1 00:00:00,600 --> 00:00:02,320 Speaker 1: I feel like you came in hot with like a 2 00:00:02,320 --> 00:00:04,160 Speaker 1: lot of things to tell me. So I just said, 3 00:00:04,200 --> 00:00:07,640 Speaker 1: let's just press record and include the listeners in on 4 00:00:07,680 --> 00:00:08,400 Speaker 1: this cong Tho. 5 00:00:08,600 --> 00:00:11,039 Speaker 2: I feel like I've been up for hours. By the way, 6 00:00:11,080 --> 00:00:12,559 Speaker 2: it's nine to ten in the morning. 7 00:00:12,880 --> 00:00:14,280 Speaker 3: It's a little early for us. 8 00:00:14,640 --> 00:00:17,160 Speaker 1: Well here's the thing, it's not early, Like we're both 9 00:00:17,320 --> 00:00:20,520 Speaker 1: up at this time of day. It's just very tricky 10 00:00:20,560 --> 00:00:24,560 Speaker 1: sometimes for me to record this early because it's like 11 00:00:25,000 --> 00:00:28,440 Speaker 1: my brain is a wake ish but my words, like 12 00:00:28,720 --> 00:00:32,560 Speaker 1: the formulating like words from my brain to my mouth 13 00:00:32,760 --> 00:00:35,919 Speaker 1: seem a little trickier in the morning totally am. 14 00:00:35,720 --> 00:00:38,599 Speaker 2: Like my coffee is still too hot to drink, so 15 00:00:38,680 --> 00:00:40,680 Speaker 2: I haven't had that yet. 16 00:00:40,880 --> 00:00:42,279 Speaker 1: But I don't have that problem. 17 00:00:43,360 --> 00:00:44,160 Speaker 3: Yeah, it's weird. 18 00:00:44,200 --> 00:00:45,960 Speaker 2: The older I get, the harder it is for me 19 00:00:46,000 --> 00:00:47,800 Speaker 2: to like really get going in the morning. 20 00:00:47,840 --> 00:00:48,480 Speaker 3: I get up. 21 00:00:48,640 --> 00:00:51,840 Speaker 1: But like, actually I'm starting to really love an early morning. 22 00:00:51,880 --> 00:00:52,839 Speaker 1: I'm a little jealous. 23 00:00:52,920 --> 00:00:54,400 Speaker 3: I love the morning. 24 00:00:54,720 --> 00:00:57,880 Speaker 1: Yeah, Like I think I said this a couple of 25 00:00:57,880 --> 00:00:59,840 Speaker 1: weeks ago, Right, I've been doing the like try to 26 00:00:59,880 --> 00:01:01,960 Speaker 1: go to bed by ten and then I'm like up 27 00:01:02,000 --> 00:01:04,120 Speaker 1: at six. I mean, it's not like this is the 28 00:01:04,120 --> 00:01:05,760 Speaker 1: first time I'm getting up at six in my life. 29 00:01:05,800 --> 00:01:08,959 Speaker 1: So anyone listening that's like, oh, like okay, like just 30 00:01:09,000 --> 00:01:12,080 Speaker 1: slow down there. It's just that I'm really trying to 31 00:01:12,080 --> 00:01:14,600 Speaker 1: be conscious of getting eight hours of sleep, Like I 32 00:01:14,760 --> 00:01:17,760 Speaker 1: really have done so much research about the importance of 33 00:01:17,800 --> 00:01:22,040 Speaker 1: sleep too our mental and emotional health, speaking of the topic, 34 00:01:22,959 --> 00:01:25,760 Speaker 1: And it takes a lot of effort for me to 35 00:01:25,760 --> 00:01:28,080 Speaker 1: go to bed by then, Like it takes a lot. 36 00:01:28,160 --> 00:01:30,280 Speaker 1: So anyway, it's been a new thing, but I love 37 00:01:31,160 --> 00:01:33,240 Speaker 1: either getting up at five thirty or six and having 38 00:01:33,280 --> 00:01:35,520 Speaker 1: that little bit of time for myself in the morning 39 00:01:35,600 --> 00:01:39,679 Speaker 1: to like go about my routine, have some chill time 40 00:01:40,000 --> 00:01:40,560 Speaker 1: and quiet. 41 00:01:40,680 --> 00:01:42,600 Speaker 3: Yeah you're uninterrupted. 42 00:01:43,200 --> 00:01:47,000 Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, before the work Like it's nice to be 43 00:01:47,120 --> 00:01:50,760 Speaker 1: up way before people get into the office. Yeah, ah, 44 00:01:50,760 --> 00:01:51,520 Speaker 1: is that what you feel. 45 00:01:52,000 --> 00:01:53,960 Speaker 2: I got on a health kick several years ago which 46 00:01:53,960 --> 00:01:56,320 Speaker 2: I need to revisit, and started to go into Berry's 47 00:01:56,320 --> 00:01:59,800 Speaker 2: boot camp. Before it was like this international huge gym. 48 00:02:00,120 --> 00:02:00,280 Speaker 1: Yeah. 49 00:02:00,320 --> 00:02:03,040 Speaker 2: I remember this kick out and I would be up 50 00:02:03,080 --> 00:02:05,840 Speaker 2: at five forty five to be at a six thirty class. Yeah, 51 00:02:05,880 --> 00:02:09,000 Speaker 2: and by seven thirty I'd had the hardest workout of 52 00:02:09,040 --> 00:02:12,280 Speaker 2: my life. Yeah, I'm driving back to my house drenched 53 00:02:12,280 --> 00:02:14,440 Speaker 2: in sweat. I lived in Los Angeles at the time. 54 00:02:14,440 --> 00:02:19,160 Speaker 4: And hum, you know there's still yeah, there's still you 55 00:02:19,160 --> 00:02:20,560 Speaker 4: know a lot of people are still in bed. So 56 00:02:20,600 --> 00:02:25,200 Speaker 4: it was like there's no traffic and you feel so accomplished. Yeah, 57 00:02:25,240 --> 00:02:27,760 Speaker 4: before most people are awake, and so it made me 58 00:02:27,800 --> 00:02:30,799 Speaker 4: feel so alive and it like it ended up being 59 00:02:30,800 --> 00:02:32,880 Speaker 4: a really healthy routine for me. 60 00:02:33,720 --> 00:02:36,600 Speaker 1: So makes me a much more productive day for sure. 61 00:02:36,400 --> 00:02:38,840 Speaker 3: One hundred percent. Yeah, let's get. 62 00:02:38,760 --> 00:02:40,320 Speaker 1: To the updates that you were about to tell me. 63 00:02:40,360 --> 00:02:43,000 Speaker 1: So you were like you were You said something about 64 00:02:43,760 --> 00:02:45,720 Speaker 1: I didn't sleep very well. I have a smidge of 65 00:02:45,720 --> 00:02:48,480 Speaker 1: a headache, but it's not because of my chili pad. 66 00:02:48,560 --> 00:02:49,840 Speaker 1: So what did you want to tell us about the 67 00:02:49,919 --> 00:02:50,440 Speaker 1: chili pad? 68 00:02:50,720 --> 00:02:54,280 Speaker 3: Well, I don't know. I mean news alert. I don't 69 00:02:54,320 --> 00:02:58,320 Speaker 3: normally listen to the podcast, our podcast, our podcast. 70 00:02:58,360 --> 00:02:59,919 Speaker 2: Yeah, I kind of do it, and then it's a 71 00:03:00,040 --> 00:03:02,640 Speaker 2: moment in time for me. So it'll be funny because 72 00:03:02,639 --> 00:03:04,320 Speaker 2: you'll be like, you know, when we talked about blah blah. 73 00:03:04,160 --> 00:03:06,520 Speaker 3: Blah, and I'm like, we did, well, I. 74 00:03:06,680 --> 00:03:11,040 Speaker 2: Have to you have to yeah stuff, And yeah, so 75 00:03:12,120 --> 00:03:14,680 Speaker 2: but I listened this morning just because I knew we 76 00:03:14,680 --> 00:03:18,840 Speaker 2: were going to be doing a wrap. Yeah, I wanted 77 00:03:18,880 --> 00:03:23,600 Speaker 2: to remember British before you were British, you know, case 78 00:03:23,639 --> 00:03:27,800 Speaker 2: I just got London for anyone who doesn't follow. So 79 00:03:28,760 --> 00:03:31,840 Speaker 2: first of all, I was reminded that I've had this 80 00:03:31,960 --> 00:03:34,280 Speaker 2: cold for like a month because I could hear myself. 81 00:03:34,320 --> 00:03:36,800 Speaker 2: I could hear it in my voice. Yes, I'm feeling 82 00:03:36,800 --> 00:03:38,560 Speaker 2: a lot better for those of you who are worried 83 00:03:38,560 --> 00:03:42,160 Speaker 2: and praying for me. But I still do have this 84 00:03:42,240 --> 00:03:45,360 Speaker 2: like weird cough and it's apparently everyone has it like 85 00:03:45,680 --> 00:03:48,600 Speaker 2: and it lasts for like three, four or five weeks whatever. 86 00:03:50,120 --> 00:03:52,800 Speaker 2: But I was reminded when I listened that I had 87 00:03:52,880 --> 00:03:56,520 Speaker 2: gotten my chili pad. But it's called the Uhler. It's 88 00:03:56,520 --> 00:04:00,720 Speaker 2: from Sleep dot Me and it's the described it on 89 00:04:00,760 --> 00:04:02,680 Speaker 2: the episode. I hadn't used it yet. It was going 90 00:04:02,760 --> 00:04:05,960 Speaker 2: to be my first night that I think, and I 91 00:04:06,000 --> 00:04:09,120 Speaker 2: am here to attest And this is not an ad, 92 00:04:09,520 --> 00:04:14,240 Speaker 2: although if they want to money it was. This is 93 00:04:14,400 --> 00:04:17,880 Speaker 2: a fucking game changer. I mean, I've never slept better 94 00:04:17,920 --> 00:04:19,480 Speaker 2: in my life. 95 00:04:19,839 --> 00:04:20,000 Speaker 3: You know. 96 00:04:20,080 --> 00:04:22,400 Speaker 2: I used to wake up where there were some mornings 97 00:04:22,400 --> 00:04:25,840 Speaker 2: where I'm like, did I pee? Like because I had 98 00:04:25,839 --> 00:04:30,320 Speaker 2: sweat so much and I don't. I don't sweat anymore. 99 00:04:30,880 --> 00:04:32,440 Speaker 2: Mark says, I don't snore as bad. 100 00:04:33,040 --> 00:04:35,880 Speaker 1: Oh my god, Well that I've heard you that is 101 00:04:35,960 --> 00:04:37,440 Speaker 1: a miracle in and of itself. 102 00:04:37,880 --> 00:04:42,120 Speaker 2: Yeah, so you know, if I'm if I'm drunk. Sometimes 103 00:04:42,440 --> 00:04:44,200 Speaker 2: he says, it's bad when you when you're drunk. But 104 00:04:44,240 --> 00:04:45,440 Speaker 2: I think that's the case for a lot. 105 00:04:45,279 --> 00:04:49,359 Speaker 3: Of people think so. But it is. It's a game changer. 106 00:04:49,600 --> 00:04:53,440 Speaker 1: It's can you explain to those who may have missed episode? 107 00:04:54,080 --> 00:04:54,640 Speaker 3: It's just what. 108 00:04:56,120 --> 00:04:58,160 Speaker 2: It's a path that goes under your bed that's got 109 00:04:58,200 --> 00:05:00,840 Speaker 2: like water coils in it that are really small, so 110 00:05:00,880 --> 00:05:02,760 Speaker 2: you barely feel it, like if you know it's there. 111 00:05:02,800 --> 00:05:05,160 Speaker 2: You know it's there, but it's not uncomfortable in any way. 112 00:05:05,440 --> 00:05:08,560 Speaker 2: It's no bigger than like a seam on your mattress. 113 00:05:08,760 --> 00:05:11,960 Speaker 2: You know, you have no more awareness of it. You 114 00:05:12,000 --> 00:05:14,360 Speaker 2: can get one that covers half the bed, or you 115 00:05:14,400 --> 00:05:15,880 Speaker 2: can get one that covers a full bed. I got 116 00:05:15,880 --> 00:05:18,640 Speaker 2: the half one, and I was a little like, how 117 00:05:18,680 --> 00:05:20,200 Speaker 2: the hell is this going to stay in place? Because 118 00:05:20,240 --> 00:05:22,520 Speaker 2: I toss and turn and all the things. Well, it 119 00:05:22,560 --> 00:05:25,520 Speaker 2: stays in place because it's got straps and you don't 120 00:05:25,560 --> 00:05:28,320 Speaker 2: toss in turn anymore. Because it puts you into a 121 00:05:28,360 --> 00:05:31,279 Speaker 2: perfect sleep, like you can you can I because I 122 00:05:31,360 --> 00:05:32,599 Speaker 2: run really hot when I sleep. 123 00:05:32,680 --> 00:05:35,120 Speaker 3: I put it down to sixty five degrees in my bed. 124 00:05:36,279 --> 00:05:37,559 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's real, chilli. 125 00:05:37,800 --> 00:05:39,760 Speaker 3: It's like hibernation. It's amazing. 