Speaker 1: Spring is also about planting new seeds. So yes, it's
Speaker 1: about letting go, but then what are we filling that
Speaker 1: space with the new space that has opened up for us?
Speaker 1: So spring is about planting new seeds, literally and emotionally.
Speaker 1: In nature, the soil is soft again, the cold is passed,
Speaker 1: the light is returning. And actually it's so true within
Speaker 1: us as well. When you clear emotional clutter, when you
Speaker 1: release all these stagnant feelings and patterns, you create fertile
Speaker 1: ground in your inner world. You make space, you soften,
Speaker 1: and you become ready to plant something new. I'm rather
Speaker 1: Wukiah and on my podcast A Really Good Cry, we
Speaker 1: embrace the messy and the beautiful, providing a space for raw,
Speaker 1: unfiltered conversations that celebrate vulnerability and allow you to tune
Speaker 1: in to learn, connect and find comfort together. So today's
Speaker 1: been one of those days where honestly I feel like
Speaker 1: punging something, but all I think I really need is
Speaker 1: to go outside for a really long walk. This week's
Speaker 1: episode it's all about spring cleaning, and you know what,
Speaker 1: I have had the itch to clean, whether it's physically,
Speaker 1: mentally emotionally, I just feel like this is the season
Speaker 1: to be light and bright. So people, it is time
Speaker 1: to let go. You have been holding on to all
Speaker 1: the things that do not serve you, that are not
Speaker 1: letting you thrive, and have kept you way down all
Speaker 1: through winter and honestly maybe even longer than that, and
Speaker 1: we need to let that go. Okay, because spring is
Speaker 1: the season of new beginnings. It's the season of fresh
Speaker 1: air or vibrancy, of lightness, And how are you gonna
Speaker 1: have space for any of that if you're still holding
Speaker 1: on to all of that? The Japanese actually call it
Speaker 1: ma it's the space between things. Spring invites us to
Speaker 1: create emotional muh space between people, between thoughts and our
Speaker 1: roles and responsibilities.
Speaker 2: Space is so sacred, it's.
Speaker 1: Kind of a little bit like time, and you cannot
Speaker 1: receive when you are full. You know what, This is
Speaker 1: a pretty heavy topic, and also because of how I
Speaker 1: felt this day, I feel like I need a bit
Speaker 1: of a breath, and I feel like you might too.
Speaker 1: I'm getting that feeling. So before we dive in, why
Speaker 1: don't we take a moment to come into the present
Speaker 1: moment wherever you are, whether you're in your car, whether
Speaker 1: you're at home, whether you're laying down Remember that breath
Speaker 1: is your anchor that brings your mind back into alignment
Speaker 1: with your body. So place your hand if you can,
Speaker 1: hand over your heart and one over your belly, and
Speaker 1: take a deep inhale and a slow exhale, feeling your
Speaker 1: body softened with each exhale. Let's take a couple more together,
Speaker 1: take a deep.
Speaker 2: Breath in and exhale.
Speaker 1: If you weren't doing this before, With your next breath,
Speaker 1: breathe out with your mouth instead of your nose. Feel
Speaker 1: your belly fill up with all that new fresh air,
Speaker 1: and as you breathe out, remove all that stagnant, stale
Speaker 1: energy and air that sits within you. One thing I've
Speaker 1: been trying lately is humming. It sounds really random, but
Speaker 1: it's actually beautiful. So with your next couple of breath,
Speaker 1: take a deep breath in and have a humming sound
Speaker 1: on the way out, and feel the vibration flow through
Speaker 1: your entire body, feeling all the clean air coming through
Speaker 1: into your body. If you have an eye shut, keep
Speaker 1: them shut for a little bit, feel all the vibrations
Speaker 1: running through your body, and when you're ready, open your eyes. Honestly,
Speaker 1: I needed that so much like I cannot explain to
Speaker 1: you how much I needed that and how much those
Speaker 1: few breaths changed everything for me. Now, let the noise
Speaker 1: settle in your mind and let your body know that
Speaker 1: it is safe and it is time to be open
Speaker 1: to letting go. I don't know about you, but this
Speaker 1: season of my life, I just really wanted to be
Speaker 1: clean and fresh, with clear energy internally and externally, whether
Speaker 1: it is with myself or whether it's with other people.
