WEBVTT - Roots, Stones, D***s & Bones 0:00:02.040 --> 0:00:04.280 I'm going to be playing the role of you viewers 0:00:04.280 --> 0:00:08.440 at home. I wasn't in Jamaka. I don't. When May 0:00:08.440 --> 0:00:09.920 said she's gonna do an episode, I'm like, you want 0:00:09.920 --> 0:00:12.000 me to go? No? She literally said, you don't want 0:00:12.000 --> 0:00:14.200 to do yourself. I said, no, you have to be 0:00:14.240 --> 0:00:19.120 here because you tell me navigate the conversation, y'all. I 0:00:19.239 --> 0:00:22.440 need to make sure she's there next year. Yes, yes, 0:00:22.840 --> 0:00:25.759 let me tell y'all the episode. Y'all, we're about to 0:00:25.840 --> 0:00:29.680 hear can heard me from coming to watch out, lady, 0:00:30.200 --> 0:00:34.959 I have your panty liners on Bellas put a blanket 0:00:35.040 --> 0:00:37.879 or something over your your pants because you got to 0:00:37.920 --> 0:00:41.640 put truth through it. I am joined by Jazz, who 0:00:41.720 --> 0:00:49.000 is the founder, not founder, non founder, co host and 0:00:49.080 --> 0:00:54.160 hold on party curator, party curator, party curator of Chocolate 0:00:54.160 --> 0:00:57.720 Bliss Travel. And then I am joined by someone who 0:00:58.200 --> 0:01:01.800 was brought on the trip like myself post it Ksha. 0:01:02.040 --> 0:01:04.800 Yes, I gotta tell y'all how I know Kansha so 0:01:06.600 --> 0:01:11.880 recently look to Billy's live show, and I'm just gonna 0:01:12.080 --> 0:01:12.600 admit it. 0:01:12.920 --> 0:01:14.840 Now. You know when you say you're gonna show up 0:01:14.880 --> 0:01:16.600 to someone's event and you just like, I gotta check 0:01:16.640 --> 0:01:17.360 this thing off the list. 0:01:17.440 --> 0:01:18.960 Yeah, I just kind of wanted to say in bed, 0:01:19.319 --> 0:01:22.120 but we get out of the house, had such a 0:01:22.160 --> 0:01:26.360 good time. Kasha get her ass on stage, and my 0:01:26.440 --> 0:01:27.840 nigga said, this. 0:01:27.880 --> 0:01:32.240 Is turning up. This is I don't want to give. 0:01:32.080 --> 0:01:34.320 Away Billy's live show, but what I will say is 0:01:34.720 --> 0:01:40.120 it started off with her being amused for someone that 0:01:40.360 --> 0:01:41.399 was doing a demonstration. 0:01:42.080 --> 0:01:45.320 And the craziest thing in the middle of this is 0:01:45.360 --> 0:01:48.920 she goes, hold on, is it okay if I get 0:01:48.960 --> 0:01:52.960 spake daddy and I'll turn it around. Yeah, And my 0:01:53.000 --> 0:01:54.520 wife was there, so I got in trouble. I didn't 0:01:54.520 --> 0:01:56.600 tell you that I got in trouble that day, yo, 0:01:56.680 --> 0:01:58.960 who my wife? I got in trouble that day because 0:01:59.000 --> 0:02:02.280 she was there also. So I'm only bringing you by 0:02:02.320 --> 0:02:09.000 the way, how did that's my baby? Let me let's 0:02:09.000 --> 0:02:12.600 do their family tree. So, so my wife has been 0:02:12.639 --> 0:02:15.840 around for like over two decades. Right, She and I, 0:02:15.880 --> 0:02:18.000 you know, best friends, but you know have touched each 0:02:18.040 --> 0:02:21.839 other so and others together. So when I first into 0:02:21.919 --> 0:02:24.320 the lifestyle, I didn't have a man. Me and her 0:02:24.440 --> 0:02:30.720 just still like pick out victims and knock him down. Yes, 0:02:32.720 --> 0:02:34.600 so here you know. So now I got to be 0:02:34.639 --> 0:02:37.480 your husband a little later. And the wife and the husband, 0:02:37.639 --> 0:02:39.880 you know, they have a great relationship first of all, 0:02:39.919 --> 0:02:42.720 So we jokeled around, but like she's like, my wife 0:02:42.840 --> 0:02:45.160 is like my best friend slash sometimes girlfriend, and he's 0:02:45.200 --> 0:02:48.600 my husband slash, you know whatever. And they were both 0:02:48.600 --> 0:02:50.520 sitting there. So when I said to him, daddy, and 0:02:50.520 --> 0:02:54.680 she was like, what the let's sitting across from him. 0:02:54.760 --> 0:02:56.560 She was with the blonde here she went on stage 0:02:56.600 --> 0:02:59.520 and did the morning contest in the beginning, So I 0:02:59.639 --> 0:03:07.600 was like, you at so entertaining. She got a nigga 0:03:08.160 --> 0:03:11.360 in a boxing outfit getting ready to spank her, punching 0:03:11.400 --> 0:03:14.080 her pussy, by the way, punching her pussy. 