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Speaker 1: My mom told me my dad disowned me, but he's

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Speaker 1: just bisexual.

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Speaker 2: Ah.

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Speaker 3: There's not many words to say for this one.

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Speaker 2: I mean, I don't I don't even know. I don't

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Speaker 2: even know how to respond.

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Speaker 3: All right, let's let's let's let's get to the bottom

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Speaker 3: of this one.

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Speaker 1: For most of my life, I was raised by just

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Speaker 1: my mother, since my father left us when I was three,

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Speaker 1: and my mom and I are very close.

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Speaker 3: But my mom has always been.

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Speaker 1: Vague about the details of the divorce, just that it

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Speaker 1: was very painful and sudden, and that he never had

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Speaker 1: any interest of getting.

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Speaker 3: Custody of me.

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Speaker 2: That's sad, damn.

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Speaker 1: A couple months ago, I was going through documents looking

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Speaker 1: for my birth certificate and I came across the divorce papers.

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Speaker 3: Oh crash, she found out what was going on.

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Speaker 1: Surprisingly, my mom was listed as the one who filed

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Speaker 1: for divorce, completely contradicting her story that.

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Speaker 3: He left us.

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Speaker 1: Huh, yeah, so she's she's starting starting to see the crack.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, the holes are being poked in the story.

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Speaker 1: I figured there must have been a reason for this,

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Speaker 1: like him being abusive or something. But I know that

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Speaker 1: my mom is sensitive about the topic, so I didn't

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Speaker 1: want to bring it up. I asked my aunt who

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Speaker 1: is her sister, but I was told to just drop it.

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Speaker 3: It's been bugging me.

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Speaker 1: So I decided to look for him and I found

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Speaker 1: him on Facebook.

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Speaker 2: She found op found her dad.

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Speaker 3: She found her dad.

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Speaker 2: Facebook just bringing families together for real. Thanks Mark.

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Speaker 1: His profile was completely private, but his profile picture showed

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Speaker 1: him with a little boy who must.

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Speaker 2: Be my brother? What so she has a brother now

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Speaker 2: that she didn't know about? Wait, so from the same marriage,

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Speaker 2: we're about to find out, I guess.

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Speaker 1: I found his business email online, and against my better judgment,

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Speaker 1: I decided I was going to email him asking if

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Speaker 1: he wanted to meet for coffee, and he agreed.

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Speaker 3: Last week, we.

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Speaker 1: Met and he was completely not what I was expecting

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Speaker 1: at all. He was thrilled to see me and even

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Speaker 1: almost cried and wanted to hear everything I'd been up

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Speaker 1: to for the past fifteen years. I asked why he left,

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Speaker 1: and that's when I started getting his side of the story.

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Speaker 1: Towards the end of their marriage, my father confessed to

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Speaker 1: my mom that he is bisexual and that during high

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Speaker 1: school and college he had a serious boyfriend. He was

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Speaker 1: ashamed of his sexuality, which was why he hid it

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Speaker 1: from my more traditional mom. My mom was angry, but

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Speaker 1: didn't divorce him because of it. After the divorce, he

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Speaker 1: began dating his boyfriend again, and my mom freaked out

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Speaker 1: over me being quote unquote exposed.

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Speaker 2: To this, exposed to a healthy, happy relation, a.

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Speaker 3: Healthy happy relationship.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, jeez, how dare you?

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Speaker 1: My mom petitioned for full custody and was granted it

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Speaker 1: by the court. Over the years, my father has attempted

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Speaker 1: to reach out to my mom about me, but she

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Speaker 1: has never budged and never let him see me. I

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Speaker 1: asked my mom about what really happened, no ba, no

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Speaker 1: holding back. That's when I told her Dad's side of

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Speaker 1: the story.

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Speaker 2: Oh, the truth, the truth comes out, finally comes out.

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Speaker 2: I want to hear that truth. I can handle it, John,

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Speaker 2: tell me the truth.

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Speaker 3: Can't handle the truth. Let's get to it.

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Speaker 1: She started choking up and tearfully admitted that everything was true.

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Speaker 1: She insists that it wasn't out of anger or bigotry,

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Speaker 1: but because she genuinely believed that it.

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Speaker 3: Was best for me to stay with her. I don't

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Speaker 3: know if I'm following your timeline, Mama.

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Speaker 1: There's no other evidence of anything else that has been

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Speaker 1: If that's the case, give me one other reason.

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Speaker 2: How is it best for your child to grow up

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Speaker 2: without their father? Yeah? Why does he have that option? Like,

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Speaker 2: I mean, I feel like you should take it, especially

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Speaker 2: if the father see it seems like the father is

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Speaker 2: like a gay guy.

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Speaker 1: It seems he wants to be involved. He's been asked

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Speaker 1: looking over the past fifteen years. It doesn't really make sense.

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Speaker 1: I am just so shocked. Still, she lied to me

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Speaker 1: for years, making me think my own father didn't want me.

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Speaker 1: I mean, that's honestly. The craziest part is that she

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Speaker 1: told her like the father abandoned.

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Speaker 2: Them, Yeah, and never wanted custody.

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Speaker 3: Dude.

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Speaker 2: Like, It's like, hey, not only where did your father

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Speaker 2: leave but didn't even try to see you.

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Speaker 3: That's that's unacceptable.

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Speaker 1: My dad and I are reconnecting now, but I've just

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Speaker 1: missed so much of my life with him. Next week

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Speaker 1: I'm going to meet his husband and my seven year

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Speaker 1: old half brother. I live with my mom, but I

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Speaker 1: cannot speak to her right now.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, dude, she lied. She important part of your life

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Speaker 2: for so long.

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Speaker 3: Terrible.

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Speaker 1: She is begging me, begging me to forgive her, But

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Speaker 1: I'm so angry, and I don't know how I'll ever.

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Speaker 3: Not be angry with her.

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Speaker 2: Dude's tough.

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Speaker 1: You know, you had this great relationship prior, like you know,

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Speaker 1: you thought, oh, it's just the two of us, and

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Speaker 1: then it's like, wow, she's been hiding.

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Speaker 2: So much this, you know, It's like, how can you

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Speaker 2: trust anything she says? How can you truly, I don't know. Insane, insane,