126 00:05:39,839 --> 00:05:41,960 Speaker 2: And I still and I have like, I have my 127 00:05:42,000 --> 00:05:43,880 Speaker 2: sheet on me, I have my comforter, and I have 128 00:05:43,920 --> 00:05:46,479 Speaker 2: another blanket on my bed because my dog sleeps in 129 00:05:46,480 --> 00:05:48,159 Speaker 2: my bed and I don't want my comforter getting just 130 00:05:48,320 --> 00:05:50,599 Speaker 2: yeah all the time. Yes, So it's a lot easier 131 00:05:50,600 --> 00:05:53,440 Speaker 2: for me to wash that blanket over a comforter. So 132 00:05:54,000 --> 00:05:56,400 Speaker 2: I have a lot of covers over me, and it 133 00:05:56,960 --> 00:06:00,160 Speaker 2: makes this like nice cold cocoon. And I wake up 134 00:06:00,200 --> 00:06:02,320 Speaker 2: and it looks like I haven't turned over at night. 135 00:06:03,000 --> 00:06:05,159 Speaker 2: I haven't, Like the sheets are still like kind of 136 00:06:05,200 --> 00:06:09,960 Speaker 2: in place, Like it's unbelievable you're getting I'm getting a 137 00:06:10,000 --> 00:06:12,000 Speaker 2: really deep sleep and it's kind of hard to wake 138 00:06:12,080 --> 00:06:14,960 Speaker 2: up in the morning, you know, So it's like, which 139 00:06:15,000 --> 00:06:18,240 Speaker 2: is I mean, I don't sleep enough? So this has 140 00:06:18,279 --> 00:06:21,159 Speaker 2: been a nice game changer. But now I do have 141 00:06:21,200 --> 00:06:22,919 Speaker 2: to sort of do what you're doing and shift it 142 00:06:23,400 --> 00:06:24,919 Speaker 2: because there have been some mornings we're all wake up 143 00:06:24,920 --> 00:06:26,599 Speaker 2: and it's like eight forty five. 144 00:06:26,440 --> 00:06:29,279 Speaker 3: And I'm like, what, I've been hitting snooze since six. 145 00:06:29,600 --> 00:06:32,040 Speaker 1: Oh my god, I'm not a snooze but in person, Oh, 146 00:06:32,240 --> 00:06:34,880 Speaker 1: I get too much anxiety. You know, it's so interesting 147 00:06:34,920 --> 00:06:36,520 Speaker 1: listening to you talk about the chili pad. I don't 148 00:06:36,520 --> 00:06:38,320 Speaker 1: know if it's because you have a cold still or what. 149 00:06:38,600 --> 00:06:43,800 Speaker 1: Like your voice sounds very sexual. Oh like you're like 150 00:06:44,000 --> 00:06:44,680 Speaker 1: low talking. 151 00:06:44,839 --> 00:06:48,280 Speaker 2: I mean it is, it's the best. It's not cheap. 152 00:06:48,360 --> 00:06:50,320 Speaker 2: I will warn people so before you go. 153 00:06:50,920 --> 00:06:53,080 Speaker 3: It is a chill. I know. 154 00:06:53,160 --> 00:06:55,120 Speaker 2: I sadly it's not cheap, and that's what I mean. 155 00:06:55,360 --> 00:06:57,240 Speaker 2: I held off on buying it for a while because 156 00:06:57,240 --> 00:06:59,880 Speaker 2: of that. But I got if you can figure out 157 00:06:59,880 --> 00:07:02,760 Speaker 2: how to find the Uhler, it's oh it's like cooler 158 00:07:02,800 --> 00:07:05,880 Speaker 2: with no c It's like half the price of their 159 00:07:05,880 --> 00:07:09,159 Speaker 2: new one called the Cube. And that's what I got. 160 00:07:09,279 --> 00:07:12,320 Speaker 2: And it's yeah, you know if for half a bed 161 00:07:12,360 --> 00:07:15,320 Speaker 2: it was like almost eight hundred bucks. But I gotta 162 00:07:15,360 --> 00:07:18,960 Speaker 2: tell you it is worth every penny, like right, well, 163 00:07:19,000 --> 00:07:20,160 Speaker 2: I mean it's an investment. 164 00:07:20,640 --> 00:07:23,240 Speaker 1: It is an investment. It's like. But the thing that's 165 00:07:23,240 --> 00:07:25,880 Speaker 1: so interesting to me, and I say this all the time, 166 00:07:26,000 --> 00:07:30,400 Speaker 1: like we invest in all of these things in our lives, right, 167 00:07:30,480 --> 00:07:32,920 Speaker 1: like to go have fun, to go on these trips 168 00:07:33,040 --> 00:07:37,920 Speaker 1: to an expensive dinner, him, an expensive dinner. Alcohol, it's 169 00:07:38,000 --> 00:07:41,280 Speaker 1: so expensive. Yeah, there's all of these things that we do, 170 00:07:41,720 --> 00:07:43,600 Speaker 1: and then there's these weird things that we're like, oh, 171 00:07:43,640 --> 00:07:46,119 Speaker 1: it's so expensive, like therapy. I hear so many people 172 00:07:46,160 --> 00:07:49,000 Speaker 1: being like, it's so expensive, and I'm like it is. 173 00:07:49,480 --> 00:07:53,960 Speaker 1: I agree, but our and there are ways to like 174 00:07:54,040 --> 00:07:56,880 Speaker 1: cut back in other areas of your life to invest 175 00:07:56,920 --> 00:07:59,400 Speaker 1: in this, especially for like a small period of time, 176 00:07:59,680 --> 00:08:02,080 Speaker 1: you know, right, maybe not for everyone, but there's twelve 177 00:08:02,120 --> 00:08:06,000 Speaker 1: step programs, there's free stuff, like there are ways around 178 00:08:06,760 --> 00:08:09,640 Speaker 1: really like cost things that It's just so interesting to 179 00:08:09,680 --> 00:08:13,600 Speaker 1: me that we like don't invest as much in our 180 00:08:13,640 --> 00:08:16,480 Speaker 1: mental and emotional health. And I tie sleep into that. So, like, 181 00:08:16,880 --> 00:08:18,840 Speaker 1: to me, this was like an investment in you. 182 00:08:19,320 --> 00:08:23,679 Speaker 2: Yeah, one, because the truth is is like it makes 183 00:08:23,720 --> 00:08:26,240 Speaker 2: my days more productive, it makes my mind healthier, it 184 00:08:26,280 --> 00:08:27,920 Speaker 2: makes my body healthier. 185 00:08:29,360 --> 00:08:29,880 Speaker 3: Recovery. 186 00:08:30,200 --> 00:08:33,400 Speaker 1: Yes, sleep is like one of the most important things 187 00:08:33,720 --> 00:08:35,920 Speaker 1: for our brains period. A couple of months ago, I 188 00:08:35,960 --> 00:08:40,120 Speaker 1: had my brain therapist on the podcast and she described it. 189 00:08:40,160 --> 00:08:42,800 Speaker 1: I loved this description, but she was like, it's like 190 00:08:43,000 --> 00:08:45,360 Speaker 1: you know when you go, like you run something through 191 00:08:45,400 --> 00:08:48,040 Speaker 1: the dishwasher, that is what our brain is doing, and 192 00:08:48,080 --> 00:08:51,920 Speaker 1: we're sleeping. It's like washing out. So if you're getting 193 00:08:52,280 --> 00:08:55,640 Speaker 1: inefficient sleep or not enough sleep, like, there's a reason 194 00:08:55,679 --> 00:08:57,960 Speaker 1: they say we need a certain amount of hours, and 195 00:08:58,000 --> 00:09:01,880 Speaker 1: it's for our bodies to reboot truly, to like cleanse 196 00:09:01,960 --> 00:09:04,640 Speaker 1: everything from the day, for our brains to wash out, 197 00:09:04,679 --> 00:09:07,199 Speaker 1: and so you're just gonna be more effective and more productive. 198 00:09:07,840 --> 00:09:12,959 Speaker 1: I really do feel less anxiety and like an ability 199 00:09:13,000 --> 00:09:16,800 Speaker 1: to stay more emotionally regulated when I'm sleeping. It's just 200 00:09:16,840 --> 00:09:17,520 Speaker 1: like the truth. 201 00:09:18,240 --> 00:09:21,480 Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean it's it seems really simple, and it's 202 00:09:21,480 --> 00:09:23,720 Speaker 2: something that like who doesn't like to sleep? 203 00:09:24,679 --> 00:09:25,959 Speaker 3: Yeah, I fucking love it. 204 00:09:26,040 --> 00:09:28,280 Speaker 1: Well, I'm just I have struggled, like I have had 205 00:09:28,440 --> 00:09:31,640 Speaker 1: really bad insomnia issues my whole life. So it's just 206 00:09:31,920 --> 00:09:35,240 Speaker 1: but it's really important. So anyway, this this episode is 207 00:09:35,280 --> 00:09:36,480 Speaker 1: really not about sleep, guys. 208 00:09:37,679 --> 00:09:39,120 Speaker 3: It was it's actually a wrap up. 209 00:09:39,520 --> 00:09:43,560 Speaker 2: Yeah, because I listened to the podcast this morning to 210 00:09:43,679 --> 00:09:46,120 Speaker 2: remember what we had talked about. I thought it was 211 00:09:46,120 --> 00:09:48,560 Speaker 2: funny that like I hadn't slept on it yet, so 212 00:09:48,559 --> 00:09:50,400 Speaker 2: I was like, oh, that is a really actually like 213 00:09:50,679 --> 00:09:52,720 Speaker 2: legit wrap up days. 214 00:09:52,800 --> 00:09:53,559 Speaker 3: Yeah. 215 00:09:53,679 --> 00:09:56,560 Speaker 1: Yeah, so chili pad. Hey, and if you guys work 216 00:09:56,640 --> 00:10:02,720 Speaker 1: at Uhler or whatever, she was an email. 217 00:10:03,080 --> 00:10:03,520 Speaker 3: Every week. 218 00:10:03,559 --> 00:10:06,040 Speaker 1: I love to talk about you. Yeah. 219 00:10:06,320 --> 00:10:08,240 Speaker 2: So I'm a hot flash right now. I was like 220 00:10:08,640 --> 00:10:10,120 Speaker 2: rushing this morning to get ready. 221 00:10:10,160 --> 00:10:14,480 Speaker 1: So you need like a chili pad for life, a 222 00:10:14,480 --> 00:10:15,920 Speaker 1: body pad, body chili pad. 223 00:10:15,960 --> 00:10:17,040 Speaker 3: Did I go do this from bed? 224 00:10:17,120 --> 00:10:20,280 Speaker 1: Since oh my god, he's literally tapping his face with 225 00:10:20,320 --> 00:10:21,160 Speaker 1: his shirt right now. 226 00:10:21,400 --> 00:10:23,319 Speaker 3: A little shower was too hot? 227 00:10:23,640 --> 00:10:26,480 Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I like walk the dog really fast, trying 228 00:10:26,480 --> 00:10:29,040 Speaker 2: to make my coffee, get everything done before we have board. 229 00:10:29,120 --> 00:10:32,359 Speaker 3: So maybe I'm going through metopause too. 230 00:10:32,240 --> 00:10:37,199 Speaker 1: Boy. Anyway, it is Mental Health Awareness month, and we 231 00:10:37,320 --> 00:10:39,760 Speaker 1: decided we wanted to choose the word awareness just to 232 00:10:39,800 --> 00:10:42,560 Speaker 1: make our topics a little more broad. And you and 233 00:10:42,640 --> 00:10:46,200 Speaker 1: I discussed kind of the fact that mental health just 234 00:10:46,240 --> 00:10:49,120 Speaker 1: gets put under this like tiny little umbrella of like 235 00:10:49,200 --> 00:10:51,959 Speaker 1: go to therapy, and it's so much more than that, 236 00:10:52,040 --> 00:10:55,000 Speaker 1: Like your mental and emotional health is just such a 237 00:10:55,040 --> 00:11:00,120 Speaker 1: bigger conversation than that. So we chose the word awareness 238 00:11:00,160 --> 00:11:02,120 Speaker 1: for this month. I was thinking about it when I 239 00:11:02,160 --> 00:11:06,319 Speaker 1: was prepping this morning, and like, honestly, awareness has become 240 00:11:06,440 --> 00:11:08,840 Speaker 1: one of the most important words in my life, like 241 00:11:08,960 --> 00:11:12,640 Speaker 1: truly just across the board. It's become one thing that 242 00:11:12,679 --> 00:11:15,640 Speaker 1: I find to be the most attractive quality in other people, 243 00:11:15,760 --> 00:11:20,199 Speaker 1: Like self awareness. That is something that's I would say, 244 00:11:20,800 --> 00:11:23,480 Speaker 1: what I'm drawn to. Like in dating, I'm noticing if 245 00:11:23,559 --> 00:11:25,960 Speaker 1: you have no self awareness, like I can't, I don't 246 00:11:26,000 --> 00:11:27,880 Speaker 1: know what to do. And it's not to say that, 247 00:11:28,000 --> 00:11:30,960 Speaker 1: like you go on some awareness journey and figure it 248 00:11:31,000 --> 00:11:34,000 Speaker 1: out and whatever. But if you're not looking at that, 249 00:11:34,280 --> 00:11:37,960 Speaker 1: or you're not seeking to have more awareness about life, 250 00:11:38,000 --> 00:11:42,120 Speaker 1: about you know, your own journey, about your past, about yourself, 251 00:11:42,200 --> 00:11:44,640 Speaker 1: like I don't really know how to connect to you anymore. 