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Speaker 1: and Karen are.

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Speaker 2: Hey, welcome to another episode of the Blackout Tips Podcast.

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Speaker 2: I'm your host Rod, joined us always by my co

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Speaker 2: host Karen, and we are live on a Sunday More afternoon,

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Speaker 2: we all are winning. The official weapon of the show

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Speaker 2: is pot and the unofficial sport a bulletball. Extreme extreme extreme.

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Speaker 2: And we're not here alone. We have guests today very

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Speaker 2: familiar to us, maybe not as familiar to the audience yet,

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Speaker 2: but that's why we do these Oh and I didn't

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Speaker 2: I didn't even ask before how how to refer to y'all?

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Speaker 2: But it's Kevin and Sean tale or do you want

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Speaker 2: to say Glenny's I'll be seeing the government. Seeing the government.

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Speaker 1: You can call me in my official capact.

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Speaker 2: Gleanise. Okay, So Kevin and Glanise from the Giving Heart

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Speaker 2: Project organization and also Karen's cousin, so we like it's

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Speaker 2: you know, it's a lot happening right now.

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Speaker 3: I don't know if I'm gonna remember Glanise. I'm just

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Speaker 3: gonna let you know if I just start saying stale,

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Speaker 3: I'm so sorry.

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Speaker 2: Yeah I was. I did. I was thinking about that

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Speaker 2: when I was doing all my show notes and my research,

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Speaker 2: and I was like, oh wait, and all the government,

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Speaker 2: all the official stuff I keep, you know, Facebook, all

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Speaker 2: this stuff, and I was like gonna start to show

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Speaker 4: Like shut down, what's up? Girl?

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Speaker 2: And was like, oh wait, that might that might mess

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Speaker 2: it up, no doubt. First of all, can y'all tell

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Speaker 2: the people about a Given Heart Project? Like what it is?

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Speaker 2: Y'all do?

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Speaker 1: Yes? Yes, I'll take it if you're musical.

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Speaker 4: So.

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Speaker 5: A Given Heart Project is a grassroots five to one

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Speaker 5: C three nonprofit founded by Kevin and I, husband and wife.

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Speaker 5: We are native Charlotteans and we started back in twenty

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Speaker 5: eighteen doing work in our community to give back very

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Speaker 5: much a project based nonprofit. When we initially started, we

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Speaker 5: just saw a need and we gathernize support to fill

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Speaker 5: the need. And over the years we've obviously continue to

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Speaker 5: formalize this organization. It's kind of grown its own arms

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Speaker 5: and legs and everything, and it is what it is today.

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Speaker 5: We are a organization that believes in providing equitable and

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Speaker 5: sustainable solutions to eliminate barriers for folks in need, and

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Speaker 5: we do that in three key ways. We provide case

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Speaker 5: management support to families that are experienced in homelessness and

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Speaker 5: housing insecurity. Also hosts prevention based workshops with the goal

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Speaker 5: in mind of equipping young people to address some of

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Speaker 5: those multifaceted challenges that contribute to homelessness. We want to

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Speaker 5: equip them and empower them by connecting them with subject

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Speaker 5: can maybe help them break some cycles. And then we

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Speaker 5: also host community outreach events in collaboration with a lot

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Speaker 5: of other great organizations in the Charlotte community, where we

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Speaker 5: our goal is to bridge the gap between folks in

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Speaker 5: need and the resources that exist in our research rich community.

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Speaker 2: Okay, that's glenas talking.

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Speaker 3: Okay, I get a chance to toot my own horny.

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Speaker 4: She is very smart. She has multiple degrees.

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Speaker 3: Every time I turn around this getting another damn degree,

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Speaker 3: I'm like, I'm like, oh my god, so you know,

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Speaker 2: And how long have y'all been doing this? Because I

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Speaker 2: And what made what made you start?

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Speaker 5: It's so many things, But I'll say that for me,

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Speaker 6: Basically, I was considered I didn't live with my parents,

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Speaker 4: I was like, well, we'll kind of explain a little.

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Speaker 4: But if I didn't know that about you.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, And that's one of the things we lead with

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Speaker 5: She don't know that. I've never mentioned that to her,

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Speaker 4: I just wanted to show that to y'all.

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Speaker 3: I know that might sound wild, but you know, kind

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Speaker 4: You know me know this, you know, type of thing to.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, we hear oh, there you go. Well, I was

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Speaker 3: like to give them a reassurance. Particularly in a lot

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Speaker 4: Taught to tough it out, like we've always.

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Speaker 3: Been taught to give it to Jesus, And there's no

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Speaker 3: of beyond that, why can't it be a collaboration of

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Speaker 2: So is that a challenge for y'all?

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Speaker 5: certificate certifications that I pursued was becoming a trauma informed advocate,

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Speaker 5: understanding what trauma looks like like, you know, against from

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Speaker 5: all intents and purposes, but people would probably look at

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Speaker 5: grew up in this neighborhood. She had, you know, all

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Speaker 5: So I would say it was my family. Really, I

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Speaker 2: Right now, and like y'all, one thing I noticed about

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Speaker 5: It really hasn't been a hardship for us to say

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Speaker 2: I didn't even think about that, but yeah, you you

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Speaker 5: And so yeah, really it takes a level of let

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Speaker 2: I'm like, oh, yeah, I guess I'm all those things,

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00:21:39,640 --> 00:21:43,240
Speaker 2: but like I was just gonna put rod but okay,

438
00:21:43,880 --> 00:21:46,399
Speaker 2: so yeah, what was it like managing a board and

439
00:21:46,440 --> 00:21:48,760
Speaker 2: putting that all together? Yeah?

440
00:21:48,880 --> 00:21:51,160
Speaker 6: No, managing the board again. I think it goes back

441
00:21:51,200 --> 00:21:53,320
Speaker 6: to Lenie's a point, right, you got to make sure

442
00:21:53,359 --> 00:21:55,680
Speaker 6: you have the right people and that they have your heart,

443
00:21:55,760 --> 00:21:57,600
Speaker 6: they have a heart for the organization and the work.

444
00:21:58,440 --> 00:22:01,520
Speaker 6: If if those don't, then it is not going to

445
00:22:01,680 --> 00:22:05,600
Speaker 6: really work or jail well. Right, So you know up front,

446
00:22:05,720 --> 00:22:10,439
Speaker 6: that's us going through certain applications, having those discussions about

447
00:22:10,480 --> 00:22:13,480
Speaker 6: how these folks fit into the organization. You know, do

448
00:22:13,560 --> 00:22:16,400
Speaker 6: they share the same passion and vision? You know, do

449
00:22:16,440 --> 00:22:20,840
Speaker 6: we feel that they are trustworthy? Are they dependable? You know?

450
00:22:20,960 --> 00:22:26,960
Speaker 6: Ultimately it's really uh, it's essensibly like your typical interview, right.

451
00:22:27,040 --> 00:22:31,000
Speaker 6: You know, you're interviewing for a job or you're interviewing

452
00:22:31,000 --> 00:22:35,199
Speaker 6: people to come along into your entity, and you know

453
00:22:35,240 --> 00:22:38,080
Speaker 6: you want to make sure that they have the right

454
00:22:38,119 --> 00:22:42,040
Speaker 6: skill set, the right knowledge base, and then ultimately with us.

455
00:22:42,480 --> 00:22:45,600
Speaker 6: We have a lot of first timers coming on board

456
00:22:45,680 --> 00:22:48,200
Speaker 6: as new board members, right, so they don't know anything

457
00:22:48,200 --> 00:22:50,720
Speaker 6: about being a board member. So we're able to provide

458
00:22:50,760 --> 00:22:54,600
Speaker 6: training to them. They have a one on one one

459
00:22:54,880 --> 00:22:58,520
Speaker 6: on boarding buddy, so they're not just left out there alone,

460
00:22:59,440 --> 00:23:01,000
Speaker 6: you know, and we try to meet with them and

461
00:23:01,320 --> 00:23:04,000
Speaker 6: still you know, our vision and values for the organization

462
00:23:04,720 --> 00:23:07,960
Speaker 6: and you know, just show that energy and compassion that

463
00:23:08,000 --> 00:23:09,440
Speaker 6: we have to serve our community.

464
00:23:10,560 --> 00:23:12,960
Speaker 2: Have you ever had to like let somebody go from

465
00:23:13,040 --> 00:23:15,879
Speaker 2: the board or let somebody go as because I like,

466
00:23:16,400 --> 00:23:20,440
Speaker 2: because I think when people think charity health and they

467
00:23:20,480 --> 00:23:23,399
Speaker 2: also just think it's all it's no business, it's all vibe.

468
00:23:23,480 --> 00:23:27,600
Speaker 2: It's a it's an actual yeah, Like there's paperwork, there's balance,

469
00:23:28,040 --> 00:23:31,120
Speaker 2: there's like it and it does matter as you say

470
00:23:31,200 --> 00:23:34,280
Speaker 2: your names in the street, it does. It matters. Is

471
00:23:34,440 --> 00:23:37,199
Speaker 2: it can't just be all vibes. So like, what is

472
00:23:37,240 --> 00:23:38,120
Speaker 2: it like to be.

473
00:23:38,240 --> 00:23:40,600
Speaker 4: Like, yeah, this ain't working out?

474
00:23:41,280 --> 00:23:43,600
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying. We appreciate what you're trying

475
00:23:43,640 --> 00:23:44,400
Speaker 2: to do, but it's not.

476
00:23:44,440 --> 00:23:49,040
Speaker 5: Having struggle with it, Okay, struggle Now, when I managed

477
00:23:49,080 --> 00:23:51,760
Speaker 5: teams for other entities, right, and I know that they

478
00:23:51,800 --> 00:23:54,960
Speaker 5: are compensated and they have a job description and the

479
00:23:55,040 --> 00:23:56,080
Speaker 5: expectations are.

480
00:23:56,680 --> 00:23:58,800
Speaker 1: And that that's different.

481
00:23:59,000 --> 00:23:59,240
Speaker 4: I can.

482
00:23:59,359 --> 00:24:01,520
Speaker 5: I can do it all day for the nonprofit to

483
00:24:01,520 --> 00:24:04,200
Speaker 5: your point where people are volunteering and giving up their time.

484
00:24:04,320 --> 00:24:06,840
Speaker 5: So sometimes it is taking me some time to struggle

485
00:24:06,880 --> 00:24:11,040
Speaker 5: with that. But this one right here, yeah, like you

486
00:24:11,119 --> 00:24:12,359
Speaker 5: are wasting our time.

487
00:24:12,440 --> 00:24:14,959
Speaker 3: We could have somebody else to be most fruitful in

488
00:24:14,960 --> 00:24:15,720
Speaker 3: this position.

489
00:24:16,720 --> 00:24:17,960
Speaker 4: I don't blame your baby.

490
00:24:19,200 --> 00:24:22,520
Speaker 6: You volunteer for this, you signed up for it, committed

491
00:24:22,560 --> 00:24:26,320
Speaker 6: to right right that commitment, then you do need to

492
00:24:26,320 --> 00:24:27,000
Speaker 6: move on and.

493
00:24:27,560 --> 00:24:30,119
Speaker 2: That I went. Now I'm with you. I remember when

494
00:24:30,200 --> 00:24:33,640
Speaker 2: I was in in ROWS, which is like this internship

495
00:24:33,680 --> 00:24:39,560
Speaker 2: program thing for academically talented black youth is what I

496
00:24:39,560 --> 00:24:43,560
Speaker 2: still remember the logo, the slogan, Yeah, I still remember,

497
00:24:43,720 --> 00:24:45,600
Speaker 2: like because they used to make us say it anyway,

498
00:24:46,240 --> 00:24:49,639
Speaker 2: uh once every like four months or six months, we

499
00:24:49,720 --> 00:24:52,639
Speaker 2: had to do like you know, volunteer work of some

500
00:24:52,760 --> 00:24:56,360
Speaker 2: time for the community. Right. And there is a thing

501
00:24:56,440 --> 00:24:58,919
Speaker 2: that happens where there are people that are almost like

502
00:25:00,040 --> 00:25:03,040
Speaker 2: and they already homeless. What do it matter if I'm

503
00:25:03,119 --> 00:25:05,560
Speaker 2: on time? And it's like what you mean, they.

504
00:25:05,480 --> 00:25:08,119
Speaker 4: Waiting it's extra important.

505
00:25:08,280 --> 00:25:12,399
Speaker 2: It's extra important. We said we'd be here too. They

506
00:25:12,520 --> 00:25:15,200
Speaker 2: showing up hungry at two. They not trying to hear

507
00:25:15,280 --> 00:25:17,200
Speaker 2: that you didn't get here till two forty five.

508
00:25:17,280 --> 00:25:18,360
Speaker 4: You need to be here earlier.

509
00:25:18,480 --> 00:25:21,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, So I do remember, like I mean, now, I

510
00:25:21,359 --> 00:25:23,600
Speaker 2: was a kid, but I remember getting you know, scolded

511
00:25:23,600 --> 00:25:25,000
Speaker 2: a couple of times, and I was like, oh, I

512
00:25:25,000 --> 00:25:27,520
Speaker 2: get it now, because you know, if the car wash

513
00:25:27,560 --> 00:25:29,879
Speaker 2: started three, I gotta start at three. You know I can't.

514
00:25:29,920 --> 00:25:32,040
Speaker 2: And you know, I remember thinking like, oh, there's some

515
00:25:32,080 --> 00:25:34,680
Speaker 2: booms and I gotta do just to keep my keep

516
00:25:34,720 --> 00:25:37,399
Speaker 2: my little good job. There was like, no, it's this

517
00:25:37,480 --> 00:25:39,399
Speaker 2: is this is what it's really about. So yeah, I

518
00:25:39,440 --> 00:25:43,680
Speaker 2: can imagine, even with it being something where you would think, well,

519
00:25:43,680 --> 00:25:47,160
Speaker 2: I'm helping, there are people that's like I'm not required

520
00:25:47,160 --> 00:25:48,760
Speaker 2: to help as hard as I would if it was

521
00:25:48,800 --> 00:25:53,120
Speaker 2: like a paying gig or something like that. And you're right, yeah,

522
00:25:53,119 --> 00:25:55,320
Speaker 2: you gotta, no, I respect it because you're really not

523
00:25:55,400 --> 00:25:57,200
Speaker 2: just standing up for you and your org. You're standing

524
00:25:57,280 --> 00:25:58,679
Speaker 2: up for the people y'all helping.

525
00:25:59,240 --> 00:26:03,480
Speaker 5: Absolutely, and they deserve what what they deserve, the best

526
00:26:03,480 --> 00:26:08,399
Speaker 5: that we can give, just like a paining whomever exactly is.

527
00:26:08,400 --> 00:26:09,520
Speaker 1: It's about human value.

528
00:26:09,560 --> 00:26:11,639
Speaker 5: It's not about you know, we don't place the value

529
00:26:11,680 --> 00:26:13,560
Speaker 5: in what somebody has or has doesn't have.

530
00:26:13,760 --> 00:26:14,000
Speaker 4: Yeah.

531
00:26:14,200 --> 00:26:16,720
Speaker 6: Yeah, and you know we've been in a position like

532
00:26:17,480 --> 00:26:20,480
Speaker 6: thankfully to your to your point, like we don't. We

533
00:26:20,600 --> 00:26:24,560
Speaker 6: haven't had to really have those conversations with folks. Hey

534
00:26:24,720 --> 00:26:26,439
Speaker 6: all right, you're not pulling your weight, you gotta go.

535
00:26:26,920 --> 00:26:29,919
Speaker 6: Usually people realizing that they aren't pulling their weight and

536
00:26:29,960 --> 00:26:32,880
Speaker 6: they decide to resign or off or leave.

537
00:26:33,080 --> 00:26:34,040
Speaker 2: So that's.

538
00:26:35,400 --> 00:26:38,359
Speaker 6: But again to your point, if we need to be

539
00:26:38,400 --> 00:26:41,280
Speaker 6: in that position, then we will make that call. Yeah,

540
00:26:41,320 --> 00:26:44,000
Speaker 6: and you know them fair warning and talk to them

541
00:26:44,000 --> 00:26:46,520
Speaker 6: about it, right, were just like hey, yeah.

542
00:26:46,359 --> 00:26:49,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, of course it's not like you just go yeah,

543
00:26:50,720 --> 00:26:52,919
Speaker 2: it's just gonna pop up like like Nino Brown up

544
00:26:52,960 --> 00:26:58,920
Speaker 2: to the y'all not giving out these I get it.

545
00:27:00,320 --> 00:27:02,920
Speaker 3: What is the what is the most out of all

546
00:27:03,000 --> 00:27:06,119
Speaker 3: the things y'all done and accomplished with the organization, what

547
00:27:06,119 --> 00:27:08,200
Speaker 3: would be one of the most important things you say

548
00:27:08,280 --> 00:27:11,440
Speaker 3: you have learned that you could pass on to somebody else.

549
00:27:13,440 --> 00:27:18,440
Speaker 1: Oh, so for me, I will say that.

550
00:27:20,440 --> 00:27:23,040
Speaker 5: If you have a passion to do something to make

551
00:27:23,080 --> 00:27:27,600
Speaker 5: an impact in any way. I think it's more important

552
00:27:27,840 --> 00:27:30,119
Speaker 5: to not look to the left and the right and

553
00:27:30,119 --> 00:27:33,480
Speaker 5: figure out what they're doing, but understand what's in you

554
00:27:33,680 --> 00:27:35,800
Speaker 5: that you want to pour out and focus on doing

555
00:27:35,800 --> 00:27:38,480
Speaker 5: at the best you can, right. And I think because

556
00:27:38,480 --> 00:27:40,800
Speaker 5: a lot of times, you know, and that translates to

557
00:27:40,840 --> 00:27:43,639
Speaker 5: a lot of different areas. But I think, you know,

558
00:27:43,720 --> 00:27:46,959
Speaker 5: there's a lot of people, a lot of people start nonprofits.

559
00:27:46,440 --> 00:27:49,200
Speaker 1: There's a lot of nonprofits.

560
00:27:48,200 --> 00:27:51,600
Speaker 5: For people to sow into, volunteer with, and all the things.

