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Speaker 1: Heyba fam, we are five years into making this podcast

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Speaker 1: that we love so much called Brown Ambition, and we

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Speaker 1: could not do it without you. We've gone from me

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Speaker 1: and Tiffany sneaking around my old office building trying to

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Speaker 1: now have one hundred thousand downloads per month for this

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Speaker 1: little show called Brown Ambition. We would love to ask

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Speaker 1: what are we looking for?

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Speaker 2: Here's what we'd love from you, guys. We already have

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Speaker 2: over a thousand reviews and a five star rating on iTunes,

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Speaker 2: but you know it's better than a thousand reviews two

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Speaker 2: thousand reviews. If you get head on over to iTunes,

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Speaker 2: right easyps. We love you guys, and thank you so

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Speaker 2: much for making Brown Ambition what it is. The last

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Speaker 2: five years have been amazing and it's all things to you. Hey, hey, Hey,

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Speaker 2: we're back.

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Speaker 3: We're black and brown.

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Speaker 1: Hey mandra Hey, Happy Brown Ambition Monday or Wednesday. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: when do we tape, when do we record? It's all

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Speaker 1: blurring together.

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Speaker 3: It is all a blur.

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Speaker 1: How are ya you know I'm doing okay. I'm technically

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Speaker 1: on vacation this week, and by technically, I mean I

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Speaker 1: put on my vacation responding email out of office email.

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Speaker 1: But then I accidentally answered some emails today because they

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Speaker 1: seem really important. I'm kind of I'm struggling to unplug,

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Speaker 1: but I'm gonna It's only Monday. I have the whole

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Speaker 1: week to like get my act together and relax. Right, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I'm trying. It's so hard.

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Speaker 2: I was having a good Monday, but then everybody's favorite

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Speaker 2: bonus baby, Supergirl, tried it today, so.

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Speaker 3: Ba, well, so Supergirl.

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Speaker 2: I guess she's like feeling herself. She's thirteen now. And

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Speaker 2: for those who don't know, I call my husband Superman

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Speaker 2: and my bonus daughter, my stepdaughter Supergirl, and.

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Speaker 3: So I don't know. I mean, it's been good.

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Speaker 2: Remember earlier, if you listened to any earlier brown A

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Speaker 2: power struggle when he and I got together and got married, when.

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Speaker 1: He got married, when you got married, we got married.

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Speaker 3: So, but since then it's been so great. I thought

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Speaker 2: Oh no, no, So today I guess her mom must

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Speaker 2: like nicely drawn out and like it literally says, do

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Speaker 2: not not is outlined in red do not enter, police exclamation.

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Speaker 2: Blinds are already drawn. Already drawn, is squiggly lines or

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Speaker 2: not enter, please, blinds are already drawn. Who this is

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Speaker 2: or my mom underline underline thank you, supergirl. This girl

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Speaker 2: told me that while she's not here, don't go in

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Speaker 2: I said this to Superman. Of course he was, you know,

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Speaker 2: being like, y'all, don't you know, don't come into my

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Speaker 3: I said, I saw your sign. She was like mm hmm.

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Speaker 2: I said, let me tell you it's the height of disrespect,

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Speaker 3: That's one.

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Speaker 2: Two, you don't instruct me or your father to not

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Speaker 2: I was livid because I'm like, You're gonna tell me

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Speaker 3: What in the have you?

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Speaker 1: You're going to take the door off the hinges?

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Speaker 2: No, what I did and said it was like, which

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Speaker 2: sure she could hit my footsteps. I said, you hit

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Speaker 3: Now what Petty I did?

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Speaker 2: And I'm both ashamed and I don't care because I

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Speaker 3: I was like, girl, I can I can sleep in

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Speaker 2: And I didn't tell her that, but I was thinking

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Speaker 2: I you know, even if she would have asked me, like,

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Speaker 2: I'm going to my your room if I want to,

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Speaker 2: I'm like, I make it a habit. Obviously I knock

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Speaker 2: So that's first and foremost. And second of all, you

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Speaker 2: you know, I'm really disappointed. I said, it's like fine, sorry,

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Speaker 2: I said, no, no, no, you're not sorry. And that's okay,

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Speaker 2: that's how you feel. But I said, when you do

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Speaker 2: daddy apologizes too much, And I said, that's him. Apologizing

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Speaker 3: And that's what I told her.

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Speaker 2: I said, when you're wrong and you're confronted with your

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Speaker 2: and the fact that you haven't is very disappointed and

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Speaker 2: I'm ashamed. I'm ashamed of the way you're behaving. And

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Speaker 2: that's what I could tell. She was like, oh, man,

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Speaker 1: But I just was like, and I just need to

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Speaker 2: So I just said. I just was just like, yeah,

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Speaker 2: I just you know, And honestly I was. I was

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Speaker 2: really because when I tell you, literally, this is the

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Speaker 3: I'm usually pretty chill, like.

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Speaker 2: You know, I'm I know, how to can check a

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Speaker 2: kid without like, you know, raising my tone. But I

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Speaker 2: just was like, when I tell you, I was like

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Speaker 2: hot all over. I just wish I'm gonna text you

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Speaker 2: the sign. When I read not underscore underscore, I just

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Speaker 2: I was like, who who are you talking to?

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Speaker 3: In my house where I paid bills?

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Speaker 1: You know. Yeah, it's really hard for me because honestly,

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Speaker 1: I was such a brady teenager. I just want to

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Speaker 1: tell you it gets worse, I.

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Speaker 1: It's never been the stakes have never been higher, and

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Speaker 1: know it's scary out there, but let's do it anyway.

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Speaker 2: We have to vote, Yeah, we have We literally our

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Speaker 2: lives depend on it. Absolutely, Like literally, there are people

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Speaker 2: who voted for the current administration. They're like, oh my god,

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Speaker 2: what's the worst that can happen? Literally, this is this

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Speaker 2: is the worst that can happen. We're here now, pandemic quarantine, death, destruction,

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Speaker 2: civil unrest, like we are in the worst case scenario.

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Speaker 2: So your vote, your vote created an environment for this

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Speaker 2: to be for those of you who voted for the

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Speaker 2: current administration. I will not name that person that leads

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Speaker 2: to current administration. He does not see who must be

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Speaker 2: named exactly, But WoT I mean we can maybe say

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Speaker 2: this for for our questions, but my mom asked me

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Speaker 2: a question today and I thought we should address it,

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Speaker 2: so maybe we'll save it for the questions segment.

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Speaker 1: Wait, a special question from Mama Aliita. Okay, I'm all

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Speaker 1: here for it. All right, Well, let's take a quick

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Speaker 1: break and we'll be right back to answer your questions. Guys.

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Speaker 1: All right, we are back. Thank you so much for

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Speaker 1: sending us your questions again. You could reach out to

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Speaker 1: us on Instagram at Brand Ambition Podcast or hit us

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Speaker 1: up by email. We are Brand Ambition Podcast at gmail

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Speaker 1: dot com dot com. Before we get to Mama Leecha's

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Speaker 1: question now, which I'm very curious about, I want to read.

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Speaker 1: Last week, we asked some of you guys if your

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Speaker 1: parents or you have children that you're taking care of

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Speaker 1: at this time. Many of you, like I and Tiffany,

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Speaker 1: you know, we're working taking care of children, taking care

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Speaker 1: of ungrateful children, and juggling that with our full time jobs,

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Speaker 1: and I wanted to kind of hear. We wanted to

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Speaker 1: hear from you guys and see how you're dealing with it,

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Speaker 1: and I just wanted to share a note from We

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Speaker 1: got several responses, so thank y'all. This comes from listener Ellen,

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Speaker 1: and Ellen says, I have an eleven month year old

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Speaker 1: I start work next week from being on maternity leave

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Speaker 1: for the school year because I'm a school counselor not

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Speaker 1: only do I have to worry about what distance learning

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Speaker 1: is going to look like, I also have to worry

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Speaker 1: about finding childcare for my son. COVID nineteen has me

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Speaker 1: scared as all hell, but a nanny is too damn expensive.

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Speaker 1: I live in the Bay Area and paying a nanny

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Speaker 1: a living wage full time, it's almost the amount of

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Speaker 1: my take home pay. Childcare is scary because you are

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Speaker 1: exposing your kid to more people, but it's what I

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Speaker 1: can afford and what we had planned on doing before

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Speaker 1: the pandemic. Mom guilt right now is settling in real

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Speaker 1: hard and just hearing Mandy ask about what people are

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Speaker 1: doing for childcare made me feel less alone. I know

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Speaker 1: I can't work from home without some kind of childcare,

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Speaker 1: so I just cross my fingers and pray that my

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Speaker 1: son will stay healthy. Thank you. We feel for you.

