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<v Speaker 1>Today's second date update. Ashley is on the phone, and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm having trouble telling what Ashley does for a living

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<v Speaker 1>because her email said she's a bassist, but because I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know if that's another word for a dental hygienist

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<v Speaker 1>or if I'm saying it right, or is it bassist?

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<v Speaker 1>Bassist like a fisherman? Is she a fisherman? Actually? Are

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<v Speaker 1>you a bassist or a bassist? What are you? Well? Listen,

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<v Speaker 1>if I'd had anything to do with dental hygiene, I'd

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<v Speaker 1>have a heck of a lot more money. I am

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<v Speaker 1>a bassist. I play bass in a band. That's sweet, man,

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<v Speaker 1>I still don't know what that means. Okay, well that's

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<v Speaker 1>the bass. Okay, where did a fish come in? Where

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<v Speaker 1>did the fish come in? Ashley? You know you got

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<v Speaker 1>the big bass hanging on your wall. But that's an

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<v Speaker 1>entirely different monster. Okay, okay, so you play you're playing

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<v Speaker 1>a band? Yeah, all right, And is that how you

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<v Speaker 1>met the guy you want to call today? He was

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<v Speaker 1>impressed by your bassing skills. Yes, it is. I've been

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<v Speaker 1>promoting my band with a couple of my bandmates and

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<v Speaker 1>we tend to go to shows and we hand out

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<v Speaker 1>flyers to similar sounding music, and well, I guess Billy

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<v Speaker 1>was one of the guys that took a flyer and he,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, he seemed pretty straight laced for the kind

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<v Speaker 1>of music we play. But he was really nice and

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<v Speaker 1>he ended up coming to the show and he brought

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<v Speaker 1>a couple of friends when we hung out afterwards. You

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<v Speaker 1>say straight laced. So what kind of music you play? Polka,

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<v Speaker 1>easy listening type stuff. We're definitely a little bit more

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<v Speaker 1>on the alternative side, a little more rock, almost kind

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<v Speaker 1>of punk. Was there a famous band that we would

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<v Speaker 1>know that it would be like your sound? We have

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<v Speaker 1>a very similar sound to the Arctic Monkey. Okay, no

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<v Speaker 1>idea who that is. So he came to your show? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>yeah he did. And did it feel like he came

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<v Speaker 1>because he liked you? I don't know if he came

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<v Speaker 1>to see me but he certainly stayed afterwards because of

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<v Speaker 1>me in our conversation. Oh cool, it's cool. Okay, how

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<v Speaker 1>long did you guys hang out? It was a pretty

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<v Speaker 1>late night. Actually, he came back to my house and

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<v Speaker 1>he was over till about two wish. All right, So

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<v Speaker 1>by coming back to your house, does that mean you

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<v Speaker 1>guys played instruments together? You not made music. We just

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<v Speaker 1>made out. That's all that happened. That's awesome. Well, that's

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<v Speaker 1>obviously he was into you. Then if he went back

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<v Speaker 1>to your place and made out with you, Yeah, do

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<v Speaker 1>you think he was expecting more and was disappointed that

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<v Speaker 1>he didn't get it? I hope not. It didn't seem

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<v Speaker 1>that way. He was the one that said evedn't want

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<v Speaker 1>the night to end, but he didn't seem too pushy. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>it doesn't seem like he was just trying to get

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<v Speaker 1>laid based basically, No, it didn't seem like that at all.

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<v Speaker 1>And what was it like when the night ended? We

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<v Speaker 1>kissed good night and he said he had a really

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<v Speaker 1>nice time. Then he left. So have you guys talked

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<v Speaker 1>at all since? No, he's like completely ghosted me. Why

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<v Speaker 1>do you think that it could be anything? I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>I've been told my place can be a little bit intimidating. Why.