252 00:11:44,760 --> 00:11:47,720 Speaker 2: Right, Well, it's like it's I mean, honestly, it feels 253 00:11:47,760 --> 00:11:50,920 Speaker 2: like it's such a core component of the human existence. 254 00:11:51,000 --> 00:11:54,640 Speaker 1: Like why we're here, right, That's what I can't get past. 255 00:11:55,120 --> 00:11:56,840 Speaker 3: What are you thinking about? 256 00:11:57,400 --> 00:12:00,319 Speaker 2: Yeah, not thinking about self awareness and like trying to 257 00:12:00,320 --> 00:12:03,000 Speaker 2: figure out what your place is in the world. And 258 00:12:03,080 --> 00:12:07,200 Speaker 2: I know it doesn't have to be like that specific 259 00:12:07,280 --> 00:12:09,960 Speaker 2: even but if like you're not wondering what this is 260 00:12:10,000 --> 00:12:10,920 Speaker 2: all about. 261 00:12:10,760 --> 00:12:14,320 Speaker 1: Like I just think I don't know that everyone's really boring. 262 00:12:14,600 --> 00:12:16,800 Speaker 1: It does sound boring. And I think it's also that 263 00:12:16,920 --> 00:12:20,520 Speaker 1: thing we talk about where if you're continuously chasing the 264 00:12:20,559 --> 00:12:25,359 Speaker 1: things right, the money, the fame, whatever it is, success 265 00:12:25,720 --> 00:12:28,800 Speaker 1: all of those things, you end up coming up empty 266 00:12:28,840 --> 00:12:30,839 Speaker 1: handed at the end of it. Even if you get 267 00:12:30,920 --> 00:12:34,720 Speaker 1: all those things, however, I still think our culture is 268 00:12:35,120 --> 00:12:39,760 Speaker 1: conditioned to chase that right versus what we're talking about 269 00:12:39,800 --> 00:12:42,280 Speaker 1: here is what I'm having this realization in life about 270 00:12:42,600 --> 00:12:44,960 Speaker 1: I could have all of those things, but if I 271 00:12:45,000 --> 00:12:48,599 Speaker 1: have no awareness or connection to myself and others, it doesn't. 272 00:12:48,360 --> 00:12:51,680 Speaker 2: Matter, right, None of it matters. None of it matters 273 00:12:52,120 --> 00:12:53,880 Speaker 2: because it all goes away in the end, you know. 274 00:12:54,000 --> 00:12:57,000 Speaker 2: And I think if I think you and I probably 275 00:12:57,000 --> 00:13:00,120 Speaker 2: have similar beliefs that like I believe in reincarn our 276 00:13:00,200 --> 00:13:02,520 Speaker 2: nation and that like we are, our bodies are a 277 00:13:02,600 --> 00:13:05,200 Speaker 2: vessel for a soul that has it might be our 278 00:13:05,280 --> 00:13:09,000 Speaker 2: first trip around the moon or the sun, or maybe 279 00:13:09,040 --> 00:13:09,920 Speaker 2: this is our ninth life. 280 00:13:09,920 --> 00:13:12,800 Speaker 3: Who knows, right, But to me. 281 00:13:12,880 --> 00:13:15,360 Speaker 2: The only explanation as to why we have dumb people 282 00:13:15,360 --> 00:13:18,040 Speaker 2: and smart people is not because some people did better 283 00:13:18,080 --> 00:13:18,520 Speaker 2: in school. 284 00:13:18,600 --> 00:13:20,160 Speaker 3: It's because our souls have. 285 00:13:20,120 --> 00:13:22,559 Speaker 1: Lived more lives, and younger and old souls. 286 00:13:22,600 --> 00:13:25,520 Speaker 3: You bring that awareness into your current existence. 287 00:13:26,000 --> 00:13:29,000 Speaker 5: And and I want to make that like a bumper 288 00:13:29,040 --> 00:13:31,320 Speaker 5: sticker or something like the reason we have dumb people 289 00:13:31,360 --> 00:13:32,280 Speaker 5: and smart people. 290 00:13:32,600 --> 00:13:35,600 Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean it's it's just a young soul, you know, 291 00:13:35,760 --> 00:13:36,200 Speaker 3: And it's. 292 00:13:36,080 --> 00:13:38,680 Speaker 1: Like we've all been young souls that of course. 293 00:13:38,360 --> 00:13:40,560 Speaker 2: It's like the difference between a puppy and a dog, 294 00:13:40,800 --> 00:13:47,120 Speaker 2: Like a puppy will like like they're dumb. I mean, 295 00:13:47,200 --> 00:13:49,880 Speaker 2: kids would run into the street too, So it's I think, 296 00:13:50,640 --> 00:13:53,640 Speaker 2: you know, it's I've sort of lost the point of what. 297 00:13:53,600 --> 00:13:54,040 Speaker 3: I was saying. 298 00:13:54,080 --> 00:13:57,400 Speaker 2: But I do think it's important that, like you know, 299 00:13:57,760 --> 00:14:01,679 Speaker 2: our soul is here a different reason than our body is. 300 00:14:02,360 --> 00:14:05,200 Speaker 2: And I think we have to feed that soul's existence 301 00:14:05,400 --> 00:14:09,080 Speaker 2: because it will ultimately it might feel like you're not 302 00:14:09,080 --> 00:14:10,920 Speaker 2: gonna be able to change the world in this lifetime, 303 00:14:10,920 --> 00:14:14,400 Speaker 2: but I do think if you feed your soul and 304 00:14:14,520 --> 00:14:19,960 Speaker 2: figure out your purpose and learn and connect, future generations 305 00:14:20,040 --> 00:14:23,720 Speaker 2: will benefit because your soul will come back wiser, and 306 00:14:23,760 --> 00:14:25,640 Speaker 2: it will have all the lessons that it learned and 307 00:14:25,720 --> 00:14:28,800 Speaker 2: all the failures and all of the things. Yeah, and 308 00:14:29,120 --> 00:14:32,000 Speaker 2: you know, hopefully you'll your soul will come back before 309 00:14:32,040 --> 00:14:32,840 Speaker 2: more dumb souls do. 310 00:14:34,080 --> 00:14:34,360 Speaker 3: Well. 311 00:14:35,720 --> 00:14:38,080 Speaker 1: I mean, I couldn't have probably said it better myself, 312 00:14:38,120 --> 00:14:42,240 Speaker 1: but never really said the dumb and smart. That's really 313 00:14:42,240 --> 00:14:45,200 Speaker 1: funny to me. I don't know you sols young and 314 00:14:45,240 --> 00:14:48,880 Speaker 1: old souls, you know, it's interesting. I work with this guy, 315 00:14:49,040 --> 00:14:51,960 Speaker 1: Chase Beckham. He won American Idol a couple years ago, 316 00:14:52,000 --> 00:14:54,920 Speaker 1: and we were doing a shoot yesterday and have him 317 00:14:54,960 --> 00:14:57,040 Speaker 1: again today. But I was telling a friend he's like, 318 00:14:57,600 --> 00:15:00,680 Speaker 1: I listened to his writing. He is probably I don't know, 319 00:15:00,840 --> 00:15:05,920 Speaker 1: twenty four. He's young, like physically young, yeah, but his writing, 320 00:15:06,560 --> 00:15:08,920 Speaker 1: I think to myself every time I listen to one 321 00:15:08,960 --> 00:15:11,120 Speaker 1: of his new songs, how does he know how to 322 00:15:11,160 --> 00:15:14,960 Speaker 1: feel that? Like at twenty four, The fact that he's 323 00:15:15,000 --> 00:15:18,520 Speaker 1: so in tune with certain emotions and feelings and all 324 00:15:18,520 --> 00:15:20,680 Speaker 1: of these things. And I keep just saying he's just 325 00:15:20,720 --> 00:15:23,040 Speaker 1: an old soul. And now that has such a deeper 326 00:15:23,080 --> 00:15:24,720 Speaker 1: meaning to me than it used to, you know, because 327 00:15:24,760 --> 00:15:27,560 Speaker 1: that's the saying like, yeah, yeah, but I do think 328 00:15:27,600 --> 00:15:30,320 Speaker 1: you can see it. There's this like awareness in certain 329 00:15:30,640 --> 00:15:34,040 Speaker 1: people that you know, they must have lived something before 330 00:15:34,200 --> 00:15:36,400 Speaker 1: or else. How can they verbalize that or be so 331 00:15:36,520 --> 00:15:37,160 Speaker 1: in touch with it? 332 00:15:37,280 --> 00:15:39,960 Speaker 2: So yeah, I think that the saying that an old 333 00:15:40,000 --> 00:15:44,920 Speaker 2: soul like is often misused. It's like, I think it's 334 00:15:45,000 --> 00:15:45,680 Speaker 2: the same as like. 335 00:15:45,680 --> 00:15:47,120 Speaker 3: Whyse beyond their years? 336 00:15:47,640 --> 00:15:50,920 Speaker 2: But I think often when people use it, it's more they're 337 00:15:50,960 --> 00:15:53,280 Speaker 2: thinking in terms of just like a single lifetime. 338 00:15:53,960 --> 00:15:55,760 Speaker 3: Like he thinks like an old man, you. 339 00:15:55,760 --> 00:16:00,640 Speaker 2: Know, Oh yeah that yeah, truly, like an older soul 340 00:16:00,720 --> 00:16:05,120 Speaker 2: that has experienced things that this person, the vessel that. 341 00:16:05,120 --> 00:16:07,240 Speaker 3: He is in right now, has not experienced. 342 00:16:07,880 --> 00:16:11,160 Speaker 1: Right, Like a twenty four year old could not have 343 00:16:11,840 --> 00:16:16,240 Speaker 1: that much consciousness around emotions like love or just deep 344 00:16:16,320 --> 00:16:19,680 Speaker 1: pain and things like that. Yeah, there's like they also 345 00:16:19,760 --> 00:16:22,240 Speaker 1: talk about when you see a kid, he's really like 346 00:16:22,600 --> 00:16:25,440 Speaker 1: a phenomenon at something at a really young age. And 347 00:16:25,480 --> 00:16:28,320 Speaker 1: I was reading an article recently about this. I think 348 00:16:28,320 --> 00:16:31,320 Speaker 1: he's like five years old. Maybe he's in London, I 349 00:16:31,320 --> 00:16:34,920 Speaker 1: can't remember, but he has started designing dresses and he's 350 00:16:35,120 --> 00:16:37,880 Speaker 1: actually making like I think he designed one for Sharon 351 00:16:37,960 --> 00:16:43,400 Speaker 1: Stone recently. That's how insane, Like during COVID he just started. 352 00:16:43,480 --> 00:16:45,520 Speaker 1: He asked his mom for a sewing machine and he 353 00:16:45,640 --> 00:16:48,200 Speaker 1: was like, oh, I was a fashion designer in another life. 354 00:16:48,200 --> 00:16:50,360 Speaker 1: He said that to her and she's like what, but 355 00:16:50,440 --> 00:16:52,160 Speaker 1: she said she put him in sewing lessons and all 356 00:16:52,200 --> 00:16:55,840 Speaker 1: of a sudden, he's creating these magical dresses that there 357 00:16:55,920 --> 00:16:59,640 Speaker 1: is absolutely no way that a five year old or 358 00:16:59,640 --> 00:17:02,600 Speaker 1: however old he is, it's somewhere between like five and six, 359 00:17:03,520 --> 00:17:06,280 Speaker 1: would know how to do. But they say that's that's 360 00:17:06,320 --> 00:17:08,720 Speaker 1: a sign. Is when kids at a really young age, 361 00:17:09,280 --> 00:17:11,679 Speaker 1: we call them like phenomenons, you know, but it's like, no, 362 00:17:11,760 --> 00:17:12,960 Speaker 1: they just did this before. 