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Speaker 3: Ellen.

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Speaker 1: I mean, that's the sad truth. There's no answer. It's

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Speaker 1: just it's hard decision, hard decision, hard decision. Pick a door,

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Speaker 1: you know, take a door and walk through it. And

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Speaker 1: the fact that schools are asking teachers to come back

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Speaker 1: when you worked at that daycare with that private or public.

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Speaker 3: That was private, it was a nonprofit. So but I

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Speaker 3: wonder what's.

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Speaker 1: It like even for a private I mean, I know

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Speaker 1: you haven't worked in that in a daycare for a

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Speaker 1: long time, but do you have a choice, mean when

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Speaker 1: they say come in, I mean, you can choose not

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Speaker 1: to come in, right, but it's probably a choice between

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Speaker 1: getting a paycheck and not.

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Speaker 3: And that's literally what it is.

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Speaker 2: Because there'd be moments like, for example, like just say

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Speaker 2: something as benign as a snow day, where like the

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Speaker 2: snow would be pretty bad, and we as teachers were like, well,

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Speaker 2: this is not fair because for example, typically they don't

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Speaker 2: call a snow day until like like eight or nine.

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Speaker 2: But I used to have to go to work by seven.

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Speaker 2: So if you're gonna say, oh, schools are closed and

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Speaker 2: you tell parents by nine, what would happen is I

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Speaker 2: would go to work by seven, People drop their kids

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Speaker 2: off by seven, They close schools by nine, and some

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Speaker 2: parents wouldn't get there until like one, two, three, you know,

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Speaker 2: So it was hard because it's like, do you not

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Speaker 2: go and not get paid because when they tell you

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Speaker 2: it's open, it's open, and you not going. I mean,

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Speaker 2: you can use the sick day if you have it,

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Speaker 2: but then sometimes you would get in trouble because you can.

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Speaker 2: It's like a no call, no show. So it's just

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Speaker 2: it's not easy for teachers just not to show up.

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Speaker 2: That's why, you know, hopefully more there are teachers who

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Speaker 2: are in unions, and then the union can help force

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Speaker 2: the hand of some of the towns that might be

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Speaker 2: trying to force teachers to go because you yourself individually,

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Speaker 2: it's going to be hard for ten teachers to say

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Speaker 2: that because they have families as well. So it's like,

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Speaker 2: do I put my family at risk one way or

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Speaker 2: the other by not having enough money.

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Speaker 3: To support them or me potentially getting sick?

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Speaker 1: And I hope that parents. You know, I don't have

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Speaker 1: a school age child, but I have. I am a

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Speaker 1: part of the local Moms of you know insert city

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Speaker 1: name here Facebook group and the one mom got you

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Speaker 1: know one she was posting inventing about the quality of

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Speaker 1: distance learning at the school that she goes to and

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Speaker 1: how she's thinking about going private because it's been so bad,

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Speaker 1: and I mean she was she was just dumped on

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Speaker 1: and dragged. But you have to give you have to

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Speaker 1: understand the other side. It's not like you as parents. Yes,

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Speaker 1: I mean schools are so crucial and you know now

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Speaker 1: we're really realizing the value of them, which is sad.

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Speaker 1: Teachers in school to mean they offer childcare, they offer learning.

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Speaker 1: I mean, they're so crucial to the fabric of our

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Speaker 1: society and and our you know, children's development, but they

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Speaker 1: also are dealing with this pandemic. They are humans too,

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Speaker 1: and I think we just need to and they also

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Speaker 1: have choked too many Learning is new to them. They

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Speaker 1: have gets at home, and they're trying to teach your kids,

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Speaker 1: and like imagine you being home with your kid and

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Speaker 1: having to not just take like figure out childcare, but

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Speaker 1: like teach your kid, like teach other kids kids, or

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Speaker 1: teach other parents' kids. It's it's it's such a difficult

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Speaker 1: situation and I just think we just need we have

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Speaker 1: to lower the expectation for twenty twenty. Okay, listen, we

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Speaker 1: just it's just not going to be like it was before.

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Speaker 1: It's not going to be as good. We've just got

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Speaker 1: to We've got to create a new measuring stick. For

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Speaker 1: situations and for people and services, and just relax a

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Speaker 1: little and get people like, we just need empathy. I

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Speaker 1: talked about empathy last week. I just wish empathy, empathy, empathy.

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Speaker 1: Stop yourself from judging or writing a terrible review or

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Speaker 1: complaining about someone else, and just ask yourself what is

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Speaker 1: their situation, what might they be going through right now

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Speaker 1: in these crazy times? And pause before you judge. Try

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Speaker 1: to at least.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, now more than ever, empathy is. It's critically important

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Speaker 2: because you're going to need it as well. So are

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Speaker 2: you ready for Mama Lee Chase question?

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Speaker 1: I can't wait. Mama Lee Chase remimy again. Is she

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Speaker 1: she's retired? Right?

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Speaker 3: Does she retire? She's a nurse? Well, she was a nurse.

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Speaker 2: She was a hospital nurse and then became a school

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Speaker 2: nurse and then not last year, but year before last year. Retired,

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Speaker 2: So just in time, because so she called me and

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Speaker 2: was like, hey, daughter, it's like hello mother, she.

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Speaker 3: She said, So I have a leased car.

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Speaker 2: She's like, I'm barely driving it, but I think it

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Speaker 2: doesn't make sense to continue with the lease. Wouldn't it

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Speaker 2: be better if I just purchased the car instead? And

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Speaker 2: so once she asked me, you know, like should I

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Speaker 2: get my financing through like the car company. She has

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Speaker 2: a Toyota like a Wrap four And I said.

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Speaker 1: Wait a second, So she has been leasing and she

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Speaker 1: wants to purchase it.

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Speaker 3: Yes, she wants to purchase that Leas's car.

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Speaker 1: How long has she had her lease?

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Speaker 2: I believe, I want to say, she said, at least

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Speaker 2: for a while, you know what, I believe the lease

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Speaker 2: is up. So that's so she's at the end, so

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Speaker 2: maybe like I want to say, between three and five years,

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Speaker 2: because she basically said, I have to make the choice

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Speaker 2: this week, so that let me know that the lease

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Speaker 2: is basically up and she has to decide. She said

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Speaker 2: that she's severely under her miles, so I think, like,

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Speaker 2: you know, they give them like I don't know, like

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Speaker 2: what do they usually give them, like thirty six hundred

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Speaker 2: miles or something like thirty six thousand miles?

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Speaker 1: Thirty six thousand.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, And she said that she's been averaging like ten

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Speaker 2: thousand miles a year, so it's like, yanke, she barely

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Speaker 2: uses it. And she's just like, but she doesn't want

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Speaker 2: a car, but she doesn't want to, you know, pay

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Speaker 2: for a lease that she's not going to be using

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Speaker 2: those miles, but they have to have a car in

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Speaker 2: the house obviously. So one I was like, okay, well

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Speaker 2: if you're going to do so well, One I wanted

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Speaker 2: to address like whether or not you should even you know,

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Speaker 2: like whether you should purchase your lease. And here are

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Speaker 2: some like kind of like things I told her. I

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Speaker 2: was like, well, if you're way under or way over,

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Speaker 2: it might make sense. So if you're for my mom,

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Speaker 2: she's way under right, and so as a result, she's

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Speaker 2: like leaving value on the table because you know, she

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Speaker 2: paid for for thirty six thousand and she's used one

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Speaker 2: third of that. Or if you're way over, like I

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Speaker 2: remember when I was in college, my dad got my

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Speaker 2: sisters and I a truck that we all shared at lease.

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Speaker 2: Like it was like a pathfinder and woolf child. That

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Speaker 2: pathfinder saw every corner of this fleet. I mean, you

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Speaker 2: know the number of miles we put on that thing.

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Speaker 2: They were like, did you take this overseas? So way over?

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Speaker 2: You might want to purchase the car to offset you know,

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Speaker 2: the miles that you're that you've put on, So you know,

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Speaker 2: you don't want to leave money on the table by

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Speaker 2: like because because you used too little, and then you

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Speaker 2: don't want to have to pay these extra fees because

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Speaker 2: you use too much. So that's one one indication of

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Speaker 2: maybe a buying your lease might be a good idea.