561
00:27:52,440 --> 00:27:54,960
Speaker 5: But one thing that I know is can't nobody do

562
00:27:55,040 --> 00:27:59,119
Speaker 5: it like glenis right? You know, can't nobody bring the

563
00:27:59,160 --> 00:28:01,200
Speaker 5: heart that I have to the work that I do

564
00:28:01,440 --> 00:28:05,919
Speaker 5: and who places value in what that means. The child

565
00:28:06,040 --> 00:28:07,920
Speaker 5: that will run up to me and hug my waist

566
00:28:08,000 --> 00:28:11,160
Speaker 5: and say, miss g I missed you. The mom who says,

567
00:28:11,280 --> 00:28:13,399
Speaker 5: I don't know where we would have been if we

568
00:28:13,480 --> 00:28:18,560
Speaker 5: hadn't met a Given Heart Project. That little girl who's

569
00:28:18,600 --> 00:28:22,280
Speaker 5: smiling after being sharing a room in a hotel with

570
00:28:22,720 --> 00:28:26,360
Speaker 5: both brothers for two years and now she has her

571
00:28:26,400 --> 00:28:29,040
Speaker 5: own room because a Given Heart Project was able to

572
00:28:29,040 --> 00:28:32,720
Speaker 5: step in. So it's those things that to me made

573
00:28:32,760 --> 00:28:35,080
Speaker 5: me understand, Yeah, there's a lot of systems out here

574
00:28:35,560 --> 00:28:37,960
Speaker 5: that can help folks, and we want to be a

575
00:28:38,000 --> 00:28:41,040
Speaker 5: bridge to those systems. And while we're doing that, we're

576
00:28:41,040 --> 00:28:44,280
Speaker 5: gonna do it our way. And I think we love

577
00:28:44,320 --> 00:28:46,960
Speaker 5: to collaborate and partner with other organizations. So that would

578
00:28:46,960 --> 00:28:49,360
Speaker 5: be what I say, like, if you want to do something,

579
00:28:49,960 --> 00:28:52,080
Speaker 5: don't wait and say well, I'm wait till I get

580
00:28:52,120 --> 00:28:54,000
Speaker 5: with so and so and wait with now. There's really

581
00:28:54,160 --> 00:28:57,480
Speaker 5: value in assessing what's already out there, figuring out if

582
00:28:57,480 --> 00:28:59,280
Speaker 5: it's a wait for you to serve and plug in

583
00:28:59,360 --> 00:29:02,640
Speaker 5: those ways. Because being a nonprofit leader is not for

584
00:29:02,680 --> 00:29:06,160
Speaker 5: the faint of heart. Yeah, I get that, but it

585
00:29:06,280 --> 00:29:09,520
Speaker 5: is really important to know that everyone brings something valuable

586
00:29:09,560 --> 00:29:13,240
Speaker 5: to this world and you can use that value to

587
00:29:13,320 --> 00:29:14,280
Speaker 5: sew into other people.

588
00:29:14,600 --> 00:29:17,640
Speaker 2: And how much like paperwork and stuff like stuff that

589
00:29:17,680 --> 00:29:20,280
Speaker 2: you weren't because I think, yeah, like just like this,

590
00:29:20,560 --> 00:29:22,600
Speaker 2: just like what we do. When I was like start

591
00:29:22,640 --> 00:29:25,440
Speaker 2: a podcast, like cool me and my wife's bead bedroom.

592
00:29:25,480 --> 00:29:27,440
Speaker 2: We're gonna get us some equipment. We just gonna chop

593
00:29:27,440 --> 00:29:30,480
Speaker 2: it up. And then it was like, okay, trying to

594
00:29:30,560 --> 00:29:33,680
Speaker 2: file taxes, you know what I'm saying, Like, oh, profit

595
00:29:33,720 --> 00:29:35,560
Speaker 2: and loss statement what's that you know.

596
00:29:35,640 --> 00:29:38,240
Speaker 4: That kind off what's an invoice? Yeah?

597
00:29:38,360 --> 00:29:41,360
Speaker 2: I still remember to start at LLC, we had to

598
00:29:41,400 --> 00:29:44,960
Speaker 2: like go downtown and go to this all this this,

599
00:29:45,200 --> 00:29:48,960
Speaker 2: you know, dang office and with these people that and

600
00:29:49,040 --> 00:29:51,760
Speaker 2: just fill out all kinds of stuff. So, like, is

601
00:29:51,800 --> 00:29:55,280
Speaker 2: the paperwork difficult? Is it a lot? Does it consume

602
00:29:55,320 --> 00:29:56,640
Speaker 2: a large part of your time.

603
00:29:57,600 --> 00:29:58,320
Speaker 1: To do it right?

604
00:29:59,080 --> 00:30:01,120
Speaker 5: I think to set up the foundation the right way

605
00:30:01,160 --> 00:30:04,200
Speaker 5: to set up the organization entity like a business. I mean,

606
00:30:04,240 --> 00:30:07,440
Speaker 5: thankfully Kevin and I have businesses, right, you know.

607
00:30:07,760 --> 00:30:09,280
Speaker 1: So we understand.

608
00:30:11,360 --> 00:30:11,680
Speaker 6: A couple.

609
00:30:13,600 --> 00:30:15,440
Speaker 2: I know what, you know what I know it is.

610
00:30:15,480 --> 00:30:16,400
Speaker 4: Sometimes you gotta have.

611
00:30:16,360 --> 00:30:19,320
Speaker 2: A little feel, you know, Yeah, you gotta do the

612
00:30:19,680 --> 00:30:21,160
Speaker 2: ll thing y'all.

613
00:30:21,960 --> 00:30:24,640
Speaker 5: Y'all are things we never saw in my never saw

614
00:30:24,680 --> 00:30:27,040
Speaker 5: in my feeling. Right, So y'all would wait a minute,

615
00:30:27,080 --> 00:30:27,920
Speaker 5: y'all start a business.

616
00:30:27,960 --> 00:30:30,400
Speaker 3: Honestly, I had never I didn't even think about that ship.

617
00:30:30,480 --> 00:30:32,400
Speaker 3: I know that might sound center, but I never really

618
00:30:32,440 --> 00:30:34,080
Speaker 3: think about that. I hadn't even really.

619
00:30:35,160 --> 00:30:36,920
Speaker 1: You know, we don't have a lot of people that

620
00:30:37,880 --> 00:30:40,640
Speaker 1: haven't shown it. Did they do it? They do it

621
00:30:40,760 --> 00:30:42,000
Speaker 1: the way we don't never.

622
00:30:41,960 --> 00:30:43,360
Speaker 4: Learn exactly right.

623
00:30:43,560 --> 00:30:46,000
Speaker 2: My dad was the one that had his own business

624
00:30:46,000 --> 00:30:49,200
Speaker 2: in our house because he uh and you know, in

625
00:30:49,240 --> 00:30:51,640
Speaker 2: many ways, I just emulated him, which is crazy because

626
00:30:52,120 --> 00:30:54,320
Speaker 2: he didn't sit down and do no paperwork. He just

627
00:30:54,360 --> 00:30:59,240
Speaker 2: would do subtle things to like psychologically like put the

628
00:30:59,400 --> 00:31:02,120
Speaker 2: seed in me. Like he would do stuff like show

629
00:31:02,200 --> 00:31:05,560
Speaker 2: me he paid himself through his own company, and show

630
00:31:05,640 --> 00:31:09,000
Speaker 2: me how big the check was. And I'd be like, damn,

631
00:31:09,520 --> 00:31:12,520
Speaker 2: that's what that's You could do that for yourself. That's

632
00:31:12,600 --> 00:31:15,160
Speaker 2: your check. It's not even no numbers taken out of that.

633
00:31:15,160 --> 00:31:17,960
Speaker 2: That's all you and I. And that was a kid,

634
00:31:18,040 --> 00:31:20,120
Speaker 2: so I didn't you know, he's telling me this and

635
00:31:20,200 --> 00:31:22,680
Speaker 2: I'm but I'm not thinking of it, like one day

636
00:31:22,680 --> 00:31:24,560
Speaker 2: I'm gonna do that. But then I when I went

637
00:31:24,640 --> 00:31:28,200
Speaker 2: to New York and wrote for a TV show Game Theory.

638
00:31:29,120 --> 00:31:32,600
Speaker 2: They they all the other writers, they were paying them directly.

639
00:31:33,160 --> 00:31:34,840
Speaker 2: I was the only one that I was like, or

640
00:31:34,840 --> 00:31:37,840
Speaker 2: they were paying people's agents, which is even the whole

641
00:31:38,000 --> 00:31:40,120
Speaker 2: nother thing. I didn't even get me started on the

642
00:31:40,160 --> 00:31:42,280
Speaker 2: agents and the management getting to cut because they didn't

643
00:31:42,400 --> 00:31:46,400
Speaker 2: they didn't write, not nan joke, but okay, the but

644
00:31:47,000 --> 00:31:48,920
Speaker 2: I was like, can y'all pay my company?

645
00:31:49,040 --> 00:31:49,280
Speaker 4: Yes?

646
00:31:49,560 --> 00:31:52,160
Speaker 2: And I was like, hey, the company, I mean, if

647
00:31:52,200 --> 00:31:53,840
Speaker 2: you fill out the paperwork, I guess we can do it.

648
00:31:53,840 --> 00:31:55,320
Speaker 2: And I was like, I know it's gotta be away

649
00:31:56,280 --> 00:32:00,000
Speaker 2: because you know, these other people technically are getting paid

650
00:32:00,240 --> 00:32:02,960
Speaker 2: through something else, and then it's paying them, except it's

651
00:32:02,960 --> 00:32:04,840
Speaker 2: getting paid they getting paid through something else, and then

652
00:32:04,880 --> 00:32:07,560
Speaker 2: like the manager taking ten percent, and then the agent

653
00:32:07,640 --> 00:32:09,960
Speaker 2: taking five percent, and then so and so taken and

654
00:32:09,960 --> 00:32:11,920
Speaker 2: then they finally get a little bit at the end.

655
00:32:12,520 --> 00:32:15,400
Speaker 2: And so that like it did plant that seat to

656
00:32:15,440 --> 00:32:17,959
Speaker 2: me to know that that was possible. So yeah, I can,

657
00:32:18,040 --> 00:32:21,240
Speaker 2: I can absolutely, Like it is funny. I didn't think

658
00:32:21,280 --> 00:32:23,360
Speaker 2: of it when I was doing it, like, man, somebody's

659
00:32:23,400 --> 00:32:26,120
Speaker 2: watching us, but that's crazy. Y'all were like, oh they

660
00:32:26,200 --> 00:32:28,560
Speaker 2: started a business, like that's cool, and I.

661
00:32:28,520 --> 00:32:30,800
Speaker 3: Know it might sound crava. I didn't even think about it.

662
00:32:30,840 --> 00:32:32,800
Speaker 3: But going back and thinking about it, no, like it

663
00:32:33,120 --> 00:32:36,840
Speaker 3: kind of in that immediate circle, there isn't really anybody

664
00:32:36,880 --> 00:32:40,000
Speaker 3: that's that like come out and be like I own this,

665
00:32:40,200 --> 00:32:42,360
Speaker 3: like like not your fund, this is my my name

666
00:32:42,440 --> 00:32:46,040
Speaker 3: own it. The government, the government acknowledges it, you know

667
00:32:46,040 --> 00:32:48,880
Speaker 3: what I'm saying type of thing. And it's just one

668
00:32:48,880 --> 00:32:51,320
Speaker 3: of those things where with me and Roger just just

669
00:32:51,440 --> 00:32:54,920
Speaker 3: the whole thing was we was like, we're gonna do it.

670
00:32:55,040 --> 00:32:57,600
Speaker 3: And it's wild because when you say we're gonna do

671
00:32:57,680 --> 00:32:59,560
Speaker 3: it and nobody.

672
00:32:59,440 --> 00:33:01,400
Speaker 4: You don't have any example of it.

673
00:33:01,400 --> 00:33:04,160
Speaker 3: It's like you're going down the road blind and as

674
00:33:04,160 --> 00:33:06,440
Speaker 3: you begin to put the bricks down, all of a sudden,

675
00:33:06,640 --> 00:33:09,000
Speaker 3: everything just kind of pops up on the side of you.

676
00:33:09,280 --> 00:33:11,040
Speaker 4: Well, I guess I'm doing something right.

677
00:33:11,080 --> 00:33:13,840
Speaker 2: I'm gonna tell you what's helpful though, and it's gonna

678
00:33:13,880 --> 00:33:16,040
Speaker 2: sound funny, and it is kind of funny, but I

679
00:33:16,080 --> 00:33:18,400
Speaker 2: don't mean it to be so mean, but it's kind

680
00:33:18,400 --> 00:33:21,080
Speaker 2: of helpful that there's so many people that I am like,

681
00:33:21,280 --> 00:33:23,040
Speaker 2: that person is not that smart and they figured it

682
00:33:23,040 --> 00:33:25,640
Speaker 2: out right, Like you'll just be on like Instagram, you

683
00:33:25,720 --> 00:33:27,000
Speaker 2: be like he got.

684
00:33:27,680 --> 00:33:29,520
Speaker 3: You been like, it's a lot of dummies out here

685
00:33:29,520 --> 00:33:30,640
Speaker 3: making a lot of money.

686
00:33:30,760 --> 00:33:31,840
Speaker 4: I seen his podcasts.

687
00:33:31,960 --> 00:33:33,920
Speaker 2: You don't do nothing but talk about females with a

688
00:33:34,040 --> 00:33:36,840
Speaker 2: Z Like I feel like, I feel like it can't

689
00:33:36,880 --> 00:33:38,880
Speaker 2: be that hard to do to go to legal zoom

690
00:33:38,920 --> 00:33:40,560
Speaker 2: and figure this thing out myself.

691
00:33:41,480 --> 00:33:44,160
Speaker 5: You said that, you said a whole legal zoom and

692
00:33:44,680 --> 00:33:49,800
Speaker 5: reading books, read some books, and then the things that

693
00:33:50,000 --> 00:33:51,800
Speaker 5: and then the other piece of it, the thing that

694
00:33:51,840 --> 00:33:54,440
Speaker 5: I didn't have, that person that resourced to go to

695
00:33:54,440 --> 00:33:57,520
Speaker 5: the ass I try to be that for other Yeah. Yeah,

696
00:33:58,600 --> 00:34:00,880
Speaker 5: it's you know, you can rem some of that stigma

697
00:34:00,880 --> 00:34:07,440
Speaker 5: because some people have been doing it for generations.

698
00:34:04,960 --> 00:34:07,400
Speaker 3: Like nothing, got their kids signed up for the got

699
00:34:07,400 --> 00:34:08,640
Speaker 3: their kids on the employees.

700
00:34:08,680 --> 00:34:11,120
Speaker 4: They kids got four one ks and just been born.

701
00:34:11,160 --> 00:34:12,959
Speaker 3: By the time they get ready to retire, they gonna

702
00:34:12,960 --> 00:34:15,400
Speaker 3: be gazillionaires.

703
00:34:14,800 --> 00:34:16,640
Speaker 5: Right, And we still have a lot to figure out

704
00:34:16,719 --> 00:34:18,640
Speaker 5: as it relates to that. But I think, you know,

705
00:34:18,719 --> 00:34:20,560
Speaker 5: the more that we know, the more that we try

706
00:34:20,560 --> 00:34:22,879
Speaker 5: to dig deeper and do better and build a plane

707
00:34:22,920 --> 00:34:23,839
Speaker 5: while we're flying it.

708
00:34:23,920 --> 00:34:24,080
Speaker 4: Right.

709
00:34:24,480 --> 00:34:27,279
Speaker 5: But thankfully he has this risk and compliance background, so

710
00:34:27,320 --> 00:34:30,239
Speaker 5: he's a little bit more in the details and I'm like, oh.

711
00:34:30,200 --> 00:34:31,399
Speaker 1: Let me just go out and serve.

712
00:34:31,480 --> 00:34:38,839
Speaker 3: And now he's you know, yeah, like like, don't don't

713
00:34:38,840 --> 00:34:44,280
Speaker 3: forget the deadlines. Yeah, because the thing I realized about partnerships,

714
00:34:44,320 --> 00:34:47,520
Speaker 3: you got to have both. And like I'm the dreamer,

715
00:34:47,680 --> 00:34:51,719
Speaker 3: Roger's the realist and but at the same time, as

716
00:34:51,800 --> 00:34:55,080
Speaker 3: a dreamer, I keep him going up to we're both

717
00:34:55,120 --> 00:34:57,920
Speaker 3: going up I'm just really high and he like and

718
00:34:58,040 --> 00:34:59,960
Speaker 3: not quite that high. Come on down a little bit

719
00:35:00,000 --> 00:35:02,479
Speaker 3: and not go okay, but I still see that goal.

720
00:35:03,040 --> 00:35:05,120
Speaker 3: But at the same time, I got him a little

721
00:35:05,160 --> 00:35:08,839
Speaker 3: higher off the ground, so both are actually moving. But

722
00:35:08,920 --> 00:35:11,200
Speaker 3: you need each other for the reality of you don't

723
00:35:11,239 --> 00:35:13,120
Speaker 3: want things to crash because the dream of don't be

724
00:35:13,120 --> 00:35:14,360
Speaker 3: thinking about stuff on the ground.

725
00:35:14,440 --> 00:35:16,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, people will ask us all the time, like, is

726
00:35:16,600 --> 00:35:19,200
Speaker 2: it hard working together as husband and wife? It hasn't

727
00:35:19,239 --> 00:35:22,640
Speaker 2: been hard for us, but it seemed like the default

728
00:35:23,640 --> 00:35:26,440
Speaker 2: according to these questions. I'm guessing, like I gotta assume

729
00:35:26,920 --> 00:35:29,239
Speaker 2: the default for them is it would be hard. Do

730
00:35:29,320 --> 00:35:31,279
Speaker 2: y'all find it difficult to work together as a husband

731
00:35:31,360 --> 00:35:32,360
Speaker 2: wife team?

732
00:35:32,680 --> 00:35:36,640
Speaker 5: No, the having the right person makes all the difference,

733
00:35:36,800 --> 00:35:38,799
Speaker 5: you know what I mean. And I'm not gonna say

734
00:35:38,800 --> 00:35:42,560
Speaker 5: it's always easy. It's not always easy, because the hardest

735
00:35:42,560 --> 00:35:47,640
Speaker 5: part about it is it's hard to turn it off, right, Yes, something,

736
00:35:47,680 --> 00:35:49,880
Speaker 5: you got this lane or something, then y'all lay in

737
00:35:49,880 --> 00:35:53,640
Speaker 5: the bed be like, oh remember tomorrow, we gotta that's

738
00:35:53,680 --> 00:35:56,120
Speaker 5: the hardest part. But I like this dude, Like, not

739
00:35:56,160 --> 00:36:02,480
Speaker 5: only do I love him and I like being able

740
00:36:02,480 --> 00:36:05,200
Speaker 5: to spend that time with him and honestly build something

741
00:36:05,200 --> 00:36:06,880
Speaker 5: together so people will look at us and be like, oh,

742
00:36:06,960 --> 00:36:09,360
Speaker 5: y'all a power couple. It's a lot of COVID, a

743
00:36:09,400 --> 00:36:13,600
Speaker 5: lot of prayer, a lot of fasting, and you know,

744
00:36:13,800 --> 00:36:17,239
Speaker 5: testing and challenging each other. But when you got the

745
00:36:17,320 --> 00:36:19,880
Speaker 5: right partner, like y'all a power couple, you know, you

746
00:36:19,880 --> 00:36:21,600
Speaker 5: know what I mean, Like y'all, y'all doing this thing.

