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Speaker 1: good friend Shirley straw Berry. So happy you're back, Junior.

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Speaker 1: Thank you. Subject. I'm stuck between a sister and a brother,

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Speaker 1: Dear Stephen, Shirley. For the past year, I have been

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Speaker 1: sleeping with my best friend's a little sister. When I

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Speaker 1: we reconnected last year at her brother's Fourth of July party.

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Speaker 1: I hadn't seen this woman since she was a young girl.

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Speaker 1: And my, oh my god, aged, but my, oh my god,

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Speaker 1: oh my, oh my god. Oh I get it, my

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Speaker 1: oh my god. Age. Like yes, Steve, sorry, because I

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Speaker 1: don't know who you. If you talk about the Lord,

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Speaker 1: I don't know. I just figure that one out. God,

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Speaker 1: oh god, God, and my, oh my god, that's what

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Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley. For the past year, I've been sleeping

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Speaker 1: reconnected last year at her brother's Fourth of July party.

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Speaker 1: I hadn't seen this woman since she was a young girl,

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Speaker 1: and my, oh my god, she's aged like fine wine. Okay,

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Speaker 1: I'm fourteen years older than her, but we're all grown now.

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Speaker 1: The Lord took his time with that body. That evening.

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Speaker 1: We caught up, had a few drinks, shared some laughs,

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Speaker 1: and as the night progressed, we ended up in her

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Speaker 1: her brother about us. The problem is, her brother is

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Speaker 1: a six six bodybuilder that is very protective of his sister,

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Speaker 1: and he's a hothead. Because of his size, he's always

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Speaker 1: but I really love his sister, and it's been almost

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Speaker 1: a year. The sneaking around is getting old, and I

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Speaker 1: to be clear about that up front. How should this?

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Speaker 1: I know it's his sister, but you guys are no

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Speaker 1: Do you have a reputation of being like a bad

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Speaker 1: that he's six six, he's a big guy. He likes

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Speaker 1: You failed to mention that. Is that why you're so

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Speaker 1: are you a little guy? Steve Shirley read this letter

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Speaker 1: and so you can understand why this man wrote this letter. Okay,

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Speaker 1: for the past yeah, I've been sleeping with my best

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Speaker 1: So now what you're doing with my little sister after

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Speaker 1: I know all this about you, that's the first problem

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Speaker 1: this woman since she was a young girl. Oh my god,

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Speaker 1: she aged like fine wine. I'm fourteen years older than her,

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Speaker 1: but we all grown now. The Lord took his time

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Speaker 1: with that body. That evening. We caught up. Here we go,

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Speaker 1: here were the rest of her got real. Jakie got

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Speaker 1: We ended up in her brother's coat closet. Okay, all right, now,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna strongly suggest that when you do talk to him,

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Speaker 1: you definitely got to lead that out. Yes. See, see

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Speaker 1: the reason he wrote this letter, Shirley, because as a man,

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Speaker 1: he knows I'm dealing with my best friend who who

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Speaker 1: and I been running dirt and running women together. Now

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Speaker 1: a way behind his back and got his little sister

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Speaker 1: and I got him at the Fourth of July party,

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Speaker 1: had him in his coat closet. He see, he can't

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Speaker 1: Gonna probably need to lead that part out to see Sherley.

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Speaker 1: That's why he nervous, because he got all this information.

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Speaker 1: And then we come back. I'll tell you Rusto. Okay,

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Speaker 1: all right, thank you, Steve. We'll have heard two of

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Speaker 1: Steve's response too. I'm stuck between a sister and a brother.

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Speaker 1: That is a subject of today's Strawberry Letter. Right after

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Speaker 1: this you're listening show, Come on, Steve, Let's recap today's

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Speaker 1: Strawberry letter. The subject I'm stuck between us sister and

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Speaker 1: He is stuck between his sister and brother. They've been

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Speaker 1: body and all that They didn't have some drinks and

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Speaker 1: two things. It's your best friends little sister, you know,

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Speaker 1: Now we've become increasingly closer. We talked about taking it

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Speaker 1: her brother about us. Now. The problem is her brother

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Speaker 1: six six bodybuilder that is very protective of us, his sister,

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Speaker 1: and he's a hothead. Okay, so now right here, you scared, Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: and Shearli and sherlion ain't no, Are you scared? He's scared. Yes,

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Speaker 1: Because of his size, he's always ready for a confrontation

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Speaker 1: over the smallest stuff. Well this ain't small though. See

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Speaker 1: you didn't got behind his back. He gonna say you

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Speaker 1: That's what you fitting to deal with. Now, hold up,

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Speaker 1: I personally never had to disagree with him in all

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Speaker 1: It's that ass whipping you in. Or ain't the clash.

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Speaker 1: It ain't got nothing to do with the clash, homie.

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Speaker 1: It's that asswhipping you scared of. Take it keyword clash

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Speaker 1: ass That's all it is. But I really love his sister,

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Speaker 1: and it's been almost a year and the sneaking around

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Speaker 1: He's the only nice bodybuilding over met all. The rest

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Speaker 1: at all times. And hell yeah they're hot heads because

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Speaker 1: He fit to be choking hand you already noticed. To

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Speaker 1: now A Yeah, you haven't seen him jump on a

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Speaker 1: should we do it together? That's another scary ass statement. See,

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Speaker 1: you need protection. That ain't how you do it. You

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Speaker 1: Or should I talk to her brother a loan? First? Please?

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Speaker 1: You gotta go to her brother a loan? He said, Hey, man,

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Speaker 1: he's gonna knock your ass out for show. A little guy.

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Speaker 1: Though you think, no, he ain't. No, little guy. He

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Speaker 1: just say six six and nobody building. Yeah, okay, you

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Speaker 1: know he might be you know, five ten, you know,

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Speaker 1: He probably a little he probably Tommy said Tommy, dude, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: Tommy or Jay's side. That's whatever you want to do.

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Speaker 1: Oh oh, now you want to be bigger than Tommy,

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Speaker 1: who I happen to team talking? Yeah, now you know

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Speaker 1: hell you mean talking been talking about? What? Talking about? What?

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