363 00:17:13,280 --> 00:17:15,879 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I follow this kid. I can't remember his 364 00:17:15,880 --> 00:17:18,720 Speaker 2: handle on Instagram, but I think he's six. And his 365 00:17:18,840 --> 00:17:23,399 Speaker 2: musicality is unreal. His parents film him. He plays a 366 00:17:23,440 --> 00:17:25,760 Speaker 2: bunch of instruments, he knows how they like work pro 367 00:17:25,880 --> 00:17:30,000 Speaker 2: tools like a wizard, and like we'll recreate songs and 368 00:17:30,040 --> 00:17:35,000 Speaker 2: it's unbelievable. He's got perfect pitch. It's unbelievable. Like it's 369 00:17:35,520 --> 00:17:38,239 Speaker 2: it's knowledge that I could never I couldn't learn how 370 00:17:38,240 --> 00:17:38,560 Speaker 2: to do. 371 00:17:38,480 --> 00:17:40,960 Speaker 3: What he does in my entire lifetime. He's that good already. 372 00:17:41,200 --> 00:17:42,840 Speaker 1: Well it's just a skill, he's already massed. 373 00:17:42,880 --> 00:17:43,520 Speaker 3: Yeah, he's got it. 374 00:17:43,600 --> 00:17:47,200 Speaker 1: Yeah, so interesting. Well, I texted you last night and 375 00:17:47,440 --> 00:17:50,680 Speaker 1: we were just discussing today's podcast, and I said, I, 376 00:17:50,920 --> 00:17:53,480 Speaker 1: is there anything that just like really stuck out to 377 00:17:53,520 --> 00:17:55,960 Speaker 1: you about this month's topic or guest, And do you 378 00:17:56,000 --> 00:17:56,840 Speaker 1: remember what you said? 379 00:17:57,160 --> 00:17:59,680 Speaker 3: I said two words, Susan Breton. 380 00:18:01,280 --> 00:18:04,240 Speaker 1: So if you guys missed that episode, we had one 381 00:18:04,280 --> 00:18:06,480 Speaker 1: of our favorite guests back on the podcast. Her name 382 00:18:06,480 --> 00:18:10,199 Speaker 1: is Susan Bratton and she is a sex and intimacy 383 00:18:10,359 --> 00:18:12,880 Speaker 1: expert and we're obsessed with her. 384 00:18:13,240 --> 00:18:18,040 Speaker 3: I mean, she's literally like she's a light on this earth. 385 00:18:18,320 --> 00:18:21,840 Speaker 2: I agree, And you know, look, I think we obviously 386 00:18:21,920 --> 00:18:27,199 Speaker 2: live in a country that's puritanical and is not comfortable 387 00:18:27,240 --> 00:18:31,159 Speaker 2: with sex, and it's so and I'll admit, like, you know, 388 00:18:31,280 --> 00:18:33,800 Speaker 2: that's kind of the we didn't talk about that stuff 389 00:18:33,840 --> 00:18:36,760 Speaker 2: in my house. So it's like even doing this podcast 390 00:18:36,760 --> 00:18:38,520 Speaker 2: has opened me up just to even being able to 391 00:18:38,560 --> 00:18:42,080 Speaker 2: like talk about these things. It's not been the most 392 00:18:42,080 --> 00:18:46,520 Speaker 2: comfortable topic for me throughout my life, but it's so 393 00:18:46,720 --> 00:18:51,000 Speaker 2: refreshing just watching her, yeah, talk about it because really 394 00:18:51,480 --> 00:18:57,359 Speaker 2: it really there's no shame and it really it takes 395 00:18:57,440 --> 00:18:59,080 Speaker 2: the sex out of sex. 396 00:18:59,760 --> 00:19:04,680 Speaker 1: That well, her feel is way more about intimacy. Oddly, 397 00:19:08,920 --> 00:19:12,000 Speaker 1: I think we or maybe this is how I grew up. 398 00:19:12,000 --> 00:19:13,360 Speaker 1: And I don't know if you relate to this at all, 399 00:19:13,400 --> 00:19:15,840 Speaker 1: but it's like what you're talking about with it was 400 00:19:15,880 --> 00:19:19,720 Speaker 1: taboo to talk about sex, right, Like we equated this, 401 00:19:20,200 --> 00:19:22,920 Speaker 1: there's just one physical act that we kind of don't 402 00:19:22,960 --> 00:19:25,640 Speaker 1: talk about. Maybe you don't do it till marriage, it's 403 00:19:25,680 --> 00:19:29,840 Speaker 1: like that, and then otherwise it's just not discussed. And 404 00:19:29,920 --> 00:19:34,719 Speaker 1: she incorporates just the power of that connection and really 405 00:19:34,800 --> 00:19:38,560 Speaker 1: like truly finding intimacy with your partner and the beauty 406 00:19:38,640 --> 00:19:42,000 Speaker 1: of that and finding pleasure and even if it's on 407 00:19:42,040 --> 00:19:46,080 Speaker 1: your own or solo. It's talking about just the awareness 408 00:19:46,119 --> 00:19:49,760 Speaker 1: of our bodies and learning to have that relationship with yourself, 409 00:19:49,800 --> 00:19:51,320 Speaker 1: which is why we wanted to have her on this 410 00:19:51,359 --> 00:19:54,240 Speaker 1: month in general, because there's such a big connection between 411 00:19:54,600 --> 00:19:58,080 Speaker 1: your mental and emotional health and sex and intimacy, and 412 00:19:58,200 --> 00:20:00,600 Speaker 1: it's just not discussed. So I I agree with you. 413 00:20:00,640 --> 00:20:03,000 Speaker 1: The way that she discusses it is the way that 414 00:20:03,040 --> 00:20:07,119 Speaker 1: I hope many people start discussing it. And she's in 415 00:20:07,160 --> 00:20:10,440 Speaker 1: her sixties, she's so comfortable in her own skin, which 416 00:20:10,440 --> 00:20:13,680 Speaker 1: is so beautiful, beautiful, she doesn't give a. 417 00:20:13,800 --> 00:20:16,760 Speaker 3: Fuck like only fans. I peeped at. 418 00:20:16,600 --> 00:20:19,440 Speaker 1: It, you did, I did? Yeah, she gave a little 419 00:20:19,480 --> 00:20:20,679 Speaker 1: teas on her instat yesterday. 420 00:20:20,880 --> 00:20:24,200 Speaker 2: First of all, it's free, it's free. Really you can, Yeah, 421 00:20:24,200 --> 00:20:26,280 Speaker 2: anyone can sign up for it. And it's not like 422 00:20:27,480 --> 00:20:32,280 Speaker 2: it's not pornography. Any nudity that's on there is done 423 00:20:32,359 --> 00:20:33,840 Speaker 2: sort of in an educational way. 424 00:20:33,880 --> 00:20:36,720 Speaker 1: I figured, Yeah, I mean they're definitely like. 425 00:20:36,760 --> 00:20:40,240 Speaker 2: Sexy, thirsty, thoughty photos, but like, yeah, if I look 426 00:20:40,320 --> 00:20:43,960 Speaker 2: that way when I'm in her at her age fans too, 427 00:20:44,680 --> 00:20:45,920 Speaker 2: you know, I can't wait. 428 00:20:46,200 --> 00:20:46,879 Speaker 3: Don't count on that. 429 00:20:47,160 --> 00:20:52,320 Speaker 1: But well, if you guys haven't listened to that episode, 430 00:20:52,320 --> 00:20:54,840 Speaker 1: we got so much feedback. People said they were laughing 431 00:20:54,880 --> 00:20:57,560 Speaker 1: through the whole thing. Most of the time people are like, 432 00:20:58,000 --> 00:21:00,359 Speaker 1: and I get turned on. But she walked as through 433 00:21:00,720 --> 00:21:03,840 Speaker 1: her previous night, which was a date with her husband, 434 00:21:03,840 --> 00:21:05,720 Speaker 1: a sex date with her husband. And I know that 435 00:21:05,760 --> 00:21:07,359 Speaker 1: sounds weird that we would want to listen to that, 436 00:21:08,880 --> 00:21:11,800 Speaker 1: but I did. Like it's like I called it, story 437 00:21:11,840 --> 00:21:15,280 Speaker 1: time with suits. You just want to hear what she's doing. 438 00:21:15,400 --> 00:21:19,160 Speaker 1: And I was in awe. It's like our long sex sessions, 439 00:21:19,480 --> 00:21:21,760 Speaker 1: and it gives you a new perspective on what sex 440 00:21:21,840 --> 00:21:24,320 Speaker 1: can look like and what a date and like, so 441 00:21:24,480 --> 00:21:26,919 Speaker 1: what a long term relationship sex can look like. 442 00:21:27,280 --> 00:21:32,960 Speaker 2: Yeah, and you know it's it's funny too, because I 443 00:21:32,960 --> 00:21:35,760 Speaker 2: think when people were saying that they were laughing. It's 444 00:21:35,840 --> 00:21:37,840 Speaker 2: like a lot of the A lot of what brings 445 00:21:37,880 --> 00:21:40,080 Speaker 2: the humor and enlightenness to it is the way that. 446 00:21:40,040 --> 00:21:41,639 Speaker 1: She talks about the way she says it. 447 00:21:41,760 --> 00:21:44,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, and like her pet names for everything. I don't know, 448 00:21:45,280 --> 00:21:48,440 Speaker 2: I'm sir, Tim, her nanny or what's it her no name. 449 00:21:50,240 --> 00:21:56,040 Speaker 5: That's like someone's grandmother. Then I'm the massaging it, like 450 00:21:56,680 --> 00:21:59,520 Speaker 5: there there is. I will tell you this on the 451 00:21:59,720 --> 00:22:05,680 Speaker 5: on the only only fans you can watch massage. 452 00:22:05,840 --> 00:22:06,919 Speaker 1: I want to watch that. 453 00:22:07,600 --> 00:22:11,080 Speaker 2: It's shot from like her perspective, so if like you 454 00:22:11,119 --> 00:22:14,200 Speaker 2: were looking down, so you're not like seeing it from 455 00:22:14,240 --> 00:22:16,840 Speaker 2: between the legs. You just see the hands like working 456 00:22:16,920 --> 00:22:18,520 Speaker 2: the outside. 457 00:22:18,800 --> 00:22:22,360 Speaker 1: Is someone giving her a massage? Oh damn soon? 458 00:22:22,840 --> 00:22:25,000 Speaker 2: I mean I'm assuming it's her, you know, like I 459 00:22:25,000 --> 00:22:27,919 Speaker 2: can imagine she had somebody else doing it. No, I'm 460 00:22:27,960 --> 00:22:31,120 Speaker 2: assuming it's like her and her tim Oh okay, yeah, 461 00:22:31,240 --> 00:22:33,080 Speaker 2: I don't think it's like a model that she just 462 00:22:33,200 --> 00:22:34,880 Speaker 2: found it or maybe she did just find a video 463 00:22:34,880 --> 00:22:36,840 Speaker 2: and posted it. But like you don't see anyone's faces, 464 00:22:36,880 --> 00:22:39,800 Speaker 2: and it's not what nothing goes inside. 465 00:22:39,640 --> 00:22:42,919 Speaker 1: Like Ji is the Sanscript word for vagina if anyone's like, 466 00:22:42,960 --> 00:22:46,639 Speaker 1: what are they talking about? But she said that learned 467 00:22:46,680 --> 00:22:49,480 Speaker 1: that her husband learning how to do this yonie massage 468 00:22:49,720 --> 00:22:54,080 Speaker 1: was basically the thing that saved her marriage in general. 469 00:22:54,160 --> 00:22:56,399 Speaker 1: I think they learned because she was she was in 470 00:22:56,440 --> 00:23:00,160 Speaker 1: a marriage for over a decade, had not had an orgasm, 471 00:23:00,160 --> 00:23:01,280 Speaker 1: and she she was like, I just didn't want to 472 00:23:01,320 --> 00:23:03,400 Speaker 1: have sex with them anymore. And that makes sense because 473 00:23:03,400 --> 00:23:05,280 Speaker 1: it just feels like a lot of work, and especially 474 00:23:05,320 --> 00:23:09,119 Speaker 1: if you're not, you know, reaping any of the rewards 475 00:23:09,160 --> 00:23:12,000 Speaker 1: of sex, that would be really frustrating. And so they 476 00:23:12,040 --> 00:23:15,000 Speaker 1: went on instead of getting divorced, they went on a 477 00:23:15,119 --> 00:23:18,160 Speaker 1: journey of just really learning about how to please each 478 00:23:18,160 --> 00:23:21,920 Speaker 1: other and opening themselves up. I actually we never talk 479 00:23:21,960 --> 00:23:25,280 Speaker 1: about this. I commend him so much the way that 480 00:23:25,320 --> 00:23:29,720 Speaker 1: he handled that. He wasn't threatened like, oh, well, you know, 481 00:23:29,840 --> 00:23:33,400 Speaker 1: I'm great at this and not able to take constructive criticism. 