0:03:14.280 --> 0:03:18.400 So her man comes to stick and watch. And here's 0:03:18.400 --> 0:03:22.520 what it is so entertaining. She got her beautiful body, 0:03:22.560 --> 0:03:25.320 and it's very to me. What you would say is stallion. 0:03:25.520 --> 0:03:28.440 Like when we think of Stallion, we think height, we 0:03:28.520 --> 0:03:30.720 think big ass, but in shade we think this. There's 0:03:30.800 --> 0:03:32.760 just a look and it's also a wall. I think 0:03:32.760 --> 0:03:34.760 you could be a short Stallion too, if you got 0:03:34.760 --> 0:03:47.360 the wall, not the many pony s. So this is 0:03:47.360 --> 0:03:48.360 the most entertaining part. 0:03:49.080 --> 0:03:51.360 Meanwhile, you seeing this woman damn near house nigga gir 0:03:51.400 --> 0:03:54.000 her pussy punch. But the most entertaining part was her 0:03:54.080 --> 0:03:56.680 van For me and my fan couldn't stop looking at 0:03:56.920 --> 0:03:57.880 He's like, oh my god, look. 0:03:57.760 --> 0:04:00.400 At this nigga. It was like, oh my god. He 0:04:00.520 --> 0:04:02.160 was enjoying every minute. 0:04:02.480 --> 0:04:05.440 Mind you, you guys will soon hear her episode on 0:04:05.520 --> 0:04:08.480 Decision Decisions. There are episode excuse me, this niggas bigger 0:04:08.480 --> 0:04:10.040 than everybody security. 0:04:10.320 --> 0:04:14.280 He personal, So I was like, oh my god, is 0:04:14.320 --> 0:04:16.440 he hard? And then she's looking at him and talking 0:04:16.480 --> 0:04:18.600 to him. He's like, he's been hagging my legs open 0:04:18.640 --> 0:04:21.080 while the had a sex machine. So first of all, 0:04:21.080 --> 0:04:23.280 there's a mini boxing glove on the edge of a 0:04:23.320 --> 0:04:29.440 sex machine going like that to my and he's holding 0:04:29.480 --> 0:04:33.520 it open, and just like, ah, ditch. You know that's 0:04:33.560 --> 0:04:35.279 what happens when you get with a status. This is 0:04:35.960 --> 0:04:41.279 I'm not gonna lie meeting him. He looks so big 0:04:41.360 --> 0:04:45.080 and dominant, and yes he's masculine. But what I love 0:04:45.279 --> 0:04:48.440 viewing all week with you guys in Jamaica was how 0:04:49.279 --> 0:04:52.080 serving he was to you. It helped you with He 0:04:52.080 --> 0:04:56.440 helped you with your demonstration. Every time I saw y'all together, 0:04:56.839 --> 0:04:59.360 he was just making sure you were good, you were 0:04:59.360 --> 0:05:02.360 having a good time, you need anything. I loved watching 0:05:02.400 --> 0:05:04.239 That's why I wanted both of y'all on the episode, 0:05:04.279 --> 0:05:07.200 because it was so beautiful watching all together and him 0:05:07.279 --> 0:05:12.680 just support you in what is in terms of work. 0:05:12.560 --> 0:05:15.680 Yes, just because he knows he could what everybody asked 0:05:15.800 --> 0:05:18.480 that Also, because you. 0:05:18.440 --> 0:05:23.680 Can fucking squirt while sucking is dick. I don't know, 0:05:24.880 --> 0:05:27.960 like you may feel like I like, I actually might 0:05:28.040 --> 0:05:29.640 want to hire you because I have a nigga right 0:05:29.640 --> 0:05:32.600 now that wants me to like the thing, but like 0:05:33.040 --> 0:05:35.279 seeing you do that. And y'all, we're gonna did we 0:05:35.360 --> 0:05:37.720 start from day one? No? No, no, we are. We're gonna stay. 0:05:38.440 --> 0:05:41.880 So okay, here's how Here was my introduction. By the way, 0:05:42.040 --> 0:05:44.360 we're not gonna start with my first night. We'll get 0:05:44.400 --> 0:05:48.160 to my first day. No, no, no, it was the same night. 