Speaker 2: And I think that's really important, you know.
Speaker 1: I think about that, whether it's with friendships, relationships with
Speaker 1: people that you don't really know.
Speaker 2: You don't have to be best friends.
Speaker 1: The bare minimum is having clean energy between people and
Speaker 1: clean energy in the things that you do. And so
Speaker 1: in order for that to happen, you need to practice
Speaker 1: creating clean energy. Practice taking things in and out of
Speaker 1: your body regularly in your physical body. When things build
Speaker 1: up in your body, whether it's in your arteries, whether
Speaker 1: it's in your bowl, whether it's in your heart, when
Speaker 1: those things happen, it creates stagnancy, It creates toxins, and
Speaker 1: it creates disease.
Speaker 2: And our mind is no different and our heart is
Speaker 2: no different either.
Speaker 1: You know. Actually, in pretty much every single tradition, the
Speaker 1: season of spring marks a return to life.
Speaker 2: How beautiful is that? The return to life?
Speaker 1: And it always like noticing these little moments that nature
Speaker 1: or God or the earth send me for a reset,
Speaker 1: for a refresh, or a little spruce or a little
Speaker 1: moment of reflection on how I can better live my life.
Speaker 1: And I think if we're looking for them, they always
Speaker 1: show up. Whether it's the season that we're in, whether
Speaker 1: it's the night turning intoday, whether it's the moon cycle.
Speaker 1: There's just so many different moments in time where we
Speaker 1: can decide it is time for a reset or a refresh.
Speaker 1: One perspective that has encouraged me to do this is
Speaker 1: actually constantly seeing my body as a gift. And when
Speaker 1: you start shifting mindset to that, when you see something
Speaker 1: as a gift, you look after it so much more.
Speaker 1: You're more careful with it, you have a deeper appreciation
Speaker 1: for it. And so these little cleanups that we do,
Speaker 1: whether it's mentally, physically, or emotionally, are all part of
Speaker 1: that gratitude gesture back to God, the universe, back to
Speaker 1: your body for doing what it does. In traditional Chinese medicine,
Speaker 1: spring is the season of the liver. That is the
Speaker 1: organ that's actually responsible for emotional detox and energetic flow.
Speaker 1: So when the liver is balanced, there is vision and vitality,
Speaker 1: and when it's blocked, we feel frustrated, irritated, and even hopeless,
Speaker 1: which is also why doing a physical detox during spring
Speaker 1: is really important. I actually spoke about this in a
Speaker 1: newssetter I did recently, and I talk about how spring,
Speaker 1: according to Avada, is known as the season we get
Speaker 1: the most amount of Like, well, the transition between spring
Speaker 1: and winter is the time period where we get the
Speaker 1: most amount of mucus. I'm a bit stuffy at the moment.
Speaker 1: It's a really hard transition for our body to do.
Speaker 1: It's when there's a lot of kafer in our body. Now,
Speaker 1: Kafa is essentially a mixture of earth and water. Those
Speaker 1: elements rise in our body during that time, and so
Speaker 1: spring is the end almost of kafer. Season is cool,
Speaker 1: it's moist, it's heavy, and that actually is mirrored in
Speaker 1: the qualities of the emotions that we accumulate, whether it's
Speaker 1: grief or attachment or stagnation, so it will be the antidote.
Speaker 1: In I Rada, it says that the antidote is always
Speaker 1: the opposite. And so if you're feeling stagnant, if you're
Speaker 1: feeling heavy, if you're feeling down, the antidote is movement
Speaker 1: and clarity and release. And so it's really beautiful to
Speaker 1: see how all of these little different cultures, different thought patterns,
Speaker 1: they all kind of come and say exactly the same
Speaker 1: thing in a different way, which.
Speaker 2: Makes me think, you know what, there's something to this.
Speaker 2: It must be real.
