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Speaker 2: Welcome, Welcome, Welcome, Welcome, Hello, Hello, hello everybody, and welcome
Speaker 2: to this week's Minnie Pod.
Speaker 3: I know how much y'all love these We love them
Speaker 3: too because they're brief.
Speaker 2: Don't take all day to get a thing out, And
Speaker 2: today we are talking about Valentine's Day.
Speaker 3: It may take all day to get a thing out.
Speaker 2: And how do y'all celebrate Valentine's Day?
Speaker 3: Do you believe in it?
Speaker 2: Angela has a cautionary tales to tell every person out
Speaker 2: there who's with somebody who don't.
Speaker 3: Believe Angela kick us off? What's up? How you celebrating
Speaker 3: Valentine's Day?
Speaker 2: You got philosophical thoughts on on this thing?
Speaker 3: Or or just take it as it comes?
Speaker 1: I got it funny? Can we run? Can we run
Speaker 1: something funny first?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 2: So.
Speaker 6: Our good sister.
Speaker 1: Kendrick G has a as a live show that she
Speaker 1: does on YouTube and Instagram with people who call in
Speaker 1: for her matchmaking services. And there was one particular occasion
Speaker 1: that I love so much. I watched multiple times. I
Speaker 1: want you all to see what happened and how it
Speaker 1: all went down as the slippery soap. Were probably not
Speaker 1: gonna play the full thing. Nick, I'll tell you when
Speaker 1: to cut it off. But let's go ahead and run
Speaker 1: this Kendred g moment. It's the best of the best.
Speaker 6: Hello.
Speaker 7: Oh you gotta sit up, baby. Hello, Yeah, Hello Dasha
Speaker 7: DeShawn from where Detroit?
Speaker 6: Mechican? Detroit?
Speaker 8: How old are you? Deshan?
Speaker 3: Twenty nine?
Speaker 6: What's the problem? You didn't hear the question?
Speaker 7: Yes, I did know you did? You said where I'm from?
Speaker 7: I said Detroit? You said how old are you?
Speaker 6: I said twenty nine? No, yeah, I said how old
Speaker 6: are you?
Speaker 3: I said twenty nine?
Speaker 6: That means how many? How many years have you been
Speaker 6: on earth?
Speaker 3: He said, you didn't hear the question.
Speaker 7: I'm twenty nine years old.
Speaker 6: You in Bozo, so you must not have heard of
Speaker 6: being twenty nine?
Speaker 7: Yeah, I know, girl, I know you ain't trying to
Speaker 7: go there with the rings because you and I'm gonna
Speaker 7: make up on your hideous like don't play with me
Speaker 7: because I can go there. I'm trying to be nice
Speaker 7: that wigs like don't play with me. Don't play with me, Candre,
Speaker 7: please don't do it.
Speaker 1: I mean, well, listen, I'm the one with the show
Speaker 1: that you stayed up to be on.
Speaker 7: So you nobody gives up though, because I mean nobody, Like,
Speaker 7: you're not a nice person. You're ugly on the inside,
Speaker 7: you trying to don't loot, jabs at people. Look at you,
Speaker 7: your shiny ass face, ugly, ugly, look at you, look
Speaker 7: at you.
Speaker 1: Andrew is offended, but she continues to ask him what
Speaker 1: year you born, because she's like, it's no way on
Speaker 1: guys screen earth that you're twenty nine. So, needless to say,
Speaker 1: he probably didn't make a love connection. But I do
Speaker 1: want to just acknowledge Kindred does these regularly. There's a
Speaker 1: guy that went on that said he was fifty and
Speaker 1: he only days twenty something year old. There's a woman
Speaker 1: who said that you know, she's engaged, but she need
Speaker 1: a man on the side.
Speaker 6: It cracks me up.
Speaker 1: It's giving possible balloons just random.
Speaker 3: They just call her, They just called in and she
Speaker 3: kind of.
Speaker 1: Goes off of myn ig life and so that's what
Speaker 1: they do. But yeah, I thought that we could start there.
Speaker 1: I know we have a question from a matchmaker as well. Uh,
Speaker 1: before we get into my business and how y'all celebrate
Speaker 1: now times day. Let's just keep it going. Let's get
Speaker 1: the question there from the matchmaker.
Speaker 3: All Right, this one's gonna be PG, y'all.
Speaker 6: I'm sorry.