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Speaker 2: Also too, if you had a lot of like excess

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Speaker 2: wear and tear, because like my mom's cars like in

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Speaker 2: pristine condition. But let's just say, you know, you lease

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Speaker 2: the car for your kid and they kind of tore

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Speaker 2: it up, and you know, the penalties are going to

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Speaker 2: be crazy, so you're like, you know what, we might

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Speaker 2: as well just buy the car because by the time

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Speaker 2: we paid these panelties, we might as well have bought

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Speaker 2: the car.

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Speaker 3: Anyway.

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Speaker 2: Now, the only caveat, and the biggest caveat is that

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Speaker 2: what are they going.

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Speaker 3: To And that's what this is where I'm gonna help.

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Speaker 2: My mom is a really good negotiator, so I've gotten

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Speaker 2: my negotiating skills from her. She learned her negotiating skills

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Speaker 2: in the market place in Nigeria, no place better. So

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Speaker 2: I'm going to tell her that don't let them try

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Speaker 2: to sell you the car at retail price because the

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Speaker 2: leasing company, they're gonna save money on shipping and auction fees,

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Speaker 2: so they need to be passing on that to you

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Speaker 2: and to try to aim for her to buy a

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Speaker 2: wholesale And on top of that, like literally leasing companies,

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Speaker 2: their number one buyers are these like Hurts and these

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Speaker 2: rental car companies that are not buying cars because people

647
00:30:49,080 --> 00:30:51,040
Speaker 2: are not renting cars and people are not buying as

648
00:30:51,040 --> 00:30:51,440
Speaker 2: many cars.

649
00:30:51,480 --> 00:30:53,720
Speaker 1: So she's able to get point.

650
00:30:53,960 --> 00:30:56,160
Speaker 2: So she should be leaning, she should go hard. But

651
00:30:56,240 --> 00:31:00,200
Speaker 2: like I said, my mom's an ex exactly and her

652
00:31:00,440 --> 00:31:01,880
Speaker 2: so one thing she did ask me is she said,

653
00:31:01,880 --> 00:31:04,240
Speaker 2: should I read finance or should I get the least

654
00:31:04,240 --> 00:31:07,320
Speaker 2: and get financing through the through like Toyota. I said,

655
00:31:07,320 --> 00:31:09,760
Speaker 2: absolutely not, And I said, not even your big bank.

656
00:31:09,800 --> 00:31:11,920
Speaker 2: I told her to go to a credit union because

657
00:31:11,960 --> 00:31:16,960
Speaker 2: credit unions are typically nonprofit based organizations, meaning that the

658
00:31:17,040 --> 00:31:19,760
Speaker 2: interest that they're charging you is moderate in comparison to

659
00:31:19,800 --> 00:31:21,800
Speaker 2: like a big bank, because their aim is not to

660
00:31:21,840 --> 00:31:24,480
Speaker 2: make money off of you know, that interest, it's to

661
00:31:24,560 --> 00:31:27,080
Speaker 2: keep the doors open, because that's what literally nonprofits are.

662
00:31:27,360 --> 00:31:29,080
Speaker 2: Their aim is not to make a profit, but to

663
00:31:29,160 --> 00:31:31,160
Speaker 2: help the community. So I told her, and there are

664
00:31:31,160 --> 00:31:34,480
Speaker 2: many credit unions that she can join today and apply today.

665
00:31:34,520 --> 00:31:37,040
Speaker 2: And her she was just asking me about where she

666
00:31:37,040 --> 00:31:39,239
Speaker 2: should get her. I told her she should know her

667
00:31:39,240 --> 00:31:41,720
Speaker 2: credit score because the credit union is going to ask

668
00:31:41,720 --> 00:31:44,600
Speaker 2: for it so she could start shopping around. And she

669
00:31:44,800 --> 00:31:46,520
Speaker 2: was like, okay. I told her, like to go to

670
00:31:46,560 --> 00:31:48,520
Speaker 2: credit scorecard dot com and she said, do they ask

671
00:31:48,560 --> 00:31:50,520
Speaker 2: for your social Security number? I didn't remember that they did.

672
00:31:50,520 --> 00:31:53,680
Speaker 2: I told her, no, of course they do. And now

673
00:31:53,720 --> 00:31:57,280
Speaker 2: she's like, I don't want to get it. I'm like, oh, ma'am,

674
00:31:57,480 --> 00:32:00,840
Speaker 2: so yes. I mean I just trust yes, and I

675
00:32:00,880 --> 00:32:04,000
Speaker 2: can understand that. But wherever you go, they're going to

676
00:32:04,000 --> 00:32:06,320
Speaker 2: pull your credit score. So it's just it is what

677
00:32:06,360 --> 00:32:08,360
Speaker 2: it is like, they're going to I told her, Mommy,

678
00:32:08,440 --> 00:32:10,320
Speaker 2: when's the last time you borrow any money? Now, of

679
00:32:10,360 --> 00:32:12,320
Speaker 2: course they're going to ask you for your not only

680
00:32:12,320 --> 00:32:13,720
Speaker 2: your credit score, but they're going to ask you for

681
00:32:13,720 --> 00:32:15,640
Speaker 2: your Social Security number. When you borrow money, they need

682
00:32:15,680 --> 00:32:18,360
Speaker 2: to attach that debt to you. Should you run away

683
00:32:18,360 --> 00:32:18,640
Speaker 2: with it?

684
00:32:19,160 --> 00:32:21,080
Speaker 3: And she was like mmm. I was like this woman,

685
00:32:21,200 --> 00:32:22,280
Speaker 3: so yeah.

686
00:32:22,280 --> 00:32:25,920
Speaker 2: So if you're thinking about purchasing your lease, actually, typically

687
00:32:25,960 --> 00:32:29,080
Speaker 2: I would say it's not the greatest idea because it's

688
00:32:29,160 --> 00:32:32,800
Speaker 2: very difficult to negotiate them down sometimes to get them

689
00:32:32,840 --> 00:32:36,040
Speaker 2: down to as close to wholesale pricing as possible, but

690
00:32:36,200 --> 00:32:38,680
Speaker 2: now more than ever. You know, if you got you know,

691
00:32:38,680 --> 00:32:40,760
Speaker 2: if you're a good negotiator, you can certainly get a

692
00:32:40,800 --> 00:32:43,360
Speaker 2: great deal on your on your lease if you want

693
00:32:43,360 --> 00:32:43,920
Speaker 2: to purchase it.

694
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Speaker 1: That's good to know, because husband tricked me into get

695
00:32:46,520 --> 00:32:48,920
Speaker 1: in the lease right before I gave birth. He caught

696
00:32:48,960 --> 00:32:51,920
Speaker 1: me in a real he caught me in a really

697
00:32:52,000 --> 00:32:56,120
Speaker 1: like blue blue mood and took me lease shopping like

698
00:32:56,160 --> 00:32:58,440
Speaker 1: a week before I went into labor. Anyway, now we

699
00:32:58,480 --> 00:33:00,960
Speaker 1: have a second card. First car is paid off, and

700
00:33:01,000 --> 00:33:02,560
Speaker 1: now we have a second car with a really cheap

701
00:33:02,640 --> 00:33:05,960
Speaker 1: least but still we do. We ended up not needing

702
00:33:06,000 --> 00:33:09,080
Speaker 1: that second car obviously in the pandemic, and I'm just like,

703
00:33:09,200 --> 00:33:12,880
Speaker 1: damn it, thirty six more months with this thing. That's okay,

704
00:33:14,040 --> 00:33:16,360
Speaker 1: live and learn well, I know, Mama. Do you feel

705
00:33:16,360 --> 00:33:18,520
Speaker 1: like your parents listen to your advice? Did they ask

706
00:33:18,560 --> 00:33:20,560
Speaker 1: you just so they can contradict you like my dad does?

707
00:33:20,800 --> 00:33:23,600
Speaker 2: And no, so like I feel like my mom listens

708
00:33:23,680 --> 00:33:25,920
Speaker 2: and my dad to a certain degree, but my dad's

709
00:33:25,920 --> 00:33:28,680
Speaker 2: like girl with my whole degree in finance and economics

710
00:33:28,720 --> 00:33:32,280
Speaker 2: and my BA in my MBA in economics. Cute but

711
00:33:32,320 --> 00:33:35,240
Speaker 2: who taught you? So I feel like my dad kind

712
00:33:35,240 --> 00:33:38,600
Speaker 2: of listens, but my mom more so listen. So as

713
00:33:38,640 --> 00:33:40,560
Speaker 2: soon as we hang up, I'm going to remind her, like,

714
00:33:40,600 --> 00:33:44,200
Speaker 2: mommy activate Nigerian market negotiating skills.

