06:19,120 --> 00:06:23,160 Speaker 1: Op was at this moment, but there is I feel 114 00:06:23,160 --> 00:06:26,560 Speaker 1: an acceptable age range to keep that from your kids, 115 00:06:26,720 --> 00:06:31,039 Speaker 1: depending on like the prognosis, et cetera. And especially because 116 00:06:31,040 --> 00:06:33,800 Speaker 1: this is technically I know she refers to him as 117 00:06:33,880 --> 00:06:37,240 Speaker 1: her real dad, but because they don't really share the genes, 118 00:06:37,440 --> 00:06:39,479 Speaker 1: like it being a genetic factor where it's like you 119 00:06:39,480 --> 00:06:43,360 Speaker 1: could inherit this from me. The fact that now that's 120 00:06:43,400 --> 00:06:45,520 Speaker 1: not on the table either. I think it's perfectly fine 121 00:06:45,520 --> 00:06:47,960 Speaker 1: to kind of keep that close to the vest I mean, 122 00:06:48,000 --> 00:06:49,680 Speaker 1: at some point it's going to come out as we 123 00:06:49,960 --> 00:06:53,640 Speaker 1: as clearly as we can see. But I don't necessarily 124 00:06:53,680 --> 00:06:55,040 Speaker 1: think that it's a huge red flag. 125 00:06:55,200 --> 00:06:58,160 Speaker 2: Yeah, Dedanielle Johnson says if they are young, it might 126 00:06:58,240 --> 00:07:00,000 Speaker 2: be to protect them. That's kind of how I feel 127 00:07:00,680 --> 00:07:03,160 Speaker 2: a little bit too. Yeah, love to know what you 128 00:07:03,200 --> 00:07:03,960 Speaker 2: guys think of chat. 129 00:07:04,360 --> 00:07:07,200 Speaker 3: What do you say that name was? What name? 130 00:07:07,400 --> 00:07:08,920 Speaker 2: Danielle Johnson? Oh? 131 00:07:08,960 --> 00:07:11,080 Speaker 3: For some reason, I thought I heard that so weirdly, 132 00:07:11,840 --> 00:07:12,960 Speaker 3: oh in. 133 00:07:13,080 --> 00:07:15,760 Speaker 2: Yale, that I probably could have said it weird. I 134 00:07:15,800 --> 00:07:17,440 Speaker 2: often say thing is quite weird. 135 00:07:17,920 --> 00:07:20,280 Speaker 1: Often, Yeah, you say some suspicious stuff. 136 00:07:20,640 --> 00:07:22,600 Speaker 2: Suspicious stuff. We love it though, thanks. 137 00:07:22,400 --> 00:07:25,840 Speaker 1: All right, Getting back to it, he sent us away 138 00:07:26,120 --> 00:07:30,200 Speaker 1: without telling us his diagnosis while he got treatment and 139 00:07:30,240 --> 00:07:33,520 Speaker 1: suffered alone. My mom was pissed. And now as a 140 00:07:33,560 --> 00:07:36,480 Speaker 1: married woman. I would be shattered if my husband didn't 141 00:07:36,520 --> 00:07:38,880 Speaker 1: feel like he could turn to me for support in 142 00:07:38,920 --> 00:07:43,160 Speaker 1: a situation like that. Things continued on from that after 143 00:07:43,200 --> 00:07:46,640 Speaker 1: the anger cooled down and we continued life as normal. 144 00:07:47,000 --> 00:07:49,880 Speaker 1: I wasn't a perfect child, and my dad and I thought. 145 00:07:50,320 --> 00:07:52,880 Speaker 1: I'm not saying that there were never any situations where 146 00:07:52,880 --> 00:07:55,560 Speaker 1: we were angry at each other, but he was always 147 00:07:55,560 --> 00:07:58,040 Speaker 1: there when I needed him. When I got pregnant as 148 00:07:58,080 --> 00:08:01,440 Speaker 1: a teenager, he was so angry at me, but he 149 00:08:01,600 --> 00:08:03,960 Speaker 1: was there to hold my hand in the delivery room. 150 00:08:04,120 --> 00:08:04,600 Speaker 2: Wow. 151 00:08:04,760 --> 00:08:07,200 Speaker 1: He hated that I got married right out of high school, 152 00:08:07,440 --> 00:08:09,680 Speaker 1: but he was there to walk me down the aisle. 153 00:08:10,160 --> 00:08:14,520 Speaker 2: Okay, so it sounds like he's like a pretty good guy. Like, yes, 154 00:08:14,560 --> 00:08:18,960 Speaker 2: I understand not sharing a cancer prognosis, especially to your wife, 155 00:08:19,080 --> 00:08:24,160 Speaker 2: is not like a good thing to do. It doesn't. Yeah, 156 00:08:24,200 --> 00:08:27,440 Speaker 2: it's not good for like your your communication, your relationship. 157 00:08:27,680 --> 00:08:29,680 Speaker 2: But I feel like it's born out of a desire 158 00:08:29,840 --> 00:08:34,839 Speaker 2: to like not infect the family and his partner with 159 00:08:34,960 --> 00:08:38,160 Speaker 2: the heaviness of that diagnosis. 160 00:08:38,360 --> 00:08:42,080 Speaker 1: Of course, it's not like a oh, I'm gonna get them, Yeah, 161 00:08:42,200 --> 00:08:45,240 Speaker 1: I'm gonna pull the coolest prank ever on these guys, 162 00:08:45,360 --> 00:08:47,760 Speaker 1: It's like, no, it's real complicated when you get a 163 00:08:47,800 --> 00:08:48,800 Speaker 1: diagnosis that serious. 164 00:08:48,880 --> 00:08:51,880 Speaker 2: Yeah, Walter White didn't say anything. Oh and he is 165 00:08:52,160 --> 00:08:53,000 Speaker 2: a beacon. 166 00:08:52,760 --> 00:08:55,680 Speaker 1: A great example of how not to behave after a 167 00:08:55,720 --> 00:09:01,439 Speaker 1: serious medical dis like tomatoes to like starburst or something. 