Speaker 4: Hi, Nana Lampod.
Speaker 3: My name is Tyan.
Speaker 4: I'm a matchmaker in Jersey City, New Jersey. I've been
Speaker 4: working in the dating and relationship field for about five
Speaker 4: years now, and I'm coming to you with a question
Speaker 4: based on what I've been seeing in my work lately.
Speaker 4: I primarily work with black men and women in their
Speaker 4: thirties and forties, and I'm finding it difficult to find
Speaker 4: men who are ready for a commitment or even in general.
Speaker 4: I offer paid and free opportunities to be matched. The
Speaker 4: women come, they're ready, I'm ready to match them, but
Speaker 4: many men seem to withdraw, withdraw, or say that they're
Speaker 4: not ready or give reasons that aren't very clear.
Speaker 3: We hear a.
Speaker 4: Lot about crisis, the crisis with men, but usually the
Speaker 4: conversation focuses on white men ages eighteen to twenty five.
Speaker 3: From what I've been.
Speaker 4: Seeing, there's a crisis with black men as well in
Speaker 4: their twenties, thirties, and forties that is not often centered.
Speaker 4: So my question is, how should we be thinking about
Speaker 4: black love and relationships right now, giving what's happening with
Speaker 4: men our community.
Speaker 2: Thank you for.
Speaker 3: All you do.
Speaker 4: I love the podcast, and Tiffany, if you're watching, I
Speaker 4: miss you and I definitely will be getting the book.
Speaker 3: Thanks again, y'all, and welcome home.
Speaker 6: Welcome home, Come Home.
Speaker 2: The crisis, I think so the one that she's describing
Speaker 2: with white men, which is clearly a lot of it
Speaker 2: talked about, but in the relationship field, is around the
Speaker 2: fact that increasingly not dating, sort of spending a lot
Speaker 2: of time gaming, being confronted by unemployment or underemployment, underemployed aspirations,
Speaker 2: so not getting hired into the places that they want uh,
Speaker 2: and politically showing up a bit more conservative, causing a
Speaker 2: lot more of their peer opposite sex women who are
Speaker 2: more liberal, who are showing up as more liberal and
Speaker 2: are more fully employed, and are also taking up jority
Speaker 2: spaces frankly on college campuses increasingly not just on black
Speaker 2: campuses but also predominantly white serving institutions as well, and
Speaker 2: falling in love with bots and i AI starting relationship
Speaker 2: online with the technology like for real. I'm not sure
Speaker 2: what the proper languages to describe that y'all got to
Speaker 2: help me out on that.
Speaker 6: The opposite of Mary Jay's real love.
Speaker 2: Okay, that's clever, and I think she's suggesting that it's
Speaker 2: that that's also true and that maybe in the in
Speaker 2: the black male community that similarly, within this age group,
Speaker 2: there is increasing you know, a version and I've read
Speaker 2: articles about that, I mean, women increasingly saying that you know,
Speaker 2: who want children, who are thinking about it very differently
Speaker 2: than having to be in a relationship by what to
Speaker 2: produce a child, but considering other alternatives to producing a
Speaker 2: child and not necessarily need to be in a relationship
Speaker 2: with someone.
Speaker 3: In order to have, you know, in order to have one.
Speaker 2: And women increasingly choosing from a social standpoint that they'll
Speaker 2: be just find socializing with their girls. And you know,
Speaker 2: if they have a date with a guy every now
Speaker 2: and again, that's okay, But would you know, find great
Speaker 2: enjoyment and going out and just having a night on
Speaker 2: the town amongst you know, their own girls.
Speaker 1: Well, so this is are we backed in all this
Speaker 1: to say, you know, how do we celebrate do we
Speaker 1: celebrate Valentine's Day?
Speaker 6: And whose kind of responsibility is that?
Speaker 1: I think, you know, what's fascinating about this conversation is
Speaker 1: even when we were getting ready to come on our
Speaker 1: producer Lolo and Jordan, who's our editor, we're talking about,
Speaker 1: you know, whether black men celebrate Valentine's Day, And I
Speaker 1: retort it and I meant it, young sisters that if
Speaker 1: you were to dude that says he don't believe in
Speaker 1: Valentine's Day, you're not the only one on his roster.
Speaker 6: So I just want to.
Speaker 1: Make sure we're very clear about this, because a man
Speaker 1: who's dating you and wants to ensure your happiness is
Speaker 1: going to celebrate I don't care if it's you know,
Speaker 1: some random holiday that's specific to your state.