747
00:36:21,680 --> 00:36:23,400
Speaker 1: Y'all been doing it hard for a long time.

748
00:36:24,040 --> 00:36:26,640
Speaker 2: And I love what you said about the hardest part

749
00:36:26,719 --> 00:36:28,440
Speaker 2: is trying to turn it off. Is because that is

750
00:36:28,480 --> 00:36:29,120
Speaker 2: the thing is.

751
00:36:29,160 --> 00:36:32,080
Speaker 3: Because it becomes your child, like an additional child. A

752
00:36:32,080 --> 00:36:33,720
Speaker 3: lot of people don't understand that.

753
00:36:33,640 --> 00:36:37,200
Speaker 2: And I do need that. Like sometimes it's just it's

754
00:36:37,280 --> 00:36:40,080
Speaker 2: not about the podcast, not about business, not about the

755
00:36:40,120 --> 00:36:43,560
Speaker 2: next plan. I think it always weirds people out when

756
00:36:43,560 --> 00:36:45,200
Speaker 2: we go out to eat and we both pull out

757
00:36:45,200 --> 00:36:47,879
Speaker 2: our tablets and read comic books, because they're like, wow,

758
00:36:47,920 --> 00:36:49,680
Speaker 2: this couple's not even talking. They think we.

759
00:36:49,640 --> 00:36:50,440
Speaker 4: Don't like each other.

760
00:36:50,440 --> 00:36:52,799
Speaker 3: They all ask us, are y'all okay we've been like

761
00:36:52,960 --> 00:36:54,280
Speaker 3: we talk all the time.

762
00:36:54,680 --> 00:36:58,319
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm like, all we do is talk. That's it.

763
00:36:58,480 --> 00:36:59,560
Speaker 2: Sometimes it's nice.

764
00:37:00,440 --> 00:37:02,040
Speaker 5: Yeah, you used to look at couples and be like

765
00:37:02,040 --> 00:37:03,600
Speaker 5: they must not, like, you know, they all doing it,

766
00:37:04,000 --> 00:37:04,720
Speaker 5: but I mean that's.

767
00:37:04,560 --> 00:37:05,440
Speaker 1: A healthy malace.

768
00:37:05,520 --> 00:37:08,000
Speaker 5: Like and then I do everything and then like we

769
00:37:08,080 --> 00:37:11,240
Speaker 5: got our business, we got the nonprofit, we got kids

770
00:37:11,239 --> 00:37:14,480
Speaker 5: in school. Yeah, in school, like we are, we do

771
00:37:14,560 --> 00:37:16,640
Speaker 5: this thing together. If you see one of us the

772
00:37:16,719 --> 00:37:19,359
Speaker 5: other one, it's unusual to not see us together, right,

773
00:37:19,400 --> 00:37:21,319
Speaker 5: you know, And I'm okay with that.

774
00:37:21,400 --> 00:37:22,040
Speaker 1: I'm good with that.

775
00:37:22,200 --> 00:37:25,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly. Yeah, listen, if it's working, Uh, it's working.

776
00:37:25,560 --> 00:37:28,360
Speaker 2: I was looking at something today where it was like, uh,

777
00:37:28,640 --> 00:37:31,480
Speaker 2: Grant Hill who's married to Mia. They've been married I

778
00:37:31,480 --> 00:37:34,680
Speaker 2: think it was twenty six years today, and they got

779
00:37:34,680 --> 00:37:37,600
Speaker 2: two kids or whatever, and somebody on Twitter was showing

780
00:37:37,680 --> 00:37:39,640
Speaker 2: like this, you know, the people that pay for the

781
00:37:39,719 --> 00:37:42,560
Speaker 2: extra characters, was like, here's a long story, but at

782
00:37:42,560 --> 00:37:44,399
Speaker 2: the start of the story, it's like on the first date,

783
00:37:44,440 --> 00:37:48,520
Speaker 2: Grant Hill, uh forgot his wallet. He ordered a whole

784
00:37:48,520 --> 00:37:51,400
Speaker 2: bunch of food and then to Mia paid for it,

785
00:37:51,440 --> 00:37:54,480
Speaker 2: and later on he admitted it was a test to

786
00:37:54,520 --> 00:37:57,160
Speaker 2: see if she would do it. And they stayed and

787
00:37:57,239 --> 00:37:59,920
Speaker 2: now they have two they got two daughters and they

788
00:38:00,040 --> 00:38:02,239
Speaker 2: been together twenty six years. Happy, twenty six years awa

789
00:38:03,719 --> 00:38:05,840
Speaker 2: at all. I all I always thinking I think I

790
00:38:05,920 --> 00:38:07,520
Speaker 2: quote to you to said the only thing that matter

791
00:38:07,600 --> 00:38:11,120
Speaker 2: was the last sentence, cause like that, that whole setup

792
00:38:11,200 --> 00:38:14,200
Speaker 2: is crazy. That could have not worked on a million people.

793
00:38:14,280 --> 00:38:15,880
Speaker 2: Like there's so many people that have been like this

794
00:38:16,000 --> 00:38:19,239
Speaker 2: fool is green ill. It's not even about I'm a

795
00:38:19,320 --> 00:38:23,000
Speaker 2: gold digger. You're supposed to be green, heel my man,

796
00:38:23,160 --> 00:38:26,280
Speaker 2: Like who asked me? I'm to me first of all?

797
00:38:27,000 --> 00:38:29,239
Speaker 2: Like it might it's been a while, so some of

798
00:38:29,280 --> 00:38:30,719
Speaker 2: y'all that's younger might not.

799
00:38:31,040 --> 00:38:32,520
Speaker 4: Might not even know who that is.

800
00:38:32,680 --> 00:38:34,840
Speaker 2: To me, I still remember coming out that water in

801
00:38:34,880 --> 00:38:35,640
Speaker 2: that video.

802
00:38:35,520 --> 00:38:36,359
Speaker 4: Like who is that?

803
00:38:38,560 --> 00:38:40,600
Speaker 2: Like you're gonna pay for that one? That woman doesn't

804
00:38:40,640 --> 00:38:43,319
Speaker 2: pay for meals. But it's just funny because I say

805
00:38:43,360 --> 00:38:47,000
Speaker 2: all that to say, as long as it's healthy and

806
00:38:47,080 --> 00:38:50,200
Speaker 2: y'all happy a lot, it doesn't really matter what it

807
00:38:50,239 --> 00:38:53,600
Speaker 2: looks like to other people. Like y'all, y'all are happy

808
00:38:53,640 --> 00:38:57,400
Speaker 2: working together, y'all are happy, you know, building together, Like

809
00:38:57,480 --> 00:39:00,000
Speaker 2: that's just beautiful anyway. And at the end of the day,

810
00:39:00,080 --> 00:39:02,359
Speaker 2: they only thing people really look at is the how

811
00:39:02,400 --> 00:39:06,239
Speaker 2: long they all together? Are they still together? That's really

812
00:39:06,280 --> 00:39:08,719
Speaker 2: all people can measure it by anyway, nobody really knows

813
00:39:08,760 --> 00:39:12,120
Speaker 2: the quality of the relationship. And like, so as long

814
00:39:12,160 --> 00:39:14,959
Speaker 2: as it's working, it's great. How did y'all meet?

815
00:39:17,920 --> 00:39:20,640
Speaker 5: Marriage is hard, and you throw business on top of that.

816
00:39:20,680 --> 00:39:22,920
Speaker 5: You know, every day it is a victory, you.

817
00:39:22,960 --> 00:39:25,480
Speaker 2: Know, absolutely, How did y'all? How did y'all meet?

818
00:39:26,840 --> 00:39:28,839
Speaker 1: Oh, that's a good question. Go ahead, you go ahead

819
00:39:28,840 --> 00:39:34,000
Speaker 1: and tell the story. So what happened was, now we

820
00:39:34,000 --> 00:39:34,640
Speaker 1: were both.

821
00:39:34,400 --> 00:39:37,960
Speaker 5: Taking some really trash people. You're really dated to trash people.

822
00:39:38,000 --> 00:39:42,000
Speaker 5: And so my mom and his uncle they worked together,

823
00:39:43,040 --> 00:39:44,960
Speaker 5: and so my mama.

824
00:39:44,719 --> 00:39:45,319
Speaker 1: Hooked us up.

825
00:39:45,960 --> 00:39:47,640
Speaker 2: Wow, it worked.

826
00:39:49,200 --> 00:39:51,719
Speaker 5: On some you know, Kevin was in the ministry and

827
00:39:51,760 --> 00:39:54,520
Speaker 5: training and I was leading the youth ministry at my

828
00:39:54,600 --> 00:39:57,040
Speaker 5: church at the time. And again we were dating some

829
00:39:57,080 --> 00:40:00,360
Speaker 5: really garbage people, and so my mom was like, you know,

830
00:40:00,480 --> 00:40:02,759
Speaker 5: talking to his uncle, they just needed they need to

831
00:40:02,800 --> 00:40:03,640
Speaker 5: be friends, they.

832
00:40:03,560 --> 00:40:05,200
Speaker 1: Need to get you know, maybe they can help each

833
00:40:05,200 --> 00:40:07,000
Speaker 1: other do this because this ain't it right.

834
00:40:08,000 --> 00:40:12,200
Speaker 5: And and we've and I've honestly known his family all my life.

835
00:40:13,160 --> 00:40:16,000
Speaker 6: It's weird because we've had each other's pictures on each

836
00:40:16,040 --> 00:40:18,280
Speaker 6: other's like at each other's houses.

837
00:40:18,520 --> 00:40:25,839
Speaker 5: Wow, didn't know you, Like he could be upstairs at

838
00:40:26,200 --> 00:40:28,359
Speaker 5: an event and I would have been downstairs and talk

839
00:40:28,400 --> 00:40:28,759
Speaker 5: about it.

840
00:40:28,800 --> 00:40:30,160
Speaker 1: Now we were like, oh I was there, Oh you

841
00:40:30,760 --> 00:40:31,319
Speaker 1: remember that?

842
00:40:31,640 --> 00:40:36,680
Speaker 5: And we never met until, you know what, fifteen years ago.

843
00:40:37,160 --> 00:40:40,160
Speaker 5: But yeah, so my mom, you know, said something to

844
00:40:40,160 --> 00:40:42,799
Speaker 5: his uncle. His uncle gave him my number, and I

845
00:40:42,800 --> 00:40:45,720
Speaker 5: think I was working nights at the time, so we started,

846
00:40:45,800 --> 00:40:49,280
Speaker 5: you know, just like a phone conversation and yeah.

847
00:40:49,239 --> 00:40:52,320
Speaker 2: What was that like for you, Kevin, getting your uncle

848
00:40:52,400 --> 00:40:54,480
Speaker 2: giving you a girl number to be like you need

849
00:40:54,520 --> 00:40:57,799
Speaker 2: to call her, Okay, do something. You gotta man, you

850
00:40:57,880 --> 00:41:00,680
Speaker 2: need to do this. Like is it was that just

851
00:41:00,960 --> 00:41:03,120
Speaker 2: how trash the person you was dating with you was like,

852
00:41:03,880 --> 00:41:04,239
Speaker 2: they was like.

853
00:41:04,239 --> 00:41:05,560
Speaker 4: We gotta find you somebody.

854
00:41:05,560 --> 00:41:07,360
Speaker 2: I will call any number. What number is this?

855
00:41:07,440 --> 00:41:07,560
Speaker 4: One?

856
00:41:07,680 --> 00:41:08,799
Speaker 2: Nine hundred? I don't care.

857
00:41:11,680 --> 00:41:14,839
Speaker 6: Ultimately, yeah, that I would probably say pretty much how

858
00:41:14,920 --> 00:41:19,880
Speaker 6: much trash. My uncle definitely supported me. He loved me

859
00:41:19,920 --> 00:41:24,360
Speaker 6: and cared for me right, and you know, ultimately it

860
00:41:24,480 --> 00:41:31,400
Speaker 6: was a situation to where ultimately, at that point in

861
00:41:31,440 --> 00:41:35,680
Speaker 6: time there where I was at church, I'll share the story.

862
00:41:35,880 --> 00:41:38,439
Speaker 6: That's where I was at church. I was serving there

863
00:41:38,520 --> 00:41:45,160
Speaker 6: in the ministry, and the pastor at that point in time, well,

864
00:41:45,360 --> 00:41:48,400
Speaker 6: he was never married at that point, but a girl

865
00:41:48,440 --> 00:41:52,200
Speaker 6: I was dating I had strong interests in at that point.

866
00:41:52,960 --> 00:41:57,080
Speaker 6: Ultimately they ended up getting together and the last person

867
00:41:57,120 --> 00:42:04,560
Speaker 6: to find out, oh nostry and very close to the

868
00:42:04,640 --> 00:42:10,760
Speaker 6: pastor in my capacity.

869
00:42:05,920 --> 00:42:06,000
Speaker 7: I.

870
00:42:08,600 --> 00:42:11,279
Speaker 2: Know they was up in church, like girl, today might

871
00:42:11,320 --> 00:42:13,279
Speaker 2: be the day he find out. You better show up.

872
00:42:14,080 --> 00:42:15,560
Speaker 2: I'm going to all the service.

873
00:42:15,600 --> 00:42:16,880
Speaker 4: They might be a fight up in the.

874
00:42:19,760 --> 00:42:21,600
Speaker 1: And his uncle always knew who I was.

875
00:42:22,360 --> 00:42:25,920
Speaker 5: It wasn't you know he And I'm grateful that you know,

876
00:42:27,080 --> 00:42:30,280
Speaker 5: trusted and knew who I was and enough to entrust

877
00:42:30,360 --> 00:42:33,280
Speaker 5: me with this one because you know, it's.

878
00:42:33,200 --> 00:42:37,000
Speaker 2: Kind of dope though that like, because you don't, especially

879
00:42:37,000 --> 00:42:39,600
Speaker 2: when you're younger, you definitely don't you think the opposite, right,

880
00:42:39,600 --> 00:42:42,000
Speaker 2: It's like, I definitely don't want to be with nobody

881
00:42:42,040 --> 00:42:44,080
Speaker 2: my parents think it's like good.

882
00:42:44,680 --> 00:42:46,480
Speaker 4: Like, how would they know it's gonna be whack?

883
00:42:46,560 --> 00:42:48,360
Speaker 2: It's they gonna be boring. It's basically gonna be like

884
00:42:48,440 --> 00:42:50,600
Speaker 2: dating my parent. I don't want to date my parents

885
00:42:50,960 --> 00:42:55,439
Speaker 2: parent approve, but it is. I do feel like once

886
00:42:55,440 --> 00:42:58,360
Speaker 2: you get older and you get into that parental age,

887
00:42:58,400 --> 00:43:01,960
Speaker 2: you be like, Noah, it's a lot of good values

888
00:43:02,000 --> 00:43:05,319
Speaker 2: that parents value that I needed to be thinking. I

889
00:43:05,360 --> 00:43:07,680
Speaker 2: wasn't thinking about I was thinking, like how cool this

890
00:43:07,719 --> 00:43:09,840
Speaker 2: person go be? But like, you know what's real cool?

891
00:43:10,440 --> 00:43:14,480
Speaker 2: Hitting at mortgageey fifteenth, you know what time, you know,

892
00:43:14,560 --> 00:43:15,880
Speaker 2: being at home.

893
00:43:17,680 --> 00:43:20,600
Speaker 5: Like my mom was telling me like you don't necessarily

894
00:43:20,640 --> 00:43:23,960
Speaker 5: need to marry the person or look, search out that

895
00:43:24,040 --> 00:43:26,560
Speaker 5: person that you can't live without. You gotta find a

896
00:43:26,600 --> 00:43:30,279
Speaker 5: person you can live with, right, And it was at

897
00:43:30,280 --> 00:43:32,719
Speaker 5: that time like I've always had an old soul, and

898
00:43:32,760 --> 00:43:36,800
Speaker 5: I think that I've rather learned from my mom's mistakes

899
00:43:37,239 --> 00:43:40,560
Speaker 5: or you know, the mistakes my mentors.

900
00:43:40,080 --> 00:43:43,359
Speaker 1: Then making those mistakes myself. And so I was.

901
00:43:43,360 --> 00:43:46,279
Speaker 5: Willing to say, Okay, you think I'll see, We'll see,

902
00:43:46,480 --> 00:43:47,800
Speaker 5: you know, I give it a chance.

903
00:43:47,960 --> 00:43:50,200
Speaker 2: Now to y'all, does your uncle and your mom do

904
00:43:50,280 --> 00:43:52,560
Speaker 2: they both like pour this card out of everyone? Because

905
00:43:52,560 --> 00:43:57,080
Speaker 2: I feel like if I would definitely joker, like y'all

906
00:43:57,120 --> 00:43:58,680
Speaker 2: would never hear nothing over on me?

907
00:44:02,520 --> 00:44:07,080
Speaker 5: Did she takes all the credits, you know, saying every

908
00:44:07,160 --> 00:44:12,280
Speaker 5: piece of everything good if it hadn't been for me, right.

909
00:44:12,239 --> 00:44:14,359
Speaker 2: Look, how look how he's picking your baby up. Look

910
00:44:15,600 --> 00:44:18,040
Speaker 2: you know he wouldn't have heard that, y'all. You would

911
00:44:18,040 --> 00:44:20,040
Speaker 2: be with somebody that can't even pick the baby up.

912
00:44:20,080 --> 00:44:23,120
Speaker 2: If it wasn't for me, Yeah, oh man, you would

913
00:44:23,160 --> 00:44:24,000
Speaker 2: never win an argument.

914
00:44:26,800 --> 00:44:29,080
Speaker 1: And if I get in a disagreement with him, she's like,

915
00:44:29,239 --> 00:44:30,160
Speaker 1: you better go talk.

916
00:44:30,000 --> 00:44:33,759
Speaker 2: To him, right, Yeah, Well now she's super invested because

917
00:44:33,800 --> 00:44:34,840
Speaker 2: like if it don't if.

918
00:44:34,719 --> 00:44:37,479
Speaker 4: It don't work, it's make me. You're gonna you're gonna

919
00:44:37,480 --> 00:44:39,000
Speaker 4: make me look bad down these streets.

920
00:44:39,440 --> 00:44:41,480
Speaker 2: Right, she's gonna be in y'all house fixing it.

921
00:44:41,800 --> 00:44:44,600
Speaker 4: Right. They ain't gonna be talking about me in church

922
00:44:44,680 --> 00:44:45,200
Speaker 4: next week.

923
00:44:47,200 --> 00:44:49,480
Speaker 2: And then like, what was it like for you saying

924
00:44:49,560 --> 00:44:53,120
Speaker 2: up Glenise, growing up with Cake?

925
00:44:54,600 --> 00:44:56,000
Speaker 1: Whoa yo?

926
00:44:56,239 --> 00:45:00,480
Speaker 4: You took it back with Kke. Yeah that's my name, Keke.

