1 00:00:00,200 --> 00:00:03,280 Speaker 1: Native Lampard is a production of iHeart Radio in partnership 2 00:00:03,320 --> 00:00:04,880 Speaker 1: with Reason Choice Media. 3 00:00:05,000 --> 00:00:10,600 Speaker 2: Welcome, Welcome, Welcome, Welcome, Hello, Hello, hello everybody, and welcome 4 00:00:10,720 --> 00:00:12,720 Speaker 2: to this week's Minnie Pod. 5 00:00:13,080 --> 00:00:15,040 Speaker 3: I know how much y'all love these We love them 6 00:00:15,080 --> 00:00:16,080 Speaker 3: too because they're brief. 7 00:00:17,079 --> 00:00:18,920 Speaker 2: Don't take all day to get a thing out, And 8 00:00:19,000 --> 00:00:21,200 Speaker 2: today we are talking about Valentine's Day. 9 00:00:21,280 --> 00:00:24,759 Speaker 3: It may take all day to get a thing out. 10 00:00:25,640 --> 00:00:30,200 Speaker 2: And how do y'all celebrate Valentine's Day? 11 00:00:30,240 --> 00:00:31,080 Speaker 3: Do you believe in it? 12 00:00:31,520 --> 00:00:34,440 Speaker 2: Angela has a cautionary tales to tell every person out 13 00:00:34,440 --> 00:00:36,720 Speaker 2: there who's with somebody who don't. 14 00:00:36,479 --> 00:00:39,400 Speaker 3: Believe Angela kick us off? What's up? How you celebrating 15 00:00:39,479 --> 00:00:40,120 Speaker 3: Valentine's Day? 16 00:00:40,200 --> 00:00:43,320 Speaker 2: You got philosophical thoughts on on this thing? 17 00:00:43,640 --> 00:00:46,680 Speaker 3: Or or just take it as it comes? 18 00:00:46,760 --> 00:00:48,959 Speaker 1: I got it funny? Can we run? Can we run 19 00:00:49,000 --> 00:00:49,840 Speaker 1: something funny first? 20 00:00:49,920 --> 00:00:50,120 Speaker 4: Yeah? 21 00:00:50,320 --> 00:00:50,520 Speaker 5: Yeah? 22 00:00:50,640 --> 00:00:50,720 Speaker 2: So. 23 00:00:51,360 --> 00:00:52,480 Speaker 6: Our good sister. 24 00:00:52,280 --> 00:00:55,600 Speaker 1: Kendrick G has a as a live show that she 25 00:00:55,680 --> 00:00:59,760 Speaker 1: does on YouTube and Instagram with people who call in 26 00:00:59,840 --> 00:01:04,480 Speaker 1: for her matchmaking services. And there was one particular occasion 27 00:01:04,520 --> 00:01:08,160 Speaker 1: that I love so much. I watched multiple times. I 28 00:01:08,200 --> 00:01:10,640 Speaker 1: want you all to see what happened and how it 29 00:01:10,680 --> 00:01:12,600 Speaker 1: all went down as the slippery soap. Were probably not 30 00:01:12,640 --> 00:01:14,640 Speaker 1: gonna play the full thing. Nick, I'll tell you when 31 00:01:14,640 --> 00:01:16,119 Speaker 1: to cut it off. But let's go ahead and run 32 00:01:16,160 --> 00:01:18,880 Speaker 1: this Kendred g moment. It's the best of the best. 33 00:01:19,680 --> 00:01:20,000 Speaker 6: Hello. 34 00:01:20,040 --> 00:01:29,839 Speaker 7: Oh you gotta sit up, baby. Hello, Yeah, Hello Dasha 35 00:01:30,680 --> 00:01:33,080 Speaker 7: DeShawn from where Detroit? 36 00:01:33,160 --> 00:01:34,600 Speaker 6: Mechican? Detroit? 37 00:01:34,600 --> 00:01:35,520 Speaker 8: How old are you? Deshan? 38 00:01:35,959 --> 00:01:36,640 Speaker 3: Twenty nine? 39 00:01:38,920 --> 00:01:41,240 Speaker 6: What's the problem? You didn't hear the question? 40 00:01:42,319 --> 00:01:46,800 Speaker 7: Yes, I did know you did? You said where I'm from? 41 00:01:46,920 --> 00:01:49,000 Speaker 7: I said Detroit? You said how old are you? 42 00:01:49,080 --> 00:01:52,000 Speaker 6: I said twenty nine? No, yeah, I said how old 43 00:01:52,120 --> 00:01:52,440 Speaker 6: are you? 44 00:01:53,480 --> 00:01:54,640 Speaker 3: I said twenty nine? 45 00:01:57,320 --> 00:01:59,200 Speaker 6: That means how many? How many years have you been 46 00:01:59,240 --> 00:01:59,720 Speaker 6: on earth? 47 00:02:00,080 --> 00:02:01,600 Speaker 3: He said, you didn't hear the question. 48 00:02:01,800 --> 00:02:03,360 Speaker 7: I'm twenty nine years old. 49 00:02:03,400 --> 00:02:06,320 Speaker 6: You in Bozo, so you must not have heard of 50 00:02:06,320 --> 00:02:12,120 Speaker 6: being twenty nine? 51 00:02:12,960 --> 00:02:17,080 Speaker 7: Yeah, I know, girl, I know you ain't trying to 52 00:02:17,120 --> 00:02:20,040 Speaker 7: go there with the rings because you and I'm gonna 53 00:02:20,040 --> 00:02:22,799 Speaker 7: make up on your hideous like don't play with me 54 00:02:23,400 --> 00:02:25,840 Speaker 7: because I can go there. I'm trying to be nice 55 00:02:26,160 --> 00:02:30,560 Speaker 7: that wigs like don't play with me. Don't play with me, Candre, 56 00:02:31,040 --> 00:02:32,120 Speaker 7: please don't do it. 57 00:02:32,840 --> 00:02:34,920 Speaker 1: I mean, well, listen, I'm the one with the show 58 00:02:34,960 --> 00:02:36,359 Speaker 1: that you stayed up to be on. 59 00:02:36,480 --> 00:02:39,760 Speaker 7: So you nobody gives up though, because I mean nobody, Like, 60 00:02:39,800 --> 00:02:43,000 Speaker 7: you're not a nice person. You're ugly on the inside, 61 00:02:43,280 --> 00:02:46,960 Speaker 7: you trying to don't loot, jabs at people. Look at you, 62 00:02:46,960 --> 00:02:53,040 Speaker 7: your shiny ass face, ugly, ugly, look at you, look 63 00:02:53,080 --> 00:02:53,520 Speaker 7: at you. 64 00:02:55,080 --> 00:02:57,440 Speaker 1: Andrew is offended, but she continues to ask him what 65 00:02:57,560 --> 00:02:59,600 Speaker 1: year you born, because she's like, it's no way on 66 00:02:59,760 --> 00:03:03,040 Speaker 1: guys screen earth that you're twenty nine. So, needless to say, 67 00:03:03,040 --> 00:03:05,919 Speaker 1: he probably didn't make a love connection. But I do 68 00:03:06,000 --> 00:03:09,480 Speaker 1: want to just acknowledge Kindred does these regularly. There's a 69 00:03:09,520 --> 00:03:11,880 Speaker 1: guy that went on that said he was fifty and 70 00:03:11,919 --> 00:03:14,360 Speaker 1: he only days twenty something year old. There's a woman 71 00:03:14,400 --> 00:03:17,000 Speaker 1: who said that you know, she's engaged, but she need 72 00:03:17,040 --> 00:03:17,880 Speaker 1: a man on the side. 73 00:03:18,240 --> 00:03:19,120 Speaker 6: It cracks me up. 74 00:03:19,200 --> 00:03:22,520 Speaker 1: It's giving possible balloons just random. 