482 00:23:34,040 --> 00:23:36,639 Speaker 1: But they're both able to like listen to what the 483 00:23:36,680 --> 00:23:39,119 Speaker 1: other person needs and wants and what feels good and 484 00:23:39,160 --> 00:23:42,800 Speaker 1: their discussions around it. To me, that would be really 485 00:23:42,880 --> 00:23:45,160 Speaker 1: it's really tricky because our egos get in the way, 486 00:23:45,680 --> 00:23:49,119 Speaker 1: get our insecurities flare up. You know all of those things, 487 00:23:49,160 --> 00:23:51,480 Speaker 1: and so I love the way that they're able to 488 00:23:51,520 --> 00:23:53,920 Speaker 1: discuss that, and that is I think what she says 489 00:23:53,960 --> 00:23:56,760 Speaker 1: saved their marriage and now they have this like thriving 490 00:23:56,920 --> 00:23:59,400 Speaker 1: sex life that's thirty years of marriage. 491 00:24:00,080 --> 00:24:02,119 Speaker 2: You know. I think it's important to remember that, like 492 00:24:03,359 --> 00:24:07,320 Speaker 2: in the act of like giving to someone, Like if 493 00:24:07,320 --> 00:24:09,480 Speaker 2: someone says this is what I need, and you can 494 00:24:09,600 --> 00:24:11,960 Speaker 2: like put your ego side and give them what they need, 495 00:24:12,600 --> 00:24:14,720 Speaker 2: it opens the door for you to ask for what 496 00:24:14,800 --> 00:24:17,040 Speaker 2: you need. It makes it more comfortable for you to 497 00:24:17,040 --> 00:24:19,399 Speaker 2: bring up the things that you feel are missing. And 498 00:24:19,440 --> 00:24:22,600 Speaker 2: I think, you know, often like we're so scared to 499 00:24:22,720 --> 00:24:25,800 Speaker 2: open that door because it feels like it's selfish or 500 00:24:25,840 --> 00:24:29,960 Speaker 2: you're going to get a rebuttal from them, like and 501 00:24:30,880 --> 00:24:33,879 Speaker 2: or they're gonna hear it the wrong way. Oh you 502 00:24:33,880 --> 00:24:36,720 Speaker 2: don't like sex with me, Like no, I love having 503 00:24:36,760 --> 00:24:38,879 Speaker 2: sex with you, but I want to try this. 504 00:24:38,880 --> 00:24:42,880 Speaker 3: This would make me happier. And you know, it's really 505 00:24:42,920 --> 00:24:43,399 Speaker 3: important to. 506 00:24:43,440 --> 00:24:46,760 Speaker 2: Remember that, Like it takes two to fucking tango when 507 00:24:46,800 --> 00:24:49,080 Speaker 2: you're having sex, and part of it, it's not just 508 00:24:49,119 --> 00:24:52,359 Speaker 2: about you getting pleasure, it's about you giving pleasure. And 509 00:24:52,400 --> 00:24:54,840 Speaker 2: there's a lot of joy in that if you know 510 00:24:54,960 --> 00:24:57,760 Speaker 2: that you are pleasing the person that you love, and 511 00:24:58,640 --> 00:25:01,199 Speaker 2: so it's like, I think it's a win win, like 512 00:25:01,280 --> 00:25:05,399 Speaker 2: for her asking what she needed, it opened up you know, 513 00:25:05,640 --> 00:25:07,360 Speaker 2: his possibilities too, right. 514 00:25:07,760 --> 00:25:09,440 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I mean it sounds like they have a 515 00:25:09,480 --> 00:25:09,920 Speaker 1: lot of fun. 516 00:25:10,000 --> 00:25:11,480 Speaker 3: So yeah, yeah, I'm telling you. 517 00:25:11,760 --> 00:25:14,560 Speaker 1: If you guys have missed that episode, go check her out. 518 00:25:14,600 --> 00:25:17,639 Speaker 1: It's Susan Bratton. She's also a really fun follow on 519 00:25:17,760 --> 00:25:23,320 Speaker 1: Insta or OnlyFans if you're feeling nasty. Okay, on the 520 00:25:23,400 --> 00:25:26,040 Speaker 1: velvet side of things, it got a little more serious 521 00:25:26,080 --> 00:25:28,159 Speaker 1: just with the mental and emotional health stuff. But I 522 00:25:28,200 --> 00:25:31,280 Speaker 1: did realize, you know that, like I feel like I'm 523 00:25:31,320 --> 00:25:33,840 Speaker 1: in this space now and I don't know if you 524 00:25:34,200 --> 00:25:35,960 Speaker 1: can see this in my life or whatever, because I 525 00:25:35,960 --> 00:25:38,680 Speaker 1: think you've been with me through the really dark times too. 526 00:25:38,840 --> 00:25:42,199 Speaker 1: But even in discussing trauma and healing and all of 527 00:25:42,200 --> 00:25:45,119 Speaker 1: those things, I feel like I'm in a solution based 528 00:25:45,119 --> 00:25:47,760 Speaker 1: place right now. It's like a really good season of that, 529 00:25:48,000 --> 00:25:51,840 Speaker 1: and so the discussions aren't as heavy or you know, 530 00:25:52,000 --> 00:25:54,639 Speaker 1: kind of there's a little more lightness and even making 531 00:25:54,640 --> 00:25:56,280 Speaker 1: fun of some of the things that I've done and 532 00:25:56,560 --> 00:25:59,719 Speaker 1: when I'm in dysfunctional places and just like a little 533 00:26:00,440 --> 00:26:05,840 Speaker 1: less harshness or sadness or pain or those kind of things. 534 00:26:05,880 --> 00:26:07,159 Speaker 1: I feel like I'm on the other side of a 535 00:26:07,160 --> 00:26:08,960 Speaker 1: lot of that stuff and that feels really good. So 536 00:26:08,960 --> 00:26:10,960 Speaker 1: I just wanted to say that out loud, because if 537 00:26:10,960 --> 00:26:13,360 Speaker 1: you're in the midst of the hard times, it does 538 00:26:13,400 --> 00:26:16,960 Speaker 1: get better. So just keep going. There's always that I 539 00:26:17,119 --> 00:26:21,040 Speaker 1: use that quarkscrew analogy of like, you know, whatever's up, 540 00:26:21,200 --> 00:26:22,720 Speaker 1: it always is going to come down, just like a 541 00:26:22,800 --> 00:26:24,680 Speaker 1: quark screw, and so if you're down, you're gonna come 542 00:26:24,680 --> 00:26:26,480 Speaker 1: back up. That's just life. That's just the way it goes. 543 00:26:26,520 --> 00:26:28,200 Speaker 1: So just keep going, one foot in front of the other. 544 00:26:28,320 --> 00:26:31,879 Speaker 1: But I spoke to a trauma specialist, Alley Kates. She 545 00:26:32,000 --> 00:26:34,960 Speaker 1: was amazing, and she was also just a very fun 546 00:26:35,040 --> 00:26:39,320 Speaker 1: and light person. But she talked a lot about somatic therapy, 547 00:26:39,359 --> 00:26:41,200 Speaker 1: which I know you've heard me discuss a lot chip 548 00:26:41,200 --> 00:26:43,760 Speaker 1: but it's about more connecting with your body versus just 549 00:26:43,840 --> 00:26:47,280 Speaker 1: the talk therapy type stuff, which I'm so happy people 550 00:26:47,320 --> 00:26:49,639 Speaker 1: are starting to discuss because I did talk therapy for 551 00:26:49,680 --> 00:26:51,960 Speaker 1: a decade save my life. I'm not trying to knock 552 00:26:52,000 --> 00:26:54,640 Speaker 1: it at all. My therapist is amazing. We still talk 553 00:26:54,680 --> 00:26:57,840 Speaker 1: all the time. We've almost become more like friends. Now 554 00:26:57,920 --> 00:27:03,640 Speaker 1: that's great, but anyway, yeah, oh literally, like she has 555 00:27:03,720 --> 00:27:07,720 Speaker 1: been through it with me. But I reached a point 556 00:27:07,720 --> 00:27:10,400 Speaker 1: where I was like, Okay, I know have all this knowledge, 557 00:27:10,440 --> 00:27:13,680 Speaker 1: but how can I integrate this into my life because 558 00:27:13,720 --> 00:27:15,880 Speaker 1: my body is still like I was going through hard 559 00:27:15,920 --> 00:27:18,359 Speaker 1: times and I was having panic attacks, or I was 560 00:27:18,359 --> 00:27:21,000 Speaker 1: feeling sick, I was unable to eat, so I lost 561 00:27:21,040 --> 00:27:23,359 Speaker 1: a lot of weight, and those things were all because 562 00:27:23,400 --> 00:27:26,040 Speaker 1: of stored trauma or how my body wasn't fully like 563 00:27:26,240 --> 00:27:29,880 Speaker 1: processing through the feelings. So Ali and I really discussed 564 00:27:29,880 --> 00:27:32,680 Speaker 1: a lot of that. We talked about the importance of hobbies, 565 00:27:32,800 --> 00:27:34,480 Speaker 1: which you know has been a trigger word for me 566 00:27:34,880 --> 00:27:37,760 Speaker 1: because I get your relationships where the guys seem to 567 00:27:37,800 --> 00:27:40,360 Speaker 1: have all these hobbies and I have not really been 568 00:27:40,400 --> 00:27:43,679 Speaker 1: a person with a hobby in my life, or if 569 00:27:43,720 --> 00:27:45,560 Speaker 1: I have a hobby, I turned into a job. So 570 00:27:46,000 --> 00:27:47,639 Speaker 1: Ali gave me a lot of advice there. So if 571 00:27:47,640 --> 00:27:50,960 Speaker 1: you're a woman listening, we totally talked about how women 572 00:27:51,040 --> 00:27:54,959 Speaker 1: seem to struggle a lot more with finding hobbies in 573 00:27:55,000 --> 00:27:57,520 Speaker 1: life and just the importance of that for our emotional health, 574 00:27:57,520 --> 00:28:02,439 Speaker 1: So go check her out. Also talked to or I 575 00:28:02,520 --> 00:28:06,000 Speaker 1: talked to one of the former communications directors at Microsoft, 576 00:28:06,720 --> 00:28:10,240 Speaker 1: and she has all of these accolades, right, Like, just 577 00:28:10,520 --> 00:28:14,240 Speaker 1: I think you can probably relate this, or you've seen 578 00:28:14,280 --> 00:28:16,640 Speaker 1: this in our life because we have so many powerful 579 00:28:16,680 --> 00:28:19,480 Speaker 1: women in our friend group and just in our lives 580 00:28:19,480 --> 00:28:22,399 Speaker 1: in general. And it's so interesting to me because I 581 00:28:22,400 --> 00:28:25,159 Speaker 1: think when you associate someone with being like a boss, 582 00:28:25,160 --> 00:28:27,400 Speaker 1: babe or whatever you want to call, you think that 583 00:28:27,400 --> 00:28:30,840 Speaker 1: that covers every area of their life. But I've seen 584 00:28:30,880 --> 00:28:34,760 Speaker 1: this over and over again where there's really successful women 585 00:28:34,920 --> 00:28:37,040 Speaker 1: or maybe this is men too, but it's just like 586 00:28:37,080 --> 00:28:40,320 Speaker 1: when it when you look at their personal lives, it's 587 00:28:40,360 --> 00:28:44,520 Speaker 1: shocking because they'll be in like abusive, dysfunctional relationships. And 588 00:28:44,560 --> 00:28:46,680 Speaker 1: that was a big part of my story in the past, 589 00:28:46,880 --> 00:28:49,440 Speaker 1: and people would always come up to me and say 590 00:28:49,480 --> 00:28:51,800 Speaker 1: things like I just I thought you were so strong 591 00:28:51,840 --> 00:28:53,920 Speaker 1: and I can't believe that that would be like the 592 00:28:53,960 --> 00:28:57,360 Speaker 1: thing that would take you down or whatever. I know 593 00:28:57,440 --> 00:29:00,000 Speaker 1: in that wild but it's just like, well, this can 594 00:29:00,120 --> 00:29:03,680 Speaker 1: happened to anybody, and it's not had a lot of 595 00:29:03,720 --> 00:29:06,120 Speaker 1: shame