Speaker 6: He gonna roll with you a little bit.
Speaker 1: And the fact that he's like he don't believe in it,
Speaker 1: He don't believe in spending money in.
Speaker 6: Multiple places boo boo believe that. So I just I
Speaker 6: don't want to make sure.
Speaker 3: That I meant answer.
Speaker 6: I think it's true.
Speaker 3: That's because I don't know.
Speaker 9: I mean, I think with every answer respect to the
Speaker 9: matchmaking profession, I don't know many black men that are
Speaker 9: seeking out love at matchmakers.
Speaker 3: That's what about see I love period?
Speaker 9: I mean, I mean answer my question, no, I mean,
Speaker 9: you didn't really ask a question. It was more declaratory.
Speaker 3: I thought you were making a statement.
Speaker 6: Well, I'm sorry, Why are you to respond to what
Speaker 6: I said?
Speaker 9: No, I mean I think that I think that a
Speaker 9: lot of times men don't want to be in a
Speaker 9: position where they are forced rather real artificially to do
Speaker 9: something they don't that they feel as if they do
Speaker 9: day in and day out. For many of us, we
Speaker 9: confess our love daily, we show our love daily, and
Speaker 9: so why is there the extra rigama role of having
Speaker 9: to do above and beyond on a day that is
Speaker 9: dictated and celebrated and anointed as the day where you
Speaker 9: shower someone with love? And it's fine, I don't.
Speaker 4: For me.
Speaker 9: A lot of times it's you do things like that
Speaker 9: to kind of go through the processes or avoid the
Speaker 9: conflict of not doing it. But you focus day in
Speaker 9: and day out on showing your partner that level of affection,
Speaker 9: or at least you should. And the other thing is,
Speaker 9: for as much as there's condemnation that rains down on men,
Speaker 9: particularly Black men, I don't believe that there's been an
Speaker 9: adequate inspection of the expectations of women, particularly Black women.
Speaker 9: And so we've had to Balanchine's Day or just enchaining
Speaker 9: in general. I mean we had the whole conversation just
Speaker 9: recently socially not to together is one about the cost
Speaker 9: of a first date. I don't know if you all
Speaker 9: recall that where they were having discussions over how much
Speaker 9: should be spent on a first date or how much
Speaker 9: should be spent on a date at all. And you know,
Speaker 9: for individuals who are working extremely hard doing whatever task
Speaker 9: it is from nine to five, if that is the
Speaker 9: person that you choose, you meet them out and they
Speaker 9: can only afford xyz, it shouldn't be commiserate with some
Speaker 9: artificial standard. I mean, it should be commiserate to what
Speaker 9: they can do and how they're showing you their affection.
Speaker 9: And so if it's like making and that people are
Speaker 9: gonna laugh when I say this, and that means that
Speaker 9: I'm talking to you. But if it's like making a
Speaker 9: peanut butter and jelly sandwich and walking through g you know,
Speaker 9: walking through the park and sitting down and watching things
Speaker 9: and learning more about yourself, playing games, et cetera, if
Speaker 9: that's what he can do at that time, and if
Speaker 9: on holidays he takes you to cheesecake factory, because he's
Speaker 9: saved up forward or whatever it may be. I just
Speaker 9: think love comes in every shape, form and fashion, and
Speaker 9: we build this artificial shit in missus our blessings is
Speaker 9: really quick.
Speaker 1: Hold on, I got a quick question. I would like
Speaker 1: to do a focus group pole here. Please please raise
Speaker 1: your hand if you've eaten a peanut butter and jelly
Speaker 1: sandwich in the last month, exactly, Go ahead, Andrew.
Speaker 3: But his point was well made.
Speaker 2: I mean I would probably say the person should describe
Speaker 2: it as a picnic for a day, and then they
Speaker 2: can make the meal, you know, put the peanut butter
Speaker 2: of the whatever's.
Speaker 3: In frre's something in a basket.
Speaker 2: And but but there's effort required, because there is a
Speaker 2: way to just make a peanut butter and jelly sandwich,
Speaker 2: right and and and say this is what I could do,
Speaker 2: which I will consider half assed. And you shouldn't have
Speaker 2: you shouldn't have done that.
Speaker 6: But somebody take.
Speaker 3: Y date, No, you do, I will take a picnic
Speaker 3: one to me.
