Speaker 1: Everything that goes into things that you can't consciously think
Speaker 1: of or control yourself. That's all the subconscious mind at play,
Speaker 1: and that's why it's so powerful and so important that
Speaker 1: you get ahold of that. Welcome to the one you feed.
Speaker 1: Throughout time, great thinkers have recognized the importance of the
Speaker 1: thoughts we have. Quotes like garbage in, garbage out, or
Speaker 1: you are what you think ring true. And yet for
Speaker 1: many of us, our thoughts don't strengthen or empower us.
Speaker 1: We tend toward negativity, self pity, jealousy, or fear. We
Speaker 1: see what we don't have instead of what we do.
Speaker 1: We think things that hold us back and dampen our spirit.
Speaker 1: But it's not just about thinking. Our actions matter. It
Speaker 1: takes conscious, consistent, and creative effort to make a life
Speaker 1: worth living. This podcast is about how other people keep
Speaker 1: themselves moving in the right direction, how they feed their
Speaker 1: good wolf. Thanks for joining us. Our guest on this
Speaker 1: episode is Justin Stenstrom, a nationally acclaimed life coach, author, entrepreneur,
Speaker 1: and speaker. Justin is the founder of Elite Man magazine
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Speaker 1: Justin Stunstrom. Hi, Justin, Welcome to the show. Eric. Thanks
Speaker 1: for having me man, I appreciate it. Yeah, you're a
Speaker 1: fellow podcaster. You have a podcast called The Elite Man Podcast,
Speaker 1: and you also have a magazine. So we'll jump into
Speaker 1: some of that here in a little bit. But let's
Speaker 1: start like we always do, with the parable. There's a
Speaker 1: grandfather who's talking with his grandson. He says, in life,
Speaker 1: there are two wolves inside us that are always at battle.
Speaker 1: One is a good wolf, which represents things like kindness
Speaker 1: and bravery and love, and the other is a bad wolf,
Speaker 1: which represents things like greed and hatred and fear. And
Speaker 1: the grandson stops and he thinks about it for a second,
Speaker 1: and he looks up at his grandfather and he says, well, grandfather,
Speaker 1: which one wins? And the grandfather says, the one you feed.
Speaker 1: So I'd like to start off by asking you what
Speaker 1: that parable means to you in your life and in
Speaker 1: the work that you do. To me, it means you
Speaker 1: have like this kind of fire going inside. It's it's
Speaker 1: almost like a you know, a car engine. It's constantly going.
Speaker 1: If you control it, you know, you're you're running smooth,
Speaker 1: the cars great, everything is great. You can it takes
Speaker 1: your places. You can get things done. You know, you
Speaker 1: get to and from work, you get to go, you know,
Speaker 1: travel different places with it. If you let the fire
Speaker 1: kind of take its toll on you, or you know,
Speaker 1: get out of control, it can take over. And that's
Speaker 1: kind of like what your thoughts are like. You have
Speaker 1: negative thoughts throughout the day. You have, you know, thoughts
Speaker 1: that can dictate if you're feeling low, if you're feeling
Speaker 1: maybe down or depressed or anxious or worried all the time,
Speaker 1: and that can take its toll on you and cause
Speaker 1: things like depression or anxiety or panic problems. Um, but
Speaker 1: if you can take control of your thoughts, your you know,
Speaker 1: you're the thoughts in your head, you can actually turn
Speaker 1: that into positive things like you know, confidence, being bold,
Speaker 1: being decisive, being a leader, just different like positive emotions.
Speaker 1: So it's really just kind of how you control yourself.
Speaker 1: And you know, there's this fire always going inside you,
Speaker 1: but if you can control that fire, you can use
Speaker 1: it to your advantage. Excellent. One of the things that
Speaker 1: I saw when I was researching you was a lot
Speaker 1: of talk about n LP neuro linguistic programming, and that's
Speaker 1: been something that I have been interested in exploring on
Speaker 1: this show a little bit. So it sounds like that's
Speaker 1: something you've got a pretty deep immersion in. Yeah, I've
Speaker 1: I've done a lot of NLP training and you know,
Speaker 1: just read books on it and have used it in
Speaker 1: my own personal life to overcome a number of different problems.
