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Speaker 1: First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 1: online at Advocateslaw dot com.

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Speaker 2: Julia is on the phone today for a first day

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Speaker 2: follow up. She's getting ghosted by a guy named Walker.

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Speaker 2: So in a minute, we're gonna call him and see

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Speaker 2: if we can figure out why he's ghostinger. But first, Julia,

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Speaker 2: how long has it been since you heard from Walker?

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Speaker 3: About a week?

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Speaker 1: Okay?

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Speaker 4: Week?

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Speaker 5: Okay, that's kind of the sweet spot. How many times

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Speaker 5: have you reached out to him in that in that time?

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Speaker 1: I've sent him a couple of packs, like three or four, Like,

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Speaker 1: what's a couple?

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Speaker 3: About three?

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Speaker 2: It's not too bad, and you've heard nothing from him?

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Speaker 3: Nothing, not a peep.

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Speaker 1: All right, tell us a little bit about your date.

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Speaker 3: He asked me to meet him at a sushi restaurant,

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Speaker 3: which I thought was really cool. Okay, we had dinner

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Speaker 3: and he hadn't had much sushi before, so he let

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Speaker 3: me kind of pick everything out, and he seemed to

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Speaker 3: really like what I picked out, like especially the spicy tuna.

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Speaker 1: Go ahead.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, So dinner was went really well. He told me

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Speaker 3: all about his business studies starting, and he just seems

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Speaker 3: so motivated and passionate. I loved that. And then we

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Speaker 3: went for a walk, which I thought was a really

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Speaker 3: good sign.

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Speaker 1: Okay, how was the walk?

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Speaker 3: It was nice. I mean it lasted about an hour

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Speaker 3: and we just kept talking.

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Speaker 1: How did it end? Like, did you all kiss?

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Speaker 3: Hug five? We hugged?

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Speaker 1: Okay, yeah.

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Speaker 5: Did anything happen between the walk and dinner that may

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Speaker 5: have been a little bit off?

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Speaker 3: I mean, the only thing I can think is that

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Speaker 3: I recently I told him a lot about my work too,

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Speaker 3: because he was telling me a lot about his business.

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Speaker 3: And I recently got a promotion at work and I

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Speaker 3: was so excited about it. Congrats, thank you. So I

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Speaker 3: just wondered if that rubbed him the wrong way.

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Speaker 1: Or something like, how do you think that could rubbed

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Speaker 1: him the wrong way?

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Speaker 3: Well, he loved a little I don't know, like he

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Speaker 3: didn't want to ask me a lot about it or something.

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Speaker 3: And I wondered if because he's having he's just at

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Speaker 3: the beginning stages of starting his business, if he felt

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Speaker 3: a little insecure or something that I'm doing so well

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Speaker 3: in my career.

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Speaker 1: Did he talk a lot about his business?

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Speaker 3: He did talk a fair amount. I mean he seemed

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Speaker 3: excited about it and like he was really interested in

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Speaker 3: what he's doing.

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Speaker 1: I don't know how that would take away from what

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Speaker 1: you're doing, but I mean there are guys like that,

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Speaker 1: so I believe it, but I don't know this.

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Speaker 6: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it seems like maybe he's not quite where he

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Speaker 3: wants to be in his career, so I wonder.

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Speaker 1: If that was it.

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Speaker 5: Well, that's also kind of a red flag for you,

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Speaker 5: because you want to be with somebody that's a little

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Speaker 5: bit more secure in that space.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, right, if that was it, I mean, we're highly

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Speaker 1: speculating it's this point.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, I honestly, I feel like I've come

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Speaker 3: across this before.

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Speaker 1: So Okay, that's what.

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Speaker 3: Made me wonder if that's the only thing I can

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Speaker 3: think of, because we just had the.

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Speaker 1: Best time, okay.

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Speaker 2: And then at the end when you guys hugged, did

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Speaker 2: he say like, oh I want to meet up again

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Speaker 2: or anything like that, or did he just bounce?