75 00:03:22,560 --> 00:03:24,480 Speaker 3: They just call her, They just called in and she 76 00:03:24,639 --> 00:03:25,000 Speaker 3: kind of. 77 00:03:25,000 --> 00:03:27,800 Speaker 1: Goes off of myn ig life and so that's what 78 00:03:27,800 --> 00:03:30,000 Speaker 1: they do. But yeah, I thought that we could start there. 79 00:03:30,040 --> 00:03:33,600 Speaker 1: I know we have a question from a matchmaker as well. Uh, 80 00:03:33,960 --> 00:03:36,840 Speaker 1: before we get into my business and how y'all celebrate 81 00:03:36,920 --> 00:03:39,480 Speaker 1: now times day. Let's just keep it going. Let's get 82 00:03:39,480 --> 00:03:41,080 Speaker 1: the question there from the matchmaker. 83 00:03:41,160 --> 00:03:43,000 Speaker 3: All Right, this one's gonna be PG, y'all. 84 00:03:43,840 --> 00:03:44,560 Speaker 6: I'm sorry. 85 00:03:45,280 --> 00:03:46,600 Speaker 4: Hi, Nana Lampod. 86 00:03:46,760 --> 00:03:47,840 Speaker 3: My name is Tyan. 87 00:03:47,920 --> 00:03:51,440 Speaker 4: I'm a matchmaker in Jersey City, New Jersey. I've been 88 00:03:51,520 --> 00:03:56,560 Speaker 4: working in the dating and relationship field for about five 89 00:03:56,640 --> 00:03:59,520 Speaker 4: years now, and I'm coming to you with a question 90 00:03:59,640 --> 00:04:02,440 Speaker 4: based on what I've been seeing in my work lately. 91 00:04:03,000 --> 00:04:05,760 Speaker 4: I primarily work with black men and women in their 92 00:04:05,800 --> 00:04:09,040 Speaker 4: thirties and forties, and I'm finding it difficult to find 93 00:04:09,080 --> 00:04:12,280 Speaker 4: men who are ready for a commitment or even in general. 94 00:04:13,120 --> 00:04:17,440 Speaker 4: I offer paid and free opportunities to be matched. The 95 00:04:17,520 --> 00:04:22,599 Speaker 4: women come, they're ready, I'm ready to match them, but 96 00:04:23,279 --> 00:04:27,440 Speaker 4: many men seem to withdraw, withdraw, or say that they're 97 00:04:27,480 --> 00:04:30,680 Speaker 4: not ready or give reasons that aren't very clear. 98 00:04:31,800 --> 00:04:32,520 Speaker 3: We hear a. 99 00:04:32,440 --> 00:04:37,039 Speaker 4: Lot about crisis, the crisis with men, but usually the 100 00:04:37,120 --> 00:04:41,640 Speaker 4: conversation focuses on white men ages eighteen to twenty five. 101 00:04:43,040 --> 00:04:43,920 Speaker 3: From what I've been. 102 00:04:43,800 --> 00:04:47,520 Speaker 4: Seeing, there's a crisis with black men as well in 103 00:04:47,600 --> 00:04:51,560 Speaker 4: their twenties, thirties, and forties that is not often centered. 104 00:04:51,960 --> 00:04:55,560 Speaker 4: So my question is, how should we be thinking about 105 00:04:55,839 --> 00:04:59,520 Speaker 4: black love and relationships right now, giving what's happening with 106 00:04:59,640 --> 00:05:00,760 Speaker 4: men our community. 107 00:05:01,680 --> 00:05:02,280 Speaker 2: Thank you for. 108 00:05:02,279 --> 00:05:03,080 Speaker 3: All you do. 109 00:05:03,240 --> 00:05:07,159 Speaker 4: I love the podcast, and Tiffany, if you're watching, I 110 00:05:07,279 --> 00:05:09,960 Speaker 4: miss you and I definitely will be getting the book. 111 00:05:11,240 --> 00:05:13,880 Speaker 3: Thanks again, y'all, and welcome home. 112 00:05:15,160 --> 00:05:16,360 Speaker 6: Welcome home, Come Home. 113 00:05:17,240 --> 00:05:21,160 Speaker 2: The crisis, I think so the one that she's describing 114 00:05:21,240 --> 00:05:23,880 Speaker 2: with white men, which is clearly a lot of it 115 00:05:24,000 --> 00:05:27,479 Speaker 2: talked about, but in the relationship field, is around the 116 00:05:27,520 --> 00:05:31,960 Speaker 2: fact that increasingly not dating, sort of spending a lot 117 00:05:32,000 --> 00:05:40,960 Speaker 2: of time gaming, being confronted by unemployment or underemployment, underemployed aspirations, 118 00:05:40,960 --> 00:05:44,280 Speaker 2: so not getting hired into the places that they want uh, 119 00:05:44,320 --> 00:05:49,039 Speaker 2: and politically showing up a bit more conservative, causing a 120 00:05:49,080 --> 00:05:53,039 Speaker 2: lot more of their peer opposite sex women who are 121 00:05:53,520 --> 00:05:56,920 Speaker 2: more liberal, who are showing up as more liberal and 122 00:05:57,120 --> 00:06:00,400 Speaker 2: are more fully employed, and are also taking up jority 123 00:06:00,400 --> 00:06:03,680 Speaker 2: spaces frankly on college campuses increasingly not just on black 124 00:06:03,680 --> 00:06:09,240 Speaker 2: campuses but also predominantly white serving institutions as well, and 125 00:06:09,279 --> 00:06:14,600 Speaker 2: falling in love with bots and i AI starting relationship 126 00:06:14,920 --> 00:06:18,680 Speaker 2: online with the technology like for real. I'm not sure 127 00:06:18,720 --> 00:06:21,800 Speaker 2: what the proper languages to describe that y'all got to 128 00:06:21,839 --> 00:06:22,799 Speaker 2: help me out on that. 129 00:06:22,760 --> 00:06:24,599 Speaker 6: The opposite of Mary Jay's real love. 130 00:06:25,800 --> 00:06:32,160 Speaker 2: Okay, that's clever, and I think she's suggesting that it's 131 00:06:32,160 --> 00:06:36,800 Speaker 2: that that's also true and that maybe in the in 132 00:06:36,839 --> 00:06:40,120 Speaker 2: the black male community that similarly, within this age group, 133 00:06:40,320 --> 00:06:43,440 Speaker 2: there is increasing you know, a version and I've read 134 00:06:43,560 --> 00:06:46,400 Speaker 2: articles about that, I mean, women increasingly saying that you know, 135 00:06:46,640 --> 00:06:50,840 Speaker 2: who want children, who are thinking about it very differently 136 00:06:50,880 --> 00:06:53,599 Speaker 2: than having to be in a relationship by what to 137 00:06:53,640 --> 00:06:57,919 Speaker 2: produce a child, but considering other alternatives to producing a 138 00:06:58,000 --> 00:07:01,200 Speaker 2: child and not necessarily need to be in a relationship 139 00:07:02,279 --> 00:07:03,360 Speaker 2: with someone. 140 00:07:03,720 --> 00:07:05,960 Speaker 3: In order to have, you know, in order to have one. 141 00:07:05,920 --> 00:07:10,280 Speaker 2: And women increasingly choosing from a social standpoint that they'll 142 00:07:10,360 --> 00:07:13,920 Speaker 2: be just find socializing with their girls. And you know, 143 00:07:14,480 --> 00:07:16,240 Speaker 2: if they have a date with a guy every now 144 00:07:16,240 --> 00:07:19,880 Speaker 2: and again, that's okay, But would you know, find great 145 00:07:19,960 --> 00:07:21,840 Speaker 2: enjoyment and going out and just having a night on 146 00:07:21,840 --> 00:07:25,920 Speaker 2: the town amongst you know, their own girls. 