0:05:48.200 --> 0:05:50.760 Friday was kind of the Thursday was the first day, 0:05:51.200 --> 0:05:56.039 the first day, not like the chill day. So Thursday 0:05:56.120 --> 0:06:00.200 is the first day. And Jasmine, this was the first 0:06:00.240 --> 0:06:02.640 time I ever saw this. I want to start because 0:06:02.640 --> 0:06:04.599 this is probably where it's gonna end for y'all listening. 0:06:05.120 --> 0:06:08.240 I want to start with the welcome Pool party, and 0:06:08.600 --> 0:06:12.800 that's Friday. That is Friday, Friday, So I'm not gonna 0:06:12.800 --> 0:06:14.599 start with my night on Thursday. Oh you're talking about 0:06:14.600 --> 0:06:22.279 the twenty seven ducks. So Friday is the welcome pool 0:06:22.320 --> 0:06:25.120 party because everyone is really kind of arriving on Thursday, 0:06:25.320 --> 0:06:28.160 so some people may miss the daytime. So Friday night 0:06:28.520 --> 0:06:31.720 everyone just Thursday night was just like the welcome in 0:06:32.200 --> 0:06:35.120 like kind of it was like, so Friday is the 0:06:35.200 --> 0:06:38.640 welcome pool party. So I'm like, okay, mind, you's at 0:06:38.640 --> 0:06:41.120 the nude pool. So even for people that are just 0:06:41.200 --> 0:06:43.719 like I don't really want to get naked, you kind 0:06:43.720 --> 0:06:45.680 of want to go because that's where everyone gets and 0:06:45.680 --> 0:06:48.559 we're ripping the bandate off, straight up straight getting getting 0:06:48.560 --> 0:06:55.120 ady on Thursday anyone day one goose. Yeah, the outing 0:06:55.279 --> 0:06:59.719 was like off site. Yeah, I'm gonna bring you back 0:07:00.120 --> 0:07:02.280 what I did though that night because that was when 0:07:02.279 --> 0:07:06.640 I met with my first boyfriend. Yes, So anyways, let's 0:07:06.640 --> 0:07:11.080 start Friday though. So welcome party is at the new pool, y'all. 0:07:11.120 --> 0:07:13.360 I've never seen anything like this in my life. The 0:07:13.440 --> 0:07:17.960 DJ goes, hey, whose first time is it here at 0:07:18.080 --> 0:07:21.400 heato women? Which women? Is that their first time at 0:07:21.440 --> 0:07:24.560 heto Where are the newbies? Where are the newbies? And 0:07:24.600 --> 0:07:26.200 they don't know what they was raising their hands. They 0:07:26.480 --> 0:07:28.880 do not they do not know. What I need y'all 0:07:28.880 --> 0:07:30.480 to do is everyone comes sit in front of me 0:07:30.520 --> 0:07:32.240 at the DJ booth fin a side at the end 0:07:32.280 --> 0:07:35.000 of the pool, and they're all naked right now, everybody's naked, 0:07:35.360 --> 0:07:41.280 and they're like bordering the entire pool. The biggest one. 0:07:41.600 --> 0:07:44.960 That was the biggest one twenty seven movies. So next 0:07:44.960 --> 0:07:47.640 thing I know, I see Jazz and the other girl. 0:07:48.440 --> 0:07:53.000 They have towers of cups and shots. So I see 0:07:53.080 --> 0:07:57.520 balancing acts of about ten shots stacked in these plastic cups. 0:07:57.520 --> 0:08:01.400 Ten dark, ten late there we go ten dark, ten 0:08:01.480 --> 0:08:06.040 light shot dark night, probably whatever the additional settle. So 0:08:06.080 --> 0:08:10.320 I'm literally looking at them balancing acts of shots. So 0:08:11.120 --> 0:08:14.520 everyone gets a shot at the pool. The DJ then goes, well, 0:08:15.560 --> 0:08:17.320 we're I'm just gonna ask you. I'll take a shot. 0:08:17.640 --> 0:08:22.640 He says, Yo, I need a vet anyone who's been 0:08:22.680 --> 0:08:25.679 here man or women? I think they asked before who's 0:08:25.680 --> 0:08:28.480 into men? Who's into