Speaker 2: That's suggesting time, energy, effort put into trying to make
Speaker 2: something nice and.
Speaker 9: Special distraction for most for most people. I mean, I
Speaker 9: think that the seclusion, the absence of distraction. I mean,
Speaker 9: I just think the people have artificial ways in which
Speaker 9: they want to be wooed, and I mean I think
Speaker 9: that their standards. Of course, I think we shower our
Speaker 9: daughters so that they have a level of expectation. But
Speaker 9: at the end of the day, we shower them so
Speaker 9: they know what love feels like, not so they know
Speaker 9: what a diamond cost, right, And so I rather them
Speaker 9: know what love looks like than the value of a
Speaker 9: range Rover. And so I just find Valentine's data fall
Speaker 9: into that. Of course, Ellen and I are gonna we're
Speaker 9: gonna be in Baton Rouge watching the LSU South Carolina
Speaker 9: game and then go to New Orleans and eat and
Speaker 9: do those things. We're going to do it to celebrate it.
Speaker 9: But I mean, hell, if that's if that was, you know,
Speaker 9: February thirteenth or February fifteenth, I would do the same thing.
Speaker 6: Mm hmmm.
Speaker 3: It's a compulsory for you. It should be. No, I
Speaker 3: mean the.
Speaker 9: Nature, Valentine, Yes, the compulsory nature of it, Yes, yeah.
Speaker 3: For sure. Yeah that's interesting. Kevin, what do you what's
Speaker 3: your what's your outlook? How do you treat today? How
Speaker 3: do you perceive it?
Speaker 8: I just want to say I'm gay, and none of
Speaker 8: this computes to me.
Speaker 3: All of this, I'm completely not.
Speaker 8: Oh, I just meant, like the conversations about effort or
Speaker 8: the cost of dates. I just think it's so different
Speaker 8: with like, I just think it's different with men who
Speaker 8: date other men. I actually I find that like there
Speaker 8: there's often a competition to be the one who's providing
Speaker 8: or the one who's making the effort. Obviously when people
Speaker 8: are like genuinely interested, but you know, there's just a
Speaker 8: different dynamic when it's a same gender loving relationship, because
Speaker 8: I often have to remind people like, yeah, I'm gay,
Speaker 8: but I'm still a man, like I want to pay
Speaker 8: for the bill, I want to plan the date, like
Speaker 8: I am a man with like means, and I can
Speaker 8: do that myself. So sometimes that's.
Speaker 3: Like the push and pull.
Speaker 8: It's not really like an argument about.
Speaker 6: Like who pays as much.
Speaker 8: Which I find comes up in like social media discourse
Speaker 8: around heterosexual dating a lot, and I don't I guess
Speaker 8: it doesn't come up, but it's sort of because it's
Speaker 8: presumed that the man in that heterosexual situation is going
Speaker 8: to be the one to pay, then there's more judgment
Speaker 8: about how much you're paying or where it is that
Speaker 8: we're going. It's a different standard versus like the same
Speaker 8: gender relationship. It's I don't know, I just don't feel
Speaker 8: like that it's the same amount of pressure as far
Speaker 8: as what I'm doing.
Speaker 3: Is there pressure though to celebrate Onme's Day?
Speaker 6: Absolutely?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 9: But okay, like do you celebrate them?
Speaker 3: And do you celebrate?
Speaker 9: Are you celebrating like do you have them blocked off
Speaker 9: like morning, mid afternoon?
Speaker 6: Not?
Speaker 3: Do you have.
Speaker 8: I am I'm going to fly myself to Vegas and
Speaker 8: go see Kailani in concert on Valentine's saying that is
Speaker 8: my plan?
Speaker 6: Okay, and it's Kevin likes to treat he gonna treat me.
Speaker 9: I'm going to want to be I would be photed to.
Speaker 8: I'm going, I'll bet I was seeing someone and or
Speaker 8: I've been seeing someone, but it's fashion week and they
Speaker 8: work in fashion and like they're busy. So I'm like,
Speaker 8: all right, I was trying to take a trip, but
Speaker 8: you don't want to go, So I'm gonna go see
Speaker 8: Kilano is the only woman I would date.
Speaker 6: That because I said I was going. What just happened? Kevin?
Speaker 8: I was my wing person's attention.
Speaker 6: I want that woman so bad.