Speaker 1: N LP and and actually hypnosis are like the two
Speaker 1: big ones. Yeah, well, let's talk about NLP. You know
Speaker 1: what it is and and how you've used it. Yeah,
Speaker 1: So n LP is neural linguistic programming. It was a
Speaker 1: technique pioneered by John Grinder and Richard Bayler back and
Speaker 1: I believe the seventies, and these guys basically studied all
Speaker 1: of the major like psychological and mental programming and you know,
Speaker 1: doctors and researchers at the time. They took all these
Speaker 1: kind of different concepts and they also were actually big
Speaker 1: into into hypnosis. So they studied guys like Milton Erickson,
Speaker 1: who was like the you know, if anyone knows anything
Speaker 1: about hypnosis, he's like the father of hypnosis. Ericsonian hypnosis
Speaker 1: is still used today. It's one of the most popular
Speaker 1: methods of hypnosis. But they took like all these different
Speaker 1: kind of teachings and practices and put it all into one.
Speaker 1: And basically, what what it comes down to when you
Speaker 1: when you use n LP is um. I mean there's
Speaker 1: a number of different things, but it's basically using pictures,
Speaker 1: sounds and images and um. When you think about something
Speaker 1: you're kind of you visualize it in a picture and
Speaker 1: sometimes it even has audio. Like you use all your
Speaker 1: senses to visualize and and imagine something like you know,
Speaker 1: an emotion. For so you have a fear, you know,
Speaker 1: you you'd think of the fear and all the things
Speaker 1: that go into that, and all of a sudden, it's
Speaker 1: a it's a big picture. It's you know, you see
Speaker 1: literally see the picture and taking actions and unfolding like
Speaker 1: in your mind, and that's what you kind of focus on.
Speaker 1: So if you're focusing on something negative, that picture is
Speaker 1: very large, arge you can hear it, it's very clear,
Speaker 1: it's vivid and um, that's kind of the overplaying, the
Speaker 1: overrunning picture that goes on and on, and so that
Speaker 1: fear becomes like worse and worse because you're you're just
Speaker 1: kind of making it more vivid and more clear. And
Speaker 1: the gist of using n LP is replacing that bad picture,
Speaker 1: the vivid, you know, terrible picture of something happening, with
Speaker 1: a positive one. So you you can literally like there's
Speaker 1: different ways of doing it, but you literally can like
Speaker 1: shrink it down. You can like throw it away like
Speaker 1: like picture yourself like tossing it like a mile or
Speaker 1: miles away, and it's like disappearing. Um. You can then
Speaker 1: replace that with an even bigger picture of something positive happening.
Speaker 1: And it's it's literally just like training your mind to
Speaker 1: wipe out negative pictures, negative thoughts, negative audio, sensory sounds
Speaker 1: and all that other stuff with positive ones and and
Speaker 1: just training yourself on continually doing it. And the more
Speaker 1: you do it, the more you get good at literally
Speaker 1: like this visualization technique, but the easier it becomes to
Speaker 1: to change your emotions and to change your feelings and
Speaker 1: to positi at once. I'm always interested in things that
Speaker 1: stress positive thinking. You know, very strongly, what's the role
Speaker 1: of sort of acknowledging emotion and legitimate emotions and things
Speaker 1: that happen in your life that are challenging with also
Speaker 1: being positive and focusing on something like n LP. How
Speaker 1: do you balance those things in your life? I guess
Speaker 1: it just comes down to the situation. Like there will
Speaker 1: be times where beforehand, like I've and I've used this
Speaker 1: in the past two I've battled anxiety. I've battled panic
Speaker 1: attacks where I was getting them three or four times
Speaker 1: a week. I battled depression to the point where I
Speaker 1: was suicidal and it was horrible for about six months
Speaker 1: in my life, like constantly every single day, I was
Speaker 1: like thinking about suicide. I'll deal with it as it
Speaker 1: as it kind of comes to me, but I'm always
Speaker 1: sort of proactive with it. So being proactive with it
Speaker 1: means like doing these visualization techniques, these kind of n
Speaker 1: LP teachings, uh, doing hypnosis regularly where I'll have like
Speaker 1: you know, the hypnosis CD or MP three hypnosis, and
Speaker 1: you know, I'll do that in the morning every couple
Speaker 1: of times a month just to kind of because at
Speaker 1: this point, you know, I don't have any problems with
Speaker 1: anxiety or depression, but I'll kind of do it as
Speaker 1: like a maintenance thing. And back, you know, way back
Speaker 1: when when I did have these problems, I would do
Speaker 1: it every single day. Is a maintenance thing. But on
Speaker 1: the other hand, when things like randomly pop up when
