1 00:00:19,239 --> 00:00:21,720 Speaker 1: Hello everyone, it's your girl, Cheekies, and you've reached the 2 00:00:21,760 --> 00:00:24,200 Speaker 1: voicemail box for dear Cheekies, I'm here to give you 3 00:00:24,200 --> 00:00:27,160 Speaker 1: advice on anything and everything you need help with. Maybe 4 00:00:27,160 --> 00:00:29,319 Speaker 1: you're going through a breakup, maybe you're having issues with 5 00:00:29,360 --> 00:00:32,159 Speaker 1: your family, or maybe you need help figuring out how 6 00:00:32,159 --> 00:00:34,640 Speaker 1: to balance your checkbook or how to start a business. 7 00:00:34,960 --> 00:00:38,120 Speaker 1: Whatever the cases, I want to hear from you. Remember 8 00:00:38,280 --> 00:00:40,599 Speaker 1: these are my thoughts and opinions. And if you're suffering 9 00:00:40,640 --> 00:00:42,760 Speaker 1: from an issue or hardship, you should seek help from 10 00:00:42,800 --> 00:00:45,760 Speaker 1: a qualified professional. All right, now, go ahead and leave 11 00:00:45,800 --> 00:00:49,559 Speaker 1: your question at the sound of the beat. Hey, cheekies, 12 00:00:50,080 --> 00:00:53,800 Speaker 1: my name is Laura. I'm from Chicago. Just quickly want 13 00:00:53,800 --> 00:00:55,840 Speaker 1: to tell you how much I'm a huge fan of you, 14 00:00:56,400 --> 00:00:58,800 Speaker 1: huge fan of your mom's. Love you so much, Love 15 00:00:58,880 --> 00:01:02,920 Speaker 1: you both away. My question to you is how do 16 00:01:03,120 --> 00:01:07,039 Speaker 1: I become like my own best friend. I'm currently twenty five, 17 00:01:07,280 --> 00:01:10,480 Speaker 1: just got married this year, and it's just really me 18 00:01:10,520 --> 00:01:13,760 Speaker 1: and my husband. You know. Here's the thing, Like he 19 00:01:14,360 --> 00:01:16,800 Speaker 1: goes and play soccer with his friends so he'll see 20 00:01:16,800 --> 00:01:18,720 Speaker 1: them throughout the week, which is nothing wrong. I highly 21 00:01:18,760 --> 00:01:21,160 Speaker 1: encourage my husband to do that. I want him to 22 00:01:21,240 --> 00:01:23,479 Speaker 1: hang out with his guy friends. But I don't really 23 00:01:23,480 --> 00:01:27,280 Speaker 1: have girlfriends, you know, like sometimes I need just on 24 00:01:27,440 --> 00:01:29,960 Speaker 1: Amiga to be like yesis or no sis, you know, 25 00:01:29,959 --> 00:01:32,480 Speaker 1: all the type of thing. But I guess I'm slowly 26 00:01:32,480 --> 00:01:34,800 Speaker 1: coming to terms that it is just going to be 27 00:01:34,840 --> 00:01:36,840 Speaker 1: me and my husband for now until we have a child. 28 00:01:37,440 --> 00:01:44,400 Speaker 1: So yeah, any advice, Hi lauda. Okay, So here's the thing. 29 00:01:44,520 --> 00:01:48,960 Speaker 1: I didn't learn or appreciate myself as a friend until 30 00:01:49,040 --> 00:01:51,520 Speaker 1: my thirty So the fact that you're asking this question 31 00:01:52,320 --> 00:01:56,240 Speaker 1: right now that you're twenty five is amazing, just because 32 00:01:56,440 --> 00:01:59,040 Speaker 1: you're starting to feel your soul telling you, Okay, I 33 00:01:59,080 --> 00:02:02,680 Speaker 1: wanna get closer to myself, especially since your husband has 34 00:02:02,720 --> 00:02:04,600 Speaker 1: his friends, and like you said, there's nothing wrong with that, 35 00:02:04,880 --> 00:02:08,560 Speaker 1: but you're going to find this beauty and a bliss 36 00:02:08,639 --> 00:02:12,400 Speaker 1: of being by yourself. And what does that mean doing 37 00:02:12,480 --> 00:02:15,480 Speaker 1: things that make you happy? Like maybe when he's out 38 00:02:15,520 --> 00:02:17,640 Speaker 1: with his friends, you can go get a manicure, a pedicure. 