Speaker 1: And you know, nature shows us what we're supposed to
Speaker 1: be doing. I always say this that whenever you feel
Speaker 1: lost in life, whenever you don't know what to be doing,
Speaker 1: whenever you're confused, look out in nature or tell you
Speaker 1: what you should be doing, like somewhere somehow it is
Speaker 1: reflecting what we should be doing for ourselfs. And an
Speaker 1: emotional sprinkleen doesn't need to be dramatic, like it doesn't
Speaker 1: have to be extreme, nothing does. It's really about these
Speaker 1: tiny rituals of clarity and asking the questions that are necessary,
Speaker 1: taking time to reflect. We suffer more in our imagination
Speaker 1: than we do in our reality. We carry all these
Speaker 1: conversations that never happen, maybe some that did happen that
Speaker 1: don't need to live in us anymore tension that does
Speaker 1: not belong to us, taking on other people's pain, other
Speaker 1: people's drama, and all these ideas of who we should
Speaker 1: be that actually block who we are trying to become,
Speaker 1: and sometimes we just get used to living in this way.
Speaker 1: We accept the feeling, either because deep down we believe
Speaker 1: that's what we deserve, maybe it's a hint of self sabotage,
Speaker 1: or because that's all we've known for too long and
Speaker 1: it's just become comfortable. It doesn't always have to be
Speaker 1: big things or huge issues, but we go through so
Speaker 1: much on a daily basis, physically, mentally, emotionally, and you know,
Speaker 1: every single thing that we absorb through our senses, whether it's.
Speaker 2: What we see, what we hear, what we taste, what.
Speaker 1: We touch, what we smell, and even what we emotionally feel,
Speaker 1: it leaves an imprint on us. I heard this term
Speaker 1: a while ago in Sanskria and it's always stayed with me.
Speaker 1: It's called some scars, and they are these impressions that
Speaker 1: are left through everything we experience. Think of them like
Speaker 1: little footprints that are left behind in the sand of
Speaker 1: your consciousness. Some are light and easily washed away, others
Speaker 1: are deep, and embedded and stay with us for years,
Speaker 1: sometimes lifetimes, as some scara could be a hurtful comment
Speaker 1: that you've internalized, a moment of joy that has shaped
Speaker 1: your self worth, or even a recurring passion of fear
Speaker 1: or comparison. The more we feel or think something, the
Speaker 1: deeper that groove becomes. And unless we pause and become
Speaker 1: aware and lovingly tend to them, these impressions quietly influence
Speaker 1: every part of our life, how we see the world,
Speaker 1: how we interact with people, how we relate to other people,
Speaker 1: and even how we respond to ourself. So we're not
Speaker 1: just trying to tidy up the surface level feelings here,
Speaker 1: We're really looking inward and asking these questions. Now, you
Speaker 1: might want to get your journal out or your pen
Speaker 1: and paper out for this. I'm going to share some
Speaker 1: prompts with you that I use when I'm journaling or
Speaker 1: trying to release during this time period. So the first
Speaker 1: one is what impressions am I carrying that are not mine?
Speaker 1: Which ones are outdated? Which ones am I ready to
Speaker 1: soften to rewrite to release. The next one is what thoughts, stories,
Speaker 1: or emotional baggage am I still carrying that I can
Speaker 1: lovingly lay down that I've had in me for far
Speaker 1: too long, and with love I let go of because
Speaker 1: I do not need them anymore. Whose energy am I
Speaker 1: holding that isn't mine to carry anymore? What has been
Speaker 1: taking up unnecessary emotional space in my mind or heart?
Speaker 1: Maybe that is people pleasing, Maybe it's anxiety about things
Speaker 1: outside of your control, or maybe it's old wounds you
Speaker 1: just haven't realized are still bleeding under the surface.
Speaker 2: So I hope you guys wrote those questions down or
Speaker 2: are reflecting on them right now.