147 00:07:26,480 --> 00:07:28,480 Speaker 1: Well, so this is are we backed in all this 148 00:07:28,640 --> 00:07:31,240 Speaker 1: to say, you know, how do we celebrate do we 149 00:07:31,320 --> 00:07:32,800 Speaker 1: celebrate Valentine's Day? 150 00:07:32,840 --> 00:07:34,560 Speaker 6: And whose kind of responsibility is that? 151 00:07:34,640 --> 00:07:39,360 Speaker 1: I think, you know, what's fascinating about this conversation is 152 00:07:39,400 --> 00:07:41,920 Speaker 1: even when we were getting ready to come on our 153 00:07:41,960 --> 00:07:46,840 Speaker 1: producer Lolo and Jordan, who's our editor, we're talking about, 154 00:07:46,960 --> 00:07:49,680 Speaker 1: you know, whether black men celebrate Valentine's Day, And I 155 00:07:49,760 --> 00:07:52,360 Speaker 1: retort it and I meant it, young sisters that if 156 00:07:52,400 --> 00:07:54,480 Speaker 1: you were to dude that says he don't believe in 157 00:07:54,560 --> 00:07:56,960 Speaker 1: Valentine's Day, you're not the only one on his roster. 158 00:07:57,440 --> 00:07:58,120 Speaker 6: So I just want to. 159 00:07:58,120 --> 00:08:01,280 Speaker 1: Make sure we're very clear about this, because a man 160 00:08:01,320 --> 00:08:04,040 Speaker 1: who's dating you and wants to ensure your happiness is 161 00:08:04,040 --> 00:08:07,240 Speaker 1: going to celebrate I don't care if it's you know, 162 00:08:07,480 --> 00:08:10,360 Speaker 1: some random holiday that's specific to your state. 163 00:08:10,400 --> 00:08:11,760 Speaker 6: He gonna roll with you a little bit. 164 00:08:11,880 --> 00:08:14,400 Speaker 1: And the fact that he's like he don't believe in it, 165 00:08:14,480 --> 00:08:15,920 Speaker 1: He don't believe in spending money in. 166 00:08:15,920 --> 00:08:19,240 Speaker 6: Multiple places boo boo believe that. So I just I 167 00:08:19,280 --> 00:08:20,239 Speaker 6: don't want to make sure. 168 00:08:20,080 --> 00:08:23,040 Speaker 3: That I meant answer. 169 00:08:23,240 --> 00:08:24,080 Speaker 6: I think it's true. 170 00:08:24,720 --> 00:08:26,240 Speaker 3: That's because I don't know. 171 00:08:26,280 --> 00:08:31,600 Speaker 9: I mean, I think with every answer respect to the 172 00:08:31,640 --> 00:08:35,480 Speaker 9: matchmaking profession, I don't know many black men that are 173 00:08:35,640 --> 00:08:38,400 Speaker 9: seeking out love at matchmakers. 174 00:08:39,000 --> 00:08:40,760 Speaker 3: That's what about see I love period? 175 00:08:41,120 --> 00:08:44,160 Speaker 9: I mean, I mean answer my question, no, I mean, 176 00:08:44,640 --> 00:08:47,119 Speaker 9: you didn't really ask a question. It was more declaratory. 177 00:08:47,160 --> 00:08:48,320 Speaker 3: I thought you were making a statement. 178 00:08:48,600 --> 00:08:50,200 Speaker 6: Well, I'm sorry, Why are you to respond to what 179 00:08:50,280 --> 00:08:50,640 Speaker 6: I said? 180 00:08:51,360 --> 00:08:53,760 Speaker 9: No, I mean I think that I think that a 181 00:08:53,800 --> 00:08:56,680 Speaker 9: lot of times men don't want to be in a 182 00:08:56,679 --> 00:09:01,600 Speaker 9: position where they are forced rather real artificially to do 183 00:09:01,679 --> 00:09:04,160 Speaker 9: something they don't that they feel as if they do 184 00:09:04,280 --> 00:09:06,280 Speaker 9: day in and day out. For many of us, we 185 00:09:06,880 --> 00:09:09,520 Speaker 9: confess our love daily, we show our love daily, and 186 00:09:09,600 --> 00:09:12,360 Speaker 9: so why is there the extra rigama role of having 187 00:09:12,400 --> 00:09:15,439 Speaker 9: to do above and beyond on a day that is 188 00:09:15,600 --> 00:09:18,840 Speaker 9: dictated and celebrated and anointed as the day where you 189 00:09:18,920 --> 00:09:22,160 Speaker 9: shower someone with love? And it's fine, I don't. 190 00:09:22,720 --> 00:09:23,000 Speaker 4: For me. 191 00:09:23,320 --> 00:09:26,319 Speaker 9: A lot of times it's you do things like that 192 00:09:26,440 --> 00:09:28,840 Speaker 9: to kind of go through the processes or avoid the 193 00:09:28,840 --> 00:09:32,120 Speaker 9: conflict of not doing it. But you focus day in 194 00:09:32,160 --> 00:09:36,160 Speaker 9: and day out on showing your partner that level of affection, 195 00:09:36,280 --> 00:09:38,719 Speaker 9: or at least you should. And the other thing is, 196 00:09:38,840 --> 00:09:42,839 Speaker 9: for as much as there's condemnation that rains down on men, 197 00:09:42,920 --> 00:09:46,679 Speaker 9: particularly Black men, I don't believe that there's been an 198 00:09:46,800 --> 00:09:52,080 Speaker 9: adequate inspection of the expectations of women, particularly Black women. 199 00:09:52,320 --> 00:09:56,240 Speaker 9: And so we've had to Balanchine's Day or just enchaining 200 00:09:56,320 --> 00:09:58,600 Speaker 9: in general. I mean we had the whole conversation just 201 00:09:58,640 --> 00:10:01,959 Speaker 9: recently socially not to together is one about the cost 202 00:10:02,000 --> 00:10:04,200 Speaker 9: of a first date. I don't know if you all 203 00:10:04,240 --> 00:10:06,880 Speaker 9: recall that where they were having discussions over how much 204 00:10:06,920 --> 00:10:09,199 Speaker 9: should be spent on a first date or how much 205 00:10:09,200 --> 00:10:12,120 Speaker 9: should be spent on a date at all. And you know, 206 00:10:12,240 --> 00:10:15,679 Speaker 9: for individuals who are working extremely hard doing whatever task 207 00:10:15,760 --> 00:10:19,720 Speaker 9: it is from nine to five, if that is the 208 00:10:19,720 --> 00:10:21,800 Speaker 9: person that you choose, you meet them out and they 209 00:10:21,840 --> 00:10:26,240 Speaker 9: can only afford xyz, it shouldn't be commiserate with some 210 00:10:26,400 --> 00:10:29,240 Speaker 9: artificial standard. I mean, it should be commiserate to what 211 00:10:29,280 --> 00:10:32,000 Speaker 9: they can do and how they're showing you their affection. 