Speaker 1: I'm faced with a new challenge, when I'm faced with
Speaker 1: you know, some crazy fear or I want to overcome
Speaker 1: something in the moment, I've actually learned that you can't
Speaker 1: really be proactive obviously in that situation. So what I've
Speaker 1: learned instead is to actually a lot of the time
Speaker 1: face these problems head on, like face these fears and
Speaker 1: and tackle them and kind of um face them head
Speaker 1: on without trying to avoid them or or hide them
Speaker 1: or use anything else to kind of mask them. So
Speaker 1: it's kind of like a two different techniques or two
Speaker 1: different processes at work. Here there's a proactive thing where
Speaker 1: I'm using like these things and kind of working on
Speaker 1: my subconscious mind and training myself in a way. But
Speaker 1: on the other hand, I've also kind of adapted this
Speaker 1: ability to tackle different fears, tackle different challenges head on
Speaker 1: and and and kind of have the courage to face them. Now,
Speaker 1: does NLPs suggest that a lot of what happens with
Speaker 1: this is happening subconsciously, and as n LP intended to
Speaker 1: address the subconscious That's an interesting question. I read the
Speaker 1: book by Richard Bandler actually a couple months ago, and
Speaker 1: he sort of reiterated what I thought all along, which
Speaker 1: is NLP isn't really meant to kind of figure out
Speaker 1: how all the problems came about, or you know, the
Speaker 1: whole um history of the problems, or like you know,
Speaker 1: the diagnosis of it or why you're getting the problems
Speaker 1: are all kind of like the back channel work of
Speaker 1: of the actual problem. It's it's very effective and actually
Speaker 1: just being a technique to cut the problem out, to
Speaker 1: to knock it off. So if you get these problems,
Speaker 1: like n LP is a good way to start implementing
Speaker 1: NLP would be a good way to start fighting them
Speaker 1: off and getting less of the problem. Like, it's great
Speaker 1: for fears, it's great for phobias, it's great for boosting
Speaker 1: your confidence, it's good for things like that. But as
Speaker 1: far as like the whole why you're getting the thing
Speaker 1: in the first place, it doesn't really address that as much.
Speaker 1: You'd probably want to, you know, talk to some psychologist
Speaker 1: or some kind of professional if you're talking about like
Speaker 1: kind of deep rooted problems. If that answers your question, yep.
Speaker 1: So tell me about hypnosis. That's an interesting one. I
Speaker 1: haven't known very many people who have had a lot
Speaker 1: of success with hypnosis. I'm also not saying I've known
Speaker 1: any people who haven't. I just haven't talked to many
Speaker 1: people who have tried it. So tell me about your
Speaker 1: experience with it. Where where did you start with it,
Speaker 1: and what was it able to help you do. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I've been I've been a huge fan of hypnosis, probably
Speaker 1: not for close to a decade. And I'm a huge
Speaker 1: fan of it because it was the single And I've
Speaker 1: tried basically everything on this I'm a self help kind
Speaker 1: of junkie and I've tried I'll try things all the time,
Speaker 1: just random things, that pop up. I'm always research and stuff,
Speaker 1: always on YouTube and you know, reading books. Um, but
Speaker 1: I've tried everything under the sun, especially back close to
Speaker 1: a decade now, where I was getting these major problems
Speaker 1: with depression, anxiety, panic attacks, etcetera. UM, I was just
Speaker 1: throwing things at the wall and seeing what's stuck. And
Speaker 1: as it turns out, hypnosis was the best thing I
Speaker 1: threw at the wall and stock and it made the
Speaker 1: greatest impact in my life. So hypnosis was the single
Speaker 1: best technique for getting me out of that suicidal depression.
Speaker 1: And I would plug in. I mentioned a moment ago like.
Speaker 1: Hypnosis is generally about twenty to thirty minutes a session, um,
Speaker 1: and you do it about once every day for thirty
Speaker 1: days or so. I mean, they'll say every couple of
Speaker 1: days is okay, but I recommend doing it every single
Speaker 1: day to really program your subconscious mind. And for anyone
Speaker 1: who doesn't know, the subconscious mind is literally the most
Speaker 1: powerful part of the mind. So you have the conscious mind,
Speaker 1: which is basically like what you're thinking now, what you're
Speaker 1: know that we're having this conversation, This is like conscious
Speaker 1: work at play. We're thinking about what we're saying we're talking,
Speaker 1: we're saying these words, and this is all conscious. But
Speaker 1: you know, you can't just like snap your fingers and
Speaker 1: say if you if you're feeling down, if you're feeling depressed.