39 00:02:17,680 --> 00:02:19,480 Speaker 1: I love doing that because I feel like that's a 40 00:02:19,600 --> 00:02:23,359 Speaker 1: nice way of giving myself love, or even reading a book, 41 00:02:23,639 --> 00:02:26,000 Speaker 1: taking a bath. And I feel like I always say 42 00:02:26,000 --> 00:02:29,240 Speaker 1: the same things you guys, But there's so much beauty 43 00:02:29,440 --> 00:02:31,520 Speaker 1: in those moments where you have by yourself and you 44 00:02:31,600 --> 00:02:34,480 Speaker 1: light some candles and you drink some wine and you 45 00:02:34,639 --> 00:02:37,440 Speaker 1: learn to say I'm alone, but I'm not lonely. They 46 00:02:37,440 --> 00:02:41,080 Speaker 1: are two completely different things. So I think it's just 47 00:02:41,160 --> 00:02:43,919 Speaker 1: really being intentional and saying, Okay, while my husband is 48 00:02:43,960 --> 00:02:46,080 Speaker 1: doing that, what is going to make me happy and 49 00:02:46,120 --> 00:02:48,919 Speaker 1: feed my soul to become a better version of myself. 50 00:02:48,960 --> 00:02:50,960 Speaker 1: What does that look like to you? It could be different. 51 00:02:51,320 --> 00:02:54,080 Speaker 1: So that's just my advice. But I'm very, very proud 52 00:02:54,080 --> 00:02:56,880 Speaker 1: of you for asking yourself this question at twenty five. 53 00:02:57,120 --> 00:02:59,639 Speaker 1: Oh my goodness, believe me, you're going to love yourself 54 00:02:59,680 --> 00:03:01,919 Speaker 1: and it's like I talk to myself all the time. 55 00:03:01,960 --> 00:03:04,080 Speaker 1: I might own best friend. It takes a while, but 56 00:03:05,000 --> 00:03:07,639 Speaker 1: you're there. You're taking the first step with asking Thank 57 00:03:07,639 --> 00:03:10,320 Speaker 1: you so much for your question, Loda, and I'm your friend. 58 00:03:10,360 --> 00:03:15,959 Speaker 1: I'll be your friend too. Okay, it looks like Chrissy 59 00:03:16,200 --> 00:03:18,920 Speaker 1: is next, so let's go ahead and play her question. 60 00:03:19,520 --> 00:03:23,200 Speaker 1: Hey cheeks, I'm from Alabama. I just wanted to first 61 00:03:23,240 --> 00:03:25,440 Speaker 1: start off by saying that I love you and I 62 00:03:25,520 --> 00:03:28,720 Speaker 1: love your show. I loved your mom, I still love her. 63 00:03:28,760 --> 00:03:31,720 Speaker 1: I still listen to her music. You know her story 64 00:03:31,840 --> 00:03:34,280 Speaker 1: relates to mine in a way because I was also 65 00:03:34,400 --> 00:03:38,000 Speaker 1: in an abusive relationship and her music just really helped 66 00:03:38,000 --> 00:03:40,440 Speaker 1: me get through some of the darkest times of my life. 67 00:03:40,480 --> 00:03:43,480 Speaker 1: But my question for you is I have a brother. 68 00:03:44,160 --> 00:03:46,760 Speaker 1: I'm thirty nine and he's thirty seven, and he's pretty 69 00:03:46,840 --> 00:03:48,880 Speaker 1: much love with me his whole life. I no, that 70 00:03:48,920 --> 00:03:52,400 Speaker 1: sounds crazy, but he does have some mental issues, but 71 00:03:52,520 --> 00:03:55,600 Speaker 1: he's also very addicted to anything he can get his 72 00:03:55,680 --> 00:03:59,200 Speaker 1: hands on, and recently it's becoming an issue for us 73 00:03:59,480 --> 00:04:02,040 Speaker 1: because I have three daughters and my mom that also 74 00:04:02,080 --> 00:04:04,960 Speaker 1: lives with me, and I want to get him out 75 00:04:04,960 --> 00:04:08,120 Speaker 1: of my house, but I don't want to have to 76 00:04:08,200 --> 00:04:10,880 Speaker 1: call all. I would like for him to just leaving, 77 00:04:11,040 --> 00:04:14,440 Speaker 1: maybe go to a rehab or something, but I know 78 00:04:14,520 --> 00:04:16,080 Speaker 1: he's not gonna do it on his own, and I 79 00:04:16,120 --> 00:04:19,360 Speaker 1: can't make him. You know, until he wants to get help, 80 00:04:19,760 --> 00:04:23,800 Speaker 1: nobody can help him. So what do I do? I 81 00:04:23,920 --> 00:04:28,880 Speaker 1: need your help. Hi Crizzy from Alabama. I love hearing 82 00:04:28,920 --> 