212 00:10:32,120 --> 00:10:33,960 Speaker 9: And so if it's like making and that people are 213 00:10:33,960 --> 00:10:35,560 Speaker 9: gonna laugh when I say this, and that means that 214 00:10:35,760 --> 00:10:38,240 Speaker 9: I'm talking to you. But if it's like making a 215 00:10:38,240 --> 00:10:41,000 Speaker 9: peanut butter and jelly sandwich and walking through g you know, 216 00:10:41,360 --> 00:10:44,040 Speaker 9: walking through the park and sitting down and watching things 217 00:10:44,080 --> 00:10:47,319 Speaker 9: and learning more about yourself, playing games, et cetera, if 218 00:10:47,320 --> 00:10:50,040 Speaker 9: that's what he can do at that time, and if 219 00:10:50,040 --> 00:10:53,400 Speaker 9: on holidays he takes you to cheesecake factory, because he's 220 00:10:53,400 --> 00:10:55,920 Speaker 9: saved up forward or whatever it may be. I just 221 00:10:55,920 --> 00:10:58,400 Speaker 9: think love comes in every shape, form and fashion, and 222 00:10:58,440 --> 00:11:01,240 Speaker 9: we build this artificial shit in missus our blessings is 223 00:11:01,360 --> 00:11:01,840 Speaker 9: really quick. 224 00:11:03,000 --> 00:11:04,800 Speaker 1: Hold on, I got a quick question. I would like 225 00:11:04,880 --> 00:11:07,959 Speaker 1: to do a focus group pole here. Please please raise 226 00:11:08,000 --> 00:11:10,920 Speaker 1: your hand if you've eaten a peanut butter and jelly 227 00:11:10,960 --> 00:11:15,440 Speaker 1: sandwich in the last month, exactly, Go ahead, Andrew. 228 00:11:15,800 --> 00:11:17,160 Speaker 3: But his point was well made. 229 00:11:17,280 --> 00:11:19,560 Speaker 2: I mean I would probably say the person should describe 230 00:11:19,559 --> 00:11:22,800 Speaker 2: it as a picnic for a day, and then they 231 00:11:22,840 --> 00:11:25,320 Speaker 2: can make the meal, you know, put the peanut butter 232 00:11:25,400 --> 00:11:26,480 Speaker 2: of the whatever's. 233 00:11:26,080 --> 00:11:28,640 Speaker 3: In frre's something in a basket. 234 00:11:28,679 --> 00:11:32,080 Speaker 2: And but but there's effort required, because there is a 235 00:11:32,080 --> 00:11:34,199 Speaker 2: way to just make a peanut butter and jelly sandwich, 236 00:11:34,280 --> 00:11:36,400 Speaker 2: right and and and say this is what I could do, 237 00:11:36,600 --> 00:11:39,000 Speaker 2: which I will consider half assed. And you shouldn't have 238 00:11:39,120 --> 00:11:40,040 Speaker 2: you shouldn't have done that. 239 00:11:41,000 --> 00:11:42,400 Speaker 6: But somebody take. 240 00:11:43,960 --> 00:11:46,520 Speaker 3: Y date, No, you do, I will take a picnic 241 00:11:48,120 --> 00:11:48,640 Speaker 3: one to me. 242 00:11:48,760 --> 00:11:52,719 Speaker 2: That's suggesting time, energy, effort put into trying to make 243 00:11:52,760 --> 00:11:54,240 Speaker 2: something nice and. 244 00:11:54,320 --> 00:12:01,000 Speaker 9: Special distraction for most for most people. I mean, I 245 00:12:01,080 --> 00:12:04,199 Speaker 9: think that the seclusion, the absence of distraction. I mean, 246 00:12:04,200 --> 00:12:06,480 Speaker 9: I just think the people have artificial ways in which 247 00:12:06,520 --> 00:12:08,200 Speaker 9: they want to be wooed, and I mean I think 248 00:12:08,200 --> 00:12:10,760 Speaker 9: that their standards. Of course, I think we shower our 249 00:12:10,920 --> 00:12:13,800 Speaker 9: daughters so that they have a level of expectation. But 250 00:12:13,840 --> 00:12:15,600 Speaker 9: at the end of the day, we shower them so 251 00:12:15,640 --> 00:12:17,600 Speaker 9: they know what love feels like, not so they know 252 00:12:17,679 --> 00:12:21,720 Speaker 9: what a diamond cost, right, And so I rather them 253 00:12:22,080 --> 00:12:24,560 Speaker 9: know what love looks like than the value of a 254 00:12:24,880 --> 00:12:28,680 Speaker 9: range Rover. And so I just find Valentine's data fall 255 00:12:28,720 --> 00:12:30,920 Speaker 9: into that. Of course, Ellen and I are gonna we're 256 00:12:30,920 --> 00:12:34,080 Speaker 9: gonna be in Baton Rouge watching the LSU South Carolina 257 00:12:34,120 --> 00:12:36,080 Speaker 9: game and then go to New Orleans and eat and 258 00:12:36,120 --> 00:12:38,400 Speaker 9: do those things. We're going to do it to celebrate it. 259 00:12:38,440 --> 00:12:41,520 Speaker 9: But I mean, hell, if that's if that was, you know, 260 00:12:41,600 --> 00:12:44,720 Speaker 9: February thirteenth or February fifteenth, I would do the same thing. 261 00:12:45,440 --> 00:12:45,959 Speaker 6: Mm hmmm. 262 00:12:46,559 --> 00:12:49,880 Speaker 3: It's a compulsory for you. It should be. No, I 263 00:12:49,880 --> 00:12:50,320 Speaker 3: mean the. 264 00:12:51,800 --> 00:12:56,320 Speaker 9: Nature, Valentine, Yes, the compulsory nature of it, Yes, yeah. 265 00:12:56,040 --> 00:12:59,560 Speaker 3: For sure. Yeah that's interesting. Kevin, what do you what's 266 00:12:59,600 --> 00:13:01,760 Speaker 3: your what's your outlook? How do you treat today? How 267 00:13:01,800 --> 00:13:02,360 Speaker 3: do you perceive it? 268 00:13:02,440 --> 00:13:04,600 Speaker 8: I just want to say I'm gay, and none of 269 00:13:04,640 --> 00:13:05,960 Speaker 8: this computes to me. 270 00:13:06,120 --> 00:13:08,120 Speaker 3: All of this, I'm completely not. 271 00:13:08,880 --> 00:13:12,360 Speaker 8: Oh, I just meant, like the conversations about effort or 272 00:13:12,840 --> 00:13:15,240 Speaker 8: the cost of dates. I just think it's so different 273 00:13:16,200 --> 00:13:29,640 Speaker 8: with like, I just think it's different with men who 274 00:13:29,760 --> 00:13:32,800 Speaker 8: date other men. I actually I find that like there 275 00:13:32,840 --> 00:13:36,600 Speaker 8: there's often a competition to be the one who's providing 276 00:13:36,679 --> 00:13:39,120 Speaker 8: or the one who's making the effort. Obviously when people 277 00:13:39,120 --> 00:13:42,520 Speaker 8: are like genuinely interested, but you know, there's just a 278 00:13:42,520 --> 00:13:48,040 Speaker 8: different dynamic when it's a same gender loving relationship, because 279 00:13:48,400 --> 00:13:50,560 Speaker 8: I often have to remind people like, yeah, I'm gay, 280 00:13:50,559 --> 00:13:53,360 Speaker 8: but I'm still a man, like I want to pay 281 00:13:53,400 --> 00:13:55,920 Speaker 8: for the bill, I want to plan the date, like 282 00:13:56,040 --> 00:13:58,439 Speaker 8: I am a man with like means, and I can 283 00:13:58,440 --> 00:14:02,559 Speaker 8: do that myself. So sometimes that's. 284 00:14:02,320 --> 00:14:03,280 Speaker 3: Like the push and pull. 285 00:14:03,320 --> 00:14:05,040 Speaker 8: It's not really like an argument about. 