168 00:09:01,160 --> 00:09:04,800 Speaker 2: To not do that. It is the complicated Where did 169 00:09:04,840 --> 00:09:05,280 Speaker 2: he come from? 170 00:09:05,320 --> 00:09:06,720 Speaker 3: Where did WW come from? 171 00:09:06,800 --> 00:09:08,800 Speaker 1: I have a conspiracy theory that OP is going to 172 00:09:08,840 --> 00:09:11,959 Speaker 1: be upset that even that, well, no, I don't know. 173 00:09:12,040 --> 00:09:13,839 Speaker 1: This doesn't make any sense. We need to figure out 174 00:09:13,880 --> 00:09:17,280 Speaker 1: what happened here. Yeah, So he hated that I moved 175 00:09:17,320 --> 00:09:19,760 Speaker 1: eight hours away by car, but he was there for 176 00:09:19,840 --> 00:09:22,920 Speaker 1: my daughter's second birthday. That was when he confided to 177 00:09:22,960 --> 00:09:26,320 Speaker 1: my mom that he was wrong, because he realized when 178 00:09:26,360 --> 00:09:30,920 Speaker 1: he visited how happy my little family was. He hated 179 00:09:30,960 --> 00:09:33,559 Speaker 1: that I ended up moving overseas, but he was there 180 00:09:33,559 --> 00:09:36,920 Speaker 1: to FaceTime me almost every night. He got sick not 181 00:09:37,040 --> 00:09:39,760 Speaker 1: long before my daughter was born. We all knew about 182 00:09:39,760 --> 00:09:42,360 Speaker 1: it from the beginning. This time though, there was no 183 00:09:42,400 --> 00:09:44,040 Speaker 1: way for him to hide it this time, even if 184 00:09:44,040 --> 00:09:46,480 Speaker 1: he wanted to. I was there in the car with 185 00:09:46,559 --> 00:09:49,400 Speaker 1: him when he suddenly started getting horrible back pain. That 186 00:09:49,480 --> 00:09:52,360 Speaker 1: wouldn't go away. He ended up having my mom take 187 00:09:52,440 --> 00:09:54,480 Speaker 1: him to the hospital after she got off work, and 188 00:09:54,520 --> 00:09:58,240 Speaker 1: he was diagnosed with an autoimmune disease that was attacking 189 00:09:58,240 --> 00:10:02,800 Speaker 1: his kidneys. Oh I can't remember the exact name right now, 190 00:10:02,880 --> 00:10:05,280 Speaker 1: but he was on chemo for the last few years 191 00:10:05,280 --> 00:10:07,800 Speaker 1: of his life. He never showed how bad it was 192 00:10:07,840 --> 00:10:11,000 Speaker 1: and always took longer to accept doctor's orders when it 193 00:10:11,040 --> 00:10:13,800 Speaker 1: came to mobility aids. In the end, he was using 194 00:10:13,880 --> 00:10:15,880 Speaker 1: a cane, even though the doctor told him he really 195 00:10:15,960 --> 00:10:18,640 Speaker 1: needed a walker. He was a stubborn man like that. 196 00:10:19,360 --> 00:10:21,680 Speaker 1: I was the last person to talk to him before 197 00:10:21,720 --> 00:10:25,680 Speaker 1: he passed. I regret how that conversation went so much now, 198 00:10:26,040 --> 00:10:29,240 Speaker 1: not because we argued or ended the call on bad terms, 199 00:10:29,520 --> 00:10:33,079 Speaker 1: but because it was mostly like every call we ever had. 200 00:10:33,679 --> 00:10:37,160 Speaker 1: He was so tired he was falling asleep on the phone. 201 00:10:37,200 --> 00:10:39,800 Speaker 1: Even now, when my view of him has changed, I 202 00:10:39,880 --> 00:10:43,720 Speaker 1: still wish I had stayed on the phone longer with him. Instead, 203 00:10:43,760 --> 00:10:45,600 Speaker 1: I told him it was okay if he wanted to 204 00:10:45,640 --> 00:10:47,840 Speaker 1: go to bed. I told him he could just call 205 00:10:47,920 --> 00:10:50,160 Speaker 1: us later. The next morning, I got a call from 206 00:10:50,160 --> 00:10:52,160 Speaker 1: his phone, and it was really early in the morning. 207 00:10:52,200 --> 00:10:54,760 Speaker 1: Back home at three or four in the morning. I 208 00:10:54,840 --> 00:10:56,880 Speaker 1: just assumed he woke up early since he went to 209 00:10:56,920 --> 00:10:59,520 Speaker 1: bed early, But instead it was my mother calling to 210 00:10:59,520 --> 00:11:02,040 Speaker 1: give me then news that he had passed in his sleep, 211 00:11:02,480 --> 00:11:05,640 Speaker 1: which like, that's you know, that's so that sucks to 212 00:11:05,640 --> 00:11:06,400 Speaker 1: have to recognize. 213 00:11:06,720 --> 00:11:10,679 Speaker 2: But so far, I'm just mirroring what Kim Kwant saying. 214 00:11:10,800 --> 00:11:12,640 Speaker 2: I'm so confused why she's so. 215 00:11:13,160 --> 00:11:15,280 Speaker 1: Mad at Yeah, I think we're getting to that later. 216 00:11:15,520 --> 00:11:17,960 Speaker 2: Yeah, I so far, I don't see it. I'm like 217 00:11:18,240 --> 00:11:19,520 Speaker 2: still a little confused. 218 00:11:19,760 --> 00:11:24,280 Speaker 1: Something happens, something comes to light that she realizes that 219 00:11:24,360 --> 00:11:26,640 Speaker 1: all of his past actions were some kind of lie. 220 00:11:26,720 --> 00:11:29,679 Speaker 2: That's bad because so far, right now, without the context 221 00:11:29,720 --> 00:11:31,600 Speaker 2: of whatever she's about to bring up, like, I'm like, oh, 222 00:11:31,640 --> 00:11:34,320 Speaker 2: like this is like guy that's trying his best, not 223 00:11:34,480 --> 00:11:35,839 Speaker 2: someone who's trying to screw people over. 224 00:11:36,040 --> 00:11:38,600 Speaker 1: Yeah. Also, going in your sleep, it's gotta be one 225 00:11:38,600 --> 00:11:43,800 Speaker 1: of the best ways. Yeah. Anyway, my husband and I 226 00:11:43,840 --> 00:11:46,720 Speaker 1: made arrangements to travel back home for the funeral and 227 00:11:46,760 --> 00:11:50,400 Speaker 1: to be there with my mom. It was after the 228 00:11:50,440 --> 00:11:53,640 Speaker 1: funeral that she told me something that changed my view 229 00:11:53,679 --> 00:11:54,400 Speaker 1: of my dad. 230 00:11:54,640 --> 00:11:55,800 Speaker 2: Tell me what it is. 231 00:11:56,440 --> 00:11:59,760 Speaker 1: She went to get things figured out with the mortgage company. 232 00:11:59,840 --> 00:12:02,240 Speaker 1: It's important to know that while the home had been 233 00:12:02,240 --> 00:12:05,400 Speaker 1: in my dad's family for generations, he and my mom 234 00:12:05,520 --> 00:12:08,680 Speaker 1: bought it when they were already married, so the mortgage 235 00:12:08,720 --> 00:12:11,360 Speaker 1: was taken out after they were married. When she went 236 00:12:11,400 --> 00:12:15,000 Speaker 1: to get the paperwork, she figured it out that she 237 00:12:15,080 --> 00:12:17,560 Speaker 1: figured out that they told her that she wasn't on 238 00:12:17,679 --> 00:12:21,200 Speaker 1: the mortgage. Okay, she didn't think that could be right, 239 00:12:21,320 --> 00:12:23,880 Speaker 1: because while she didn't actually go to the meetings to 240 00:12:23,880 --> 00:12:26,720 Speaker 1: purchase the house, she signed all the paperwork my dad 241 00:12:26,760 --> 00:12:30,679 Speaker 1: brought home to put her name on the mortgage slash deed. 242 00:12:30,640 --> 00:12:34,760 Speaker 2: Secret family, secret family. I see you, secret family. 