00:04:32,080 Speaker 1: from you, and thank you so much for still loving 83 00:04:32,080 --> 00:04:34,280 Speaker 1: my mom. Please love her forever and ever, and thank 84 00:04:34,279 --> 00:04:36,880 Speaker 1: you for loving me. Now. The situation with your brother 85 00:04:37,160 --> 00:04:42,480 Speaker 1: is tough because you have the responsibility of protecting your household, 86 00:04:42,600 --> 00:04:46,400 Speaker 1: your mother, your three girls, and like you said, if 87 00:04:46,920 --> 00:04:50,040 Speaker 1: he doesn't want to change, it's going to be very 88 00:04:50,040 --> 00:04:52,120 Speaker 1: hard for anyone to make him change. It has to 89 00:04:52,160 --> 00:04:54,600 Speaker 1: start with him. Now. The best advice I can give 90 00:04:54,640 --> 00:04:57,279 Speaker 1: you is if I were in your shoes. As much 91 00:04:57,320 --> 00:05:01,320 Speaker 1: as I love my brother, if he's disturbing our peace 92 00:05:01,680 --> 00:05:05,720 Speaker 1: and I don't feel like my house and my girls 93 00:05:06,480 --> 00:05:09,320 Speaker 1: are safe, I would definitely ask him to move out, 94 00:05:09,880 --> 00:05:13,640 Speaker 1: just because you have to know your priorities, and your 95 00:05:13,640 --> 00:05:16,080 Speaker 1: priorities I feel are your daughters and of course your 96 00:05:16,120 --> 00:05:19,960 Speaker 1: mother and their protection. So I know that's hard and 97 00:05:20,400 --> 00:05:23,920 Speaker 1: it'll be very difficult, but there are outreach programs. There 98 00:05:23,960 --> 00:05:26,520 Speaker 1: are support groups. I think you should google. I know 99 00:05:26,600 --> 00:05:30,320 Speaker 1: that rehab is very expensive, but there are ways of 100 00:05:30,320 --> 00:05:33,480 Speaker 1: getting it and making it happen, financing it or even 101 00:05:33,560 --> 00:05:36,400 Speaker 1: free programs or even across the board or too. Girl. 102 00:05:36,800 --> 00:05:40,000 Speaker 1: I mean, I've seen some in like TJ and in 103 00:05:40,120 --> 00:05:43,920 Speaker 1: Mexico and stuff. Look into those. But for sure, I 104 00:05:43,960 --> 00:05:46,240 Speaker 1: do think it's time for you to maybe ask him 105 00:05:46,240 --> 00:05:50,120 Speaker 1: to leave, because you have to put yourself and your 106 00:05:50,160 --> 00:05:52,440 Speaker 1: family first. And if this is the way he chooses 107 00:05:52,440 --> 00:05:55,600 Speaker 1: to live his life, then that's his choice, but it 108 00:05:55,640 --> 00:05:59,880 Speaker 1: should not affect you and your loved ones. I'm sending 109 00:06:00,120 --> 00:06:02,440 Speaker 1: you a big ass hug, Chrissy all the way to 110 00:06:02,480 --> 00:06:04,720 Speaker 1: Alabama because I know this is a tough decision and 111 00:06:04,760 --> 00:06:07,200 Speaker 1: I am praying for him and I hope something clicks 112 00:06:07,200 --> 00:06:09,320 Speaker 1: in his mind is just like let's change. Let's make 113 00:06:09,320 --> 00:06:16,359 Speaker 1: a change. And now a question from Yovanni. Well at Chickie, 114 00:06:16,640 --> 00:06:20,520 Speaker 1: this is Jovanni coming to you from Wyoming. My question 115 00:06:20,680 --> 00:06:25,080 Speaker 1: is about music, and I wanted to ask about your 116 00:06:25,279 --> 00:06:30,080 Speaker 1: composing style, how writing music works for you, and how 117 00:06:30,200 --> 00:06:33,880 Speaker 1: you create such beautiful songs. As a young aspiring to 118 00:06:33,960 --> 00:06:38,320 Speaker 1: be artists, I really don't know where to start when 119 00:06:38,320 --> 00:06:44,360 Speaker 1: it comes to creating music. So if you could please 120 00:06:44,480 --> 00:06:46,599 Speaker 1: tell me how you do it or what advice you 121 00:06:46,640 --> 00:06:49,400 Speaker 1: could give to me so I can start creating my 122 00:06:49,440 --> 00:06:52,800 Speaker 1: own music, my own lyrics because I can't really play 123 00:06:52,800 --> 00:06:56,920 Speaker 1: an instrument at the moment, that would be great. Thank you, 124 00:06:57,480 --> 00:07:01,359 Speaker 1: Love you. I love you too, Yovanni. I love this question. 