Speaker 1: I can repeat them if you want, or I'm assuming
Speaker 1: you can probably rewind and hear them back. But I
Speaker 1: think those are really important ones. Whose energy and my
Speaker 1: holding that isn't mine to carry anymore? What thoughts, stories,
Speaker 1: or emotional baggage am I still carrying that I can
Speaker 1: lovingly let go of? And I say lovingly because nothing
Speaker 1: ever leaves us through fear, anxiety, or anger where we're
Speaker 1: actually in fear. And this actually applies physically too. You
Speaker 1: know sometimes they say that when you're trying to lose weight,
Speaker 1: if you end up dieting too hard, your body goes
Speaker 1: into this panic mode and it actually instead of letting
Speaker 1: go of things, if you go into too much of
Speaker 1: a calorie deficit, it actually starts to hold onto fat
Speaker 1: on your body rather than letting go. And so it's
Speaker 1: kind of the same in our body and as it
Speaker 1: is in our mind. You know, there's such a deep
Speaker 1: relationship between the two. So when you start trying to
Speaker 1: let go of things aggressively, your body actually holds onto
Speaker 1: them tighter. And so with every single thing that we do,
Speaker 1: just as we see our body as a gift, you
Speaker 1: have to think, how can I lovingly put this away?
Speaker 1: How can I lovingly let go of this? Because our
Speaker 1: bodies used to holding on our mind could be compared
Speaker 1: to horders. That's what I think that we are sometimes,
Speaker 1: whether it's holding onto things because you think it means
Speaker 1: you when you let go of it, you're letting go
Speaker 1: of the pain, which means that you're letting go of
Speaker 1: that person's responsibility or that accountability for it. Or when
Speaker 1: you let go of something it actually means that you're
Speaker 1: no longer connected to that person or that thing anymore.
Speaker 1: You're letting go of a version of yourself that you
Speaker 1: were before. You know, there's so many reasons why we
Speaker 1: hold onto things, and so really breaking this down, what
Speaker 1: impressions am I carrying that are not mine, which ones
Speaker 1: are outdated, which ones am I ready to rewrite or release?
Speaker 1: And I think free writing is really beautiful for this,
Speaker 1: where you just put pen to paper and you start
Speaker 1: thinking and you start writing. It's been such a beautiful
Speaker 1: thing that I've practiced, and it helped me when I
Speaker 1: was trying to get into journaling because I used to think, oh,
Speaker 1: am I going to do dear diary, sitting here writing
Speaker 1: about my life. But actually, free writing is anything and everything.
Speaker 1: You can have a prompt like this, and anything and
Speaker 1: everything that comes into your mind you just put pen
Speaker 1: to paper. It does not even have to make sense.
Speaker 1: You can just keep flowing with the thoughts that come
Speaker 1: into your mind and eventually it should take you to
Speaker 1: where you need to be or what you need to release.
Speaker 1: Spring is also about planting new seeds. So yes, it's
Speaker 1: about letting go, But then what are we filling that
Speaker 1: space with the new space that has opened up for us?
Speaker 1: So spring is about planting new seeds literally and emotionally.
Speaker 1: In nature, the soil is soft again, the cold is passed,
Speaker 1: the light is returning, and honestly, I'm actually in the
Speaker 1: process right now of planting all my new plants and
Speaker 1: herbs in my herb garden, planting new flowers and every
Speaker 1: single herb under the sun. I've got dill, parsley, cilantro,
Speaker 1: I'm trying to grow some chilies. I've got a lemon
Speaker 1: tree in the back, you know, and all these flowers
Speaker 1: that I use in my temple area as a form
Speaker 1: of devotion, we offer flowers, and so I have all
Speaker 1: these beautiful flowers and also edible flowers. And actually it's
Speaker 1: so true within us as well. When you clear emotional clutter,
Speaker 1: when you release all these stagnant feelings and patterns, you
Speaker 1: create fertile ground in.
Speaker 2: Your inner world.
Speaker 1: You make space, you soft and you become ready to
Speaker 1: plant something new. So ask yourself, what seeds am I
Speaker 1: planting this season? What seeds do I want to plant
Speaker 1: this season? Who do I want to be?
Speaker 2: These seeds can be intentions, they can be new ways
Speaker 2: of thinking. They can be.
Speaker 1: Gentle commitments or emotional qualities that you're inviting in, like
Speaker 1: courage or calm, or creativity or connection. So I guess
Speaker 1: you could think of it as who do I want
Speaker 1: to be? Who do I admire? What qualities do they
Speaker 1: have and how am I going to plant them into
Speaker 1: my being? And what does that look like for me?