243 00:12:35,640 --> 00:12:38,280 Speaker 1: Yeah, is this a secret? Is he leaving his house 244 00:12:38,280 --> 00:12:39,960 Speaker 1: to a secret family? Oh? 245 00:12:40,000 --> 00:12:42,400 Speaker 2: No, I think it might be a secret family or no? 246 00:12:42,679 --> 00:12:43,240 Speaker 2: Oh no. 247 00:12:44,760 --> 00:12:49,880 Speaker 1: What he really had her sign was forms forfeiting her 248 00:12:49,960 --> 00:12:53,040 Speaker 1: rights to any claims on the house. 249 00:12:53,160 --> 00:12:56,880 Speaker 2: Oh, always read the contract. 250 00:12:57,320 --> 00:12:59,959 Speaker 1: Wow, Actually, that's great. 251 00:13:00,040 --> 00:13:03,200 Speaker 2: I can always read the contract, or at the very 252 00:13:03,320 --> 00:13:07,840 Speaker 2: least put it into chat GBT and say, you're a lawyer, chat, 253 00:13:07,920 --> 00:13:09,560 Speaker 2: what should I be aware of? 254 00:13:10,400 --> 00:13:14,120 Speaker 1: That's also true, But yes, you gotta read the. 255 00:13:14,080 --> 00:13:16,079 Speaker 2: Dice the freakin' contract. 256 00:13:16,200 --> 00:13:20,400 Speaker 1: Oh no, So she had no legal right to the home. 257 00:13:20,679 --> 00:13:23,960 Speaker 1: At all. My brother refused to do anything to help 258 00:13:24,000 --> 00:13:27,120 Speaker 1: with the situation. He couldn't accept the house as legal 259 00:13:27,160 --> 00:13:29,679 Speaker 1: next of kin because he would lose his benefits, so 260 00:13:29,720 --> 00:13:32,880 Speaker 1: instead he refused to help or sign anything at all. 261 00:13:33,480 --> 00:13:36,560 Speaker 1: Since my mom signed that paper, she wasn't even entitled 262 00:13:36,600 --> 00:13:38,600 Speaker 1: to half the house like she would have been under 263 00:13:38,600 --> 00:13:42,120 Speaker 1: the state inheritance laws. I can understand why he did 264 00:13:42,160 --> 00:13:44,880 Speaker 1: it at the time, but he was so sneaky about it, 265 00:13:44,920 --> 00:13:47,840 Speaker 1: and I think that was so wrong. At the time, 266 00:13:47,880 --> 00:13:50,600 Speaker 1: he was the only one working, he'd lost a lot 267 00:13:50,600 --> 00:13:53,800 Speaker 1: in the divorce he had with my brother's biological mom, 268 00:13:54,040 --> 00:13:56,480 Speaker 1: and he was afraid of losing the house if anything 269 00:13:56,520 --> 00:13:59,920 Speaker 1: happened between him and my mom. What I cannot forgive 270 00:14:00,200 --> 00:14:03,560 Speaker 1: is that he knew he was passing, He knew for 271 00:14:03,679 --> 00:14:05,959 Speaker 1: years that he wouldn't get better, but didn't try to 272 00:14:06,000 --> 00:14:09,920 Speaker 1: fix what he had done. He could have done some 273 00:14:10,480 --> 00:14:13,000 Speaker 1: He could have come clean and admitted to what he'd done, 274 00:14:13,040 --> 00:14:16,920 Speaker 1: but instead he just did nothing. My childhood home was 275 00:14:16,960 --> 00:14:20,040 Speaker 1: foreclosed on because my brother refused to do anything about it, 276 00:14:20,320 --> 00:14:22,400 Speaker 1: and my mom had no access to any of the 277 00:14:22,440 --> 00:14:29,880 Speaker 1: information and she didn't have the money to buy it outright. Wow. Yeah, 278 00:14:30,040 --> 00:14:34,400 Speaker 1: no this, I can definitely understand this completely changing your 279 00:14:34,440 --> 00:14:35,840 Speaker 1: opinion to somebody really quick. 280 00:14:36,080 --> 00:14:47,040 Speaker 2: The stepdad, Opie stepdad took out Op's mom sneakily because why. 281 00:14:47,280 --> 00:14:49,400 Speaker 1: He was paranoid that it was like they would get 282 00:14:49,480 --> 00:14:51,160 Speaker 1: divorced and then she'd like it would be. 283 00:14:51,080 --> 00:14:54,280 Speaker 2: A bag and they were talking about divorce and so 284 00:14:54,320 --> 00:14:56,200 Speaker 2: he was he was pre emptying or. 285 00:14:56,200 --> 00:14:59,000 Speaker 1: They were having like a fight, yes, something like, I don't. 286 00:14:58,840 --> 00:15:04,320 Speaker 2: Know, prizing that after that went like that, that blew 287 00:15:04,320 --> 00:15:07,800 Speaker 2: over that he didn't go and change that. Maybe he 288 00:15:07,920 --> 00:15:09,640 Speaker 2: was worried that she would catch it, you know. 289 00:15:09,600 --> 00:15:11,320 Speaker 1: I don't know. Maybe he thought the brother would take 290 00:15:11,360 --> 00:15:14,800 Speaker 1: care of it or his son, but the son did 291 00:15:14,840 --> 00:15:19,360 Speaker 1: absolutely nothing. It does seem absurd to not like, I mean, 292 00:15:19,400 --> 00:15:22,920 Speaker 1: I guess once you do that, now you're living the lie. Yeah, 293 00:15:22,960 --> 00:15:24,680 Speaker 1: and now you can't just be like, hey, I'm just 294 00:15:24,720 --> 00:15:28,240 Speaker 1: gonna undo this, Hey can you sign this document again? 295 00:15:28,560 --> 00:15:30,920 Speaker 2: But I can see like it's you know, it's not 296 00:15:31,000 --> 00:15:33,080 Speaker 2: the worst thing that we've ever seen happen, but I 297 00:15:33,200 --> 00:15:35,560 Speaker 2: but it's also not great. And I can see how 298 00:15:36,040 --> 00:15:42,920 Speaker 2: seeing this action would color every other small slight being 299 00:15:42,960 --> 00:15:45,040 Speaker 2: like what else is he hiding? You know? Because this 300 00:15:45,120 --> 00:15:47,560 Speaker 2: is like, this almost seems out of character based on 301 00:15:47,600 --> 00:15:49,920 Speaker 2: everything that we've heard about this guy. Yeah. 302 00:15:50,200 --> 00:15:52,480 Speaker 3: Well, before we go into this, I want to shout 303 00:15:52,480 --> 00:15:56,080 Speaker 3: out to vix Mix for the ten gifted membership. 