286 00:14:04,800 --> 00:14:06,960 Speaker 6: Like who pays as much. 287 00:14:07,000 --> 00:14:10,160 Speaker 8: Which I find comes up in like social media discourse 288 00:14:10,240 --> 00:14:14,600 Speaker 8: around heterosexual dating a lot, and I don't I guess 289 00:14:14,640 --> 00:14:16,720 Speaker 8: it doesn't come up, but it's sort of because it's 290 00:14:16,800 --> 00:14:20,680 Speaker 8: presumed that the man in that heterosexual situation is going 291 00:14:20,760 --> 00:14:22,920 Speaker 8: to be the one to pay, then there's more judgment 292 00:14:22,920 --> 00:14:25,160 Speaker 8: about how much you're paying or where it is that 293 00:14:25,200 --> 00:14:29,480 Speaker 8: we're going. It's a different standard versus like the same 294 00:14:29,640 --> 00:14:32,000 Speaker 8: gender relationship. It's I don't know, I just don't feel 295 00:14:32,000 --> 00:14:34,040 Speaker 8: like that it's the same amount of pressure as far 296 00:14:34,080 --> 00:14:34,960 Speaker 8: as what I'm doing. 297 00:14:35,760 --> 00:14:38,240 Speaker 3: Is there pressure though to celebrate Onme's Day? 298 00:14:38,440 --> 00:14:39,040 Speaker 6: Absolutely? 299 00:14:39,320 --> 00:14:39,640 Speaker 3: Yeah? 300 00:14:39,840 --> 00:14:43,120 Speaker 9: But okay, like do you celebrate them? 301 00:14:43,160 --> 00:14:44,160 Speaker 3: And do you celebrate? 302 00:14:44,200 --> 00:14:46,520 Speaker 9: Are you celebrating like do you have them blocked off 303 00:14:46,640 --> 00:14:48,160 Speaker 9: like morning, mid afternoon? 304 00:14:52,880 --> 00:14:53,080 Speaker 6: Not? 305 00:14:53,160 --> 00:14:53,680 Speaker 3: Do you have. 306 00:14:55,320 --> 00:14:58,400 Speaker 8: I am I'm going to fly myself to Vegas and 307 00:14:58,400 --> 00:15:01,480 Speaker 8: go see Kailani in concert on Valentine's saying that is 308 00:15:01,520 --> 00:15:01,960 Speaker 8: my plan? 309 00:15:03,360 --> 00:15:06,200 Speaker 6: Okay, and it's Kevin likes to treat he gonna treat me. 310 00:15:06,200 --> 00:15:10,440 Speaker 9: I'm going to want to be I would be photed to. 311 00:15:10,840 --> 00:15:15,280 Speaker 8: I'm going, I'll bet I was seeing someone and or 312 00:15:15,400 --> 00:15:17,520 Speaker 8: I've been seeing someone, but it's fashion week and they 313 00:15:17,600 --> 00:15:19,920 Speaker 8: work in fashion and like they're busy. So I'm like, 314 00:15:19,960 --> 00:15:21,680 Speaker 8: all right, I was trying to take a trip, but 315 00:15:21,760 --> 00:15:23,320 Speaker 8: you don't want to go, So I'm gonna go see 316 00:15:23,360 --> 00:15:26,240 Speaker 8: Kilano is the only woman I would date. 317 00:15:30,200 --> 00:15:32,800 Speaker 6: That because I said I was going. What just happened? Kevin? 318 00:15:32,840 --> 00:15:38,440 Speaker 8: I was my wing person's attention. 319 00:15:38,600 --> 00:15:39,920 Speaker 6: I want that woman so bad. 320 00:15:41,800 --> 00:15:46,160 Speaker 3: Okay, brother, you got something in common with the rest 321 00:15:46,200 --> 00:15:47,000 Speaker 3: of us on the panel. 322 00:15:48,680 --> 00:15:51,680 Speaker 1: No, no, the rest of y'all, But I will this 323 00:15:51,720 --> 00:15:53,760 Speaker 1: is this is the question that I have for y'all 324 00:15:53,840 --> 00:15:56,400 Speaker 1: too now. I I said, I gave our little the 325 00:15:56,440 --> 00:16:03,280 Speaker 1: information to our our lovely producers and editor on these 326 00:16:03,360 --> 00:16:06,000 Speaker 1: kind of tips. Around men, you're talking about the compulsory 327 00:16:06,120 --> 00:16:09,600 Speaker 1: nature of Valentine's Day and being forced to celebrate. Is 328 00:16:09,600 --> 00:16:12,600 Speaker 1: there any part of y'all that feels like this is 329 00:16:12,640 --> 00:16:16,400 Speaker 1: an opportunity to express love but also I want to 330 00:16:16,440 --> 00:16:18,920 Speaker 1: receive love. I felt like there was some there are 331 00:16:19,040 --> 00:16:21,280 Speaker 1: some points that were being made before we hit record. 332 00:16:22,160 --> 00:16:24,800 Speaker 1: Around you all carrying the pressure of it, but not 333 00:16:24,840 --> 00:16:27,400 Speaker 1: feeling like that pressure is equally put on the women. 334 00:16:27,440 --> 00:16:28,400 Speaker 6: Folks. I want to hear this. 335 00:16:28,680 --> 00:16:31,360 Speaker 2: Because I would say I would love, I would appreciate 336 00:16:31,760 --> 00:16:35,480 Speaker 2: more if the receiving love in the forms that came 337 00:16:35,520 --> 00:16:41,080 Speaker 2: in were more regular like Valentine's Day. To me, the 338 00:16:41,080 --> 00:16:43,200 Speaker 2: compulsory nature is a complete turn off, Like I don't 339 00:16:43,200 --> 00:16:46,680 Speaker 2: need a mechanized holiday to. 340 00:16:46,680 --> 00:16:47,280 Speaker 3: Tell me this. 341 00:16:47,400 --> 00:16:50,440 Speaker 2: To day you write a love note or give chocolate, 342 00:16:50,480 --> 00:16:52,880 Speaker 2: I don't get chock mar Johnny Chcolate. But you know, 343 00:16:53,440 --> 00:16:56,040 Speaker 2: like the day that you show some outward expression. With 344 00:16:56,200 --> 00:16:58,920 Speaker 2: my kids on a slight bit different with it because 345 00:16:58,960 --> 00:17:02,720 Speaker 2: I get, of all three of them them Valentine's Day recognition. 346 00:17:03,040 --> 00:17:06,800 Speaker 2: And that's mostly because the environment that they're in, you know, 347 00:17:06,880 --> 00:17:08,520 Speaker 2: with their classmates and peers. 348 00:17:08,560 --> 00:17:11,320 Speaker 3: I don't want them to get the impression that their 349 00:17:11,440 --> 00:17:12,200 Speaker 3: parents or. 350 00:17:12,119 --> 00:17:14,160 Speaker 2: The people, you know, the loves in their lives don't 351 00:17:14,200 --> 00:17:15,640 Speaker 2: love them, you know, the same way. 352 00:17:15,840 --> 00:17:17,720 Speaker 3: But I probably talked to them one day about it too. 353 00:17:17,720 --> 00:17:19,359 Speaker 3: When they're mature. 