around that for a long time, like Oh my gosh, 596 00:29:06,160 --> 00:29:08,480 Speaker 1: am I just so weak or why, Like it's because 597 00:29:08,480 --> 00:29:13,000 Speaker 1: I'm so emotional and whatever, But it's like, no, it 598 00:29:13,040 --> 00:29:15,400 Speaker 1: happens to anybody and it's just all part of our 599 00:29:15,480 --> 00:29:19,000 Speaker 1: learning and processing. And for me, it was, you know, 600 00:29:19,080 --> 00:29:21,000 Speaker 1: kind of letting go of some old patterns that I 601 00:29:21,040 --> 00:29:23,800 Speaker 1: had just learned throughout my life or other lifetimes, whatever 602 00:29:23,800 --> 00:29:28,000 Speaker 1: you want to say, and they were translating into these 603 00:29:28,080 --> 00:29:32,800 Speaker 1: really dysfunctional, highly dysfunctional relationships, and that really did take 604 00:29:32,840 --> 00:29:35,640 Speaker 1: me out. You witnessed it. It was really really hard. 605 00:29:36,000 --> 00:29:38,600 Speaker 1: But it wasn't just in love. It was in work, 606 00:29:39,040 --> 00:29:41,000 Speaker 1: it was in friendships. And a lot of people saw 607 00:29:41,000 --> 00:29:43,440 Speaker 1: that play out publicly for me, but I could not 608 00:29:43,600 --> 00:29:47,760 Speaker 1: find my voice and stuff. And so I spoke with 609 00:29:48,280 --> 00:29:51,280 Speaker 1: the person who is that the communications director at Microsoft, 610 00:29:51,280 --> 00:29:54,080 Speaker 1: and it was a very similar experience for her, and 611 00:29:54,120 --> 00:29:57,040 Speaker 1: so she and I really discussed some of the things 612 00:29:57,040 --> 00:29:59,720 Speaker 1: that happened to us in abusive relationships. I hate using 613 00:29:59,720 --> 00:30:02,960 Speaker 1: that word in some ways because it's like it's like narcissism, 614 00:30:02,960 --> 00:30:06,040 Speaker 1: Like it's so overused that I think it's and it's 615 00:30:06,080 --> 00:30:08,400 Speaker 1: like you're saying you're side of the story, So I don't. 616 00:30:08,200 --> 00:30:09,800 Speaker 2: Know, Yeah, That's why I was going to say, it's 617 00:30:09,840 --> 00:30:12,000 Speaker 2: the reason why you probably hate it is because it's 618 00:30:12,040 --> 00:30:16,240 Speaker 2: got a victim like stigma because you were part of it. 619 00:30:16,360 --> 00:30:20,080 Speaker 1: You know, Like I mean I was in the relationships contributed, Yeah, 620 00:30:20,120 --> 00:30:22,720 Speaker 1: and I was not my best self, So in any 621 00:30:22,760 --> 00:30:24,640 Speaker 1: of those relationships. 622 00:30:23,960 --> 00:30:27,600 Speaker 2: In your conversation, I didn't listen to it, did it? 623 00:30:27,720 --> 00:30:33,280 Speaker 2: Like do you think that success sometimes is your success 624 00:30:33,360 --> 00:30:36,080 Speaker 2: is driven by it being the one thing that you 625 00:30:36,120 --> 00:30:40,840 Speaker 2: can control, like probably you know, Like that's how some 626 00:30:40,920 --> 00:30:43,240 Speaker 2: of like that story correlates to a lot of these 627 00:30:43,280 --> 00:30:46,080 Speaker 2: powerful people, like they've got their life is in disarray, 628 00:30:46,240 --> 00:30:48,440 Speaker 2: but the work is the one thing that is only 629 00:30:48,520 --> 00:30:50,800 Speaker 2: theirs that they can control and succeed at. 630 00:30:51,280 --> 00:30:53,280 Speaker 1: Well. I think the other thing is if you're a 631 00:30:53,360 --> 00:30:56,760 Speaker 1: successful person, like or a high achieving person, you're probably 632 00:30:56,920 --> 00:31:00,080 Speaker 1: very driven and like you said, you're used to being 633 00:31:00,120 --> 00:31:03,320 Speaker 1: able to work really hard to get the things that 634 00:31:03,400 --> 00:31:06,600 Speaker 1: you want. Like what happened for me was really the 635 00:31:06,680 --> 00:31:09,000 Speaker 1: universe was like, okay, we really got to let you 636 00:31:09,200 --> 00:31:12,240 Speaker 1: got to learn to surrender and like that you can't 637 00:31:12,640 --> 00:31:15,160 Speaker 1: control all these things or make these things happen. Because 638 00:31:16,160 --> 00:31:18,240 Speaker 1: at the same time I had I was having those 639 00:31:18,280 --> 00:31:21,239 Speaker 1: fertility issues, and I remember saying to all of you guys, like, 640 00:31:21,920 --> 00:31:25,480 Speaker 1: I've never in my life and I was thirty eight 641 00:31:25,680 --> 00:31:28,360 Speaker 1: at that point, thirty seven, thirty eight, I've never in 642 00:31:28,360 --> 00:31:31,320 Speaker 1: my life not been able to work hard enough to 643 00:31:31,360 --> 00:31:34,720 Speaker 1: get what I wanted. Like that's just how I've been. 644 00:31:34,840 --> 00:31:36,840 Speaker 1: Like when I played sports as a kid, I was 645 00:31:37,000 --> 00:31:40,120 Speaker 1: really driven and I would wake up before school and go, 646 00:31:40,240 --> 00:31:44,000 Speaker 1: you know, shoot two hundred foul shots or whatever whatever. 647 00:31:44,040 --> 00:31:46,520 Speaker 1: It was like I practiced more than anyone, so then 648 00:31:46,560 --> 00:31:48,240 Speaker 1: I was the best one on the team or whatever. 649 00:31:48,320 --> 00:31:51,120 Speaker 1: I've just been very driven my whole life. And so 650 00:31:51,920 --> 00:31:54,680 Speaker 1: the fact that I couldn't control that because fertility is 651 00:31:54,720 --> 00:31:57,000 Speaker 1: one of those things like you can do all the 652 00:31:57,120 --> 00:32:00,280 Speaker 1: right things and it's still like sometimes doesn't work, which 653 00:32:00,280 --> 00:32:02,600 Speaker 1: was what happened for me. It just did not take. 654 00:32:03,960 --> 00:32:06,040 Speaker 1: And that was sort of I think what we discussed 655 00:32:06,080 --> 00:32:09,040 Speaker 1: a little bit about the relationship piece is like you 656 00:32:09,120 --> 00:32:14,360 Speaker 1: see the signs, you see the flags, but particularly she 657 00:32:14,440 --> 00:32:16,719 Speaker 1: and I's personalities were similar in this way where it 658 00:32:16,760 --> 00:32:19,360 Speaker 1: was like, oh, but I can fix this, or like 659 00:32:19,480 --> 00:32:22,520 Speaker 1: if we work hard enough, like you know, relationships are hard, 660 00:32:22,560 --> 00:32:25,160 Speaker 1: if we work hard enough, we can forget through this 661 00:32:25,280 --> 00:32:28,560 Speaker 1: or figure this out instead of just releasing and saying 662 00:32:28,600 --> 00:32:30,520 Speaker 1: like hey, I think we're on different journeys, or hey 663 00:32:30,560 --> 00:32:32,760 Speaker 1: this is this doesn't serve me, or this isn't the 664 00:32:32,840 --> 00:32:35,520 Speaker 1: right relationship for me, this doesn't bring out the right 665 00:32:35,600 --> 00:32:38,840 Speaker 1: sides of me, like all of those things, which now 666 00:32:38,960 --> 00:32:40,760 Speaker 1: is something I'm really trying to put into practice in 667 00:32:40,760 --> 00:32:42,720 Speaker 1: my life. But that has to come from a very 668 00:32:42,760 --> 00:32:46,280 Speaker 1: surrendered place of like I am not driving the bus 669 00:32:46,280 --> 00:32:48,880 Speaker 1: in my life here, Like I am not in charge, 670 00:32:48,960 --> 00:32:50,920 Speaker 1: you know, and I have to work at that every day. 671 00:32:51,080 --> 00:32:54,120 Speaker 1: And she and she said similar things. So I think 672 00:32:54,120 --> 00:32:57,800 Speaker 1: it's really common that high achieving people have that kind 673 00:32:57,840 --> 00:33:00,600 Speaker 1: of dynamic in their personal relitionationships. 674 00:33:00,800 --> 00:33:01,240 Speaker 2: Mm hmm. 675 00:33:01,400 --> 00:33:05,760 Speaker 1: She's really really interesting, but that is Yeah, she was great. 676 00:33:05,880 --> 00:33:08,920 Speaker 1: She's so well spoken to, obviously, and she has her 677 00:33:08,920 --> 00:33:11,920 Speaker 1: own podcast now where she really discusses some of these things, 678 00:33:14,800 --> 00:33:17,960 Speaker 1: speaking back to like the way our body processes emotions. 679 00:33:18,400 --> 00:33:21,080 Speaker 1: She didn't really kind of get the wake up call 680 00:33:21,080 --> 00:33:25,600 Speaker 1: in her life until she got this like flesh eating disease, 681 00:33:26,680 --> 00:33:29,400 Speaker 1: Like her body literally starts to shut down. She gets 682 00:33:29,440 --> 00:33:32,720 Speaker 1: eye cancer, and it's just like this is a theme 683 00:33:32,800 --> 00:33:35,160 Speaker 1: that I have seen so consistently. One of my best 684 00:33:35,200 --> 00:33:38,440 Speaker 1: friends like, was in a dysfunctional relationship for years and 685 00:33:38,520 --> 00:33:42,400 Speaker 1: didn't really like think to even make a change until 686 00:33:42,440 --> 00:33:43,360 Speaker 1: she got breast cancer. 687 00:33:43,520 --> 00:33:43,760 Speaker 2: Wow. 688 00:33:43,960 --> 00:33:46,400 Speaker 1: And it's just the way our bodies manifest all of 689 00:33:46,440 --> 00:33:49,320 Speaker 1: this stress and emotions, And so if you're not in 690 00:33:49,360 --> 00:33:52,880 Speaker 1: touch with your body or paying attention, you probably will 691 00:33:52,880 --> 00:33:55,280 Speaker 1: get a hard wake up call, which I know I did. 692 00:33:55,360 --> 00:33:59,480 Speaker 1: So that was a really great episode. I feel like 693 00:33:59,480 --> 00:34:01,160 Speaker 1: all the episod that we had this month have just 694 00:34:01,160 --> 00:34:04,680 Speaker 1: been a really interesting take on mental and emotional health. 695 00:34:04,760 --> 00:34:11,760 Speaker 1: And I actually this week, the last episode did three 696 00:34:11,840 --> 00:34:15,200 Speaker 1: things that I've really learned and incorporated into my life 697 00:34:15,239 --> 00:34:18,120 Speaker 1: mentally and emotionally that have just been game changers over 698 00:34:18,160 --> 00:34:20,360 Speaker 1: the past couple of years. So I texted you this 699 00:34:20,520 --> 00:34:24,520 Speaker 1: morning and I said, is there anything specific that's come 700 00:34:24,600 --> 00:34:27,040 Speaker 1: up for you that you can pinpoint that's really changed 701 00:34:27,080 --> 00:34:29,640 Speaker 1: in your own relationship with your own mental and emotional health, 702 00:34:29,640 --> 00:34:32,200 Speaker 1: Because you've mentioned a lot like even doing this podcast 703 00:34:32,280 --> 00:34:35,759 Speaker 1: has been really helpful for you in opening up those 704 00:34:35,800 --> 00:34:36,800 Speaker 1: pasts of your life. 705 00:34:36,840 --> 00:34:39,400 Speaker 2: So what did you think of Well, I mean, it 706 00:34:39,480 --> 00:34:41,359 Speaker 2: was funny because I was with a friend, my friend 707 00:34:41,360 --> 00:34:44,719 Speaker 2: Bonnie last night we went to this amazing hotel in 708 00:34:44,760 --> 00:34:49,640 Speaker 2: Franklin calledful. 