927
00:45:00,719 --> 00:45:00,919
Speaker 1: Yes.

928
00:45:01,800 --> 00:45:04,040
Speaker 5: I mean she's always been what you see is what

929
00:45:04,080 --> 00:45:06,560
Speaker 5: you get. Kay has always been k you know what

930
00:45:06,560 --> 00:45:10,520
Speaker 5: I mean. She's been my big cousin, my fun cousin,

931
00:45:10,800 --> 00:45:15,560
Speaker 5: like like I said, giving me experiences like her going

932
00:45:15,600 --> 00:45:18,960
Speaker 5: off to school, Like I'm gonna do that too her,

933
00:45:19,239 --> 00:45:22,920
Speaker 5: you know, coming like meeting you, like I was like, man,

934
00:45:22,960 --> 00:45:26,680
Speaker 5: I wish I had me a high school sweet. It

935
00:45:26,800 --> 00:45:29,319
Speaker 5: was it was it was like that emulation, Like she's

936
00:45:29,360 --> 00:45:32,239
Speaker 5: always given me something to look up to and aspire to.

937
00:45:32,360 --> 00:45:33,799
Speaker 1: Not that I put her off on a pedal schalol.

938
00:45:33,880 --> 00:45:36,239
Speaker 5: Right, she's killing me just like everyone else, right, But

939
00:45:37,680 --> 00:45:40,440
Speaker 5: she was always willing to always has been that person

940
00:45:40,520 --> 00:45:43,560
Speaker 5: that for me, I didn't have a big sister, right,

941
00:45:44,400 --> 00:45:47,160
Speaker 5: and and I didn't have a huge, huge family locally,

942
00:45:47,480 --> 00:45:50,640
Speaker 5: you know, Kay was it my big cousin here. The

943
00:45:50,680 --> 00:45:53,319
Speaker 5: rest of my cousins were like other parts of the country, right,

944
00:45:54,360 --> 00:45:56,960
Speaker 5: you know. Growing up, she was that person and I like,

945
00:45:57,040 --> 00:46:00,000
Speaker 5: look at look at back at my photos from my childhood,

946
00:46:00,040 --> 00:46:03,880
Speaker 5: birthdays and stuff. K was there, and I just remember

947
00:46:03,920 --> 00:46:07,000
Speaker 5: her being that fun, that fun person, that supportive person,

948
00:46:07,280 --> 00:46:09,040
Speaker 5: that person that was like a big sister to me

949
00:46:09,080 --> 00:46:10,400
Speaker 5: that would come pick me up and be like, so

950
00:46:10,440 --> 00:46:12,839
Speaker 5: what's going on what you're doing with you know, and

951
00:46:12,840 --> 00:46:14,560
Speaker 5: then you're willing to talk to me and give me

952
00:46:14,640 --> 00:46:18,279
Speaker 5: advice and you know be crazy sometimes, you know what

953
00:46:18,280 --> 00:46:21,680
Speaker 5: I mean, like just give you that. Just I just

954
00:46:21,760 --> 00:46:27,040
Speaker 5: remember like never feeling like when K came to scoop me,

955
00:46:27,640 --> 00:46:30,560
Speaker 5: I was gonna get a different experience. And that is

956
00:46:30,600 --> 00:46:33,560
Speaker 5: what I think challenges me to not just settle. It's

957
00:46:33,640 --> 00:46:36,680
Speaker 5: that seeking out those different experiences. So I value that

958
00:46:36,800 --> 00:46:38,680
Speaker 5: k I ain't never said it to you like that,

959
00:46:38,840 --> 00:46:41,680
Speaker 5: but I really appreciate, you know, the way you showed

960
00:46:41,760 --> 00:46:46,799
Speaker 5: up for me. And you know, man, it's so many things.

961
00:46:46,840 --> 00:46:48,239
Speaker 5: I don't want to put all our business out there,

962
00:46:48,280 --> 00:46:52,040
Speaker 5: but like even she's with me, you know, so I

963
00:46:52,080 --> 00:46:54,800
Speaker 5: want my cousin worship, you know, And that was something

964
00:46:54,840 --> 00:46:58,560
Speaker 5: for me that was like important, you know, it was

965
00:46:58,600 --> 00:47:02,319
Speaker 5: just she's always been a really great role model and

966
00:47:02,520 --> 00:47:05,800
Speaker 5: person that I could see and understand that there was

967
00:47:05,920 --> 00:47:07,719
Speaker 5: value beyond just what I was.

968
00:47:07,680 --> 00:47:10,439
Speaker 1: Going through at the moment. So I'm grateful for that.

969
00:47:10,719 --> 00:47:14,000
Speaker 2: And also like I you know, I hear how spiritual

970
00:47:14,120 --> 00:47:16,760
Speaker 2: and like how important church and religion is for y'all

971
00:47:17,239 --> 00:47:21,120
Speaker 2: at this time, Like it feels like even like Christianity

972
00:47:21,239 --> 00:47:23,719
Speaker 2: is becoming it's like a different type. Like people got

973
00:47:23,760 --> 00:47:28,280
Speaker 2: different Christianities now they do. So how like is it

974
00:47:28,320 --> 00:47:31,440
Speaker 2: is it almost misguiding or like or do you almost

975
00:47:31,480 --> 00:47:34,640
Speaker 2: have to be like careful because some like some people

976
00:47:34,719 --> 00:47:37,839
Speaker 2: Christianity is we're going out, we feed the homeless, were

977
00:47:37,840 --> 00:47:40,600
Speaker 2: putting shoes on people, and some people Christianity is like

978
00:47:40,719 --> 00:47:44,000
Speaker 2: we going to the government, were making sure people can't

979
00:47:44,040 --> 00:47:46,160
Speaker 2: do stuff, we kicking people out of the country. You know,

980
00:47:46,280 --> 00:47:49,719
Speaker 2: Like how do y'all navigate that? You know, because like

981
00:47:49,760 --> 00:47:53,359
Speaker 2: I said, all all people that call themselves Christian aren't

982
00:47:53,400 --> 00:47:54,480
Speaker 2: always operating the same.

983
00:47:54,600 --> 00:47:55,080
Speaker 4: No they're not.

984
00:47:56,160 --> 00:47:59,560
Speaker 1: No, we were talking about that.

985
00:48:00,440 --> 00:48:03,480
Speaker 6: I think for me, my baseline and framework has always

986
00:48:03,560 --> 00:48:10,480
Speaker 6: been operate from uh standpoint of love, right, you know, ultimately,

987
00:48:10,520 --> 00:48:13,080
Speaker 6: you know, I believe that we would created because of love,

988
00:48:13,400 --> 00:48:17,759
Speaker 6: and I think we need to operate that way and

989
00:48:17,880 --> 00:48:20,759
Speaker 6: all and our dated lives. Right, we need to show

990
00:48:20,760 --> 00:48:24,120
Speaker 6: love to people, shout and passion, uh, you know, try

991
00:48:24,200 --> 00:48:27,680
Speaker 6: to outlook our neighbor and make sure everyone's okay, like

992
00:48:28,239 --> 00:48:29,360
Speaker 6: have a sense of community.

993
00:48:29,600 --> 00:48:34,800
Speaker 2: Right, Yeah, it seems simple. It seems so simple to me.

994
00:48:35,600 --> 00:48:39,600
Speaker 5: It's not isolated in that there's some folks that represented.

995
00:48:40,680 --> 00:48:42,080
Speaker 1: People that you know.

996
00:48:42,840 --> 00:48:45,640
Speaker 5: Just take the tenets of it and they morph it

997
00:48:45,719 --> 00:48:47,680
Speaker 5: into something that it's not, never was intended to be.

998
00:48:48,600 --> 00:48:50,760
Speaker 5: You know, there are other religions that have that same

999
00:48:51,040 --> 00:48:55,160
Speaker 5: you know, conflict so to speak. You know, but I

1000
00:48:55,200 --> 00:48:58,040
Speaker 5: know that, you know, there's a long standing challenges with

1001
00:48:58,120 --> 00:49:02,839
Speaker 5: Christianity that sometimes people think that Christians are you know,

1002
00:49:03,520 --> 00:49:06,000
Speaker 5: they some Christians do act like they're better than everybody else.

1003
00:49:06,280 --> 00:49:11,839
Speaker 2: The yes's that cash twenty two because like, uh, I'm

1004
00:49:11,880 --> 00:49:15,080
Speaker 2: not a very religious person. But people always, you know,

1005
00:49:15,160 --> 00:49:17,160
Speaker 2: they kind of are like, so do you like not

1006
00:49:17,440 --> 00:49:19,680
Speaker 2: like Christians? You don't like Christian I'm like, no, I

1007
00:49:19,719 --> 00:49:21,160
Speaker 2: don't have a problem with that. I grew up in

1008
00:49:21,160 --> 00:49:24,160
Speaker 2: the South. People I knew that was helping people was Christian.

1009
00:49:24,239 --> 00:49:27,239
Speaker 2: Reverend William Barber is a Christian. He's doing that from

1010
00:49:27,280 --> 00:49:30,240
Speaker 2: the religious tenants in his heart. That's why he helps people.

1011
00:49:30,640 --> 00:49:33,320
Speaker 2: So I can't just be like everybody as a Christian

1012
00:49:33,360 --> 00:49:36,400
Speaker 2: looks like blank person that is, you know, in my opinion,

1013
00:49:36,440 --> 00:49:39,200
Speaker 2: like doing stuff that's hurting the world. Like the same

1014
00:49:39,200 --> 00:49:41,759
Speaker 2: people that's helping the world, they found something different in it.

1015
00:49:41,840 --> 00:49:44,880
Speaker 2: So like I but I always think about the internal

1016
00:49:44,880 --> 00:49:48,000
Speaker 2: conflict because I could see you really would have to

1017
00:49:48,040 --> 00:49:50,520
Speaker 2: do your research. It's like, oh, we want to partner

1018
00:49:50,560 --> 00:49:53,719
Speaker 2: with this organization. Oh cool, we bought Christians And they're like, yeah,

1019
00:49:53,760 --> 00:49:55,600
Speaker 2: so what we do We go out we beat people

1020
00:49:55,680 --> 00:49:58,160
Speaker 2: up on the weekend. It's like, whoa, that's not that's no,

1021
00:49:58,400 --> 00:49:59,200
Speaker 2: that's the opposite.

1022
00:50:00,160 --> 00:50:04,080
Speaker 1: Do it is? It is definitely challenging.

1023
00:50:04,200 --> 00:50:05,960
Speaker 5: We have to be We try to stay prayer for

1024
00:50:06,080 --> 00:50:09,719
Speaker 5: and sometimes we're not gonna know because you don't. They

1025
00:50:09,840 --> 00:50:12,000
Speaker 5: say they want thing and they end up being something different.

1026
00:50:12,040 --> 00:50:15,560
Speaker 5: So I mean, if you lived your life that way

1027
00:50:15,640 --> 00:50:18,120
Speaker 5: of always trying to make sure you only affiliate yourself

1028
00:50:18,160 --> 00:50:20,279
Speaker 5: with the right people that doing the right thing all

1029
00:50:20,320 --> 00:50:22,400
Speaker 5: the time, I mean you probably have to stay in

1030
00:50:22,400 --> 00:50:23,000
Speaker 5: the house.

1031
00:50:23,640 --> 00:50:24,800
Speaker 1: Don't do nothing.

1032
00:50:24,840 --> 00:50:28,440
Speaker 5: It's just it's really challenging. So really, all we can

1033
00:50:29,000 --> 00:50:31,680
Speaker 5: individually be responsible for is the actions that we take

1034
00:50:31,920 --> 00:50:33,960
Speaker 5: and our motivations behind it, and we try to do

1035
00:50:34,040 --> 00:50:37,360
Speaker 5: the best we can with what we have, align ourselves

1036
00:50:37,520 --> 00:50:40,279
Speaker 5: with people that we it's best to the best of

1037
00:50:40,320 --> 00:50:42,359
Speaker 5: our knowledge, that are doing the things the way that

1038
00:50:42,440 --> 00:50:47,800
Speaker 5: we can stand in alignment with. But yeah, it's challenging,

1039
00:50:48,000 --> 00:50:50,680
Speaker 5: you know, to you come into a space. But you

1040
00:50:50,719 --> 00:50:53,480
Speaker 5: come into a space and people say, oh, well you're Christian.

1041
00:50:53,920 --> 00:50:55,279
Speaker 5: Oh okay, I know.

1042
00:50:55,239 --> 00:50:57,879
Speaker 2: You know, they made assumption because they had whatever their

1043
00:50:57,920 --> 00:50:58,719
Speaker 2: experiences are.

1044
00:50:58,840 --> 00:50:59,000
Speaker 4: Y'all.

1045
00:50:59,440 --> 00:51:01,560
Speaker 2: Like we said, you don't really always wear your trum

1046
00:51:01,600 --> 00:51:04,080
Speaker 2: on your sleeves, so you wouldn't even even know until

1047
00:51:04,080 --> 00:51:06,600
Speaker 2: you start talking and be like, oh, okay, so what

1048
00:51:06,760 --> 00:51:07,440
Speaker 2: happened to you?

1049
00:51:07,440 --> 00:51:07,759
Speaker 4: You know what?

1050
00:51:07,760 --> 00:51:11,480
Speaker 2: I like, you know, my pastor started geting my girl.

1051
00:51:11,680 --> 00:51:14,680
Speaker 3: So like I mean, for some people, not time, they

1052
00:51:14,719 --> 00:51:17,480
Speaker 3: don't recover from that, and they would just separate and

1053
00:51:17,520 --> 00:51:23,240
Speaker 3: be like, yeah, I don't got nothing, And it's deep.

1054
00:51:24,000 --> 00:51:28,160
Speaker 5: I think that it's really important that we are genuine

1055
00:51:28,680 --> 00:51:31,719
Speaker 5: and that we do our best, like I said, with

1056
00:51:31,920 --> 00:51:34,640
Speaker 5: every instance, that we have to represent who we are

1057
00:51:35,600 --> 00:51:37,399
Speaker 5: to be true to that. And I think that that's

1058
00:51:37,400 --> 00:51:40,279
Speaker 5: where you know, no matter when we come out and

1059
00:51:40,320 --> 00:51:42,840
Speaker 5: we're serving, we're not coming oh you know, we happen

1060
00:51:42,880 --> 00:51:45,600
Speaker 5: to attend you know, world wors of church. We come

1061
00:51:45,680 --> 00:51:48,640
Speaker 5: out as Kevin and Glenise. Right, that's who we are.

1062
00:51:49,160 --> 00:51:50,520
Speaker 5: You're gonna see our walk.

1063
00:51:50,960 --> 00:51:51,120
Speaker 2: Right.

1064
00:51:51,200 --> 00:51:52,560
Speaker 5: We don't have to beat you over the head with

1065
00:51:52,600 --> 00:51:55,160
Speaker 5: the word of God. We don't have to prech at you.

1066
00:51:55,160 --> 00:51:58,120
Speaker 5: You're gonna feel love. And you may say, man.

1067
00:51:57,880 --> 00:51:58,719
Speaker 4: What church you go to?

1068
00:51:59,600 --> 00:52:08,640
Speaker 2: People anytime? Listen anytime at anytime. People see people happy, productive,

1069
00:52:09,719 --> 00:52:12,400
Speaker 2: Everybody want to know the secret whatever it is, you

1070
00:52:12,480 --> 00:52:16,160
Speaker 2: know what I mean. Like, it's sometimes I feel bad

1071
00:52:16,160 --> 00:52:17,840
Speaker 2: because I don't be feeling I don't have like a

1072
00:52:17,880 --> 00:52:19,440
Speaker 2: blueprint to be like, all right, so this is what

1073
00:52:19,480 --> 00:52:20,600
Speaker 2: you need to do player.

1074
00:52:20,680 --> 00:52:22,120
Speaker 4: But not reading a blueprint.

1075
00:52:22,160 --> 00:52:25,279
Speaker 2: But I feel like everyone's seeking out that same like happiness,

1076
00:52:25,360 --> 00:52:29,120
Speaker 2: well adjusted, you know, the helpfulness. So I can absolutely

1077
00:52:29,200 --> 00:52:31,160
Speaker 2: see people, Like I said, you don't have to preach

1078
00:52:31,200 --> 00:52:34,240
Speaker 2: it to people for people to just be like curious, like, hey,

1079
00:52:34,320 --> 00:52:37,080
Speaker 2: so how did you find your way to this? So

1080
00:52:37,160 --> 00:52:40,080
Speaker 2: I could definitely see that. Now, there are a lot

1081
00:52:40,120 --> 00:52:42,480
Speaker 2: of people in the game that are doing well, but

1082
00:52:42,560 --> 00:52:45,680
Speaker 2: they scamming. Do y'all ever feel like, man, we should

1083
00:52:45,680 --> 00:52:47,839
Speaker 2: have scammed though, cause I feel like it's some people

1084
00:52:47,920 --> 00:52:51,440
Speaker 2: with some they got they getting bred, like big houses, cars,

1085
00:52:51,480 --> 00:52:54,960
Speaker 2: they be all the events, they had the red carpet, like, well,

1086
00:52:55,000 --> 00:52:58,080
Speaker 2: you ever tempted, you know, to just you know what

1087
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Speaker 2: I'm saying, go ahead and get the Okay, I just

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Speaker 2: had to ask.

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Speaker 1: You that ain't okay.

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Speaker 5: You know, it's challenging when you see folks that you

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00:53:12,600 --> 00:53:15,399
Speaker 5: know aren't necessarily on the up and up prospering right,

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Speaker 5: That part is challenging. It can sometimes be a little discouraging,

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Speaker 5: but it's never to a point where I'm like.

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Speaker 2: Man, let's just I'm not gonna lie. I've been I've

1095
00:53:26,520 --> 00:53:29,200
Speaker 2: been tempted to come time. I didn't do it. I've

1096
00:53:29,239 --> 00:53:32,680
Speaker 2: never done nothing like it. But it's been a few times.

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Speaker 3: I have vetoed a lot of ideas that will never

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Speaker 3: come to the light of day.

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Speaker 4: I've been looking at Roger like, no, sir, get out

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Speaker 4: my face.

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Speaker 2: I read the paper. I read the paper.

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Speaker 3: I'll be like, man, he'd be like, why don't we

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00:53:44,239 --> 00:53:46,239
Speaker 3: sell out? We are not selling out, sir.

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Speaker 2: I'm like, I don't even know if this person believe

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00:53:48,880 --> 00:53:52,319
Speaker 2: in God. They just ca and stuff. They just out

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00:53:52,360 --> 00:53:54,640
Speaker 2: here making money.

1107
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Speaker 1: Their biblical laws.