125 00:07:02,000 --> 00:07:04,159 Speaker 1: It took me a while. I've always been a writer. 126 00:07:04,360 --> 00:07:07,000 Speaker 1: Since I could remember. I would write quotes. I liked 127 00:07:07,040 --> 00:07:10,600 Speaker 1: writing poems, it's just something that has come naturally, and 128 00:07:10,600 --> 00:07:12,400 Speaker 1: it seems like it's something that you love, so it 129 00:07:12,440 --> 00:07:16,080 Speaker 1: comes naturally to you. Now, writing songs that was more 130 00:07:16,120 --> 00:07:19,040 Speaker 1: difficult for me, especially because I was writing them in 131 00:07:19,120 --> 00:07:22,240 Speaker 1: my head in English and then to translate them in Spanish. 132 00:07:22,400 --> 00:07:23,920 Speaker 1: So I'm not exactly sure if you want to sing 133 00:07:23,920 --> 00:07:26,440 Speaker 1: in Spanish or in English, but regardless, it takes a 134 00:07:26,440 --> 00:07:29,280 Speaker 1: little time. You just have to be very patient, and 135 00:07:29,520 --> 00:07:32,920 Speaker 1: there are classes that you could take. Songwriting classes also 136 00:07:33,320 --> 00:07:36,920 Speaker 1: on YouTube. They'll break it down as to how many 137 00:07:37,000 --> 00:07:39,520 Speaker 1: verses in the chorus and the pre chorus, and I 138 00:07:39,560 --> 00:07:42,360 Speaker 1: think that will really really help you. I highly suggest 139 00:07:42,400 --> 00:07:44,440 Speaker 1: that you do that and then just be patient because 140 00:07:44,440 --> 00:07:46,720 Speaker 1: it's gonna take a while. Don't feel like, oh, tomorrow 141 00:07:46,720 --> 00:07:48,880 Speaker 1: I'm become an amazing writer. It takes a little bit. 142 00:07:48,920 --> 00:07:52,080 Speaker 1: And even now I can tell you that I'm not 143 00:07:52,120 --> 00:07:54,000 Speaker 1: where I want to be as a writer yet I 144 00:07:54,080 --> 00:07:57,080 Speaker 1: even still want to take classes myself. So never get 145 00:07:57,160 --> 00:08:00,600 Speaker 1: tired of learning. Never feel that oh it all, or 146 00:08:00,640 --> 00:08:03,679 Speaker 1: I shouldn't learn, or I'm embarrassed. Like no, I always 147 00:08:03,680 --> 00:08:05,800 Speaker 1: ask questions, and I love that you're asking this question. 148 00:08:06,080 --> 00:08:08,560 Speaker 1: So that's my suggestion. But the fact that you already 149 00:08:08,560 --> 00:08:10,880 Speaker 1: want to do it, that's amazing. Like, I can't wait 150 00:08:10,880 --> 00:08:13,120 Speaker 1: to hear your first song. Thank you so much your 151 00:08:13,120 --> 00:08:19,360 Speaker 1: money and I can't wait, can't wait to hear it. Okay, 152 00:08:19,360 --> 00:08:23,360 Speaker 1: our last question of the day comes from Lex Hi Cheekies, 153 00:08:23,640 --> 00:08:26,200 Speaker 1: this is your girl Likes, and I just wanted to 154 00:08:26,240 --> 00:08:28,640 Speaker 1: let you know that I am a big fan of yours, 155 00:08:28,680 --> 00:08:30,600 Speaker 1: and not just because of what you do, because you're 156 00:08:30,600 --> 00:08:33,240 Speaker 1: great at whatever you do, but because of who you are. 157 00:08:33,720 --> 00:08:37,920 Speaker 1: So my question to you is what did it take 158 00:08:38,080 --> 00:08:42,040 Speaker 1: for you to know who you are on the inside? 159 00:08:42,040 --> 00:08:45,880 Speaker 1: Like who is cheeky? Obviously you know, so I just 160 00:08:45,920 --> 00:08:47,439 Speaker 1: want to know what it took for you to get 161 00:08:47,480 --> 00:08:50,280 Speaker 1: there because I'm trying to get there and I'm twenty 162 00:08:50,280 --> 00:08:53,040 Speaker 1: five and I'm struggling. I just I just don't know 163 00:08:53,040 --> 00:08:54,679 Speaker 1: what to do. So I just want to know what 164 00:08:54,720 --> 00:08:56,920 Speaker 1: did you do to figure out what to do? Right? 