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Speaker 3: No, I think we just said we had a really

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Speaker 3: nice time.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Well, we'll see if we can figure out for you.

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Speaker 2: We'll play a song, come back and then call him

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Speaker 2: and see if he'll tell us why he's ghosting you

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Speaker 2: and maybe get you another date.

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Speaker 1: If you still want one.

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Speaker 2: Okay, okay, all right, we'll plays on come back, get

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Speaker 2: your first date follow up next. Right in the middle

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Speaker 2: of your first date follow up, if you're just joining us,

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Speaker 2: Julia is on the phone and she's getting ghosted by

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Speaker 2: a dude named Walker. So we're just about to call

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Speaker 2: him see if he'll tell us why he's ghosting her

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Speaker 2: and maybe get her another date. But before we do that, Julia,

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Speaker 2: why don't you refresh everybody's memory on your date with Walker.

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Speaker 3: We went out for an amazing Seehi's dinner and had

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Speaker 3: a nice walk afterwards, and he told me about his

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Speaker 3: business that he's starting up, and he seems super into it,

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Speaker 3: and I told him all about my promotion at work

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Speaker 3: and how excited.

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Speaker 1: I was about it. Did you make a lot of

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Speaker 1: Walker jokes while you were walking? I couldn't even think

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Speaker 1: about that. I just thought of her right now.

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Speaker 2: That could also be a reason if you wouldn't stop

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Speaker 2: with the Walker jokes, like I would go hand on that.

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Speaker 3: That would have been a great joke. I totally.

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Speaker 1: Okay.

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Speaker 2: I was thinking maybe that is the reason, but maybe not. William,

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Speaker 2: we'll call him right now, are you ready?

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Speaker 6: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Ok, here we go. He Hi'm I thinking the Walker please?

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Speaker 2: Ye hey, man, how are you? This is a radio show,

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Speaker 2: it's called The Jubil Show. My name's Jebel.

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Speaker 1: Hi, I'm Miana. Also on the show. Hi, I'm Victoria.

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Speaker 2: We got an email about you from somebody that you

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Speaker 2: are ghosting and they want to know why you're not

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Speaker 2: calling them back.

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Speaker 4: Oh okay, yeah, okay, this is Julia.

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Speaker 1: Walker.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Julia emailed us, told us a little bit about

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Speaker 2: your date and is really confused why you're ghosting her?

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Speaker 1: Am I telling us?

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Speaker 4: I mean, that's that's about it. I'm starting to think

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Speaker 4: maybe emailing a radio show about it to be on

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Speaker 4: that list, But that wasn't it initially?

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Speaker 1: Okay, so wait, what's the deal? Why are you a ghostinger?

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Speaker 4: I don't know, man. Like, we went to dinner and

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Speaker 4: it was fun. It was great. Actually, we got some sushi.

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Speaker 4: I'm not used to that stuff, but I housed a

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Speaker 4: couple spicy tuneroles. Those things are.

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Speaker 6: Great, and it was fun, you know, like it seemed

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Speaker 6: pretty easy at first, but she kind of got on,

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Speaker 6: Oh god, she kind of got on like this.

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Speaker 4: Tangent about her job and stuff and how she got

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Speaker 4: this new promotion. And then she was very excited about it.

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Speaker 4: It's it's it's cool, but it's kind of dominated the

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Speaker 4: it just kind of felt weird.

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Speaker 1: Not I don't know, she talked about her job too much?

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Speaker 3: Is that it it's not even just about I don't

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Speaker 3: know about the job, but just it seemed to be

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Speaker 3: just all encompassing, you know, like I don't know, like

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Speaker 4: It's just I don't know, it just kind of was

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Speaker 4: it was kind of boring.

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry her job is boring, or the way she

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Speaker 1: talked about it.

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Speaker 4: Well, not that I don't know, you like, I don't

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Speaker 4: know much about finance, but that you know, just the

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Speaker 4: same thing over and over again.