715
00:33:44,200 --> 00:33:45,640
Speaker 3: She's like, oh, you ain't say nothing but a word

716
00:33:45,960 --> 00:33:46,640
Speaker 3: like my mom is.

717
00:33:47,240 --> 00:33:48,960
Speaker 2: I'm telling you when whenever we had to like go

718
00:33:49,000 --> 00:33:50,600
Speaker 2: to get something, I would call.

719
00:33:50,480 --> 00:33:52,280
Speaker 3: Her and be like, Mommy, can you come. They're not

720
00:33:52,320 --> 00:33:52,960
Speaker 3: trying to give me this?

721
00:33:53,040 --> 00:33:54,480
Speaker 2: Oh I'll be there, let me put let me put

722
00:33:54,480 --> 00:33:57,760
Speaker 2: my pants on. What she lives for negotiating, So when

723
00:33:57,760 --> 00:34:01,640
Speaker 2: I tell her that she should negotiate, she's gonna be like, oh, yes.

724
00:34:03,040 --> 00:34:04,000
Speaker 3: Like my dad always says.

725
00:34:04,000 --> 00:34:05,920
Speaker 2: He's like, your mom is better than me at negotiating

726
00:34:06,360 --> 00:34:08,400
Speaker 2: like so like, but it's commonplace, like you know you

727
00:34:08,400 --> 00:34:11,080
Speaker 2: go to the marketplace, it's it's the marketplace in Nigeria.

728
00:34:11,239 --> 00:34:13,719
Speaker 2: So many women are the ones who are buying and

729
00:34:13,800 --> 00:34:15,840
Speaker 2: selling trading goods and services.

730
00:34:15,880 --> 00:34:17,120
Speaker 3: So so yeah, so.

731
00:34:17,280 --> 00:34:19,400
Speaker 2: I'm I'll tell you give to give you guys the

732
00:34:19,480 --> 00:34:21,600
Speaker 2: updates if you know what she was able to do.

733
00:34:21,600 --> 00:34:23,880
Speaker 2: Did she get her her loan through a credit union

734
00:34:23,920 --> 00:34:26,359
Speaker 2: and was she able to get the price down, which

735
00:34:26,360 --> 00:34:27,120
Speaker 2: I'm sure she would.

736
00:34:27,360 --> 00:34:29,040
Speaker 3: She she will be able to.

737
00:34:29,120 --> 00:34:32,359
Speaker 1: So love it. On another episode, not today, because we're

738
00:34:32,400 --> 00:34:34,319
Speaker 1: almost done, But I've got to tell you about my

739
00:34:34,360 --> 00:34:36,839
Speaker 1: dad's mortgage. I found out something interesting about how he

740
00:34:36,920 --> 00:34:39,880
Speaker 1: has a private mortgage today, which I didn't know was

741
00:34:39,880 --> 00:34:42,480
Speaker 1: a thing he lended. He bought his mortgage is through

742
00:34:42,480 --> 00:34:46,120
Speaker 1: a person not okay, and I'm fascinated. And I looked

743
00:34:46,120 --> 00:34:48,040
Speaker 1: into it and it's legit. I haven't talked to the

744
00:34:48,040 --> 00:34:50,600
Speaker 1: guard today and I'm like, yes, excuse me, mister John,

745
00:34:50,680 --> 00:34:53,120
Speaker 1: you ow you have my dad's mortgage.

746
00:34:53,520 --> 00:34:54,200
Speaker 3: I've ned that.

747
00:34:54,280 --> 00:34:57,200
Speaker 1: Yes anyway, all right, well, thank you Mama lee Ja

748
00:34:57,280 --> 00:34:59,520
Speaker 1: for your question. Let's take another quick one. This one's

749
00:34:59,560 --> 00:35:03,359
Speaker 1: comes from Instagram from a new listener named Kristin. Kristin says, Hey,

750
00:35:03,440 --> 00:35:06,280
Speaker 1: I listened to your podcast called are You Really an Ally?

751
00:35:06,760 --> 00:35:09,000
Speaker 1: And I loved it. Question for both of you on

752
00:35:09,080 --> 00:35:11,640
Speaker 1: suggestions for recruiting. Oh so, on this episode. A few

753
00:35:11,640 --> 00:35:15,440
Speaker 1: episodes ago, we talked about ally ship, especially from an

754
00:35:15,440 --> 00:35:19,160
Speaker 1: employer in a business perspective, because so many companies are

755
00:35:19,160 --> 00:35:22,360
Speaker 1: coming out and saying they really value inclusivity and stuff.

756
00:35:22,760 --> 00:35:25,799
Speaker 1: All right, So Christian says Kristen says, how do you

757
00:35:26,600 --> 00:35:30,680
Speaker 1: make your recruiting inclusive? Obviously the training around biases and

758
00:35:30,800 --> 00:35:33,440
Speaker 1: interviewing is important, but I'm wondering how to cast a

759
00:35:33,440 --> 00:35:36,359
Speaker 1: wider net. I'm currently recruiting for a board I sit on.

760
00:35:36,800 --> 00:35:39,200
Speaker 1: We have a diverse staff and a somewhat diverse board,

761
00:35:39,239 --> 00:35:43,560
Speaker 1: but I wondered if you had any suggestions on inclusive recruiting,

762
00:35:44,200 --> 00:35:47,280
Speaker 1: tiffany where do you go to find all the talented

763
00:35:47,320 --> 00:35:50,280
Speaker 1: people will diverse people of your business?

764
00:35:50,320 --> 00:35:54,600
Speaker 2: To be fair, it's I typically recruit from my audience,

765
00:35:54,600 --> 00:35:58,120
Speaker 2: so I feel like it's not really an alignment with how.

766
00:35:58,080 --> 00:35:59,000
Speaker 3: Y'all would recruit.

767
00:35:59,680 --> 00:36:02,560
Speaker 2: Meaning so like I serve black women for the most part,

768
00:36:02,600 --> 00:36:04,919
Speaker 2: Like you know, my core audience is Black women, although

769
00:36:04,960 --> 00:36:06,839
Speaker 2: we don't turn anyone away and we definitely have seen

770
00:36:06,840 --> 00:36:09,640
Speaker 2: an uptick and like other types of women and even

771
00:36:09,680 --> 00:36:12,680
Speaker 2: some men, but that's my core audience. I'm a Black

772
00:36:12,680 --> 00:36:15,839
Speaker 2: woman and that's who listens. So whenever I'm looking for

773
00:36:15,920 --> 00:36:19,200
Speaker 2: something or someone, I will go to the audience and say, hey,

774
00:36:19,840 --> 00:36:23,120
Speaker 2: we are looking to hire dot dot dot, and you know,

775
00:36:23,160 --> 00:36:25,920
Speaker 2: when they email, I don't know their race. But because

776
00:36:25,960 --> 00:36:28,600
Speaker 2: my audience is largely Black women, that will be like

777
00:36:28,760 --> 00:36:32,120
Speaker 2: ninety five percent of the resumes and things that will

778
00:36:32,160 --> 00:36:35,600
Speaker 2: get But I will say that I am more intentional,

779
00:36:35,680 --> 00:36:39,200
Speaker 2: Like now I have a potential show TV show on

780
00:36:39,239 --> 00:36:44,000
Speaker 2: the table, and so I was I'm interviewing for entertainment

781
00:36:44,040 --> 00:36:46,680
Speaker 2: attorneys right now, and I've reached out to my friends

782
00:36:46,680 --> 00:36:49,719
Speaker 2: who are in the entertainment business, and I specifically said, hey,

783
00:36:50,239 --> 00:36:52,080
Speaker 2: I would like to be represented by a black woman.

784
00:36:52,560 --> 00:36:56,800
Speaker 2: I want someone who because I've had representation in the past,

785
00:36:57,840 --> 00:37:00,879
Speaker 2: and I want someone who understand stands why I don't

786
00:37:00,880 --> 00:37:03,400
Speaker 2: want to do certain things and won't even bring them

787
00:37:03,440 --> 00:37:07,239
Speaker 2: to my table. Like I've had folks who are like, like,

788
00:37:07,280 --> 00:37:10,880
Speaker 2: I always say that prepaid cards are the malt liquor

789
00:37:11,200 --> 00:37:16,600
Speaker 2: of financial financial I don't even know tools or financial

790
00:37:16,920 --> 00:37:18,920
Speaker 2: Yeah products, right, people, what does that mean?

791
00:37:18,920 --> 00:37:20,440
Speaker 3: I'm like, Well, malt.

792
00:37:20,280 --> 00:37:24,360
Speaker 2: Liquor is alcohol that is especially egregious for the body.