Speaker 1: You can't snap your fingers and say, you know, I
Speaker 1: want to be happy, I want to feel great. I
Speaker 1: want to be energized and excited and loving life. And unfortunately,
Speaker 1: you know it doesn't work that way, because that's the
Speaker 1: conscious mind, that's what's happening right now and what you
Speaker 1: can think and what you can do. The subconscious mind, however,
Speaker 1: is the part of your mind that controls your feelings,
Speaker 1: your emotions, your unconscious bodily rhythms, like your heartbeat, your
Speaker 1: it regulates your breathing when you don't think about your breathing,
Speaker 1: everything that goes into things that you can't consciously think
Speaker 1: of or control yourself. That's all the subconscious mind to play.
Speaker 1: And that's why it's so powerful and so important that
Speaker 1: you get ahold of that. Hypnosis just so happens to
Speaker 1: be probably the most effective way to tap into the
Speaker 1: subconscious mind. So you get into a super relaxed state
Speaker 1: of mind. It's almost like a state between sleep and
Speaker 1: being conscious. Like right now, like we're talking, it's that
Speaker 1: in between states. So if you're sleeping, it's not really
Speaker 1: gonna work, and if you're conscious right now, it's not
Speaker 1: really gonna work either. So it gets you into like
Speaker 1: a very relax like it's almost like a guided meditation
Speaker 1: where if you've ever done any meditation, eric you you
Speaker 1: have an understanding of kind of like that feeling of
Speaker 1: of of kind of being like at bliss, like no worries,
Speaker 1: no cares, you're just kind of like, you know, very
Speaker 1: very comfortable, almost like you want to sleep, but you're
Speaker 1: not quite sleeping. That's like the state you want to
Speaker 1: be in for hypnosis, and you go to like this
Speaker 1: kind of it's called like an induction where they take
Speaker 1: you the hypnotist. You know, you're listening, just listening to
Speaker 1: the hypnotists talked throughout you know, the twenty thirty minutes
Speaker 1: and um again he's putting you into like a relaxed
Speaker 1: state of mind, and he's putting you into the induction.
Speaker 1: So he takes you down to like this countdown from
Speaker 1: like ten, seven, six, three, two, one, and then by
Speaker 1: the time you get to one, you're you know, you're
Speaker 1: in that hypnotic state, so to speak. And when you're
Speaker 1: in that hypnotic state, you're super super relaxed, like you're
Speaker 1: literally just about to go to sleep, and just like I,
Speaker 1: like I said a moment ago, like in that super
Speaker 1: bliss kind of meditative state. But at that point, your
Speaker 1: subconscious mind, it's almost like the gates to your subconscious
Speaker 1: mind open up. And at that point when they open up,
Speaker 1: the positive suggestions like positive affirmations, positive suggestions, UM techniques
Speaker 1: and strategies that are are outlined in the hypnosis UH
Speaker 1: session are to come out and they start to train,
Speaker 1: like literally program your mind into having positive beliefs, positive feelings,
Speaker 1: positive emotions, and start to fix the areas in your
Speaker 1: life that you want to be fixed. So that could
Speaker 1: be confidence, that could be having problems with anxiety, that
Speaker 1: could be Like for me, it was depression. I was
Speaker 1: super super depressed. So I was getting positive affirmations about
Speaker 1: being grateful for what I have, thinking of all the
Speaker 1: things in my life that I should you know, be
Speaker 1: happy about that most people don't have UM concentrating on
Speaker 1: that and just focusing on like all the good and
Speaker 1: all the happiness and enjoy in my life currently right
Speaker 1: now that I was overlooking, and so for twenty to
Speaker 1: thirty minutes a day, I was tapping into the subconscious mind,
Speaker 1: literally just flooding it with all these positive emotions. And
Speaker 1: after doing this for three to four weeks, those positive
Speaker 1: emotions started to really take shape in my life. And
Speaker 1: it's it's sort of just like hacked into my subconscious
Speaker 1: mind and hacked into my feelings, which at the time
Speaker 1: we're all, you know, negative and depressed and depressed feelings,
Speaker 1: and it tapped into that and it literally just reprogrammed
Speaker 1: it like you'd reprogram a computer. And from that point forward,
Speaker 1: I was happier. I was excited about life again. I
Speaker 1: felt like I had a purpose, and I was grateful
Speaker 1: for the things I did have. Hey, everyone, before you
Speaker 1: hit that thirty second forward button, a quick discussion. A
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Speaker 1: interview with Justin Steinstrom. Now, did you do this hypnosis
Speaker 1: pretty much like you're saying via c d S Or
Speaker 1: did you visit a hypnotist? I did of this on
Speaker 1: my own, just I got some MP three's off off
Speaker 1: on online. It was, you know, by a guy by
Speaker 1: the name of Dr Andrew Dobson. He is, I believe
Speaker 1: in New Zealand hypnotist and one of the best, in
Speaker 1: my opinion, out there. The thing that's really cool about
Speaker 1: this too, it's not like it's super expensive. It's not
Speaker 1: like you gotta drop hundreds of thousands of dollars to
Speaker 1: get uh MP three's online, even if it's this guy
Speaker 1: or anybody else, are typically like ten or fifteen bucks.