304 00:15:55,640 --> 00:15:58,280 Speaker 2: And gifted memberships. 305 00:15:58,280 --> 00:16:00,480 Speaker 1: Wow, ten more babies. 306 00:16:00,600 --> 00:16:03,040 Speaker 3: Yes, she got us over the thirty minutes. 307 00:16:03,160 --> 00:16:10,560 Speaker 2: Oh, so shout you vix Mex vix another thirty minutes. 308 00:16:12,200 --> 00:16:14,920 Speaker 3: But also vix Mix. Hopefully your daughter's okay. She did 309 00:16:15,040 --> 00:16:16,600 Speaker 3: leave a comment that her daughter are going to like 310 00:16:16,640 --> 00:16:19,880 Speaker 3: a little car accident. No, so we hope she's doing. 311 00:16:19,680 --> 00:16:21,960 Speaker 2: Ok Yeah, oh yeah, take care of what you need 312 00:16:22,000 --> 00:16:22,880 Speaker 2: to care, take care. 313 00:16:22,720 --> 00:16:31,400 Speaker 1: Of attending thoughts. Okay. I feel like the way I 314 00:16:31,440 --> 00:16:35,120 Speaker 1: saw my dad has changed now. While I still love him, 315 00:16:35,160 --> 00:16:37,840 Speaker 1: my view of him has been tarnished a bit. The 316 00:16:37,840 --> 00:16:39,920 Speaker 1: more I look at the past, the more moments I 317 00:16:40,000 --> 00:16:42,800 Speaker 1: realized that he wasn't really the man I thought he was. 318 00:16:43,400 --> 00:16:47,760 Speaker 1: I'll never get back. I'll never get that back, and 319 00:16:47,800 --> 00:16:50,840 Speaker 1: it devastates me. And there's an edit. I fixed a 320 00:16:50,880 --> 00:16:53,160 Speaker 1: couple errors in the post, and I want to clarify 321 00:16:53,200 --> 00:16:55,720 Speaker 1: a few things. My dad was not in hospice, and 322 00:16:55,800 --> 00:16:58,120 Speaker 1: he was not in the hospital when he passed. He 323 00:16:58,160 --> 00:17:00,880 Speaker 1: had an autoimmune disease that was being treated with chemo, 324 00:17:01,160 --> 00:17:04,280 Speaker 1: but he did not have cancer. While my mom was 325 00:17:04,440 --> 00:17:07,200 Speaker 1: absent a lot of my childhood that was not really 326 00:17:07,520 --> 00:17:10,639 Speaker 1: anything against her. I had the option of going with 327 00:17:10,680 --> 00:17:12,560 Speaker 1: her to her friend's house or to visit my aunt 328 00:17:12,680 --> 00:17:15,280 Speaker 1: or wherever she was going, but I didn't want to. 329 00:17:15,600 --> 00:17:18,400 Speaker 1: It was boring and I would have rather eaten fancy 330 00:17:18,520 --> 00:17:21,560 Speaker 1: cheeses at my dad's friend's houses than watching my mom 331 00:17:21,600 --> 00:17:25,800 Speaker 1: play cards. It helped that they were It helped that 332 00:17:25,800 --> 00:17:28,240 Speaker 1: there were usually other kids at the places my dad 333 00:17:28,280 --> 00:17:30,800 Speaker 1: was going, and if not, I liked his friends, and 334 00:17:30,960 --> 00:17:33,159 Speaker 1: if I'm one hundred percent honest, he was just my 335 00:17:33,240 --> 00:17:36,320 Speaker 1: favorite parent. My mom was there for my dad while 336 00:17:36,359 --> 00:17:40,520 Speaker 1: he was sick, though he uh though he did not 337 00:17:40,800 --> 00:17:43,919 Speaker 1: need her to be his caretaker. He actually told me 338 00:17:43,960 --> 00:17:47,199 Speaker 1: she wouldn't stop hovering. He liked his independence and he 339 00:17:47,240 --> 00:17:50,160 Speaker 1: never actually lost that, though my mom was a bit 340 00:17:50,240 --> 00:17:53,720 Speaker 1: more of a mother hen he could drive and walk 341 00:17:53,760 --> 00:17:55,840 Speaker 1: with the assistance of a cane until the end of 342 00:17:55,840 --> 00:17:59,320 Speaker 1: his life. I really don't like the comments bashing my mom. 343 00:17:59,440 --> 00:18:02,000 Speaker 1: I agree she was stupid for signing those things without 344 00:18:02,040 --> 00:18:04,320 Speaker 1: reading them, and there was more she could have done, 345 00:18:04,520 --> 00:18:06,480 Speaker 1: but she was a good mom and she was probably 346 00:18:06,520 --> 00:18:11,000 Speaker 1: just trusting her husband. Which, by the way, I trust 347 00:18:11,119 --> 00:18:14,680 Speaker 1: that all of you will tune in every weekday at 348 00:18:14,720 --> 00:18:19,600 Speaker 1: three pm PST to catch our live stream on YouTube, Facebook, TikTok, 349 00:18:19,640 --> 00:18:22,240 Speaker 1: and Twitch. Just tap on our profile and you're in. 350 00:18:22,640 --> 00:18:26,119 Speaker 1: You might even be live right now. So before we 351 00:18:26,160 --> 00:18:29,000 Speaker 1: finish this story, because there's a little bit story left, 352 00:18:29,240 --> 00:18:32,240 Speaker 1: I think we collect our thoughts a little bit on 353 00:18:33,480 --> 00:18:38,440 Speaker 1: this mysterious situation. Why did he not put the house 354 00:18:38,600 --> 00:18:40,320 Speaker 1: back in his wife's name. 355 00:18:41,720 --> 00:18:44,159 Speaker 2: I think, like what you said earlier about the brother 356 00:18:44,320 --> 00:18:47,080 Speaker 2: maybe taking care of it, maybe he thought it would 357 00:18:47,119 --> 00:18:50,320 Speaker 2: be fine. Maybe it was like he did it once 358 00:18:50,520 --> 00:18:52,439 Speaker 2: out of fear and didn't want to get caught in 359 00:18:52,520 --> 00:18:59,280 Speaker 2: the lie. Though, like the examples Op brought up don't 360 00:18:59,320 --> 00:19:03,640 Speaker 2: feel the same as what he did. Hear, like those 361 00:19:03,680 --> 00:19:08,080 Speaker 2: other examps, Like my read on this is this is like, ah, 362 00:19:09,000 --> 00:19:12,280 Speaker 2: if there's not other examples, this feels like one bad, 363 00:19:12,760 --> 00:19:22,840 Speaker 2: scared decision rather than a fully emblematic action that shows 364 00:19:22,880 --> 00:19:27,719 Speaker 2: his character. But yeah, I'm curious what you think, Like, Yeah. 365 00:19:27,240 --> 00:19:31,800 Speaker 1: I think it's definitely the like you can't after so 366 00:19:31,880 --> 00:19:34,800 Speaker 1: much time has gone by, it's like then it just 367 00:19:34,800 --> 00:19:36,480 Speaker 1: becomes oh, I don't want to dredge that up and 368 00:19:36,520 --> 00:19:38,960 Speaker 1: start the conversation again, yeah, because it's. 369 00:19:38,760 --> 00:19:41,160 Speaker 2: Going to be like admitting that you did yeah, or you. 370 00:19:41,080 --> 00:19:43,159 Speaker 1: Try to do another lie within the lie. You do 371 00:19:43,240 --> 00:19:47,520 Speaker 1: something like, oh, they lost our mortgage information. You have 372 00:19:47,560 --> 00:19:49,920 Speaker 1: to re sign the documents and it's like, no, they didn't, 373 00:19:49,960 --> 00:19:50,800 Speaker 1: what are you talking about? 