793
00:37:25,360 --> 00:37:29,480
Speaker 2: It's really piss poor alcohol, and it is pushed to

794
00:37:29,719 --> 00:37:33,960
Speaker 2: black and brown communities and communities that don't have access

795
00:37:34,120 --> 00:37:38,319
Speaker 2: to like wealth. And so that's what prepaid cards are

796
00:37:38,760 --> 00:37:42,440
Speaker 2: that it is a terrible for the ninety nine percent

797
00:37:42,480 --> 00:37:46,240
Speaker 2: of them are terrible because they're fee like yo, prepaid cards.

798
00:37:46,320 --> 00:37:47,239
Speaker 3: Will charge you to think.

799
00:37:47,320 --> 00:37:48,880
Speaker 2: They're going to charge you to open it, charge you

800
00:37:48,920 --> 00:37:50,560
Speaker 2: to close it, charge you to load it, charge you

801
00:37:50,600 --> 00:37:54,319
Speaker 2: to swipe it, charge you to if you have a

802
00:37:54,400 --> 00:37:55,440
Speaker 2: transaction canceled.

803
00:37:55,480 --> 00:37:57,400
Speaker 3: They charge you for so much.

804
00:37:57,520 --> 00:38:00,000
Speaker 2: They charge you for inactivity, They charge you for stop paying,

805
00:38:00,040 --> 00:38:02,440
Speaker 2: if there's a monthly fee, they charge you for additional cars.

806
00:38:02,840 --> 00:38:07,960
Speaker 2: So and there are they are purposefully presented and advertised

807
00:38:07,960 --> 00:38:12,800
Speaker 2: to black and brown communities and communities that that fall

808
00:38:12,840 --> 00:38:17,279
Speaker 2: below a certain earning power. And so that's why I

809
00:38:17,320 --> 00:38:20,800
Speaker 2: say they're the malt liquor of financial products and services.

810
00:38:21,120 --> 00:38:23,759
Speaker 2: And so there are certain I've had people who I've

811
00:38:23,760 --> 00:38:26,080
Speaker 2: worked with before that have brought things like that to me,

812
00:38:26,600 --> 00:38:28,359
Speaker 2: and I'm like, what did I tell you about this?

813
00:38:29,200 --> 00:38:29,480
Speaker 3: You know?

814
00:38:29,640 --> 00:38:33,880
Speaker 2: And so that's why there are certain instances where I

815
00:38:33,920 --> 00:38:36,799
Speaker 2: specifically ask for I want a black attorney, a black

816
00:38:36,840 --> 00:38:37,520
Speaker 2: woman attorney.

817
00:38:37,680 --> 00:38:40,359
Speaker 1: I'm wonder glad you said that, because my first tip

818
00:38:40,400 --> 00:38:43,640
Speaker 1: would be, do not be shy about telling people you

819
00:38:43,719 --> 00:38:47,080
Speaker 1: are looking for referrals, but you're really trying to find

820
00:38:47,120 --> 00:38:51,160
Speaker 1: an inclusive as inclusive be inclusive as inclusive as you

821
00:38:51,200 --> 00:38:54,279
Speaker 1: can and find diverse recruits. And you need to tell

822
00:38:54,320 --> 00:38:57,480
Speaker 1: people that, because you know, people may not even think

823
00:38:57,520 --> 00:38:59,399
Speaker 1: before they refer you to this, you know, the three

824
00:38:59,440 --> 00:39:01,520
Speaker 1: people they have top of their mind, who may all

825
00:39:01,520 --> 00:39:03,520
Speaker 1: look the same or come from the same college, or

826
00:39:03,560 --> 00:39:06,840
Speaker 1: have the same you know, socioeconomic background. But if you

827
00:39:06,880 --> 00:39:09,640
Speaker 1: tell them, hey, we're really looking to diversity recruit candidate,

828
00:39:09,680 --> 00:39:11,640
Speaker 1: do you know any good candidates? And keep that in

829
00:39:11,640 --> 00:39:14,239
Speaker 1: mind as you're thinking of people, they may think about

830
00:39:14,239 --> 00:39:17,000
Speaker 1: someone they don't interact with day to day and pitch

831
00:39:17,080 --> 00:39:21,120
Speaker 1: that to you. And there's absolutely nothing wrong with going

832
00:39:21,160 --> 00:39:24,160
Speaker 1: into recruiting and being open about it. It's not shameful,

833
00:39:24,440 --> 00:39:28,360
Speaker 1: it's not illegal. So's it's better for your business in

834
00:39:28,400 --> 00:39:31,280
Speaker 1: general if you're just upfront about it in my opinion,

835
00:39:31,600 --> 00:39:34,480
Speaker 1: and I think the more people you have involved in

836
00:39:34,520 --> 00:39:35,520
Speaker 1: the process the better.

837
00:39:35,960 --> 00:39:37,400
Speaker 3: So And didn't you.

838
00:39:37,400 --> 00:39:39,760
Speaker 2: Say before you can go to like colleges, like historically

839
00:39:39,800 --> 00:39:44,040
Speaker 2: black universities in colleges and reach out to like that

840
00:39:44,200 --> 00:39:45,160
Speaker 2: platform there.

841
00:39:45,560 --> 00:39:48,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, a lot of times, you know, it depends on

842
00:39:48,160 --> 00:39:51,200
Speaker 1: how big the company is, but college recruiting is really

843
00:39:51,239 --> 00:39:53,520
Speaker 1: important to many companies. It's a key it's a key

844
00:39:53,520 --> 00:39:55,680
Speaker 1: way that they fill the pipeline. You get people young,

845
00:39:55,800 --> 00:39:57,400
Speaker 1: and you get them motivated and they stay with the

846
00:39:57,440 --> 00:40:00,840
Speaker 1: company for a long time. And they often will recruit

847
00:40:00,880 --> 00:40:03,200
Speaker 1: on college campuses. And if you're not getting a diverse,

848
00:40:03,600 --> 00:40:06,279
Speaker 1: you know, pool of candidates from the colleges you're recruiting from,

849
00:40:06,320 --> 00:40:08,799
Speaker 1: you know, ask yourself why, you know, talk to the

850
00:40:08,840 --> 00:40:11,920
Speaker 1: people at the campus, because of course that campus wants

851
00:40:12,239 --> 00:40:15,680
Speaker 1: their graduates to be known as great job applicants and

852
00:40:15,719 --> 00:40:18,920
Speaker 1: they want to you know, satisfy the businesses that often

853
00:40:18,960 --> 00:40:21,440
Speaker 1: pay money to come recruit on their campus. Right, so

854
00:40:21,520 --> 00:40:23,600
Speaker 1: tell them what you're looking for. Say, we will come

855
00:40:23,640 --> 00:40:26,160
Speaker 1: to your job fair, but we want to be sure that,

856
00:40:26,400 --> 00:40:28,200
Speaker 1: you know, we're seeing a diverse group of students. And

857
00:40:28,200 --> 00:40:30,880
Speaker 1: if they can't deliver on that, then maybe it's you know,

858
00:40:30,960 --> 00:40:35,520
Speaker 1: going to HBCU colleges or colleges that have a higher

859
00:40:35,560 --> 00:40:40,560
Speaker 1: representation of minorities. Just being really intentional about it. And

860
00:40:40,920 --> 00:40:43,480
Speaker 1: I would say, you know, especially I've worked at all

861
00:40:43,800 --> 00:40:47,040
Speaker 1: types of places, and often when you're doing your when

862
00:40:47,080 --> 00:40:49,759
Speaker 1: you have recruiting going on, it's it's your you know,

863
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Speaker 1: you have a need, especially at a small company, you

864
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Speaker 1: feel like you don't have enough time to do like

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Speaker 1: in depth recruiting. You just need someone who's talented, who

866
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Speaker 1: can do the job quickly so that they can fill

867
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Speaker 1: that gap. Or you may not even have a huge

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Speaker 1: recruiting team to help you and it ends up falling

869
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Speaker 1: on one person to do the recruiting. And I think

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Speaker 1: that's why you proliferate these you know, these this lack

871
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Speaker 1: of diversity in different in different offices is because the

872
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Speaker 1: group of people who are doing the recruiting is very

873
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Speaker 1: very small. And I think if you especially for senior

874
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Speaker 1: level positions, higher you know, people coming out at a

875
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Speaker 1: higher title, higher pay, which is often where the cliff

876
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Speaker 1: kind of drops off for black and brown employees at companies.

