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Speaker 1: Today's second date update. Ashley is on the phone, and
Speaker 1: I'm having trouble telling what Ashley does for a living
Speaker 1: because her email said she's a bassist, but because I
Speaker 1: don't know if that's another word for a dental hygienist
Speaker 1: or if I'm saying it right, or is it bassist?
Speaker 1: Bassist like a fisherman? Is she a fisherman? Actually? Are
Speaker 1: you a bassist or a bassist? What are you? Well? Listen,
Speaker 1: if I'd had anything to do with dental hygiene, I'd
Speaker 1: have a heck of a lot more money. I am
Speaker 1: a bassist. I play bass in a band. That's sweet, man,
Speaker 1: I still don't know what that means. Okay, well that's
Speaker 1: the bass. Okay, where did a fish come in? Where
Speaker 1: did the fish come in? Ashley? You know you got
Speaker 1: the big bass hanging on your wall. But that's an
Speaker 1: entirely different monster. Okay, okay, so you play you're playing
Speaker 1: a band? Yeah, all right, And is that how you
Speaker 1: met the guy you want to call today? He was
Speaker 1: impressed by your bassing skills. Yes, it is. I've been
Speaker 1: promoting my band with a couple of my bandmates and
Speaker 1: we tend to go to shows and we hand out
Speaker 1: flyers to similar sounding music, and well, I guess Billy
Speaker 1: was one of the guys that took a flyer and he,
Speaker 1: you know, he seemed pretty straight laced for the kind
Speaker 1: of music we play. But he was really nice and
Speaker 1: he ended up coming to the show and he brought
Speaker 1: a couple of friends when we hung out afterwards. You
Speaker 1: say straight laced. So what kind of music you play? Polka,
Speaker 1: easy listening type stuff. We're definitely a little bit more
Speaker 1: on the alternative side, a little more rock, almost kind
Speaker 1: of punk. Was there a famous band that we would
Speaker 1: know that it would be like your sound? We have
Speaker 1: a very similar sound to the Arctic Monkey. Okay, no
Speaker 1: idea who that is. So he came to your show? Yeah,
Speaker 1: yeah he did. And did it feel like he came
Speaker 1: because he liked you? I don't know if he came
Speaker 1: to see me but he certainly stayed afterwards because of
Speaker 1: me in our conversation. Oh cool, it's cool. Okay, how
Speaker 1: long did you guys hang out? It was a pretty
Speaker 1: late night. Actually, he came back to my house and
Speaker 1: he was over till about two wish. All right, So
Speaker 1: by coming back to your house, does that mean you
Speaker 1: guys played instruments together? You not made music. We just
Speaker 1: made out. That's all that happened. That's awesome. Well, that's
Speaker 1: obviously he was into you. Then if he went back
Speaker 1: to your place and made out with you, Yeah, do
Speaker 1: you think he was expecting more and was disappointed that
Speaker 1: he didn't get it? I hope not. It didn't seem
Speaker 1: that way. He was the one that said evedn't want
Speaker 1: the night to end, but he didn't seem too pushy. Okay,
Speaker 1: it doesn't seem like he was just trying to get
Speaker 1: laid based basically, No, it didn't seem like that at all.
Speaker 1: And what was it like when the night ended? We
Speaker 1: kissed good night and he said he had a really
Speaker 1: nice time. Then he left. So have you guys talked
Speaker 1: at all since? No, he's like completely ghosted me. Why
Speaker 1: do you think that it could be anything? I mean,
Speaker 1: I've been told my place can be a little bit intimidating. Why.
Speaker 1: To be honest, I grew up in a pretty sheltered household,
Speaker 1: and so now that I have my own place, I
Speaker 1: kind of like to take advantage of art when I
Speaker 1: see it. You know, if I go to an art
Speaker 1: chestival or a street fair and there's a statue or
Speaker 1: a painting that speaks to me in some way, I
Speaker 1: will buy it. So there is a lot of art
Speaker 1: in my house. Is it my art that some people
Speaker 1: would find weird? Some of them art? Yeah? Yeah. But
Speaker 1: he stayed for a couple hours Annie made out with you,
Speaker 1: So I mean, if you could still be in the
Speaker 1: mood around your art, he probably wasn't too freaked out
Speaker 1: about it, I would assume. So could be that he
Speaker 1: really just liked my music and it had nothing to
Speaker 1: do with me as a person, or he didn't like
Speaker 1: my music and wants nothing to do with me as
Speaker 1: a person. I think if it was one of the
Speaker 1: things about your music, he wouldn't have gone and made
Speaker 1: out with you. He would have been like, ah, well, whatever,
Speaker 1: we'll hang out at the bar and then I'll leave
Speaker 1: and I'll be like, man, she's great. I can't wait
Speaker 1: to produce her song on iTunes and listen to the bass.