Speaker 1: And then usually, you know, with a garden, you can't
Speaker 1: just plant the seeds. You can't just think of something
Speaker 1: you want to be and then not figure out the
Speaker 1: root to it. You can't just plant a seed and
Speaker 1: leave them. Those seeds need tending to. They need attention
Speaker 1: and water and sunlight and a whole lot of love,
Speaker 1: and they need time because please remember that growth is
Speaker 1: quiet before it's visible. Most people, when you see their flowers,
Speaker 1: they've been doing all the gra beforehand to get themselves there.
Speaker 1: So don't be disheartened when you don't see it the
Speaker 1: next day or the next day or the next day.
Speaker 1: Just know that you're taking all these tiny steps towards
Speaker 1: creating that quality or that intention that you are so
Speaker 1: beautifully planting, watering and loving, And so you don't need
Speaker 1: to be something new overnight. You just have to prepare
Speaker 1: the ground, make it fertile by removing the things that
Speaker 1: are no longer needed, by removing those weeds, and then
Speaker 1: nourishing that soil, nourishing that seed so that it can
Speaker 1: grow slowly and steady. It's oh can you hear the
Speaker 1: birds in the background so beautiful. So all of this
Speaker 1: is just a beautiful reminder that every flower was once.
Speaker 2: Just a seed.
Speaker 1: Nature teaches us so much if we're watching, and like
Speaker 1: I said before, like whenever you have a dilemma or
Speaker 1: a difficulty in life, take a walk in nature and
Speaker 1: the world will show you the answer in some way.
Speaker 1: And every single time that you choose to do this
Speaker 1: process we're talking about where you're excavating, removing, and then replanting,
Speaker 1: you are making it easier to live a life of
Speaker 1: alignment with your true self. And you know, honestly, I
Speaker 1: was reflecting over these past couple of weeks. I started
Speaker 1: doing a lot of things that were kind of out
Speaker 1: of my character. If I'm completely honest, not out of
Speaker 1: my character, I would just say that weren't taking me
Speaker 1: towards being my higher self, that weren't feeding the seeds,
Speaker 1: that weren't nourishing the seeds, but probably nourishing more of
Speaker 1: the weeds. Whether it was staying up too late where
Speaker 1: it wasn't nourishing my physical body, whether it was going
Speaker 1: to environments where it was knowing my consciousness to be honest,
Speaker 1: dark environments, love music, you name it. And it's not
Speaker 1: that I didn't have fun. I had a great time,
Speaker 1: but I was really I really became aware of energy
Speaker 1: and how much it can do, not just to your
Speaker 1: physical body, but to your mental state too. How are
Speaker 1: the people around you acting, how it can really affect you.
Speaker 1: And it really is true. The things you surround yourself with,
Speaker 1: you become, and so I've become. I came out of that.
Speaker 1: I did a couple of days of it, and I
Speaker 1: was like, oh, I think this is enough for me.
Speaker 1: And now I came back into my spiritual practices on
Speaker 1: the weekend on Sunday, and it was just so refreshing,
Speaker 1: Like I slowly felt my consciousness rising, and it was
Speaker 1: simple things like waking up early again, sitting in my
Speaker 1: meditation practice, reading a book that that spoke to my
Speaker 1: higher self and not my lower self, choosing not to
Speaker 1: turn the TV on and instead sitting outside and listening
Speaker 1: to the birds and reading a book like these things
Speaker 1: sound so simple, but when you're stuck in this pattern
Speaker 1: of tending to your lower conscious self, it ends up
Speaker 1: feeling like normality when it really shouldn't. And then when
Speaker 1: you start trying things that actually are speaking to your
Speaker 1: higher self. You notice how different it actually feels. And so, yeah,
Speaker 1: tend to your higher self, not do your lower self.
Speaker 1: And if you do, do your lower If you do,
Speaker 1: tend to your lower self. On I said it for
Speaker 1: a couple of days and then brought yourself out of it,
Speaker 1: because you'll go through ups and downs of it, you know.
Speaker 1: And you know, I was thinking about fire rituals. I
Speaker 1: have this practice. Every single morning, we light a candle.
Speaker 1: It's called THEA. So we light Yeah, I guess the candle.
Speaker 1: It's made from cotton wool. You dip it in some
Speaker 1: sort of usually traditionally it's ghee or.
Speaker 2: Other oil or whatever, and you light the wick.