Speaker 3: Okay, brother, you got something in common with the rest
Speaker 3: of us on the panel.
Speaker 1: No, no, the rest of y'all, But I will this
Speaker 1: is this is the question that I have for y'all
Speaker 1: too now. I I said, I gave our little the
Speaker 1: information to our our lovely producers and editor on these
Speaker 1: kind of tips. Around men, you're talking about the compulsory
Speaker 1: nature of Valentine's Day and being forced to celebrate. Is
Speaker 1: there any part of y'all that feels like this is
Speaker 1: an opportunity to express love but also I want to
Speaker 1: receive love. I felt like there was some there are
Speaker 1: some points that were being made before we hit record.
Speaker 1: Around you all carrying the pressure of it, but not
Speaker 1: feeling like that pressure is equally put on the women.
Speaker 6: Folks. I want to hear this.
Speaker 2: Because I would say I would love, I would appreciate
Speaker 2: more if the receiving love in the forms that came
Speaker 2: in were more regular like Valentine's Day. To me, the
Speaker 2: compulsory nature is a complete turn off, Like I don't
Speaker 2: need a mechanized holiday to.
Speaker 3: Tell me this.
Speaker 2: To day you write a love note or give chocolate,
Speaker 2: I don't get chock mar Johnny Chcolate. But you know,
Speaker 2: like the day that you show some outward expression. With
Speaker 2: my kids on a slight bit different with it because
Speaker 2: I get, of all three of them them Valentine's Day recognition.
Speaker 2: And that's mostly because the environment that they're in, you know,
Speaker 2: with their classmates and peers.
Speaker 3: I don't want them to get the impression that their
Speaker 3: parents or.
Speaker 2: The people, you know, the loves in their lives don't
Speaker 2: love them, you know, the same way.
Speaker 3: But I probably talked to them one day about it too.
Speaker 3: When they're mature.
Speaker 2: And can make some you know, more maturey to making,
Speaker 2: I just I don't like the commulsitary nature of it.
Speaker 2: I was like when Jana were dating. I do things
Speaker 2: like get the roses at the beginning of the week
Speaker 2: if it was on a Friday, and or I'd send,
Speaker 2: you know, would drop in and ask her if I
Speaker 2: could take her to lunch, but not on you know,
Speaker 2: not on Valentine's They'd be the Wednesday.
Speaker 3: And so that it felt because.
Speaker 2: That would reflect more of what our habits had been
Speaker 2: and were by way of expressing love and affectionate desire
Speaker 2: to be together and spend time together. And then when
Speaker 2: social media entered the arena right, like, because Facebook didn't
Speaker 2: exist when I was in college, not to I graduated.
Speaker 2: I think of my senior year.
Speaker 3: It was at Harvard and.
Speaker 2: Yale and you know at the you know, at the
Speaker 2: Ivys when it when it first started. But but then
Speaker 2: you have to to now compete with everybody writing, you know,
Speaker 2: open love letters online and posting you know, a hundred
Speaker 2: different vases of roses, and then you know, folks start
Speaker 2: doing things that start to see no, no, I wasn't
Speaker 2: doing basis.
Speaker 3: Of of of of you know, of flowers.
Speaker 2: And then now you're like, what's real and what isn't
Speaker 2: because now this performative and I think you just found
Speaker 2: out do to this and the that I look at
Speaker 2: my room, I'm like.
Speaker 3: This is crazy, Like this is what it took for
Speaker 3: you to say I love you. There were not other ways, you.
Speaker 2: Know, other ways to do it, so like that's just
Speaker 2: always been in my craw But I I look, I
Speaker 2: have folded like.
Speaker 3: The rest of us. And you do what you're supposed
Speaker 3: to do on the day and keep it moving. My god,
Speaker 3: it's true. I know you because you don't.
Speaker 6: But Angela, what my question was, but I want you
Speaker 6: to answer my question.
Speaker 2: My answer was, yes, I want to receive it, and
Speaker 2: I want to receive it.
Speaker 3: That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 9: The basis, do you give on Valentine's Day? What is
Speaker 9: your history of giving gifts?
Speaker 2: Me?
Speaker 6: I'm great at this, I'm masterful.
Speaker 2: Explain.
Speaker 6: I think I give a lot.
Speaker 1: You know, some of it costs money, some of it doesn't.
Speaker 6: But I think.