Speaker 1: And you have that, you own it for life, you
Speaker 1: can use it whenever you want. Again, it's like twenty
Speaker 1: thirty minutes of just listening to an MP three and
Speaker 1: you plug in, you know, your headphones, your earbuds, go
Speaker 1: to a quiet room, uh you know, dim the lights,
Speaker 1: maybe even shut them off, and you know, for twenty
Speaker 1: thirty minutes, you have a professional hypnotist in your ear
Speaker 1: teaching you how to overcome some major problems. Now, do
Speaker 1: you listen to the same one day after day or
Speaker 1: is it like a rotating cast. I'm just kind of curious,
Speaker 1: you know what you did? So I just listened to
Speaker 1: the same exact one every single day. And it's not
Speaker 1: like you know, you're it gets like older, you know,
Speaker 1: I'm thinking like you know, or people may be thinking
Speaker 1: like oh, maybe that'll get older, you'll kind of get
Speaker 1: boring after doing it, because it actually doesn't because, like
Speaker 1: I said, it's not that like you're in that state
Speaker 1: of mind where you're consciously listening to it's a very
Speaker 1: weird state of mind. Actually you don't actually really remember
Speaker 1: what's being like you'll remember bits and pieces, but you
Speaker 1: won't remember like the entirety of what you're listening to. Um,
Speaker 1: you'll remember like bits and pieces. And then at the
Speaker 1: end of it, when it's kind of funny, you know
Speaker 1: you're in a hypnotic state. When at the end of it,
Speaker 1: it's called like the wake up, so he has like
Speaker 1: you know, the countdown where you're the induction where you're
Speaker 1: going from ten to one. On the wake up, it's
Speaker 1: like one to five, and then by the time you
Speaker 1: hit five, you're fully alert, fully awaken, and back into
Speaker 1: a conscious state of mind. So you know you're you've
Speaker 1: actually done like a successful hypnotic UH session when you
Speaker 1: don't really remember the entire of you know, the entire
Speaker 1: twenty thirty minutes of what what's been said, but you
Speaker 1: wake up when the guy says five, and like you're
Speaker 1: fully conscious when you're like you know, like the music
Speaker 1: is kind of playing in the background because they have
Speaker 1: like kind of relaxing yoga type music typically in the background,
Speaker 1: so you hear the background. You can kind of hear them,
Speaker 1: you know, trailing talking up to or leading up to
Speaker 1: that five, and then when it hits five, it's like
Speaker 1: you're fully conscious and that's when you know it worked.
Speaker 1: That's when you know you had a good hypnotic session
Speaker 1: because you're fully up by the time you hit five.
Speaker 1: So it doesn't get like boring, doesn't get like repetitive
Speaker 1: at all because you don't even actually really listen to
Speaker 1: it throughout the session. Yeah, I've heard and read studies
Speaker 1: that say like certain people are able to be hypnotized
Speaker 1: and other people just aren't. Like there's some sort of
Speaker 1: you know, there's lots of different studies about is it
Speaker 1: a genetic thing? But I'm just kind of curious because
Speaker 1: I've never really tried it, and so, uh, it might
Speaker 1: be something might check out and see how it works. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I think the number is something like people are hypnotize able.