Speaker 1: And these fire rituals have been used for thousands of
Speaker 1: years across every spiritual tradition, whether it's vading fire ceremonies
Speaker 1: in India to indigenous burning ceremonies where fire marks purification
Speaker 1: and the welcoming of new life. And so I actually
Speaker 1: grew up doing this tradition of lighting this THEA.
Speaker 2: And whenever I do like this candle, I have.
Speaker 1: A beautiful thought or I guess a meditation or a
Speaker 1: prayer that goes through my mind where I'm saying Let
Speaker 1: this fire represent burning all the negative qualities, all the
Speaker 1: things I don't need, all the things I do not
Speaker 1: want any longer in my heart, in my life, and
Speaker 1: my body. Let this burn it up, just like this
Speaker 1: flame is burning. Let this purify my body. Let this
Speaker 1: be a representation of my desire to purify my intention,
Speaker 1: my heart, my body, my mind, my soul. And so
Speaker 1: I really enjoy this process of the fire ceremonies. If
Speaker 1: you think about it, fire is transformative. It turns dense
Speaker 1: into light, It turns physical into ether. It turns the
Speaker 1: old into ash and an emotional spring clean. We can
Speaker 1: kind of borrow this wisdom symbolically or physically, and you
Speaker 1: don't need a grand ceremony. But all you need is
Speaker 1: a single candle that can be sacred. Or you can
Speaker 1: write down your emotions or your patterns, or the questions
Speaker 1: that we just spoke about. You could write your answers
Speaker 1: down and when you're ready to release it, you can
Speaker 1: just set it on fire in a safe environment. Whether
Speaker 1: it's the stories that keep you small, the weight you're
Speaker 1: tired of carrying around, you can rip it, you can
Speaker 1: burn it. It does not need to be dramatic. It
Speaker 1: can be if you want it to be, it just
Speaker 1: needs to be done with deep desire to let go
Speaker 1: and give it up to the fire.
Speaker 2: That's all you have to do.
Speaker 1: And actually, when you witness something leaving your life physically,
Speaker 1: it registers and your nervous system as a real release.
Speaker 2: And I kind of guess that's why.
Speaker 1: You know, in our tradition we do cremation, and it
Speaker 1: was part of other traditions too, But I remember my
Speaker 1: mum telling me that when she experienced the cremation of
Speaker 1: her dad, everything felt so heavy. Everything felt so so
Speaker 1: heavy the days going up to it, the cries, the
Speaker 1: intense feelings, and as soon as she saw that fire ceremony,
Speaker 1: it felt like a weight had been lifted. And I
Speaker 1: think that's something for the people who are experiencing the loss.
Speaker 1: But also it says in our practice that when the
Speaker 1: physical body is burnt, it actually releases that person's attachment
Speaker 1: to this physical world so that they can hopefully go
Speaker 1: into the spiritual world. It releases all the last physical attachments,
Speaker 1: and that's what fire does. It tends everything, even the body,
Speaker 1: into ashes. I kind of went off topic there, but
Speaker 1: I thought that was it really symbolizes what it can
Speaker 1: do for us in this moment in time where we're
Speaker 1: trying to release and let go, let the flame be
Speaker 1: the line between what was and what's next. A few
Speaker 1: more questions to reflect on if you want to get
Speaker 1: even deeper, is what do I want to feel more
Speaker 1: of this season? So whether it's peace, freedom, clarity, joy, confidence, lightness.
Speaker 1: I encourage you to use more words than just happy,
Speaker 1: like what does that mean for you? Break it down?
Speaker 1: What does the word happy mean to you? What does
Speaker 1: the word peace mean to you? And dissect those emotions
Speaker 1: so you can make it into a reality.
Speaker 2: Like peace.
Speaker 1: So let's just break down peace. For example, peace could
Speaker 1: mean having open communication with my partner where we resolve
Speaker 1: arguments better. Peace could mean sleeping through the night. Peace
Speaker 1: could mean waking up and not reaching for my phone
Speaker 1: straight away in anxiety. What does that peace look like
Speaker 1: for you? And if you do end up clearing out
Speaker 1: what you don't need, what are you trying to call in?