374 00:19:50,880 --> 00:19:52,359 Speaker 2: And it could never come clean about it. 375 00:19:52,440 --> 00:19:55,199 Speaker 1: Yeah, So he probably just held onto it. And you know, 376 00:19:55,240 --> 00:19:58,359 Speaker 1: there's even the possibility that after going through chemo, he 377 00:19:58,440 --> 00:20:00,800 Speaker 1: might have just like forgotten he did that, or like 378 00:20:01,080 --> 00:20:03,880 Speaker 1: just chemo can do really weird things to your brain 379 00:20:03,920 --> 00:20:05,399 Speaker 1: and it affects everybody different. 380 00:20:05,400 --> 00:20:08,960 Speaker 2: True, it is just such a big thing to like create. 381 00:20:09,000 --> 00:20:11,560 Speaker 2: It's like it's a lot of planning to fabricate that 382 00:20:11,640 --> 00:20:12,720 Speaker 2: whole situation. 383 00:20:12,880 --> 00:20:13,640 Speaker 1: Yeah, well, I mean. 384 00:20:13,680 --> 00:20:15,040 Speaker 2: To talk to a lawyer. You have to get your 385 00:20:15,040 --> 00:20:15,560 Speaker 2: wife decide. 386 00:20:15,640 --> 00:20:18,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, you break trust forever too when she finds out. 387 00:20:18,320 --> 00:20:21,359 Speaker 1: So he probably realistically just didn't want to have to 388 00:20:21,400 --> 00:20:24,680 Speaker 1: do that and hoped that the brother or the son 389 00:20:24,920 --> 00:20:26,680 Speaker 1: would take care of it. And he didn't it all 390 00:20:26,840 --> 00:20:30,520 Speaker 1: but not but low key also, like outside of this 391 00:20:30,560 --> 00:20:33,120 Speaker 1: one thing, he seemed he seemed good. 392 00:20:33,160 --> 00:20:36,719 Speaker 2: Pretty good, He's like, pretty good. I loove it was 393 00:20:37,080 --> 00:20:39,199 Speaker 2: you know. Low green Eye says, maybe he wanted to 394 00:20:39,240 --> 00:20:41,760 Speaker 2: sell the house to cover medical expenses and thought he 395 00:20:41,840 --> 00:20:47,800 Speaker 2: would get it in the potential divorce. Anyway, I mean question, wait, 396 00:20:47,920 --> 00:20:50,440 Speaker 2: was it his? It was his house, It was. 397 00:20:50,400 --> 00:20:53,639 Speaker 1: His families, like his pass down from them house. 398 00:20:54,080 --> 00:20:58,960 Speaker 2: But but because they were married, it would have been 399 00:20:59,240 --> 00:21:00,960 Speaker 2: potentially her and like she could have. 400 00:21:00,920 --> 00:21:05,960 Speaker 1: Well, they like bought it while they were married, so. 401 00:21:05,880 --> 00:21:09,439 Speaker 2: It technically it was owned by them. It should have 402 00:21:09,480 --> 00:21:11,640 Speaker 2: been split. Yeah. 403 00:21:11,840 --> 00:21:18,119 Speaker 1: Yeah, So don't make huge lies to your partner. Yeah, yeah, 404 00:21:18,520 --> 00:21:20,000 Speaker 1: that's probably the solution here. 405 00:21:20,000 --> 00:21:22,040 Speaker 2: The main that's the main. That's the main thing. But 406 00:21:22,040 --> 00:21:24,040 Speaker 2: I would love to hear what the end of the story. 407 00:21:24,280 --> 00:21:28,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, let's get it. Let's get into this. I didn't 408 00:21:28,240 --> 00:21:30,919 Speaker 1: mean to imply that my mom was never there to 409 00:21:31,000 --> 00:21:33,760 Speaker 1: parent me or involved in my life. I just meant 410 00:21:34,000 --> 00:21:36,119 Speaker 1: that if we had nothing going on, she was not 411 00:21:36,200 --> 00:21:38,840 Speaker 1: going to be sitting in the house watching TV. She 412 00:21:38,920 --> 00:21:41,280 Speaker 1: did take us to do plenty. There were things she 413 00:21:41,359 --> 00:21:43,440 Speaker 1: did with us that my dad didn't like, taking us 414 00:21:43,480 --> 00:21:46,440 Speaker 1: swimming every summer. Dad couldn't swim, and rarely ever got 415 00:21:46,440 --> 00:21:49,119 Speaker 1: into the water and riding all the roller coasters with 416 00:21:49,200 --> 00:21:51,679 Speaker 1: us at the amusement park. She would take us to 417 00:21:51,760 --> 00:21:54,480 Speaker 1: visit cousins and aunts and uncles on her side. She 418 00:21:54,600 --> 00:21:57,000 Speaker 1: just never liked being stuck in the house without any 419 00:21:57,000 --> 00:22:00,399 Speaker 1: interaction with other adults. And that is the end I 420 00:22:00,480 --> 00:22:03,159 Speaker 1: see that story. Well, just a little clin add on 421 00:22:03,240 --> 00:22:05,520 Speaker 1: there about mom's tendencies. 422 00:22:06,200 --> 00:22:09,119 Speaker 2: Ace makes it on twitch, says op step dad bought 423 00:22:09,240 --> 00:22:12,000 Speaker 2: brought papers to Opie's mom with mom thinking there were 424 00:22:12,000 --> 00:22:15,640 Speaker 2: mortgage papers, but they were papers to forfeit any right 425 00:22:15,680 --> 00:22:20,000 Speaker 2: to the house. That's right, yeah, which is pretty bad. 426 00:22:20,280 --> 00:22:21,080 Speaker 2: Which is pretty bad. 427 00:22:21,160 --> 00:22:25,640 Speaker 1: Also, like that is it's one line, it's probably yeah, 428 00:22:25,640 --> 00:22:27,000 Speaker 1: it probably is illegal. 