877
00:41:29,400 --> 00:41:31,680
Speaker 1: Maybe we're down in the first entry level position, but

878
00:41:31,760 --> 00:41:34,440
Speaker 1: the higher you get, the wider it gets. Being really

879
00:41:34,440 --> 00:41:36,960
Speaker 1: intentional with those senior positions and saying, listen, we're going

880
00:41:37,000 --> 00:41:39,280
Speaker 1: to have a hiring committee. It's going to be three people.

881
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Speaker 1: They're going to be diverse, and we're going to be

882
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Speaker 1: the checks and balances for the whole thing and make

883
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Speaker 1: sure that we are getting a diverse pool. So that's

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Speaker 1: my advice, be intentional. Tell people you are actively recruiting,

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Speaker 1: you want to be inclusive, you want diverse candidates, Go

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Speaker 1: find them. Wherever they may be for your profession. There's

887
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Speaker 1: tons of professional organizations, yes that associations that are for

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Speaker 1: black and brown professionals.

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00:42:05,239 --> 00:42:06,600
Speaker 3: So they call them that.

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Speaker 2: They'll have like Black Accounting Association, Black Lawyers of New Jersey.

891
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Speaker 3: So that's an amazing place.

892
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Speaker 2: Because there was one company that you know, came to

893
00:42:16,520 --> 00:42:18,319
Speaker 2: me and they're like, oh, you know, because they wanted

894
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Speaker 2: me to work with them, but they didn't have any

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Speaker 2: black employees, or any brown employees, or any anybody except

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Speaker 2: for white men for the most part. And I was

897
00:42:25,000 --> 00:42:26,879
Speaker 2: just like, I'm just not interested in being that black

898
00:42:26,920 --> 00:42:28,680
Speaker 2: band aid And they were like, no, no, I sure

899
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Speaker 2: you're Our next person would be black. But they said

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Speaker 2: it in a way as if they were doing black

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Speaker 2: people a favor.

902
00:42:33,160 --> 00:42:34,759
Speaker 3: I'm like, ma'am, do you know black people actually go

903
00:42:34,840 --> 00:42:35,360
Speaker 3: to college.

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Speaker 2: They're actually really smart black folks who could make this

905
00:42:40,040 --> 00:42:44,120
Speaker 2: organization better. Like and I you know it's clear that like, no,

906
00:42:44,440 --> 00:42:49,239
Speaker 2: look for qualified applicants, but widen your scope. If you

907
00:42:49,400 --> 00:42:53,000
Speaker 2: only ever throw your net where there are salmon, you're

908
00:42:53,000 --> 00:42:54,920
Speaker 2: only going to catch salmon, and then you're going to

909
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Speaker 2: say salmon are the best fish.

910
00:42:56,560 --> 00:42:59,720
Speaker 3: No, there's a whole wide open ocean.

911
00:43:00,560 --> 00:43:05,360
Speaker 2: Cast your net wider, you will find other amazing fish

912
00:43:05,480 --> 00:43:11,160
Speaker 2: that are equally as talented as salmon. Okay, so like yeah,

913
00:43:11,239 --> 00:43:14,960
Speaker 2: that's that's really it. It's like because no one's asking

914
00:43:15,000 --> 00:43:17,279
Speaker 2: for a favor, I don't think people get them. When

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00:43:17,280 --> 00:43:21,719
Speaker 2: you have a diverse range of ideas and thoughts and

916
00:43:23,640 --> 00:43:27,240
Speaker 2: just people bringing something different to the table, it actually

917
00:43:27,280 --> 00:43:30,239
Speaker 2: makes your business better. I don't think, like, I don't

918
00:43:30,280 --> 00:43:35,560
Speaker 2: get like, with racism, everyone loses, you know, like you

919
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Speaker 2: just do. I had to tell the other business like yo,

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Speaker 2: I tell the other brand. I'm like, yo, we're eight

921
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Speaker 2: figures a year? Are small little business filled with the

922
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Speaker 2: black women that you're not looking to hire? Like bruh,

923
00:43:46,200 --> 00:43:48,560
Speaker 2: These women could be working for you too. You could

924
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Speaker 2: have an amazing company. I mean, I don't know how

925
00:43:50,200 --> 00:43:52,640
Speaker 2: big their company is, but and I'm just like, so

926
00:43:53,480 --> 00:43:57,239
Speaker 2: you think that, like you, cutting people out is harming them.

927
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Speaker 2: Your business doesn't grow as much. This is why you

928
00:43:59,400 --> 00:44:01,600
Speaker 2: have to try to cut to me to run affiliate

929
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Speaker 2: links for you, because you don't know how to speak

930
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Speaker 2: to this audience. Maybe you'd know if you actually hired

931
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Speaker 2: people that look like me, you know, maybe you know

932
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Speaker 2: you wouldn't have to make this faux pas with your

933
00:44:10,560 --> 00:44:14,280
Speaker 2: fake black box talking about blackout Tuesday, but literally means nothing,

934
00:44:14,800 --> 00:44:17,920
Speaker 2: you know. So it's just that part is frustrating, like

935
00:44:17,960 --> 00:44:21,560
Speaker 2: police like go out and you know it doesn't like

936
00:44:21,719 --> 00:44:24,440
Speaker 2: find qualified applicants like you know there are can I

937
00:44:24,440 --> 00:44:26,719
Speaker 2: appreciate this question because people really wanted to know, But

938
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Speaker 2: there are folks who quite honestly don't care and think

939
00:44:28,960 --> 00:44:31,960
Speaker 2: that they're doing something by blocking people out. But the

940
00:44:32,000 --> 00:44:34,719
Speaker 2: truth is there's a tide changing and more and more

941
00:44:34,719 --> 00:44:38,280
Speaker 2: people are learning to find wealth and to make money

942
00:44:38,400 --> 00:44:42,880
Speaker 2: outside of traditional systems. There are four women on my

943
00:44:42,960 --> 00:44:46,120
Speaker 2: team who just had their first six figure month. Meanwhile

944
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Speaker 2: they work for me. I'm not paying them six figures

945
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Speaker 2: a month, and they're not necessarily making six figures a month,

946
00:44:51,360 --> 00:44:53,800
Speaker 2: but they have their side hustles and they've made six

947
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Speaker 2: figures and meanwhile they still work with me. And I ask,

948
00:44:57,280 --> 00:44:59,040
Speaker 2: you know, are you sure you still want to work here?

949
00:44:59,040 --> 00:45:00,799
Speaker 2: That they're like, no, I love working here. I work

950
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Speaker 2: here for the mission, I love working here for the

951
00:45:03,160 --> 00:45:06,160
Speaker 2: other women. I love working for you, Tiffany. And so

952
00:45:07,280 --> 00:45:09,959
Speaker 2: what I'm sharing that to say that you keep thinking

953
00:45:09,960 --> 00:45:12,120
Speaker 2: you're holding people back from making money. Not you the

954
00:45:12,120 --> 00:45:14,480
Speaker 2: woman who's you know obviously wrote this in But like

955
00:45:14,520 --> 00:45:17,960
Speaker 2: folks who like you know, try to keep these jobs yourself.

956
00:45:18,120 --> 00:45:18,480
Speaker 3: Keep it.

957
00:45:18,520 --> 00:45:20,320
Speaker 2: Shoot, there are people out here making seven figures a

958
00:45:20,360 --> 00:45:22,080
Speaker 2: year off their own ingenuity.

959
00:45:22,200 --> 00:45:23,000
Speaker 3: It's your loss.

960
00:45:23,320 --> 00:45:25,480
Speaker 2: That's the same talent that could literally be in your

961
00:45:25,520 --> 00:45:27,680
Speaker 2: business right now who are killing it. I know at

962
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Speaker 2: least ten women right now that have since the beginning

963
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Speaker 2: of this pandemic have made six figures in the last month,

964
00:45:35,000 --> 00:45:37,399
Speaker 2: if not two months. Like, just think about how much

965
00:45:37,400 --> 00:45:42,480
Speaker 2: amazing talent you've pushed out because of racism.

966
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Speaker 1: And think how much amazing talent you'll be able to

967
00:45:44,400 --> 00:45:47,680
Speaker 1: tap if you start hiring and looking outside you know,

968
00:45:47,760 --> 00:45:52,360
Speaker 1: traditional traditional sources to find that to find that talent.

969
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Speaker 1: But thank you Kristin for your question, thank you for

970
00:45:55,000 --> 00:45:56,759
Speaker 1: being open to it. I hope people, I hope you're

971
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Speaker 1: not the only one at the board, on the board

972
00:45:59,000 --> 00:46:00,880
Speaker 1: that you said on that things. This is very important,

973
00:46:00,880 --> 00:46:03,600
Speaker 1: and I hope that other people hold you accountable in

974
00:46:03,600 --> 00:46:08,040
Speaker 1: the best way for bringing those diverse applicants. I love it,

975
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Speaker 1: and thank you for listening to the show again. You

976
00:46:11,480 --> 00:46:14,600
Speaker 1: can email us your questions at Brandibision Podcast at gmail

977
00:46:14,640 --> 00:46:17,440
Speaker 1: dot com dot com or hit us up on Insta.