Speaker 1: So that's the other question, what are you trying to
Speaker 1: call in? Once you've done the clearing out and once
Speaker 1: you name those feelings, ask yourself what can I do
Speaker 1: more of to support the emotions? And so you're identifying
Speaker 1: what it is you want, you're defining it, and then
Speaker 1: you are creating the path, the root, the process of
Speaker 1: how I'm going to actually make these true, make this
Speaker 1: happen for myself. So think habits, think boundaries, think new
Speaker 1: ways of thinking, or simply it might just be rest.
Speaker 1: Another question that actually can get quite emotional when you're
Speaker 1: answering it, but I think it's very necessary is if
Speaker 1: my heart could speak, what would it say today? And
Speaker 1: that won't change every single day, and so it's actually
Speaker 1: a beautiful prompt to use every day. If my heart
Speaker 1: could speak, what would it say today? Is it feeling heavy?
Speaker 1: Is it feeling light? Is it feeling suffocated? Is it
Speaker 1: feeling lost? Like, what is your heart feeling? If it
Speaker 1: could speak, what would it say? What is it holding?
Speaker 1: What is it craving? What is it desiring? And a
Speaker 1: big part of emotional detoxing is also boundaries, not just
Speaker 1: with others, but also with our own mind. You are allowed,
Speaker 1: just in case you need permission, which you don't from
Speaker 1: me for sure, but just in case you need a reminder,
Speaker 1: You're allowed to not answer that text. You're allowed to
Speaker 1: stop replaying those conversations over and over again. You're allowed
Speaker 1: to move on from the past. You're allowed to not
Speaker 1: carry what isn't yours. You're allowed to literally say no
Speaker 1: without a huge explanation or justification. That last one was
Speaker 1: aimed at myself, because I really struggle with that. I
Speaker 1: feel like I have to give a whole flipping paragraph
Speaker 1: every single time I'm trying to.
Speaker 2: Say no to something.
Speaker 1: I have to explain everything, I have to go into
Speaker 1: depth when really simply it's just a no. I just
Speaker 1: can't write now. So when it comes to boundaries, ask yourself,
Speaker 1: where in my life do I need stronger boundaries with
Speaker 1: others or with myself?
Speaker 2: And then a fun one.
Speaker 1: You know. Spring is also a BYuT new beginnings in
Speaker 1: so many different ways. So one thing I love to
Speaker 1: commit to is a new practice, a new ritual for me.
Speaker 1: I've been craving education. I really wanted to learn something new,
Speaker 1: and so I'm signing up to this herbology course. I
Speaker 1: can share with you guys if anybody wants to know
Speaker 1: about it, because I just want to learn more. And
Speaker 1: that's a ritual practice that I know is going to
Speaker 1: fuel me in a way that I really need. And
Speaker 1: so that's something that I'm committing to you could do
Speaker 1: something for your emotion, for your physical body, I recommend
Speaker 1: doing something for your emotion. And for me, it was
Speaker 1: something I felt really empty about. I really was craving
Speaker 1: learning more, and so it fuels me emotionally, physically and mentally.
Speaker 1: But what are you going to do for your emotional
Speaker 1: rehennewal this spring that you are going to commit to what.
Speaker 2: Ritual or practice.
Speaker 1: I read this poem and I thought it was really beautiful,
Speaker 1: and I'm going to read it for you. Guys, says
Speaker 1: there is no shame in beginning again. The trees do
Speaker 1: it every single year, the sky does it every single morning,
Speaker 1: the moon does it every single month. You were made
Speaker 1: to return to yourself over and over and over and
Speaker 1: each time a little more whole. And I'm thinking about
Speaker 1: this a lot lately because something I think we all
Speaker 1: get confused about when we're feeling lost is that it
Speaker 1: wasn't part of the plan. We're like, oh my gosh,
Speaker 1: I just feel empty. Oh my gosh, I don't feel
Speaker 1: good about myself. But you know what, as soon as
Speaker 1: you see it as part of the process, this thing
Speaker 1: that we see nature do where it hibernates in winter,
Speaker 1: then in spring it starts coming to life. Then it's summer,
Speaker 1: it's in full bloom. Then in autu it slowly starts
Speaker 1: to slow down, goes back into hibernation, starts to change colors,
Speaker 1: starts to change shape and the way that we see it.