Speaker 1: But I don't think you would have gone and made
Speaker 1: out with you. I mean I wouldn't think so either.
Speaker 1: But at this point I'm at a loss. And you know,
Speaker 1: I listened to your Guys show and I thought this
Speaker 1: might be a good way to figure out what's going on.
Speaker 1: You're an interesting person, Ashley. Thank you. I think you're like,
Speaker 1: you play in a band, like a punk band, You're
Speaker 1: into all sorts of art, and then you like this
Speaker 1: show for some reason. I wouldn't have expected you to
Speaker 1: be a fan of this show. Well, you know, you're
Speaker 1: a delivery driver. You gotta listen to something. Oh okay,
Speaker 1: all right, okay, Well play a song and then come
Speaker 1: back and call him and get your second date update.
Speaker 1: All right, Wait, thanks guys, hang on brooking jubil in
Speaker 1: the morning second date update if you're just joining us
Speaker 1: for today's second date update. Ashley is on the phone.
Speaker 1: And Ashley is a bassist. What does that mean? She
Speaker 1: plays an instrument called the bass. They have it in
Speaker 1: these things called bands. Oftentimes there's multiple instruments. Well, she
Speaker 1: plays the bass in a band that she describes as
Speaker 1: sort of punk alternative rock punk mix rap mix, just
Speaker 1: rap pop punk music. Is that close to what the
Speaker 1: description is? Ashley? Yeah, I think that's okay, perfect, great,
Speaker 1: all right, I'll stop trying to figure you out now.
Speaker 1: But she wants to call dude named Billy today. She
Speaker 1: actually met him at a show and they hung out
Speaker 1: for a while, even went back to her place and
Speaker 1: made out. But now she's not hearing back from him.
Speaker 1: She maybe her art collection kind of weirded him out,
Speaker 1: but other than that, everything seemed to be going fine.
Speaker 1: All right, Ashley, I'm about to give him a call
Speaker 1: you ready, Yes, I'm ready. I can not believe this
Speaker 1: guy isn't calling you back, because everyone knows the hottest
Speaker 1: member of the band is always the bassist. Obviously, Seriously,
Speaker 1: you deserve a call back, thank you, or I will
Speaker 1: go out with you later. I have a thing for Bassis.
Speaker 1: I just dion can't help myself. That's a no. All right,
Speaker 1: we'll move on. I know this is all awkward, not
Speaker 1: the first time. Let's call Billy and see how that goes.
Speaker 1: See if that goes any better. Here we go, Ashley, Hello,
Speaker 1: all right, ask to Billy please, this is Billy, Hey, Billy,
Speaker 1: how you doing many? Just waking up? Yeah, I was
Speaker 1: doing that. This is Jewel from Brook and Jewel in
Speaker 1: the Morning. Sorry to disturb your sleep, man, Yeah, no problem.
Speaker 1: Why did you say you guys are calling? I'll explain.
Speaker 1: My name is Jebel from Brook and Jewel in the Morning.
Speaker 1: It's a radio show, okay, okay, okay, And we do
Speaker 1: a segment on our show called the second Date Update.
Speaker 1: I don't know if you've heard of that. I haven't
Speaker 1: heard of that. I mean, even if you did, you
Speaker 1: probably wouldn't even know it. Right now, you sound like
Speaker 1: you were in a deep sleep. So if you go
Speaker 1: out on a date with somebody and then don't call
Speaker 1: them back after, that person can email us to get
Speaker 1: you on the phone and find out what happened. Okay,
Speaker 1: So we got an email about you from a woman
Speaker 1: named Ashley. I know and Ashley Okay, okay. And the
Speaker 1: Ashley that we're talking about is hopefully the same one
Speaker 1: that you say. You know. She plays the bass in
Speaker 1: a band. Okay, Yeah, we know her. Yeah, and you
Speaker 1: guys hung out the other night. You watched her show,
Speaker 1: hung out at the bar, and then made out with
Speaker 1: her at her place. Okay, yeah, yeah, yeah, I'm on
Speaker 1: the same page as your friend. Sounds like you're starting
Speaker 1: to get with it. Actually emailed us because she hasn't
Speaker 1: heard back room you and she wants to know if
Speaker 1: she did something wrong. Oh okay, um, I mean yeah,
Speaker 1: she uh, she takes me a few days ago, and
Speaker 1: I don't know if I should really get back to her.
Speaker 1: I mean, it was a good time, but I just
Speaker 1: I don't know, you know, what's making you question it?
Speaker 1: I don't know. I mean, you went back to her
Speaker 1: place after her show, and you know, everything was great.
Speaker 1: Talked quite a bit, we made out a little bit.
Speaker 1: It was cool. It was a good time. I just yeah,
Speaker 1: she told us all that. So she thinks the problem
Speaker 1: is she had a bunch of weird art and it
Speaker 1: kind of creeped her out or weird you out some way.