women? Right? They asked all the 0:08:28.480 --> 0:08:31.040 women sitting on the side, and so they all ask 0:08:31.360 --> 0:08:34.520 and then they're like okay, based on their responses, all 0:08:34.559 --> 0:08:37.600 the OG's all the vets go stand in front of 0:08:37.920 --> 0:08:42.040 find a woman. Find So I'm like, what am I 0:08:42.080 --> 0:08:44.400 about to see by this time? Because I'm sure and 0:08:44.440 --> 0:08:46.040 I'm in the pool, I go to the other side 0:08:46.040 --> 0:08:47.599 of the pool to have like an eye, want to 0:08:47.640 --> 0:08:50.640 have good eye? Yes? A good So why does this 0:08:50.880 --> 0:08:53.680 like the fuck gout to happen? So okay, so everyone 0:08:53.720 --> 0:08:57.079 has a cup. There's now a person, a man or 0:08:57.200 --> 0:08:59.160 woman in front of everyone in front of the pool. 0:08:59.320 --> 0:09:01.280 There is one man and they got greedy. It's that 0:09:01.480 --> 0:09:07.920 between two bitch. Yeah. I was like, damn. The DJ 0:09:08.160 --> 0:09:12.160 was like, but the woman let it do happen. So 0:09:12.320 --> 0:09:14.480 next thing you know, the DJ is like, all right, 0:09:15.000 --> 0:09:18.120 what you're gonna do is take the shot. You're gonna 0:09:18.160 --> 0:09:21.000 pour it between your titties. And they told the VET 0:09:21.120 --> 0:09:23.040 that they had to catch the shot before it hits 0:09:23.080 --> 0:09:25.319 the pool. Yes, so you sit here and see all 0:09:25.320 --> 0:09:27.520 the women, he says, one, two, three, though, so all 0:09:27.559 --> 0:09:30.440 the women before the shots it runs down their body 0:09:30.800 --> 0:09:33.120 and all these people are in front of them, and 0:09:33.160 --> 0:09:35.800 then everyone gets the shot, right, so you start seeing 0:09:35.800 --> 0:09:40.480 people lick like the body. It's coming off the body, right, 0:09:41.520 --> 0:09:43.880 I don't know what was said next, So y'all, let 0:09:43.880 --> 0:09:48.440 you know so what I observed, But just before twenty 0:09:48.440 --> 0:09:52.040 seven synchronized swimmers end up in a V upside. 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Hey, everyone, welcome back. 0:10:35.000 --> 0:10:39.920 It's another hump day with horribullshit from y'all pretty much 0:10:39.960 --> 0:10:42.800 pretty much. Before we get started, though, we are going 0:10:42.840 --> 0:10:46.520 to start off with an Amazon customer review of No 0:10:46.760 --> 0:10:50.480 Holds Barred because I fuck with y'all and y'all clearly 0:10:50.520 --> 0:10:54.520 fuck with us. So this one comes from Jade. She said, 0:10:54.679 --> 0:10:57.840 this is so wonderfully written and just amazing. I love 0:10:57.880 --> 0:11:00.920 both these women so much, have less to the podcast, 0:11:01.160 --> 0:11:04.440 and this is just another wonderful extension of letting us 0:11:04.480 --> 0:11:07.720 into their journey. And every time I come away with giggles, 0:11:08.000 --> 0:11:11.320 new facts, and more acceptance of myself, of this world 0:11:11.480 --> 0:11:17.600 and others. So just so good by her. So if 0:11:17.640 --> 0:11:21.600 you haven't yet, absolutely make sure you get our book, 0:11:21.920 --> 0:11:25.720 No Holds Barred, a dual manifesto of sexual exploration and power. 0:11:26.080 --> 0:11:29.120 It is an extension of this goddamn podcast in US 0:11:30.160 --> 0:11:33.679 and we want you know, to hop on that list again. 0:11:34.520 --> 0:11:37.440 We can actually get on New York Times bestsellers again 0:11:37.520 --> 0:11:39.920 because maybe we didn't already died it, So go ahead 0:11:39.960 --> 0:11:42.200 and help us get a second week on that list. 0:11:43.480 --> 0:11:46.960 Really excited because our letter this week comes from a 0:11:47.000 --> 0:11:53.080 listener of the book. So the subject for this is roots, stones, 0:11:53.480 --> 0:11:57.679 dicks and bones. Well at least it's not a COO listen. 