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Speaker 5: You know.

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Speaker 4: Does that make sense that somebody's talking about just something

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Speaker 4: like you get excited and then it just goes downhill

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Speaker 4: and it's like, God, all right, I get it.

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Speaker 2: You know, I mean, is that all she talked about

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Speaker 2: is just wasn't interesting or what I mean?

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Speaker 4: Sure, it's interesting. Interfe She talked about some crimes too,

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Speaker 4: and you know they seem nice, and a little bit

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Speaker 4: about her family but for the whole thing, it was

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Speaker 4: about like why enough promotion and then what I had

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Speaker 4: Now I felt about it afterwards, like God, rent a

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Speaker 6: I shouldn't say that, but I feel bad or something.

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Speaker 3: Did you ask question?

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Speaker 4: I mean the usual stuff like, you know, where'd you

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Speaker 4: grow up and what were you into as a kid?

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Speaker 4: You know, did you play any sports? You know, where

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Speaker 4: do you live in the city like that kind of stuff.

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Speaker 4: You know, pretty pretty basic stuff I think when you're

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Speaker 1: All right, well thanks for telling us, man, Yeah.

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Speaker 4: For sure, thanks for asking.

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Speaker 1: No problem.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Julia is also on the on the phone and

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Speaker 2: has been listening to this whole time and wants to

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Speaker 2: talk to you.

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Speaker 1: I shoul tell you that I do you.

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, no, I'm I'm sure she is, man, Yeah, right.

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Speaker 1: She really is.

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Speaker 4: Hey, Hey, welcome, Hey Julia.

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Speaker 3: Hey. Yeah, I guess I'm a little confused. I mean,

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Speaker 4: It any more plainly than I did when I didn't

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Speaker 4: want to be mean. It's just I'm really happy for you.

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Speaker 4: But it just I don't know. I just feel like

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Speaker 3: I mean, I just feel like someone can't accept a

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Speaker 4: Well, I mean, that's that's not it. That's no, it's

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Speaker 4: not it at all. It's you know, I just want

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Speaker 3: I just are you intimidated by me?

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Speaker 4: Not even a little bit?

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Speaker 3: No, no, not at all.

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Speaker 4: I think it's great, you know, it seems to make

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Speaker 4: you really happy, and that's wonderful. I just don't know

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Speaker 3: Well, I think you're intimidated by me, and you can't

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Speaker 3: be with a woman who's more successful than you. I

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Speaker 4: I'm sorry, I really don't know how to respond to that.

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Speaker 4: But that's absurd, that's not what this is. And it

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Speaker 4: feels kind of I don't know, that feels oddly accusatory

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Speaker 4: and weird to go through. It's not that at all,

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Speaker 4: trust me. I just think we're on two different playing

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Speaker 4: fields right now. That's all.

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Speaker 3: Okay, I think that's exactly what it is. But agree

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Speaker 3: to disagree. I guess sure.

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Speaker 4: I guess. Yeah, I'm sorry if I gave you that impression,

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Speaker 4: but that's not what this is, so please don't harbor

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Speaker 3: Will towards Okay, Well, if you don't want someone who's

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Speaker 3: happy and feels good about their job, then you know

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Speaker 3: what can I do about that?

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Speaker 4: There's nothing you can do about it.

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Speaker 3: Keep being those things.

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Speaker 4: It's just not for me. I think it's great. I'm

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Speaker 4: very happy for you.

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Speaker 3: Okay, Well, I don't really believe you. So you know,

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Speaker 3: just because you can't be happy at your job doesn't

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Speaker 3: mean I can't be happy at mine.

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Speaker 4: I sure.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Okay, Walker, would you like another day with Julia?

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Speaker 1: We'll pay for it.

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Speaker 3: I mean, I think that would be a horrible idea.

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Speaker 1: This was a row

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Speaker 3: Jubile's first date Fall