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Speaker 1: here since I was a freshman in college. Loved the journey.

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Speaker 1: Y'all are on and loved the audiobook, and we'll be

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Speaker 1: buying the physical copy soon and likely use it in

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Speaker 1: a class I teach later in my degree program. As

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Speaker 1: I'm getting my master's congratulations. I wrote a while back

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Speaker 1: about dating my nigga, who I thought was boring and

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Speaker 1: wasn't as expansive in his worldview. I listened to y'all's advice,

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Speaker 1: and we ended up breaking up not too long after.

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Speaker 1: I kind of already knew we were gonna break up,

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Speaker 1: but getting that external feedback from y'all and my therapists

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Speaker 1: and friends, it was a little Alie inform me which

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Speaker 1: everyone said to leave him. We're still cool and fuck

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Speaker 1: and go on dates from time to time. But that's

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Speaker 1: another email for another day. This is about another scenario

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Speaker 1: that I wonder if y'all could talk about. I'm obviously

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Speaker 1: single now, so I've been dipping and dabbling in the streets.

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Speaker 1: I've been entertaining new people and really seeing what's out there,

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Speaker 1: and it really is as bleak as people say. Now,

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Speaker 1: I don't typically invite people over first, but this particular

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Speaker 1: For context, I'm a Hoodoo practitioner and Arisha devotee. Another

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Speaker 1: with the different altars and items I have around my house.

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Speaker 1: People who ain't familiar, which is most people I encounter,

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Speaker 1: since I primarily date other Black Americans, ask a lot

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Speaker 1: of questions and have preconceived notions about what I practice

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Speaker 1: and who I am as a result, long story short,

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Speaker 1: the nigga I had over was taking pictures of ancestor

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Speaker 1: altars and different alters I have to Yamaya and ocean

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Speaker 1: sending it to his group chat of friends. My question

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Speaker 1: isn't about how I should feel because I kick that

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Speaker 1: nigga out for taking pictures of my shit. Anyway. My

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Speaker 1: on dating someone like me. Would you or have you

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Speaker 1: dated someone who was into all the woo woo and

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Speaker 1: Would love if y'all could have someone on the show

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Speaker 1: talk about their dating slash sex life and how they

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Speaker 1: navigate that. Thanks, I'm gonna let you start with this one.

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Speaker 1: I think my answer is gonna surprise you. Okay, So

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Speaker 1: I believe in that stuff, I like using it whatever.

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Speaker 1: But spiritual people will.

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Speaker 2: Always be fucked up, like, oh my god, people like,

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Speaker 2: let's be honest. Every bitch i'all know that is doing

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Speaker 2: a spell. Don't got a niggast. Every bitch I know

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Speaker 2: manifesting claiming They like, oh I'm doing this, I'm doing that.

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Speaker 2: They ain't gotten the motherfucking money. They really don't be

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Speaker 2: about what they be screaming about. So sometimes when someone's

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Speaker 1: Now when it's more private and I start to see

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Speaker 1: that it really is like meaningful, Like most people aren't

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Speaker 1: she's saying is this is clearly in her private space.

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Speaker 1: She has her altars. Is it something you think she

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Speaker 1: should disclose before having these new partners come over? You know,

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Speaker 1: I think religion and spirituality is personal unless they're going

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Speaker 1: to see the altars and stuff. Yes, but a lot

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Speaker 1: of my homegirls that have alters choose to like put them,

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Speaker 1: Like they're not in closets, they're out in the open.

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Speaker 1: I just don't like opening up the dialogue for somebody

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Speaker 1: I think sexist is casual, but I think spirituality is

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Speaker 1: more intense and deep. Yeah, bitch, I thought you bitch.

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Speaker 1: You ain't used to say that sex was spiritual. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I'm just saying like, in this particular instance, a nigga

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Speaker 2: coming over tod like I have I have casual sex too.