Speaker 1: Actually that was pretty cool, Like it was pretty cool. Okay,
Speaker 1: so that's not the art. What is it then, because
Speaker 1: it sounds like you guys have a lot in common.
Speaker 1: I don't know, at the end, things just got kind
Speaker 1: of weird, you know. Okay, what specifically happened at the end,
Speaker 1: We got them making out, we kind of went just
Speaker 1: chilling on the couch, kind of chatting, start to get tired,
Speaker 1: sound like a tired guy, I can see, Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: but I mean it was latest, probably around like I
Speaker 1: don't know, one forty five two or something at that point,
Speaker 1: so I had a legitimate reason, but I said, uh,
Speaker 1: you know, I probably should get gone. She's like, okay, cool,
Speaker 1: why don't I walk you out? And then it was like,
Speaker 1: you know, you don't need to, but she insisted. So
Speaker 1: so as we're walking towards my car, she got really
Speaker 1: serious and uh, He's like, yeah, it just looks like
Speaker 1: I'm going to actually have to be moving out of
Speaker 1: my place. And she said, like just being a part
Speaker 1: of the band just doesn't pan up. It's not cutting
Speaker 1: it right. And she said that she had just lost
Speaker 1: her day job and she's just really hurt. Oh wow,
Speaker 1: that sucks, and Billy don't think broke chicks? Is that it? Yeah,
Speaker 1: all right, get out of here. Then, I only checks
Speaker 1: with jobs. My name is Billy. I'm gonna go take
Speaker 1: a nap now. Is that what happened? No, it was
Speaker 1: the fact that like after that, she actually asked me
Speaker 1: for a donation, like her rent or her food or
Speaker 1: like anything. I could help out with, Like, she set
Speaker 1: up her own go fund me page and she wanted
Speaker 1: you to contribute. Essentially, she went in old school. She
Speaker 1: asked me to walk to an ATM with her. What wow, Yeah,
Speaker 1: he looked like she's about to cry. And so I
Speaker 1: was like, I felt compelled in that moment to give
Speaker 1: her some money. So I actually gave her three hundred
Speaker 1: three d I mean, I felt like we really connected
Speaker 1: up until that point, and like I felt like this
Speaker 1: was a chance for me to do a good deed.
Speaker 1: So I gave her three hundred. And I actually felt
Speaker 1: pretty good about it at that point, but it really
Speaker 1: wasn't until like I got home. I was talking to
Speaker 1: one of my roommates about it, and he was like, dude,
Speaker 1: you are an idiot. You just got played. I didn't
Speaker 1: really think of it that way, like because we had
Speaker 1: such a good chemistry, but I was like, dang, did
Speaker 1: I You know? I was kind of going back and
Speaker 1: forth about it. I mean, it is kind of shady sounding.
Speaker 1: If you just meet somebody and they ask you to
Speaker 1: give him some money. Did she specifically ask for three
Speaker 1: hundred that's what you just decided to give her? I
Speaker 1: just gave her three hundred. She didn't really say a
Speaker 1: specific amount. WoT Billy, you were okay with donating three
Speaker 1: hundred dollars to her? You at that point, we're still
Speaker 1: thinking you guys would hang out again. At that point,
Speaker 1: I was thinking it because I hadn't even thought about
Speaker 1: being played at that point, like I was like, Okay,
Speaker 1: this girl's really cool and like, just to look on
Speaker 1: her face looked so genuine. I don't know, maybe she's
Speaker 1: a good actress or something. So then it was when
Speaker 1: your roommates told you that you're being played that that's
Speaker 1: when you decided not to call her back. Well, yeah,
Speaker 1: that's when it kind of kicked in. I'm like, oh crap,
Speaker 1: I didn't even think about that. This is like I've
Speaker 1: never had to experience like this before, you know, where
Speaker 1: we have a good time and then someone asked me
Speaker 1: for money. I didn't even like register that. I've had
Speaker 1: a lot of those experiences. We have a good time.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna ask you for my usual that deal beforehand,
Speaker 1: by not until at the end of the whole thing. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but Billy, you are such a good person that you
Speaker 1: would still consider dating someone who asked you for a donation.