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00:53:56,360 --> 00:53:58,680
Speaker 5: If you follow those laws, if you follow those steps,

1109
00:53:58,719 --> 00:54:00,960
Speaker 5: there are certain things you're going to read. I'm going

1110
00:54:01,040 --> 00:54:03,600
Speaker 5: to be able to you know, see prosper and you

1111
00:54:03,640 --> 00:54:06,840
Speaker 5: know prospering those things and you know, but we we

1112
00:54:06,960 --> 00:54:11,440
Speaker 5: gotta do it right because to Okay, we're not accountable

1113
00:54:11,480 --> 00:54:13,719
Speaker 5: to ride, We're not accountable to no people. We believe

1114
00:54:13,760 --> 00:54:16,680
Speaker 5: it being accountable of something bigger and he sees everything.

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Speaker 3: So you know, glad, how did COVID impact the organization?

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00:54:27,880 --> 00:54:31,800
Speaker 3: And how are y'all preparing if something else like COVID

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00:54:31,880 --> 00:54:32,520
Speaker 3: happens again?

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Speaker 4: Hm?

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Speaker 6: So uh Well, when COVID happened, we were actually going

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Speaker 6: into the local school system here in Charlotte. We wanted

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Speaker 6: to title Title one schools and we were doing days

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Speaker 6: of encouragement. So we were going and do our activity

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Speaker 6: with them and then we might do a presentation on

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Speaker 6: Martin Luther King or Rosa Parks or someone that was

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Speaker 6: very inspiring, and that overcame obstacles, right, But when the

1126
00:55:06,120 --> 00:55:08,839
Speaker 6: pandemic hit, you know, of course, that shut everything down, right,

1127
00:55:08,920 --> 00:55:10,560
Speaker 6: so we had to pif it and we had to

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Speaker 6: pivot hard. So we actually, I think during that point

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Speaker 6: in time, we were thrown around the idea of doing

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Speaker 6: another another preventer program, which is what we call TIPS

1131
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Speaker 6: and it's the Team Initiative for Promoting Preventer Practices. So

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Speaker 6: we did our first ever session actually in that November

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Speaker 6: November twenty one, and it was all on Zoom Wow.

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Speaker 2: That was that was we did.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, we had we had this shift because we again

1136
00:55:50,239 --> 00:55:53,480
Speaker 5: our heart was to serve young people kids, right, and

1137
00:55:53,719 --> 00:55:55,680
Speaker 5: we were very fortunate early on to be able to

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Speaker 5: go into the schools.

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Speaker 1: And so when the.

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Speaker 5: School shut down and Unity really shut down, the work

1141
00:56:01,960 --> 00:56:04,080
Speaker 5: with the kids that we were doing had to pivot

1142
00:56:04,120 --> 00:56:06,839
Speaker 5: because we couldn't get to them directly, but the work

1143
00:56:06,840 --> 00:56:09,080
Speaker 5: in the community we were massed up. We had that

1144
00:56:09,200 --> 00:56:11,400
Speaker 5: we had to change our waivers, right, we had to

1145
00:56:11,400 --> 00:56:13,520
Speaker 5: put in there. You know, you coming out to service

1146
00:56:13,560 --> 00:56:18,160
Speaker 5: at your own risk, right, because you know people that

1147
00:56:18,239 --> 00:56:23,600
Speaker 5: were experiencing houselessness and housing and security, they if COVID

1148
00:56:23,640 --> 00:56:28,680
Speaker 5: didn't change after them, It's right people. You know, you

1149
00:56:28,760 --> 00:56:35,040
Speaker 5: know ten tent City, you know erected and you know

1150
00:56:35,040 --> 00:56:40,319
Speaker 5: we were already out serving. So the visibility of tent

1151
00:56:40,440 --> 00:56:42,560
Speaker 5: City made our city.

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Speaker 1: It showed a lot about our.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, for those that don't know, don't live in Charlotte,

1154
00:56:49,400 --> 00:56:52,799
Speaker 2: So tent City was like this, Uh, it was like

1155
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Speaker 2: this area of Charlotte that was a lot of people

1156
00:56:55,400 --> 00:56:59,799
Speaker 2: that were houses, like started to congregate around and so

1157
00:57:01,120 --> 00:57:02,919
Speaker 2: and and like at first it was it was small,

1158
00:57:02,960 --> 00:57:05,520
Speaker 2: but it kept getting bigger, especially during the pandemic, right,

1159
00:57:05,560 --> 00:57:08,280
Speaker 2: and it got so big that it really started becoming

1160
00:57:08,280 --> 00:57:12,319
Speaker 2: like an eyesore to the city. Politicians, media, people really

1161
00:57:12,320 --> 00:57:14,960
Speaker 2: started caring, not necessarily caring about the people they are,

1162
00:57:14,960 --> 00:57:16,560
Speaker 2: but carrying to get them the hell out of there.

1163
00:57:17,080 --> 00:57:19,919
Speaker 2: And then it kind of like basically got bulldozed out

1164
00:57:20,080 --> 00:57:23,560
Speaker 2: one night, and like like you really it's crazy because

1165
00:57:23,640 --> 00:57:27,760
Speaker 2: like even a city that is considered liberal, like like here,

1166
00:57:28,400 --> 00:57:31,840
Speaker 2: San Francisco, Seattle, all these cities that have a reputation,

1167
00:57:32,040 --> 00:57:35,280
Speaker 2: like these hippies and the like, they all democrats and

1168
00:57:35,320 --> 00:57:40,240
Speaker 2: they just man, everything's cool in theory, right, once it

1169
00:57:40,320 --> 00:57:45,080
Speaker 2: become real life, people slipped. They they flipped up on folks.

1170
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Speaker 2: And it's so interesting because I think, you know, I

1171
00:57:48,480 --> 00:57:51,919
Speaker 2: was saying this about like cash Bell, like people are

1172
00:57:52,160 --> 00:57:54,400
Speaker 2: in theorious, like we gotta in cash Bell. We got

1173
00:57:54,400 --> 00:57:58,040
Speaker 2: to stop putting people in jail just so that uh,

1174
00:57:58,080 --> 00:58:00,000
Speaker 2: they don't have the money, So now they can't. They

1175
00:58:00,000 --> 00:58:01,840
Speaker 2: they don't lost their job, they don't lost their house.

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Speaker 2: Turns out the trial, it doesn't even go to trial.

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Speaker 2: You donet lost everything by it, and you just get

1178
00:58:06,320 --> 00:58:08,760
Speaker 2: back out on the streets. That's messed up. Why don't

1179
00:58:08,760 --> 00:58:11,040
Speaker 2: we just let people out while their trials are pendent

1180
00:58:11,160 --> 00:58:13,320
Speaker 2: and then you know, they can come back through their

1181
00:58:13,400 --> 00:58:16,200
Speaker 2: justice system and whatever the penalty is if they're found guilty,

1182
00:58:16,200 --> 00:58:19,040
Speaker 2: they could pay it then, right, everyone agrees. If we

1183
00:58:19,080 --> 00:58:24,680
Speaker 2: do this on Twitter, Facebook, anywhere, that's theoretical. In real life,

1184
00:58:25,240 --> 00:58:28,000
Speaker 2: people be tripping. There was a man who stabbed a

1185
00:58:28,000 --> 00:58:30,640
Speaker 2: woman to death on the train at mental illness and

1186
00:58:32,400 --> 00:58:36,160
Speaker 2: it's gone viral and like the presidents picked it up.

1187
00:58:36,200 --> 00:58:39,040
Speaker 2: It's crazy. But the bigger point is like, he had

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00:58:39,040 --> 00:58:42,840
Speaker 2: a small infraction for something he was out on bail

1189
00:58:42,880 --> 00:58:45,200
Speaker 2: for right now, and it was not necessarily anything he

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00:58:45,240 --> 00:58:47,080
Speaker 2: should have been locked up for it. We're not even

1191
00:58:47,360 --> 00:58:50,480
Speaker 2: sure it's a crime, to be honest, but they immediately

1192
00:58:50,520 --> 00:58:53,720
Speaker 2: seized on that, like, well, he was a performer, feeling

1193
00:58:53,760 --> 00:58:57,120
Speaker 2: and he was jaywalkin, so why was he even out

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00:58:57,160 --> 00:59:00,240
Speaker 2: on the streets. And it's like suddenly you see people

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00:59:00,440 --> 00:59:03,080
Speaker 2: that you would think would be like, well, this is

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00:59:03,200 --> 00:59:05,680
Speaker 2: kind of the cost of freedom of us not having

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Speaker 2: a punitive system. You're gonna have some people that are

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Speaker 2: out and maybe they reoffend instead, it's like we gotta

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Speaker 2: close the system. Nobody gets out. And that's kind of

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Speaker 2: how it felt with the tent City. It felt like

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Speaker 2: our city was like, yeah, we like helping people that

1202
00:59:22,120 --> 00:59:24,800
Speaker 2: don't have houses in theory, we didn't think they was

1203
00:59:24,840 --> 00:59:28,120
Speaker 2: gonna like be outside and we was gonna see them

1204
00:59:28,120 --> 00:59:30,560
Speaker 2: every day. Get them out of here. I remember one

1205
00:59:30,560 --> 00:59:32,920
Speaker 2: of the news reporters like they be having rats up there.

1206
00:59:32,960 --> 00:59:36,520
Speaker 2: I was like, right, but they would because we don't

1207
00:59:36,600 --> 00:59:38,800
Speaker 2: take care of that area, and we just letting people

1208
00:59:38,840 --> 00:59:41,520
Speaker 2: out there today own devices. That's kind of that's what

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00:59:41,560 --> 00:59:44,640
Speaker 2: would happen. It's like they gotta go. I'm like, the

1210
00:59:44,720 --> 00:59:47,200
Speaker 2: rats gonna still exist, by the way, But okay, so

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Speaker 2: now they're gone. What did we fix?

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Speaker 3: We fix absolutely positively nothing. Because the thing about it is,

1213
00:59:54,080 --> 00:59:57,480
Speaker 3: once you tear that down, the people don't disappear. That's

1214
00:59:57,480 --> 00:59:59,960
Speaker 3: what people fed to realize the people. You might not

1215
01:00:00,000 --> 01:00:01,280
Speaker 3: I can see them, but they don't.

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Speaker 2: And you didn't tear it down because you were helping them.

1217
01:00:03,800 --> 01:00:05,280
Speaker 2: You tore it down because you didn't like the way

1218
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Speaker 2: it made our sites.

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Speaker 4: Right.

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Speaker 3: It ain't like you tore it down and then you

1221
01:00:08,160 --> 01:00:11,720
Speaker 3: found people housing you. You did your due diligence to

1222
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Speaker 3: be sure that they wouldn't be in the situation again.

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Speaker 4: You just tore it down.

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Speaker 5: There's a lot of organizations, grassroots that I'm proud to

1225
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Speaker 5: call friends that continue to stay and fight for those

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Speaker 5: folks that were displaced in Tense City. We were part

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Speaker 5: of the Heart City Invisible Coalition when it first started.

1228
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Speaker 5: Now it's a big thriving entity that created the Street

1229
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Speaker 5: Outreach Team here and Charlotte, and they were able to

1230
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Speaker 5: do amazing work to help advocate for those folks and

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Speaker 5: support folks and get them into the hotels that were

1232
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Speaker 5: erected to help support folks that were displaced. But unfortunately

1233
01:00:44,640 --> 01:00:48,680
Speaker 5: a lot of people did you know, they could not accommodate, right,

1234
01:00:49,760 --> 01:00:56,040
Speaker 5: and so where you see folks in underpasses and and things, Yeah,

1235
01:00:56,320 --> 01:01:00,000
Speaker 5: tense city didn't just the problem wasn't magically solved because

1236
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Speaker 5: as they pulled a lot of hard work, a lot

1237
01:01:03,320 --> 01:01:06,080
Speaker 5: of crazy hours went in to trying to do the work.

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Speaker 5: And we we are proud to call some of those

1239
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Speaker 5: ladies and gentlemen friends that did that work, and we

1240
01:01:12,480 --> 01:01:15,120
Speaker 5: helped to support in any way that we could. But

1241
01:01:15,160 --> 01:01:17,880
Speaker 5: that's still a problem. We still got people suffering from

1242
01:01:17,920 --> 01:01:19,280
Speaker 5: from being displaced during.

1243
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Speaker 2: Every time the street, every time the street you said, yeah,

1244
01:01:22,840 --> 01:01:23,720
Speaker 2: it's everywhere.

1245
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Speaker 3: And also the thing is, like I just say a

1246
01:01:26,520 --> 01:01:28,360
Speaker 3: lot of this stuff and this is across the country

1247
01:01:28,360 --> 01:01:30,560
Speaker 3: in theory because a lot of times, once they tore

1248
01:01:30,640 --> 01:01:32,439
Speaker 3: it down all day, all a lot of these people

1249
01:01:32,440 --> 01:01:35,800
Speaker 3: did was scatter across the city. So now at every

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01:01:35,840 --> 01:01:39,080
Speaker 3: intersection you have somebody with assigned all across the city.

1251
01:01:39,120 --> 01:01:41,280
Speaker 3: Is Charlotte not trying funny when they all probably would

1252
01:01:41,280 --> 01:01:43,120
Speaker 3: have been conjugated in that one area.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but it's yeah, it's just messed up, because like

1254
01:01:46,360 --> 01:01:48,880
Speaker 2: even if they're kind of put in one area, if

1255
01:01:48,920 --> 01:01:51,360
Speaker 2: the city and the people are like, yeah, you were

1256
01:01:51,360 --> 01:01:53,200
Speaker 2: in one area where we're not gonna help you.

1257
01:01:53,800 --> 01:01:55,480
Speaker 4: Then it's just just benefiting.

1258
01:01:55,560 --> 01:01:57,919
Speaker 2: Yeah, still it's still messed up. It's it's something about

1259
01:01:57,960 --> 01:02:00,600
Speaker 2: the heart. I mean, giving heart really, he truly is

1260
01:02:00,640 --> 01:02:04,320
Speaker 2: about people changing people's hearts and minds about that stuff.

1261
01:02:04,960 --> 01:02:07,560
Speaker 2: How can people give? Like where do they need to go?

1262
01:02:08,920 --> 01:02:11,080
Speaker 5: Yeah, so there's a lot of different things. I mean,

1263
01:02:11,200 --> 01:02:13,640
Speaker 5: obviously I want to first say, hey, a Given Heart Project,

1264
01:02:13,680 --> 01:02:15,680
Speaker 5: we're out here doing some work. Support our work, right

1265
01:02:15,920 --> 01:02:18,919
Speaker 5: go to www dot a Given Heartproject dot org.

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01:02:19,240 --> 01:02:20,360
Speaker 1: You know you can support there.

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01:02:20,800 --> 01:02:23,240
Speaker 5: However, what I will implore you all and one of

1268
01:02:23,280 --> 01:02:25,200
Speaker 5: the things that we've learned more is we've dug into

1269
01:02:25,240 --> 01:02:28,320
Speaker 5: some of the policy spaces. There is a continuum of

1270
01:02:28,360 --> 01:02:30,920
Speaker 5: care here in Mecklenburg County and now all your cities

1271
01:02:31,120 --> 01:02:34,000
Speaker 5: wherever you are, plug into your continuum of care. If

1272
01:02:34,000 --> 01:02:35,840
Speaker 5: you have a heart for people that are in housed,

1273
01:02:36,400 --> 01:02:39,680
Speaker 5: connect with the COC because they are making decisions to

1274
01:02:39,720 --> 01:02:43,160
Speaker 5: make homelessness rare, brief, and non recurring. That is literally

1275
01:02:43,200 --> 01:02:46,920
Speaker 5: their mission. And so you if you have a passion

1276
01:02:46,960 --> 01:02:50,040
Speaker 5: to be connected to this work. Plug in there, figure

1277
01:02:50,040 --> 01:02:53,360
Speaker 5: out how you can use your social capital, your network

1278
01:02:53,400 --> 01:02:57,160
Speaker 5: of people, whatever, your resources to help make true impact.

1279
01:02:57,200 --> 01:03:00,440
Speaker 5: Because yeah, there's important work being done by boots on ground,

1280
01:03:00,680 --> 01:03:03,280
Speaker 5: but we need voices in those rooms that are making

1281
01:03:03,280 --> 01:03:06,840
Speaker 5: those decisions that are far reaching. So I encourage everyone.

1282
01:03:06,920 --> 01:03:09,040
Speaker 5: If you don't know what your CEC is, if you've

1283
01:03:09,080 --> 01:03:11,560
Speaker 5: never heard of the Continum of Care, google it, Get

1284
01:03:11,560 --> 01:03:15,560
Speaker 5: connected to Continuum of Care, and then find a local

1285
01:03:15,680 --> 01:03:18,320
Speaker 5: organization that's doing some of this amazing work, one of

1286
01:03:18,360 --> 01:03:21,280
Speaker 5: them being a Giving Heart project, and we would love

1287
01:03:21,320 --> 01:03:24,360
Speaker 5: to have your support. We take volunteers, we take in

1288
01:03:24,560 --> 01:03:34,280
Speaker 5: kind contributions, like I said, taller trees, nonperishable items, school supplies, laundry, detergent,

1289
01:03:34,440 --> 01:03:36,480
Speaker 5: like anything you can think of that is a basic

1290
01:03:36,720 --> 01:03:40,920
Speaker 5: necessity in life. People need those things. And then we

1291
01:03:40,960 --> 01:03:43,280
Speaker 5: also will take your tokens. Yeah, would love to have

1292
01:03:43,400 --> 01:03:45,400
Speaker 5: your support in doing this work.

1293
01:03:45,440 --> 01:03:47,720
Speaker 2: I put the link in the show notes, so dollar

1294
01:03:47,880 --> 01:03:50,000
Speaker 2: listening later. I put it in the chatroom already, but

1295
01:03:50,080 --> 01:03:53,440
Speaker 2: if you're listening later, you're in the show notes. Hit

1296
01:03:53,560 --> 01:03:56,919
Speaker 2: up a Givingheart dot org. It's in the chat room

1297
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Speaker 2: as well. A given Heartproject dot org and uh yeah, man,

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Speaker 2: I'm like, I not just it's weird being adults and

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01:04:06,280 --> 01:04:08,160
Speaker 2: talking about but I'm so proud of y'all. Man, it's

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01:04:08,160 --> 01:04:11,000
Speaker 2: such a dope thing, Like yeah, that y'all doing, because

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01:04:11,440 --> 01:04:14,760
Speaker 2: like it's I think it's difficult, but it's also like

1302
01:04:14,840 --> 01:04:17,680
Speaker 2: y'all are so mission oriented and it's you know, it's

1303
01:04:17,720 --> 01:04:21,000
Speaker 2: like dope to know people like that that exist in

1304
01:04:21,040 --> 01:04:23,520
Speaker 2: the world. Man. Like, sometimes I feel like it feels

1305
01:04:23,560 --> 01:04:26,240
Speaker 2: so dark in the world, and specifically at this point

1306
01:04:26,320 --> 01:04:28,560
Speaker 2: in time, it feels like the only thing that's gonna

1307
01:04:28,600 --> 01:04:31,680
Speaker 2: get people through is community with each other. Like you

1308
01:04:31,720 --> 01:04:34,439
Speaker 2: can't just like to hopefully a lesson that's being learned.