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Speaker 2: I'm just saying like, as far as this goes, for

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Speaker 2: because I think people assume once you got to like

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Speaker 2: ask you, let them ask you. But every bitch nowadays

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Speaker 2: we gotting a little Buddha in the corner or some

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Speaker 2: shit or some candles, maybe they won't think nothing.

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Speaker 1: I just wouldn't. Yeah, I think it depends what your

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Speaker 1: Stars and Moons. If I go to a nigga house

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Speaker 1: not here for it. It would turn me off personally.

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Speaker 1: And if you're saying you date other black American men,

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Speaker 1: I do think that maybe you should lean in to

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Speaker 1: date in some zo's then like maybe the what that's

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Speaker 1: that kind of know a little bit more about all

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Speaker 1: of that, and to me that you should for the

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Speaker 1: folks that turn out, oh yeah, if you're not from Florida.

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Speaker 1: If you're not from Florida, a zou is someone of

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Speaker 1: Haitian descent. To me, I think the same way. Have

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Speaker 1: I hide my cat right like some people aren't cat people,

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Speaker 1: and this person are becoming closer with each other, then

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Speaker 1: think you share the things you don't want to explain,

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Speaker 1: and not your dick. If you got to dick, share

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Speaker 1: that before they come over. But for anything in your house,

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Speaker 1: and don't fuck me. Like I want people to be upfront,

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Speaker 1: be up with who you are, hide it. When I say,

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Speaker 1: that even if you're looking, that's if you're looking to

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Speaker 1: I know my house is a mess, and I want

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Speaker 2: As because they cast the spells on everybody out here.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean to me, to me, I think this

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Speaker 1: this is definitely something that like, bitch, just da Haitian bro.

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Speaker 1: That's literally my advice to you. Fuck the the black

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Speaker 2: Black Africans really don't fuck with spell work. So, like

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Speaker 2: Don't let nobody hands you money because they're like, you know,

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Speaker 1: Like a lot.

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Speaker 2: I got a few Woo Woo homegirls, and to be

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Speaker 1: I ain't know that shit for at least a year,

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Speaker 1: it's private, not that shit. Was that shit for me

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Speaker 1: growing up was always like talked about because my little

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Speaker 1: Oh baby, my mama was in tune with everything that

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Speaker 1: Let's be very clear too, alters aren't necessarily voodoo or witchcraft.

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Speaker 1: They literally could just be an offering or prayer station

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Speaker 1: from a spirituality standpoint, from whatever, yeah, baby, that shit

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Speaker 1: like Mandy saying dates, some Zoe's people may.

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Speaker 2: Not understand that if you have offerings that you're giving

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Speaker 2: Like I think, sometimes it's too high level for people

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Speaker 2: dating them, you're gonna have to tell them anyway.

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Speaker 1: I just be choosing to keep it until it's necessary

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Speaker 1: outside of offer a podcast to ask the question, So,

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Speaker 1: outside of altars, is there anything that you can think

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Speaker 1: other other women? Right? What would keep you? You could

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Speaker 1: and saw something a cat chix? Let me tell you something.

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Speaker 1: These cats be out of control. Okay, we was at

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Speaker 2: It a little after he's maybe we were gonna fuck,

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Speaker 2: Maybe we weren't. She started making them drinks and I said,

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Speaker 1: Okay, okay, I said, hold on now. Then once we

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Speaker 1: all get on the couch, then a cat get into

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Speaker 1: to warn me because it's one thing. You know, you

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Speaker 1: need an older cat. They be chilling in the house.

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Speaker 1: I don't really see him. Some people house.

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Speaker 2: You know, you can smell him if they don't take

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Speaker 2: care of at home. Yeah, but you know that cat

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Speaker 2: out of control. I don't want to have to find

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I put I put body up sometimes. He was

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Speaker 1: really well behaved this weekend and I had a whole

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Speaker 1: threesome and me too. He was just really well behaved.