978
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Speaker 1: We are at Brand Ambition podcast. All right, Boost and

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Speaker 1: Break time.

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Speaker 3: Yes, Boosy break youcy break, Boosy break. Are you an

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Speaker 3: a boost Mandy or are you going to bury?

982
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Speaker 1: I'm going to do a quick boost because homeboys downstairs

983
00:46:31,920 --> 00:46:33,799
Speaker 1: and needs to go to bed and I'm occupying his

984
00:46:33,840 --> 00:46:37,239
Speaker 1: bedroom right occupying the nursery. My boos is going to

985
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Speaker 1: be for Peloton. I finally got my peloton. Oh, I

986
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Speaker 1: got it on Wednesday. I was not ready to ride

987
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Speaker 1: until Saturday. I just had to get in the right headspace,

988
00:46:47,120 --> 00:46:49,799
Speaker 1: you know. And things were really insane at work because

989
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Speaker 1: I'm taking this week off and everything. But I am

990
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Speaker 1: so far a huge fan and people have asked me like,

991
00:46:55,920 --> 00:46:57,640
Speaker 1: is it worth it? I mean, it's only been a week,

992
00:46:57,960 --> 00:46:59,759
Speaker 1: not even a week yet. But for me, I don't

993
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Speaker 1: know if you guys used to know this or you

994
00:47:01,520 --> 00:47:04,280
Speaker 1: know this, but I used to be a pretty avid biker,

995
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Speaker 1: like a bicycle.

996
00:47:05,239 --> 00:47:07,000
Speaker 3: I remember I had a bike blog.

997
00:47:07,120 --> 00:47:09,120
Speaker 1: I used to do one hundred mile bike tours. I

998
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Speaker 1: was real, real into biking, okay, and that was because

999
00:47:12,000 --> 00:47:15,960
Speaker 1: I was too poor to afford affoid, too poor to

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Speaker 1: afford a monthly subway ticket way back when I first

1001
00:47:20,320 --> 00:47:22,400
Speaker 1: moved to New York, and so I got like a

1002
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Speaker 1: fifty dollars bike on Craigslist and used to bike my

1003
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Speaker 1: little butt around and it was actually great for my

1004
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Speaker 1: wallet and my waistline.

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00:47:28,560 --> 00:47:32,120
Speaker 3: But you know, yes, I remember baby.

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Speaker 1: Man, so it really and so I thought, if I'm

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Speaker 1: going to get back to exercising, I don't live very

1008
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Speaker 1: close to a gym. Even if I did, I would

1009
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Speaker 1: not be going because you know COVID. So for me,

1010
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Speaker 1: it became even more financially uh, you know it, maybe

1011
00:47:46,160 --> 00:47:49,440
Speaker 1: even more financial sense once I once I realized I'm

1012
00:47:49,440 --> 00:47:51,799
Speaker 1: probably working from home the rest of the year, I

1013
00:47:51,920 --> 00:47:54,520
Speaker 1: need to be physically active. And I will tell you

1014
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Speaker 1: just the first twenty minute little beginner rides that they

1015
00:47:57,920 --> 00:48:01,319
Speaker 1: have have been really fun and I've really slow. I'm

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Speaker 1: not going to create like crazy goals I usually do

1017
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Speaker 1: for myself where I'm like, I'm going to do fifty

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Speaker 1: miles in a day and I'm going to lose like

1019
00:48:07,040 --> 00:48:09,200
Speaker 1: fifty pounds in a month. I'm just going to take

1020
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Speaker 1: it easy. I don't want to get burnt out, and

1021
00:48:12,800 --> 00:48:15,960
Speaker 1: I'm really yeah, I'm super happy with it. And you know,

1022
00:48:16,000 --> 00:48:18,480
Speaker 1: whether it's Peloton or you know, there's a lot of freeways.

1023
00:48:18,480 --> 00:48:21,000
Speaker 1: You can work out at home too. And my mood,

1024
00:48:21,200 --> 00:48:24,440
Speaker 1: my mood is definitely better, definitely better now that I'm

1025
00:48:24,480 --> 00:48:27,040
Speaker 1: moving a little bit more and not just walking around,

1026
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Speaker 1: you know, my neighborhood.

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Speaker 3: I love it.

1028
00:48:28,800 --> 00:48:31,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm going to do a quick boosty boost too.

1029
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Speaker 2: I'm going to do a boost to Black Girls Lead.

1030
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Speaker 2: So I'm sure y'all have heard of Black Girls Rock.

1031
00:48:37,160 --> 00:48:39,839
Speaker 2: It is this amazing award show that was started by

1032
00:48:39,920 --> 00:48:44,239
Speaker 2: DJ Beverly Bond. She's awesome and Beverly was like, why

1033
00:48:44,320 --> 00:48:46,759
Speaker 2: is there not a ward show to honor black women

1034
00:48:46,760 --> 00:48:49,800
Speaker 2: who are doing dope things? And so she started one

1035
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Speaker 2: and it's just grown to be huge and the last

1036
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Speaker 2: few years it's been taped to Newark, and I've had

1037
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Speaker 2: an opportunity to go. I mean, like Chacy Ellis Ross

1038
00:48:57,880 --> 00:49:00,920
Speaker 2: has been the host, Queen Latifa. It's just an amazing

1039
00:49:01,320 --> 00:49:05,080
Speaker 2: like Michelle Obama has come to speak at Black Girl's Rock,

1040
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Speaker 2: and so they have this summer camp called Black Girls Lead.

1041
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Speaker 2: So every year since the inception, I think this is

1042
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Speaker 2: year four that I've done the financial component for a

1043
00:49:16,719 --> 00:49:19,799
Speaker 2: Black Girls Lead and typically they do it at Columbia

1044
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Speaker 2: University and the city and the girls come in and

1045
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Speaker 2: like literally they fly in from all over and they

1046
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Speaker 2: get I guess they stay on campus and it's just

1047
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Speaker 2: a whole experience for them. But obviously Covid said not

1048
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Speaker 2: this year, although the devil is a liar because they're

1049
00:49:34,120 --> 00:49:37,279
Speaker 2: still having black girls lead summer camp. But instead it's

1050
00:49:37,320 --> 00:49:40,160
Speaker 2: going to be virtual. And let me tell you the women.

1051
00:49:40,680 --> 00:49:43,839
Speaker 2: The women Mandy, So I'm speaking, but who am I?

1052
00:49:44,239 --> 00:49:46,480
Speaker 3: You know who's speaking? Michelle Obama?

1053
00:49:46,600 --> 00:49:47,040
Speaker 1: You know her?

1054
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Speaker 3: You know who else?

1055
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Speaker 2: Misty Copeland, Oh, yes, the principal dancer and for the

1056
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Speaker 2: American Ballet Theater and an author of the first Black

1057
00:49:57,280 --> 00:49:58,759
Speaker 2: woman to do so m hm.

1058
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Speaker 3: You know who else?

1059
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Speaker 2: Tamik A d You might have seen her. She's an activist,

1060
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Speaker 2: an organizer. She's one of the leading activists right now

1061
00:50:04,719 --> 00:50:07,440
Speaker 2: with our with this civil unrest, and she's just amazing.

1062
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Speaker 2: Also Unique Jones Gibson, she's a friend of mine who

1063
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Speaker 2: she's the one who started because of them we can.

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Speaker 3: I don't know if you remember a few years ago.

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Speaker 1: That's my favorite Instagram.

1066
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Speaker 2: Yes, yeah, so she's yeah, so she's amazing. Also oh,

1067
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Speaker 2: Missy Elliott, get your friends. Also have been doing boom

1068
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Speaker 2: after each name this time Kamala Harris, Oh she's speaking,

1069
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Speaker 2: m oh Estelle, Okay, hey boo. Elaine Welter Roll. You

1070
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Speaker 2: might have seen her on TV. She's a New York

1071
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Speaker 2: Times best selling author, a producer. I mean, just amazing,

1072
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Speaker 2: Like that's not even that's just literally just a few

1073
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Speaker 2: of the women that are speaking, so just to be

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Speaker 2: counted in their number, I'm not gonna lie, is that

1075
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Speaker 2: big deal?