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<v Speaker 1>To be honest, I grew up in a pretty sheltered household,

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<v Speaker 1>and so now that I have my own place, I

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<v Speaker 1>kind of like to take advantage of art when I

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<v Speaker 1>see it. You know, if I go to an art

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<v Speaker 1>chestival or a street fair and there's a statue or

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<v Speaker 1>a painting that speaks to me in some way, I

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<v Speaker 1>will buy it. So there is a lot of art

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<v Speaker 1>in my house. Is it my art that some people

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<v Speaker 1>would find weird? Some of them art? Yeah? Yeah. But

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<v Speaker 1>he stayed for a couple hours Annie made out with you,

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<v Speaker 1>So I mean, if you could still be in the

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<v Speaker 1>mood around your art, he probably wasn't too freaked out

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<v Speaker 1>about it, I would assume. So could be that he

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<v Speaker 1>really just liked my music and it had nothing to

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<v Speaker 1>do with me as a person, or he didn't like

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<v Speaker 1>my music and wants nothing to do with me as

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<v Speaker 1>a person. I think if it was one of the

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<v Speaker 1>things about your music, he wouldn't have gone and made

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<v Speaker 1>out with you. He would have been like, ah, well, whatever,

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<v Speaker 1>we'll hang out at the bar and then I'll leave

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<v Speaker 1>and I'll be like, man, she's great. I can't wait

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<v Speaker 1>to produce her song on iTunes and listen to the bass.

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<v Speaker 1>But I don't think you would have gone and made

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<v Speaker 1>out with you. I mean I wouldn't think so either.

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<v Speaker 1>But at this point I'm at a loss. And you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I listened to your Guys show and I thought this

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<v Speaker 1>might be a good way to figure out what's going on.

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<v Speaker 1>You're an interesting person, Ashley. Thank you. I think you're like,

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<v Speaker 1>you play in a band, like a punk band, You're

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<v Speaker 1>into all sorts of art, and then you like this

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<v Speaker 1>show for some reason. I wouldn't have expected you to

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<v Speaker 1>be a fan of this show. Well, you know, you're

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<v Speaker 1>a delivery driver. You gotta listen to something. Oh okay,

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<v Speaker 1>all right, okay, Well play a song and then come

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<v Speaker 1>back and call him and get your second date update.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, Wait, thanks guys, hang on brooking jubil in

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<v Speaker 1>the morning second date update if you're just joining us

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<v Speaker 1>for today's second date update. Ashley is on the phone.

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<v Speaker 1>And Ashley is a bassist. What does that mean? She

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<v Speaker 1>plays an instrument called the bass. They have it in

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<v Speaker 1>these things called bands. Oftentimes there's multiple instruments. Well, she

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<v Speaker 1>plays the bass in a band that she describes as

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<v Speaker 1>sort of punk alternative rock punk mix rap mix, just

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<v Speaker 1>rap pop punk music. Is that close to what the

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<v Speaker 1>description is? Ashley? Yeah, I think that's okay, perfect, great,

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<v Speaker 1>all right, I'll stop trying to figure you out now.

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<v Speaker 1>But she wants to call dude named Billy today. She

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<v Speaker 1>actually met him at a show and they hung out

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<v Speaker 1>for a while, even went back to her place and

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<v Speaker 1>made out. But now she's not hearing back from him.

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<v Speaker 1>She maybe her art collection kind of weirded him out,

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<v Speaker 1>but other than that, everything seemed to be going fine.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, Ashley, I'm about to give him a call

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<v Speaker 1>you ready, Yes, I'm ready. I can not believe this

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<v Speaker 1>guy isn't calling you back, because everyone knows the hottest

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<v Speaker 1>member of the band is always the bassist. Obviously, Seriously,

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<v Speaker 1>you deserve a call back, thank you, or I will

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<v Speaker 1>go out with you later. I have a thing for Bassis.

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<v Speaker 1>I just dion can't help myself. That's a no. All right,

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<v Speaker 1>we'll move on. I know this is all awkward, not

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<v Speaker 1>the first time. Let's call Billy and see how that goes.

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<v Speaker 1>See if that goes any better. Here we go, Ashley, Hello,

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<v Speaker 1>all right, ask to Billy please, this is Billy, Hey, Billy,

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<v Speaker 1>how you doing many? Just waking up? Yeah, I was

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<v Speaker 1>doing that. This is Jewel from Brook and Jewel in

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<v Speaker 1>the Morning. Sorry to disturb your sleep, man, Yeah, no problem.