429 00:22:26,600 --> 00:22:27,640 Speaker 2: To pretend yeah. 430 00:22:27,800 --> 00:22:32,159 Speaker 1: False. Uh. It's almost like entrapment where it's like but 431 00:22:32,280 --> 00:22:35,920 Speaker 1: at the same time, if you sign a document that 432 00:22:36,000 --> 00:22:38,280 Speaker 1: you had the ability to read and it just didn't 433 00:22:38,280 --> 00:22:40,760 Speaker 1: read it, I don't know if that's like a loophole 434 00:22:40,920 --> 00:22:43,280 Speaker 1: or what, but it is crazy. This is just one 435 00:22:43,320 --> 00:22:45,720 Speaker 1: of those things. I mean, sometimes one action can undo 436 00:22:45,880 --> 00:22:49,560 Speaker 1: like a lifetime of good work of good actions, because 437 00:22:49,560 --> 00:22:51,239 Speaker 1: now at this one thing is going to be at 438 00:22:51,280 --> 00:22:53,040 Speaker 1: the forefront of Op's mind. 439 00:22:52,960 --> 00:22:57,600 Speaker 2: And especially you know, it's like, uh, I think diving 440 00:22:57,640 --> 00:23:03,240 Speaker 2: into that one one action won't define you. Uh if 441 00:23:03,400 --> 00:23:06,919 Speaker 2: you try to make that right, try to make that 442 00:23:06,960 --> 00:23:09,600 Speaker 2: action right. Like right if if that guy had made that, 443 00:23:10,000 --> 00:23:14,960 Speaker 2: made that decision to sneakily get the house but then apologize, 444 00:23:14,960 --> 00:23:22,119 Speaker 2: made it right, like re signed her in op, probably 445 00:23:22,119 --> 00:23:25,000 Speaker 2: wouldn't have this like totally tarnished perception. 446 00:23:25,800 --> 00:23:29,919 Speaker 1: Uh. Yeah, he's tried to fix it towards the end 447 00:23:29,920 --> 00:23:34,640 Speaker 1: of his life. Yeah, but again it's at that point, 448 00:23:34,880 --> 00:23:37,720 Speaker 1: you know, maybe he's just not his head's not clear 449 00:23:37,800 --> 00:23:43,520 Speaker 1: enough to remember. Cho's chemo's a nasty cocktail stuff. And yeah, chmos, 450 00:23:43,640 --> 00:23:45,239 Speaker 1: I mean literally really messes you up. 451 00:23:45,240 --> 00:23:46,120 Speaker 2: It's a little poison. 452 00:23:47,040 --> 00:23:49,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, quite literally, it's poison. But uh, weird to me 453 00:23:49,840 --> 00:23:51,800 Speaker 1: that they were giving him chemo for an autoimmune disease. 454 00:23:51,800 --> 00:23:52,600 Speaker 1: I haven't heard that before. 455 00:23:54,119 --> 00:23:56,600 Speaker 2: We got another story for you, But before that, we 456 00:23:56,680 --> 00:24:01,800 Speaker 2: got Hella donations, Dakota. Do you wanna go through those? Yeah? 457 00:24:01,840 --> 00:24:05,280 Speaker 1: All right, ellig thank you for twenty dollars in the 458 00:24:05,400 --> 00:24:08,040 Speaker 1: tip link. No less where YouTube doesn't take thirty percent. 459 00:24:08,640 --> 00:24:14,080 Speaker 1: It's my daughter Gwen's second birthday. Happy birthday, Gway, Happy birthday, Gwen. Yeah, 460 00:24:15,680 --> 00:24:18,560 Speaker 1: two years of chaos with my little ginger Mini me 461 00:24:18,760 --> 00:24:23,160 Speaker 1: and many many more years of chaos to come. Happy birthday, 462 00:24:23,160 --> 00:24:26,720 Speaker 1: Happy times, Happy birthday, Gwen. I'm sure your two won't 463 00:24:26,720 --> 00:24:31,520 Speaker 1: be that terrible. Jolly Toasters. Thanks for the five dollars. 464 00:24:31,840 --> 00:24:35,679 Speaker 1: I have NMO and I understand not being able to 465 00:24:35,760 --> 00:24:42,600 Speaker 1: accept your body is slowly uh killing you. What is NMO? 466 00:24:43,440 --> 00:24:44,040 Speaker 3: I'll look it up. 467 00:24:44,800 --> 00:24:48,720 Speaker 1: I thankfully can walk again, but I need assistance. Sometimes 468 00:24:48,760 --> 00:24:51,520 Speaker 1: I don't tell anyone that doesn't see me consistently, and 469 00:24:51,560 --> 00:24:54,560 Speaker 1: I think, yeah, Jolly Toaster speaking to that. Really, when 470 00:24:54,560 --> 00:24:56,960 Speaker 1: you have a serious medical diagnosis, it's it's kind of 471 00:24:57,119 --> 00:25:03,120 Speaker 1: up to you whether or not you want to disclose 472 00:25:03,160 --> 00:25:04,560 Speaker 1: that information to people. 473 00:25:04,640 --> 00:25:08,240 Speaker 3: It's an auto immune disease. Yeah, we just yeah, okay, specific. 474 00:25:07,800 --> 00:25:10,560 Speaker 1: One and apparently I do know. AQ just said there 475 00:25:10,800 --> 00:25:13,320 Speaker 1: that chemo for autoimmune happens all the time, which I 476 00:25:13,320 --> 00:25:18,240 Speaker 1: had I had no IDEA donation from kender Chew, Thank 477 00:25:18,280 --> 00:25:20,920 Speaker 1: you for the five dollars. And you had an alien head. 478 00:25:21,000 --> 00:25:29,879 Speaker 1: It sounds like Zeep's arn't dooe. That's uh sassy sin LPC. 479 00:25:29,960 --> 00:25:32,880 Speaker 1: Thanks for the five bucks. Virtual hugged to keon. Oh Sam, 480 00:25:32,960 --> 00:25:34,920 Speaker 1: give me another one, give him another one. Did you 481 00:25:35,000 --> 00:25:36,000 Speaker 1: wash your hand from sassy sin? 482 00:25:36,359 --> 00:25:39,240 Speaker 3: Wash your hands? Did you wash your hands? Okay, he 483 00:25:39,359 --> 00:25:39,960 Speaker 3: washed his hands. 484 00:25:40,040 --> 00:25:45,480 Speaker 1: He washes his hands, Sam washes his hands. Confirmed. Mt 485 00:25:45,720 --> 00:25:49,240 Speaker 1: avs Girl, thanks for the twenty five dollars in the 486 00:25:49,280 --> 00:25:55,280 Speaker 1: tip link with a little smiley face. Thank you. And 487 00:25:55,520 --> 00:25:59,760 Speaker 1: Josephine Madodo Broquist, thank you for the five dollars. Keon. 488 00:26:00,080 --> 00:26:01,840 Speaker 1: Have the rest of the gang told you about my 489 00:26:02,040 --> 00:26:04,800 Speaker 1: plan to draw y'all? Ah gonna need you to send 490 00:26:04,800 --> 00:26:08,879 Speaker 1: a good quality selfie slash portrait photo in discord. Heart, 491 00:26:09,960 --> 00:26:12,040 Speaker 1: I still need to send mine. I have. 492 00:26:14,000 --> 00:26:14,679 Speaker 3: A screenshot. 