Speaker 3: See, see, that's what I'm talking about. They want to
Speaker 3: get that Monday Tuesday Andrew. Every day of the week,
Speaker 3: we want that Monday Tuesday. We want, we want something
Speaker 3: above and beyond.
Speaker 1: I'm just saying that I think that I think that
Speaker 1: it is reciprocal as well. I grew up really spoiled
Speaker 1: on Valentine's Day. My dad made sure that you know,
Speaker 1: he got my mom a dozen roses, and then I
Speaker 1: got a rose in a balloon. Now the thing that
Speaker 1: my dad does not know. Sorry, Daddy'm about to tell
Speaker 1: family business again. We have told him that roses is
Speaker 1: not particularly.
Speaker 6: Our favorit flower.
Speaker 1: He don't give it there, He's still gonna gets.
Speaker 2: I gotta talk to put the financials on that he
Speaker 2: could save save a lot of money.
Speaker 6: I'm like, you could go down the pipe.
Speaker 1: Place and give me a mixed bouquet for twenty five
Speaker 1: dollars and I will be so happy because I love
Speaker 1: like flowers and all the colors and the shapes, and
Speaker 1: you know, so I just think that it's really just
Speaker 1: more about effort. I do agree that everything doesn't have
Speaker 1: to cause I actually am somebody that prefers words of affirmation.
Speaker 1: I like to send them, I like to receive them.
Speaker 1: I love a love letter, you know. But also, you know,
Speaker 1: you just got to be careful where you share your
Speaker 1: love these days, because everybody's not deserving.
Speaker 2: Okay, so on the internet, you guys have to go
Speaker 2: all out posting love letter pictures and all the stuff
Speaker 2: with you on the line.
Speaker 1: I am at the point now, after having several public
Speaker 1: facing relationships, that my next situation online will be when
Speaker 1: I'm engaged. I think that I'm no longer going to
Speaker 1: give access to that part of my life because honestly,
Speaker 1: it's just embarrassing, Like I didn't expect to go public
Speaker 1: and then, you know, be broken up and I'm getting
Speaker 1: asked about somebody who is I'm three girlfriends ago, like
Speaker 1: why are you still ask me about this dude?
Speaker 6: You know?
Speaker 9: And then as you get three different acknowledgments on the
Speaker 9: same day. They like, we love Angela, we love Angela,
Speaker 9: we love you know, everybody, don't worry about No, I'm.
Speaker 6: Not saying I'm three girlfriends and I'm one of the three.
Speaker 1: I'm saying I three girlfriends prior you are right now,
Speaker 1: and it was.
Speaker 6: Several years ago.
Speaker 1: So I'm just like, you know, at this point, I
Speaker 1: would like to have a good, sturdy leaned up against
Speaker 1: strong love and watching my parents, especially navigate my dad
Speaker 1: in the emergency room the other day, my mom going
Speaker 1: through cancer treatment. Now, you're just like, you just want
Speaker 1: somebody that's reliable, will be there, appreciate you, develop the
Speaker 1: friendship and all that, and all that to say, it
Speaker 1: won't be public, y'all not going to see my Valentine
Speaker 1: till I get a ring there.
Speaker 6: It is there, and it won't be from.
Speaker 1: The Cheesecake Factor. No, they probably won't now either. I
Speaker 1: don't know that I would ever actually get a cheesecake.
Speaker 1: You guys would probably not get one with me because
Speaker 1: we laughed so hard about it with Don a long
Speaker 1: time ago.
Speaker 3: But anyway, Andrew, I was.
Speaker 2: About to say, I wish y'all out good, great luck,
Speaker 2: y'all in the dating game.
Speaker 3: Y'all who are doing what you do?
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's a lot going on and the again, I
Speaker 2: just like whatever feels authentic, whatever feels natural.
Speaker 3: First of all, if you if you love a person and.
Speaker 2: They love you, they will be very clear right about
Speaker 2: how it is that you go above and beyond the
Speaker 2: show and demonstrate your love.
Speaker 6: Can you guys do me a favorite?
Speaker 1: Butkari and Andrew, you guys are married to some incredible
Speaker 1: black women. I would love if you would just take
Speaker 1: a moment. It's not Valentine's Day yet, this will air
Speaker 1: the day before Valentine's Day, but it would be great
Speaker 1: if you could take a moment to just send them
Speaker 1: a little love note right now.
Speaker 6: If you can just give them a little little shout out.