Speaker 1: If I wasn't being used, which I'm that's the saying, like,
Speaker 1: I don't even know at this point. There's a good
Speaker 1: way to find out if you're being used, Billy, and
Speaker 1: that's to ask Ashley, who is actually on the other
Speaker 1: line listing and wants to talk to you. What. Yeah,
Speaker 1: she's been here the whole time, I think, so if
Speaker 1: she's still on, Ashley, you're still there. Hey, hey, Ashley, Billy,
Speaker 1: that wasn't my intention. Do you do you really think
Speaker 1: that I was just using you? I mean, I don't know, Like,
Speaker 1: what do you guys think? I mean, it sounds kind
Speaker 1: of weird, but I mean we haven't heard Ashley's explanation,
Speaker 1: so it sounds weird using the word donation and not alone. Yeah, actually,
Speaker 1: why don't you? I mean, were you trying to just
Speaker 1: get money from him? No? It he offered, And honestly,
Speaker 1: you know, everybody has their low points, and I'm kind
Speaker 1: of in one right now, and it was just a
Speaker 1: really generous thing when you said that you'll walk him
Speaker 1: to your car that you didn't already have in mind
Speaker 1: walking him to an ATM on the way to get
Speaker 1: cash from him. No, I really didn't. I mean that
Speaker 1: you did straight up asking for a donation. That is
Speaker 1: kind of weird. Yeah yeah, I mean you asked him
Speaker 1: for money after me. Look, I'm sorry. I I was
Speaker 1: in the moment, and I just I felt safe with you,
Speaker 1: and I shouldn't have said anything, and I shouldn't have
Speaker 1: asked it, and I wish I could just give it back,
Speaker 1: but I've already paid my utility bills with it, and
Speaker 1: I just I can't right now. But I'm so sorry.
Speaker 1: I mean, you feel that way that that wasn't my intention.
Speaker 1: I don't really know what to say. I mean, if
Speaker 1: you're I don't know either. For you, Billy, I mean
Speaker 1: like you seem sincere, but that also feels like maybe
Speaker 1: you're just superman manipulative, because I think it's really strange
Speaker 1: that you would ask someone on a first date for money,
Speaker 1: Like you don't have friends or family that could help
Speaker 1: you out if you were in that tough of a spot.
Speaker 1: I mean not really. My life is kind of the
Speaker 1: band and they're all in a very similar boat. Oh
Speaker 1: come on, Ashley, a band struggling. Never heard of it?
Speaker 1: Never heard of it? And I feel you, Billy. Look,
Speaker 1: there's one way to find out if Ashley's being straight
Speaker 1: with you about not really just trying to use you
Speaker 1: for money, and that's to go out with again. Would
Speaker 1: you like to go out with Ashley on a second date?
Speaker 1: We will pay for it. We did have a good time,
Speaker 1: so I guess I'm willing to give it another shot. Really. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I realized that things are probably really weird for you
Speaker 1: right now. This whole situation is weird and um how
Speaker 1: how financially distraught are you right now? Are you asking
Speaker 1: that right now? Yeah? I mean, is there a specific
Speaker 1: amount that you need help with or no, Billy, don't
Speaker 1: offer any more cash. Just go out with her again.
Speaker 1: But I mean, I guess I feel bad. I like
Speaker 1: accuser of stealing and like, if she's really hurting it,
Speaker 1: I can help, but I really can't help. The point is,
Speaker 1: don't help yet. Listen, Billy, full transparency. I am not
Speaker 1: in a good situation right now, but I will figure
Speaker 1: something else out. Well, I mean, just you know, full
Speaker 1: transparency on my part. One of my roommates actually is
Speaker 1: moving out soon, so it's you you need a plast
Speaker 1: to stay. Okay, hold on, just go out on the date,
Speaker 1: you guys, all right before Ashley, You're moving with Billy
Speaker 1: or Billy you give more money or whatever you guys
Speaker 1: are doing. But congratulations, you did get a second date, Ashley. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it looks like a house on top of that, so paycheck. Yeah,
Speaker 1: broken jewel in the morning. The text end at seven
Speaker 1: eighty five to nine two says Billy is going to
Speaker 1: be broke by the end of the week. I would
Speaker 1: agree with you. We're talking about today's second date update.
Speaker 1: Ashley met this dude, Billy at one of her band's shows,
Speaker 1: and afterwards they went back to her apartment and made
Speaker 1: out and had a great first night what we called
Speaker 1: Billy and he said the weird part of the night
Speaker 1: was when she told him that she was about to
Speaker 1: lose her apartment and ask for a donation of three
Speaker 1: hundred dollars and even walked with him to an ATM
Speaker 1: so he could withdraw some cash and give it to her.
Speaker 1: And after the date, Billy's buddies were like, I think
Speaker 1: she's scamming you. Yeah. Yeah, she said she didn't plan
Speaker 1: to do that. She's just at a low point and
Speaker 1: needed some help and it just came out naturally. Yeah,
Speaker 1: just walk into an atm is so naturally. And by
Speaker 1: the end of the call, he offered Ashley more money
Speaker 1: and even said she could move in with him if
Speaker 1: she needed to. So overall, very successful second date update
Speaker 1: for Ashley I think, yeah for her, I really hope
Speaker 1: she's not scamming him. Oh dude, his salary is now
Speaker 1: herself exactly. Whatever you want to do a second day up.
Speaker 1: They don't have to do is email the show and
Speaker 1: we will call the person who didn't call you back.