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<v Speaker 1>Why did you say you guys are calling? I'll explain.

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<v Speaker 1>My name is Jebel from Brook and Jewel in the Morning.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a radio show, okay, okay, okay, And we do

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<v Speaker 1>a segment on our show called the second Date Update.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know if you've heard of that. I haven't

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<v Speaker 1>heard of that. I mean, even if you did, you

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<v Speaker 1>probably wouldn't even know it. Right now, you sound like

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<v Speaker 1>you were in a deep sleep. So if you go

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<v Speaker 1>out on a date with somebody and then don't call

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<v Speaker 1>them back after, that person can email us to get

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<v Speaker 1>you on the phone and find out what happened. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>So we got an email about you from a woman

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<v Speaker 1>named Ashley. I know and Ashley Okay, okay. And the

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<v Speaker 1>Ashley that we're talking about is hopefully the same one

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<v Speaker 1>that you say. You know. She plays the bass in

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<v Speaker 1>a band. Okay, Yeah, we know her. Yeah, and you

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<v Speaker 1>guys hung out the other night. You watched her show,

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<v Speaker 1>hung out at the bar, and then made out with

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<v Speaker 1>her at her place. Okay, yeah, yeah, yeah, I'm on

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<v Speaker 1>the same page as your friend. Sounds like you're starting

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<v Speaker 1>to get with it. Actually emailed us because she hasn't

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<v Speaker 1>heard back room you and she wants to know if

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<v Speaker 1>she did something wrong. Oh okay, um, I mean yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>she uh, she takes me a few days ago, and

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know if I should really get back to her.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, it was a good time, but I just

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, you know, what's making you question it?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. I mean, you went back to her

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<v Speaker 1>place after her show, and you know, everything was great.

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<v Speaker 1>Talked quite a bit, we made out a little bit.

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<v Speaker 1>It was cool. It was a good time. I just yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>she told us all that. So she thinks the problem

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<v Speaker 1>is she had a bunch of weird art and it

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<v Speaker 1>kind of creeped her out or weird you out some way.

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<v Speaker 1>Actually that was pretty cool, Like it was pretty cool. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>so that's not the art. What is it then, because

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<v Speaker 1>it sounds like you guys have a lot in common.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, at the end, things just got kind

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<v Speaker 1>of weird, you know. Okay, what specifically happened at the end,

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<v Speaker 1>We got them making out, we kind of went just

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<v Speaker 1>chilling on the couch, kind of chatting, start to get tired,

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<v Speaker 1>sound like a tired guy, I can see, Yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>but I mean it was latest, probably around like I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know, one forty five two or something at that point,

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<v Speaker 1>so I had a legitimate reason, but I said, uh,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I probably should get gone. She's like, okay, cool,

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<v Speaker 1>why don't I walk you out? And then it was like,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, you don't need to, but she insisted. So

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<v Speaker 1>so as we're walking towards my car, she got really

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<v Speaker 1>serious and uh, He's like, yeah, it just looks like

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to actually have to be moving out of

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<v Speaker 1>my place. And she said, like just being a part

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<v Speaker 1>of the band just doesn't pan up. It's not cutting

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<v Speaker 1>it right. And she said that she had just lost

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<v Speaker 1>her day job and she's just really hurt. Oh wow,

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<v Speaker 1>that sucks, and Billy don't think broke chicks? Is that it? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>all right, get out of here. Then, I only checks

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<v Speaker 1>with jobs. My name is Billy. I'm gonna go take

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<v Speaker 1>a nap now. Is that what happened? No, it was

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<v Speaker 1>the fact that like after that, she actually asked me

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<v Speaker 1>for a donation, like her rent or her food or

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<v Speaker 1>like anything. I could help out with, Like, she set

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<v Speaker 1>up her own go fund me page and she wanted

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<v Speaker 1>you to contribute. Essentially, she went in old school. She

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<v Speaker 1>asked me to walk to an ATM with her. What wow, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>he looked like she's about to cry. And so I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, I felt compelled in that moment to give

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<v Speaker 1>her some money. So I actually gave her three hundred

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<v Speaker 1>three d I mean, I felt like we really connected

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<v Speaker 1>up until that point, and like I felt like this

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<v Speaker 1>was a chance for me to do a good deed.