1309
01:04:34,480 --> 01:04:37,680
Speaker 2: You can't always depend on some outside entities to like

1310
01:04:38,080 --> 01:04:40,560
Speaker 2: fix it. Sometimes it's down to people, and the people

1311
01:04:40,600 --> 01:04:42,720
Speaker 2: got to be the ones to fix it themselves. And

1312
01:04:42,800 --> 01:04:44,760
Speaker 2: so I think it's so beautiful what y'all are doing.

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01:04:44,880 --> 01:04:48,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, And as somebody and I've I'm like this with

1314
01:04:48,200 --> 01:04:52,640
Speaker 3: a lot of people. I see people doing things, and

1315
01:04:52,760 --> 01:04:54,720
Speaker 3: I am the type of person I always cheer from

1316
01:04:54,720 --> 01:04:59,200
Speaker 3: a distance always, and so you know, even you know

1317
01:04:59,560 --> 01:05:02,080
Speaker 3: people online and things like that, so I might not

1318
01:05:02,200 --> 01:05:05,200
Speaker 3: always be in your face up front, your largest cheerleader.

1319
01:05:06,160 --> 01:05:06,720
Speaker 4: But I have.

1320
01:05:06,840 --> 01:05:10,880
Speaker 3: Seen where y'all have came from. I've seen y'all doing

1321
01:05:11,000 --> 01:05:14,840
Speaker 3: really really small things. Well very few people turned out.

1322
01:05:15,440 --> 01:05:18,360
Speaker 3: I remember one time y'all was at like a trampoline place.

1323
01:05:19,000 --> 01:05:22,320
Speaker 4: One time, you know, all y'all doing school, y'all doing

1324
01:05:22,320 --> 01:05:25,640
Speaker 4: stuff for women and somber.

1325
01:05:25,680 --> 01:05:27,880
Speaker 3: I remember, and I just I just mentally just kind

1326
01:05:27,880 --> 01:05:31,960
Speaker 3: of took notes of what, what everything you guys were doing.

1327
01:05:32,440 --> 01:05:34,240
Speaker 3: And so some of the projects, one of them things

1328
01:05:34,320 --> 01:05:38,040
Speaker 3: are very proud of what you accomplished. And it takes

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01:05:38,040 --> 01:05:40,000
Speaker 3: a lot of the time, a lot of dedication, a

1330
01:05:40,040 --> 01:05:44,640
Speaker 3: lot of love for these things because y'all have children

1331
01:05:44,720 --> 01:05:46,840
Speaker 3: and things like that too, and so you know, it's

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01:05:46,920 --> 01:05:50,360
Speaker 3: tough to do it just regular. But then you add,

1333
01:05:50,480 --> 01:05:53,880
Speaker 3: I'm also trying to raise other human beings also, you know,

1334
01:05:54,320 --> 01:05:57,440
Speaker 3: like like like in addition to all these various different

1335
01:05:57,440 --> 01:06:00,600
Speaker 3: other things, and in addition to given to your organization.

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01:06:00,640 --> 01:06:02,520
Speaker 4: You guys have an event coming up. Let us know

1337
01:06:02,520 --> 01:06:03,160
Speaker 4: about the event.

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01:06:04,400 --> 01:06:06,880
Speaker 5: Yeah, thank you so much, fir. Then must say thank

1339
01:06:06,920 --> 01:06:07,880
Speaker 5: you for this opportunity.

1340
01:06:08,000 --> 01:06:08,160
Speaker 4: Y'all.

1341
01:06:08,240 --> 01:06:10,600
Speaker 5: Y'all a leveraging your platform to support our work and

1342
01:06:10,640 --> 01:06:13,480
Speaker 5: it means a lot to us, so thank you because

1343
01:06:14,400 --> 01:06:18,200
Speaker 5: but yes, we do have our second annual Gayla coming up.

1344
01:06:18,240 --> 01:06:23,040
Speaker 5: It's the Red Red Heart Affair, Old Hollywood theme. It

1345
01:06:23,120 --> 01:06:27,560
Speaker 5: is actually Friday, September nineteenth. It's at the Lux Venue.

1346
01:06:28,200 --> 01:06:29,880
Speaker 5: It is a fundraiser for us to be able to

1347
01:06:29,880 --> 01:06:33,000
Speaker 5: support this work as we go into this last quarter

1348
01:06:33,040 --> 01:06:35,960
Speaker 5: of the year, helping us to gear up for next

1349
01:06:36,040 --> 01:06:38,000
Speaker 5: year and the big plans that we have to support

1350
01:06:38,080 --> 01:06:41,320
Speaker 5: even more families, even more individuals that are unhoused.

1351
01:06:42,600 --> 01:06:43,680
Speaker 1: It is we have.

1352
01:06:43,800 --> 01:06:46,680
Speaker 5: If you go to our website at givenheartproject dot org,

1353
01:06:46,760 --> 01:06:49,360
Speaker 5: you will see on the very first page you can

1354
01:06:49,400 --> 01:06:53,240
Speaker 5: get your tickets. Ticket sales are actually still open until tomorrow,

1355
01:06:53,880 --> 01:06:54,680
Speaker 5: so you can go in.

1356
01:06:55,240 --> 01:06:57,160
Speaker 1: You can get a ticket. If you can attend, we

1357
01:06:57,160 --> 01:06:58,240
Speaker 1: would love to have you there.

1358
01:06:58,240 --> 01:07:02,320
Speaker 5: If you can't attend, there's a donate button attached to

1359
01:07:02,360 --> 01:07:04,960
Speaker 5: that campaign, so feel free to support our work. We

1360
01:07:05,000 --> 01:07:08,040
Speaker 5: would really appreciate it. It really helps to fuel the

1361
01:07:08,080 --> 01:07:11,200
Speaker 5: three legs that we stand on, which is our case management,

1362
01:07:11,360 --> 01:07:14,000
Speaker 5: our prevention work, and our outreach in the community. So

1363
01:07:14,480 --> 01:07:16,600
Speaker 5: thank you for the opportunity to share that with your audience.

1364
01:07:16,680 --> 01:07:20,520
Speaker 2: All right, listen, we are still a comedy podcast, and

1365
01:07:20,560 --> 01:07:22,440
Speaker 2: we do silly things here too, So I do want

1366
01:07:22,440 --> 01:07:26,280
Speaker 2: to do some silly stuff with you guys. But we

1367
01:07:26,320 --> 01:07:29,080
Speaker 2: also saw you guys outside of handles one day, just

1368
01:07:29,160 --> 01:07:30,120
Speaker 2: out like it wasn't.

1369
01:07:30,600 --> 01:07:32,400
Speaker 4: I'm so sorry. I talked them to death.

1370
01:07:32,480 --> 01:07:37,120
Speaker 2: We're ice cream, We're ice creaming. It's fine. Yeah, what's

1371
01:07:37,160 --> 01:07:39,600
Speaker 2: your favorite flavor at the at the handles? Do y'all

1372
01:07:39,640 --> 01:07:40,320
Speaker 2: have a favorite?

1373
01:07:40,600 --> 01:07:42,480
Speaker 4: Minus living bar?

1374
01:07:43,480 --> 01:07:45,680
Speaker 5: You know what got me in a headlock right now

1375
01:07:46,040 --> 01:07:52,480
Speaker 5: is their blondie. It's like a blondie brownie. And then

1376
01:07:52,560 --> 01:07:54,680
Speaker 5: I put some butter pea can ice cream on top.

1377
01:07:54,920 --> 01:07:56,840
Speaker 5: Now don't judge for the rest of this. Then I

1378
01:07:56,880 --> 01:08:01,640
Speaker 5: put some strawberries, some pineapple and wet walnuts. My god, Okay,

1379
01:08:02,480 --> 01:08:04,000
Speaker 5: but it sounds good though.

1380
01:08:04,680 --> 01:08:05,440
Speaker 1: It's delicious.

1381
01:08:05,480 --> 01:08:10,720
Speaker 2: Got it's got fruit in there, so it's healthy.

1382
01:08:11,480 --> 01:08:18,840
Speaker 5: Kevin, you got a favorite that I like?

1383
01:08:19,880 --> 01:08:23,800
Speaker 2: Mine is they got a blueberry pie? One? Is that thing?

1384
01:08:23,920 --> 01:08:26,639
Speaker 1: Do not miss?

1385
01:08:27,479 --> 01:08:28,559
Speaker 6: It was the apple pie?

1386
01:08:29,240 --> 01:08:33,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, blueberry pie. Don't sound like it would be good?

1387
01:08:33,400 --> 01:08:36,720
Speaker 2: Ice cream? Like I really was, Like I was listening.

1388
01:08:37,200 --> 01:08:39,080
Speaker 2: This is the greediest thing I ever admitted. But we

1389
01:08:39,080 --> 01:08:42,240
Speaker 2: were on the way, we were going to handles because

1390
01:08:42,280 --> 01:08:44,439
Speaker 2: it was our first time. I had never heard of it.

1391
01:08:44,800 --> 01:08:48,360
Speaker 2: So I went on Spotify and searched handles and I

1392
01:08:48,479 --> 01:08:51,439
Speaker 2: found a Handles ice cream episode of a podcast.

1393
01:08:51,640 --> 01:08:52,800
Speaker 4: They talked about it, and they.

1394
01:08:52,760 --> 01:08:55,160
Speaker 2: Was talking to a person that worked at handles. It

1395
01:08:55,200 --> 01:08:57,400
Speaker 2: was and this was not like some major podcast. This

1396
01:08:57,479 --> 01:09:00,479
Speaker 2: was like a local Kentucky like I just talk to

1397
01:09:00,479 --> 01:09:02,720
Speaker 2: the people in that around my city. And this one

1398
01:09:02,840 --> 01:09:04,559
Speaker 2: was like, well, you know, I'm a manager at handles

1399
01:09:04,600 --> 01:09:06,479
Speaker 2: or whatever. And it was like, so, what's the most

1400
01:09:06,520 --> 01:09:09,160
Speaker 2: popular flavor? She was like they described it. The way

1401
01:09:09,240 --> 01:09:12,000
Speaker 2: she broke that blueberry down. I was like, man, I

1402
01:09:12,000 --> 01:09:13,440
Speaker 2: ain't never had yell.

1403
01:09:14,120 --> 01:09:16,120
Speaker 3: And the way she was like, we we make our

1404
01:09:16,160 --> 01:09:18,200
Speaker 3: batches every day, we make them by hand.

1405
01:09:18,280 --> 01:09:19,960
Speaker 4: I was like, and bitch, it tastes like it.

1406
01:09:20,040 --> 01:09:23,400
Speaker 2: That they so absolutely delicious they sold me so like

1407
01:09:23,479 --> 01:09:24,599
Speaker 2: that's what I'm all right now.

1408
01:09:24,720 --> 01:09:29,320
Speaker 5: Now we also, you gotta get some because it's you.

1409
01:09:29,400 --> 01:09:32,320
Speaker 2: Listen, Yeah, you gotta handles near you now be because

1410
01:09:32,360 --> 01:09:34,920
Speaker 2: now the struggle now is because I be wanting to

1411
01:09:34,920 --> 01:09:37,240
Speaker 2: try something different every time. The struggle now is not

1412
01:09:37,439 --> 01:09:40,760
Speaker 2: falling to that like just give me the blueberry one

1413
01:09:40,800 --> 01:09:44,960
Speaker 2: more time. I look at all. I'll be up there.

1414
01:09:45,000 --> 01:09:46,720
Speaker 2: I know they'd be like, was he even looking at

1415
01:09:46,760 --> 01:09:49,479
Speaker 2: the menu? He's staring at this menu for twenty minutes

1416
01:09:49,520 --> 01:09:53,000
Speaker 2: knowing no reason. Yeah, he gonna the blueberries, heir, Yes,

1417
01:09:53,160 --> 01:09:56,799
Speaker 2: the blueberry. Well, we play a game and it's happy couples.

1418
01:09:56,800 --> 01:09:58,639
Speaker 2: I feel like this will be a fun game for us.

1419
01:09:58,680 --> 01:10:02,400
Speaker 2: It's a game called Gender one. Okay, I'll explain the

1420
01:10:02,439 --> 01:10:04,080
Speaker 2: game to you in the second, but first all I

1421
01:10:04,120 --> 01:10:08,479
Speaker 2: played the theme song music because it's a it's a bop.

1422
01:10:09,920 --> 01:10:14,559
Speaker 2: And then I'll tell you how we play the game.

1423
01:10:14,960 --> 01:10:22,200
Speaker 4: We're going to war on our side.

1424
01:10:25,760 --> 01:10:33,679
Speaker 2: Went on outside? Okay, so gender wars. We find content

1425
01:10:33,840 --> 01:10:39,200
Speaker 2: on the internet where people are arguing men versus women something. Okay, Now,

1426
01:10:39,240 --> 01:10:41,600
Speaker 2: we don't participate in the man versus women. It's not

1427
01:10:41,680 --> 01:10:43,760
Speaker 2: about who's winning, the men or the women. That's the

1428
01:10:43,920 --> 01:10:47,360
Speaker 2: that's that's not cool. That's that that part sucks. What

1429
01:10:47,400 --> 01:10:51,519
Speaker 2: we do is we go how good was this content

1430
01:10:51,720 --> 01:10:55,120
Speaker 2: at being inflammatory enough that people would argue about it?

1431
01:10:55,960 --> 01:10:58,880
Speaker 2: So from zero to ten, like we So it's not like, oh,

1432
01:10:58,960 --> 01:11:01,200
Speaker 2: the woman was right the man. It's like, man, did

1433
01:11:01,200 --> 01:11:05,719
Speaker 2: they set up a good enough scenario to where people

1434
01:11:05,760 --> 01:11:08,040
Speaker 2: are gonna share it. They're gonna be mad, they're gonna

1435
01:11:08,040 --> 01:11:12,880
Speaker 2: be whatever. So today's contribution came from a fan who

1436
01:11:12,960 --> 01:11:16,599
Speaker 2: sent me a link to this YouTube short and it's

1437
01:11:16,640 --> 01:11:22,040
Speaker 2: called The caption is so I'm stepdaddy for the bills,

1438
01:11:22,360 --> 01:11:28,640
Speaker 2: but can't check your kids. Hmmm emoji. Okay, this is

1439
01:11:28,640 --> 01:11:33,840
Speaker 2: from Cedric Maddox artists who put this out. It has

1440
01:11:33,960 --> 01:11:37,599
Speaker 2: one point four thumbs ups. I guess it don't count

1441
01:11:37,640 --> 01:11:41,040
Speaker 2: the dislikes. I would love to know that number. But

1442
01:11:41,120 --> 01:11:44,960
Speaker 2: it's got twenty one hundred comments, so people they were talking.

1443
01:11:45,000 --> 01:11:47,559
Speaker 2: A lot of people will even comments. All Right, I'm

1444
01:11:47,560 --> 01:11:49,519
Speaker 2: gonna I'm gonna play some of this and then we'll

1445
01:11:49,560 --> 01:11:53,800
Speaker 2: start judging how good this was. Let's see, how do

1446
01:11:53,960 --> 01:11:59,400
Speaker 2: you feel God disciplin your hold up? This is what

1447
01:11:59,479 --> 01:11:59,840
Speaker 2: I'm talking.

1448
01:12:00,560 --> 01:12:03,320
Speaker 7: So when you was in the house being disciplined, they

1449
01:12:03,320 --> 01:12:06,679
Speaker 7: don't have nothing to do with me. Did your mama

1450
01:12:06,800 --> 01:12:08,760
Speaker 7: tell you to keep your knees to yourself?

1451
01:12:09,680 --> 01:12:10,960
Speaker 4: Your mama? Why you talk?

1452
01:12:13,200 --> 01:12:16,960
Speaker 2: Okay, So those listening audio later, it appears that the

1453
01:12:17,000 --> 01:12:20,240
Speaker 2: woman is holding the phone and the man is in

1454
01:12:20,240 --> 01:12:22,720
Speaker 2: the car with her and they arguing, but she's the

1455
01:12:22,760 --> 01:12:26,360
Speaker 2: one recording. So I don't know how Cedric Maddox artists

1456
01:12:26,479 --> 01:12:28,880
Speaker 2: uploaded this. It don't seem like it's his video.

1457
01:12:29,120 --> 01:12:31,040
Speaker 4: And she keep going from front view to back view.

1458
01:12:31,080 --> 01:12:34,240
Speaker 2: From the back view, now, I will say I do

1459
01:12:34,360 --> 01:12:39,559
Speaker 2: it feels kind of real, only because of how trash

1460
01:12:39,720 --> 01:12:43,160
Speaker 2: the filming is. Yes, just don't film like they feel

1461
01:12:43,160 --> 01:12:47,439
Speaker 2: like they really sat there and came up with in area. Y.

1462
01:12:47,960 --> 01:12:49,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, this is like a real old person who got

1463
01:12:49,960 --> 01:12:52,160
Speaker 3: a who got a phone for the first time, and

1464
01:12:52,200 --> 01:12:54,920
Speaker 3: they grandkids just told them how to flip from the

1465
01:12:54,960 --> 01:12:56,480
Speaker 3: back to the front, so they practicing.

1466
01:12:57,280 --> 01:12:59,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, why is the video just showing like the top

1467
01:13:00,040 --> 01:13:01,519
Speaker 2: on her head like it's just.

1468
01:13:01,560 --> 01:13:04,120
Speaker 4: You know, yeah, because they don't know who to aim.

1469
01:13:03,920 --> 01:13:11,040
Speaker 2: It her outfit right, yeah, like but it's it's it's

1470
01:13:11,120 --> 01:13:14,599
Speaker 2: adding to the authenticity even as it takes away from

1471
01:13:14,640 --> 01:13:15,360
Speaker 2: the presentation.

1472
01:13:16,200 --> 01:13:17,960
Speaker 1: Agree, Agree, All right, here we go.

1473
01:13:18,520 --> 01:13:21,760
Speaker 7: You're not to put your hands on my kids. You're

1474
01:13:21,800 --> 01:13:24,120
Speaker 7: not gonna put your hands on my kids. They Daddy's

1475
01:13:24,160 --> 01:13:27,479
Speaker 7: not gonna put nobody I get home.

1476
01:13:27,920 --> 01:13:30,680
Speaker 2: So you telling me what?

1477
01:13:31,160 --> 01:13:34,080
Speaker 4: Okay, well, what is discipline? What is discipline in your book?

1478
01:13:34,200 --> 01:13:35,680
Speaker 4: What is that? You don't have to put this on the.