493 00:26:14,840 --> 00:26:18,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, screenshot that right now? Can you screenshot that vogue? 494 00:26:18,680 --> 00:26:24,600 Speaker 1: Get it? He's voguing. He's voguing. He's voguing. Ah oh no, 495 00:26:24,640 --> 00:26:25,840 Speaker 1: I can send in the discord. 496 00:26:25,880 --> 00:26:29,240 Speaker 3: I can send you a message, uh general chat to 497 00:26:29,440 --> 00:26:30,719 Speaker 3: I could be in general. I don't think I want 498 00:26:30,760 --> 00:26:32,040 Speaker 3: to put my photo in general chat. 499 00:26:32,040 --> 00:26:32,480 Speaker 2: I don't know. 500 00:26:32,920 --> 00:26:35,160 Speaker 3: Maybe I don't know. What kind of photo do you need? 501 00:26:35,240 --> 00:26:39,199 Speaker 3: Like what do you want? You tell me what to 502 00:26:39,200 --> 00:26:43,760 Speaker 3: give to you? Was that preferably shirtless? Pantsless? 503 00:26:44,000 --> 00:26:44,240 Speaker 2: Yeah? 504 00:26:44,600 --> 00:26:49,520 Speaker 1: Maybe like that pantsless, but from like the chest up? Yeah, 505 00:26:49,680 --> 00:26:51,040 Speaker 1: you know what's going on down there? 506 00:26:51,119 --> 00:26:52,160 Speaker 2: You know I don't have to show. 507 00:26:51,960 --> 00:26:55,800 Speaker 1: You fix makes Thanks for the five bucks. My daughter's 508 00:26:55,800 --> 00:26:58,679 Speaker 1: school bus was in an accident, but luckily everyone was fine. 509 00:26:59,080 --> 00:27:01,879 Speaker 1: Please pay attention to your surroundings. Yes, pay attention to 510 00:27:01,920 --> 00:27:05,000 Speaker 1: your surroundings when you drive. We're glad. Everyone's okay. The 511 00:27:05,080 --> 00:27:10,040 Speaker 1: school buses are sturdy, and man, we had some back 512 00:27:10,080 --> 00:27:15,000 Speaker 1: to what Hannah for forty bucks? Everyone knows what to 513 00:27:15,040 --> 00:27:17,679 Speaker 1: put in the chat? Look at that? 514 00:27:17,800 --> 00:27:20,600 Speaker 3: Look at that? It's sharp, sharp. 515 00:27:21,280 --> 00:27:31,080 Speaker 1: And ornella for fifty the pipling, Yes, it's some more 516 00:27:31,160 --> 00:27:36,119 Speaker 1: officia Italian hands in the chat or or another my 517 00:27:36,400 --> 00:27:40,239 Speaker 1: favorite Italian like American of an annunciation. I found an 518 00:27:40,280 --> 00:27:44,040 Speaker 1: old man who had a pasta sauce tutorial, an old 519 00:27:44,080 --> 00:27:46,560 Speaker 1: Italian man who was teaching how to make pasta sauce. 520 00:27:46,760 --> 00:27:52,360 Speaker 1: And the way he pronounced sauce was sauche. He pronounced 521 00:27:52,400 --> 00:27:56,040 Speaker 1: it sauchi, which is, I believe, not how you say 522 00:27:56,080 --> 00:28:00,080 Speaker 1: sauce in Italy. But it's like the English annunciation that 523 00:28:00,160 --> 00:28:01,560 Speaker 1: he gave us, sauj chanella. 524 00:28:01,640 --> 00:28:06,600 Speaker 2: Is that right? How do you pronounce sauce in Italy? 525 00:28:05,920 --> 00:28:12,080 Speaker 1: And here come the super chats my eyes, Oh that's 526 00:28:12,119 --> 00:28:14,000 Speaker 1: vix Mix, thank you for the five bucks. Vix Mix. 527 00:28:14,320 --> 00:28:16,520 Speaker 1: My daughter and all the kids on the bus are good. 528 00:28:16,960 --> 00:28:19,640 Speaker 1: I didn't know that was a little They have an 529 00:28:19,680 --> 00:28:20,800 Speaker 1: actual hand. 530 00:28:20,960 --> 00:28:23,560 Speaker 3: That's amazing. It's amazing what they internedy can do. You know. 531 00:28:23,720 --> 00:28:26,160 Speaker 1: Uh, my daughter and all the kids on the bus 532 00:28:26,160 --> 00:28:28,680 Speaker 1: are good. Someone ran into the back of the bus 533 00:28:28,680 --> 00:28:32,920 Speaker 1: because they were texting, so please guys pay attention. Yet 534 00:28:33,040 --> 00:28:34,040 Speaker 1: texting and driving. 535 00:28:34,359 --> 00:28:39,200 Speaker 3: No, they're okay. That's that's the main point. Hopefully they're okay. 536 00:28:39,200 --> 00:28:40,280 Speaker 3: I mean yeah, but no texting and drive. 537 00:28:40,400 --> 00:28:44,600 Speaker 1: And Dornella says that they call sauce salt sa sauce 538 00:28:45,520 --> 00:28:49,160 Speaker 1: south size. How you say sauce in Italian? This guy 539 00:28:49,200 --> 00:28:52,520 Speaker 1: his name was Pasquale and he would say saluchi sau 540 00:28:52,840 --> 00:28:57,080 Speaker 1: Can you make it the saluci? Uh? Carl Weiss, thanks 541 00:28:57,080 --> 00:28:59,600 Speaker 1: for the five bucks. My hubby heard my super chat 542 00:28:59,680 --> 00:29:03,360 Speaker 1: and this was his response. Some think I'm still at 543 00:29:03,400 --> 00:29:04,120 Speaker 1: a drink. 544 00:29:07,000 --> 00:29:09,200 Speaker 2: Some think I'm still maybe a cool drink of water 545 00:29:09,720 --> 00:29:10,520 Speaker 2: if you're thirsty. 546 00:29:11,440 --> 00:29:14,120 Speaker 1: Some think I'm still a tall drink of cool water 547 00:29:14,520 --> 00:29:19,200 Speaker 1: if you're thirsty. I love him so much. Well. Shout 548 00:29:19,200 --> 00:29:24,959 Speaker 1: out to Carl and and Carl's partner who has remained 549 00:29:25,000 --> 00:29:28,800 Speaker 1: nameless and vix makes thank you for the ten gifted memberships. 