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<v Speaker 1>So I gave her three hundred. And I actually felt

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<v Speaker 1>pretty good about it at that point, but it really

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<v Speaker 1>wasn't until like I got home. I was talking to

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<v Speaker 1>one of my roommates about it, and he was like, dude,

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<v Speaker 1>you are an idiot. You just got played. I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>really think of it that way, like because we had

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<v Speaker 1>such a good chemistry, but I was like, dang, did

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<v Speaker 1>I You know? I was kind of going back and

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<v Speaker 1>forth about it. I mean, it is kind of shady sounding.

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<v Speaker 1>If you just meet somebody and they ask you to

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<v Speaker 1>give him some money. Did she specifically ask for three

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<v Speaker 1>hundred that's what you just decided to give her? I

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<v Speaker 1>just gave her three hundred. She didn't really say a

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<v Speaker 1>specific amount. WoT Billy, you were okay with donating three

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<v Speaker 1>hundred dollars to her? You at that point, we're still

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<v Speaker 1>thinking you guys would hang out again. At that point,

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<v Speaker 1>I was thinking it because I hadn't even thought about

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<v Speaker 1>being played at that point, like I was like, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>this girl's really cool and like, just to look on

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<v Speaker 1>her face looked so genuine. I don't know, maybe she's

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<v Speaker 1>a good actress or something. So then it was when

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<v Speaker 1>your roommates told you that you're being played that that's

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<v Speaker 1>when you decided not to call her back. Well, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>that's when it kind of kicked in. I'm like, oh crap,

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't even think about that. This is like I've

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<v Speaker 1>never had to experience like this before, you know, where

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<v Speaker 1>we have a good time and then someone asked me

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<v Speaker 1>for money. I didn't even like register that. I've had

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of those experiences. We have a good time.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna ask you for my usual that deal beforehand,

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<v Speaker 1>by not until at the end of the whole thing. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>but Billy, you are such a good person that you

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<v Speaker 1>would still consider dating someone who asked you for a donation.

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<v Speaker 1>If I wasn't being used, which I'm that's the saying, like,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't even know at this point. There's a good

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<v Speaker 1>way to find out if you're being used, Billy, and

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<v Speaker 1>that's to ask Ashley, who is actually on the other

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<v Speaker 1>line listing and wants to talk to you. What. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>she's been here the whole time, I think, so if

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<v Speaker 1>she's still on, Ashley, you're still there. Hey, hey, Ashley, Billy,

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<v Speaker 1>that wasn't my intention. Do you do you really think

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<v Speaker 1>that I was just using you? I mean, I don't know, Like,

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<v Speaker 1>what do you guys think? I mean, it sounds kind

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<v Speaker 1>of weird, but I mean we haven't heard Ashley's explanation,

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<v Speaker 1>so it sounds weird using the word donation and not alone. Yeah, actually,

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<v Speaker 1>why don't you? I mean, were you trying to just

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<v Speaker 1>get money from him? No? It he offered, And honestly,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, everybody has their low points, and I'm kind

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<v Speaker 1>of in one right now, and it was just a

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<v Speaker 1>really generous thing when you said that you'll walk him

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<v Speaker 1>to your car that you didn't already have in mind

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<v Speaker 1>walking him to an ATM on the way to get

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<v Speaker 1>cash from him. No, I really didn't. I mean that

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<v Speaker 1>you did straight up asking for a donation. That is

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<v Speaker 1>kind of weird. Yeah yeah, I mean you asked him

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<v Speaker 1>for money after me. Look, I'm sorry. I I was

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<v Speaker 1>in the moment, and I just I felt safe with you,

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<v Speaker 1>and I shouldn't have said anything, and I shouldn't have

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<v Speaker 1>asked it, and I wish I could just give it back,

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<v Speaker 1>but I've already paid my utility bills with it, and