Speaker 1: There's like a small percentage maybe five of the population
Speaker 1: that can't be And then I think, like maybe I'm
Speaker 1: just kind of get and that's kind of the numbers
Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure of around that range. But I think
Speaker 1: it might be like fifty to say are highly hypnotizeable
Speaker 1: and the other like remaining percentage of like people that
Speaker 1: you've got to kind of work with and play around
Speaker 1: with two to actually get it to work. Ye, you
Speaker 1: host a podcast, I'd be interested in what some of
Speaker 1: your favorite guests have been or maybe some of the
Speaker 1: key learnings you've gotten out of doing the show. I
Speaker 1: know that's a hard question. People ask me that and
Speaker 1: I'm like, I can't answer that, but but pull a
Speaker 1: few out of some things that really stood out to you. Yeah, definitely. Man,
Speaker 1: there's so much as you know, man, there's so many
Speaker 1: different cool guests that you have on and just you
Speaker 1: mean you literally learned something from every guest. I think
Speaker 1: or you have like this unique conversation and it just
Speaker 1: podcasting is amazing in general, but you have these amazing
Speaker 1: conversations like week to week with these incredible people, and
Speaker 1: for me especially, I think for you too as well,
Speaker 1: if I'm not mistaken, you have like kind of a
Speaker 1: mix of people and kind of it's awesome in that
Speaker 1: way where you get to just like mix things up
Speaker 1: and constantly like play off your interests and what you
Speaker 1: you know, are interested in yourself, and for me, I
Speaker 1: get to learn something new every single time. I've had
Speaker 1: guys like Robert Green on the show who is you
Speaker 1: know obviously you know, super super successful author. I'm a
Speaker 1: I'm an author of a couple of books myself, So
Speaker 1: I look up to someone like that who's had like
Speaker 1: five U international you know, New York Times best selling books,
Speaker 1: and I've read every single one of his books. He's
Speaker 1: one of my favorite authors. But I got to pick
Speaker 1: his brain about like his strategies for writing. I was
Speaker 1: asking him about, you know, if I've ever thought of
Speaker 1: writing a novel, you know, like a Game of Thrones
Speaker 1: kind of thing, and um, just cool, like the little
Speaker 1: things I picked up off him. I also had a guy,
Speaker 1: the Shark Tank guy, Kevin Harrington on a few months back.
Speaker 1: Really cool. I mean this guy's like a you know,
Speaker 1: five hundred million dollar net worth kind of guy. I
Speaker 1: mean he's friends with Mark Cuban and all those other dudes.
Speaker 1: So I have so much respect for a guy like that.
Speaker 1: And again picking his brain and talking business strategy with
Speaker 1: somebody like that, I mean that's priceless. It's to do
Speaker 1: something like that would cost like thousands of dollars if
Speaker 1: you wanted to have like a one on one, you know,
Speaker 1: fullone consultate with one of these guys and to get
Speaker 1: them on the show and basically just picked their brains
Speaker 1: and ask them questions that I would ask them if
Speaker 1: I were paying them money. It's just like one of
Speaker 1: the coolest things in the world. But as far as
Speaker 1: like a lesson goes man for all the guests that
Speaker 1: come on the show. At this point, we've had hundreds
Speaker 1: of guests, But the common theme that I think is
Speaker 1: recurring and everyone that comes on the show is the
Speaker 1: sort of failure, failure or rejection that they faced early
Speaker 1: on in their career or their life that really um
Speaker 1: propelled them into unbelievable success. Like every guest I've had
Speaker 1: on has had unbelieved not just one either, by the way,
Speaker 1: usually it's like multiple different failures or rejections or you know,
Speaker 1: they did this these things in the beginning that they
Speaker 1: thought we're gonna grow great and they fell flat on
Speaker 1: their face. Um, And what separates them from all the
Speaker 1: other people that don't make it or aren't as successful
Speaker 1: as them is that they use it to kind of
Speaker 1: fuel themselves, to to use that as like a motivator
Speaker 1: for their success. So they just instead of you know,
Speaker 1: that project ailing or a big failure in their life,
Speaker 1: their personal life, or their business life, they use that
Speaker 1: and just you know, do ten times better than than
Speaker 1: they ever thought they were going to do before. And
Speaker 1: they just constantly carry that around as like a motivator
Speaker 1: and something that pushes them and drives them. So that's
Speaker 1: one of the big things I learned, and kind of
Speaker 1: that's reiterated every time someone comes on. Yeah, I agree.
Speaker 1: Getting to talk to all these different people and ask
Speaker 1: whatever questions you have about them and follow your interest
Speaker 1: is part of the reason I love doing this so much.
Speaker 1: I mean, it's probably the top reason I love doing it,
Speaker 1: of course, except being with Chris Um. I want to
Speaker 1: talk a little bit about depression again, because you've talked
Speaker 1: about n LP, You've talked about hypnosis. You've also talked
Speaker 1: about exercise, diet, and supplements, and I'm kind of interested
Speaker 1: in the supplement piece, but I also want to talk
Speaker 1: about exercise and diet. It's one of those things that's
Speaker 1: such a boring topic. On one hand, to be like, well,
Speaker 1: if you're feeling crappy, take care of your body. And yet,
Speaker 1: over and over and over, every guest, all the studies,
Speaker 1: everything points to the fact that if you want to
Speaker 1: feel good, you've got to take care of yourself physically,
Speaker 1: otherwise you're gonna feel crappy. It just depends what you know.