165 00:08:57,000 --> 00:09:00,840 Speaker 1: Thank you? Bye? What up my girl? L X, thank 166 00:09:00,880 --> 00:09:04,480 Speaker 1: you for your question. Okay, girl, let me tell you 167 00:09:05,240 --> 00:09:07,840 Speaker 1: be patient. I love that you're asking this at such 168 00:09:07,880 --> 00:09:11,280 Speaker 1: an early age because I feel like our twenties are 169 00:09:11,600 --> 00:09:14,520 Speaker 1: those years where you're just learning and trying to figure 170 00:09:14,559 --> 00:09:16,720 Speaker 1: out what I like and what I don't like, And 171 00:09:16,800 --> 00:09:20,440 Speaker 1: that's amazing. I needed my twenties to make mistakes, to 172 00:09:20,480 --> 00:09:22,640 Speaker 1: fall on my face, to get back up to learn 173 00:09:22,960 --> 00:09:26,000 Speaker 1: the big thing here, The biggest thing is learning from 174 00:09:26,040 --> 00:09:30,840 Speaker 1: your mistakes, learning and really like from the pain of heartbreaks, 175 00:09:30,920 --> 00:09:34,600 Speaker 1: of even friendships that don't work out, like really learning 176 00:09:34,720 --> 00:09:38,040 Speaker 1: from the pain. Embracing that pain little by little every 177 00:09:38,040 --> 00:09:43,120 Speaker 1: situation will make you stronger and wiser to really knowing 178 00:09:43,640 --> 00:09:45,760 Speaker 1: who am I? What do I want out of the world, 179 00:09:45,800 --> 00:09:47,640 Speaker 1: What do I want to give back to the world, 180 00:09:47,880 --> 00:09:50,320 Speaker 1: Like ask yourself those questions, what's my mission, what's my 181 00:09:50,360 --> 00:09:52,760 Speaker 1: godly purpose? What do I want to do? What footprint 182 00:09:52,840 --> 00:09:55,800 Speaker 1: do I want to leave on this earth? And then 183 00:09:56,040 --> 00:09:59,240 Speaker 1: having integrity and making sure that every day you are 184 00:09:59,280 --> 00:10:02,280 Speaker 1: taking a step towards that whatever it may be. It 185 00:10:02,360 --> 00:10:04,520 Speaker 1: doesn't have to be on a big scale and be famous. 186 00:10:04,520 --> 00:10:06,839 Speaker 1: It could be with like the people around you, your 187 00:10:06,880 --> 00:10:10,400 Speaker 1: friends and your family. But I always say, in order 188 00:10:10,440 --> 00:10:12,439 Speaker 1: to find your way, you have to find your who. 189 00:10:12,480 --> 00:10:16,160 Speaker 1: Who am I? What do I want? So ask yourself 190 00:10:16,160 --> 00:10:18,160 Speaker 1: that question and that's going to help you so much. 191 00:10:18,200 --> 00:10:22,080 Speaker 1: But also embrace these years because you're still learning and 192 00:10:22,080 --> 00:10:25,200 Speaker 1: you're growing and then thirties come. Oh girl, it's amazing. 193 00:10:25,200 --> 00:10:29,320 Speaker 1: I love my thirties, but any who enjoy enjoy your twenties. 194 00:10:29,679 --> 00:10:32,720 Speaker 1: Sending you a big guess kiss. Lex Okay, so these 195 00:10:32,800 --> 00:10:35,120 Speaker 1: questions have been great this week. I'm loving them all. 196 00:10:35,640 --> 00:10:39,160 Speaker 1: Thanks again to Lauda, Chrissy Giovanni and lex I. Hope 197 00:10:39,200 --> 00:10:41,360 Speaker 1: I put things into perspective for you guys, and if 198 00:10:41,360 --> 00:10:43,719 Speaker 1: there are any updates, I'd love to hear about them, 199 00:10:43,720 --> 00:10:46,120 Speaker 1: so feel free to send those two. You can leave 200 00:10:46,160 --> 00:10:49,080 Speaker 1: your questions and updates for me at speakpipe dot com, 201 00:10:49,120 --> 00:10:52,800 Speaker 1: Slash Cheekies and Chill Podcast. Just click the orange record 202 00:10:52,840 --> 00:10:56,880 Speaker 1: button to start recording your question. 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