354 00:17:18,960 --> 00:17:21,000 Speaker 2: And can make some you know, more maturey to making, 355 00:17:21,640 --> 00:17:23,840 Speaker 2: I just I don't like the commulsitary nature of it. 356 00:17:23,880 --> 00:17:26,119 Speaker 2: I was like when Jana were dating. I do things 357 00:17:26,200 --> 00:17:28,960 Speaker 2: like get the roses at the beginning of the week 358 00:17:29,000 --> 00:17:32,520 Speaker 2: if it was on a Friday, and or I'd send, 359 00:17:33,720 --> 00:17:35,280 Speaker 2: you know, would drop in and ask her if I 360 00:17:35,280 --> 00:17:38,040 Speaker 2: could take her to lunch, but not on you know, 361 00:17:38,119 --> 00:17:39,680 Speaker 2: not on Valentine's They'd be the Wednesday. 362 00:17:40,160 --> 00:17:42,240 Speaker 3: And so that it felt because. 363 00:17:42,000 --> 00:17:45,880 Speaker 2: That would reflect more of what our habits had been 364 00:17:46,000 --> 00:17:50,560 Speaker 2: and were by way of expressing love and affectionate desire 365 00:17:50,560 --> 00:17:54,240 Speaker 2: to be together and spend time together. And then when 366 00:17:54,280 --> 00:17:57,760 Speaker 2: social media entered the arena right, like, because Facebook didn't 367 00:17:57,760 --> 00:18:00,800 Speaker 2: exist when I was in college, not to I graduated. 368 00:18:01,480 --> 00:18:03,080 Speaker 2: I think of my senior year. 369 00:18:03,160 --> 00:18:04,200 Speaker 3: It was at Harvard and. 370 00:18:04,200 --> 00:18:06,159 Speaker 2: Yale and you know at the you know, at the 371 00:18:06,160 --> 00:18:08,640 Speaker 2: Ivys when it when it first started. But but then 372 00:18:08,720 --> 00:18:13,040 Speaker 2: you have to to now compete with everybody writing, you know, 373 00:18:13,200 --> 00:18:18,000 Speaker 2: open love letters online and posting you know, a hundred 374 00:18:18,119 --> 00:18:23,080 Speaker 2: different vases of roses, and then you know, folks start 375 00:18:23,080 --> 00:18:26,360 Speaker 2: doing things that start to see no, no, I wasn't 376 00:18:26,440 --> 00:18:30,120 Speaker 2: doing basis. 377 00:18:28,200 --> 00:18:31,280 Speaker 3: Of of of of you know, of flowers. 378 00:18:31,640 --> 00:18:34,320 Speaker 2: And then now you're like, what's real and what isn't 379 00:18:34,440 --> 00:18:36,880 Speaker 2: because now this performative and I think you just found 380 00:18:36,920 --> 00:18:38,320 Speaker 2: out do to this and the that I look at 381 00:18:38,320 --> 00:18:38,840 Speaker 2: my room, I'm like. 382 00:18:38,840 --> 00:18:41,439 Speaker 3: This is crazy, Like this is what it took for 383 00:18:41,480 --> 00:18:43,880 Speaker 3: you to say I love you. There were not other ways, you. 384 00:18:43,840 --> 00:18:45,960 Speaker 2: Know, other ways to do it, so like that's just 385 00:18:46,000 --> 00:18:49,480 Speaker 2: always been in my craw But I I look, I 386 00:18:49,520 --> 00:18:50,600 Speaker 2: have folded like. 387 00:18:50,600 --> 00:18:52,639 Speaker 3: The rest of us. And you do what you're supposed 388 00:18:52,640 --> 00:18:55,439 Speaker 3: to do on the day and keep it moving. My god, 389 00:18:57,600 --> 00:19:00,399 Speaker 3: it's true. I know you because you don't. 390 00:19:00,520 --> 00:19:04,480 Speaker 6: But Angela, what my question was, but I want you 391 00:19:04,560 --> 00:19:05,639 Speaker 6: to answer my question. 392 00:19:06,400 --> 00:19:08,840 Speaker 2: My answer was, yes, I want to receive it, and 393 00:19:08,880 --> 00:19:09,639 Speaker 2: I want to receive it. 394 00:19:09,840 --> 00:19:10,480 Speaker 3: That's what I'm saying. 395 00:19:10,880 --> 00:19:13,040 Speaker 9: The basis, do you give on Valentine's Day? What is 396 00:19:13,080 --> 00:19:14,560 Speaker 9: your history of giving gifts? 397 00:19:14,760 --> 00:19:14,960 Speaker 2: Me? 398 00:19:16,000 --> 00:19:17,840 Speaker 6: I'm great at this, I'm masterful. 399 00:19:19,000 --> 00:19:19,359 Speaker 2: Explain. 400 00:19:19,800 --> 00:19:21,000 Speaker 6: I think I give a lot. 401 00:19:21,359 --> 00:19:24,800 Speaker 1: You know, some of it costs money, some of it doesn't. 402 00:19:24,840 --> 00:19:25,640 Speaker 6: But I think. 403 00:19:28,920 --> 00:19:31,119 Speaker 3: See, see, that's what I'm talking about. They want to 404 00:19:31,119 --> 00:19:34,400 Speaker 3: get that Monday Tuesday Andrew. Every day of the week, 405 00:19:34,520 --> 00:19:37,160 Speaker 3: we want that Monday Tuesday. We want, we want something 406 00:19:37,160 --> 00:19:37,919 Speaker 3: above and beyond. 407 00:19:38,160 --> 00:19:41,760 Speaker 1: I'm just saying that I think that I think that 408 00:19:41,800 --> 00:19:44,800 Speaker 1: it is reciprocal as well. I grew up really spoiled 409 00:19:44,840 --> 00:19:47,760 Speaker 1: on Valentine's Day. My dad made sure that you know, 410 00:19:48,040 --> 00:19:50,719 Speaker 1: he got my mom a dozen roses, and then I 411 00:19:50,760 --> 00:19:53,240 Speaker 1: got a rose in a balloon. Now the thing that 412 00:19:53,280 --> 00:19:55,320 Speaker 1: my dad does not know. Sorry, Daddy'm about to tell 413 00:19:55,320 --> 00:19:58,600 Speaker 1: family business again. We have told him that roses is 414 00:19:58,640 --> 00:20:00,280 Speaker 1: not particularly. 415 00:19:59,600 --> 00:20:00,560 Speaker 6: Our favorit flower. 416 00:20:02,040 --> 00:20:06,480 Speaker 1: He don't give it there, He's still gonna gets. 417 00:20:05,200 --> 00:20:08,520 Speaker 2: I gotta talk to put the financials on that he 418 00:20:08,520 --> 00:20:10,600 Speaker 2: could save save a lot of money. 419 00:20:10,600 --> 00:20:11,880 Speaker 6: I'm like, you could go down the pipe. 420 00:20:11,920 --> 00:20:14,440 Speaker 1: Place and give me a mixed bouquet for twenty five 421 00:20:14,480 --> 00:20:16,360 Speaker 1: dollars and I will be so happy because I love 422 00:20:16,720 --> 00:20:19,040 Speaker 1: like flowers and all the colors and the shapes, and 423 00:20:19,119 --> 00:20:21,719 Speaker 1: you know, so I just think that it's really just 424 00:20:21,880 --> 00:20:24,800 Speaker 1: more about effort. I do agree that everything doesn't have 425 00:20:24,840 --> 00:20:28,600 Speaker 1: to cause I actually am somebody that prefers words of affirmation. 