Speaker 1: As a guest recently said, what flavor of crap, It's
Speaker 1: gonna be so um, But I'd be interested supplement wise,
Speaker 1: what is it that you found that helped you depression,
Speaker 1: that helped you with depression. Yeah, so there's a few
Speaker 1: big ones out there. And the thing with me too
Speaker 1: is I'm a very kind of safe, cautious type of guy.
Speaker 1: So anything I'll recommend or anything I'll put into my
Speaker 1: body personally is something that I've done a ton of
Speaker 1: research on or things that I know is a safe
Speaker 1: and it's not gonna do like any crazy side effects
Speaker 1: or do me any harm personally. I wouldn't experiment with
Speaker 1: any prescription jugs. For instance, when I when I was
Speaker 1: you know, first went to the doctors for this kind
Speaker 1: of thing back in the day, Uh, they immediately try
Speaker 1: to throw a bunch of antidepressants and anti anxiety medication
Speaker 1: at me, but I didn't want to go that row.
Speaker 1: I didn't want to have to depend on something, um
Speaker 1: like a lot of other people, not like you know,
Speaker 1: saying I was better than anyone else or you know,
Speaker 1: I have like some kind of superiority because I didn't
Speaker 1: take it. But it was just more like a personal
Speaker 1: preference for me. I didn't. I was kind of honestly
Speaker 1: kind of scared of going down that route. So I chose, like,
Speaker 1: you know, a safer alternative, and a few of the
Speaker 1: ones that really helped me out. A few of the
Speaker 1: ones that stick out, uh, fish oil and especially like
Speaker 1: a triple strength fish oil one that has a lot
Speaker 1: of d H A and e P A and it
Speaker 1: is really really good if you just, i mean look
Speaker 1: into a little bit of research into that. They say
Speaker 1: the balance between omega sixes and omega three's, especially in
Speaker 1: the Western diet, is unbelievably high. I forget the exact number,
Speaker 1: but it's like twenty times more than it should be,
Speaker 1: like ratio wise, I think it should be like um,
Speaker 1: you know, two or three to one maybe like omega
Speaker 1: six to omega three and the Western diet it's something
Speaker 1: ridiculous like twenty six to one, Like we consume so
Speaker 1: much more omega six is than omega three's. So I
Speaker 1: mean that just throws the entire body out, you know,
Speaker 1: especially the brain out of flux. Like the brain is
Speaker 1: is made up of fatty tissue, fatty acids. Um. That's
Speaker 1: what you know, we we run on. That's kind of
Speaker 1: our juice in the brain. And when you have an
Speaker 1: imbalance of that, it's just like tipping the scale. It's
Speaker 1: almost like throwing like you know, lava or acid in
Speaker 1: your brain instead of like you know, the instead of
Speaker 1: like getting blood and you know, clean blood, it's like
Speaker 1: you're dumping like you know, just crap and and waste
Speaker 1: into the brain constantly, and so you're gonna have these problems,
Speaker 1: Like it's no wonder that we have so much inflammation.
Speaker 1: It's no wonder that we have problems like tendonitis. Uh,
Speaker 1: it's no wonder that we have so much problems with anxiety, depression,
Speaker 1: just all sorts of problems in you know, health problems
Speaker 1: associated with with inflammation, and fixing that balances is one
Speaker 1: of the most important things. So just consuming a fish
Speaker 1: oil supplement every single day. I recommend, like I said,
Speaker 1: a triple strength one, and I actually consume it two
Speaker 1: to three times a day, So it's like a thousand
Speaker 1: milligrams um of E P A and d H A combined,
Speaker 1: and I'll take even uh two to three times of it,
Speaker 1: which is actually not as high as you might think.
Speaker 1: But you know, people might be like, oh, why are
Speaker 1: you taking a per day supplement two to three times
Speaker 1: a day? If you do the research on it, uh,
Speaker 1: doctors actually will recommend somewhere to like three to four
Speaker 1: grams or four three to four thousand milligrams of UM
Speaker 1: a fish oil a day. So just taking a fish
Speaker 1: oil will will typically help anybody out, and especially in
Speaker 1: the Western diet, but it will help you out in
Speaker 1: a number of things, especially with like inflammation, especially with
Speaker 1: things UM like any kind of brain related health problem
Speaker 1: is huge. Vitamin D is another one as well, especially
Speaker 1: if you live in a climate that doesn't get enough sunlight,
Speaker 1: or if you're in like in Boston where I'm from,
Speaker 1: you have like fall in the winter seasons where we
Speaker 1: don't get enough sun, and so we have plenty of sun.