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<v Speaker 1>I just I can't right now. But I'm so sorry.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, you feel that way that that wasn't my intention.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't really know what to say. I mean, if

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<v Speaker 1>you're I don't know either. For you, Billy, I mean

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<v Speaker 1>like you seem sincere, but that also feels like maybe

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<v Speaker 1>you're just superman manipulative, because I think it's really strange

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<v Speaker 1>that you would ask someone on a first date for money,

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<v Speaker 1>Like you don't have friends or family that could help

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<v Speaker 1>you out if you were in that tough of a spot.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean not really. My life is kind of the

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<v Speaker 1>band and they're all in a very similar boat. Oh

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<v Speaker 1>come on, Ashley, a band struggling. Never heard of it?

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<v Speaker 1>Never heard of it? And I feel you, Billy. Look,

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<v Speaker 1>there's one way to find out if Ashley's being straight

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<v Speaker 1>with you about not really just trying to use you

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<v Speaker 1>for money, and that's to go out with again. Would

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<v Speaker 1>you like to go out with Ashley on a second date?

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<v Speaker 1>We will pay for it. We did have a good time,

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<v Speaker 1>so I guess I'm willing to give it another shot. Really. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I realized that things are probably really weird for you

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<v Speaker 1>right now. This whole situation is weird and um how

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<v Speaker 1>how financially distraught are you right now? Are you asking

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<v Speaker 1>that right now? Yeah? I mean, is there a specific

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<v Speaker 1>amount that you need help with or no, Billy, don't

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<v Speaker 1>offer any more cash. Just go out with her again.

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<v Speaker 1>But I mean, I guess I feel bad. I like

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<v Speaker 1>accuser of stealing and like, if she's really hurting it,

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<v Speaker 1>I can help, but I really can't help. The point is,

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<v Speaker 1>don't help yet. Listen, Billy, full transparency. I am not

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<v Speaker 1>in a good situation right now, but I will figure

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<v Speaker 1>something else out. Well, I mean, just you know, full

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<v Speaker 1>transparency on my part. One of my roommates actually is

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<v Speaker 1>moving out soon, so it's you you need a plast

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<v Speaker 1>to stay. Okay, hold on, just go out on the date,

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<v Speaker 1>you guys, all right before Ashley, You're moving with Billy

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<v Speaker 1>or Billy you give more money or whatever you guys

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<v Speaker 1>are doing. But congratulations, you did get a second date, Ashley. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>it looks like a house on top of that, so paycheck. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>broken jewel in the morning. The text end at seven

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<v Speaker 1>eighty five to nine two says Billy is going to

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<v Speaker 1>be broke by the end of the week. I would

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<v Speaker 1>agree with you. We're talking about today's second date update.

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<v Speaker 1>Ashley met this dude, Billy at one of her band's shows,

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<v Speaker 1>and afterwards they went back to her apartment and made

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<v Speaker 1>out and had a great first night what we called

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<v Speaker 1>Billy and he said the weird part of the night

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<v Speaker 1>was when she told him that she was about to

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<v Speaker 1>lose her apartment and ask for a donation of three

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<v Speaker 1>hundred dollars and even walked with him to an ATM

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<v Speaker 1>so he could withdraw some cash and give it to her.

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<v Speaker 1>And after the date, Billy's buddies were like, I think

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<v Speaker 1>she's scamming you. Yeah. Yeah, she said she didn't plan

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<v Speaker 1>to do that. She's just at a low point and

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<v Speaker 1>needed some help and it just came out naturally. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>just walk into an atm is so naturally. And by

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<v Speaker 1>the end of the call, he offered Ashley more money

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<v Speaker 1>and even said she could move in with him if

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<v Speaker 1>she needed to. So overall, very successful second date update

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<v Speaker 1>for Ashley I think, yeah for her, I really hope

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<v Speaker 1>she's not scamming him. Oh dude, his salary is now

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<v Speaker 1>herself exactly. Whatever you want to do a second day up.

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<v Speaker 1>They don't have to do is email the show and

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<v Speaker 1>we will call the person who didn't call you back.