0:11:58.240 --> 0:12:00.560 Oh nah, I ain't gonna hold you the cop for that. 0:12:01.040 --> 0:12:05.000 Have me roll it. So if y'all have it yet, y'all, 0:12:05.000 --> 0:12:08.240 make sure y'all check that out where our last person 0:12:08.440 --> 0:12:11.480 literally was a CEO dating an inmate. All right, So 0:12:11.600 --> 0:12:15.400 here we go Hey, Mandy and Wheezy wore hive member 0:12:15.440 --> 0:12:19.160 here since I was a freshman in college. Loved the journey. 0:12:19.240 --> 0:12:21.960 Y'all are on and loved the audiobook, and we'll be 0:12:21.960 --> 0:12:24.800 buying the physical copy soon and likely use it in 0:12:24.840 --> 0:12:28.320 a class I teach later in my degree program. As 0:12:28.360 --> 0:12:32.400 I'm getting my master's congratulations. I wrote a while back 0:12:32.440 --> 0:12:35.280 about dating my nigga, who I thought was boring and 0:12:35.520 --> 0:12:39.199 wasn't as expansive in his worldview. I listened to y'all's advice, 0:12:39.480 --> 0:12:41.959 and we ended up breaking up not too long after. 0:12:42.600 --> 0:12:44.800 I kind of already knew we were gonna break up, 0:12:45.120 --> 0:12:48.160 but getting that external feedback from y'all and my therapists 0:12:48.280 --> 0:12:50.720 and friends, it was a little Alie inform me which 0:12:50.760 --> 0:12:54.319 everyone said to leave him. We're still cool and fuck 0:12:54.520 --> 0:12:56.719 and go on dates from time to time. But that's 0:12:56.760 --> 0:13:01.360 another email for another day. This is about another scenario 0:13:01.600 --> 0:13:04.800 that I wonder if y'all could talk about. I'm obviously 0:13:04.880 --> 0:13:08.679 single now, so I've been dipping and dabbling in the streets. 0:13:08.880 --> 0:13:12.439 I've been entertaining new people and really seeing what's out there, 0:13:12.480 --> 0:13:16.439 and it really is as bleak as people say. Now, 0:13:16.480 --> 0:13:20.120 I don't typically invite people over first, but this particular 0:13:20.160 --> 0:13:23.720 partner I've known for a bit and feel comfortable inviting over. 0:13:24.200 --> 0:13:30.680 For context, I'm a Hoodoo practitioner and Arisha devotee. Another 0:13:30.720 --> 0:13:33.360 reason I don't like a lot of people over is 0:13:33.400 --> 0:13:36.640 with the different altars and items I have around my house. 0:13:37.360 --> 0:13:40.200 People who ain't familiar, which is most people I encounter, 0:13:40.280 --> 0:13:43.440 since I primarily date other Black Americans, ask a lot 0:13:43.440 --> 0:13:47.080 of questions and have preconceived notions about what I practice 0:13:47.400 --> 0:13:50.160 and who I am as a result, long story short, 0:13:50.520 --> 0:13:54.280 the nigga I had over was taking pictures of ancestor 0:13:54.360 --> 0:13:58.720 altars and different alters I have to Yamaya and ocean 0:13:59.200 --> 0:14:01.720 in my closet while I was in the bathroom and 0:14:01.760 --> 0:14:04.600 sending it to his group chat of friends. My question 0:14:04.720 --> 0:14:07.000 isn't about how I should feel because I kick that 0:14:07.080 --> 0:14:10.120 nigga out for taking pictures of my shit. Anyway. My 0:14:10.280 --> 0:14:13.440 question is more so for you all and your thoughts 0:14:13.440 --> 0:14:17.120 on dating someone like me. Would you or have you 0:14:17.200 --> 0:14:19.920 dated someone who was into all the woo woo and 0:14:19.920 --> 0:14:22.760 crystals and shit? Is that something you would want them 0:14:22.760 --> 0:14:26.720 to disclose before coming over? Just some thoughts I had. 0:14:26.960 --> 0:14:29.000 Would love if y'all could have someone on the show 0:14:29.040 --> 0:14:31.920 as well who is a spiritual practitioner of sorts to 0:14:32.040 --> 0:14:34.800 talk about their dating slash sex life and how they 0:14:34.880 --> 0:14:39.360 navigate that. Thanks, I'm gonna let you start with this one. 0:14:39.960 --> 0:14:43.520 I think my answer is gonna surprise you. Okay, So 0:14:44.200 --> 0:14:47.040 I believe in that stuff, I like using it whatever. 