Speaker 1: Right now, it's eighty degrees outside, as I mentioned to
Speaker 1: your earlier, beautiful day, uh, spring and summertime. Here is
Speaker 1: is perfectly. I get plenty of vitamin D. I don't
Speaker 1: even supplement typically with any supplement in the in the
Speaker 1: spring or summer, but come fall in winter time, I'm
Speaker 1: taking U probably chew to five thousand. I use of
Speaker 1: high quality vitamin D supplement a day. As you probably heard,
Speaker 1: there's something called seasonal depression. Vitamin D is huge and
Speaker 1: hundreds of processes in the body. I mean, it's works
Speaker 1: and just a number of different things. It helps regulate
Speaker 1: your hormones, it helps with brain function, it helps with
Speaker 1: your heart, I mean, it just helps across the board
Speaker 1: obviously bone health. But vitamin D is is something that
Speaker 1: we typically don't get enough of, and just supp learning
Speaker 1: with that will also do wonders. Another thing is is
Speaker 1: a B complex, which is kind of like the stress vitamins.
Speaker 1: You have your b ones, your your niacin your B
Speaker 1: six B twelve, which is huge and a lot of things.
Speaker 1: And getting a supplement that has like all of these
Speaker 1: in good quantity of it, like a fifty milligram minimum
Speaker 1: for across the board B vitamins is very very helpful.
Speaker 1: And then the other thing, the last kind of very
Speaker 1: safe and very effective sort of alternative to like prescription
Speaker 1: drugs or um sort of like. The natural route to
Speaker 1: combating depression is a mineral called magnesium, which I'm sure
Speaker 1: a lot of you have heard of, but maybe not
Speaker 1: as many of you know why it's so effective. Magnesium
Speaker 1: is one of the most important and overlooked minerals in
Speaker 1: the body. This one actually plays a role in over
Speaker 1: three hundred processes in the body, and the research on
Speaker 1: magnesium for depression alone is astounding once you start to
Speaker 1: look into it. A lot of people who are depressed
Speaker 1: are actually eight percent of the American population is estimated
Speaker 1: to be deficient in this mineral in magnesium, which is
Speaker 1: a huge number. Like four and five people are are
Speaker 1: low in this and are and don't get enough on
Speaker 1: a day to day basis of it. So most people
Speaker 1: will do well supplementing with magnesium, but um people, especially
Speaker 1: with depression, have an overwhelming propensity to be uh deficient
Speaker 1: in magnesium. And magnesium is importance on the brain and
Speaker 1: how the brain functions is incredible. It just like the
Speaker 1: three processes that it works on in the body, many
Speaker 1: of those work in the brain and they help regulate
Speaker 1: Like I said, hormones, they help with the neurotransmitters in
Speaker 1: the brain. They help with like amino acid production and
Speaker 1: just facilitate so many different processes and help the brain
Speaker 1: function optimally. And also is it turns out it's it's
Speaker 1: really good for things like anxiety and stress as well.
Speaker 1: So what kind of magnesium there's there's like four different
Speaker 1: types you can get when you go to you know,
Speaker 1: I think there's magnesium sight rate, and there's there's different ones.
Speaker 1: Is there a particular kind that's recommended. Yeah, the one
Speaker 1: I take, the one I actually recommend is magnesium citrate,
Speaker 1: like you said, And there there's a number of different
Speaker 1: ones you can use. Typically the ones that end in
Speaker 1: a T e like an eight. They're combined within amino acid,
Speaker 1: which makes them better absorbed, and they actually are you
Speaker 1: know what, like if you take a two milligrams, say magnesium,
Speaker 1: you're going to absorb most of that magnesium as opposed
Speaker 1: to uh you absolutely want to stay away from like
Speaker 1: an oxide or anything like that that's not an eighth.
Speaker 1: So glycinate is another good one. UH. Tor rate is
Speaker 1: also pretty good, But my personal preference is magnesium citrate
Speaker 1: and it's because it's easy on the stomach. It's best absorbed,
Speaker 1: and the you're getting kind of like what you pay for,
Speaker 1: like you're getting overall, um, basically what it says in it.
Speaker 1: If it says two hundred milligrams, you're getting most of
Speaker 1: that two milligrams if you take an ox side. There's
Speaker 1: a lot of studies out there that say it can
Speaker 1: actually be bad for you if you take the wrong
Speaker 1: form of it. Excellent. Well, justin thank you so much
Speaker 1: for taking the time to come on. I've really enjoyed
Speaker 1: the conversation. Hey, Eric, I really I really appreciate you
Speaker 1: having me on, man, So thank you, Yes, take care,
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