Speaker 1: And then in winter it goes back into hibernation. And
Speaker 1: so in that same cycle, we have that in us too,
Speaker 1: And so how bizarre would it be if we didn't
Speaker 1: have these different seasons of life. So when you think
Speaker 1: about why am I going through this? Why is this
Speaker 1: a difficult time? Why do I feel lost? Why don't
Speaker 1: I feel like myself? Know it's part of the seasonal change.
Speaker 1: Know that it is part of our life seasons that
Speaker 1: we are meant to go through. Don't see it as
Speaker 1: something that is odd or that makes you feel abnormal.
Speaker 1: See it as part of normality. And it makes life
Speaker 1: feel so much better and more manageable and helps you
Speaker 1: to understand the phases that you go through in life.
Speaker 1: So I'd love to end this with a visualization that
Speaker 1: often helps me. So if you're not driving, close your eyes,
Speaker 1: and if you are, you can probably still do this
Speaker 1: while you've got your eyes open to picture the emotion
Speaker 1: or thought that you want to release as a stone
Speaker 1: in your hand. So, whether it's anger, jealousy, remorse, guilt, sadness, grief,
Speaker 1: name that emotion in your mind, the one that comes to.
Speaker 2: The surface of your heart.
Speaker 1: Usually the one that, as soon as you feel it
Speaker 1: you try to bury it. Usually the one that when
Speaker 1: it rises to the surface, you get that pit at
Speaker 1: the bottom of your stomach, You get that lump in
Speaker 1: your throat, you get that feeling of don't talk to
Speaker 1: me about this, otherwise it's going to make me cry.
Speaker 2: Find that.
Speaker 1: And imagine it as a stone in your hand. Feel
Speaker 1: its weight. How heavy does it feel. Is it like
Speaker 1: a feather, is it heavy like a concrete stone? What
Speaker 1: does it feel like? How big is it in your heart?
Speaker 1: How much space is it taking up? How much energy
Speaker 1: is it requiring to keep alive inside of you? How
Speaker 1: much energy are you using to keep it alive? Now,
Speaker 1: imagine taking that stone or that concrete weight and putting
Speaker 1: it into a river and watch it, Watch the water
Speaker 1: carrying it away.
Speaker 2: What do the waves look like.
Speaker 1: Are they hard and fast and heavy to be able
Speaker 1: to move that concrete or are they light? And did
Speaker 1: it move away softly and gently? Notice how your body
Speaker 1: is feeling without it. Notice the space that it's created.
Speaker 1: Notice the feelings you have inside of you. Are you
Speaker 1: missing it? Are you worried? Are you anxious about it
Speaker 1: leaving you? How does it feel? And then repeat this
Speaker 1: out loud or in your mind. Well, this beautiful bird
Speaker 1: is chapping in the background, and I hope you can
Speaker 1: hear it. Say this, I let go of what no
Speaker 1: longer serves me, and I what nourishes me.
Speaker 2: It's as simple as that.
Speaker 1: I let go of what no longer serves me, and
Speaker 1: I welcome what nourishes me. I let go, And you
Speaker 1: can shout this as loud as you want. I let
Speaker 1: go of what no longer serves me, and I welcome
Speaker 1: what nourishes me. And let me tell you that bird
Speaker 1: is singing. I hope you guys can hear it. Can
Speaker 1: hear it. You can't reply to me, but I can
Speaker 1: hear it, and it's beautiful. Well, thank you guys so
Speaker 1: much for listening. I hope this was useful. I hope
Speaker 1: it was.
Speaker 2: Relieving.
Speaker 1: I hope it made you feel a little bit lighter,
Speaker 1: a little bit brighter, or at least gave you the
Speaker 1: process in which to feel that way. At some point
Speaker 1: in your life when you choose to use this, and
Speaker 1: I hope you use the spring bloom to plant seeds,
Speaker 1: to remove the weeds, to do all the things that
Speaker 1: you have wanted to do in your life, because I
Speaker 1: think that's what spring is about, the time of opportunity,
Speaker 1: is what I see as Thank you all so much
Speaker 1: for listening, and see you guys next week.