0:14:47.120 --> 0:14:49.680 But spiritual people will. 0:14:49.560 --> 0:14:53.080 Always be fucked up, like, oh my god, people like, 0:14:53.880 --> 0:14:56.320 let's be honest. Every bitch i'all know that is doing 0:14:56.360 --> 0:14:59.480 a spell. Don't got a niggast. Every bitch I know 0:15:00.240 --> 0:15:03.400 manifesting claiming They like, oh I'm doing this, I'm doing that. 0:15:03.400 --> 0:15:06.000 They ain't gotten the motherfucking money. They really don't be 0:15:06.080 --> 0:15:09.720 about what they be screaming about. So sometimes when someone's 0:15:09.800 --> 0:15:13.360 leading forward with the spirituality is their personality. I don't 0:15:13.360 --> 0:15:14.120 be into it either. 0:15:14.720 --> 0:15:18.240 Now when it's more private and I start to see 0:15:18.240 --> 0:15:20.680 that it really is like meaningful, Like most people aren't 0:15:20.720 --> 0:15:23.280 telling you every minute they pray, But for some reason, 0:15:23.360 --> 0:15:25.680 spiritual people are screaming at you when the moon is 0:15:25.720 --> 0:15:27.760 blood like you know what I'm saying, it's like a 0:15:27.760 --> 0:15:30.680 little too much. It would bother me, and it would 0:15:30.720 --> 0:15:35.200 bother me if they were bringing it into our dynamic, 0:15:35.680 --> 0:15:37.760 like it would bother me if we had a conversation 0:15:37.840 --> 0:15:40.000 and they'd be like, that's so pisce he's coated like 0:15:40.040 --> 0:15:42.960 this shit the fucker. Now what about though, Like what 0:15:43.040 --> 0:15:45.720 she's saying is this is clearly in her private space. 0:15:46.080 --> 0:15:48.640 She has her altars. Is it something you think she 0:15:48.640 --> 0:15:53.080 should disclose before having these new partners come over? You know, 0:15:53.280 --> 0:15:56.600 I think religion and spirituality is personal unless they're going 0:15:56.640 --> 0:16:00.800 to see the altars and stuff. Yes, but a lot 0:16:00.800 --> 0:16:03.880 of my homegirls that have alters choose to like put them, 0:16:03.960 --> 0:16:06.800 like hide them something like her, or out in the open. 0:16:07.120 --> 0:16:09.640 If he was taking pictures of them while she was 0:16:09.680 --> 0:16:13.480 in the bathroom. It's giving that these aren't hidden alters, 0:16:13.480 --> 0:16:15.440 Like they're not in closets, they're out in the open. 0:16:15.840 --> 0:16:18.520 I just don't like opening up the dialogue for somebody 0:16:18.600 --> 0:16:22.360 to get into your business that deep, right, because then 0:16:22.440 --> 0:16:24.160 it might they get wait wait, wait, they can get 0:16:24.200 --> 0:16:27.400 into your pussy, but not get into your business of spirituality. 0:16:27.600 --> 0:16:30.520 I think sexist is casual, but I think spirituality is 0:16:30.520 --> 0:16:33.800 more intense and deep. Yeah, bitch, I thought you bitch. 0:16:33.840 --> 0:16:37.400 You ain't used to say that sex was spiritual. Yeah, 0:16:37.440 --> 0:16:38.760 Like I think sex is special. 0:16:38.840 --> 0:16:41.120 I'm just saying like, in this particular instance, a nigga 0:16:41.160 --> 0:16:43.960 coming over tod like I have I have casual sex too. 0:16:44.080 --> 0:16:47.600 I'm just saying like, as far as this goes, for 0:16:47.640 --> 0:16:52.160 some reason, I just feel like she'll sound like a coconut, 0:16:52.360 --> 0:16:55.840 because I think people assume once you got to like 0:16:55.920 --> 0:16:58.720 warn them about your shit. Like if someone wants to 0:16:58.720 --> 0:17:01.600 ask you, let them ask you. But every bitch nowadays 0:17:01.600 --> 0:17:03.440 we gotting a little Buddha in the corner or some 0:17:03.480 --> 0:17:05.560 shit or some candles, maybe they won't think nothing. 