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Speaker 1: So I was like, literally when everybody left my house,

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Speaker 1: I was like, body, you are so good. Not the

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Speaker 1: energy of the cat or the people he was. He

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Speaker 1: was so good. He was so good all week and

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Speaker 1: I had a whole nigga at my house all weekend

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Speaker 1: and he like did not bother him at all, And

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Speaker 1: I was like, oh, my goodness, you are so good

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Speaker 1: they growing up. No, he definitely is not half as

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Speaker 1: bad as he was. Uh. I guess there's a Terrible

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Speaker 1: twos for cats too. Body's now five, so he's good.

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Speaker 1: But the cats all right. But the million I think,

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Speaker 1: I think for me, I'm trying to think of what

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Speaker 1: I could go into a man's house and seeing, not fuck,

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Speaker 1: oh easy, pictures of him and a bitch, don't let

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Speaker 1: me come to your house, and it's pictures of your

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Speaker 1: wife or pictures of like like what I know, people

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Speaker 1: that are okay with going and fucking people who have

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Speaker 1: wives have situations, and there's pictures of them all over

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Speaker 1: the house, on the fridge, on the counter, on the wall.

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Speaker 1: I couldn't do it. I used to be a fucking

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Speaker 1: side chick. If y'all read the book, I talk about it.

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Speaker 1: But never, not once did I go to a married

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Speaker 1: nigga home and fuck him in his married nigga bed.

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Speaker 1: So hmm, So to me, that would be a thing

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Speaker 1: on some casual like fuck shit you got together them? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: another thing, But I mean, I'm not really dealing with

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Speaker 1: married men at the moment right now anyways, So that's

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Speaker 1: not my thing, but that would that's always kind of

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Speaker 1: been a thing. We're not doing this. The other thing

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Speaker 1: that would keep me from sleeping with a nigga if

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Speaker 1: I saw it in his house, and this would be

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Speaker 1: if I'm just looking too hard, would be going into

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Speaker 1: your bathroom and it's nasty like I are around the toiler.

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Speaker 1: I need to make sure that you do not have

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Speaker 1: a mildew in your tub. I need to make sure

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Speaker 1: that you have a washcloth that isn't the consistency of cement.

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Speaker 1: I need to make sure that you have soap, and

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Speaker 1: I'm not talking about the orange kind that might say

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Speaker 1: dial I or lever Her two thousand. If you have

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Speaker 1: lever two thousand, I might not fuck you. Like there's

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Speaker 1: certain things regarding hygiene that I need to see present

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Speaker 1: that if you do not have in your bathroom, your

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Speaker 1: penis is not coming near my mouth.

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Speaker 2: So a hygienic thing besides it. To me, it's the bathroom.

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Speaker 2: To me, it's the bathroom.

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Speaker 1: Hm trying to think other than a bathroom because the

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Speaker 1: bathroom is a good one and I want to use

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Speaker 1: the bathroom like, ladies, if you go to a digger,

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Speaker 1: if you don't even have to do it, use the bathroom.

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Speaker 1: Use the bathroom. That'll, that'll, that'll quickly let you know

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Speaker 1: if you're gonna give that nigga the buns or not.

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Speaker 1: You know what used to bother me?

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Speaker 2: This is so random, but when I was younger, I

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Speaker 2: used to fuck with this nigga that was just living

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Speaker 2: in a studio and he was like, hell, little broke whatever.

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Speaker 2: And I remember he had a hard ass towel that

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Speaker 2: used to be, you know, over the bathtub, and I

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Speaker 2: used to be like thinking to myself, maybe he just

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Speaker 2: leaves it there. No, we're like cleaning when he needs

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Speaker 2: to clean the bathroom. One day, I'll walk in there,

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Speaker 2: I'm brushing my teeth. He jumps in the shower to

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Speaker 2: go to work because he was a club bouncer. And

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Speaker 2: I saw that nigga wet that rag and I said,

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Speaker 2: you have been yoursing that bits. I think I was

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Speaker 2: fuckingh for a month and a half. It was the

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Speaker 2: same green towel, bitch, hard as a rock.

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Speaker 1: How did it? Whatugh? Yeah, Higie, hygiene is big for me,

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Speaker 1: so yeah, I would say that. I guess Our all

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