Speaker 3: Yeah. I talked about the performative and here she goes saying,
Speaker 3: hey on this, No.
Speaker 6: I would love it if you did it.
Speaker 3: No, No, I do it. I do it.
Speaker 2: As you talked about, you like flowers and different varieties
Speaker 2: of them. I mean I've taken to like buying loosely
Speaker 2: flowers and putting together the arrangement for my wife. And
Speaker 2: it's not just on Valentine's Day. I do it random
Speaker 2: times throughout, going through pictures in my phone that I
Speaker 2: particularly love about us, where they weren't like the picture
Speaker 2: that ended up on a magazine. It was the picture
Speaker 2: that somebody took and we weren't watching, and we're just,
Speaker 2: you know, locked in some kind of a funny laugh
Speaker 2: or an embrace of some sort that I wouldn't have
Speaker 2: caught outside of my own eyes because I was the
Speaker 2: one participating, but in looking at him, like man, I
Speaker 2: love this tenderness and frame it and give it to
Speaker 2: her to put on her desk or or she comes home,
Speaker 2: there's a new one hanging right somewhere.
Speaker 3: So I our j is the best person I know period, And.
Speaker 5: I love our love, I love our friendship. I love
Speaker 5: her mother ring, I love her daughter as she is
Speaker 5: performs as a daughter to her parents, how she is
Speaker 5: as a sibling to her brother. I love the person
Speaker 5: she is.
Speaker 2: She's my rock, right, So you think about those those
Speaker 2: you know upon the solid rock extent. Yeah, So when
Speaker 2: all else is unaccountable and can't be relied on and
Speaker 2: won't be there, Jay is solid footing for me, and
Speaker 2: I hope that I'm that also for her, And that
Speaker 2: means that you don't have a perfect relationship. You have
Speaker 2: a living relationship, and it changes, it evolves, that take
Speaker 2: on different shapes, and and yet it persists.
Speaker 5: I love you.
Speaker 2: Happy Valentine's Day, but happy every day.
Speaker 9: Happy Valentine's Day. I just pressed press affirmation everything you
Speaker 9: said above. We've we've married, We've outputted our coverage, married
Speaker 9: extremely well. And hopefully I'm able to show Sadie what
Speaker 9: love really means through the way that I love her mom.
Speaker 3: Happy Valentine, Happy Valentine's Day, everybody.
Speaker 1: I had to go on mute because I was Oh,
Speaker 1: I had to go on mute. I was like, let
Speaker 1: me do this by myself. But that was so sweet.
Speaker 1: I love you guys for doing that, and thank you
Speaker 1: for the examples of good husbands, good daddy's, good sons,
Speaker 1: good brothers that you are to all of your family member.
Speaker 6: I'm getting to Kevin.
Speaker 1: Hey, Kevin, I hope that you at least get a
Speaker 1: hug from Killanne. You know, Kiline, you from the West coast,
Speaker 1: so represent us well said and keV.
Speaker 3: If you want to send a love note, by all
Speaker 3: means we don't. We don't want to omit you. But
Speaker 3: Angela did not want to put you on the spot.
Speaker 6: Yes, I will be something, I will be something nothing.
Speaker 8: I I'm lad.
Speaker 3: I'm always just very romantic. Trust me.
Speaker 8: This is just you know, this was very sweet to witness.
Speaker 1: Though I'm going to hang out with Kevin. Okay, yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm going to hang out with Kevin.
Speaker 6: But no, I will say that.
Speaker 1: My love note is just to my parents for just
Speaker 1: providing such a beautiful example of love and super super
Speaker 1: high standards, even at forty six. I will not compromise
Speaker 1: and I get the that Mom and Papa Rie kind
Speaker 1: of love. So I love you both. Thank you for
Speaker 1: birthing me. Thank you for allowing me to bear witness
Speaker 1: to your love. And I'm so proud of who you
Speaker 1: all are, how you love each other, your friendship, the
Speaker 1: way in which you love our people and have loved
Speaker 1: each other through movement after movement.
Speaker 6: So I thank God for my parents.
Speaker 3: And yeah, now you know, the three.
Speaker 2: Of us have to say Happy val say Mama.
Speaker 3: Angels.
Speaker 6: And your in laws y'all better do it all.
Speaker 2: Yes, indeed, I love that Happy Valentine's say y'all, welcome home, Welcome.
Speaker 9: Home, y'all.
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