426 00:20:28,720 --> 00:20:30,400 Speaker 1: I like to send them, I like to receive them. 427 00:20:30,560 --> 00:20:36,040 Speaker 1: I love a love letter, you know. But also, you know, 428 00:20:36,080 --> 00:20:38,000 Speaker 1: you just got to be careful where you share your 429 00:20:38,000 --> 00:20:40,280 Speaker 1: love these days, because everybody's not deserving. 430 00:20:40,760 --> 00:20:43,080 Speaker 2: Okay, so on the internet, you guys have to go 431 00:20:43,160 --> 00:20:48,359 Speaker 2: all out posting love letter pictures and all the stuff 432 00:20:48,359 --> 00:20:49,160 Speaker 2: with you on the line. 433 00:20:49,240 --> 00:20:53,160 Speaker 1: I am at the point now, after having several public 434 00:20:53,240 --> 00:20:58,960 Speaker 1: facing relationships, that my next situation online will be when 435 00:20:59,000 --> 00:21:02,720 Speaker 1: I'm engaged. I think that I'm no longer going to 436 00:21:02,720 --> 00:21:06,040 Speaker 1: give access to that part of my life because honestly, 437 00:21:06,280 --> 00:21:09,720 Speaker 1: it's just embarrassing, Like I didn't expect to go public 438 00:21:09,800 --> 00:21:13,320 Speaker 1: and then, you know, be broken up and I'm getting 439 00:21:13,359 --> 00:21:16,439 Speaker 1: asked about somebody who is I'm three girlfriends ago, like 440 00:21:16,480 --> 00:21:18,640 Speaker 1: why are you still ask me about this dude? 441 00:21:19,200 --> 00:21:19,439 Speaker 6: You know? 442 00:21:20,640 --> 00:21:23,600 Speaker 9: And then as you get three different acknowledgments on the 443 00:21:23,640 --> 00:21:26,400 Speaker 9: same day. They like, we love Angela, we love Angela, 444 00:21:26,440 --> 00:21:30,159 Speaker 9: we love you know, everybody, don't worry about No, I'm. 445 00:21:30,000 --> 00:21:32,400 Speaker 6: Not saying I'm three girlfriends and I'm one of the three. 446 00:21:32,440 --> 00:21:37,160 Speaker 1: I'm saying I three girlfriends prior you are right now, 447 00:21:37,680 --> 00:21:38,359 Speaker 1: and it was. 448 00:21:38,359 --> 00:21:39,160 Speaker 6: Several years ago. 449 00:21:39,200 --> 00:21:41,399 Speaker 1: So I'm just like, you know, at this point, I 450 00:21:42,200 --> 00:21:44,960 Speaker 1: would like to have a good, sturdy leaned up against 451 00:21:44,960 --> 00:21:48,760 Speaker 1: strong love and watching my parents, especially navigate my dad 452 00:21:48,800 --> 00:21:51,280 Speaker 1: in the emergency room the other day, my mom going 453 00:21:51,280 --> 00:21:53,840 Speaker 1: through cancer treatment. Now, you're just like, you just want 454 00:21:53,880 --> 00:21:58,080 Speaker 1: somebody that's reliable, will be there, appreciate you, develop the 455 00:21:58,119 --> 00:22:00,800 Speaker 1: friendship and all that, and all that to say, it 456 00:22:01,160 --> 00:22:03,399 Speaker 1: won't be public, y'all not going to see my Valentine 457 00:22:03,560 --> 00:22:05,600 Speaker 1: till I get a ring there. 458 00:22:05,600 --> 00:22:07,720 Speaker 6: It is there, and it won't be from. 459 00:22:07,520 --> 00:22:15,520 Speaker 1: The Cheesecake Factor. No, they probably won't now either. I 460 00:22:15,520 --> 00:22:17,480 Speaker 1: don't know that I would ever actually get a cheesecake. 461 00:22:17,520 --> 00:22:19,400 Speaker 1: You guys would probably not get one with me because 462 00:22:19,440 --> 00:22:21,520 Speaker 1: we laughed so hard about it with Don a long 463 00:22:21,560 --> 00:22:22,000 Speaker 1: time ago. 464 00:22:22,080 --> 00:22:29,000 Speaker 3: But anyway, Andrew, I was. 465 00:22:28,920 --> 00:22:31,800 Speaker 2: About to say, I wish y'all out good, great luck, 466 00:22:31,880 --> 00:22:33,000 Speaker 2: y'all in the dating game. 467 00:22:33,119 --> 00:22:37,480 Speaker 3: Y'all who are doing what you do? 468 00:22:37,880 --> 00:22:40,879 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's a lot going on and the again, I 469 00:22:41,040 --> 00:22:43,920 Speaker 2: just like whatever feels authentic, whatever feels natural. 470 00:22:44,240 --> 00:22:46,320 Speaker 3: First of all, if you if you love a person and. 471 00:22:46,280 --> 00:22:49,840 Speaker 2: They love you, they will be very clear right about 472 00:22:49,840 --> 00:22:52,800 Speaker 2: how it is that you go above and beyond the 473 00:22:52,800 --> 00:22:54,200 Speaker 2: show and demonstrate your love. 474 00:22:54,640 --> 00:22:55,919 Speaker 6: Can you guys do me a favorite? 475 00:22:56,600 --> 00:23:00,000 Speaker 1: Butkari and Andrew, you guys are married to some incredible 476 00:23:00,080 --> 00:23:02,400 Speaker 1: black women. I would love if you would just take 477 00:23:02,480 --> 00:23:05,520 Speaker 1: a moment. It's not Valentine's Day yet, this will air 478 00:23:05,560 --> 00:23:07,880 Speaker 1: the day before Valentine's Day, but it would be great 479 00:23:07,880 --> 00:23:09,920 Speaker 1: if you could take a moment to just send them 480 00:23:09,920 --> 00:23:12,040 Speaker 1: a little love note right now. 481 00:23:11,920 --> 00:23:14,160 Speaker 6: If you can just give them a little little shout out. 482 00:23:14,880 --> 00:23:17,520 Speaker 3: Yeah. I talked about the performative and here she goes saying, 483 00:23:17,520 --> 00:23:20,200 Speaker 3: hey on this, No. 484 00:23:20,160 --> 00:23:21,919 Speaker 6: I would love it if you did it. 485 00:23:22,000 --> 00:23:24,400 Speaker 3: No, No, I do it. I do it. 486 00:23:24,400 --> 00:23:28,880 Speaker 2: As you talked about, you like flowers and different varieties 487 00:23:28,880 --> 00:23:31,760 Speaker 2: of them. I mean I've taken to like buying loosely 488 00:23:31,840 --> 00:23:35,639 Speaker 2: flowers and putting together the arrangement for my wife. And 489 00:23:35,640 --> 00:23:38,760 Speaker 2: it's not just on Valentine's Day. I do it random 490 00:23:38,800 --> 00:23:42,520 Speaker 2: times throughout, going through pictures in my phone that I 491 00:23:42,560 --> 00:23:46,600 Speaker 2: particularly love about us, where they weren't like the picture 492 00:23:46,640 --> 00:23:48,480 Speaker 2: that ended up on a magazine. It was the picture 493 00:23:48,520 --> 00:23:52,000 Speaker 2: that somebody took and we weren't watching, and we're just, 494 00:23:52,240 --> 00:23:54,280 Speaker 2: you know, locked in some kind of a funny laugh 495 00:23:54,400 --> 00:23:56,840 Speaker 2: or an embrace of some sort that I wouldn't have 496 00:23:56,880 --> 00:23:58,960 Speaker 2: caught outside of my own eyes because I was the 497 00:23:59,000 --> 00:24:01,399 Speaker 2: one participating, but in looking at him, like man, I 498 00:24:01,440 --> 00:24:05,760 Speaker 2: love this tenderness and frame it and give it to 499 00:24:05,800 --> 00:24:09,720 Speaker 2: her to put on her desk or or she comes home, 500 00:24:09,720 --> 00:24:11,800 Speaker 2: there's a new one hanging right somewhere. 