550 00:29:29,200 --> 00:29:31,200 Speaker 1: We've got all kinds of new babies in the chat. 551 00:29:31,240 --> 00:29:33,720 Speaker 1: If you're new, if you've just been given a membership, 552 00:29:34,440 --> 00:29:36,880 Speaker 1: let us know, say thanks, and if you want one, 553 00:29:36,920 --> 00:29:39,240 Speaker 1: get active in the chat, because being active in the 554 00:29:39,280 --> 00:29:46,800 Speaker 1: chat is what gets you these free memberships. Tammy el 555 00:29:46,880 --> 00:29:52,200 Speaker 1: gareb el Grob, Lisa al Gaib, Tammy lisaan al Gaib, 556 00:29:52,360 --> 00:29:55,400 Speaker 1: Welcome to the nights. I loved you in Dune too, 557 00:29:57,360 --> 00:30:00,000 Speaker 1: doodle Bob eat up, mean while I'm up? Why I'm up? 558 00:30:00,240 --> 00:30:03,360 Speaker 1: Thank you love y'all. Thank you for the two bucks. 559 00:30:03,400 --> 00:30:05,960 Speaker 1: Me hoym noy. Could you say hi to my daughter 560 00:30:06,520 --> 00:30:11,760 Speaker 1: Talaya or Talia? Hello Talia, it so better because it's 561 00:30:11,760 --> 00:30:14,000 Speaker 1: so small, you gotta make it bigger for my eyes. 562 00:30:14,080 --> 00:30:15,640 Speaker 3: All we have to say was make it bigger, and 563 00:30:15,680 --> 00:30:17,560 Speaker 3: I'll make it bigger for you. To make it bigger, 564 00:30:17,840 --> 00:30:19,800 Speaker 3: just look at you for a second, make it bigger 565 00:30:19,800 --> 00:30:24,120 Speaker 3: for me. It's bigger, Hi, Talia? 566 00:30:26,720 --> 00:30:31,320 Speaker 1: All right, Kate Ruman, thanks for the ten bucks. So 567 00:30:31,400 --> 00:30:34,000 Speaker 1: happy I found you guys listening daily for four to 568 00:30:34,080 --> 00:30:35,920 Speaker 1: seven hours a day. 569 00:30:36,720 --> 00:30:39,240 Speaker 2: Now, that's Dedica. Those are numbers. 570 00:30:39,280 --> 00:30:40,920 Speaker 1: You got to pump those numbers up. No, I'm just 571 00:30:41,400 --> 00:30:44,160 Speaker 1: number of huge numbers, huge numbers. 572 00:30:44,160 --> 00:30:47,040 Speaker 2: I just couldn't help myself watching the live stream and 573 00:30:47,160 --> 00:30:51,120 Speaker 2: not every video that we release, both on the main 574 00:30:51,200 --> 00:30:52,160 Speaker 2: channel and the clips. 575 00:30:52,240 --> 00:30:55,880 Speaker 1: Jan we need twenty two hours of listening per day. 576 00:30:57,280 --> 00:30:59,440 Speaker 1: But no, just kidding, thank you. We're so we're grateful 577 00:30:59,440 --> 00:31:03,280 Speaker 1: for anyone and everyone who listens, really helping me with 578 00:31:03,320 --> 00:31:05,760 Speaker 1: my own stories in my own life. Just moved to 579 00:31:05,920 --> 00:31:09,240 Speaker 1: LA two years ago and so much has happened. You 580 00:31:09,360 --> 00:31:11,520 Speaker 1: make it easier. Yeah, A lot happens in this town, 581 00:31:12,040 --> 00:31:15,719 Speaker 1: this in this city, A lot happens. Well, welcome and 582 00:31:15,760 --> 00:31:19,720 Speaker 1: we're glad you're here. Kate, Dragon Princess. Remember, for two months, 583 00:31:20,920 --> 00:31:23,200 Speaker 1: I have been having a horrible two years, but you 584 00:31:23,240 --> 00:31:26,480 Speaker 1: all bring me joy. Thank you. We're glad that we do. 585 00:31:26,760 --> 00:31:28,680 Speaker 1: And I'm sorry to hear about those two years. 586 00:31:28,760 --> 00:31:32,320 Speaker 2: And you know what, it's up and earn up from here. 587 00:31:32,480 --> 00:31:36,240 Speaker 1: You're all you're due for an upswing Dragon Princess, it's coming. 588 00:31:36,800 --> 00:31:40,360 Speaker 1: And Galaxy Dream. I believe we did that one as well. 589 00:31:40,440 --> 00:31:45,040 Speaker 1: So I think we're all. We're all cut, except Josephine 590 00:31:45,080 --> 00:31:47,360 Speaker 1: sent another five bucks in the tip link, no last 591 00:31:47,440 --> 00:31:50,480 Speaker 1: thank you, Josephine, no screenshot. I just want to make 592 00:31:50,520 --> 00:31:53,200 Speaker 1: sure it's good quality and good lighting and close enough 593 00:31:53,200 --> 00:31:55,880 Speaker 1: that I can zoom in for details. If you also 594 00:31:55,880 --> 00:31:57,920 Speaker 1: want to send shirtless picks, I'm not going to be 595 00:31:58,000 --> 00:32:00,680 Speaker 1: mad about it. Well, yeah, thank you. 596 00:32:00,720 --> 00:32:02,680 Speaker 3: Will We gotta we gotta, like, I gotta look at 597 00:32:02,680 --> 00:32:05,440 Speaker 3: my photos. I don't really take photos of myself. 598 00:32:06,280 --> 00:32:09,120 Speaker 1: We'll do that later today. I think we can get 599 00:32:09,120 --> 00:32:11,280 Speaker 1: those at the end of the stream. We'll use these. 600 00:32:11,320 --> 00:32:13,200 Speaker 1: We'll stand in front of these lights here. We'll get 601 00:32:13,240 --> 00:32:15,200 Speaker 1: you just a good photo because I want to get 602 00:32:15,200 --> 00:32:16,680 Speaker 1: it to you before we go on the break here. 603 00:32:18,000 --> 00:32:20,920 Speaker 1: But that with that, we are all caught up and 604 00:32:20,960 --> 00:32:23,080 Speaker 1: we're going to get into this and Sam will be 605 00:32:23,160 --> 00:32:25,440 Speaker 1: reading next story. 606 00:32:26,400 --> 00:32:26,800 Speaker 2: Story. 607 00:32:26,880 --> 00:32:28,280 Speaker 1: Yeah, fix me up? Well do you have to. You 608 00:32:28,280 --> 00:32:29,680 Speaker 1: don't have to fix me. I can just move. 609 00:32:31,440 --> 00:32:35,479 Speaker 2: These stories make my crazy laugh feel normal. Thanks for that. 610 00:32:36,160 --> 00:32:38,000 Speaker 2: This doors a thousand anytime. 611 00:32:38,280 --> 00:32:44,040 Speaker 1: So all right, Oh, Nicole h says a shirtless pick 612 00:32:44,040 --> 00:32:45,080 Speaker 1: holding a piece of cake. 613 00:32:46,680 --> 00:32:48,040 Speaker 3: That's a piece of my cake. 614 00:32:48,160 --> 00:32:51,360 Speaker 1: Or no, we can't. We can't slice that cake off. 615 00:32:52,240 --> 00:32:53,080 Speaker 2: Maybe you take a picture. 616 00:32:53,080 --> 00:32:55,560 Speaker 1: You gotta keep that cake consolidated. I don't know. 617 00:32:56,640 --> 00:32:59,800 Speaker 2: Uh, all right, you ready? 618 00:33:00,160 --> 00:33:00,400 Speaker 3: Are you? 619 00:33:00,800 --> 00:33:02,479 Speaker 2: I'm ready. Let's hit it.