709 00:34:47,960 --> 00:34:50,080 Speaker 3: Yeah Gorgeous, and. 710 00:34:51,440 --> 00:34:53,320 Speaker 2: We were just like sitting out in nature and we 711 00:34:53,560 --> 00:34:57,120 Speaker 2: were talking about just like I hadn't seen her in forever, 712 00:34:57,680 --> 00:34:59,680 Speaker 2: so we were catching up and she was as she 713 00:34:59,719 --> 00:35:01,480 Speaker 2: asked if I was still done the podcast, and she. 714 00:35:01,480 --> 00:35:02,480 Speaker 3: Was like, why don't you promote it more? 715 00:35:02,480 --> 00:35:04,399 Speaker 2: And I was like, I don't know, Like it's something 716 00:35:04,440 --> 00:35:06,080 Speaker 2: that I kind of like do for fun, and it's 717 00:35:06,120 --> 00:35:08,680 Speaker 2: an outlet for me and like I've I've you know, 718 00:35:08,760 --> 00:35:09,920 Speaker 2: it's actually. 719 00:35:09,560 --> 00:35:11,160 Speaker 3: Really personally helped me a lot. 720 00:35:11,280 --> 00:35:13,840 Speaker 2: But like the self promo things, She's like, yeah, but 721 00:35:13,880 --> 00:35:15,719 Speaker 2: you're good at it, like you should be sharing that 722 00:35:15,840 --> 00:35:18,840 Speaker 2: with people. And and she's like, and the things that 723 00:35:18,880 --> 00:35:21,160 Speaker 2: you talk about like are important. People need to hear it. 724 00:35:21,239 --> 00:35:23,000 Speaker 2: And if it's helping you, then maybe it needs to 725 00:35:23,040 --> 00:35:25,560 Speaker 2: help more people. And and I was like, yeah, you're right, 726 00:35:25,600 --> 00:35:27,840 Speaker 2: maybe I should get louder about it. So, you know, 727 00:35:27,840 --> 00:35:30,760 Speaker 2: it's funny because it's that it kind of just brings 728 00:35:30,760 --> 00:35:33,840 Speaker 2: it back to our word of the month, the awareness piece, Yeah, 729 00:35:34,000 --> 00:35:38,319 Speaker 2: because you know, like I do, like I do need 730 00:35:38,360 --> 00:35:41,240 Speaker 2: to practice more self awareness because like I write myself 731 00:35:41,280 --> 00:35:43,960 Speaker 2: off faster than anyone else. And you know, I've had 732 00:35:44,120 --> 00:35:47,400 Speaker 2: I've had some lessons this this month too, where I 733 00:35:47,480 --> 00:35:49,279 Speaker 2: parted ways with a client and it was you know, 734 00:35:49,320 --> 00:35:51,280 Speaker 2: it was amicable and it was all of the things, 735 00:35:51,320 --> 00:35:54,320 Speaker 2: but like I had to reflect on it, and it's honestly, 736 00:35:54,320 --> 00:35:56,399 Speaker 2: it's been a relief because I was doing too much 737 00:35:56,440 --> 00:35:58,600 Speaker 2: and I was trying to prove things to myself that like, 738 00:36:00,000 --> 00:36:01,880 Speaker 2: in hindsight, like did I need to prove. 739 00:36:01,719 --> 00:36:02,480 Speaker 3: Them to myself. 740 00:36:02,520 --> 00:36:05,959 Speaker 2: It's like I've like I've done really well throughout my career. 741 00:36:06,000 --> 00:36:08,480 Speaker 2: I've done a lot of exciting things. I've helped build things, 742 00:36:08,680 --> 00:36:11,000 Speaker 2: you know, I've helped break things. Like of course I've 743 00:36:11,040 --> 00:36:14,440 Speaker 2: had failures, like it comes with the territory and you know, 744 00:36:14,520 --> 00:36:16,960 Speaker 2: like everyone has that in their life, and it's you 745 00:36:16,960 --> 00:36:18,720 Speaker 2: can't be scared of those because those are the moments 746 00:36:18,760 --> 00:36:23,279 Speaker 2: that you learn. So you know, I think, I like 747 00:36:23,719 --> 00:36:25,920 Speaker 2: to answer your question in a long way, is like 748 00:36:27,080 --> 00:36:31,440 Speaker 2: speaking about awareness has actually helped make me be more aware. 749 00:36:32,080 --> 00:36:37,120 Speaker 2: And you know, it's I'm really quick to like blame 750 00:36:37,200 --> 00:36:40,600 Speaker 2: myself for everything and get down on myself, and that 751 00:36:40,719 --> 00:36:43,560 Speaker 2: this was a moment that I could have like turned 752 00:36:43,600 --> 00:36:47,120 Speaker 2: to the side of me that's like you're a failure. 753 00:36:47,200 --> 00:36:49,920 Speaker 2: You failed at this, You're not good and trust me, 754 00:36:50,040 --> 00:36:52,600 Speaker 2: Like I tried to do that, Like I felt myself 755 00:36:52,600 --> 00:36:54,239 Speaker 2: going there and I was like, nope, I'm not going 756 00:36:54,320 --> 00:36:56,919 Speaker 2: to do that. I'm like, what are the lessons? Why 757 00:36:56,920 --> 00:36:59,279 Speaker 2: did this happen? What am I going to learn from it? 758 00:36:59,680 --> 00:37:04,040 Speaker 2: And why is this good? And it was really refreshing 759 00:37:04,120 --> 00:37:07,000 Speaker 2: to like know that. And I don't honestly, I think, 760 00:37:07,120 --> 00:37:10,160 Speaker 2: like just doing this podcast, I don't know if I 761 00:37:10,160 --> 00:37:11,880 Speaker 2: would have been able to like look at it that 762 00:37:11,920 --> 00:37:14,080 Speaker 2: way if I hadn't been This has. 763 00:37:14,040 --> 00:37:14,960 Speaker 3: Talk therapy for me. 764 00:37:15,040 --> 00:37:17,279 Speaker 2: You know, I've said it before, like I don't I 765 00:37:17,320 --> 00:37:20,480 Speaker 2: don't see a therapist, you know. It's like the listeners 766 00:37:20,480 --> 00:37:23,800 Speaker 2: are sort of by free therapy, you know, like and 767 00:37:24,120 --> 00:37:25,440 Speaker 2: and I know a lot of times it's like we 768 00:37:25,480 --> 00:37:27,759 Speaker 2: talk about some like funny and frivolous things, but it's 769 00:37:27,800 --> 00:37:30,640 Speaker 2: like those things are often things that I would have 770 00:37:30,680 --> 00:37:33,879 Speaker 2: felt like tabooed talking about. And like so I found 771 00:37:33,880 --> 00:37:36,200 Speaker 2: a comfort in doing this, and I think it's it 772 00:37:36,239 --> 00:37:39,239 Speaker 2: has brought me more self awareness, Like I now think 773 00:37:39,280 --> 00:37:42,440 Speaker 2: about things like in terms of sex, like what is 774 00:37:42,480 --> 00:37:44,080 Speaker 2: it that I like, what do I want out of this, 775 00:37:44,239 --> 00:37:46,759 Speaker 2: like how do I want to communicate better in these situations? 776 00:37:46,840 --> 00:37:50,640 Speaker 2: And so, yeah, I don't know if that's love that 777 00:37:50,640 --> 00:37:52,560 Speaker 2: that really answers the question. But I thought it was 778 00:37:52,560 --> 00:37:54,360 Speaker 2: funny when you texted me that question this morning. I 779 00:37:54,400 --> 00:37:56,239 Speaker 2: was like, oh my god, it kind of nails exactly what. 780 00:37:56,200 --> 00:37:57,160 Speaker 3: I wanted to say. 781 00:37:57,400 --> 00:37:59,239 Speaker 1: So I think that is what it is. I mean, 782 00:37:59,280 --> 00:38:02,799 Speaker 1: I agree with you completely about having the discussions on 783 00:38:02,840 --> 00:38:05,400 Speaker 1: this podcast and even the interviews that I get to 784 00:38:05,440 --> 00:38:08,920 Speaker 1: do on the velvet side of things. Hearing different perspectives 785 00:38:09,280 --> 00:38:11,920 Speaker 1: changes everything for me. It opens you up, even if 786 00:38:11,960 --> 00:38:15,680 Speaker 1: you don't fully agree with something. It just it's the 787 00:38:15,719 --> 00:38:18,120 Speaker 1: same thing I say to you guys about like traveling, 788 00:38:18,840 --> 00:38:22,359 Speaker 1: going and seeing different cultures. It just reminds you that 789 00:38:22,440 --> 00:38:26,200 Speaker 1: your little bubble isn't it for this whole world. So 790 00:38:26,280 --> 00:38:30,120 Speaker 1: it kind of lessens some of the blow of any 791 00:38:30,160 --> 00:38:32,799 Speaker 1: hardships you might be going through, or even some of 792 00:38:32,800 --> 00:38:35,760 Speaker 1: the great things. It's like it's just your little circle. 793 00:38:35,840 --> 00:38:38,800 Speaker 1: And so the world is such a big, beautiful place 794 00:38:38,880 --> 00:38:42,279 Speaker 1: and all these different perspectives exist, and if you can 795 00:38:42,360 --> 00:38:45,120 Speaker 1: open yourself up to it, I think there's constantly a 796 00:38:45,200 --> 00:38:48,920 Speaker 1: learning lesson in everything that we encounter, which is a 797 00:38:48,960 --> 00:38:52,399 Speaker 1: beautiful thing. It's not like this, oh well, you don't 798 00:38:52,440 --> 00:38:55,640 Speaker 1: know anything, you know, you're an idiot or whatever. It's 799 00:38:55,760 --> 00:38:59,240 Speaker 1: just like that's part of being human is opening yourself 800 00:38:59,320 --> 00:39:02,240 Speaker 1: up to all the experiences of life, and it's a beautiful, 801 00:39:02,320 --> 00:39:04,640 Speaker 1: beautiful thing. I love that for you. 802 00:39:04,760 --> 00:39:06,719 Speaker 2: Yeah, well, how do you know if you don't like 803 00:39:06,760 --> 00:39:09,840 Speaker 2: something unless you try it? And I know that sounds 804 00:39:09,880 --> 00:39:12,680 Speaker 2: really trite, but I know people are like, ew, sushi, 805 00:39:12,800 --> 00:39:13,920 Speaker 2: I'm never gonna eat that. 806 00:39:14,040 --> 00:39:17,160 Speaker 3: And it's like, how do you know? I used to hate. 807 00:39:16,960 --> 00:39:21,360 Speaker 2: Celery and Brussels sprouts and I continue. I mean I did, 808 00:39:21,560 --> 00:39:23,840 Speaker 2: like as a kid. I mean, and it's because my 809 00:39:23,880 --> 00:39:27,960 Speaker 2: mom boiled Brussels sprouts. It's like gross, and like, if 810 00:39:28,040 --> 00:39:31,040 Speaker 2: you have them cook the right way, they're fucking delicious. 811 00:39:31,400 --> 00:39:34,080 Speaker 2: But if I had never opened myself up to trying 812 00:39:34,080 --> 00:39:36,400 Speaker 2: a different way to of eating Brussels sprouts, I wouldn't 813 00:39:36,400 --> 00:39:36,640 Speaker 2: know that. 814 00:39:36,960 --> 00:39:37,160 Speaker 5: I know. 815 00:39:37,239 --> 00:39:40,000 Speaker 2: That's like a really small example. It's like there's plenty 816 00:39:40,040 --> 00:39:41,799 Speaker 2: of things that we all need to try that we're 817 00:39:41,840 --> 00:39:43,600 Speaker 2: scared of or that we think are gross or that 818 00:39:43,640 --> 00:39:46,440 Speaker 2: we think that like we just don't like. But you 819 00:39:46,480 --> 00:39:50,840 Speaker 2: don't know, like passing. Judgment and understanding are very different things, 820 00:39:51,440 --> 00:39:53,640 Speaker 2: you know, and I think it takes a brave soul 821 00:39:53,719 --> 00:39:56,160 Speaker 2: to like open themselves up to the things that they 822 00:39:56,320 --> 00:40:01,840 Speaker 2: actually don't know anything about and try and and acquire 823 00:40:02,040 --> 00:40:05,560 Speaker 2: some level of understanding versus judgment, because I think a 824 00:40:05,560 --> 00:40:07,319 Speaker 2: lot of us have opinions about things that we don't 825 00:40:07,320 --> 00:40:08,120 Speaker 2: know fuck all about. 