501 00:24:11,920 --> 00:24:20,520 Speaker 3: So I our j is the best person I know period, And. 502 00:24:23,880 --> 00:24:28,760 Speaker 5: I love our love, I love our friendship. I love 503 00:24:28,840 --> 00:24:33,080 Speaker 5: her mother ring, I love her daughter as she is 504 00:24:33,560 --> 00:24:37,080 Speaker 5: performs as a daughter to her parents, how she is 505 00:24:37,119 --> 00:24:41,080 Speaker 5: as a sibling to her brother. I love the person 506 00:24:41,160 --> 00:24:41,560 Speaker 5: she is. 507 00:24:43,720 --> 00:24:46,800 Speaker 2: She's my rock, right, So you think about those those 508 00:24:46,960 --> 00:24:50,440 Speaker 2: you know upon the solid rock extent. Yeah, So when 509 00:24:50,480 --> 00:24:53,240 Speaker 2: all else is unaccountable and can't be relied on and 510 00:24:53,280 --> 00:24:57,080 Speaker 2: won't be there, Jay is solid footing for me, and 511 00:24:57,119 --> 00:24:59,639 Speaker 2: I hope that I'm that also for her, And that 512 00:24:59,800 --> 00:25:06,080 Speaker 2: means that you don't have a perfect relationship. You have 513 00:25:06,560 --> 00:25:11,560 Speaker 2: a living relationship, and it changes, it evolves, that take 514 00:25:11,640 --> 00:25:16,760 Speaker 2: on different shapes, and and yet it persists. 515 00:25:18,200 --> 00:25:18,560 Speaker 5: I love you. 516 00:25:18,600 --> 00:25:21,560 Speaker 2: Happy Valentine's Day, but happy every day. 517 00:25:21,840 --> 00:25:26,159 Speaker 9: Happy Valentine's Day. I just pressed press affirmation everything you 518 00:25:26,160 --> 00:25:29,200 Speaker 9: said above. We've we've married, We've outputted our coverage, married 519 00:25:29,240 --> 00:25:33,880 Speaker 9: extremely well. And hopefully I'm able to show Sadie what 520 00:25:33,960 --> 00:25:36,680 Speaker 9: love really means through the way that I love her mom. 521 00:25:37,240 --> 00:25:40,760 Speaker 3: Happy Valentine, Happy Valentine's Day, everybody. 522 00:25:40,840 --> 00:25:42,920 Speaker 1: I had to go on mute because I was Oh, 523 00:25:43,320 --> 00:25:44,680 Speaker 1: I had to go on mute. I was like, let 524 00:25:44,680 --> 00:25:46,840 Speaker 1: me do this by myself. But that was so sweet. 525 00:25:46,920 --> 00:25:49,240 Speaker 1: I love you guys for doing that, and thank you 526 00:25:49,320 --> 00:25:54,000 Speaker 1: for the examples of good husbands, good daddy's, good sons, 527 00:25:54,560 --> 00:25:58,880 Speaker 1: good brothers that you are to all of your family member. 528 00:25:59,000 --> 00:25:59,879 Speaker 6: I'm getting to Kevin. 529 00:26:00,200 --> 00:26:02,440 Speaker 1: Hey, Kevin, I hope that you at least get a 530 00:26:02,480 --> 00:26:05,480 Speaker 1: hug from Killanne. You know, Kiline, you from the West coast, 531 00:26:05,520 --> 00:26:08,880 Speaker 1: so represent us well said and keV. 532 00:26:08,760 --> 00:26:10,520 Speaker 3: If you want to send a love note, by all 533 00:26:10,600 --> 00:26:12,960 Speaker 3: means we don't. We don't want to omit you. But 534 00:26:13,119 --> 00:26:15,800 Speaker 3: Angela did not want to put you on the spot. 535 00:26:16,119 --> 00:26:18,439 Speaker 6: Yes, I will be something, I will be something nothing. 536 00:26:19,000 --> 00:26:22,000 Speaker 8: I I'm lad. 537 00:26:22,359 --> 00:26:24,439 Speaker 3: I'm always just very romantic. Trust me. 538 00:26:24,520 --> 00:26:27,040 Speaker 8: This is just you know, this was very sweet to witness. 539 00:26:27,080 --> 00:26:30,640 Speaker 1: Though I'm going to hang out with Kevin. Okay, yeah, 540 00:26:32,560 --> 00:26:34,119 Speaker 1: I'm going to hang out with Kevin. 541 00:26:34,080 --> 00:26:35,840 Speaker 6: But no, I will say that. 542 00:26:35,880 --> 00:26:38,560 Speaker 1: My love note is just to my parents for just 543 00:26:38,920 --> 00:26:42,520 Speaker 1: providing such a beautiful example of love and super super 544 00:26:42,600 --> 00:26:46,920 Speaker 1: high standards, even at forty six. I will not compromise 545 00:26:47,040 --> 00:26:51,240 Speaker 1: and I get the that Mom and Papa Rie kind 546 00:26:51,280 --> 00:26:54,359 Speaker 1: of love. So I love you both. Thank you for 547 00:26:54,440 --> 00:26:57,159 Speaker 1: birthing me. Thank you for allowing me to bear witness 548 00:26:57,280 --> 00:27:00,879 Speaker 1: to your love. And I'm so proud of who you 549 00:27:00,920 --> 00:27:05,199 Speaker 1: all are, how you love each other, your friendship, the 550 00:27:05,240 --> 00:27:08,320 Speaker 1: way in which you love our people and have loved 551 00:27:08,359 --> 00:27:10,160 Speaker 1: each other through movement after movement. 552 00:27:10,280 --> 00:27:11,800 Speaker 6: So I thank God for my parents. 553 00:27:12,000 --> 00:27:13,800 Speaker 3: And yeah, now you know, the three. 554 00:27:13,640 --> 00:27:17,960 Speaker 2: Of us have to say Happy val say Mama. 555 00:27:17,840 --> 00:27:18,720 Speaker 3: Angels. 556 00:27:20,920 --> 00:27:22,880 Speaker 6: And your in laws y'all better do it all. 557 00:27:23,000 --> 00:27:27,640 Speaker 2: Yes, indeed, I love that Happy Valentine's say y'all, welcome home, Welcome. 558 00:27:27,359 --> 00:27:27,840 Speaker 9: Home, y'all. 559 00:27:40,640 --> 00:27:43,480 Speaker 1: Native Lampard is a production of iHeart Radio and partnership 560 00:27:43,480 --> 00:27:46,000 Speaker 1: with Resent Choice Media. 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