1479
01:13:39,479 --> 01:13:43,160
Speaker 2: That's a good touch. They always forget to do that

1480
01:13:43,360 --> 01:13:46,679
Speaker 2: in these little fake scenarios. But but in real life,

1481
01:13:47,000 --> 01:13:49,120
Speaker 2: if you're having an argument and one of y'all whip

1482
01:13:49,200 --> 01:13:52,479
Speaker 2: out a phone, someone is gonna be like, why are

1483
01:13:52,479 --> 01:13:55,720
Speaker 2: you according this and why don't put this any And

1484
01:13:55,840 --> 01:13:59,120
Speaker 2: almost every time they act like it's normal, and I'm like, no,

1485
01:13:59,120 --> 01:14:02,120
Speaker 2: normal people don't. Are you like that? They don't, So

1486
01:14:02,200 --> 01:14:04,800
Speaker 2: I do appreciate him pointing out, like I see you

1487
01:14:04,880 --> 01:14:07,120
Speaker 2: filming me, and what are you planning to do with

1488
01:14:07,160 --> 01:14:09,679
Speaker 2: this film where you're talking about me getting kids?

1489
01:14:09,720 --> 01:14:11,360
Speaker 4: That's not that's not cool.

1490
01:14:11,479 --> 01:14:13,920
Speaker 2: I'm a real person. They might see this at my job.

1491
01:14:14,200 --> 01:14:17,800
Speaker 2: You're gonna get me go to jail. It feels real.

1492
01:14:18,680 --> 01:14:20,600
Speaker 2: I'm send it to your mama. MNA, send it to

1493
01:14:20,640 --> 01:14:24,000
Speaker 2: your mama. You know what to do? You know what?

1494
01:14:24,479 --> 01:14:25,800
Speaker 4: Yeah, is very high.

1495
01:14:26,120 --> 01:14:28,639
Speaker 2: You're right, and so what.

1496
01:14:29,960 --> 01:14:30,559
Speaker 4: Oh my god?

1497
01:14:31,640 --> 01:14:34,200
Speaker 2: Discipline can time out?

1498
01:14:34,360 --> 01:14:36,080
Speaker 7: You're not putting nobody in time out.

1499
01:14:36,280 --> 01:14:37,160
Speaker 2: It's not gonna happen.

1500
01:14:37,560 --> 01:14:39,760
Speaker 4: No, did you buy the toy? Did you buy it?

1501
01:14:39,840 --> 01:14:40,800
Speaker 1: So you're saying that I can't.

1502
01:14:40,960 --> 01:14:41,760
Speaker 2: Did you buy the toy?

1503
01:14:41,880 --> 01:14:43,599
Speaker 1: So what I supposed to do work?

1504
01:14:43,640 --> 01:14:48,360
Speaker 4: And it comes to my kids?

1505
01:14:48,439 --> 01:14:50,559
Speaker 2: You if you didn't buy no toy?

1506
01:14:50,880 --> 01:14:55,400
Speaker 7: How you gonna take the toy from somebody?

1507
01:14:55,760 --> 01:14:58,720
Speaker 2: I don't know that the argument makes sense or not.

1508
01:14:58,840 --> 01:15:03,080
Speaker 2: I don't have to I don't, but I do appreciate

1509
01:15:03,120 --> 01:15:05,160
Speaker 2: her talking to the phone while this man is still

1510
01:15:05,200 --> 01:15:06,760
Speaker 2: in the car talking to her like.

1511
01:15:10,360 --> 01:15:12,439
Speaker 5: Like, for real, why are you gonna put you Why

1512
01:15:12,439 --> 01:15:14,120
Speaker 5: are you gonna put it out there like that? Like

1513
01:15:14,560 --> 01:15:16,080
Speaker 5: even if that's how you really feel?

1514
01:15:16,080 --> 01:15:17,160
Speaker 1: What you who was?

1515
01:15:18,560 --> 01:15:22,200
Speaker 2: Oh my god, her talking to the and I'm assuming

1516
01:15:22,240 --> 01:15:24,960
Speaker 2: that it's not because it's from the It doesn't look

1517
01:15:25,000 --> 01:15:27,240
Speaker 2: like it's on Instagram live or anything. So she just

1518
01:15:27,360 --> 01:15:30,240
Speaker 2: talking to the video on the phone knowing she's gonna

1519
01:15:30,240 --> 01:15:32,320
Speaker 2: put it out later. But it is funny to start

1520
01:15:32,360 --> 01:15:34,679
Speaker 2: talking to the phone like it's like a person is there,

1521
01:15:35,240 --> 01:15:35,800
Speaker 2: Like can you.

1522
01:15:35,800 --> 01:15:39,320
Speaker 4: Believe this dude? He is? How you gonna just put it?

1523
01:15:40,680 --> 01:15:45,240
Speaker 2: What do you think? Talk to him? But okay, it's

1524
01:15:45,240 --> 01:15:47,160
Speaker 2: only like maybe another minute or so.

1525
01:15:47,760 --> 01:15:48,679
Speaker 4: Did you buy the toy?

1526
01:15:49,880 --> 01:15:51,760
Speaker 2: Buy the toy?

1527
01:15:51,080 --> 01:15:55,160
Speaker 4: So did you buy the toy? Now? No? You being immature?

1528
01:15:55,880 --> 01:15:56,680
Speaker 4: Why you're trying to.

1529
01:15:56,680 --> 01:15:58,559
Speaker 2: What you got? What kind of fetus you got? Putting

1530
01:15:58,560 --> 01:16:01,160
Speaker 2: your hands on people? They put my hands on them.

1531
01:16:01,160 --> 01:16:04,559
Speaker 2: I'm saying, discipline, How do you feel about disciplining your

1532
01:16:04,640 --> 01:16:05,040
Speaker 2: I don't.

1533
01:16:05,400 --> 01:16:08,519
Speaker 4: I don't different, I don't. You're right, You're right.

1534
01:16:09,120 --> 01:16:12,439
Speaker 7: Because you know why, because I was not raised like that.

1535
01:16:12,760 --> 01:16:15,040
Speaker 7: You're not gonna put your hands on my kids. They daddy,

1536
01:16:15,040 --> 01:16:16,880
Speaker 7: don't put their hands on on the sleeker baby.

1537
01:16:17,080 --> 01:16:20,000
Speaker 2: So she is stuck on him hitting her kids, and

1538
01:16:20,040 --> 01:16:22,320
Speaker 2: he's telling us he's not gonna hit the.

1539
01:16:22,280 --> 01:16:24,639
Speaker 4: Kids, right, but listening to each other.

1540
01:16:24,680 --> 01:16:26,800
Speaker 2: It don't even matter what he says. She's gonna write

1541
01:16:26,880 --> 01:16:27,599
Speaker 2: back to like he.

1542
01:16:27,600 --> 01:16:30,360
Speaker 4: Gonna hit these kids. I can tell you.

1543
01:16:33,600 --> 01:16:35,240
Speaker 2: This is a good trick though, to get him to

1544
01:16:35,240 --> 01:16:36,320
Speaker 2: buy some toys. Though.

1545
01:16:38,120 --> 01:16:40,479
Speaker 4: The kids gonna benefit the toy, the toys in the

1546
01:16:40,479 --> 01:16:41,160
Speaker 4: house gonna.

1547
01:16:40,960 --> 01:16:45,320
Speaker 2: Go on, because if he wanted discipline, he gonna buying them.

1548
01:16:45,960 --> 01:16:48,320
Speaker 2: Come on. I would show up the next day with

1549
01:16:48,360 --> 01:16:54,400
Speaker 2: the PS five like, hey, hey, we're living different around here. Okay,

1550
01:16:54,680 --> 01:16:57,519
Speaker 2: I'm about to be y'all about to respect me. Yeah,

1551
01:16:57,600 --> 01:16:59,960
Speaker 2: go ahead, plug it up. And then second they mess up,

1552
01:17:00,200 --> 01:17:02,320
Speaker 2: give me the controllers. I could do it, you said,

1553
01:17:02,479 --> 01:17:09,080
Speaker 2: if I bought the doors. Yeah yeah, yeah. It's other

1554
01:17:09,160 --> 01:17:11,559
Speaker 2: issues once you start filming and it puzzing on the internet,

1555
01:17:11,960 --> 01:17:16,840
Speaker 2: I mean it's pretty much over. Yeah, we've done three

1556
01:17:16,880 --> 01:17:19,320
Speaker 2: thousands of these episodes. We ain't never sounded like this

1557
01:17:19,400 --> 01:17:22,400
Speaker 2: on one of them. That's crazy. I'm not putting none

1558
01:17:22,439 --> 01:17:24,760
Speaker 2: of this in front of the street. All right, let's

1559
01:17:24,840 --> 01:17:25,679
Speaker 2: let's finish it off.

1560
01:17:26,320 --> 01:17:27,720
Speaker 1: That's my say.

1561
01:17:28,400 --> 01:17:34,280
Speaker 4: Who done that? You're not gonna do time out times? When? No? No,

1562
01:17:35,000 --> 01:17:37,200
Speaker 4: they mind? They mind?

1563
01:17:36,320 --> 01:17:40,240
Speaker 2: So I don't have no to just discipline?

1564
01:17:40,479 --> 01:17:42,160
Speaker 4: What who does?

1565
01:17:42,600 --> 01:17:42,800
Speaker 1: Well?

1566
01:17:42,840 --> 01:17:45,200
Speaker 4: Maybe guess what you're not? You know what?

1567
01:17:45,360 --> 01:17:47,320
Speaker 1: Do what you want to do? Here's what you can do.

1568
01:17:47,720 --> 01:17:49,960
Speaker 4: Take me back to my car, that's what you can do.

1569
01:17:50,160 --> 01:17:51,080
Speaker 4: You could to my car.

1570
01:17:51,680 --> 01:17:53,880
Speaker 7: That's you see that. Now you can tell them that

1571
01:17:54,160 --> 01:17:58,640
Speaker 7: you know what? So what tell that you wouldn't mind it?

1572
01:17:58,680 --> 01:17:59,679
Speaker 2: Be get what? Baby?

1573
01:17:59,760 --> 01:18:02,519
Speaker 4: Hey? What the car? Put the coin drive?

1574
01:18:03,400 --> 01:18:05,559
Speaker 2: What the coin drive the car?

1575
01:18:05,720 --> 01:18:08,479
Speaker 4: You know? See what I'm saying. This is what I mean.

1576
01:18:08,520 --> 01:18:09,639
Speaker 1: I don't want to talk about baby.

1577
01:18:09,680 --> 01:18:11,440
Speaker 2: You need to work, baby, before.

1578
01:18:11,200 --> 01:18:14,559
Speaker 7: You get engaged to somebody know who you're getting engaged to.

1579
01:18:15,520 --> 01:18:17,720
Speaker 2: So it's a warning to us. Somehow that turned into

1580
01:18:17,760 --> 01:18:20,519
Speaker 2: a lesson, ma'am. We're not in the car yelling no,

1581
01:18:20,760 --> 01:18:25,680
Speaker 2: it's not. There's nothing we can learn from this. She

1582
01:18:26,479 --> 01:18:28,320
Speaker 2: really came for our next day. I didn't think it

1583
01:18:28,320 --> 01:18:29,320
Speaker 2: was gonna turn into a lane.

1584
01:18:29,439 --> 01:18:31,679
Speaker 4: I didn't. I didn't know this. This was the more.

1585
01:18:31,720 --> 01:18:34,639
Speaker 1: You know, I was trying to figure out the audience.

1586
01:18:34,720 --> 01:18:35,760
Speaker 1: Now I know it was us.

1587
01:18:35,840 --> 01:18:38,519
Speaker 2: It was us. Yeah, she was. She posted this as

1588
01:18:38,520 --> 01:18:38,920
Speaker 2: a warner.

1589
01:18:38,960 --> 01:18:40,360
Speaker 4: Now there are some comments.

1590
01:18:41,200 --> 01:18:43,240
Speaker 2: You know, we have to check the comments to see

1591
01:18:43,600 --> 01:18:47,559
Speaker 2: how good the content was. So okay, prepare yours to see.

1592
01:18:47,320 --> 01:18:50,320
Speaker 4: What they was saying. Okay, ain't no telling this the internet.

1593
01:18:50,520 --> 01:18:53,679
Speaker 2: The first comment was from two weeks ago. It's from

1594
01:18:54,040 --> 01:19:00,960
Speaker 2: rabbit D four five two. She she's raising the next

1595
01:19:01,000 --> 01:19:06,280
Speaker 2: generation of convicts. Oh no, eight and twenty six thumbs up.

1596
01:19:07,080 --> 01:19:09,920
Speaker 2: Oh no, not sure how he got that from that,

1597
01:19:10,040 --> 01:19:15,560
Speaker 2: But okay, she is showing who she is. Please act accordingly,

1598
01:19:15,640 --> 01:19:19,759
Speaker 2: says Anthony. Please leave this woman for your peace of mind,

1599
01:19:20,439 --> 01:19:25,720
Speaker 2: says Simeon. She's ignorant. In caps at its finest. Our

1600
01:19:25,760 --> 01:19:28,120
Speaker 2: first comment from a woman, and the woman's name is Lady.

1601
01:19:28,160 --> 01:19:34,919
Speaker 2: First Magog says, know who you're getting engaged to. She said, madam,

1602
01:19:35,720 --> 01:19:38,479
Speaker 2: thank you, for the bottom of my heart for showing

1603
01:19:38,520 --> 01:19:41,479
Speaker 2: this man exactly who you are before letting him make

1604
01:19:41,520 --> 01:19:45,040
Speaker 2: the biggest mistake of his life. Letting him know you

1605
01:19:45,320 --> 01:19:48,720
Speaker 2: wasn't raised with any discipline was a big help too.

1606
01:19:49,160 --> 01:19:50,760
Speaker 2: So everyone's on the man's.

1607
01:19:50,439 --> 01:19:53,559
Speaker 4: Side seemed like yes, one side of argument.

1608
01:19:54,080 --> 01:19:56,679
Speaker 2: Yeah, crazy, she thought she was gonna make him look stupid.

1609
01:19:56,800 --> 01:19:59,320
Speaker 2: Listen to all these people, dog and run. Don't look

1610
01:19:59,360 --> 01:20:03,120
Speaker 2: back either. A young food comes awful. Yeah, zero people.

1611
01:20:03,320 --> 01:20:04,720
Speaker 2: I was trying to see if I can find at

1612
01:20:04,800 --> 01:20:08,360
Speaker 2: least one person on her side. But okay, all right,

1613
01:20:08,400 --> 01:20:11,760
Speaker 2: so let's rate it, Karen zero to ten. How how

1614
01:20:11,800 --> 01:20:14,360
Speaker 2: good is this on the gender war scale for you?

1615
01:20:14,800 --> 01:20:18,120
Speaker 3: I give this one, this one about the middle of five,

1616
01:20:18,640 --> 01:20:23,080
Speaker 3: and I give it a five because these is older couple,

1617
01:20:23,240 --> 01:20:26,080
Speaker 3: so I can I understand the camera angle changes and

1618
01:20:26,479 --> 01:20:27,720
Speaker 3: all up your nose here.

1619
01:20:27,880 --> 01:20:30,400
Speaker 2: It looks like when Monique filmed that video that one

1620
01:20:30,439 --> 01:20:33,479
Speaker 2: time and at the end somehow the camera was way

1621
01:20:33,560 --> 01:20:36,360
Speaker 2: up here. It was like, oh, won't getting old. Like

1622
01:20:36,600 --> 01:20:38,920
Speaker 2: I'm not saying she's wrong, but like that's old people

1623
01:20:38,920 --> 01:20:40,720
Speaker 2: feeling that you can't have the camera up here. You

1624
01:20:40,720 --> 01:20:41,880
Speaker 2: gotta get the body in there.

1625
01:20:43,080 --> 01:20:46,799
Speaker 4: That and then the energy level like they massed each.

1626
01:20:46,600 --> 01:20:48,760
Speaker 2: Other, did give you a big energy level?

1627
01:20:48,760 --> 01:20:52,160
Speaker 3: Person, Yeah, like like like like and It don't matter

1628
01:20:52,200 --> 01:20:54,679
Speaker 3: if the energy is high or low. It just sometimes

1629
01:20:54,680 --> 01:20:58,000
Speaker 3: it needs to be boun sometimes different energy levels can balance.

1630
01:20:58,040 --> 01:21:00,599
Speaker 3: But I but they kind of met other with the

1631
01:21:00,640 --> 01:21:03,040
Speaker 3: same kind of energy level so far.

1632
01:21:03,720 --> 01:21:04,000
Speaker 4: Yeah.

1633
01:21:04,160 --> 01:21:08,000
Speaker 3: And it's also I think that uh, he tried, he

1634
01:21:08,120 --> 01:21:10,519
Speaker 3: tried to argue, like but he w wasn't doing a

1635
01:21:10,560 --> 01:21:16,000
Speaker 3: really good job. And I think that at the end

1636
01:21:16,120 --> 01:21:18,120
Speaker 3: when he called a ghetto, that should have been more

1637
01:21:18,160 --> 01:21:20,599
Speaker 3: at the beginning, like like like if you really want

1638
01:21:20,640 --> 01:21:23,200
Speaker 3: the people to kind of catch on you arguing, like

1639
01:21:23,200 --> 01:21:23,960
Speaker 3: like because.

1640
01:21:23,680 --> 01:21:26,240
Speaker 2: Then maybe some people would have been on her side. Yeah,

1641
01:21:26,560 --> 01:21:28,960
Speaker 2: start off calling her ghetto. Then it's like that's why

1642
01:21:29,000 --> 01:21:30,240
Speaker 2: she really got mad, right.

1643
01:21:30,160 --> 01:21:32,280
Speaker 4: With it with a justeld It justified her action.

1644
01:21:32,880 --> 01:21:34,800
Speaker 2: And on the deeper level, you like, is he being

1645
01:21:34,880 --> 01:21:37,040
Speaker 2: anti black so you call her ghetto because she a

1646
01:21:37,040 --> 01:21:41,200
Speaker 2: black woman hit her kids? Like right, that would have

1647
01:21:41,439 --> 01:21:42,920
Speaker 2: took it to the next level.

1648
01:21:43,000 --> 01:21:46,519
Speaker 3: Yeah, So I'm kind of taking kind of points away

1649
01:21:46,560 --> 01:21:48,960
Speaker 3: from that because it was like things at the end

1650
01:21:49,000 --> 01:21:51,439
Speaker 3: should have been more at the beginning, Like because the

1651
01:21:51,479 --> 01:21:53,760
Speaker 3: thing about the gender wars, you want to catch people quick.

1652
01:21:54,120 --> 01:21:56,599
Speaker 3: You don't want to take two minutes in because most

1653
01:21:56,600 --> 01:21:58,040
Speaker 3: peophen I they're not gonna.

1654
01:21:57,800 --> 01:21:59,559
Speaker 4: Watch all these all the two minutes like we did.

1655
01:21:59,600 --> 01:22:02,880
Speaker 3: They're gonna hit about thirty seconds to you know, ninety seconds,

1656
01:22:02,880 --> 01:22:03,640
Speaker 3: then they're gonna tap out.