826 00:40:08,560 --> 00:40:10,239 Speaker 1: Like, right, I mean, that's definitely true. 827 00:40:10,239 --> 00:40:11,680 Speaker 3: I think I'm guilty of it. 828 00:40:11,760 --> 00:40:13,560 Speaker 2: You know. Yeah, it's really easy to sit on the 829 00:40:13,600 --> 00:40:15,239 Speaker 2: sidelines and look at something and be like ooh, I 830 00:40:15,239 --> 00:40:17,319 Speaker 2: would never do that, and then you catch yourself doing 831 00:40:17,320 --> 00:40:20,879 Speaker 2: it and you're like, oh, maybe right, yeah, But. 832 00:40:20,880 --> 00:40:23,719 Speaker 1: That's awareness, and that's the beauty of that is, like 833 00:40:24,120 --> 00:40:25,960 Speaker 1: there's a saying that goes, if you spot it, you 834 00:40:26,040 --> 00:40:28,359 Speaker 1: got it. So usually when you see something in someone 835 00:40:28,400 --> 00:40:31,600 Speaker 1: else that you don't like, it's because it's in you too, 836 00:40:31,680 --> 00:40:36,080 Speaker 1: which is the most humbling thing to realize, but it's true. 837 00:40:36,120 --> 00:40:40,040 Speaker 1: The more of like really tapped into that statement, it's true, 838 00:40:40,200 --> 00:40:43,279 Speaker 1: and so it kind of takes away any sort of 839 00:40:43,320 --> 00:40:45,319 Speaker 1: fun of like looking at someone else and be like, 840 00:40:45,360 --> 00:40:48,799 Speaker 1: oh god whatever. The judgment is really difficult once you 841 00:40:48,840 --> 00:40:50,600 Speaker 1: realize that because you're like, well, shit. 842 00:40:51,000 --> 00:40:55,120 Speaker 2: What's toxic because you're saying it out loud and you're 843 00:40:55,200 --> 00:40:58,279 Speaker 2: absorbing it, and if it's truly something that you don't 844 00:40:58,360 --> 00:41:02,160 Speaker 2: like about yourself, a reminder of that and you might 845 00:41:02,200 --> 00:41:05,480 Speaker 2: not realize that you're talking to yourself totally. It's a 846 00:41:05,600 --> 00:41:07,400 Speaker 2: really toxic behavior, you know. 847 00:41:07,600 --> 00:41:10,880 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I also love the saying stay curious, And 848 00:41:10,920 --> 00:41:12,640 Speaker 1: I just thought of that when even when that kind 849 00:41:12,680 --> 00:41:15,400 Speaker 1: of stuff comes up, because if you're facing something like 850 00:41:15,440 --> 00:41:17,040 Speaker 1: I just I don't know, I'm in this place right 851 00:41:17,040 --> 00:41:20,279 Speaker 1: now where I really just am embracing the fact that 852 00:41:20,360 --> 00:41:22,880 Speaker 1: I am so human and like never going to be 853 00:41:22,960 --> 00:41:25,560 Speaker 1: perfect and I mess up all the time, if you 854 00:41:25,560 --> 00:41:27,000 Speaker 1: want to look at it that way. But it's just 855 00:41:27,080 --> 00:41:29,440 Speaker 1: interesting if you stay curious, you're like, oh, that's funny 856 00:41:29,480 --> 00:41:33,319 Speaker 1: I'm doing that thing, or what's behind that? Like when 857 00:41:33,360 --> 00:41:35,719 Speaker 1: you were saying even to go try new things, I 858 00:41:35,719 --> 00:41:39,640 Speaker 1: immediately thought of, like, I have this immense fear of heights. 859 00:41:39,920 --> 00:41:43,719 Speaker 1: You kind of do too, Yeah, me too. But I've 860 00:41:43,960 --> 00:41:47,520 Speaker 1: tried two things this past year to be like can 861 00:41:47,560 --> 00:41:49,760 Speaker 1: I get over this? One was when I was in Bali. 862 00:41:49,800 --> 00:41:51,680 Speaker 1: It was this really big swing that went over this 863 00:41:51,760 --> 00:41:54,440 Speaker 1: ravine and our friend Mary did it and was just 864 00:41:54,840 --> 00:41:57,640 Speaker 1: like flying like a bird, loving it, living life, and 865 00:41:57,680 --> 00:41:59,360 Speaker 1: I knew. I was like, this is going to stress 866 00:41:59,360 --> 00:42:00,799 Speaker 1: me out, but I'm going to try it, you know, 867 00:42:00,880 --> 00:42:03,880 Speaker 1: try to be open. I hated it. It wasn't great. 868 00:42:04,360 --> 00:42:06,719 Speaker 1: I got off pretty fast, but I tried it. At 869 00:42:06,800 --> 00:42:09,400 Speaker 1: least I knew, you know. And then actually again with Mary, 870 00:42:09,440 --> 00:42:13,080 Speaker 1: her daughter had this acrobat party and it was like, 871 00:42:13,120 --> 00:42:16,319 Speaker 1: you go up on this big ledge and learn how 872 00:42:16,320 --> 00:42:20,400 Speaker 1: to what is that thing called trapeze? A trapeze? Yes, okay. 873 00:42:21,160 --> 00:42:24,560 Speaker 1: I could not lean off the platform enough to grab 874 00:42:24,600 --> 00:42:28,320 Speaker 1: the trapeze. My whole body was like congols, so scared, 875 00:42:29,520 --> 00:42:31,319 Speaker 1: and I had to climb down the ladder. I was 876 00:42:31,360 --> 00:42:35,839 Speaker 1: shaking climbing up the ladder, even lating. Oh, these nine 877 00:42:35,880 --> 00:42:38,040 Speaker 1: year olds are laughing at me. Mary was like, no, 878 00:42:38,200 --> 00:42:41,719 Speaker 1: laughing at Kelly. I didn't really care. But I mean, 879 00:42:41,800 --> 00:42:43,839 Speaker 1: it's just it's just I have this like huge fear 880 00:42:43,840 --> 00:42:46,560 Speaker 1: of heights. I've never known where it came from though, 881 00:42:47,760 --> 00:42:50,160 Speaker 1: And then I was reading this book about speaking of 882 00:42:50,200 --> 00:42:53,319 Speaker 1: old souls that that's typically related to a death in 883 00:42:53,360 --> 00:42:55,240 Speaker 1: a past life if you have a fear of heights, 884 00:42:55,719 --> 00:42:59,680 Speaker 1: and so anyway, staying curious about like staying in touch 885 00:42:59,760 --> 00:43:03,200 Speaker 1: with Okay, no, this fear is still here. And because 886 00:43:03,239 --> 00:43:06,640 Speaker 1: I'm trying things and I'm not able to just move 887 00:43:06,800 --> 00:43:10,560 Speaker 1: through them, and then I read that and so there's 888 00:43:10,600 --> 00:43:12,959 Speaker 1: this new thing that I'm trying where it's like, Okay, 889 00:43:13,000 --> 00:43:15,319 Speaker 1: that was old, that isn't that was then, that's not now, 890 00:43:15,440 --> 00:43:18,959 Speaker 1: you know, trying to work through it. I haven't experienced something. 891 00:43:19,040 --> 00:43:22,799 Speaker 1: I still don't love heights, but I don't know. Maybe 892 00:43:22,840 --> 00:43:24,719 Speaker 1: I'll just keep trying, you know. I think it's just 893 00:43:24,760 --> 00:43:27,399 Speaker 1: staying aware of our things and staying curious about where 894 00:43:27,400 --> 00:43:30,759 Speaker 1: it came from and the whys behind it, and not 895 00:43:30,840 --> 00:43:33,520 Speaker 1: judging ourselves in the process or others. I think it's 896 00:43:33,560 --> 00:43:35,319 Speaker 1: just like a very freeing place to be. 897 00:43:35,560 --> 00:43:39,719 Speaker 2: So anyway, it's tough though, because I mean, the height, 898 00:43:39,960 --> 00:43:42,560 Speaker 2: the fear of heights thing is very physical for. 899 00:43:42,600 --> 00:43:45,080 Speaker 3: Me, Like I mean too it. 900 00:43:45,640 --> 00:43:49,160 Speaker 2: Yeah, I know it is mostly mental, but it feels 901 00:43:49,520 --> 00:43:52,920 Speaker 2: very physical. Like for sure, I literally cannot bring my 902 00:43:53,040 --> 00:43:56,120 Speaker 2: body to do the thing that I like, Yeah, we 903 00:43:56,160 --> 00:43:58,600 Speaker 2: want to movie. The wavepool that I love in town 904 00:43:58,680 --> 00:44:01,840 Speaker 2: has these two terrifying and one of them you literally 905 00:44:01,920 --> 00:44:03,760 Speaker 2: have to thrust yourself over the side and it feels 906 00:44:03,760 --> 00:44:05,720 Speaker 2: like you're just pushing yourself off the side of the building. 907 00:44:05,760 --> 00:44:07,880 Speaker 3: It's like straight down and I've tried. 908 00:44:08,040 --> 00:44:10,040 Speaker 2: I've sat on the edge and there's nine year olds 909 00:44:10,040 --> 00:44:12,520 Speaker 2: behind me, like come on, my turn and I have 910 00:44:12,560 --> 00:44:14,040 Speaker 2: to get up and go down the other one that's 911 00:44:14,080 --> 00:44:16,399 Speaker 2: like it's still scary, but it's not. It doesn't feel 912 00:44:16,400 --> 00:44:20,200 Speaker 2: like you're dropping all the right thing. And I want 913 00:44:20,239 --> 00:44:22,680 Speaker 2: to do it so bad, And I've done those like 914 00:44:22,719 --> 00:44:25,560 Speaker 2: where like you get into like a cylinder and the 915 00:44:25,600 --> 00:44:29,239 Speaker 2: floor drops out, and so that for me, because the 916 00:44:29,280 --> 00:44:32,840 Speaker 2: control is removed from me, I cannot control when that 917 00:44:32,840 --> 00:44:36,400 Speaker 2: floor drops out, and it's terrifying. But there's I don't 918 00:44:36,400 --> 00:44:38,280 Speaker 2: have to do it. I don't have to press the button. 919 00:44:38,360 --> 00:44:40,640 Speaker 2: It just happens to me. And then when when you 920 00:44:40,680 --> 00:44:42,640 Speaker 2: got on the slide, it's really fucking fun and I 921 00:44:42,640 --> 00:44:43,440 Speaker 2: want to do it again. 922 00:44:43,920 --> 00:44:44,720 Speaker 3: But it's it's. 923 00:44:44,600 --> 00:44:48,720 Speaker 2: The moment of like taking the control and like pushing 924 00:44:48,760 --> 00:44:49,680 Speaker 2: yourself off the ledge. 925 00:44:49,800 --> 00:44:51,839 Speaker 3: I just can't bring myself to do it. I can't 926 00:44:52,000 --> 00:44:53,160 Speaker 3: can't do it. 927 00:44:53,160 --> 00:44:54,040 Speaker 1: It's a tough one. 928 00:44:54,600 --> 00:44:54,960 Speaker 3: Yeah. 929 00:44:55,000 --> 00:44:57,640 Speaker 1: Anyway, well we're just going to be aware about that one. 930 00:45:00,320 --> 00:45:02,640 Speaker 1: But you guys can always email us at the Edge 931 00:45:02,719 --> 00:45:04,800 Speaker 1: at Velvet Sedge dot com. Let us know what you 932 00:45:04,880 --> 00:45:07,200 Speaker 1: thought about the word this month and what you want 933 00:45:07,239 --> 00:45:10,040 Speaker 1: to hear moving forward. I'd love to know kind of 934 00:45:10,040 --> 00:45:12,800 Speaker 1: what's resonating with you guys, what you like. Are you 935 00:45:12,880 --> 00:45:14,919 Speaker 1: liking the sex talk I know that's always a big 936 00:45:14,960 --> 00:45:20,480 Speaker 1: topic for our listeners. Are you wanting more of the 937 00:45:20,480 --> 00:45:24,799 Speaker 1: therapy stuff, just the stories us just ranting. Whatever it 938 00:45:24,960 --> 00:45:27,160 Speaker 1: is that you guys like. Hit us up at the 939 00:45:27,400 --> 00:45:29,520 Speaker 1: Edge at Velvet Sedge dot com. You can also find 940 00:45:29,520 --> 00:45:32,240 Speaker 1: me on Instagram at Velvet's Edge Chip. 941 00:45:33,160 --> 00:45:35,960 Speaker 3: I'm at chipdorsh chr p d. 942 00:45:36,000 --> 00:45:40,000 Speaker 1: O r s ch And as you guys are going 943 00:45:40,040 --> 00:45:45,040 Speaker 1: into the weekend, you're fully aware and you're living on 944 00:45:45,080 --> 00:45:48,200 Speaker 1: the edge of just said I need coffee. Okay, Well, 945 00:45:48,280 --> 00:45:51,640 Speaker 1: I hope you always remember too at Catule. 946 00:45:52,320 --> 00:45:53,720 Speaker 3: Bye.