0:17:05.840 --> 0:17:07.760 I just wouldn't. Yeah, I think it depends what your 0:17:07.800 --> 0:17:10.280 altar looks like. I mean, I ain't gonna hold depend 0:17:10.320 --> 0:17:12.359 what it looks like as a bitch who's not a 0:17:12.480 --> 0:17:15.000 Stars and Moons. If I go to a nigga house 0:17:15.040 --> 0:17:18.000 and see an altar, he not getting no pussy. I'm 0:17:18.000 --> 0:17:23.040 not eating his food, were not taking shots. I am 0:17:23.080 --> 0:17:27.280 not here for it. It would turn me off personally. 0:17:27.800 --> 0:17:30.200 And if you're saying you date other black American men, 0:17:30.400 --> 0:17:32.760 I do think that maybe you should lean in to 0:17:32.840 --> 0:17:36.639 date in some zo's then like maybe the what that's 0:17:36.720 --> 0:17:39.520 my vinue? Like maybe you need to date a nigga 0:17:39.520 --> 0:17:41.920 that kind of know a little bit more about all 0:17:42.000 --> 0:17:44.680 of that, and to me that you should for the 0:17:44.920 --> 0:17:47.320 folks that turn out, oh yeah, if you're not from Florida. 0:17:47.400 --> 0:17:49.639 If you're not from Florida, a zou is someone of 0:17:49.720 --> 0:18:01.240 Haitian descent. To me, I think the same way. Have 0:18:01.680 --> 0:18:05.000 I hide my cat right like some people aren't cat people, 0:18:05.560 --> 0:18:07.960 so I put that nigga in a room if I 0:18:08.000 --> 0:18:11.919 have someone coming over who might not, you know, be 0:18:12.119 --> 0:18:17.920 into cats. So for me, if you feel like someone 0:18:18.040 --> 0:18:22.320 may not be into this thing, I think you put 0:18:22.320 --> 0:18:26.520 it away until it's something to where the relationship you 0:18:26.560 --> 0:18:29.480 and this person are becoming closer with each other, then 0:18:29.520 --> 0:18:31.919 you open to that. If it's just casual sex, I 0:18:31.960 --> 0:18:33.960 think you share the things you don't want to explain, 0:18:34.680 --> 0:18:36.480 and not your dick. If you got to dick, share 0:18:36.520 --> 0:18:40.040 that before they come over. But for anything in your house, 0:18:40.359 --> 0:18:45.000 I think that you should absolutely you know. So basically 0:18:45.200 --> 0:18:48.280 for me, I think the reason that I don't like 0:18:48.359 --> 0:18:51.600 to bring shit up ahead of time is because I 0:18:51.640 --> 0:18:55.320 feel like it gives room for judgment. Good judge me 0:18:55.520 --> 0:18:59.600 and don't fuck me. Like I want people to be upfront, 0:18:59.680 --> 0:19:03.120 be up with who you are, hide it. When I say, 0:19:03.160 --> 0:19:05.200 be upfront with who you are. That's if you're looking 0:19:05.320 --> 0:19:06.879 that even if you're looking, that's if you're looking to 0:19:06.960 --> 0:19:09.640 date this person. Right, if you're just looking to fuck 0:19:09.720 --> 0:19:11.879 the person and you don't want to be judged, hide 0:19:11.880 --> 0:19:14.600 the shit that you already are insecure about possibly being 0:19:14.680 --> 0:19:18.800 judged about. It's that simple. Like for like, if I 0:19:18.960 --> 0:19:20.960 know my house is a mess, Like, let's take this 0:19:21.040 --> 0:19:24.040 away from altars, let's take this away from spirituality. If 0:19:24.080 --> 0:19:26.600 I know my house is a mess, and I want 0:19:26.640 --> 0:19:28.439 a nigga to come over, but I don't want that 0:19:28.480 --> 0:19:31.880 nigga to judge me as a messy bitch, I'm gonna 0:19:31.920 --> 0:19:34.000 go ahead and throw some shit into a room and 0:19:34.240 --> 0:19:36.600 clean up my house real quick. If you know that 0:19:36.600 --> 0:19:38.800 a nigga's gonna judge you for your alters and you 0:19:38.800 --> 0:19:41.160 don't want to be judged for your altars, bitch, hide 0:19:41.200 --> 0:19:42.280 your altars. 