1657
01:22:03,640 --> 01:22:05,559
Speaker 2: I feel like most people that left comments didn't even

1658
01:22:05,560 --> 01:22:06,240
Speaker 2: watch out video.

1659
01:22:06,240 --> 01:22:07,840
Speaker 4: They didn't even need to know. They didn't.

1660
01:22:07,840 --> 01:22:09,840
Speaker 2: They was like she wrong. First of all, she loud,

1661
01:22:09,960 --> 01:22:13,240
Speaker 2: you know, what about what about you, Glenise? What would

1662
01:22:13,240 --> 01:22:14,439
Speaker 2: you get us from zero to ten?

1663
01:22:15,320 --> 01:22:15,519
Speaker 4: Oh?

1664
01:22:16,280 --> 01:22:19,160
Speaker 5: Yeah, I said. I started out at like a seven, like, oh,

1665
01:22:19,240 --> 01:22:21,320
Speaker 5: this is legit. But then I think I feel like

1666
01:22:21,439 --> 01:22:26,439
Speaker 5: the continuation of the video. I really felt like, especially

1667
01:22:26,439 --> 01:22:28,479
Speaker 5: when he said after he said, you don't got to

1668
01:22:28,520 --> 01:22:30,320
Speaker 5: put this on, and she kept switching it back and

1669
01:22:30,400 --> 01:22:33,920
Speaker 5: she was talking to somebody, it just felt.

1670
01:22:33,640 --> 01:22:35,080
Speaker 1: Really like inauthentic.

1671
01:22:35,439 --> 01:22:38,599
Speaker 4: Yes, really like I can see that. I don't know, I.

1672
01:22:38,520 --> 01:22:41,760
Speaker 5: Feel like this is not a legitimate, reasonable conversation to

1673
01:22:41,800 --> 01:22:46,000
Speaker 5: be having somebody you engaged like they didn't match up

1674
01:22:46,000 --> 01:22:47,800
Speaker 5: for me. So yeah, I'm gonna get I'm gonna go

1675
01:22:47,800 --> 01:22:49,160
Speaker 5: down load, Lena, go down load.

1676
01:22:49,160 --> 01:22:52,280
Speaker 2: Give a folk. Okay, what about you, Kevin, how'd you

1677
01:22:52,320 --> 01:22:54,519
Speaker 2: feel about the how zero to ten?

1678
01:22:55,479 --> 01:22:55,719
Speaker 4: Yeah?

1679
01:22:55,960 --> 01:22:59,840
Speaker 6: I was at a six, But as the conversation continued.

1680
01:23:00,040 --> 01:23:06,320
Speaker 6: I think I got down towards for myself, you know,

1681
01:23:07,360 --> 01:23:09,559
Speaker 6: for me looking at the video. See the whole bunch

1682
01:23:09,600 --> 01:23:10,360
Speaker 6: of red flags.

1683
01:23:10,600 --> 01:23:15,080
Speaker 2: Oh of course, yeah.

1684
01:23:13,439 --> 01:23:14,840
Speaker 4: Over the place, the whole video.

1685
01:23:15,200 --> 01:23:16,479
Speaker 2: It's just one red flag.

1686
01:23:16,680 --> 01:23:19,080
Speaker 3: They ain't just throwing them left and right, flag to play,

1687
01:23:19,080 --> 01:23:20,040
Speaker 3: flag to play.

1688
01:23:19,800 --> 01:23:20,479
Speaker 4: Flag on to play.

1689
01:23:21,680 --> 01:23:25,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, all right, I think for me, so I

1690
01:23:26,120 --> 01:23:30,000
Speaker 2: started high as well because I feel and to like,

1691
01:23:30,120 --> 01:23:33,719
Speaker 2: I'm still not sure they faked that, like only because

1692
01:23:35,720 --> 01:23:40,439
Speaker 2: crazy people that talk to their phone like that. She

1693
01:23:40,680 --> 01:23:43,479
Speaker 2: that's like she knew she she knew she was gonna

1694
01:23:43,560 --> 01:23:47,080
Speaker 2: upload it, but it felt like there was nobody there,

1695
01:23:47,520 --> 01:23:51,800
Speaker 2: nobody there, so like she was so like into the

1696
01:23:51,800 --> 01:23:54,960
Speaker 2: idea of winning this argument on the internet that she

1697
01:23:55,160 --> 01:23:58,639
Speaker 2: was already preparing herself to talk to the internet, which.

1698
01:23:58,479 --> 01:24:00,920
Speaker 4: Is crazy, Like what it don't make sense.

1699
01:24:01,000 --> 01:24:02,840
Speaker 2: But I had to knock some points off because the

1700
01:24:02,920 --> 01:24:06,599
Speaker 2: caption is actually wrong. The caption was, I'm stepdaddy when

1701
01:24:06,600 --> 01:24:08,920
Speaker 2: it's time to pay the bills. Brother, you don't even

1702
01:24:08,920 --> 01:24:10,840
Speaker 2: buy toys. What are we talking?

1703
01:24:11,840 --> 01:24:14,320
Speaker 4: Bills didn't come up, not once in this whole discussion,

1704
01:24:14,439 --> 01:24:17,800
Speaker 4: did not and nobody said something bills.

1705
01:24:18,800 --> 01:24:20,840
Speaker 1: Camera was on her because I was distracted.

1706
01:24:21,640 --> 01:24:24,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, he should have said he should. Now if he

1707
01:24:24,960 --> 01:24:27,719
Speaker 2: would have said, I've helped I pay half the rent,

1708
01:24:27,720 --> 01:24:31,759
Speaker 2: then I'm like, okay, now we were cooking because because

1709
01:24:31,800 --> 01:24:33,840
Speaker 2: now you can make an argument like, man, it's my

1710
01:24:34,040 --> 01:24:36,519
Speaker 2: house and the kids can't just do what they want

1711
01:24:36,520 --> 01:24:38,559
Speaker 2: and not respect me when you ain't there, that's crazy.

1712
01:24:38,560 --> 01:24:39,880
Speaker 2: I gotta wait for you to get home to be

1713
01:24:39,920 --> 01:24:42,280
Speaker 2: like put the toys down. But he didn't even get

1714
01:24:42,320 --> 01:24:42,679
Speaker 2: to that.

1715
01:24:42,640 --> 01:24:45,800
Speaker 3: Point, right, And that's that's why I the caption was misleading, right,

1716
01:24:45,840 --> 01:24:48,200
Speaker 3: That's why I talk about the conversation should have been

1717
01:24:48,240 --> 01:24:51,639
Speaker 3: more of that part up front and then her rent.

1718
01:24:52,040 --> 01:24:54,040
Speaker 3: Her rent was already crazy, but it would have looked

1719
01:24:54,040 --> 01:24:56,840
Speaker 3: even more crazy if he would have kind of put

1720
01:24:56,880 --> 01:24:57,639
Speaker 3: that up front.

1721
01:24:57,520 --> 01:24:59,880
Speaker 2: Like so the so it could be real, like I

1722
01:25:00,400 --> 01:25:03,160
Speaker 2: like I think. And part of the reason I think

1723
01:25:03,200 --> 01:25:05,799
Speaker 2: it could be real because the argument is kind of whacking.

1724
01:25:05,840 --> 01:25:07,680
Speaker 2: It fizzled out at the end, which is you know,

1725
01:25:08,200 --> 01:25:10,200
Speaker 2: arguments with crazy people, that's how they end. They don't

1726
01:25:10,240 --> 01:25:14,719
Speaker 2: be they don't end on gotchas, you know what I'm saying. Yeah,

1727
01:25:15,000 --> 01:25:20,040
Speaker 2: Like it's not a mic drop, right, so, like it

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01:25:20,200 --> 01:25:22,519
Speaker 2: just it just kind of ended with like take me home.

1729
01:25:22,600 --> 01:25:25,600
Speaker 2: It's like, all right, take you home or whatever, but

1730
01:25:25,760 --> 01:25:28,040
Speaker 2: always right right.

1731
01:25:28,160 --> 01:25:29,479
Speaker 4: That didn't say we always argue.

1732
01:25:29,439 --> 01:25:31,639
Speaker 2: It was like, oh so this is a Tuesday, right.

1733
01:25:31,760 --> 01:25:34,280
Speaker 2: But the main the main issue for me is that

1734
01:25:34,400 --> 01:25:36,840
Speaker 2: they don't give you enough for you to side with

1735
01:25:36,880 --> 01:25:39,599
Speaker 2: the woman. And I feel like every good gender wars

1736
01:25:40,080 --> 01:25:42,639
Speaker 2: should be fifty fifty. You should kind of see where

1737
01:25:42,680 --> 01:25:45,519
Speaker 2: both people coming from grade and you should also kind

1738
01:25:45,520 --> 01:25:48,679
Speaker 2: of be disgusted with both people. You should you shouldn't

1739
01:25:48,680 --> 01:25:50,920
Speaker 2: be leaving this like that brother need to get away

1740
01:25:50,920 --> 01:25:52,880
Speaker 2: from her. You should be leaving like they both need

1741
01:25:52,920 --> 01:25:55,519
Speaker 2: to leave each other, or they both need to shut up.

1742
01:25:57,240 --> 01:25:58,080
Speaker 1: I don't even get that.

1743
01:25:58,200 --> 01:25:59,960
Speaker 2: So I'm gonna go with the four as well, cause

1744
01:26:00,400 --> 01:26:02,400
Speaker 2: you know, but man, I was rooting for them in

1745
01:26:02,439 --> 01:26:05,960
Speaker 2: the beginning to have a good like a good man

1746
01:26:07,120 --> 01:26:09,040
Speaker 2: and I would do a good battle. And to that

1747
01:26:09,040 --> 01:26:10,800
Speaker 2: fan that sent it in, I'll see why you send

1748
01:26:10,800 --> 01:26:14,040
Speaker 2: it in, like's it is worth judging because you know

1749
01:26:14,040 --> 01:26:15,840
Speaker 2: a lot of times y'all send in the worst ones,

1750
01:26:15,880 --> 01:26:16,360
Speaker 2: and I'll be like.

1751
01:26:16,360 --> 01:26:18,479
Speaker 4: Sometimes they be wacky, y'all. I'm not even gonna lie.

1752
01:26:18,520 --> 01:26:20,960
Speaker 2: I'll be like, yeah, but that was a good one

1753
01:26:21,000 --> 01:26:25,519
Speaker 2: whoever submitted that. All right, very last thing. We do

1754
01:26:25,600 --> 01:26:29,840
Speaker 2: another thing called soord ratchetness when we talk about swords

1755
01:26:29,880 --> 01:26:33,120
Speaker 2: and we try to tell people we're trying to get

1756
01:26:33,120 --> 01:26:35,280
Speaker 2: gun control in America, but honestly, we don't even have

1757
01:26:35,280 --> 01:26:39,200
Speaker 2: soord control. So we gotta spread a little bit of awareness. Now,

1758
01:26:39,200 --> 01:26:41,880
Speaker 2: this is a long twenty five second sound effect that

1759
01:26:41,920 --> 01:27:05,080
Speaker 2: I'm gonna play. Just Grant and Barrett is part of it.

1760
01:27:05,160 --> 01:27:06,000
Speaker 2: Sword ratchetness.

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01:27:06,120 --> 01:27:07,200
Speaker 4: Did he falls off his horse?

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01:27:08,240 --> 01:27:13,400
Speaker 2: Twist? This one comes from Australia. Okay, all the way

1763
01:27:13,439 --> 01:27:16,280
Speaker 2: across the globe. Good day, mates, be careful like that.

1764
01:27:16,680 --> 01:27:20,640
Speaker 2: Shout out to Woga twist. As police called to Melbourne

1765
01:27:20,840 --> 01:27:24,360
Speaker 2: Southland shopping Center as a man arrived with a sword.

1766
01:27:24,960 --> 01:27:29,080
Speaker 2: Oh Police officers who rushed to a busy Melbourne shopping

1767
01:27:29,120 --> 01:27:31,719
Speaker 2: center to reports of a knife wilder man were surprised

1768
01:27:31,720 --> 01:27:34,439
Speaker 2: at what they were confronted with. Now, how would you

1769
01:27:34,479 --> 01:27:36,800
Speaker 2: be surprised if they called you to be like it's

1770
01:27:36,840 --> 01:27:42,400
Speaker 2: anyway okay. The cause of the officers from security came

1771
01:27:42,439 --> 01:27:44,800
Speaker 2: at seven to twenty pm on a Wednesday, after an

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01:27:45,000 --> 01:27:48,679
Speaker 2: armed man was seen walking around the Southland Shopping Center

1773
01:27:48,680 --> 01:27:51,840
Speaker 2: in the city southeast with lights and sirens on. Police

1774
01:27:51,920 --> 01:27:53,640
Speaker 2: rushed to the center and found a twenty four year

1775
01:27:53,680 --> 01:27:56,880
Speaker 2: old outside of the Village Cinemas, But as soon as

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01:27:56,920 --> 01:27:59,040
Speaker 2: they laid eyes on them, they realized he was dressed

1777
01:27:59,040 --> 01:28:04,160
Speaker 2: in a costume complete with life a lifelike imitation sword.

1778
01:28:04,800 --> 01:28:07,120
Speaker 2: So he was oh my guy, he was a cosplayer.

1779
01:28:07,320 --> 01:28:13,080
Speaker 2: He was dressing Demon Slayer, uh the movie. So he

1780
01:28:13,160 --> 01:28:15,000
Speaker 2: had came to see the movie. We just went to

1781
01:28:15,040 --> 01:28:17,800
Speaker 2: see Demon Slayer the Infinity casts and people dress up

1782
01:28:17,800 --> 01:28:21,160
Speaker 2: for that, and so he was actually just there in cosplay.

1783
01:28:21,760 --> 01:28:23,640
Speaker 2: And they seized the fake sword and said it was

1784
01:28:23,680 --> 01:28:26,360
Speaker 2: best to leave all weaponry at home like next time,

1785
01:28:27,040 --> 01:28:30,400
Speaker 2: and the officers, being a little snarky, said no demons

1786
01:28:30,439 --> 01:28:32,679
Speaker 2: were slayed, and the man enjoyed watching the movie without

1787
01:28:32,720 --> 01:28:36,320
Speaker 2: further incident. So the sword he real is a fake

1788
01:28:36,439 --> 01:28:38,520
Speaker 2: sword and he was just cosplaying.

1789
01:28:39,080 --> 01:28:41,000
Speaker 3: But it probably cost peple of panic because they'd be like,

1790
01:28:41,040 --> 01:28:42,240
Speaker 3: you got a sword.

1791
01:28:42,200 --> 01:28:45,040
Speaker 2: Even and listen. It hurts me to say. I'm a

1792
01:28:45,080 --> 01:28:49,280
Speaker 2: huge anime fan. Okay, I love Demon Slay. We just

1793
01:28:49,360 --> 01:28:51,559
Speaker 2: I like nerdy stuff. I like when people go to

1794
01:28:51,680 --> 01:28:56,200
Speaker 2: cons but lead a damn sword at home. Man, what's

1795
01:28:56,240 --> 01:28:59,040
Speaker 2: wrong with you? Like this, they don't know it's fake.

1796
01:28:59,240 --> 01:29:02,559
Speaker 2: You could have got man, Yes, you could be dead

1797
01:29:02,640 --> 01:29:06,160
Speaker 2: because you're a big fan. That's crazy, Like what would

1798
01:29:06,160 --> 01:29:07,920
Speaker 2: you what would you have done some anime with a

1799
01:29:07,960 --> 01:29:09,600
Speaker 2: gun in it. You're gonna bring a fake gun like

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01:29:09,640 --> 01:29:11,160
Speaker 2: that's there's a level.

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01:29:10,920 --> 01:29:13,200
Speaker 1: To this does not work well, that does not well?

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01:29:13,520 --> 01:29:16,160
Speaker 2: Right, So like, yeah, you play with your life homework.

1803
01:29:16,160 --> 01:29:18,840
Speaker 2: I'm glad to Australian police not as trigger happy as

1804
01:29:18,840 --> 01:29:21,160
Speaker 2: America because you ain't that the truth. You would have

1805
01:29:21,200 --> 01:29:26,559
Speaker 2: definitely got you. Come on, man, they would have seen

1806
01:29:26,560 --> 01:29:30,960
Speaker 2: if you could block with that sword dog don't do it.

1807
01:29:31,360 --> 01:29:33,400
Speaker 2: But yeah, so make sure you guys be safe out

1808
01:29:33,400 --> 01:29:36,760
Speaker 2: there listening. Tell everybody once again where to go to

1809
01:29:36,960 --> 01:29:41,320
Speaker 2: go to the gala to give to all that stuff.

1810
01:29:42,240 --> 01:29:46,280
Speaker 5: Yes, yes, visit us at www dot a Giving Heart

1811
01:29:46,320 --> 01:29:49,600
Speaker 5: Project dot org, a Giving Heart Project dot org. You

1812
01:29:49,600 --> 01:29:54,720
Speaker 5: can follow us on Facebook, Instagram, TikTok a Giving Heart Project,

1813
01:29:55,800 --> 01:30:01,240
Speaker 5: a g HP at a g H project on x

1814
01:30:01,960 --> 01:30:04,639
Speaker 5: but we would love for you to just connect with us.

1815
01:30:04,680 --> 01:30:07,720
Speaker 2: Well, thank y'all for coming. It was great seeing y'all.

1816
01:30:07,760 --> 01:30:13,800
Speaker 2: I'm sure we'll see y'all outside handles at some point. Yeah, right, yeah,

1817
01:30:13,880 --> 01:30:16,160
Speaker 2: We appreciate y'all, man, And like I said, man, I'm

1818
01:30:16,160 --> 01:30:18,639
Speaker 2: so proud of y'all, man, just because what y'all doing

1819
01:30:18,720 --> 01:30:20,479
Speaker 2: is so dope, and y'all been doing it for a minute,

1820
01:30:20,520 --> 01:30:22,960
Speaker 2: like you know what I'm saying, Like it's I would

1821
01:30:22,960 --> 01:30:25,080
Speaker 2: have totally understood if it was like, man, we tried,

1822
01:30:25,320 --> 01:30:27,479
Speaker 2: we gave it a year, but y'all like it's twenty

1823
01:30:27,520 --> 01:30:29,720
Speaker 2: twenty five, y'all been doing this thing seven years. Man,

1824
01:30:29,760 --> 01:30:33,479
Speaker 2: that's so dope. For the rest of y'all, we'll be

1825
01:30:33,560 --> 01:30:36,559
Speaker 2: back throughout the rest of the week. We appreciate y'all,

1826
01:30:36,720 --> 01:30:38,960
Speaker 2: and we'll have all kinds of crazy stuff to talk

1827
01:30:39,000 --> 01:30:41,800
Speaker 2: about tomorrow for sure. Until next time, I love you,

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Speaker 2: I love you, Fly