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Speaker 3: I mean, just what you're talking about feels.

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Speaker 1: What's your segment, what's your what's your Are you doing

1078
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Speaker 1: the keynote or are you doing a court like I

1079
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Speaker 1: don't even know what it's like.

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Speaker 3: Are you doing a color so black girls?

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Speaker 2: So, yes, it's a class, so they're they're there are

1082
00:51:00,360 --> 00:51:02,320
Speaker 2: a series of so usually that they do have like

1083
00:51:02,360 --> 00:51:04,960
Speaker 2: a keynote, which I'm assuming I mean, obviously Michelle Obama

1084
00:51:05,000 --> 00:51:07,719
Speaker 2: is clearly going to do that, but everybody else. That's

1085
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Speaker 2: kind of like back when it was at Columbia, we

1086
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Speaker 2: would do breakout classes where we would have like all

1087
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Speaker 2: the girls and so I used to do like all

1088
00:51:16,360 --> 00:51:19,680
Speaker 2: these different types of segments. But this time my class

1089
00:51:19,680 --> 00:51:22,520
Speaker 2: that I taught today. I actually prerecorded it today for

1090
00:51:22,560 --> 00:51:26,600
Speaker 2: the girls is. I called it how to Be How

1091
00:51:26,600 --> 00:51:30,000
Speaker 2: to Be a Millionaire because I wanted to lift up

1092
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Speaker 2: the veil that you young black women because it's like ages,

1093
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Speaker 2: I think, like I want to say thirteen to like

1094
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Speaker 2: maybe like eighteen or something like that, that you young

1095
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Speaker 2: black women.

1096
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Speaker 3: That that's outside of your reach, because that's just.

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Speaker 1: That I didn't realize it was the same like young

1098
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Speaker 1: audience as Black Girl's rocket is. That's beautiful, and it's

1099
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Speaker 1: all about kind of like inspiring a generation of leaders,

1100
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Speaker 1: not just yes yeah exactly.

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Speaker 2: So teaching them all these things that they might not

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Speaker 2: otherwise have access to. And so yeah, I talked a

1103
00:52:00,600 --> 00:52:02,440
Speaker 2: class today of like how do you become a millionaire?

1104
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Speaker 2: Like what does that actually look like?

1105
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Speaker 3: You know?

1106
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Speaker 2: What is investing? How do you start that? Should I

1107
00:52:06,480 --> 00:52:08,640
Speaker 2: start a business? Like you know that these things are

1108
00:52:08,640 --> 00:52:11,200
Speaker 2: within your reach? And and it's honestly, I mean I

1109
00:52:11,239 --> 00:52:12,960
Speaker 2: miss the energy of the girls because it would just

1110
00:52:13,000 --> 00:52:15,439
Speaker 2: be so awesome because afterwards they'd be so excited giving

1111
00:52:15,480 --> 00:52:18,480
Speaker 2: you hugs and like we would take all these pictures together.

1112
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Speaker 2: So I miss that, but I'm glad that black girls

1113
00:52:21,560 --> 00:52:24,920
Speaker 2: lead is still happening because Black Girl's Rock is about

1114
00:52:24,920 --> 00:52:28,239
Speaker 2: honoring Black women. But Black Girl's Lead is to make

1115
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Speaker 2: sure that these young women grow into those Black women

1116
00:52:31,960 --> 00:52:34,359
Speaker 2: that we later honor. So it just just what's an

1117
00:52:34,360 --> 00:52:38,080
Speaker 2: honor and a blessing and that's my brown, my extra

1118
00:52:38,200 --> 00:52:39,680
Speaker 2: black brown boost.

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Speaker 1: Well, if we have anyone who's listening and has like

1120
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Speaker 1: a teenager that they or what about Supergirl, I mean

1121
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Speaker 1: she'll be in time out or restriction whatever you call

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Speaker 1: it these.

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Speaker 3: Days, but I'm gonna let her. Like, no, she's gonna

1124
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Speaker 3: do that. That's the one thing. How behind is doing.

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Speaker 1: Still or is it closed?

1126
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Speaker 3: Yes? No, you can still red.

1127
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Speaker 2: So you can go to Black Girls Rock dot com.

1128
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Speaker 2: You could try, because I mean every year they do it,

1129
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Speaker 2: so I'm certain that there might be a waiting list

1130
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Speaker 2: as well. But yeah, you can go to Black Girls

1131
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Speaker 2: Rock dot com and see if there's any spaces left

1132
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Speaker 2: and try your best to register. And yeah, like I said,

1133
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Speaker 2: it's just awesome, Like what Beverly has been able to

1134
00:53:12,440 --> 00:53:15,160
Speaker 2: do in creating Black Girl's Rock and Black Girl's Lead,

1135
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Speaker 2: it's just it's an amazing thing to witness and to

1136
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Speaker 2: be a part of.

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Speaker 1: I love it. And speaking of Supergirl, your picture just

1138
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Speaker 1: came through finally. I mean, I don't feel the I

1139
00:53:26,520 --> 00:53:29,160
Speaker 1: don't feel any malicious intent in the in the I'm

1140
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Speaker 1: trying to look at it like a child's psychologist would.

1141
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Speaker 1: I mean, the colors are very nice. I mean, she

1142
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Speaker 1: took great care and was very neat with her writing.

1143
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Speaker 1: But I do feel the tude. I do feel h

1144
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Speaker 1: It's that like.

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Speaker 3: Do not that. I was like, oh she otlighted in

1146
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Speaker 3: read several times.

1147
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Speaker 1: Oh okay, oh yeah, I love it. I mean I

1148
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Speaker 1: don't love it, but this would be funny. I'm glad

1149
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Speaker 1: you took a picture of it because you can just

1150
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Speaker 1: drag her for this ten years from now too.

1151
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Speaker 2: I know, like remember this and that if you need,

1152
00:53:55,160 --> 00:53:57,320
Speaker 2: I could relieve you underline need and contact me or

1153
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Speaker 2: my mom.

1154
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Speaker 1: Please contract Like grown, like, how does she know this language?

1155
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Speaker 2: And first of all, maybe I'm home, like this is

1156
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Speaker 2: what this girl wrote and put on her door and left.

1157
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Speaker 2: I was like, yeah, she didn't even say goodbye.

1158
00:54:14,880 --> 00:54:18,160
Speaker 3: Actually looked. I was like, super Grid, supergrad. I was like,

1159
00:54:18,160 --> 00:54:18,640
Speaker 3: where'd she go?

1160
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Speaker 2: I had to call her father. She's like, she didn't

1161
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Speaker 2: tell you, because that's her. That's our thing. We always

1162
00:54:21,719 --> 00:54:24,359
Speaker 2: try to remind her, like, don't just leave, you know,

1163
00:54:24,640 --> 00:54:28,520
Speaker 2: let Tiffany know that you're going, even if it's a text,

1164
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Speaker 2: because I don't want you know, God forbid, the house

1165
00:54:30,760 --> 00:54:32,600
Speaker 2: cast is on fire. I don't want to run in

1166
00:54:32,680 --> 00:54:36,239
Speaker 2: looking for you and you're not there. So yeah, so yeah,

1167
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Speaker 2: I mean I don't I don't think it was like

1168
00:54:39,480 --> 00:54:42,799
Speaker 2: malicious in that, like I hate you, but definitely it

1169
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Speaker 2: was like don't go in my room. It was definitely that.

1170
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Speaker 2: And I was like, okay, so I'll give you know,

1171
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Speaker 2: I'll give you the update to see like what. I'm

1172
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Speaker 2: sure she won't be back for a little while because

1173
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Speaker 2: she's never really heard me get stern. So I'm sure

1174
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Speaker 2: right now she's I'm everything but her bestie right now.

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Speaker 1: Girl, I know she loves you deep down, but maybe

1176
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Speaker 1: she maybe she needed that conversation, needed that talk.

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Speaker 2: Yes she did, because I never, like I said, I like,

1178
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Speaker 2: she's gotten over for a long time.

1179
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Speaker 3: So I'm sure she loves me deep deep deep deep deep.

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Speaker 3: We there.

1181
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Speaker 1: Wait, I remember when we celebrated her turning double digits.

1182
00:55:21,680 --> 00:55:24,759
Speaker 2: I know, a whole decade and now look writing notes

1183
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Speaker 2: talk about where adults can go.

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Speaker 1: Keep an eye on that one. Okay, well, thank'd for

1185
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Speaker 1: another week, another show, and we'll see y'all next week. See,

1186
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Speaker 1: I'm gonna go try to do on vacation now I

1187
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Speaker 1: can remember how to do