0:19:43.520 --> 0:19:47.720 As because they cast the spells on everybody out here. 0:19:48.200 --> 0:19:51.880 Yeah, I mean to me, to me, I think this 0:19:51.880 --> 0:19:57.280 this is definitely something that like, bitch, just da Haitian bro. 0:19:57.400 --> 0:20:00.560 That's literally my advice to you. Fuck the the black 0:20:00.600 --> 0:20:04.400 African Americans. They're not as in tune, I will tell 0:20:04.400 --> 0:20:05.119 I email. 0:20:05.240 --> 0:20:08.560 Black Africans really don't fuck with spell work. So, like 0:20:09.240 --> 0:20:11.320 ma Man said this to me a few months ago. 0:20:11.480 --> 0:20:13.800 About like how when he went to Nigeria for the 0:20:13.840 --> 0:20:17.000 first time that his family and this is a Nigerian man, 0:20:17.359 --> 0:20:19.240 were like, don't let them say this to you. 0:20:19.280 --> 0:20:21.840 Don't let nobody hands you money because they're like, you know, 0:20:21.920 --> 0:20:25.199 doing work and shit like that exchange of energy. And 0:20:25.320 --> 0:20:28.199 I found this ig where a dude does pranks on 0:20:28.280 --> 0:20:31.639 like uncles and shit like that in London and be like, 0:20:31.720 --> 0:20:35.960 what's your name and he'll say their name and he'll 0:20:35.960 --> 0:20:39.040 start being like, gets up, I'm going to get these 0:20:39.040 --> 0:20:40.840 spelled from you, blah blah blah, and the dude start 0:20:40.920 --> 0:20:43.600 running down the street like he just basically freaks African 0:20:43.680 --> 0:20:48.200 elders out. And I'm saying this to say, some people 0:20:48.320 --> 0:20:54.080 take spirituality and witchcraft as devil worshiping, and so when 0:20:54.119 --> 0:20:56.640 you think of it in that way, I think sometimes 0:20:56.680 --> 0:20:58.920 people can't even respect your religion until they get to 0:20:58.960 --> 0:20:59.199 know you. 0:20:59.560 --> 0:20:59.960 Like a lot. 0:21:00.040 --> 0:21:02.399 I got a few Woo Woo homegirls, and to be 0:21:02.440 --> 0:21:05.400 honest with you, well, the one that's real serious, she's 0:21:05.440 --> 0:21:07.679 Haitian and she'd be doing my makeup. 0:21:08.119 --> 0:21:09.800 I ain't know that shit for at least a year, 0:21:10.280 --> 0:21:13.760 and I was like, damn bitch, okay, and she was like, yes, 0:21:13.960 --> 0:21:17.399 it's private, not that shit. Was that shit for me 0:21:17.480 --> 0:21:20.520 growing up was always like talked about because my little 0:21:20.560 --> 0:21:24.640 sister is Haitian and so getting to know her family, 0:21:25.200 --> 0:21:28.600 Oh baby, my mama was in tune with everything that 0:21:29.720 --> 0:21:33.240 my sister's aunties and shit was into. And we talked 0:21:33.280 --> 0:21:37.000 a lot about voodoo who do all the things that 0:21:37.160 --> 0:21:43.159 Let's be very clear too, alters aren't necessarily voodoo or witchcraft. 0:21:43.160 --> 0:21:47.199 They literally could just be an offering or prayer station 0:21:47.960 --> 0:21:52.000 for your ancestors and things like that. So even her alters, 0:21:52.000 --> 0:21:57.520 I won't say is is spelly or witchy, but for 0:21:57.600 --> 0:22:00.800 the people that aren't familiar with that from a religious standpoint, 0:22:00.800 --> 0:22:04.359 from a spirituality standpoint, from whatever, yeah, baby, that shit 0:22:04.359 --> 0:22:06.280 gets scary. And we even in America have a thing 0:22:06.320 --> 0:22:08.600 where you're not supposed to even eat a bitch of spaghetti. 0:22:09.080 --> 0:22:13.719 So if you are walking into a woman's home who 0:22:13.840 --> 0:22:17.479 has these altars, I could see why any man not 0:22:17.520 --> 0:22:21.119 only would be judgy, but would be fearful in doing 0:22:21.160 --> 0:22:23.960 anything with you. Romantically. But also I think this is 0:22:24.000 --> 0:22:25.800